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He is correct, if you are still in your 20's and 30's and have a chance at a good life then try and find a good woman and build that life together, many blessings I wish for you. He is totally correct though, in your 40's and 50's 90% of single moms are looking for your resources and your labor, not you as a person. She wants your resources for her kids, she wants you to take care of her kids, but you don't get to discipline them or shape them. Single moms are recreational use only.
I don’t think I’ve ever met a single mother who took any sort of responsibility for the situation. It’s always messaging along the lines of: my ex is a bum, “my child and I deserve xyz,” etc. I’ve never heard messaging like, “I chose poorly, I met plenty of good men but chose the bad one”
I briefly dated a single mum once. Never EVER again! Quickly learnt that you are there to clean up the mess in her life at the expense of yours. Any decisions or plans you want to make are overriden by what she wants for her and her kids first, not you. When that realisation hit, I had to end before she found a way to anchoring me in. No thank you.
I got involved/dated a twice divorce single mon years ago. It just got worse and worse. I jumped ship after a year. I should have left after 9 months. She was narcissistic lunatic. She is on the internet dating sites searching for husband #4.
I hereby verify that everything John says in this video is 100% true. And ALL OF IT has happened to me. More than with one single mom. You go in with the best intentions, freely giving your time, attention, validation, resources, money, postive male energy, and the end result? Everyone on her side, all her friends, family, coworkers, and ex's - even the city cab drivers - everyone thinks you're a shit. I had other random guys around town wanting to beat me up, and I didn't even know them. This Flo portrayed me as a monster while draining my resources!
Single/divorced moms will demand that you make them and their kids #1 priority. You will not even be on their priority list. You will be expected to pay for everything including their kids’ expenses.
@@racebannon96 Yeah, and you do it with enthusiasm hoping for a peanut in return. Next thing you know, when you're out for a run, you see her at a cafe with another guy.
my friend who i tried to red pill [you cannot force a man to come to red pill😂] he STILL CHOSE a single mom. I tried to talk him out of it to no avail. You can't save these men. not to be pessimistic..but ive been in the manosphere for over a decade.
I'm 53. You've listed all the problems I encountered. Her son is actually totally fine, but her schmoozing around after him is what annoys me - no man would ever let their son be coddled to that extent. His father seems an OK bloke and when she tries to demonise him, I just say there are 3 sides to the story, so sort it yourself.
Majority of people commenting here won’t agree with my perspective but here it is… My view is through the lense of God’s word (biblical scripture). There is a divine order to things for our own well being that God makes clear. The pecking order of precedence and priority is this: God first, spouse second, children third. Obviously we as parents have a responsibility to care for our children but this doesn’t mean they are higher on the pecking order. The spouse comes before the children and the children should know that. Divorce creates a plethora of problems because it goes outside of God’s perfect plan for us. This gentleman is correct about so much of what he has said. You will invite a whole host of drama, stress and hardship when you get involved into a relationship with a broken family dynamic particularly when kids are involved. You can build a healthy relationship and family dynamic with a spouse that has children from a previous relationship but it will most certainly bring challenges that you were never intended to contend with if we live according to God’s design for marriage.
Wow! Absolutely “spot-on”summary of what it’s like dating a single Mom. I’ve experienced nearly every experience you mentioned in your post, unfortunately. There are always exceptions, of course, and to each his own. But as for me, never again! ‼️💯🙌🏾✌🏾🏃🏾♂️➡️
NO! None of them liked me, and her fucken parents hated me from the get go because she gaslighted them that I was abusive. There is no way you can win. Single mothers: NOT RECOMMENDED
the problem isn't that she's a single mother. The problem is all the specific problems you have listed, that may or may not be true for each particular single mother. E.g. if a woman is constantly texting on her phone during a date, it doesn't matter if she is doing it because she's a single mother, or she is addicted to social media, or she has ADHD, or for any other reason. It's a problem, period.
