I really dislike listening to poly relationships that start with cheating. It sheds such a bad light on the whole ethical nonmonogamy community in this light where if a woman wants it it’s only after her bf cheated. It’s cool that they came to a place that they’re happy I just hate this is the only story we hear.
I had an associate that participated in a 3 way relationship. Both still got cheated on. Polygamists women still get cheated on. He left them and married a different woman, who wouldn't share him. Do what works for you as well. Dont just do something to appease just your partner. Make sure you are happy as well.
Men do it all the time and it's almost expected this is an extreme but in relationships every compromise you make for someone you love might not be the happiest for you but to see the one you love happy is worth it in some cases
That part & I been peeped. She has HIM believing he’s in control & has her girlfriend demascualating him Bc his weakness is his primal urge ,Hedonism. She has game . He’s too goofy to be an alpha but whatever works cuz I’m not hating that somebody is happy
I been through this before, my Ex proposed to me, shortly after ditched me on Christmas and then I found out about the “other woman” I said okay, I lost my feelings of love for him, but was going and winging it you know. I told him I wasn’t ready for the engagement so I had already said no. Met the gal, we tried polyamory, and guess what me and her ended up leaving him and being in a relationship 🤣 and I actually LOVED her. Till I went on her computer and seen videos with time stamps of her cheating on me TWICE! With two different dudes. Moral of the story some people just can’t be faithful. Polyamory or not some are just never fulfilled with just one ☝️
It's about having a solid Foundation of Honesty and Open Communication which alot of relationships lack. I experienced a similar situation as you. I was brought in as a girlfriend to a married couple by the wife they were 18yrs together married 13yrs. Alot of shit was Exposed about the marriage in the dating process between the both of them (Dishonesty)He ended up leaving the relationship and Divorcing her and we been together almost two years now. Man shit was Crazy doe!
This is a wild story the fact u can still “cheat “ in these “open relationship” stuff but at the end of the day humans get jealous and there is hierarchy in loving someone especially when there sexueal energy being apart of it
Let's see this relationship lasting 50 years, then you talk abut getting alone. Anyone can get along for 2 years. Don't be accepting of moral depravity, this is sinful.
Nah. This is polyamory boo. Multiple lovers. Polygyny is when the women only have sexual relationship with the husband, at different times. If the women have a bisexual relationship with each other it's polyamory.
Listen! I don't have anything against polygamy. I think if a healthy, secure relationship where two people BOTH agree to enter into that lifestyle and be completely mutual with that is totally fine. But I feel like their polygamy "solution" stemmed from lies, hurt and cheating.. As she said.. it was a solution. Basically a solution to save her marriage with her cheating husband. She most definitely didn't want that in the beginning. She was hurt and upset so there was never a polygamy agreement in her relationship, she created it as the only way to keep her man. She said it herself... Because she spent 19 years with this man she felt invested of course but she said if she finds someone else she thinks he's gonna do the same thing so what's the point? That's sad... It sounds like to me she's afraid to find someone else because she thinks he's gonna do the same thing.. cheat. And to even think that seems to me she really WANTS something else, she just don't think she's ever gonna get it. She thinks every man is gonna cheat smh. You deserve what YOU want out of life. What YOU TRULY want. I hope that this what SHE TRULY wants and not something she forced herself into doing to keep her man. If it is what she truly wants then I wish them the best. I just get a feel she really didn't WANT the LIFESTYLE. She just WANTED to keep her MAN at ANY cost...
I agree with everything you said. I was thinking along the same lines. This lifestyle is not her choice, she made it choice after she spoke with him and he kept saying "positive things " about the 2nd meaning he wasn't going to stop seeing her so the wife made the decision to not fight it and just include her. Also, the 2nd girk kept saying " who am i" giving the impression that she couldn't say no because the offer was too good to turn down. I felt a little uncomfortable when she said the wife is ok with it so who am i to said no. Another thing notice the wife is the one who told her to move in full time , the wife made the decision to change include her in the beginning.
Im indifferent. You can see the attraction the women have. I believe they are all happy in this situation and it wasn't forced. I'm no lesbian but I have plenty lesbian friends, they have a natural chemistry and connection. Now the wife did say she always liked women and men. I conclude 😏 that she wanted to see what her husband was risking it all for and that 🙀 had power! She wants ole girl for herself and she wants to keep her husband too.
@@teecharee6069 i never said they were not happy. They learned to work within their situation. It was force the wife made the decision because he was cheating.
The only thing I know for certain here its that if its force it won't last because the love that they claim they have for each other it's not real but if this is what they real want and everyone is happy am telling you they are going to last forever
I'm not the real Chris Breezy, but I'm his barber's cousin's friend from HS, what about me , you, and Cyn Santana from love and hip hop, cuz Joe Budden's to tired. What if the three of us, formed a triad, nobody else, just us?
and you shouldn't. i went thru this same exact scenario with someone and she came in proud and was ready to let me know that either way it goes she will never stop seeing him and they both had the brilliant idea to try this practice. so i changed the dynamic and said first off ive been committed to this person for almost 6 years with a kid and no ring so what would i benefit? nothing. so needless to say the ring came and since that day she has turned out to be one of the most evil people i have ever met and is still after 2 years to this day trying to make me hurt with social media dragging of how she was with him. she's upset about the marriage but i realized that me as a wife was only settling thinking i could not do or get better. and definitely was blind with trying to keep my daughter happy and keeping my family together. these men out here are turning this whole dynamic into a sexualized joke. most don't even make enough to support the whole family and the females find a sense of common ground with girl time and talks about other men cause we damn sure not gonna sit around and talk about the husband all day. just beware ladies and never settle for anyone coming in that felt it no harm to sleep around with your man for a long period of time. when things go left EVERYTHING will be revealed and she will NOT LET UP. PERIOD!
I respect everyone's way of living. Not everyone is built for this lifestyle, but I would say open communication is key. You can find honesty and oneness in a Monogamous relationship. Everyone doesn't lie and cheat. But you have to seek out that true bond that will allow you to grow with a person as 1. That way they no longer feel separate from you to betray you. It would almost be like they are betraying themselves. We have to remember no one way of living is perfect or "right". So do what you feel in your heart works for you!
ThurstMETV I'm not sure where you are getting this statistic from, but 90% is a pretty high assumption. There are many people that believe in monogamy. Yes there is temptation that a lot of people fall victim to, but that is life itself, not just in relationships. But I know we are not all the same in what we put value in so thank you for the understanding and respect. 💯
@@jadesmith7983 I respect you too queen. I just take it from what I see you know. Amongst many different type of men. From the doctor, to the lawyer, to the teacher most men do not believe in monogamy let alone most men that women desire.
ThurstMETV Ohhh, ok. I thought you meant people as a whole. But if you say most men, then yea I can believe that. I personally believe in the marriage of 2 individuals becoming 1 and growing in power and love together. It's the ultimate form of harnessing the feminine and masculine kundalini energy.
So from my understanding a lot of middle eastern men who still practice these methods only take on another wife/concubine if he can afford too! You mean to tell me I’m sharing a man and I still have to split bills?! Lmao it’s going to be a whole NO for me!
That's what FAMILY is. You take care of each other. With more family, there's more bills because of increase in water usage, electricity, food, gas, etc. It's good you know this life isn't for you. Your selfishness would destroy it.
Helix Snow I’m selfish and you’re ignorance is humoring! A man is supposed to provide and he shouldn’t be taking on another wife if he can’t afford too! Same as women back in the biblical days! The men provided so again I’m selfish because I want my HUSBAND to do what he’s suppose to do, as a MAN!? I’ll be that then instead of being a sucker! But you’re right this lifestyle is not for me! God said to find a good wife not multiple; and the only men I’m attracted to are the kind who believe in providing, protecting and being the priest in my house hold! 😘
Not saying every man but look at the percentage of divorce and reasons for it...as well as look t the songs that are popular that speak of infidelity....it happens if your acknowledgement is there for it or not...put 10 people in the room and name how many are faithful and if the majority is not what do you consider the “typical male”
@@ChoiceOverDefault Actually less than 25% percent of married men and less than 15% of married women cheat in the US. So, the "typical male" is not a cheater. Don't know if the numbers are different when only looking at the black community.
The first one is clearly not happy. But, it’s still none of my business that this grown woman’s self-esteem is so low that she’s letting her husband and his side-chick play her like a game of monopoly.
wife and I been living this great life for 25yrs. Who said that people have to hate each other. Be grown, have honest conversations, and make it work. Good job to the brother and his family.
This is actually the natural order between man and woman biological. Think about it woman have sex and get Attached emotionally men not so much. Their is an biological reason for this.
