Why 20-Year-Old Says She Broke No Contact Order With Ex-Boyfriend

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  • Parents say they don’t understand why their 20-year-old daughter stays in an abusive relationship.
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  • @matthew1306
    @matthew1306 3 ปีที่แล้ว +857

    To every woman, if a man makes contact with you in any way that is abusive, harmful, disrespectful, sexually immoral or malicious, he’s not a man. He’s a coward.
    Let him go. You deserve better. 🙏🏽
    Praying for this young girl to see that truth.

    • @carriefawcett9990
      @carriefawcett9990 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Nice to hear a young man standing up and saying that. Kudos to you💞🤗

    • @haileylindernyasha4918
      @haileylindernyasha4918 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      thank you mr matthew

    • @michelleMc2024
      @michelleMc2024 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Well said, Matthew. No one should put their hands on a partner ever. Glad to see this comment.

    • @shadowmonsterentertainment3413
      @shadowmonsterentertainment3413 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Facts but don't act like women don't ve wrong alot lie about getting abused. Don't be a simp a toxic person is a toxic person woman or male lol

    • @matthew1306
      @matthew1306 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@shadowmonsterentertainment3413
      Well it should be known to you then that I was in a previous relationship prior to the one I’m in now, with a woman that was abusive towards myself. And I did the same thing as I’ve said above: I let it go. We all deserve better.

  • @dorandacolbert5973
    @dorandacolbert5973 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1164

    Self-esteem is built at home. These parents are looking for a scapegoat. The boyfriend is guilty too, but he didn't start it. Her parents have taught her to expect and accept abuse.

    • @amandagarcia6320
      @amandagarcia6320 2 ปีที่แล้ว +109

      The Mom looks like she gets abused on the daily. Damn.

    • @asiamonyoi
      @asiamonyoi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      I agree. Somethings off.

    • @tierajohnson1556
      @tierajohnson1556 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Facts

    • @marquishacovington4610
      @marquishacovington4610 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      Stop blaming parents because my sister was going through the same thing and my mom never taught her it was ok so stop thinking everything starts at home no it doesn’t at all

    • @tierajohnson1556
      @tierajohnson1556 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      @@marquishacovington4610 I don’t think she’s blaming parents, she’s stating that it starts at home which is true. In this situation that’s what it was .. with your sister it started with some other person. Pray that she gets the mental help & realizes she deserves better.

  • @mikelyn1035
    @mikelyn1035 2 ปีที่แล้ว +649

    You can tell them parents are no good, they are putting on a good act and I can see right through them.

    • @saetae9208
      @saetae9208 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Facts

    • @asiamonyoi
      @asiamonyoi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      I’m thankful someone sees it.

    • @CeliniacForLife
      @CeliniacForLife 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Exactly! The boyfriend is 100% telling the truth. He’s not the villain they want him to be.

    • @travet1000
      @travet1000 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Agreed!! The father seems a little off and too calm. What's they bring in religion that is where it gets scary.

    • @mouradahmed5611
      @mouradahmed5611 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      This comment section is helarious

  • @iamjoelle1556
    @iamjoelle1556 2 ปีที่แล้ว +420

    Shes actually just telling them what they want to hear and not what she feels.. the reality is she got the protective order to appease her parents. And thats why it's not being followed. You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. And its very apparent she doesn't want their help. That's why she's not being as honest on stage as she was with the therapist. And as he pointed out. They don't really talk about the issues and resolve them, they just get swept under the rug. Something more is going on within the family and until its resolved or she gets fed up, she's going to continue to run back to her abuser. Because he is to some degree providing an environment that at times feels like a safe haven for her, something her parents are not doing.

    • @justinange4773
      @justinange4773 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Agree Phil not even helping the situation it’s just one sided bs but it doesn’t make sense how he is not putting accountability on the family

    • @NoboDy-im2jz
      @NoboDy-im2jz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Period

    • @Cancerblk2
      @Cancerblk2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      i think only time can help her.... 10 years from now she'll be a different person

    • @nataliei.4114
      @nataliei.4114 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I agree 100%

  • @ava.444.
    @ava.444. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +410

    i feel like her father is also manipulative. he seems very careful with his words and i dont think hes any better than her ex boyfriend. she goes back to him the same way she does with her father, they both harass her in some way and she goes right back as her father taught her without even realizing it.

    • @Catiting33
      @Catiting33 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      So being protective and articulate is manipulative?

    • @Catiting33
      @Catiting33 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Richard Ramsawh how do you know he was abusive?

    • @stinky9703
      @stinky9703 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @@Catiting33 because his daughter said it to her ex boyfriend, and the father didn't deny it

    • @Catiting33
      @Catiting33 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@stinky9703 did you watch the entire show?