Exactly what happened to me, end of the relationship I bumped into the child's father and he was a decent bloke, he told me the reason they had split up ,his brother died and he fell into a depression, so when he needed support she took off, avoid single mothers like the plague
I agree with the things you said in this video. The same things you said about single mothers can also be said about single fathers. I think single parents are better off saying single parents and child free people are better off dating other child free people
This has been like reading a good book. The deeper it got the more I loved it. IYKYK. Anybody mad about what this man is saying better get in the comments and listen. Unless of course you ArE one of those women and you’ll just be mad. Dude is 🔥💯
Guarantee your money is going to go towards her kids sooner or later. They'll call you in the middle of the night to run the kids to the Dr. And you will pay for the deductible. Those older kids are worse. They're going to want you to put your house up for collateral to pay for bail.
My mom divorced my alcoholic father in 1970 after he abandoned our family. Being Catholic she raised 4 of us without remarrying. Unfortunately, my own marriage failed when my daughter was 5. I also remained single but not religious reasons. Rather, the good men were happily married or custodial parents. The pendulum swings both ways.
@@sphericalspice He wasnt an alcoholic when they met, he was a decorated combat Marine. Sometimes life events change people for the worse through no direct fault of their own. My father hurt our family no doubt about that, but I look upon him with the grace and understanding that maturity brings. And as a combat veteran who served his country when the call came, I am indebted to him for his service. We all paid a heavy price for his willingness to serve. You can shoot your mouth off anonymously behind your keyboard but my mother taught middle school for 40 years, I did the same for 30, sister a surgical nurse for forty, brother a Navy vet and cop for 25 and baby brother a firefighter who literally rescued the life of a child and 2 adults. Not a bad scorecard for mentally damaged.
@@tamedshrew235 Military men, paid killers. Serve the country? Serve the interests of big money! Victims of lies. Don't trust the government! It's a wicked world we live in. Lies everywhere. What was the decoration worth in the end!? How many families he destroyed besides his own? But I've to think about the movie "A Few Good Men", too. I refused the draft myself. They wanted to put me in jail for that.
@@tamedshrew235 By the way: sad story! Many victims, no perpetrators. Many excuses. That's the consequence of our fraudulent money system. And of subservient mindsets.
It really depends on the person and specific situation. I'm pretty jaded with dating post divorce. A lot of us are very selfish when dating and the focus is on what we are going to get out of dating someone. Then, if you are looking for someone who has your back, you don't want to be with someone who is potentially dating you for your money, financial security/job, or property. A lot of single parents are in a situation where money is tight, they have a lot of responsibilities, and it would be nice to have someone in their camp. Additionally, the potential mate has to be willing to take those kids in as their own and has to be on the same page as a parent. Finally, you probably have 2 people who failed at relationships the first go round.
Over 50...Avoid Widows!!! Widows are really bad for you....the ghost has done no wrong and you are merely a placemat until she catches back up to him....."wait for me...I'm coming...". Just ask them what their funeral plans are....they already have the spot picked out on the niche with the cookie jar for their ashes waiting to be beside him again.
My brother went through this with a single Mom. He ended up being the in-home handyman. He got no respect, and the teenaged kids thought he was there to serve them, but he had no say in their behavior. He spent all his cash on them. He laid out his desperate position to me, and I got him into a condo that I talked our parents into investing in. She was totally shocked when he finally walked out. Against my advice, he got involved with another woman (widow) and married her quickly thereafter. It's been 8 yrs and is going strong, so there is a happy ending. If you get past the mother's issues, then you have to deal with kids who have baggage act out while you have no control. This woman's son was a lazy slacker, but she thought he was awesome. Basically, the kid had taken on some surrogate role in her life. It's a disaster waiting to happen
Dated a few single moms. Im in my late 30s they were in their early 30s. Everything he's saying is accurate... Not and ideal situation to be in, but modern dating of any kind sucks. Throw kids in with a lingering ex and a victims mentality and you have a recipes for chaos.
I dated a single mom. She had no rules or Disclipine for her two daughters. She thought that she was the cool mom and wanted to be their friend. Her daughters became sexually active when they were in their mid teens. 4 pregnancies. The youngest started topless dancing and got breast implants to be the center of attention where she danced. She committed suicide at the age of 31. The oldest daughter lost custody of her kids. She is living off the government with Section 8 housing. The single mom has been divorced 3x.