I'm all for polygamy.... And it's wonderful they have a situation that works for them.. there is something up with the two ladies and their body language. He's happy as hell and it just seems he lucked up. People, don't go about it this way. This is hella crazy and will not work out for the majority lol
I agree..... I don't judge but I am on this relationship. Cause these two ladies vibe is off! It's like she just said wth he cheated and I'm just gonna deal with it. Because another interview they were telling they story, but when Chantel said well it started with him cheated on his wife. So he didn't talk to his wife about it he just cheated and that how he ended up with two. Both females seem bothered and not happy, sorry I don't think they are down it's just you deal with it cause I'm gonna keep seeing her no matter how my wife feels. He is happy as hell Cause he got what he wanted a wife and his mistress. I'm sorry this relationship is just bs and Don't think it's gonna workout. I have a friend in a relationship like this and it's totally different. Cause they love seem real and genuine and just real for one another. But hey they can keep up this weird ass lie and pretend they are in love. Ijs
It's only maturity because he got caught. He had nothing to do with the maturity part. He lucked up because his wife wanted a woman and didn't want to lose him. I'd say his wife is the mature one. He tripped on a banana peel and landed in paradise.
@@RandaWise honestly, I don't remember the actual story but cheating is doing something under the table, behind the back, in opposition, to the agreement. Sometimes it's positive and sometimes it's not. Motivation is the underlying principle.
This is on a whole other level I can't even comprehend. I don't think I ever want to be in this situation and I have friends who live a poly lifestyle....
How is the triad being closed different from a monogamous relationship being closed? Why respect the triad being closed when you couldn’t respect the monogamous relationship being closed? It’s not clicking...
Because it's about coming to a realization of who you are and how you are. With multiple women who make you happier it's hard to really be out looking for more. Especially when your focus changes
No man or woman has the right to judge another for the way they choose to live their lives. Our current culture is built off excepted social behaviors and norms, and religious beliefs. What may work for one may not work for another, but like minded people succeed in life. To each his own and much respect to them for finding their way, regardless of what society may think of them. That's true living.
@@iheshaparnell7006, whether they put their business out there or not, why does it matter to others? It's their life and it isn't effecting the way I live mine. It bothers me that people always have to comment on another person(s) journey yet can't control and manage their own. It works for them, and they seem to be happy so end of story.
This is absolutely beautiful ❤️ I support both of these beautiful woman for coming together. it has nothing to do with low self-esteem anyone knows polygamy has been around before man made monogamy. I'm about to start practicing polygamy with my lover soon and another woman. What people don't like to admit "love is freedom " love has nothing to do with the "EGO" . YOU CAN LOVE MORE THAN ONE PERSON PERIOD , and who is to say all these things are wrong. A polygamous relationship is just like any other relationship. So jealousy, sadness, competitiveness will happen. It's called being an adult and conducting yourself emotionally as such and I was raised in a polygamy and it was beautiful when done right.
@@nlfmama because that's both patrties sexual preference... If her lover is a straight male or lesbian female and she's attracted to women then thats what they choose.
Love is love. I'm here for it. I've dated a poly couple and a triad and while the particular people weren't for me, I like how it's set up and would still do a poly relationship.
I have a boyfriend. Of 2 years. We are isrealites. And he. Has been asking. For this. Type of relationship. I dont know. How to react to it i am bisexual but not all 2. Comfortable to share my man. This. Helped me understand more from the girl in the middles point of view. Because this can be my life but i dont know how it would. Be or how ill reaxt in the beginning
Most men can barely handle making one woman happy, what makes them think they can be successful with handling 2?? They’re just attracted to the sexual aspect of it🤷🏾♀️
But why can't we cohabitate without sex being involved. Why can't we have 2 or 3 couples come together, form a micro community and thrive, without sharing our partners? We could All be hands on with raising the children, caring for our elders, bringing in multiple streams of income, forming businesses.. why do we have to share beds as a requisite?
B/C our innate, biological makeup won't allow it. As much as you may think you can, at some point your innate biological being is going to NATURALLY react. ...
They were transparent and opened themselves up for people to be in their business, have an opinion, and pass judgements on them by going on this radio show.
To me it seems like she did it to keep her husband . 19 years and two kids and he never cheated , only with her . Yea , he didnt want to lose her so she decided to stay and deal . She didnt seem happy as he did ... he was cheesin 😂
Reality hits and I love baby girl who spoke them facts ( the wife ). It just comes down to - do you have a partner who only wants you or do you have a partner who wants multiple partners. You can't make a man do something he does not want to do. The wife kept it real - "What if I leave, start over and and the same thing happens again." Find a compatible lover
I don’t think they are compatible tho . I felt like she just accepted him because she didn’t want to leave . You can tell she has the mentality “all men cheat “. . Just by the comment she made and the comment you restated in your reply .... i do not truly believe she is HAPPY ... i think she forced herself to accept it ... even though she brought up the idea . She just didnt want to get cheated on anymore behind her back so she would rather him cheat in her face 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ive seen couples like this and you can tell they really are about that life .. you can tell they all love each-other . Its just something about this video that makes me think its forced on the wife since she doesn’t wanna lose her husband and possible get cheated in again. A lot of women accept it but rather not know about the women . She just wants to know ..
@@kavansakayenook6749 💯 I personally had given up on relationships all together. Not on the MGTOW style. Just stopped looking, too many compatibility issues. It's ironic cause I don't do random flings. Unashamedly haven't had seclusion in 2 years or better. A lot of men out here settling too. I refuse.
The second woman have respect. Which shows order and the true meaning of a relationship! Honesty, communication, and love which is a time where you compromise.
Understanding these women are but me? I’m far from understanding. You can have the man and if there’s no man on this earth that believes in loving one woman I swear I’m so good with loving myself. ✌🏾🏃🏾♀️
Girl u ain't never lied ! They throw that 4 letter word around (love) ...smh that ain't love ! Bitch he cheated and now u have no choice but to deal with it...I promise I don't know what the hell the world coming to
@Kimmminem West well then you just purchase property for the sole purpose of ownership and its equity but you living in that property gives it no value. At this point we will as a family pursue real estate.
@@ThurstMETV don't forget we are in the western world(assuming we all live in america) every one is pretty much conditioned to believe it's only husband and wife that's it. Monogamous relationships can SOMETIMES cater to insecurities and selfishness. People who only think about themselves i.e.... well I should have my own house she should have her own house oppose to we will build together. All in all western people stay stuck on what they know not knowing our ancestors practiced this lifestyle before they were colonized.
The Co-Wives you are absolutely correct but we were just expressing the differences of definitions in poly we were extremely nervous being on that platform thank you for tuning in
Being a Thruple is actually my goal. My bf and I have been having this conversation so i'm hoping it will manifest itself. Plus the financial aspect of it is a big plus!
@@lillady1770 its not the only reason hence why i said its a big plus. I just want the best of both worlds. We make good money just the two of us but adding a third income is a cherry on top.
@@douse89 Keep having open n honest n realistic conversations before you enter into it. And do it for ALL the RIGHT reasons. And make sure everyone is treated in a fair n honest n open n positive way. Communication...I wish you the best. ✌🏽
They are having an "mature" conversation because both women munch each other carpets. Both women are having sex with each other. THAT is the ONLY reason honey.
19 years & never cheated, but yet felt comfortable to add a woman to your marriage. NOT BUYING THAT STATEMENT! 23years with my husband we have been through So much and never thought to add the side chick into our home.
Man I get so excited whenever I see people of color who are polyamorous ... but these folk didn’t know wtf they were talking about 😩 I cringed every time dude said “polygamy” 😖
With true polygamy it is the wife who informs the husband she is in need of another wife. The second wife is just as much for the wife, as it is for the husband. THREESOMES ARE NOT POLYGAMY. A DISHONEST FREAK IN MONOGAMY, IS GOING TO BE A DISHONEST FREAK IN POLYGAMY. Women should have and need their own dwelling. Goals should be established what is NEEDED for the UNIT. This is why women inform the husband, and bond with the woman PRIOR to the man taking her as a wife. The conversation begins with, "Husband, have you considered (name), she is (then you describe the character of the woman, how she will be of value to the unit, and if he will consider her as a wife). You cannot go to a club, come home and say, "hey wife, I GOT married," or, "hey honey, I was at a club, and found another wife." POLYGAMY is initiated by the woman. Great book to read is FACING MOUNT KENYA, the gikuyu people. POLYGAMY must have THE LAW AS A FOUNDATION, OR THIS BECOMES WICKED!!!!!
Sometimes the wife/girlfriend in a monogamous relationship step out with another woman secretly (most likely a best friend); and introduces the idea of having a triad poly relationship. Also is normally the wife/girlfriend who introduces the idea of trying a swinger lifestyle.
Just listening to them speak makes me nervous, not to talk of trying this shit!... what????...I can only imagine the torture the children goes through mentally trying to figure out all this craziness!...To think they’re so comfortable taking about it as if it’s normal is choking!!!...End time game is really on!
Ok I think more women should start having multiple men just saying. Although i dont know these people from adam, The man truly seems happier than the ladies. He benefits more than they do so it's really not equal in my opinion. NO shade or judgement i just want a better understanding of this.
