Yeah, I used to think that aromantics were all asexual by default, this coming from an asexual, cause no one bothered explaining it to me whenever I brought it up. It wasn't until I actually read about it that I realized they're not necessarily related
I see a lot of people say that “sex is what makes us human” when in reality that is the stupidest statement I’ve ever heard in my life. Most animals on Earth have sex, does that make them human? Is sex the ONLY qualification we need to be human? Really I think that what makes us human is our ability to choose if we want to have sex or who we want to have sex with. The fact that we have a choice is what makes us human and people need to realize that just because you deviate from “the norm” doesn’t make you any less of a person.
Also...we’re the only species to cook our food before eating it. Most other mammals have ***. So cake and garlic bread is actually what makes us human.
Disclaimer: I don’t speak for all ace people, just how I experience it myself. My friend kept asking me questions about me being ace because he just didn’t get it. So when I called someone hot, he said “Hey, I thought you were ace?” I responded, “I can look off the menu, i just won’t order.” He finally got it.
An ace: *finds someone attractive* Someone: I thought you don’t find anyone attractive? An ace: I’m not sexually attracted to people, that doesn’t mean I’m blind
Like I told my mother, who tried to 'catch me lying Me, commenting on a well put together and nice looking pop-star. "I *thought* you said you aren't attracted by anything?" Me: Well I still appreciate beauty and what looks nice! Doesn't mean I feel sexual attraction towards them! I don't see you wanting to **** that nice looking car you thinks look nice. There's a big difference. " She's.... still in the mindset that my asexuality is because I haven't found 'the right one' or it's because I'm sick with no energy. I've... always been this way and it made me very confused about myself until recently (33yrs old) When I finally understood what Asexuality was and how it suddenly opened my eyes that what I experienced, had a name. That I wasn't alone..
@@golden.fire.princess9653 I know, right? I can't say for sure (not a mind reader, lol), but I'm fairly certain most people in my life just assume I'm making stuff up when I tell them. None of them acknowledge it, let alone take it seriously (if they do, they're doing a bang up job of hiding it). Once me and my friends were watching a nostalgic commercial with a busty lady and they were going on how they'd love to have her in their icebox and I went "Nah, I'd rather have the ice cream. Plus she's not my type" as a joke, but someone immediately said "Well she's a girl, so that would be super weird" or something to that effect. Yay mild homophobia. -_-
I hate being a sex-repulsed asexual. It's one of the reasons why I can't get into a relationship. No one would ever want to be with someone who is disgusted by intimacy. So I'm kinda forced to accept that I'll be alone forever.
Sorry if this is over-stepping for a stranger on the internet, but I really connected with your comment and felt compelled to share. I know it's easier said than done, but you should try not to hate yourself for something that's part of who you are. Yes, finding a relationship with a partner who has the same preferences for intimacy may be more challenging for you than most, but it's not impossible. After all, you exist (and all the other lovely aces in these comments, myself included!), so there's bound to be others like you! Plus, you are a whole, complete, human all by yourself, who is deserving of love, no matter what kind of relationships you may or may not have throughout your life (platonic, romantic, etc). It's good to be accepting and content in life, but if you truly desire to be in a relationship with someone like you, don't give up! That's all I wanted to say. Hope you have a wonderful day =)
As an asexual, people are always getting things wrong, it’s always “AsExUaLs ArE eMoTiOnLeSs” or “YoU cAnT fEeL aTtRaCtiOn?!?11?1!1” or that, like, sex without love exists so love without sex exists too!
My autism is the thing that makes me 'emotionless'. I can still feel love when bonded, I just want to keep all the clothes on and watch DocWho with my SO, thanks!!
@@Flarflenugen Correlation / causation mix ups with a good old dash of wanting to believe they are the few that know, while the rest are oblivious. Makes them feel smart. They also tend to be the kind of people who fall into the memetic theory of believing what sounds convenient and/or beneficial to them or their beliefs, then pass it on to other like-minded people. Much like the pineapple improving the taste of semen myth, starting as a study to see how far it would spread compared to a more mundane lie. The pineapple claim spread so fast, with hundreds of outlets reporting on it and doing their best to try explain it, the origin point was buried and lost. True meme in action. People believe what they want, no proof needed.
I recently had a talk with someone that swore humans are beings with inherent sexual needs and desires - I used Asexuals as an example of how this is not always the case. Just because something comes so naturally to you, doesn’t mean everyone feels the same way.
Me and my partner are both asexual, and are planning to get married as soon as we can. We have already started planning our wedding together, and have picked out some cute frog rings off the internet. Both of us don't like kissing, and we are planning to have 2 or 3 kids (adopted probably) when our adult lives are stable enough to take care of them ^^
The fact that people call ace/aro people “heartless” disgusts me like why tf do you care if that person chooses not to get laid like fr that’s none of your business 🙄😒
I don't think I'm asexual but I agree with you. It's weird. No sex = no heart? I don't get it. If anything it seems like the other way around. Sex is weird
Yeah, if only that were true... I used to have periods that were very heavy and lasted for literal months until I got medical intervention. The only reason I don't now is because I have to take pills to regulate the cycle. If I ever go off them, there's a chance it might start again (because that's what happened every other time I tried that). So yeah, if ace women didn't have periods a large chunk of my life would have been significantly simpler. 😓
@@glaceRaven Omg you are so brave and so strong, I cant IMAGINE having a period for months, let alone i can barely handle a WEEK but idk how you did it.
I found out (at 16 I might add) that people date for sexual reasons and not just because they wanted to bake pies, live in a tiny house together, cuddle with tea when it’s cold and go hiking together when it’s warm. Pretty sure I’m ace tbh- Hello- update over half a year later. I should state I’m 18 for this whole story and already identified as asexual. Bout a month or two after I posted this I met a girl- we got really close- she asked if I would date her. Figuring the feeling I had felt toward her was romantic attraction. A month and a half more of dating and after we kissed I just- realized I didn’t feel anything. That I didn’t veil her as any more then a friend. A few talks with my therapist and many sleepless nights later. Me and the girl had a long talk- she had been cheating on me- well I wouldn’t call it cheating since we had only been together for a month at the time she started. But she had been seeing someone else because she felt like I didn’t really love her. I told her about what I had been feeling and how I wasn’t sure about any of this. So we broke it off- it only ever really lasted about 2 months and was the only romantic relationship I’ve ever had. But we didn’t end in an argument, just a mutual agreement that it wouldn’t work out, and we wouldn’t have any bitter feelings toward the other. I went trough a lot, trying to figure out what was wrong with me and why I didn’t love her. I talked with some AroAce friends and thought about it, did some research, and what I was feeling toward her was probably just platonic attraction. I do identify and Aroace now and have no plans of getting into another relationship (obviously) for forever. Identifying as Aroace has been one of the best things that’s ever happened to me, made my life a whole lot better. It makes me feel so much like I’m not “broken” anymore. I feel so much more content with the relationships I have. I may never romantically, or sexually love anyone, but I still have a very happy life filled with love. Platonic love for my friends, familial love with (some) of my family, love form my pets, love of my hobbies and the career I’m pursuing (I’m going to collage to become an ictheologist right now), and just love for the life I’ve built with the help of my friends and family and coworkers and classmates and therapist and everyone else who supports me so much. I lead a life filled with so much love and appreciation now and I can see that. Being Aroace is amazing! Us Aces and Aros and Aroace are out hear living lives and proving that you don’t need sex or a romantic relationship to lead a fulfilling happy life! Stay safe fellows!
i didn’t discover this fact until I was like 22 and reading reddit stories where people complained about their partner feeling like a roommate… and I’m over here thinking “isn’t that the goal?”
That's why I lost my interest in dating, because I was under the impression that s*x must come of it. (And hence why my parents treated "date" like a dirty word.)
Man, I can relate. I identified as bisexual constantly saying to myself something like "I can fall in love with everybody, I just don't want to imagine and have sex with them, maybe this will change later". And one day I realized the point- Um, yeah. Biro ace here ✌
I literally remember talking to a guy about that and he was like, “it’s a huge part of the relationship.” And I was like, “really??” Cause I truly didn’t want that haha
When I try to tell my older sister that I am asexual she always tells me that I am not and I am straight whenever I compliment one of my favourite idols they always say "See! you are not an asexual you just complimented him!" So what! does complimenting someone decide your sexuality.Thats why I hesitate to open up about my sexuality to even my family.
Exactly. I had a very similar experience with my mother. I told her that I was ace and explained it, but the next day I was going on a walk with her and this random dude was across the street. My face was red because it was over 90 degrees Fahrenheit out and I’m bad at exercising, but my mother said “You’re blushing at him! You’re not asexual!”. So yeah, she obviously didn’t understand my explanation the previous night and I’m probably not going to talk with her about it again.
I can't really relate to that experience per se because I haven't told my family (it just never came up and I would find it weird to bring it up out of the blue, I don't really care if they know or not), but the part about favorite idols... yes, absolutely. The fact that you can compliment someone for their talent and/or personality aside, there's also a thing that's called aesthetic attraction. Like, I may don't feel sexually attracted to them, but I still have eyes okay?! So... I don't know how old you are, if you're older or younger than me, but as an older sister myself (more like middle child, but whatever) you have my support regardless
"Asexual women do not get periods or do not have a uterus" God, I wish ): Edit: Just realized I'm probably also trans/nonbinary so yeah- Edit.2: uhhh okay so I figured out I'm aroace and now I'm not sure if I'm trans or nonbinary. Like, my gender under the umbrella term, sure. but i dunno. I do know that the best way to describe my gender is with help of the theory of philosopher Berkeley about reality so that's cool i guess (I will not elaborate on that). I'm just gonna keep editing this comment in the future because I think it would be fun to read back on this and see if anything will change
As an asexual I’m not completely apposed to the idea of having sex; it’s just never appealed to me and I’ve never understood why people view it as soooo important in relationships. like so important they’d rather not be together than not have sex. Isn’t personal connection more important than physical connection? Maybe just me lol.
As a demisexual, to me sex is the ultimate way to be close to someone or a physical expression of an emotion. I can't fathom a one-night stand. I can't imagine being physical with someone unless I was in a deep and meaningful relationship with them. Jason Momoa is hot, but if he offered himself to me on a silver platter, I wouldn't want it.
Asexual Elder here- raised 5 sons! Simply have never been sexually attracted to men or women! Loved my husband and enjoyed the affection and just thought that sex was overrated!
so is it like, you accept sex but you dont go out of your way to get it just like what happens happens? im sorry if i made a misconception just trynna understand
@@exxwhy1645 "Sexual attraction is attraction on the basis of sexual desire or the quality of arousing such interest. Sexual attractiveness or sex appeal is an individual's ability to attract the sexual or erotic interests of other people, and is a factor in sexual selection or mate choice." u just realise u dont have it and then ur like "oh yeah im maybe ace" still not sure if i am, I think im demisexual (meaning i only experience sexual attraction after getting to know someone) I also heard that aperantly allosexual people, when they say someone is "hot" it actually originated from actually feeling hot, like tempreture, because of sexual attraction. I was absolutely blown away by that, i just saw that someone had a cool sense of style or they're body is attractive but not in that way, just looks cool take my words with a grain of salt though, because I'm not sure myself, and tbh idc, it doesnt affect me much
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I also think it's important to note that being asexual and being aromantic are not the same thing. I am simultaneously asexual and the most hopelessly romantic person I know.
Lol yes. I'm pretty sure I'm Asexual and I know I want a partner. I have cute dates and stuff in mind but I don't find people "hot" or "sexy" while my classmates and friends do.
I identify as aroallo and it's really annoying when people confuse the two and just lump them together, just because they both start with "a" does not mean that they're the same
@@cyriswinters5233 soo true..I'm also an asexual and sex repulsed.Literally even at this age I don't know what's the definition of sexyness.I wonder what is that.I'm actually a fan of some celebrities and they have a huge fanbase.So whenever they show their abs or them sweating after their practise or performance is filmed,the fans literally go crazy about that.I've seen lots of fans thirsting over them like this and I find this very confusing..They say they behave like this coz the celebrities are sexy and they feel flustered when they show their abs and act sexy??and I absolutely can't relate to that.That's why for a long time I thought that only having abs and sweating will make a person sexy!?but still even after that I don't find myself thirsting over them.Now I know that I will never know what it is lmao
@@hafsahossain1394 exactly! I don't understand what the big deal is about shirtless people! I don't know what they mean by "sexy" to me it's just there! It's so confusing lmao
Tempted to send this to my parents so that they can finally understand why setting me up with "the right guy" isn't going to solve what they consider a problem.
