Gaslighting - Share Their Story
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ม.ค. 2025
- Safe at Home is partnering with community leaders in Des Moines to share the story of a domestic violence survivor. By sharing this story, we can bring more awareness and resources to those impacted.
www.sharetheirstory.net
I had a friend who helped me tremendously. I was too upset to even walk up the courthouse steps to get Divorce paperwork. She traveled 50 miles to walk with me. She continued to help me. No one can get out alone.
Mostly my story. Makes me sick....slept in my car a few times. At my parents a few times. Sleep deprivation, yes. Constant arguing and beating a dead horse even when I agreed and apologized. He kept harping in what I did....accused me of giving him fake apologies. Sometimes I tried to sleep and he'd be slamming doors, making tons of banging noises so that when I finally left, it took 3 years to not be emotionally and physically triggered by noises, which I would hear louder than they were and they'd make me jump out of my skin, ice hitting my blood stream and my heart racing at breakneck speeds. Knuckle marks in walls, doors, our cars inside and out, a horn on one of our cars broken from his constant punching it while he road raged many times, always wondering deep down when would it be my face or body he'd punch....
This is no way to live. GET OUT! You always have a choice.
So glad you are out. I hope you get all the therapy and support you need to heal.
🙏🏼
It's happening to me right now by my husband. He started right after I found out my sister was murdered. I have no way to get away from him.
@Kristine Christlieb I guess you're right. Living in my car would actually be better than putting up with his abuse.
I'm praying for you. I have a similar situation. I'm totally isolated and have no way of supporting myself. I pray for a way out. I'm praying for your healing after the loss of your sister. I'm saddened to hear that. I was sexually abused and I think to myself no matter what the narc does he can't even compete with what I've already been through. Please pray for yourself and ask for help ❤️
@@katieluscombe4261 Thank you. I am praying for you as well 🙏
@@katieluscombe4261 . I will pray for you. Believe me I understand your situation.
Thank you for that! I finally left after 26 years. I saved myself.
Yeah I know about bits and pieces of stuff like this. First started with an abuser when I was 14 years of age it was bad. Than I went through alot of mental struggles which in reality is abuse that effected my mental health and the way I would perform at work it was bad. The stress these people caused me not able to go to sleep at night because my mental health was triggered walking on egg shells because one person messed with my head so bad she would tell me I deserved everything she was doing to me keeping me up at night all of them harassing me about being depressed and also knowing that something was purposely done to my body and was intentional and meant for evil. I'm out of that relationship I'm able to take one day at a time and not try to cover up what they did by returning to an addiction. I do my best to go to work and I fight hard even now not to busy into tears. Now the bullet to the head out of all the crap these people sent me through is they find stuff like what is mentioned by people in this video funny when they do this these same people still won't leave me alone I have prayed to God that they do and some of them are family members I want nothing to do with. I can't wait for my prayer to be answered and I'm getting help and moved away from them.
Thank god for that one friend who was her life raft to freedom. Families need to still be there for those that struggle
But most are too judgemental to offer any support
My mom stayed with my dad for years because of his disgusting ability to manipulate her after he was physically abusive to my sister and I. He always got away with abusing us, by playing the victim and blaming his own childhood. My mother finally had the strength to leave when I was 12 but she remains extremely sick to this day. I have gone no contact with all of my family 3 years ago. It was the only way for me to start my healing process. I couldn’t possibly get well in the same environment I got sick in. God ultimately protected me, by removing me from a toxic family. Healing is possible. God please bless and heal everyone here!
Seems a narcissist experience for sure no a father at all.
First, the abuser may gaslight in order to try and drive their victim crazy, for a multitude of reasons (cover up previous sinister crimes, or other circumstances).
Second, if the victim speaks the truth, then they may be triangulated against, smeared, and made to appear crazy to others !
Third, money is another source, which an individual can be controlled or manipulated. The sadistic abuser can use money to force the victim to tolerate more abuse, by backing them into a corner, and financially ruin them, while exhausting them in the process.
Fourth, if others from the outside try to speak truth, to assist the victim, then they may be removed from the equation or mobbed. They (the truth teller from the outside/victim) may also be punished by the abuser/narcissist/sociopath by getting fired, being threatened, or have other actions may take place. This situation can be excerbated if the individual (abuser) has some type of power, or authority either over the victim, within the community, or both.