    • @stinky9703
      @stinky9703 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@Catiting33 is the accusation debunked at all?

  • @eden9977
    @eden9977 3 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    Nobody can help this girl until she helps herself and takes a long hard look at her self in the mirror.

  • @ia1n673
    @ia1n673 3 ปีที่แล้ว +473

    Phillip decided to turn the comments on 2 years later🤦‍♂️

    • @drainzs
      @drainzs 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Why lol

    • @codstreef5206
      @codstreef5206 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      LMAO

    • @thatonedude5794
      @thatonedude5794 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Girl gets sexually abused
      This guy : why did he just now turn on comments?

    • @samking7916
      @samking7916 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@drainzs he turned on all the comments for his old videos because comments bring in revenue. More comments = more money.

    • @drainzs
      @drainzs 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@samking7916 smart

  • @dayedreamer4506
    @dayedreamer4506 3 ปีที่แล้ว +816

    Daaaaaaaaaaaamn Phil! You straight put her on blast! "You were intimate with him last night right?" LMAO

    • @mirandafrank3829
      @mirandafrank3829 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      😂😂😂😂

    • @jollyrancher9016
      @jollyrancher9016 3 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      She's a waste of time. She'll always pick a guy like him.

    • @prettyworld703
      @prettyworld703 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      She maybe like Bad Guy so she love it and dont care

    • @CollinDC51
      @CollinDC51 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeah dr Phil dose a good job

    • @RemyAlphaElite
      @RemyAlphaElite 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Yeah, girls like her are a dime a dozen. I've seen that stupidity time after time. She's infatuated with a pretty boy that has a false charm about him but deep down he's a waste with NOTHING to offer.

  • @sds6303
    @sds6303 3 ปีที่แล้ว +807

    The bf is a narcissist. Entitled, lacks empathy, anger outbursts, is charming, projects, etc. It's the classic cycle of abuse. She has low self esteem, she thinks he's going to change. He never will. He's cunning, charming, manipulative, she falls for it everytime.

    • @nicki4905
      @nicki4905 3 ปีที่แล้ว +70

      she is no better than him....she is just as toxic....talk about the daughter and how she keeps going back!

    • @missmew3499
      @missmew3499 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      @@nicki4905 if you don't know about abusive relationships, or have never been in one, please be quiet. It's a cycle, and these types of relationships are like a bad addiction. Simply put, you love the high, but hate the low. You think they're the "nice" them, but they're not. You think they'll change, and that their apologies are honest and heartfelt. You want to believe them. It's so hard to get away from an abuser, BUT when you do, it's a feeling of freedom that only someone who has been there understands.....

    • @killedbyshrek5109
      @killedbyshrek5109 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      And a douche

    • @cynthg9547
      @cynthg9547 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@nicki4905 oh yes let's defend the psychopath narcissistic boyfriend sounds like you like these type of men must be crazy if you like these kind of men

    • @cynthg9547
      @cynthg9547 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@nicki4905 yeah this girl crazy too

  • @Jayson_Tatum
    @Jayson_Tatum 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    She's such a beautiful young lady but I can tell that she's conditioned to find comfort in the cycle of domestic abuse. It's scary to see cases like this. Wish her the best in mental health recovery.

  • @johnfairweather9188
    @johnfairweather9188 3 ปีที่แล้ว +729

    She takes no responsibly for her own actions. She is an immature child.

    • @iaintscaredofyoumfs3030
      @iaintscaredofyoumfs3030 2 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      No, stop giving her an excuse. She's a sneaky, manipulative young lady.

    • @johnfairweather9188
      @johnfairweather9188 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@iaintscaredofyoumfs3030 You’re right. What was I thinking?

    • @blaccookie9238
      @blaccookie9238 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@johnfairweather9188 true what were you thinking im reporting you for verbal abuse

    • @skzfan4036
      @skzfan4036 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@blaccookie9238 ..... what

    • @vibindoge8015
      @vibindoge8015 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      facts

  • @TB-fk4qm
    @TB-fk4qm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +144

    If a young lady is raised in an abusive relationship at home... chances are she will fall in love with an abusive relationship 💔

    • @jazzyjaz0105
      @jazzyjaz0105 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wow 😯

    • @nme.8473
      @nme.8473 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Untrue.

    • @esthersalim7929
      @esthersalim7929 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Not true...we tend to be very careful, overprotective and hard to fall into a relationship... This is just a stubborn and stupid girl

    • @seimela
      @seimela 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Like the pastor's son will be a pastor right? Is that your logic?

    • @emekabronson8697
      @emekabronson8697 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Facts

  • @heylowe5381
    @heylowe5381 2 ปีที่แล้ว +137

    She so in love with this guy that she can’t help but go back to him. She’s addicted to him.

