Hi! I normally don't really comment, but I wanted to say that I really enjoy your show! I think you are a great spot to come to when starting to explore poly, so will definitely share your show with friends :) Love seeing more visible black love in the polyamorous community, so much of the space is occupied by white people. Love from Amsterdam
Oh my god! I have an anecdote regarding veto power. I was briefly dating a girl that turned out to be in a hierarchical polyamorous relationship. I had veto power invoked against me. This girl and I were planning on trying a different form of intimacy. Her partner said NO because he didn't like the way that it made him feel. HARD NO. DEAL BREAKER. I don't ever want a third person exercising authority over my relationship. That is a gross usurpation of power, especially if motivated by jealousy, as was the case in this anecdote. Having another man exercise authority in the form of veto power over my relationship (or potential relationship) with a girl is highly patriarchal, overbearing, and multiple layers of problematic. SMASH THE PATRIARCHY!!!
It's unfortunate but to be in that construct she wud have adhered to their agreed upon rules.sorry it didn't work out, but things to be mindful in relationships you pursue going forward in the early stages
Hi!
I normally don't really comment, but I wanted to say that I really enjoy your show! I think you are a great spot to come to when starting to explore poly, so will definitely share your show with friends :)
Love seeing more visible black love in the polyamorous community, so much of the space is occupied by white people.
Love from Amsterdam
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Oh my god! I have an anecdote regarding veto power.
I was briefly dating a girl that turned out to be in a hierarchical polyamorous relationship.
I had veto power invoked against me.
This girl and I were planning on trying a different form of intimacy.
Her partner said NO because he didn't like the way that it made him feel.
HARD NO. DEAL BREAKER.
I don't ever want a third person exercising authority over my relationship. That is a gross usurpation of power, especially if motivated by jealousy, as was the case in this anecdote. Having another man exercise authority in the form of veto power over my relationship (or potential relationship) with a girl is highly patriarchal, overbearing, and multiple layers of problematic. SMASH THE PATRIARCHY!!!
It's unfortunate but to be in that construct she wud have adhered to their agreed upon rules.sorry it didn't work out, but things to be mindful in relationships you pursue going forward in the early stages