A mother recognizes her daughter showing ‘dementia can be beautiful’
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- In this video posted on Facebook MJ Grant of Sanford captures the moment her mother who is deaf and battling dementia recognizes her daughter. The video has been watched more than 2 million times and shared by NBC’s Today show.
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I can imagine it breaks this young woman’s heart to know her mother doesn’t remember teaching her to sign. God Bless both of them
Yes, it is the most heartbreaking thing.
she dont remember giving birth to her. never mind sign.
Yes I can see that, but wow. This video is so powerful. The young woman is so beautiful, she signs so briskly smiling and smiling. Her Mother signs but more nebulously. Just so beautiful.
It's bittersweet. You can't pick just to see the bad in things. That's what's wrong with ppl now.
@@Beanieboom but as any form of dementia progresses the bad things are often all you see. They roll together to overtake everything else. A small illness to some such as a urine infection can send the person into hospital and on their discharge they can come home a different person. Most mourn their relatives many times, once when they forget who you are for the first time and at every meeting after and again when they die. I watched my mum become scared, lash out, bite and try to hurt myself and others, spit, take her clothes off in front of strangers, wake us up in the middle of the night by banging walls hard with her stick, eat her own poo, smear it and push it down plug holes or wrap it in tissues and put it her drawers, accuse me of not feeding her to the authorities to the point where I started taking date and time stamped photos of her eating, swore at me often and slowly looked me in the eyes and told me I was the most disgusting person she had met. I had no brothers or sisters to help as my brother died in 2007 which had seemed to finally spiral her into Alzheimer’s. I had my children but two were living several hours away in different directions and two were still young children. I had to make the hard choice to put her into permanent care when she burnt my daughters arm from top to bottom throwing hot soup over her, the children became afraid of her and I had carer breakdown. She had another five years until we lost her on Valentine’s Day last year after she swallowed a whole vinyl examination glove. It was a bad ride. There’s nothing ‘wrong’ in seeing the bad, there was very little good If I’m honest, but she wasn’t mum. Mum had gone. It affected myself and my children in different ways forever. Apart from them she was the last of my family. I miss her but am glad she’s gone for her sake as that was a kind of hell nobody should experience. The lady in this video is not really that far into dementia. Unfortunately there is worse to come I hope the daughter enjoys the time she has left with her mum taking her places and having conversations as there will be a time when she eats her own poo. I’ve not known a sufferer that hasn’t. Sorry for the long post. Dementia can’t be explained in one sentence and they often don’t show the very bad cases because they are truly shocking and the patients can’t consent to filming which leaves people under the impression that this is as far as dementia goes.
I’m a big ass hairy man but when the daughter said you’re my mama I must admit it brought a tear to my eye. Love can be so beautiful in the face of adversity.
You are so sweet and funny.
Yes love is so beautiful and you are good person. But consider shaving your ass clean so you don't have to tell it to stenagers that you have Amazon forest grown all over your ass.😂
@@nurse981 is your name actually karen? do we have a nice karen?
@@LiterallyAllNamesAreTaken yeah baby.
what does you being a big hairy man have to do with anything lol.
It’s so difficult to hold it together when a parent who has dementia is talking about you but not knowing they are your parent. This happened to me and it was like an out of body experience. So intensely sad. This daughter handled it much better than me and didn’t make it about her.
My dad was diagnosed with frontal lobe dementia a few months back and it's very difficult to deal with, you simply take one day at a time and appreciate the good days.
@@steviem5279 good luck to you. It can be a long road. Photos and music are good memory triggers for my dad.
@@snooterpoops I have him look through old photos and do puzzles. With the longer days now that spring is around and some warm days, he's been working around the garden tilling the soil so that helps him too. Most of the issues with Frontal lobe dementia are behavioral the biggest issue is that he's been sun-downing a lot so nights can be tough.
@@steviem5279 Just keep a good sense of humour and don't take things personally. They can't help it. Use music that he loved - play those songs and then have a conversation afterwards. It's amazing, they will usually have lucid moments and recognise family. REALLY WORKS, Music is a whole brain activity. I study the effects of music and they brain. Check it out.
@@lilfi-musician4937 Thank you!! Yes, the hardest part is trying to not take it personally but I think that part is hardest on my mom because no matter how much she knows, there are ties where you can tell it's getting to her. I keep reminding her that no matter what he says or does, that it's not him but it can be hard. The hardest part is getting him to go to sleep at night and staying asleep..he's lost all sense of time, perfect example about an hour ago he asked me what time it was..I told him just after 9:00 pm and he said that the clock is wrong and that it will be daylight in an hour or two, mind you he slept for an hour and in his mind he thought he slept a lot longer. I will definitely try the music and see how that works, hopefully it does the trick...as I mentioned, his dementia is frontal lobe dementia which has a lot of behavioral issues with it and of course there's a lot of delusions as well...he thinks we own five houses north of where we live and wants to go there to see the horses, I tried to tell him we don't own houses upstate and it becomes an argument where he insists we do so I tell him we'll go up another time and then he's ok...it's tough because he's going to be 80 this year, he was never sick in his life outside of the high blood pressure and then this strikes, I'm sure we missed some signs over the years and looking back we definitely did but IMO even if we didn't miss the signs he's still be in the same state he is now since there is not much out there that help frontal lobe dementia.
This is a beautiful moment, but dementia is not beautiful at all. It’s a terrible thing.
