I love how engaging and attentive they are to each other in the conversation. The eye contact and time to talk they give each other is amazing. I’d enjoy a podcast with them 4.
The biggest take away in these conversations that can be applied in any relationship is complete and open honesty. Being honest with yourself and your partner with what you need! That’s amazing and so underrated. People are just not honest. If people said hey this is what I want, there would be so much less heartbreak!!!
Anytime Joey's in an interview/ video, I'm clicking it. He's highly intuitive. When dating, it's important to be upfront about your wants/needs. I believe a ton of people share the same views, but society restricts us from being able to think that way or express what we want when it's outside of the "norm."
Man oh man, Jidenna read and retained “More Than Two” and she chose her questions so tactfully and informatively. This is hella mature and responsible. 🙏🏼🔥🔥💛
I enjoyed watching this episode, as a monogamous person, I definitely respect people that love themselves and choose the lifestyle that’s best for them.
Wow. This was amazing. As someone who is non-monogamous, it’s great to see other Black folk having this conversation. Let’s me know I’m not alone. ❤️❤️❤️
I've been practicing Poly life for 7years. When I was introduced to the word, I was secretly dating 3men and realized, I have always practiced this. I have 3 partners now and all of my kings are my friends first. I love this lifestyle. I'm glad that I have this freedom. It's not for everyone, but it's a conversation to have.
I love these new series of bumble conversations. Teyana is an amazing host, this is a very interesting conversation. I remember the first time one of my friends spoke to me about polyamory, I was very ignorant about it. Today, after watching this, I can say that it might not be for me but I understand and I appreciate how spiritual and free polyamory is. Thank you for educating us! 🙏🏾
Jidenna 🥺 I absolutely adore and respect this man's mind. His open-minded, maturity, accountability is what I desire in a soul mate. Polygamy has always been interesting to me since I was in my teens watching Big Love. I've just never met a person that I felt was capable of loving me and another person upfront and honest without anyone being hurt or disrespected. I want him happy in all of his fullness, same for me.
Sweetie, NO ONE ON EARTH CAN LOVE YOU AND ANOTHER WOMAN AT THE SAME TIME. They can have sex with both of you but it's impossible for the guy to love you TWO at the same time. POLYGAMY life is not healthy.
Polygamy and Polyamory are two different lifestyles - he is not a polygamist he is polyamorous - polygamy is one man and multiple women who aren’t allowed to date another man! Polyamory is individuals can make the choice to date more than one person and it isn’t always about sex it’s about relationships!
this is truly one of best podcast ever rn. so many thoughtful and genuinely interesting topics that aren’t played out, great minds and even greater conversations
Great convo! I love when people can sit down and talk whether you agree or not. As a coach, I help my clients bounce back after heartbreak and share with them: You are always on the right path when you're no longer betraying yourself.
Whippa was amazing on this! I loved the open, honest, and unashamed space that this was. I'm glad people are finding out which relationship structure works best for them. Great representation for hierarchical polyamory (hopefully it's ethical). And I'm glad it was individual people and not group dynamics.
This really resonated. I totally agree with Jidenna that Polyamory is a noble pursuit - it can expand your consciousness and way of being profoundly... ALSO... In my experience, the ecstasy of loving many is as great as the pain. You can and often will end up with all parties having broken hearts. I still think it is a beautiful philosophy - FREE LOVE. Freedom to be who you are. Unlimited love... But it is not easy.
I love this! Especially connecting once a month during full moon to discuss, recharge, reflect. Full moon represent end of things and its ideal to let go of negative and bad habits during this time. I will be taking this into my next relationship.
As a Bumble user who is currently practicing ENM, this was such a powerful and enlightening conversation, and I appreciate this crew for shedding light on this community and their experiences!
Enlightening interview. I like how open Jidenna was. I'm always interested when a person who goes outside of the box of monogamy, what was their upbringing like, what were their first experiences with intimacy with the opposite sex or same sex.
Our society is open to just about anything at this point and time. I'll be the first to say it -- this generation is all about vices, ease, individualism, and pleasure, and not much more than that. It's kinda sad the future we're setting up for the next generations.
You shoulda seen basically any decade or generation before us lol. Everyone wants to forget the Roman bath houses, the Wild West, opium wars, the roaring 20s, prohibition, mad men era debauchery, the swinging sixties, the free love movement, hyper capitalism in the 80s… it’s convenient for us to blame each new generation for their expressions of self interest, because we think said blame protects our own interests. But it doesn’t. It just reminds us to police one another so that more powerful people don’t have to waste their time policing us.
