7 Life Lessons for Teenagers
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- I can't be the only one that had loads of friends as a teen but felt so alone? If you can relate to that then my 7 Life Lessons for teens will hit home for you. Even if you are an adult watching - you are not alone, j ❤️
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0:00 Intro
00:12 Nothing good happens after 2a.m.
1:32 Life isn't over at 16
2:49 Don't be perfect
4:14 Set goals for yourself
4:49 Learn to stand up
5:24 Shower 🚿
5:58 The most important one
6:28 The stats from you
6:37 Were you happy as a teen?
6:53 Did you feel alone?
7:15 What is one piece of advice you'd give yourself?
7:57 Outro
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you have no clue how comforting of a person you are to a teenager who is currently in her room feeling like her life is falling apart. thank you.
well I’m glad this found you but you’re not falling apart - you’re growing
Yooo I’m also a teenager trying to keep my life together. I believe in you! Keep going and everything will be alright
@@musicfromvenus i appreciate it
Thank for this video and I really want to ask how to make this plan in the age of 16 when u don’t have much exp for it
He's so comforting
My advice:
1. Starting over isn’t a bad thing; sometimes it’s just the thing you need in life
2. It’s not that deep, let shit go, don’t take things so personally
3. Make an effort for those who you truly care about and they will hopefully make an effort back
1. Starting over is something I have to do on compulsion without a choice and it takes up a lot of time. But really, if the journey I’m on doesn’t go my way, I will just start over. If only I could start over everything, I’d start over 2023, greatest year of my life.
2. I agree with 2 so much. It so god damn annoying when people don’t let it go, if I can’t get someone to let something go, I will leave them until they do. People need to stop taking things so damn personally.
3. I do, otherwise I’d be an annoying npc
i absolutely love this
2nd one hurt me, because it is deep and no one seems to actually understand
God loves u all so much1 God bless any prayer requests or any questions? God sent his only son to die for u so live for Him (not trying to force) Gods got u and is in ur corner always, fighting for u, and the best way for u to fight is on your knees, praying. Start with journaling, prayer, worship, turn off bad music, verses, living like the fruit of the spirit each day. Nobody is perfect except Jesus. It’s okay to make mistakes, we all do. Feel free to reach out and talk for anything. ask God for wisdom in every situation. God loves u and so do i. Have a blessed day friend. Some of my fav verses: Matthew 19:26, John 3:16, Isaiah 30:21. Pick 1 fruit of the spirit today, and practice and live by it in all areas. Invite God into your life, every aspect and area. Trust the story because you know the author. If there is any prayers I can pray for y'all pls lmk!
Jesus loves y'all all! I’m here if anyone has any prayer requests!
He will shine His light on you and your path and guide you and show you the way in His perfect plan and timing so trust Him and His good faithfulness, He and His love, mercy, and grace never fail! Amen surround us Lord!
Be authentic!! Gods got you and this! God is with u! And He wants u as u r! He’s the reason for the season! Praise God forever and ALWAYS!! NEVER STOP PRAYING AND PRAISING Don't compare, Gods got you and there's a reason for ur season! pray and go to Him as u are! He loves and wants you! praise God amen! Be humble! Only Jesus deserves and can handle the glory and honor! “I couldn’t earn it, I don’t deserve it, still You give Yourself away, oh the overwhelming never ending, reckless LOVE OF GOD!” “AS LONG AS IM BREATHING, IVE GOT A REASON TO PRAISEEEE THE LORD OH MY SOUL… PRAISE IS THE WATER MY ENEMIES DROWN IN!”- PRAISE Gods fighting for u!!!!Gods creation is amazing! The same God who created the stars, flowers, and seas created YOU and called you beautiful! He cares for you, lay it all on Him! it took Him only 6 days to create the WORLD, but it took Him 9 MONTHS to create YOU! That’s how much you mean to Him!Don’t take for granted any opportunity to talk, invest, or impact anyone! Its never to late to embark on Gods journey for u!
I feel like I can't start over just because I tryed to before
I know that I can start over for unlimited times but bruh my mind want me to stay in my comfort zone that it's not comfortable at all 🗿
I am at a point in my life where I have realized being a teen is so beautiful. And I’ve gone through so many things, but in the end, it’s all so worth it and this was so great hearing because seeing someone older than me reflect on life like this just makes me want to keep going even more. Thank you for sharing this and all your other work with the world
It truly is beautiful! We adapt and change through so many hard circumstances and it is really remarkable
@@joeykidneyI think its horrible (i'm 13)
@@maiaevayeah true😢
@@maiaevaI used to think it was horrible at your age too. But I am 18 now, and I’ve realized it really is beautiful. Give it time. Things do get better, I promise.
God loves u all so much1 God bless any prayer requests or any questions? God sent his only son to die for u so live for Him (not trying to force) Gods got u and is in ur corner always, fighting for u, and the best way for u to fight is on your knees, praying. Start with journaling, prayer, worship, turn off bad music, verses, living like the fruit of the spirit each day. Nobody is perfect except Jesus. It’s okay to make mistakes, we all do. Feel free to reach out and talk for anything. ask God for wisdom in every situation. God loves u and so do i. Have a blessed day friend. Some of my fav verses: Matthew 19:26, John 3:16, Isaiah 30:21. Pick 1 fruit of the spirit today, and practice and live by it in all areas. Invite God into your life, every aspect and area. Trust the story because you know the author. If there is any prayers I can pray for y'all pls lmk!
Jesus loves y'all all! I’m here if anyone has any prayer requests!
