I'm a med student That part when he says "you can't do anything outside of med school" made me laugh Good lecture :) May Allah reward him abundantly in shaa allah
+SpartanHighKing14 My son married at the age of 18 and he is married 35 years . He is enjoying being a grand father at the age of 51 to two grand daughters.
+Audrey Dunham hey audrey. i think ustadh's point is whether or not you are ready enough to be married. especially mentally. you are so lucky to have a good person like your son. :)
He's talking FACTS, I feel as though I've changed recently, taking on responsibilities being the eldest in the family looking after siblings. Living out by yourself really REALLY humbles you (makes you think about how my father supports/supported the whole family). I'm glad I can do finances and stick to a budget and fend for myself all the while I'm studying at university.
Working while going to school is greaI workwd part time 3 days a week as a hairdresser during my mastets and ph.d. I was married, my son and sistet lived with us and I ran the house with no help, except my sister would do the dishes after supper only. I shopped, cooked, cleaned and drove an hour minimum three days a week each way to the university. Granted, I was in my early thirties, so my maturity level was there. Where theres a will, theres a way. I also was a research asst. for my prof. and received a small stipend for that.
Biggest problem of the youth. 4years ago I wanted to get married then I heard Ustad Noman this lecture. I follow all steps start working from college and then full time approx. 2 yrs. Alhamdulillah Now the thing is my parents are not allowing me to get married.
What if the sister due to her good upbringing and coming from a good family that gave her the best education is proving to be capable to carry more financialweight and responsibility to provide (cause honestly..jobs do look at your qualifications etc) compared to the man who comes from a poor background and never got the chance to learn certain things or get a good education (grammar,writing or have even. High school certification)..in today’s world it’s hard for a man with such a level to carry such responsibility when his life circumstances never gave him such a chance. But I’ve never been materialistic or looked for someone’s money but I met a brother who brought me to Islam..and I reverted if it wasn’t for his generosity to take me in while I was homeless for a few months abroad and for his ability to teach about Islam I don’t know how else Islam would have come to me. I really do love him for this few yet heartfelt things he has done for me. Yet he is someone who feels he is incapable cause of what society labels as a true man(especially in western society). How do we treat man in such situations? I can tell I’ve definitely helped him too in many ways (reconnect with his family, he’s become more kind and soft spoken)...we’re both reverts and I’m not sure if I should just give home room to get his act together but again..to delay marriage, I don’t know if that’s a good idea either ?
وَأَنْكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنْكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ ۚ إِنْ يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ"Marry the single people from among you and the righteous slaves and slave-girls. If you are poor, Allah (SwT) will make you rich through His favour; and Allah (SwT) is Bountiful, All-Knowing." (Surah 24, Verse 32) In this verse, Allah (SwT) commands us (by Him using the imperative form of the verb) to marry the single, righteous man/woman from among us.Allah (SwT) even gives us a guarantee that if we are poor or lack the proper funds, still we should not delay the marriage as Allah will take care of the couple and grant them bounties from His Grace and Mercy.
Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah. May I add something important? The point Ustadh makes, is to man up- not to refrain from marriage! Of course you may marry, even if you're poor! Ustadh just reminds you that you shouldn't be a spoiled child and even odd jobs will help you to grow up and humble yourself,wa Allahu alem. He didn't say refrain from marriage! And it's important to marry as early as you can, wa Allahu alem. Here, if you want to, please read this: Praise be to Allaah. If this man is religiously-committed and of good character, there is nothing wrong with you marrying him, even if he is poor, because of the report narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1084) from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him), that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and character pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.” Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi. There is nothing wrong with him taking from your wealth with your consent, and you will have the reward for spending on him and treating him kindly. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm (as Allaah has made it lawful)” [al-Nisa’ 4:4] Poverty is nothing to be ashamed of, because wealth comes and goes, and a poor man may become rich. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Saalihoon (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid‑servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allaah is All‑Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All‑Knowing (about the state of the people)” [al-Noor 24:32] You should convince your mother, and explain to her that compatibility is not the matter of money, rather it is piety and righteous deeds. There is no sin on you even if your mother persists in her view, and you think that you want to marry him, but it is essential that your wali (Guardian) be present in order for the marriage to be valid, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no marriage without a guardian.” Narrated by Abu Dawood (2085), al-Tirmidhi (1101) and Ibn Maajah (1881), from Abu Moosa al-Ash’ari, and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi. The woman’s guardian may be her father, then her son, then her brother, then her nephew (brother’s son), then her paternal uncle, then her cousin (son of paternal uncle), in order of closeness. If she does not have a guardian then her guardian for marriage is the qaadi (judge), because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If they dispute, then the ruler is the guardian of the one who has no guardian.” Narrated by Ahmad (24417), Abu Dawood (2083), al-Tirmidhi (1102); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (2709). If a woman strives to get married and makes the mahr easy, it is a sign of wisdom and good thinking on her part. We ask Allaah to make things easy for you and to guide you to the right path. And Allaah knows best. Sorce: islamqa.info/en/93543
