There is a huge psychological aspect to singing which is often ignored and every singer will have to face this sooner or later. My old voice teacher used to say that when greeting a singer after a performance, find something positive to say not matter what you may have thought about the performance overall. The problem is exasperated by all the music people are exposed to today which is equalized and auto tuned to perfection. The result is that audiences now expect perfection. People need to realize that these recordings are not real, and that no live singer, including the artist being recorded, can sound like that.
I was always told as a child that I was a great singer. It wasn’t until I got older that people started making faces at my mistakes or commenting on my pitch which made me really self-conscious. After having children I think my voice changed and singing isn’t as effortless as it used to be and singing in front of people is nerve racking (and I’m a musical theatre performer 😬). I love your channel and all the encouragement and tips. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for your wise words! I think I needed to hear this. I am one of those people that got told at a very young age that my voice sounded like a frog. What was worse was that it was my mother who said that to me. Everything you said really resonated with me. Thank you for your healing words. 🙏❤️🎶
Yes once by my friend when first time i tried to sing in front of friends in a game she criticised me "you r bad at singing nd make my fun in front of others"....You don't know how bad it affects on me,still it affectss me when i try to sing..B'coz my inner value of myself is also very fragile....When others criticizes me i try to looked in very innerself which shows me the image, that my friend show me through her eyes,being someone don't know to sing bad at singing,nd also when i try to return back to that image of mine that my mom used to look upon me,i find myself as being criticised unloved hated child who don't like even herself.....
I really thought you were describing MY struggle with singing. I think it's great you raised the subject and more should be done to make people understand that a silly comment could be life-changing. I used to sing in the school- and church-choir and was so confident with my singing. I would sign all the time and loved it. Puberty arrived, my voice broke and i became conscious of the physical changes and their impact on my sound. Add to this some teenage insecurities, weakend self-confidence and loads of hormones. Pretty standard and normal until now. Then one day, completely unintentionally i received a comment from my mother: "Oh Jari, you really got my voice, bless". Yes, she meant her "horrible" voice. That s all it took. That day, marked the day I stopped singing. I never sang in the presence of anyone for the following 25 years. If for whatever reason someone saw me or heard me or "caught" me singing i would be overwhelmed by an unbearable feeling of shame. It's mad, when i think about it now, but back then I was so vulnarable and insecure and the only person I considered my world thought my singing was terrible. Today, after 4 years of coaching with my amazing super-patient and super-optimistic voice-coach, Rachel, I'm still struggling and progress is so frustratingly slow. I'd love to let go of all those inhibitions and inner voices and show everyone how I really sing when no-one is listening...
Yes! For sure, I have always ensured I never say any negative word to my kid even when the singing sucked, Like what I experienced as a child. This has helped her grow her voice. It only takes one person to believe in YOU
Thank you so much for the video is the story of my life. I am one of those children who heard the words “your voice is terrible” and I gave up on music until my late 20’s thanks.~
I loved how you talked about mindset. I'm a singer, but I tried figure skating at the local rink. I was 40 at the time. I felt the same way when I started competing. Most of my "rivals" were half my age!Because I had mindset, I really applied myself with learning, and I worked through my fears about being an artistic and creative person in front of my peers, the judges, and my coaches. In the end, I was a National Gold and silver medalist, and an international medalist as well. I did the same as a dancer, and now as a rock singer. I am 70 years old, and I am still going strong. I admire your pep talk to aspiring singers. I really want to work with you.
I used to think that the ability to sing well was something that people were born with. I've recently discovered that you can learn to become a competent singer by understanding what you need to do to improve, and working on those things. Your videos have really helped me on my journey to improving my singing voice, so thank you.
I appreciate you for this expression. You took the same path as i have being in choir growing up. Always enjoyed singing but shy to be heard by others. Mom sang in Opera and her friends also gave me some lessons. My family are my best critics but still shy to sing to them or with them in person. So, i record it and share on email or facebook. I critique myself more based on what my choir director teaches us. Being able to sing is a blessing and music itself is too. I want to bless others through song. When Christ comes again or when it is my last day, i want to be caught singing about His grace.