Omg I LOVE how they talked about asexuals "not wanting to get married." While I am not a part of the community myself, asexual people still can feel romantic feelings! They're not robots! We love them! Remind an asexual near you to go hydrate
thankyou when i came out as asexual the first thing my friends said were "but you've had a crush before" and "i kinda that i mean i didn't think you liked relationships anyway" and i was kinda suprised considering they are both bisexual like it's not like i'm aromantic im STILL happy to be in a relationship. the only thing im worried about is that im straight and i feel like alot of men wouldn't want to date me because they would want to have sex when they were older or they might peer pressure me into doing it
@@ache5935 just be careful with who you go out with, and if it seems like your relationship might get serious just let them know that you aren't interested in sex & (if this applies for you specifically) that it's completely off the table for you, nonnegotiable. Their reaction will tell you a lot about their personality and if they're someone you want to be with anyway. If they don't respect you enough to acknowledge and accept that you don't want to, they don't deserve you!
I came out to my Mom’s girlfriend a few years ago. I wasn’t worried because she’s gay. This LESBIAN woman looked at me and said “aren’t you a little young to be making that decision”. She literally said “it’s just a faze” in a different format. My stomach dropped. I just couldn’t believe it. I’ve gotten that reaction from other people to. My brother literally told me he thought he was asexual at my age and that I would ‘grow out of it’. Everyone is always so confused when I tell them. It’s the worst.
I'm so sorry about that. Unfortunately, some of the most hostile reactions to being ace have come from other LGBTQ+ people in my experiences, and sadly, I've heard others say that as well. It's disappointing.
Not asexual, just came here to educate myself for future relationships with someone who may be - or just so I understand the community. ❤️ Edit: btw u guys are so amazing, I hope u all find love and happiness and don't ever let anyone make u feel like being asexual is wrong or fake. this community is so wholesome ❤️❤️❤️
10 Things People Get Wrong About Asexual People: 1. People assume that they haven't found the "right one" yet. 0:54 2. People who are asexual are not attracted to anybody. 1:27 3. People who are asexual hate sex and do not have sex. 1:53 4. Asexual people are celibate or abstinent. 2:20 5. Asexual women do not get periods or do not have a uterus. 3:08 6. Asexuality is a medical concern. 3:39 7. People who are asexual will never get married. 4:07 8. There is a reason why people are asexual. 4:34 9. Asexual people tend to dress a "certain" way. 4:57 10. All asexuals experience no sexual attraction at all. 5:26 I hope many people watch this video.
I understand that being homosexual is probably the most risky in terms of backlash, but asexual people are pressured in similar ways. Sure, we can marry and adoption is way easier, but when a man or a woman don't want kids, the world erupts in chaos. Somehow a person not wanting kids is selfish, like it's somehow a gift to bring them into this world
I know, I said when I was 17 to a grown ass (midle-aged) person that I don't want kids, and she was like:🥴tHAt sO sELfISh 🥴 It's not f**king selfish it's just that I am an emotional mess and don't want to traumatize a child for a life. So, at least till I learn some self-control (ofc working on it), I don't want to make more damage to this world.
I never understood why you have to have kids. I'm not spending 500,000 dollars every 5 years or so just to feed and please some child I didn't even want in the first place.
People literally want me to have sex to fix me. But what they don't understand is I have a sex drive I just lack sexual Atraction and def won't do anything with someone who won't respect my boundaries
I know, whenever i say that i don't want kids or a partner ppl are so fast to say that it'll change overtime and that I'm too young to make those choices, i know myself and since i was a kid i felt this way pretty sure it won't change so fast.
Well, it might change. I never wanted kids but as I've hit 30 I'm starting to entertain the Idea. Not saying it will definitely happen but just making the point that not every opinion or desire you have remains the same throughout your life
I really hope is not bad manners asking this or anything and I’m not offending anyone, I’m simple a really curious person. Like I always heard that sex and physical intimacy is a really important part of marriage, so like do asexual when like married or in a relationship love their, significant other but don’t really feel that much sexually attracted to them??? P.S: I really hope I didn’t offend anyone I’m just a extremely curious person.
@@pedroviniciussilvaleal8113 you'll probably get better answers than mine, as I am only questioning. The friend who explained it to me said it really depends on the person. There are three "types" of asexuality. Sex-repulsed: "ew gross" Sex-Neutral: "Well if it makes my partner happy..." And Sex-favorable: "I have a sex drive but not towards a specific person." But to answer your question, yes sex is important to a relationship, but not in the way that "you should have sex because you are married." It is more important that the sexual desires of each person are on a similar level, be that level at 0 or 100. The main thing is understanding that romantic attraction, or love, is different from sexual attraction, lust. It's a fickle thing, because they are often portrayed as either one and the same, or completely separate, but the truth is somewhere in the middle, where a misconnection in one can harm the other. So yes, they do feel the romantic attraction, but they wouldn't feel the sexual attraction.
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm No, I just don't feel sexual attraction to other people. I have my own opinions, feelings and my own way of diving into relationships. Your comment is very ignorant.
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm well,people can be people,and if there were to believe in something,well,let them have it. its their life to live and so do yours. you can be and believe in what you think is right,and so can others. So be respectful to others and soon you'll view the goodness of it. Hope your health is good and best the luck to you :D
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm you are correct,I agree on this,but I believe that if their want to live in their beliefs or reality,it's all ok and fine if it doesn't influence other people in a negative way. As long as they enjoy living the kind of way they want,and it doesn't influence others in a negative way,it's ok for them to have it.and so you too,you can live your way of life you want,as long as it doesn't influence others negatively :D
I was deemed as “edgy, cold, loner with no emotions” because I have no interested in being in a relationship like my peers in high school. It’s hard for me to open up about this because it’s rarely mentioned when it comes to LGBT+ matters.
There are dating apps for this I believe if you feel that's your only options but you gotta be careful. Meeting People in person is safer usually though so that suggestion is better. Both ways you gotta be careful though.
man everyone thinks sex is needed to have a good relationship. i’m growing to hate this earth purely because i can’t have a romantic relationship. hi, sex-repulsed enby asexual here ! it’s hard enough to find a partner as is, without even touching on the asexuality. as the world we live in slowly becomes more accepting, i hope by the time i find a partner, they’ll understand ! anyway, enough of my ramblings. this is very well done and i hope more people get educated on the matter !!
I feel you, as a sex repulsed gay ace I get into these moods where I lose hope that I can ever have a long-term partner, someone who I could happily spend the rest of my life with, because so many people act like your relationship will be meaningless without sex. Which makes me really sad because I really, really want to have somebody like that someday. In my case, I really love romance, and it really hurts me when people tell me that I'll never have it. I know that isn't true though! I know that you and me and anyone else who wants a partner will be able to find one eventually! And regardless, I believe that everyone reading this will have a fun life full of amazing people, friends or otherwise.
@@dali-dog Geez, here I am being pro romantic in love with an asexual girl (I don't give a SHIT about sex, for me it's the emotional support) and yet she walks right past me, never been so heart broken, 💔
Same! Some people don’t even understanding, I even tell my friends I probably won’t get married any soon and they just don’t believe! I haven’t told them About me yet.. :( I hope they support me after I tell them!
The hardest part for me was that I actually started hating relationships and the idea of sex as I was growing up. You know when literally everyone keeps talking about attraction here, sex there, of how they would to kiss and touch someone? Or even worse, when someone started getting physical and weird with you just because they felt attracted to you. I always tried to understand anything that I couldn't, but this...I really can't. Other people can't really understand why asexuals stays single for a long time, but actually It's pretty logic, there's no point in pursuing someone who we know won't accept being in a relationship without sex, and some of us won't make it just because our partner wants to, since it doesn't make sense to us.
Sure, and It’s also not other people’s fault either if they do feel sexual or want to kiss and get physical when they feel attraction. No need to hate relationships any more either, since Fortunately, there’s an Asexual community more easier to access than ever before, so it’s possible to contact & meet others that have the same preferences and persuasion as you.
Im an asexual myself, and also am not interested in getting into any kind of relationships. I just like to be alone, single and happy. But i do watch alot of romantic bl mangas tho.
As a grayromantic ace who’s been told that my sexuality doesn’t exist and have experienced all of these- thank you for sharing this video. It made me feel better
Im pretty certain im asexual, i dont really come out or identify as asexual, i would just tell people i dont like the idea of having sex, it makes me uncomfortable i would rather cuddle or hug! But people definitely say "you'll start liking it when you get older" 😭✋
I'm definitely in the same boat. I relate to how people describe asexuality and what you just said, but I don't really like labelling myself so I just tell people that thinking about sex and the topic as a whole makes me uncomfortable (hugs and cuddling seem alright though!). Most people unfortunately don't understand, but at least my mom understands why I questioned myself about it in the first place
The frustration when our parents tell my sister and I that my bisexuality is a curiosity phase I'll grow out of and my sister's asexuality is because she "just hasn't met the right person yet". Like, sometimes they make me want to scream into the void.
My neighbor came out as bisexual and her mother had a response of "well you could still marry a man so I guess it's okay" Another bi friend of mine has a mother with the same mindset as yours. I just don't understand why people can't let other people be who they are
@@Flarflenugen Some people just seem to form a rigid view of how the world is and if anything comes along that doesn't fit in, it's either given a temporary excuse or is denied being real. Like in the case of my friend's wife, she seems totally fine with all forms of sexuality except asexual, as having a sex drive is just what humans have, apparently. But she's the same with other things too, like mixing certain foods is just something *not* done. She was seriously repulsed at the idea of a bagel with chicken and cheese, chicken or cheese, sure, but both on a bagel was like taking jackhammer to the foundation of physics to her. My friend believes it's just how her family raised her to be as they're very much the same with odd, specific steadfast beliefs of things. I assume that is how it is for a lot of people, that somehow their brain gets hardwired into their own perceptions and they can't let go or adapt to the larger world around them. Rambling now, but another friend, she's from a very pushy and opinionated family. She's been taught women *have* to wear makeup, even when home alone and was pressured into cosmetic surgery because her petite frame was too "boy-like" and kept making her believe she would never get married because she wasn't "womanly" enough. Worst part is, she fully agrees with them and got mad at me for trying to convince her that she was fine before and is fine now and doesn't need any surgery to be worth something, especially to herself but she just got mad at me. I would have been fine with it if she just didn't want to talk about it, but the unnecessary and unexpected anger stings. Unfortunately her self image and self worth issues have caused major commitment issues, so she's constantly having one night stands but shuns and ghosts anyone who actually cares and wants to build a relationship. What amazes me most is how much time and effort people put in to trying to "correct" others. It's just so much easier to not give a damn, if someone isn't hurting anyone then let them live their life. If, you feel like they need help, offer it, don't push it as misunderstandings are everywhere! It seems a bit cold and apathetic, but it's how I try to live my life.
My parents are quite the opposite 😂 my brother is 19 and still didn’t get a girlfriend and my parents sat him down and told him stuff like “we’ll support you no matter what” and all that, they thought he was gay but he just hasn’t found the right one
When asexuality first started to really come into the public's eye, I remember a lot of people saying things like, "what, you think you're a plant or something?" I'm glad that died out.
@@Mari-eo3yi I'm really sorry to hear that. I feel for ya, I'm bi and my parents constantly used to belittle bisexual people, insisting that it doesn't exist and we're all delusional, attention seekers. I really hope that your parents can one day understand. Either way, keep your chin up you're not alone and you're as valid as anyone. :)
@@azure_0773 Well.... maybe not everyone has the actual "ability to reproduce"? :) Could definitely say that everyone has the ability to engage in sex in one way or another though. But yeah. A lot of people are too obsessed with sex.
Honestly I'm not surprised. The human race is stupid as a whole. Remember that one senator that thought that a woman's body could tell the difference between consensual and non-consensual sex and be able to shut it down? Perfect example of what I mean.
@@liseegeskov8769 I think it was someone in the last U.S. government, but yeah, they might have gotten re-elected. (I can't remember the guy's name either, but I had a bunch of friends in the U.S. making fun of him)
Since I have red hair, I've been asked if "the curtains match the drapes". People are just so inconsiderate to the emotions of others. They need to grow up.
When I told people I was asexual they would be like “Weren’t you dating a boy?” Yeah, and what of it? 🤨 and then acted like I was crazy or didn’t know what I was talking about
Same. I respond with: "Yeah, I was trying to make myself straight and force myself to accept sexual advances I was disgusted by, but due to heteronormative beliefs and comments such as the one you just made, I didn't know any better."
Even being asexual I have a nice girlfriend, and we are in a stable relationship, a lot of people think the sexual and romantic atraccion are the same thing, but they aren't, is not so hard to understand.
