She Understands The UNSPOKEN Agreement!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ต.ค. 2024
- I often talk about the unspoken agreement from a man's perspective. Does the Filipina understand what it is? In this video I ask her to elaborate. Thanks for watching!
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You should bring Marilyn on more often. Great to hear a pinay's side of relationships and how much she loves you.
Good to see the two of you on screen. Even if the “creepy crawlers” are around 😂😂 Marilyn’s a sweetheart!
While I understand the "unspoken" agreement I'm a logical guy by nature.
I think in dealing with a filipina at the start of a relationship I'd prefer to have the conversation about both our expectations.
Number 1 on my list of needs is honesty.
I don't like lies. I wouldn't be happy if she blamed or held me responsible for the way other men may have treated her.
If I piss her off I need to know why. How do you fix a problem if you don't know what the problem is?
I'm not going to be rushing into any relationship but when I do, especially after seeing this, we will be having the conversation about expectations and I will be pointing out "I travelled 8,000 miles and this is what I'm hoping to find. What do you expect?"
If you take the time to speak about the unspoken agreement there's very little room for any misunderstanding.
I've learned a great deal from this and other channels from the Philippines.
Thanks😊
Generally, Filipinas understand and respect how gender role is. it is innate, as it should be. To take care of our men, kids and family make us a successful woman, overjoyed as our greatest love language and realize the fulfillment of our essence being a woman. Mabuhay to all! 🫡♥🇵🇭
CLAREEZ STOP LYING, UR LOOKING 4 GREEN CARD AND PESONALITY.
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My partner and I got together around the same parameters. Its great to see the Philippines still knows what time it is. Even though, I tell her to "check the clock," sometimes when she brings up bs to start something. It actually makes us both check ourselves and sort of come to a laughing resolution. 👍 great video Calvin.
i love you comfronting the cheat issue to her directly like that and love she said she loves you and basically support and recognizes what you did and who you are .
and the guys in her dm WOW filthy dogs .
good talk
It is funny my wife has heath problems but she mention she wants her way and said she would take half my stuff because I have not found a way to get my son his own place so I said I will just go to the Philippines and she you are not going to get a wife from there we have been married 26 years but if I outlive her I probably will come to the Philippines if the culture stays the same and my health holds up
Your Right Calvin, your always helping us before we plan to go there, keep helping us out with the truth the Boots On The Ground Experience... Thanks
Calvin thanks for keeping it real,I am a black American thinking about moving to the Phillipines.
Wow! You are both extremely lucky to have each other! you give me a ton of hope for a prosperous future life in the Philippines,,,I'm looking forward to meeting both of you... Both of you are truly blessed. You can see it in how you relate to each other...
Excellent topic Calvin!!! It pleases me to hear your lady's understanding of the unspoken agreement. At the moment I am chatting with several ladies and have been for several months. I have followed your advice and have thrown many back LOL. We have discussed certain aspects of a relationship and I feel the understanding from them. I do this not to brag or to try to be a player, I chat with several women of various ages to gain a good understanding about how these ladies think. But I always remember what you said previously about not staying with the online hookup. I'm looking forward to my first visit to the country and possibly meeting you. I will need a good support group my brother. Take care and keep up the good work because I for one appreciate the knowledge your spreading...
Thanks again Calvin for a great video.
Like you stress the unspoken agreement, i find that very important, i feel when two people are on the same page.
Theres many times my ldr cant expain a situation and or something, but i know whats shes thinking and i can help here finish the conversation topic and or whats she trying to explain.
Its nice to see you & Marilyn on your channel together, its brings another perspective, from her own points of view.
Looking forward to seeing you from the beach house in Siquijor soon, hoping its a smooth transition for you both.
