Love Marriage Vs Parents | Raj Shamani
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mostly muslim guy !!!!
what a fuck ideology in hinduism
akkkkkk thoooo
JAI BHIM JAI MIM
Her children will be luckiest to have a supportive mom ❤
Exactly...I was thinking the same while watching this 🥺
@@rida06 Yes 🥲
Very funny
Then I am lucky, my parents never restrict me to marry with my love, I have that believe 100%
Correct, their kids must take such decisions, Leave Parents and pick someone else over them.
I love her....mam....i luv u from the bottom of my heart.......what a brave lady............salute to you........
Totally agree…if it doesn’t work out you don’t hold someone else accountable.
Also if you marry someone against your will just to please your parents, you will never be able to do justice to that person and as a result that person will suffer for no fault of theirs
I can guarantee there will be flood of comments saying going against family is horrendous . But man if u have seen a little bit of both of marriages . You can easily say it's lot easy marrying against family then living a dreadful life all the time cursing ur life is hell .
But yeah maturity is needed in both the Cases. You can't do that at in ur early 20s
@@yuvrajaryan7005 that is true for both arrange or love marriage
I thing one shouldn't marry before 25
Definitely !!! And if you knew your family would never allow a love marriage then why the heck are you wasting someone elses time 🥴
100% Agreed
Sometimes your family allows u to choose whomever u want but u just can't find Mr. right & have to settle with Mr. Whatever. I was bought up in a metro city & moved to a small town. In my community i cant find educated modern guys. So no option but to marry illiterate guy
I have seen so many cases were when someone say I want to marry this person.. Which is not the parents selection.. Parents say if u go with ur love I will die.. Like.. Emotional controlling.. And they are forced to get married to someone else.
Right
Same with me 😢
It's currently happening to me and it's pathetic. The choice between l9ve and parents..I cannot explain it in words
To the people who suffer.. I will say.. Staying with manipulation and possessiveness is never a good path whether it's your partner or parents. Rest is your choice.
happening with me too,
But I am not getting emotional fulled, said to parents ok aap chahte ho ki me mar jau to muje mar do fr
I don't understand why parents disagree for person you like and why they want you to marry strangers
Fetish.
Ya u should see Sardha case
@@anushkapathak3360 just because of one person can you really speak for rest of these billions of people stop being stupid and keep being in your nice girl syndrome
@@anushkapathak3360 arrange mee aise cases nhi hote kya🤣
Accidents sb jagah hote hai
Religion , caste , inter state, status, moreover we gave you birth so we own you, according to society a parent is only successful in their parenting if a girl marries the person they selected....
In India ..this doesn't work for one big reason ... people don't take their own responsibility..and stand by there own decision...if you take one there is price to pay
True. Mine left me too
My parents didn't allow me to go for love marriage.. They did beat me n forced me to forget him.... Later on the guy also left as he had his commitments n he got married to someone else. Now my parents hv thought that they will allow my brother for love marriage. This has hurt me a lot.. How can they say abt him doing love marriage when they made my life miserable? I m helpless n I can't do anything. I can't be sad anymore cuz of this.. I hv suffered a lot... A lot... How do I ignore this n move ahead in life... Someone plz help me... Plz suggest me something...
@legaldiaries9279 i know this hurts u so much.. Bt things have happened already.... Its really hard to move on... Bt u have to... Atleast u have a ur life... Now on do wht u want to do... There so many independent individuals in the world chasing their dreams.... Be a independent individual... Independent individual means to stand alone and work for urself... Its doesnt mean to hurt anybody as u dont care....we should not behave badly to anybody as we get from another individuals.
Just leave the place and if you are stable having a job, u can clear ur mind by getting out the family, atleast for a certain period of time.. Its of no use to blame anyone now.. Choose ur path carefully...!!
@@sowmyamohanan2338true.