My boyfriend is Asexual, he makes me feel warm and loved every day and I can only hope I make him feel the same. I can only assume the people who think asexual people can't date or get married are very shallow and only see relationships as a way to get sex
That last statement is also not true and actually sounds a bit like now you’re shaming people who have higher sexual drives. We are all human beings with different needs and desires. I think we all need to remember that and have acceptance for each other and treat each other with the respect and kindness that we all deserve
my gf and I are both ace and we met at school. I was terrified when i confessed my feelings for her, i was both scared of rejection and scared that she would want sex with me eventually, but then SURPRISE, she told me "well, i kinda like you too, but you need to know i am asexual..." - sometimes destiny just works out, people ! I also happen to be polyamourous, and I have another girlfriend, who isn't ace at all, and has no problem with it - we've been together for three years now, and it's going great ! Nice people do exist, and I am sure you will find some too !
I’m 19 and recently came out (not so publicly) that I’m asexual (still in questioning about if I’m aromantic too) and it took so long because I was just trying to imitate what other people did, without feeling at ease with it or understanding why people were obsessed with sex. But then, I just realized that I’m just not interested in having sex (and probably romantic relationships) and that it’s not in me
Hey same! For the longest time I had no idea what asexuality was, and I kinda figured something was wrong with me. I currently identify as a demi-homoromantic asexual, though I’m still sort of figuring out my romantic orientation
Well I'm 14 (about to turn 15 in two more days going to adult hood) and I'm asexual and I have so many uncomfortable moments every single day. Even with toxic people. I don't even have social media anymore cause I've been bullied for almost everything. Even my sexuality when I used to be homophobic. Bit now I support the LGBTQA+ community and people are now making fun of me for being asexual. Um I mean they always did that to me.
I've been crushing on an asexual person for 2 years, and this has helped a lot with my thoughts about approaching them for a relationship, friendship, or anything. This makes me feel a lot better ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Just remember that asexuals still have emotions and (unless they’re aromantic) also have romantic feelings. They’re still suckers for romantic gestures and can get nervous just like anybody else. Just be yourself !! Good luck !!!
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm let's calm down,believes can be anything by anyone. and so can people believe in what they want to believe in. be kind,and hope positive will come to your life :D
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm yes you can :D Nobody is gonna stop you from believing what is right for you.Unless it influence others in a bad way or harm others,you can believe whatever you want. Believe in the existence of god,yea that can too,just don't allow ritual of sacrifice/mutilation as it's influencing someone negatively and even harm someone. And yes,you can even believe in harming yourself is good and all,But why?,why harming yourself in a bad way that will influence your future where you can be healthy and find interest in life...but I can't force you to believe in what is right as everyone has its own right to believe in what's right.therefore,if someone were to believe in mutilation of themselves is good,then,go on...their beliefs are Their belief.but I'll strongly advice them to not harm themselves.and,is an advice I give,not pressure or forcing them to change,whether they want to change or hold on to their conviction,it's up to them. So,that's my belief of what is "right" for me,but,that's just my belief or what's "right".I might be wrong,we might be wrong,as there's nobody is perfect. But,you can be your perfect self,not in a "perfect" way of saying it but,you can set the level of righteousness for yourself and call it perfect for you,I too can do that too,and so the others too. Stay safe :)
Also, don’t assume that someone who is ace is just “afraid to come out as gay.” *You don’t get to pick how other people label themselves.* Someone may be ace and homoromantic but someone can also be ace and heteroromantic, panromantic, biromantic, etc, so that statement can just be straight up rude. Edit: oh yeah and don’t forget all the other romantic labels (aromantic, demiromantic, etc) so yeah just don’t say stuff like that. Please.
Metrosexual was once a label, but turns out it was just a fad... just like this cringe video nothing but fad labels and in the next 10 years or so, no one is gonna care what people identify, they are all the same, Human.... with different fetish
I wouldn't call asexuality a fad label as it has existed for centuries just never properly defined. Sure we might abandon labels one day but sexualities aren't "fetishes". How would asexual even be a fetish? O.o
Just pointing out that the aromantic labels don't belong under the ace umbrella, but rather in the aromantic spectrum. Asexuality and aromanticism can exist together, but they can also exist separately as not all aromantics are asexual. So it's important not to put aromanticism under asexuality so you don't invalidate non-asexual aromantics.
Haven't seen the video yet, but just wanna say, I love that psych2go is covering asexuality and helping share info about aces. It's quite needed if I'm being honest. Thank you~
you can have romantic relationships without sex, romantically I'm attracted to all genders, cause romantically your genitals do not matter, but I am heterosexual, i could date a woman, or any person with an engaging and attractive personality, but i only want sex with men
As a man, I never ''Fell in Love'' with someone romanticly, and I always thought something is wrong with me. Thanks to you I finally found out I am asexual and that there is nothing wrong with me.
I’m aroace myself! I only really have fallen in love platonically. It’s honestly a hard orientation to understand, but it’s what resonates the most with my experiences.
To all the asexuals reading this, just know that you are valid and people calling you names will never change anything and the support is always there for you! Have a nice day/night :)
I met my husband when I was in high school, and he was the one who made me realize that I was Asexual. My fear of coming out to him about it was what made us break up the first time, despite the fact that I was romantically attracted to him. Four years later, we were brought back together and I basically told him that I was Asexual right off the bat, before my heart could be broken again. And he straight up told me that he didn't care. He shared those romantic feelings with me. 10 years after that, we are celebrating our seventh wedding anniversary.
Here's another video on Asexual. Some of you enjoyed our first video on What Does It Mean to Be Asexual? th-cam.com/video/i6A7UAH5fcY/w-d-xo.html What other misconception(s) you know that aren't mentioned in this video? P.S Disclaimer is listed in the description box. [EDITED] Thanks for the feedback on the asexual flag color order is in the incorrect order. We've given feedback to the animator. Unfortunately, we can't change it within the video once it's published. Going forward, there shouldn't be an issue with this in the future. However, everything else with the information is accurate. Color order should be black, grey, white and purple. Thanks for understanding!
the problem is that we are limited to the people we can date because obviously couples are gonna wont to have kids and sex and because we don't want that it can cause chaos
Even though I am not asexual, I just wanna let you know guys that you are valid, no matter what people might say and I love all of you ❤️. Don’t change for anybody, you are just you, not everyone else❤️
As an asexual I haven't met anyone outside my family who would respect my sexuality. They all tried to talk me out of it or treated me like it's a disease or disorder that needs to be cured. I learned to talk back but it's still frustrating that people act like like asexuality isn't LGBTQ+ because "the A stands for ally, duuuh" or worse: "asexuality doesn't exist, it's just some Tumblr trend like non binary genders"
As an asexual, I am actually a very emotional and outgoing person. I also crush on people very easily. I'm also not exactly sex repulsed, I'm more sex indifferent. I would if my partner wanted to. some asexuals are sex repulsed, others aren't, and that's ok. all aces are valid.
It’s because scientifically asexual means reproduce without the need of a partner. Like a cell for instance they split in two without having sex with anything other than themselves
I tried telling my friend I was ace and she kept trying to tell me over and over again “don’t worry, you’ll find someone eventually” and I was trying so hard not to cry idk why it bothered me sm but I just hate when people tell me that when I ask them not to MDBKAJDJD
FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT. I am not asexual myself but I get a lil mad when people keeps mixing up aromantic and asexual, I also don't like that "asexuals don't feel romantic attraction at all" memes it's just wrong
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm I mean, good theory, a lot of my friends who are came out as asexual are trans. My sister though, she's not trans. She has told me that she was asexual, and that she has not experienced sexual attraction toward any gender. She's old enough to decide what she wants, and doesn't want in life. And sexual activities is definitely something she doesn't want. Some people use the, " how do they know if they have never tried it?", Well how do you know you wouldn't like hugging a cactus if you have never tried it? There's just some things that are unappealing to others.
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm yes, I am in highschool, but I am not asexual lol. My sister, is asexual, and she is out of highschool. I'm merely stating what is appealing to HER. And what HER identify is. Not mine.
I used to get sexually harassed by a guy in my class a few years ago, and it's so absurd how many times people have asked me, "You sure your asexuality ain't the result of that?" . . .
Yeah, some ace people may have experienced sa in the past, and some didn’t. Asexuality is not tied to SA trauma. And even if someone was to lose desire for sex and sexual attraction, it’s okay for they want to label themselves as asexual, they are still welcomed in the community.
I don't know about other asexuals but I DO tend to dress a certain way because I hate being sexualized at all, I'll wear baggy clothing all the time and do everything I can to hide my body
I didn't even realise I have been doing the same without even thinking about it. I'm comfortable in my body, but I don't want to be seen as an object. People tend leave me alone more, when I look androgynous.
An asexual here. I tend to dress more androgynously and more modestly so ppl don’t sexualize me too. I honestly cannot comprehend how ppl barely wear anything outside and aren’t concerned with the fact that other ppl sexualize them like that
I'm the same, but I haven't ever thought of the reasoning behind it in that way before. I can't wear anything but baggy trousers because skirts/dresses/shorts make me feel too exposed. I also go out of my way to make sure I'm wearing long sleeves for the same reason, and multiple layers if possible. I also exclusively wear shirts which I guess could be because they feel more business like and so less like I'm sexualising myself, but idk if that's true lol.
hey! would you like me to give you some advice? im an asexual myself, so i might be able to help. if yes, then first off, are they just on the spectrum or straight up asexual?
Oh, and it's literally made me feel preyed on and stalked to be bothered, regardless with no respect for boundaries. I'm so glad someone else sees this as just an identity not a disability.
you guys are so important, not only do you spread awareness of various forms of neurodivergence, but you also destigmatize things like asexuality (as a neurodivergent asexual thank you so much for everything you do) and honestly I wish you all the best
I’m asexual, and I’m happy to see someone explain the facts and how it really is. It’s sometimes difficult to explain it all to a non-asexual person, who just think that «you haven’t found the right one»
Hi I just want to say I'm proud to a asexual! Even though I'm still confused if I'm a gray ace or just ace I'm still happy to be in ace community! And no one can't change me! 🖤⚪💜
1. I’ve heard the, “you just haven’t found the right guy yet” thing and like yeah and I never will cause that’s not how it works! And like bish please I *live* in my head 24/7 so I think I know better than you 2. Y tho, like genuinely, I said I’m not sexually attracted to anyone, not that I’m not romantically attracted to anyone!? Like dude! 3. I’ve met a few people who are sex repulsed and honestly I get it lol, though I am not and like the idea that asexuals would never have sex or would like, actively hate it is so weird to me, like someone asked me, “would you have sex with your partner if they wanted to even though you’re asexual?” And like yeah, if I’m in a serious enough relationship that sex is in the cards then yeah, I want my partner to feel good! And it’s not like anything bad is gonna happen, knock on wood anyways lol 4. Haha that’s funnym pls stop asking me if I want to be a nun when I tell you I’m ace it’s not funny nor is it cute, and I will lecture you, not in a bad way but just to educate you, so if you’re doing it in an attempt to be funny, stop 5. God I wish it were true 6. I’ve actually never heard that one before so I don’t have anything to say about it 7. I- wot, um who I just, I swear people are just mixing up aro with ace, and even a romantics get platonically married! 8. Um yeah never heard that one either, well I mean, I have but not in reference to asexuality 9. I mean, I try my best to dress, ‘gay’ cause I am. Also I feel like the whole lgbtqia+ community has a general way of dressing, and someone said, and I’m paraphrasing here, “it’s like a part of the culture as well as a way to identify other people that are like you” and I think that’s pretty accurate, also if you ever say that the way any group dresses is ugly prepare to have hell rained upon you by everyone in that community and everyone who supports them. 10. ahem. *ITS A SPECTRUM PEOPLE!!! HOW MANY TIMES MUST I SAY IT! ITS A SPECTRUM!”* also I thought I was greysexual for a while, but I figured out that I identify much closer with asexuality
I'm Demi too, I just remember when I decided to talk about it to a "close friend", he just say that "everyone it's like that and that demisexuals don't really exist".... I never felt so unvalidated... I'm happy that now I could find real and good friends that understand me, it's nice to find someone to talk about it ❤️
one of my close friends confessed that they think they're asexual. I am just glad that they felt comfortable enough to share that with me. And yes, I'll support them no matter what decision they take.
Yes, thank you! I'm ace and I can't tell you how often I heard "you just haven't found the one yet". I then ask them if they would say the same about a gay or straight person. And yes, I've had sex, I can find people attractive and I think sexual jokes are funny. BUT every person is different, some people don't and some do.
I’m a sex positive asexual so I’m for sexual activities just as long as they’re safe and consensual. I’m not really that into sex but I will make dirty jokes and express when something is a turn on. That sort of confuses a lot of people though because they think that since I’m asexual, that must mean I must hate sex or hate having it. Sexual attraction is not the same as sexual preference.