I agree with you but I also accept what was said in the dialogue.this was a very much needed dialogue. I appreciate this dialogue because it helps me understand what an ethical slut is. Someone told me that's what they were and I didn't even know that was a real thing lmfao 😂 I think it's better to say this is what happens when people become narcissistic...they usually have an anxious/insecure/ avoidant attachment upbringing. Love claustrophobic?! Lol what's wild to me is we come in the world crying, with needs to be held, loved, by one person, our mother. Most of us take time to accept the love from someone that isn't the caretaker or shoot new people we meet as a child. My nephew was very avoidant with me when I tried to give him love even though we saw each other everyday. He was like glue to my mom. Of course It all depends on the family dynamic and how intimate the family is you know. I just think it's strange how many people don't care about wanting to create their own tight knitted family. I think these conversations are just a glimpse of a surface level of greater issues we people of color have in dating. This is the modern way of coping with trauma. Avoiding intimacy and commitment. it's scientifically proven that's it's the long term committments that make people happy, a new degree, a child, the last car payment, the 20 years anniversary. It's so sad that there's no urgency to build a legacy. Hearing more snd more people talk like this makes me think people never had good loving home or sense of tribe. And is true since we have been at the high rate single motherhood. I truly think God made women to be picky for reason. More than the fact that she's worried about her genetic offspring. Imagine, if women did not have birth control nor know about the pullout method, would they still think as liberally as they do about sex. If they did it would be to their own detriment. It's great women have liberation and I appreciate the women's sexual education that came from all of this. But this fluidity and cultural correctiveness is getting on my nerves. Overall my point is to much liberation without grounding will have a child running wild and wanting to try everything. And child without self control in liberal world in the wild is dangerous, its just dangerous if they have nothing to ground them,Principles, sound morals, and longer term goals. sometimes you can't have both cakes you gotta choose one. Life can't always be I can be king you gotta earn that status. Only a select few can do that. People need a reality check. I hope this abortion law will help people see that and maybe make their think more responsibly about casual sex. Even feminist in their 40 and 50s are starting to express their decisions in dating, being controlled but media.did you really think you're physically built to have sex forever. Maybe God made menopause for a reason lol. Everyone wants to maximize options but there's a lot of happiness in sticking to goals, having set needs in place. Too many options is the reason why people never pick the right partner for life. My man loves to says "We got a culture full of broken people trying complete each other ". The women and high value men are all trying to maximize their options. Another of his favorite things to say is " a Select few of men are having sex (most men are lying about their sexual lifestyle) while meanwhile women are all having sex with the same men. The truth is the thing they need is right in front of them. They just keep avoiding intimacy, changing their options, avoiding the healing so they never become satisfied. The gag is they spent so much time collecting other foreign energies for sexual pleasure. They can't figure out where the happiness is because it's someone else's energy they collected in the avoidant healing phrase. Aural energy is real. Idc what anyone says lol. As for the young lady in this video who is like most women, I want to point something out ...One the biggest reoccuring issues men complain about women is women that don't know what they want. In my online dating phase I came across so many profiles of men saying "I wanna date someone who knows what they want lol". How you call yourself a woman when you don't know what you want?! Thats childlike lol. Its frustrating to date someone whos constantly changing their mind about the most important things in life that'll affect their furture. No wonder why this red pill shit is thriving. Men have been done with the games and Women are going to continue to have sex with men they never would even want a kid by but then end up birthing accidentally . I guess that's part of being young but when you look at it statistically how many babies are planned? Point is ladies, it's ok if you dont know if you want cheesecake factory or Thai food. But if youre constsntly changing your desires or expecting unrealistic expectations you're always going to be never satisfied. And, JL don't worry. It's people like this they don't probably have the qualities for motherhood nor fatherhood. They don't know what sacfrice is, they think in terms of hedonism. They're selfish. *Side note, Teyana is rare. she's has what seems a lovely family and a healthy, transparent and beautiful relationship. The threesomes put me off ease but at least for once it's woman expressing (I forgot the word). My only concern is women get easily manipulated into the open relationships. And Jidenns shows men can too. I just hope that people that are preaching about how much they love these relationships that at least their SO is happy about their personal engagement because resentment will eventually follow. * Side note I think teyana is amazing mother and lover, their fam is so cute.I use to aspire her relationship until I found out about the threesome. I Appreciate the insight I just get annoyed when a lover cohoerces their lover into doing something they aren't comfortable with knowing it's against their morals. That's just sick.ig was refreshed to hear that wasn't the case (and I could be completely wrong).
when they describe it, it sounds like dating to me. growing and learning with someone then settling down. it’s like dating as been swapped out for relationship
Right!!! It sounded like people openly wanting their cake and eating it too and not an actual hey I connect with so many different people..let's all be together.
