Real life: I’m truly happily married, almost surreal to think I’d never get over my first love but I did it. Most honestly I’ll hear a song or just a quiet drive will trigger fond memories of him. Tears unhinge beyond my control. Ive accepted that he’s somewhere out there being amazing and loved, just as I am.
my break up just happened yesterday and i feel like my whole world is ending. I knew it was coming I just didn’t know when. I’ve felt like my whole world is falling apart and i had to leave work early. Thank you for this. I feel so seen and valid; thinks he never made me feel.
@@brendatomonaga2878 honestly I’m happier over all. I still get sad about it and I’m still angry and hurt but I have so much effort to put into my self and do whatever I want
I’m so glad you said the “ if he wanted to he would” BS because so many people don’t understand and when they say that it makes other people have unrealistic expectations on partners that like you said aren’t capable of it.
Literally everything you said in this video is what I experienced. The stages of grief, I felt all of them even in that order. And I noticed I was crying less and less but randomly I’ll have a really bad day. It’s been a month since my breakup and I’m still so mad/upset but it’s slowly getting better. ❤
Thank you for being so transparent. You're so right to choose yourself over anyone else no matter how much you love or care for them. I broke up with my bf last year, dated for 5 years, and had a beautiful relationship. But at the end of the day I wanted more. And I knew I couldn't give him what he needed at the time, and he couldn't give me what I wanted. It takes so much bravery, but we grow up, and we change, and we have to accept that. Being alone and being independent is the best thing anyone can do for themselves. Learning to focus on yourself and fully fall in love with you. Now, I recently moved to Norway, working for one of the most amazing companies in my industry, and for sure in my hot girl career era. sending love. XX
🥹🥹🥹🥹 I’m so freaking happy and proud of you wow. Thank you for sharing!!! that is exactly how I felt so it is nice to further confirm that I’m not alone in this 🫶🏼
Did your ever deal with guilt? I left my 3 year relationship a month ago due to incompatibility and im so scared to be in the wrong or fit the stereotype of the ex who crawls back, even though I rationally know its not working
@@MM1312. go with your gut. Go with actually feels right. I’ve learned a lot about myself and life since leaving that relationship and I can tell you without any guilt whatsoever do what feels right to you. It is ok to feel guilty, usually we are trained to feel this way. But don’t. Don’t ever feel guilty or pushed down for putting yourself first. This may feel so scary, and I totally understand that. But what’s even more terrifying is sticking and staying where you were. Put yourself first and don’t feel guilty for doing what is best for you. Growing and change hurts, but you will blossom into your best self and you don’t even know her yet. Be excited. The best is yet to come. Sending hugs 🫶🏻🩷
It’s been almost a year since my bf of almost 7 years broke up with me. I totally agree that all you need is time to heal. Everything you said I related to sooo much. Crying it out feels amazing after. I cried every day then it slowly started going down to once a week, once a month and now I can’t even remember the last time I cried. Sending lots of love to you 🤍
Lindsay, I needed this so badly! I’m going through a breakup at the moment. I agree with not believing in “if he wanted to, he would” because sometimes people just can’t. Working on keeping myself busy, but not at the peaceful stage just yet. Thank you for this ❤️
I just broke up with my boyfriend of 10 years because of the same thoughts and feelings as you, and I'm only 27. I constantly felt emotionally drained which made me feel physically drained as well. I had to put myself first for once. Glad you shared this because you said the words that I felt, but couldn't put into words.
Mine is 10 years too and I haven’t pulled the trigger. At that point, you feel such a reliance on each other in so many ways. I’m trying to feel out what to do each day, making boundaries and decisions one by one instead of looking at the big picture. It’s helped me a lot to prepare my heart for either decision.
@@emilylynne96 Ya for the last 3 years, I just took the time to enjoy things I liked to do and focused on myself. Really helped me prepare mentally for the breakup.
I’ve had something similar happen and it’s been over since about the end of December and what we were doing for the past 8 months was secretly telling me to let go… falling in love with the ghost version of him that had nothing inside just broke me and I was my worst self this yr and now I’m doing much better accepting that we were pushing a relationship that just wasn’t the right time anymore and the damage we had done was just it wasn’t right.
i typically don’t watch podcasts, but i watched this one and i felt like i was sitting with a friend talking through these feelings together. i related to this topic so much, and appreciate you talking about this side of it. thank you 🤍🥺 time is the only way to healing and growth. each day is progress.
Currently making the transition to moving back to my parents house from my apartment with my boyfriend. I feel SO selfish for making this decision on my own but this is also the first time that I have made a decision in my adult life that has been 100% for me and me only. But it's what I need. Our relationship isn't progressing, we are constantly fighting and just don't see eye to eye when it comes to many things. I truly think this is the best choice for me - to clear my head and to really step back and figure out what I need for myself. Thank you for this video! I love knowing I am not alone when it comes to this. You are amazing.
Girly you don’t know how much I needed this! I’m unsure on what level of grief I’m on bc I would keep on going back to my ex , literally 5 years of just breaking up and getting back together and I’m just so burnt out. It’s been maybe a full 3 days without any communication but we’ve been broke for a month! All of this is just so hard 😭 I stay crying while doing cardio or simply just going to the grocery store, I just let everything out and honestly it makes me feel a little better! Btw bb you’re killing the podcast game! 🫶🏼
girl if you feel as though something is pulling you in the opposite direction then lean into that! You know what is best for you and you have the strength to make that decision. You deserve to be certain about things in your life!!! 🫶🏼 ily
Linds you’re my comfort person, it feels nice knowing someone is going through the same thing you are 🤍 you took words right out of my mouth!! Thank u for being you ily
Girl, you are so brave and STRONG! Break ups and relationships are tough especially talking about it, opening up and being vulnerable. I can see how much growth you’ve had over this period of time and day by day you’re healing and working on YOURSELF! You’re killing this shit girly
ugh lindsay, i’m only 10 mins in and you are speaking to my soul. i love you and can literally hear the healing in your voice. you’re making me hopeful for the days ahead. i’m less than a month in. the thought of letting go of my boyfriend/bestfriend of 10 years is something i can’t wrap my head around just yet. nothing makes sense. i’m definitely still in denial but i’m feeling all the emotions day by day. the “he wants to but is not capable of it right now” …….. GIRRRRL. that one hit.