+Mimi And this: Can they get married and agree not to be intimate until their financial situation improves?If a brother happens to see a sister he likes and both of them decided to do aqidui nikkah.both of them knowing that the brother is still in school and he does not have the means to provide for the sister yet and both of them agree that they will not come to each other sexually till they are financialy okay enough to raise a family.is it allowed in islam . Praise be to Allaah. Marriage is one of the means of obtaining provision, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Saalihoon (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid‑servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allaah is All‑Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All‑Knowing (about the state of the people)” [al-Noor 24:32] al-Qurtubi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “those among you who are single” refers to those who have no spouse, men and women." And he said: “If they be poor, Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty” means: *do not refrain from getting married because the man or the woman is poor.* If they are poor, Allaah will make them independent of means by His bounty. This is a promise of independence of means to those who get married, seeking the pleasure of Allaah and seeking to protect themselves from sin. Ibn Mas’ood said: Seek independence of means through marriage, and he recited this verse. ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I am surprised by those who do not seek independence of means through marriage, when Allaah has said, “If they be poor, Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty.” Something similar was also narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him)." Al-Qurtubi also said: This verse indicates that the poor man should get married, and he should not say, How can I get married when I have no wealth? For his provision comes from Allaah. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) gave in marriage a woman who came to offer herself to him, to a man who hadnothing but a single izaar (waist-wrapper). End quote from "Tafseer al-Qurtubi"(12/218)." And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There are three who are all entitled to Allaah’s help: the one who fights for the sake of Allaah; the mukaatab who wants to pay (the price of his freedom); and the one who gets married seeking chastity.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1579), al-Nasaa'i (3166) and Ibn Maajah (2509). This hadeeth was classed as hasan by al-Albaani in "Saheeh al-Tirmidhi." If this young man is going to do the marriage contract, and his wife is going to stay in her father’s house until they can afford to set up home together, there is nothing wrong with that. But he has to look for work so that he can spend on himself, his wife and his house, so that his wife and her family will not be adversely affected if it takes too long. If what is meant is that his wife will move to his house but they have agreed not to be intimate, so that they will not have children at this stage, that is not appropriate for several reasons: 1-Refraining from intimacy means missing out on something that is one of the most important aims of marriage, which is having children. 2-Refraining from having children for fear of poverty is contrary to putting one’s trust in Allaah, and it is an imitation of the people of Jaahiliyyah who used to kill their children for fear of poverty. Allaah has guaranteed to give provision for every soul, as He says (interpretation of the meaning): "And no moving (living) creature is there on earth but its provision is due from Allaah. And He knows its dwelling place and its deposit (in the uterus or grave). All is in a Clear Book (Al‑Lauh Al‑Mahf'z - the Book of Decrees with Allaah)” [Hood 11:6] “And in the heaven is your provision, and that which you are promised” [al-Dhaariyaat 51:22] But we must point out two things: 1 - With regard to marriage, it is essential that the conditions be fulfilled, which is the consent of both parties and that there be no legal impediments such as their being mahrams (relatives to whom marriage is forbidden) or their being related through breastfeeding. The woman’s wali (guardian) and two witnesses must also be present, otherwise the marriage is not valid. 2 - It is not permissible for a man and woman to form a relationship before marriage, because of the many negative consequences to which that will lead, such as falling in love, sickness of the heart (because of sin), looking at one another, being alone together, speaking softly to one another and other things that Allaah has forbidden. And Allaah knows best. Sorce: islamqa.info/en/67589
+Mimi The hadeeth “whoever among you can afford it, let him get married” does not mean that one who is poor cannot get marriedIn UK there are several students who are with out jobs so to avoid haram they need to get married. I have come across two hadiths which seem to be contradicting. The 1st hadith states “O young men, whoever among you can afford to get married, let him do so”. In the 2nd hadith The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) marries a woman to who seems to be a poor man so could you please elaborate on these 2 hadiths because it seems to be contradicting. Just to clarify my question, to my understanding the 1st hadith is telling us that the man should be financially able to support a wife in order to get married but in the 2nd hadith the man is poor and he gets married. These 2 hadiths seem to contradict each other or have I misunderstood it. Both hadiths are listed below “O young men, whoever among you can afford to get married, let him do so, and whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for that will be a shield for him.” (Agreed upon, from the hadeeth of Ibn Mas’ood, may Allaah be pleased with him. Al-Bukhaari, 4778; Muslim, 1400). No 4695 Narrated Sahl bin Sad: A lady came to the Prophet and declared that she had decided to offer herself to Allah and His Apostle. The Prophet said, "I am not in need of women." A man said (to the Prophet) "Please marry her to me." The Prophet said (to him), "Give her a garment." The man said, "I cannot afford it." The Prophet said, "Give her anything, even if it were an iron ring." The man apologized again. The Prophet then asked him, "What do you know by heart of the Quran?" He replied, "I know such-and-such portion of the Qur'an (by heart)." The Prophet said, "Then I marry her to you for that much of the Qur'an which you know by heart." .....answer in next comment insha Allah
+Mimi Praise be to Allah.The first hadeeth was narrated by al-Bukhaari (5066) and Muslim (1400) from Ibn Mas‘ood, who said: We were with the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), young men who had nothing of wealth. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said to us: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one’s chastity. And whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it will be a shield for him.” The second hadeeth was narrated by al-Bukhaari (5030) and Muslim (1425) from Sahl ibn Sa‘d: A woman came to the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), I have come to give myself to you (in marriage). The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) looked her up and down, then the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) lowered his head. When the woman saw that he had not made any decision about her, she sat down. A man among his companions stood up and said: O Messenger of Allah, if you have no need of her then marry her to me. He said: “Do you have anything?” He said: No, by Allah, O Messenger of Allah. He said: “Go to your family and see if you can find something.” So he went, then he came back and said: No, by Allah, O Messenger of Allah, not even a ring of iron, only this izaar (lower garment) of mine - Sahl said: he did not have a rida’ (upper garment) - and she may have half of it. