My narcissistic mother also started hating me when I was going through puberty and becoming a young woman. Once you're past the child stage with a narcissistic parent, sadly they just start to see you as more competition.
She tried to escape the toxic environment and she gets arrested and criminally charged. Those cops should've arrested the so called "mother", but children have zero rights in these matters.
talking about kids she was hanging out with, yet this girl was a straight A student.... she just can’t handle her daughter being a better person than her and achieving more & that’s why she made her drop out!! she wants all the pity because her other child has special needs, yet it’s clear adrianna is the one doing all the work to help out while mom gets sympathy🤮🤮🤮
@@m.m6565 I hope you are doing well. I know that can’t be easy growing up in a household like that. It would be almost impossible for it not to have a negative effect on you even if it’s not you who is taking the brunt of all the emotional blows. I hope you realize what a strong person you are!God bless you! Jesus Christ is the WAY. The TRUTH. The LIFE.
The saddest part of the video is that when Dr phil starts listing her positive qualities she looks shocked like no one has ever said anything nice about her before poor kid
My mom is the exact same with me. Shes hated me since I was 13. I'm now 21 and she won't even let me move out and keep threatening to call the cops on me bc I wanna kms living at my parents
I personally think she's just deeply envious and jealous. The mother is obviously a very hateful person with low self esteem, and the daughter is a young woman that obviously has barrels of potential.
She hates her because she couldn't successfully make her "disabled". I personally know someone who had a "disabled" child. At age 3 she couldn't walk, talk, or barely crawl. Ends up it was because of neglect and leaving her as a baby in her carrier for hours on end. FYI father got sole custody and she started progressing wonderfully, but the damage was done and may never fully be undone
@@f.t.6764 My mom always hated me since i was a baby and I'm a special needs girl and she was never home to take care of me but my dad's side of. The family who lives in chicago. And his mom took care of me
@@alexisfeliciano8793 are you sure your mother hates you? cause a mother being away often doesn't always correlate with hate, on the contrary, maybe she's working non stop to provide for you. Ask her and have s chat about it that you would like her there with you more often, if that's the case, cause that doesn't mean she doesn't love you. But if she's shown you clearly by abusing you for example then that's horrible of her and I'm so sorry to hear. Of course parental neglect is horrible on its own and it brings a lot of trauma. I understand you, I see you and I believe you. I get it. In case you do, do not ever think and feel that it's your fault and that you're not worthy of love and nurture. It's her that is unworthy of your love. You are amazing and strong and a person who birthed your does not mean they're your parent nor is it your responsibility to fix things and them. Your family status does not define you and it will never do. It's you that define you. And I'm glad your father's side take care of you. It's the least they can do after all, it's the bare minimum and you're their child that they brought in this world. I wish you nothing but love, health, happinesses, strength and nothing but abundance and prosperity. I really do. All the best. And your mother's hate is not yours to take in. Let it go. It's her burden and problem and always was.
@@naomireber256 !!! The normal thing of course...my too...i ve a beautiful daughter also nineteen years old,and im proud of her!!!! Im lucky to have her and my beautiful son too
I almost cried when Dr Phil was complimenting the daughter. I can relate to her. You can tell she doesn’t hear these kind words often. Thank God for her teacher. I just want to hug that girl. It will get better and you will find your people and those who truly love you.
The mother is jealous of her daughter because she hates herself so much but refuses to look at herself and make the changes she needs to so she blames her daughter. Mirroring to the extreme
“When did the problems start?” “When she started middle school, sixth grade” You mean when she hit puberty and became competition? When she was old enough to objectively point out your bs and actually be taken seriously by others? Yup big threat to your narc self right there.
From a 4:23 clip, I’m only guessing that the mother has way deep rooted issues that have nothing to do with her daughter. Not all people that have children, were meant to be mothers.
That's true but many people don't realize what it really means to have a child until they do. And that's when they get stuck but there's no going back.
This mother is a horrible human being. Why is SHE crying. Thinks she is the victim? Gonna hug my mom now. She is amazing and I will appreciate her more
Exactly!!! I was disgusted. I have an autistic child and although he is a great child , there is no reason to be happy to have attention bc your child is struggling now and will be struggling the rest of their lives. She disgusts me all around.
"I just met her and I can make a longer list then that" awwww that was so nice. You can see this girl is uncomfortable being complemented cause it's clear the mother never complimented her b4
you can tell the daughter is not used to being complimented. so sad. she has so much going for her but her mother has been trying to convince her that she doesn't
I wish I had teachers like you guys. I was bullied at home by my family, bullied by my peers, and bullied/ignored by teachers. Really warped my self esteem.
There is absolutely NOTHING my daughter could do to make me hate her. Unconditional love is the definition of a mother. Children can break your easier than anyone because we love unconditionally and it never wavers. I am baffled by this mother’s hurtful display of selfishness. A child should NEVER hear or feel that hate from a mother is ever possible. It concerns me that she has two disabled children as well because I have a hard time believing she is tolerant and nurturing.
I know a few mothers like this. My wife used to go through this with her mother before we finally cut her off. Jealous of her own daughter. It’s disgusting. I don’t know what it is but you’ll be amazed at how many mothers there are like this.