Yeah such a weird title lol.
@@lol-ot4pn Why? This was a beautiful moment, even if it was heartbreaking. The mother has dementia, and obviously, this was beautiful. If you see only the ugliness then Lord help anyone in your life who has dementia. If you can't change what *is*, then you *must* find the beauty in it.
@@gaurangatrades7847
🤦♂️ the point there is that dementia in itself as a DISEASE is NOT beautiful.
The moments with your loved ones are ,regardless of disease.
@@gaurangatrades7847 You obviously have never dealt with a loved one with dementia or alzheimer's. It's a terrible, heartbreaking disease. NOTHING about it is beautiful. NOTHING.
@@gaurangatrades7847 lord help your lack of grace and compassion in this thread. Just because you can dip a turd in gold, dosent mean youll find someone to buy it.
Her daughter speaks to her with such kindness and patience. Really very beautiful.
She must have been a good mom....still is.
Isn't that to be expected?????
I loved your comment ♥ the sweet gentleness between them warmed my heart 💓💖💗
@@ChristopherWhite-yg4hh expected... perhaps but sadly so often not the case
The young lady is worth a million.
@@ChristopherWhite-yg4hh its a small world if this is you. 🤣 🤣
What a kind and beautiful daughter. She was so patient and kind to her mama. No frustration or annoyance, just pure love and patience. Made me teary eyed when mama finally recognized her baby girl…so sad but so sweet 🥹❤️
it has one catch ,this is FAKE,just another video for likes on internet like milions of another FAKE videos
That hug after finding out she was her child......heartfelt.
Dementia is heartbreaking. :(
Welp this is my crying video today. I'm a 40-year-old man sitting in my office having lunch and this video popped up. Gotta call my mom and tell her I love her so much now.
Oh Ryan that is so precious... please tell your Mama you love her every day... I lost my mom when I was 22 and I miss her so very much ❤️
@@michellerobin5461 thanks. I try to tell her but sometimes forget. She’s the most amazing woman I’ve ever known.
@@ryana3679 She sounds wonderful, and raised you right! I’m lucky, my kids are still teenagers and say “I love you maman” all the time! I’m very blessed... and so are you ❤️❤️❤️
God bless you and your Mom!
Peace, Lynne 🍃💜🍃
@@lynnecarnivale5085 thank you so much
Yes, I love the way you guided her toward realization on her own without scaring her by throwing the whole truth at her at once. Very lovingly done!
At first I found this heartbreaking, but then enlightening. The patience and diligence this young woman displayed in bringing her mother around for just those few short moments was nothing short of spectacular. And all in sign language. I have no words.
I was trying to think of the right words to say, but you beat me to it. What an incredible young woman
Spectacular indeed... the daughter was a ray of sunshine in a very difficult situation. You could see her holding back the emotions under the smile.
Great ending... it was a good day that time. God bless them both.
You can tell how kind they both are in a couple of minutes can't you. Honestly 😭
My dad was diagnosed with dementia about 3 years ago. I've learned how to communicate with him using vast amounts of patience. You also learn how to guide the conversation rather than state facts and then act surprised the patient doesn't remember. The memories come, sometimes a day later, but they're in there.
@@cindym.1618 See i don't think i would have the patience or emotional stability if it happened to me. My mom is 88, she had me at 40, her first and last, i always thought it wasn't fair that i had an older mom. Thankfully she's healthier than me and still as sharp as a tack. I always prayed for her to be with me til she was 105 at least.
I'm a Social Worker and have worked with Dementia patients for 20 years and I'm so impressed with how you communicate with your mother. Very patient and do not rush or get frustrated if she can't remember and you go along with her train of thought not pulling her to yours. Many professionals can't do that. Well done.
Thank you, Hannah. That means a lot and thank you for what you do 💜
Agreed I'm also a social worker working with severely mentally ill patients. Her patience and brightness she brings to the conversation for her mother is so beautiful. I know in her private time it must be very painful for her but she doesn't let her mother see that. Also the cute part where her mother automatically believes the other person is so much older than she is. I thought that was so cute.
Big difference between a "job/professional/expert" & "true love/mercy/compassion"...
You either have it or you don't.
Thats how i was when my dad first got sick and now i regret every minute of it i was somewhat young so i wasnt mature enough i guess to fully grasp what was going on.
It's not that professionals can't. It's that they can't be bothered.
Shouldn't be in the profession!
It's quite beautiful to see how the daughter acts so nurturingly towards her own mother in what I imagine is such a difficult situation. Thanks for the dose of wholesome!
The daughter is extremely beautiful and seems like such a lovely person.
So gracious. She smiled throughout, when it must be so painful and upsetting for her
wat .. creepy
@@удивительный-б8х no, that’s not creepy at all.
Yeah especially how she posted the video for all to see her mothers illness
Bro it's a beautiful moment and you talking about how attractive she is? Smh bro
I’m 23 and my mom has schizophrenia. A few years back when she was in psychosis she didn’t know who I was. And now she refuses to take medicine so most days she doesn’t believe she’s my real mom, she thinks I’m just playing a role as her daughter. I live with her but I really miss her. Probably more than anything. I admire this woman’s strength in the video.
