“don’t be smart with me im trying to help you” good for you mark holding your ground there’s only so much you can do we’re all here backing you praying and hoping for the best possible outcome
But you don't hold your ground enough or long enough. You allow him to continually insult you, attempt to make you feel guilty and give him more and more and more. When do you stop, Mark? It makes me sick you won't move on to good people that deserve a break and need your help. I pay you the monthly fee $10, to watch the other videos. And there are so many people you could be helping instead of continually feeding his drug habit and flushing your money down the toilet.
Wow! Mark, you can " love" a person to death. Stop helping this one. Rebecca is acting like a spoiled brat. Rebecca needs to figure this out on her own, or not! No one can do this but you Rebecca. No amount of money will help Rebecca. She isn't taking responsibility or accountability for her actions. So disrespectful abd and manipulative. Walk away Mark, knowing you have poured so much into this. No more.
Rebecca is a perfect example of how no matter how hard you try and how much you give .. you can't help someone who is not ready/wanting the help. I really do hope one day Rebecca gets clean and Mark can get the much deserved appreciation he deserves from her. Right now, Rebecca sees him as a tool to get what she wants.
I was Rebecca once. Not so bad, but begging, and begging everyone for help. I've been in and out of Psych wards and Rehabs since the late 90s. I've come to learn that the only person that can help me, is me.
I'm glad that you understand that now. That's good to hear because that really is how it goes. Only you can fight the war in your mind and conquer your fears and learn to be truly happy.
You can't reason with the mentally ill. I hope that she will cooperate enough to at least get immigration papers started or whatever it takes? Mark, I'm surprised that you don't have an apartment for her and others to go to for a shower and etc.
I was a homeless addict once too, I earned money by cleaning, I slept in my car (yes lucky to have it) bought a planet fitness membership to keep me inside at night and it had a shower, got myself a job got clean and started real life. Now I’m married with two beautiful children, I have a career and great perspective. And I have BPD. Food, water and earned opportunity for shelter is what they need, and that’s all
Congratulations!! And yes it’s possible! I was the person you thought would’ve never got clean! I was living on the streets sleeping in abandoned cars. I’d purposely want to get locked up just to have a place to sleep and food to eat! Til those fentanyl withdrawals started! Ugh the worst. I did things I said and thought I’d never ever do. That’s why they say never say never! I had a minimal $150 dope habit, daily just waiting to die. I mean I did it all. But thankful to God, I found out I was pregnant and my life changed. My son saved me!! I finally felt like I had a purpose again in my life and I did it for him and myself to be there for him! I moved out of NJ to Florida, have my own house, bought a brand new car last summer, I have my own business. Things that if you told me 5 years ago I’d have I wouldn’t believe you! I’m 5 years sober and never looking back🙏🏼❤️
So when they deport her to Egypt she’ll be stoned to death for being trans (their old school laws) all thanks to Mark for publicizing this to the entire world…. now he’s just covering his ass. Yeah, nice one Mark.
It is so difficult to care for someone suffering from mental health issues. Mark, thank you for trying to help Rebecca and everyone else you encounter on your journey to raise awareness.
Yep! I tried to get my son to accept help for years and years. He was a homeless paranoid schizophrenic, Fentanyl took him out last May. We need a better system in place to treat the mentally unwell.
@@justmyopinion2 sorry about the loss of your son. We have a terrible terrible drug problem currently in this country. We have an open border and things are just flooding through. But you’re right you cannot reason with someone who is not in the right mind. We need a much better mental health system. We need mental hospitals back again. And we need them so that family and or friends can have a loved one on an involuntary hold if they are a danger to themselves or others. But that being said, as terrible it is, im sorry you lost your child. , there must be some relief as well. drug addiction, reeks havoc on the entire family. And as much as you miss your son, it’s probably a huge relief as well. Whatever was bothering him, he clearly didn’t want help or was not able to take that step. So I guess he is in a better place now.
So whos insane here? Rebecca for being addicted to a substance while mentally Ill, or mark who has interviewed rebecca how many times looking awful and not able to speak half the time
Rebecca, as someone who has had my brain flooded with chemicals for many years, I can tell you that if you manage to get clean and stick to it for a longer period then you get to enjoy your full personality and the world in a deeper way. Its gold. I promise you.
I personally think you’ve done all you can do for her. If Rebecca can’t help herself even a little, then probably your recourses will be better used for someone who will appreciate all the time and effort you put forth trying to better their lives.
Rebecca and the Whitakers earned him a good portion of his resources. I think Mark understands this and continues to support and make content about them both to help them, and to help himself. It’s hard for him to find ways to help Rebecca financially without her using it to hurt herself.
Rebecca wants everyone to do what SHE WANTS. It’s time to grow up and get it together. At this point you are throwing money down the drain and there are people out there that would give anything for this kind of help.
She’s struggling with addiction. The prospect of taking away a drug from an addict literally feels like a matter of life and death- of _survival._ They need the drug to emotionally survive in their reality because that is the only way they know how to feel safe and cope. Please don’t blame the addicted person, blame the abuse causing trauma and the trauma causing the addiction.
@@ewajustka You're just like the lunatic Leftists. You're what, a cop? You're the fucking _language police_ around here? You're literally the same as the idiots who insist on there being more than two sexes/genders, you know that right? You're JUST LIKE A LEFTIST in terms of wanting to _force people to use the word YOU insist upon._ If someone wants to refer to Rebecca as "she" who the fuck are YOU to insist she does so? It's NO DIFFERENT than Rebecca insisting YOU refer to him as "she". I mean the irony is striking and what's worse is that you're too goddamned dumb to see it.
To all of you who til yesterday were Rebecca's "fans": This person is not a superstar, someone you watch for your entertainment. She is sick, addicted and it's sad to watch comments judging her as if she was in control of herself, as if someone with clear mental problems could behave reasonably, respectfully and according to social norms. It's so much pain, so much pain. If you don't have enough empathy, at least try not to judge when a sick addicted person gets reactive like a sick addicted person, because that's what they do, specially with those who are just trying to help.
I interpret Rebecca’s behavior with the mounting stress of reality. This is one of the things she’s been doing drugs to avoid and now it’s unavoidable. It’s easy to love Rebecca when she’s entertaining, but this is where we see the reality of drug addiction. They run from and deny all their issues then take drugs to forget or be somewhere else. Most often, they’re not the sweetest people sober.
I have to disagree. As someone with a loved one who finally beat a 13 year drug addiction, I would pray for interactions when he was sober. When using, he displayed horrible narcissistic personality traits that I never experienced when he was sober. It was extremely stressful to be around him. He's now clean for over 4 years and it's been a delight to get to know the person that was hidden beneath the drugs and the behaviors the drugs produced. He's now an extremely sweet person and a joy to be around.
Absolutely agree! They love Rebecca when she’s entertaining but when they see the other side they lose compassion. Your compassion from the comfort of your couch is good for nothing. Can’t make a change!
I remember being addicted to drugs, and the fear of jail being so overwhelming that I ran from the cops because I did not want to stop doing drugs. I think the aggression might be the fear of not being able to get to drugs when it really has a hold of you. She’s massively fearful right now and I’m not making excuses or anything but being an meth addict I’ve never really seen her angry and aggressive like this and I’m just trying to figure out where it’s coming from and I think it’s definitely fear.
It broke my heart when Rebecca said “do you know what they do to people like me in my country, I thought she said they hang us from the trees” That’s fear. In Egypt, LGBT communities face discrimination and persecution in hard labor camps. Gender reassignment surgery can be approved if the Coptic Orthodox Church approves through the Al-Azhar Mosque. No wonder Rebecca has escaped to the USA, and lives in deplorable poverty. Mark is beyond kind to Rebecca, I think we all wish the best. I hope the drugs dissipate when Rebecca gets clean. I wish Rebecca happiness in this very short time we have here. PS. I’m glad you conquered your addiction. Life is a beautiful ride when sober.
I think right now (in this video) the fear of being deported to Egypt is even worse than the fear of not being able to get drugs.You're right, it seems highly likely her attitude and aggression was born of learning of the real possibility of being sent back to her country of birth. And now she's not been seen in a week after leaving the phone behind. What a sad story. So many sad stories. And by the way, I use the pronouns "her" and "she" for Rebecca because that's what she seems to want and prefer. Is it delusional? Maybe, but who the f*ck am, I or anyone else, to decide for another person who they are?
@@user-vs4ur3nu7qNo, he doesn't. A survivor will stay out of dooms way. Rebecca is sprinting full speed towards it. If he gets deported it's game over.
Rebecca would absolutely be harmed or possibly killed if she is deported. Her charges and her minimizing her actions and maybe being flippant is no different than any other addict shown. She doesn’t fully understand how serious this is. And yes mark needs to show tough love but that’s no different than any of the addicts shown. Her being trans should not mean she deserves less empathy or help than anybody else.
I don't know why it surprises people when someone deep in the trenches of addiction and mental illness does not respond to help in a rational and grateful way. Of course, Mark is not obligated to help someone, especially if they are responding to such help in an entitled manner, but it would be naive to think that Rebecca has the wherewithal to respond in a way that made sense given her substance use and other mental health struggles. I'm sure the idea of losing her right to identify how she pleases scares the fuck out of Rebecca, and this is how she is responding to that fear.
I came here to make a comment however I don’t think I could have say it better than you! Everything you said is spot on(in my humble opinion) and I just wanted to add: This is a defense mechanism for Rebecca-almost like she is embarrassed and doesn’t know how to cope with the feeling. I truly hope Rebecca is able to get through this-she has a rough and long road ahead. Love from My home to yours.❤
Exactly. When I have too much going on and I'm stressed (sometimes scared), my husband tells me I'm acting mean or a bit "b*tchy." I don't mean to, and I apologize. I snap out of it... but Rebecca is not the same. She has taken many drugs, and it is clear she has mental difficulties. We can't expect her to act a certain way. She's being brought to a stressful and scary conversation.
If you saw the videos of him 12 years ago on TH-cam before he started doing drugs and being in the US you'd see he'd be fine if he would clean himself up. Not saying he doesn't have trauma but he looked 100% fine.
I have followed Rebecca's story from the beginning. However, I believe this video is the last I'll watch of hers. It seems she feels entitled and expects Mark's help, rather than appreciates it anymore. Good luck, Rebecca. And thank you, Mark, for everything you do for people.
I felt the same way too, we all had hopes she will realize the amount of support Mark has given her but someone that doesnt want to change wont and dragging yourself with them can be draining esp for mark
It's 100% impossible for the " help" to be useful. You can help us all you want, but it's going to be a complete waste until we decide to accept true change and create a new human from the ground up...
She also knew there would be plenty more phones to come. The lack of gratitude for all the help she's gotten from Mark is like a slap in the face. It's none of my business who he helps or how often he helps them, but I think Rebecca has developed a sense of entitlement and clearly expects the help now. I'll continue to pray for Rebecca and wish only good thing, but the enabling has to stop at some point or nothing will change.
Have you not seen the people running this shit show of a country, our elected leaders....rebecca is more functioning than the people we pay to take care of us.
I'm a lawyer and left a detailed comment up there ^. but I just wanted to add: I don't know why Mark is doing all this without thinking about it first. There's a very probable chance that he'll go back and I don't think Mark thought that through.
says someone who has never struggled with drugs. I don't think you understand how deceitful, complicated, and baffling addiction is. Our own brains have more power than ANYTHING EXTERNAL to maintain the substance they've learned they want. Save an actual fucking miracle.
That might sound weird but maybe Egypt cld help: no or less drug tolerance policy there, so to get his head clear first. I am sure in Egypt/ Kairo there are underground groups living as gay/ trans etc pp. I cant see any development for him to get sober and clear in the states
I’m sad and discouraged watching this. I hope Mark gets help too. Helping someone over and over again without much gain is heartbreaking. I went to to Al-anon and it helped a lot. Sending you love Mark. If Rebecca only knew that dropping into gratitude changes lives.
Those of us who’ve tried to “help” an alcoholic or addict do eventually loose our minds. I’m worried about Mark now and I hope he goes to Alanon and gets the help he needs. I’d suggest also going to open Narcotics Anonymous meetings. The addicts will give it to Mark straight.