    • @nilokzhimo8560
      @nilokzhimo8560 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Guy had big pp

    • @heylowe5381
      @heylowe5381 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @Richard Ramsawh It’s toxic love

    • @dins5066
      @dins5066 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@heylowe5381 BBC. Boy can lay pipe

    • @user-ti5om4zs4o
      @user-ti5om4zs4o 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      She's not in love. She is affected by her trauma. It's called Stockholm syndrome and it's an abnormal sort of behaviour.

    • @AR777bomb
      @AR777bomb 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nilokzhimo8560 misa mishi nakobi

  • @capncrunch5729
    @capncrunch5729 3 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    Something's off. I just know it

    • @jodihearne5597
      @jodihearne5597 3 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      Right! As a fellow female, she look and sounds very manipulative and trying to play the victim without taking any accountability for her choices and actions

    • @peniroqica9005
      @peniroqica9005 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      That's not the truth story she's long cause if she tells the truth her parents are gon kill her like literary and blame it on the bf

    • @___XY____________0
      @___XY____________0 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Honestly they’re all crazy. Including the boyfriend and father

    • @___XY____________0
      @___XY____________0 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      The thing that annoys me is how everyone is mad at the bf and defending the father, as if he done nothing wrong, because he was talking in such a low quiet voice. Like if your gonna get mad at the bf fine but get mad at the father too.

  • @Mari-it2de
    @Mari-it2de 2 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    Clearly she’s not afraid of dying and maybe it’s bc she feels like she has no purpose of living! These are the times ppl, especially young women need to be around love and not be ridiculed

    • @legendkillersshittyduffleb932
      @legendkillersshittyduffleb932 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Men need to be loved as well it's very frustrating for us as well. Hope she gets help

    • @deathgala7128
      @deathgala7128 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Maybe she should have dated a nice guy. She deserves everything she went through and worse. Toll paid. That’s what she gets for dating a “N”

    • @dl5014
      @dl5014 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@deathgala7128 females don't ever want a nice guy. They think bad boy narcissists are real men because of how they pretend to be...and it has nothing to do with race. She could've met a white bad boy narcissist as well..and you can tell the black bf is white washed & raised in the suburbs 😆

  • @Saleigh
    @Saleigh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +144

    Bec she is a abused victim they are stuck believing it’s love when it’s not

    • @lydiabiwld4425
      @lydiabiwld4425 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      in no way are they equal. he abused her! don’t be so stupid.

    • @jamilet4490
      @jamilet4490 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@lydiabiwld4425 she has a choice to leave him, as much as I hate him for what he did to her, she doesn’t do what’s best for her :(

    • @laflame214
      @laflame214 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @Jay Hayhay you don't understand how hard it is to leave when ur being abused most of the time your mind tells u that ur okay and you're not being abused

    • @haniyab2237
      @haniyab2237 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      What are you people talking about she has an opportunity to distant herself from him, a restraining order, she chooses to see him, it's her fault she is responsible for herself, and I believe that she calls him a lot to hangout.

    • @MsParamore2009
      @MsParamore2009 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@laflame214 or that you’re nothing and he’s the best she will ever have and shes nothing without him....and she will believe it.

  • @jollyrancher9016
    @jollyrancher9016 3 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    I don't know what the parents are mystified about. She thinks he's the most handsome man to ever live and he does too. That's the reason this abusive relationship has lasted as long as it has. It's pathetic.

    • @malknoxxx
      @malknoxxx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      For real!🤝🏽

    • @DawnMartinOfficial
      @DawnMartinOfficial 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Must agree, HE IS HANDSOME!

    • @keigos3ggsual412
      @keigos3ggsual412 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@DawnMartinOfficial hes ugly tf u mean-?😃

    • @ktarik-lakrichhhh5836
      @ktarik-lakrichhhh5836 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@keigos3ggsual412 you must be delusional from weebing over fictional drawn characters. He is attractive. He’s just a terrible person.

    • @kofizayn6077
      @kofizayn6077 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@keigos3ggsual412 Actually he has a look girls would love and he isn't even ugly at all lol you have been watching and loving too much anime and fictional characters lmao 😁😁😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @ChatterBoxBran
    @ChatterBoxBran 3 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    Y’all keep saying he abuses her like she is innocent. Both are victims and both are abusers. This relationship is a mess and is dumb

  • @patriciaperry7606
    @patriciaperry7606 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The mother is absent !!!????? Hello mom?!? Will you engage ?

  • @waterurplants3767
    @waterurplants3767 3 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    he’s a narc and she’s stuck addicted to his cycle of love bombing and degradation. she has low self esteem and is so in love w the idea of him that she won’t leave unless she gets some serious psychological help asap. it’s so easy to get sucked back into what the narc says, i know this from firsthand experience. i wish her all the best

    • @shelbyjensen9497
      @shelbyjensen9497 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This was my first thought. Definitely a narcissist.