I am shy when it comes to singing in public, besides I haven’t educated my voice. I guess I’m like you, don’t challenge me, because I will prove you wrong 😂. I will continue giving it my best. Thanks for all your advice 💕
I've never been told that I sound bad after I've sung infact, I've been told the opposite. I love singing yet I don't enjoy singing when I sing for people. I'm so worried about messing up I can't enjoy singing
I could belt, I could touch all kinds of notes in my childhood but then, some people told me that I would never make it and I stopped for years which ruined my voice completely. Now, I am struggling to get it all back.
Loved the video! Thank you so much. I have always loved music and I have taken lessons in the past but never dared to sing, I was too afraid and I kept making myself miserable telling myself my voice was not good at all. On top of that I have always struggled in social situations as I was always the outcast in my class in school. This led me to think even more that I had to hide my true self, silence my true voice. But now that I am 24 I got really tired of letting myself down and hiding myself, so I took the big step and started taking voice lessons, and I love it. But it's true, one of the hardest things to do is to go against that voice in your head, but I am fighting and as you said, I keep telling myself "I will show you I can, because I know I can do it"
😭😭😭 it was literally like I called you and told you everything on my mind and you responded to what I said. Especially the part where you spoke about I don’t want people to think I’m full of myself. Thank you for making this video. Working through these things. ❤️❤️❤️
In my teenage years, people told me "Stop singing! You sound bad!" All my favorite singers at the time had very high voices, and I have a naturally low voice. When I sang along with songs that I loved, I strained to hit the notes. At the time I didn't fully understand that different singers have different ranges. I thought I was just a bad singer.
Thank you so much for your comment! Yes, it's so common for hobby singers to sing in the wrong key. That can create a lot of problems that wouldn't exist if sung in the appropriate range for someone's specific voice type. I'm glad you finally found the answer.
Das ist wirklich ein großes Thema. Ich war und bin umgeben von Kritikern, welche zwar selbst weniger können, es sie aber nicht davon abhält, bei Kritik aus dem vollen zu schöpfen. Und wenn ich dann mal Selbstbewusstsein entwickeln sollte, dann werde ich als "hochnäsig" etc. betitelt. 😂🤷🏼♀️ Ich habe noch ein bisschen zu wachsen 😉
I had to overcome the negativity, and I still struggle with past childhood comments made to me by my siblings. However, I fight through it and continue to work in the music ministry at my church. Your videos have taught me so so so much, and people comment about how they can tell I'm training my voice. ❤️ I even recorded a Christian cd last month. I couldn't have done it without you!
I straight up refused to sing from like 7 to 22 if I did sing to myself it was almost a whisper. I actually liked singing when I was little but I got super shy and didn't want anyone to hear me. I'm like a year into practicing now I'm just starting to get used to my voice now
THANK YOU for this video,😍specially to my Rights in singing and fighting against negative thoughts or people around while I'm singing.It boost my fighting spirit😊Thank you for the message💖💖💖💖
I love your new hair cut Freya and I love your vids! Thank-you so much for this video which really hits home for me. When I was a child I was repeatedly told to stop singing because I sounded horrible and then as an adult my parish priest told me I was a terrible singer and pianist. Even though I have had many compliments, I am constantly fighting with my thoughts and feelings about my voice. Yes, it is a tough one to overcome and deal with so this video has really helped.
I can totally related too. When i was young i used to sing everywhere everytime and my music teacher always gave my the soprano solo and complemented me. My friends asked me everytime to sing for them and I loved that. But when i attended high school, my new friends began to criticise my voice and i began to lost confidence to the point that i stopped singing. Now i would like to restart singing but my voice is not the same anymore (i think she is lower now) and I don't know how to use my "new natural voice". I guess i have now issues to breath correctly and to sing with a chest voice. Well i will do my best to learn the basis and try to find the confidence that i lost! Thank you for your videos!❤️ And sorry for my mistakes, i'm a French student !🇨🇵😅
I was the singer in my band simply because no other member had the confidence to sing in front of people. It turned out years later that the drummer had a fantastic voice. I was rubbish!