I swear Joey is fine asf. Idk one person can already be a lot, let alone dealing with multiple people, the agreement can always be easily broken with jealousy. But it is better than saying you're monogamous and then go cheat, at least they are being honest about knowing they want to sleep with multiple people. Compersion was a new word for me, that's such an interesting perspective, love definitely has no bounds.
This is so dope. There need to be more open safe spaces like this one. No judgements, everyone speaking those truths and just living how they are comfortable doing so.
I've tried it and it was great for my wife and I. Compatibility between my wife and the woman was not there..... maturity wise. It lasted for a year. Learned a lot about ourselves and it also strengthened me and my wife's relationship. It showed us we are actually soul mates. I'm 33 and very happy and content in my 12 year marriage with my high school sweetheart! If the urge for someone else comes about we can openly discuss it and go from there.
Love the “option to buy” and seeing people of color in the lifestyle! Just makes me feel better and that I’m not alone!!! Thank you for sharing so much and having this segment and bringing more light to polyamory!!
This is not for me but I'm glad that the conversation needed to be had. I'm a new subscriber now love the openess and transparency of this platform. Teyanna is a great interviewer...
I’m definitely trying to incorporate the full moon talks in my next relationship! (Joey voice even sounds good lol 😩) But I know this isn’t for me because I got triggered at her saying she fell in love with someone else lol…this conversation made me feel like maybe instead of shaming monogamy we could just update the definition. 🤷🏾♀️
Non monogamy isn't for everyone. I felt something when she said she fell for another man, BUT I think it's normal and natural to feel for more than one person. I've been polyamorous for years and I think feelings for one partner has nothing to do with feelings for another. I'm wired to love people regardless of any other existing relationships.
No need to follow up 15 years later. They're experiencing love NOW. And no matter what happens LATER, it doesn't cancel out what's going on in the PRESENT.
I’m only 5mins in and I’m amening already, I agree and love everything they’ve said thus far especially being poly myself, having brought this lifestyle to my partners attention etc. People always think a woman is living this lifestyle for the man when in reality she is the one who introduced it and is down with it. On top Jidenna saying jealousy happens.
I really enjoyed this informative and mature conversation. I have been exploring the poly lifestyle for quite some time now. I’m going to read the book to get a more understanding.
This was an effective conversation. I agree that most people are already in pseudo - polyamorous relationships. (The spouse that has a revolving door of cheating, blended families, fwb etc) they’re just different names wrapped in another package, but it’s the same gift. It’s funny how people are so concerned about the health risks, but these same people didn’t ask these questions with their *past and current* partners. *love yourself enough to let go* from when I was young - I never understood why people were so fixated on controlling someone else. Control yourself and that’s it! Ruby Dee and Ossie Davis RIP ❤️💜✨
Yes!!! And yes!!! I don't know how many times I say this!!! We are naturally attracted to others, so I always wondered why people tend to lie to their partners and end up cheating.
@@fedoramcclaren4294 🎯🎯🎯🎯I will also add, but I’ll speak for myself because I don’t know if you’ll agree and I don’t like speaking for other people… When people get upset that their spouse is attracted to someone else…😒it’s so unrealistic to think that ONE person will NEVER look at another person and find them attractive. Or even saying that someone is beautiful and or handsome. There’s nothing wrong with looking! That’s like saying you’ve had 1 outfit your WHOLE ENTIRE LIFE! We’re allowed to look, we’re allowed to and we’re supposed to change.
@@indigoGoddess7 I can't say I disagree with your statement!!! Looking and acting upon are two different things, and honestly, I appreciate when people are honest with their partners. Polyamorous relationships tend to be more honest based on this (in this aspect, I am not speaking on general, honest monogamous unions)...
This was great...you guys should have JettsettingJasmine and KingNoire on to get deeper into this topic of Polyamory...they're DOPE....VERY UNFORMATIVE!
Educated? SEVERELY mentally ill, deranged, perverted, s*tanic individuals telling you about their mental illnesses and lifestyles that are literally killing and destroying them.......and you call and perceive that as EDUCATING you? You're in trouble my dear.
Yall making polygamy too damn complicated... there's 4 major subcategories of polygamy: 1. Polygyny (1 husband, 2+ Wives who are exclusive to the husband) 2. Polyandry (1 Wife, 2+ Husband who are exclusive to wife). 3. Polyamory (Multiple People in a relationship with multiple people) 4. Triad (3 people in an exclusive relationship with each other). ♻️ Every other term Is simply a bunch of new world confusion... with no life-long marriage goal in sight Monogamous Open Relationships are couples who are 99% exclusive... that 1% is simply having permission to be sexually free as a TREAT. This new paradigm we're living in is just adding a bunch of new terms that doesn't cater to MARRAIGE & FAMILY BUILDING.
