how we got our baby to sleep through the night | baby sleep tips for the first year
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 31 พ.ค. 2024
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ALRIGHT y'all - this has truly been my MOST requested video of all time!! I finally sat down + wrote everything out about how we got our baby to sleep through the night in the first year! In this video I share my overall baby sleep tips that will help you and baby get much needed rest throughout months 0-12, as well as my tips specifically for baby sleep in the newborn stage, surviving the 3/4 month sleep regression and baby sleep in month 5 and beyond.
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Intro
00:00 Disclaimers
01:46 What does it mean to "sleep through the night"?
03:16 Our experience with night time sleep
04:48 What you can expect in this video
05:03 KEY baby sleep tips for 0-12 months
14:04 Baby sleep tips for the newborn stage
18:20 Baby sleep tips for the 4 month sleep regression
27:44 Baby sleep tips for babies 5 months and beyond
Although I'm by no means a baby sleep expert, I know what it's like to feel SO desperate for sleep again and so I hope our experience and the techniques that we used can help you sleep again too!
Regardless of how long your baby is currently sleeping at night, YOU are a great mom and you have a great baby. You will both get through this together! 🤍
BABY SLEEP RESOURCES:
Instagram pages: @takingcarababies, @babysleepdr, @seedsleep
Books: Babywise by Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam
Do you have another other sleep tips that worked really well for you and your baby?! Share them here for other new moms to try out 🥰
For the lovey, once we saw she realy liked hers, we bought two more of the exact same one and alternate :) just so that she has them for years if she needs it, and alternate so they get "old" at the same time haha. A little tip maybe i can add is that mom can sleep with the lovey before giving it to the baby for the first time so that our smell is on it 🥰 and at first i also would give it to her while i was breastfeeding her so she associate her lovey to comfort .. she always rubs the lovey in her face and sucks her fingers now when she suits herself to sleep, its the cutest 🥰
She is almost 8 months now and still sleeps in our room in her playpen 😬😬 because we just never finished her bedroom after moving in our new house ... we been putting it aside for too long .. Now we just need to put up curtains and set up the monitor in her room .. i am hoping the transition goes well ❤️ thanks for the video !
Don't have people over around the time that you want to settle your baby for a nap or night time sleep. You will get stressed and guests will have opinions that they feel they need to share. When baby is settling well, then you can have people over and settle baby before returning to guests. If baby stops settling well, or quickly or you begin to feel uncomfortable with any or specific guests being around when she is settling, suggest partner takes them for a wake while you settle baby or stop those visitors coming at those times.
Also, when you are having a period time when baby is not settling, stay upstairs but in another room, and occupy yourself for 5 minutes or so after baby stops crying and seems to have settled just to make sure baby is asleep and you can start your evening.
i’ve done (and still do) all of these things but my 11 month old only sleeps 5 hour stretches at most. just a reminder to those struggling: every baby is different! kudos to the mamas who have their baby sleeping all the way through the night! ❤
Hi! It was 3 months now, does your baby sleep more than 5 hours?? 🙏🏽
Same, also did all the things. My 10 month old still wakes up every 3 hours. On a rare night he will sleep for 5-6 hours straight.
I sometimes wake up in the night thirsty. Thankfully, I am an adult and able to get myself something to drink. Isn't that what everyone would do or would anyone think "oh, it's night time, so I will suppress my thirst and wait until morning"..? It is not true that there is a specific age at which babys don't need to be fed in the night anymore. It is even essential for their brain development to get nutrition whenever their body needs it, which can of course also be the case in the night.
If your baby sleeps 7 hours at 4 months age - that's normal. If your baby wakes every 2 hours at 4 months - that's normal. Babys are different! Ask around your friends and I am sure there will be a great variety about what he or she considers to be the perfect length of sleep at night. Babys are meant to wake up several times during the night. It's what secured their survival a long time ago. Babys don't need to learn how to sleep. They develop the ability to connect their sleep windows over time until they are able to sleep for a long stretch of time.
What age do they connect their sleep cycles?
@@alannasurian7365 That's individual for each baby. As I said above, some will sleep through the night at 4 months, some will still wake up several times at the age of six years. (by the way, adults also wake up several times during the night but they don't remember it)
THIS 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 also, be aware that a lot of what we learn about baby sleep in our western culture is based on our cultural expectations, NOT what is biologically normal for a baby/child. A baby wakes up in the night not only for connection, but also because it’s a survival instinct. Parents being close at all times = survival and protection. And they DO learn to sleep through the night eventually.
Can you revisit this video with baby #2 and how things were similar/different for him?
