How to NEVER FIGHT with a woman: the greatest victory requires no battle

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  • @psychacks
    @psychacks  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +300

    It has been many years since I last fought with a woman, and I'd very much like to keep it that way. Today, I'm going to share my secret with you. It's important to appreciate that one of the attributes of the feminine is to magnify and reflect. Femininity takes what it receives, makes it bigger, and gives it back to you. With this in mind, the best way to avoid conflict with a woman is to clarify (i.e., clean up) your tone. Remove every hint of frustration and judgment from your voice, and you'll have a much easier time of things.
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    • @blackpillspear2592
      @blackpillspear2592 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Your entire speech is based on a Gynocentric world order, gynocentrism: men have to jump through all sorts of loops to please women, because women are at the center of this life, IS BULLSHIT.
      Who cares what women want?

    • @CitiesOfAsh
      @CitiesOfAsh 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      This sounds like the advice to not take.

    • @hughnibley
      @hughnibley 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @roarbillion2255 did you watch through the end of the video? This is addressed specifically.

    • @yeticusrex1661
      @yeticusrex1661 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      "What we've got here is... failure to communicate. Some men you just can't reach. So you get what we had here last week, which is the way he wants it... well, he gets it. I don't like it any more than you men."
      - Captain, from the movie, Cool Hand Luke

    • @armorvestrus4119
      @armorvestrus4119 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      What if the woman works herself into a state of agitation right before your eyes without any help from you, how then should you as a good man react or not react?

  • @caseygreyson4178
    @caseygreyson4178 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4328

    I will never forget when my ex told me she was breaking up with me. And me, thinking I was being a healthy partner and someone who respects women, accepted the breakup and told her that I wished her the best. She then started freaking out and screaming and crying that I clearly “don’t care” about her and that if I truly loved her I would fight to hold onto her. Yeah sorry, that’s way too much energy and work on my part for an average looking woman with BPD and narcissism.

    • @thebesttheworst2277
      @thebesttheworst2277 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +469

      ... *that last sentence.* 😂👏👌

    • @endcgm9277
      @endcgm9277 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +369

      I went waaaay overboard treating my last wife well. When her attitude went downhill, I gave her many many chances to treat me properly with dignity and respect.
      I finally moved out to wake her up that she could lose me. I was still trying to work it out over the phone, she said “I agree, we need to break up”.
      I thought “agree with whom? I never said we should break up”. But all my mouth said was “well, I guess that’s it, then”.
      Like you, I’m not chasing after a disrespectful narcissist with BPD.

    • @chrisolson84
      @chrisolson84 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +85

      Sounds like an insecure woman to me.

    • @109PokerFace
      @109PokerFace 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +204

      A person with BPD and or narcissism is literally worse than having a deadly disease like aids or cancer.

    • @SaltyDogPerformance
      @SaltyDogPerformance 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +229

      It’s amazing how when you accept what they want they flip the script and act like you are the asshole lol

  • @GummeeH3
    @GummeeH3 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1588

    Just because she's mad doesn't mean *I* have to be mad. No one gets that much power over my emotions

    • @besttimes8169
      @besttimes8169 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +72

      Devils are real bro. Most women feed on chaos. If she stays long enough with you, she'll find the button to run you mad. The only solution is never to date or have a relationship with such. If you do, you'll find out sooner or later you're never immune

    • @JeremyYu-r8g
      @JeremyYu-r8g 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      ​@@besttimes8169yeah. They really like emotional turmoil .

    • @GummeeH3
      @GummeeH3 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@JeremyYu-r8g I'm not that guy. I've had the experience of having my ex- mad at me and trying to push my buttons to get me mad back. Since I *know* that's what she wants, I just don't play that game. No. It isn't always easy.

    • @johnfry5710
      @johnfry5710 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      I'm working on this as well tantrums at the smallest things and i feel like im walking on eggshells. I have learned to ignore her stupid emotions and do what i want.

    • @RealHomeRecording
      @RealHomeRecording 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      ​@@johnfry5710they never change. I regret not ending my current relationship a lot sooner. Same thing.... Tantrums that are over benign things. I thought these kinds of emotional outbursts were reserved for toddlers!

  • @genecundith1767
    @genecundith1767 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +176

    My friend is extremely cool under pressure and never raises his voice at his daughters or his wife. In doing so, he maintains so much calm around him. Instead of chastising or punishing his daughters, he helps them back track the chain of thoughts and events, promoting self inquiry. Genius.

    • @avantikor360
      @avantikor360 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Can you explain a back track scenario

    • @wLBlue
      @wLBlue 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ​@@avantikor360I speculate it's back tracking the chain of events and or choices that led to the altercation or problems...assuming the females are capable of such things similar to accountability.

    • @avantikor360
      @avantikor360 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@wLBlue i know i meant him explaining how he would do that like a life example

    • @James-ws9ze
      @James-ws9ze วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@avantikor360 It's been 3 months so I guess he can't. 😂

  • @hfcriske
    @hfcriske 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2320

    "For every male action, there is an equal and opposite female overreaction" - Some wise dude, probably

    • @endcgm9277
      @endcgm9277 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +116

      “Unequal” and opposite

    • @hfcriske
      @hfcriske 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

      @@endcgm9277 I stand corrected.

    • @filthycasual9381
      @filthycasual9381 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +99

      *ovaryaction

    • @thendebele
      @thendebele 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Youuu are the wise dude mate 😂... Spot on

    • @jackjones9460
      @jackjones9460 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      Sun Tzu, Ben Franklin & A. Einstein all said it.

  • @David-cf2iq
    @David-cf2iq 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +578

    Socrates: "A man who marries a good woman becomes content. A man who marries a bad woman becomes a philosopher."

    • @TheTobs50
      @TheTobs50 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      Great quote. I was a philosopher (teacher), got divorced, and now much happier with a good woman, I am retired and fabricating lovely items from steel... My post-Socratic life.

    • @dominikgruen
      @dominikgruen 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      that's brilliant 😂❤

    • @StrongMightyandFree
      @StrongMightyandFree 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That there proves all the bad women in my life.

    • @HemiBurns
      @HemiBurns 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Nailed it 😂😂😂.

    • @oterosocram25
      @oterosocram25 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Terrible quote and yes it holds some truth but is not entirely true.
      You can’t define nor cookie cut happiness.
      Happiness comes from the word Hap which means by chance.
      If all works good by chance according to your expectations then you’ll be good and happy but if it doesn’t like for most human beings then you are discontent and miserable. Look at Maslow hierarchy of needs.

  • @icegangsta5161
    @icegangsta5161 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +750

    "The only winning move is not to play" -Patrice Oneal

    • @ntandoyenkosimoyo2071
      @ntandoyenkosimoyo2071 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      True

    • @TheCuratorIsHere
      @TheCuratorIsHere 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      No, error of attribution, its Sun Tzu in the Art of War

    • @mattmenshevik
      @mattmenshevik 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Patrice was a master of his craft. If he had studied psychology and philosophy, he would have been a god.

    • @JAYSONGS
      @JAYSONGS 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Boom - truth as loud as a cannon. 👍🏼

    • @SpencerRoyalcom
      @SpencerRoyalcom 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That is the best move regarding the courts... :-)

  • @jasoncarter4343
    @jasoncarter4343 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1447

    Holy crap! As a 50 year old man with 5 kids and a decent marriage, I can tell you unequivocally that what this gentleman has stated is 100% true.

    • @ericschooff268
      @ericschooff268 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +90

      I dare you to tell your wife that you have a “decent” marriage! Lol

    • @juhae8164
      @juhae8164 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +54

      i'm 12 and i also think that he is right

    • @user-hz4lx8gn6c
      @user-hz4lx8gn6c 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😅🤣😂@@ericschooff268

    • @Shutityou
      @Shutityou 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

      Listen to bill burr talking about how to manage conflict with a woman. It’s genius and funny.

    • @JohnSmithEx
      @JohnSmithEx 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@ShutityouBill Burr is a SIMP. He lost all credibility after relinquishing his authority as a man, to his current manipulative wife.