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “What will she do with your izaar? If you wear it she will not have anything of it and if she wears it you will not have anything of it. The man sat down, and after he had sat for a long time, he got up (to leave). The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) saw him turning away, and he ordered that he be called to him. When he came, he said: “What do you know of the Qur’aan?” He said: I know Soorah such and such and Soorah such and such - and he listed them. He said: “Do you recite them by heart?” He said: Yes. He said: “Go. You have been given her (in marriage) for what you know of the Qur’an.” These two hadeeths do not contradict one another, praise be to Allah; rather each of them speaks of a specific situation. The hadeeth of Ibn Mas‘ood addresses young men and those who want to get married in general terms, to highlight the fact that marriage requires one to have sufficient resources so that the husband will be able to do what has been enjoined upon him of spending on his wife’s maintenance and providing her with clothing and accommodation. The phrase translated here as “afford it” refers to the costs of marriage; the Lawgiver wanted to highlight this principle, which is that marriage is not merely a contract or fulfilling one’s desire in a permissible manner; rather it is responsibilities and duties, and it is the man who is responsible for his wife’s maintenance. This also indicates that in the case of one who is unable to get married, it is prescribed for him to focus on fasting, because it weakens desire and reduces the influence of the Shaytaan, so it is one of the means of attaining chastity and lowering the gaze.Majmoo‘ Fataawa Ibn Baaz (3/329) The words of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), “whoever among you can afford it, let him get married” also indicate that what is prescribed for the one who is able to afford the costs and responsibilities of marriage is to hasten to get married. The scholars of the Standing Committee said: Hastening to get married, for a younger man, is the Sunnah for whoever can afford the expenses of marriage and fulfil the duties of marriage.”End quote from Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa’imah (18/6) See also the answer to question no. 9262. With regard to the second hadeeth, it refers to a specific case, and the issue is that of a poor person who wanted to get married and keep himself chaste, so the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) married him to that woman who came to offer herself in marriage to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him). This indicates that poverty in and of itself is not an impediment to marriage if the husband is religiously committed and believes sincerely in his Lord, and the woman is likewise. Moreover, Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): “And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Salihoon (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allah is All-Sufficent for His creatures needs, All-Knowing (about the state of the people)” [an-Noor 24:32]. If a person sincerely puts his trust in Allah, wants to keep himself chaste, and seeks that which is with Allah of bounty, there is the hope that Allah will help such a person and grant him provision from His bounty, as at-Tirmidhi (1655) narrated, in a report which he classed as hasan, from Abu Hurayrah, who said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “There are three whom Allah is bound to help: the mujaahid who strives (in jihad) for the sake of Allah, the mukaatib (a slave who has made a contract of manumission with his master) who wants to pay off his manumission, and a man who gets married, seeking to remain chaste.”. It was classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh at-Tirmidhi. Imam al-Bukhaari (may Allah have mercy on him) included this hadeeth in a chapter entitled: “Chapter on marriage of one who is in financial difficulty, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): “If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty” [an-Noor 24:32]. Al-Haafiz (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “The words ‘because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): ‘If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty’ [an-Noor 24:32]” explain the reason why al-Bukhaari put this as the title of this chapter; what is meant is that current poverty is not an impediment to marriage, because of the possibility of acquiring wealth in the future. ‘Ali ibn Abi Talhah said, quoting Ibn ‘Abbaas: Allah encouraged them to get married and enjoined that upon free men and slaves, and promised to make them independent of means, as He said: “If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty” [an-Noor 24:32].And it was narrated that Ibn Mas‘ood said: “Seek independence of means through marriage.”Tafseer Ibn Katheer (6/51) Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) said: In this verse, Allah - may He be glorified - enjoined marriage of single and righteous people among slave men and women, and He said - and He speaks the truth - that this is one of the means of attaining bounty for those who are poor, so that husbands and women’s guardians may be reassured that poverty should not be an impediment to marriage; rather marriage is one of the means of attaining provision and independence of means.End quote from Fataawa Islamiyyah (3/213) The fact that the one who is able to afford it is encouraged to get married does not mean that one who cannot afford it is not allowed to get married, especially if he fears hardship for himself. The one who cannot afford it is instructed to fast so as to suppress his desire, but that does not mean that he is not allowed to seek to get married. Perhaps he will find someone who will help him to get married, or perhaps he will find someone who will accept him in his current situation because of his religious commitment and righteousness. These are individual cases that vary according to people’s situations and customs. As for the meaning of the hadeeth of Ibn Mas‘ood, it is a general teaching and advice to those who are not able to get married, instructing them to protect themselves by fasting. If anyone among them finds a means to get married, there is nothing wrong with that; in fact he is encouraged and urged to do so. Hence when he said “and whoever cannot afford it”, he did not say “let him not get married”; rather he said “[he] should fast”, lest he fall into sin. But if he is able to get married with some difficulty, there is undoubtedly nothing wrong with that. Rather fasting is given as an alternative when one is not able to get married; if one is able to get married, even with some difficulty, then that is preferable. And Allah knows best. Sorce: islamqa.info/en/181556
+I am Learning Assalamu alaikum, "man up" means like "grow up" just like a man does. It means to know and take responsibilities, to take care of those who are under your care. Not beeing selfish, like a spoiled child is. To act wisely, even if u don't understand it you may learn that from our prophet Muhammad salallahu alayhi wa salem. Wa Allahu alem.