My ex wife & her new husband came over to my place to drop off my grandson & my ex husband got out of the car, approached me like he wanted to fight. I guess he thought I was sleeping with his wife?. The ironic part of it, was he was cheating with my wife when I was married to her?. I think he thought about it & turned around & got back in the car. Karma.
The possibilities you describe are totally real. In fact ALL of them happened to me. However, I had a situation where I assisted a single mom with THREE children for TWO YEARS. This is NUTS but I LOVED IT and we weren’t even dating we were actual friends and she respected me treated me like a hero. CRAZY. !! The dumbest thing I ever did was NOT entering a full relationship with her. There was a bit of an age gap that I was concerned about and that made me resist it. I was an idiot. Just sayin 🤔
Do you like: being confused, not rearly knowing if someone is telling you the truth?. Do U like dealing with a bunch of baggage?. Do U like extra drama in your life?. Do U like being placed at the bottom of a group and being the last one being consulting or considered? Do U like paying 4 someone elses children?
OK, another personal trainer/gym owner pushing a dating self-help program, as if we haven't seen that a zillion times already. May I offer a little constructive criticism? Don't laugh so much in your videos... It makes you come across as either smug or disingenuous. That said, you're correct that getting involved with a single mom is taking on someone else's problems, ESPECIALLY if she starts making claims of abuse or neglect from the baby father. Then you're 150% guaranteed to have lots of stress and drama to contend with, and almost certain to end up being the target of that toxic behavior at some point. For older men, you're going to be dealing with women who have baggage... it's simply a fact of life. But if the kids aren't adults yet and/or she is still involved with any of her past men, run! For younger men, you're already dealing with someone who has proven themselves to be irresponsible, and there is no reason to believe that you aren't going to be next in line to be manipulated and dumped if someone better comes along or she's gotten everything out of you she can get. As cynical as it sounds, there are women out there who make a "living" manipulating and entrapping men into supporting them and their brood. With modern dating being the hot mess it is and modern feminism basically telling women that men are worthless and to even hate them, we men have to pay it real cool and cautious if we don't want to end up in a shit-ton of trouble.
Done it once.... Never again, the child's not yours, so your Farting Against Thunder, if you try to Discipline them, better if the child is really young, but na, not worth the hassle
You are generalizing wildly from you own experience. How exactly does having a child suddenly make you unaccountable? Are you certain that you are accepting responsibility for your contribution to your failed relationships? All fathers figure out pretty quickly where they stand on the pecking order in relation to their children. (It's the best kept secret of marriage.) It doesn't matter whether they are your children or somebody elses children. I've never dated or married a single mother, but I suspect that the best way to approach the situation is to assume that you are in a relationship with a child and a woman, and that the child is your top responsibility, not the mother. If you can't handle that, you should steer clear (for the child's sake).
When you have children their needs have to come first, that's part of what being a good parent is. Of course you can't expect a step parent to love a child in the same way a biological parent would and it's not fair for a single parent to expect a new partner to take responsibility for their children. The unconditional love between a parent and a child is not really possible between two adult partners, nor should it be. If a partner starts treating you badly and abusing you the love will be destroyed. A grown adult is responsible for themselves. Parents are responsible for their children until they become adults...they are not responsible for the well being of another adult. The husband is not responsible for his wife's needs anymore than she is responsible for his. As adults we are not responsible for the feelings or anything else of another grown people. You are not responsible for their happiness, their reactions, their decisions, their failures or their successes. And they are not responsible for yours. In fact it's not even possible to make someone else happy when they choose not to be, the solution to their negative emotions is inside themselves. It's also our own responsibility to enforce our own boundaries if someone is taking advantage of you. We are all responsible for our own well being and working through these things, or at the very least communicating what we need with a partner because no one is a mind reader. After you have communicated these things and they are reasonable, if a partner is still not willing to consider your needs and feelings you have a choice to make if you still want to be with that person, because you can't make another person care about these things if they don't. Again, it's our own responsibility to get out of a hurtful and toxic relationship if it's making us unhappy.