This is sooo GREAT!!! And really informative!! I wish more Black people could be MORE open and honest with themselves and each other---- in or out of polygamy. This changes lives. Love you Teyana, keep going!!
This was interesting. I know poly relationships aren’t for me, but this is the first time I’ve heard a conversation that explained it in such simplicity that I get it now. Thank you for the great conversations.
I’m glad somebody else said it. And all these new vocab words I’m like..Dealing with other ppl is already hard enough do we need anything else to worry about? 🤦🏾♀️😩
It actually isn't when everyone is honest with each other. It only becomes stressful when you don't trust your partner or you are apprehensive about lifestyles other than what you are accustomed to.
I love how engaging and attentive they are to each other in the conversation. The eye contact and time to talk they give each other is amazing. I’d enjoy a podcast with them 4.
What a disappointment and waste of potential. Smh
Crazy people
Facts!
I completely agree
The biggest take away in these conversations that can be applied in any relationship is complete and open honesty. Being honest with yourself and your partner with what you need! That’s amazing and so underrated. People are just not honest. If people said hey this is what I want, there would be so much less heartbreak!!!
As a healer and licensed therapist, Jidenna is giving yall some FREE couples work.
Big facts
“Love is Claustrophobic, it doesn’t want to be confined” the guest was very well spoken and I learned a lot.
🤣🤣🤣 that was not facts…it was HIS feelings on love. Don’t let someone else’s feelings become your facts luv!
@@quathetruth8314 I’m referring to the bumble guest at the end … luv.
The last guest was just as enlightening. One thing I know Bumble is going to do is have the guests that use their apps be knowledgeable 👏🏿👏🏿!
Aaaaah the bullshit lol
@@quathetruth8314 or maybe that comment resonated with them… weirdo
Anytime Joey's in an interview/ video, I'm clicking it. He's highly intuitive. When dating, it's important to be upfront about your wants/needs. I believe a ton of people share the same views, but society restricts us from being able to think that way or express what we want when it's outside of the "norm."
?? Duh nothing special they all said it tell them early and upfront
Same sis 💪🏾💕💕
Yes!
Yesssss I love him
Cuz its not NORMAL!!!
Man oh man, Jidenna read and retained “More Than Two” and she chose her questions so tactfully and informatively. This is hella mature and responsible. 🙏🏼🔥🔥💛
I have a feeling Man to man and bar of the day shorty gon talk after the show.
Damn and both of them are wearing green in telling ya'll its a bumble match
Teyana is an amazing interviewer! We need these table conversations extended, especially this one!
Raw and authentic
Yeah, this was a good one. All great guest
“We reserve the right to evolve” I loveee that!
Yesssss!
Evolve to stop using common sense.
I enjoyed watching this episode, as a monogamous person, I definitely respect people that love themselves and choose the lifestyle that’s best for them.
Lifestyle Choice
I love how open and easily Jidenna explained the lifestyle. That Joey boyyy…his aura is something else! 🥰
this open conversation is so beautiful. witnessing these 3 ponder each other’s views and personal experiences is so refreshing
Not my relationship preference but i can definitely respect the open conversation and communication which is most important for two consenting adults
Wow. This was amazing. As someone who is non-monogamous, it’s great to see other Black folk having this conversation. Let’s me know I’m not alone. ❤️❤️❤️
You're not alone..at all🙂
Finding other polyam men have been difficult where I live - love seeing that more and more people are being out and open! Blacks and Latinos!
Yes!!! I never realised that there was such a vast array of Black and Latino individuals who support polyamorous relationships!!!
You're not alone.
Does he have Samoan blood? If not, cover that tatt…no repect to Samaon culture.
I've been practicing Poly life for 7years. When I was introduced to the word, I was secretly dating 3men and realized, I have always practiced this. I have 3 partners now and all of my kings are my friends first. I love this lifestyle. I'm glad that I have this freedom. It's not for everyone, but it's a conversation to have.
You are completely out of your mind. And me describing it as that is an extreme understatement.
@@DrMathOfficial how is she out of her mind?
Wonderful!
How do you deal with the sexual safety side?
@@phoenix_jackson we always practice safe sex and we get tested Regularly. Open and honest communication is the key.
Nah that needed to be a full hour ! They had more to say. LOVEEEED this conversation. Excellent job !
I love where they went with this. Everyone spoke so well and clear and got their points across. Its honestly inspiring, I look forward to seeing more!
I love these new series of bumble conversations. Teyana is an amazing host, this is a very interesting conversation. I remember the first time one of my friends spoke to me about polyamory, I was very ignorant about it. Today, after watching this, I can say that it might not be for me but I understand and I appreciate how spiritual and free polyamory is.