Take care, stay safe and live, love ❤️ & laugh 😂
Calvin, I love seeing Marilyn in these talks. It really helps me understand the Fillipina mindset. In one of your other video's with her you asked her if she was happy and she said. "No, I'm not happy, I'm SUPER HAPPY!" That statement right there told me more than a 100 video. Really that's all we are really craving...happiness. You checked all of Marilyn's boxes and she checked yours. You are right Marilyn is very intelligent and she know what's important to her.
he needs to keep her off camera and keep her to himself
Hey Brother Calvin you are on point as usual on this topic 🫡 visiting the Philippines in 2015 & 2016 was the best experience of my lifetime peace ✌🏾 and blessings 🙏🏾 to you and you Marylin 🇵🇭✈️
The unspoken agreement that we always talk about 😂
This thing called unspoken agreement is actually LOVE LANGUAGE. The LANGUAGE of LOVE by nature is not verbal, it doesn't have to have words to it. LOVE DOESN'T ASK WHY, IT SPEAKS FROM THE HEART, IT NEVER EXPLAINS...LOVE LANGUAGE is not English, French, German, Tagalog, Cebuano, Mandarin, Zulu etc., it is a Universal Language that manifest by way of Action. ❤😊
Well said
I like that you brought her so doubting Thomases can hear it straight from the horse’s mouth.
Absolutely. The women know what's up. We have to make it plain.
We are now truly committed to one another and will make it work without any stupid games, unrealistic demands and false pretenses. Marilyn is a nice lady. You are very lucky Calvin.
Why would I ever need to message your lady, unless you told me to ask her something you didn’t know about. Another situation, a friend of mine is not on Facebook, but his wife is. I may comment on a picture, but it’s very very rare that I send a private message or text.
Another great reminder Calvin.
I agree.
Is part of the unspoken agreement
that the guy will support the
family of the girl? A lot of siblings
are bums (tambayan)
Not the family.
I like seeing the both of you together in your videos.
Calvin: "She knows what I want, and I know what she wants." That, gentlemen, is why I suspect Calvin left the States...Western women want EVERYTHING. They'll constantly push you to "level-up" in the name of (Cough!) "being supportive" and never be satisfied even if you step-up and do what they want. It's always the "next thing" you need to produce that they think will make them happy. But alas, for them, happiness never arrives. Sad.
Calvin, you've been in the Phils too long to know that what you are saying is "science fiction" in the USA. 😂
You picked a good lady brotherman.
I can vouch absolutely for all you say guys , I met my mahal the same way and after 9 years together, neither of us has any questions or concerns about each other, bc we both are already big investment in coming so far to meet in person and straight away we're a couple. Couldn't be happier 😊
This topic ties into a question I've been asking all of these vloggers and getting no response maybe because they don't want to put their girl on the spot, or sow doubt about the "purity" of the relationship, but when they get accused of being a sucker in the comments and that their young attractive girl isn't in love with them they have to make it a point to ramble on about all of the things she does to prove that she's bonkers about a guy 50 yrs older & talk about how she orders the cheapest thing on the menu at dinner, so that proves she's not a golddigger. It's so stupid & they look like desperate fools. My take is this: If this woman is going above and beyond to successfully make you the happiest that you've ever been... Who gives a damn if she's only in it for the $ & comfortable living? If deep down in her heart, she's pretending, it affects me zero. If a woman can put on a performance that good until the day I die.. perfect. Money well spent. It's like the best part of the day is enjoying your favorite cup of Maxwell House coffee on the porch every morning, that turns out was Folgers for all those decades, but you never knew, or ever even found out -so what's the difference.? You're never going to know 100% if it's love, but you damn well know what happy is. Maybe the long-con is just as good, but without the insane jealousy. Peace man. ✌️
She is so sweet … and supportive … and funny. She is so intense. Please, you two have to do more videos together. Good team. Please walk around and show us the area and the country … 👍🏾
Nothing like the old fashioned, traditional ways--to a certain extent. Is the man really the head of the family? Does modern culture teach him HOW to be? That's one thing. Yes, he is expected to be a provider, but also to be a leader when it comes to the family spending. A good woman will prioritize the family, her kids, husband, and their support structure. Things start to fall apart if/when that is not the case. So limits MUST be set. In the beginning this might lead to a lot of tampo, if there are unrealistic expectations. Also, the biggest trap is looking out at what others have or do and COMPARING YOURSELF. Be on guard for the 'green eyed monster,' which is forever hungry for more, and exhibits unhappiness and dissatisfaction when its unrealistic expectations are not met. This is the make or break phase for any relationship. Financial harmony is a must, and will enter into all dimensions of the relationship, especially intimacy and sex. Speaking to that, you hear some women here joke: "I'm already expired,' meaning they don't want sex anymore. A friend of mine here told me when his wife said that he replied, "That's fine sweetheart, there are many others here, who are not yet expired." She got the message. :P In any relationship the woman will sh*t test the man, and perhaps the man test the woman. Sh*t tests/probes for your limits/weakness. Always try to catch the signs.