TianaDashay exactly ! But a lot of men are selfish and controlling they want they cake and eat it too but have a problem if they woman do the same! It’s a double standard
So you want more women to become thots because he has two women? SMH. If you do more research on polygyny then you’ll see that the women benefit more than the man.
DesiréDontExpire What man or head of the household doesn’t have control over his house? As the man he is supposed to lead and guide his family through the struggles of life and become better people. He can’t do that if he has no control over his family.
You think you gonna be an effective mother in two house holds . How you gon know them men ain stepping out on you so now you gotta worry about multiple cheaters get pregnant who yo baby daddy. That shit don’t make sense . When you young single and have no kids that might be a logical idea. But when you experience more you will realize you won’t benefit from that lifestyle. Every man wants to be dominant and the alpha male. That’s why you don’t see women with multiple husbands. Go try it
It’s so annoying how people say oh the poly lifestyle isn’t for everybody but some how assume the fake monogamous relationship is supposed to be for everybody
She clearly sacrificed her own complete happiness to make it work. She was WILLING to do that overtime with considering it. Of course she's not COMPLETELY comfortable with it, but she has maintained a balanced mindset about it.
People don't demonstrate happiness the same way, furthermore going to a radio station and answer to a famous anchor about your private life can make anybody shy or intimidated. You just see what you want to see. They are happy. And I wish them a long life together !
@Kimmminem West this is an other issue ... Of course she was mad and angry ... But her decision is motivated by the fact that she also loves women 😉😉. She said it herself, she loves women since always. About polygyny, I think that's the best family system. I myself would love to have two or three wife. I think my family would be so much stronger and I would love them all the same.
I am actually for the lifestyle and I think it can be something beautiful BUT the foundation of this particular union seems shaky. As long as everyone is happy.
It's actually fascinating to listen to and learn about the dynamics of such a situation/relationship ..and I ain't gon lie it seems like it'd be kinda fun!
So now I have to share my man with the woman who he stepped out on me with. and I'm supposed to carry a smile on my face because I love my husband and death do us part and we have two kids and oh I don't know anything else but this. tf No no no, and rather than tear down my confidence this is actually a confidence-booster because now I am comfortable in my skin and with my own sexuality oh and I needed someone else to come into our relationship in order for me to realize that bs bs bs, oh no. Not tf me
@@lillady1770 Because it's not his responsibility to take care of a family him self that work both ways besides women are supposed to be in charge anyway that's why shit don't play out right with this religious mindset because they don't give women the proper position... Shit more ppl more financial help if all y'all willing to put up it's about the mind set it's actually a survival tactic before we got so mono with things... Due to the years of invasion
Women are naturally nurtuers while men is a good representation of protection... I think nurturing is more important led along more than one in a house that's actually intelligent enough and willing is a power house whether y'all like it or not it's ppl who get along just fine like this the ancients had numerous comunities that way. The invaders wanted to offset our bloodline(offspring) so this tactic was seen as very useful but systematically criticize
@@lillady1770 you have been led to believe that in a plural relationship it is the mans sole responsibility to financially take care of everything and everyone. This is not true in fact if he does this he becomes a servant to everyone and they dont serve the family name. Everyone is to contribute and pour in not just him. "Taking care of" consist of so much more.
Very mature for the three of them to be sooooo transparent...... However this is POLYAMORY not POLYGAMY.... I can't believe people have these shows on various topics and don't know the terminology ..... whatever the subject matter... these hosts gotta do better at doing their homework/research....💥
T Dstar is it poly if they can’t date out? That’s the part that’s confusing for me. All the people that I know who are poly don’t demand exclusivity soooooooo idk. Could it be polypoligamy?
Anything to say you have a man... 🤦🏾♀️ She only accepted this arrangement so he wouldn’t leave her for the mistress. It’s different when the man begins to have feelings which he clearly expressed to her. Her philosophy: Can’t beat them...join them 🤷🏽♀️
This guy is gettin' away with...SMDH...The women are low maintenance and he still can't afford to take care of them. They are paying for themselves. Such BS
Man he not getting away with anything. If this was societal norms it would never be a problem if people are happy. Like she said most of these dudes and women are living polygamous lifestyles anyway, they just lying to do it.
I would love to know if these girls had cheating fathers, past abusive boyfriends, experienced sexual assault in the past... There is no need to attack me for asking this question. It is just a question that came to mind. They are lovely girls but I wondered about their past.
So let me get this straight ... 1. He cheated on his wife of 19 yrs, 2 children, with his side chick. 2.) The wife didn't want to break up with him. It wasn't an option fot her. 3. The wife always had a thing for women. 4. The husband has always spoken highly of the side chick. 5. The wife initiated theb2 women meeting because she's interested in what he saw in this other woman. 6. Besides both ladies having a relationship with Alex, they both have a relationship with one another. 7. There was jealously, attitude, & whatnot at first, but it's something that had to be worked thru? This sounds like an unsecure woman signing up for a relationship in order to keep her man & to be able to be with a woman on the side as & when she desires. This is a free for all relationship amongst 3 ppl. They're attempting to stretch a label on what they're doing, while attempting to make it sound inviting, cool, & appealing as well. I am happy for them, this could never be me.
You broke this down perfectly but you left off one major point. He's loving this arrangement because he's the one mostly benefiting. Dude had the nerve to say he wouldn't accept another man in the relationship if either of them wanted one. In my grandma's voice, "What's good for the goose is good for the gander."
@@phyllislowe3942 how you assumed those 2 women wanted to fuck around with other men? maybe this is really what they wanted and they are both very happy because they are fucking each other!!!
There's a disconnect. When you partner isn't feeling fulfilled, they are suppose to let you know that & yal figure out a way to get things back in order. Because something was working at the beginning of the relationship which is why yal made it this far. When ur partner sneakily goes and has sex with another person & you have no knowledge of it, the trust is broken. I don't feel she's smart because of the way she started the polygamy. It was more like "lets keep the family together & bring in another woman. Babe would you be cool with that? Would you be satisfied with only having this one other woman?" All after the fact when trust was broken.
Why does the wife seem dead inside? She just seems resigned to her fate. Like she’s accepted it because she has no other choice. There’s just so much sadness in her eyes and even her voice reveals her true feelings.
I'm told I'm lucky I've been married for 17 years and my wife allows me to do me. I don't need to hide anything we are actually talking about living this lifestyle.
@Queen Mercy it's tough, if your partner is not 💯% it will not work. Emotions run high at first but its the best life. # no selfishness # keep it honest.
@Queen Mercy one last note. Sex is not a relationship. All parties involved play a role. The key is for the other to fill the void it could be domestic,finincial or other wise.
I wish my family could get a Interview like this one to explain The dynamic and the beginning of my polyamorous family Because a lot of people assume the man is the reason the relationship came together ..... not in EVERY case
Firstno way the sad thing is that, they are willing to stoop lower than their means for money. That’s fucking sad. Both women in this comment sections just admitted to it
So you selfish? That's why most of our women will never be happy in a relationship or marriage. Selfish. Why should he spend any money on you, if you cant return the favor? Smh
The 1st wife maturity created this opportunity that was powerful...I appreciate that openness it can creates such powerful picture and opportunity for wealth and character development in everyone in household.
Even after 10 years of research, it still amazes me how peoples instincts point to happiness and yet they have the world define and guide their future. There are only 3 outcomes to relationships. Did divorce rates go down, stay the same or go up. Obviously the world got it wrong. I hope they stop listening to the world and more to their own hearts. Letting TH-cam define your relationship is part of the world and leads to the same results. Extremely high divorce rates. They made a very! good first step. Just stop turning to the world to structure their life.
@Kimmminem West Granted it didnt start the way you wouldve liked it but it did come to the light. From that point on they decided to work it out. All everyone does now a days is run run run. All I'm saying sista is that monogamy is an unrealistic expectation. Maybe if you entered into relationships without that expectation and had the talk in the beginning then things would be different
@Kimmminem West Very few far and in between want this nor are they practicing it. It's just an honesty that no one wants to discuss. The man you want and desire is not going to tell you this. It's unfortunate but it's just the reality of things. Email me: tmecamp@gmail.com
@Kimmminem West A man is by nature polygamous, monogamy and fidelity are unnatural situations propagated by religious belief and social pressures. take those away every man would cheat! its simply biological, now lets look at the extra, its a known fact that women for the most part are more emotional than men so its natural that after a sexual encounter she will be attached but because a man is visual and logically nature, there's no emotion involved, for him its just a physical release that’s got nothing to do with love; a man loves his woman by protecting and providing for her period, its really quite simple. For a man, the physical and emotional are two separate entities.
Me and my wife are polygamist as well and want to practice polygyny. No cheating, nothing involved. I just told her how I felt and she said she felt the same. Unfortunately finding a third person is hard.