Colton Brent thanks
God bless both of you. I can't imagine how you feel. My heart goes out to both of you ❤
I am so sorry.
u da man
Ewwwww so in other words your mom is crazy
My mother passed from dementia. You did a great job to be gentle and remind your mom. Patience and love is amazing
My father got diagnosed with dementia at an earlier age of 52 and passed away 5 years later when I was 18. For anyone who doesn’t know what it’s like to live with someone with dementia, it can be so much tougher than this obviously, my father would walk around the house not knowing if anyone was home saying “hello? Hello?” when multiple people were home. It broke my heart every time and I would immediately walk to him and the relief on his face was always so appreciative that I was just there. Just thinking about him believing he was alone in a full house hurts me to this day. I just hope that wherever he is, his isn’t hurting anymore
Awww Ian, that’s hard. My mother does the same thing throughout the day. Losing a parent in this way is hard. My heart goes out to you.
Sending you love ❤
I'm sorry you had to deal with this awful situation at such a young age (NOT that being older would make it less awful).
It is heartbreaking 💔
I pray he is no longer hurting 🙏 and that one day, you two will be reunited, and it will be Glorious!
Sending my love dude, keep on trucking!
Some part of me thinks, or maybe that's not the right words, that in many ways you lost him twice in someways.
I'm a doctor in Turkey and we visit the elderly and dependent people in their homes. More than half of our patients have Alzheimer's disease so I have had the chance to observe their progress and decline of their cognitive abilities. The daughter in this video does a wonderful job in stimulating her mother's memory. LOVE REMAINS THE SAME
@MrMadManc please be joking
@@faitdetreseul9767 Why would he be joking when it's actually true? The technology is patented, well waters and fresh waters tested(all high in metals and other neurotoxins). Just a matter of digging deep, like finding all the government patents for these sorts of things. For example, Bill Gates wants to block the sun soon to "aid in cooling the earth" by releasing particles into the air that will deflect the sun's rays. Tell me, what healthy, human friendly man-made particles are okay to inhale and be exposed to? What happens to these particles when they settle? Now look up once in a while, and if you see lines in the sky, remember that the particles in those streaks in the sky are patented.
@MrMadManc that just made me laugh
@MrMadManc that just made me laugh
@MrMadManc They sure do. Theres even images and blueprints of the technology that was patented by the US Navy. I dont understand how people are still oblivious to all the information that's out there, just waiting to be seen by anyone who wants to.🤷♀️🤦♀️
When my father had dementia and did not recognize me, I cried sooo hard. I admire your strength.
I've been looking after my friend's parents while he is away. His mom's got dementia. I've known her for 17 years, so she recognizes me, and smiles at me every time she sees me. But she can't place me. Some times she thinks I'm her son, some times she thinks I'm the son of her friend, etc. When I saw her after getting a haircut, she asked me "are you one of my grandsons?". Even when she doesn't recognize me she is still nice to me. Shows what a good person she is.
It is sad and endearing.
Weak minded individual, I’ll never have any problems when I’m older 🥱 it’s all will power
It really is. It's a deep pain tinged by beauty seeing their decline.
@@deadly2.089 ..I'm 73 ..and sharp as a tac...I tell my family...dont even think about playin me...you want real problems..dont mess with me...hahaha..smiles
@@deadly2.089 who knew will powering was the cure
My mom (divorced from my dad) used to visit my paternal great-grandmother (who had Alzheimer's). She was always friendly and knew she was supposed to know my mom, but also couldn't exactly place her. One time she said, "we're friends, right?" Sweetheart. They were friends.
My father barely recognized me last time I saw him, but when he did it was the most powerful hug I've ever had in my life!
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Try playing some music that had special meaning that can sometimes perk up the memory
Oh! That was one of the sweetest things I've ever seen. The daughter has embraced her role like a champion, even though it must hurt to see her mama fade away. I'm 65, and hope to not fade away as well, but I have sweet children who have already shown me that they will care for me.
i wish you the best from a 14 year old! may your memories last till your very last breath!
This daughter is communicating so well with her mom. It can be extremely overwhelming and cause anxiety in Alzheimer’s patients when you come right out and tell them who they are and what their relationship is to you and others. I had an aunt die of it a few years ago and her husband wasn’t so patient with her. She would get horrible anxiety over it and try to run off and tell people he was trying to kidnap her. I think he was just in serious denial. I know he didn’t do it out of spite. It was so heartbreaking. Alzheimer’s is such a cruel and brutal disease. 😢😢😢
But she showed us a beautiful moment, her moment with her mom, i'm grateful she shared such an intimate moment
Yeah, my father (pfft) wasn't patient with Grandma, and he often acted like it was a bother to make sure she was taken care of in the nursing home. I learned to hate him at that point, realizing how selfish he really is. Grandma was fun and a bit rebellious, which made me love her even more.
I had always wondered why in these videos, the family members talk to those with alzheimers like a friendly stranger, rather than a daughter/son/etc... Now I know why. Very sad.
completely agree!! she does it with such patience and kindness, not pushing, not insisting. Even though the mother is still confused, she accepts it because she doesn't feel threatened. That was the first thing we learned when my father had Alzheimers.. go with their story and don't keep trying to get them to remember or recognize people. Big praise to this daughter!!
I’m so sorry for your experiences. You’re right, it really is brutal.
Crap......I'm an old man who's kids don't bother with and I'm crying like a baby........That young lady deserves the best of everything in life. God bless her.