Calvin IS the prize! We are very lucky men.
Nothing makes any woman leave your side quicker than a cockroach. 😂😂
I don't know if it's truly an unspoken agreement. Of course the two parties in the relationship know that the bedroom activities come along with the meeting and disproportionately on the first meeting between the foreigner and Filipina than in the west. I know I talked to my wife before I made the trek to meet about whether she would stay with me in the hotel. Typically the younger/innocent the Filipina is when you meet will bring friends or family with her to meet you out of concern for her safety. Once she feels comfortable with the guy she will discreetly ask the strap hangers to excuse themselves from the situation.
What’s up Brother Calvin and Marylin….
Grateful,
What's up brother!
@@calroach1 all good man. I still check you out on the TH-cam brother. Always learn something. Although retired, I still have sometime left here in the states until my daughter graduates. Hope to be back on the island next year for a visit. And hope to catch one of your meet and greets.
Blessings to you Marilyn and your family Brother!
Grateful,
Marc
Great show Calvin, Exspecially the end ,when you address the one night event ,then your wife showed us how much she love you ❤
that was the best meet and greet you've ever posted, I'm coming in December, hopefully.
Daaag, folks love to go after someone else’s woman…!!! No respect !
Wow great discussion that is what I have island buddy here in Lazi
Good topic Calvin. A guy can only be embarrassed if he does something stupid. I have a great loving, smart and kind Filipina who takes care of me totally. She takes care of me better than any woman I've ever known. Hopefully we will be able to rent your beach place one day. How do I contact you later for that?
Here's my email calroach1@gmail.com thanks.
Thanks for the Excellent video, Sir Calvin! It's always a great video when Marilyn is on camera sharing her truth. She is such a fantastic woman. Her talking and laughing with you is always a welcome sight. Thanks again.
I was kinda wondering; what happens if you take a filipina who is maybe a little prettier than average with a nice body, (maybe a 6+), and she is transformed into a 8, 9 or10 because of the "unspoken agreement" and you've given her a nicer place to live, better clothes, sent her to the salon/spa where she learns to properly use the makeup you bought her, and a gym membership for her body? Then; all of the sudden she becomes a magnet for every slick expat or, young good looking local guy who would have normally walked right past her. Some of those women can't deal with the attention as well a Marilyn seems to have done. And I doubt if you can tell upfront which ones can. With that new attention, she may start to think she can get a "better deal" because she's now "hot", and forget about who gave her the upgrade in the first place. "Unspoken agreement" broken!
Men's groups are talking a lot about this now. They even have a term for it when women are looking to upgrade their status. There is a saying here in the Philippines: "Don't get too attached to anything here, since you might have to leave it all at a moment's notice." If you happen to find a woman of truly good character, she won't 'monkey branch' to someone else. Such a lady is gold, and worth holding onto. If she's young, pretty, NO KIDS, she has a LOT of options when it comes to men (whether she realizes it or not). If she is staying with you (especially if you're much older), there has to be a very strong psychological/spiritual connection that you share. Another Big mistake IMV, as an older man, is finding a very young lady with no kids and expecting she'll never want a family. I've seen this lead to many conflicts/divorce, where the man is fixed, and she suddenly changes her mind. Most Filipina will want a family or kids of her own. And a lot of older guys want nothing to do with this!
be ready for the short-term lover. remember love comes easy on the island. save your money on housing. lease only. move around, be free. find your next new lover if she wants another. just go with the flow...