To all the people I have read that condemn it saying harsh things about their makeup I can say one thing that I see and feel is that Love and forgiveness allowed her to make a choice that brought this dynamic to fruition. Everyone gets hung up on the man cheesing but, remember this very important fact - If the parties involved are happy then be happy for them but, behind closed doors we don't know their struggles and obstacles they face to do this daily. Also I remember a statement that we have all heard "Keeping up with the Joneses" but the truth is behind closed doors who are the Joneses trying to keep up with or the struggles they endure. Not everything is for everyone so, what's for you is for you and that's that. I applaud them for taking the time to help educate people about their situation but must understand there's scrutiny on everything one does every day. All that anyone can do is focus on themselves.
(Stating my own opinion from experience) It's refreshing to see our people get back into the groove of our ancestors. Studying the knowledge of how our nation as melaninated people have multiplied their seed thru polygyny has gave us such a strong foundation in the family structure. It's refreshing to see our history/culture repeat itself. 2years ago I made the decision to devote myself to the lifestyle & when done righteously I can say so MYSELF IT'S A BEAUTIFUL THING ! 💯
I’m so glad he said it sound like you gave up!. Because soon as I heard her talk, I was like she look so tired! And I think the husband like the sidepiece more!
IF him and his wife had discussed their marriage together BEFORE he cheated and made the decision to bring in another woman they picked TOGETHER....Id be on board with that. What REALLY happened is that he cheated with a younger woman that reminds him of his wife before 19 years of marriage responsibility and 2 children. Essentially he has a young, girlfriend thats on deck 24-7. What will happen IMO is once the young chic has kids with him and starts thinking and behaving as a wife he will be bored and looking for girlfriend #3. His wife is not the issue he is. He needs to grow tf up. Learn to appreciate how his marriage has changed through the years and learn to appreciate his wife's new body from the 2 children he gave her. Love how responsible she has become with age and be thankful she grew into a mature wife and not just a girlfriend.
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I really dislike listening to poly relationships that start with cheating. It sheds such a bad light on the whole ethical nonmonogamy community in this light where if a woman wants it it’s only after her bf cheated. It’s cool that they came to a place that they’re happy I just hate this is the only story we hear.
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Most women settle for it
It’s shows well one would not leave ‘em alone so they accepted something they didn’t want too.
Definitely agree with you
Totally agree
I think the 2 women love each other...There is not even 1/2 inch of space in between them.
Because the man has his own mic and they are supposed to share a mic
That's how it's supposed to be
@@PrincePharrell17
LMAO ma nigga
Its only cheating when there is lying and deceit. Keep it 💯 with those you love...old and new
MzDankMuzik Channel exactly
And there is lying and deceit when you cannot be yourself
Well technically he cheated for 2 yrs lol
He did cheat for long period of time before he got caught. If he hadn’t gotten caught he and the girlfriend would still be having an affair.
But that's how they got together,he cheated.
I had an associate that participated in a 3 way relationship. Both still got cheated on. Polygamists women still get cheated on. He left them and married a different woman, who wouldn't share him. Do what works for you as well. Dont just do something to appease just your partner. Make sure you are happy as well.
Justbnmina question would it be okay if he left and married half a new woman? 🤔🤔
@@johnnellowery4548 Makes no difference to me if he married half, whole, old or new.
@@Mina_Loyal joking was talking about you saying a whole woman. ✌
@@johnnellowery4548 💖
Men do it all the time and it's almost expected this is an extreme but in relationships every compromise you make for someone you love might not be the happiest for you but to see the one you love happy is worth it in some cases
The first wife is in control of this entire situation she making sure she secures that bag and she taking the side chicks bag too to feed her kids.
Shay Thomas 🙌🏾
Rrriiiiggggghhhhht!? Like so the first time he cheated he had a two year affair 😐
That part & I been peeped. She has HIM believing he’s in control & has her girlfriend demascualating him Bc his weakness is his primal urge ,Hedonism.
She has game .
He’s too goofy to be an alpha but whatever works cuz I’m not hating that somebody is happy
HAHAH "TAKING the side chicks bag!!!"
😂😂😂 Yes and help raise them!
I been through this before, my Ex proposed to me, shortly after ditched me on Christmas and then I found out about the “other woman” I said okay, I lost my feelings of love for him, but was going and winging it you know. I told him I wasn’t ready for the engagement so I had already said no. Met the gal, we tried polyamory, and guess what me and her ended up leaving him and being in a relationship 🤣 and I actually LOVED her. Till I went on her computer and seen videos with time stamps of her cheating on me TWICE! With two different dudes. Moral of the story some people just can’t be faithful. Polyamory or not some are just never fulfilled with just one ☝️
Woahhh
My faces through the reading 😭,😒,😂💕,😑,😫😭
It's about having a solid Foundation of Honesty and Open Communication which alot of relationships lack. I experienced a similar situation as you. I was brought in as a girlfriend to a married couple by the wife they were 18yrs together married 13yrs. Alot of shit was Exposed about the marriage in the dating process between the both of them (Dishonesty)He ended up leaving the relationship and Divorcing her and we been together almost two years now. Man shit was Crazy doe!
This is a wild story the fact u can still “cheat “ in these “open relationship” stuff but at the end of the day humans get jealous and there is hierarchy in loving someone especially when there sexueal energy being apart of it
@@Bangaly16kabato me it was about honesty. I was younger and open to possibilities. But people don't have concept of morality I suppose
And they say black women can't get along
Only if a man is involved and they have too! Lol
#faith
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Right my kid's dad's fiance and I have grown very close over the years!
Let's see this relationship lasting 50 years, then you talk abut getting alone. Anyone can get along for 2 years. Don't be accepting of moral depravity, this is sinful.
Nah. This is polyamory boo. Multiple lovers. Polygyny is when the women only have sexual relationship with the husband, at different times. If the women have a bisexual relationship with each other it's polyamory.
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Oju Efunyale u better say that !
Tomato tomato
He said polyamory
Thank you!
Listen! I don't have anything against polygamy. I think if a healthy, secure relationship where two people BOTH agree to enter into that lifestyle and be completely mutual with that is totally fine. But I feel like their polygamy "solution" stemmed from lies, hurt and cheating.. As she said.. it was a solution. Basically a solution to save her marriage with her cheating husband. She most definitely didn't want that in the beginning. She was hurt and upset so there was never a polygamy agreement in her relationship, she created it as the only way to keep her man. She said it herself... Because she spent 19 years with this man she felt invested of course but she said if she finds someone else she thinks he's gonna do the same thing so what's the point? That's sad... It sounds like to me she's afraid to find someone else because she thinks he's gonna do the same thing.. cheat. And to even think that seems to me she really WANTS something else, she just don't think she's ever gonna get it. She thinks every man is gonna cheat smh. You deserve what YOU want out of life. What YOU TRULY want. I hope that this what SHE TRULY wants and not something she forced herself into doing to keep her man. If it is what she truly wants then I wish them the best.
I just get a feel she really didn't WANT the LIFESTYLE. She just WANTED to keep her MAN at ANY cost...
Shut your ass up lol
I agree with everything you said. I was thinking along the same lines. This lifestyle is not her choice, she made it choice after she spoke with him and he kept saying "positive things " about the 2nd meaning he wasn't going to stop seeing her so the wife made the decision to not fight it and just include her. Also, the 2nd girk kept saying " who am i" giving the impression that she couldn't say no because the offer was too good to turn down. I felt a little uncomfortable when she said the wife is ok with it so who am i to said no. Another thing notice the wife is the one who told her to move in full time , the wife made the decision to change include her in the beginning.
Im indifferent. You can see the attraction the women have. I believe they are all happy in this situation and it wasn't forced. I'm no lesbian but I have plenty lesbian friends, they have a natural chemistry and connection. Now the wife did say she always liked women and men. I conclude 😏 that she wanted to see what her husband was risking it all for and that 🙀 had power! She wants ole girl for herself and she wants to keep her husband too.
@@teecharee6069 i never said they were not happy. They learned to work within their situation. It was force the wife made the decision because he was cheating.
The only thing I know for certain here its that if its force it won't last because the love that they claim they have for each other it's not real but if this is what they real want and everyone is happy am telling you they are going to last forever
Dude is so happy and seems in disbelief that his first woman accepted this.😂😂
Jade can me, you, and Naomi Campbell have this type of relationship? Form a triad just us three, nobody else but us.
Chris B Not even if you were the real Chris Breezy lol. But I enjoyed the laugh!😂
I'm not the real Chris Breezy, but I'm his barber's cousin's friend from HS, what about me , you, and Cyn Santana from love and hip hop, cuz Joe Budden's to tired. What if the three of us, formed a triad, nobody else, just us?
Chris B Just stop!🙃😂
He cant even hide his excitement still after 1 year.
