This is What It's Really Like to Have ADHD
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- My recent TED Talk got picked up on Facebook and renamed "This is is what it's really like to have ADHD," but that was just my story. ADHD isn't just one story - it's the stories of thousands of people around the world. It's the stories of children, of college students, of adult adhd. It's more than their symptoms: it's the story of their struggles and their successes.
These are some of those stories.
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i love the one that says “while i’m starring off into space while you’re talking, it doesn’t mean i’m not listening it just means you triggered a really awesome thought that my impulsive brain has to chase” this explains me so well
This was huge for me in college, I studied philosophy and this would happen dozens of times a lecture, and I'd be overwhelmed by how excited I was to be making connections between things I learned and generating interesting things I wanted to research and stuff. Idk if I'll ever go back to school but I miss that feeling and I miss being surrounded by people who also felt that.
Totally !
I showed this vid and especially that reaction to my best friends and they are open to learn about it im rlly gracious about that
I love this so much and it really resonates with me... I now have to watch the video again to actually hear and see the person who said this because I did not catch this while watching hahaha
Yes, I can relate even though I’ve never been diagnosed with ADHD. I fit the category though.
"It's not an excuse. It's an explanation"
This was spot on.
This was my favorite
It literally takes me HOURS to complete 1 homework assignment that would take other people 20 minutes. I get straight As, but that comes at the expense of feeling slow and rotten. I get stuck In an endless scroll on social media and procrastinate beyond belief which makes it even worse
Brooooo, I’m the same way, and end up getting mad at myself for my failure
Sameee I usually just end up winging tests even tho I’ve been there hours trying to study
same here, i had a 4.0 gpa until they started grading homework. i can still ace most tests but it takes me forever to do homework assignments that would take most less than 20 mins
Dude me too. I’ve been recently diagnosed and it feels really good to see there’s people who feel and go through exactly the same things I went through. I literally thought it was normal and didn’t understand how people could just so easily do stuff like that ! Then you start feeling super inadequate about yourself and when you talk to someone they just think you’re depressed.
I was never really affected by it until I started distance learning and the only thing holding me accountable was a calendar that listed my assignments. That's exactly what it's like for me now. It has always confused me how people have time for anything other than homework outside of school.
"I'm at least as frustrated as you, and probably more."
So helpful to hear as a parent ❤️
Trust we are trying and we care a lot even tho it doesnt look that way. I wish my mom would understand that but at least u do. I'm really happy u are doing ur research and understanding
@@aleshafierce8898 As a mom with ADHD and who has a child with ADHD, seeing him struggle and become angry with himself is partially what brought us to seek help. It bothers him equally or even more than us, and he struggles with anxiety/fear/anger as a result. I wish more parents would notice the toll it takes. You’ll get through this! Keep asking your family to be open!
“It’s an explanation, not an excuse” is what I’ve been telling my husband for months. Thank you so much for validating that statement for me. Thank you brave souls that had the ability to film and send in their story. It’s like you guys have been with me all the time. So nice to be in a sea full of fish.
Awww I really like your sea full of fish metaphor. :) (And I hope that your husband can come to understand you better.
Glitter Pig I've been telling my parents and counslers That for years but my dad claims he has ADHD but has no formal dignoses and claims that I'm not trying and it's easy but I've heard these things so much and I'm only thirteen I've been threw so many counselors/theripists it's not funny but most people that don't have ADHD don't get it and such sry for the really long maybe random comment (it happens alot I ramble on a bt) welp byeee
Kimberly Ellsworth oh well, hey I ramble too! So hiiii!! Also: I hate therapists, dime a dozen. Keep ur chin up girl, you got this. I hate to say it but I still hear the “it’s easy, what’s ur problem” comments and I’ve had to really learn to rely on myself. You know yourself better than anyone, don’t doubt it and don’t forget it.
It's my favorite statement on ADHD, which is why I said it :)
Scot Melville SCOT! THANK YOU! I can’t adequately express it, but you provided a big “eureka!” moment for me. And “it is okay”, and MAN that feels good. High five, and big hug to you: a superb brain! Thank you so much for sharing your strength.
I love when the mother spoke about her ADHD right before her son, and her son was already looking off camera distracted.
Like Mother like Son, I'm so glad they have each other for support and guidance.
The trampoline comment was wonderfully descriptive and spot on for how I feel much of the time!
It reminded me of the way people look at me confused when I say something so random
Yes, I thought that was spot on, too! Very well put...
Or like that scene when Homer Simpson has a ball bouncing in his head and eventually bouncing out of his brain!! Lol
I disagree but probly cus I have a different type
It was the most eloquent way I've ever heard my brain described.
This made me tear up. I feel like this. I'm finally getting tested at age 32. I've lost a decade of my life to this. I can't wait to get treatment.
have you started treatment yet? how's life going for you three years on?