He will shine His light on you and your path and guide you and show you the way in His perfect plan and timing so trust Him and His good faithfulness, He and His love, mercy, and grace never fail! Amen surround us Lord!
Be authentic!! Gods got you and this! God is with u! And He wants u as u r! He’s the reason for the season! Praise God forever and ALWAYS!! NEVER STOP PRAYING AND PRAISING Don't compare, Gods got you and there's a reason for ur season! pray and go to Him as u are! He loves and wants you! praise God amen! Be humble! Only Jesus deserves and can handle the glory and honor! “I couldn’t earn it, I don’t deserve it, still You give Yourself away, oh the overwhelming never ending, reckless LOVE OF GOD!” “AS LONG AS IM BREATHING, IVE GOT A REASON TO PRAISEEEE THE LORD OH MY SOUL… PRAISE IS THE WATER MY ENEMIES DROWN IN!”- PRAISE Gods fighting for u!!!!Gods creation is amazing! The same God who created the stars, flowers, and seas created YOU and called you beautiful! He cares for you, lay it all on Him! it took Him only 6 days to create the WORLD, but it took Him 9 MONTHS to create YOU! That’s how much you mean to Him!Don’t take for granted any opportunity to talk, invest, or impact anyone! Its never to late to embark on Gods journey for u!
"nothing good ever happens after 2 am"
ur right. i finally stopped balling my eyes out around 1;48 and now it's 2;14 and I'm balling my eyes out again
I hope you’re doing better
Oh my god, this is like, so for real. So many times during the past couple years I was still up after 2 am and that’s when all the bad stuff happens. I got grounded for two months (don’t ask) at exactly 2:01 am, I lost the “love of my live” (I’m better off without that bastard) at 2:30, my favorite uncle died and I got THAT phone call at 2:05, and I failed (still don’t know how; was I tired or something?) a very important school test and got the message to retake it at, you guessed it, 2:02. And that’s why go to bed after 2 am, you won’t regret it,
I mean when you guys cannot cheer up another person - then don't even try to make them feel that this "Nothing good happens after 2am" is just useless??
God loves u all so much1 God bless any prayer requests or any questions? God sent his only son to die for u so live for Him (not trying to force) Gods got u and is in ur corner always, fighting for u, and the best way for u to fight is on your knees, praying. Start with journaling, prayer, worship, turn off bad music, verses, living like the fruit of the spirit each day. Nobody is perfect except Jesus. It’s okay to make mistakes, we all do. Feel free to reach out and talk for anything. ask God for wisdom in every situation. God loves u and so do i. Have a blessed day friend. Some of my fav verses: Matthew 19:26, John 3:16, Isaiah 30:21. Pick 1 fruit of the spirit today, and practice and live by it in all areas. Invite God into your life, every aspect and area. Trust the story because you know the author. If there is any prayers I can pray for y'all pls lmk!
Jesus loves y'all all! I’m here if anyone has any prayer requests!
He will shine His light on you and your path and guide you and show you the way in His perfect plan and timing so trust Him and His good faithfulness, He and His love, mercy, and grace never fail! Amen surround us Lord!
Be authentic!! Gods got you and this! God is with u! And He wants u as u r! He’s the reason for the season! Praise God forever and ALWAYS!! NEVER STOP PRAYING AND PRAISING Don't compare, Gods got you and there's a reason for ur season! pray and go to Him as u are! He loves and wants you! praise God amen! Be humble! Only Jesus deserves and can handle the glory and honor! “I couldn’t earn it, I don’t deserve it, still You give Yourself away, oh the overwhelming never ending, reckless LOVE OF GOD!” “AS LONG AS IM BREATHING, IVE GOT A REASON TO PRAISEEEE THE LORD OH MY SOUL… PRAISE IS THE WATER MY ENEMIES DROWN IN!”- PRAISE Gods fighting for u!!!!Gods creation is amazing! The same God who created the stars, flowers, and seas created YOU and called you beautiful! He cares for you, lay it all on Him! it took Him only 6 days to create the WORLD, but it took Him 9 MONTHS to create YOU! That’s how much you mean to Him!Don’t take for granted any opportunity to talk, invest, or impact anyone! Its never to late to embark on Gods journey for u!
I never want to be depressed again, never want to feel alone again. I want to be mentally stable, I am working on it and I’ve came so far.
I changed my routines, I stepped out of my comfort zone, I do my homework and I care about how my room looks now. My hobbies are so social, me a year ago would be amazed
@@ekyx_ proud of you!!
@@sageeeE3eeEEe3eeeeEeee3eeeeeee tysm:)
Keep it up, mate!
Im still stuck in that hole brother
This is why we need social media. So many bad things happen but these videos make the internet better. I’m almost 13 and I started crying while watching this because it hit so close to my heart. This past year has been very difficult for me and I’m glad know that I’m not the only one struggling.
See he's like the big brother figure I needed 😅😅. Thank you so much. This really hit close to home ❤❤
Hi,I'm a thirteen year old girl too,but seriously,me going through hard times as a teenager,I always felt it was a personal problem and I was the only one facing that ,and also to you ,know that you are not alone
they only recommend yt, not the social media like tiktok, snap, fb and insta its overstimulation app and it's only ruining our life
I totally relate I am in a very interesting stage in my life right now where I am trying to control my outbursts that I have and I feel so belittled by the smallest things and trying to contain that is very hard but my progress with wanting to say something about being belittled or feel like having a outburst has made progress like my parents made fun of me for my 'g' (I'm not the best writer) and I say I did try and My mom just laughs and says "no you didn't" they did mean it as a joke but i didnt find it funny (my mom has the worst timing) but hey i didnt start anything i just told myself i have made progress with my handwriting (i truly have) and just kind of let it go.