I've seen a case where an adult child killed the man his mom was dating (slashed off his neck). His argument was that he didn't like the man having sex with his mom on the bed where she used to sleep with his late dad. There is too many things with single moms. You can hammer a single mom but do it carefully, I certainly would have long term relationship with a single mom.
I've seen a case where an adult child killed the man his mom was dating (slashed off his neck). His argument was that he didn't like the man having sex with his mom on the bed where she used to sleep with his late dad. There is too many things with single moms. You can hammer a single mom but do it carefully, I certainly would have long term relationship with a single mom.
Yes, we don't. Like the meme where a whaman said to a police officer: "I thought you don't give traffic tickets to pretty whamen!?" - His answer: "We don't." and hands over the ticket to her.
Good topics.. but you are wrong in some thoughts... knowing a lot could confuse you, and then is when you get lost... even if you had the one, you won't be able to see it because of your knowledge that maculate every single step of your partner and than run away...
Good video for the young guys for sure, im 57 and i been red pilled before there was such a thing, i refused to take single moms serious, however if im fckn them and there decent i will look out for them and there kids if they need something, the mistake men make is moving in with them are them moving in with you. Big hell no. i had my son with his mom who was 21 and i was 34, she was 18 when i met her, plenty of women my age yes but majority them had kids already and i wasnt about to that cuz i have to much pride and i saw the potential drame way back then and i woulda probably landed back in the joint lol. fast foward to now, my son 23 his mom and i been split since 09, ive never had any woman live with me full time ive smashed to many to count, single lifestyle has work for me and now its just me and my son who stays with me now for the last few years since he graduated high school, just preparing him for this world and how to avoid the pitfalls of relationships although i dont steer him from them cuz its not realistic, just want him to focus on his goals 1st and not get any gurl pregnant right now, again, solid video my man, all facts you laid out.
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Marry a single mom and you're gonna feel exactly like you're in prison, except your cell mate doesn't wanna have sex with you.
This is accurate... Lol
... because this fucking thing happened to me
Umm.
Yep
That's a good one!
My favorite is when you try to have a conversation about it with them and then you are called "insecure"
This dude is preaching gospel truth.
Single mom's are great in bed.......but not great in relationships
This video is the stone cold truth. The best title is father. The worst title is stepdad. Step dads are treated as ATMs and second class citizens.
He is correct, if you are still in your 20's and 30's and have a chance at a good life then try and find a good woman and build that life together, many blessings I wish for you. He is totally correct though, in your 40's and 50's 90% of single moms are looking for your resources and your labor, not you as a person. She wants your resources for her kids, she wants you to take care of her kids, but you don't get to discipline them or shape them. Single moms are recreational use only.
I don’t think I’ve ever met a single mother who took any sort of responsibility for the situation. It’s always messaging along the lines of: my ex is a bum, “my child and I deserve xyz,” etc. I’ve never heard messaging like, “I chose poorly, I met plenty of good men but chose the bad one”
Accountability is a women’s kryptonite
I just broke up with a single mom and this was exactly what happened so straight facts here
You are in a no win situation. You have to deal with the kids, ex-husband, all the problems like trust issues and responsibility.
You will become a human ATM to a single mom. Good luck on getting a thank you.
And to top it off you get to hear "you're not my dad!"
I briefly dated a single mum once. Never EVER again! Quickly learnt that you are there to clean up the mess in her life at the expense of yours. Any decisions or plans you want to make are overriden by what she wants for her and her kids first, not you. When that realisation hit, I had to end before she found a way to anchoring me in. No thank you.
I got involved/dated a twice divorce single mon years ago. It just got worse and worse. I jumped ship after a year. I should have left after 9 months. She was narcissistic lunatic. She is on the internet dating sites searching for husband #4.
Right there with you!