First forgive them and let me make myself clear doesn't mean you forget that happened to you what they did to you no
But you learened a lesson that you should think about yourself first love yourself sooooo much more anybody would love you
If you are stable move out
If not take some time think how you wana live your life and then plan silently and make yourself capable even it's a small job r whatever then move out work for yourself
Hey just change your perspective , think that you guys weren't meant for each other. God has his own plans for you, you may find someone who is really worth it❤And will not leave you no matter what ❤I will pray for u to find the right person ❤ Be happy queen❤
Ha jab emotional blackmail krte h na parents jab pta chalta h....bc caste system itna ghatiya h is desh m .....
Ryt bro
@lovelyvats6926, Haan ghatiya to hai, lekin yeh cast system Desh ka nahi balki Hindu religion ka hai.
@lovelyvats6926tumko ye koi adhikaar nhi kisi caste ko glt bolne ka ...mujhko caste system achha lgta hai kyoki jb bhi koi dikkat aati hai meri caste Wale mere sath hote hain Mera support krte hain ye mere liye bdi baat hoti hai...aur same gotra mtlb Bhai bhn ...agr koi ldki love marriage chahti hai to apne caste me kre family Maan jayegi 7-8 crore brahmin me agr tumko love nhi mil rha itna unique ho...
same caste k lie bhi blackmail krte h parents😂 love marriages are not for middle class ppl
@@geniusstudentsbymangalmish4343 uski life uski marzi aap kyu bhaunk rhe ho
As a woman, I truly agree to her words and she is a true woman 😊
Arrange mareiage is not actually a marriage its a certificate to do anything with girl, certificate given by both families
What rubbish
Arrange marriage ka success rate jyada hai kiun ki usme cheating domestic violence love marriage se kam hote hain modern khayalaat😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You should marry for love...But a love with "no" Compromises... Like no change of religion ,social status or belief system... Then I'd believe it's true love... But maa baap ka izzat bhi bachh jaaye aur woh Maan jaayein toh best hai...
Isn't it toxic ki baccha apna khusi khud se dundhne lagta hai toh maa baap ka izzat jane lagta hai.🙂
@@shrsandilya8344 Aisa hai naa ki society boycotts the parents if daughters marry out of caste or religion... n worse if a Hindu girl marries a Muslim man.. They have to constantly hear taunts.. So they either have to grow a thick skin or not bother about society... Its a tough decision to take.
Lgta h jese India me intercaste/ inter religion ek crime hai
Even same caste me bhi crime hi hai, parents nhi mante
@@Mystical3030bacche zyada important hai ya society? Society ki zyada parwah hai to society ko paalan poshan karna chahiye bacche kyu paida krte hai
@@JOKER-hw5mxbacchhe jyada important hai lekin bo to ek society me hi rehte hain naa to unhe jindagi bhar logo ke taane sunne padte hain thoda practical hokar socho esa hi case Odisha me huaa hai ladke ne ek marathi girl se shaadi kari toh ladke ke maa baap se koi baat nahi karta family function me nahi bulata aaj kal to ladkiya bhi apne saas sasur ko apne saath nahi rakhti to maa baap kahan jaaye bahu saath nahi rakh ti aur society me rah nahi sakhte iska koi solution hai
according to we humans we are not mature to choice our partner and marrying by our own choice is just wrong but marrying with a stranger and having sex in first night even when you dont know what kind of person he/she is , is ok
Strange indian logic🤔
i know right
Yes, I agree..
Marriage is your own decision 😊
Some arrange marriage are forced but not all arrange marriages are for those boy/girl who are shy introvert and didn't have any relationship.if you have committed relationship try hard to get marry him and her because of you didn't try you may have to marry another man or women and u have to hide your past so this is unfair for another counter party.because may be he or she try to find their first relationship in arrange marriage and expect same from their future spouse
if couple having job and knowledge about life then going against family is ok because after years famliy will accept you
Family should be having a reason to reject. May be ur choice sucks and ur not mature enough to understand tay
😂@@sjthomas454
🙏 dil ka baat 💯 .... Har lover or gf bf ek dusre ko kadar karo . Ek bar kho Diya tooo kabhi nahin milega... Har ek problem ka against fight karo dono milkar etc
Now the problem lies in the fact that your highly emotional love fades with sad realities of life. Then you think everything is horrible.