SAMESAMESAME i do not like sex i just imagine it would be so weird doing it, you know i never see anyone and think “damn, im getting a bo-“ but some ppl say “oh you can’t be a virgin forever” *SLAMS DESK REPEATEDLY* THAT’S. NOTWHATASEXUALITYMEANS
I'm asexual aromantic and agender but I just discovered myself not long ago,I'm afraid that people might get me wrong or have a stereo type for me as "emotionless like wtf"
I don't know if I'm asexual (but I am about 60 to 70 percent sure I'm aromantic.) I'm not entirely against the idea of sex but I have had so traumatic experiences evolving it.
@@ikeashelf2309 yes but we usually aren't included due to the lack of public knowledge in the matter. Many people will say that the A in LGBTQIA stands for ally but please don't buy into that. Being a decent person is not a sexuality
@@ikeashelf2309 For the most part, we are but there is quite a lot of controversy as to whether or not we should be. So I can see why it might seem a bit confusing. Also, I love your profile name😅
"Things people get wrong about asexuality" The flag apparently- In all seriousness as an asexual I love this video and am thankfull to psych2go for making it
I am so glad that at least someone has mentioned it. You’d think there’d be more comments, but seems not. This isn’t even the first video on asexuality they’ve done and they still mixed up the black and the white stripe like they did in the other video
I’m asexual and VERY much experience romantic and aesthetic attraction. I love bring affectionate towards someone I love and I’m not abstinent, I just don’t experience sexual attraction most of the time. Hopelessly romantic and asexual 😁
I relate to this a lot! after watching a lot of videos and reading a lot of stuff I feel pretty sure that I am asexual in almost the same way that you described it!
Thank you so much for this video! I was married for 23 years and was absolutely miserable. I was so afraid to be found out that I was Asexual. Happy and single now~😊
I like these kinds of videos, it both helps people that think they might be asexual be directed to real facts and not stereotypes, and helps others learn what Asexuality is really like.
As a panromantic asexual, the “asexuals arent attracted to anybody” rlly hurts my feeling. I am currently dating two people (poly relationship dw lol) and they both accept me for my feelings
What always bothered me about asexuality is how people confuse it with being aromantic. Those are two different things and some should really start to look more up. For example: I‘m a fangirl. And I often look for asexual characters. And one time I found one who was not only asexual but also a great character all together. That is until I found out that he was meant to be aromantic, not asexual. I wasn‘t even mad, I was just really disappointed because the creator usually put so much research into creating their characters.
Could we get a video on demisexuality? I have a hard time explaining it to my family and friends that I'm demi, their reply is usually "Yeah, that's just everyone!", and I once saw someone say that it was just "Fancy-ass bisexual"
My sister said the same thing. I’m asexual but when I was questioning if I was demi my sister said “isn’t that everyone?” There is a clear difference and it can be hard for others to understand.
Ugh. Yes. It took ages for me to stumble on demisexuality as a label and for years I was just struggling to explain why my experience was different from others. I could tell it was, because the things they talked about, like experiencing crushes and finding people attractive just wasn't a thing for me but asexual didn't fit either. Demi clicked into place and I went "Wait there's a name for it?!"
Yeah I'm really confused about demisexual and I would actually like to learn more about it. Also with the phrase "fancy-ass bisexual" all I can think is just bisexual-the upgrade. So I have that now.
@@Flarflenugen I can explain that :) so, there are two main kinds of sexual attraction. Primary attraction is like 'I see that stranger over there and I have an attraction to them instantly'. That physical response of 'I like that person'. That's your average crush or when you decide to want to talk to someone and get their number. Secondary attraction is like 'Hey I've known this person for a long time and as I've gotten close to them and learned more about them we've built a connection and my feelings are changing'. Most people experience both. Asexuals generally experience neither. Grey Aces experience them very rarely. Demisexuals like me don't experience Primary attraction at all, but we can develop Secondary attraction. With strangers I'm completely Ace. If I fall in love there's a chance I'll become attracted to that one person. Does that make sense?
@@booksandcrafts-l8m kinda. I personally don't really experience the first one either, but I don't know if I'm Demi or if it's just because I'm autistic and don't really interact with a lot of people that I don't know, and I'm way too socially awkward to go ask random people for numbers. For now I just consider me straight. Thanks for explaining, have a good one. And remember, your existence is yours, and who you are attracted to has no impact on anyone but you and the person you like. Ignore the idiots as much as you can.
"That doesn't mean they can't experience other forms of attraction." me, an *aromatic* asexual: "yeah that other form of attraction is probably friendship."
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I just hate when people confuse the difference between being aromantic and asexual
With all fairness, anything outside of heterosexuality is only now coming to common culture.
Yeah, I used to think that aromantics were all asexual by default, this coming from an asexual, cause no one bothered explaining it to me whenever I brought it up. It wasn't until I actually read about it that I realized they're not necessarily related
As a hetero ace I agree
I agree with that
The difference between sexual and romantic attraction should explained more often
Asexual used to have a different label back in the day, it’s called “virgin” and we use it as an insult
An Asexual here, saying hello to my fellow asexuals. May we find people who understand us and love us.
Hello from another asexual
Hello predators
Hello hello form a fellow ace ❤️
👋 😅
Finally, another chaotic person I share something with
I see a lot of people say that “sex is what makes us human” when in reality that is the stupidest statement I’ve ever heard in my life. Most animals on Earth have sex, does that make them human? Is sex the ONLY qualification we need to be human?
Really I think that what makes us human is our ability to choose if we want to have sex or who we want to have sex with. The fact that we have a choice is what makes us human and people need to realize that just because you deviate from “the norm” doesn’t make you any less of a person.
Preach
This ^^^^
Also...we’re the only species to cook our food before eating it. Most other mammals have ***. So cake and garlic bread is actually what makes us human.
Daaaamn i finally found someone who has the same mentality as me
@@peacefulleopard8016 😂❤❤❤❤❤
Disclaimer: I don’t speak for all ace people, just how I experience it myself.
My friend kept asking me questions about me being ace because he just didn’t get it.
So when I called someone hot, he said “Hey, I thought you were ace?”
I responded, “I can look off the menu, i just won’t order.”
He finally got it.
Ngl that's a good one. I always use the "clothes" or "pizza" reference.
Bruh im gonna steal that line, then maybe my friends will understand too and stop asking uncomfortable questions
WOOOOAH WAIT, mind if i use that?
that is literally the best way I've ever heard ANYBODY explain asexuality
That’s a great way to put it!
An ace: *finds someone attractive*
Someone: I thought you don’t find anyone attractive?
An ace: I’m not sexually attracted to people, that doesn’t mean I’m blind
Right! Like I might not wanna do it with them but hey doesnt mean they cant look smoking hot and like I couldnt date them-
I mean you can like how someone looks and not want to do it with them god
Like I told my mother, who tried to 'catch me lying
Me, commenting on a well put together and nice looking pop-star.
"I *thought* you said you aren't attracted by anything?"
Me: Well I still appreciate beauty and what looks nice! Doesn't mean I feel sexual attraction towards them! I don't see you wanting to **** that nice looking car you thinks look nice. There's a big difference. "
She's.... still in the mindset that my asexuality is because I haven't found 'the right one' or it's because I'm sick with no energy. I've... always been this way and it made me very confused about myself until recently (33yrs old) When I finally understood what Asexuality was and how it suddenly opened my eyes that what I experienced, had a name. That I wasn't alone..
I would've ruined the 420 likes, but the person before me beat me to it
I had a crush before now i don't since I'm a Ace :l
Can we all agree that this topic is one of the most ignored and invalidated in our modern society.
Everything is so hyper sexualized people can’t fathom having none or less of it than average
In a couple of years no one gonna care anyway
@@golden.fire.princess9653 I know, right? I can't say for sure (not a mind reader, lol), but I'm fairly certain most people in my life just assume I'm making stuff up when I tell them. None of them acknowledge it, let alone take it seriously (if they do, they're doing a bang up job of hiding it). Once me and my friends were watching a nostalgic commercial with a busty lady and they were going on how they'd love to have her in their icebox and I went "Nah, I'd rather have the ice cream. Plus she's not my type" as a joke, but someone immediately said "Well she's a girl, so that would be super weird" or something to that effect. Yay mild homophobia. -_-
Yes. I’m still trying to find a way to tell my parents that i am asexual while not making them think i’m gay
Yesss
I hate being a sex-repulsed asexual. It's one of the reasons why I can't get into a relationship. No one would ever want to be with someone who is disgusted by intimacy. So I'm kinda forced to accept that I'll be alone forever.
Same );
Sorry if this is over-stepping for a stranger on the internet, but I really connected with your comment and felt compelled to share. I know it's easier said than done, but you should try not to hate yourself for something that's part of who you are. Yes, finding a relationship with a partner who has the same preferences for intimacy may be more challenging for you than most, but it's not impossible. After all, you exist (and all the other lovely aces in these comments, myself included!), so there's bound to be others like you! Plus, you are a whole, complete, human all by yourself, who is deserving of love, no matter what kind of relationships you may or may not have throughout your life (platonic, romantic, etc). It's good to be accepting and content in life, but if you truly desire to be in a relationship with someone like you, don't give up! That's all I wanted to say. Hope you have a wonderful day =)
Mood
no I'm right here for you! i'm asexual too! :)
I mean I can think of the aces that feel the same way u do or understand . Good luck with it I'm sure if u want to find someone u will eventually
As an asexual, people are always getting things wrong, it’s always “AsExUaLs ArE eMoTiOnLeSs” or “YoU cAnT fEeL aTtRaCtiOn?!?11?1!1” or that, like, sex without love exists so love without sex exists too!
Ikr right, my sociopathic tendencies have nothing to do with me being ace
My autism is the thing that makes me 'emotionless'. I can still feel love when bonded, I just want to keep all the clothes on and watch DocWho with my SO, thanks!!
@@Roadent1241 aw
@@swapfealplays Exactly hdhdhd
@@vanillaa01 Thanks XD
As an asexual it makes me happy that finally somebody actually understands and explains how asexuality works
Yeh same :)
I am AroAce and feel the same
well thats just wholesome
The same :)
yes same :)
Someone: Do you have a uterus?
Me as an asexual woman: Do you have a brain?
My coworker's mother thinks the covid vaccinene will turn people trans so I'm not surprised on how stupid the human race can be.
@@Flarflenugen Correlation / causation mix ups with a good old dash of wanting to believe they are the few that know, while the rest are oblivious. Makes them feel smart.
They also tend to be the kind of people who fall into the memetic theory of believing what sounds convenient and/or beneficial to them or their beliefs, then pass it on to other like-minded people.
Much like the pineapple improving the taste of semen myth, starting as a study to see how far it would spread compared to a more mundane lie. The pineapple claim spread so fast, with hundreds of outlets reporting on it and doing their best to try explain it, the origin point was buried and lost. True meme in action. People believe what they want, no proof needed.
@@Flarflenugen wha...?
Seriously though that really is a stupid question.
@@ShaimingLong honestly I've eaten pineapples with and without semen and I think I prefer without. Just doesnt taste right, ya know?
I recently had a talk with someone that swore humans are beings with inherent sexual needs and desires - I used Asexuals as an example of how this is not always the case. Just because something comes so naturally to you, doesn’t mean everyone feels the same way.
we're gods
Something to learn about
@The Emo Trans Bimbo there's only 1 god and it aint you🤔
@The Emo Trans Bimbo hey uh while you don’t believe in a religion I don’t think you should really be insulting someone over it.
@The Emo Trans Bimbo What you said is incredibly insulting and not needed, and I'm telling you this as an atheist
Me and my partner are both asexual, and are planning to get married as soon as we can. We have already started planning our wedding together, and have picked out some cute frog rings off the internet. Both of us don't like kissing, and we are planning to have 2 or 3 kids (adopted probably) when our adult lives are stable enough to take care of them ^^
I still don't know how to feel about kissing. Some kinds I like other kinds make me feel wierd but I think it's a sensory thing for me
That's great! I hope you and your partner will have an amazing marriage and a amazing family!
Awwww! I wish you two the best of luck!
@@cads4643 thank you ^^
@@sway1623 thanks a lot :)
The fact that people call ace/aro people “heartless” disgusts me like why tf do you care if that person chooses not to get laid like fr that’s none of your business 🙄😒
It sucks that people say this even if the person is a genuinely nice one.