Great video! 💯% real talk !
Truth be told the "unspoken agreement" exist in (almost) EVERY culture.
Good info...I was one that was still up this late and saw the notification. It's good to see Marilyn dropping some knowledge along with you also👍🏼
What's up Will?
Dropping excellent knowledge as usual one love calvin💯🇯🇲🇺🇸
I normally don't comment unless I really have something to say. This one is right on point, extremely relevant and put into words matters that I only thought about. Great to know that it's not only me thinking about such a real issue. Thanks Calvin - deep topic.
It's a sad time, when you have to make a video to let women understand that they should be women like men have to be men.
Yup ! It's all about the spark ... But there are a munch of players on both sides males and females and its very important to have this cleared up . I have become to Philippines 2008 - and I dated some good one's and bad one's ! Take your time
Brother Calvin i love it when you have your family on the channel!
Thanks Michael I appreciate your feedback and support brother. Enjoy your weekend.
Thank you both so much for the video God Bless y'all
Good Woman! Thanks for the video!
Nice video I bought a ticket for $1,599 roundtrip to Manila to go see my gf I met on fb almost a year and a half ago and was to go there May 8th but decided not going as I'm 72 yrs old and see is 45 and I just am afraid of that 27 hr flight with layovers going and coming and my health not great and afraid I may get sick or injured there. I may be missing something that I will regret and will lose my money for the plane ticket but maybe in the near future can just bite the bullet and do it. Damn this lonely life in South Carolina sucks but just not willing to risk what might happen there. Also I can't eat rice three meals a day like she does and seeing your previous video of it being blazing hot there right now not sure I want to go there and have a freaking heat stroke or heart attack. Your wife seems very nice so you did good. By the way I was just approved by the PACT act because I was in Southeast Asia during herbicide spraying and I was diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2009 so getting an extra $1000 a month.
Sorry your plans didn't materialize. Take care.
Maybe the airline can give you a voucher to use later.
@@calroach1 I wanted to change date to later this year but would have to pay extra $450. If I was 20 years younger this trip would be no problem.
Can you talk about how hard it is to be faithful as your woman ages and her looks fades? I’ve always been told if you love someone you won’t cheat, I have never believed this. The word love in terms of relationship means so many things. For example as your woman starts to show her age, do you find it more difficult to stay faithful when so many beautiful and younger Filipinas are willing to take her place, even for one night?
How does your wife stay in love if your belly get bigger and your hair fall out bald. How does she stay with an out of shape man
Love is a commitment of your will. This is what love is. It's not a commitment to your own pleasure over your partner or a commitment to your eyes and lust. If so don't get married is my advice
@@gregbeck7276 that is your definition of love, doesn’t mean it’s wrong or right, it’s simply how you see it. When it comes to love in a relationship, everyone has their own definition. I disagree with you that it is about a commitment of my will. That would mean I am always in a struggle against myself to prevent hurting the woman I love, because there is temptation out there, love will not stop temptation. Humans are the only animals that I know of that not only have one partner, but one partner for years, so one could argue that it’s not normal. I don’t like feeling stuck with someone, all in the name of love. I define love by happiness, happiness is what brings the love and what keeps the love, the happier we are, the more we love, the less likely we are to go astray. If there isn’t true happiness, cheating will most certainly happen if given the chance. The fear of losing true happiness in and with a partner, is what will truly prevent cheating, if you feel like you have nothing to lose you will cheat, because when we cheat there is always the likelihood it will get found out.
@@van_Gogo if he makes her happy and keeps her happy she will stay in love with him. The moment she is no longer happy is the moment he loses her, regardless of what he looks like or his physical condition.
@@Deltadawg good luck with your own desires then David. Sounds like you can't control yourself to me. This can be dangerous for you so my word of caution to you is to make sure you don't end up hurting others.
Nope I disagree, my Filipina wife works at a bank and she pays her own way. She doesn’t need my money and I don’t need her money.
You're the exception man and it just makes the rule correct.