Thank you for educating us! 🙏🏾
Jidenna 🥺 I absolutely adore and respect this man's mind. His open-minded, maturity, accountability is what I desire in a soul mate. Polygamy has always been interesting to me since I was in my teens watching Big Love. I've just never met a person that I felt was capable of loving me and another person upfront and honest without anyone being hurt or disrespected. I want him happy in all of his fullness, same for me.
I wish we could meet , and not saying this on no weird tip even though this is the comment section . I have always felt this way .
I loved "Big love" as well and always felt as if I could live that life style.
Sweetie, NO ONE ON EARTH CAN LOVE YOU AND ANOTHER WOMAN AT THE SAME TIME. They can have sex with both of you but it's impossible for the guy to love you TWO at the same time. POLYGAMY life is not healthy.
@@verachambersrfh2574 right, it's only for who it's for , ya feel me ?
Polygamy and Polyamory are two different lifestyles - he is not a polygamist he is polyamorous - polygamy is one man and multiple women who aren’t allowed to date another man!
Polyamory is individuals can make the choice to date more than one person and it isn’t always about sex it’s about relationships!
Joey is fine. Never noticed. His energy is attractive too.
this is truly one of best podcast ever rn. so many thoughtful and genuinely interesting topics that aren’t played out, great minds and even greater conversations
Whippa carried this. I’m not poly by any means but her explanation and story telling changed my perspective. Great convo
word twisting is lying.
Great convo! I love when people can sit down and talk whether you agree or not. As a coach, I help my clients bounce back after heartbreak and share with them: You are always on the right path when you're no longer betraying yourself.
Well said💯
I would love a part 2, I was so drawn to this conversation between all individuals.
Can we get a pt 2 with these guest? I feel like it was shortened. I left wanting more. Great job!
This interview was amazing. I loved hearing everyone’s thoughts and perspectives. I always wish that it was longer 😂.
Same
Whippa was amazing on this! I loved the open, honest, and unashamed space that this was.
I'm glad people are finding out which relationship structure works best for them.
Great representation for hierarchical polyamory (hopefully it's ethical). And I'm glad it was individual people and not group dynamics.
This really resonated. I totally agree with Jidenna that Polyamory is a noble pursuit - it can expand your consciousness and way of being profoundly... ALSO... In my experience, the ecstasy of loving many is as great as the pain. You can and often will end up with all parties having broken hearts. I still think it is a beautiful philosophy - FREE LOVE. Freedom to be who you are. Unlimited love... But it is not easy.
I love this! Especially connecting once a month during full moon to discuss, recharge, reflect. Full moon represent end of things and its ideal to let go of negative and bad habits during this time. I will be taking this into my next relationship.
As a Bumble user who is currently practicing ENM, this was such a powerful and enlightening conversation, and I appreciate this crew for shedding light on this community and their experiences!
Do you have the premium version or just the regular version?
Enlightening interview. I like how open Jidenna was. I'm always interested when a person who goes outside of the box of monogamy, what was their upbringing like, what were their first experiences with intimacy with the opposite sex or same sex.
“We reserve the right to evolve.” That is a word that goes even beyond this convo and well said.
This was actually a lovely conversation! I wasn't' sure what to expect, so I didn't make any assumptions going in. Thanks for sharing.
Our society is open to just about anything at this point and time. I'll be the first to say it -- this generation is all about vices, ease, individualism, and pleasure, and not much more than that. It's kinda sad the future we're setting up for the next generations.
You shoulda seen basically any decade or generation before us lol. Everyone wants to forget the Roman bath houses, the Wild West, opium wars, the roaring 20s, prohibition, mad men era debauchery, the swinging sixties, the free love movement, hyper capitalism in the 80s… it’s convenient for us to blame each new generation for their expressions of self interest, because we think said blame protects our own interests. But it doesn’t. It just reminds us to police one another so that more powerful people don’t have to waste their time policing us.
I AGREE❤
People glamorise sex way too much.
They say it’s not about sex but that’s all it is.
I agree with you but I also accept what was said in the dialogue.this was a very much needed dialogue. I appreciate this dialogue because it helps me understand what an ethical slut is. Someone told me that's what they were and I didn't even know that was a real thing lmfao 😂 I think it's better to say this is what happens when people become narcissistic...they usually have an anxious/insecure/ avoidant attachment upbringing.
Love claustrophobic?! Lol what's wild to me is we come in the world crying, with needs to be held, loved, by one person, our mother. Most of us take time to accept the love from someone that isn't the caretaker or shoot new people we meet as a child. My nephew was very avoidant with me when I tried to give him love even though we saw each other everyday. He was like glue to my mom. Of course It all depends on the family dynamic and how intimate the family is you know.