Even if they aren't Asexual or aromantic it's nobody's business who you're sleeping with or dating unless it's hurting you or your partner(s)
@@cyriswinters5233 Exactly, no one should interfere with anyone
It’s also rly dumb lmao 😂
I don't think I'm asexual but I agree with you. It's weird. No sex = no heart? I don't get it. If anything it seems like the other way around. Sex is weird
"asexual women doesn't have uterus and they don't get periods"
dayumnn i wishh 🤧
I'm a cis male, but it seems like periods suck so yeah that would be kinda cool.
Yeah, if only that were true...
I used to have periods that were very heavy and lasted for literal months until I got medical intervention. The only reason I don't now is because I have to take pills to regulate the cycle. If I ever go off them, there's a chance it might start again (because that's what happened every other time I tried that). So yeah, if ace women didn't have periods a large chunk of my life would have been significantly simpler. 😓
@@glaceRaven Omg you are so brave and so strong, I cant IMAGINE having a period for months, let alone i can barely handle a WEEK but idk how you did it.
Yeah same
@@fluffy698 believe me, they suck so badly
"Not everything is black or white"
Thank you for saying that.
It's also grey and purple! Ayyyy.
Yeah! Grey asexuality VS Asexuality
Which are both of my flags.
EXACTLY!!! You can’t just forget about my mixed homies out there. Shout out to my boy Pedro.
“Say it louder for the people in the back.” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I found out (at 16 I might add) that people date for sexual reasons and not just because they wanted to bake pies, live in a tiny house together, cuddle with tea when it’s cold and go hiking together when it’s warm.
Pretty sure I’m ace tbh-
Hello- update over half a year later. I should state I’m 18 for this whole story and already identified as asexual. Bout a month or two after I posted this I met a girl- we got really close- she asked if I would date her. Figuring the feeling I had felt toward her was romantic attraction. A month and a half more of dating and after we kissed I just- realized I didn’t feel anything. That I didn’t veil her as any more then a friend. A few talks with my therapist and many sleepless nights later. Me and the girl had a long talk- she had been cheating on me- well I wouldn’t call it cheating since we had only been together for a month at the time she started. But she had been seeing someone else because she felt like I didn’t really love her. I told her about what I had been feeling and how I wasn’t sure about any of this. So we broke it off- it only ever really lasted about 2 months and was the only romantic relationship I’ve ever had. But we didn’t end in an argument, just a mutual agreement that it wouldn’t work out, and we wouldn’t have any bitter feelings toward the other. I went trough a lot, trying to figure out what was wrong with me and why I didn’t love her.
I talked with some AroAce friends and thought about it, did some research, and what I was feeling toward her was probably just platonic attraction. I do identify and Aroace now and have no plans of getting into another relationship (obviously) for forever. Identifying as Aroace has been one of the best things that’s ever happened to me, made my life a whole lot better. It makes me feel so much like I’m not “broken” anymore. I feel so much more content with the relationships I have. I may never romantically, or sexually love anyone, but I still have a very happy life filled with love. Platonic love for my friends, familial love with (some) of my family, love form my pets, love of my hobbies and the career I’m pursuing (I’m going to collage to become an ictheologist right now), and just love for the life I’ve built with the help of my friends and family and coworkers and classmates and therapist and everyone else who supports me so much. I lead a life filled with so much love and appreciation now and I can see that.
Being Aroace is amazing! Us Aces and Aros and Aroace are out hear living lives and proving that you don’t need sex or a romantic relationship to lead a fulfilling happy life! Stay safe fellows!
I RELATE
i didn’t discover this fact until I was like 22 and reading reddit stories where people complained about their partner feeling like a roommate… and I’m over here thinking “isn’t that the goal?”
That's why I lost my interest in dating, because I was under the impression that s*x must come of it. (And hence why my parents treated "date" like a dirty word.)
Man, I can relate. I identified as bisexual constantly saying to myself something like "I can fall in love with everybody, I just don't want to imagine and have sex with them, maybe this will change later". And one day I realized the point-
Um, yeah. Biro ace here ✌
I literally remember talking to a guy about that and he was like, “it’s a huge part of the relationship.” And I was like, “really??” Cause I truly didn’t want that haha
When I try to tell my older sister that I am asexual she always tells me that I am not and I am straight whenever I compliment one of my favourite idols they always say "See! you are not an asexual you just complimented him!" So what! does complimenting someone decide your sexuality.Thats why I hesitate to open up about my sexuality to even my family.
Exactly. I had a very similar experience with my mother. I told her that I was ace and explained it, but the next day I was going on a walk with her and this random dude was across the street. My face was red because it was over 90 degrees Fahrenheit out and I’m bad at exercising, but my mother said “You’re blushing at him! You’re not asexual!”. So yeah, she obviously didn’t understand my explanation the previous night and I’m probably not going to talk with her about it again.
@@user-ne7eq1zt7j I understand you
that's why you have me, because I'm asexual too :)
@@azure_0773 aww thankyou
I can't really relate to that experience per se because I haven't told my family (it just never came up and I would find it weird to bring it up out of the blue, I don't really care if they know or not), but the part about favorite idols... yes, absolutely. The fact that you can compliment someone for their talent and/or personality aside, there's also a thing that's called aesthetic attraction. Like, I may don't feel sexually attracted to them, but I still have eyes okay?!
So... I don't know how old you are, if you're older or younger than me, but as an older sister myself (more like middle child, but whatever) you have my support regardless
“Asexuals are just cold loners who don’t feel emotion”
Asexuals: Damn, dat cake looking kinda thicc
I CHOKED ON MY COFFEE FUCK -
🍰👀
LMAO
🍰🍰🍰😌😌👉👉
@@lianakeirasky3877 LMAOOOO but that cake looking SHEEEESH
"Asexual women do not get periods or do not have a uterus"
God, I wish ):
Edit: Just realized I'm probably also trans/nonbinary so yeah-
Edit.2: uhhh okay so I figured out I'm aroace and now I'm not sure if I'm trans or nonbinary. Like, my gender under the umbrella term, sure. but i dunno. I do know that the best way to describe my gender is with help of the theory of philosopher Berkeley about reality so that's cool i guess (I will not elaborate on that). I'm just gonna keep editing this comment in the future because I think it would be fun to read back on this and see if anything will change
Same
Sameeee
That would be nice
*VOUCH*
I want to know who the %$#@ thinks they dont personally.
As an asexual I’m not completely apposed to the idea of having sex; it’s just never appealed to me and I’ve never understood why people view it as soooo important in relationships. like so important they’d rather not be together than not have sex. Isn’t personal connection more important than physical connection? Maybe just me lol.
Nah man i agree
Dw not just you, I fully agree with you
Felt hard
As a demisexual, to me sex is the ultimate way to be close to someone or a physical expression of an emotion. I can't fathom a one-night stand. I can't imagine being physical with someone unless I was in a deep and meaningful relationship with them. Jason Momoa is hot, but if he offered himself to me on a silver platter, I wouldn't want it.
Hey I have a question- so like can asexuals make out, kiss etc?
me, asexual: “ah finally a video of real taste”
Same
When I saw the notification I was like "YIPPEE!"
omg I thought I commented without remembering bc of our profile pictures
Same❤️
hehe yes
Asexual Elder here- raised 5 sons! Simply have never been sexually attracted to men or women! Loved my husband and enjoyed the affection and just thought that sex was overrated!
so is it like, you accept sex but you dont go out of your way to get it just like what happens happens? im sorry if i made a misconception just trynna understand
@@jasmink3841 Have Romantic attraction but no sexual attraction! Thought it was just me!
i’m wondering, how do you know you don’t experience sexual attraction?
@@exxwhy1645 "Sexual attraction is attraction on the basis of sexual desire or the quality of arousing such interest. Sexual attractiveness or sex appeal is an individual's ability to attract the sexual or erotic interests of other people, and is a factor in sexual selection or mate choice."
u just realise u dont have it and then ur like "oh yeah im maybe ace"
still not sure if i am, I think im demisexual (meaning i only experience sexual attraction after getting to know someone)
I also heard that aperantly allosexual people, when they say someone is "hot" it actually originated from actually feeling hot, like tempreture, because of sexual attraction. I was absolutely blown away by that, i just saw that someone had a cool sense of style or they're body is attractive but not in that way, just looks cool
take my words with a grain of salt though, because I'm not sure myself, and tbh idc, it doesnt affect me much
69th like :3 right on.
FINALLY somebody talks about this
Hello my fellow asexual
Agree 👍
@@DannyDorito1037 Hello r u asexual too ?
@@amei_46 yes
Yeah
I'm asexual so i clicked this video as fast i can xD
To all u asexual people, you are so valid and never let others tell u otherwise.🖤
-your local pansexual trans man🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
✨💕
Thanks, have this Croissant in Return:
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Thanks dude
Thanks ❤
I also think it's important to note that being asexual and being aromantic are not the same thing. I am simultaneously asexual and the most hopelessly romantic person I know.
Lol yes. I'm pretty sure I'm Asexual and I know I want a partner. I have cute dates and stuff in mind but I don't find people "hot" or "sexy" while my classmates and friends do.
I identify as aroallo and it's really annoying when people confuse the two and just lump them together, just because they both start with "a" does not mean that they're the same
@@cyriswinters5233 soo true..I'm also an asexual and sex repulsed.Literally even at this age I don't know what's the definition of sexyness.I wonder what is that.I'm actually a fan of some celebrities and they have a huge fanbase.So whenever they show their abs or them sweating after their practise or performance is filmed,the fans literally go crazy about that.I've seen lots of fans thirsting over them like this and I find this very confusing..They say they behave like this coz the celebrities are sexy and they feel flustered when they show their abs and act sexy??and I absolutely can't relate to that.That's why for a long time I thought that only having abs and sweating will make a person sexy!?but still even after that I don't find myself thirsting over them.Now I know that I will never know what it is lmao
@@hafsahossain1394 exactly! I don't understand what the big deal is about shirtless people! I don't know what they mean by "sexy" to me it's just there! It's so confusing lmao
Wait there’s a difference between asexual and aromantic? Lmao spellcheck doesn’t like the word “aromantic”
Tempted to send this to my parents so that they can finally understand why setting me up with "the right guy" isn't going to solve what they consider a problem.
Yeass
I wish you luck if you do
And if they still dont bother with it then forget them I'm your new parent
My mom thinks it isn't even real, thats why I told them I'm a celibate 😔👊🖤🤍💚🖤🤍💜
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm ...
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm wtf
Omg I LOVE how they talked about asexuals "not wanting to get married." While I am not a part of the community myself, asexual people still can feel romantic feelings! They're not robots! We love them! Remind an asexual near you to go hydrate
thanks for the reminder, i legit haven’t drank water in like 10 hours
@@brawlmaster67 that's not good go drink water now!
will do, i love water
thankyou when i came out as asexual the first thing my friends said were "but you've had a crush before" and "i kinda that i mean i didn't think you liked relationships anyway" and i was kinda suprised considering they are both bisexual like it's not like i'm aromantic im STILL happy to be in a relationship. the only thing im worried about is that im straight and i feel like alot of men wouldn't want to date me because they would want to have sex when they were older or they might peer pressure me into doing it
@@ache5935 just be careful with who you go out with, and if it seems like your relationship might get serious just let them know that you aren't interested in sex & (if this applies for you specifically) that it's completely off the table for you, nonnegotiable. Their reaction will tell you a lot about their personality and if they're someone you want to be with anyway. If they don't respect you enough to acknowledge and accept that you don't want to, they don't deserve you!
I came out to my Mom’s girlfriend a few years ago. I wasn’t worried because she’s gay. This LESBIAN woman looked at me and said “aren’t you a little young to be making that decision”. She literally said “it’s just a faze” in a different format. My stomach dropped. I just couldn’t believe it. I’ve gotten that reaction from other people to. My brother literally told me he thought he was asexual at my age and that I would ‘grow out of it’. Everyone is always so confused when I tell them. It’s the worst.
I'm so sorry about that. Unfortunately, some of the most hostile reactions to being ace have come from other LGBTQ+ people in my experiences, and sadly, I've heard others say that as well. It's disappointing.
Mom Has a Girlfriend
Good for Them 👩❤️👩❤️🙂
My lesbian foster parent thought it was just a symptom of autism.