Thanks Freya! I really recognised myself in it. I can confirm that it takes a lot of courage to practise in a less insulated apartment. Also, I love listening to soulfully interpreted songs but I myself shy away from singing with more vibrato and emotion. I wonder what it is that makes one feel to be pretentious.
Thank you thank you thank you!!! I am dealing with this kind of teacher and sometimes I feel am loosing it but I am like what you said, it makes me want to fight back!
Thank you, thank you, Freya! Yes! This resonates so strongly. And, yes, we must be good audiences to each other to support, improve, and celebrate each others’ successes without tearing each other down needlessly. Constructive criticism is fine, indeed, but always something positive. Appropriate energy is a must in this art. One would not play football with a Fabergé egg, so why would one tear a singer down when the art is expressing emotion and vulnerability? Thank you again, Freya!
Thank you so much for this video Freya. Been feeling insecure about my voice and been doubting about my abilities as a singer these days. But this inspired me to keep going ❤ thank you Freya, thank you so much!
Oh yes I can totally relate! When I started singing lessons at the age of 29 (2 years ago) my Dad said: “you can’t sing at all! Do you ever sing?!” Or in a dismissive tone: “Aha so you are going to spend your money on expensive singing lessons now....” - sarcastically: “so after you took a few lessons now, I assume you will be going to the big stages now, right?” Or friends: “I thought you had singing lessons since 2 years now and you still can’t sing!” As if you could sing perfectly on pitch as a beginner on a Sam Smith or Ariana Grande song 🙄😑 So often in life I heard critic and quit stuff I loved or didn’t even begin it. This time with singing I just didn’t tell ANYONE about it in the beginning to avoid these negative comments. But after a while I told a few friends, who I thought were nice, but I was wrong... In the future I will keep things I like to myself, I don’t need all this negative sh*t. Sad, isn’t it?!
Janina, I want to congratulate you for having the courage to continue. My story is very similar to yours and it involves my dad also! I started to take singing lessons last year, but after 35 years of always being ashamed of not being able to sing. As a child I had problems with breathing and I didn`t know how to use the air...and also didn`t know my range (I always knew that I can sing in lower notes, but it appears I am a soprano....and after understanding this, everything changed. I really love to sing classical music and I am doing it for me, like you are. They are still laughing when I talk about taking lessons and I am still afraid to sing in front of my dad or other people....but I do not care, because when I will have the courage to sing, it will be awesome.
That’s so awful. Never let people even your family talk you out of something you would love to do or learn how to do. Anyone can learn how to sing and be good at it, no matter their age. Don’t let them tear you down so you give up on improving your vocal strength. Best wishes ☺️
I love you, Teacher Freya! You're really really such a great human being! This is such an important topic which many people don't talk about! This is really very important to have faith in ourselves. If we get criticised in such bad way, it sucks! And, we get these questions like, "Don't I sound good? Is my voice bad? Can't I sing?"..But, we need to let these go because we all have the right to sing..I want to say, every voice is unique, creation of God..It's beautiful..So, love it..Love yourself and keep singing..Teacher Freya, if you come to India anytime, I would love to meet You who is such a great human being, great Singer and a great Teacher. Lots of love. ❤🙏😊
There is a huge psychological aspect to singing which is often ignored and every singer will have to face this sooner or later. My old voice teacher used to say that when greeting a singer after a performance, find something positive to say not matter what you may have thought about the performance overall. The problem is exasperated by all the music people are exposed to today which is equalized and auto tuned to perfection. The result is that audiences now expect perfection. People need to realize that these recordings are not real, and that no live singer, including the artist being recorded, can sound like that.
Well said !
Life lesson: ignore jerks
I was always told as a child that I was a great singer. It wasn’t until I got older that people started making faces at my mistakes or commenting on my pitch which made me really self-conscious. After having children I think my voice changed and singing isn’t as effortless as it used to be and singing in front of people is nerve racking (and I’m a musical theatre performer 😬).