2 years?! Nah I can’t trust someone that was knowingly sleeping w a married man for 2 years. Nope
and you shouldn't. i went thru this same exact scenario with someone and she came in proud and was ready to let me know that either way it goes she will never stop seeing him and they both had the brilliant idea to try this practice. so i changed the dynamic and said first off ive been committed to this person for almost 6 years with a kid and no ring so what would i benefit? nothing. so needless to say the ring came and since that day she has turned out to be one of the most evil people i have ever met and is still after 2 years to this day trying to make me hurt with social media dragging of how she was with him. she's upset about the marriage but i realized that me as a wife was only settling thinking i could not do or get better. and definitely was blind with trying to keep my daughter happy and keeping my family together. these men out here are turning this whole dynamic into a sexualized joke. most don't even make enough to support the whole family and the females find a sense of common ground with girl time and talks about other men cause we damn sure not gonna sit around and talk about the husband all day. just beware ladies and never settle for anyone coming in that felt it no harm to sleep around with your man for a long period of time. when things go left EVERYTHING will be revealed and she will NOT LET UP. PERIOD!
AND I DO FULLY SUPPORT THIS PRACTICE IF DONE RIGHT AND ABSOLUTELY NOOOOO LIES OR DECEIT FROM JUMP!
Prendince DeLain just leave you deserve happiness and someone that loves you❤️
@@prendincedelain8798 so your ego killed potential happiness
If she's happy who are we to judge her
I respect everyone's way of living. Not everyone is built for this lifestyle, but I would say open communication is key. You can find honesty and oneness in a Monogamous relationship. Everyone doesn't lie and cheat. But you have to seek out that true bond that will allow you to grow with a person as 1. That way they no longer feel separate from you to betray you. It would almost be like they are betraying themselves. We have to remember no one way of living is perfect or "right". So do what you feel in your heart works for you!
I'd say over %90 dont practice nor believe in monogamy but I do love your stance on do what works for you.
ThurstMETV I'm not sure where you are getting this statistic from, but 90% is a pretty high assumption. There are many people that believe in monogamy. Yes there is temptation that a lot of people fall victim to, but that is life itself, not just in relationships. But I know we are not all the same in what we put value in so thank you for the understanding and respect. 💯
@@jadesmith7983 I respect you too queen. I just take it from what I see you know. Amongst many different type of men. From the doctor, to the lawyer, to the teacher most men do not believe in monogamy let alone most men that women desire.
ThurstMETV Ohhh, ok. I thought you meant people as a whole. But if you say most men, then yea I can believe that. I personally believe in the marriage of 2 individuals becoming 1 and growing in power and love together. It's the ultimate form of harnessing the feminine and masculine kundalini energy.
If the conversation ever brought up and if the maturity is there I can see the old me doing it.
He never got caught stepping out in 19 years💯
Wow smh and this is something to brag about?
Same thing I said lol, she said it like she just KNEW knew
Exactly!😂😂😂
There you go. That's what it really means
Facts
So from my understanding a lot of middle eastern men who still practice these methods only take on another wife/concubine if he can afford too! You mean to tell me I’m sharing a man and I still have to split bills?! Lmao it’s going to be a whole NO for me!
Kimmminem West HELLA backwards!! Lmao
Constructive not entertainment yeah cause these men won’t!
Ahahahahahahha
That's what FAMILY is. You take care of each other. With more family, there's more bills because of increase in water usage, electricity, food, gas, etc. It's good you know this life isn't for you. Your selfishness would destroy it.
Helix Snow I’m selfish and you’re ignorance is humoring! A man is supposed to provide and he shouldn’t be taking on another wife if he can’t afford too! Same as women back in the biblical days! The men provided so again I’m selfish because I want my HUSBAND to do what he’s suppose to do, as a MAN!? I’ll be that then instead of being a sucker! But you’re right this lifestyle is not for me! God said to find a good wife not multiple; and the only men I’m attracted to are the kind who believe in providing, protecting and being the priest in my house hold! 😘
not every man CHEATS Alex. What you did by stepping out of your marriage is NOT the typical male action.
West African Goddess right
Not saying every man but look at the percentage of divorce and reasons for it...as well as look t the songs that are popular that speak of infidelity....it happens if your acknowledgement is there for it or not...put 10 people in the room and name how many are faithful and if the majority is not what do you consider the “typical male”
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@@ChoiceOverDefault 💯💪
@@ChoiceOverDefault Actually less than 25% percent of married men and less than 15% of married women cheat in the US. So, the "typical male" is not a cheater. Don't know if the numbers are different when only looking at the black community.
If they all are happy who are we to criticize them?
How do you know they're happy lmao
Ihesha Parnell exactly
The first one is clearly not happy. But, it’s still none of my business that this grown woman’s self-esteem is so low that she’s letting her husband and his side-chick play her like a game of monopoly.
Yve P how you know ? Please explain
@@unitedstatescitizen1035 Written all over her face and painted all in her demeanor.
wife and I been living this great life for 25yrs. Who said that people have to hate each other. Be grown, have honest conversations, and make it work. Good job to the brother and his family.
I'm a man and I couldn't do this in a marriage scenario. What's the point of marriage if you are going to live like this?...
seems Shalon ditched the illusion of monagamy too tho.
@Muntu Poets Legacy 100% agree with you.
It's no point
"Go forth and multiply..." 😂
This is actually the natural order between man and woman biological. Think about it woman have sex and get Attached emotionally men not so much. Their is an biological reason for this.
I'm all for polygamy.... And it's wonderful they have a situation that works for them.. there is something up with the two ladies and their body language. He's happy as hell and it just seems he lucked up. People, don't go about it this way. This is hella crazy and will not work out for the majority lol
I agree..... I don't judge but I am on this relationship. Cause these two ladies vibe is off! It's like she just said wth he cheated and I'm just gonna deal with it. Because another interview they were telling they story, but when Chantel said well it started with him cheated on his wife. So he didn't talk to his wife about it he just cheated and that how he ended up with two. Both females seem bothered and not happy, sorry I don't think they are down it's just you deal with it cause I'm gonna keep seeing her no matter how my wife feels. He is happy as hell Cause he got what he wanted a wife and his mistress. I'm sorry this relationship is just bs and Don't think it's gonna workout. I have a friend in a relationship like this and it's totally different. Cause they love seem real and genuine and just real for one another. But hey they can keep up this weird ass lie and pretend they are in love. Ijs
Are you single?
This dude sounds like he should be on your show permanently. He has a voice for it no question 😂💯
Yes he sounds like dj envy from the breakfast club 😂
19 years is long. But some will rather have multiple baby daddies than do what this lady did
Or just be single with no kids but okay 💁♀️
@@biancadoss11 what's wrong with being single with no kids
Spoken like a true narcissist. Hahaha
A lot of people in third and fourth party relationships they just don't know it because it's done deceptively. This is maturity. I can appreciate it.
It's only maturity because he got caught. He had nothing to do with the maturity part. He lucked up because his wife wanted a woman and didn't want to lose him. I'd say his wife is the mature one. He tripped on a banana peel and landed in paradise.
Whether it's deceptive or right in front of your face, it's still wrong. The act is the same. Polygamy is cheating with a permit.
@@RandaWise honestly, I don't remember the actual story but cheating is doing something under the table, behind the back, in opposition, to the agreement. Sometimes it's positive and sometimes it's not. Motivation is the underlying principle.
I’m totally into this. My husband is the one who doesn’t want another woman.
If you're that freaky you would probably cheat on him.
@Amerokee RIGHT
You’re husbands smart! I’ll pass on all the bickering, insecurities, cattiness, “you like her more” crap. To each his own tho.
Kiesha Fincher you have a good man. Be careful what you wish for. This will open Pandora’s box
@@mrs.w8193 right what tf is she on
The wife wanted a woman. Simple 🤷🏾♀️ happy for her!
Submittress can me, you, and a woman of you're choice have this type of relationship? Form a triad just us three, nobody else but us.
william brobby what’s your IG?
Christian Barrett submittress the one in the black shirt 💕
@@ClaudiasCutiesbelieve it or not I don't have one anymore. I have to be cautious of certain things in my career field. Too much information out there
@Kimmminem West your videos are hilarious how do you go from booty to food 😂😂😂 you have earned yourself a new subscriber
This is on a whole other level I can't even comprehend. I don't think I ever want to be in this situation and I have friends who live a poly lifestyle....
How is the triad being closed different from a monogamous relationship being closed? Why respect the triad being closed when you couldn’t respect the monogamous relationship being closed? It’s not clicking...
Because it's about coming to a realization of who you are and how you are. With multiple women who make you happier it's hard to really be out looking for more. Especially when your focus changes
No man or woman has the right to judge another for the way they choose to live their lives. Our current culture is built off excepted social behaviors and norms, and religious beliefs. What may work for one may not work for another, but like minded people succeed in life. To each his own and much respect to them for finding their way, regardless of what society may think of them. That's true living.
You put your business out there prepared to be judge lmao
@@iheshaparnell7006, whether they put their business out there or not, why does it matter to others? It's their life and it isn't effecting the way I live mine. It bothers me that people always have to comment on another person(s) journey yet can't control and manage their own. It works for them, and they seem to be happy so end of story.
@@MrVAsBoy I said what I said. You put your business out expect be judge like bye
We have just as much right to judge as you telling us that we have no right to judge....