I hereby verify that everything John says in this video is 100% true. And ALL OF IT has happened to me. More than with one single mom. You go in with the best intentions, freely giving your time, attention, validation, resources, money, postive male energy, and the end result? Everyone on her side, all her friends, family, coworkers, and ex's - even the city cab drivers - everyone thinks you're a shit. I had other random guys around town wanting to beat me up, and I didn't even know them. This Flo portrayed me as a monster while draining my resources!
Single/divorced moms will demand that you make them and their kids #1 priority. You will not even be on their priority list. You will be expected to pay for everything including their kids’ expenses.
@@racebannon96 Yeah, and you do it with enthusiasm hoping for a peanut in return. Next thing you know, when you're out for a run, you see her at a cafe with another guy.
This video will literally save you life guys listen to this gospel truth
I’m the “bad guy” father … you’re speaking of my experience 💯
my friend who i tried to red pill [you cannot force a man to come to red pill😂] he STILL CHOSE a single mom. I tried to talk him out of it to no avail. You can't save these men. not to be pessimistic..but ive been in the manosphere for over a decade.
The red 💊 is always taken as a suppository, sadly.
@@GB-en7ue 🤣 yes...it...IS!
Keep pushing the content ! This is good stuff . Your delivery is amazing boss . It’s like talking to a friend .
First video watching this guy. He's an absolute gangster.
I'm 53. You've listed all the problems I encountered. Her son is actually totally fine, but her schmoozing around after him is what annoys me - no man would ever let their son be coddled to that extent. His father seems an OK bloke and when she tries to demonise him, I just say there are 3 sides to the story, so sort it yourself.
Majority of people commenting here won’t agree with my perspective but here it is…
My view is through the lense of God’s word (biblical scripture). There is a divine order to things for our own well being that God makes clear. The pecking order of precedence and priority is this:
God first, spouse second, children third.
Obviously we as parents have a responsibility to care for our children but this doesn’t mean they are higher on the pecking order. The spouse comes before the children and the children should know that. Divorce creates a plethora of problems because it goes outside of God’s perfect plan for us.
This gentleman is correct about so much of what he has said. You will invite a whole host of drama, stress and hardship when you get involved into a relationship with a broken family dynamic particularly when kids are involved. You can build a healthy relationship and family dynamic with a spouse that has children from a previous relationship but it will most certainly bring challenges that you were never intended to contend with if we live according to God’s design for marriage.
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😂😅😆😁😂
Exactly, that's why it's called adultry, it's a deadly sin the bible
Go speak to her when her child disrespects you…see what happens (not when you guys are in the dating phase, but later on into the relationship).
Wow! Absolutely “spot-on”summary of what it’s like dating a single Mom. I’ve experienced nearly every experience you mentioned in your post, unfortunately. There are always exceptions, of course, and to each his own. But as for me, never again! ‼️💯🙌🏾✌🏾🏃🏾♂️➡️
Don't forget you inherit the ex's parents, gramma and grandpa. Do they like YOU!?
NO! None of them liked me, and her fucken parents hated me from the get go because she gaslighted them that I was abusive. There is no way you can win. Single mothers: NOT RECOMMENDED
the problem isn't that she's a single mother. The problem is all the specific problems you have listed, that may or may not be true for each particular single mother. E.g. if a woman is constantly texting on her phone during a date, it doesn't matter if she is doing it because she's a single mother, or she is addicted to social media, or she has ADHD, or for any other reason. It's a problem, period.
I had to deal with the whole adhd and her daughter had adhd and she thought it had adhd ..etc etc
Exactly what happened to me, end of the relationship I bumped into the child's father and he was a decent bloke, he told me the reason they had split up ,his brother died and he fell into a depression, so when he needed support she took off, avoid single mothers like the plague
Same with single dads and grandparents who are raising their grandchildren.
I agree with the things you said in this video. The same things you said about single mothers can also be said about single fathers. I think single parents are better off saying single parents and child free people are better off dating other child free people
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This has been like reading a good book. The deeper it got the more I loved it. IYKYK. Anybody mad about what this man is saying better get in the comments and listen. Unless of course you ArE one of those women and you’ll just be mad. Dude is 🔥💯
Guarantee your money is going to go towards her kids sooner or later. They'll call you in the middle of the night to run the kids to the Dr. And you will pay for the deductible. Those older kids are worse. They're going to want you to put your house up for collateral to pay for bail.