This episode is everything that I have ever needed. I’m not going through a break up but I’m healing from a lot of old trauma and this was so helpful🤍 I love the video podcast!
Your videos always bring me comfort and peace. Me and my boyfriend of over 6 years just broke up and I have never felt anything more painful. Watching your videos really help me cope with the end of the relationship and they inspire me to become a better version of myself and to focus on healing.
Your breakup happened the same time as mine so I was crying with you when you posted that video. I love all your videos and your inspiration helps me get through mine as well. You are thriving and I love it! I'm here for it!
i’ve watched/listened to this video on three separate occasions and it comforts me and validates me every single time. i officially ended my long term relationship yesterday. sending so much love to everyone else in the comments xoxo ❤️
I can’t tell you enough how I’m relating to every single thing you’re saying right now. We just broke up yesterday. My situation is almost the exact same. Thank you for this video. Hearing you make it through is so comforting right now.
girl I broke up with my SO on our 6 year anniversary and we also dated since age 17-23 so i can really relate to all of this. i've been feeling so lost and on and off crying. it's only been about 5 days. listening to your videos really has helped me, thank you :)
@@itzayanamerino9019 a LOT better. So much has changed in terms of my understanding of what I thought our relationship was like vs what it was actually like. I've gained a lot of insight throughout this time apart. Some days I'm sadder than others. But I am able to talk about it with friends and family without crying. I'm mostly just sad it had to end this way but I realize we had a lot of fundamental issues that couldn't really be fixed.
You are way younger than me and you said something that just spoke to me and I should apply in my life that was when you said wether you choose a partner who can’t give you what you need or want at the moment in hopes of it maybe changing or do you chose yourself. And you made the right choice. In the end your own happiness and well-being is most important. Thank you. You will be absolutely fine I know it!
i went through a really similar breakup a couple of years ago and i didn’t think i would see the other side. this is a conversation that i needed back then so thank you for being transparent about your journey for someone else who is hurting and needs to hear that it’s going to be okay. it’s so good to see you healing💖💖
I commented on your original break up announcement vid about my fiancé and I. We are still stuck, but in the alone time I’ve had away from him day to day is giving me a lot of processing time and the ability to clear my head. This has really spoken to me and I’m listening to my energy to know what steps to take each day.
rt @ writing down the bad times bc you tend to forget them overtime. im going through separating myself from my parents for example, and i find myself feeling guilty and wanting to just simply text them back. but i’ve documented all of those excruciating times they put me through, the miserable cries and the months of being super depressed & at my lowest bc of them, and it reminds me of the reasons of why i moved out, why i cut them off. always remind yourself of the purpose & why you are here, and know that it is progress.
Elegant and gentle as always, Lindsay ❤ I always get so nervous about watching videos when I care about the youtuber/relate to the topic, but I never ever regret watching your vlogs - I always leave them feeling so uplifted and optimistic ☀️ keep glowing 💛
i’m going through this right now. i ended it a week ago and it’s such a similar experience. it’s sad at times but also exciting at times. i love the podcast. cant wait for the next episode
wow I needed this more than I can express. I’m going through a breakup still and it happened in February after being with my person for 4 years. we broke up for the same reasons like dating at 17 and growing up and being so busy with work and not growing together. It’s really hard having a healthy breakup and still being on good terms because you question if it’s the right thing to do and It’s such a mix of emotions. Im so sorry you have gone through this. I just found you from ava’s podcast and followed you on here and podcasts.. I can’t wait to watch and listen to all of your content.. thank you for being open and helping others with your advice❤️
Honestly, good for you Lindsay. I have a lot of respect t for you because I have sat this person down and told him what I needed and it was also the bare minimum. Changes haven’t been made and it is so hard for me to walk away… I feel stuck. So much respect for you, for being able to leave 🥺
ten mins in and i relate so much. my bf and i of 4 years broke up a few months ago but we spent the last two years trying to repair our relationship because i was in constant denial about breaking up and kept seeing the potential of our relationship. but the day we broke up i really had to tell myself this is it. it’s only been a few weeks so i’m still in the ugly but i can’t wait to keep listening!! love this video form of the pod
it’s so crazy how many realization you are going to have and how things will start to make so much sense. I’m so excited for you to start this journey - you are going to thrive baby!
i hope u see this comment bc i’m taking a break from socials but i wanted to recommend a book! “after i do” by taylor jenkins reid it’s about a married couple taking a year of separation, it follows the woman’s journey to finding herself and i think it relates to this journey we are going through right now. i’ve cried a bunch reading it but it’s helped me so much. hope u get this!!!
We went through a breakup around the same time and I remember thinking damn she can do it and pull herself together so can I so thank you for being an inspiration online that anything is possible bc everyone pushes relationships and working through relationships online when in my opinion sometimes breakups are the only option
You’re so incredibly mature in the way that you view your breakup and the way you articulate your thoughts and emotions so well. You are exactly where you’re supposed to be right now!
lindsay, ilyilyilyilyilyilyyyyy!!!! i am so proud of you!!! 💖💖i went through a breakup last year, not many of my friends had experienced anything similar so thank you for being my friend who has, it feels so nice to hear someone else say things i have been going through and feeling just the same (stages of grief SOO TRUEEEE that is exactly how it was - acceptance is so freeing, and yes i also have a "remember, bitch" list in my notes)
girl... i relate to this so much. broke up with my boyfriend in jan because he couldn't do the bare minimum & kept telling me he was going to change, but never did. we were together 14-21 years old. i felt this.