  • @chengmunwai
    @chengmunwai 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +542

    "When you lose you lose, and when you win you still lose."

    • @badassproductions4734
      @badassproductions4734 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      Nah I'd win 🥶

    • @madjunir
      @madjunir 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      With modern women the game is always rigged.
      NEVER PLAY THEIR GAME. IGNORE OR LEAVE THEM.

    • @lucdrouin4653
      @lucdrouin4653 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      And still,, we keep playing the game.

    • @mbg9650
      @mbg9650 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Better live happy than win a conflict.

    • @JC-tg5xx
      @JC-tg5xx 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      ​@@badassproductions4734famous last words

  • @viodesa3
    @viodesa3 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +207

    Pay attention here gentlemen, you're learning about female behavior whilst also learning about how to deal with children. Fantastic advice.

    • @jayraymond9707
      @jayraymond9707 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      Probably just coincidence, right?

    • @GodsMan500
      @GodsMan500 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Indeed, they are one and the same.

    • @KM-lw8wr
      @KM-lw8wr 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      dogs too :)

    • @themoviejunky3918
      @themoviejunky3918 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@viodesa3 same thing, or?

  • @jeffcauhape6880
    @jeffcauhape6880 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1062

    Here's an awkward question: If someone is ruled by their emotions and cannot self-manage them, can they truly be considered an adult?

    • @EE12CSVT
      @EE12CSVT 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +263

      No, they can't. Which is why I consider them to be children in adult bodies. Same goes for any man who hasn't learned how to.

    • @jeffcauhape6880
      @jeffcauhape6880 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Right. And that brings up the next question: If a group cannot be depended on to behave like adults, should they have adult prerogatives and responsibilities?
      @@EE12CSVT

    • @Zophas
      @Zophas 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +109

      Nope. Frequent emotional dis-regulation is literally childish. Beware of emotionally immature people. Especially in intimate relationships. You might think that you’re strong but the stress and damage that such a relationship can cause is very serious… speaking as someone currently healing from a 2-year relationship with a Borderline..

    • @LegendNinja41
      @LegendNinja41 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

      looking at my Sis.. NOPE!!
      24 year old but acting like a bratty, uncivilized and unruly 12 year old girl because Mom allows and bends to it.

    • @alexp7274
      @alexp7274 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

      Here's a simple answer: No

  • @BodyByBenSLC
    @BodyByBenSLC 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +603

    Me and my Ex-wife were in a fight once and we were not seeing eye to eye on the issue. I said "Honey we are missing something here. Please repeat back to me what I say." She couldn't do it! She was unable to repeat the words I said. I am not going into details but example " I will be home at 3. Please repeat back to me." Her response "you would rather be doing anything else than see me." We went around like this for 20 minutes, she couldn't just accept I was going to be home at 3, everything had to have 2 3 other meanings. Divorced 13 years and I still don't have any desire to marry again.

    • @corley-ai
      @corley-ai 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      This video was about tone over content. Your example is the opposite. Or maybe you were illustrating how NOT paying attention to tone DOESN’T work? If so bravo 👏

    • @rabbitcreative
      @rabbitcreative 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

      @@corley-ai > tone over content
      Sounds-to-me like another way to say "emotion over reason". Hard pass.

    • @corley-ai
      @corley-ai 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Good luck dating that robot. It's not what you say, it's how you say it. Want to live in another world? Build a spaceship.@@rabbitcreative

    • @summerman2
      @summerman2 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Women are emotionally handicapped. They have no ability to shut it off. ❤

    • @ibubezi7685
      @ibubezi7685 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@corley-ai It's for a reason current nations are messed up - 'emotion over reason'. Too many women in control/interfering and weak men pandering for women's votes - societies (justice) falling apart. But, enjoy the decline - you will be thrilled (which is an emotion).

  • @vincewhite5087
    @vincewhite5087 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    After 41 years, I use soft questions to understanding. Lessens it, but now she attacks the motive behind questions.

    • @stratelite1337
      @stratelite1337 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Go to gym and start being unavailable. Don't explain or say anything just do it. She'll feel anxiety and improve her shit.

    • @danielodeniyi8729
      @danielodeniyi8729 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@stratelite1337 bad advice, ignore complaints too much and you will be the asshole

  • @matthewhunter6421
    @matthewhunter6421 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +803

    So, having emotion in you voice can provoke women. Removing emotion from your voice as to not provoke women, also provokes women. Got it

    • @wokerobot3183
      @wokerobot3183 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

      Lol. Check and check. I guess we need to find that sweet spot between the two.

    • @pabloramos369
      @pabloramos369 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The best opción : remove the woman 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @ChrisPTY507
      @ChrisPTY507 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      Yeah. Dealing with women is like walking on eggshells.
      Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. It’s never enough for them; they always look for holes in your words and actions to spur unnecessary fights and drama.
      Then, they complain about where all the good men are and why the top shelf guys won’t commit to them, only limiting the interaction to a FWB level. There is an influx of narcissism and lack of self-awareness in most younger women.

    • @cbskwkdnslwhanznamdm2849
      @cbskwkdnslwhanznamdm2849 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Meanwhile, all this effort and coddling is merely because we’re wired to be obsessed with their genitalia. What a life.

    • @ElTheJono
      @ElTheJono 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      Sounds like you stopped watching partway through

  • @richardager1861
    @richardager1861 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +255

    'Don't raise your voice, improve your argument!' But of course it only works with the right partner!

    • @bapchannel9762
      @bapchannel9762 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      Yes. Arguments never win over emotions.

    • @VaronPlateando
      @VaronPlateando 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      goodness of argument needs to be registered | savoured. would I impute related capabilities | motivation to an xx ?!? it does depend, or rather doesn't ?!?

    • @Ludwig1954
      @Ludwig1954 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Two hours of improving and clarifying my argumentation.
      I an fed up and exhausted.
      I snap "Now just shut up and do as your told!"
      The reaction: " How dare you tell me to shut up!"
      But she did as she was told!

    • @MrColdwilliam
      @MrColdwilliam 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@Ludwig1954I've been there. Leave that person. It will take years to heal after but Day One is better than one day...

    • @no_guarantees
      @no_guarantees 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You can write a dissertation with this comment alone. I know you have experienced this ad nauseum.

  • @arnoldmarcus3634
    @arnoldmarcus3634 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +67

    Give women the emotion you wish to receive from them. I’ve found this quite helpful.

    • @Sogard69
      @Sogard69 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @cyberkraft8005
      @cyberkraft8005 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      …so you’re a….woman?

    • @tovarisch3039
      @tovarisch3039 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      lol, you're like the guy trying to put out a burning cottage with a cup of water.

    • @conyersdoor6378
      @conyersdoor6378 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Bullshit. Try giving them horny and see what you get back. Lol.

  • @besttimes8169
    @besttimes8169 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +632

    There's only one practical point here: choose a rational/right woman. The second part is practically impossible with the wrong woman. Walking on egg shells because you can be misconstrued is no life to be desired. The wrong woman will work as hard as she can to put you in irritation. Some of them see it as the only survival mode

    • @michaelmuller8494
      @michaelmuller8494 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

      A rational women...maybe Elon can produce one one day. Till then - didn't hapen

    • @allseeingotto2912
      @allseeingotto2912 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

      Just meet a rational woman bro 🙄

    • @besttimes8169
      @besttimes8169 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      @@michaelmuller8494 " the right partner" would have been the phrase. Putting rational and woman together seems too rare lol

    • @CeceliPS3
      @CeceliPS3 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I met one. After a few years of me not giving of what she secretly wanted because I enjoyed our friendship, she became very irrational and started treating me as an enemy. Rational women, in a broad sense, don't exist, bud.@@allseeingotto2912

    • @user-kcrpine
      @user-kcrpine 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Orion correctly tells us women are loyal only to their emotions in one video….
      And in another tells us we just have to find a rational woman?
      The only consistency in his videos is the low grade simpery always needlessly injected into each.