The mom acts more like an infant than her own daughter. Talks and sounds like one too. I hope the daughter succeeds in life and finds happiness. The bitter mom can just disappear into the void.
It’s not a blessing to have kids. We’re suppose to have kids, like we’re suppose to eat, sleep and drink. It’s just that some people don’t deserve to have kids
My aunt’s oldest daughter was a major drug addict. She had a soul of pure gold, played piano beautifully, loved her family deeply, but just couldn’t break her addiction. It ended up killing her a couple years ago. But not once did her parents ever hate her. They cried for her, they begged her to stop, they did everything to try and get her help, but they never hated her. Humans make bad choices. We all do. Sometimes we get stuck in those bad choices and they hold over us. Some stronger than others. But that doesn’t mean we’re bad people. It doesn’t mean we aren’t worthy of love. I loved my cousin so much and when she died it broke my heart. She was only 25. Do we all wish she didn’t do drugs? Of course, I mean it’s what killed her for Christs sake. But it never stopped us from loving her. To this day I still wish I could see her again and give her a big hug.
I feel like she's frustrated, she's angry that she's a single mother taking care of two disabled children, she lost her nursing license, and in her mind, the only appropriate person in her life to take her anger out on is her daughter. Her daughter is the lightening rod, her whole life is taking care of people and she doesn't feel taken care of and i assume she probably doesn't have anyone willing to listen to her so she's redirected all her hate and negative feelings towards her daughter, she doesn't hate her daughter, she's directed her hate AT her daughter. My parents do the same thing and people do it a lot, projecting their emotions onto others. I feel like she's just worn out and her only coping mechanism is having a force of hate, I've done the exact same thing with all the built up trauma in my life, i can't hate a specific person in my life so i redirect it onto another person. She doesn't feel in her mind like its appropriate to be mad and frustrated about having two fully disabled children and a fully able child, more recently no job, and no support. Its not appropriate to be mad at disabled people so her only able bodied daughter is her lightening rod.
I alsi feel anither thing she's angry at her daughter about is because she's so worn out she feels like when she cries out for attention that she doesn't have enough attention to give. Im not saying she's right, im just trying to explain what i think is going on in her mind from personal experience. Things are just more complicated rhan they seem, especially when it comes to emotions and sensitive situations. I just think she's stressed, she's tired, she doesn't know what to do, so she lashes out.
Why would you have more kids if your kids are special? Certification of Nurses Aid is a gimme at the end of the course if you made it that far. Its common sense.
Excuse me I am a certified nursing assistant and it’s not a gimmick it’s really really hard to be a nurse assistant so don’t say that until you walk in someone else’s shoes
In my state CNAs have a practical skills test and a written test they must pass at the state level after completing training. All of that for a $12/hour job where the risk of personal injury is high
I was 28 years old when I realized my mother has always been in competition with me. Any man in my life, she slept with. Soccer coaches, basketball coaches, men who were my mentors in middle school , neighbors. When I moved back home, i realized how much she really hates me - and I’ll never understand why. It’s the worst feeling knowing the person who creates you, hates you. She didn’t even show interest when i told her I was graduating college . I once didn’t talk to her for months - when we finally did talk, she went back to being belittling and rude. I said, “this is why I haven’t talked to you in months.” And her literal words were, “and? The phone goes two ways, didn’t want to talk to you.” And I actually felt my physical heart break.
Daaaang...Dr. Phil saying all those positive things about her, and the woman chiming in with some extras really warmed me up. But, it also sucks that she had to hear this from complete strangers and not someone who knows and loves her. My gosh.
" Things became harder after the birth of my third/fourth child..." I'm always bemused by people who complain about how having more children is so expensive and difficult, yet don't stop having kids. It makes me really worried about people having kids just for attention. Don't blame your beautiful eldest daughter for how sad you are in life.
I remember watching this whole episode and feeling so shocked and angry at this woman being so inept at even showing ANY loving connection to her daughter..it made me feel very sad for the daughter honestly this is one of the most disappointing mother ive ever seen..its like she's shut down entirely...
I know how that poor child felt...I still have the pain of knowing my mom didn’t love me like the others...people noticed it, and I overheard one commenting to my sister as to why they treated me differently. I never knew why, but she passed away at age 69, and I never got to know what I did. I am 74, and I still hurt. The good thing that came out of it was as an educator I would ask for the kids that didn’t fit in, and I would tell them daily how special they were....so I tried to think of it as a test I went through so I could understand the needs of the kids I would teach....I loved them!
@@erinrooney6696 Wow! You made my day! Those students blessed me more than I did them.....I still have notes they wrote me even after twenty years! I hope they look back and know someone loved them, and believed in them! You are special for taking time to touch my heart! ❤️
I was a really weird kid and I had a teacher in middle school who made me feel like I was funny and cool, those teachers are the best, they will never forget what you did for them
There is something very savagely beautiful about this young lady, and I'm saying it in the best sense possible. The beautiful intense eyes the grave stare she gives, the silky blonde hair, the shape of the lips, and the very faint, almost missing eyebrows give her almost a nordic kind of look, like a valkyrie or something. Gorgeous!