You are so strong. I’m in such a tough situation bc I feel and my partner makes me feel like I rely on him for certain things bc I don’t have my parents to lean on. It would be so hard just to break that off but when times are bad there so bad and it just drains me of all my energy and I just reiterate to him I just want to be happy. I always go back and forth bc I feel like I couldn’t get over this heartbreak.
Girl !!! I love how open and open minded you are. This video has helped me with viewing things different now. I’m also going through a break up and it sucks!!!! Ugh I’ve enjoyed your video and helpful points. Thank you babe xoxo
ugh u are such an angel. i have been going thru so many forms of break-ups w/my past romantic choices, decisions i made that i regret, etc i sooo needed to hear this today + felt eeeeverything! nice to know that someone else can relate
loving this podcast! you are so incredibly well spoken, its actually pretty impressive to hear you articulate all of your thoughts in such a natural yet organized & calming way. 💕 i recently went through a breakup also, and i remember coming to the realization that if people can leave my life from one day to the next that means i truly only have myself. it shattered me at first, but then it became my comfort because i knew i would never give up on myself. thats when it clicked, everything would be okay because i would always have me. genuine question, i hope you dont mind me asking. but would you give him another chance if he decided he was ready to make the changes?
oh my god the way you just spoke to my SOUL. thank you so much for sharing that wow 🥹🫶🏼 That’s another thing I won’t let myself really think about - because I dont know the ways we are going to change and evolve. The future is unknown and I have peace with that! I know that whatever is meant for me will happen but right now - I know I need to lean into this journey.
@@LindsayRae aww im glad it did! thanks for responding, your answer is perfect! 💕 making peace with the unknown is such a hard part of healing, but once you do it its so rewarding. sooo proud of you and i wish you all the success on the podcast !! ✨️
It's when you said, you told him things you needed and you could do to make it work coz that was me last week and even after like knowing they were bare minimums am still so in denial. 😭😭😭it really hurts, the anxiety especially in the morning is crazy. I feel so exhausted, the emotional breakdowns. Sometimes i get these thoughts of self delete and snapping out it feels so impossible. I just want him to know how much it hurts but i heard, if he never cared when he made the decision to hurt you, what makes you think that he will care now. Having so much patience and understanding for someone and believing them everytime they said they love you and want to spend their life with you. Am so mad at myself for caring about them and thinking they did too😭
I’m in the same situation but I can’t let go… I always over obsess and think about who he’ll be with next and what if he gives her everything he didnt give me and it makes me sick to my stomach so yeah I’m weak and holding on still :(
I wish I can like this x100. I’m so proud of you and how far you’ve come🥺 keep working on yourself, it’s crazy how much you’ve impacted my life through a screen I wish I can give you a big hug ❤️ love you girly
I have this tiny saying I like to tell myself and the ppl close to me and it is “everything is temporary” even the bad and good is temporary that's why it is important to soak in every moment ♥️. But you totally got this. So far it looks like you're doing good.
I recently went through a break up where I needed to make the decision for her even though she had made it months ago. When you were talking about waiting on people to come into their changes, I totally felt that. However, the one thing we can’t afford to lose is time & the love you we have for ourselves. I chose myself & it’s been hard but life is opening up so beautifully.
i wish i had this when i went through the worst breakup of my life last spring. you're so wise and i'm so in awe of your strength to open up and share this with the world because this is exactly what any young person needs to hear when going through something so profoundly painful. so so proud of you for how you've shown up for yourself over the past 5 months!!!
"He wants to, but he's not capable of it rn" WHEW, just went through the closure of my breakup of a 3 year relationship bc him and I weren't on the same wavelength at all. I just wish he didn't leave me when angry but this quote really has me.
not me commenting a third time 😭i just wanted to say that i have been hoping for a video version of your podcast for a while because i personally am not able to listen to podcasts and multitask. thank you for providing this option for those of us
I’m so happy you decided to share your journey with us. You chose you, and now you are glowing Lindsay. I loved watching and listening to you as always. 🤍🤍🤍
Man, I am less than ten minutes in, but I have never been able to relate so much. I broke up with my ex of four and a half years as well simply because he could not give me (or do) the BARE minimum. No going out together- couldn't even bother to go to the corner store with me, would never go on vacations, wouldn't join me at my family's place (or his own family's), wouldn't come to celebrate me getting my master's degree and walked past my house one day and went straight home without even stopping to see me for a minute. Eventually, I learned that I am worth more. I want to live life to the fullest on the arm of someone who loves me. I didn't want to waste another moment of my youth assuming he would grow out of that one day. Now I have an amazing boyfriend who takes me to see the stars, walks or drives me home anytime we are together (oh yeah, my ex would close the door as I left his place while I lugged myself through three boroughs on the train, alone), writes me love notes and simply does all the things I wanted my ex to do ...
I broke up with my fiancé yesterday for the exact same reason and it’s so hard to think that someone/something better is coming, I’m devastated, but your comment gives me hope…
After a horrible break up I had with my best friend since I was 7 it took a huge toll on me and I would watch Catherine June, she’s been single for so long and she’s thriving. That’s what I now see in you! You’re thriving all on your own so for sure you made the right decision I know I have! Years later I found who God had planned for me and I’m happily married but still very much enjoyed your video. I wish you the best!!!!!! 💕
you are so inspiring and always have such a peaceful and kind aura around you. super proud of how far you’ve come & thank u for being such an amazing role model for all of us, i love uuu 🫶🏼
I remember watching this video and thinking how scared I was to feel this way but then it happened to me yesterday, I just got out of a 5 year relationship that I wanted to work out so bad and it hurts so damn much because we had so much history together and I kept thinking he would eventually change but I had become delusional and I had to value myself and know my worth. As much as I miss what we had, I know that it’ll never work out in my favor and Lindsay you are the reason why I was able to get out and I can’t thank you enough for this ❤ Know your worth please, the right one will come to you
I love this I feel like the breakup I went thru almost 2 years ago was exactly like this too I decided to choose me … also love the nail color can’t stop staring at them lol
Thank you for this episode. Me and my ex broke up in March after 11 years together :( He is amazing and I realize most of the fault was mine :/ Even after almost 6 months post breakup we know that we want to be together in the future but it’s just not possible now :( Sorry to describe all of this but it feels good to just let it out :) It calms me to listen to this. Thank you for your insight.