  • @BrentRodg3rs
    @BrentRodg3rs 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +348

    It's funny, I realize this content is mostly focused on "dating", but I actually find quite a bit of what the good doctor says is very applicable to raising teenage daughters. Dr. Taraban giving single dads practical advice one video at a time.

    • @BillyOnYouTube
      @BillyOnYouTube 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

      I'm a 25 year old dude. In my successful relationships with women, platonic and romantic, I've always had the best luck when I would treat them the same way I may treat my own hypothetical daughter.

    • @DionLYA
      @DionLYA 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      @@BillyOnTH-cam This is so true. I've come to realize that every women I've treated like a daughter or younger sister has always ended up following me. It wasn't my intention at all because I only saw them like "children" that need to be protected. Whereas women whom I have treated like an equal... no luck with them at all...

    • @BillyOnYouTube
      @BillyOnYouTube 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      @@DionLYA Funny, isn't it? Women say they want to be treated equal, but they don't know what truly "equal" means to us men. When we treat them equaly, they always label us as mean, cold, rude, and toxic. xD

    • @terry9238
      @terry9238 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Are you saying men are mean, cold, rude, and toxic to each other?
      Now there’s some food for thought!

    • @amanda-ok1ww
      @amanda-ok1ww 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@BillyOnTH-cam You sound like a top-shelf man. I hope other men take your words as advice.

  • @jpmason151
    @jpmason151 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    This is totally true. All major fights with my mom and my gfs have revolved around me having an upset tone of voice. I think it’s because negative/cold tones can make women feel unsafe and/or unloved. Which makes the woman clap back and it becomes a fight.
    The goal, I think, is to find a woman who does provoke your negative emotions very often. This way it’s much easier to control tone of voice 1/month or 1/week than everyday.

    • @julietcoles6245
      @julietcoles6245 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Who is provoking whose negative emotions? :) The goal is to become a person who does not have negative emotions to provoke, and then also to find someone who has done the same...

    • @jpmason151
      @jpmason151 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@julietcoles6245 I think it's a fool's errand to avoid negative (unpleasant) emotions altogether. they're a natural and normal response to many different situations and actions.

    • @julietcoles6245
      @julietcoles6245 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@jpmason151 Yes, good point. I expressed that badly. What I was getting at is taking responsibility for the chronic negative inner states that come from past wounds, disempowering beliefs etc that we can then project onto our outer world as negative attitudes.

    • @franzlyonheart4362
      @franzlyonheart4362 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Very good observation! Ending with both the women blaming the other one (in front of me); e.g., my mother observing how my gf / wife gets worked up too easily, and my gf / wife observing how my mother gets worked up too easily; when in fact BOTH display EXACTLY the same behaviours.
      It's funny how women express their love for a man in such an unreasonable way (from a male perspective). Some basic flaw in human design.
      The good doctor gives good advice that probably works. I may give it a try.

    • @yusufmohammedyahaya9806
      @yusufmohammedyahaya9806 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@jpmason151 you're right. I have the same problem with my wives and sisters.

  • @guerrillagorilla6537
    @guerrillagorilla6537 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +425

    Twice now, I’ve been in the midst of a major fight with my wife and one of his videos has popped up and I’ve applied what he said and INSTANTLY the problem is solved. It’s uncanny. Seriously I just used this eight minutes after he posted it and BAM a fight that’s been going all day is resolved 🙏 thank you! You are a fucking hero.

    • @user-kcrpine
      @user-kcrpine 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Just low grade simp. That’s what most of his suggestions boil down to.

    • @smerdopsis6092
      @smerdopsis6092 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Yoooo, that's awesome 👌

    • @JohnSmithEx
      @JohnSmithEx 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      Tell us more! We need a practical example, to consolidate the theory.

    • @michielderuyter5714
      @michielderuyter5714 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      what exactly did you tell her?

    • @guerrillagorilla6537
      @guerrillagorilla6537 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +77

      Well some context would probably be useful. I do practice a form of mindfulness meditation and it does help me quite a bit in all areas, but when my wife starts a fight over some petty thing or attacks me over some issue she feels upset about that seems like a massive overreaction or just an unfair accusation I have a hard time keeping my cool. I feel like hell no, I’m not going to allow someone to treat me like this.
      This was one of those times. She was hurt about something she was reading into and I was getting pissed that she was unfairly criticizing me and it was just escalating like crazy. I kept saying she can’t mistreat me like this, it’s unfair, it’s exhausting, etc.
      After watching this I changed my tone to basically exactly how he was talking. Sort of detached/cheerful and overall just laughing about my exasperation. I explained everything I said before but in a tone that was warm and kind of like “this is kind of silly” without being patronizing or condescending. It’s sort of hard to explain but almost like self effacing while still standing my ground and pointing out how she was mistreating me and how I’m doing best to hear her feelings, but come on, try to see where I’m coming from.
      And instantly, and I mean INSTANTLY, her tone changed. And in five minutes she apologized.
      So fiddle with it, but it works.

  • @Espeedee
    @Espeedee 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +103

    The best shortcut I've found is a sense of humor. If you can make her laugh it can diffuse her anger and frustration. When you get angry, if you can make yourself laugh, it prevents you from saying regrettable or unfair things to her.

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Followed by make-up sex. ;-)

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Black humor however isn't helpful at all.

    • @junichiroyamashita
      @junichiroyamashita 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      It is said,in european folklore,that laughter chase devils away,and breaks evil spells. Laughing weakens demons and brings them pain.

    • @mysticone1798
      @mysticone1798 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Great comment, and so true. Humor defuses a lot of the discontent of women. They WANT to be short-circuited in their anger and frustration.

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@mysticone1798 And not so true at all. In my experience rather a wishful dream, borderline a flatout lie. I've tried defusing situations with humor countless times, it works with men but only rarely with women.

  • @chadbelcher8732
    @chadbelcher8732 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +85

    Great advice. My struggle is despite every effort to NOT have a tone/gesture/word that could be construed as negative, and even when I know 100% there is no "tone" in my voice, a tone is somehow heard - and heard as negative. Words that I literally have not said are somehow heard - and heard negatively. And then even once I recognize the misunderstanding, there is no amount of clarification that can get her away from the feelings that the misunderstanding has invoked.

    • @catilina9251
      @catilina9251 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      I've said it before : women's uncontrolled emotions are destroying their lives. They just don't want to accept that fact.

    • @ziggyfreud5357
      @ziggyfreud5357 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      So relatable man 😂

    • @tjhammer24
      @tjhammer24 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      So relatable.... and it's progressing into anger and violence because I don't feed or play and just want to extract from the situation. Unfortunately we bought a house together and my finances aren't strong enough for me to move and rent and force a buyout or sale of the house

    • @PGHEngineer
      @PGHEngineer 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      She has borderline personality disorder perhaps. Look up the symptoms on Wikipedia. Do an online personality disorder test as if you were her, answering honestly, and see what comes up.

    • @p-rt-l2792
      @p-rt-l2792 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This! And also, if I do manage to get rid of all negativity in my tone/voice/gesture/word, she’ll start telling me I sound weird, she doesn’t recognize “me”…

  • @endcgm9277
    @endcgm9277 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +350

    I had to end a 13 year relationship with an agreeable single mom because her daughter turned 16 and became decidedly most UNagreable, and mom took her side 💯 and ran block on any attempts to instill discipline. Daughter learned she could ride roughshod over me and mom would have her back.

    • @user-kcrpine
      @user-kcrpine 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +105

      Needless risk, brother. NEVER involve yourself with a single mother, ESPECIALLY one with a daughter. You’re asking to lose the rest of your life the moment one of them becomes hyper-emotional.
      Glad you got out with your life intact.

    • @metarugia3981
      @metarugia3981 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +104

      Your first mistake is to hook up with a single mom.
      You have all the responsibilities without any authority as you're not the biological father, this is common sense.