I can't begin to imagine how it would feel to hear/know that my own Mother hares me!!! My heart goes out to the daughter!! Hope she can find encouragement and strength from someone who cares about her!
Goodness she reminds me of my own mother. All these fake tears, putting on a show. The daughter sitting there taking it. That teacher is a hero for stepping in. If someone had done that for me as a child, my life now would be very different.
My mother hates me too but she’s a lot more abuse than this. A very cruel woman and my biggest bully, but she’ll turn on the waterworks and demonize me to the rest of the family. Unfortunately, there are as many abusive and unloving mothers as anything else.
I'm 38 and still trying to get over the way my mum hated me as a 13+ both my parents are narcissistic. When it starts at a parents level it's hard to see people can actually like you in the world. I feel for her so much
Gosh, my daughter is 19 now, and she’s more beautiful than I could ever be, I’ve always been proud of that. Look what a beautiful girl I helped create. I could never relate to a woman who isn’t her daughters biggest fan. That’s tragic 🥺
"bright, happy, social butterfly" that what she can't be herself. And middle school is a stage of growing up, keeping own space and hanging with friends.
I feel so bad for her. She seems totally broken bc every child needs a loving mom that would do anything for you... you can see in her eyes how hurt she is....
From that video, makes think that mom is Evil, mean, liar, hates her daughter because she smarter, brave, outgoing, beautiful, and etc... something that she never was or will be.
Notice how when Dr Phil was listing the daughters good qualities, he didn’t say “beautiful” and this is good. When you compliment your daughters (or any woman really) do it like this. ❤️
I agree that it shouldn't be the top of the list, but to never say it? If my husband never said "you look great today" or "you're so beautiful" I would not be thrilled lol
@@rachel4339 yeah no that’s true, maybe compliment is the wrong word because yeah, complimenting someone’s appearance isn’t BAD I guess maybe make sure not to prioritise that as the most common compliment? And when having like a serious listing of good qualities Not start with looks? (Like, yeah, I’d love it if my partner said I looked nice before dinner, I’d be annoyed if say, we wrote our own vows listing our reasons for loving each other and they started with appearance)
A parent responsibility never ends you can't give up on your kid like that . My baby is 15 yrs and I feel like I never have enough of him. Sometimes I wish he can be with me forever. Keep this in mind Pray for your kid just keep praying everything is gonna be ok with God's Grace and Mercy.
This hurts my heart.. my mother is the same way. Always treated me like her enemy, remarried when I was 8 and left me with my grandparents… and that’s just the tip of it. it shapes you and leaves you traumatized. Unable to love or accept love.
I feel like my whole life my mom has been putting up this front that she cares but I feel like if she could be like this woman towards me she would. And I’ll never understand what I did. I feel for this little girl.
You just described my relationship with my mom. I am 54 and although I’m done trying to make her proud or want to get to know me, I do still wish I knew why. Was I an annoying kid? Is there something about me that disgusts her? I wonder what her true feelings are, if any? 😔
Hey just wanted to say thank you for your service- it takes so much patience and empathy to assist people in their ending stages of life. You really make a difference and the families appreciate it
Dr. Phil's channel has been going back through old videos and turning on the comments, AND THAT IS WHY THERE ARE ONLY A FEW. Now you know, so don't waste your comment on how many comments there are.
My daughter went to bed at 12 and on the morning of her 13th birthday it all changed. She met a different crowd began to try alcohol, would argue fight and even self harmed. I knew something drastically had to change. I resourced as much support as I could and above all I stuck right by her side. On a number of occasions she pushed and pushed me but I always left the door open. I called her every week so she knew we were always there. I never gave up. I wouldn’t! Now she is 28 and we have a great relationship. We often recall her difficult challenges and she always says, “no matter how hard I pushed you were always there and for that I’m great full.” Goodness knows it was tough. The battles never seemed to end. My mantra was, “and this to will pass.” It always does.
My mom treated me this way and sometimes I catch myself almost treating mine like this. I'm so extremely thankful I'm aware and can stop before it starts, and when it happens, I make a point of telling them how great they are. I do NOT wanna mess them up like I am.
How I just can’t fathom not liking my kid never mind love I can’t even get threw a night of “NO PHONE” for punishment I start to feel guilty! Never mind deliberately hurting my sons feelings. I think as a mother we can’t stand knowing out kids are not happy or cold, thirsty anxious , scared , and those are things in the world that I sometimes can’t control. As a mother you should be the one to provide the love and nurturing because strangers are shorty enough and should not have to deal with and be protected from their own mother .
Props to her teacher and her husband that didn't have to, but took her in anyways. I see so many comments about the mother, but we should be focusing on the fact that the teacher, who only saw her in her class once a day and maybe before/after school, took her in as if she was her own child and treats her so much better than her own mother. She seems like a wonderful woman and deserves the world. ❤️
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yes
Yes sir, Dr Phil.
I did, you are literally amazing!
No❤️
@@لاأحدسأللهذاالسببقلتها why?