Wow good job I think you covered everything,thanks for your knowledge.
only consider a single mom if her kids are out the house and shes living alone and there looking after her and make sure your religiously compatible
Im in my 50s and had to learn a lesson the hard way... evrrything i helped or said.. she had answer to ... and definitely i felt so under value ...
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My mom divorced my alcoholic father in 1970 after he abandoned our family. Being Catholic she raised 4 of us without remarrying. Unfortunately, my own marriage failed when my daughter was 5. I also remained single but not religious reasons. Rather, the good men were happily married or custodial parents. The pendulum swings both ways.
But why your mother chose the alcoholic in the first place!?
She was mentally damaged! And passed it down on you (and your siblings).
@@sphericalspice He wasnt an alcoholic when they met, he was a decorated combat Marine. Sometimes life events change people for the worse through no direct fault of their own. My father hurt our family no doubt about that, but I look upon him with the grace and understanding that maturity brings. And as a combat veteran who served his country when the call came, I am indebted to him for his service. We all paid a heavy price for his willingness to serve. You can shoot your mouth off anonymously behind your keyboard but my mother taught middle school for 40 years, I did the same for 30, sister a surgical nurse for forty, brother a Navy vet and cop for 25 and baby brother a firefighter who literally rescued the life of a child and 2 adults. Not a bad scorecard for mentally damaged.
@@tamedshrew235 Military men, paid killers.
Serve the country? Serve the interests of big money! Victims of lies.
Don't trust the government!
It's a wicked world we live in.
Lies everywhere.
What was the decoration worth in the end!?
How many families he destroyed besides his own?
But I've to think about the movie "A Few Good Men", too.
I refused the draft myself. They wanted to put me in jail for that.
@@tamedshrew235 By the way: sad story! Many victims, no perpetrators. Many excuses.
That's the consequence of our fraudulent money system. And of subservient mindsets.
It really depends on the person and specific situation. I'm pretty jaded with dating post divorce. A lot of us are very selfish when dating and the focus is on what we are going to get out of dating someone. Then, if you are looking for someone who has your back, you don't want to be with someone who is potentially dating you for your money, financial security/job, or property. A lot of single parents are in a situation where money is tight, they have a lot of responsibilities, and it would be nice to have someone in their camp. Additionally, the potential mate has to be willing to take those kids in as their own and has to be on the same page as a parent. Finally, you probably have 2 people who failed at relationships the first go round.
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Over 50...Avoid Widows!!! Widows are really bad for you....the ghost has done no wrong and you are merely a placemat until she catches back up to him....."wait for me...I'm coming...". Just ask them what their funeral plans are....they already have the spot picked out on the niche with the cookie jar for their ashes waiting to be beside him again.
My brother went through this with a single Mom. He ended up being the in-home handyman. He got no respect, and the teenaged kids thought he was there to serve them, but he had no say in their behavior. He spent all his cash on them.
He laid out his desperate position to me, and I got him into a condo that I talked our parents into investing in. She was totally shocked when he finally walked out.
Against my advice, he got involved with another woman (widow) and married her quickly thereafter. It's been 8 yrs and is going strong, so there is a happy ending.
If you get past the mother's issues, then you have to deal with kids who have baggage act out while you have no control. This woman's son was a lazy slacker, but she thought he was awesome. Basically, the kid had taken on some surrogate role in her life.
It's a disaster waiting to happen
This guy is correct
Single dads, too! RUN!!!
Dated a few single moms. Im in my late 30s they were in their early 30s. Everything he's saying is accurate... Not and ideal situation to be in, but modern dating of any kind sucks. Throw kids in with a lingering ex and a victims mentality and you have a recipes for chaos.
I dated a single mom. She had no rules or Disclipine for her two daughters. She thought that she was the cool mom and wanted to be their friend. Her daughters became sexually active when they were in their mid teens. 4 pregnancies. The youngest started topless dancing and got breast implants to be the center of attention where she danced. She committed suicide at the age of 31. The oldest daughter lost custody of her kids. She is living off the government with Section 8 housing. The single mom has been divorced 3x.