    • @navboi12
      @navboi12 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      ​@@AAB371that's one way of putting it 😂

    • @navboi12
      @navboi12 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@metarugia3981he's learnt now at least. Hook up, yeah perhaps. Commitment? No chance.

    • @meneliksolomon7984
      @meneliksolomon7984 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      right decision

  • @aaronjonellhall1937
    @aaronjonellhall1937 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +122

    You had me laughing and clapping out loud😂. You are on point. It's easier to control oneself than to control others.

    • @lucdrouin4653
      @lucdrouin4653 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You could even postulate that you can control women by controlling yourself. It’s far fetched, but it is logical.

  • @kestrel09
    @kestrel09 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I equate it to walking on eggshells. I find it very challenging to comprehend how my wife can completely distort my motivations on occasions. I definitely sense that she frequently takes out her frustrations that are not about me, but directed at me. We all do this to some extent.

  • @dirtyace1668
    @dirtyace1668 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +175

    As I've mentioned in another one of Orion's videos. This is why it's important to have a good sense of humor and have a carefree attitude when dealing with women.

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Carefree attitude? A man cannot act like a child. Also a man act like a weak aggreable simp.

    • @shafiqhaikal2401
      @shafiqhaikal2401 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      "She is like a child" -Sun Tzu, probably

    • @scottleggejr
      @scottleggejr 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      "dealing with women" as if they're not human or on your same level is some sigma incel stuff lol.

    • @dirtyace1668
      @dirtyace1668 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@scottleggejr Christ! You serious? You must see misogyny and sexism as soon as you open your eyes in the morning.
      Get some help for your own sake, please.

    • @scottleggejr
      @scottleggejr 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@dirtyace1668 Thanks for the hearty laugh little guy!

  • @georginakaye1021
    @georginakaye1021 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +209

    This is SO relevant for me. My husband and I distilled what we need for each other in one word - me: “Warmth”, him: “Respect”. Opposite of warmth is essentially negativity. Boom. Will have to show him the two vids. Love your stuff “my dude”.

    • @Mr.McWatson
      @Mr.McWatson 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      If you're like most women, the moment he told you he needed respect, you probably called him a "little bitch" with a smirk just to see what happens :D

    • @joepavia1553
      @joepavia1553 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Brilliant

    • @briggy4359
      @briggy4359 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      God bless you and your healthy attitude about relationships

    • @seekerofthemutablebalance5228
      @seekerofthemutablebalance5228 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is why women are lied to constantly

    • @marcrose3403
      @marcrose3403 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Both statements are true. For a man it’s respect

  • @anjunatuna
    @anjunatuna 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

    Tone is so huge! Working on being more self aware and deliberate re: tone will get people far. I never fought with men who were calm and rational. Lead with a positive tone and she will follow.

    • @PradhanmantriBruhh
      @PradhanmantriBruhh 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@anjunatuna making notes rn

    • @CryptoKernels
      @CryptoKernels 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      We don't care how you feel about our tone of voice. You're NOT going to be spoken to as if you were a 3 year old little girl. You're going to be spoken to as an adult. If you have problems with men's tone of voice. Then that is your very own personal problem. You and you alone need to Deal With It!

    • @anjunatuna
      @anjunatuna 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You need to learn to lead by example. I am always mindful of my tone out of respect for my partner. We can then have rational and productive conversations without anyone blowing up. If you expect someone to treat you respectfully, lead by example.

    • @noemita494
      @noemita494 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@CryptoKernels Ok so you are ok with a woman talking to you any type of way. Got it.

  • @GodsMan500
    @GodsMan500 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +378

    Guys, here’s a free nugget of practical wisdom for you:
    When she acts up or misquotes you or acts bratty, say the ONLY thing that they respond to:
    “I do not accept that”.
    This phrase somehow stops them in their tracks and causes them to get out of the “my emotion must be reality)” mode and brings them into your rational mode. Try it guys, it works.
    “I don’t accept that.”

    • @user-kcrpine
      @user-kcrpine 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

      Not on all of them it doesn’t.
      Tread carefully.

    • @whocarescrapsa
      @whocarescrapsa 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +83

      LOL! I have been using "Not going to fly with me!". I prefer yours, sounds firmer and more serious. Will give it a go. Thank you. Also, when they are in that emotional state and accusing you of making them feel a certain way...I ask "What makes you say that?", "What specifically have I done to make you feel that way?". Or let's say they snap at you. You reply "Wow. You must have really had a bad day for you to speak to me like that! Anything I can do to make your day better?" Then watch the guilt.

    • @ChrisPTY507
      @ChrisPTY507 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Most women are like grown up kids. Adult body with the mind of a toddler.

    • @alexanderpetrov7027
      @alexanderpetrov7027 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Nice

    • @wethecaptainnow8111
      @wethecaptainnow8111 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

      This is good advice because it is simple and it short circuits the female npc brain like a record scratch and they have to seek out an original thought of their own. Not easy for them

  • @JohnSmith-qx8ll
    @JohnSmith-qx8ll 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +196

    Smart. Jordan Peterson touched on this topic as well, I think specifically how to deal with aggressive (masculine) women in the work place. The assessment was something like “If you beat them, you’ll be seen as a bully and will be hated by everyone, and if you lose to them you will be seen as pathetic and no one will respect you.”
    Best to always be stoic, indifferent, detached, calm, etc. No one but you should have power over you.

    • @Phoenix-Brah
      @Phoenix-Brah 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      _"No matter how friendly and obliging a woman’s Eros may be, no logic on earth can shake her if she is ridden by the animus. Often the man has the feeling - and he is not altogether wrong - that only seduction or a beating or rape would have the necessary power of persuasion. He is unaware that this highly dramatic situation would instantly come to a banal and unexciting end if he were to quit the field and let a second woman carry on the battle (his wife, for instance, if she herself is not the fiery war horse). This sound idea seldom or never occurs to him, because no man can converse with an animus for five minutes without becoming the victim of his own anima. Anyone who still had enough sense of humour to listen objectively to the ensuing dialogue would be staggered by the vast number of commonplaces, misapplied truisms, clichés from newspapers and novels, shopsoiled platitudes of every description interspersed with vulgar abuse and brain-splitting lack of logic. It is a dialogue which, irrespective of its participants, is repetead millions and millions of times in all the languages of the world and always remains essentially the same."_
      - Aion (1951), CW 9ii, § 29

    • @CeceliPS3
      @CeceliPS3 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      That sounds like 'avoid them because they have all the power no matter what' :/

    • @JohnSmith-qx8ll
      @JohnSmith-qx8ll 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      @@CeceliPS3 it’s not avoidance, it’s simply not getting emotionally involved aka maintaining frame.

    • @CeceliPS3
      @CeceliPS3 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@JohnSmith-qx8ll that's a generic thing. Plans shatter against reality. In a real world situation, if a woman attacks you in a work environment and gets social acceptance by her peers (also your peers), there isn't a "just don't be emotionally involved". Your actions that follow the drama will be perceived as you attacking or losing. You just need to be very precise in your attack so you don't come off as an emotionally underdeveloped chump.

    • @JohnSmith-qx8ll
      @JohnSmith-qx8ll 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@CeceliPS3 I completely disagree. You inadvertently enter that (incorrect & cringe) frame by even dignifying said people with an emotional response.
      You can call out the bad behaviour, enforce boundaries (especially useful is not attending after work events with colleagues, and using the Mike Pence rule) but remain professional and detached at all times.
      The options (and ensuing perceptions)are not only attacking or losing - there is a 3rd & higher option of simply not caring. It’s like an ant trying to kick a giant. It doesn’t even register. This hits them the hardest. Think of the classic Don Draper line “I don’t think of you at all”

  • @nowhere474
    @nowhere474 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    ALWAYS HOLD YOUR GROUND
    NEVER SIMP-OUT

    • @keypawn3024
      @keypawn3024 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      LOLOLOL

  • @lpd1snipe
    @lpd1snipe 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I've learned throughout my lifetime having been widowed and now divorced to not have any interactions with women whatsoever unless absolutely necessary. My life is peaceful now.