Hey love, wishing you nothing but the best on this healing journey. I am also going through a recent breakup & losing your best friend is definitely hard, but it does show how strong we are. We can finally be there for ourselves in ways that weren’t possible before. We can’t change the things that have happened but we do have control over how we respond to them! Here’s to transforming into the best versions of our independent selves! 🫶🏻
Thank you so so much i feel like talking w a friend. Its crazy how we're total strangers that live probably 20 hours apart, but we feel like sisters. Its crazy, the bond between humans, between us and between me and my ex and you and your ex. We're specks of dust having this immense bond to each other. And we hope the best for each other, whether that means being together or not..
Been 2 weeks since I broke up with my bf of almost 8 years, we had never had a break or a previous breakup. So many similarities with our breakups, thank you for this!🙌🏽💗
break-ups are the worst, whether it’s a relationship or a friendship! my problem was i didn’t really let myself go through the emotions and i was bitter/angry for so long 💔 i’m slowly allowing myself to feel it ig lol. recently, i’ve been letting go but it’s so hard… we’ll all get through this healing process together 🫵🏾🤍
I'm going through a breakup right now and i've been with my bf for 5 years. Its also all love between both of us but watching this i hope to feel more healed because it feels like i'm a blank canvas now trying to figure out who i want to be, who i am without him. I truly just want it to get better before it gets worse.
@@angelnguyen6412 i just saw this, i apologize. I have my moments where i'm the best and then i have my very low moments. its no easy, but the holidays are around too and it makes things even harder. But i try to normalize it by doing things that calm me, which is baking or going to a cafe, reading, going to a bookstore, journaling, going to the gym. Or when i don't have energy, i stay at home, relax, I focus on what my body wants. Its been super hard. But i know things will get better. I know right now its not easy to do, but I really hope it does.
why is this the exact breakup I am going through too... needed so many things from him that he never worked on & i ended it b/c i couldn't do it anymore. i blocked him on everything bc i knew if i didn't i would go back & it's almost been a month
Love the video version! Also so happy that you have come this far and how much further you will go. This is going to help so many people who experience loss and that is irreplaceable. Sending you all the love and positivity 🤗
This came at the right time! Thank yo uso much Lindsay. I could definitely relate so much to all you said & it encouraged me to keep going. I’m SOOOO proud of you!! I love you sm!!💕💕
I’m getting to that point where I’m just so tired…just thinking of giving up on the whole relationship but stopping myself thinking maybe there’s hope 😞 but I’m just so tired. So exhausted I don’t even feel like myself, I’m just so lost
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Real life: I’m truly happily married, almost surreal to think I’d never get over my first love but I did it. Most honestly I’ll hear a song or just a quiet drive will trigger fond memories of him. Tears unhinge beyond my control. Ive accepted that he’s somewhere out there being amazing and loved, just as I am.
This comment is so beautiful. Made me tear up. Can’t wait until I’m at that stage.
This comment gives me hope.
I broke up with my first love today.
How did you manage? Like what did you do to feel better
day by day angel, I’m so proud of you. I can’t wait to sit in front of my TV with a whole bowl of pasta and watch this tonight
my girls in their healing era 🤍😩
🥹 I love you. grab an olipop while you’re at it
i would love to see you collab with each other!
@@LindsayRae break up with boyfriend
Love you so much
i’m only one week into a breakup & im terrified of the future. he was who i thought i would marry. I needed to hear a lot of this, thank you 🥺❤️
sending you all of my love, you are going to be better than okay!!!!! so proud of you always
I know my breakup is still fresh but listening to u give me a sense of peace
I’m one day and Im so much pain
my break up just happened yesterday and i feel like my whole world is ending. I knew it was coming I just didn’t know when. I’ve felt like my whole world is falling apart and i had to leave work early. Thank you for this. I feel so seen and valid; thinks he never made me feel.
How are you feeling two weeks later?
@@brendatomonaga2878 honestly I’m happier over all. I still get sad about it and I’m still angry and hurt but I have so much effort to put into my self and do whatever I want
It’s been about a month now. How are you?
my happened 4 weeks ago
I’m so glad you said the “ if he wanted to he would” BS because so many people don’t understand and when they say that it makes other people have unrealistic expectations on partners that like you said aren’t capable of it.
!!!!!!!!!! THIS
“Tired of being tired” felt that‼️
Literally everything you said in this video is what I experienced. The stages of grief, I felt all of them even in that order. And I noticed I was crying less and less but randomly I’ll have a really bad day. It’s been a month since my breakup and I’m still so mad/upset but it’s slowly getting better. ❤
Awwwww. Feeling your heart and hurt. :-( *hugs* 😊Day 3 of breakup.
Thank you for being so transparent. You're so right to choose yourself over anyone else no matter how much you love or care for them. I broke up with my bf last year, dated for 5 years, and had a beautiful relationship. But at the end of the day I wanted more. And I knew I couldn't give him what he needed at the time, and he couldn't give me what I wanted. It takes so much bravery, but we grow up, and we change, and we have to accept that. Being alone and being independent is the best thing anyone can do for themselves. Learning to focus on yourself and fully fall in love with you. Now, I recently moved to Norway, working for one of the most amazing companies in my industry, and for sure in my hot girl career era. sending love. XX
🥹🥹🥹🥹 I’m so freaking happy and proud of you wow. Thank you for sharing!!! that is exactly how I felt so it is nice to further confirm that I’m not alone in this 🫶🏼
Awwwww this relates to me exactly. How are you doing today SiobhanV
Did your ever deal with guilt? I left my 3 year relationship a month ago due to incompatibility and im so scared to be in the wrong or fit the stereotype of the ex who crawls back, even though I rationally know its not working
@@angelnguyen6412 never been better!