As a teenager who is going through it right now: this helped. Thank you
PS: most things after 2am are bad, but I think staying up late laying next to my best friend and talking about stuff is an exception
Thank you. As a teen with no friends and no real hobbies or interests, I question every day whether this is worth it. It means a lot to hear that things get better, even if I can’t fully believe it now.
Whatever you're doing or just trying,keep going! Maybe you'll notice yomeday that you don't like sth anymore. But just try out new things, it'll pay off andthereis actually a high chance of a) finding friends who are like you and/or b) findding a passion
A year ago I was like you too don't be harsh on yourself try everything you can you'll find yourself your interests for me I learned at home piano and workouts and I joined a basketball team learned editing and photography, now I join concerts to play,and I'm a content creator and I made various projects in my school that went popular if you told me this a year ago I will never believe but everything could happen with a small productive step at that time last year I was depressed with no real friends but now alhmadulilah I made my own way you don't need anyone or any financials to start ❤
every day is a miracle remember~
always have a gratitude !~
this hit home... can relate
@ziadsamarjcaji6707 can you share some tips to balance all of that
Thank you for this!! I am a teen going true the teen things, like choosing a career, finding a job, friendships, confusions, anger, not knowing how to handle stuff. This gave me the peace of mind that maybe evrithing will be okay and I will get there.
Oh my gosh it can seem so daunting but I hope this video puts some things into perspective for you and allows you to look at it from a different angle. My video next week speaks even more on that
If you want a career do something your interested in and whatever happens it is what it is
I'm not a teenager (28) ,but I'm watching for my inner teenager who had no one to give her advice at that time
I am 21 and pretty behind in college. While many people would be completing college by age 22, I just started. Does finishing college later matters that much? I'm very anxious about my age and I would be 23-24 when I will finish my college
When I was 16 I thought it was the end. I got help and started therapy. I promise if youre under 18 it gets better. It really does when you are an adult. The world changes and life opens up more as you get older. Be good to yourself and others. Every storm runs out of rain.
Also you are young and don't settle or tolerate bad behaviour from people. Do not tolerate a shitty partner or best friend because they are all you have. It is better to be alone than with bad company. You will grow and find people who will treat you better and align with you more. When you get that bad feeling you need to listen to it. ALso if your friends and parents do not like someone in your life they are usually right.
Joey, can I just say: thank you for everything you’re doing. You are so talented and I just love everything you write/film/do. Thank you for making my life a little bit brighter!
this made my day :) thank you so much
couldn't agree more!
Being alone and being unhappy is an interesting question.
For me, I had friends, I had fun, I was happy 85% of the time because I was with them. But whenever I was allowed to really think about it, my relationships were shallow and wouldn’t last past graduation. I guess there was just this suspension of disbelief, between reality and keeping myself afloat. Believing that this was real and long lasting kept me alive, so it was okay for that short amount of time to wear rose-colored glasses. At least that’s what I think it was looking back from nineteen.
I never knew that a TH-cam video could help me so much, I’m a 15year old teenage girl and I dream so big in my sport and I hope to go to the Olympics, but when you said “a dream isn’t good enough ,action needs to be present” that touched me!
I hope you’ll make it and I hope you have all the support you need! Being supported in your age is the most important thing I think.
@@Biker_Johnny86 thank you so much I appreciate this
Wishing you luck! Hope to hear your name of tv one day 😊♥️
@@_sparkl.of.yo.life. THANKSSSS
I'm at the point where things seem to be piling up. I'm 17 and starting to balance athletics, academics, work, relationships, and personal hobbies more than ever before, while keeping my outlook positive during the offseason for my sport. I believe I put I feel alone on your survey, but that I was/am happy as a teen. I would say this is because while there is no one who completely understands me, I have stepped more into my own, and the people I surround myself and actually talk to is a smaller group. however those relationships are more meaningful, and I am more content to work in silence and be alone if no one is going to be there for me.
I'm 17 too and have felt that way as well recently. I feel like after a while of feeling lonely I just needed to move on, especially with everything else that's going on.
@@user-ze8fr9wq1t I agree. Was there a specific thing that helped you move on, or a specific moment that made you realize it was time to move on?
I believe it can be a fine line between isolating yourself and putting yourself first sometimes. I've found a certain beauty in quiet moments, and a beauty in simple moments with those I care about.
I've become more at peace with me being on my journey, and become more at peace with not trying and force things to come to pass. Is it lonely? At times absolutely. But I've also realized that if you put your purpose and passion first, show genuine care are respect towards others, aren't afraid to mess up a few times, and respect yourself, then you'll come into contact with good people sooner or later.
yes i also feel that way too
I'm 16 and I am exaclty trying my best to do all those things you mentioned in your comment 😭😭
Points taken
- Stop living on hope and be more present
Being a teen feels like molting caterpillars
A Really basic contrast but it makes sense
You are born devoid of any feeling , then you expose yourself to everything around you , wherein you accumulate a lot of feelings and thoughts
Then it gets so mentally tormenting -you distance yourself and find yourself away from everything
Trying to figure out what this feeling is
While going through these dark days , worried about what's ahead and left behind
All of this , just to reach the ultimatum where you finally figure out this feeling's
Which ....sure does take time
You are reborn again as a new person
LIFE'S BEAUTIFUL
I love how you took notes 🥲
As a 14 year old, coming out of childhood when you still act like a child and have childish interests has been externally hard for me. Ever since I was 8 years old I had this gigantic fear of growing up, I am still trying to figure out why I was and still am so afraid of it, but I just really suck at handling change. I don’t try and take things personally but sometimes I can’t help it and I get hurt easily, I’m just a sensitive person I guess. Change has just been one of those things that holds me back from so much in life but I wanted to say thanks for helping us kids out.