lol i rather focus on school and do well because its a good investment into having a better job in the future. our parents know that. its hard trying to juggle grades and work at the same time. my grades might be lower that way
with all the respect to you. the prophet mohamed told to the youth if you afford your daily expenses get married ( يا معشر الشباب من استطاع منكم الباء فاليتزوج و ان لم تستطع فعليه بالصوم ( to mix culture with religion plz
+moamen nosseir basicly he said that much exactly اذا بتقدر توفر الاشي الاساسي للزواج احكي عنه ولا لا تجيب سيرته و انت حاط كوع على كوع و بتستنى من اهلك يصرفوا عليك و يشتغلوا عنك
That's a believe of non Muslim to work 1st and get established then get married but Muslims have totally different believe trust Allah swt and do what Allah swt said
Don't mix what most of the westerns think of marriage in Islamic teachings..... Don't agree.... And I don't know what people are laughing at and what this guy is making the to laugh at..... Make nikah east and Zinah difficult.....
+Milania Renelle Leighton yes... I was born in Hindu family but I Embraced Islam 4 year back.... That is why my name sounds like a Hindu name .... Few people know me by name Abdullah...
vinay kumar I wanted to ask whether you were a revert but I thought perhaps I'd offend or something. MashaAllah bro, alhumdulilah whomsoever Allah guides :)
+Amara Muhammad you were right brother... His (nuaman) advice is useless and in my opinion its satanic.... Because Satan always want us to delay marriage so that he can easily trap us in sins born due to delayed marriage.... You were right... Zazzak Allahu khair Assalam aalaikum
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I disagree with the brother. I think people should get married even when they are in school. If you want to keep your chastity for the sake of Allah then He will help you. But ofc one has to put effort in and try to find a job etc.
+Flam TM I think he means that you can not get married if all you do is play video games 24/7, because that means you-are-not-a-man! You have to be mature first; or you'll ruin the poor girl's life. Even if you get married, you'll have a miserable one, and that's not what you want ! So : 1/you want to keep your chastity, 2 become mature, 3/then get married ; if you can become mature at 16-17, great, age doesn't matter ! Sorry my english sucks haha :) ! Salams
Never or really really less talk about parent's responsibility by you and all the famous scholars may be this is reason why Muslims are struggle today.
first become a man and learn the truth Allah is Queen consult Qhronicle of Crown valley of the gods Afghanistan Pakistan Kashmir calling from the Queen Azaan from Angle of Quranic Ra Gul Rasoul of Gullaam of Um Ma meaning Mother Allah Qhronicle of Queen Rabia Yah Jan Allah Amen . ( Rabiayahjanallahamen ) ikrah ik Ra Rabia Yah Jan Allah Amen
Don't mix what most of the westerns think of marriage in Islamic teachings..... Don't agree.... And I don't know what people are laughing at and what this guy is making the to laugh at..... Make nikah east and Zinah difficult.....
vinay kumar if by this guy you mean Nouman Ali Khan, hes just telling people who are immature but still want to get married to become mature and man up (be able to look after themselves financially and otherwise) before that
I'm a med student
That part when he says "you can't do anything outside of med school" made me laugh
Good lecture :) May Allah reward him abundantly in shaa allah
+SpartanHighKing14 My son married at the age of 18 and he is married 35 years . He is enjoying being a grand father at the age of 51 to two grand daughters.
+Audrey Dunham hey audrey. i think ustadh's point is whether or not you are ready enough to be married. especially mentally. you are so lucky to have a good person like your son. :)
Medical student here 😂😂😂
@@raheelmd yep medical students unite
Assalam
U guys are lucky to have someone like Ustad Nouman Ali Khan
How the background music starts when he's playing the "man" part is comical 😂
It was funny in and of itself!
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He's talking FACTS, I feel as though I've changed recently, taking on responsibilities being the eldest in the family looking after siblings. Living out by yourself really REALLY humbles you (makes you think about how my father supports/supported the whole family). I'm glad I can do finances and stick to a budget and fend for myself all the while I'm studying at university.
absolutely correct! even not any father will give his daughter and not any girl will marry an immature, uneducated, unemployed, lazy, careless guy.
Working while going to school is greaI workwd part time 3 days a week as a hairdresser during my mastets and ph.d.
I was married, my son and sistet lived with us and I ran the house with no help, except my sister would do the dishes after supper only.
I shopped, cooked, cleaned and drove an hour minimum three days a week each way to the university. Granted, I was in my early thirties, so my maturity level was there. Where theres a will, theres a way.
I also was a research asst. for my prof. and received a small stipend for that.
Sister, may I ask how you funded your masters and PhD? Thanks, May Allah bless you and your family.
as a mexican muslim i related so much when he said "cant we pick some guys from home depot" lmbo!!
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As Sabur mashaaAllah 🤩 alhamdulillah
Surah Aal-e-Imran Ayat:-114. Necessary lecture for all teenagers boys.
being a man means standing up to the challenges life throws at you, and struggling hard enough so that you ensure victory.
Allahu Akbar
It's not urge...
It's responsibility...