Great comment
She said in an Q&A that she no longer believe babies need to sleep independently to be great sleepers. She also said she finds what she did with her first baby got her great sleep but at the cost of attachment. Right now she is close to giving birth to her 3rd baby and she has been up all night to tend night wakings for both babies. Looks like a sleep regression that’s happening at the same time. It’s hard on her. She is such a strong mama! ❤
One thing I've been learning is that things that are a struggle today, may not be tomorrow. Almost every difficult thing has been a phase. Just keep doing the best you can
Yep! It’s like this for the rest of their lives ❤
Amen!! Currently snuggling my 3 week old and each day has its battles and no day is the same!
thank you very helpful
Im a first time mommy and surprisingly my baby is a good sleeper. As a newborn she slept for 4 hour stretches at night even though she wanted to sleep for longer, the first few days postpartum I Iet her wake up on her own but her doc said to wake her anyways babies need to eat every 3-4 hours. Then at her 2month appt she was 15 pounds so babygirl let go of the night feeding and sleeps through the entire night since. However whenever someone asks me of my experience as a mom and how well the baby sleeps I tell them about it and I always get some type of side eye or enviousness 😕 so I usually keep it to myself or change the subject
I do like that you recognize how their hunger can have a huge impact on skeep. Esp if underweight its not likely theyll sleep long stretches
Thank you, these are helpful tips, and soo encouraging.
This was incredibly helpful, thank you ❤️
This was so helpful. Thank you sis!
Your baby is clearly a unicorn baby. Mine is 6 weeks and we have NEVER had 6 hour stretches. I checked with multiple friends and they never had 6 hours either.
Oh! Don't worry about it. 6 Weeks is too soon to say that she is gonna sleep through the night. I've learned that until 3 months we should not try any method. Search for scientific articles on google scholar and you will see that. I have friend who tried a method like pick up/put down since the first day and her milk is gone at the same time her babies started sleeping by themselves. So, we need to be calm, and try to take the nap time with them to rest. My baby is seven mionths, breastfeeding, and i cannot control how much he drinks. He wakes up every two hours to be fed. That's hard, but I am happy with him. Good luck and congrats for your baby.
@@tamilinyvie4946 Thank you! She's 2 months today and we get maybe 5 hour stretches, but certainly not 6. Not trying any method for now, just patting them and hoping they sleep well!
A lot of this is baby personality! I took all the classes, read the blogs, and followed all the advice from the sleep training experts. And I have a 6 MONTH old who still doesn't sleep 6 hour stretches consistently. She's just too busy trying to learn new things! Lol 😂
@@maisg3513 ikr! we're 3.5 months in and mine is a curious little one who is more interested in exploring!
Thanks for saying it’s not typical and that you got the green light from your pediatrician. It’s very very important in the first few months to work with your pediatrician about skipping feeds and letting baby sleep. Our baby had hypoglycemia and if we skipped a 3hr feed his sugar would drop which can be very dangerous. At 4 weeks old we did not wake to one of the alarms and he went 5hrs and we still woke him up, he did not cry. When we checked his sugar it was low. His weight was fine and everything. By 2months his sugar was stable and now he goes 6-7hrs w stable sugars but we still have alarms at 3.5months. Each baby is diff and we can’t compare how long our babies should go without eating without making sure it’s safe w a Dr.
@takingcarababies is such a gift! Also love this colour shirt on you!
What would we do without her?! And thank you 🥰
I love your videos so much Beth
we took the babysleepdr course and has worked well for our 4.5mo old! Naps we are still working on but night time sleep is great now!
SUCH A CUTE BABY
Im so ready for my first to be here :) due sept 4th. Your videos help me so much!
I’m so glad 🥰 so soon!! Congrats mama!
very helpful, thanks for making this! would love to hear how you do weaning to food too. Expecting my first and my gosh, there is so much to learn! haha
Thank you for taking the time to make this video, it was very informative. Could you please make a review of the Tripp Trapp highchair, since you've been using it for a while now? It seems nice, but is super expensive. I would really appreciate your perspective on it!
A fan is also kind of a white noise especially in summer.
You inspire me so much
This is so sweet - thank you 🥺🤍
Love your videos!!! What kind of sleep sack did you use during the 2-4 month old ages?
Funny this video pops up in my recommendations when my daughter just had her first 7 hour sleep stretch :)
Hooray!! Best feeling 🎉
Hi Beth, thanks for such a helpful video! When you say awake windows are you referring to the time between the end of a feed and being put back to bed or is the wake window inclusive of the feed time?
Hi Keziah! Wake window is inclusive of the feeding time - it’s the entire time between when your baby wakes up from a nap and goes down for another. :)
Currently holding my 5 week old and I’ve been trying to get her to nap for 5 hours 🙃 I can’t wait for this to get better lol
I remember those days - Viv had so much fomo and would stay awake through anything some days 🙃 it will get better, I promise!!
I promise it gets better… I just hit 10 weeks with my baby and I promise it gets better 🙏🏼
Did you formula feed or introduce baby cereals at some point? I feel like these are often big contributers to babies sleeping through the night Vs not.