Im sorry about your kids. I have a strained relationship with my mom, too. I hope if you reach out they are receptive... and if you do reach out, let them tell why they don't bother with you. It might be hard but it will be worth it to have your kids back.
I don't know your situation, but I'd put in the effort to see them, and make sure they know you miss them. Young people have a tendency to be shitty, and selfish, and don't really realize their parents won't be around forever. But they will grow to regret it when you're gone, and it may be too late to fix it, life is temporary after all.
@@JM-nt5ex older people tend to be narcissistic and shitty. Its exactly that type of perspective that keeps most millenials away from their parents. Are you kidding me?
Sadly these younger generations have forgotten respect and kindness for our elders, as a paramedic i see horrible stories of abuse and negligence everyday, even if they are rude or mean our elders still deserve our respect, compassion, and most importantly our love...
@@AngelDarkMatter do you know everyone's full story? For example did you know *97%* of women in UK 19-24 has been sexually harassed. This takes tremendous work on mental health and can vary from person to person. Give the younger generation a space to heal and recoup. They're not being disrespectful if they're focusing on their own healings so history doesn't repeat itself
I'm tearing up. She's so sweet and patient with her mom. What a beautiful moment to share ❤
I'm a deaf dad of two hearing daughters whose mom (my wife) is also deaf and this video had me bawling. Thanks, how the daughter handled this with her mom was beautiful. Dementia really sucks, but she is handling it with grace.
Bless you, Billy!
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I think the worst pain in the world is watching the person who raised you into the person you are. The person who showed you the ropes and everything you know. To forget everything including who you are.
This hit different
Aye and to know that the same fate awaits you but for medical breakthroughs.
My Father had dementia and luckily he never forgot me but he did forget my sister for a while and know how hard it was for her ,this is so beautiful to watch and very moving .
This is so beautiful. Side note, the daughter is out-of-this world pretty.
Agreed 👍
Inside and out.
More like gorgeous! She reflects her beautiful soul ❤️
Beautiful inside and out 🙂
Certainly a beautiful woman, showing great kindness, patience and respect to her dear mother, the sign language is so touching from both. 🙏👍🏴
Dementia is heartbreaking. I'm very, very thankful that as severe as my mom's dementia got she remembered me until the end. Even when she was in hospice after a stroke she knew it was me taking care of her. I will be forever grateful for that.
I'm so glad you have this knowledge. My mother has dementia and I look after her at home. It is my wish to be able to care for her til the very end but I have no idea what the future holds for us. My mum is deaf but no longer seems aware of this and she chatters and sings and jokes all day long. In some ways she is happier now than she has ever been. My wish is to know as you do, that she feels loved every minute of her life. To have no regrets.
Dont be. Thats not special on this. Every parent would remember their kids. Dementia is a progressive disease… one day your mother will not recognize you and think that this has to do with her will is a huge ignorance on your part.
My mother had dementia and didn't know me for the last three years she was alive. She had beautiful and sweet disposition. My wife was with her during her last Christmas party. They begin to sing Christmas carols, mother join in word for word! Amazing because she hadn't spoke for months before, but she new the songs.
My own mother has dementia now. She's here, but she's not really here. Mom, I miss you so much. The few brief moments when you come back are priceless treasures. I beg you every time to stay, but you always leave again.. I love you and miss you mom. I love you very much and miss you so much...
Omg you just made me start crying. My mother is about to turn 70 and so far so good, it makes me feel very lucky to have her. My heart goes out to you.
Bless you for having such strength I pray for you 💜💛
I lost my mom 2 years ago to a brain aneurysm and your post has me in tears. I can't imagine losing her and her still alive. I tell her I love her every single day. Lots of love to you both ❤
My mother wasn’t deaf, but she did have dementia. She’s been gone just over a year now, but this conversation reminds me so much of having the same conversation with with her many times. “You’re my mother. I’m your daughter.”❤️😞
Gosh, I can't imagine it. I do really wish you a lot of patience and fortitude.
My momma is still around but she is in a nursing home now. And with covid, we can't go see her but we face time once a week. She has long forgotten who we are, but she at least sees us as friends! I miss her so much!
I’m sorry about that ❤️
Lost mine a month ago. She lived in a different country so I didn't always see the decline towards the end. I was lucky that the last time I saw her we were able to have a laugh and said "goodbye" to each other. Miss you mum. xx
that daughter is amazing. So beautiful, patient and kind.
Hello how’re you doing?
The first time my dad didn't know me. I had to leave his hospital room. I was in the hallway crying. Some nurses asked me what was wrong? I told them. They were very nice in explaining to me about his head trauma and dementia. It still brings tears to my eyes 8 years later.
Her daughter is precious, much love to anyone supporting the elderly
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I cry every time I see this. My deaf grandmother lived with me for 9 years before she passed. I miss her ih deep in my bones I miss her dearly and had many conversations like this.
When my pa died, he had absolutely no idea who I was. He was my rock, my boss, my best friend in this world. The reason I live. Utterly agonising. And I am still recovering 17yrs later, I will never be the same person. Harder than ever and changed for the rest of my life....... not for the better....
So sorry for your loss, your words made me sad. I know grief doesn’t always go away. Wishing you peace. I’m sure he loved you very much and would want you to be happy.