  • @Jai2ez
    @Jai2ez 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +112

    I love this channel so much. You give relevant and practical advice, articulated into a message that I can COMPLETELY absorb. Thank you, Dr. Taraban.

  • @ScottKlajicPHD
    @ScottKlajicPHD 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

    Just joined as a psychonaut. Keep up the good work.

  • @PulseCodeModulate
    @PulseCodeModulate 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

    What an insightful video! As a man I would have never guessed that removing all emotion from a man to woman conversation would be detrimental to the union. Having been married for 34 years our greatest struggle has been facts versus feelings.

    • @P.I.M.P.720
      @P.I.M.P.720 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      And for the next 34, it will be just that,(it's the nature of the beast, you just have to decide which battle and what strategy-pleezebelievit!!

    • @P.I.M.P.720
      @P.I.M.P.720 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      It's always on how you respond and not react.

    • @seekerofthemutablebalance5228
      @seekerofthemutablebalance5228 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I agree that the idea that when I'm communicating in a measured and controlled way is enough to set her off because it's not warm enough is both surprising and ridiculous

    • @PulseCodeModulate
      @PulseCodeModulate 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes, you understand and have been through the same old tired hoops. I guess some people need more stimulation to help them feel connected and alive. @@seekerofthemutablebalance5228

    • @PulseCodeModulate
      @PulseCodeModulate 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Well, she moved out 15 months ago so, my next love must pass the maturity test! @@P.I.M.P.720

  • @jjwilly13
    @jjwilly13 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    I've always been in relationships full of arguments and drama in the past. I finally realized on my own what you're saying about women and started being more mindful of what I think and say. I've been dating a woman for 6 months now and we've never had a fight. As long as I'm in control of my own thoughts and emotions and avoid conveying a negative tone, she reflects back the same positivity.

    • @VaronPlateando
      @VaronPlateando 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'd assume that being conducive to lack of polarity being registered, in mid-term at least. and I wouldn't bet on only such her 'reflection' either.

    • @TheeAnonymousTrader
      @TheeAnonymousTrader 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      So you mean women are not responsible for their actions,they give what we give?
      Then why are their friendships so fvcked up,what causes that?

  • @jerryrees1604
    @jerryrees1604 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    I had a relationship once where most conflicts that arose were handled with warmth and loving kindness. She was a tender woman and her way of being shaped me into a gentle person. She was the type of woman that had so much dignity, self-respect and inner beauty that the natural response to her was one of reverence. This is not putting a woman on a pedestal but recognizing something divine in the other and bowing to it.

    • @drewnolan96
      @drewnolan96 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Sorry but what ended up happening? Genuinely curious.

    • @julesvideoarchive
      @julesvideoarchive 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@drewnolan96wondering as well

    • @dobsok84
      @dobsok84 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Key word: had.

    • @boydw1
      @boydw1 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I was with a woman once who I thought exuded that kind of warmth, gentleness, and loving kindness.
      Down the line a few years I learnt the hard way that the mask of a covert narcissist can be very convincing!
      There were occasional hints that all was not as it seemed, but I'd already 'bought' the persona, and wrote them off as her "having a bad day", PMS etc... Nope - turned out there was something dark, selfish & ruthless underneath, which put me through a hell she'd pre-planned for me.

  • @nammi895
    @nammi895 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +251

    Although I'm unemployed, this is the only TH-cam membership I'm not removing just to support you sir 🙏
    Love from India, i don't have a gf but that's exactly how things escalate between my mom & me & bw/n dad and mom

    • @Avocadosimp
      @Avocadosimp 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      What you mean things escalated between your mom and you? Wtf

    • @taswibislam524
      @taswibislam524 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      ​@@Avocadosimpquarrels mate, platonic

    • @rouge49000
      @rouge49000 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Same in my family! Bangladeshi here

    • @vik8860
      @vik8860 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@Avocadosimphahahahahaa

    • @RajivB.
      @RajivB. 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@taswibislam524 bro I was so confused 🤣

  • @chipsteve
    @chipsteve 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    My last LTR ended when i verbally erupted in judgement & anger. She had lied & misrepresented herself for 6 months. I tried HARD to stay positive, constructive, & make it work til that point.

    • @Leonhart_93
      @Leonhart_93 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Hmm, no, why make it work exactly? When she lies it becomes impossible to tell how many other things she might be hiding from you, there is no trust.

    • @rally_chronicles
      @rally_chronicles 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      You did the right thing. She lied and misrepresented herself. All rules go out the window

  • @csmith9699
    @csmith9699 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Tone is crucial in any situation regardless of gender. Really important

  • @badgerapocalyps2546
    @badgerapocalyps2546 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +177

    It's easy to not fight with women; when she misbehaves break contact. She will either fix herself and come back, or double down on her toxicity. If the former that's a win for you, if the latter then maintaining no contact is still a win for you. Don't ever see it as a loss; that's the Universe's (or deity of your choice) way of telling you that you deserve better so don't fight it.

    • @stevenscott2136
      @stevenscott2136 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      This is what I've been telling young men for years. And the obvious corollary is "don't put yourself in situations where you can't walk away". Long road trips, for example.
      I didn't even like to ride in the same car to a restaurant or other "going out" venue, unless I knew the woman well enough to predict her behavior.

    • @johnpreston230
      @johnpreston230 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      but when you have kids, this is over, you can't walk away

    • @badgerapocalyps2546
      @badgerapocalyps2546 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@johnpreston230 you shouldn't have kids with someone who has such poor behavior (I know, easier said than done - I made this mistake myself). You can walk just make sure to take the kids, or make her leave.

    • @MVProfits
      @MVProfits 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yeah, true, very true, but much harder to apply if you live with her, have kids together, etc.

    • @neonix01
      @neonix01 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I did that with my ex. And each time I was accused of being emotionally abusive for giving her the "silent treatment" (for breaking contact, leaving, or exiting the argument), simply for taking care of my own mental health and preventing and not letting her make me loose it and go crazy. So even then some can and will throw shit at you.

  • @StardustMonkey
    @StardustMonkey 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    The first part is wisdom that many young men need to hear… if you are dating look for easy going girls that have positive hobbies and passions in their own lives. Then never ever get in the way of those outlets. Otherwise you may find yourself like I have before with a girl who has no positive hobby and instead looks to both the drama in the relationship life and you personally to make her less bored and less unhappy… the second part is very wise advice for all men of all ages! No matter who you are with… you need to realize she will look for your responses and reactions to show that you care but at the same time she is sniffing out weakness at all times. Men can never make the mistake of thinking they can confide their insecurities with woman… all woman will say that you can but the second you do you will lose respect and the relationship changes. If you get angry and irritated and let it show … instead of support you had hoped for you will often get the same thing back and doubled … right when you are the least capable of handling it.

    • @marktapley7571
      @marktapley7571 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Women-wives tend to let their emotions (anger) flare up whenever you need them to assist on fixing a problem.

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Also, you cannot tolerate her disrespect. If you do, she will double it.

    • @croneyr
      @croneyr 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Great advice. Thx

  • @furg
    @furg 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Soooo glad the algo finally gifted me your videos. Where have you been all my wife?

  • @stratelite1337
    @stratelite1337 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Bro, you are an absolute saint for helping your brothers out.

  • @MAMP
    @MAMP 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Man I want to give you a hug Orion.

    • @JohnSmith-qx8ll
      @JohnSmith-qx8ll 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      O’Ryan O’Taliban

  • @williammorson1535
    @williammorson1535 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Thankyou Thankyou Thankyou, I have been searching for this information for years, I have been failing time after time.
    I will implement this TODAY.
    Big Respect to you Sir.

  • @matthewtalks2970
    @matthewtalks2970 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    Your channel has already taught me so much! I am thankful for your teachings. I would like to tip in proportion but if I did that I won’t have any money at all. Cheers and have a great time!

  • @nathanrobertsofficial1524
    @nathanrobertsofficial1524 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +84

    Selection is 90% of a good relationship. I failed that part, but I tend to think my last relationship would have gone a million times better if I had known this one thing and accepted it. I look forward to a future conflict-free relationship.