Well said
This is absolutely beautiful ❤️ I support both of these beautiful woman for coming together. it has nothing to do with low self-esteem anyone knows polygamy has been around before man made monogamy. I'm about to start practicing polygamy with my lover soon and another woman. What people don't like to admit "love is freedom " love has nothing to do with the "EGO" . YOU CAN LOVE MORE THAN ONE PERSON PERIOD , and who is to say all these things are wrong. A polygamous relationship is just like any other relationship. So jealousy, sadness, competitiveness will happen. It's called being an adult and conducting yourself emotionally as such and I was raised in a polygamy and it was beautiful when done right.
@Tatiana Sol
Are you ready for us to get married? I'm just saying....You conveyed this message very well 😄😍
Tatiana Sol why does the one person have to be a woman tho. im not gay
@@nlfmama because that's both patrties sexual preference... If her lover is a straight male or lesbian female and she's attracted to women then thats what they choose.
Very well said!
polygamy doesnt involve a wife sleeping with a co wife.. thats polyamory
Love is love. I'm here for it. I've dated a poly couple and a triad and while the particular people weren't for me, I like how it's set up and would still do a poly relationship.
I have a boyfriend. Of 2 years. We are isrealites. And he. Has been asking. For this. Type of relationship. I dont know. How to react to it i am bisexual but not all 2. Comfortable to share my man. This. Helped me understand more from the girl in the middles point of view. Because this can be my life but i dont know how it would. Be or how ill reaxt in the beginning
Make sure get white girl with good credit😄😄😄😄😄
Jasmin Wilkins don’t do it. If you don’t wanna share, don’t settle. You will resent yourself AND HIM
Cool seeing a woman for it. As a man, not a chance in hell would I do this. You couldn’t even pay me!
Truth it can work .
For black men this has always been in us but the question is can you afford this lifestyle hopefully they all own a house not an apartment
Facts!
Most men can barely handle making one woman happy, what makes them think they can be successful with handling 2?? They’re just attracted to the sexual aspect of it🤷🏾♀️
Exactly
Most men are betas NOT many alphas and plus from what I see alphas have multiple women most betas can barely get 1 woman.
But why can't we cohabitate without sex being involved. Why can't we have 2 or 3 couples come together, form a micro community and thrive, without sharing our partners? We could All be hands on with raising the children, caring for our elders, bringing in multiple streams of income, forming businesses.. why do we have to share beds as a requisite?
B/C our innate, biological makeup won't allow it. As much as you may think you can, at some point your innate biological being is going to NATURALLY react. ...
Desiree Tamara False! It’s just men mostly don’t like having self control.
That’s still some form of poly? But I know myself so I would like it (triad)
polyamory is a western construct mostly based on sexuality.. you might be talking about polygamy..
Yeah and let’s wish for flying horses as well
People really get into their feelings about how other people live, live your life and let people live theirs, they grown.
They were transparent and opened themselves up for people to be in their business, have an opinion, and pass judgements on them by going on this radio show.
The original wife is clearly unhappy
Say it agian😂😂💯
@@haleybain8915 Not really. She is talking likea normal person. MAYBE thats just how she speaks.
Lol I mean they did make an interview on camera for ppl to see and react to it. A video with no reactions is boring lol I feel you tho.
I was slightly annoyed by the guy with glasses, he was being a bit childish... nonetheless this interview was eye opening. God bless
Lol this should be on pornhub
He was so extra!!! Did the most talking!!
Really? I thought he was great. Genuine curiosity I feel.
Love the honesty and transparency of this interview. Keep living and loving each other.
Thanks for being open enough to have a healthy and respectful conversation with them.
I love discussions like this. Positive adult conversation. Even though ppl dont support it you have to amend their maturity
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I am poly but i WOULD NEVER get into a relationship or welcome in someone this way. No ma'am.
To me it seems like she did it to keep her husband . 19 years and two kids and he never cheated , only with her . Yea , he didnt want to lose her so she decided to stay and deal . She didnt seem happy as he did ... he was cheesin 😂
Reality hits and I love baby girl who spoke them facts ( the wife ). It just comes down to - do you have a partner who only wants you or do you have a partner who wants multiple partners. You can't make a man do something he does not want to do. The wife kept it real - "What if I leave, start over and and the same thing happens again." Find a compatible lover
Just Toni eeew
I don’t think they are compatible tho . I felt like she just accepted him because she didn’t want to leave . You can tell she has the mentality “all men cheat “. . Just by the comment she made and the comment you restated in your reply .... i do not truly believe she is HAPPY ... i think she forced herself to accept it ... even though she brought up the idea . She just didnt want to get cheated on anymore behind her back so she would rather him cheat in her face 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ive seen couples like this and you can tell they really are about that life .. you can tell they all love each-other . Its just something about this video that makes me think its forced on the wife since she doesn’t wanna lose her husband and possible get cheated in again. A lot of women accept it but rather not know about the women . She just wants to know ..
Even the host said it seems like shes just willing to accept ..
@@kavansakayenook6749 💯 I personally had given up on relationships all together. Not on the MGTOW style. Just stopped looking, too many compatibility issues. It's ironic cause I don't do random flings. Unashamedly haven't had seclusion in 2 years or better. A lot of men out here settling too. I refuse.
seems like he cheated and the wife just accepted it lmao
Lmao thats exactly what happened
Badmojox pretty much
Facts!
yeah...I hate that this is the 'example' presented of a healthy polyamorous relationship, this is NOT how this should have gone down...
Smh...that's usually how it works
I just started my 3 way relationship. It's working out good. Still putting things together.
How is it now?
The second woman have respect. Which shows order and the true meaning of a relationship! Honesty, communication, and love which is a time where you compromise.
Understanding these women are but me? I’m far from understanding. You can have the man and if there’s no man on this earth that believes in loving one woman I swear I’m so good with loving myself. ✌🏾🏃🏾♀️
Girl u ain't never lied ! They throw that 4 letter word around (love) ...smh that ain't love ! Bitch he cheated and now u have no choice but to deal with it...I promise I don't know what the hell the world coming to
Right. Like, I’m actually really cool being without you...
Amen! I can not put my self esteem on the line for another dude and his fantasies lol.
Damn right!
Facts 💯💯
She is in denial and she did give up in fear of it happening again her own words nope booh you can keep your three some!
@@Southerngirl0828 it's sad and you can see it all over her face!
Proverbs 14:12 "There is a way that seems right to man, but the end of that way leads to destruction."
Wow. This is powerful.
I dont care
Quoting a passage written by a man with multiple wives is gold 😂
Live your life for u, not for others people.
Best comment thus far. Everyone is so conditioned to see thing one way and one way only.
Which is funny because it's a programmed mindset.
Yes, fuk the European mindset
Polygyny is about FAMILY, NATION & WEALTH BUILDING.
@Kimmminem West 🤔🤔🤔🤦🏾🤷🏾
@Kimmminem West Excuse me how does having your "own" house build wealth and create legacy? What does that have to do with it? Please explain.
@Kimmminem West well then you just purchase property for the sole purpose of ownership and its equity but you living in that property gives it no value. At this point we will as a family pursue real estate.
@Kimmminem West how many children do you have?
@@ThurstMETV don't forget we are in the western world(assuming we all live in america) every one is pretty much conditioned to believe it's only husband and wife that's it. Monogamous relationships can SOMETIMES cater to insecurities and selfishness. People who only think about themselves i.e.... well I should have my own house she should have her own house oppose to we will build together. All in all western people stay stuck on what they know not knowing our ancestors practiced this lifestyle before they were colonized.
In polygyny the women are NEVER intimate together. What you are doing is POLYAMORY.
The Co-Wives you are absolutely correct but we were just expressing the differences of definitions in poly we were extremely nervous being on that platform thank you for tuning in
Yeah that is gross
Polyamory ...Ok thanks for educating me. 💙💚
@@adorationxofficial What part is gross?
The Co-Wives .... thanks for speaking the truth Sisters, 💯✌🏾.... I didn't think the ladies were sleeping together😪
Wait so she was wit him for two years before the wife even found out 😂😂 this is a joke she settled period
Girl yes.. And the other woman act like she in control and the wife seems off to me..
@Aminah Ridges they were separated. Marriage was about to go into divorce
Right
Being a Thruple is actually my goal. My bf and I have been having this conversation so i'm hoping it will manifest itself. Plus the financial aspect of it is a big plus!
@Kimmminem West you right hopefully not.
So glad I have a trade. I don't have to accept nothing or thing about nothing to help financial. Thank you Lord. Stay safe...
@Kimmminem West Well they're having the conversation so that's a healthy start right there.
@@lillady1770 its not the only reason hence why i said its a big plus. I just want the best of both worlds. We make good money just the two of us but adding a third income is a cherry on top.
@@douse89 Keep having open n honest n realistic conversations before you enter into it. And do it for ALL the RIGHT reasons. And make sure everyone is treated in a fair n honest n open n positive way. Communication...I wish you the best.
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This is one of the best poly conversations I have ever had those woman are very mature.
