About impulsivity, like you all said, there are cons & pros. I have lived so many lives and I’m not a grandma. It’s a criteria where I can found good things happened thanks to being spontaneous, that I would have never done. And of course, a lot of damaging things too. I can relate to all of you. This point is the less negative, hard to take a step back( mindfulness ) and less hard to live with. Thanks everyone 💚
I have these moments when I’m feeling so terribly rotten and miserable that my anger gets fueled and I get mad at myself and strike myself with my fists to the side of my head. It’s this Hatred that I never can get out of this awful hellish feeling everyday. It comes with an overwhelming impulse. Once it’s over I feel a stream of emotions that calm me down. Almost euphoric. Awful. Very embarrassing.
Right there is a difference about being in the moment mindfully or mindlessly, never thought about this. For me a good thing that come from impulsivity is being able to adapt to any environment and pick up quickly the routine of that place
Thank you guys so much for this channel* I’ve been struggling mentally for a long time but after being diagnosed with BDP about a year ago…I’ve been noticing more & more the symptoms i act out #1 that’s been affecting my life for as long as i Can remember is impulsivity…mostly regarding sex…i have a lot of unprotected sex that constantly puts me in the state of fear of getting pregnant (again after having 2 unwanted kids) or getting STDS (which by the grace of God …i only tested positive for curable stds 3 times out of 16yrs ) I’m really scared of self destructing due to my impulsive sex addiction/behavior in all areas of my life * 😢 I hope i Can stop self sabotaging my success very soon so that i Can be the Goddess i know I’m destined to be 🙏🏽 I love everyone reading this & pray for all of our mental health dealing with BPD 🙏🏽❤️
My ex treated me pretty bad and I totally lost it I impulsively called her every name In the damn book😢 I’m mad at myself and I want to forgive myself because even though she wasn’t the best to my I loved her and I didn’t need to treat her that way. I’m so ashamed and torn apart by it. I have impulsive anger and bad spending that has gotten me in so much trouble. I also self sabotage it’s so terrible
Thank you so much for your videos. These have been the most relatable ones for me having BPD and I'm starting to see myself, forgive myself and love myself. ❤
My ex impulsively committed work comp fraud. Yeah.. no thank you. Might work for you, not for me. I’m out. She did nothing to help her son’s mental health needs and now he’s in prison. That poor kid was drug around like a cabbage patch doll through her BPD. Sucks too, because I loved so much about her, including her impulses.. until they became increasingly detrimental with blatant disregard for repercussions and lack of accountability. Found out that her son’s dad called her on the phone and slit his wrists while talking with her. The whole thing was just fubar. I can see why he was driven to that. Glad to be out, but still not right in my head. She, with her BPD, tore me up. Addicted to her impulsive nature in a way.
I found your channel yesterday when I was having a very rough time with my mental health, and although I do not have BPD, I have other serious mental health conditions and hearing other people who were really struggling yes so much better is helped giving me some hope even though I am not dealing with the same struggles. And I am getting to learn more about BPD along the way
I follow Xani on Instagram and I finally started listening to this and it hits me everywhere! In that list it mentioned joining groups, and no one really commented on that but I wanted to say that I do that so much. I think I'm going to make all these new friends so I keep trying to join groups or get involved with things then start to freak out and distance myself because it doesn't play out like I wanted it to. I'm doing better in telling myself that everyone's world doesn't revolve around me and my immediate needs. This is so helpful in just feeling not alone.
HEEEYYY. Please please please do a video on religion and spirituality!! I find that often highly emotional people also have the most mystical experiences. Plus, religion can support in lack of identity. Dbt also partially relies on eastern philosophies. This is a suuuper interesting topic for me! ^^
I thought was more risky behaviors like driving/ promiscuity so I was like nah. I don't have that. But OVERSHARING, SPENDING..ETC.. OK maybe I have some after all
I had a gf who I think might be bpd, and she would literally ask me to wait for her to think about what I just said when things got heated. 18:00. I think she was using her prefrontal cortex, or at least both sides of her brain to try to establish some sort of argument against what I had just said. It was interesting, and I never saw that in anyone I knew ever before.