Imagine being a parent of someone with significant mental illness. Been there, done that for decades. I think this is a educational video to show that regardless of how much we try to help and "believe" in the person it doesn't always go to plan. Dealing with chemical imbalances in the brain from mental illness, addiction, or both, feels like a set up sometimes. You think you are making progress, getting through, you're headed to the finish line and...splat.
No literally!! I feel the same way about him. It takes a special kind of person to understand where Rebecca is at mentally and then to meet her there with kindness
Well if you don't take this as a sign Rebecca.... Nothing ever will. Either do what the courts say or life will be less than kind. You don't need a lawyer Rebecca, you need a better attitude.
Rebecca is hurting so bad. She’s terrified too of something most of us don’t understand. Watching this is so hard. Most people leave them at this point because it’s hurtful and frustrating and heartbreaking. Thank you for not leaving her.
Agreed, even the threat of deportation followed by being hung isn’t strong enough to kick the drugs. She needs serious help to get off them. I wish they could keep her somewhere away from it all, it’s the only way.
You're a truly wonderful person, Mark. You've poured your soul into helping Rebecca. You've done all you possibly can, which is 1000 times more than anyone else would even be willing to do to help. I hope you take the time to take care of yourself too.
Rebecca is terrified, caught up in addiction & is projecting all of this in a defensive state. I feel Mark is well aware of this & thus gives him the amount of patience most would not.
yes exactly. I thought that as well, the gravity is reaching rebecca and she's probably deeply feeling it after drugging to numbness this whole time. she's normally deeply regretful when sober if she might've been unkind. as frustrating as it probably is I agree he probably sees that
Nah… you’ve got it wrong. So when they deport her to Egypt she’ll be stoned to death for being trans (their old school laws) all thanks to Mark for publicizing this to the entire world…. now he’s just covering his ass. Yeah, nice one Mark.
The issue is, she knew there were dire consequences to her actions, yet because she kept getting let out she thought she was untouchable. Instead of realizing how incredibly lucky she had gotten, getting some help, apply for asylum, and get it together. She’s been offered mental health services and rehabs over and over and over, and even now when the threat of deportation is very real, she still refuses. She’s not terrified, if she was she’d be doing everything she could to make herself look better, not just spewing nonsense that she’s being deporting for being transgender.
@@katc1949I hear what you are saying and yes, someone else without untreated mental health issues and drug addiction would most likely "doing everything she could to make herself look better". But Rebecca is not of sound mind; years on the streets, no family or friends, gender dysphoria, untreated mental and physical health and smoking/sniffing god knows what everyday will absolutely wreck your mind and stunt your development, maturity and communicative skill. This is such a complex issue and yes It's frustrating to watch, but her brain and body are literally broken right now. It can be hard to empathise past a certain point because she isnt "doing what she needs to do"... We have no idea what it's like in her mind, and it's pretty common for people who lack emotional maturity to project feelings of insecurity (or in this case, probably hopelessness) onto others. Just because she isn't behaving in the way you think she should be, doesn't mean she isn't feeling terrified.
Mark has become an enabler. I know that he wants the best for Rebecca, but he has to stop giving money. It’s fine to buy a meal, clothes, assist with legal and mental help, or provide a place to sleep. It must stop there. Giving money to an addict is the same as buying the drugs for Rebecca and she knows it. Stop the insanity.
I pray that some day ill be watching an interview with the clean, recovering Rebecca. She has so much potential. Mark, you are a bright light in this dark world, such an inspiration.
Ah man this whole video made me stressed. Rebecca's anger, rudeness and frustration, Mark's ABSOLUTE frustration and possibly a little hurt... just a really difficult one. Thank you Mark for continuing to try. Always hopeful for a better future for Rebecca ❤️
It's Rebecca's rudeness, disrespect to Mark, and acting so ungrateful, for me... 😲 It behooves me how someone in that position can act so entitled... You "can't" (successfully) help anyone who will not try to help themselves.
At this point in time Rebecca is beyond help. This is going to end badly. Rebecca has to understand that her addiction and mental health are intertwined.
She does need to understand it. But the reality is she may not ever. That’s hard and almost impossible to realize this when you are so vested in a person. There needs to be boundaries she accepts. She is capable of understanding this. Rebecca’s sanity and insanity are perhaps forever intertwined.
We all need to lift Mark up. In love. He has done so much… to the very best of his (or anyone’s ) ability. Rebecca is her own road block. Every single time.
I agree she seems to be upset knowing her situation is pretty bad and taking it out on mark. I think before she could just not think about it or have hope that it could be taken care of but hearing it’s probably not gonna happen is hurting her.
Agree it did feel like a goodbye. You can tell she spends a lot of time pondering her fate and grappling with the realisation her life may end at any moment, without her having achieved her dreams. Coping mechanisms are apparent in the lies she tells herself to stay sane. Awful watching someone's broken existence and be unable to help. She reminds me of Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz. Lost, roaming around on her travels. Hope she discovers that she had the power all along.
@@Toonces666this is Unfortunatly not always the positive thing you think it is. Sometimes you need to think about yourself and your own mental health before others.
As the child of an addict, the only one who can make changes is Rebecca. I have no doubt Rebecca knows the depth of your caring Mark - but at the end of the day, there is nothing you can do except offer your support and guidance. I remember a good friend said to me when I was trying so desperately to help my father - that there are some poor souls who have no "bottom". My Dad was one of those and died of alcoholism. We all see the good in Rebecca and the potential - but it is up to her. Thank you for continuing to let us share the voyage with you Mark.
I’m sorry to hear of your father’s death. My older brother died of late stage alcoholism last year. He was 71. He had so many opportunities for change, but chose not to. It’s a sad thing to see a person waste his life and to suffer in the end with liver and kidney failure.
This is the nearest to the real truth of living with & loving an addict many of the commenters here will ever have been, its ugly, it always gets ugly no matter how charming or interesting the person with the addictions is. They lash out & its painful when we dont deserve it but they are in their own world, we really dont matter no matter how much we help tgem or care. They live for how the drugs make them feel.. all else is superficial.
Mark obviously cares about Rebecca, and more than most, he is also aware of an addicts manipulation and gaslighting tactics. He wants to help her and do the right thing by her. But for everyone jumping on Rebecca today, just try and think about all of her trauma and just how much it will effect her. Cultural, religious, ethnic, gender identity, abandonment, abuse, assault, isolation, depression. It's not just addiction here at play. Most people will push others aside when things get too much to handle. On one hand I don't think she has ever received so much support from someone and on the other I don't think she believes she deserves it or it will all go to sh*t so why bother. I truly hope for the best with Rebecca, but I also think Mark is amazing for supporting her where he can no matter the emotional response he gets from her. Yes, she is a drug addict and today she came across as ungrateful, but she is also a scared, lonely person who just wants to live her truth and is stuck in homelessness and addiction. Rebecca deserves a chance and as dysfunctional as it is also deserves Mark's friendship. I just hope she embraces sobriety to enjoy it before it's too late.
Mark knows this. He also knows that being there for them and making sure they know that, helps tremendously because if and when they are ready to get help they have support.
disagree - I was suicidal but I knw people friends and family would always listen to my problems and that saved me, if you think no one will listen to you anyway, THAN you follow through. Mark is Rebecca's angel
I felt like it was very clear that Rebecca was saying goodbye in this video. She knows her chances of deportation is very high and i honestly wouldn’t be surprised if we don’t see her again.
Now, it's an "emergency". I think that maybe Rebecca, was deceptive in disclosing her legal situation. She has played Mark for years. But this is the ultimate slap in the face. And her attitude sucks. And she is always filthy dirty.
I never comment on these videos, but I felt compelled to with this one. Rebecca is acting out because of stress and fear. She's *terrified* of being deported, but she dug her hole so deep that to take accountability and try to dig herself out would only emphasize how badly she messed up. It's denial, and by blaming everyone else ("it's because I'm trans" or "it's about race" or "it's because you're not helping me enough") she can avoid looking into that anguishing mirror and seeing that *she* is the problem. That so much of her fear and her worry, her misery, is of her own doing. As necessary as it is, that would probably destroy her. I'm not saying it's right, but this type of lashing out is so incredibly human, and Mark is amazing for documenting it. To those saying he's exploiting Rebecca, what would you have him do? His reach is the very reason Rebecca now has an attorney fighting for her. Mark is quite possibly the only person in her life that she can rely on, and I personally don't give a crap if he's filming a tiny portion of that help because *he's doing something*. He's trying to help a person so broken that precious few people have any hope for her salvation. How beautiful is it for someone to refuse to give up on Rebecca, even if all it adds up to in the end is her having a true friend when she needed it most? Regardless of the outcome, that's quite the gift, if you ask me. As for the end, Rebecca running away yet again, who could have expected anything different? I'll admit to feeling a worried frustration, but Rebecca is a real person. There is no script detailing her character arc into salvation. She is a deeply, deeply flawed human being. I hope beyond measure that she is able to somehow turn things around for herself, but whether or not she does, it's not for us to judge nor to condemn her. It's my opinion that these videos are meant to be observed, so that maybe we can understand just a little bit better the lives of those society would deem a plague. For better or for worse, Rebecca is a person. I love Mark for giving her respect and as much dignity as she could possibly accept. She's scared, y'all. This video is her backed into a corner and fighting to get out. Mark has my utmost respect for not giving up on her, despite how futile it seems
marc you are doing the works that god is pleased with. regardless of what it looks like to those that judge. you are the type of person this world needs the most. i wish nothing but the best for you. thanks for sharing your videos and your work!
I agree, enough is enough. She is being given so much and she doesn’t want it. It’s like she’s not even fighting to stay here in the USA, even though she knows how she’ll be treated if she goes back. She is clearly suicidal and that’s very sad but there is nothing else we can do. The best Mark can do is move on to the next person and help someone who actually wants to turn their life around and get back on track.
Agreed! He is a narcissist who knows exactly what he's doing which is playing and using Mark and anyone else he can. I have zero sympathy for him anymore.
If the back story is true then I'd speculate the degree of wealth is staggering to most. Mark likely represents the kind of priviledged personal "help" Rebecca was likely raised up on. Who knows tho.
They say that cause they are racist and look down on us, the wedbawks! That said they are here illegally cause they are NOT citizens, plain and simple!
The angry comments are so strange to me. I understand it’s frustrating watching this- but expecting Rebecca to suddenly start making good choices is like expecting a clinically depressed person to suddenly stop being sad, or an anxious person to decide to just chill out. You’re watching a mentally ill person live with their mental illness. You’re not entitled to a happy ending and Rebecca will probably never behave in a self-preserving way. Without serious intervention like being locked in a rehab or a prison, she will continue this cycle. One day she will succumb to it, and even though she wasted a million chances to get better, it will still be tragic.
The mental health issues are way more serious than the drug problem. Unfortunately all the attention we’re giving to her through Mark’s channel is only making her feel more entitled. We’re making the situation worse. All my love to Mark for being an exceptional human being. ❤
Or just let Rebecca live the life he/she wants, on the streets, like Mark found him/her and where he/she is probably back again now as Rebecca has left the hotel, left the cell phone Mark gave her in the rain outside, and can't be found. That's really where Rebecca wants to be. It is what it is.
Unfortunately, Rebecca is at a point where the drug use and the mental health cannot be separated. They are fueled by each other and they both need treatment simultaneously or nothing will change. It’s a sad, scary state of existence.
I been watching your videos for a long time now , I saw a video 3 yrs ago with Rebecca and the changes in her is unreal.... The drugs that changed her is so drastically and sad at the same time ..... I know Mark you try so hard to help and your a great person at the end of the day
This is the first time I have felt genuinely mad at Rebecca. Mark you have done so so much for her. Rebecca is so interesting but she doesn’t need to be mean to you for doing the best for her. Rebecca has been my absolutely fascination for the last few years. Every time I am in LA for work I look for her. Also to the ones reading this you need Marks new book. I got the signed copy and it’s my favourite possession currently.
You feel “genuinely mad” at someone who is deep in addiction and mental illness?…. For not responding to help being offered in a way that makes sense to YOU. What a naive thing to say. If we expected all unhoused users on skid row to jump at the opportunity to go to rehab, get clean, and live a straight life (as if it were that easy) then we would not be faced with this epidemic of homelessness and substance abuse. Also, it reads quite dehumanizing to say that someone has been your “fascination” for the last few years.. this fascination is because they present as so outlandish and eccentric and crazy that it’s interesting to you, until of course they don’t respond to help in a rational way that makes sense to YOU.