Same can happen for someone your family chose for u
@@niharikaA7412 when expectations are not very high then there are lesser issues.
@@AjayKumar-uj4fw that's why you should chose for yourself instead of going for what other feels right for you and expectations are not bad you know your worth you know what you deserve and that's what you go for
That's the reason all couple Happy 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
Bkwas hai indian parenting. bacha apne opinion ya dil ki bat bhi nhi kr skta because parents ne already believe kr rkha hai hum sahi hai. Talking to them is like beating head in wall. This happens at my home, my parents are probably the last people I would ever seek help from in my bad time because first they will shame me & I m depressed because of them today
I understand 😢r u guy or girl?
I can totally relate
Yes 😢
True Af 💯💯
On point
Well said 🔥
JAI MAA PARASHAKTI 🙏🕉️🙏🚩🙏🙏
What if a girl loves her father too..bcz it's not really easy to go against him.
If someone says that your father will understand you too if he loves you bt what if he doesn't understand bt he loves too at the same time. Marrying the person we love and marrying the person our father choses, one cannot be happy in both cases.
Dekho agar pyar Sacha hai or partner acha hai to against jana chahiye kyoki pyar bar bar nahi milta....agar parents ka dhunda acha na Mila to sari umar regret...and parents will not live with us forever
💯
@@shiromansa22what if parents ki choice bahat acchhi ho aur tumhari choice kharaab ho
@@scienceandtechnology-z6l fir wo kaise pyar hua bhala jab tumhe tumare pyar pe yakin nahi to...khud ki responsibility lo or apne liye acha socho baki sb kismat ka khel hai...
If you are forcing your daughter to get married against her wish..ask yourself,if it was your son, will you accept a girl,if she has past relationship before marriage,just getting married because of parents pressure..if no,then don't force your daughter
Aj ka system esa he jo 10 partner change karke arrenge marriage kare..wah acha he..but jo ek partner rakhke love marriage kare..wah galat
If you marry at age above 25 to 28 you can marry your own choice since you are mature but if you are at age of say 19 20 marry acc to family or don't marry for some time
My family told do whatever u want but find a good person dont bring headache to all... I come from a very conservative family.. india is changing very fast..
I hope so. My heart was broken by an Indian man. I am a western woman who is Muslim. His family are conservative Hindus. It breaks my heart that they could not accept me. It is hard from my perspective to think they love their children when they take away the people they love. It is something I cannot imagine doing to my dog even. I think his family are "good" people because of how they raised such a man of character. So it's confusing that they can discriminate so easily against someone different from them. It's something I can't comprehend.
Kabhi kabhi itna easy nii hota hai family k against m jana😇
I still wish everyone should get the love of his/her love
Ya my bf shravan he is not a Kashmiri guy and my friends told me why you like non Kashmiri guy . I feel my heart is so broken . This video helped me 😢
Your friends don't understand your feelings... don't listen to them and made yourself sad
At least person should mature and take decision carefully if you are a kid and taking this decision then you spoil your life. First have a carrier then choose because if you fail then you have something which will protect you being a looser in your own eyes...
Yes i know but who gave you life i think your parents that means first of all you have to complete your parents choice
Hey baghbaan baccha 25 26 kabhi gaya tab bhi parents uski life ka decision leytye hey ye kaha ki acchi baat Hui yrr parents to Saadi kara key mar jaaigey or jhelna baccho ko perta hey
You should go and listen to the acharya prasant ..
I feel sad for you
❤❤❤❤ Satisfied answer
He said he loved me but still broke up..because his family started looking for proposals and he fought a lot for 6 8 months but then gave up…he said I cannot leave my parents who looked after me for 30 years for 1 year of relationship
That's not true love then
My parents gave me green signal to be with the man of my choice 😍🤞❤💙
We are lucky both sides of parents had agreed 👍
Tbh.... I agree!