Andrew Nicholson let me tell you a true story. A few yrs ago I used to scan photos for deceased loved ones. I looked at her photo of herself and scanned around her, I saw this very handsome elderly man and described him in detail. It was her Dad. She told me he was still alive but in the late stages of alzheimer's. He was with her the whole time. What his earthly body could no longer do his soul was able to be with her. This happens with coma patients also. Love is the bond. I hope this helps you.
I hope he's flying with the angels!
I am a father with two college student sons that love me forever. I often think about what they will do when I'm gone!
Sad thoughts!
RIP for your dad! I hope you'll be okay!
@Tanielu Stowers I know this, intimately.... as a trained social worker. Complete role reversal, the adult child takes care of the senior baby!! I had amazing times with him, hugged him - which he would never allow as a younger man, told him of my worries; while in his arms. He totally trusted me, and was fiercely peotectective. He lived his final days in a care home! The rules said as a sibling, I could visit at any time of the day... I did at 3.00am one morning, to find him marching the corridors with his zither frame, closely followed by his carer Ben. He was in great hands. I am sure I will meet him again, as I regularly have conversations with him in my dreams?? Xx
I had a similar experience with my grandfather whom I was very close to. Not only did he not recognize me but he thought I was one of his sons that never came to visit him. I felt very uneasy b/c my dad's brother or my "uncle", if you want to call him that, hasn't been a part of our family for a very long time and never visited my grandfather even on his deathbed. I never even knew him as an uncle at 25yrs old. It was very hard for me not to resent my grandfather for this b/c of how close we were but I later realized this was very selfish of me. I believe this was God's way of my grandfather finding peace with one of his sons who never visited him before he passed on.
I love how she doesn't force her out of where she is in her mind currently (she thinks she is younger) & eases her memory out little by little
I agree with you Lisa. My childrens Papa had dementia and Alzheimer's. All of his children used to try to force him to try and remember, and would often correct him.... which only led to more confusion and agitation. People need to be educated on how to deal with family/friends with these horrific diseases 😥
That’s racist
My grandmother died from Alzheimer’s and now my mother has it. We know what to expect, however it is still extremely hard to watch your loved one go through this terrible disease.
It’s amazing that she still knows how to use the sign language..
Why wouldn't she? People with Alzheimer remember how to talk their language (English by example). It's the same thing
@@lillight6223 yeah its just sign language is a thing you would tink you would have to be very mentally sharp for
@@jackkanzinger not really. It's as natural as speaking for most people. who use it
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not really. it's just talking with your hands.
@@lillight6223 Thats not true in all cases. Some lose their ability to talk let alone successfully get out what they're trying to say. Language is part of the brain just like everything else, whether it be spoken language or sign language. That's also why some people with it forget how to do the most ingrained or hardwired things like pick up utensils. Its like a virus in your hard drive, it can affect any file. It is a part of it unfortunately, to say the least that is.. Just depends on the person and their individual circumstances.
My 78 yr old mom has Alzheimer's/Dementia... She's the only in our family to have it, and it's the most devastating disease. Watching her wither away, slowly forget everything and lose her ability to care for herself is heart wrenching. The worst of it is when she momentarily realizes that her mind is slipping and she starts crying. It's a horribly terrible disease.
@sbcontt YT I think it is legal in Oregon.
They should consider daily doses of Raw Brain Glandular from Porcine sources. It is available on line and make sure the bottle says "raw tissue". Keep giving it daily....do not judge it for 8 weeks. It's inexpensive and defatted in pill form.
That was beautiful!! My mom has vascular dementia and although she hasn't forgotten me, she forgets my kids often. She forgets how old I am & often thinks I am 17 or 18 still when we are on the phone. God bless this daughter for being so patient with her mother and going along with what ever she can remember or not at the time.
This made me bawl. My Mom passed away complications of brain aneurysm, caught, removed then strokes.
My Dad has dementia and doesn't know I'm his daughter. I'm visiting in April before my birthday. Would be nice to have a moment such as this 🤍
@Ali Al-Mahdi I haven't left him. He is an hour and a half away from where I live. My stepmother bought a new house and moved him there so I visit every time they allow. My stepmother has say so over where they live as well as when we can visit. So you trying to make me feel bad or as if I LEFT My Dad you are beyond wrong and in complete error!
@@KimberlyCeezU thank you so very much
@@oldchannelawhellnah TY for adding to my prayers going up!
@@KimberlyCeezU some ppl are full of negativity, enjoy spouting untruths they've concluded as well as being hurtful so... I tried not to take it personally but still returned with the truth. Not sure why I felt the need for any explanation but so be it.
@Ali Al-Mahdi it's not HIS STEPMOM.... IT IS HIS WIFE AND SHE HAS ALL THE SAY SO. PERIOD. STFU
And all his children are in his life since forever and always have been and will be. He's surrounded by all of us thank God ... except 1 has died. We all are there all different times as they can have and together other times. His care is by all of us. No strangers no nurse and we all are there for one another. And when My Dad dies, our relationship, all of us, each one with him and us all together shows for itself. Strangers like you have no bearing before now nor after now. Can't fix ignorance of what you do not know. Sorry you have no life that you need to fixate on someone's you don't know. LoL
Hope you can get over this.
I lost my mother to complications from Covid, in October. the last time I saw her at her home (before she was entered into the hospital) I gave her a big hug even though I wasn't supposed to and I'm glad I did because it ended up being the last hug I was ever able to give her. It was also the first time I noticed signs of dementia coming for her, because she would just stare off once in a while. Love your parents as much as you can because you will miss them when they go and we never really know when that will be.