I just think it's strange how many people don't care about wanting to create their own tight knitted family. I think these conversations are just a glimpse of a surface level of greater issues we people of color have in dating. This is the modern way of coping with trauma. Avoiding intimacy and commitment. it's scientifically proven that's it's the long term committments that make people happy, a new degree, a child, the last car payment, the 20 years anniversary. It's so sad that there's no urgency to build a legacy. Hearing more snd more people talk like this makes me think people never had good loving home or sense of tribe. And is true since we have been at the high rate single motherhood. I truly think God made women to be picky for reason. More than the fact that she's worried about her genetic offspring. Imagine, if women did not have birth control nor know about the pullout method, would they still think as liberally as they do about sex. If they did it would be to their own detriment. It's great women have liberation and I appreciate the women's sexual education that came from all of this. But this fluidity and cultural correctiveness is getting on my nerves. Overall my point is to much liberation without grounding will have a child running wild and wanting to try everything. And child without self control in liberal world in the wild is dangerous, its just dangerous if they have nothing to ground them,Principles, sound morals, and longer term goals. sometimes you can't have both cakes you gotta choose one. Life can't always be I can be king you gotta earn that status. Only a select few can do that. People need a reality check. I hope this abortion law will help people see that and maybe make their think more responsibly about casual sex. Even feminist in their 40 and 50s are starting to express their decisions in dating, being controlled but media.did you really think you're physically built to have sex forever. Maybe God made menopause for a reason lol.
Everyone wants to maximize options but there's a lot of happiness in sticking to goals, having set needs in place. Too many options is the reason why people never pick the right partner for life. My man loves to says "We got a culture full of broken people trying complete each other ". The women and high value men are all trying to maximize their options. Another of his favorite things to say is " a Select few of men are having sex (most men are lying about their sexual lifestyle) while meanwhile women are all having sex with the same men. The truth is the thing they need is right in front of them. They just keep avoiding intimacy, changing their options, avoiding the healing so they never become satisfied. The gag is they spent so much time collecting other foreign energies for sexual pleasure. They can't figure out where the happiness is because it's someone else's energy they collected in the avoidant healing phrase. Aural energy is real. Idc what anyone says lol.
As for the young lady in this video who is like most women, I want to point something out ...One the biggest reoccuring issues men complain about women is women that don't know what they want. In my online dating phase I came across so many profiles of men saying "I wanna date someone who knows what they want lol". How you call yourself a woman when you don't know what you want?! Thats childlike lol. Its frustrating to date someone whos constantly changing their mind about the most important things in life that'll affect their furture. No wonder why this red pill shit is thriving. Men have been done with the games and Women are going to continue to have sex with men they never would even want a kid by but then end up birthing accidentally . I guess that's part of being young but when you look at it statistically how many babies are planned? Point is ladies, it's ok if you dont know if you want cheesecake factory or Thai food. But if youre constsntly changing your desires or expecting unrealistic expectations you're always going to be never satisfied.
And, JL don't worry. It's people like this they don't probably have the qualities for motherhood nor fatherhood. They don't know what sacfrice is, they think in terms of hedonism. They're selfish.
*Side note, Teyana is rare. she's has what seems a lovely family and a healthy, transparent and beautiful relationship. The threesomes put me off ease but at least for once it's woman expressing (I forgot the word). My only concern is women get easily manipulated into the open relationships. And Jidenns shows men can too. I just hope that people that are preaching about how much they love these relationships that at least their SO is happy about their personal engagement because resentment will eventually follow.
* Side note I think teyana is amazing mother and lover, their fam is so cute.I use to aspire her relationship until I found out about the threesome. I Appreciate the insight I just get annoyed when a lover cohoerces their lover into doing something they aren't comfortable with knowing it's against their morals. That's just sick.ig was refreshed to hear that wasn't the case (and I could be completely wrong).
These perspectives are so thought provoking! I think this is my most favorite interview of 2022! Grateful for the insight!
I feel like this needed to be longer
when they describe it, it sounds like dating to me. growing and learning with someone then settling down. it’s like dating as been swapped out for relationship
Right!!! It sounded like people openly wanting their cake and eating it too and not an actual hey I connect with so many different people..let's all be together.
@@lizmarvel6744 if they’re having, that’s all that matters
I swear Joey is fine asf. Idk one person can already be a lot, let alone dealing with multiple people, the agreement can always be easily broken with jealousy. But it is better than saying you're monogamous and then go cheat, at least they are being honest about knowing they want to sleep with multiple people. Compersion was a new word for me, that's such an interesting perspective, love definitely has no bounds.