They are having an "mature" conversation because both women munch each other carpets. Both women are having sex with each other. THAT is the ONLY reason honey.
The women on this post are so livid
@@MrKmyers5 I am stating a fact. Nothing to do with emotions.
@@Southerngirl0828 Not trying to be a dick but I wasn't throwing subliminals, and wasn't talking to u sis
They're mature because they settled for "sharing" a man?...oh ok if that's maturity then I guess I'll be immature forever LoL
He is the only one that looks Happy and the fact he said he wouldn't have done it if the roles were reverse is suspect.
19 years & never cheated, but yet felt comfortable to add a woman to your marriage. NOT BUYING THAT STATEMENT!
23years with my husband we have been through So much and never thought to add the side chick into our home.
Man I get so excited whenever I see people of color who are polyamorous ... but these folk didn’t know wtf they were talking about 😩 I cringed every time dude said “polygamy” 😖
With true polygamy it is the wife who informs the husband she is in need of another wife. The second wife is just as much for the wife, as it is for the husband. THREESOMES ARE NOT POLYGAMY. A DISHONEST FREAK IN MONOGAMY, IS GOING TO BE A DISHONEST FREAK IN POLYGAMY.
Women should have and need their own dwelling. Goals should be established what is NEEDED for the UNIT. This is why women inform the husband, and bond with the woman PRIOR to the man taking her as a wife. The conversation begins with, "Husband, have you considered (name), she is (then you describe the character of the woman, how she will be of value to the unit, and if he will consider her as a wife). You cannot go to a club, come home and say, "hey wife, I GOT married," or, "hey honey, I was at a club, and found another wife." POLYGAMY is initiated by the woman. Great book to read is FACING MOUNT KENYA, the gikuyu people. POLYGAMY must have THE LAW AS A FOUNDATION, OR THIS BECOMES WICKED!!!!!
To each their own.
But NEVER for me.
never say never
FACTS ✨
And you’re a man. That’s surprises me. Wow!
Ur a man I'm shocked
I love it and I fully support there relationship ✊🏾❤️🖤💚✊🏾 I’m also a believer of this. I would love to have a co-wife/sister-wife.
Me too. Except for the women being intimate. That's messed up
@@adorationxofficial you wouldn't want to be intimate with the women also?
@@Naturellona Not at all hun, It's called nation building but thanks for the comment😘
I second this standing ovation✊🏾😍🤴🏿👸🏽👸🏾with respect!
Let's go build a nation together baby girl 😘
Sometimes the wife/girlfriend in a monogamous relationship step out with another woman secretly (most likely a best friend); and introduces the idea of having a triad poly relationship. Also is normally the wife/girlfriend who introduces the idea of trying a swinger lifestyle.
I hate when the poly relationship falls into place after infidelity 😩
If they are splitting the bills 3 ways this a win win
Just listening to them speak makes me nervous, not to talk of trying this shit!...
what????...I can only imagine the torture the children goes through mentally trying to figure out all this craziness!...To think they’re so comfortable taking about it as if it’s normal is choking!!!...End time game is really on!
well it's their life
Ok I think more women should start having multiple men just saying. Although i dont know these people from adam, The man truly seems happier than the ladies. He benefits more than they do so it's really not equal in my opinion. NO shade or judgement i just want a better understanding of this.
TianaDashay exactly ! But a lot of men are selfish and controlling they want they cake and eat it too but have a problem if they woman do the same! It’s a double standard
So you want more women to become thots because he has two women? SMH. If you do more research on polygyny then you’ll see that the women benefit more than the man.
DesiréDontExpire
What man or head of the household doesn’t have control over his house? As the man he is supposed to lead and guide his family through the struggles of life and become better people. He can’t do that if he has no control over his family.
Rapper0919 lol not wat I’m saying at all
You think you gonna be an effective mother in two house holds . How you gon know them men ain stepping out on you so now you gotta worry about multiple cheaters get pregnant who yo baby daddy. That shit don’t make sense . When you young single and have no kids that might be a logical idea. But when you experience more you will realize you won’t benefit from that lifestyle. Every man wants to be dominant and the alpha male. That’s why you don’t see women with multiple husbands. Go try it
It’s so annoying how people say oh the poly lifestyle isn’t for everybody but some how assume the fake monogamous relationship is supposed to be for everybody
I cant do monogamy at all. Majority of people cant do it
Shalon don't seem happy at all.
She's hurting inside its obvious.
Very obvious
She clearly sacrificed her own complete happiness to make it work. She was WILLING to do that overtime with considering it. Of course she's not COMPLETELY comfortable with it, but she has maintained a balanced mindset about it.
People don't demonstrate happiness the same way, furthermore going to a radio station and answer to a famous anchor about your private life can make anybody shy or intimidated. You just see what you want to see. They are happy. And I wish them a long life together !
@Kimmminem West this is an other issue ... Of course she was mad and angry ... But her decision is motivated by the fact that she also loves women 😉😉. She said it herself, she loves women since always.
About polygyny, I think that's the best family system. I myself would love to have two or three wife. I think my family would be so much stronger and I would love them all the same.
Actually impressed with how happy and mature everyone is. His wife is a true queen/ leader.
I am actually for the lifestyle and I think it can be something beautiful BUT the foundation of this particular union seems shaky. As long as everyone is happy.
My boy Alex out here living his best life!
That's who winning...
It's actually fascinating to listen to and learn about the dynamics of such a situation/relationship ..and I ain't gon lie it seems like it'd be kinda fun!
I love their dynamic!! My wife and I live a polyamory lifestyle and it works for us. We love the tribe life.....
Could she have another man
@@andreamcgehee5072 of course not lol
So now I have to share my man with the woman who he stepped out on me with. and I'm supposed to carry a smile on my face because I love my husband and death do us part and we have two kids and oh I don't know anything else but this. tf
No no no, and rather than tear down my confidence this is actually a confidence-booster because now I am comfortable in my skin and with my own sexuality oh and I needed someone else to come into our relationship in order for me to realize that
bs bs bs, oh no. Not tf me
Well dat yo ass
These dudes barely can take care of one family..
@@lillady1770 Because it's not his responsibility to take care of a family him self that work both ways besides women are supposed to be in charge anyway that's why shit don't play out right with this religious mindset because they don't give women the proper position... Shit more ppl more financial help if all y'all willing to put up it's about the mind set it's actually a survival tactic before we got so mono with things... Due to the years of invasion
Women are naturally nurtuers while men is a good representation of protection... I think nurturing is more important led along more than one in a house that's actually intelligent enough and willing is a power house whether y'all like it or not it's ppl who get along just fine like this the ancients had numerous comunities that way. The invaders wanted to offset our bloodline(offspring) so this tactic was seen as very useful but systematically criticize
@@lillady1770 you have been led to believe that in a plural relationship it is the mans sole responsibility to financially take care of everything and everyone. This is not true in fact if he does this he becomes a servant to everyone and they dont serve the family name. Everyone is to contribute and pour in not just him. "Taking care of" consist of so much more.
WAIT 19 years, wth, HOW they ALL look 19.5yrs old... wow just WOW!!!!
Black don't crack 😎
probably had kids young like at 15
Very mature for the three of them to be sooooo transparent......
However this is POLYAMORY not POLYGAMY....
I can't believe people have these shows on various topics and don't know the terminology ..... whatever the subject matter... these hosts gotta do better at doing their homework/research....💥
T Dstar is it poly if they can’t date out? That’s the part that’s confusing for me. All the people that I know who are poly don’t demand exclusivity soooooooo idk. Could it be polypoligamy?
Anything to say you have a man... 🤦🏾♀️ She only accepted this arrangement so he wouldn’t leave her for the mistress. It’s different when the man begins to have feelings which he clearly expressed to her. Her philosophy: Can’t beat them...join them 🤷🏽♀️
I commend the three for sharing their experiences in living a poly lifestyle. Very mature and educational conversation.
Girl in. The blue looks like she just happy to be in the middle of someone else relationship
😂😂😂
You look like you just finished a heavy dinner.
@@kr3539 and you look like a hater who ain't got no life that's why you ain't got no picture so you can talk s*** about people have a good day b****
@@lalajones3242
Truth hurts, it's not too late to fix it. Go get a gym card.
@@lalajones3242
1 in 4 bw end up unmarried, 4/5 bw are overweight or obese, see the connection?
This guy is gettin' away with...SMDH...The women are low maintenance and he still can't afford to take care of them. They are paying for themselves. Such BS
It is their fucking biz. who are you to judge them?
Domestic pimping
What are you talking about? He is affording both of them just fine. They all work. Stop trying to twist shit.
Man he not getting away with anything. If this was societal norms it would never be a problem if people are happy. Like she said most of these dudes and women are living polygamous lifestyles anyway, they just lying to do it.
I would love to know if these girls had cheating fathers, past abusive boyfriends, experienced sexual assault in the past... There is no need to attack me for asking this question. It is just a question that came to mind. They are lovely girls but I wondered about their past.
Cheryl Jackson they can be reached on IG @PortahTriad all love!