My dad is a drug addict with schizo-affective disorder. I've spent half my life trying to keep him clean. Watching Rebecca's story and seeing her relationship with Mark reminds me so much of my relationship with my dad. You can't force anyone to do anything they don't want or aren't ready to do. Unfortunately, her mental state due to drugs and mental health issues are what will keep her in a cycle until something happens but even then, she could go back to this type of lifestyle. I'm sorry, Mark. I'm sure this is really hard for you. I really hope you are in counseling and have a good support system around you.
Dear Mark and soft white underbelly, i have seen every footage of poor rebecca and i wish l could just jump out and give her the best of help . i live in scotland and i'm 51 years old. i never done drugs and i am a quiet person in life, no wife or family. i always kept to myself, however rebecca has pulled on my heart strings , to me she has a good heart and appears to be very intelligent from what i have seen. i just want to take care of her. but i have a social anxiety disorder and i don't like anyone in my home and i try to stay away from people at the best of times. but rebecca seems to stand out for me for some reason. i have this overwhelming care for her and hate when shes stranded on the streets and high and vurnerable. it's not like me to feel this way. i give to the homeless on the street some money and a drink etc etc when i lived in glasgow scotland . i now live nearer the countryside where it's quiet and i keep to myself, but rebecca has got me and i just wish i could hold her and help her. i can see her true self in her eyes and i notice her vurnability and i know she is scared. mark has mentioned on one interview that she can be independant if she became sober and he also stated she is very very intelligent. rebecca CAN be successful as a model or anything she wishes to be ONLY if she can get through her personal storm and demons. there IS a white light and a POSITIVE result if she wants it. i pray for her mark and chat. please god bless rebecca and take care of her . i wish her well . yours sincerely joseph from scotland ( i am also trans gender woman ) good luck girl x
Wow. This is showcasing Rebecca as a master manipulator. This is why SO many families give up on their addicted/mentally ill family members. It's not they that don't love them but it is beyond frustrating and maddening to deal with. As a recovering alcoholic I can say as addicts and alcoholics, we see ourselves in Rebecca. Regardless whether we have lived on skid row or not we have royally betrayed every person who cares about us.
I disagree. She’s frustrated. I get it- i don’t think it’s personal. Many don’t understand because they’re not transgender and they’re not scared of being deported to a place that will kill them. Mark is trying to help but he’s the closest person to her and now because of his “help” which was done with the best intentions, she’s facing some very very scary situations of being deported! She’s going to express her frustration with him… it’s a scary situation to be in her shoes. Rebecca is freaking out! On top of being misgendered constantly during this process - it’s gotta be super hard for everyone but especially for her.
@@Poochiepoochie54321 even if she had all the attorneys in the world, that makes ZERO difference in a situation where immigration decides they want to deport her. It’s not up to an attorney. We have to remember how the system works.
It breaks my heart to see Rebecca’s frustration taken out on you. She’s terrified and lashing out at you because you are “safe”. You’ve been there for three years and she knows you’ll not leave her. It’s sad that her drug addled mind won’t allow her to see the clear path to staying. She says returning home is a death sentence but she’s currently walking on death row here. Without rehab Rebecca’s future looks bleak regardless of her location. Sadly, Rebecca is at her own mercy. 😢
She sees it, she's too afraid to believe it's real. She acknowledged she needs help, and I honestly think she wants/ the help, but is afraid due to being traumatized. I believe in her and will continue to.
@@lorrainedillard4692 you're a great example of why women's suffrage doomed america. this sex offender needs to be tossed out of the country and if we don't do that then this thing needs to be in jail. Unfortunately, your suicidal level of "compassion" makes you capable of compassion for this thing but not the people this things sexually assaults. it would have to whip it's dick out in front of your kids before you realize how stupid you are.
Mark is literally is like the parent who is doing everything possible. You can bring the horse to the water but you cant make the horse drink the water.
Mark your just a saint buddy, I hope your doing ok through all this shit. You’re just doing what few people on earth have the patience to do, I appreciate you.
This isn't a *different* Rebecca than the other videos where everyone felt compassion for her. To see so many comments bashing her is interesting because nothing is different from the first videos... Nothing has changed, in her mind/heart. She was worthy of compassion before Mark & she's worthy of it now, even when she is struggling with the idea of change (which is what mark is offering her).
It’s because we all had high hopes for her … she could have changed her life .. she had every opportunity handed to her to get better … and she didn’t … time and time again…. Enough is enough .. nobody feels sorry for her anymore …
@@marianaawawda4588 I hope you understand that she only got to where she was on that very first video (struggling with mental health, addiction, poverty & homelessness) precisely because she was exactly the same person as she is being right now. Of course we all hope for her to want to be better but it won't happen when we want it. It happens when she wants it. This right here is just who she is in addiction & mental illness. That's OK. People should still have compassion for her even if she can't do the things everyone else wants of her. She's a human being & worthy of compassion despite *your* expectations not being met
Mark should have been showing "Rebecca" videos of him at his worst and messiest on the days when he is sober to shock him to reality. That could have helped maybe a little.
I’m surprised someone of faith is calling him a her. Seems like you should know better, he clearly states in the video he has a penis. What else does one need to have to make them a male or do we just get to pretend that we are whatever we want to say?
I looked at her old TH-cam account by the name of Ismail Seoudi and I couldnt even recognize the Person in those videos. Her decline is all on the internet. It’s so fucking sad
Rebecca is so sassy here! I felt genuinely mad at her watching this, Mark! Bless your heart for all you have done and continue to do ♡ I've been following your channel and Rebecca for a long time. She fascinates me..I hope she chooses help soon
At this point I feel great empathy for Mark. I was a caregiver for 22 years for someone with these kind of behavioral issues. They may or may not get better. But the caregiver never does.
I could actually feel her fear. Can you imagine giving up all power (with an addiction & mental health issues) not knowing what could happen. She was acting that way out of fear. The more of a reality it becomes the bigger the fear for her. She’s living the only way she’s ever known. I hope she realizes that she can do it and live a beautiful life.
Why? Kindly, Why? If someone wishes to be referred to as female why is it hard to just say "she" and 'her"? Why does it matter so much ? Why can't someone be trans? I ask why? If mentally you feel female, and would like to be referred to as female, why not? What's wrong with it? @@stevenstewart7610
She’s gotten more chances than most other immigrants that get in trouble. She should have cleaned herself up the first few times she got arrested and let go. Every immigrant knows if you get in trouble, your citizenship gets revoked and you get sent home. She’s from Egypt, she knew she never wanted to be sent there, yet refuses to get it together. The consequences she can face are far worse than anyone knows, yet she refuses to take any help offered. I don’t believe for a second that she believes it’s actually going to happen, if she did she wouldn’t be acting like this.
@katc1949 If you are a citizen of the USA, and you get into trouble, your citizenship DOESN'T get revoked. If you have a greencard tho, it could disqualify you from applying for citizenship, but not always. I'm Egyptian and gay. Became a US citizen years ago. Been living between Egypt and the USA since 2008.
I work with the homeless. It takes compassion and thick skin that is stronger than being offended. Mark knows what he’s doing, and does an excellent job. This is why he’s so well loved by the people on the outside, and those on the inside.
Exactly! I feel Mark was expecting the slap back. That’s what happens when you’re dragging the devil out. And you have to not care and just continue the mission. Truth hurts and no one likes to be backed in a corner. Mark handled himself just fine. I don’t think he expected anything less.
@@christinafindlay2849 yep. Also, having a trained “eye”, I can tell Mark edited Rebecca (and several others) in a good light. Same reason why I rarely tell about my bad moments with certain people I’ve helped. Once a bad light is cast, that’s all people see.
As a recovering addict myself the only person who can help you is yourself, youve got to wanna change your life no matter how much help is out there. Took me 20 yrs to realise that. I hope rebecca has that realisation soon
why were long-stay institutions for the mentally ill shut down en masse in the latter half of the 20th century? because those in power would rather folks like Rebecca die homeless on the street than ante up to keep these institutions going? Rebecca clearly doesn't understand what's good for herself... not atypical of people with severe mental health issues. Expecting her to take "personal responsibility" is the most braindead position one could take. i knew there was a reason i never subscribed to SWUB... now it's quite clear to me
Boom! By God’s grace, and MY own desire and willingness to admit it have I enjoyed 31 years sober and clean. But we are a very small percentage of addicts who get, much less stay clean. By the way, I’m happy to talk if anyone wants to.
Mark, plz prepare yourself for the fall. The likelihood of her getting sober and proceeding to therapy, etc at this point is slim to none. She isn't ready. Im in recovery so I know the deal. I think you're wonderful for everything you've done to help her but it's probably not going to end well ❤.
I live in that part of the world Rebecca came from and I have been following her for sometime. It's heart breaking and very disappointing to see her throw away her true chance of freedom. Some of us would give our right hand for it and she is wasting it, so sad.
Mark, I am so glad you told Rebecca not to be smart with you because you're trying to help her. Do you really think, someone is going to come take Rebecca away? Get it together Rebecca, your interviews are 3 years on here with no changes on your part. Mental health is a big factor, GET HELP! I am kind of getting sick of her. Help yourself. She is very manipulative with her conditions. Screw that, Mark don't get her another phone.
Same. I clicked in but paused right away because I just wanted to check the comments for an update. Rebecca has every opportunity to get good help and thrive thereafter. I hope she does. Until then I won’t watch.
Exactly ! Everyone in the comments just seem to be enabling her ..in the beginning ..she was interesting ...but as time went on.... I just feel she is beyond help from others... she needs to help herself. She's not that special and there are people more deserving to stay in this country than her to be brutally honest
I’m getting a bit sick of seeing her too. This is one case where I see Mark is just enabling her. And at some point Mark needs to take these resources (admittedly they are his) and find someone who does want the help. There are people out there that are ready for the help. That would take the help and actually make an effort to turn themselves around. Kind of makes a person not want to give to the channel. I hate paying taxes because the money is misspent. Why would I volunteer to hand money to a person who just takes takes takes.
Mark, this is the first video that Rebecca is so rude and combative towards you. It breaks my heart that she cannot see your kindness. This has triggered my own trauma in dealing with loved ones that have mental health issues. Sending you love and praising your strength.
Yes he’s becoming more and more oppositional and disrespectful lately I truly am losing any respect I once had just for the way he’s treating Mark I see this spoiled rotten idgaf attitude from him
No one will be able to “help” her until she’s ready to help herself. She takes nothing seriously. I don’t feel sorry for her anymore. She’s making a fool of everyone who tried to help her. She will always be the victim- time for her to grow up and deal with her consequences
The more I watch Rebecca, the more I realize that she doesn’t want to get sober or put in any of the work needed to turn her life around. At this point she’s using Mark. Glad he finally stopped making videos with her.
From all the misunderstanding I see in the comments I really wish for Mark to bring on a professional who can educate on how addiction works and also talk about the extreme challenge of dual diagnosis and what that means.
Yes!! Dual diagnosis needs to be explained and an expert could help give insight to the viewers, Mark and Rebecca. This won’t be smooth, yet it is necessary and important.
Mark, you have an incredible amount of patience and love. I hope you have the strength to handle it if Rebecca doesn't make it. Take care of yourself. You can only do so much.
@@navybrat7905Watch his talk with Joe Rogan to find out he is running at a loss. This isn't exploitation. He's drawing attention to real people, with real problems.
I’ve seen people on this channel that look tired and really want to change. I’ve never seen this on Rebecca. She loves and wants this lifestyle. She’s smart and knows what she is doing. Marks done more than enough for him. You cannot help those that do not want to be helped. Period.
She is LASHING OUT BECAUSE THIS IS SOME HEAVY SHIT. Its alot for anyone much less someone in the thick of addiction and having mental health problems. People can change.. but only when they want to. Mark you are a saint.
At this point, I'm more worried about Mark's mental health. By his own admission, he's tried on numerous occasions to get help for Rebecca. What he is unable to accept is Rebecca doesn't want his help because Rebecca is mentally ill and addicted to the streets. My hope for Mark would be to let him love Rebecca from a distance before it destroys him and his compassion for the distraught.