Update?
Thanks for being honest with your story regarding ADHD! I'm in a similar boat now and am curious how things have gone for you. Do you have any insights you can share? (No pressure though, up to you!)
Dont take the meds
One thing I find we don't talk much about is the anxiety and depression and even suicidal thoughts that go along with having ADHD. I'm living it right now and Was recently in the hospital because I tried to overdose. The feeling of being a failure leads to feelings of worthlessness. Hearing things like you don't care and try harder just push us closer to feeling more and more like a failure. Please let's talk more on the topic of ADHD and suicide and depression. Never be afraid to tell someone how you really feel. Suicide can be a scary thing to talk about. I know for me I was worried I'd be locked away. In fact it was the complete opposite. The amount of people that want to help is amazing. So please talk up.
First of all I'm happy that you're here and that you're doing much better and talking about this because it is a very important topic. You're right about not many people talking about the anxiety and depression that are present. Also the fact that sometimes it's the other way round and the adhd is undiagnosed because the other two are more evident. I've also experienced moments where I felt worthless because of constant failures at university. What helped me a lot was understanding that these failures in particular were not all I was, that I had a lot of other good qualities and I had a lot of successes as well that i'd forgotten. Also understanding that these were beliefs, and that beliefs are thoughts that we repeat and understanding that helps a lot. There are times where I go back to feeling bad but knowing these things help, oh and meditation! I don't do it as often but from time to time is helps! hope you're doing well!!
I had no idea the feeling of worthlessness was a part of my adhd. I’ve also struggled with so many suicidal thoughts but my anxiety stops me from acting on them. I love this comment and what it represents. I am also really glad you’re ok and that you’re still here to share your story with those who will best understand :)
I never rlly heard someone talk about this but I struggle with it too.
I hope you're doing well now :).
Hey thanks for sharing this. My worst depression and the 'start' of my anxiety came when I was in a relationship with someone who would shout "TRY HARDER!" when I couldn't 'fix' our problems or console her, and would not just interpret it but also impose upon me the explanation that I just don't care. I've often thought about that aspect of our relation later, whenever thinking about how 'maybe' my prolonged depression related to that time. Reading your comment really helped. I think I've always been hesitant to pinpoint that connection: it really pushed me to feeling like a failure, and literally as I'm writing this now I realize I've maybe misattributed other reasons for why I still struggle so much with feeling like a failure. It's been a few years, but I guess that's the nice aspect to the internet: sharing sincere thoughts on personal experiences really can help others, for as long as people can see it. Thanks! Wishing you the best!
Nobody realised the trauma of constantly being a square peg in a world of round holes.
I am glad you are still with us Internet stranger. 🎉
I just want to say to all the people with ADHD. Stay strong and I know how it feels like being judged ever since I was young. Your are not alone. As a person with ADD/ADHD. I turned my ADD as an advantage since our brains process faster than a normal person. I realized and Turned This Weakness Before As My Biggest Advantage Now.. Stay Strong Guys Because YOU ARE STRONG.
That was very much needed, thank you! I worked with this lady in a youth program and she gave me a task to complete. She didn't give me an exact date to get it done by and ended up getting frustrated with me that I procrastinated it for so long. To this day whenever I see her or pass her by, I can barely get her to acknowledge me 😅.
To some degree I can understand though, she liked to get things done early and I mean EARLY early. So I can see where her frustration came from. She doesn't know I have ADHD but I'm not sure she'd understand what that meant even if she knew I had it.
This is what it's really like to have ADHD. I fully intended to do something for this video, and forgot...
+Eric Kotval lol same --everyone in the comments
Completely understandable
same Eric
Me too it pissed me so much of cuz I remembered it one day after the finish line....
SAME
I want to thank whoever wrote the subtitles in Portuguese, the translation is very accurate. I'm not Brazilian, but my mom is so she can get to read what everyone says since she doesn't speak English at all.
I was diagnosed with ADHD in 1999 and my parents have hidden it from me for 22 years until June 6th when I confronted them for all the abuse they've done to me for over 20 years. When they revealed I was diagnosed with it 22 years ago it felt like a brick hitting my head and now I'm taking antidepressants.
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what jerks for hiding your own disease from you
hope you feel better i was diagnosed just 3 years ago adhd sucks
@@writhe3-pv5kd Condition, not disease, but yes. People have the right to know what's actually going on in their own brain and body, so they can make informed decisions about what to do, and have a good idea of why certain things might be harder for them than for more typical brains.
Why did they hide it? How did you know?
I’m in tears. I love all of you brains. We can do so much. We aren’t broken, we’re simply made differently. Our struggles are real but so are our strengths. We are stronger than people give us credit for.