Same case with me and I always say Alhamdulilah
"First turn into a man". Good advice. By then you'll realize what women are like and not want to get married.
+I am Learning Why, what are women like?
Dawah Bro Get married and find out.
I am Learning
I am not going to get married any time soon. Can't you just tell me?
Dawah Bro Don't be a smart arse with me mate
I am Learning
I don't know what you are thinking. I am just asking a simple question.
Biggest problem of the youth.
4years ago I wanted to get married then I heard Ustad Noman this lecture. I follow all steps start working from college and then full time approx. 2 yrs. Alhamdulillah
Now the thing is my parents are not allowing me to get married.
Great reminder. looking forward to listening more. Big thanks!
What if the sister due to her good upbringing and coming from a good family that gave her the best education is proving to be capable to carry more financialweight and responsibility to provide (cause honestly..jobs do look at your qualifications etc) compared to the man who comes from a poor background and never got the chance to learn certain things or get a good education (grammar,writing or have even. High school certification)..in today’s world it’s hard for a man with such a level to carry such responsibility when his life circumstances never gave him such a chance. But I’ve never been materialistic or looked for someone’s money but I met a brother who brought me to Islam..and I reverted if it wasn’t for his generosity to take me in while I was homeless for a few months abroad and for his ability to teach about Islam I don’t know how else Islam would have come to me. I really do love him for this few yet heartfelt things he has done for me.
Yet he is someone who feels he is incapable cause of what society labels as a true man(especially in western society). How do we treat man in such situations? I can tell I’ve definitely helped him too in many ways (reconnect with his family, he’s become more kind and soft spoken)...we’re both reverts and I’m not sure if I should just give home room to get his act together but again..to delay marriage, I don’t know if that’s a good idea either ?
Well said, brother Nouman. I completely agree with you
وَأَنْكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنْكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ ۚ إِنْ يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ"Marry the single people from among you and the righteous slaves and slave-girls. If you are poor, Allah (SwT) will make you rich through His favour; and Allah (SwT) is Bountiful, All-Knowing." (Surah 24, Verse 32)
In this verse, Allah (SwT) commands us (by Him using the imperative form of the verb) to marry the single, righteous man/woman from among us.Allah (SwT) even gives us a guarantee that if we are poor or lack the proper funds, still we should not delay the marriage as Allah will take care of the couple and grant them bounties from His Grace and Mercy.
I agree with you but Nouman Alik should have mentioned this . and what he said is right wrt some aspects
The accent version of a kid spoken by him.😁
I understand now. Thank you.
Amazing subhanAllah
I love you man you are a great man Allah bless you I want to meet you
Brother Nouman may ALLAH Pak protect you. ..
"Allahu khair ur razqeen " Allah is the best of providers
Lol what he said about doctors running the masjid xD so true !!
thank you for explaining this ..
You are so funny like that in med school your life is finished
3:57
must be saying sorry to his friend Dr.Omar Suleman head of yaqeen institute
asalaamualaikum m dear brother may allah bless you and brother hashem alamian .and may you be succesfull in the way of islam .
Agree
He sound s oooo. Funny when he says man😆😆
Awesome lecture !
Suban ALLAH 🌷
Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah. May I add something important?
The point Ustadh makes, is to man up- not to refrain from marriage!
Of course you may marry, even if you're poor! Ustadh just reminds you that you shouldn't be a spoiled child and even odd jobs will help you to grow up and humble yourself,wa Allahu alem. He didn't say refrain from marriage!
And it's important to marry as early as you can, wa Allahu alem.
Here, if you want to, please read this:
Praise be to Allaah.
If this man is religiously-committed and of good character, there is nothing wrong with you marrying him, even if he is poor, because of the report narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1084) from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him), that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and character pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.” Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.
There is nothing wrong with him taking from your wealth with your consent, and you will have the reward for spending on him and treating him kindly. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm (as Allaah has made it lawful)”
[al-Nisa’ 4:4]
Poverty is nothing to be ashamed of, because wealth comes and goes, and a poor man may become rich. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Saalihoon (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid‑servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allaah is All‑Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All‑Knowing (about the state of the people)”
[al-Noor 24:32]
You should convince your mother, and explain to her that compatibility is not the matter of money, rather it is piety and righteous deeds. There is no sin on you even if your mother persists in her view, and you think that you want to marry him, but it is essential that your wali (Guardian) be present in order for the marriage to be valid, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no marriage without a guardian.” Narrated by Abu Dawood (2085), al-Tirmidhi (1101) and Ibn Maajah (1881), from Abu Moosa al-Ash’ari, and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.
The woman’s guardian may be her father, then her son, then her brother, then her nephew (brother’s son), then her paternal uncle, then her cousin (son of paternal uncle), in order of closeness. If she does not have a guardian then her guardian for marriage is the qaadi (judge), because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If they dispute, then the ruler is the guardian of the one who has no guardian.” Narrated by Ahmad (24417), Abu Dawood (2083), al-Tirmidhi (1102); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (2709).
If a woman strives to get married and makes the mahr easy, it is a sign of wisdom and good thinking on her part. We ask Allaah to make things easy for you and to guide you to the right path.
And Allaah knows best.
Sorce:
islamqa.info/en/93543
+Mimi And this:
Can they get married and agree not to be intimate until their financial situation improves?If a brother happens to see a sister he likes and both of them decided to do aqidui nikkah.both of them knowing that the brother is still in school and he does not have the means to provide for the sister yet and both of them agree that they will not come to each other sexually till they are financialy okay enough to raise a family.is it allowed in islam .