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      One thing PsycHacks does not stress enough but very true (more important than being non-judgemental) is: women respect strong men and punish weak men. However, part of being strong (in the women's eyes) for a man, is having control over his own emotions. But the most important trait of a strong man is to be able to stay focused on his purpose, despite the woman's attempts to distract.

    • @Candlelight787
      @Candlelight787 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      He forgot to mention that 90 of dating is digging through trash trying to find a diamond in a pile of shit. And that diamond might not even be there.

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Candlelight787 Even if the diamond is there, most certainly there aren't enough diamonds for everyone.

    • @cosmictreason2242
      @cosmictreason2242 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Candlelight787 the trick is to find the diamond store and look there.

    • @Mereologist
      @Mereologist 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@rayrwyr And Jung would say, we keep stories as myths and retell them in modern entertainment because those stories speak to us. They remind us of what we know. They help define the world. And in myths, virgin women are always sacrificed to monsters. This is an essential female view of what it means to be in a relationship. As PsycHacks says in another video, men are controlled because in a sense they are dangerous animals. Men are taught this their whole lives - that they have strength and power and need to use it in a controlled manner. But the REASON the virgin is sacrificed in the myths is because she can calm that monster. And this is an essential female view of what success is in a relationship. The more monstrous a man is, the greater the woman's value is in taming him. So yes, being with a weak man suggests she is useless... and some women will even PROVOKE their men to prove that they are still monsters and to prove that they are still under control by not destroying them back. It all makes a kind of sense when you understand that stories.

  • @ContinueWithThatStatement
    @ContinueWithThatStatement 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    "Remove every hint of frustration and judgment from your voice, and you'll have a much easier time of things." Best quote thus far!!!!

  • @ShahidAshraf78
    @ShahidAshraf78 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Very well said. As a child I had read somewhere in my native language, Urdu, that roughly translates to; “always lose an argument with a woman”. Your video had me reflect and understand this phrase. The ultimate goal should be to find an amicable solution and not “winning” an argument. Thank you for explaining this in such an articulated manner.

    • @blandingscastle3729
      @blandingscastle3729 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Alternately, you could pretend to lose an argument with a woman like the way a father feigns injury and pretends to cry when mock fighting with his little son!

    • @onpoint2292
      @onpoint2292 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @blandingscastle3729
      That works until you have a public disagreement and the "fake" wins resurface. She'll talk to her female friends about how she's always right, and get a big ego. It's impossible to correct the record if she has gone around and vented to friends or family about how you're always messing up.

  • @andrewschultz5101
    @andrewschultz5101 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    It is utterly terrifying how perfectly you've outlined these issues. Equally terrifying is how consistently you do so. Love your work. Thank you so much

  • @Iililiillilllillllliiill
    @Iililiillilllillllliiill 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    This is so good content and relatable. At the same time, this all seems too much work just to curtail the woman flying off the handle. Women are just too much to deal with.

  • @AM-rl8lv
    @AM-rl8lv 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    This is actually a very important video! I find it difficult to understand how you can implement: checking a disrespectful moment with warmth and loving emotion. It sounds like a paradox, if you can see my point. Perhaps you can dedicate a separate video on this ;-) thanks for your great content!!

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Don't ignore your feelings of anger or such negative emotions. Use them to understand how you are feeling (i.e. acknowedge them) and make decisions based on them. But also remember PsycHack's advice about how you to interact with her. Convey to her your decision not to accept her disrespectful behaviour, without showing loss of control.

    • @Candlelight787
      @Candlelight787 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Because it's bunch of BS. Doctor O. got some good points but that's not one of them. Women need to learn that their runny mouth has consequences. If someone into appeasement and playfullness while being disrespected - that's their choice. I just replace.

  • @realBeltalowda
    @realBeltalowda 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    You illustrating what it sounds like to women when you remove all emotion from your voice was so good.

  • @Dr.Reason
    @Dr.Reason 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Got it. It’s like talking to your dog. As long as your tone is cheery and warm you can really read him the riot act… but you get the same response from dog or woman, a wagging tale of love but with no understanding or change in conduct.
    I guess the answer is to train them positively with cheese.
    No, seriously, this was truly some profound insight. Thanks

    • @KCtheSUNSHINE
      @KCtheSUNSHINE 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I love cheese.
      My boyfriend and I are both divorced. We communicate well. Sometimes we agree to disagree. Both of us value respect and no drama. Picking the right partner is key. I hate picking fights so I don't. But I also don't avoid the hard conversations. Neither of us is perfect.

  • @landry6788
    @landry6788 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    One of my favorite videos. Not only does it help with our relations with women, but it also teaches us self-reflection and self-control. Than you, Orion.

    • @1Whipperin
      @1Whipperin 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The King never argues with peasants.

    • @JAYSONGS
      @JAYSONGS 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Indeed!

  • @MLHarris2379
    @MLHarris2379 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    I totally get what you’re saying, I have fallen guilty of the tone issue as well as removing all emotion. It’s like damn is it even worth it to deal with these women, all these rules it’s like having a Gremlin 😂

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      If you find the relationship too hard, then you are with a wrong woman.

    • @MLHarris2379
      @MLHarris2379 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@rayrwyr yea I already know that I’m speaking in general and past experiences

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@rayrwyr but are there enough right women around for the average men? Probably not.

    • @cosmictreason2242
      @cosmictreason2242 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@nightmareTomek you must excel being average. Bad women are punishment for not excelling in virtue. It's God's way of waking you up so you repent of your sin

    • @Mereologist
      @Mereologist 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      If it makes you feel better, most women find men just as inexplicable and difficult to deal with at times. This is why a relationship should always be associated with work. It is seldom completely automatic. Both people involved are going to have to reach toward the other. Ignore it only if you are ready to lose it.

  • @successdtv
    @successdtv 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Nice video 👍! It has been appearing on my screen for a month, and finally today, I clicked to watch. ❤️

  • @davidb1312
    @davidb1312 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

    This needs a follow up episode. Examples would be great

  • @HumbleHonkingEnthusiast
    @HumbleHonkingEnthusiast 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +75

    I married a BPD woman and have had to learn these tools the hard way. The only way to not suffer is to not care what they have to say

    • @ChrisPTY507
      @ChrisPTY507 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Why would you marry a BPD woman? It’s far better to be alone and sexless than to deal with that unnecessary complexity in your life. Do you have low self esteem? Do you have scarcity mindset? Just wow…
      I see BPD, I run for the hills. Simple as that.

    • @markanthony2495
      @markanthony2495 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I hope you left or are on your way out. Don't do that to yourself.

    • @13sprintuser
      @13sprintuser 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      It’s sad that you have to not care about what your wife says. Having just left a relationship with someone with BPD and NPD traits, it’s tough. Sorry bud

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Definitely listen carefully what she has to say. But do that just to understand her emotion. Do not literally interpret her words. Men express with logic and rationality. So men's words can be literally interpreted. Women express with emotions. Understand her emotion. Disregard the actual words. Woman wants you to understand how she feels. Do not invalidate her feeling. Do not tell her feelings are nonsensical. Acknowledge her feelings non-judgementally. If she realizes that you got how she feels, she feels understood and she calms down.

    • @Leonhart_93
      @Leonhart_93 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      You married her knowing she had BPD before? In that case I can't offer you sympathy.

  • @CovidPapii
    @CovidPapii 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Dude is right. It’s all about being mindful. I really needed to hear this. Thank you my friend.

  • @deezworld2318
    @deezworld2318 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +85

    Relationship with a woman is too much work.
    The more i learn, the less i want. A wise man once said, "You can't love women, and understand them."
    At this stage, they need to start pleasing themselves.

    • @chipsteve
      @chipsteve 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      I'm in my 40s & found that perhaps you can both understand and love them SO LONG AS you steadfastly refuse to commit. Total non starter.

    • @johnpreston230
      @johnpreston230 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      yeah but how about passing your genes...