I did too.
Me too.
A ton of my friends see me as the girl who's good at everything and their "smartest friend", but they don't realize what's actually going on. The reason I'm good at so many things is that when I'm interested in something, I'll pursue it. All of the things I'm not interested in, I really, really struggle with. When I really want to do something, I'll try until I get it, and usually, I don't have to try too many times. But if it's something that I'm not interested in at all, it takes me so much longer to understand it. The thing is, that the things I'm good at, such as writing and music, are outward things that the people around me see. But things that are harder for me, such as math, aren't really things that I show the world, so they don't realize the way I struggle with them. This video really helped me see that I'm not alone and that I don't need to judge myself for struggling with something more than other people do.
Same here. Can't learn things I'm not really interested in. So I was bad in school, I was only good in german (I'm german) and philosophy. I studied both at college. And now I have a very good Master of Arts.
I work as a freelancer now and I can work with the topics I'm very interested in. Working at home and being my own boss is the only thing that works for me.
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Omg I'm in the video! Everyone's videos were so recognisable I literally started crying
Whoa
Hang in there sweetie! You're GREAT!
YessicavdV same
YessicavdV you’re not alone!
Stay out of my head........no wait! Come back......look a red balloon.....wait what? Great video. I am in it also, sympathetically. 😀 Sympathetic is the wrong word. I'm in there spiritually.
KATRINA HAUER OMG I can relate to you!!! Thanks
I'm crying because I know they're pain. I've fought this war my whole life. I'm a 61 year old guy and I've missed out on so much in my life because of adhd. I'm in counseling now, finally, and I have hope. Everyone out there with adhd and autism, I LOVE YOU!
Same here! Finally diagnosed at 66. Looking back, I can actually give my younger self forgiveness for innumerable foolish blurts and social blunders. I just didn’t know how to socialize like regular kids.
I'm a mother with ADHD too with 2 girls with extreme 2 girls with a
2 girls with ADHD. If I can find hopw ap can you. Good luck 👍🏿
Jessica, I'm 61 years old and have known I am ADHD for over 25 years now and have done nothing about it. Watching your TED talk, and now following you here and on Facebook has made me realize ALL the impacts it has had on my life. There is nothing I can do to recreate the past, but I have finally decided to do something about it. Depression has been a huge issue lately, as I look back at the wreckage of my life. BUT you have given me hope that what is left of my life can be better. So wow, thank you Jessica, I don't think it is that much of a stretch to say, you may have saved my life.
+Javaman92 this comment moved me so much I'm sharing it with everyone on the team. Thank you for sharing your experience. ♥️♥️♥️ I'm excited to see where your new journey takes you!
:-D Well, shucks. lol I see this as encouragement to not give up before I start. It's all to easy to think that its too late and change isn't worth the bother. BUT, I will try to keep you in the loop. I seem to recall seeing an email of yours on one of the videos of yours I have been watching in the last few hours. :-)
Thank you for caring. It means a lot.
This makes me cry in the best way. Never forget how awesome you are just being you.
Javaman92 your comment has helped me out. Thanks Java.
Oh... I'm so sorry to hear how your life has been. But there is ALWAYS a light at the end of the tunnel!! You've done so magnificently well to cope with this alone your whole life, and hey, there's more life to have and enjoy!! So pleased you're taking a positive step.
I could not hold my tears back listening to everyone. The struggles are real. I am not lazy or crazy. I hope more people understood this.
Thank you to everyone who contributed, it was impossibly difficult to choose and there were SO many wonderful videos that we didn't get to include (tried to keep it short & shareable). I can't tell you how proud I am of this incredible community
Thanks again Jessica & Edward for arranging this, glad I got to help on both the video and the website :)
Thank you BOTH so much for doing this.
Do you need any help with research? ( I hyperfocus on researching adhd and other mental differences aka illness but I like differences better
How to ADHD thank you so much for making it short. Watched this with my son. We are both brains but work different (I'm inattentive he's hyperactive) he struggled to watch but i held (read hugged him) and yes i started crying. I hope he understands someday.
check out the pateron and volunteering area inside there
''Whenever you think I intentionally tried to hurt you; I didn't. I probably just screwed up'' - This made me cry so hard .
just because i dont look like im trying as hard as anyone else doesnt mean im not trying as hard!!! im probably trying harder than everyone else!!!!
there's this quote from sherlock holmes
"i see everything, that is my curse, but not see what I'm looking for"
the moment i heard that words, i started to treat my tendency to over analyse everything not as a curse but a gift of me being able to see so many things even though its overwhelming. i feels like being able to practice controlling rhose thought can be a powerful tool for me. nowadays it helps me a lot but when i get tired things can be overwhelming
I just wanted you to know that I burst into tears while watching this. This channel has done more for me, helping me understand and accept myself, than anything else in my life. Thank you for everything you've struggled with in your life that brought you here. You make a difference. And it means the world to me.