Praise be to Allaah.
Marriage is one of the means of obtaining provision, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Saalihoon (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid‑servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allaah is All‑Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All‑Knowing (about the state of the people)”
[al-Noor 24:32]
al-Qurtubi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “those among you who are single” refers to those who have no spouse, men and women."
And he said: “If they be poor, Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty” means:
*do not refrain from getting married because the man or the woman is poor.*
If they are poor, Allaah will make them independent of means by His bounty. This is a promise of independence of means to those who get married, seeking the pleasure of Allaah and seeking to protect themselves from sin.
Ibn Mas’ood said: Seek independence of means through marriage, and he recited this verse. ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:
I am surprised by those who do not seek independence of means through marriage, when Allaah has said, “If they be poor, Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty.” Something similar was also narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him)."
Al-Qurtubi also said: This verse indicates that the poor man should get married, and he should not say, How can I get married when I have no wealth? For his provision comes from Allaah. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) gave in marriage a woman who came to offer herself to him, to a man who hadnothing but a single izaar (waist-wrapper). End quote from "Tafseer al-Qurtubi"(12/218)."
And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There are three who are all entitled to Allaah’s help: the one who fights for the sake of Allaah; the mukaatab who wants to pay (the price of his freedom); and the one who gets married seeking chastity.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1579), al-Nasaa'i (3166) and Ibn Maajah (2509). This hadeeth was classed as hasan by al-Albaani in
"Saheeh al-Tirmidhi."
If this young man is going to do the marriage contract, and his wife is going to stay in her father’s house until they can afford to set up home together, there is nothing wrong with that. But he has to look for work so that he can spend on himself, his wife and his house, so that his wife and her family will not be adversely affected if it takes too long.
If what is meant is that his wife will move to his house but they have agreed not to be intimate, so that they will not have children at this stage, that is not appropriate for several reasons:
1-Refraining from intimacy means missing out on something that is one of the most important aims of marriage, which is having children.
2-Refraining from having children for fear of poverty is contrary to putting one’s trust in Allaah, and it is an imitation of the people of Jaahiliyyah who used to kill their children for fear of poverty. Allaah has guaranteed to give provision for every soul, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And no moving (living) creature is there on earth but its provision is due from Allaah. And He knows its dwelling place and its deposit (in the uterus or grave). All is in a Clear Book (Al‑Lauh Al‑Mahf'z - the Book of Decrees with Allaah)”
[Hood 11:6]
“And in the heaven is your provision, and that which you are promised”
[al-Dhaariyaat 51:22]
But we must point out two things:
1 - With regard to marriage, it is essential that the conditions be fulfilled, which is the consent of both parties and that there be no legal impediments such as their being mahrams (relatives to whom marriage is forbidden) or their being related through breastfeeding. The woman’s wali (guardian) and two witnesses must also be present, otherwise the marriage is not valid.
2 - It is not permissible for a man and woman to form a relationship before marriage, because of the many negative consequences to which that will lead, such as falling in love, sickness of the heart (because of sin), looking at one another, being alone together, speaking softly to one another and other things that Allaah has forbidden.
And Allaah knows best.
Sorce:
islamqa.info/en/67589
+Mimi
The hadeeth “whoever among you can afford it, let him get married” does not mean that one who is poor cannot get marriedIn UK there are several students who are with out jobs so to avoid haram they need to get married. I have come across two hadiths which seem to be contradicting. The 1st hadith states “O young men, whoever among you can afford to get married, let him do so”. In the 2nd hadith The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) marries a woman to who seems to be a poor man so could you please elaborate on these 2 hadiths because it seems to be contradicting.
Just to clarify my question, to my understanding the 1st hadith is telling us that the man should be financially able to support a wife in order to get married but in the 2nd hadith the man is poor and he gets married. These 2 hadiths seem to contradict each other or have I misunderstood it.
Both hadiths are listed below
“O young men, whoever among you can afford to get married, let him do so, and whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for that will be a shield for him.” (Agreed upon, from the hadeeth of Ibn Mas’ood, may Allaah be pleased with him. Al-Bukhaari, 4778; Muslim, 1400).
No 4695 Narrated Sahl bin Sad:
A lady came to the Prophet and declared that she had decided to offer herself to Allah and His Apostle. The Prophet said, "I am not in need of women." A man said (to the Prophet) "Please marry her to me." The Prophet said (to him), "Give her a garment." The man said, "I cannot afford it." The Prophet said, "Give her anything, even if it were an iron ring." The man apologized again. The Prophet then asked him, "What do you know by heart of the Quran?" He replied, "I know such-and-such portion of the Qur'an (by heart)." The Prophet said, "Then I marry her to you for that much of the Qur'an which you know by heart."