  • @jaylamonique4391
    @jaylamonique4391 3 ปีที่แล้ว +545

    This situation is both sided... She abuses,stalks just as much as him! Both isn’t good but don’t just blame HIM blame THEM!!!!!!

    • @notslick6676
      @notslick6676 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Fr

    • @tampaphone99
      @tampaphone99 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Ok friend of or relative of abusive man

    • @billyjoe8185
      @billyjoe8185 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      agreed, they're just running in circles

    • @envy8699
      @envy8699 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      @@tampaphone99 the girl is abusive too lol, tf u on about

    • @jordanbabin
      @jordanbabin 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@envy8699 How is she abusive? Lol she's a victim of a manipulative abuser

  • @scobar4651
    @scobar4651 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Why aren't they investigating the allegations of abuse that started at home more? Does she return to him or does she run away? Both parties might be as harmful to her

    • @markanderson7833
      @markanderson7833 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Because it didnt happen.

    • @cherryrussell7648
      @cherryrussell7648 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@markanderson7833 he's meaning she's either running away from something or running to something repeatedly

    • @crabb9966
      @crabb9966 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Honestly I feel like the boyfriend isn't as bad as he is presented to be. She is abusive and if he decides to be abusive then I think it's not at all as bad as abusing her for no reason. If you lock someone up in prison for nothing or if you lock someone up in prison for murder.

  • @indimist390
    @indimist390 3 ปีที่แล้ว +729

    Lol yhis guy reminds me of austin mcbroom

    • @sadyeshua4512
      @sadyeshua4512 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I don't see it

    • @esmo915
      @esmo915 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yessss

    • @Starlovii27
      @Starlovii27 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Not all mixed men look alike. comment is ignorant

    • @ourworldneedsfaith
      @ourworldneedsfaith 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      @@Starlovii27 get lost

    • @sillysj32gonzalez70
      @sillysj32gonzalez70 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @Indi Mist he does look like that jerk Austin mcbroom !!!!

  • @Rakuziio
    @Rakuziio 3 ปีที่แล้ว +192

    Alternate title: Two kids play house gone wrong.

    • @ThePoeticPriestess
      @ThePoeticPriestess 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Um no that's stupid don't make a joke of domestic violence grow up

    • @Rakuziio
      @Rakuziio 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@ThePoeticPriestess Stfu Karen.

    • @artemis477
      @artemis477 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@ThePoeticPriestess You can make a joke about anything, especially something offensive. Humour is supposed to be offensive, it makes light of dark times and makes them easier to manage. Unfortunately, people like you can't handle these jokes.

    • @samuraixyuk
      @samuraixyuk 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@ThePoeticPriestess yeah stfu Karen

    • @tucker8071
      @tucker8071 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@ThePoeticPriestess shut up Karen.

  • @carla5165
    @carla5165 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    It’s the cycle of abuse… that’s why it’s called a cycle. Typically women don’t leave a man until she’s decided to leave and it can take up to 7-8 attempts at leaving to actually leave. There’s a lot of mental abuse and physical abuse that goes into being in an abusive relationship.

  • @jameshayes9711
    @jameshayes9711 3 ปีที่แล้ว +91

    i dont know why this guys voice sounds so smooth and nice lol

  • @martymcfly1833
    @martymcfly1833 3 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    This is a very good father. Well spoken. Strong.

    • @slikbac6656
      @slikbac6656 3 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      No such thing as a good parent on dr phil bro

    • @gage8787
      @gage8787 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@slikbac6656 facts

    • @Illusionsdnan
      @Illusionsdnan 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@slikbac6656 LOL

    • @capncrunch5729
      @capncrunch5729 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@slikbac6656 lol

    • @dab1438
      @dab1438 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Watch the other videos, the father literally abuses/abused her growing up, it definitely explains why she keeps coming back to the bf

  • @sandhita_agarwal
    @sandhita_agarwal 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    People who have never been in abusive relationships can never understand how difficult it is to leave, to accept that the abuser can never change, to accept that the good times never make up for the bad , and to not feel guilty for leaving someone like them. Moreover, trauma bonds. It s more complicated than just picking up the bags and leaving. I just escaped an abusive relationship and I cannot tell you how difficult it was. whenever I would feel weak or sad,I would just want to run back to my abusive ex, fully aware that even when I was in the relationship he was never emotionally supportive. It s crazy.

    • @AR777bomb
      @AR777bomb 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well it's been 6 months, do you still feel that way?

    • @sandhita_agarwal
      @sandhita_agarwal 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@AR777bomb I can't tell you how much I have changed, in the best way possible..i no longer feel weak and hopeless..i feel alive for the first time in many years! It s an incredible feeling..i am working towards the things that I want..my ex used to make me feel ugly and worthless..i feel soooo beautiful and happy 😁 thanks for asking..it s been amazing.