Do you pay for everything 50/50? I doubt it. Usually men are always paying the majority of bills and rent etc anywhere in the world. Of course there are exceptions but men usually pay their way at the end of the day.
It's not a knock on the oldest profession in the world, but in any form of business a transaction is in essence an agreement. Legally if you don't rebuttal a claim, you're by default, entering into an agreement by your silence.
Calvin you and Marilyn ❤️ are a Beautiful Couple!! You Hit the JACKPOT!!!!IM HAPPY FOR YOU
the Meet and greet was great
Very good discussion both of you. Calvin your right to be suspicious about (men) messenger Marilyn. Question respectful should be addressed to Calvin. I like that phrase unspoken agreement. It's all about understanding and knowing what to expect.
Thanks Calvin.Good vlog..again👌🏽
Dont commit to any woman on a dating site, before travelling to ph, when you arrive in ph, travel around meet several women, don,t commit to any one until you are sure. If you meet on dating site and then travel to ph, you can be sure the filipina regards this as a commitment even at first sight for marriage in future
What a great video. It's great to hear your partners perspective. I would feel way more comfortable in a bar.
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Yes Sir bro, that was really great game. Yep just gettin back from the bar. Thanks for keeping real 🙏🔥💯
Hey Calvin my dear friend, Another great video. Marilyn is so awesome. She should be in more of your videos. Thank you for sharing brother.😊😊😊😊😊😊👍👍👍👍🦾🦾🦾🦾♥♥♥♥♥♥♥
I'm glad you have her on to give a Filapenas point of view.
Good post. I plan on retiring in the Philippines, I'm 60 now, I just want a place where I can find some peace. It's gone in the states, if electricity goes out for a day or two here most of these people will lose their minds.
She’s a good woman you picked Calvin.
I'm technology challenged, what is a DM.?🤯
Dayum is that image available in poster size? 😅
Anyway I think you two have a normal relationship based on love, respect and both bringing in something of value. How can you not love the person you're staying with 24*7?
Right To It
Hey Calvin, be there next week
My Filipina has never asked me for anything. We connected right away and she's the same in person as she was online. If i ever found out she had another boyfriend I'd be no to another Filipina. Thanks for the video Calvin.
Love your channel brother Cal.
Keep doing what you do
Unspoken agreement in a go go bar in Thailand when you ask to have q private conversation in your apartment - prostitution???
Great content :)
Would' be good to meet one of these days I'm only 45th min away
We're no longer in Siquijor 😥
We enjoyed the uspoken agreement three times our first night and before breakfast the next day. 🎉
Book Download. Feedback added. I wish you the best for your future books
Thank you so much for your support it means a lot.
Love your videos.....men and women...are the same "everywhere"..."DEVIOUS". They're either honest or dishonest.
Hey Calvin, I’m 69 years old and I can understand what your saying. I grow up in the Christian western culture and I was brought up to believe to find a good woman get married, provide a safe home and food for your family. My wife takes care of me and the children and the home. That is the unspoken agreement in most cultures as far as I can see. From my experience it’s like a law of nature and when that law is broken, the culture falls into ruins. I believe the is what we are seeing in the western culture today. Calvin, I believe your a man of wisdom and compassion and I love listening to your thoughts and opinions about your experiences. We are all human and I believe our experiences shape the souls we have become. Thank you for your vlogs, the young generation and learn from your experiences.
Spot on Scott!!
❤ ❤ Darryl
Seen u are 69, just curious how often do u do the 69,🤬
I'm 50...Is that old...
Nice
I am having difficult time understanding how a beautiful 27-year-old Filipina with two kids can be interested in a relationship with me, a 70-year-old. I feel like this is not really possible and that i am being played for a fool. How can I get through this feeling of not being able to trust a 27-year-old Filipina and to know she is actually being sincere? Thank you for your help.
The Philippines Statistics Authority reports that 58.4% of Filipino households are considered low income/poor by Filipino standards. Household income of 24,164 php a month ($436 USD) or less.
So many Filipinas are in the low income to poor class. Especially single mothers with kids. This is the unspoken agreement. You lift them out of poverty ,they will take care of you.