    • @deezworld2318
      @deezworld2318 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      @@johnpreston230 I have a thousand reasons not to have kids right now; war, inflation, housing, etc. "Woman" is only half of them.

    • @wayneswanson3294
      @wayneswanson3294 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      This: Women refuse to accept that they're responsible for their own happiness, and running around setting stuff on fire isn't working out well for anyone.

    • @threethrushes
      @threethrushes 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@chipsteveThis. I've been with my gf for eight years. I've only had to 'check' disrespect twice where I said I'd walk away quicker than she can finish her coffee - and that was in the first couple of years.
      p.s. never, ever say, 'I love you'. Demonstrate it through action instead.

  • @ALT3REDB3AST
    @ALT3REDB3AST 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    The level of zen required to deal with most women is exhausting.
    I've learned that I have only so much capacity for it. I understand it, again, I only have so much capacity before I'm worn out emotionally.

    • @ironxYT
      @ironxYT 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Agreed. I still think most women these days have gone too far down the feminism rabbit hole to be salvageable. Even when you’re zen and calm they still find ways to speak with an attitude or other insidious little digs, and it becomes a nightmare.

  • @ObstacleZone
    @ObstacleZone 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Makes sense, usually when I'm excited about something a woman will sound even more excited than I am.

  • @thefranticteacher2507
    @thefranticteacher2507 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Orion, you have given me more than many therapist in my life time have. Thank you.

  • @stephenatkins8973
    @stephenatkins8973 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Being able to bide your time to give yourself the best chance to respond to her adeptly is very important… it’s so difficult when you’re ‘in the moment’ to take your head out your ass… because you’re only thinking what you’re thinking and is very challenging to let go of that. But if you have a partner that’ll allow you 10-15 mins just to reflect and respond appropriately, you have a better chance of responding rather than reacting.
    This is a great channel and I really appreciate your content! Thank you and much love from uk 🇬🇧

  • @martialmusic
    @martialmusic 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is really subtle but is right on target. It Carrie’s with it much loss of spontaneity. Mindfulness of self presentation is work. When done eell it is called maturity.

  • @obits3
    @obits3 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    Arguing with women is like arguing with children. Women and children both seek out “reactions” from you. *Any* emotional reactions from you will likely enforce her behavior. Why? Simple. The opposite of love isn’t hate. The opposite of love is indifference. If you show indifference, it cuts the stimulus and response chain in their head, short circuiting whatever rant they were about to continue. Just like children, they may also escalate to provoke a response, but you should read that as desperation. If she’s throwing crazy words against the wall, you’ve won. Hold your ground until her mind realizes that the only path to reestablishing emotional connection is to calm down.

    • @EE12CSVT
      @EE12CSVT 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes, but women want emotional men. I have that warm indifference Dr Orion talks about, and when women realise they're not going to get a rise out of me, they're off, and depending on how I know them they get together with emotional men who I get to hear shout and scream back at them.

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      How to react to her emotional outbursts? Listen carefully what she has to say. But do that just to understand her emotion. Do not literally interpret her words. Men express with logic and rationality. So men's words can be literally interpreted. Women express with emotions. Understand her emotion. Disregard her actual words. Woman wants you to understand how she feels. Do not invalidate her feeling. Do not tell her feelings are nonsensical. Acknowledge her feelings non-judgmentally. If you she realizes that you actually got how she feels, then she feels understood and she calms down. So, men needs the skill to be empathetic.

  • @chanceofd
    @chanceofd 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I found myself laughing several times throughout this video because it applies to me in so many ways. The TONE!

  • @cicculata
    @cicculata 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This channel is one of the best if not THE best discovery ive ever made on yt lol

  • @sheriwilliams8942
    @sheriwilliams8942 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Respect is the Key to every interaction. People today lack Respect for themselves and for others.
    So Orion good luck in your career.....

  • @lucdrouin4653
    @lucdrouin4653 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    This video is one of the more farsighted I have seen in a long time. God, life would have been so much simpler for me if I would have known. Nothing is lost though, there are still relationships ahead for me. Thank you Orion! I will add that master seducers (and manipulators unfortunately) have probably mastered those skills to a very high degree; that is a reason why this video is connecting so many dots for me.

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Orion tells half the story. If a man takes Orion's advice and eats his anger and try to feel/act loving, he will fail and will become repressed. If a man takes Orion's advice, and becomes silent, or emotion-less, that will not yield good result. She won't like emotionlessness. If a man takes Orion's advice, and ignores his negative emotions (anger, dismay) and acts cheery, agreeable and compliant, she will think you are doormat, weak man, and she will lose respect for you.
      So how to react to her emotional outbursts? Listen carefully what she has to say. But do that just to understand her emotion. Do not literally interpret her words. Men express with logic and rationality. So men's words can be literally interpreted. Women express with emotions. Understand her emotion. Disregard her actual words. Woman wants you to understand how she feels. Do not invalidate her feeling. Do not tell her feelings are nonsensical. Acknowledge her feelings non-judgmentally. If you she realizes that you actually got how she feels, then she feels understood and she calms down. So, men needs the skill to be empathetic.

  • @leeninfxstb
    @leeninfxstb 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    We named my our son Orion, you have a great name! I've seen 2 of your videos now and find your content very beneficial so I'm now subscribed. Thank you for the great advice and incite!

    • @xpicklepie
      @xpicklepie 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I hope you gave that poor kid a middle name as an alternate in case he hates having an odd name. A standard middle name like "Mike" or "Steve" or even "Justin"....ya know....?

  • @Amlux1984
    @Amlux1984 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    100% agree on choosing the right person. I think watching your tone is good in all your relationships as well. Nice video essay.

  • @JBplumbing12
    @JBplumbing12 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Orion, this video is one of your best. I am sure it will help a lot of men, and women and families too.

  • @darceyrobertson6863
    @darceyrobertson6863 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    What a great message…good job to help everyone, Doctor. As a woman, this made me smile a lot.

  • @dls95405
    @dls95405 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I think it’s great advice, enlightening too, but beyond the ability of most of us guys to pull off. It requires incessant self awareness and self control. More than most of us can manage.

    • @rayabe
      @rayabe 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Agree 100%

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Orion tells part of the story. So how to react to her emotional outbursts? Listen carefully what she has to say. But do that just to understand her emotion. Do not literally interpret her words. Men express with logic and rationality. So men's words can be literally interpreted. Women express with emotions. Understand her emotion. Disregard her actual words. Woman wants you to understand how she feels. Do not invalidate her feeling. Do not tell her feelings are nonsensical. Acknowledge her feelings non-judgmentally. If you she realizes that you actually got how she feels, then she feels understood and she calms down. So, men needs the skill to be empathetic.

    • @justathinker8669
      @justathinker8669 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Especially when we already need to do 2 jobs to survive the house prices and inflation 😂😂😂

  • @thegeneralist7527
    @thegeneralist7527 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    This is your best video yet. I love the ancient wisdom of the Sun and Moon analogy. It is so damn true, not only of women, but of men and all people in general. We are apes that mimic the actions of others as a default. Only the higher human brain can overcome the default instinct. Its the curse, or the blessing, of mirror neurons. I have a wonderful relationship and my nickname for her is Beautiful. Whenever I speak to her I call her Beautiful, and whenever she speaks to me I use her pet name which is Babe. To me she is beautiful and a babe! We NEVER fight for a simple reason. I am ALWAYS wrong in any disagreement, especially if I am right I am doubly wrong, and I make a joke out of it. I have a whole skit about how I am always wrong. We just always know I am wrong in any disagreement. I can say anything I need to say, I just always admit I am wrong. If on the occasion I dislike whatever she is doing, all I do is cut back a little on the Beautifuls and Babes a bit. Women pick up on this way faster than men, and quite often she will do anything to get those Beautifuls and Babes back again. Her nickname for me is Gorgeous, lol! And she spoils me rotten. We are so lucky we have each other, and we tell each other that all the time. And I am wrong each and every single time.