    • @AR777bomb
      @AR777bomb 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sandhita_agarwal wow that's really good to hear. And yes you are very gorgeous! I hope you find the right person for you and have a happy life.

    • @CopperPriestess
      @CopperPriestess 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Are you still doing okay?

    • @sandhita_agarwal
      @sandhita_agarwal 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I have never been happier! I can't believe how happy I am and I feel sooooo free. I have started my own little startup where I am building a mobile app designed to help people identify their toxic behaviours and get rewarded for positive mental health habits. I now have such amazing self awareness that I can quickly understand when I am regressing back to my former patterns. This usually happens when I am around my narcissistic relatives. These are the people who created these patterns in my life since childhood. But ya it's been amazing and very, very difficult for sure. The rewards have been worth it. 😁😁😁 I want others to find that freedom and self-love I have discovered for myself. I used to absolutely hate myself but now I love myself and understand almost every nook and cranny of my mind.

  • @GodBlessGodBless1227
    @GodBlessGodBless1227 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I would not be on Dr. Phil as her parent. I would be in jail and that BOY, in the ground. Period.

    • @Imbored-wx8fj
      @Imbored-wx8fj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      why have you written boy like that? You racist?

    • @TILF4LIF3
      @TILF4LIF3 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Imbored-wx8fj is boy racist he didn’t even use BOI and you tripping! Lmao no cap you a goofy 😂

  • @bathingapes112
    @bathingapes112 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Everyone is getting at the parents but this lady is 20 years old. She’s responsible for her own self honor, her parents can’t fix it! She even says at the end that her parents taught her everything right and valued her.

  • @mike47734
    @mike47734 3 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    Imagine ur daughter bringing home an animal like this? Someone who hits her, has zero respect for her, no respect for the parents, and is probably gonna knock her up and leave her and is probably gonna be too much of a bum to pay child support or even make a couple hundred dollars a week. People like him are all like this..smh.

    • @a1exis.
      @a1exis. 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wait they have a child together?!

    • @goebor2422
      @goebor2422 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      And then she just goes right back and gets so mad and destroys his car he actually got help for his anger management she needs help too

    • @bigasianadam_9350
      @bigasianadam_9350 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      This argument is so flawed she has done ABOUT as much as the male did, he takes accountability to his actions, the woman on the other hand is also the one in fault, she is the one to run from protecting to go to the one there protecting her from, and yet she gets light work and still is treated better it’s just sexist

    • @TheChoralist
      @TheChoralist 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      && she's with another guy and knocked up at this very moment 😂😂 she's toxic too and good for nothing trash 🗑️

  • @badfish5447link
    @badfish5447link 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    did he really just say his daughter was going to kill herself like it was a fact? why would you encourage that belief in someone who is suicidal, I just can't see myself ever saying that to my child or to anyone else.

    • @hannahalvarad0
      @hannahalvarad0 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I don’t think he’s trying to encourage it, he’s probably more so trying to nail in the fact that the relationship is toxic and that they fear greatly for her well being.

    • @UserName-nx1gz
      @UserName-nx1gz 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@hannahalvarad0 no shut up he's encouraging it

  • @mizzdizz8140
    @mizzdizz8140 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    she's not innocent

  • @nosferatualucard3386
    @nosferatualucard3386 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    To me, it seems that she's an obsessive girl. When he left her, why she continued to search for him if he's abusive? They have a restraint, why she slept with him tho? Somethigs fishy here, either she plays the vicitim and doesn't want to take responsibility, or she is not okay with the head.

  • @skylynnkent2032
    @skylynnkent2032 3 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    As someone who's been in an abusive relationship, I kinda get it. When having someone tell you how much you deserve it all the time, you honestly believe it. She probably believes that she'll never fin

    • @leongxchx904
      @leongxchx904 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That she will never “fin”??

    • @UserName-nx1gz
      @UserName-nx1gz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@leongxchx904 lmao I'll fix it, 'that she'll never find a healthy stable relationship with someone who actually values her.'

  • @ryanmoore3876
    @ryanmoore3876 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Great interview, glad she's not blaming the parents who seem to be incredible ppl!! Is there an update on this story?

    • @juniorl376
      @juniorl376 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      They’re not💀

    • @TheRealMonkayy
      @TheRealMonkayy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@juniorl376 they are 💀

  • @markojones334
    @markojones334 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    She keeps going back because that’s what she’s used to. I can tell from her dad’s interaction that he is just as violent as the boyfriend is.

  • @tireongibson9795
    @tireongibson9795 3 ปีที่แล้ว +170

    Oh yeah. Look at the lost look in her eyes. NEXT. She looks just as crazy and slow as he does. Damn.

