Emotional instability is very anxiety inducing when you don't know what's going on with yourself. Anxiety became my predominant filter for life as I was scared of my own behaviour and emotions. I didn't know whether a good day would end with me drinking seven pints or feeling existential terror, and as such am extremely glad I can now name my emotions so that I can stop them having such an influence on my behaviour. Thanks again in any case for an honest and insightful episode, once again am left with welcome food for thought
I relate 💯 to your description of the experience of the loss of euphoria. I have comorbid Bipolar and coming down from a manic episode SUCKS. I recently had the best mania of my life, for like 2 months. Slept only 1-2 hrs a night, boundless energy, felt limitless, like I could do anything, had no fear. Paranoia, hallucinations, recklessness, everything. Constantly charged with adrenaline. The comedown from being on top of the world , the loss of exhilaration and adrenaline and everything being stable and normal again is so goddamn BORING that it spiraled me into depression with suicidality for like a week. 😭 I HATE being bored. It’s way worse for me than extreme emotions. At least extreme emotions are exciting.
Your videos are so awesome, thank you all. I'm self diagnosed bdp, but relate so strongly to all that is shared in here. I feel less like a deranged freak listening to your experiences ^^'
I don't know why it took my algorithm 2 years to bring your channel up. Wow! This is like being in group therapy with all of you!!!! I'm getting help and tips from you guys I've never got from any therapist!! I really needed the ones on Anger and Relationships, my 2 main issues. I also am very high functioning so i basically have to learn skills on my own for these traits. I finally got a cptsd diagnosis. This channel is so positive to see bright, successful great people. BPD is still terribly stigmatized sadly.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for your videos, it's nice to see fellow bpd people and so many conversations and point of views in one spot. If you guys could do a video on self hatred (no self compassion, overthinking alot, decision paralysis from lack of identity and copying others trying to fit in) I would be so grateful! Thank you if you read this
OMG, like what you are saying at minute 17 about the feelings, I am exactly like that. Like what I feel in that moment is indicative of how I felt and I will feel all of my life. I started DBT 1 month ago, I really do hope that with practice and perseverance I will be able to reach a point where I can "see" in shades of grey rather than in black or white. Though practicing these things at first are really hard because you have to go against your impulses. But the fact that I see people who have reached a level of stability gives me Hope. BTW I have the exact same kitty headsets
As much hell as I know I’ve put my partner through over the years, now that we know what’s going on it’s so much better. He’s actually expressed a small amount of jealousy that I can have those intense butterflies and cry with joy over things he just finds nice, even though it’s got a flip side. It’s not that scary. Not all the time, at least haha.
Hi there :) I have a question for the bunch :) I watched lots of videos and I never heard talking about medications. Is none of you on medication or yes? Because I am and I'm not sure I could function without ( I meet all 9 traits). thanks and thanks for this channel it's helping me massively
Some are and some are not! Since there are no medications specifically for BPD, and many people cannot tolerate certain medications or do not have access, we focus on skills that people can learn, regardless of where they are, their medication tolerance or access to medical care. We may do an episode on meds at some point, but it’s a topic we want to approach cautiously so that people understand that the medication experience with BPD can vary GREATLY from person to person. A medication that works for one person can be devastating to the nervous system of another. So it’s just a sticky topic we’ve been trying to figure out
@@thebpdbunch hey thank you so much for your reply. I totally understand your point, also because many of us had or have substance abuse issues. I'm, in fact, questioning, in this period of my life, whether the meds I've been taking for 4 years are still helping me or not. I completely agree that non medication methods and strategies, like therapy and mindfulness are eventually way more effective. Thanks again to all of you for this channel. it's definitely the most helpful I've found online 💘
Like, like, like, feel that, like, feel that.. uggh.. like means what you’re talking about is a metaphor. X is like Y, and if you’re feeling something it isn’t the same as thinking something. The only way to ground yourself into reality is to stop using the words like and feel. It’s mind numbing how many times you all use like and feel. You will never ground yourselves in thought and fact if you keep putting yourself in false reality using the words like.. well.. is it like that? Or is it that? For a group that admits they feel too much.. you certainly use the word feel too much. Like, like, like, feel, like, feel, feel that, like feel that. uggh.. it hurts. Want to fix yourselves? Start with your word usage. Seriously, it will change your lives. I think, and it is.
You think you have a better grasp on reality because you don't use the term "I feel" and autistically monitor your speech to ensure that everything is "rooted in facts" (an impossible feat for creatures who are driven by their emotions)? I doubt it.
@@yasminel1989 no, I use the words feel and like. I just don’t confuse thinking with feeling and I don’t use the word like as like a filler word, like in between my like feelings. Reality is that feelings are often faulty. Emotional intelligence isn’t just the fact of having feelings. It’s being able to check feelings against reality, and women are in capable of doing this. Therefore, women are not emotionally intelligent. They’re emotionally ignorant. If it feels good, do it.. yeah, like good luck living that way in like the really, really world.
Emotional instability is very anxiety inducing when you don't know what's going on with yourself. Anxiety became my predominant filter for life as I was scared of my own behaviour and emotions. I didn't know whether a good day would end with me drinking seven pints or feeling existential terror, and as such am extremely glad I can now name my emotions so that I can stop them having such an influence on my behaviour. Thanks again in any case for an honest and insightful episode, once again am left with welcome food for thought
This is the online support group that I needed. Thanks for sharing your stories and experience. It really makes me feel less alone.