Mark has been in Rebecca's life for a minute. While no doubt this probably does take a toll on him, imagine if he was the parent, or a family member when this sort of thing goes on for years and years and... I was that parent, my son died last May from Fentanyl, homeless, in a parking garage. I think it's a good thing to show what happens when a person pours their efforts into an empty vessel. Without proper treatment Rebecca will not change, maybe the fear of deportation will get her to finally move forward, or worse... It's reality.
Mark you are not being combative, you have put your own spirit through so much to be consistently disappointed. Your determination and desire to help Rebecca is unwavering and you should be so proud of the small moments of happiness you bring to her because for now, until she is ready to change, only small moments can be achieved. You are a great guy Mark
Hmm… Rebecca does want to be helped but only on her own terms. Her problem is that she does not respect or recognise authority of any kind. And this is equally as difficult to deal with as someone who doesn’t want to be helped.
I believe Rebecca has a special place in his heart and sometimes we believe the best outcome will near but I don’t fault him for it, I just hope he doesn’t feel hurt deeply because he truly doesn’t deserve it. I think it is easy for us to form opinions as we watch from afar but I imagine it is not the case for him, most of us who watch this Chanel would think omg, if I can have a quarter of support that Rebecca is being offered I would be beyond grateful but as you stated, you as an addict, I don’t need to tell you anything other than I am proud of you for overcoming your addiction and wish the best in life and mostly to forgive yourself because you know you had no Ill intent towards the people you love and I hope they realize that. Keep your head up and all we can do is pray for Rebecca to get it together and for Mark to be okay mentally while dealing with this. 🙏🏼
I’m confused by all the people saying they’ve lost all sympathy for Rebecca. Sure she was rude, but addicts have coherent days, nice days, mean days, good and bad days… she’s self centered like many addicts can be, but that doesn’t mean she will be forever and it’s weird to me everyone’s acting like this is the first time she’s probably acted like this. My heart goes out to Mark as I know helping people who don’t want to be helped can in many ways be thankless, but my heart also goes out to Rebecca.
Like anyone else, she needs to be respectful and appropriate what a friend Mark is. She needs to be more grateful and the only way she's going to do it, is be straight. I feel bad but dang...
This entire comment section needs to stop placating this mentally ill man. It's clear there is a disconnect from reality and everyone praising "her" with all this love has led to exactly this. Some people you just cannot help. I don't wish ill will on him, but there comes a point where these types just mooch off of others an attention. There is no "helping" them. Nor this man.
😮enough already!!, she does not want to take responsibility for her behavior and is getting the attention she is wanting! And disrespecting the main person that truly cares for her?! Where is the tough love in thiis relationship?? 15: 15:57
P.S. Mark it's good to hear you get more stern with Rebecca (finally)! NO more hotel rooms, phones, clothing & wigs, etc.! It's really TOUGH LOVE time ... 😵💫
After watching multiple Rebecca videos spanning the last two years, I am starting to recognize when she is high, when she is coming down, and when her mental health struggles are at the front and not being mixed with the drugs. There are many different faces to Rebecca. I sincerely hope she gets the help she needs and deserves. She is an amazing human and I would love to spend time with her and see the world through her eyes. She is so incredibly intelligent and funny and witty and I honestly believe she would be so much fun to be around. I adore you Rebecca and I want you to know you deserve everything that makes you happy ❤️
I’ve been following every video with Rebecca. Her whole story. This video made me mad. The disrespect towards Mark as he is doing everything in his power to help Rebecca infuriates me. It’s like a spoiled/entitled child who doesn’t understand life. She has a looooong way to go and she may need to just figure it out on her own because help isn’t what she likes or wants. She writes her own story. And it won’t end good.
Any mental health professional gives a person so long to engage with them, if they won't engage with the professional the professional then discharges them especially in the United Kingdom. But you can't make someone get help if they don't want it, they have to naturally want the help........
Well, the timing is just right for Rebecca to start alienating Mark (and us) with sarcasm, disrespect, and delusions of entitlement. I believe what's happening is that Rebecca can see that there's help for him--Mark, an immigration attorney, and whatever the law can do for him at this point--so he's going to have to do whatever it takes to derail that help. Rebecca isn't ready to actually get help, it appears--he needs to find a reason that the help won't work, or that Mark isn't on his side, or some other reason to see himself as being victimized in some way. That will allow him to go off (again) and keep getting high, in or out of jail, while blaming external circumstances for his situation. He's absolutely not in touch with the fact that his problem is himself.
He is not ready! That's what people don't understand with addiction. It will only be successful when the person themselves wants it more than anything and they Are Ready!!!!!
The frustration Rebecca is expressing seems a projection of the frustration she feels towards herself.. just like she said “I need my cooperation” deep down she knows.. she knows everything mark is telling her. She knows what she needs to do. She’s an addict, she’s addicted, and she’s suffering terribly from mental illness. The lack of love for herself is evident. She still deserves love and support.
He knows* ... .but realistically Rebecca dosnt want to change...he just wants to manipulate as much as possible like he's been doing for a very long time obviously and live this fantasy life....not to mention being arrested for exposing himself!...I hope there wasn't to many poor kids that have had to watch this freak playing with himself or doing whatever was going on....
“don’t be smart with me im trying to help you” good for you mark holding your ground there’s only so much you can do we’re all here backing you praying and hoping for the best possible outcome
But you don't hold your ground enough or long enough. You allow him to continually insult you, attempt to make you feel guilty and give him more and more and more. When do you stop, Mark? It makes me sick you won't move on to good people that deserve a break and need your help. I pay you the monthly fee $10, to watch the other videos. And there are so many people you could be helping instead of continually feeding his drug habit and flushing your money down the toilet.
Wow! Mark, you can " love" a person to death. Stop helping this one. Rebecca is acting like a spoiled brat. Rebecca needs to figure this out on her own, or not! No one can do this but you Rebecca. No amount of money will help Rebecca. She isn't taking responsibility or accountability for her actions. So disrespectful abd and manipulative. Walk away Mark, knowing you have poured so much into this. No more.
Some people refuse to get sober, no matter how much "help" they are given!
I don't think Rebecca has tried at all.
Rebecca is a perfect example of how no matter how hard you try and how much you give .. you can't help someone who is not ready/wanting the help. I really do hope one day Rebecca gets clean and Mark can get the much deserved appreciation he deserves from her. Right now, Rebecca sees him as a tool to get what she wants.
Facts but "He"
@@jalennelson6008 Says yoom.
Yup. That is what addicts do - use people.
Never give up ❤
Rebecca is the stuff of comedys but also the stuff of nightmares.
I was Rebecca once. Not so bad, but begging, and begging everyone for help. I've been in and out of Psych wards and Rehabs since the late 90s. I've come to learn that the only person that can help me, is me.
Indeed. ❤
I'm glad that you understand that now. That's good to hear because that really is how it goes. Only you can fight the war in your mind and conquer your fears and learn to be truly happy.
She isn’t begging for help though.
She is just taking advantage of what Mark will give her at that given moment.
You can't reason with the mentally ill. I hope that she will cooperate enough to at least get immigration papers started or whatever it takes? Mark, I'm surprised that you don't have an apartment for her and others to go to for a shower and etc.
Too much liability
All the cell phones, shopping sprees, hotel rooms did nothing for Rebecca. You can't help those that don't want to be helped.
It's for views.
THIS is the real issue for Rebecca. Mark tries to help because he doesn’t want to see her dead.
Why would any of that help long term?? This person has a drug addiction and mental health issues. She needs long term professional treatment.
She would have it worse I think if mark wasn’t there.... Rebecca is very bright
I wish he would stop.
FINALLY! Mark has made a tiny step towards holding Rebecca accountable which is exactly what she needs
Thats why he is angry
She just needs to transition - she shouldn't fill that hole with drugs.
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@@batbite_Having a sex change will not solve his raging drug addiction. Surely you understand this.
I was a homeless addict once too, I earned money by cleaning, I slept in my car (yes lucky to have it) bought a planet fitness membership to keep me inside at night and it had a shower, got myself a job got clean and started real life. Now I’m married with two beautiful children, I have a career and great perspective. And I have BPD. Food, water and earned opportunity for shelter is what they need, and that’s all
Congratulations!! And yes it’s possible! I was the person you thought would’ve never got clean! I was living on the streets sleeping in abandoned cars. I’d purposely want to get locked up just to have a place to sleep and food to eat! Til those fentanyl withdrawals started! Ugh the worst. I did things I said and thought I’d never ever do. That’s why they say never say never! I had a minimal $150 dope habit, daily just waiting to die. I mean I did it all. But thankful to God, I found out I was pregnant and my life changed. My son saved me!! I finally felt like I had a purpose again in my life and I did it for him and myself to be there for him! I moved out of NJ to Florida, have my own house, bought a brand new car last summer, I have my own business. Things that if you told me 5 years ago I’d have I wouldn’t believe you! I’m 5 years sober and never looking back🙏🏼❤️
@@ChickenFerLeihow did you get through WDs? Congratulations this is hopeful for all ❤
Am so VERY happy for you ! God bless ..
You strong good for you you should be a good father and husband and employee
You should be proud of yourself
Continue
Xoxo from 🇫🇷
Congratulations, must've been hard but the hard part is over and now it's the better part 🎉
I sadly don’t think this is going to end well Mark. Just know you have done everything humanly possible. ❤
AMEN!!!!!!
So when they deport her to Egypt she’ll be stoned to death for being trans (their old school laws) all thanks to Mark for publicizing this to the entire world…. now he’s just covering his ass. Yeah, nice one Mark.
exactly
Absolute waste of time.
As much as I've enjoyed Rebecca's videos, there are people that are literally DYING for the help that Mark offers..
Daaaamn.
It is so difficult to care for someone suffering from mental health issues. Mark, thank you for trying to help Rebecca and everyone else you encounter on your journey to raise awareness.
Drugs are bad.
Yep! I tried to get my son to accept help for years and years. He was a homeless paranoid schizophrenic, Fentanyl took him out last May. We need a better system in place to treat the mentally unwell.
@@justmyopinion2 sorry about the loss of your son. We have a terrible terrible drug problem currently in this country. We have an open border and things are just flooding through. But you’re right you cannot reason with someone who is not in the right mind. We need a much better mental health system. We need mental hospitals back again. And we need them so that family and or friends can have a loved one on an involuntary hold if they are a danger to themselves or others. But that being said, as terrible it is, im sorry you lost your child. , there must be some relief as well. drug addiction, reeks havoc on the entire family. And as much as you miss your son, it’s probably a huge relief as well. Whatever was bothering him, he clearly didn’t want help or was not able to take that step. So I guess he is in a better place now.
I wonder if Rebecca fled or is in jail now?
So whos insane here? Rebecca for being addicted to a substance while mentally Ill, or mark who has interviewed rebecca how many times looking awful and not able to speak half the time
Rebecca, as someone who has had my brain flooded with chemicals for many years, I can tell you that if you manage to get clean and stick to it for a longer period then you get to enjoy your full personality and the world in a deeper way. Its gold. I promise you.
I personally think you’ve done all you can do for her. If Rebecca can’t help herself even a little, then probably your recourses will be better used for someone who will appreciate all the time and effort you put forth trying to better their lives.
Rebecca and the Whitakers earned him a good portion of his resources. I think Mark understands this and continues to support and make content about them both to help them, and to help himself. It’s hard for him to find ways to help Rebecca financially without her using it to hurt herself.
I think she might only recognize all the help she's been offered and given when he lets her be.
I think Mark will continue to document Rebecca's case regardless of how she responds to his efforts.
I keep saying that😢
Rebecca wants everyone to do what SHE WANTS. It’s time to grow up and get it together. At this point you are throwing money down the drain and there are people out there that would give anything for this kind of help.
He's making money from her!
She’s struggling with addiction. The prospect of taking away a drug from an addict literally feels like a matter of life and death- of _survival._
They need the drug to emotionally survive in their reality because that is the only way they know how to feel safe and cope.
Please don’t blame the addicted person, blame the abuse causing trauma and the trauma causing the addiction.
@@bobbi911Why are you here?