This was so good. It makes me think of the question… do we really feel we can be in a monogamous relationship forever ever?
This is so dope. There need to be more open safe spaces like this one. No judgements, everyone speaking those truths and just living how they are comfortable doing so.
Glad this discussion is being had in a way that's so open and respectful, and side not Jidenna is soooo fine I could listen to him all day.
I've tried it and it was great for my wife and I. Compatibility between my wife and the woman was not there..... maturity wise. It lasted for a year. Learned a lot about ourselves and it also strengthened me and my wife's relationship. It showed us we are actually soul mates. I'm 33 and very happy and content in my 12 year marriage with my high school sweetheart! If the urge for someone else comes about we can openly discuss it and go from there.
I will say I love the raw communication but that’s it for me
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Love the “option to buy” and seeing people of color in the lifestyle! Just makes me feel better and that I’m not alone!!! Thank you for sharing so much and having this segment and bringing more light to polyamory!!
Absolutely love Teyana! Can’t wait for more episodes 💓
Jidenna is the ish. Love that communication ritual.
This is not for me but I'm glad that the conversation needed to be had. I'm a new subscriber now love the openess and transparency of this platform. Teyanna is a great interviewer...
I’m definitely trying to incorporate the full moon talks in my next relationship! (Joey voice even sounds good lol 😩) But I know this isn’t for me because I got triggered at her saying she fell in love with someone else lol…this conversation made me feel like maybe instead of shaming monogamy we could just update the definition. 🤷🏾♀️
Agreed! I think new age monogamy is suffocating because SM is creating the rules…
Non monogamy isn't for everyone. I felt something when she said she fell for another man, BUT I think it's normal and natural to feel for more than one person.
I've been polyamorous for years and I think feelings for one partner has nothing to do with feelings for another. I'm wired to love people regardless of any other existing relationships.
Everybody at this table is mesmerize by this Queen In Green
I ain’t even realize this was video was sponsored by bumble half way in, it was a genuinely good interview
This conversation helped me soooo much. I wish I could talk to the fellas to pick their brains about this subject. Very helpful 👍🏾
A man is not go tell you how to be a man cause your not. All this is just lusting for someone else. People are not living in order like God says!
This was very interesting and I appreciate all of their honesty and transparency
IT WAS THE EVOLVE AND LEASING WITH THE OPTIONS TO BUY, LOVED THOSE. GLAD I WATCHED DEFINITELY FEEL LIKE I GAINED SOME KNOWLEDGE
Let's follow up with them all 15 years from now. Only time will tell the truth and bring wisdom
No need to follow up 15 years later. They're experiencing love NOW. And no matter what happens LATER, it doesn't cancel out what's going on in the PRESENT.
@@BlackandPoly well said!!!
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The truth doesn't need "time" to reveal itself. Every moment has truth if authenticity is involved, why you need to wait 15 years?
An excellent and necessary discussion... And well done for your selection of people. Pow!
I'm loving this series so far! Can't wait for more episodes
I’m only 5mins in and I’m amening already, I agree and love everything they’ve said thus far especially being poly myself, having brought this lifestyle to my partners attention etc. People always think a woman is living this lifestyle for the man when in reality she is the one who introduced it and is down with it. On top Jidenna saying jealousy happens.
Dope convo. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾No judgement. Do what works for your inner peace and happiness.
I love this podcast. This my first time on here. And i love the honesty and understanding. Thank you.
I love the open adult conversation. Thank you.
Oh I love that! That monthly deliberate open communication sounds like a vibe.
Dope conversation…the space to communicate openly and honestly is very much needed…
I really enjoyed this informative and mature conversation. I have been exploring the poly lifestyle for quite some time now. I’m going to read the book to get a more understanding.
This was amazing very interesting,honest,open and intellectual 💯
“When in a relationship, what’s makes me happy is the feeling of being free!!””” 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥Yasssss
This was very refreshing and evolutionary to watch - I learned quite a bit. Great interview.
That once a month conversation would help tremendously... Bc he is right ppl hide things when there is not a safe space
This was an effective conversation. I agree that most people are already in pseudo - polyamorous relationships. (The spouse that has a revolving door of cheating, blended families, fwb etc) they’re just different names wrapped in another package, but it’s the same gift.
It’s funny how people are so concerned about the health risks, but these same people didn’t ask these questions with their *past and current* partners.
*love yourself enough to let go* from when I was young - I never understood why people were so fixated on controlling someone else. Control yourself and that’s it!
Ruby Dee and Ossie Davis RIP ❤️💜✨
Yes!!! And yes!!!
I don't know how many times I say this!!!
We are naturally attracted to others, so I always wondered why people tend to lie to their partners and end up cheating.