same
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This made me cry. I'm 37. I haven't been officially diagnosed, but two therapists have told me I should get evaluated by a psychiatrist and consider medication to help me focus and be more productive. I was introverted and not hyperactive physically, but my brain has ALWAYS been on 10! The little girl who explained the millions of trampolines in your brain is the one who sent me to tears, because that's how I feel and it's so hard to explain to someone who does not get it! It's hard for people to understand why I buy soap on a regular basis, but will still stand in the soap isle trying to make a pros and cons list in my brain of which soap to buy, but I can't remember the pros and cons I put on the mental list, so I'm standing in the isle for 30 minutes trying to buy a staple household item like soap. I noticed there were no black people in this video. I DO NOT believe it's because the creator was discriminating. I believe it's because little to no black people responded to this call because having ANY mental or cognitive disorder, let alone one that can so easily be explained away as laziness or simply not caring enough, is even MORE heavily stigmatized in the black community. Imagine me, being smart and in my 30's telling my peers I KNOW I have ADHD. Suddenly every body is a researcher and the subject is changed after a simple brush off like, "Oh, you're just stressed. You need to get more organized and you'll be able to think more clearly." GIRL!!! I can't get organized because I CAN"T THINK CLEARLY! Anyway. I watch these videos a lot to give me confirmation of what I already know. Now I feel like I'm using it as justification for being so completely unproductive. But it's not helping. I feel like a bad parent, and getting older, despite what I have heard some researchers say, does not make it better. In fact, I'm getting worse. All those words to say that I am going to contact a psychiatrist. I'm not going to go over a list of 90 therapists and try to systematically decide who will be the best one. I'm not going to be afraid of the first one maybe not being a good fit for me, and allowing that thought to deter me from seeking help. That's that stupid perfectionism that keeps me from doing ANYTHING done. I appreciate these videos from a normal person who is working through their struggle everyday and being transparent about it. Thank you.
My mother sent me this, and I'm so glad she did. I was diagnosed with ADHD a couple months ago, and I've experienced the symptoms my whole life. I've been told for years by teachers and even my parents that I was just making excuses, or not trying. But now, after the many evaluations I've had to sit through, my parents finally understand me a bit better, and they're super supportive. My teachers are a little better this year than past years, and I finally feel like someone's listening to me, instead of just judging for themselves. This channel is also amazing, I just watched so many of your videos, and they're so helpful, and I feel way less alone. Thank you.
+Stella Bellz aww hi Stella! Welcome to the tribe!! 💕
Realizing how much of my frustration and hatred in my whole life has been caused by this, and how it went personally unnoticed or ignored because of judgement or ridicule from the closest people in my life, as just "being whiney and lazy", has honestly brought me to tears more than once. Realizing how much this has affected my life is insane. I can't believe how bad I've had ADHD this whole time.
Edit: And yes, I'm writing this because I have ten bazillion things to do and am late to work--I'M GOING!
I shown this to my therapist and cried at how on point this was for me. I will be sharing this with so many people.
Same. The problem with ADHD is it makes explaining ADHD difficult.
"It's not an excuse, it's an explanation." Life changing sentence for me. It was so hard for me to explain my symptoms to ppl without feeling like I was trying to make up excuses.
It's so good to hear other people say they deal with the same war in their head that I fight every day; it's really good for people who actually have ADHD, especially children, to know that they aren't alone in the way that they think and feel. Excellent video as always!
Grown man with 20 years in the Army....my eyes are watering watching this. Great to not be alone.
I didn’t get a chance to make a submission, but man does Katie’s input resonate with me. I pull off good grades, I look like a model student (usually), but I still struggle! Just because you can’t see anything different externally doesn’t mean there isn’t a constant internal war with myself to manage to do all that. Please don’t dismiss my struggles just because they’re not immediately obvious!
THIS VIDEO IS SO IMPORTANT. Thank you Jessica for putting it together!
Exactly. My dr said I might have adhd but since I've made it 33 years it must not be bad. 😑 but since I'm taking college classes now he's willing to prescribe meds.
It's not an excuse, it's an explanation resonated in me so much. It's something I have tried to explain my whole life and like on 3 people get it.
same
Wow there are people who are just like me. It's so nice to know I'm not alone.
I have Adhd as well so you’re are definitely not alone
That literally moved me to tears. I am in my forties, diagnosed recently and I am still in the process of discovering, what having an ADHD brain means for my life. The feeling that I am not a lone freak who doesn't get it right is still new and I really appreciate feeling this. Thank you.