Thank you all of you for sharing your stories and putting yourselves out there. I relate to SO much of what all of you have said if not everything. Im curious to know how all of you came together?
We all met through Instagram! Some of us were friends before starting the show, others answered the call when Xannie put a notice out she was looking for people ☺️
Have any of you ever had people calling you bipolar? My kids and recent bf yell at me to that i need to get treatment for my bipolar. I say i am not bipolar they say i am in a rude way. I think it is the highs and lows of my emotions that make them think that but i was curious if anyone else had peope thinking bipolar especially when angry
It’s definitely happened before! Unfortunately, a lot of people use bipolar as a colloquialism, and they don’t understand what it actually is. They assume that rapid mood swings are a sign of bipolar, when, in actuality, a manic episode has the last at least a week and a depressive episode two weeks. (According to the DSM - Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorder)
Breaking it down, as individuals age what will it be burn out, old defense mechanism, lack of insight, or challenge old thinking patterns and learn new lived experience?
Does impulsivity include spending unreasonable money to see someone because (fawning, rebellion to an authority figurr etc) i was too coward to say no again?
Impulsivity typically involves acting without forethought. So, it’s totally possible to be impulsively spending money. However, if it is because you want to say ‘no’ but are afraid to then than it not impulsive, because you are thinking about it ahead of time. That sounds like more of a validation seeking or boundaries issue.
Do you guys have any advice for obsession? My therapist said im trading one for the other and so on, always end of world in my head because im not good with boredom and have low self compassion and all the depression is making me keep going backwards
Thankyou for making me now realise that me ex BPD partner was just immature. Doing what you 'feel' like doing without the responsibility of consequences is simply childish. Understanding your type much more it seems that you are able to control yourselves when needed. I will be watching all of your videos as I have been focusing on 'experts' to understand why I was treated like 'sht' and now need to heal from the abuse I went through. You all seem to wear your 'condition' like a badge, lots of laughs and smiles. You people rip healthy people apart, destroy lives and leave a wake of damage behind you. You lie, you cheat, you abuse. Glad I can see so many smiles from you all. I came to the conclusion that my ex partner was a victim of BPD, but watching you bunch there seems to be zero responsibility - as long as non BPD people pick up the tab you can have a party. My ex gradually turned up her symptoms over a two year period - frog in boiling water, until the physical abuse started. All controlled, all very much aware. Watching you is sickening, revelling in your abuse of people who mistakenly give you anytime at all. Awful people.
What Sophie is talking about in the video is not a test you find - she describes it: her litmus test is, asking herself: “ if someone were to offer me $1 million to give up X would I do it?” What she’s talking about here is that, she can tell if something is a legitimate part of her identity if no amount of money would give her reason to give it up . Hopefully that makes sense!
LOL on the tatts i just bought a tattoo pen and went to tattooing my arm , leg etc with zero experience that's not impulsive 😂 i have dinosaurs, flying saucers, love hearts, flowers etc 🎋🛸♥🌻
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About impulsivity, like you all said, there are cons & pros. I have lived so many lives and I’m not a grandma. It’s a criteria where I can found good things happened thanks to being spontaneous, that I would have never done. And of course, a lot of damaging things too. I can relate to all of you. This point is the less negative, hard to take a step back( mindfulness ) and less hard to live with. Thanks everyone 💚
I have these moments when I’m feeling so terribly rotten and miserable that my anger gets fueled and I get mad at myself and strike myself with my fists to the side of my head.
It’s this Hatred that I never can get out of this awful hellish feeling everyday. It comes with an overwhelming impulse. Once it’s over I feel a stream of emotions that calm me down.