My narcissistic mother also started hating me when I was going through puberty and becoming a young woman. Once you're past the child stage with a narcissistic parent, sadly they just start to see you as more competition.
Oh, you had the same experience?! It all starts when you reach 13-14...it always puzzled me!
Dang that's tuff
Yes, this is the jealousy if a narcissistic mother. I didn’t figure it out until I was in my fifties.
Yep same. She also didn’t like that I got strong enough to fight her off of me when she was in an angry mood.
Yup, been there
The fact that Dr Phil asked her "how do you hate your child?" and she had an answer is actually hurting me
Most likely she hates the fact that she's normal and doesn't have any special needs she can exploit for pity points.
I literally stopped and said out loud “she’s actually going to answer” .. horrible
Painful to watch
That’s such a terrible and irresponsible question to ask and the word hate will always be in that girls brain.
Me too it’s gives me anxiety :(
the daughter looks mortified. my heart goes out to her for the pain she’s had to endure because of her awful mother 😕
She tried to escape the toxic environment and she gets arrested and criminally charged. Those cops should've arrested the so called "mother", but children have zero rights in these matters.
'When she started 6th grade, her bad behaviour started' Ma'am that is what you call adolescence. 🙂
talking about kids she was hanging out with, yet this girl was a straight A student.... she just can’t handle her daughter being a better person than her and achieving more & that’s why she made her drop out!! she wants all the pity because her other child has special needs, yet it’s clear adrianna is the one doing all the work to help out while mom gets sympathy🤮🤮🤮
Lol! mine was at 8th cus my mom left.
True
✨puberty✨
True
My mother thinks that too because she doesnt understand that i am a human with free will that can have rigth to make choises...
“You’re not at home with her” she was literally just so upset that he was saying positive things about her...jealousy
@@m.m6565 I hope your sister is doing well.
@@m.m6565 I hope you are doing well. I know that can’t be easy growing up in a household like that. It would be almost impossible for it not to have a negative effect on you even if it’s not you who is taking the brunt of all the emotional blows. I hope you realize what a strong person you are!God bless you! Jesus Christ is the WAY. The TRUTH. The LIFE.
I had to rewind the video, I didn't catch that at first.
3:50 @@April-xq4ll
The saddest part of the video is that when Dr phil starts listing her positive qualities she looks shocked like no one has ever said anything nice about her before poor kid
Imagine trying to compete in life against your own daughter
I watch this happen to my cousin
. her mom hates her so much she told her daughters some awful and untrue things about her.
My mom is the exact same with me. Shes hated me since I was 13. I'm now 21 and she won't even let me move out and keep threatening to call the cops on me bc I wanna kms living at my parents
@S R the fun of being stuck at my parents and she hates me so I'm just here to help out bc my brother is the golden Child who gets everything
@S R but she's crazy she will not let me move. Every time I try she threatens something. I'll just wait tell I get some money then I'll drop for good
@S R my mom will be happy and so will I. I'll be happy in another state with my bf that my parents hate lol
I personally think she's just deeply envious and jealous. The mother is obviously a very hateful person with low self esteem, and the daughter is a young woman that obviously has barrels of potential.
Factual, The Mom is holding her back. And almost Forcing the daughter to a bad lufe
Misery loves company. My mother is the same.
Just like me and my Mum....NO CONTACT for over 4 years, and I'm thriving👍👍🤗
I can’t imagine being jelous of your own child smh I’d be so happy to know my kid is amazing
How did y’all conclude this after watching a 4 minute video?
Someone get this man a better smartboard.
😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Yes
Smart Boards in class like
it lags more than the oldest ipod 👁👁
Imagine arguing with someone who's complimenting your child....
She hates her oldest cuz she doesnt get sympathy points for having a special ed kid from her.
Actually, she is the second born. The mother says she moved into,with her two youngest, her oldest apartment .
I agree and She’s jealous
She hates her because she couldn't successfully make her "disabled".
I personally know someone who had a "disabled" child.
At age 3 she couldn't walk, talk, or barely crawl.
Ends up it was because of neglect and leaving her as a baby in her carrier for hours on end.
FYI father got sole custody and she started progressing wonderfully, but the damage was done and may never fully be undone
She's jealous of her daughter because her daughter is exactly what she wanted to be when she was younger and failed.
Exactly.
am i the only one who thought it was SO wholesome when dr uphill said: I just met her and I can make a longer list than that
Who is dr uphill
@@lordnermal8611 You know full well they meant Dr Phil.
@@ScreamingDucksShotMyMother Oof. Your Plankton pfp matches your brain and personality.
Dr uphill I love it
@@MaikiThePrince oh god lol I just relised I spelt uphill, I'm keeping it 🤣
The mother is sad and projecting her self hate onto her own daughter.
I relate. It's sad and will be with her for the rest of her life.
The mother is a narcissist that hates her daughter cause she can't control her.