Not asexual, just came here to educate myself for future relationships with someone who may be - or just so I understand the community. ❤️
Edit: btw u guys are so amazing, I hope u all find love and happiness and don't ever let anyone make u feel like being asexual is wrong or fake. this community is so wholesome ❤️❤️❤️
Same
Thank you
We need more ppl like you. The fact you came here to learn more about asexuality makes me happy. As an asexual myself, thank you :)
@@kcthefrogusedyt8319 🖤🤍💜
Same here ❤
Her voice is calming
So true!! - Cindy
No not 'her' , she is Amanda go and follow her YT channel & Insta.🙄
Agreed
@@MrOcean-wl1vy
bruh. they said her which refers to amanda. don’t be rude
It's beutiful
10 Things People Get Wrong About Asexual People:
1. People assume that they haven't found the "right one" yet. 0:54
2. People who are asexual are not attracted to anybody. 1:27
3. People who are asexual hate sex and do not have sex. 1:53
4. Asexual people are celibate or abstinent. 2:20
5. Asexual women do not get periods or do not have a uterus. 3:08
6. Asexuality is a medical concern. 3:39
7. People who are asexual will never get married. 4:07
8. There is a reason why people are asexual. 4:34
9. Asexual people tend to dress a "certain" way. 4:57
10. All asexuals experience no sexual attraction at all. 5:26
I hope many people watch this video.
Thx :)
Thank you!
Thnx:))
Ty
How did you do that so quic- nevermind you’re a time traveler
I understand that being homosexual is probably the most risky in terms of backlash, but asexual people are pressured in similar ways. Sure, we can marry and adoption is way easier, but when a man or a woman don't want kids, the world erupts in chaos. Somehow a person not wanting kids is selfish, like it's somehow a gift to bring them into this world
I know, I said when I was 17 to a grown ass (midle-aged) person that I don't want kids, and she was like:🥴tHAt sO sELfISh 🥴 It's not f**king selfish it's just that I am an emotional mess and don't want to traumatize a child for a life. So, at least till I learn some self-control (ofc working on it), I don't want to make more damage to this world.
I never understood why you have to have kids. I'm not spending 500,000 dollars every 5 years or so just to feed and please some child I didn't even want in the first place.
People literally want me to have sex to fix me. But what they don't understand is I have a sex drive I just lack sexual Atraction and def won't do anything with someone who won't respect my boundaries
I know, whenever i say that i don't want kids or a partner ppl are so fast to say that it'll change overtime and that I'm too young to make those choices, i know myself and since i was a kid i felt this way pretty sure it won't change so fast.
Well, it might change. I never wanted kids but as I've hit 30 I'm starting to entertain the Idea. Not saying it will definitely happen but just making the point that not every opinion or desire you have remains the same throughout your life
As an asexual, an asexual relationship is so wholesome-
I’m famous (thanks for all the likes I never got so many :] )
YESS
YEA EXACTLY
Until you fall for an ace person and turns out they were questioning aro as well 😅
I really hope is not bad manners asking this or anything and I’m not offending anyone, I’m simple a really curious person. Like I always heard that sex and physical intimacy is a really important part of marriage, so like do asexual when like married or in a relationship love their, significant other but don’t really feel that much sexually attracted to them???
P.S: I really hope I didn’t offend anyone I’m just a extremely curious person.
@@pedroviniciussilvaleal8113 you'll probably get better answers than mine, as I am only questioning. The friend who explained it to me said it really depends on the person. There are three "types" of asexuality. Sex-repulsed: "ew gross" Sex-Neutral: "Well if it makes my partner happy..." And Sex-favorable: "I have a sex drive but not towards a specific person." But to answer your question, yes sex is important to a relationship, but not in the way that "you should have sex because you are married." It is more important that the sexual desires of each person are on a similar level, be that level at 0 or 100. The main thing is understanding that romantic attraction, or love, is different from sexual attraction, lust. It's a fickle thing, because they are often portrayed as either one and the same, or completely separate, but the truth is somewhere in the middle, where a misconnection in one can harm the other. So yes, they do feel the romantic attraction, but they wouldn't feel the sexual attraction.
I'm not ace but THANKYOU. They are often shunned in the community or ignored. Thank you for bringing our ace friends into the light and inform people!
Thank you too, for not ignoring us
@@Huathemulgogi our Ace People are just as important to the LGBT family!
Aww thank you for acknowledging this! I'm so encouraged to see more acknowledgement and acceptance from within our LGBTQIA+ community :)
And thank you for saying this :)
I would say we’re ignored because all we do is chill. Then again I’m new to the community so what do I know?
As an asexual, I love that someone's giving us a chance to address the missinformation 😌
I honestly didnt know these existed. Lets hope the next generation will have better questions
@@randomuser5443I agree
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm No, I just don't feel sexual attraction to other people. I have my own opinions, feelings and my own way of diving into relationships. Your comment is very ignorant.
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm well,people can be people,and if there were to believe in something,well,let them have it. its their life to live and so do yours. you can be and believe in what you think is right,and so can others. So be respectful to others and soon you'll view the goodness of it.
Hope your health is good and best the luck to you :D
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm you are correct,I agree on this,but I believe that if their want to live in their beliefs or reality,it's all ok and fine if it doesn't influence other people in a negative way. As long as they enjoy living the kind of way they want,and it doesn't influence others in a negative way,it's ok for them to have it.and so you too,you can live your way of life you want,as long as it doesn't influence others negatively :D
I was deemed as “edgy, cold, loner with no emotions” because I have no interested in being in a relationship like my peers in high school. It’s hard for me to open up about this because it’s rarely mentioned when it comes to LGBT+ matters.
We need an asexual tinder so that we can find each other lmao🤣
There's r/dateademi on Reddit. Its meant for everyone but focused on ace-spec people
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Get a hobby where social interaction happens, safest way to get to know people
There are dating apps for this I believe if you feel that's your only options but you gotta be careful. Meeting People in person is safer usually though so that suggestion is better. Both ways you gotta be careful though.
@@annalesewinget6792 ???
man everyone thinks sex is needed to have a good relationship. i’m growing to hate this earth purely because i can’t have a romantic relationship. hi, sex-repulsed enby asexual here ! it’s hard enough to find a partner as is, without even touching on the asexuality. as the world we live in slowly becomes more accepting, i hope by the time i find a partner, they’ll understand !
anyway, enough of my ramblings. this is very well done and i hope more people get educated on the matter !!
I feel you, as a sex repulsed gay ace I get into these moods where I lose hope that I can ever have a long-term partner, someone who I could happily spend the rest of my life with, because so many people act like your relationship will be meaningless without sex. Which makes me really sad because I really, really want to have somebody like that someday. In my case, I really love romance, and it really hurts me when people tell me that I'll never have it. I know that isn't true though! I know that you and me and anyone else who wants a partner will be able to find one eventually! And regardless, I believe that everyone reading this will have a fun life full of amazing people, friends or otherwise.
@@dali-dog Geez, here I am being pro romantic in love with an asexual girl (I don't give a SHIT about sex, for me it's the emotional support) and yet she walks right past me, never been so heart broken, 💔
I`m hetero and I think the same! I prefer everything than sex
It’s needed for me.
Same! Some people don’t even understanding, I even tell my friends I probably won’t get married any soon and they just don’t believe! I haven’t told them About me yet.. :( I hope they support me after I tell them!
The hardest part for me was that I actually started hating relationships and the idea of sex as I was growing up. You know when literally everyone keeps talking about attraction here, sex there, of how they would to kiss and touch someone? Or even worse, when someone started getting physical and weird with you just because they felt attracted to you. I always tried to understand anything that I couldn't, but this...I really can't. Other people can't really understand why asexuals stays single for a long time, but actually It's pretty logic, there's no point in pursuing someone who we know won't accept being in a relationship without sex, and some of us won't make it just because our partner wants to, since it doesn't make sense to us.
Sure, and It’s also not other people’s fault either if they do feel sexual or want to kiss and get physical when they feel attraction. No need to hate relationships any more either, since Fortunately, there’s an Asexual community more easier to access than ever before, so it’s possible to contact & meet others that have the same preferences and persuasion as you.
Im an asexual myself, and also am not interested in getting into any kind of relationships. I just like to be alone, single and happy. But i do watch alot of romantic bl mangas tho.
As a grayromantic ace who’s been told that my sexuality doesn’t exist and have experienced all of these- thank you for sharing this video. It made me feel better
Im pretty certain im asexual, i dont really come out or identify as asexual, i would just tell people i dont like the idea of having sex, it makes me uncomfortable i would rather cuddle or hug! But people definitely say "you'll start liking it when you get older" 😭✋
I can fully relate
That's terrible. Some things you feel may not ever change. Why can't people understand that it isn't some sort of "phase"?
@@Bunny-xr7cx thats so true!! People just assume we're gay/ closeted becsuse we dont like these things 😭✋
Same. My mom says that it's "what all men want".
I'm definitely in the same boat. I relate to how people describe asexuality and what you just said, but I don't really like labelling myself so I just tell people that thinking about sex and the topic as a whole makes me uncomfortable (hugs and cuddling seem alright though!). Most people unfortunately don't understand, but at least my mom understands why I questioned myself about it in the first place
The frustration when our parents tell my sister and I that my bisexuality is a curiosity phase I'll grow out of and my sister's asexuality is because she "just hasn't met the right person yet". Like, sometimes they make me want to scream into the void.
I'm sorry that you both have to pass through this, but this is just a reminder that you both are real and valid as who you are
My neighbor came out as bisexual and her mother had a response of "well you could still marry a man so I guess it's okay"
Another bi friend of mine has a mother with the same mindset as yours. I just don't understand why people can't let other people be who they are
@@Flarflenugen it really sucks, but I hope they know they're not alone :]
@@Flarflenugen Some people just seem to form a rigid view of how the world is and if anything comes along that doesn't fit in, it's either given a temporary excuse or is denied being real.
Like in the case of my friend's wife, she seems totally fine with all forms of sexuality except asexual, as having a sex drive is just what humans have, apparently. But she's the same with other things too, like mixing certain foods is just something *not* done.
She was seriously repulsed at the idea of a bagel with chicken and cheese, chicken or cheese, sure, but both on a bagel was like taking jackhammer to the foundation of physics to her.
My friend believes it's just how her family raised her to be as they're very much the same with odd, specific steadfast beliefs of things.
I assume that is how it is for a lot of people, that somehow their brain gets hardwired into their own perceptions and they can't let go or adapt to the larger world around them.
Rambling now, but another friend, she's from a very pushy and opinionated family. She's been taught women *have* to wear makeup, even when home alone and was pressured into cosmetic surgery because her petite frame was too "boy-like" and kept making her believe she would never get married because she wasn't "womanly" enough.
Worst part is, she fully agrees with them and got mad at me for trying to convince her that she was fine before and is fine now and doesn't need any surgery to be worth something, especially to herself but she just got mad at me. I would have been fine with it if she just didn't want to talk about it, but the unnecessary and unexpected anger stings.
Unfortunately her self image and self worth issues have caused major commitment issues, so she's constantly having one night stands but shuns and ghosts anyone who actually cares and wants to build a relationship.
What amazes me most is how much time and effort people put in to trying to "correct" others. It's just so much easier to not give a damn, if someone isn't hurting anyone then let them live their life. If, you feel like they need help, offer it, don't push it as misunderstandings are everywhere! It seems a bit cold and apathetic, but it's how I try to live my life.
My parents are quite the opposite 😂 my brother is 19 and still didn’t get a girlfriend and my parents sat him down and told him stuff like “we’ll support you no matter what” and all that, they thought he was gay but he just hasn’t found the right one
When asexuality first started to really come into the public's eye, I remember a lot of people saying things like, "what, you think you're a plant or something?" I'm glad that died out.
exactly we all have the ability to reproduce, we're just not obsessed with sex period
Didnt die out with my parents 🥺 like miss maam pls stop calling your child slurs thanks
@@Mari-eo3yi I'm really sorry to hear that. I feel for ya, I'm bi and my parents constantly used to belittle bisexual people, insisting that it doesn't exist and we're all delusional, attention seekers. I really hope that your parents can one day understand. Either way, keep your chin up you're not alone and you're as valid as anyone. :)
@@azure_0773 Well.... maybe not everyone has the actual "ability to reproduce"? :)
Could definitely say that everyone has the ability to engage in sex in one way or another though.
But yeah. A lot of people are too obsessed with sex.
Did not die out…that’s the one that sets me off lol
My partner is asexual and this video helped me understand asexuality more than I already did, so thank you!
Please be kind to them
Sometimes I can't believe there's people out there asking questions like "do you have a uterus?"
Honestly I'm not surprised. The human race is stupid as a whole.
Remember that one senator that thought that a woman's body could tell the difference between consensual and non-consensual sex and be able to shut it down? Perfect example of what I mean.
“Oh are you ace?”
“Um..yeah?”
“So you don’t have a uterus?”
“What????”
@@Flarflenugen senator??? This is Why i dont trust the current goverment
@@liseegeskov8769 I think it was someone in the last U.S. government, but yeah, they might have gotten re-elected. (I can't remember the guy's name either, but I had a bunch of friends in the U.S. making fun of him)
Since I have red hair, I've been asked if "the curtains match the drapes".