Almost euphoric.
Awful. Very embarrassing.
These talks are so therapeutic for me...
The song is called ‘Human’ by Rag N Bone man. I love that song!
That’s the one!! Thank you Michelle ❤
Solène x
Right there is a difference about being in the moment mindfully or mindlessly, never thought about this.
For me a good thing that come from impulsivity is being able to adapt to any environment and pick up quickly the routine of that place
Thank you guys so much for this channel* I’ve been struggling mentally for a long time but after being diagnosed with BDP about a year ago…I’ve been noticing more & more the symptoms i act out
#1 that’s been affecting my life for as long as i Can remember is impulsivity…mostly regarding sex…i have a lot of unprotected sex that constantly puts me in the state of fear of getting pregnant (again after having 2 unwanted kids) or getting STDS (which by the grace of God …i only tested positive for curable stds 3 times out of 16yrs )
I’m really scared of self destructing due to my impulsive sex addiction/behavior in all areas of my life * 😢 I hope i Can stop self sabotaging my success very soon so that i Can be the Goddess i know I’m destined to be 🙏🏽
I love everyone reading this & pray for all of our mental health dealing with BPD 🙏🏽❤️
My ex treated me pretty bad and I totally lost it I impulsively called her every name In the damn book😢 I’m mad at myself and I want to forgive myself because even though she wasn’t the best to my I loved her and I didn’t need to treat her that way. I’m so ashamed and torn apart by it. I have impulsive anger and bad spending that has gotten me in so much trouble. I also self sabotage it’s so terrible
Thank you so much for your videos. These have been the most relatable ones for me having BPD and I'm starting to see myself, forgive myself and love myself. ❤
My ex impulsively committed work comp fraud. Yeah.. no thank you. Might work for you, not for me. I’m out. She did nothing to help her son’s mental health needs and now he’s in prison. That poor kid was drug around like a cabbage patch doll through her BPD. Sucks too, because I loved so much about her, including her impulses.. until they became increasingly detrimental with blatant disregard for repercussions and lack of accountability. Found out that her son’s dad called her on the phone and slit his wrists while talking with her. The whole thing was just fubar. I can see why he was driven to that. Glad to be out, but still not right in my head. She, with her BPD, tore me up. Addicted to her impulsive nature in a way.
I found your channel yesterday when I was having a very rough time with my mental health, and although I do not have BPD, I have other serious mental health conditions and hearing other people who were really struggling yes so much better is helped giving me some hope even though I am not dealing with the same struggles. And I am getting to learn more about BPD along the way
I follow Xani on Instagram and I finally started listening to this and it hits me everywhere! In that list it mentioned joining groups, and no one really commented on that but I wanted to say that I do that so much. I think I'm going to make all these new friends so I keep trying to join groups or get involved with things then start to freak out and distance myself because it doesn't play out like I wanted it to. I'm doing better in telling myself that everyone's world doesn't revolve around me and my immediate needs. This is so helpful in just feeling not alone.
HEEEYYY. Please please please do a video on religion and spirituality!! I find that often highly emotional people also have the most mystical experiences. Plus, religion can support in lack of identity. Dbt also partially relies on eastern philosophies. This is a suuuper interesting topic for me! ^^
We definitely have this on our list of possible video topics!
I thought was more risky behaviors like driving/ promiscuity so I was like nah. I don't have that. But OVERSHARING, SPENDING..ETC.. OK maybe I have some after all
After begging for a ring and more babies my ex fiance ghosted me, cheated, and abandoned our family. Its been 3 months now & i am devastated..
I had a gf who I think might be bpd, and she would literally ask me to wait for her to think about what I just said when things got heated. 18:00. I think she was using her prefrontal cortex, or at least both sides of her brain to try to establish some sort of argument against what I had just said. It was interesting, and I never saw that in anyone I knew ever before.