.....answer in next comment insha Allah
+Mimi Praise be to Allah.The first hadeeth was narrated by al-Bukhaari (5066) and Muslim (1400) from Ibn Mas‘ood, who said: We were with the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), young men who had nothing of wealth. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said to us: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one’s chastity. And whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it will be a shield for him.” The second hadeeth was narrated by al-Bukhaari (5030) and Muslim (1425) from Sahl ibn Sa‘d: A woman came to the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), I have come to give myself to you (in marriage). The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) looked her up and down, then the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) lowered his head. When the woman saw that he had not made any decision about her, she sat down. A man among his companions stood up and said: O Messenger of Allah, if you have no need of her then marry her to me. He said: “Do you have anything?” He said: No, by Allah, O Messenger of Allah. He said: “Go to your family and see if you can find something.” So he went, then he came back and said: No, by Allah, O Messenger of Allah, not even a ring of iron, only this izaar (lower garment) of mine - Sahl said: he did not have a rida’ (upper garment) - and she may have half of it. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “What will she do with your izaar? If you wear it she will not have anything of it and if she wears it you will not have anything of it. The man sat down, and after he had sat for a long time, he got up (to leave). The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) saw him turning away, and he ordered that he be called to him. When he came, he said: “What do you know of the Qur’aan?” He said: I know Soorah such and such and Soorah such and such - and he listed them. He said: “Do you recite them by heart?” He said: Yes. He said: “Go. You have been given her (in marriage) for what you know of the Qur’an.” These two hadeeths do not contradict one another, praise be to Allah; rather each of them speaks of a specific situation. The hadeeth of Ibn Mas‘ood addresses young men and those who want to get married in general terms, to highlight the fact that marriage requires one to have sufficient resources so that the husband will be able to do what has been enjoined upon him of spending on his wife’s maintenance and providing her with clothing and accommodation. The phrase translated here as “afford it” refers to the costs of marriage; the Lawgiver wanted to highlight this principle, which is that marriage is not merely a contract or fulfilling one’s desire in a permissible manner; rather it is responsibilities and duties, and it is the man who is responsible for his wife’s maintenance. This also indicates that in the case of one who is unable to get married, it is prescribed for him to focus on fasting, because it weakens desire and reduces the influence of the Shaytaan, so it is one of the means of attaining chastity and lowering the gaze.Majmoo‘ Fataawa Ibn Baaz (3/329) The words of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), “whoever among you can afford it, let him get married” also indicate that what is prescribed for the one who is able to afford the costs and responsibilities of marriage is to hasten to get married. The scholars of the Standing Committee said: Hastening to get married, for a younger man, is the Sunnah for whoever can afford the expenses of marriage and fulfil the duties of marriage.”End quote from Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa’imah (18/6) See also the answer to question no. 9262. With regard to the second hadeeth, it refers to a specific case, and the issue is that of a poor person who wanted to get married and keep himself chaste, so the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) married him to that woman who came to offer herself in marriage to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him). This indicates that poverty in and of itself is not an impediment to marriage if the husband is religiously committed and believes sincerely in his Lord, and the woman is likewise. Moreover, Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): “And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Salihoon (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allah is All-Sufficent for His creatures needs, All-Knowing (about the state of the people)” [an-Noor 24:32]. If a person sincerely puts his trust in Allah, wants to keep himself chaste, and seeks that which is with Allah of bounty, there is the hope that Allah will help such a person and grant him provision from His bounty, as at-Tirmidhi (1655) narrated, in a report which he classed as hasan, from Abu Hurayrah, who said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “There are three whom Allah is bound to help: the mujaahid who strives (in jihad) for the sake of Allah, the mukaatib (a slave who has made a contract of manumission with his master) who wants to pay off his manumission, and a man who gets married, seeking to remain chaste.”. It was classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh at-Tirmidhi. Imam al-Bukhaari (may Allah have mercy on him) included this hadeeth in a chapter entitled: “Chapter on marriage of one who is in financial difficulty, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): “If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty” [an-Noor 24:32]. Al-Haafiz (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “The words ‘because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): ‘If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty’ [an-Noor 24:32]” explain the reason why al-Bukhaari put this as the title of this chapter; what is meant is that current poverty is not an impediment to marriage, because of the possibility of acquiring wealth in the future. ‘Ali ibn Abi Talhah said, quoting Ibn ‘Abbaas: Allah encouraged them to get married and enjoined that upon free men and slaves, and promised to make them independent of means, as He said: “If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty” [an-Noor 24:32].And it was narrated that Ibn Mas‘ood said: “Seek independence of means through marriage.”Tafseer Ibn Katheer (6/51) Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) said: In this verse, Allah - may He be glorified - enjoined marriage of single and righteous people among slave men and women, and He said - and He speaks the truth - that this is one of the means of attaining bounty for those who are poor, so that husbands and women’s guardians may be reassured that poverty should not be an impediment to marriage; rather marriage is one of the means of attaining provision and independence of means.End quote from Fataawa Islamiyyah (3/213) The fact that the one who is able to afford it is encouraged to get married does not mean that one who cannot afford it is not allowed to get married, especially if he fears hardship for himself. The one who cannot afford it is instructed to fast so as to suppress his desire, but that does not mean that he is not allowed to seek to get married. Perhaps he will find someone who will help him to get married, or perhaps he will find someone who will accept him in his current situation because of his religious commitment and righteousness. These are individual cases that vary according to people’s situations and customs. As for the meaning of the hadeeth of Ibn Mas‘ood, it is a general teaching and advice to those who are not able to get married, instructing them to protect themselves by fasting. If anyone among them finds a means to get married, there is nothing wrong with that; in fact he is encouraged and urged to do so. Hence when he said “and whoever cannot afford it”, he did not say “let him not get married”; rather he said “[he] should fast”, lest he fall into sin. But if he is able to get married with some difficulty, there is undoubtedly nothing wrong with that. Rather fasting is given as an alternative when one is not able to get married; if one is able to get married, even with some difficulty, then that is preferable. And Allah knows best.