Thanks for sharing, I need this every once in a while I only have my mom and grandmother and I’m so grateful to have them and I should tell them more often! I’m truly sorry for your lost, I’m really glad you were able to give her one last hug, may she Rest In Peace. 🤍
Breaks my heart, and I had just a moment of happiness that she recognized her daughter.
This has to be the most beautiful video clip on TH-cam.
In my experience my mother always knew I was someone ‘close’, sometimes she thought I was her father, sometimes I was her brother.
Other times she recognised me as her son, she was always happy to see me regardless of how confused she was she knew I was family, someone that she loved and someone who took care of her.
glad you had the connection, even when it was not quite right. She knew you.
That is so sweet. My grandfather didn't recognize us as family but he recognizes all of us nonetheless. If someone asks him who we are he'll say "he/she is one of us". And if one of us is not home, he'll ask about us.
With me specifically, once I was his mother, once I was his wife but most of the time, I don't know who I was to him, I was just 'one of us'. And it doesn't really matter because he was still really sweet. Whenever I needed a shoulder to cry on, I'll go to him because he didn't judge and he wasn't disturbed by my distress. He would pat me on the head and give me some completely unrelated but sincere advice.
But my grandfather was not often confused. He may seemed confused to us but more often than not, it's like he lived in a different world. The only times when he was in distress is if the narrative of the world he was in was distressing. Like he once thought his friend was waiting for him and he had to go meet them now but it was past midnight so we couldn't let him leave the house. Otherwise, while his mental processing may take a second, he is sure with his thoughts and his state of mind so we just entertain him.
Often they fail to see how old they are and can't see how their kids could be adults. Thus any adult is either of their own generation or an earlier one.
@@madcapprofThanks, didn’t know that/never considered that but it makes so much sense from their confused perspective.
I never felt slighted or offended that I wasn’t ‘recognised’ for who I was, it was always more than enough to be greeted with a smile or with affection as a loved one.
I miss my mother so much.
@@jixuscrixus1967 I had an 80 year old aunt who had Alzheimer's and she used to insist that she is 16 years old, newly married and claimed to be the mother of her toddler great grandson.
She had no idea that the 60 year old "stranger" who she regularly saw in her home was her actual son.
It was really heart wrenching to see her vibrant personality unravel and disappear day by day.
The daughter is wonderful and respectful! It must be so hard!
It's easier to deal with than visiting her grave - from one who knows.
Truly beautiful how the conversation led to a moment of connection for them both.
You have to admire the daughter’s incredible patience and positive energy. Instead of just saying ‘Mom, I am your daughter’ she walked her through to discover the answer on her own. Beautiful exchange. Dementia is painful because you can see how coherent the mother is, knowing how to sign and carry on a normal conversation, yet somehow the disease is erasing her recognition of family can be heartbreaking. But on the otherhand, this is also a testament to family playing a big part in showering love to their family member and leading them out of a darker place to find some answers. It was so worth allowing her mother to find the answer to finally get that hug.
I'm here in tears because my mum can't recognise me. She recognises my wife somewhat and says my face looks familiar. I speak with her on the phone nearly everyday and I saw her only 15 months ago.
😢❤️,
I used to take Care of people with Dementia,but none were deaf,I can't imagine careing for someone with that combination,her Daughter is Just So Awesome.i Love her reaction when she realizes that the lady signing with her is her Daughter🥰
My dad just passed away from Alzheimers in Aug 2020. He never lost his sense of humor. This is a beautiful video!
...so sorry RIP ...Condolences to you and family....!
I'm bawling my eyes out. This is beautiful. Savor these small moments.
Me too, FrankN Stein. When the mother realized and reached over to her daughter, I was gone.
Me too 😭😭
What a wonderful daughter to a beautiful mother.
Hello how are you doing 😊😊☺️☺️
That was so special, her daughter is so patient and so loving toward her mom, who it a brief moment acknowledges her daughter. Great video !!!
That's what I thought, too!!! Such a patient daughter who honors her mom!
My grandfather had Alzheimer’s. His was very slow progression but I know what it’s like to be remembered, even briefly. It’s a gift.
OMG. This is undoubtedly the most beautiful thing that a daughter could do for her mother. Girl you are very special and I hope you know that. Not everybody would treat their mother the way that she does. With kindness, compassion, respect and love. Mama raised a good woman. And you can tell that she's not only beautiful on the outside but she's beautiful on the inside as well. Props to mom and daughter. 😊👍👏
My father had alzheimers for 10 years. Taking care of him was tough but I would do anything to be able to take care of him again. He passed 3 years ago and not a day goes by I don't think of him. He spent 30 years in the military and was a Vietnam vet. Sad when only at 57 years old he developed dementia and passed 10 years later at 67. Cherish the ones you love because tomorrow isn't promised.
As someone who has worked with people with Dementia, this is a beautiful video. Some forget how to walk, talk, will speak languages they never learned or babble. Some forget how to breathe. Dementia affects different people in very different ways. It’s heartbreaking that there is no cure 😢
Do they speak languages they never learned accurately??? I've never heard that before but that's really interesting if true.
Yes. My Poppy could not speak or walk. He was a vegetable for a long time before he died. It was horrible. I do remember, before he went completely silent, when he could still sing though.... he couldn't talk but he could sing. I loved to hear him sing so much.
