Coming from Finland and having traveled around the world to now living in the U.S, I feel like this country is the most divisive and isolating. Career prospects do seem promising if you put in the hard work, but the culture and the people are hard to get assimilated to. How did you go about making lasting friendships etc.? Loving the content🤙🏼
Interesting. My family hosted many exchange students from Finland in Brazil when I used to live there. So my friends here in the US were mainly made through similar activities. I love America and I gotta say, the easiest way I found to connect is to put yourself out there. If you like certain things find groups of people around you that like those things as well. You'll definitely make friends this way.
I am here watching with a Master degree in Engineering and never used it in US. I am here for 13yrs already. The time fly...lots of regrets about what I should have done but didn't ...
I definitely understand you and where you’re coming from. Time does fly by and people just take it for granted. But hey, it’s not too late, hopefully you get to do the things you really want to moving forward.
Great video! I am a Mexican, living in Germany for the past 10 years and now thinking about moving to the US with my husband and children. I can definitely relate to everything you are saying, but I found especially useful what you mention about recognizing the struggle and the grief. I think I would have saved myself some months of loneliness if I would have recognized this. Anyway, great content! ❤
thank you for the kind words. unfortunately as you probably know sometimes we can’t see things clearly as we are going through them only after they’ve passed. Hope to see you and your family here in the US soon.
Glad the video was relatable. You know I made it because a lot of people want to come here but not many people tell you how it actually is. You only see the promise out there but not the reality, at least not as often
I would say it is exactly the same in UK. Or, let me rephrase that. It is exactly the same in large cities in the UK, especially London. Moving a bit outside of London, just out of the tfl zones and in areas where people tend to live for longer period of time without the same turnover, then you start to get a bit more into the culture and connect a bit more. But all you said applies the same: there are more boundaries between homes, less physical but more on the invisible ones, but I have to say people do help each other and there is some sense of community. The social aspect also is different indeed, while here it is about going to the pub after work, I come from a more latin culture where you would share a meal while drinking and stay there for hours chatting etc. It is not good or bad, but as you said, there needs to be some understanding of how things work and adapt or at least not feeling frustrated about it
Absolutely @Alex82pd I’m Brazilian, we live for that. Work, then you to out with your buddies, maybe play some soccer and then stay hours talking smack, drinking a couple beers and eating. There isn’t a rush, just good times lol. Thank you for sharing by the way
-People also bullied you specially when you're in school. however, you can use this as a driving force to move you forward- some immigrants legal or illegal are the most driven people I know.
Yeah I mean. I love America. But the reality is that majority of people specially the ones coming here are lonely all the time. Where you at? State wise I mean
@@UnderdogImmigrant yes I actually lived in Latin America and i loved it. In the USA I feel so lonely and under constant pressure but it seemed I had a lot more natural personal interactions and less stress in Latina America also the culture and nature was amazing . I don’t see sometimes why Latinos want to come to the USA or think it’s so great. Maybe you can make more money but if you work yourself into the ground you could make money in Latin America too ?
That's nice. Latin America is great. The thing is there are not so many opportunities. People are great, food tends to be amazing, climate is also good, nature and so on, and as you said I have asked myself that question multiple times. If someone is willing to do back home what they do here can they make money? I think the answer is it really depends. In here there are so many opportunities that makes succeeding (financially) way easier in my opinion.
@@UnderdogImmigrant hm wow interesting I mean my perspective could be based on me being in a small town but I found it much harder to succeed in America. In my hometown there’s little opportunities. Also because the high barrier of entry, regulatory burden , and high cost of living I feel like it’s hard to get anywhere. I taught English and although it wasn’t super high paid it was stable and good enough then I started working remotely and saved lots of money. I think I could have easily started a business out there I often wish I would’ve stayed in Latin America because in the USA I live paycheck to paycheck and feel a lot more stress.
As an American who spent a long time as an immigrant in Russia this video was fascinating to me. The indirectness of America annoys me to no end. It makes Americans come off as self-righteous and rude assholes in many cases.
@hotrodjones74 I hope you meant fascinating in a good way 🤣, but I’m curious, what did you mean exactly. I love America and Americans, so much so that I became one hahaha.
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Coming from Finland and having traveled around the world to now living in the U.S, I feel like this country is the most divisive and isolating. Career prospects do seem promising if you put in the hard work, but the culture and the people are hard to get assimilated to. How did you go about making lasting friendships etc.?
Loving the content🤙🏼
Interesting. My family hosted many exchange students from Finland in Brazil when I used to live there. So my friends here in the US were mainly made through similar activities. I love America and I gotta say, the easiest way I found to connect is to put yourself out there. If you like certain things find groups of people around you that like those things as well. You'll definitely make friends this way.
@@UnderdogImmigrant Sounds like my own advice to my girlfriend. Maybe I should practice what is preached lol. Thanks man, keep it up!
Hahah I feel you. I will, trying to get the ball rolling, want to help as many people as I can. Thanks for the comments
I am here watching with a Master degree in Engineering and never used it in US. I am here for 13yrs already. The time fly...lots of regrets about what I should have done but didn't ...