@@ChoiceOverDefault Thank you :)
Cheryl Jackson those unfortunate situations you mentioned are something many women in black society have endured.
@@bossplaya5431 Facts. More than likely they have just because of our community struggles... which would indicate there's no simple correlation
Is that the premise for the relationship today?
So let me get this straight ...
1. He cheated on his wife of 19 yrs, 2 children, with his side chick.
2.) The wife didn't want to break up with him. It wasn't an option fot her.
3. The wife always had a thing for women.
4. The husband has always spoken highly of the side chick.
5. The wife initiated theb2 women meeting because she's interested in what he saw in this other woman.
6. Besides both ladies having a relationship with Alex, they both have a relationship with one another.
7. There was jealously, attitude, & whatnot at first, but it's something that had to be worked thru?
This sounds like an unsecure woman signing up for a relationship in order to keep her man & to be able to be with a woman on the side as & when she desires.
This is a free for all relationship amongst 3 ppl. They're attempting to stretch a label on what they're doing, while attempting to make it sound inviting, cool, & appealing as well.
I am happy for them, this could never be me.
You broke this down perfectly but you left off one major point. He's loving this arrangement because he's the one mostly benefiting. Dude had the nerve to say he wouldn't accept another man in the relationship if either of them wanted one. In my grandma's voice, "What's good for the goose is good for the gander."
@@phyllislowe3942 Oh! That's the biggest thing too!!! There can be only 1 king!!! You are so right!!!!
@@phyllislowe3942
how you assumed those 2 women wanted to fuck around with other men? maybe this is really what they wanted and they are both very happy because they are fucking each other!!!
I'll pass!
You probably ugly anyway 🤣😂
@@vending4paul image being this mad at someone because they don't want to share their partner
@@iheshaparnell7006 well if they don't like it then don't watch it
@@josiahademiluyi4677 well they put it out there they'll have to deal with the attention lol
vending4paul Yourself? Probably way more hideous.
There's a disconnect. When you partner isn't feeling fulfilled, they are suppose to let you know that & yal figure out a way to get things back in order. Because something was working at the beginning of the relationship which is why yal made it this far. When ur partner sneakily goes and has sex with another person & you have no knowledge of it, the trust is broken. I don't feel she's smart because of the way she started the polygamy. It was more like "lets keep the family together & bring in another woman. Babe would you be cool with that? Would you be satisfied with only having this one other woman?" All after the fact when trust was broken.
Body language tells me that the wife is closer to the mistress...
Nah it's cause they're sharing mics while the husband has his own, like it's supposed to be.
Why does the wife seem dead inside? She just seems resigned to her fate. Like she’s accepted it because she has no other choice. There’s just so much sadness in her eyes and even her voice reveals her true feelings.
Facts I see it too
If they like it I love it... Can't judge the next
Jessica Pates oh hush up. Lazy cliche
Word I’m with you Jessica
I'm told I'm lucky I've been married for 17 years and my wife allows me to do me. I don't need to hide anything we are actually talking about living this lifestyle.
@Queen Mercy Are you in the lifestyle?
@Queen Mercy it's tough, if your partner is not 💯% it will not work. Emotions run high at first but its the best life. # no selfishness # keep it honest.
@Queen Mercy one last note. Sex is not a relationship. All parties involved play a role. The key is for the other to fill the void it could be domestic,finincial or other wise.
Sharing your partner is living your best life ? yea right
May not be for you but for others it is.....
I wish my family could get a Interview like this one to explain The dynamic and the beginning of my polyamorous family Because a lot of people assume the man is the reason the relationship came together ..... not in EVERY case
He looks like he still cheats
Christina coles definitely
Yoooooo LMAO
Really, what is the look of a cheat and don't him. That is typical stereotyping.
Yep
Thank you. I knew something was off smh
can we talk about how YOUNG they look while having 18 & 16 yo children WOW.. their happiness is radiating !!! 😻
it's also that alkaline plant-based lifestyle, it looks GREAT on us!
I'm for it if he has money. I'm not splitting any bills.
Krystin Grant Enron are for anything if a man has money. Fucking pathetic
Me also, but most niggahs are broke!
Firstno way the sad thing is that, they are willing to stoop lower than their means for money. That’s fucking sad. Both women in this comment sections just admitted to it
Only in America do men want to take multiple wives but aren’t in a financial situation to provide for them. This country doesn’t get it!
So you selfish? That's why most of our women will never be happy in a relationship or marriage. Selfish. Why should he spend any money on you, if you cant return the favor? Smh
The 1st wife maturity created this opportunity that was powerful...I appreciate that openness it can creates such powerful picture and opportunity for wealth and character development in everyone in household.
Even after 10 years of research, it still amazes me how peoples instincts point to happiness and yet they have the world define and guide their future. There are only 3 outcomes to relationships. Did divorce rates go down, stay the same or go up. Obviously the world got it wrong. I hope they stop listening to the world and more to their own hearts. Letting TH-cam define your relationship is part of the world and leads to the same results. Extremely high divorce rates. They made a very! good first step. Just stop turning to the world to structure their life.
Best comment ever....
@Kimmminem West Get over it! He cheated but what needed to surface came out and now they have created a resolution to make it work.
@Kimmminem West Granted it didnt start the way you wouldve liked it but it did come to the light. From that point on they decided to work it out. All everyone does now a days is run run run. All I'm saying sista is that monogamy is an unrealistic expectation. Maybe if you entered into relationships without that expectation and had the talk in the beginning then things would be different
@Kimmminem West Very few far and in between want this nor are they practicing it. It's just an honesty that no one wants to discuss. The man you want and desire is not going to tell you this. It's unfortunate but it's just the reality of things.
Email me: tmecamp@gmail.com
@Kimmminem West A man is by nature polygamous, monogamy and fidelity are unnatural situations propagated by religious belief and social pressures. take those away every man would cheat! its simply biological, now lets look at the extra, its a known fact that women for the most part are more emotional than men so its natural that after a sexual encounter she will be attached but because a man is visual and logically nature, there's no emotion involved, for him its just a physical release that’s got nothing to do with love; a man loves his woman by protecting and providing for her period, its really quite simple. For a man, the physical and emotional are two separate entities.
Me and my wife are polygamist as well and want to practice polygyny. No cheating, nothing involved. I just told her how I felt and she said she felt the same. Unfortunately finding a third person is hard.
The wife looks so miserable. I would never share a boyfriend or husband. I barely want to share my food let alone a spouse. To each it’s own I guess.
That's why your man keep sleeping with other women out there....
How is it miserable if yuh are more financially stable
You’re putting that on her from your own mind. Miserable jealous unhealthily people always project their issues on to other people
Sylvia Rosario I dont think she wanna do this either. She look like she was just went along with this to not loose her husband.
U made me LAUGH....yo food lol 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Ok yea, these seem to be really kind, mature, sensible people. I wish them all the best, and I hope they stay together forever!!
Love it! Great interview ❤ I met Alex right before this interview. Thanks for sharing Alex
To all the people I have read that condemn it saying harsh things about their makeup I can say one thing that I see and feel is that Love and forgiveness allowed her to make a choice that brought this dynamic to fruition. Everyone gets hung up on the man cheesing but, remember this very important fact - If the parties involved are happy then be happy for them but, behind closed doors we don't know their struggles and obstacles they face to do this daily. Also I remember a statement that we have all heard "Keeping up with the Joneses" but the truth is behind closed doors who are the Joneses trying to keep up with or the struggles they endure. Not everything is for everyone so, what's for you is for you and that's that.
I applaud them for taking the time to help educate people about their situation but must understand there's scrutiny on everything one does every day. All that anyone can do is focus on themselves.
I love this lifestyle. Kids always have a family member, there's so much love in Poly.
yes build the village
(Stating my own opinion from experience) It's refreshing to see our people get back into the groove of our ancestors. Studying the knowledge of how our nation as melaninated people have multiplied their seed thru polygyny has gave us such a strong foundation in the family structure. It's refreshing to see our history/culture repeat itself. 2years ago I made the decision to devote myself to the lifestyle & when done righteously I can say so MYSELF IT'S A BEAUTIFUL THING ! 💯
I’m so glad he said it sound like you gave up!. Because soon as I heard her talk, I was like she look so tired! And I think the husband like the sidepiece more!
IF him and his wife had discussed their marriage together BEFORE he cheated and made the decision to bring in another woman they picked TOGETHER....Id be on board with that. What REALLY happened is that he cheated with a younger woman that reminds him of his wife before 19 years of marriage responsibility and 2 children. Essentially he has a young, girlfriend thats on deck 24-7. What will happen IMO is once the young chic has kids with him and starts thinking and behaving as a wife he will be bored and looking for girlfriend #3. His wife is not the issue he is. He needs to grow tf up. Learn to appreciate how his marriage has changed through the years and learn to appreciate his wife's new body from the 2 children he gave her. Love how responsible she has become with age and be thankful she grew into a mature wife and not just a girlfriend.