You're still a child.
Hi! I just recently turned 17 and i've been feeling a little overwhelmed about the adult life ahead of me. I've always been an anxious kid growing up and am still struggling to be my own authentic self (whatever that means). I can only hope that I get to be "good enough" for myself. Thank u for this vid, i really needed to hear these things. ❤❤
I hear you! and even though I may not know you personally, I do know that right away you are good enough. You are here. And that is good enough
I turned 17 recently too! I really thought life was over at this point… it seems I was wrong, this video was everything, is amazing
I think that Because of depression teenagers often neglect their academics, show signs of shyness and remain isolated from society from which their social life suffers a lot , so we should always help them at this age as friends , parents etc...
Entering my teens right now. I've got some childhood trauma, horrible mental health and puberty behind me. Getting a fresh start at a new school next year, and i think my teenage years might be some of the best years of my life. One of the rarest occasions, fulfillment, has been blooming in my life recently, i want to finally be happy and mentally stable. I'm getting closer to my family, i reunited with a friend last year, got a autism diagnosis and am finally starting to be more confident. It feels like my life is falling into place. I finally don't feel bullied, abandonded, insecure, neglected or pushed to the sidelines. I might still be lonely, but i'm used to it, loneliness was a part of my whole childhood.
I am a teenager. I did definitely need this, as im not even a legal adult yet and in 3 years ive lost my grandmother and my mother and am now living alone.. this gave me a little hope
This video couldn’t have come at a better time, for me. I’m nineteen years old, and the passing of time has always been something that’s scared me to my core. I don’t think I’m afraid of age, but I’m afraid of what comes with it. I turn 20 later this year, and I’ve truly.. been dreading it. My teenage years were not easy, and I think more than anybody, I can understand and empathize with people who feel- specifically- alone. I’ve gotten a lot of takes from the people in my life telling me that my twenties will be even harder than my teenage years. Obviously I can’t know what will happen, nobody can, but the anxiety and overthinking about it has made me paralyzed with fear. And that is THE worst thing you can do in the face of fear. Just yesterday night I was up, (past 2 am, I know I know-) but not on my phone, or on the internet.. I was stuck in my head. And the first video I see afterwards is a video about a man I’ve never even met, somehow.. making me feel just a little less alone. Even if he’s just stating factual information, I don’t know. It helped. I don’t claim to be some kind of emotional wizard, half the time I don’t even know WHAT I’m feeling, and I don’t know how to explain some of the emotional reactions I have to seemingly mundane things. But regardless, thanks for making this video. No, really. Thank you. It helped.
20 year old here! Let me tell you, I´m happier than I´ve been in a long while. I often look back to when i was 16-18 and go "damn, how the hell did I survive that?". It sounds dramatic, but my "teens" were geniunely a really bad time for me. I put teens between speech marks because surprisingly, now that im 20, it feels like im truly getting to "live my teen years". I finally have friends i can hang out with, I can finally enjoy doing what I like with much less pressure of people judging me. Time isn´t linear for many, and that´s fine, im tired of people pretending everyone´s experience is the same. Im tired of people saying "live your teen years", knowing damn well many of us just... can´t, or couldn´t, and acting as if there´ll never be a chance to be happy after 18. But there is! There´s many more opportunities to enjoy your life and be happy.
I'm 19 too but honestly teen years were my worst years and i never ever want to live them again. So much anxiety and overthinking..now that I'll be turing 20 i feel I'm more matured and as the reply before me says i feel like im living my teen years..I'm happy and more secure...
I'm a teen who didn't know I needed this. I didn't search for this but I'm glad I saw it and decided to watch it. I'm not entirely sure why, but I felt quite emotional watching this. Maybe it's because I feel like I'm alone even though I know that I'm not, and now I know that I am not the only person to feel like this. I don't know. I suppose this video was comforting in a way. Thank you.
Well I’m glad you’re here and stumbled upon this video
i can relate to u so much, I feel that im alone but i am not, it is just so confusing
One advise if give my teen self is (I’m 17 almost 18) don’t get into that toxic relationship don’t enter a relationship at all enjoy your years as a teen ur young don’t stress yourself w those things even if u feel felt out bc all ur friends are dating but ur not it’s okay just pls I’m begging u make lots of friends n try new hobbies n try to make as much memory as u can
17 year old here👋 I do feel alone, but I don't mind it. I have always liked being alone, and feel comfortable in my own company. Yes I feel alone, but not lonely. I would say that I am generally happy, and very thankfull for that. This video inspired me to go do my homework, so I'll do that now😅
idk why i cried at the end
i really wanna thank you for touching our exact feelings and giving us a chance to shine.
i’m 21 now and about to finish up my junior year of college, and i wish i had had this video when i was in high school. these things are even going to help
my life now and for that im so grateful! stay you joey💗
its 2 am and im going straight to bed. Thank you joey. you made a difference for me today, lets just say i was at my lowest and you just made me go to bed which is what i need.
This 8-minute video appeared on my recommendation here in youtube after the days that I was feeling so much inside because of academics and personal problems. I find this very comforting and knowledgeable because these life lessons is something that I will look back and reflect. I'm still a teenager and I know that there are more things I will learn and experience in this world so, I thank you for this beautiful message.