    • @cynthg9547
      @cynthg9547 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Crazy

    • @katies5537
      @katies5537 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Don’t you dare blame her for his abuse. NEXT on u.

    • @minoljayalath6539
      @minoljayalath6539 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@katies5537 why not

  • @serenarodriguez9803
    @serenarodriguez9803 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Iv been through this before. I was just like her when I was 15-17 years old. I was brainwashed I had the inability to think for myself and so does this girl. Luckily I was a minor so my mom took charge and made the right decision for me but she is an adult so I hope to God she finds her way out of it.

  • @hualni
    @hualni 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I really hope that girl's father is able to get alone with that miserable piece of trash, do what needs to be done, and have a bunch of alibi's where he cannot be charged with anything.

  • @A_Guarded
    @A_Guarded 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Her father is so wise... wish a had a father like that 😅

  • @chromeyy5310
    @chromeyy5310 3 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Her dads has a voice of a man who hasn't hit puberty🤣🤣🤣

    • @missmew3499
      @missmew3499 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I think his voice has that tone because he's trying his dam best not to go after the boyfriend (sitting a few feet away from him) who abuses his daughter. I give this father props. That's gotta be hard.

    • @Fee212
      @Fee212 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Gxnyy He's had polyps removed from his vocal cords a month beforehand.... You are mean and evil. Keep your insults to yourself until you see a need for them. As I just did.

  • @user-ld4xb5ns5c
    @user-ld4xb5ns5c 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    She needs to be educated about trauma bond and the addiction feeling as powerful as a drug addiction its the same feeling you have for the perpetrator

  • @lovebugsss3420
    @lovebugsss3420 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    why is everyone acting like he is the bad guy when they both abuse each other and stalk each other its not like he's just hitting her because he's abusive,they both hit each other multiple times when they were in the relationship

    • @YouTubechannel-dk8fw
      @YouTubechannel-dk8fw 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      bro ive been by a girl it doesnt hurt unless shes like in ufc and i ve been hit buy guy tbh i wouñd tske the girl hit

    • @joelmorgan190
      @joelmorgan190 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Bro the double standard lol😂😂😂😂

    • @lovebugsss3420
      @lovebugsss3420 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@joelmorgan190 BYE 😭🤚🏽

    • @lovebugsss3420
      @lovebugsss3420 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @severus Snape Lmao

    • @lovebugsss3420
      @lovebugsss3420 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Grace No he didnt

  • @sharlesehenfield4019
    @sharlesehenfield4019 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I don't believe that the father has physically abused her in anyway, but may have spoken to her in a rough way to get her to understand that the douche bag is no good for her. I also feel that she tells this guy bad stuff about her parents so she can be around him all the time. Hope her and her parents got the help that they needed.

  • @LunaMorkovich
    @LunaMorkovich 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    She has no self esteem if she keeps going back to someone like this...crazy.

    • @elorah-sh1oz
      @elorah-sh1oz ปีที่แล้ว

      Have u seen him ? Dude is hot
      But they are toxic and need to get away from each other

    • @LunaMorkovich
      @LunaMorkovich ปีที่แล้ว

      @@elorah-sh1oz shouldn't matter if someone is good looking it's still toxic

  • @k.m.8214
    @k.m.8214 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The parents are apart of that trauma. We learn how to love from our parents, if we see abuse, it becomes part of our lives. It becomes normal, which isn’t the case. She has to figure out for herself, if she wants to live in this sick cycle, or if she wants to be treated how she deserves and loved as well.

  • @tinarae1329
    @tinarae1329 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Her dad's creepy ASF as well. And they wonder why she's going for the same type of guy

  • @jubilant714
    @jubilant714 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Why do you think she’s like that in the first place? The father is the ultimate problem. She’s looking for love that she doesn’t get from her parents. This is a huge part of Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

  • @maqzify
    @maqzify 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    If she’s an adult she should be accountable for her own decisions.

  • @imperix_9995
    @imperix_9995 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Her boyfriend even attested that her father used to abuse her, no wonder she found love in all the wrong men, and here he is trying to act like a hero

  • @bookie4565
    @bookie4565 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Trauma bond as this is so very hard to get out of. No contact is important and to withdraw from this it's like with drawing from a drug and it is painful to get over but necessary. My heart goes out to all involved.

  • @exotic895
    @exotic895 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Imagine she just has a kink for this

  • @herrington292
    @herrington292 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I don't think she was raised to value herself. As kids and as young adults, we don't even know what that means!