My ex wife & her new husband came over to my place to drop off my grandson & my ex husband got out of the car, approached me like he wanted to fight. I guess he thought I was sleeping with his wife?. The ironic part of it, was he was cheating with my wife when I was married to her?. I think he thought about it & turned around & got back in the car. Karma.
I am paying for the service when needed, no drama.
Two sides to every story.women and accountability doesn't mix
Straight facts
The possibilities you describe are totally real. In fact ALL of them happened to me.
However, I had a situation where I assisted a single mom with THREE children for TWO YEARS.
This is NUTS but I LOVED IT and we weren’t even dating we were actual friends and she respected me treated me like a hero.
CRAZY. !!
The dumbest thing I ever did was NOT entering a full relationship with her.
There was a bit of an age gap that I was concerned about and that made me resist it.
I was an idiot.
Just sayin 🤔
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Entertaining accurate truth bombs!
Great advice to the younger men. Avoid this at all costs !
100 per cent spot on !!!!.
Do you like: being confused, not rearly knowing if someone is telling you the truth?. Do U like dealing with a bunch of baggage?. Do U like extra drama in your life?. Do U like being placed at the bottom of a group and being the last one being consulting or considered? Do U like paying 4 someone elses children?
If U are paying long enough 4 her kids the court is going to see U as a father...alimony
Even if she doesn't have kids, if she likes talking about drama , run!
OK, another personal trainer/gym owner pushing a dating self-help program, as if we haven't seen that a zillion times already. May I offer a little constructive criticism? Don't laugh so much in your videos... It makes you come across as either smug or disingenuous. That said, you're correct that getting involved with a single mom is taking on someone else's problems, ESPECIALLY if she starts making claims of abuse or neglect from the baby father. Then you're 150% guaranteed to have lots of stress and drama to contend with, and almost certain to end up being the target of that toxic behavior at some point. For older men, you're going to be dealing with women who have baggage... it's simply a fact of life. But if the kids aren't adults yet and/or she is still involved with any of her past men, run! For younger men, you're already dealing with someone who has proven themselves to be irresponsible, and there is no reason to believe that you aren't going to be next in line to be manipulated and dumped if someone better comes along or she's gotten everything out of you she can get. As cynical as it sounds, there are women out there who make a "living" manipulating and entrapping men into supporting them and their brood. With modern dating being the hot mess it is and modern feminism basically telling women that men are worthless and to even hate them, we men have to pay it real cool and cautious if we don't want to end up in a shit-ton of trouble.
What is she's a widower?
That's still more drama!
It is perpirtional depending on how the sex is.
i have too much worth to stoop down so low to get involved with someone already passing on their genes with another man before me.
Oh but to hear her ex's side....
Just don’t date a single mom simple don’t get financially hurt or emotional damage.
😒👍 agree, rewatch the classic by coach red pill
$300,000 is the current cost to raise ONE child from 0-18 in the USA.
That is a lot of money.
He WAS A Narcissist!!!!
Two different families, getting along with each other ? Sounds like, " The Brady Bunch ". Well, their true lives didn't match .
I married just 18 days before my 22 birthday. I’m 57 and still married. 🙂
Validation: Victimization for pleasure
It’s not worth it. Raising kids you did participate in bringing to the world. Ex husband & others don’t make it easy either.
It's the same for female friendships. They want you to be god Mommy to their kids. Contribute to birthday gifts in college funds.
This one deserves a spin off. Casual sex with single mothers.
Interesting idea!
Done it once.... Never again, the child's not yours, so your Farting Against Thunder, if you try to Discipline them, better if the child is really young, but na, not worth the hassle
How is a young child better? You want more years of responsibility for a child that isn’t yours? 😂
You are generalizing wildly from you own experience. How exactly does having a child suddenly make you unaccountable? Are you certain that you are accepting responsibility for your contribution to your failed relationships? All fathers figure out pretty quickly where they stand on the pecking order in relation to their children. (It's the best kept secret of marriage.) It doesn't matter whether they are your children or somebody elses children. I've never dated or married a single mother, but I suspect that the best way to approach the situation is to assume that you are in a relationship with a child and a woman, and that the child is your top responsibility, not the mother. If you can't handle that, you should steer clear (for the child's sake).