I truly appreciate that this wasn’t advice on the things people tell you not to do, like bullying, or staying away from relationships when you’re so young. And this was actually just how to treat yourself the right way, with respect for yourself, and that will naturally lead to you being a better person later in life, and to those around you. I heard a quote the other day: treat yourself how you would treat your child. You wouldn’t let your child go to bed at 2:00 am, or let them eat bad food, or make bad relationships. You would be kind to them and love them no matter what!
I do know that this channel will never be what not to do because that never helped me as a kid. The best pieces of advice I related to growing up were things to do in order to help me change that negative path so that is my goal on this channel
I am 17 and looking forward to adult life, having a job , being more busy doesn't seem as bad compared to my school. I was so miserable during school. No one to talk to , no friends to hang out with and everything else, atleast when I am an adult I have the liberty to travel , hook up, achieve my goals and make my family proud. I am already tired of this world but I ll be busier and free in my adult life.
I'm still a teenager but one of the biggest pieces of advice anyone has ever given me is to put myself out there and to believe that you are good enough. I have trouble loving myself after years of being bullied but I've been getting better every day. You can never ever say the wrong thing to the right person. One mistake or chance cannot destroy your life. Only your negative mindset and acceptance of that failure can ruin things. That Dr. Seuss quote is super relevant. "Be who you are and say what you feel for those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." Tell that person you like them, sign up for that club, and work harder on the things you love. All this time is still going to pass whether you do something great or not. Either you're going to be 25 years old with the life you always wanted or 25 years old still waiting for things to happen.
Hey. I’m 17, and I searched for this video because I don’t want to waste my teenage years. I want to go out at night and hang out with friends and live my life like a movie and actually have memories I want to be proud of. All I am allowed to do right now is go to school and go home, occasionally a family event, but that’s it, because I’m a girl, and my moms afraid of anything happening. I’ve always heard “your life isn’t over when you’re a teenager”, but, the way you talked about it, the way you explained recently how I was feeling, it made me cry. To know that someone understands and that I’m not alone is like a small sliver of hope. Thank you.
thank you for making this video. i wish i saw this when i saw teen, i think it would help me a lot. on that note i hope it helps someone who is teen right now
Im a teenager and enjoy life a lot! I know what job I wanna do when im older. Im doing good in school. Im learning things that I need to learn for my future job, and im really just living. I love it.
Well I am 18 and my best friend always tells me to give my best in everything not to try to be perfect but to be good enough and actually this helped me a lot :) So thank you for you video it was an amazing content 😌
your best friend has really good advice 😉
I am a Teenager myself (just 14, in fact) and I just realised how good I feel. I dont feel alone, I am happy, I care about myself... but only after someone did it first. Luckily he started at 17 years old and I began to take care of myself - working out, journaling, being myself and doing what I love - at just 13. I am so thankful for that and this person. And the tips at the end are the thongs I am working on right now, like not overthnking and waiting patiently, being myself and stop caring about others. You guys can all do it, at any age
Same
I am 14 and don’t have many friends but I don’t care. The friends I do have are amazing and I am so grateful. I am introverted and will come home from school and sit alone in my room. When I come home I feel alone but I wouldn’t want it any other way. My alone time makes me happy but so dose my time with friends. I have the perfect balance of social time and alone time. This is just what works for me and I hope it helped someone. If I can give anyone advice I would say find friends who love you for who you are and understand you.
Hey nice to meet you
I am also 14 years old and i don't have even one true friend but I realised that it's good without friends who are toxic because it is better to stay alone then being in a toxic friendship and I really agree with your advice because yes being in a toxic friendship is the worst and finding a friend who truly understand you is a blessing and I am not good at English because it's not my first language so sorry for some mistake
the thing about being alone but not being unhappy is that over time you get so alone that you develop something like a tolerance to being alone. its not the best situation but you've cried and felt bad about it so many times that it just doesnt affect you as much anymore
Joey, I just became a Teenager few days ago so I think this piece of advice is going to help me so much throughout my Teenage Years. Thank you for all the effort you put in all your videos, they are very inspiring and help us to learn something to change our life.
Happy belated birthday and welcome to the life changing years :)
@@joeykidney Thank you 😊
I am almost 14 years old and am struggling with loving myself. But this video really helped me to realize that I don't need to be perfect, I just need to be me. If people don't like the way that I am, that is their problem, not mine. Thank you so much for encouraging me!
I wish I could understand to I'm 14 by bf broke up with me and now is dating my ex bff and all my friends left me and I'm trying to get back with my ex bf cuz she dumped him but I feel bad cuz idk how to ask him fir the 12th time to get back with me and he'd 15 so idk💔💔💔
Thank you , I turned 16 like 3 months ago.
I've been growing through a hard time 'for me' lately and yeah hopefully will get better after this.
Im 17,and yea, this phase is horrible. Tomorrow, I have the hardest exam ever. I'm really stressed,i did cry, and now I'm listening to what you are saying .im better now.
How did it go??
Is everything alright?
Thanks for this video, i know im not the only one who would like to see more of these. To answer your question, im an 18 teen. I was happy even though i felt alone because i appreciated solitude. It helped me think, it helped me do things, it helped me grow! I dont think being alone only leads to crisis, it’s refreshing!
maybe the reason of us being alone doesn't translate to being unhappy is because for me, I have tons of people who care for me and those that I share alot of fun and precious memories with, but being vulnerable with them about be it my suffering or feelings is so hard, that I end up feeling that they won't truly understand it, making me feel alone at the end of the day. It's so cool to not care and be cold nowadays that opening up to anyone around you (parents wouldn't ever get it) about even the smallest things affect you or how deeply you feel, they don't resonate at all with it. ^^ One of the reason why I love the safe and comforting place you've created on the internet for so many of us.