@@f.t.6764 My mom always hated me since i was a baby and I'm a special needs girl and she was never home to take care of me but my dad's side of. The family who lives in chicago. And his mom took care of me
@@alexisfeliciano8793 are you sure your mother hates you? cause a mother being away often doesn't always correlate with hate, on the contrary, maybe she's working non stop to provide for you. Ask her and have s chat about it that you would like her there with you more often, if that's the case, cause that doesn't mean she doesn't love you. But if she's shown you clearly by abusing you for example then that's horrible of her and I'm so sorry to hear. Of course parental neglect is horrible on its own and it brings a lot of trauma. I understand you, I see you and I believe you. I get it. In case you do, do not ever think and feel that it's your fault and that you're not worthy of love and nurture. It's her that is unworthy of your love. You are amazing and strong and a person who birthed your does not mean they're your parent nor is it your responsibility to fix things and them. Your family status does not define you and it will never do. It's you that define you. And I'm glad your father's side take care of you. It's the least they can do after all, it's the bare minimum and you're their child that they brought in this world. I wish you nothing but love, health, happinesses, strength and nothing but abundance and prosperity. I really do. All the best. And your mother's hate is not yours to take in. Let it go. It's her burden and problem and always was.
@@f.t.6764 Yes my mom hates me and she doesn't have job either
Meaning, you started hating her when she became beautiful in middle school.
Yep. I do believe you hit the nail right on the head.
Im glad my mom's not like this
@@naomireber256 me too!
@@naomireber256 !!! The normal thing of course...my too...i ve a beautiful daughter also nineteen years old,and im proud of her!!!! Im lucky to have her and my beautiful son too
@@dimitrakapa4887 that's so cool
The mother's immaturity is intense. She appears jealous of her daughter, not proud of her as she should be. Hope they all get the help they need.
I honestly hope Adriana is still living with her teacher. She’s in a much safer, healthier and loving environment than with her mother.
She’s just jealous that she doesn’t look like her daughter ✋🏼
Please stop being Veganphobic
Whoa I think you took it too far
@@لاأحدسأللهذاالسببقلتها -wha
@@لاأحدسأللهذاالسببقلتها what?-
@@لاأحدسأللهذاالسببقلتها one more time: whaat????
“-I just started hating her”
You canNOT be a true mother if you have the capacity to hate your child
Say it louder for those in the back!
I don’t know how it’s biologically possible.
@@amandah3619 it shouldn’t be. “Mother’s” like her make the active choice to hate their own child second by second, minute by minute.
True
@@ookipuki your dog looks sick, Gia.
Crocodile tears
Lmao😂
Or tears because she was forced to say nice things about her daughter...
@@mandyaguilera3108 ya eh!? Wow, so so sad. It makes me appreciate my own amazing mother sooooo much!
@@mandyaguilera3108 fax
No they were real but they were for herself.
I almost cried when Dr Phil was complimenting the daughter. I can relate to her. You can tell she doesn’t hear these kind words often. Thank God for her teacher. I just want to hug that girl. It will get better and you will find your people and those who truly love you.
Exactly I broke down. I can relate
This mother scares me, for some reason I don't know right now.
Because she's the kind of mother who's able to poison her children for attention and pity
@@mamouilletten1562 exactly.
Same! I don't know how and why she is able to cry the whole time? None will pity her as long as she berates her daughter like that.....
She shouldn’t have been allowed to become a mother. She does not have the proper parent gene.
It was disturbing watching her be in agony and tears just from saying positive things about her daughter. Like- how do you hate a person that much…
Jealousy/envy doesn’t look good on anyone, Karen.
The mother is jealous of her daughter because she hates herself so much but refuses to look at herself and make the changes she needs to so she blames her daughter. Mirroring to the extreme
“When did the problems start?”
“When she started middle school, sixth grade”
You mean when she hit puberty and became competition? When she was old enough to objectively point out your bs and actually be taken seriously by others? Yup big threat to your narc self right there.
From a 4:23 clip, I’m only guessing that the mother has way deep rooted issues that have nothing to do with her daughter. Not all people that have children, were meant to be mothers.
That's true but many people don't realize what it really means to have a child until they do. And that's when they get stuck but there's no going back.
they need a new smart board
No it just needs tuning
It needs to be calibrated
This mother is a horrible human being.
Why is SHE crying. Thinks she is the victim?
Gonna hug my mom now. She is amazing and I will appreciate her more
She's going to be a grown woman & there will be no bond for the rest of their lives bc of this. Sad. They're only children a short while.
That smile when she's talking about the special ed bus, she LOVES it!
Loves the pity
You're so right, and the reason why she hates this girl is cuz she's normal and she's bright and she's smart she can't control her!
I'm sure she loves the pity she gets from the other parents
Exactly!!! I was disgusted. I have an autistic child and although he is a great child , there is no reason to be happy to have attention bc your child is struggling now and will be struggling the rest of their lives. She disgusts me all around.
Loves the attention and sempathy.
The saying "Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves their children" true as ever
"I just met her and I can make a longer list then that" awwww that was so nice. You can see this girl is uncomfortable being complemented cause it's clear the mother never complimented her b4
you can tell the daughter is not used to being complimented. so sad. she has so much going for her but her mother has been trying to convince her that she doesn't
“How do you hate your child”
“Wellllll” * doesn’t even TRY to deny*
Jealous. Green with envy. Envy is one of the deadliest sins.