HE IS A MAN
@@ewajustka You're just like the lunatic Leftists. You're what, a cop? You're the fucking _language police_ around here? You're literally the same as the idiots who insist on there being more than two sexes/genders, you know that right? You're JUST LIKE A LEFTIST in terms of wanting to _force people to use the word YOU insist upon._
If someone wants to refer to Rebecca as "she" who the fuck are YOU to insist she does so? It's NO DIFFERENT than Rebecca insisting YOU refer to him as "she". I mean the irony is striking and what's worse is that you're too goddamned dumb to see it.
To all of you who til yesterday were Rebecca's "fans": This person is not a superstar, someone you watch for your entertainment. She is sick, addicted and it's sad to watch comments judging her as if she was in control of herself, as if someone with clear mental problems could behave reasonably, respectfully and according to social norms. It's so much pain, so much pain. If you don't have enough empathy, at least try not to judge when a sick addicted person gets reactive like a sick addicted person, because that's what they do, specially with those who are just trying to help.
This!! I’m shocked by so many people leaving negative comments when it’s been the reality of this situation with Rebecca the whole time.
My brother is homeless, similar to Rebecca. Thank you so much for your comment, and for your empathy. We need more empathy in the world.
Sadly though I think you can empathize someone into a grave all situations aren't the same but sometimes Toughlove is needed
@@lisalancework7999there's a stark difference between empathic and enabling though
YES!!! She is broken and terrified. She's in constant fight-or-flight mode and is acting accordingly.
Rebecca is exactly where she wants to be. You can’t make someone care, especially about themselves.
EXACTLY!
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That’s not true
Agree
Perpetual circles.
I interpret Rebecca’s behavior with the mounting stress of reality. This is one of the things she’s been doing drugs to avoid and now it’s unavoidable. It’s easy to love Rebecca when she’s entertaining, but this is where we see the reality of drug addiction. They run from and deny all their issues then take drugs to forget or be somewhere else. Most often, they’re not the sweetest people sober.
I have to disagree. As someone with a loved one who finally beat a 13 year drug addiction, I would pray for interactions when he was sober. When using, he displayed horrible narcissistic personality traits that I never experienced when he was sober. It was extremely stressful to be around him. He's now clean for over 4 years and it's been a delight to get to know the person that was hidden beneath the drugs and the behaviors the drugs produced. He's now an extremely sweet person and a joy to be around.
I agree. The real possibility that she may be deported is so scary for her. I'm surprised she's dealing with it at all.
Absolutely agree! They love Rebecca when she’s entertaining but when they see the other side they lose compassion. Your compassion from the comfort of your couch is good for nothing. Can’t make a change!
First reality is that "she" is a "he"
Actually I was a really kind person when I was sober it was the opposite. When I used I was heartless and mean.
I remember being addicted to drugs, and the fear of jail being so overwhelming that I ran from the cops because I did not want to stop doing drugs. I think the aggression might be the fear of not being able to get to drugs when it really has a hold of you. She’s massively fearful right now and I’m not making excuses or anything but being an meth addict I’ve never really seen her angry and aggressive like this and I’m just trying to figure out where it’s coming from and I think it’s definitely fear.
@breenaklein1528 You seem intelligent, is being a marijuana addict a real bad thing??
It broke my heart when Rebecca said
“do you know what they do to people like me in my country, I thought she said they hang us from the trees” That’s fear.
In Egypt, LGBT communities face discrimination and persecution in hard labor camps.
Gender reassignment surgery can be approved if the Coptic Orthodox Church approves through the Al-Azhar Mosque.
No wonder Rebecca has escaped to the USA, and lives in deplorable poverty.
Mark is beyond kind to Rebecca, I think we all wish the best.
I hope the drugs dissipate when Rebecca gets clean. I wish Rebecca happiness in this very short time we have here.
PS. I’m glad you conquered your addiction. Life is a beautiful ride when sober.
Translation: LGBT people get a free pass because I had a gay friend in high school and consider myself a civil rights hero for that.
I think right now (in this video) the fear of being deported to Egypt is even worse than the fear of not being able to get drugs.You're right, it seems highly likely her attitude and aggression was born of learning of the real possibility of being sent back to her country of birth. And now she's not been seen in a week after leaving the phone behind. What a sad story. So many sad stories. And by the way, I use the pronouns "her" and "she" for Rebecca because that's what she seems to want and prefer. Is it delusional? Maybe, but who the f*ck am, I or anyone else, to decide for another person who they are?
Drugs SHOULD Not be legalized check out what's happening in BC Canada
Rebecca’s attitude is her biggest enemy.
she has a survivor attitude.
@@user-vs4ur3nu7qSurvivor? Hardly. I call it self sabotage.
@@user-vs4ur3nu7qNo, he doesn't. A survivor will stay out of dooms way. Rebecca is sprinting full speed towards it. If he gets deported it's game over.
Exactly
@@GhastlyCretinexactly. This is the very opposite.
Mark you have done everything you can for Rebecca.
That's not up to you to decide. He cares about her which is why he is helping. He doesn't want her to die.
@@ZYLINIA🤣
Rebecca would absolutely be harmed or possibly killed if she is deported. Her charges and her minimizing her actions and maybe being flippant is no different than any other addict shown. She doesn’t fully understand how serious this is. And yes mark needs to show tough love but that’s no different than any of the addicts shown. Her being trans should not mean she deserves less empathy or help than anybody else.
@@kestrada4254 exactly!
Yes. It’s now overplayed and pathetic
I don't know why it surprises people when someone deep in the trenches of addiction and mental illness does not respond to help in a rational and grateful way. Of course, Mark is not obligated to help someone, especially if they are responding to such help in an entitled manner, but it would be naive to think that Rebecca has the wherewithal to respond in a way that made sense given her substance use and other mental health struggles. I'm sure the idea of losing her right to identify how she pleases scares the fuck out of Rebecca, and this is how she is responding to that fear.
Agree!
U have hit the nail on the head.
I came here to make a comment however I don’t think I could have say it better than you! Everything you said is spot on(in my humble opinion) and I just wanted to add: This is a defense mechanism for Rebecca-almost like she is embarrassed and doesn’t know how to cope with the feeling. I truly hope Rebecca is able to get through this-she has a rough and long road ahead. Love from
My home to yours.❤
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Exactly. When I have too much going on and I'm stressed (sometimes scared), my husband tells me I'm acting mean or a bit "b*tchy." I don't mean to, and I apologize. I snap out of it... but Rebecca is not the same. She has taken many drugs, and it is clear she has mental difficulties. We can't expect her to act a certain way. She's being brought to a stressful and scary conversation.
She doesn’t have a chance in Egypt. Crazy to say she’s safer on skid row is mind blowing 😞
If you saw the videos of him 12 years ago on TH-cam before he started doing drugs and being in the US you'd see he'd be fine if he would clean himself up. Not saying he doesn't have trauma but he looked 100% fine.
Where you find the video?
@@the_anxious_autisticwhere’s that video?
I'm doubting it exists
It’s btw not true. It’s not that she would be the only homosexual or transgender person in Egypt…
Mark- you’re so patient and kind.
Wherever this goes, you’ve done your absolute best and are an amazing person.
Hoping for the best for Rebecca.
Mark keeps interviewing him for views and money. They use each other for the mighty dollar.
Mark didn't have to follow Rebecca around and make her a star which he did. He should have left her alone.
I have followed Rebecca's story from the beginning. However, I believe this video is the last I'll watch of hers. It seems she feels entitled and expects Mark's help, rather than appreciates it anymore. Good luck, Rebecca. And thank you, Mark, for everything you do for people.
Same! 💯
Agreed.
Totally agree!!!
The pressure is on. Rehab or nothing can help him with any part of his life.
So disrespectful to Mark with that last comment.
I felt the same way too, we all had hopes she will realize the amount of support Mark has given her but someone that doesnt want to change wont and dragging yourself with them can be draining esp for mark
It is nearly impossible to help someone that doesn't want to help themselves
You still have to try!
@@Toonces666But you can only give someone so much. That person HAS to want it for themselves if change is to happen.
she needs to be ready
It's 100% impossible for the " help" to be useful. You can help us all you want, but it's going to be a complete waste until we decide to accept true change and create a new human from the ground up...
Actually it is impossible
The brightest diamonds sometimes never make it to the surface and shine. They remain hidden forever for whatever reason
🥺 so true
Albert Einstein once said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”
No he didn't
Here, here!
Whoever said it, they nailed it.
He never said that....
so what ?
Rebecca did NOT lose all of those phones, she SOLD them. Let’s be real for a minute.
She also knew there would be plenty more phones to come. The lack of gratitude for all the help she's gotten from Mark is like a slap in the face. It's none of my business who he helps or how often he helps them, but I think Rebecca has developed a sense of entitlement and clearly expects the help now. I'll continue to pray for Rebecca and wish only good thing, but the enabling has to stop at some point or nothing will change.
DOLD ‘em for DRACK!!
@@thepostofficeprince8819 u just made me laugh so hard 😂 😅🤣
Probably both, she was pretty out of it sometimes.
@@RawC7Zamazing how many people enable this sick man’s delusion by calling him a she.
It's not about the freedom of being a man or woman. It's about being sober and a functioning member of society!
He panicking because in Egypt they will off him, for being gay/trans
Yep. I'd be pretty afraid too!
Yes that's right Jennifer
Have you not seen the people running this shit show of a country, our elected leaders....rebecca is more functioning than the people we pay to take care of us.
I'm a lawyer and left a detailed comment up there ^. but I just wanted to add: I don't know why Mark is doing all this without thinking about it first. There's a very probable chance that he'll go back and I don't think Mark thought that through.
How long can Rebecca acknowledge: deportation = death, while ignoring: drugs = deportation = death, or even: drugs = death?
says someone who has never struggled with drugs. I don't think you understand how deceitful, complicated, and baffling addiction is. Our own brains have more power than ANYTHING EXTERNAL to maintain the substance they've learned they want. Save an actual fucking miracle.
@@bryanbryan6108 Your reply isn't about my comment. It's entirely about you, and I hope you find peace.
That might sound weird but maybe Egypt cld help: no or less drug tolerance policy there, so to get his head clear first. I am sure in Egypt/ Kairo there are underground groups living as gay/ trans etc pp. I cant see any development for him to get sober and clear in the states
@@sim5247Unfortunately I don’t think Rebecca will survive long in Cairo
@@bryanbryan6108 how do u know? U know me?
I’m sad and discouraged watching this. I hope Mark gets help too. Helping someone over and over again without much gain is heartbreaking. I went to to Al-anon and it helped a lot. Sending you love Mark. If Rebecca only knew that dropping into gratitude changes lives.
I genuinely don’t know how Mark does this without losing his mind. Amazing.
Those of us who’ve tried to “help” an alcoholic or addict do eventually loose our minds. I’m worried about Mark now and I hope he goes to Alanon and gets the help he needs. I’d suggest also going to open Narcotics Anonymous meetings. The addicts will give it to Mark straight.
Imagine being a parent of someone with significant mental illness. Been there, done that for decades. I think this is a educational video to show that regardless of how much we try to help and "believe" in the person it doesn't always go to plan. Dealing with chemical imbalances in the brain from mental illness, addiction, or both, feels like a set up sometimes. You think you are making progress, getting through, you're headed to the finish line and...splat.
Probably because he makes a lot of money
No literally!! I feel the same way about him. It takes a special kind of person to understand where Rebecca is at mentally and then to meet her there with kindness
Because he monetizes these videos. It's his work.
Well if you don't take this as a sign Rebecca.... Nothing ever will. Either do what the courts say or life will be less than kind. You don't need a lawyer Rebecca, you need a better attitude.
Rebecca is hurting so bad. She’s terrified too of something most of us don’t understand. Watching this is so hard. Most people leave them at this point because it’s hurtful and frustrating and heartbreaking. Thank you for not leaving her.
Agreed, even the threat of deportation followed by being hung isn’t strong enough to kick the drugs. She needs serious help to get off them. I wish they could keep her somewhere away from it all, it’s the only way.
You're a truly wonderful person, Mark. You've poured your soul into helping Rebecca. You've done all you possibly can, which is 1000 times more than anyone else would even be willing to do to help. I hope you take the time to take care of yourself too.