I relate 💯 to your description of the experience of the loss of euphoria. I have comorbid Bipolar and coming down from a manic episode SUCKS.
I recently had the best mania of my life, for like 2 months. Slept only 1-2 hrs a night, boundless energy, felt limitless, like I could do anything, had no fear. Paranoia, hallucinations, recklessness, everything. Constantly charged with adrenaline.
The comedown from being on top of the world , the loss of exhilaration and adrenaline and everything being stable and normal again is so goddamn BORING that it spiraled me into depression with suicidality for like a week. 😭
I HATE being bored. It’s way worse for me than extreme emotions. At least extreme emotions are exciting.
Your videos are so awesome, thank you all. I'm self diagnosed bdp, but relate so strongly to all that is shared in here. I feel less like a deranged freak listening to your experiences ^^'
I hope you see what I wrote too, Wendi2819. I honestly thought I wrote what you wrote. Isn't this channel wonderful as a resource?
Such an open, healing discussion on identifying with intensity...
"That chaos comes at a price..." 🖤
I don't know why it took my algorithm 2 years to bring your channel up. Wow! This is like being in group therapy with all of you!!!! I'm getting help and tips from you guys I've never got from any therapist!! I really needed the ones on Anger and Relationships, my 2 main issues. I also am very high functioning so i basically have to learn skills on my own for these traits. I finally got a cptsd diagnosis. This channel is so positive to see bright, successful great people. BPD is still terribly stigmatized sadly.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I hope you reach 1million subscribers, you deserve it
Thank you for your videos, it's nice to see fellow bpd people and so many conversations and point of views in one spot. If you guys could do a video on self hatred (no self compassion, overthinking alot, decision paralysis from lack of identity and copying others trying to fit in) I would be so grateful! Thank you if you read this
Such a great channel. Love listening to you guys talk so openly and with real authenticity ❤
OMG, like what you are saying at minute 17 about the feelings, I am exactly like that. Like what I feel in that moment is indicative of how I felt and I will feel all of my life. I started DBT 1 month ago, I really do hope that with practice and perseverance I will be able to reach a point where I can "see" in shades of grey rather than in black or white. Though practicing these things at first are really hard because you have to go against your impulses. But the fact that I see people who have reached a level of stability gives me Hope. BTW I have the exact same kitty headsets
Thank you ladies, this gives me hope
Like my friend used to say i am walking around with no skin on
Love the olive green on you! :) Thanks so much for posting this, very helpful conversation! Glad I'm not alone
I’d like to hear more about what Xannie points out, what do emotions try to communicate with us? Thank you all for sharing, I find it very helpful.
Great suggestion! Will put that on our list of future possible episode topics
This is so helpful to see, thank you so much
Glad it was helpful!
This is so helpful!
As much hell as I know I’ve put my partner through over the years, now that we know what’s going on it’s so much better. He’s actually expressed a small amount of jealousy that I can have those intense butterflies and cry with joy over things he just finds nice, even though it’s got a flip side. It’s not that scary. Not all the time, at least haha.
Hi there :) I have a question for the bunch :) I watched lots of videos and I never heard talking about medications. Is none of you on medication or yes? Because I am and I'm not sure I could function without ( I meet all 9 traits). thanks and thanks for this channel it's helping me massively
Some are and some are not! Since there are no medications specifically for BPD, and many people cannot tolerate certain medications or do not have access, we focus on skills that people can learn, regardless of where they are, their medication tolerance or access to medical care. We may do an episode on meds at some point, but it’s a topic we want to approach cautiously so that people understand that the medication experience with BPD can vary GREATLY from person to person. A medication that works for one person can be devastating to the nervous system of another. So it’s just a sticky topic we’ve been trying to figure out
@@thebpdbunch hey thank you so much for your reply. I totally understand your point, also because many of us had or have substance abuse issues. I'm, in fact, questioning, in this period of my life, whether the meds I've been taking for 4 years are still helping me or not. I completely agree that non medication methods and strategies, like therapy and mindfulness are eventually way more effective. Thanks again to all of you for this channel. it's definitely the most helpful I've found online 💘
What type of counselor treats BPD?
Like, like, like, feel that, like, feel that.. uggh.. like means what you’re talking about is a metaphor. X is like Y, and if you’re feeling something it isn’t the same as thinking something. The only way to ground yourself into reality is to stop using the words like and feel. It’s mind numbing how many times you all use like and feel. You will never ground yourselves in thought and fact if you keep putting yourself in false reality using the words like.. well.. is it like that? Or is it that? For a group that admits they feel too much.. you certainly use the word feel too much. Like, like, like, feel, like, feel, feel that, like feel that. uggh.. it hurts. Want to fix yourselves? Start with your word usage. Seriously, it will change your lives. I think, and it is.
You think you have a better grasp on reality because you don't use the term "I feel" and autistically monitor your speech to ensure that everything is "rooted in facts" (an impossible feat for creatures who are driven by their emotions)? I doubt it.
@@yasminel1989 no, I use the words feel and like. I just don’t confuse thinking with feeling and I don’t use the word like as like a filler word, like in between my like feelings. Reality is that feelings are often faulty. Emotional intelligence isn’t just the fact of having feelings. It’s being able to check feelings against reality, and women are in capable of doing this. Therefore, women are not emotionally intelligent. They’re emotionally ignorant. If it feels good, do it.. yeah, like good luck living that way in like the really, really world.