@@MM1312. go with your gut. Go with actually feels right. I’ve learned a lot about myself and life since leaving that relationship and I can tell you without any guilt whatsoever do what feels right to you. It is ok to feel guilty, usually we are trained to feel this way. But don’t. Don’t ever feel guilty or pushed down for putting yourself first. This may feel so scary, and I totally understand that. But what’s even more terrifying is sticking and staying where you were. Put yourself first and don’t feel guilty for doing what is best for you. Growing and change hurts, but you will blossom into your best self and you don’t even know her yet. Be excited. The best is yet to come. Sending hugs 🫶🏻🩷
It’s been almost a year since my bf of almost 7 years broke up with me. I totally agree that all you need is time to heal. Everything you said I related to sooo much. Crying it out feels amazing after. I cried every day then it slowly started going down to once a week, once a month and now I can’t even remember the last time I cried. Sending lots of love to you 🤍
She's beauty and she's grace, she's miss Lindsay Rae in her healing era. ✨ It's only up from here. 💕
🥹🥹🥹🥹 ily
I love how you articulate your thoughts especially when you said “I’m tired of being tired” girl I felt that 🥺😭
The maturity you had in your mindset of this whole topic just shows your growth and reflection. Sending you all my love 💛
“This too shall pass”
Lindsay, I needed this so badly! I’m going through a breakup at the moment. I agree with not believing in “if he wanted to, he would” because sometimes people just can’t. Working on keeping myself busy, but not at the peaceful stage just yet. Thank you for this ❤️
you are so strong baby!!!! ily!!!
I just broke up with my boyfriend of 10 years because of the same thoughts and feelings as you, and I'm only 27. I constantly felt emotionally drained which made me feel physically drained as well. I had to put myself first for once. Glad you shared this because you said the words that I felt, but couldn't put into words.
Mine is 10 years too and I haven’t pulled the trigger. At that point, you feel such a reliance on each other in so many ways. I’m trying to feel out what to do each day, making boundaries and decisions one by one instead of looking at the big picture. It’s helped me a lot to prepare my heart for either decision.
@@emilylynne96 Ya for the last 3 years, I just took the time to enjoy things I liked to do and focused on myself. Really helped me prepare mentally for the breakup.
I’ve had something similar happen and it’s been over since about the end of December and what we were doing for the past 8 months was secretly telling me to let go… falling in love with the ghost version of him that had nothing inside just broke me and I was my worst self this yr and now I’m doing much better accepting that we were pushing a relationship that just wasn’t the right time anymore and the damage we had done was just it wasn’t right.
Are you doing okay?
i typically don’t watch podcasts, but i watched this one and i felt like i was sitting with a friend talking through these feelings together. i related to this topic so much, and appreciate you talking about this side of it. thank you 🤍🥺 time is the only way to healing and growth. each day is progress.
😭😭😭 that’s exactly what I wanted!! Thank you my love
Currently making the transition to moving back to my parents house from my apartment with my boyfriend. I feel SO selfish for making this decision on my own but this is also the first time that I have made a decision in my adult life that has been 100% for me and me only. But it's what I need. Our relationship isn't progressing, we are constantly fighting and just don't see eye to eye when it comes to many things. I truly think this is the best choice for me - to clear my head and to really step back and figure out what I need for myself. Thank you for this video! I love knowing I am not alone when it comes to this. You are amazing.
Girly you don’t know how much I needed this! I’m unsure on what level of grief I’m on bc I would keep on going back to my ex , literally 5 years of just breaking up and getting back together and I’m just so burnt out. It’s been maybe a full 3 days without any communication but we’ve been broke for a month! All of this is just so hard 😭 I stay crying while doing cardio or simply just going to the grocery store, I just let everything out and honestly it makes me feel a little better! Btw bb you’re killing the podcast game! 🫶🏼
girl if you feel as though something is pulling you in the opposite direction then lean into that! You know what is best for you and you have the strength to make that decision. You deserve to be certain about things in your life!!! 🫶🏼 ily
@@LindsayRae period! Thank you for this mini therapy session, ilym girl! 😭
Linds you’re my comfort person, it feels nice knowing someone is going through the same thing you are 🤍 you took words right out of my mouth!! Thank u for being you ily
ily 🥺🫶🏼
Girl, you are so brave and STRONG! Break ups and relationships are tough especially talking about it, opening up and being vulnerable. I can see how much growth you’ve had over this period of time and day by day you’re healing and working on YOURSELF! You’re killing this shit girly
ugh lindsay, i’m only 10 mins in and you are speaking to my soul. i love you and can literally hear the healing in your voice. you’re making me hopeful for the days ahead. i’m less than a month in. the thought of letting go of my boyfriend/bestfriend of 10 years is something i can’t wrap my head around just yet. nothing makes sense. i’m definitely still in denial but i’m feeling all the emotions day by day. the “he wants to but is not capable of it right now” …….. GIRRRRL. that one hit.
this was exactly what I needed to hear. it’s comforting to hear someone be in a similar place to you. thank you, much love
This episode is everything that I have ever needed. I’m not going through a break up but I’m healing from a lot of old trauma and this was so helpful🤍 I love the video podcast!
Your videos always bring me comfort and peace. Me and my boyfriend of over 6 years just broke up and I have never felt anything more painful. Watching your videos really help me cope with the end of the relationship and they inspire me to become a better version of myself and to focus on healing.