Even Calvin's woman was a single mother with 2 kids living with her mother. She met Calvin he provided for her, bought her a house. She is extremely loyal and dedicated to him. The unspoken agreement. You provide, she takes care of you.
When you are poor it is all about utility not love. Just be careful and not get used too much or risk money you can't afford to lose. Set your limits/boundaries.
New subs here my guy. Good luck to your channel
Thanks and welcome to my channel.
Thank you for sharing your story sunshine Shelton. You are a wonderful encouragement to someone like myself that's looking to mary am I filipino girlfriend. I am making my final arrangements, For my 2nd visit there In the Philippines. I will be in cameline city.
It's Sunshine Shoulders 😂 Thanks
Real Talk I am living this very thing.
This is an example of why I respect your channel. 2 speak from the heart.
So real and so true.
Solute to you both...
Topic for you...
Professional man vs man from the streets coming to the Philippines. Is there a difference???
Only as far as how you conduct yourself but to the women it doesn't make a difference. Are you breathing 🤣
I love how real you guys are. Darn roach appears unexpectedly jump up kill it and move right on. Because of you guys I want to visit.
Hi Calvin and Marilyn when u both are on the channel we get a better explaining, its just like chopping 2 for 1.
The interesting thing I've noticed about you guys is that you both have intense and passionate personalities. You two were definitely and absolutely meant for each other. Lol.
My previous fiance, Cambodian Thai did not know or obey the unspoken agreement while I was. When I caught her on Facebook with other guys oh, that was pretty much telling me the end. When she said so don't you have any money, and getting demanding about building a house, to her liking oh, that was when the decision instantly appeared know this one's not coming back to USA with me. Too bad because my buddy married her mom and now she is in the US. As well as her running me blindsided into her new boyfriend who is a POS stunk like cigarettes wheezing coughing and obviously hungover. I told him directly I don't want her she's all yours and you could tell me thank you for teaching your English and spending a lot of money on every piece of clothes she's now wearing good luck. The funny part was I heard through the grapevine it took about a year for her to stop calling me Daddy and certainly that must have driven the new boyfriend nuts. Fools get what they get🙏🙏
In case you are deaf and don't have closed captioning: THERE IS AN UNSPOKEN AGREEMENT❕.....
‼AND DON'T FORGET IT ‼ 😉
Nothings about sex. It's about survival. All relationships are give and take on both sides. Interesting thoughts in your view.
Calvins good fella, good lady too
Calvin you have a good lady there. she a keeper
I realise that I have much to learn. But what can anyoen expect from a guy from the country side who has not experienced city life. Or had access to information. But I need this info.
You never know what life comes up with, as I sasy to myself I ndont chase women or lay around for my own peace , but what if a gourgeous Lady shows up I would be like a raw target for a predator as to exxagerate a little bit.
Like an ox on its way to butcher.
I need this info and be realistic.
Good afternoon Calvin I understand what you are trying to imply but I disagree with you these women have nothing so you should know that going in and be willing to give your all without any strings attached it comes down to being a good human being bottom line I expect nothing from anyone and I give a hundred and I give a hundred 100 percent always without any expectations because if I give it is from any understanding or arrangement
Hello sunshine shoulders good video good conversation you and the wife very good points very simple to understand very clear I love it I’m one of your subscribers I try to keep up with your movements and your clean information you put out for us ex-pats I’m an American that don’t make no difference and I was gonna write my respectful not a troublemaker drink a smoke Adapa no I’m not any of those yes I have a sweetheart there soon to meet her her
I love the honest talk and I love hearing it from a Filipina. I think your relationship is very healthy. It is ironic the haters will say she is using you, you are using her. They don’t know anything and they are fooling themselves because they want to believe a narrative they grew up with that overlooks the truth about relationships. Marylin is awesome.
Great video Calvin.
Go Dubs!
Have a great weekend fam👍🏿
Anyway you look at it both sides have no idea what there in for when you rush to play house you unbelievably lucky if your compatible and have physical chemistry