But still.... I won't go against my family just for a girl💔 because the same family loved me more than that girl since the day I was born❤️🩹❣️
Koi ni bhai arrange marriage krne k baad b agr cheeje kaam ni krti to Mummy papa kehte tumhari kismat or chhod dete h whi agr love marriage me cheeje khrab hoti to aise baat krte h jaise humne future dekh rkha tha
First of all tell me what is the concept and purpose of arranged marriage even today ??
Promoting or encouraging caste system , clases(like brahmin , Sudra ,etc ) differentiation, dowry , same standard intact like rich to rich and poor to poor ,etc
And people say arranged marriage is good coz there is low divorce rate !!
Society is not developing coz mentality of people ar shamelss !!
Remember Narrow mind mentality includes arranged marriage also as the factor !!
And wat is open minded ? Oyo hotels😅
That's a myth that arranged marriages are successful coz they are forcefully living with the persons they are with...coz out society thinks evil about them who got divorces
Respect 🫡 💯
Indian parents are like society khush honi chahiye bacho ka kya h hum emotional blackmail kr lenge
Right 👍🏻
Sahi baat hai agar parents dusri jagah karwnge toh 3,4 zindagi and 3,4 family hi kharab hongi aage bcz pehle waala har chiz me yaad aa sakta hai
Wise words.
I agree
And I did it also for the same reason
U should take time,see both and then decide, ultimately u decide but with a reason to give to ur parents.....parents know their kids more than anyone else
This is not true in every case.not every parent understand their child
Wait and Convince the family . At the end all they want is their son or daughter to be happy, so if children try to convince though it may take time they will be convinced.
well said..
What if they r forcing you to marry a guy and you also have noone else to go against the family for ? 😣
Vo bhi aapki personal choice. Mentally ready nhi ho, ya career ambitions hai. Aapki khushi Honi chahiye
Get a job and get out of your family house
family support is very important in practical relationship
No, only in toxic co-dependent families. If the family withdraws support like this, they don't love you anyway. Be strong.
Why ? Are you not that mature to handle your marriage without anyone support.
@@vishalthakur3944family is always needed in life. When life gets hard tats when one realises the value of family n support.
First ask what is love ??? What exactly is this love??? And what exactly is this marriage??
I would do the same. I agree with her.
When you open your school
According to me try to convience your parents and if they will not convience then you can live without marriage by anyone because just like everyone, my parents did everything for me and I will try to convience them if they will not support me then I will definitely live single as simple as that
By the way if you marry your favourite girl/boy you may be not happy that you are saying that you will be happy when they will come to your life
99.99% of the girls will prefer getting married to their family choice because they'll get high paid salary man or sarkari larka or a businessman.
Girls are very practical when it comes to marriage, for them bhaar me jaye love shove, zindegi toh paise se hi chalne wala hai.
I agree with u but jis ma ne hme 9 mhine pet me rkha jis bap ne pal pos ke itna bda kr diya mera manna ye h ki love marriage bhot achi bat h lekin tb, jb apke ma bap razi
to tu bhi rakh le na pet mai apnai ma baap ko
Pet rkhna paida krna unki choice thi tumhari nahi...and thik hai parents ne pala bada Kiya ye unka fraz hai but you are not slave of your parents... tumhari bhi to apni life hai apni Khushiya hai...
To wo tumhe paal kyu nahi paye ? Matlab they are failures as parents ki 20-30 yrs shiksha Dene ke baad bhi they think tum apna decision lene layak nahi ho. To fir itne saal kya kar rahe the woh? So rahe thhe?
Pr bhai abhi tumhari video dekhi thi usme tum keh rhe the ki love is choice every time u make . why don't people make choice which keep family happy as well
Vo raaj keh raha tha
Because marriage is for you and you are going spend your rest of your life with that person not your family ofcourse family happiness does matter but sometimes they do become selfish and have this mentality when they didn't even consider that other person is also a human and have dreams of living life in a certain way at that time one should do what their heart desires.
You are totally wrong i love someone truly but she from gangster family still i did my best i never feared but she engaged someone else bcoz of family pressure ,what i do ?