🥹 I love that, thank you for commenting and supporting me!!!
Your breakup happened the same time as mine so I was crying with you when you posted that video. I love all your videos and your inspiration helps me get through mine as well. You are thriving and I love it! I'm here for it!
i’ve watched/listened to this video on three separate occasions and it comforts me and validates me every single time. i officially ended my long term relationship yesterday. sending so much love to everyone else in the comments xoxo ❤️
my girl!!!! sending YOU love!!! so happy I can be here for you
@@LindsayRae omg love you :')
I can’t tell you enough how I’m relating to every single thing you’re saying right now. We just broke up yesterday. My situation is almost the exact same. Thank you for this video. Hearing you make it through is so comforting right now.
girl I broke up with my SO on our 6 year anniversary and we also dated since age 17-23 so i can really relate to all of this. i've been feeling so lost and on and off crying. it's only been about 5 days. listening to your videos really has helped me, thank you :)
How are u feeling a month later ??
@@itzayanamerino9019 a LOT better. So much has changed in terms of my understanding of what I thought our relationship was like vs what it was actually like. I've gained a lot of insight throughout this time apart. Some days I'm sadder than others. But I am able to talk about it with friends and family without crying. I'm mostly just sad it had to end this way but I realize we had a lot of fundamental issues that couldn't really be fixed.
Honestly it’s so crazy. Everything you said is the exact way that I’m feeling and thinking. I choose me, no matter how hard it is.
You are way younger than me and you said something that just spoke to me and I should apply in my life that was when you said wether you choose a partner who can’t give you what you need or want at the moment in hopes of it maybe changing or do you chose yourself. And you made the right choice. In the end your own happiness and well-being is most important. Thank you. You will be absolutely fine I know it!
Omg the sweat it out moment, during my break up the very first day my friends dragged me to hot yoga and that silent moment HIT ME
i went through a really similar breakup a couple of years ago and i didn’t think i would see the other side. this is a conversation that i needed back then so thank you for being transparent about your journey for someone else who is hurting and needs to hear that it’s going to be okay.
it’s so good to see you healing💖💖
I commented on your original break up announcement vid about my fiancé and I. We are still stuck, but in the alone time I’ve had away from him day to day is giving me a lot of processing time and the ability to clear my head. This has really spoken to me and I’m listening to my energy to know what steps to take each day.
rt @ writing down the bad times bc you tend to forget them overtime. im going through separating myself from my parents for example, and i find myself feeling guilty and wanting to just simply text them back. but i’ve documented all of those excruciating times they put me through, the miserable cries and the months of being super depressed & at my lowest bc of them, and it reminds me of the reasons of why i moved out, why i cut them off. always remind yourself of the purpose & why you are here, and know that it is progress.
Elegant and gentle as always, Lindsay ❤ I always get so nervous about watching videos when I care about the youtuber/relate to the topic, but I never ever regret watching your vlogs - I always leave them feeling so uplifted and optimistic ☀️ keep glowing 💛
🥺🥺🥺 my heart, thank you My love
i’m going through this right now. i ended it a week ago and it’s such a similar experience. it’s sad at times but also exciting at times. i love the podcast. cant wait for the next episode
proud of you baby ❤️🩹
wow I needed this more than I can express. I’m going through a breakup still and it happened in February after being with my person for 4 years. we broke up for the same reasons like dating at 17 and growing up and being so busy with work and not growing together. It’s really hard having a healthy breakup and still being on good terms because you question if it’s the right thing to do and It’s such a mix of emotions. Im so sorry you have gone through this.
I just found you from ava’s podcast and followed you on here and podcasts.. I can’t wait to watch and listen to all of your content.. thank you for being open and helping others with your advice❤️
Honestly, good for you Lindsay. I have a lot of respect t for you because I have sat this person down and told him what I needed and it was also the bare minimum. Changes haven’t been made and it is so hard for me to walk away… I feel stuck. So much respect for you, for being able to leave 🥺
Try talking with him again and just be honest and say you can’t see a future if it continues
ten mins in and i relate so much. my bf and i of 4 years broke up a few months ago but we spent the last two years trying to repair our relationship because i was in constant denial about breaking up and kept seeing the potential of our relationship. but the day we broke up i really had to tell myself this is it. it’s only been a few weeks so i’m still in the ugly but i can’t wait to keep listening!! love this video form of the pod
it’s so crazy how many realization you are going to have and how things will start to make so much sense. I’m so excited for you to start this journey - you are going to thrive baby!
i hope u see this comment bc i’m taking a break from socials but i wanted to recommend a book! “after i do” by taylor jenkins reid it’s about a married couple taking a year of separation, it follows the woman’s journey to finding herself and i think it relates to this journey we are going through right now. i’ve cried a bunch reading it but it’s helped me so much. hope u get this!!!
We went through a breakup around the same time and I remember thinking damn she can do it and pull herself together so can I so thank you for being an inspiration online that anything is possible bc everyone pushes relationships and working through relationships online when in my opinion sometimes breakups are the only option
You’re so incredibly mature in the way that you view your breakup and the way you articulate your thoughts and emotions so well. You are exactly where you’re supposed to be right now!
🥹🥹🥹 thank you so so so freaking much
you have no idea how much you are helping me through this breakup
Same…
love the new name for the podcast! Thanks for being so transparent with us!
lindsay, ilyilyilyilyilyilyyyyy!!!! i am so proud of you!!! 💖💖i went through a breakup last year, not many of my friends had experienced anything similar so thank you for being my friend who has, it feels so nice to hear someone else say things i have been going through and feeling just the same (stages of grief SOO TRUEEEE that is exactly how it was - acceptance is so freeing, and yes i also have a "remember, bitch" list in my notes)
girl... i relate to this so much. broke up with my boyfriend in jan because he couldn't do the bare minimum & kept telling me he was going to change, but never did. we were together 14-21 years old. i felt this.