I definitely understand you and where you’re coming from. Time does fly by and people just take it for granted. But hey, it’s not too late, hopefully you get to do the things you really want to moving forward.
Great video! I am a Mexican, living in Germany for the past 10 years and now thinking about moving to the US with my husband and children. I can definitely relate to everything you are saying, but I found especially useful what you mention about recognizing the struggle and the grief. I think I would have saved myself some months of loneliness if I would have recognized this. Anyway, great content! ❤
thank you for the kind words. unfortunately as you probably know sometimes we can’t see things clearly as we are going through them only after they’ve passed. Hope to see you and your family here in the US soon.
As an Iranian who moved to USA back in 2012 when I was 18, I can relate with this.
Dope video man. Subscribed 💯🙏🏼
Glad the video was relatable. You know I made it because a lot of people want to come here but not many people tell you how it actually is. You only see the promise out there but not the reality, at least not as often
I hope the subscriptions explode to the millions
Thanks for the kind words @RaymondRossell, I do too lol.
Excelente vídeo mano. Logo mais estarei me mudando para Maryland a trabalho. Já ficarei mais preparado graças a essas informações.
Valeu mano, tamo junto. Bom saber que o vídeo ajudou. E tem muito mais vindo por aí, espero que ajude mais ainda
I would say it is exactly the same in UK. Or, let me rephrase that. It is exactly the same in large cities in the UK, especially London. Moving a bit outside of London, just out of the tfl zones and in areas where people tend to live for longer period of time without the same turnover, then you start to get a bit more into the culture and connect a bit more. But all you said applies the same: there are more boundaries between homes, less physical but more on the invisible ones, but I have to say people do help each other and there is some sense of community. The social aspect also is different indeed, while here it is about going to the pub after work, I come from a more latin culture where you would share a meal while drinking and stay there for hours chatting etc. It is not good or bad, but as you said, there needs to be some understanding of how things work and adapt or at least not feeling frustrated about it
Absolutely @Alex82pd I’m Brazilian, we live for that. Work, then you to out with your buddies, maybe play some soccer and then stay hours talking smack, drinking a couple beers and eating. There isn’t a rush, just good times lol.
Thank you for sharing by the way
You nailed it with your analysis!! Being an international in the us really makes you realize what you are now missing..
Oh thank you @ouicraft it definitely does. Not many people realize how things actually are so wanted to share my experience with them to help out
You can learn to make friends in America from the book How to Make friends and influence others by Dale Carnegie.
Definitely a great book, it’s an oldy but a goody.
Hong Kong SAR people used to visit each other's apartments if you're family or friends.
Same back in Brazil
I'm lonely even though I am a first generation American.
Really? That is interesting. Why do you feel that way though?
All of your points are very true. I wish I was aware of all those before.
@scholarway usually that’s how it goes right? We only know that because we had the courage to take the leap. The important part is to keep going 💪🏻
I have memories of visiting family and church friends in Hong Kong. Now I can't go back to visit anymore.
Why not?
-People also bullied you specially when you're in school. however, you can use this as a driving force to move you forward-
some immigrants legal or illegal are the most driven people I know.
Absolutely.
Interesting how you see these same things as a foreigner as I see as a local
Yeah I mean. I love America. But the reality is that majority of people specially the ones coming here are lonely all the time. Where you at? State wise I mean
@@UnderdogImmigrant yes I actually lived in Latin America and i loved it. In the USA I feel so lonely and under constant pressure but it seemed I had a lot more natural personal interactions and less stress in Latina America also the culture and nature was amazing . I don’t see sometimes why Latinos want to come to the USA or think it’s so great. Maybe you can make more money but if you work yourself into the ground you could make money in Latin America too ?
That's nice. Latin America is great. The thing is there are not so many opportunities. People are great, food tends to be amazing, climate is also good, nature and so on, and as you said I have asked myself that question multiple times. If someone is willing to do back home what they do here can they make money? I think the answer is it really depends. In here there are so many opportunities that makes succeeding (financially) way easier in my opinion.
@@UnderdogImmigrant hm wow interesting I mean my perspective could be based on me being in a small town but I found it much harder to succeed in America. In my hometown there’s little opportunities. Also because the high barrier of entry, regulatory burden , and high cost of living I feel like it’s hard to get anywhere. I taught English and although it wasn’t super high paid it was stable and good enough then I started working remotely and saved lots of money. I think I could have easily started a business out there I often wish I would’ve stayed in Latin America because in the USA I live paycheck to paycheck and feel a lot more stress.
Perspective is definitely an interesting thing isn’t it lol. You gotta go back and get that business going, never to late to do it
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As an American who spent a long time as an immigrant in Russia this video was fascinating to me. The indirectness of America annoys me to no end. It makes Americans come off as self-righteous and rude assholes in many cases.
@hotrodjones74 I hope you meant fascinating in a good way 🤣, but I’m curious, what did you mean exactly. I love America and Americans, so much so that I became one hahaha.