Next I want her
What if you're having a inter religion love issue and you're the older daughter of your family, have responsibility of your siblings aftet you and you want to spend rest of life with the guy you love...but you still get to leave him because of you care about your family...but they still don't understand your sacrifice and hold accountable for everything wrong happened in your life and your siblings freedom...they judge you and doubt you all the time then what you'll do?
Pta nhi…i choosed my parents…im happy now bt wht if?
You are happy leaving ur love?
@@random__human yes i am
@@nishulivelovelaugh why how please tell me as well
@@random__human don’t expect and keep flowing then u get the best
@@nishulivelovelaughis ur lover happy tht ur leaving!?.... Or were there some agreements when starting relation like... "Whatever happens i will leave you if my family doesnt accept you"... Kinda things!?
Ladke mostly jaldi move on karke shadi parents k hisaab s kar lete hai.😢
Could not heed the sords of mother and father who took care for 20+ years but go behind a girl for behind some months ...50%unsuccesful......
What islf there is no one i love. And they are forced to marry what should i do
Sab gyaan dediya par question ka answer kaha hai maadeem jii 😆
Bol to rahi hey ki jis sey payar kartye ho us sey saadi karigey
Develope good relations with all
At least you can hold yourself responsible if it doesn't work out? Bullshit. Women always blame men of it doesnt work out, regardless of who was to blame for it not working out.
Its a 50 - 50 situation
how to get out of toxic relationship
Im going through this😢
Exactly
I would do that for sure
Love. At at the cost of leaving your mom alone.. Your home.. Your village.. Then?
❤
Geet theory answer✨💯🫀
It's valid for upper caste persons😢😢
Yes bro
🎉❤
True
Ye parents samajh te kyun nahin ke forcefully mrg karwake wo sirf apne bache ka nahi. Kisi aur ke bachhe ki zindegi kharap kar rahe hein
Mine left me yesterday because her family won't accept me. Hardest break up ever.
Lgbt here.
Tumhara to existence hi worthless h
Right
Wish ma bf’s parents also think like that
But that person would agree to marry someone else😂😂
True😂😂
Not a right decision against the parents
and after sometime in life a turning point comes where if your love marriage faces issues ..... then what will you do ??? u can't face your family after that ... coz it was your choice
no problem, earn money live your life, much better than living on someone else's wish
Family arrrange m bhi sth nhi degi. Tmhari kismat kehkr chodh degi. Jhelna phr bhi tmhe hi h
@Manmachinemountains jisko jo karna hai vo kare
@@17_frozen_flames exactly life is short. Parents ne bhi zyada time sth ni rehna.Apne hisab se jiyo
If that don't wanted to merry u😅so what to do
marry ur family choice they see totally responsible
Nice girl syndrome girl
Kab tak
Bhai ham jaat hai hame usee hi karni padti hai jisse maa baap kahte hai 😢😢
Bruhh mere parents nahi karenge aur karenge bhu to mai usi se karuga 🙌
👍🏻💯
But sometimes are parents are right
PARENTS ARE NOT GOD
What if it is intercast like hindu-muslim,christian-hindu intercaste marriages don't succeed so going against family is not right all time love is in fairytales not in real
Bhai, zindagi jhnd ho jati h don't do love marriage, you can't either walk out or be in the relationship it get that worst, my advice is don't marry at all. Neither love or arranged.
people marry because of social responsibility
Now who would want to marry this one, don’t even want to think of love .. eww
If love hindu girl muslim boy then agree? 😢
Akash sab larkiya apka jise sochti
Shadi ni karni chye
It sounds good to say
I will merry the person I love
But without the support of family life is hard👍
For ex
I know a friend of my father who did a intercast love marriage and girl father disowned her and now he died living behind a wife and 2 girls and now their is nobody to support their family
So family is important 🙏
Families should support their children
@@vivek8580 yes
It's so hard to choose between one of them
Sasta Atif Aslam
What if he marries u only for ur money and asserts , but not by loving u
parents reject cuz of many issue
😢