I love your channel and all the encouragement and tips. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for your wise words! I think I needed to hear this. I am one of those people that got told at a very young age that my voice sounded like a frog. What was worse was that it was my mother who said that to me. Everything you said really resonated with me. Thank you for your healing words. 🙏❤️🎶
Yes once by my friend when first time i tried to sing in front of friends in a game she criticised me "you r bad at singing nd make my fun in front of others"....You don't know how bad it affects on me,still it affectss me when i try to sing..B'coz my inner value of myself is also very fragile....When others criticizes me i try to looked in very innerself which shows me the image, that my friend show me through her eyes,being someone don't know to sing bad at singing,nd also when i try to return back to that image of mine that my mom used to look upon me,i find myself as being criticised unloved hated child who don't like even herself.....
I really thought you were describing MY struggle with singing.
I think it's great you raised the subject and more should be done to make people understand that a silly comment could be life-changing.
I used to sing in the school- and church-choir and was so confident with my singing. I would sign all the time and loved it. Puberty arrived, my voice broke and i became conscious of the physical changes and their impact on my sound. Add to this some teenage insecurities, weakend self-confidence and loads of hormones. Pretty standard and normal until now.
Then one day, completely unintentionally i received a comment from my mother: "Oh Jari, you really got my voice, bless".
Yes, she meant her "horrible" voice. That s all it took.
That day, marked the day I stopped singing. I never sang in the presence of anyone for the following 25 years.
If for whatever reason someone saw me or heard me or "caught" me singing i would be overwhelmed by an unbearable feeling of shame.
It's mad, when i think about it now, but back then I was so vulnarable and insecure and the only person I considered my world thought my singing was terrible.
Today, after 4 years of coaching with my amazing super-patient and super-optimistic voice-coach, Rachel, I'm still struggling and progress is so frustratingly slow.
I'd love to let go of all those inhibitions and inner voices and show everyone how I really sing when no-one is listening...
Yes! For sure, I have always ensured I never say any negative word to my kid even when the singing sucked, Like what I experienced as a child. This has helped her grow her voice. It only takes one person to believe in YOU
Thank you so much for the video is the story of my life. I am one of those children who heard the words “your voice is terrible” and I gave up on music until my late 20’s thanks.~
I loved how you talked about mindset. I'm a singer, but I tried figure skating at the local rink. I was 40 at the time. I felt the same way when I started competing. Most of my "rivals" were half my age!Because I had mindset, I really applied myself with learning, and I worked through my fears about being an artistic and creative person in front of my peers, the judges, and my coaches. In the end, I was a National Gold and silver medalist, and an international medalist as well. I did the same as a dancer, and now as a rock singer. I am 70 years old, and I am still going strong. I admire your pep talk to aspiring singers. I really want to work with you.
I used to think that the ability to sing well was something that people were born with. I've recently discovered that you can learn to become a competent singer by understanding what you need to do to improve, and working on those things. Your videos have really helped me on my journey to improving my singing voice, so thank you.
I appreciate you for this expression. You took the same path as i have being in choir growing up. Always enjoyed singing but shy to be heard by others. Mom sang in Opera and her friends also gave me some lessons. My family are my best critics but still shy to sing to them or with them in person. So, i record it and share on email or facebook. I critique myself more based on what my choir director teaches us. Being able to sing is a blessing and music itself is too. I want to bless others through song. When Christ comes again or when it is my last day, i want to be caught singing about His grace.
I am shy when it comes to singing in public, besides I haven’t educated my voice. I guess I’m like you, don’t challenge me, because I will prove you wrong 😂. I will continue giving it my best. Thanks for all your advice 💕
I've never been told that I sound bad after I've sung infact, I've been told the opposite. I love singing yet I don't enjoy singing when I sing for people. I'm so worried about messing up I can't enjoy singing
I could belt, I could touch all kinds of notes in my childhood but then, some people told me that I would never make it and I stopped for years which ruined my voice completely. Now, I am struggling to get it all back.
Loved the video! Thank you so much.