  • @rachelb3196
    @rachelb3196 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is a great example of how abusers brainwash and manipulate their victims😐

  • @DMC585
    @DMC585 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    As a parent who doesn't always get it right, one thing that has paid off is allowing my children to respond (relativley respectfully) in a disagreement. This encourages assertivness even with figures of authority without emotion disabling their ability to defend themselves.
    Once you teach a kid that anyone who considers themselves above them is in control and defending yourself is wrong then you have created a victim.
    They will look to authorities figures to take control and they will become passive and obedient.
    In this case, mum and dad's strict method has made their daughter a helpless needy docile sub. It's sad, but that's it.

  • @janicelindo8564
    @janicelindo8564 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You can hear the sorrow in the father’s voices

  • @jamialauren2549
    @jamialauren2549 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    She is very manipulative and her boyfriend is a monster. I feel so bad for the parents they are just trying to save their daughter.

  • @readifdumb
    @readifdumb 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Breaks no contact order and now the guy is put on blast lol wtf

  • @lapislazulii141
    @lapislazulii141 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    “What does Autumn see in you?” …DIVERSITY

  • @catharineroberts9415
    @catharineroberts9415 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It’s an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist. They’re are extremely manipulative and very very good at it.

  • @vvv70v
    @vvv70v 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I hope she opens her eyes and finds peace.

  • @kelleyspartiatis4776
    @kelleyspartiatis4776 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    The more everyone tells her how bad he is and try to keep her away from him is making him like a magnet to her. Sad and screwed up but true. Been there and done that.

  • @shekar122
    @shekar122 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is most amazing toxic relationship loop ever 😂😂

  • @jaradg342
    @jaradg342 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Reading the comments I see why so many women (including myself) have hidden or hide abuse. Make excuses and blame themselves so they stay.

  • @mauricedowd5356
    @mauricedowd5356 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Classic case of BPD with NPD. Sending prayers

  • @Cheesycheddar642
    @Cheesycheddar642 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yasssss dr Phil yasssss!

  • @Zuleika_1
    @Zuleika_1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Why meet him for the weekend if he is so bad well she must be as bad as him

  • @floveriia
    @floveriia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Why don’t they just do a lie test?

    • @angeloventura1890
      @angeloventura1890 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Lie test ain't always right

    • @floveriia
      @floveriia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@angeloventura1890 true

  • @Chyniit0
    @Chyniit0 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just want to know if the guy has done all that to her, why is he not in jail?

  • @lukenukem7084
    @lukenukem7084 3 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    Does anyone know, how she is going now? I really hope she is doing great!

    • @alexbaez5506
      @alexbaez5506 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      I have her on Snapchat, she looks even better 😍

    • @ekansh7169
      @ekansh7169 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      simp

    • @alexbaez5506
      @alexbaez5506 3 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      @@ekansh7169 Simp? For saying she looks good? 😂Virgin 🤦🏻‍♂️

    • @ekansh7169
      @ekansh7169 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      @@alexbaez5506 not u oldass

    • @yungbake2161
      @yungbake2161 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@alexbaez5506 what’s the @

  • @andreavasiljevic2104
    @andreavasiljevic2104 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Is this the guy from the Ace family

    • @a1exis.
      @a1exis. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No wtf🤦

    • @jessicabrown1481
      @jessicabrown1481 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      nah lowkey the guy on dr phil is better looking than Austin lol

  • @abha6477
    @abha6477 ปีที่แล้ว

    I was her 13 years ago. My parents did a shifty job in building my confidence. They crushed my personality and because of that I seeked refuge in the wrong people. The parents need to do better and they're child will come back to them.

  • @vivianedossantoscaipira7075
    @vivianedossantoscaipira7075 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m still asking myself what the daughter saw on that young man to want him to continue to be her boyfriend.She needs help but she doesn’t want

    • @Walkingadversity
      @Walkingadversity 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Looks and the adventure of drama. Most modern “relationships” nowadays are wrapped around lust, quick thrills, and drama.

  • @Mari-it2de
    @Mari-it2de 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I pray she gets the help she needs

  • @TosereOjeme
    @TosereOjeme 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My personal opinion of the young lady is that she exaggerates everything. She exaggerates to her boyfriend and exaggerates to her parents for the attention she needs at that particular time. There is no doubt in my mind that this young lady didn’t truly tell her boyfriend that her father physically abuses her, and the is also no doubt in my mind that she hasn’t told her parents that the ex boyfriend would one day kill her. It’s an attention thing.

  • @starrmaterialjohnson4573
    @starrmaterialjohnson4573 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I can’t take this story how it is … I see something way different then the picture being painted

  • @pickslim2977
    @pickslim2977 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What ppl say sometimes is not overall how they feel but once its said they got to ride wit it. She one of them smh

  • @susanmorris9392
    @susanmorris9392 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You can't see through sh**! These parents are the only ones that care about her.