Wow that is a good perspective on it
As a 18 years old teenager, I think being alone doesn't mean you can't be happy. For me, feeling alone does not mean having no friends or you spent more time with yourself. I think this feeling of being alone comes from the fact: You are alone. No one can help. They can only give you advice. In the end, you are the one who makes the decision (for example, which relationships are worth the effort, what carrier is the right one for me, taking your exams).
For me personally, this means being alone. You grow into a person who is able to make decisions for yourself. Yes, it is hard. And I think every teen is afraid of the future, but this video helped to see beonde the age of 18~20 and relax a little. So, thanks. And for everyone who just entered their teens, my advice: put your phone away when you are out with your friends
thank you for this video. I'm 16 and this video hits my heart. Thank you again for this.
thank you for being here
Hi, I am 15. Going through a tough phase right now. Just teens things. But, after watching this video, I get to know that we are not alone. We all have to suffer at some point. As far as the loneliness is concerned, seeing my peers getting friends, hangouts, love things or what, I never feel I belong there. Nevertheless, with the passage of time I learn that of course we all are unique. I should be trying to fit in a bunch of something where I shouldn't be wasting my time. That's why I am addicted to be a happy loner right now. Besides, I am just average in everything. Not looker girl. This sucks. But, I have to live my life just the way I am. Still fighting. :)
As a teen, I’ve learned that there is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. And it might just have more to do with the connotation of being alone. It can be seen as a bad thing to be alone, but Ive learned that being alone can be peaceful. This might just be the introvert in me, but being alone helps me have time to regulate my thoughts and do some self reflection. However, too much alone time has affected me negatively.So, in moderation, being alone can be a good thing.
I'm a teenager, that a lot of people in my school look up to and come for advice, but I am not perfect, and I also have some problems I'm facing, it's kind of hard to set aside everything you are going through to comfort someone going through a fraction of what you're experiencing. I am trying to learn a bit of psychology, and be a good role model for all, so I hope everyone acknowledges that whoever you go to as your problem solver has problems to solve of their own.
(For me about not finding your interests and no talents nor hobbies)don't be harsh on yourself try everything you can you'll find yourself your interests for me I learned at home piano and workouts and I joined a basketball team learned editing and photography, now I join concerts to play,and I'm a content creator and I made various projects in my school that went popular if you told me this a year ago I will never believe but everything could happen with a small productive step at this time last year I was depressed with no real friends but now alhmadulilah I made my own way you don't need anyone or any financials to start ❤
im turning 20 next month and man this video is honestly really great for me. i appreciate your advice. every teen can benefit from this video. keep up the great work!
Welcome to the young adult years my friend! I appreciate you for being here
I am in my 20s and I feel stuck..... I just want to rest for a long period of time.... I am tired of working hard and expecting that life would change..... Now I just want to relax and want life to give me some rewards..... If you are going through the same then you are not alone kids
I am a teen rn and the happiness x alone part kinda hit home because I realized I do feel alone not all the time but enough where it doesn't feel great but I learned that the solution for me at least is to be content with yourself as you are when you are alone its ok to be alone everyone is alone at some point and you don't always have to be doing something I think loneliness is just part of growing up and learning to live with that is part of it and instead of centering yourself around the idea that you are alone remembering that being alone isn't a defining trait idk i just feel like if you learn to accept being lonely as part of life then it helps you focus less on it and enjoy other aspects of life more
thank you for this video -a lost 16 year old
I am glad it found you - also was lost at 16
wow, when i saw this thumbnail and title in my recommended, the memory of seeing your face on my screen 10 years ago - when we were teenagers - really hit me. time was flat for a second. feeling the comradery in the realization that we (as a generation) are the new adults. Glad to see you're still here!
this guy is so freaking wholesome, you are so comforting its amazing! thank you so much for this you're such a great person and you're doing so much for so many people.
This was an incredible video with a great ending, well done. Seems like you got a community full of great people too.
Nothing good ever happens after 2 AM. Life isn't over yet. You don't need to produce a perfect result right away, sometimes you just need to get it done. The best don't become the best with hope; A dream isn't good enough, action needs to be present. Stand up for yourself; Fight for what you believe in, especially if it affects you. Ask yourself how you are doing, talk to someone about it. Stop overthinking. Just be you and the right people will be in your life.
One piece of advice that i would give to every teenager out there and even me is that.... Be true to yourself.
I am at a point of my life where i am changing mentally, socially, academically and i know it. But this change is not so easy, all my friends fell out and i am alone. But that doesn't makes me miserable because as much as people hate to be "alone" ,being alone doesn't equates to being unhappy. Remember that, you have a right to live your life to the fullest no matter people are with you or not. And, Remember
"you being alone today does not means that you will remain alone forever. "
the way I started bursting out crying because of how comforting this is, is insane. as a teenager currently rethinking about life, this is absolutely amazing. thank you so much, words can’t describe.
my answer yo your question:
being alone doesn't mean that you're unhappy. why?
well, this is because happiness is always determined by your heart. its a Japanese quote I read in a book. its not about where you are or who you are or what you're doing that make you unhappy, its about what you make of it. I can't lie, I was once in a position where I felt like it couldn't get better but I realized that I was too drowned in the comfort of this struggling, and being happy felt like a privilege. taking time to learn things about yourself, understand yourself, LOVE yourself is extremely important. for me, i think the meaning of life is enjoying it. am i saying that once you work on yourself you won't have bad days? no. am I saying that you'll never feel like you can't do it anymore? no. what i'm simply saying is to find happiness in YOURSELF. because at the end of the day, you'll only have yourself. i've made some big, BIG mistakes in my life but was it the end of the world? no, instead they were the beginning of a journey.