I have always loved music and I have taken lessons in the past but never dared to sing, I was too afraid and I kept making myself miserable telling myself my voice was not good at all. On top of that I have always struggled in social situations as I was always the outcast in my class in school. This led me to think even more that I had to hide my true self, silence my true voice.
But now that I am 24 I got really tired of letting myself down and hiding myself, so I took the big step and started taking voice lessons, and I love it. But it's true, one of the hardest things to do is to go against that voice in your head, but I am fighting and as you said, I keep telling myself "I will show you I can, because I know I can do it"
😭😭😭 it was literally like I called you and told you everything on my mind and you responded to what I said. Especially the part where you spoke about I don’t want people to think I’m full of myself. Thank you for making this video. Working through these things. ❤️❤️❤️
Freya "it is so much a mental thing"
I just realized I have really bad stage fright and then this video shows up on my feed. God is good.
In my teenage years, people told me "Stop singing! You sound bad!" All my favorite singers at the time had very high voices, and I have a naturally low voice. When I sang along with songs that I loved, I strained to hit the notes. At the time I didn't fully understand that different singers have different ranges. I thought I was just a bad singer.
Thank you so much for your comment! Yes, it's so common for hobby singers to sing in the wrong key. That can create a lot of problems that wouldn't exist if sung in the appropriate range for someone's specific voice type. I'm glad you finally found the answer.
Freya, how profound! That was a great life lesson. Highly motivating! You videos are becoming an addiction!
Das ist wirklich ein großes Thema. Ich war und bin umgeben von Kritikern, welche zwar selbst weniger können, es sie aber nicht davon abhält, bei Kritik aus dem vollen zu schöpfen. Und wenn ich dann mal Selbstbewusstsein entwickeln sollte, dann werde ich als "hochnäsig" etc. betitelt. 😂🤷🏼♀️ Ich habe noch ein bisschen zu wachsen 😉
I had to overcome the negativity, and I still struggle with past childhood comments made to me by my siblings. However, I fight through it and continue to work in the music ministry at my church. Your videos have taught me so so so much, and people comment about how they can tell I'm training my voice. ❤️ I even recorded a Christian cd last month. I couldn't have done it without you!
I straight up refused to sing from like 7 to 22 if I did sing to myself it was almost a whisper. I actually liked singing when I was little but I got super shy and didn't want anyone to hear me. I'm like a year into practicing now I'm just starting to get used to my voice now
THANK YOU for this video,😍specially to my Rights in singing and fighting against negative thoughts or people around while I'm singing.It boost my fighting spirit😊Thank you for the message💖💖💖💖
This is like a message from God.❤️💚💙💛
I love your new hair cut Freya and I love your vids! Thank-you so much for this video which really hits home for me. When I was a child I was repeatedly told to stop singing because I sounded horrible and then as an adult my parish priest told me I was a terrible singer and pianist. Even though I have had many compliments, I am constantly fighting with my thoughts and feelings about my voice. Yes, it is a tough one to overcome and deal with so this video has really helped.
I needed to hear this!! Love your channel, I love your genuine nature!
I can totally related too. When i was young i used to sing everywhere everytime and my music teacher always gave my the soprano solo and complemented me. My friends asked me everytime to sing for them and I loved that. But when i attended high school, my new friends began to criticise my voice and i began to lost confidence to the point that i stopped singing. Now i would like to restart singing but my voice is not the same anymore (i think she is lower now) and I don't know how to use my "new natural voice". I guess i have now issues to breath correctly and to sing with a chest voice.
Well i will do my best to learn the basis and try to find the confidence that i lost!
Thank you for your videos!❤️
And sorry for my mistakes, i'm a French student !🇨🇵😅
I was the singer in my band simply because no other member had the confidence to sing in front of people. It turned out years later that the drummer had a fantastic voice. I was rubbish!
Thank you!! Such an important message to anyone who has a need to sing and to perform.
Ugh... You came at the rightest time on my life..for real I was sad today because my friend told me I suck at singing 😞
Thank you! Yes, my mindset needs work.