  • @randmode9501
    @randmode9501 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It's all about parents

  • @makubegysman6160
    @makubegysman6160 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    He is a chad and as future would say Autumn belongs to the streets...she's a future single mom

    • @Walkingadversity
      @Walkingadversity 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeah man. I would honestly feel sympathy for her if she didn’t go back with him. You can’t help those that won’t help themselves

  • @floki5605
    @floki5605 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    She doesn't wanna be saved lol, she crawls right back everytime. Treat em like dirt and they'll stick to you like mud, I've known this saying for years.

  • @arycahya3544
    @arycahya3544 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    U asked why. U as a father did abuse her . And its toxic relation ,it will continue to her end up meeting abbusive bf . Why ? She got hurt but she wont to go. It happend around abbusive relationship , got abbusive ,got hurt ,hate it but got sexual statisfication at the same time . Thats why people don't want to leave their partner .
    Look at her expression and body language . She even not sure if she want to back to her parents . When her father start to talk ,she kinda like know she's not believe the father.
    She ,her father ,her bf need go to therapist. Go to do behavioral therapy . Fix something that already broke , psychally , psychologically.

  • @florencemensah7295
    @florencemensah7295 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    She need ur love encouragement and assurance and protection

  • @ocpofficialrep7026
    @ocpofficialrep7026 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    a majority of women like those aspects in a male angry, hothead, outburst, violent, loud, confident (testosterone factor) they always say they don't but the cycle continues then they marry them and say he is abusive out of nowhere (damn well knew he was before but for some reason that's not a factor in court) then they divorce the guy and take all his money house and car.

  • @aaliyahjohnson4255
    @aaliyahjohnson4255 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Toxic asf🤣🤣🤣

  • @Sam-kz5hl
    @Sam-kz5hl ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So he's a sadist and she's a masochist🤣

  • @mue7729
    @mue7729 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Watching this video when the father talks gives me the shudders only because he was my 6th grade principal and I have gone to his office 2-3 times.

  • @SageModeisOn
    @SageModeisOn 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    If she comes back to “those problems” than she feels guilty for some reason, and her ego wants to make up for it. They both need help

  • @danscifi7370
    @danscifi7370 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i feel so sorry for her. She's been brainwashed by her own boyfriend and it's so sad to see someone this young having the ability to brainwash and abuse a girl of this age.

  • @WindDancer435
    @WindDancer435 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It is rather simple to understand why she keeps returning to an abusive relationship with this man. He meets her emotional and sexual needs. In other words, she is hooked on his anatomy and will do anything to get it and keep it. What a fool she is. The abuse never gets better. It gets worse.

  • @lalah2235
    @lalah2235 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Just my opinion, I think the parents are putting on a façade and want to appear a certain way. But behind closed doors it’s different. It reminds me of my parents. I have had all my relationships been abusive. Every single one. And when I was younger they always tried to appear supportive, concerned, and reliable, when that wasn’t even close to the case. They knew I was getting beat at the age of 16 and never helped. I was lost, confused, and still a kid not exactly knowing what way to go. I’m 29 now and I have barely just recently broke the cycle of one abusive relationship after the next. I’m not saying it’s all the parents fault but do believe that this girl maybe wasn’t taught her self worth or shown and given the love she needed, wanted, or deserved and possibly neglected in different ways. Just my experience and opinion so maybe hers is similar.

  • @jamespierce4386
    @jamespierce4386 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Damn bro. That daughter is so damn beautiful.

    • @williamgreen3950
      @williamgreen3950 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      🥤here my boy, you need it.

    • @babycakesxo9625
      @babycakesxo9625 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@williamgreen3950 why cause he said a true statement? She is pretty , your a hater

  • @babygnashsc2446
    @babygnashsc2446 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    thank you, couldnt of said it better, sometimes the parents be like what goes on in this house stays in this house, your told to forgive and forget, but you actually remember and try to forgive, or you forgive, either way you end up letting the people you hurt back into ur life because u are raised to do so, i know this because ive done it.

  • @iseethetop
    @iseethetop 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I hope she’s doing better now and ditched that abusive loser

  • @shawnise311
    @shawnise311 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    HE STRANGLED HER WITH SHOELACES?!?!?! That’s a demon. He needs to be under the jail!!!!

  • @bomb.lyrics5962
    @bomb.lyrics5962 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    comments on damn hope she doing good now

  • @itz_aljk2338
    @itz_aljk2338 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    *Really glad this guy clowned himself on television and on the internet. It really states that you don't find a man with good looks, you find a man with personality.*

  • @heavenshell5726
    @heavenshell5726 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Damn he choked wit her shoe laces doe that’s new 😂

  • @bootypounderzzz4313
    @bootypounderzzz4313 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The girl always has to be the victim but she was found with another man and now she’s just tryna turn the table 💯