I think you get the message now. I'm proud to say that i have found happiness at the age of 16, and until i turn 18, i know it will stay the same.
I'm turning 17 this year, and I know the goals i have for myself are in my grasp :)
I am a teenager, I am also a person who suffers from anxiety and I recently relapsed into an episode and it has been difficult to get out of it but I have made an effort to do so and for some reason watching this video motivated me more to keep trying, I know that my Life is not going to end because my brain thinks so, thanks for the video
Thank you, thank you so much. I never were so close to cry several times cause a video. I passed so much time breaking my head trying to be perfect for me and for everyone and I don’t have to be perfect, I have to be good enough.
I am 16 and it does feel like my life is over. Thank you for making me believe it isn't. This video was comforting in ways that I cannot even explain. Thank you so much for this.
Im a teen rn. I really do feel alone sometimes, but im also homeschooled and everyone is different. In public school you have a lot more social interactions but homeschool doesnt have that. Thanks for this
being a teenager the worst thing is that i care what people think or if i look stupid i am trying to hard not to and just be authentic me, because the right people will stay and the wrong people will go.
I have been following you since 2019, I was 18 then. I started watching your videos on youtube and now also love listening to your podcasts and following you on Instagram.
Your content really helped me a lot in the last couple of years. So I just wanted to say thank you! 💖
Wow thank you for joining me on this journey!
Hey Joey! I’m 15 and I’ve just gotta say that ur video was soothing and inspiring!! But oddly, the most daunting idea for me was “setting goals for yourself”. Because knowing where I want to go, what I want and what life means (an impossible question) make it difficult for me to push myself towards goals and an overarching vision for my dreams.. Do you have any advice? :D
I'm 15 too. Just before you go to sleep at night just visualize the best version of yourself. Imagine how you want your life to look like in the present moment and fall asleep to that. Script all your goals and desires and script it as if you are that best version of yourself and read it. As time goes by you will see the shift in your reality.
Good luck my friend may you succeed in life. 😊💯👌💖
@@Lakmira888 Thank you! This has made me feel a lot more optimistic about the future.. I too wish you luck in whatever life throws you way ❤ ;)
@@michaelcarew79 Your most welcome brother. Glad to help you and thank you so much. ☺️🙏❤️
genuinely just bawled my eyes out. thank you.
Honestly, thank you. God, thank you. You have no idea how much i really needed to see something like this. Coming from a teen who is at a really low point right now. Thanks so much
this is one of the most recommended videos on yt for me, like everytime I open yt, this video's there, and i deliberately skip it but today, gave it a go! and thank god i watched it! as a teen who's trying to figure out their career path, interests, life etc, this video is absolutely soothing! especially the feeling that everything will be fine! you will be fine! just go on! thank you!
my takeaways:
nothing good ever happens after 2am, just go to bed!!
life isn't over till its over
set goals and act!
stand up for yourself, because don't expect anyone to think about you when you are not thinking about yourself
being hygenic is very important
keep a check of yourself, ask yourself how are you and just understand yourself.
be you!
don't overthink, because overthinking about future problems runis your present peace
joey bro! thanks a ton!
(just for the record, your channel's name is Joey KIDNEY and my friends asked for my kidney to go to bts concert! just saying, universe is connected haha)
I'm 16, about to do my GCSEs, all I can say is thank you :)))
You got this!
I really needed to hear the set goals for yourself. I always dreamt of becoming a musician and ofc I still do, but now I realized it's mostly just hope and the effort i'm putting in right now is nearly not enough if I actually want to succeed. I know I have talent and passion which i'm already proud of but I really need to start to build my career path, put my music out there, write a plan for myself, practice more guitar/singing, and just stay consistent because it's clear now that writing songs that I forget about in a week then not picking up my guitar for 2 is just not gonna be enough. so thank you :)
don’t watch corn 🌽 also.
Best advice 💯
so much evidence to back this up
Im 16 and never watched it ❤ even though it was “normal” too and still is before I always knew and felt mature enough to know it was never a good idea to watch it.
If anyone out there has become addicted . Know you are not alone and you can escape it , you are falling for the trap but you can get out of it ❤❤:3 :)
Porn
Amen if you have a problem with that Jesus can help you
I am addicted tried to get out of it nothing happens :(
Thank you! I'm a teen with no friends at the moment and this really was for me :)
I'll answer the last question you asked. For me, at times, I'm happy, it could be because I accomplished something, or am genuinely in a good mood a day, but am alone as my parents work, and I don't have friends. I don't go out, but I have hobbies and interests so that's kind of why :)
Thank you. Not only for this video but for a bunch of them. U helped a lot and I am grateful for that. Thank you
As a teen, i constantly feel alone nowadays- i do wish i had friends like, real life friends and all that but at the same time i don't mind too much.
This was comforting to watch, nowadays it feels as if i'm forced to go on into this strange passage so this helped
Thank you ❤
This are good lessons and very important ones.
Glad you like them!