I’m a teacher, and I would adopt any of my children. I can’t imagine
@S R I hate that this was your situation, but thank you for sharing your story! It will make me extra aware of my students!! Have a great day 😊
I wish I had teachers like you guys. I was bullied at home by my family, bullied by my peers, and bullied/ignored by teachers. Really warped my self esteem.
@@ScreamingDucksShotMyMother oh bless you 🥺 I’m so sorry to hear that. I bet even after the struggles you became a wonderful person ❤️
There is absolutely NOTHING my daughter could do to make me hate her. Unconditional love is the definition of a mother. Children can break your easier than anyone because we love unconditionally and it never wavers. I am baffled by this mother’s hurtful display of selfishness. A child should NEVER hear or feel that hate from a mother is ever possible. It concerns me that she has two disabled children as well because I have a hard time believing she is tolerant and nurturing.
Mum is jealous bc the daughter is always happy and had a good life while the mum is sad and had no job
She’s bright, social, and happy. Every single thing the mother isn’t. Jealousy, indeed.
The mother is mad because she's overweight and hates herself.
Is she my mother?!
Or all of these narcissistic psychos are just the same?!
You meet one narcissist; you meet them all.
@@Venus-bb7cd and what’s funny is they all think they’re something special while in fact they’re all a bunch of sickos who are alike
I swear they must have a guidebook
She's like my "mother" too.
FR 😭😭
I would cry hearing Dr.Phillip Mcgraw say all those things about me 🙏🏼
I know a few mothers like this. My wife used to go through this with her mother before we finally cut her off. Jealous of her own daughter. It’s disgusting. I don’t know what it is but you’ll be amazed at how many mothers there are like this.
@@michellenoimes that makes a lot of sense because that’s pretty much the situation my wife was in.
@Regina Mortuis amen! ❤️
@@michellenoimes as the number of angel Incarnates decrease, the number of demon incarnates increase.
"She's an overall a happy person." 1:47 Yeah, you can tell. Look at her face. She's thrilled to be there, and is as pleased as punch.
The mom acts more like an infant than her own daughter. Talks and sounds like one too. I hope the daughter succeeds in life and finds happiness. The bitter mom can just disappear into the void.
I would give anything to be blessed with a child ..it breaks my heart that so many women were just never ever meant to be mother's !!
Me too.... me too ... and yet these are the types of people blessed with children.... so sad in so many ways
@@sheenawinfrey3133 I know right ? It makes me so angry !! I hope God will Bless U with a child 🤗
It’s not a blessing to have kids. We’re suppose to have kids, like we’re suppose to eat, sleep and drink. It’s just that some people don’t deserve to have kids
@@vitavainqueur9756 oh please 🥴
My aunt’s oldest daughter was a major drug addict. She had a soul of pure gold, played piano beautifully, loved her family deeply, but just couldn’t break her addiction. It ended up killing her a couple years ago. But not once did her parents ever hate her. They cried for her, they begged her to stop, they did everything to try and get her help, but they never hated her. Humans make bad choices. We all do. Sometimes we get stuck in those bad choices and they hold over us. Some stronger than others. But that doesn’t mean we’re bad people. It doesn’t mean we aren’t worthy of love. I loved my cousin so much and when she died it broke my heart. She was only 25. Do we all wish she didn’t do drugs? Of course, I mean it’s what killed her for Christs sake. But it never stopped us from loving her. To this day I still wish I could see her again and give her a big hug.
I'm so sorry for your loss my condolences to your Aunt and your family ❤
This lady hates herself. She’s missing something in herself that she’s seeing in her daughter. Love yourself
I feel like she's frustrated, she's angry that she's a single mother taking care of two disabled children, she lost her nursing license, and in her mind, the only appropriate person in her life to take her anger out on is her daughter. Her daughter is the lightening rod, her whole life is taking care of people and she doesn't feel taken care of and i assume she probably doesn't have anyone willing to listen to her so she's redirected all her hate and negative feelings towards her daughter, she doesn't hate her daughter, she's directed her hate AT her daughter. My parents do the same thing and people do it a lot, projecting their emotions onto others. I feel like she's just worn out and her only coping mechanism is having a force of hate, I've done the exact same thing with all the built up trauma in my life, i can't hate a specific person in my life so i redirect it onto another person. She doesn't feel in her mind like its appropriate to be mad and frustrated about having two fully disabled children and a fully able child, more recently no job, and no support. Its not appropriate to be mad at disabled people so her only able bodied daughter is her lightening rod.
I alsi feel anither thing she's angry at her daughter about is because she's so worn out she feels like when she cries out for attention that she doesn't have enough attention to give. Im not saying she's right, im just trying to explain what i think is going on in her mind from personal experience. Things are just more complicated rhan they seem, especially when it comes to emotions and sensitive situations. I just think she's stressed, she's tired, she doesn't know what to do, so she lashes out.
Nah she just hates her daughter
@•Senpai Waifu• I agree. I mean being a single mom can become hard but no one should hurt their children like this woman has.