Sorce: islamqa.info/en/181556
+Mimi "Man up"??? What does that mean?
+I am Learning Assalamu alaikum, "man up" means like "grow up" just like a man does. It means to know and take responsibilities, to take care of those who are under your care. Not beeing selfish, like a spoiled child is. To act wisely, even if u don't understand it you may learn that from our prophet Muhammad salallahu alayhi wa salem. Wa Allahu alem.
Maansha Allah well said
lol i rather focus on school and do well because its a good investment into having a better job in the future. our parents know that. its hard trying to juggle grades and work at the same time. my grades might be lower that way
Amazing... Really AMAZING!!!
THANK YOU SO MUCH. :)
yes practically insightful.
very good advice. jazakallaah
I really need the full video please
Nice Lecture
Informative
with all the respect to you. the prophet mohamed told to the youth if you afford your daily expenses get married ( يا معشر الشباب من استطاع منكم الباء فاليتزوج و ان لم تستطع فعليه بالصوم ( to mix culture with religion plz
+moamen nosseir basicly he said that much exactly
اذا بتقدر توفر الاشي الاساسي للزواج احكي عنه ولا لا تجيب سيرته و انت حاط كوع على كوع و بتستنى من اهلك يصرفوا عليك و يشتغلوا عنك
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That's a believe of non Muslim to work 1st and get established then get married but Muslims have totally different believe trust Allah swt and do what Allah swt said
Don't mix what most of the westerns think of marriage in Islamic teachings..... Don't agree.... And I don't know what people are laughing at and what this guy is making the to laugh at..... Make nikah east and Zinah difficult.....
You have a Hindu name ?
+Milania Renelle Leighton yes... I was born in Hindu family but I Embraced Islam 4 year back.... That is why my name sounds like a Hindu name .... Few people know me by name Abdullah...
vinay kumar I wanted to ask whether you were a revert but I thought perhaps I'd offend or something. MashaAllah bro, alhumdulilah whomsoever Allah guides :)
+Milania Renelle Leighton why would you offend .....? I mean had I said something offendable sister....?? If so please comment
+Amara Muhammad you were right brother... His (nuaman) advice is useless and in my opinion its satanic.... Because Satan always want us to delay marriage so that he can easily trap us in sins born due to delayed marriage.... You were right...
Zazzak Allahu khair
Assalam aalaikum
May allah protect and guide the muslim men.
yes sir u r right
Sorry....but the ayah is 14 from Al 3Imran....not 114..and Al....not 3Al....:D
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Great advice lol
$21 left at the end of the month -_- Damn
5 years later how you doing
I disagree with the brother. I think people should get married even when they are in school. If you want to keep your chastity for the sake of Allah then He will help you. But ofc one has to put effort in and try to find a job etc.
+Flam TM I think he means that you can not get married if all you do is play video games 24/7, because that means you-are-not-a-man! You have to be mature first; or you'll ruin the poor girl's life. Even if you get married, you'll have a miserable one, and that's not what you want ! So : 1/you want to keep your chastity, 2 become mature, 3/then get married ; if you can become mature at 16-17, great, age doesn't matter ! Sorry my english sucks haha :) ! Salams
jazakallah
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Assalamualikum health insurance that has interest is haram and a major sin
Never or really really less talk about parent's responsibility by you and all the famous scholars may be this is reason why Muslims are struggle today.
what verse from Suran al Imran is he quoting? can anyone help?
Verse-14
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What is the full lecturer?
Please , we necessary subscribe videos to be understande. because we aren't English.
What is the full lecture?
It is from a series on bayyinah.tv
Zunaid. do you know the name of the series?
Can't agree no more :D haha
Lol
Bro link the full lecture please
WRONG
This is advice for children, this is the problem with out society, every male is treated like a child until he is rich, by the he gives up!
*Get rid of the silly annoying music in the background and reupload*
stop playing sad music behind for fk sake
Yeah it's cringy
Even I don't like it when they play that music, but we mustn't swear at them. We must be polite.
Marriage is prison where men are the servant and woman tries to play god
Absolutely. Be a man, don't get married.
first become a man and learn the truth Allah is Queen consult Qhronicle of Crown valley of the gods Afghanistan Pakistan Kashmir calling from the Queen Azaan from Angle of Quranic Ra Gul Rasoul of Gullaam of Um Ma meaning Mother Allah Qhronicle of Queen Rabia Yah Jan Allah Amen . ( Rabiayahjanallahamen ) ikrah ik Ra Rabia Yah Jan Allah Amen
Emm.. What?
+HamzaAsadoAllah Salam Alaikum brother could you check out my channel and subscribe if you enjoy 😀
+Dawah Kid sure :)
HamzaAsadoAllah Thank you :)
Disagree
Bekaaaar
very good advice. jazakallaah
what verse from Suran al Imran is he quoting? can anyone help?
He is quoting 3:14
Don't mix what most of the westerns think of marriage in Islamic teachings..... Don't agree.... And I don't know what people are laughing at and what this guy is making the to laugh at..... Make nikah east and Zinah difficult.....
vinay kumar if by this guy you mean Nouman Ali Khan, hes just telling people who are immature but still want to get married to become mature and man up (be able to look after themselves financially and otherwise) before that