1:32 Its funny because im 15 now, soon 16, and i feel like my life is so much more together than 7th grade, the age that i thought my life was falling apart and over. That was the worst year of my life and i had so much shit going on- but now im getting ready for a career path and starting in (norwegian) highschool soon. (We start in 11th grade) I have just enough independence as i want and need right now and go out to concerts and things with my sister often. Im in a theatre course on top of the fact im gonna study it at high school soon, and im starting a class on making music soon, where hopefully i can talk to other music lovers and make music together or start a band. I feel like im finally putting myself out there and im finally finding myself as well. Ive starting not giving into the little trends or things that others my age follow so closely, and ive never felt more free. For example, somehow wearing the clothes i actually like and getting picked on for it rather than wearing the clothes everyone else is wearing is SO much more comfortable. I just feel on top right now, even though i still struggle so much with my anxiety. Because even though there is bad and there will always be, all the good just out weighs it and im very satisfied with life right now ♡
I'm 14, turning 15 in under a month. I didn't fill out the original pole, but I know my answer to the follow up you had. From a young age I found it difficult to make friends, so quite frankly, I've adjusted and adapted. I've always been really aware of what goes on around me, which is why I haven't gone crazy. Yet. I've always been very matter of fact about things, which makes it difficult to sympathize with people and thus make friends. Studying philosophy definitely hasn't helped either. It's easy to say I don't have much in common with my peers, and I've learned to accept that.
Also, just wanted to add, the point about perfection hit me like a brick from a five story building. I've always learned to do my best in everything. It's led to a few breakdowns because I can't bring myself to start something I know I can't do well. I recently had to write an essay and I couldn't find a topic that fit within the guidelines. I normally write about wars, battles, leaders, music, or other nerdy junk like that, but those didn't fit within the guidelines. The minute that I found a topic that I was interested in and fit the guidelines, I got to writing and wrote abt 600 words in easily 45 minutes being hand written. Perfection is one of the few things that holds me back majorly. I generally have an unbelievable willpower to do things I find meaning in, but if I can't find the meaning in things that aren't meant to be meaningful, I can't usually bring myself to do it
this is so comforting. I will watch you when i will be feeling low, just like now.
Thank you so much for this video! I'm 16 right now and I could really relate to you. I'm having a little hard time finding my place in life right now but after this I'm pretty sure everything will become better. Love is an issue for me as well. I've never had a girlfriend and I'm really craving one right now. But maybe this isn't the right approach for this. Recently I found myself really frustrated about love but maybe I just need to patiently wait a little longer.
Thank you for this. I’m 16 and have been struggling with self harm and never feeling like i’m good enough and never able to sit down and work. This video gave me the motivation today to to sit down and just do my work and not focus on making it perfect but to just do it. This video touched me enough that when i got into bed today i had to find it again just to write this comment. and no, it’s only 01:35 not yet 2 am
hey! after watching these i feel so relax and good its really indeed for me right know because i juggling so many thing and i just want to give up thanks for these i feel like someone taking about my problems and reflect on my life 😍💙
I'm a teenager and I started crying when I watched half of this video I'm from taking medicine and I like I had get out or crying out my problems and stress for me to see the bright side even though my eyes and my Head are hurting so much I feel happy and more free than ever thanks for reading this and also live a life you want not others want you to live I hope you enjoyed my experience bye❤
This is a video i will always come back to. Joey, i just want to give you a big hug.❤
This is the 2nd video i have watched from you, just found you today. But wow. These life lessons are on a different level. I already love this channel. ❤
Welcome aboard!
that was oddly comforting. thank you 🖤
I love this. Thank you for an amazing video.
Glad you enjoyed it!
I'm 23 yo boy now. I wish I had someone telling me all of this when I was a teenager.
I want this video to be played in every high school on Earth ❤❤
even though this video came late to you in life - i am glad it found you
For me, rowing has brought me happiness through working out, and improving. However, I still don't feel like I am really with people a lot.
I didn't search for this video and rn I am very happy about my life but I have to say that I think, I just fell in love.
How calmly you express everything is just so relaxing and even though I don't have any problems with myself (now), I still feel understood.
Thank you very much ❤
well even though you didn’t search for it - I am glad it found you and I am glad you are here
this really helped me, thanks for that , ive got an exam (which decides my future) to give in the coming 15 days , i havent really studied, so much syllabus lagging, im just lying around crying every single day. ik i have to start i just cant get myself to start . if not now then never
I try and be nice to people and I be myself but some people just piss me off they are so rude and always negative. If you're going to feel negative than say nothing at all. Either that or talk to someone cause we all know what that's like.
Thank you for making this, Joey!! Your voice is so calming (that probably sounds weird to hear, but it's true!) and I really related with some of the things you were saying, especially about the standing up for yourself. I'm so glad I came across this tonight 🙂 - don't worry, it's 8:18, not 2 in the morning.
I am happy this resonated with you! And that you didn’t watch after 2am haha
Thank you so much you dont know how much this made me feel better :)
As a sixteen year old ...I guess I am kind of scared. I don't have many friends and often stay to myself but, I don't want to be like this forever. I love my family especially my brothers. This video reminds my of my mother trying to guide me correctly 😊
Im 17, the most confusing age as a teen as I'm seeing in the comments. I was crying yesterday because i turn 18 soon and ive done nothing that the teenagers do as if I've never truly experienced teenage. I wish i hadn't lost my teens fighting my mental and physical health I wish i stopped worrying for a while and just live. You're a teen only once. I wish i was as social as other are but i just want to be content with my life which seems impossible. Im tired, but im only 17.
I am still a teenager, but I have learnt all these life lessons, some by experience and some by questioning myself as to what is right. All of this is completely true and does make your life as a teen better. But just 1 year back I was feeling that my life is over because of the pressure of college entrance I will have to give this year.
i’m a teen rn and i’m struggling to find my place in school. i don’t know who to eat with or who to hang out with and it feels like everyone has friends but me :( but knowing that i might not be the only one makes me feel a teensy bit better :) thanks for this video