My ADHD affects the world around me, and when I find I can't do things as easily or effectively as others, it makes me feel near worthless in a family of people who know how to get things done. That in and of itself gives me a bout of depression every now and then, until my mind jumps to a different subject.
Yes Katie... I'm the same way. I was diagnosed today with ADHD, at 21 years old. I'm a college student, I have great grades, I'm not a troublemaker, but that doesn't mean I can't have ADHD.
After getting diagnosed today, this was just what I needed to see. Thank you.
I'm Korean so I can't speak or read English well, but I feel really thankful about your channel and your videos! Of course I have ADD too. Since I know that I have ADHD, I tried many things to overcome this but I had many difficulties to find informations and tactics about this...The qualities and concepts of your video are so surprising. Sometimes It's little hard to translate your videos into Korean since there's no subtitles, Today, I feel so nice to see subtitles! Once again, I got so many helps from your videos. THANK YOU SO MUCH! I hope many people know about ADHD properly (*Oㅂ^ )_V 감사합니다!!
You write English much better than most native speakers!
전도훈 Your English is near perfect! Spelling & punctuation is better than a lot of people I know & I'm in the UK 🇬🇧
I agree, your written English is quite good! 🙂
전도훈 한국에서는 성인 ADHD나 부주의형 ADHD가 별로 안알려져서 병원에서도 제대로 진단받기 어려운게 현실인데 이런거보면 엄청 도움도되고 나랑 비슷하구나 하고 공감도 되는거같아요! 우리나라서도 많이 알려졌음 좋겠네요 ㅠㅠ 전세계 환우님들 화이팅
전도훈 not bad English you can type English well I'm sure you can. Speak it well to but I never hear you but don't worry if you keep trying you will get it
It's so amazing to see others like me who struggle with the same thing on a daily basis. It really encourages me to keep pushing forward in life. Thanks you guys :)
I had a hard time keeping it together while watching this video.. The looks on all your faces and the way I could hear and FEEL the struggle in your voices as you spoke about your own ADHD was powerful. I just finished trying to explain to someone very close to me about the struggle in my own brain (the struggle of sitting down to work on something I KNOW is important, mind wandering during talks, being overwhelmed by my environment, etc.) and it wasn't until I broke down in tears that they began to believe me and tried to better understand how hard people with ADHD have to try keep up with a neuro-typical society. I'm definitely going to share this with them... Thanks to everyone who shared, and thanks for helping the tribe
THIS VIDEO HAD ME IN TEARS!!! I’ve related to EVERYTHING that was said.
I am in tears. My adult daughter was recently diagnosed. Such a well behaved smart girl that was mostly compliant growing up...I never knew... :(
+KeepLearning you're not alone
The worst is being called lazy. I promise you, as someone waiting for help with severe ADHD, it’s not for a lack of trying. We do try. We try very hard and it’s debilitating at times.
I never knew why I was so exhausted. My brain works double time, and it's draining. (diagnosed at 57 - explained a lot of my life and struggles. Never could put my finger on why everything seemed so much simpler/easier/faster for everyone else...)
@@lisamh9037 there’s a thing called adhd burnout. Not sure if you’ve heard of this phrase. I experience this daily. Just pure exhaustion with enough strength to climb into bed. It’s so frustrating. Really feel you on the last bit of your comment. It always seems easier for other people and twice as hard for those with ADHD…
This is EXACTLY how it feels… I’ve lived with this for years and it’s not an easy thing to live with, now matter what your age or how long you think you’ve had it.
This made me cry. I relate to every one of your videos so much, and everything that everyone said here. I haven't been diagnosed yet, but the more of your videos I watch, the more I think i have ADHD, and this gave me hope and reminded me I'm not the only one going through this. Thank you everyone who helped to make this video!
I wanted to hand something in, but I couldn't decide on what to say and then the deadline was suddenly over. But thanks to all who joined, you really speak out some truths.
+KiraFriede I'm sure we'll be doing videos like this again! I want to use this channel as a voice for us all
How to ADHD YAY!
why did this make me cry? I've felt so much invalidation my entire life, and this video makes me feel normal
this actually made me cry... ive been following this channel for a while now and this really is the best resource i have for evolving with my adhd, im so deeply grateful for this, thank you
This made me cry too.
Grateful that it's 2021 and there are more POC recognizing they have ADHD thanks to this channel
One way I can describe how it feels is my ADD brain is kind of like a starving person. If you're well fed you have the ability to plan ahead and make a nice healthy meal, but if you're starving you will eat whatever is fastest. When your neurotypical brain makes plenty of dopamine you can plan ahead and focus on behaviors that are more rewarding in the long run (ie: studying, doing laundry, etc). If your brain is constantly starving for those reward chemicals, your focus will rush right to the quickest, easiest form of stimulation. This will either cause a constant shifting of attention, or overindulgence on the most interesting thing at hand. So basically I'm not lazy or careless, my brain is just starving. Can you make a video about that comparison? I'd love an easy way to share that thought with the world. :)
Wow, less than a minute in and I burst into tears… I do not usually react to things that way either.