Rebecca is terrified, caught up in addiction & is projecting all of this in a defensive state. I feel Mark is well aware of this & thus gives him the amount of patience most would not.
yes exactly. I thought that as well, the gravity is reaching rebecca and she's probably deeply feeling it after drugging to numbness this whole time. she's normally deeply regretful when sober if she might've been unkind. as frustrating as it probably is I agree he probably sees that
Nah… you’ve got it wrong. So when they deport her to Egypt she’ll be stoned to death for being trans (their old school laws) all thanks to Mark for publicizing this to the entire world…. now he’s just covering his ass. Yeah, nice one Mark.
so like a dog...?
The issue is, she knew there were dire consequences to her actions, yet because she kept getting let out she thought she was untouchable. Instead of realizing how incredibly lucky she had gotten, getting some help, apply for asylum, and get it together. She’s been offered mental health services and rehabs over and over and over, and even now when the threat of deportation is very real, she still refuses. She’s not terrified, if she was she’d be doing everything she could to make herself look better, not just spewing nonsense that she’s being deporting for being transgender.
@@katc1949I hear what you are saying and yes, someone else without untreated mental health issues and drug addiction would most likely "doing everything she could to make herself look better".
But Rebecca is not of sound mind; years on the streets, no family or friends, gender dysphoria, untreated mental and physical health and smoking/sniffing god knows what everyday will absolutely wreck your mind and stunt your development, maturity and communicative skill. This is such a complex issue and yes It's frustrating to watch, but her brain and body are literally broken right now. It can be hard to empathise past a certain point because she isnt "doing what she needs to do"... We have no idea what it's like in her mind, and it's pretty common for people who lack emotional maturity to project feelings of insecurity (or in this case, probably hopelessness) onto others. Just because she isn't behaving in the way you think she should be, doesn't mean she isn't feeling terrified.
Mark has become an enabler. I know that he wants the best for Rebecca, but he has to stop giving money. It’s fine to buy a meal, clothes, assist with legal and mental help, or provide a place to sleep. It must stop there. Giving money to an addict is the same as buying the drugs for Rebecca and she knows it. Stop the insanity.
He might give her money for drugs so he dosent do “anything else”to get money for drugs. Like he did for Amanda. Much safer for Rebbecca that way
Facts
As long as he’s exploiting Rebecca, he should pay her. No matter what she does with the money.
@@ck1938He is not exploiting Rebecca. He is trying to help her. If you feel that way, why are you watching?
no he hasn't, don't be unfair to Mark please, it's very disrespectful what you are posting!
I pray that some day ill be watching an interview with the clean, recovering Rebecca. She has so much potential.
Mark, you are a bright light in this dark world, such an inspiration.
Ah man this whole video made me stressed. Rebecca's anger, rudeness and frustration, Mark's ABSOLUTE frustration and possibly a little hurt... just a really difficult one. Thank you Mark for continuing to try. Always hopeful for a better future for Rebecca ❤️
Save your "hope" for someone who appreciates it. He doesn't give a crap.
@@KAdams-dr4pc luckily I have enough hope to spend on more than just one person. I think most people do.
This one was tough.
@@Kaz.Williams
Good luck with that. 😂
@@KAdams-dr4pcWhy are you watching? Go away.
It's Rebecca's rudeness, disrespect to Mark, and acting so ungrateful, for me... 😲 It behooves me how someone in that position can act so entitled... You "can't" (successfully) help anyone who will not try to help themselves.
U need to look up the definition of behooves
I just wanted to drop by to say I'm so appreciative that I saw someone use the word behoves today hahaha XD
@@moisture8380 Read the string regarding the usage of the word … 🙄 !!! Smdh !!
@@mimivistaverde5030 The word behooves is a metaphor slang !!! When you know… you know and obviously YOU don’t !!!!🙄
@@moisture8380 I said what I said… The word was used as a metaphor slang… When you know…you know 🙄
At this point in time Rebecca is beyond help. This is going to end badly. Rebecca has to understand that her addiction and mental health are intertwined.
Often people with those issues are incapable of that.
The drugs help in their mind to stop the voices .😢😢
She does need to understand it. But the reality is she may not ever. That’s hard and almost impossible to realize this when you are so vested in a person. There needs to be boundaries she accepts. She is capable of understanding this. Rebecca’s sanity and insanity are perhaps forever intertwined.
Nobody's beyond help unless they know you. Don't be so quick to judge somebody especially if you haven't walked in their shoes
@UnjustifiedRecs1st time I ever heard of abusing weed lol thanks I needed that
Could you imagine Rebecca in front of a no nonsense judge? 😮
Scared for Rebecca!
Are there any in California?
@@wmsobczyk They keep the prisons overflowing somehow
Specifically Judge Judy
They’d throw her in jail. No judge is gonna deal with this kind of BS.
This felt like a goodbye. Rebecca is terrified and taking it out on Mark. Mark sounds broken. I hope Rebecca finally sees sense and goes to rehab.
Every video multiple people say this feels like a goodbye.
We all need to lift Mark up. In love. He has done so much… to the very best of his (or anyone’s ) ability.
Rebecca is her own road block. Every single time.
I agree she seems to be upset knowing her situation is pretty bad and taking it out on mark. I think before she could just not think about it or have hope that it could be taken care of but hearing it’s probably not gonna happen is hurting her.
I'm really afraid what the next update might be.
Agree it did feel like a goodbye. You can tell she spends a lot of time pondering her fate and grappling with the realisation her life may end at any moment, without her having achieved her dreams. Coping mechanisms are apparent in the lies she tells herself to stay sane. Awful watching someone's broken existence and be unable to help. She reminds me of Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz. Lost, roaming around on her travels. Hope she discovers that she had the power all along.
Mark, there is nothing more you can or should do for Rebecca. You've went above and beyond, you can't help her when she clearly can't be helped.
Love doesn’t give up.
Then you go take care of him tootyfruity@@Toonces666
@@Toonces666 lol nobody loves this guy hahaha he going buh bye
At some point it’s useless no matter how much Mark cares. How long is this gonna go on? Years?
@@Toonces666this is Unfortunatly not always the positive thing you think it is. Sometimes you need to think about yourself and your own mental health before others.
As the child of an addict, the only one who can make changes is Rebecca. I have no doubt Rebecca knows the depth of your caring Mark - but at the end of the day, there is nothing you can do except offer your support and guidance. I remember a good friend said to me when I was trying so desperately to help my father - that there are some poor souls who have no "bottom". My Dad was one of those and died of alcoholism. We all see the good in Rebecca and the potential - but it is up to her. Thank you for continuing to let us share the voyage with you Mark.
I’m sorry to hear of your father’s death. My older brother died of late stage alcoholism last year. He was 71. He had so many opportunities for change, but chose not to. It’s a sad thing to see a person waste his life and to suffer in the end with liver and kidney failure.
I feel like Mark needs Al-Anon
Facts.💯💜
why?@@jenniferweed2552
This is the nearest to the real truth of living with & loving an addict many of the commenters here will ever have been, its ugly, it always gets ugly no matter how charming or interesting the person with the addictions is.
They lash out & its painful when we dont deserve it but they are in their own world, we really dont matter no matter how much we help tgem or care. They live for how the drugs make them feel.. all else is superficial.
Mark obviously cares about Rebecca, and more than most, he is also aware of an addicts manipulation and gaslighting tactics. He wants to help her and do the right thing by her. But for everyone jumping on Rebecca today, just try and think about all of her trauma and just how much it will effect her. Cultural, religious, ethnic, gender identity, abandonment, abuse, assault, isolation, depression. It's not just addiction here at play. Most people will push others aside when things get too much to handle. On one hand I don't think she has ever received so much support from someone and on the other I don't think she believes she deserves it or it will all go to sh*t so why bother. I truly hope for the best with Rebecca, but I also think Mark is amazing for supporting her where he can no matter the emotional response he gets from her. Yes, she is a drug addict and today she came across as ungrateful, but she is also a scared, lonely person who just wants to live her truth and is stuck in homelessness and addiction. Rebecca deserves a chance and as dysfunctional as it is also deserves Mark's friendship. I just hope she embraces sobriety to enjoy it before it's too late.
I so agree with all you said ❤
You cant push people away when you need their help.
Rebbeca is her worst enemy.
Her attitude is uncalled for.
Love your insight! This is literally it.
Nobody is jumping on Rebecca. Everyone who is dragging anyone here is going at Mark for exploiting and enabling more than anything.
I agree with you. They are jumping on her today
You can't make someone help themselves. You can't want them to be sober enough or care enough about themselves. This just gets sadder.
Exactly that's true.
Mark knows this. He also knows that being there for them and making sure they know that, helps tremendously because if and when they are ready to get help they have support.
Sadly true.
disagree - I was suicidal but I knw people friends and family would always listen to my problems and that saved me, if you think no one will listen to you anyway, THAN you follow through. Mark is Rebecca's angel
Id tell him wer going to a hotel and drive him to the jail😂😂😂
I felt like it was very clear that Rebecca was saying goodbye in this video. She knows her chances of deportation is very high and i honestly wouldn’t be surprised if we don’t see her again.
Ojala 😂
She's not getting deported that soon.
Was thinking the same, he's going to disappear.
Now, it's an "emergency".
I think that maybe Rebecca, was deceptive in disclosing her legal situation.
She has played
Mark for years. But this is the ultimate slap in the face.
And her attitude sucks.
And she is always filthy dirty.
Exactly!! She dissappear a...
I never comment on these videos, but I felt compelled to with this one.
Rebecca is acting out because of stress and fear. She's *terrified* of being deported, but she dug her hole so deep that to take accountability and try to dig herself out would only emphasize how badly she messed up. It's denial, and by blaming everyone else ("it's because I'm trans" or "it's about race" or "it's because you're not helping me enough") she can avoid looking into that anguishing mirror and seeing that *she* is the problem. That so much of her fear and her worry, her misery, is of her own doing. As necessary as it is, that would probably destroy her. I'm not saying it's right, but this type of lashing out is so incredibly human, and Mark is amazing for documenting it.
To those saying he's exploiting Rebecca, what would you have him do? His reach is the very reason Rebecca now has an attorney fighting for her. Mark is quite possibly the only person in her life that she can rely on, and I personally don't give a crap if he's filming a tiny portion of that help because *he's doing something*. He's trying to help a person so broken that precious few people have any hope for her salvation. How beautiful is it for someone to refuse to give up on Rebecca, even if all it adds up to in the end is her having a true friend when she needed it most? Regardless of the outcome, that's quite the gift, if you ask me.
As for the end, Rebecca running away yet again, who could have expected anything different? I'll admit to feeling a worried frustration, but Rebecca is a real person. There is no script detailing her character arc into salvation. She is a deeply, deeply flawed human being. I hope beyond measure that she is able to somehow turn things around for herself, but whether or not she does, it's not for us to judge nor to condemn her. It's my opinion that these videos are meant to be observed, so that maybe we can understand just a little bit better the lives of those society would deem a plague.
For better or for worse, Rebecca is a person. I love Mark for giving her respect and as much dignity as she could possibly accept.
She's scared, y'all. This video is her backed into a corner and fighting to get out. Mark has my utmost respect for not giving up on her, despite how futile it seems
Perfect. Thank you.
Well said
He showed that behavior in many videos
You couldn’t have said it any better ❤❤❤❤
This is absolutely EVERYTHING.
marc you are doing the works that god is pleased with. regardless of what it looks like to those that judge. you are the type of person this world needs the most. i wish nothing but the best for you. thanks for sharing your videos and your work!
I hope that Mark can turn his attention from Rebecca to someone who really will appreciate the help.
Helping Rebecca is a Sisyphean task
@@cathyskywalker77Doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be done.
@@Toonces666 I agree.
I agree, enough is enough. She is being given so much and she doesn’t want it. It’s like she’s not even fighting to stay here in the USA, even though she knows how she’ll be treated if she goes back. She is clearly suicidal and that’s very sad but there is nothing else we can do. The best Mark can do is move on to the next person and help someone who actually wants to turn their life around and get back on track.
Dealing with Rebecca is like arguing with a child that refuses to take a nap....very frustrating
deport immediately
Extremely accurate analogy
😅
That summarizes it
She just needs to transition - she shouldn't fill that hole with drugs.
I’ve never seen a homeless person be so entitled
Agreed! He is a narcissist who knows exactly what he's doing which is playing and using Mark and anyone else he can. I have zero sympathy for him anymore.
Wow, Rebeca is really pushing her luck, I don’t know how Marck tolerates all this.