@@fedoramcclaren4294 🎯🎯🎯🎯I will also add, but I’ll speak for myself because I don’t know if you’ll agree and I don’t like speaking for other people…
When people get upset that their spouse is attracted to someone else…😒it’s so unrealistic to think that ONE person will NEVER look at another person and find them attractive. Or even saying that someone is beautiful and or handsome. There’s nothing wrong with looking!
That’s like saying you’ve had 1 outfit your WHOLE ENTIRE LIFE! We’re allowed to look, we’re allowed to and we’re supposed to change.
@@indigoGoddess7 I can't say I disagree with your statement!!!
Looking and acting upon are two different things, and honestly, I appreciate when people are honest with their partners.
Polyamorous relationships tend to be more honest based on this (in this aspect, I am not speaking on general, honest monogamous unions)...
Ok I was so excited when I saw this interview 3 of my favorite people together!!!
Not “oh hey girl” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This was great...you guys should have JettsettingJasmine and KingNoire on to get deeper into this topic of Polyamory...they're DOPE....VERY UNFORMATIVE!
Educational info, the “Poly” lifestyle isn’t for everyone (dang for sure ain’t for me) but I enjoy being educated . ❤️ Per usual T always popping
Educated? SEVERELY mentally ill, deranged, perverted, s*tanic individuals telling you about their mental illnesses and lifestyles that are literally killing and destroying them.......and you call and perceive that as EDUCATING you? You're in trouble my dear.
Now i became educated
Signs of the times. This was a very educational interview. Getting understanding understood
Joey is so fine. He’s naturally attractive without even trying
Soo attractive 🤤🤤
Facts
Right! I just realized this today lol
This was a very dope interview. I enjoy everything about it and learned a lot from it. Keep em coming 🔥🔥🔥🔥
This was so good. Ouuuuu T keep the good good coming!
I’m definitely digging this mobile, kick back of a talk show!
Yooo these conversations are amazing
Whippa vocalized feelings I've never even said out loud. well said and great interview!
I loved every second of this conversation
This is a great conversation and I love how you can tailor your union that works for all parties
Teyana let's her guest talk. Great interview.
Yall making polygamy too damn complicated... there's 4 major subcategories of polygamy:
1. Polygyny (1 husband, 2+ Wives who are exclusive to the husband)
2. Polyandry (1 Wife, 2+ Husband who are exclusive to wife).
3. Polyamory (Multiple People in a relationship with multiple people)
4. Triad (3 people in an exclusive relationship with each other). ♻️
Every other term Is simply a bunch of new world confusion... with no life-long marriage goal in sight
Monogamous Open Relationships are couples who are 99% exclusive... that 1% is simply having permission to be sexually free as a TREAT.
This new paradigm we're living in is just adding a bunch of new terms that doesn't cater to MARRAIGE & FAMILY BUILDING.
Very insightful and brilliant conversation. Thanks ya'll.
Joey is fascinated by her. 😍
There's a good number of non-English podcasts on this stuff, but great to hear proper conversation on these topics in English
Teyanaaaa!!! First episode I catch and I just subscribed your conversation with Jidenna was so elevated. ❤️🔥🌹🌹🌹
hey👋how are you doing?
This is sooo GREAT!!! And really informative!! I wish more Black people could be MORE open and honest with themselves and each other---- in or out of polygamy. This changes lives. Love you Teyana, keep going!!
I love the monthly check in Jidenna talked about 😩
Amazing conversation 😍
Jidennnnaaa sending love from Nigeria 🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬💕💕💕
This was an amazing episode. I loved everything that all 4 of you had to say. Now I’m following everybody lol
I’m following you
This was interesting. I know poly relationships aren’t for me, but this is the first time I’ve heard a conversation that explained it in such simplicity that I get it now. Thank you for the great conversations.
The convo is sooo deep ; you know Issa safe space .😊
I LOVE THIS DISCUSSION OMG
23:46 had me DEAD!!! Teyana’s eyebrows went down lol I can’t stop laughing at it lol.
It all sounds so stressful.
I’m glad somebody else said it. And all these new vocab words I’m like..Dealing with other ppl is already hard enough do we need anything else to worry about? 🤦🏾♀️😩
It actually isn't when everyone is honest with each other. It only becomes stressful when you don't trust your partner or you are apprehensive about lifestyles other than what you are accustomed to.
Good conversation! Never did either but I like the information and how it was explained ❤
Beautiful people. Don't necessarily agree with all of it but love to see black people having amazing conversations.
I absolutely love this conversation! So much insight! I feel like whatever your preference is, everyone can learn from this conversation
I see you Tee! Thank you for the content. Informative!