@@caristee4184 singing uses a different part of the brain then talking does, that may be why he could sing after he couldn't speak anymore. He was communicating with you as best he could ❤
One of the most
Precious things I've
Ever seen. Tears of joy
At the love and loyalty.
Wow, the daughter was so sweet, kind and patient. Very touching.
:') this is beautiful. so glad she was able to recognize her daughter.
The patience and love of this woman is amazing. What a beautiful moment
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
She must've been a great mother, because her daughter is such a beautiful breath of air and light. May the force stay with u.
You’re right, she does have a happy glow about her. She’s doing a great job with her mother.
I can't imagine anything more heartbreaking than for your parent to not know who you are and to have forgotten all of those memories from your life together. 😭
Hugs to anybody in this situation!
What a wonderful and patient daughter you are.
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OMG. I almost wanted to cry watching this. It has to be so painful to be sitting there with your PARENT...this person who raised you and who you love so much...and they don’t even know who you are and even when they recognize you, there’s still a distance. Kudos to this daughter for being so strong, consistent, and patient. Beautiful. Wishing them both the best and lots of love.
This absolutely made me cry so hard because it was such an intimate and warm moment between mother and daughter.
What a wonderful, loving, patient daughter. Like, “I will always love you, no matter what.”
It speaks volumes about the mother that she has raised such a compassionate, patient and loving daughter. That is a moving and beautiful legacy .♡
Thats beautiful that she realized that she was her daughter . i knew a guy in the Alzheimer home. When his wife would come to visit him hed look at her and say i know you from somewhere but i dont remember where . theyd been married for over 50 years . Pray that they get healed and that theres a cure found
What a lovely young lady, I love the loving way she signs and treats her mother, and all the time with such a loving and gracious smile!!
This is true agape love ❤️ !!
It's impressive how speech, including signing, is such a fundamental part of our existence that we don't lose it even if we lose everything else in our minds. We forget everything but we can still communicate with speech until everything else is gone, too.
Our old neighbor had dementia. Towards the end she thought I was her mother as we took her food and kept her place tidy for her. She had no living children or relatives that lived close. She used to be the wife of dairy man in town and she was so jolly and plump when she was younger. It was sad to see her so thin and frail with her wispy grey hair falling in little tight curls around her nature withered face.
I never wanted to correct her when she would reach out to me and hug me or hold my hand too long when we helped her and she called me “Mama”. I felt honored that she trusted me that much and that she felt that I loved her that much back.
Thank you Maddie for the memories you gave all of us as children and thank you for allowing all of us to be there for you.
Those moments are so precious, they come so rarely and out of the blue
That was touching and happy at the same time. The daughter loves her mother regardless of the circumstances.
A sweet elderly lady told me one time not to pity anyone with Alzeheimers because loosing ones mind makes everything easier. She said that it was horrifying living out her last days with her mind still intact but her body constantly trying to die. At times she felt like she lived in a prison inside herself.
...wow that was compelling...!
Wow, that was sad! I often wonder if Alzheimer is a mental breakdown caused by really deep depression that is created once a person realizes his/her life is ending.
My great aunt went like that. She was still sharp as a tac mentally and could hold conversation perfectly fine but her motor functions had all bit gave up and she couldn't even muster the strength to turn her head but at least she still knew who everyone was. It was sad seeing her like that.
My grandfather (her brother) went the opposite. It wasn't dementia but he had cancer that spread to his brain and it made him really confused over time. It was heartbreaking to see him so lost and unsure why he couldn't do things like go outside (covid lockdowns), get ready for work (he had been retired nearly 20 years) or couldn't hold a conversation as he couldn't recognise people or follow what was being talked about. In his case he had moments of lucidity and would just cry because he knew he didn't have much time left and felt trapped in his house unable to see the relatives he wanted to reconnect with while he still had time. He got upset that he couldn't look after himself and that my gran and his children were going out of their way to make sure he was okay.
I think losing your mind may offer some moments of bliss through not being aware of what is going on but the moments of lucidity where you realise what is happening must be absolutely terrifying. That and it is really hard on the family who are trying to help only to be met with confusion or anger from their loved one because they don't remenber what is happening or who you even are.
@@caldw615 So sad reading your comment but all of what you said is so true. My mother is in early stages of alzeheimers and dementia plus has eating disorder. It's horrible. She starts talking in the middle of a sentence and it's just gambled language with teats of frustration. She can't remember who my kids are now and those moments of clarity are heartbreaking because she knows she is loosing her mind. But in my heart, I hear MeeMee Faye tell me it's better this way.
@@herbertalves8045 The human brain requires cholesterol.
My goodness, her daughter is so beautiful.
She has the wonderful person vibe. What a lucky mum.
I cant imagine my own mother looking at me and not knowing who I was. How do you power through something like that? Breaks my heart.