It's not appropriate to direct your hatred towards your child, disabled or not, for any reason. There's no excuse.
@S R so true
Why would you have more kids if your kids are special? Certification of Nurses Aid is a gimme at the end of the course if you made it that far. Its common sense.
Actually you do.have to.take a test to get the actual certification after u finish the course
At her size, I can't see her providing care for 12 patients in the home. That noble job requires physical labor, patience and compassion
Excuse me I am a certified nursing assistant and it’s not a gimmick it’s really really hard to be a nurse assistant so don’t say that until you walk in someone else’s shoes
In my state CNAs have a practical skills test and a written test they must pass at the state level after completing training. All of that for a $12/hour job where the risk of personal injury is high
my heart really breaks for Adrianna. i'm so glad her teacher is such a positive influence in her life because she deserves so much better
I was 28 years old when I realized my mother has always been in competition with me. Any man in my life, she slept with. Soccer coaches, basketball coaches, men who were my mentors in middle school , neighbors. When I moved back home, i realized how much she really hates me - and I’ll never understand why. It’s the worst feeling knowing the person who creates you, hates you.
She didn’t even show interest when i told her I was graduating college .
I once didn’t talk to her for months - when we finally did talk, she went back to being belittling and rude. I said, “this is why I haven’t talked to you in months.”
And her literal words were, “and? The phone goes two ways, didn’t want to talk to you.”
And I actually felt my physical heart break.
Daaaang...Dr. Phil saying all those positive things about her, and the woman chiming in with some extras really warmed me up.
But, it also sucks that she had to hear this from complete strangers and not someone who knows and loves her.
My gosh.
Bless that teacher’s heart. Real life miss honey
" Things became harder after the birth of my third/fourth child..." I'm always bemused by people who complain about how having more children is so expensive and difficult, yet don't stop having kids. It makes me really worried about people having kids just for attention.
Don't blame your beautiful eldest daughter for how sad you are in life.
I remember watching this whole episode and feeling so shocked and angry at this woman being so inept at even showing ANY loving connection to her daughter..it made me feel very sad for the daughter honestly this is one of the most disappointing mother ive ever seen..its like she's shut down entirely...
I know how that poor child felt...I still have the pain of knowing my mom didn’t love me like the others...people noticed it, and I overheard one commenting to my sister as to why they treated me differently. I never knew why, but she passed away at age 69, and I never got to know what I did. I am 74, and I still hurt. The good thing that came out of it was as an educator I would ask for the kids that didn’t fit in, and I would tell them daily how special they were....so I tried to think of it as a test I went through so I could understand the needs of the kids I would teach....I loved them!
That's so beautiful! God sent an angel to love the unloved. You are wonderful!
@@erinrooney6696 Wow! You made my day! Those students blessed me more than I did them.....I still have notes they wrote me even after twenty years! I hope they look back and know someone loved them, and believed in them! You are special for taking time to touch my heart! ❤️
I was a really weird kid and I had a teacher in middle school who made me feel like I was funny and cool, those teachers are the best, they will never forget what you did for them
There is something very savagely beautiful about this young lady, and I'm saying it in the best sense possible. The beautiful intense eyes the grave stare she gives, the silky blonde hair, the shape of the lips, and the very faint, almost missing eyebrows give her almost a nordic kind of look, like a valkyrie or something. Gorgeous!
I can't begin to imagine how it would feel to hear/know that my own Mother hares me!!! My heart goes out to the daughter!! Hope she can find encouragement and strength from someone who cares about her!
Goodness she reminds me of my own mother.
All these fake tears, putting on a show. The daughter sitting there taking it. That teacher is a hero for stepping in. If someone had done that for me as a child, my life now would be very different.
Same. 😔
OH, There's that garden slug I lost! I was looking all over for it and finally found it on Dr.Phil! I never knew its name was Jennifer!
Nah slugs contribute more to society.
Dr. Phil needs a drawing board with no lag-
Lol talk to mr beast about that
I love the compliments they're giving her!💕🌻
One of the best days of my life was when my daughter turned 21 and thanked me for not giving up on her. Teen years suck but its worth it.
My mother hates me too but she’s a lot more abuse than this. A very cruel woman and my biggest bully, but she’ll turn on the waterworks and demonize me to the rest of the family. Unfortunately, there are as many abusive and unloving mothers as anything else.
I'm 38 and still trying to get over the way my mum hated me as a 13+ both my parents are narcissistic. When it starts at a parents level it's hard to see people can actually like you in the world. I feel for her so much
Gosh, my daughter is 19 now, and she’s more beautiful than I could ever be, I’ve always been proud of that. Look what a beautiful girl I helped create. I could never relate to a woman who isn’t her daughters biggest fan. That’s tragic 🥺
DITTO💯!!!!
I think she’s jealous....
She’s got issues and wants what someone else has....
Started hating her bcuz she saw she is popular and doing much better than her. Good mom.
"bright, happy, social butterfly" that what she can't be herself. And middle school is a stage of growing up, keeping own space and hanging with friends.
I feel so bad for her. She seems totally broken bc every child needs a loving mom that would do anything for you... you can see in her eyes how hurt she is....