If the back story is true then I'd speculate the degree of wealth is staggering to most. Mark likely represents the kind of priviledged personal "help" Rebecca was likely raised up on.
Who knows tho.
@@mimi1o8 He tolerates it because "she" is adding to his income. Why is this so difficult for some people to grasp?
Yea, that's reserved for the rich.
The irony of the black man and being sent back to Africa was GOLD 🤌🏽🤣
They say that cause they are racist and look down on us, the wedbawks! That said they are here illegally cause they are NOT citizens, plain and simple!
Every time I see Rebecca, the road back to recovery looks even longer.
The angry comments are so strange to me.
I understand it’s frustrating watching this- but expecting Rebecca to suddenly start making good choices is like expecting a clinically depressed person to suddenly stop being sad, or an anxious person to decide to just chill out.
You’re watching a mentally ill person live with their mental illness. You’re not entitled to a happy ending and Rebecca will probably never behave in a self-preserving way.
Without serious intervention like being locked in a rehab or a prison, she will continue this cycle. One day she will succumb to it, and even though she wasted a million chances to get better, it will still be tragic.
This is absolutely correct.
🙌🙌 truth!
!!!!!!!
"Suddenly"? This is a four year long storyline.
My exact thoughts
The mental health issues are way more serious than the drug problem. Unfortunately all the attention we’re giving to her through Mark’s channel is only making her feel more entitled. We’re making the situation worse. All my love to Mark for being an exceptional human being. ❤
stop calling her and feeding his delusions
Entittled is a good adjective. Still concerned of the mental health crisis in America😢
Or just let Rebecca live the life he/she wants, on the streets, like Mark found him/her and where he/she is probably back again now as Rebecca has left the hotel, left the cell phone Mark gave her in the rain outside, and can't be found. That's really where Rebecca wants to be. It is what it is.
irrelevant detail@@dunbar555
Unfortunately, Rebecca is at a point where the drug use and the mental health cannot be separated. They are fueled by each other and they both need treatment simultaneously or nothing will change. It’s a sad, scary state of existence.
I been watching your videos for a long time now , I saw a video 3 yrs ago with Rebecca and the changes in her is unreal.... The drugs that changed her is so drastically and sad at the same time ..... I know Mark you try so hard to help and your a great person at the end of the day
You CANNOT help someone that WILL NOT help themselves. PERIOD!
This is the first time I have felt genuinely mad at Rebecca. Mark you have done so so much for her. Rebecca is so interesting but she doesn’t need to be mean to you for doing the best for her. Rebecca has been my absolutely fascination for the last few years. Every time I am in LA for work I look for her. Also to the ones reading this you need Marks new book. I got the signed copy and it’s my favourite possession currently.
This reads very creepy.
They have to want change for them to begin to see the error of their ways
@@earll16how???
SHE WAS... and when she requested confidentiality the lawyer laughed out loud
You feel “genuinely mad” at someone who is deep in addiction and mental illness?…. For not responding to help being offered in a way that makes sense to YOU. What a naive thing to say. If we expected all unhoused users on skid row to jump at the opportunity to go to rehab, get clean, and live a straight life (as if it were that easy) then we would not be faced with this epidemic of homelessness and substance abuse. Also, it reads quite dehumanizing to say that someone has been your “fascination” for the last few years.. this fascination is because they present as so outlandish and eccentric and crazy that it’s interesting to you, until of course they don’t respond to help in a rational way that makes sense to YOU.
My dad is a drug addict with schizo-affective disorder. I've spent half my life trying to keep him clean. Watching Rebecca's story and seeing her relationship with Mark reminds me so much of my relationship with my dad. You can't force anyone to do anything they don't want or aren't ready to do. Unfortunately, her mental state due to drugs and mental health issues are what will keep her in a cycle until something happens but even then, she could go back to this type of lifestyle. I'm sorry, Mark. I'm sure this is really hard for you. I really hope you are in counseling and have a good support system around you.
Dear Mark and soft white underbelly, i have seen every footage of poor rebecca and i wish l could just jump out and give her the best of help . i live in scotland and i'm 51 years old. i never done drugs and i am a quiet person in life, no wife or family. i always kept to myself, however rebecca has pulled on my heart strings , to me she has a good heart and appears to be very intelligent from what i have seen. i just want to take care of her. but i have a social anxiety disorder and i don't like anyone in my home and i try to stay away from people at the best of times. but rebecca seems to stand out for me for some reason. i have this overwhelming care for her and hate when shes stranded on the streets and high and vurnerable. it's not like me to feel this way. i give to the homeless on the street some money and a drink etc etc when i lived in glasgow scotland . i now live nearer the countryside where it's quiet and i keep to myself, but rebecca has got me and i just wish i could hold her and help her. i can see her true self in her eyes and i notice her vurnability and i know she is scared. mark has mentioned on one interview that she can be independant if she became sober and he also stated she is very very intelligent. rebecca CAN be successful as a model or anything she wishes to be ONLY if she can get through her personal storm and demons. there IS a white light and a POSITIVE result if she wants it. i pray for her mark and chat. please god bless rebecca and take care of her . i wish her well . yours sincerely joseph from scotland ( i am also trans gender woman ) good luck girl x
You are a kind person for caring so much. I see the same things in her. Vulnerable, very smart, lots of trauma. I hope she makes it. 😢
Wow. This is showcasing Rebecca as a master manipulator. This is why SO many families give up on their addicted/mentally ill family members. It's not they that don't love them but it is beyond frustrating and maddening to deal with. As a recovering alcoholic I can say as addicts and alcoholics, we see ourselves in Rebecca. Regardless whether we have lived on skid row or not we have royally betrayed every person who cares about us.
I disagree. She’s frustrated. I get it- i don’t think it’s personal. Many don’t understand because they’re not transgender and they’re not scared of being deported to a place that will kill them.
Mark is trying to help but he’s the closest person to her and now because of his “help” which was done with the best intentions, she’s facing some very very scary situations of being deported! She’s going to express her frustration with him… it’s a scary situation to be in her shoes. Rebecca is freaking out!
On top of being misgendered constantly during this process - it’s gotta be super hard for everyone but especially for her.
Been saying this for a long time. Mark just doesn’t give up. He’s not going to get anywhere because she’s ungrateful. My own opinion.
@@rosajay true but she's in an ideal situation now. She has multimillions of residential treatment offers and pro bono attorneys at her fingertips.
@@Poochiepoochie54321 even if she had all the attorneys in the world, that makes ZERO difference in a situation where immigration decides they want to deport her. It’s not up to an attorney. We have to remember how the system works.
@@rosajay her getting clean would make all the difference. You're basically stating she is a victim and has no ability to change her situation.
It breaks my heart to see Rebecca’s frustration taken out on you. She’s terrified and lashing out at you because you are “safe”. You’ve been there for three years and she knows you’ll not leave her. It’s sad that her drug addled mind won’t allow her to see the clear path to staying. She says returning home is a death sentence but she’s currently walking on death row here. Without rehab Rebecca’s future looks bleak regardless of her location. Sadly, Rebecca is at her own mercy. 😢
She sees it, she's too afraid to believe it's real. She acknowledged she needs help, and I honestly think she wants/ the help, but is afraid due to being traumatized. I believe in her and will continue to.
You are spot on!!!
B.S. Total sympathizer.
his
@@lorrainedillard4692 you're a great example of why women's suffrage doomed america. this sex offender needs to be tossed out of the country and if we don't do that then this thing needs to be in jail. Unfortunately, your suicidal level of "compassion" makes you capable of compassion for this thing but not the people this things sexually assaults. it would have to whip it's dick out in front of your kids before you realize how stupid you are.
Mark is literally is like the parent who is doing everything possible. You can bring the horse to the water but you cant make the horse drink the water.
There are ways to make the horse thirsty
"Rebecca" is Chris Kattan's real-life "Mango".
Omgggggg.
Mark your just a saint buddy, I hope your doing ok through all this shit. You’re just doing what few people on earth have the patience to do, I appreciate you.
This isn't a *different* Rebecca than the other videos where everyone felt compassion for her. To see so many comments bashing her is interesting because nothing is different from the first videos... Nothing has changed, in her mind/heart. She was worthy of compassion before Mark & she's worthy of it now, even when she is struggling with the idea of change (which is what mark is offering her).
It’s because we all had high hopes for her … she could have changed her life .. she had every opportunity handed to her to get better … and she didn’t … time and time again…. Enough is enough .. nobody feels sorry for her anymore …
@@marianaawawda4588 I hope you understand that she only got to where she was on that very first video (struggling with mental health, addiction, poverty & homelessness) precisely because she was exactly the same person as she is being right now. Of course we all hope for her to want to be better but it won't happen when we want it. It happens when she wants it. This right here is just who she is in addiction & mental illness. That's OK. People should still have compassion for her even if she can't do the things everyone else wants of her. She's a human being & worthy of compassion despite *your* expectations not being met
@@msmendes214 👍
Exactly ❤
@@debb4099 she doesn't want help. So treating her like a human being is the least we can do.
I pray she has the opportunity one day to look back at this and not even recognize herself. That is my hope for her.
Mark should have been showing "Rebecca" videos of him at his worst and messiest on the days when he is sober to shock him to reality. That could have helped maybe a little.
I’m surprised someone of faith is calling him a her. Seems like you should know better, he clearly states in the video he has a penis. What else does one need to have to make them a male or do we just get to pretend that we are whatever we want to say?
HE!
I looked at her old TH-cam account by the name of Ismail Seoudi and I couldnt even recognize the Person in those videos. Her decline is all on the internet. It’s so fucking sad
@@Oceandaisey18she
Rebecca is so sassy here! I felt genuinely mad at her watching this, Mark! Bless your heart for all you have done and continue to do ♡ I've been following your channel and Rebecca for a long time. She fascinates me..I hope she chooses help soon
At this point I feel great empathy for Mark. I was a caregiver for 22 years for someone with these kind of behavioral issues. They may or may not get better. But the caregiver never does.
Well said. It breaks you.
You said that right !!!
The caregivers suffer immensely trying and trying to no avail . Then get gaslit by others 🙃
I could actually feel her fear. Can you imagine giving up all power (with an addiction & mental health issues) not knowing what could happen. She was acting that way out of fear. The more of a reality it becomes the bigger the fear for her. She’s living the only way she’s ever known. I hope she realizes that she can do it and live a beautiful life.
His*
Why? Kindly, Why? If someone wishes to be referred to as female why is it hard to just say "she" and 'her"? Why does it matter so much ? Why can't someone be trans? I ask why? If mentally you feel female, and would like to be referred to as female, why not? What's wrong with it? @@stevenstewart7610
She’s gotten more chances than most other immigrants that get in trouble. She should have cleaned herself up the first few times she got arrested and let go. Every immigrant knows if you get in trouble, your citizenship gets revoked and you get sent home. She’s from Egypt, she knew she never wanted to be sent there, yet refuses to get it together. The consequences she can face are far worse than anyone knows, yet she refuses to take any help offered. I don’t believe for a second that she believes it’s actually going to happen, if she did she wouldn’t be acting like this.
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@katc1949 If you are a citizen of the USA, and you get into trouble, your citizenship DOESN'T get revoked. If you have a greencard tho, it could disqualify you from applying for citizenship, but not always. I'm Egyptian and gay. Became a US citizen years ago. Been living between Egypt and the USA since 2008.
I work with the homeless. It takes compassion and thick skin that is stronger than being offended. Mark knows what he’s doing, and does an excellent job. This is why he’s so well loved by the people on the outside, and those on the inside.
Exactly! I feel Mark was expecting the slap back. That’s what happens when you’re dragging the devil out. And you have to not care and just continue the mission. Truth hurts and no one likes to be backed in a corner. Mark handled himself just fine. I don’t think he expected anything less.
But that story isn't "interesting" enough.
@@christinafindlay2849 yep. Also, having a trained “eye”, I can tell Mark edited Rebecca (and several others) in a good light. Same reason why I rarely tell about my bad moments with certain people I’ve helped. Once a bad light is cast, that’s all people see.
The aggressiveness is based in fear and anxiety around getting clean and being deported.