  • @adamblackman6660
    @adamblackman6660 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I agree 100 percent! You just described a negative communication pattern I developed with my partner. She would get triggered by a minor annoyance in my voice, and i would gradually go into a robot mode to not emote and show annoyance. We eventually breakthrough to a heartfelt discussion with honesty at the center… all of this could be avoided by monitoring my tone. Subscribed!

  • @AlphaSideQuest
    @AlphaSideQuest 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

    Here's what I got out of this:
    1. Choose a good woman.
    2. Treat her well and don't dump any negativity on her.
    3. Be positively emotionally in rapport with her.
    Man, I chose the right woman with 2 significant relationships in my life, and had a mostly smooth and enjoyable time while I was with them. I chose wrong other times, and paid the price dearly. 90% of the game is choosing the right woman. The other 10% is not f**king it up once you've got her.

    • @rizztraininghamster
      @rizztraininghamster 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sadly point 2 and 3 won't work without first one. And first one need a lot of time

    • @mamadoom9724
      @mamadoom9724 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is the smartest comment I’ve seen in a relationship video. It goes both ways too. We women have to find the right person too, then constantly better ourselves by learning from our mistakes and disagreements to make the relationship last. Long term relationships take a great deal of self reflection and resolving to do better.

    • @csmith9699
      @csmith9699 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      AlphaSideQuest...teach Orion!

  • @PaulNolanofficial
    @PaulNolanofficial 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you so much for this. Having had a burgeoning relationship blow up in my face recently in a very fast way, where it went from 100-0 in like 30secs, this is very useful to allow me to examine MY ROLE in creating what happened, and understanding the other person’s response much better.
    Thanks for the excellent context, and for creating an opportunity for both constructive accountability and growth.

  • @MKristensen
    @MKristensen 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The art of being stoic, specially when dealing with woman. Men should learn this, I’m am teaching my son stoicism.

  • @bauchiwachau
    @bauchiwachau 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Great video - as always!
    (BTW: in German the moon is masculine and the sun is feminine: "der Mond", "die Sonne")

    • @josmo3997
      @josmo3997 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes, but also "manliness" die Männlichkeit is feminine and "feminism" der Feminismus is masculine lol

    • @TheKingofSteves
      @TheKingofSteves 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      In ancient Norse mythology the sun is a female, Sol or originally Sunna, and the moon is her brother, Máni.

  • @rickroye350
    @rickroye350 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I read exactly the same thing from an awesome book titled “Atomic Attraction” by a British psychologist Christopher Canwell. Masculinity is calmness and logic. I did just that from a marriage heading in the wrong direction…plus, LEADING…not telling her “in don’t care, honey, you pick what we have for dinner”, etc. I, uncomfortably, became a little selfish and use the words “I want” calmly and confidently…. She tested it for about a week, but, fell
    Right in line! This awesome doc is saying the same thing. The ladies look for a man to lead…lead them…prevent them from going over a cliff…women will never admit that is what they NEED and want but it is true. Stay calm and confident and answer her questions with what YOU think should be done. Defend it calmly…they love it!

  • @bumblebee8289
    @bumblebee8289 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    For the first time I've said no to a really disrespectful woman who became aggressive after one afternoon at the pub an a nice moment. She pursued me but it was the most empowering moment for me

  • @AndrewArchibald-q4e
    @AndrewArchibald-q4e 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Hands down most helpful advice with women I’ve ever heard. This explains so much. Please turn this into a series of possible!🙏

  • @sandlerfrancois666
    @sandlerfrancois666 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This Dude is a Baaaaaad Man. Damn. On point.

  • @orquideacastillonajera
    @orquideacastillonajera 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    So true, we sense the world by emotion's ❤

  • @SteveOnTheEastCoast
    @SteveOnTheEastCoast 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    These are wise words to the younger me...

  • @JuanJoseSoto-un9nd
    @JuanJoseSoto-un9nd 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    One of the best takes I've heard regarding how to navigate conflict. Thank you so much for always offering your perspective, Dr. Taraban!

  • @ThomasJTuhrdwatter
    @ThomasJTuhrdwatter 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I remember watching an episode of "Two and a half men", where the character Charlie, deescalated and defused female conflict with the phrase..."I understand". When the child, Jake, saw how well it worked for his uncle and dad, he started using it on his mother; it was absolute gold!....Women just want to be heard and understood....men just want peace and quiet...but not being a "simp"....🤔

  • @waldenmathews8059
    @waldenmathews8059 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Brought up as we are, this is hard. Because we are taught by example to oppose that which we don't like, rather than seeking a level of understanding that makes opposing and disliking unnecessary. There is a ton of communication coaching and listening skills aimed right at this problem, and yet it remains difficult and at times impossible. And it's hard to practice as well, because to practice requires us to be at least a bit triggered by her. And intention to reach a triggered state is self defeating (I cannot will myself to that state of mind). I was married for almost 30 years, and I remember on many occasions thinking "damn, I'm feeling 'against her' again," and wishing I wasn't. In a minority of those times, I could relax back into a loving acceptance. But mostly, I could not. Hard stuff to master, and I still haven't. Good video!

  • @burt2800
    @burt2800 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I've been slowly learning about this in my current relationship and what you say is SO true. I've had intimations about this but it's much clearer now. Thanks Orion!

  • @ebernaranjofeliciano2262
    @ebernaranjofeliciano2262 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    When women get emotional I just respectfully say I think is not the best moment to walk about the issue and I calmly and silently walk away.

    • @3leutheros
      @3leutheros 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Hmmmm this hasnt worked for me

  • @litjellyfish
    @litjellyfish 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Also what this is a great reminder of is that it’s not just women that are emotional. We guys are as well. Just differently.
    We often claim that we are so logical. But every time as you say we put emotion in our pose, tone or gesture. We are EMOTIONAL AS WELL.

  • @MostlyBuicks
    @MostlyBuicks 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

    I REFUSE to have the "whatever you say dear" or "happy wife, happy life" BS. I will NOT tolerate their "how I feel" over logic and reality. I would rather lose THEM than lose in a righteous fight. And I have lost many. As it shall always be.

    • @cosmicystn3626
      @cosmicystn3626 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      respectable✊✊✊

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      You are like me. Straight arrow. But it does not work with modern women who are all damaged.

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      There is an Interesting comment in this video. The commenter said he tells his wife he is always wrong in every argument. So, all fights are avoided. He calls her beautiful and babe nonstop. The way he controls her is by reducing the frequency of telling her beautiful and babe. She immediately detects it and then she fights hard (by being nice to him) to restore her flow of beautiful and babe from him.

    • @hughguys1183
      @hughguys1183 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@rayrwyr no it doesnt. what it does do though is open the door to viewing him as a pushover which is a turn off

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@rayrwyr Somehow every advice about relationships with women sounds like bullsh_t to me. I wonder if the commenters market value simply was way higher than his girlfriends. I'd be interested in seeing other men try this approach. Not me however, I just don't want to deal with women anymore.

  • @DHV-im4uz
    @DHV-im4uz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    that sun and moon metaphor is the most beautiful thing i've heard in a while

  • @artemioolivas5689
    @artemioolivas5689 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Yo providing some specific examples of a man responding to a woman with warm tone would be super useful toward the end of the video. Either way useful content as usual.

  • @guusvandermeulen7210
    @guusvandermeulen7210 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Men can (amplify and) reflect too.
    Giving women the same situation and emotion back helps women reflect on their own behavior.

    • @Youtubehandlesaresilly
      @Youtubehandlesaresilly 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      It’s also a good way to end up in jail if she gets angry.

    • @iamtheoffenderofall
      @iamtheoffenderofall 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So instead of being the better person....you're advice is to go down to their childish level?
      LOL....This is simp talk and behavior. Men wont heed anything you say.

    • @mamadoom9724
      @mamadoom9724 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Good luck with that 😅

  • @LuxeonAI
    @LuxeonAI 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is some brilliant advice, from top to bottom, no filler. Thank you sir, you've got a new subscriber.