Yeah... I thought about making a video for this but got distracted and then figured out a million reasons why I shouldn't/couldn't do it. Fantastic video though :)
Mikko Saarinen we need to keep trying to put the messages out no matter what. Speaking your mind and using your mouth as a peaceful weapon, can achieve great things. And just like us.. it takes us a little longer to get to the party, but we come in hard ;) Much Peace and love to you all. Goodnight.
Same
This video hits hard. I just got officially diagnosed as an adult, and prescribed medication. I cannot believe the difference! I didn’t realize how actually debilitating ADHD can be.
Thank you. Thank you thank you thank you. My video was only showed as a square at the end, but hearing that there are others who have the same struggles as me makes me feel much better about myself. I feel less alone in the world now. Thank you.
I just wanted to say thank you for this video and for this channel. I'm 33 and not diagnosed with ADHD, but the more I see and read, the more I'm convinced. I've been watching a lot of your videos over the last couple of days (yay, exciting new thing that's taking my attention), and not only have I seen a lot of generally interesting information in a very fun format, I have already found several strategies that I am totally going to try.
Anyway the reason I wanted to comment on this video specifically is that it just made me cry. There was this overwhelming combination of feeling a shared experience, feeling empathy for the struggles of the people in the videos, and it also came at the end of a day with a lot of frustration. Thankyou to everyone who was a part of this video, and thankyou for the channel.
Thank you, to everyone who helped. This is helping me to understand my daughter in a whole new way.
I'm 46 and going to start the process to get tested for ADHD as I'm bursting with excitement to get the label. Hope that's not wierd. You guys are amazing and I always thought I was the only genius on the planet. I can't believe there are millions of me out there . You have no idea how good this makes me feel 💕❤️
Well, hon, once you get the truth, you can move forward and learn how to cope with this “sort-of superpower!” I mean, I have loads of energy for an old lady, but I don’t always use it logically. But the energy is always there! Super power!
@@FightingForFacts7074 Oh Yes I got it 😂. I've been taking it out into the real world for the odd joyride and understanding how it works within me. The time is coming to bring it to the track and show the world what neuro divergents are made of. Big Love 💕, my friend.
Every single person in this video is bright and articulate, I wish more people saw this. ❤️ I have ADHD and I wish people realised that ADHD isn’t synonymous with low intelligence.
I am doing a presentation to my Rotary Club on ADHD and plan to show this video. It sums up so much. Thank you for this!
I am 37 Years old and was diagnosed with ADHD two days ago. And I'm kind of relieved, because I wanted to be tested since 15 Years and always procrastinated it, cause of the difficulties to find someone, who makes such tests with adults.
whenever you think I tried to hurt you, I didn't. I probably just screwed up....this one hits the most right now
This video made me cry, I was born with ADD while my brother older had ADHD. When I was a child many kids used to made fun of me because of my hyperactivity, it was a struggle to calm down and as I got older, I hid my struggles from my friends since some of them made fun of people who have ADHD or ADD. As now as a college student, I do somewhat hide my struggles and get frustrated quickly especially when it comes to doing homework or trying to get into a social life. This video made me feel safe and happy that I'm not the only one who struggles to have ADD or ADHD.
The last kid, when he said "I'm smart but ADHD hides my capabilities" I felt tears rolling down...because everyday for me does not go by where I don't question my intelligence and why I exhibit bad on the things I am good at. On why I love a subject so much but I can't do it well in exams....it's just difficult. I'm in med school and it's so so difficult when the entire world around me works 24/7 towards a goal while I am just stuck in a different world of thoughts
"I am probably more pissed of at myself than you are at me ..." yup that covers everything.
My late sisters son was diagnosed with adhd last year and this video has opened my eyes more than anything any psychologist or article has ever helped me understand. Thank you 🥲
Thank you for putting me in the video! I love you guys so much and I love our community 💘
I have ADHD, and being reminded how I am not the only one is really powerful to me. I shared this with my freinds so that they can understand me.
Thank you for adding me to this video. It made me feel heard and understood as well as realizing I’m not alone. My boyfriend and I love your TH-cam channel, he has ADD and I have ADHD. We get each other better than anyone. It’s nice to have a partner in the sometimes chaos of ADHD. I love you guys! Keep fighting for the non neurotypical!
I've been tested at the age of 24 for adhd. I've never understand why things didn't succeeded until I've got the diagnosis adhd. Now I've got a job, started an education and doing okay. This video explains how it is to have adhd and I hope that te people in the video vond there way as well.