Also, anyone who is a victim of domestic violence, ongoing harassment, narcissistic or other forms of abuse needs support in order to be allowed to be freed from such criminal/horrible situations !Currently, I am in a horrible situation, and trying desparately to remove myself, before any more victimization/sexual harassment/crime occurs ! Enough is enough ! I have suffered for 15+ years, almost broke and homeless ! I have been backed into a financial corner, working multiple low paying jobs, while my car (vandalism), and other property has been stolen/destroyed ! This was mainly done after getting set up to be fired twice, and after the loss if my infant baby/divorce. The last 15+ years have been brutal !
In fact, many of the problems started decades ago when I was 4 years old, and not much was done about it, even though people knew all about it.
And yet, I have been rejected from SO MANY DV shelters.
@@nobodysbaby5048 why ?
@@jengable4888 If it happens initially I think they are saving resources for women w children. There's also a thing where women will follow me in & start drama. This has happened several times. But usually they will say they don't have room for a single woman. See the paragraph about smear campaigns. Dealing w some of that in my current situation.
@@nobodysbaby5048 I am so sorry that you are going through that, because your situation is bad enough, yet the instigators have to make it worse. Trust me, I have been on the end of vicious attacks for a very long time, not only coming from my own family, but the outside too ! It is a double whammy !
Are you safe ? Are you in a decent place ? Hang in there, you are not alone ! Do not let the immature, childish haters who are sick enough to love drama bring you down !
Have a good night and know there are others out there who are legitimate and do care !
Keep your head in check and keep fighting !👍😉
@@jengable4888 thanks for the encouragement. You know what they say, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Evidently GOD must think I'm something of a badass. LOL. Have a great night.
Thank you. Truth is freezing.
who had told me I had hurt a lady's by introducing myself to her as his serious livin girl . I cried outside all night, even tough I had mad all the vegan food, and for all my hard work and love for that board . I was voted off the board during the time I sat outside falling apart , just because I spoke the truth and told we were living together. Truth is by speaking my truth I prevented him from getting a lot of money from this woman for his fake charities ! Yes I said fake because I went there to his ghost building where nothing was happening Nothing ! Nobody! Just a front so he could hide money
Cluster B...Is not for me! This is my mantra.
I have never met a man who isn't' a narcissist to one degree or another. I think it's part of being a man...Go with grace, ladies
@@TheCoconutstrut Who cares? The ones with power are the problem
Wrong. Some men are not narcs, they're opposite
Most men are not narcissistic. And it’s also women that are narcs too.
@@lauratheexplorer6390 you just don't know what to look for if you doubt narcissism is a defining feature of the human male
If you get up to look in the mirror at any one point in your life you're narcissistic. Why does one need a mirror to look at oneself.
Thats the very definition of narcissism. Especially if you do your hair shave make up etc all that "trying to be presentable" stuff is covert narcissism.
Domestic violence is sad
k Living with the stigma of HSV 1 and 2 and not been able to have a healthy relationship was messing up my life until I got some super herbs from Dr Abumere, I haven't had symptoms for some while now and planning to get another test done. Am grateful and advise you help yourself also...
🙏💜🙌
When the toxic soup became a toxic buffet. She feed me each ingredient little by little.....
Finally Freed Myself for This salivary
Will surely do
Public on line all over the world named gaslighting???!!!
No I don't want nothing with him que Asco que Dios me libre 😒😒😒😒😒😒✌ I don't want nothing with Michel if he give me money a you going to here and I want meme❤💝 that's all
I gave this a thumbs down because the overriding message seems to presuppose narcissistic behaviour is a mans domain. May not be your intention but if you read other comments the meaning is being taken in that way.
Otherwise, thanks for posting...
3 sides to every story.
more like 10. seems everything can change when suitable.
The third person is someone who speaks fact and truth, from an unbiased position.
Everyone lies at there own descreation
@@joescott906 The problem with that is when innocent individuals suffer repeatedly for it ! I would rather interact with individuals who can actually tell the truth, regardless of the situation. I would also rather not live with or be subjected to individuals who illegally enter to an apartment, or rented room, habitually lie, manipulate, steal, destroy property, smear you, and profusely gaslight !
@@jengable4888 sorry to hear that... funny I just went through it all myself
Every one male narc, there's a 100 female narcs
Gaslighting is fun
To cunts who end up inherently miserable while trying to make others feel as worthless as they do forever the joke is the victim can recover the narc never can so jokes on them😋
For narcissists