Literally hysterically crying watching this right now. I’m going through something similar right now and I feel so lost
Sorry for that.
You are strong. Do the No Contact rule (listen to coach lee) it helps.
Hi, sending you love and light. I hope you are feeling better.
Same🙁🙁
So crazy that i’m going through this right now, it’s nice to know i’m not alone feelings these emotions. Thank you for this 🤍
You are so strong. I’m in such a tough situation bc I feel and my partner makes me feel like I rely on him for certain things bc I don’t have my parents to lean on. It would be so hard just to break that off but when times are bad there so bad and it just drains me of all my energy and I just reiterate to him I just want to be happy. I always go back and forth bc I feel like I couldn’t get over this heartbreak.
Girl !!! I love how open and open minded you are. This video has helped me with viewing things different now. I’m also going through a break up and it sucks!!!! Ugh I’ve enjoyed your video and helpful points. Thank you babe xoxo
This video / episode was EXACTLY what I needed to hear right now! Thank you ❤️
ugh u are such an angel. i have been going thru so many forms of break-ups w/my past romantic choices, decisions i made that i regret, etc i sooo needed to hear this today + felt eeeeverything! nice to know that someone else can relate
Currently going through a similar situation 7 years and was with him since 17. Thank you for this video! I needed this so much.
loving this podcast! you are so incredibly well spoken, its actually pretty impressive to hear you articulate all of your thoughts in such a natural yet organized & calming way. 💕 i recently went through a breakup also, and i remember coming to the realization that if people can leave my life from one day to the next that means i truly only have myself. it shattered me at first, but then it became my comfort because i knew i would never give up on myself. thats when it clicked, everything would be okay because i would always have me.
genuine question, i hope you dont mind me asking. but would you give him another chance if he decided he was ready to make the changes?
oh my god the way you just spoke to my SOUL. thank you so much for sharing that wow 🥹🫶🏼
That’s another thing I won’t let myself really think about - because I dont know the ways we are going to change and evolve. The future is unknown and I have peace with that! I know that whatever is meant for me will happen but right now - I know I need to lean into this journey.
@@LindsayRae aww im glad it did! thanks for responding, your answer is perfect! 💕 making peace with the unknown is such a hard part of healing, but once you do it its so rewarding. sooo proud of you and i wish you all the success on the podcast !! ✨️
It's when you said, you told him things you needed and you could do to make it work coz that was me last week and even after like knowing they were bare minimums am still so in denial. 😭😭😭it really hurts, the anxiety especially in the morning is crazy. I feel so exhausted, the emotional breakdowns. Sometimes i get these thoughts of self delete and snapping out it feels so impossible. I just want him to know how much it hurts but i heard, if he never cared when he made the decision to hurt you, what makes you think that he will care now. Having so much patience and understanding for someone and believing them everytime they said they love you and want to spend their life with you. Am so mad at myself for caring about them and thinking they did too😭
I’m in the same situation but I can’t let go… I always over obsess and think about who he’ll be with next and what if he gives her everything he didnt give me and it makes me sick to my stomach so yeah I’m weak and holding on still :(
I wish I can like this x100. I’m so proud of you and how far you’ve come🥺 keep working on yourself, it’s crazy how much you’ve impacted my life through a screen I wish I can give you a big hug ❤️ love you girly
I have this tiny saying I like to tell myself and the ppl close to me and it is “everything is temporary” even the bad and good is temporary that's why it is important to soak in every moment ♥️. But you totally got this. So far it looks like you're doing good.
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I recently went through a break up where I needed to make the decision for her even though she had made it months ago. When you were talking about waiting on people to come into their changes, I totally felt that. However, the one thing we can’t afford to lose is time & the love you we have for ourselves. I chose myself & it’s been hard but life is opening up so beautifully.
i wish i had this when i went through the worst breakup of my life last spring. you're so wise and i'm so in awe of your strength to open up and share this with the world because this is exactly what any young person needs to hear when going through something so profoundly painful. so so proud of you for how you've shown up for yourself over the past 5 months!!!
🥺🥺🥺 thank you so much, i had some anxiety about posting this but you just affirmed me further why I am so open with my story. I appreciate you!!! 🫶🏼
Not going through a break up but a loss and god damn bestie I need more sit downs like this! Thank you for being so open with us
going through this exact same situation rn with my most recent bf … I can’t express how much this video is helping me move forward in healing
"He wants to, but he's not capable of it rn" WHEW, just went through the closure of my breakup of a 3 year relationship bc him and I weren't on the same wavelength at all. I just wish he didn't leave me when angry but this quote really has me.
not me commenting a third time 😭i just wanted to say that i have been hoping for a video version of your podcast for a while because i personally am not able to listen to podcasts and multitask. thank you for providing this option for those of us
ahhh thank you! I loved doing it so definitely will be making more!
I’m so happy you decided to share your journey with us. You chose you, and now you are glowing Lindsay. I loved watching and listening to you as always. 🤍🤍🤍
video versions of podcasts>>>>>>>
Man, I am less than ten minutes in, but I have never been able to relate so much. I broke up with my ex of four and a half years as well simply because he could not give me (or do) the BARE minimum. No going out together- couldn't even bother to go to the corner store with me, would never go on vacations, wouldn't join me at my family's place (or his own family's), wouldn't come to celebrate me getting my master's degree and walked past my house one day and went straight home without even stopping to see me for a minute. Eventually, I learned that I am worth more. I want to live life to the fullest on the arm of someone who loves me. I didn't want to waste another moment of my youth assuming he would grow out of that one day. Now I have an amazing boyfriend who takes me to see the stars, walks or drives me home anytime we are together (oh yeah, my ex would close the door as I left his place while I lugged myself through three boroughs on the train, alone), writes me love notes and simply does all the things I wanted my ex to do ...