That made me tear up. My nan had dementia. And my mum was starting showing signs before she passed away. I love that your mum recognised you.
this is beautiful because it's real. Once i visited my grandmother with Alzheimer's and dementia in assisted living. I had my 25 year old son with me and my 3 year old son. My grams. Always knew who i was even when she couldn't pull my name. She loved my momma very much, her favorite of 11 children. So she always knew me as Non's daughter cause i look just like my momma. So i was complaining to my grandma about needing some food and stuff not thinking I'm making her think we starving! She got all upset and started cussing my older son out thinking he was my husband! She told him he better go down with me to the food stamp office and stopped being ashamed and go get his family some help! We hollered! Lmfao! Oh my good ness.that was one of the best moments we ever had at that place before she passed. She had never lived anywhere else except in Orleans all her life. She came here to us in nc escaping hurricane Katrina. Lillian Mae Moran. Beautiful! She just never stopped being a mother! She couldn't strip being a mother even when she didn't know us she would still try and smuggle us gram crackers and peppermints in folded napkins out her purse when the nurse would leave the room! It was so cute. We used to say "momma! You paying for all this stuff, you don't have to steal or sneak it to us. Its yours! " she was so cute. Having 11 children in the city she was just used to making sure she always had everything in her purse her children might have needed! She would take us grandchildren to the super dome to see Disney on ice and she would pack us in 3 Cadillac's and have her children drive 2 of them to get us all there. Us older grandchildren would have huge pocket books on our shoulders filled with sodas and candy and snacks and anything you could possibly want to eat at a show without having to visit the snack bar once! My grandma was amazing to us. And in her late years, we took care of her with all the love and detail she took care of us with. This is a beautiful video. She definitely recognised her daughter! She just did what they all do once they remember somebody.it triggers all the memories at once and they enjoy the memories that flood back to them right then. That's why she said yes Manley is your father! Instead of saying anything to her daughter She was loving remembering her baby daddy! Awesome. Might have been the best thing ever for the daughter to have done. To trigger her mom's memories and let her remember some even if just in their moment. Beautiful. The first time i took my oldest son when he was 5 to new Orleans to meet. She leaned down to him and smiled her big wide gold toothed smile and said " hey baby!" And then then pointed directly in her mouth and was amazed and said ooh whatin yo mouth? He had never seen anybody with gold teeth before! He was amazed his grandma had them! 👄she loved him the first minute then forgot who he was in 5 minutes and told me to tell the neighbors child to get out her gate and go home! I had to scream momma! That's my child! Lol. Five minutes after she met him! And that was 25 years ago before the Alzheimer's and dementia had even got started good! I'm in tears of course. God is so good and so alive in our lives.
This made me cry, I've been so fortunate, my Mum is 94 this year, still healthy, she's starting to forget things, I'm scared to death. To the Daughter in this video, I pray I have the grace to handle it as you do 💕
Wow this is heartbreaking. I can’t imagine my mother not knowing who I am. Kills me to think about it. This woman is amazing.
My great grandpa had Alzheimer's and every time we went to visit him we ended up crying. He never knew who we were but would say over and over again how we reminded him of his family. He told my dad multiple times that he reminded him of his son. Our other family members would text us and tell us about how they visited him when he was lucid, but we never got to see him like that because we lived in a different province. It really hurts seeing your family members and they don't know who you are. R.I.P Grandpa
As a student nurse, I hope I can witness and be a part of more moments like this.
Daughter is a beauty inside and out.
Play their favorite older music and talk about years ago. That, I read has been proven to help. Praying for you all.
Good advice, though it can't be done in such cases
...100% agree...
Brain Cancer with memory loss is a very similar experience....for me with my Son . I have taken care of him for almost 22 years. I always will until the day I die. I pray that I can have a long life to take care of him....I pray he never forgets me. But if he does I will tell him who he is .
Wow I love your spirit ...you have such a strong spirit ...
@@mikedavidz6161 Thank you Mike ! I truly appreciate that.
Hey Mike - sorry for the typo ... you tube censored my comment. Because I referred to the new nonsense-- I mean imposed normal. Let's see if this gets through.
@@Susan-jn3yb yes it's actually went through ...😊🌈✨✨🌟
This was a beautiful yet sad moment all at once. The fact that the daughter keeps on smiling shows ger strength
I love how you helped your mama realize she is your mama. I worked with Alzheimer patients many years. My mom also had dementia and later full blown Alzheimer's. God blessed your mama with such a wonderful daughter as you. God bless you for being such a wonderful daughter. More people need to see this video. I am sharing with all my friends.
Every single time the mom remembers she is her mother, I can imagine what the daughter feels. It's like rediscovering a new world of emotions every time.
This wonderful Lady and her mom has through this video taught me what loving kindness and patience truly means. ❤
Dementia is the cruelest. Always breaks my heart to witness this sadness yet joy.
Watching my Papaw, a WWII vet go through Alzheimer's for six years...I wouldn't wish this disease on anyone. Bless the daughter for being so patient and understanding.
This is so wonderful to see. Dementia is difficult but you can see the love and patience this daughter has with her dear mother. It brought tears to my eyes.
When you sign,, my mama ,, she hugs you so tight ,, like omg yes you are my baby xx it's lovely to watch you both sign.
Awesome daughter!!
Beautiful daughter, beautiful mother. The signing makes the relationship even more profound somehow. The memories are gone but the language is still there.
I've watched my great grandfather go through it and I'm now taking care of my grandma who is in the early stages . It's going to be a rough road but I'd rather be the one talking care of her than a home she doesn't know. She has her bad days and we cherish the good days.
❤ I admire your strength and courage .
M heart just melted
My best friend in primary school was deaf and now as a 35 year old male when I see people sign I melt. She truely had a massive impact on me even if it was when I was 5 and it was short lived