Learning to say 'no' is hard | Lauren 10 | In Therapy with Alex Howard
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 ก.ย. 2024
- In this episode, Lauren and Alex explore some of the challenges that tend to come up in Stage 3 of the recovery process from ME/chronic fatigue/fibromyalgia. Lauren's energy is starting to return, but that presents new hurdles as she comes out more into the world, such as invitations from friends and family. With Alex's help, Lauren will learn the importance of saying 'no'.
In Therapy with Alex Howard follows real life people on their therapeutic journey's with Alex Howard, Creator of Therapeutic Coaching & Founder of The Optimum Health Clinic.
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I really enjoyed these last two episodes with Lauren, and seeing the wonderful progress she is making, finding her true self, and accepting who she is, in order to meet her deepest needs, so she can get what she really wants. I must say, I really liked the dialogue near the end, where Lauren thought her increased emotional state was hormonal, and Alex suggesting a really beautiful alternative, that maybe it was just her heart opening up. I liked that so much. Thank you to both of you, Alex and Lauren. It is a pleasure to witness this healing journey and the joint effort going into it.
I have a lot more energy this year and have been saying yes over and over, trying to sell the house and move. Lots of projects. I did some light yoga today and came upon your new video. You two brought up such a good point about saying no, about not going one hundred percent all of the time. I’m going to give myself the week off. You retain your energy when you know your limits/desires and stick to them. Energetically, it’s almost like you spread yourself too thin when you agree to things chronically. Very insightful. Been watching your content for awhile. It’s very helpful.
I have followed Lauren's story from the beginning - and I just cannot believe how much I relate to everything she says and is going through. It's like I found my twin! I'm also at this stage of my recovery, and feel the guilt saying no, but also the fear of going backwards with my health again. So I found this to be extremely helpful. Thank you.
Through reflection of Lauren's healing journey it is evident Lauren is coming through with a sense of balance and what is important to her. It is so true that life is a series of Ups and Downs and that is normal and we have to ride these waves while honouring ourselves in the process and that can involve saying no and doing some problem solving for the best approach to take. For me when life does seem like there is so much going on I say to my self as a bit of a chant " All is well this too shall pass" helps me be aware of my limitations, and I am not going to feel guilty and I have done my best with a good kind heart.
Another interesting and helpful episode. The concept of smaller amounts of quality time with friends and looking at the shape of a week or month are both things that I find helpful.
I’m also welcoming more time on my own and recognise the fact I used to hate people cancelling on me. Now, plans with friends are often - “let’s try to do something then but we can both see how we feel on the day”. It gives express permission for us both to cancel or change from face to face to a phone call if if doesn’t feel right.
Thank you Alex for these videos and the wonderful advice on the importance of your inner relationship as a huge part of life and also parenting. It is always so wise to reflect on how we can heal our the inter generational legacies we carry. Thank you Lauren for sharing your journey, I have been through similar roads - patterns unworthiness, achieving, striving, managing externals, relationship misalignment, and made it out of the toughest stretch though still very challenging. Watching your story is so helpful! Sending love and light
This is a great session about putting yourself first and not overloading your schedule. I think it is something everyone, sick or well, awarely or unawarely has to deal with if they want to enjoy a balanced life. I have a tight routine to manage my health and have to really limit social contacts, which is tough as I feel like a recluse and feel the decline in contact in some friendships, because people just move on to ask out someone who is more available. And with my focus on so much health care, when people ask what I have been up to, they can’t relate to my world of chronic illness lifestyle. So the chasm deepens further, I feel, in closeness with previous friends. It is hard to keep relationships going with limited contact and hardly any physical, in-person activity together. My visiting consists only of talking now and some people are better at in depth conversations than others are.
Dancing in my heart listening to you guys. The first half was so me. So releasing to hear the shame word spoken out. I had a helper pattern and would offer to help. 🤦♀️ I’d read the room and with out knowing what I was doing see how I could make so many other peoples lives better. Just seen that now I have stopped doing this I’d missed the whiff of shame that was creeping in and building up by me stopping this helper pattern. Nothing to do with others I was just doing it from an early age. 🌺Amazing job guys. Love it love it so grateful to you both for more than I can name. 🌺🕊
I am like her.. can't say no and now admire people who can amd still keep their relationship.
Thankyou for this information about the stages of CFS recovery. Cant find such insight on general google lately on the topic of CFS. Lauren is soo strong to be making so many changes. It must be scary. Im so glad she did it.
On my CFS recovery, it was the part about not exercising that hurt the most, as i've been an athlete all my life. However, pacing myself and being patient has helped a lot.
I would say our bodies remember what made us so when try do what we did before our bodies become tired as a reminder that this what made me ill .
Lauren’s journey is so helpful for me!
Thank you both so much for this episode, I'm really going to miss hearing from Lauren when I get to the end! 😆
Hold on a second. Isn't letting go of how you define yourself an "achievement"?