As a recovering addict myself the only person who can help you is yourself, youve got to wanna change your life no matter how much help is out there. Took me 20 yrs to realise that. I hope rebecca has that realisation soon
why were long-stay institutions for the mentally ill shut down en masse in the latter half of the 20th century? because those in power would rather folks like Rebecca die homeless on the street than ante up to keep these institutions going? Rebecca clearly doesn't understand what's good for herself... not atypical of people with severe mental health issues. Expecting her to take "personal responsibility" is the most braindead position one could take. i knew there was a reason i never subscribed to SWUB... now it's quite clear to me
Only cares about the transition, and expects it to be handed to him.. doesn't care about anything else tbh, oh and the ice
I think Mark has the patience of a saint. You are absolutely right. Rebecca needs to be the one who wants to change.
Totally agree with you....🙏❤
Boom! By God’s grace, and MY own desire and willingness to admit it have I enjoyed 31 years sober and clean. But we are a very small percentage of addicts who get, much less stay clean.
By the way, I’m happy to talk if anyone wants to.
There is a fine line between helping someone and enabling them. It is hard and heartbreaking to realize which one you are doing.
Exactly 💯
Yup!
Wise words
Pls check out my comment I recently made. I completely agree with you
Mark is obviously an enabler
She jumps to a different topic in-order to avoid answering the question every single time.
Mark, I wish you'd put your efforts into the people who would give anything to be helped and they'd be so grateful.
THIS!
Yes so do I Mark. You don't get treated respectful as you deserve😢
Exactly!
Mark, plz prepare yourself for the fall. The likelihood of her getting sober and proceeding to therapy, etc at this point is slim to none. She isn't ready. Im in recovery so I know the deal. I think you're wonderful for everything you've done to help her but it's probably not going to end well ❤.
I live in that part of the world Rebecca came from and I have been following her for sometime. It's heart breaking and very disappointing to see her throw away her true chance of freedom. Some of us would give our right hand for it and she is wasting it, so sad.
From with part of world is she?
Middle East
@@charrua59egypt
Egypt
@@kathywagner2551Egypt hates homosexuals/transexuals with their pharaohs having worn makeup, dresses, braided hair, jewelry......ironic.
Mark please stop accepting this disrespect. You've done what you could it's time to move on.
Mark, I am so glad you told Rebecca not to be smart with you because you're trying to help her. Do you really think, someone is going to come take Rebecca away? Get it together Rebecca, your interviews are 3 years on here with no changes on your part. Mental health is a big factor, GET HELP! I am kind of getting sick of her. Help yourself. She is very manipulative with her conditions. Screw that, Mark don't get her another phone.
"Her"? He's a MAN!!
Well said.
Same. I clicked in but paused right away because I just wanted to check the comments for an update. Rebecca has every opportunity to get good help and thrive thereafter. I hope she does. Until then I won’t watch.
Exactly ! Everyone in the comments just seem to be enabling her ..in the beginning ..she was interesting ...but as time went on.... I just feel she is beyond help from others... she needs to help herself. She's not that special and there are people more deserving to stay in this country than her to be brutally honest
I’m getting a bit sick of seeing her too.
This is one case where I see Mark is just enabling her.
And at some point Mark needs to take these resources (admittedly they are his) and find someone who does want the help.
There are people out there that are ready for the help. That would take the help and actually make an effort to turn themselves around.
Kind of makes a person not want to give to the channel. I hate paying taxes because the money is misspent.
Why would I volunteer to hand money to a person who just takes takes takes.
Mark, this is the first video that Rebecca is so rude and combative towards you. It breaks my heart that she cannot see your kindness. This has triggered my own trauma in dealing with loved ones that have mental health issues.
Sending you love and praising your strength.
He’s been rude and uncooperative before, such as when he demanded Mark buy him a house.
ok lets respect Rebeccas pronouns @@littlecatfeet9064
@@littlecatfeet9064 Use the proper pronouns.
When you write "he" I think you talking about Mark.
Yes he’s becoming more and more oppositional and disrespectful lately I truly am losing any respect I once had just for the way he’s treating Mark I see this spoiled rotten idgaf attitude from him
No one will be able to “help” her until she’s ready to help herself.
She takes nothing seriously. I don’t feel sorry for her anymore. She’s making a fool of everyone who tried to help her. She will always be the victim- time for her to grow up and deal with her consequences
Yes i agree
The more I watch Rebecca, the more I realize that she doesn’t want to get sober or put in any of the work needed to turn her life around.
At this point she’s using Mark. Glad he finally stopped making videos with her.
From all the misunderstanding I see in the comments I really wish for Mark to bring on a professional who can educate on how addiction works and also talk about the extreme challenge of dual diagnosis and what that means.
Yes!! Dual diagnosis needs to be explained and an expert could help give insight to the viewers, Mark and Rebecca. This won’t be smooth, yet it is necessary and important.
!!!!!!!!!! YES THIS. please
Mark, you have an incredible amount of patience and love. I hope you have the strength to handle it if Rebecca doesn't make it. Take care of yourself. You can only do so much.
Omg! I think about that every time I see a Rebecca video.
How much does Mark make exploiting these people?
@@navybrat7905Watch his talk with Joe Rogan to find out he is running at a loss. This isn't exploitation. He's drawing attention to real people, with real problems.
Rebecca won't make it, matter of time, and it's growing closer
I’ve seen people on this channel that look tired and really want to change. I’ve never seen this on Rebecca. She loves and wants this lifestyle. She’s smart and knows what she is doing. Marks done more than enough for him. You cannot help those that do not want to be helped. Period.
I came here to say the same exact thing. So sad!
100% Agree
She is LASHING OUT BECAUSE THIS IS SOME HEAVY SHIT. Its alot for anyone much less someone in the thick of addiction and having mental health problems. People can change.. but only when they want to. Mark you are a saint.
The US has become a poison for Rebecca. Would staying in the US actually help Rebecca? I don't think so I think it will make them worse
At this point, I'm more worried about Mark's mental health. By his own admission, he's tried on numerous occasions to get help for Rebecca. What he is unable to accept is Rebecca doesn't want his help because Rebecca is mentally ill and addicted to the streets. My hope for Mark would be to let him love Rebecca from a distance before it destroys him and his compassion for the distraught.
Mark has been in Rebecca's life for a minute. While no doubt this probably does take a toll on him, imagine if he was the parent, or a family member when this sort of thing goes on for years and years and... I was that parent, my son died last May from Fentanyl, homeless, in a parking garage. I think it's a good thing to show what happens when a person pours their efforts into an empty vessel. Without proper treatment Rebecca will not change, maybe the fear of deportation will get her to finally move forward, or worse... It's reality.
Mark you are not being combative, you have put your own spirit through so much to be consistently disappointed. Your determination and desire to help Rebecca is unwavering and you should be so proud of the small moments of happiness you bring to her because for now, until she is ready to change, only small moments can be achieved. You are a great guy Mark
Mark is breaking one of the first statements he made on this channel: No amount of money can help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
Hmm… Rebecca does want to be helped but only on her own terms. Her problem is that she does not respect or recognise authority of any kind. And this is equally as difficult to deal with as someone who doesn’t want to be helped.
I believe Rebecca has a special place in his heart and sometimes we believe the best outcome will near but I don’t fault him for it, I just hope he doesn’t feel hurt deeply because he truly doesn’t deserve it. I think it is easy for us to form opinions as we watch from afar but I imagine it is not the case for him, most of us who watch this Chanel would think omg, if I can have a quarter of support that Rebecca is being offered I would be beyond grateful but as you stated, you as an addict, I don’t need to tell you anything other than I am proud of you for overcoming your addiction and wish the best in life and mostly to forgive yourself because you know you had no Ill intent towards the people you love and I hope they realize that. Keep your head up and all we can do is pray for Rebecca to get it together and for Mark to be okay mentally while dealing with this. 🙏🏼
Yeah but it brings the “likes” and the “views” up!
"Lost his phones"
He sold every single one to get high safe in the knowledge that Mark will give him another.
I’m confused by all the people saying they’ve lost all sympathy for Rebecca. Sure she was rude, but addicts have coherent days, nice days, mean days, good and bad days… she’s self centered like many addicts can be, but that doesn’t mean she will be forever and it’s weird to me everyone’s acting like this is the first time she’s probably acted like this. My heart goes out to Mark as I know helping people who don’t want to be helped can in many ways be thankless, but my heart also goes out to Rebecca.
Like anyone else, she needs to be respectful and appropriate what a friend Mark is. She needs to be more grateful and the only way she's going to do it, is be straight. I feel bad but dang...
This entire comment section needs to stop placating this mentally ill man. It's clear there is a disconnect from reality and everyone praising "her" with all this love has led to exactly this. Some people you just cannot help. I don't wish ill will on him, but there comes a point where these types just mooch off of others an attention. There is no "helping" them. Nor this man.
The showing of the privates in public I think is where people are stuck!
@@SheaRoberts100%
😮enough already!!, she does not want to take responsibility for her behavior and is getting the attention she is wanting! And disrespecting the main person that truly cares for her?! Where is the tough love in thiis relationship?? 15: 15:57
P.S. Mark it's good to hear you get more stern with Rebecca (finally)! NO more hotel rooms, phones, clothing & wigs, etc.! It's really TOUGH LOVE time ... 😵💫
You cannot want sobriety more than the addict. Where there is no willingness, there’s no hope. Speaking from someone with 3+ years of sobriety.
After watching multiple Rebecca videos spanning the last two years, I am starting to recognize when she is high, when she is coming down, and when her mental health struggles are at the front and not being mixed with the drugs. There are many different faces to Rebecca. I sincerely hope she gets the help she needs and deserves. She is an amazing human and I would love to spend time with her and see the world through her eyes. She is so incredibly intelligent and funny and witty and I honestly believe she would be so much fun to be around. I adore you Rebecca and I want you to know you deserve everything that makes you happy ❤️
I’ve been following every video with Rebecca. Her whole story. This video made me mad. The disrespect towards Mark as he is doing everything in his power to help Rebecca infuriates me. It’s like a spoiled/entitled child who doesn’t understand life. She has a looooong way to go and she may need to just figure it out on her own because help isn’t what she likes or wants. She writes her own story. And it won’t end good.
Exactly and Mark and audience need to stop saying how brilliant she is!! She is far from it and is being a total Ass ! Can’t help Stupid.
Wind it in. Mark is to blame to. He’s a grown man.
*his whole story
Any mental health professional gives a person so long to engage with them, if they won't engage with the professional the professional then discharges them especially in the United Kingdom. But you can't make someone get help if they don't want it, they have to naturally want the help........
Stop referring to HIM as Rebecca. That's the first step to truly helping HIM
Well, the timing is just right for Rebecca to start alienating Mark (and us) with sarcasm, disrespect, and delusions of entitlement. I believe what's happening is that Rebecca can see that there's help for him--Mark, an immigration attorney, and whatever the law can do for him at this point--so he's going to have to do whatever it takes to derail that help. Rebecca isn't ready to actually get help, it appears--he needs to find a reason that the help won't work, or that Mark isn't on his side, or some other reason to see himself as being victimized in some way. That will allow him to go off (again) and keep getting high, in or out of jail, while blaming external circumstances for his situation. He's absolutely not in touch with the fact that his problem is himself.
I just hope Mark is ready to get help for himself. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Agree 1,000 percent. Self-sabotage.
Yep
Yes, addicts do this when they’re sick in their addiction.
He is not ready! That's what people don't understand with addiction. It will only be successful when the person themselves wants it more than anything and they Are Ready!!!!!
I don't think she's being rude I think she's just nervous and the reality of her circumstances are finally kicking in
if that was a she then he wouldn't have been arrested for flashing his dick in public now would he?
I agree!!
He’s*, he’s*, his*
Rebecca's treatment of Mark someone who helps him/her is absolutely DISGUSTING
The frustration Rebecca is expressing seems a projection of the frustration she feels towards herself.. just like she said “I need my cooperation” deep down she knows.. she knows everything mark is telling her. She knows what she needs to do. She’s an addict, she’s addicted, and she’s suffering terribly from mental illness. The lack of love for herself is evident. She still deserves love and support.
I completely agree.❤
Thank you ❤
Like Jake from state farm....well she's a guy....so
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All true!
He knows* ... .but realistically Rebecca dosnt want to change...he just wants to manipulate as much as possible like he's been doing for a very long time obviously and live this fantasy life....not to mention being arrested for exposing himself!...I hope there wasn't to many poor kids that have had to watch this freak playing with himself or doing whatever was going on....