Thank you Freya I struggle with All that you mentioned
Thanks Freya! I really recognised myself in it.
I can confirm that it takes a lot of courage to practise in a less insulated apartment. Also, I love listening to soulfully interpreted songs but I myself shy away from singing with more vibrato and emotion. I wonder what it is that makes one feel to be pretentious.
Motivational stuff.
What a motivational video! Thank you and God Bless You!
Thank you thank you thank you!!! I am dealing with this kind of teacher and sometimes I feel am loosing it but I am like what you said, it makes me want to fight back!
Thank you, thank you, Freya! Yes! This resonates so strongly.
And, yes, we must be good audiences to each other to support, improve, and celebrate each others’ successes without tearing each other down needlessly. Constructive criticism is fine, indeed, but always something positive. Appropriate energy is a must in this art. One would not play football with a Fabergé egg, so why would one tear a singer down when the art is expressing emotion and vulnerability?
Thank you again, Freya!
Thank you for this!🙏🏾💖💖💖💖💖
God bless! Thank you so much for sharing this 🙏
Thank you so much Freya ❤ I am so worried about someone hearing me sing. I don't know why, but it just happens. Thank you for your video 💐
Danke!
ThankYou Freya , for you’re beautiful inspiration. You’re incredible insight is so heartfelt. I’m grateful for what you shared on mind set. 💗🎵🎶🎤
My heart
Thank you so much for this video Freya. Been feeling insecure about my voice and been doubting about my abilities as a singer these days. But this inspired me to keep going ❤ thank you Freya, thank you so much!
Oh yes I can totally relate!
When I started singing lessons at the age of 29 (2 years ago) my Dad said: “you can’t sing at all! Do you ever sing?!” Or in a dismissive tone: “Aha so you are going to spend your money on expensive singing lessons now....” - sarcastically: “so after you took a few lessons now, I assume you will be going to the big stages now, right?”
Or friends: “I thought you had singing lessons since 2 years now and you still can’t sing!” As if you could sing perfectly on pitch as a beginner on a Sam Smith or Ariana Grande song 🙄😑
So often in life I heard critic and quit stuff I loved or didn’t even begin it. This time with singing I just didn’t tell ANYONE about it in the beginning to avoid these negative comments. But after a while I told a few friends, who I thought were nice, but I was wrong... In the future I will keep things I like to myself, I don’t need all this negative sh*t.
Sad, isn’t it?!
People can be really cruel. Hope you still try to sing and get better even if it's just for you.
Janina, I want to congratulate you for having the courage to continue. My story is very similar to yours and it involves my dad also! I started to take singing lessons last year, but after 35 years of always being ashamed of not being able to sing. As a child I had problems with breathing and I didn`t know how to use the air...and also didn`t know my range (I always knew that I can sing in lower notes, but it appears I am a soprano....and after understanding this, everything changed. I really love to sing classical music and I am doing it for me, like you are. They are still laughing when I talk about taking lessons and I am still afraid to sing in front of my dad or other people....but I do not care, because when I will have the courage to sing, it will be awesome.
That’s so awful. Never let people even your family talk you out of something you would love to do or learn how to do. Anyone can learn how to sing and be good at it, no matter their age. Don’t let them tear you down so you give up on improving your vocal strength. Best wishes ☺️
Hi coach, pls react to Lea Salonga and Rachelle Ann Go -The Movie In My Mind.💕
Good Evening from Hong Kong, Freya🦻🏻
Hey u r great...
Thank you so much Freya, I needed to hear this today. X
I love you, Teacher Freya! You're really really such a great human being! This is such an important topic which many people don't talk about! This is really very important to have faith in ourselves. If we get criticised in such bad way, it sucks! And, we get these questions like, "Don't I sound good? Is my voice bad? Can't I sing?"..But, we need to let these go because we all have the right to sing..I want to say, every voice is unique, creation of God..It's beautiful..So, love it..Love yourself and keep singing..Teacher Freya, if you come to India anytime, I would love to meet You who is such a great human being, great Singer and a great Teacher. Lots of love. ❤🙏😊
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