I broke up with my fiancé yesterday for the exact same reason and it’s so hard to think that someone/something better is coming, I’m devastated, but your comment gives me hope…
@@LiliMorg ❤️❤️❤️
After a horrible break up I had with my best friend since I was 7 it took a huge toll on me and I would watch Catherine June, she’s been single for so long and she’s thriving. That’s what I now see in you! You’re thriving all on your own so for sure you made the right decision I know I have! Years later I found who God had planned for me and I’m happily married but still very much enjoyed your video. I wish you the best!!!!!! 💕
you are so inspiring and always have such a peaceful and kind aura around you. super proud of how far you’ve come & thank u for being such an amazing role model for all of us, i love uuu 🫶🏼
I remember watching this video and thinking how scared I was to feel this way but then it happened to me yesterday, I just got out of a 5 year relationship that I wanted to work out so bad and it hurts so damn much because we had so much history together and I kept thinking he would eventually change but I had become delusional and I had to value myself and know my worth. As much as I miss what we had, I know that it’ll never work out in my favor and Lindsay you are the reason why I was able to get out and I can’t thank you enough for this ❤ Know your worth please, the right one will come to you
i really can relate girlllllll 🥺 this one’s for us, healing is coming 🫶🏻
I love this I feel like the breakup I went thru almost 2 years ago was exactly like this too I decided to choose me … also love the nail color can’t stop staring at them lol
“I couldnt stay in the relationship and wait on those things to possibly happen”
Thank you for this episode.
Me and my ex broke up in March after 11 years together :(
He is amazing and I realize most of the fault was mine :/
Even after almost 6 months post breakup we know that we want to be together in the future but it’s just not possible now :(
Sorry to describe all of this but it feels good to just let it out :)
It calms me to listen to this.
Thank you for your insight.
Hey love, wishing you nothing but the best on this healing journey. I am also going through a recent breakup & losing your best friend is definitely hard, but it does show how strong we are. We can finally be there for ourselves in ways that weren’t possible before. We can’t change the things that have happened but we do have control over how we respond to them! Here’s to transforming into the best versions of our independent selves! 🫶🏻
Thank you so so much i feel like talking w a friend. Its crazy how we're total strangers that live probably 20 hours apart, but we feel like sisters. Its crazy, the bond between humans, between us and between me and my ex and you and your ex. We're specks of dust having this immense bond to each other. And we hope the best for each other, whether that means being together or not..
Thank you for this video
Sucha beautiful episode. I can relate to you in pretty much everything you went through even on the timeline! Crazy!
We got this baby girl 🤍
Been 2 weeks since I broke up with my bf of almost 8 years, we had never had a break or a previous breakup. So many similarities with our breakups, thank you for this!🙌🏽💗
Hi, sending you positive energy and light. How are you getting through it?
@@HKAMILAH having friends by my side and trying new hobbies!!
Am listening to this podcast
And tearing tears 😭.💔🖤
break-ups are the worst, whether it’s a relationship or a friendship! my problem was i didn’t really let myself go through the emotions and i was bitter/angry for so long 💔 i’m slowly allowing myself to feel it ig lol. recently, i’ve been letting go but it’s so hard… we’ll all get through this healing process together 🫵🏾🤍
I absolutely loved this, your such a beautiful person!
I’m not really a huge fan of podcast, but girl this was great! Keep doing it, I subscribed to you recently and I love your vlogs!
Ahhh! Thank you!!! 🥹
This hit close to home I love how you explained relationships 💕💕💕
I'm going through a breakup right now and i've been with my bf for 5 years. Its also all love between both of us but watching this i hope to feel more healed because it feels like i'm a blank canvas now trying to figure out who i want to be, who i am without him. I truly just want it to get better before it gets worse.
I am in the same boat as you. Day 4 of breakup… how is it going for you?
@@angelnguyen6412 i just saw this, i apologize. I have my moments where i'm the best and then i have my very low moments. its no easy, but the holidays are around too and it makes things even harder. But i try to normalize it by doing things that calm me, which is baking or going to a cafe, reading, going to a bookstore, journaling, going to the gym. Or when i don't have energy, i stay at home, relax, I focus on what my body wants. Its been super hard. But i know things will get better. I know right now its not easy to do, but I really hope it does.
I love you Linds!! 🥺 the future for us in our healing era is going to be amazing 🤍🤍
I love YOU!!!
I value you so much Lindsay, you've helped me transform in so many amazing ways. you have such a beautiful impact on many of us!
I literally love you ugh so admirable.
Same :(❤
why is this the exact breakup I am going through too... needed so many things from him that he never worked on & i ended it b/c i couldn't do it anymore. i blocked him on everything bc i knew if i didn't i would go back & it's almost been a month
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you 🥺
Love the video version! Also so happy that you have come this far and how much further you will go. This is going to help so many people who experience loss and that is irreplaceable. Sending you all the love and positivity 🤗
Thank you baby!!!!! 🥹
i rly needed this at this time as i’m going thru the hardest break up so thank uu and i can’t wait for more
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Having your heart broken really do be making you fall to your knees at target
Thank you for this ❤️
it’s been 4 months since my breakup of a 6 year relationship and sometimes it’s still hard to cope
thanks for opening up!!
This came at the right time! Thank yo uso much Lindsay. I could definitely relate so much to all you said & it encouraged me to keep going.
I’m SOOOO proud of you!! I love you sm!!💕💕
I love you!!!! 🥹
I’m getting to that point where I’m just so tired…just thinking of giving up on the whole relationship but stopping myself thinking maybe there’s hope 😞 but I’m just so tired. So exhausted I don’t even feel like myself, I’m just so lost
super excited to watch!!👏🏽💗
i’m so excited 2 watch this!! love u lindsay :’)
love you!!!
Feels illegal to be this early wow
Omggg I love this 💕💕💕 we love u Lindsay 🧚🏻
I love you 🥹