When you have children their needs have to come first, that's part of what being a good parent is. Of course you can't expect a step parent to love a child in the same way a biological parent would and it's not fair for a single parent to expect a new partner to take responsibility for their children. The unconditional love between a parent and a child is not really possible between two adult partners, nor should it be. If a partner starts treating you badly and abusing you the love will be destroyed. A grown adult is responsible for themselves. Parents are responsible for their children until they become adults...they are not responsible for the well being of another adult. The husband is not responsible for his wife's needs anymore than she is responsible for his.
As adults we are not responsible for the feelings or anything else of another grown people. You are not responsible for their happiness, their reactions, their decisions, their failures or their successes. And they are not responsible for yours. In fact it's not even possible to make someone else happy when they choose not to be, the solution to their negative emotions is inside themselves. It's also our own responsibility to enforce our own boundaries if someone is taking advantage of you. We are all responsible for our own well being and working through these things, or at the very least communicating what we need with a partner because no one is a mind reader. After you have communicated these things and they are reasonable, if a partner is still not willing to consider your needs and feelings you have a choice to make if you still want to be with that person, because you can't make another person care about these things if they don't. Again, it's our own responsibility to get out of a hurtful and toxic relationship if it's making us unhappy.
As Oprah once stated: "it's MY truth"...
I've seen a case where an adult child killed the man his mom was dating (slashed off his neck). His argument was that he didn't like the man having sex with his mom on the bed where she used to sleep with his late dad. There is too many things with single moms. You can hammer a single mom but do it carefully, I certainly would have long term relationship with a single mom.
You are a blue pill simp.
Check reality! Take the red pill until it become a big huge suspensorium!
Sounds like you were dealing with a narcissist I know I have I think they’re all narcissistic if they’re not narcissist, they’re crazy
Narcs are crazy! Special needs persons!
Add : are you a masochist?
Gentlemen.. please don't date us.
🤣Nice!
just use for hook-ups then ghost...?
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I've seen a case where an adult child killed the man his mom was dating (slashed off his neck). His argument was that he didn't like the man having sex with his mom on the bed where she used to sleep with his late dad. There is too many things with single moms. You can hammer a single mom but do it carefully, I certainly would have long term relationship with a single mom.
Yes, we don't.
Like the meme where a whaman said to a police officer: "I thought you don't give traffic tickets to pretty whamen!?" - His answer: "We don't." and hands over the ticket to her.
Good topics.. but you are wrong in some thoughts... knowing a lot could confuse you, and then is when you get lost... even if you had the one, you won't be able to see it because of your knowledge that maculate every single step of your partner and than run away...
As Oprah once stated : " MY truth"...
There is no "the one" in single moms.
You need therapy.
Good video for the young guys for sure, im 57 and i been red pilled before there was such a thing, i refused to take single moms serious, however if im fckn them and there decent i will look out for them and there kids if they need something, the mistake men make is moving in with them are them moving in with you. Big hell no. i had my son with his mom who was 21 and i was 34, she was 18 when i met her, plenty of women my age yes but majority them had kids already and i wasnt about to that cuz i have to much pride and i saw the potential drame way back then and i woulda probably landed back in the joint lol. fast foward to now, my son 23 his mom and i been split since 09, ive never had any woman live with me full time ive smashed to many to count, single lifestyle has work for me and now its just me and my son who stays with me now for the last few years since he graduated high school, just preparing him for this world and how to avoid the pitfalls of relationships although i dont steer him from them cuz its not realistic, just want him to focus on his goals 1st and not get any gurl pregnant right now, again, solid video my man, all facts you laid out.
Im a single dad and even I wouldn’t date a single mom… 😂
Yes you are right this is all happening to me thanks for me being a fucking simp lol