People are just so inconsiderate to the emotions of others. They need to grow up.
When I told people I was asexual they would be like “Weren’t you dating a boy?” Yeah, and what of it? 🤨 and then acted like I was crazy or didn’t know what I was talking about
Same. I respond with: "Yeah, I was trying to make myself straight and force myself to accept sexual advances I was disgusted by, but due to heteronormative beliefs and comments such as the one you just made, I didn't know any better."
Yeah that makes you straight. Not asexual
@@erenjaeger1738 ace heteros exist my guy
@@memorymimic just pretty being a loner ngl. Just can't handle a relationship.
@@erenjaeger1738 "just can't handle a relationship" dude you realize asexual people STILL can have relationships right
Even being asexual I have a nice girlfriend, and we are in a stable relationship, a lot of people think the sexual and romantic atraccion are the same thing, but they aren't, is not so hard to understand.
Congratulations on the relationship. Hope it goes well for the long run
@@randomuser5443 Tysm
As an Asexual, we DO find people attractive, we just don’t have sexual thoughts about someone
My boyfriend is Asexual, he makes me feel warm and loved every day and I can only hope I make him feel the same. I can only assume the people who think asexual people can't date or get married are very shallow and only see relationships as a way to get sex
😭UR SO LUCKY
exactly
That last statement is also not true and actually sounds a bit like now you’re shaming people who have higher sexual drives. We are all human beings with different needs and desires. I think we all need to remember that and have acceptance for each other and treat each other with the respect and kindness that we all deserve
My bf don't knows about it yet ...and tbh I also discovered it today
I'm scared of never being able to find someone that accepts me as asexual :')
Same here. I may be ace but I’m also a hopeless romantic, but I worry that I’ll never find another person like me.
Same Here-🖤💜
I do!
there are soo many people in the world, i know you'll find ppl who accept you as you are !! C:
my gf and I are both ace and we met at school.
I was terrified when i confessed my feelings for her, i was both scared of rejection and scared that she would want sex with me eventually, but then SURPRISE, she told me "well, i kinda like you too, but you need to know i am asexual..." - sometimes destiny just works out, people !
I also happen to be polyamourous, and I have another girlfriend, who isn't ace at all, and has no problem with it - we've been together for three years now, and it's going great ! Nice people do exist, and I am sure you will find some too !
I’m 19 and recently came out (not so publicly) that I’m asexual (still in questioning about if I’m aromantic too) and it took so long because I was just trying to imitate what other people did, without feeling at ease with it or understanding why people were obsessed with sex. But then, I just realized that I’m just not interested in having sex (and probably romantic relationships) and that it’s not in me
Good you find out. Whatever makes you feel comfortable with yourself
Hey same! For the longest time I had no idea what asexuality was, and I kinda figured something was wrong with me. I currently identify as a demi-homoromantic asexual, though I’m still sort of figuring out my romantic orientation
I found out im ace and aro about like 5 days ago I was thinking about being aro for a long time now and Im happy that you found it out
Well I'm 14 (about to turn 15 in two more days going to adult hood) and I'm asexual and I have so many uncomfortable moments every single day. Even with toxic people. I don't even have social media anymore cause I've been bullied for almost everything. Even my sexuality when I used to be homophobic. Bit now I support the LGBTQA+ community and people are now making fun of me for being asexual. Um I mean they always did that to me.
I've been crushing on an asexual person for 2 years, and this has helped a lot with my thoughts about approaching them for a relationship, friendship, or anything. This makes me feel a lot better ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Just remember that asexuals still have emotions and (unless they’re aromantic) also have romantic feelings. They’re still suckers for romantic gestures and can get nervous just like anybody else. Just be yourself !! Good luck !!!
As someone who is trying to discover their sexuality, videos like these are worth gold
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm okay
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm let's calm down,believes can be anything by anyone. and so can people believe in what they want to believe in. be kind,and hope positive will come to your life :D
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm based. Godspeed bro
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm yes you can :D
Nobody is gonna stop you from believing what is right for you.Unless it influence others in a bad way or harm others,you can believe whatever you want.
Believe in the existence of god,yea that can too,just don't allow ritual of sacrifice/mutilation as it's influencing someone negatively and even harm someone.
And yes,you can even believe in harming yourself is good and all,But why?,why harming yourself in a bad way that will influence your future where you can be healthy and find interest in life...but I can't force you to believe in what is right as everyone has its own right to believe in what's right.therefore,if someone were to believe in mutilation of themselves is good,then,go on...their beliefs are Their belief.but I'll strongly advice them to not harm themselves.and,is an advice I give,not pressure or forcing them to change,whether they want to change or hold on to their conviction,it's up to them.
So,that's my belief of what is "right" for me,but,that's just my belief or what's "right".I might be wrong,we might be wrong,as there's nobody is perfect.
But,you can be your perfect self,not in a "perfect" way of saying it but,you can set the level of righteousness for yourself and call it perfect for you,I too can do that too,and so the others too.
Stay safe :)
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm GOBLINS LFMAO,you sound like a lame dude
Also, don’t assume that someone who is ace is just “afraid to come out as gay.”
*You don’t get to pick how other people label themselves.* Someone may be ace and homoromantic but someone can also be ace and heteroromantic, panromantic, biromantic, etc, so that statement can just be straight up rude.
Edit: oh yeah and don’t forget all the other romantic labels (aromantic, demiromantic, etc) so yeah just don’t say stuff like that. Please.
Metrosexual was once a label, but turns out it was just a fad... just like this cringe video nothing but fad labels and in the next 10 years or so, no one is gonna care what people identify, they are all the same, Human.... with different fetish
I wouldn't call asexuality a fad label as it has existed for centuries just never properly defined. Sure we might abandon labels one day but sexualities aren't "fetishes". How would asexual even be a fetish? O.o
Just pointing out that the aromantic labels don't belong under the ace umbrella, but rather in the aromantic spectrum. Asexuality and aromanticism can exist together, but they can also exist separately as not all aromantics are asexual. So it's important not to put aromanticism under asexuality so you don't invalidate non-asexual aromantics.
@@Alicia-zf3nq Ah, okay, good to know. I’m in both (demisexual and demiromantic) so it happened to be the case with me. I forgot!
I’m a non binary pan Demi romantic asexual
Haven't seen the video yet, but just wanna say, I love that psych2go is covering asexuality and helping share info about aces. It's quite needed if I'm being honest. Thank you~
Thanks so much Fang! We're trying our best to cover and shine some light on different topics :) - Cindy
@@Psych2go hi Cindy!
@@Psych2go
Thank you Cindy
EYYY the profile pic 😏 DSMP makes it everywhere o7
@@georgiasomething2064 what is DSMP?
“Asexual people will never get married”
*ahem*
Sweetie ever heard to PLATONIC relationships and PLATONIC marriage?
Or even romantic ones, minus the s3x.
At least, that’s what I want lol
Also romantic feeling still exist
No romantic attraction would be aromantic ;_;
Why does everyone get it all mixed up
or even romantic ones without sex
You're mixing up asexual and aromantic
Aces can have romantic relationships-
you can have romantic relationships without sex, romantically I'm attracted to all genders, cause romantically your genitals do not matter, but I am heterosexual, i could date a woman, or any person with an engaging and attractive personality, but i only want sex with men
As a man, I never ''Fell in Love'' with someone romanticly, and I always thought something is wrong with me.
Thanks to you I finally found out I am asexual and that there is nothing wrong with me.
if you don't fall in love romantically, you're aromantic, not asexual. that's the point.
that would make you aromantic, and there's nothing wrong with that either! but if you are asexual, aroace people exist and are totally valid 🧡
I’m aroace myself! I only really have fallen in love platonically. It’s honestly a hard orientation to understand, but it’s what resonates the most with my experiences.
@@chrisx9722 exactly 😭 they keep confusing aromantic and asexual 😭
To all the asexuals reading this, just know that you are valid and people calling you names will never change anything and the support is always there for you! Have a nice day/night :)
My friend came out as asexual and I'm trying to wrap my head around it so I can support her as much as I can!! Thank youu
Thank you so much for trying to support your friend.
As you should. You're too nice.
I met my husband when I was in high school, and he was the one who made me realize that I was Asexual. My fear of coming out to him about it was what made us break up the first time, despite the fact that I was romantically attracted to him. Four years later, we were brought back together and I basically told him that I was Asexual right off the bat, before my heart could be broken again. And he straight up told me that he didn't care. He shared those romantic feelings with me.
10 years after that, we are celebrating our seventh wedding anniversary.
That’s nice
👏👏👏👏
I feel like I just watched a movie and I love your story. It's so amazing. I hope things continue to work out for you two
Here's another video on Asexual. Some of you enjoyed our first video on What Does It Mean to Be Asexual? th-cam.com/video/i6A7UAH5fcY/w-d-xo.html What other misconception(s) you know that aren't mentioned in this video? P.S Disclaimer is listed in the description box. [EDITED] Thanks for the feedback on the asexual flag color order is in the incorrect order. We've given feedback to the animator. Unfortunately, we can't change it within the video once it's published. Going forward, there shouldn't be an issue with this in the future. However, everything else with the information is accurate. Color order should be black, grey, white and purple. Thanks for understanding!
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@@kiwii1027 💕
Hi!!
@@sparklingdeath1730
As a bisexual person, I love asexuals. Y'all should be free to eat all the cake you want 🍰
As biromantic ace, I love your pfp
the problem is that we are limited to the people we can date because obviously couples are gonna wont to have kids and sex and because we don't want that it can cause chaos
Gimme the cake
Thanks for the cake, friendly bi!
I agree, I'm bi aswell.
Even though I am not asexual, I just wanna let you know guys that you are valid, no matter what people might say and I love all of you ❤️. Don’t change for anybody, you are just you, not everyone else❤️
Thank you❤❤❤
As an asexual I haven't met anyone outside my family who would respect my sexuality. They all tried to talk me out of it or treated me like it's a disease or disorder that needs to be cured. I learned to talk back but it's still frustrating that people act like like asexuality isn't LGBTQ+ because "the A stands for ally, duuuh" or worse: "asexuality doesn't exist, it's just some Tumblr trend like non binary genders"
As an asexual, I am actually a very emotional and outgoing person. I also crush on people very easily. I'm also not exactly sex repulsed, I'm more sex indifferent. I would if my partner wanted to. some asexuals are sex repulsed, others aren't, and that's ok. all aces are valid.
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couldnt imagine telling someone im asexual and them saying "do you have a uterus?". its such a bizarre question
You'd have to hope it's just a very random unrelated question, otherwise it simply makes no sense!
I would answer, "Do you have a brain?"
It’s because scientifically asexual means reproduce without the need of a partner. Like a cell for instance they split in two without having sex with anything other than themselves
I tried telling my friend I was ace and she kept trying to tell me over and over again “don’t worry, you’ll find someone eventually” and I was trying so hard not to cry idk why it bothered me sm but I just hate when people tell me that when I ask them not to MDBKAJDJD
FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT. I am not asexual myself but I get a lil mad when people keeps mixing up aromantic and asexual, I also don't like that "asexuals don't feel romantic attraction at all" memes it's just wrong
My sister is asexual, so I always love to make her feel more accepted :)
Aw, that's so nice, keep up the good work 😊
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm who said being asexual had anything to do with their gender identity lmao
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm I mean, good theory, a lot of my friends who are came out as asexual are trans. My sister though, she's not trans. She has told me that she was asexual, and that she has not experienced sexual attraction toward any gender. She's old enough to decide what she wants, and doesn't want in life. And sexual activities is definitely something she doesn't want. Some people use the, " how do they know if they have never tried it?", Well how do you know you wouldn't like hugging a cactus if you have never tried it? There's just some things that are unappealing to others.
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm yes, I am in highschool, but I am not asexual lol. My sister, is asexual, and she is out of highschool. I'm merely stating what is appealing to HER. And what HER identify is. Not mine.
@@Bruhmoment-tk4hm I never thought you were being insulting, as a person, your opinion is valid
seeing so many other asexuals in the comments is so encouraging
yah
Ikr
SAME
Psychiatrist: Are u sexualy active
Me: Hell yes
P: I mean with some other person
Me: Oh then no
Same lol, down with myself but when it with someone else 😟
LMAOO he asked me same but he didnt believe me 🧍♂️ weirdo
That's me....💜🖤♠️
Shouldn't that be called mono-sexual?
@@LeSyd1984 nono,I think it’s auto. Monosexual sounds like the attraction to colors-
I used to get sexually harassed by a guy in my class a few years ago, and it's so absurd how many times people have asked me, "You sure your asexuality ain't the result of that?"
. . .