I NEED to translate that to portuguese to send to some friends...
I've been helping some people with adhd here in my city, and this video would really help. I saw so much of myself in it, a lot of things that I don't like about my brain, but shared with so much love! THANK YOU!!!!
I can't remember how, but I'm sure someone told me that you can translate videos yourself and add to other people's TH-cam channels!!
I was diagnosed when I was 47. Feeling angry and desperate lately. This giant a-ah moment makes me wonder what if..... mostly though, despite trying desperately to cope with this new reality of actually knowing, it now gives me options to cope and make the most of today and beyond. 🙃 I'm now a big believer if you think that you may? Talk to your GP.
Jessica McCabe, it would be neat if you made more videos like this is the future.
Most nights when I was in elementary school I was frustrated to the point of tears due to homework, this video brought those memories back, it's validating to see its a common struggle among other people with ADHD but that also makes it hurt even more.
Thank you so much for all the work you put into this channel. My oldest son has been struggling with what we believe may be ADHD (he is seeing a doctor in December). One night I searched ADHD on TH-cam and found your Ted Talk -- I was crying by the end. After the Ted Talk I binged your TH-cam channel for a while and I FINALLY felt a sense of peace that even if my son does truly have ADHD, we can work together to help him manage his symptoms in a fun and positive way. And most importantly, he's not alone. I wish it was something I could understand and empathize with him but I can't. I used to think he would do certain things on purpose to manipulate his way out of trouble and it would frustrate me horribly! I heard my son in every single person in this video...I wanted to cry again, but instead I felt happiness that he can find others who understand 💗
The guy who said it's a symptom, not a behaviour, that really resonated with me. I'm 53 and only just found out I have ADD - makes total sense and for once, it was a welcome diagnosis!
I have ADHD and sever anxiety. Its a struggle everyday.
Olivia Shultz I understand. I also relate and feel the same way or similar to how you feel. It was crippling to me on a regular basis for a long time. I hope that helps in some way. You're not alone. I felt alone for over 25 years. I didn't know anyone like me. At all. The awareness now days is more so than in the past. Anxiety and/or depression is common paired with ADHD. It's difficult and its an individual experience for everyone.
I felt like I should so, I replied to your comment. If nothing more than to be comrades. Everyone is different in their perception but the anxiety and coping with ADHD as it effects you specifically, well, if you don't already know or you're like I was and it's hard to truly believe, I'll say this for sure: it gets better with time in so many ways. :::hugs:::
This video was great! It reminded me I'm not alone. I have generalised anxiety and depression; had it for as long as I can remember. The anxiety mainly because of my ADHD, Dyslexia and Dyspraxia. Daily struggle, but I know I'll never give up because there's joys I still find in the little moments, my family and friends don't know how much I truly appreciate them.
none of us are alone. I felt alone for but then I found this channel. Its helps a lot.
Hang in there girl friend 💪
instead of thinking about your anxiety, remember that you can create. why not think about how you want to feel, i want to feel calm and calmness arises, that is what i do. its the power of being more aware. i recognized that i am the observer of my feelings and sensations, i can never be these thoughts, feelings or sensations. this created a gap between me, the light of awareness and the mental object (anxiety), from that realization i dont suffer from them. you have chosen to suffer, the difference is if its conscious or unconscious
It gives me hope that there's a nurse/medical professional in this video bc I want be a nurse but I struggle so much with school. The subjects really interest me but I legit take up to 6 hours just taking notes (not including the actual hw) bc I get super focused on making my notes pretty, adding doodles, get sidetracked, and take forever to read the material
The counselor who gave me and my son our ADHD evaluations has it herself, and so does our primary care Nurse Practitioner that we see every 3 months for our medication. You can be anything you want to be - they did it!
It was so awesome to see everyone's way of ADHD! Awesome job editing too:D (Thx for having me in there also lol x3)
Joodles Noodles 💪💪💪💪💕💕
As an ADHDer myself, watching this beautiful presentation made me cry!
I wasn’t diagnosed until a year and a half ago, at the age of 64. Hearing the struggles I went through by the brave participants here, just about my entire life, saddens me. My tears aren’t really about that. They are the common experiences no matter our age… as well as the happiness I feel for the time we live in. The knowledge of our neuro-divergent brains and how much easier tests would been for me in school makes me wonder how my life would have turned out just by the small amount of assistance we now have.
We ARE different, but we are not broken.
We ARE smart, but need a different environment to excel.
Just getting my diagnosis has enabled me to love and accept myself more than I ever dreamed possible!!
Much love and best wishes to each person here!!❤️❤️❤️
This put everything going on in my head into words, now maybe my mum will understand I’m not lazy and the real reason it takes me 3x as long to do my homework compared to others
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Best video every !!!!