The daughter is a prime example of the best revenge on someone who has wrong med you is to live your best life
This mother is abusive. I'm happy she's with her teacher. Be happy and well child, none of this is your fault.
Her and my womb donor would get along. I am so lucky I have an amazing father.
How can a mother hate her own child?? No matter what happened, that’s your child!!
From that video, makes think that mom is Evil, mean, liar, hates her daughter because she smarter, brave, outgoing, beautiful, and etc... something that she never was or will be.
Notice how when Dr Phil was listing the daughters good qualities, he didn’t say “beautiful” and this is good. When you compliment your daughters (or any woman really) do it like this. ❤️
I agree that it shouldn't be the top of the list, but to never say it? If my husband never said "you look great today" or "you're so beautiful" I would not be thrilled lol
@@rachel4339 yeah no that’s true, maybe compliment is the wrong word because yeah, complimenting someone’s appearance isn’t BAD
I guess maybe make sure not to prioritise that as the most common compliment? And when having like a serious listing of good qualities Not start with looks? (Like, yeah, I’d love it if my partner said I looked nice before dinner, I’d be annoyed if say, we wrote our own vows listing our reasons for loving each other and they started with appearance)
@@rachel4339 Dr. Phil didn’t want to call Adriana beautiful to hint that Jenifer is not. Why idk
I'm treated badly and I'm done trying
Get my boy Phil an Emmy Award for literally all he’s done for these people 👏🤙🏻
How can a mother be jealous of her own daughter
Someone get this man a new touch screen wall.
A parent responsibility never ends you can't give up on your kid like that . My baby is 15 yrs and I feel like I never have enough of him. Sometimes I wish he can be with me forever. Keep this in mind Pray for your kid just keep praying everything is gonna be ok with God's Grace and Mercy.
Moms so freaking jealous of this beautiful child . Ugh what a monster
She says her daughter’s voice makes her mad? Speak for yourself, woman!
This hurts my heart.. my mother is the same way. Always treated me like her enemy, remarried when I was 8 and left me with my grandparents… and that’s just the tip of it. it shapes you and leaves you traumatized. Unable to love or accept love.
There is NOTHING i could ever do to make my mother hate me. This woman doesn’t even deserve the title
you can smell the weapons grade BS when you see the crocodile tears.
Well that just twisted sick. Hope the daughter has every happiness and success.
Love how she sat there and cried and defended hating her child. What a tool.
That is so mean that Dr. Phil is showing the mother up!
I feel like my whole life my mom has been putting up this front that she cares but I feel like if she could be like this woman towards me she would. And I’ll never understand what I did. I feel for this little girl.
You just described my relationship with my mom. I am 54 and although I’m done trying to make her proud or want to get to know me, I do still wish I knew why. Was I an annoying kid? Is there something about me that disgusts her? I wonder what her true feelings are, if any? 😔
Same.
I work with senior citizens and sincerely hope that this woman NEVER gets her CNA back.
Hey just wanted to say thank you for your service- it takes so much patience and empathy to assist people in their ending stages of life. You really make a difference and the families appreciate it
“She’s always happy” literally her default expression is of sadness
Thank you Dr. Phil! 👏👏👏
That's "mother's" voice makes my blood curdle!!!!!
I just can’t fathom how a mother can hate her child
Dr. Phil's channel has been going back through old videos and turning on the comments, AND THAT IS WHY THERE ARE ONLY A FEW. Now you know, so don't waste your comment on how many comments there are.
My daughter went to bed at 12 and on the morning of her 13th birthday it all changed. She met a different crowd began to try alcohol, would argue fight and even self harmed. I knew something drastically had to change. I resourced as much support as I could and above all I stuck right by her side. On a number of occasions she pushed and pushed me but I always left the door open. I called her every week so she knew we were always there. I never gave up. I wouldn’t! Now she is 28 and we have a great relationship. We often recall her difficult challenges and she always says, “no matter how hard I pushed you were always there and for that I’m great full.”
Goodness knows it was tough. The battles never seemed to end. My mantra was, “and this to will pass.” It always does.
My mom treated me this way and sometimes I catch myself almost treating mine like this. I'm so extremely thankful I'm aware and can stop before it starts, and when it happens, I make a point of telling them how great they are. I do NOT wanna mess them up like I am.
How I just can’t fathom not liking my kid never mind love I can’t even get threw a night of “NO PHONE” for punishment I start to feel guilty! Never mind deliberately hurting my sons feelings. I think as a mother we can’t stand knowing out kids are not happy or cold, thirsty anxious , scared , and those are things in the world that I sometimes can’t control. As a mother you should be the one to provide the love and nurturing because strangers are shorty enough and should not have to deal with and be protected from their own mother .
💯 Jealous of her own daughter, that woman is messed up in the head...
Props to her teacher and her husband that didn't have to, but took her in anyways. I see so many comments about the mother, but we should be focusing on the fact that the teacher, who only saw her in her class once a day and maybe before/after school, took her in as if she was her own child and treats her so much better than her own mother. She seems like a wonderful woman and deserves the world. ❤️