Great video. Thanks guys. 💗
I don't like pics or video of myself but I would love to be in conversation with this group,I feel 99% of what you guys say
I was wondering if you would do a episode on the treatments there are for bpd? If you found any that are not dbt?
Such a great video. Thank you guyssssssss ❤
Thank you all of you for sharing your stories and putting yourselves out there. I relate to SO much of what all of you have said if not everything. Im curious to know how all of you came together?
We all met through Instagram! Some of us were friends before starting the show, others answered the call when Xannie put a notice out she was looking for people ☺️
How to be on this podcast? Like where to apply for this
Have any of you ever had people calling you bipolar? My kids and recent bf yell at me to that i need to get treatment for my bipolar. I say i am not bipolar they say i am in a rude way. I think it is the highs and lows of my emotions that make them think that but i was curious if anyone else had peope thinking bipolar especially when angry
It’s definitely happened before! Unfortunately, a lot of people use bipolar as a colloquialism, and they don’t understand what it actually is. They assume that rapid mood swings are a sign of bipolar, when, in actuality, a manic episode has the last at least a week and a depressive episode two weeks. (According to the DSM - Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorder)
Yup I get called that all the time smh 🤦🏾♀️
Breaking it down, as individuals age what will it be burn out, old defense mechanism, lack of insight, or challenge old thinking patterns and learn new lived experience?
Does impulsivity include spending unreasonable money to see someone because (fawning, rebellion to an authority figurr etc) i was too coward to say no again?
Impulsivity typically involves acting without forethought. So, it’s totally possible to be impulsively spending money. However, if it is because you want to say ‘no’ but are afraid to then than it not impulsive, because you are thinking about it ahead of time. That sounds like more of a validation seeking or boundaries issue.
Do you guys have any advice for obsession? My therapist said im trading one for the other and so on, always end of world in my head because im not good with boredom and have low self compassion and all the depression is making me keep going backwards
OMG I go to London quite often too, I want to join for tattoos :D
Thankyou for making me now realise that me ex BPD partner was just immature. Doing what you 'feel' like doing without the responsibility of consequences is simply childish. Understanding your type much more it seems that you are able to control yourselves when needed. I will be watching all of your videos as I have been focusing on 'experts' to understand why I was treated like 'sht' and now need to heal from the abuse I went through. You all seem to wear your 'condition' like a badge, lots of laughs and smiles. You people rip healthy people apart, destroy lives and leave a wake of damage behind you. You lie, you cheat, you abuse. Glad I can see so many smiles from you all. I came to the conclusion that my ex partner was a victim of BPD, but watching you bunch there seems to be zero responsibility - as long as non BPD people pick up the tab you can have a party. My ex gradually turned up her symptoms over a two year period - frog in boiling water, until the physical abuse started. All controlled, all very much aware. Watching you is sickening, revelling in your abuse of people who mistakenly give you anytime at all. Awful people.
I hope I can get a response but which Litmus test does Sophie recommend? I can't seem to find a reliable source online. Thanks!
What Sophie is talking about in the video is not a test you find - she describes it: her litmus test is, asking herself: “ if someone were to offer me $1 million to give up X would I do it?”
What she’s talking about here is that, she can tell if something is a legitimate part of her identity if no amount of money would give her reason to give it up . Hopefully that makes sense!
@@thebpdbunch Yes. I believe I understand. Thanks.
I once got a free tattoo while I drunk. 🤦🏽♀️ My bpd made me the fun friend in college.
LOL on the tatts i just bought a tattoo pen and went to tattooing my arm , leg etc with zero experience that's not impulsive 😂 i have dinosaurs, flying saucers, love hearts, flowers etc 🎋🛸♥🌻
Omg oversharing and anger yes yes yes
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Yassssss
Can you include men as well?
We do have men in our cast, they just weren’t on this particular episode ☺️
@@thebpdbunch I know. There's 5 video of 22 that includes or features a guy. 5.