Yeah, some ace people may have experienced sa in the past, and some didn’t. Asexuality is not tied to SA trauma. And even if someone was to lose desire for sex and sexual attraction, it’s okay for they want to label themselves as asexual, they are still welcomed in the community.
I don't know about other asexuals but I DO tend to dress a certain way because I hate being sexualized at all, I'll wear baggy clothing all the time and do everything I can to hide my body
I didn't even realise I have been doing the same without even thinking about it. I'm comfortable in my body, but I don't want to be seen as an object. People tend leave me alone more, when I look androgynous.
I do that too, but I do it because of trauma and dysphoria.
An asexual here. I tend to dress more androgynously and more modestly so ppl don’t sexualize me too. I honestly cannot comprehend how ppl barely wear anything outside and aren’t concerned with the fact that other ppl sexualize them like that
I'm the same, but I haven't ever thought of the reasoning behind it in that way before.
I can't wear anything but baggy trousers because skirts/dresses/shorts make me feel too exposed. I also go out of my way to make sure I'm wearing long sleeves for the same reason, and multiple layers if possible. I also exclusively wear shirts which I guess could be because they feel more business like and so less like I'm sexualising myself, but idk if that's true lol.
This is perfect! I wanna write a book with a asexual character so this will probably help me make the characters better
hey! would you like me to give you some advice? im an asexual myself, so i might be able to help. if yes, then first off, are they just on the spectrum or straight up asexual?
@@metra8604 oh yes please that would be so helpful for me! They are straight up asexual
Good luck with writing the book :)
@@Artistic_StayofSkz thank you 💕
that's cool! good luck on writing it :D
HAPPY ASEXUAL DAY MY FELLOW ACES ‼️ LOVE ALL OF YOU
im a day or two late but thats fine ahaha
Wait this exis- When day was this?!
@@acompleterandom7360 April 6th
I thought asexuals can’t love so why do you contradict?
Love you BACK 🖤✨
Oh, and it's literally made me feel preyed on and stalked to be bothered, regardless with no respect for boundaries. I'm so glad someone else sees this as just an identity not a disability.
you guys are so important, not only do you spread awareness of various forms of neurodivergence, but you also destigmatize things like asexuality (as a neurodivergent asexual thank you so much for everything you do) and honestly I wish you all the best
I'm asexual too!! :) I love you my asexual family!!
Another neurodivergent (adhd type 1) ace-spec (demisexual) here and agreed!
I'm a neurodiverse ace too!
I'm also in the ND ace club! (I'm autistic and aroace). Well spoken
I’m asexual, and I’m happy to see someone explain the facts and how it really is. It’s sometimes difficult to explain it all to a non-asexual person, who just think that «you haven’t found the right one»
hi, I'm asexual, too. Nice to meet you ;)
Hi I just want to say I'm proud to a asexual! Even though I'm still confused if I'm a gray ace or just ace I'm still happy to be in ace community! And no one can't change me! 🖤⚪💜
(I’m literally so confused on the exact same thing lol) but yeah I’m happy to be here too, and I’m sure a lot of other ppl are 🖤💜
1. I’ve heard the, “you just haven’t found the right guy yet” thing and like yeah and I never will cause that’s not how it works! And like bish please I *live* in my head 24/7 so I think I know better than you
2. Y tho, like genuinely, I said I’m not sexually attracted to anyone, not that I’m not romantically attracted to anyone!? Like dude!
3. I’ve met a few people who are sex repulsed and honestly I get it lol, though I am not and like the idea that asexuals would never have sex or would like, actively hate it is so weird to me, like someone asked me, “would you have sex with your partner if they wanted to even though you’re asexual?” And like yeah, if I’m in a serious enough relationship that sex is in the cards then yeah, I want my partner to feel good! And it’s not like anything bad is gonna happen, knock on wood anyways lol
4. Haha that’s funnym pls stop asking me if I want to be a nun when I tell you I’m ace it’s not funny nor is it cute, and I will lecture you, not in a bad way but just to educate you, so if you’re doing it in an attempt to be funny, stop
5. God I wish it were true
6. I’ve actually never heard that one before so I don’t have anything to say about it
7. I- wot, um who I just, I swear people are just mixing up aro with ace, and even a romantics get platonically married!
8. Um yeah never heard that one either, well I mean, I have but not in reference to asexuality
9. I mean, I try my best to dress, ‘gay’ cause I am. Also I feel like the whole lgbtqia+ community has a general way of dressing, and someone said, and I’m paraphrasing here, “it’s like a part of the culture as well as a way to identify other people that are like you” and I think that’s pretty accurate, also if you ever say that the way any group dresses is ugly prepare to have hell rained upon you by everyone in that community and everyone who supports them.
10. ahem. *ITS A SPECTRUM PEOPLE!!! HOW MANY TIMES MUST I SAY IT! ITS A SPECTRUM!”* also I thought I was greysexual for a while, but I figured out that I identify much closer with asexuality
Thank you for this list I honestly found it really helpful, being some one you figure out she was Ace.
When people only use spectrum for a wide based community when its pretty much universal in this day and age
Me as a demisexual understand this, and I'm grateful you made this video, because we're all different and it's nice to learn about eachother. ❤️
i’m demi too
@@em-vo4ml nice 💜
Gray asexual ☺️
Full ace: Let us unite!
I'm Demi too, I just remember when I decided to talk about it to a "close friend", he just say that "everyone it's like that and that demisexuals don't really exist".... I never felt so unvalidated... I'm happy that now I could find real and good friends that understand me, it's nice to find someone to talk about it ❤️
The fact that this is my current sexuality and was in my recommendations when I've never searched things related to my sexuality.
Sora? Is this you?
This is Zöny!!
Uh- I’m sorry. You must be mistaken. May I ask why you asked me this?
if you identify as ace/aro, remember that you're real and valid
yes! I'm aro ace100% and I love you my aro ace family!
they are not valid 😂
Thanks for this!! My partner came out to me as asexual and I have been doing my best to learn lots about this to make sure they are comfortable :D
one of my close friends confessed that they think they're asexual. I am just glad that they felt comfortable enough to share that with me. And yes, I'll support them no matter what decision they take.
They really said "Let's make a video about 10 things people get wrong about asexuality and then get wrong the asexual flag during the whole video"
And here I was wondering what was bugging me the whole time but I just couldn't put my finger on it ^^'
Ikr that honestly bugged the shet out of me
THIS. I WAS SO CONFUSED THE WHOLE VIDEO
1:00
SO THAT WAS WHAT’S WRONG I KNEW THERE WAS SOMETHING
Yes, thank you! I'm ace and I can't tell you how often I heard "you just haven't found the one yet". I then ask them if they would say the same about a gay or straight person. And yes, I've had sex, I can find people attractive and I think sexual jokes are funny. BUT every person is different, some people don't and some do.
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I’m a sex positive asexual so I’m for sexual activities just as long as they’re safe and consensual. I’m not really that into sex but I will make dirty jokes and express when something is a turn on. That sort of confuses a lot of people though because they think that since I’m asexual, that must mean I must hate sex or hate having it. Sexual attraction is not the same as sexual preference.
SAMESAMESAME
i do not like sex
i just imagine it would be so weird doing it, you know
i never see anyone and think “damn, im getting a bo-“
but some ppl say “oh you can’t be a virgin forever”
*SLAMS DESK REPEATEDLY*
THAT’S. NOTWHATASEXUALITYMEANS
THANK YOU!!
I'm asexual aromantic and agender but I just discovered myself not long ago,I'm afraid that people might get me wrong or have a stereo type for me as "emotionless like wtf"
I don't know if I'm asexual (but I am about 60 to 70 percent sure I'm aromantic.) I'm not entirely against the idea of sex but I have had so traumatic experiences evolving it.
@@cradica I’m sorry that you had traumatic experiences
Cheers, fellow aces!♠️ Here’s to feeling accepted/not alone!🥂💅
Yeasss
Cheers to all of us! 🥂
is it disrespectful to ask if they are apart of the LGBTQ+ community? i’ve been wondering i just didn’t k now if it was disrespectful or not to ask
@@ikeashelf2309 yes but we usually aren't included due to the lack of public knowledge in the matter. Many people will say that the A in LGBTQIA stands for ally but please don't buy into that. Being a decent person is not a sexuality
@@ikeashelf2309 For the most part, we are but there is quite a lot of controversy as to whether or not we should be. So I can see why it might seem a bit confusing. Also, I love your profile name😅
"Things people get wrong about asexuality"
The flag apparently-
In all seriousness as an asexual I love this video and am thankfull to psych2go for making it
I am so glad that at least someone has mentioned it. You’d think there’d be more comments, but seems not. This isn’t even the first video on asexuality they’ve done and they still mixed up the black and the white stripe like they did in the other video
I’m asexual and VERY much experience romantic and aesthetic attraction. I love bring affectionate towards someone I love and I’m not abstinent, I just don’t experience sexual attraction most of the time.
Hopelessly romantic and asexual 😁
I'm fully Asexual. I have never been attracted to anyone my entire life and I don't really want sex.
Finally someone I can relate to 😭 everyone here is mixing up aromantic and asexual
@@Videomaker-pz4xm dude you are an aroace than and not just asexual
I relate to this a lot! after watching a lot of videos and reading a lot of stuff I feel pretty sure that I am asexual in almost the same way that you described it!
Thank you so much for this video! I was married for 23 years and was absolutely miserable. I was so afraid to be found out that I was Asexual. Happy and single now~😊
I swear, being an ace hurts when people are telling me "you will find someone, I'm sure", parents included.
Thank you for this video
Don't worry. You'll always be asexual even if you find a companion for life. Be it human or dog.
welp, for me it's the "you're too young to know" (parents) and "at your age I thought I was asexual too" (my usually very supportive sister)
Parents don’t understand how fast we grow up now mentally and how this really is us not just a phase
Ironically, I seem to fit the “shy nerdy ace” stereotype.
Me too
Sigh me too😕
I like these kinds of videos, it both helps people that think they might be asexual be directed to real facts and not stereotypes, and helps others learn what Asexuality is really like.
As a panromantic asexual, the “asexuals arent attracted to anybody” rlly hurts my feeling. I am currently dating two people (poly relationship dw lol) and they both accept me for my feelings
What always bothered me about asexuality is how people confuse it with being aromantic. Those are two different things and some should really start to look more up.
For example: I‘m a fangirl. And I often look for asexual characters. And one time I found one who was not only asexual but also a great character all together. That is until I found out that he was meant to be aromantic, not asexual. I wasn‘t even mad, I was just really disappointed because the creator usually put so much research into creating their characters.
Could we get a video on demisexuality? I have a hard time explaining it to my family and friends that I'm demi, their reply is usually "Yeah, that's just everyone!", and I once saw someone say that it was just "Fancy-ass bisexual"
My sister said the same thing. I’m asexual but when I was questioning if I was demi my sister said “isn’t that everyone?” There is a clear difference and it can be hard for others to understand.
Ugh. Yes. It took ages for me to stumble on demisexuality as a label and for years I was just struggling to explain why my experience was different from others. I could tell it was, because the things they talked about, like experiencing crushes and finding people attractive just wasn't a thing for me but asexual didn't fit either. Demi clicked into place and I went "Wait there's a name for it?!"
Yeah I'm really confused about demisexual and I would actually like to learn more about it.
Also with the phrase "fancy-ass bisexual" all I can think is just bisexual-the upgrade. So I have that now.
@@Flarflenugen I can explain that :) so, there are two main kinds of sexual attraction. Primary attraction is like 'I see that stranger over there and I have an attraction to them instantly'. That physical response of 'I like that person'. That's your average crush or when you decide to want to talk to someone and get their number.
Secondary attraction is like 'Hey I've known this person for a long time and as I've gotten close to them and learned more about them we've built a connection and my feelings are changing'. Most people experience both. Asexuals generally experience neither. Grey Aces experience them very rarely. Demisexuals like me don't experience Primary attraction at all, but we can develop Secondary attraction.
With strangers I'm completely Ace. If I fall in love there's a chance I'll become attracted to that one person. Does that make sense?
@@booksandcrafts-l8m kinda. I personally don't really experience the first one either, but I don't know if I'm Demi or if it's just because I'm autistic and don't really interact with a lot of people that I don't know, and I'm way too socially awkward to go ask random people for numbers. For now I just consider me straight.
Thanks for explaining, have a good one. And remember, your existence is yours, and who you are attracted to has no impact on anyone but you and the person you like. Ignore the idiots as much as you can.
You: *posts*
Everyone: *RUSHES TO THE COMMENTS*
me always
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"That doesn't mean they can't experience other forms of attraction."
me, an *aromatic* asexual: "yeah that other form of attraction is probably friendship."
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