I have not been diagnosed with ADHD but I've often wondered if I didn't have it. About half of the way through this video I started crying. I asked myself "why?". My answer was because somebody finally understood. Every day it's a freaking struggle to fit in…! Thanks for the video.
I'm so happy to be a part of this tribe! 💟
I have ADHD and for a long time I ignored it but recently I realized how much it affects me. I’m so glad I found your channel.
I discovered your videos a few weeks ago, when a friend linked me your easy to follow Bullet Journal set up. Watching all the other videos, made things click in my head and explained so much that I've been struggling with for so long, and am now going to be talking to my doctor about it, at the age of 28. Thank you for these videos.
This video needs more support. As a person with ADHD, even though this video was made six years ago, I highly recommend empathizing those with ADHD. it’s just a lot for people to have it sometimes. I encourage those with ADHD to seek the help they need, speak out when you need it, and don’t let the bad people get in your way. 5/10/2024
this video made me cry. I've always felt so alone. Jessica your amazing. I'm so glad that you've helped us come together. I hope you keep going. You are making a huge impact. I'm greatful for you. please don't stop even when you feel like it's not going well. aAt least say hi on camera and keep it rolling.
The last kid made me tear up. Sums up my life literally.
I always tell people, Imagine you turn on iron maiden at full blast, put the headphones in your ears and then without taking them out or turning the volume down complete all the things you need to in the day. Aces High by Iron Maiden sound like what my brain feels like unmedicated.
lafe harris This is actually how I get things done xD
Me Too. I think its because it helps block the external sounds, so I can hear myself think.
The external Iron Maiden probably blocks the internal Iron Maiden
lafe harris I stopped taking my meds. My internal iron maiden is full blast. I keep telling them to shut up and let me think
Angie That's such a Michael Bay thing to say xD
Perfect! I was just diagnosed this year. I'm 59. It's been very hard to come to grasp with how much it's affected my life and the thoughts of what could have been. Thank you for doing what you're doing. It's truly helping me. ❤
I really wish we could have a better forum to communicate with each other besides /r/ADHD I find that subreddit to be full of people who aren't interested in supporting those of us that choose to not medicate or see it as not a disorder. We need to help push each other to greatness!
+Awkward-To-Awesome we have Discord chatrooms for Patreon brains! Patreon.com/howtoadhd
This had me in tears. Genuinely, I can relate to every person in this video. The tears came because of the prejudice and dismissive attitude towards us & other Neurodivergent people have to deal with where we often feel (I have definitely) like we have to *PROVE* we have ADHD. That in itself is exhausting.
Omfg I'm crying so much hearing people that understand I can't stop crying thanks this made me happy I've had a horrible day my Nintendo Switch joycon broke and being in middle school I can't afford one
I had to go back to watch some madness combat memes to feel better
okay I’m sorry
This video illustrates everything my 30 year old daughter has been explaining to me since she self-diagnosed as ADHD last year. So glad I JUST stumbled on the resources you are providing for this important subject - not disabled, neurodivergent. It's the job of the rest of us to create a safe, welcoming space for the creativity this diversity brings to solving the existential challenges our world faces today.
Thank you for making this video. I'm amazed at myself for how much, and how many people in this video I can relate to. I'm blessed to have a lot of smart friends and peers, so it can be daunting and discouraging to see them thrive in an environment that I struggle in. It's encouraging to know that there are people that can relate, and appreciate that I think differently than most people, and that fact should be seen as a gift, not as a disability. Thank you again.
This felt very good to here, thank you, fellow ADHDers for making this, it’s almost 12 am and I can’t sleep or sit still, this was comforting in a time in which anything and everything can change.
Thank you for squeezing mine in there!
"I try really hard and it hurts when people act like I'm not trying as hard as I am".
OOF. Yep. ANd WOW Judee hit it right on the nose!
This explains me a lot. In class the teacher thinks I don't want to do my work but in reality I can't focus long enough to do it, so I never quite know what I'm supposed to do.
WhiskerZoo same😭😞
Same
I‘m crying... I finally see that I am not alone with all my problems! Thank you for starting this Chanel/community
Y’all ever trying to concentrate but you get distracted and your are screaming in your head to get back on track
OMG. I'm crying a lot. How can I've just found this channel. I'm 28 now.
What they're saying just explaining me. What they're struggling just like I struggle with.
Trampoline inside my brain. Sometimes ideas storm come in a time. And most of the time I get distracted easily. Even when people moving around me is distraction for me. So I choose to work at night to get focused when people are sleeping.
Back then, my high school friend told me to adapt with the noises of music because I said it's disturbing me who need to focus doing the homework.
On the other side, I'm afraid of being self diagnosed as an ADHD. But... but... every video I watch from Jessica and this channel just like describing about my self.