Thank you so so much for this great video with all these amazing information!!!!!
Thank you for watching!! 🥰
I feel like the 3-4 month developmental leap had lasted the full two months for us. I didn't start good sleep habits until last week, though, unfortunately. On the bright side, baby can fall asleep independently now! Still mostly taking short naps and is waking waaaaay too much at night, but I think we're on the right path.
It was a solid 5 weeks for us 🤪 such a tough stage but thankfully it will become a distant memory soon enough! So exciting that you have baby falling asleep independently, that's a huge win! 🙌🏻
My 4-month-old still wakes up every 2 hours 😅😅😅
Hello,thank you for the very useful video! May I ask about the Lovee, bunny for sleep? Can you please give a link? Thank you, wish you all the best!
Mine is 10 weeks and finally sleeping 5-6 straight at night. Still struggling with naps though.
My 12m old still doesn’t sleep that long yet
How do just put the baby on the crib for sleep themselves? I mean do you do something like talking to them or touch them or do you just leave the room?? I don’t get that
How do you put them to sleep awake when I have to hold her upright for thirty minutes or twenty after feeding?
Literally my dilemma! 😅
when you mention you didn't do contact napping of co sleeping, did you have her in your bedroom in a bassinet in the early weeks or was she in her own room in a crib? halfway through my pregnancy now :)
We had our first in a bassinet by our bed in our room for the first 3 months! But for the first few weeks I did do contact naps.
I'm not sure where you're based but in Australia the safer sleep guidelines (for SIDS reduction) recommend the baby sleeps in the parents' room for at least the first six months, but preferably the first twelve months. We'll personally be trying to do the whole year (or even longer), but we'll see how we go once she actually arrives. 😊 We don't have a huge bedroom but fortunately it's big enough that we should just be able to fit a full size crib along the wall once she outgrows the bassinet (we may even just see how we go starting out in the crib)-I know some parents are forced to transition earlier because they just don't have the space.
My 3 months old could sleep through the night for at least 10 hours.. Is it okay?
Has she revisited this later and maybe with her second child?😊
My baby at 8 weeks old has slept 7 hours in the row, Right now is 3,5 and sleeps from 7 to 10 h in row :)
What are your advices? 😊
Yea… my baby is 2 1/2 months still waking every 2hrs
I think its to early at 4 months to let a baby sleep alone in a other room😢. They havent developes object permanence.
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Actually R. Oerter & L. Montada suggest in their 2002 paper that babies develop object permanence at around 3.5 months of age. :)
Mine didnt sleep an entire night till 3 😂😢
Do you dream feed a newborn? Or are newborns strictly having to eat every 2 to 3 hours through the night?
Our baby has slept 12 hours through the night every night since she was 8 weeks old. We implemented a night time routine at 4 weeks and it just worked so well for her. She's now 6 months old and we've never experienced a sleep regression.
Can you please share your tips?
@yennietangie consistent bedtime routine every night. So bath at 530 bottle at 545 and down to bed at 6pm. Put baby down awake so she knows where she is. White noise, dark room. We've always had her in her own room, not in with us. Research awake windows during the day as well.
No dummy, no comforters etc. If she ever wakes at night she knows where she is and puts herself back to sleep 👍
@ellegreen4492 did you lay your baby down awake at 4 weeks? I have a four week old, they’re in their own crib in the nursery, no dummy etc., but I do lie him down asleep after nursing. If he’s awake when I lie him down he fusses.
@Khud-ex9mk yes we put her down sleepy but awake. Do what you need to do, it just worked for us. By the sounds of it you're doing all the other things, I bet you'll end up with a great sleeper too!
i'm a nervous future mom (in a couple of weeks now!). I just wanted to know....is it really ok to have that bunny in bed with her? i heard that you shouldn't put toys in the crib. i hope im just being over vigilant....cause...yea, the bunny is so cute and im sure it is a great comfort.
We only started to put a blankie in her crib at like 10 months (and still not all nights). I didn't really notice a difference in the beginning either way, a small baby doesn't really 'cuddle' with a stuffed animal (or well at least our baby didn't) so I wouldn't do it either. It's because they can't move properly, or roll away or anything when they can't breathe properly.
Experts recommend do not put anything in their crib in the first year. You have to talk to your doctor also what he recommends for your child.
@@Suissemylife Here they say 7 months, either way, we are still very careful and she's 12 months. Better safe than sorry.
I was looking to see if anyone else asked this! I double checked and it’s not recommended till 12 months here too
But can this work if you exclusively breastfeed?
nice video but needs to be more structured ! i didn't really understand the steps one by one
Drowsy what does it mean? Break reliance
Self soothing
Rocking you
Outline
Every baby is different. What works for her might not work for you. Sorry to sound negative but it is true.
34 mins! We are moms with not much time. Please keep is short and sweet.