I think part of my issues stem from years of being cut off and interrupted. I learned to speak fast and try to convey my thought as quickly as possible before someone cut me off.
I recently realized my family is made up of 2 kinds of people: the listeners and the talkers. My sister and I are listeners. When we do speak up, the talkers get bored quickly so we feel the need to always cut our stories short to get our 2 cents out there as quickly as possible. This has spread to all aspects of our lives. I’ve noticed it in my work, as I’ve tried expanding my stories to add detail, I notice people actually want to listen, so I get anxious and start stumbling on my words.
This is so true, I grew up with a few really toxic friends who always pretended like they didn't hear me when I talked normal so I'd end up trying to be louder or they'd cut me off everytime so I started talking faster or they'd just simply brush me off like anything I said was not worth listening to. As I grew older I ended up having to deal with speech problems, I lost my original talking pace, I also lost words alot coz of aphasia which just made things 5x worse
Tip #5(Empower) is I think the major key. you're speaking to engage to them rather than trying to make your self look impressive and then you end up stumbling your words (maybe you put pressure on yourself?). Because when you truly engage to them that's when you can show your intention and everything becomes natural.
Thank you a million! Really helpful. I often stumble on words and lack enunciation, and honestly speaking, it's embarrassing and discomforting. But will take on board these tips and put it to practice. Once again, thank you!
I never realized how my tongue moved when making certain sounds thanks for making me conscious of it. One trick I was taught a long time ago was to smile while you talked this helped make enunciation easier and more clear for me.
I’m so glad I found this channel. I relate a lot with Dr. Grace because English is not our first language, however she communicates even better than native speakers.
What if having a natural fast speaking pace is rewarded/praised by society compared to the naturally slower pace? For example, people think you are smart and have a quick mind, if you speak fast. I recently struggled a lot in my interviews as a naturally slow/soft speaker... Would really appreciate some more suggestions/tips on it!
There are two ways: 1 you look for the job where your speech speed is of little concern. 2) You train yourself to speak faster. No, it doesn't mean you have to start speaking as a bullet train, but increasing your speed 10 -15 % will make the difference. And remeber there are ppl who appreciate slow speakers, it gives an impression of a thoughtful person.
@@eliaol4231 You would have to tailor it to your audience. You don’t want to speak too slowly in a debate since your opposing party may try to fill in your spacing and attempt to talk over your points by throwing their ideas or retorts in every time you take a pause. If you’re speaking with your boss you need them to understand you so brevity is important, but so is a decent speaking speed. Talking too quickly may result in them missing vital info and making bad judgement calls. Instructing others may require a slower speech pattern so the class can ask you to define certain terminology as they come across those terms, or to allow the new information to be written down and absorbed.
What a great video. It was a huge light bulb moment right from the discover point. I’m a visual learner. I teach groups for a living and I’m now doing my own video tutorials, but as I’m working with horses and training them in front of people I have to set a plan in general what I’m going to attempt but it then depends on the animal. So my speaking comes out naturally. Thing is I’m so passionate that I think either I’m talking too fast (faster than my pace) or I can’t find words and I end up dumping word on top of word until I feel maybe I’m understood. Articulate was a video in your links which helped me a lot. As you say I’m not looking for big words just words that help explain my situation clearly
Very impressive, thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. Honestly I have to watch this twice to fully understand you Ma’am, because English is my second language. thank you and GOD bless you.
I'm starting my channel back up after deleting a bunch of videos and I tried recording for about an hour today and I just couldn't speak properly or articulate what I was trying to say. I found the "slow down" part to probably be true for me because I speak super fast. I also liked the last tip which really made me think about my approach. Thanks!
Really helpful video, and I love how it's personalized...each person needs to find their OWN natural pace. I can't wait to hear the rest of the tips...
Wonderful! I'm grateful to have you here. If you're staring your TH-cam channel, be sure to check out my video playlist on "TH-cam channel growth secrets" as well as the free resources I have available to help you.
As someone who has ADHD, it’s difficult to pace myself if I’m trying to keep up with my thoughts. The only way I can pace myself appropriately is if what I’m saying was premeditated. Otherwise I have a whirlwind of thoughts and expressions I’m trying to cite and express before they leave me and I forget them.
Speaking clearly without stumbling on words can be challenging for many people. It can affect your confidence and your communication. I’m glad you find these videos helpful for you!
Thanks for the video, I really appreciate your insight and tips! There actually hasn't been any evidence showing we're one type of learner - we learn in all three ways, just depends on what we're learning! Not directly related to the main content, but since you mentioned it, just thought it'd be fun to share.
I just realized I speak better when I speak faster, its like a bottle neck, when I slow down my brain gives too many ways to explain an aspect from different angles, which makes me stumble, and I thought I should slow down even more
Another best way, is to act as "an Actor", copy and record some scenes from your favorite movie or series. Then compared with original scene. also speak as if you are a lawyer, present your arguments and record yourself. I enjoy doing that! 🙂
I thought until now only i had the probelm of talking in public, but seeing sooo many people on the same road as me, makes it looks soo much more normall😊
I hope this helps, I have really bad social anxiety, and it affects my speech, then when I struggle to speech it makes me more anxious which then makes me struggle to speak even more.
I have a debate competition in 6 days and I'm stressing because I tend to stumble upon words and blank out on the stage. I'll try doing these tricks before the debate to try and help myself to appear more confident and clear like how I am internally. Any more tips for blanking out on the stage? -_-
Knowing your audience is critical when speaking to them. The statement that left handed people make up 10% of the world is incorrect when dealing with wealthy people. Truly wealthy people tend to be more like 50% of them left handed. As a left hander myself I recognized that working with them is different than working with right handers. Discover a persons handedness at the beginning of the conversation and speak to that natural handedness. Get educated on this and you will put yourself above your competitors. I retired very rich just by becoming an expert on this. Speaking to left handers is not the same as speaking to right handers.
I think part of my issues stem from years of being cut off and interrupted. I learned to speak fast and try to convey my thought as quickly as possible before someone cut me off.
Oh wow, you made me realize why I'm also bad at talking. I also talk in a more louder voice that it hurts to speak.
This here has everything on my mind!! Even after speaking so fast, I get to stutter on my words
I recently realized my family is made up of 2 kinds of people: the listeners and the talkers. My sister and I are listeners. When we do speak up, the talkers get bored quickly so we feel the need to always cut our stories short to get our 2 cents out there as quickly as possible. This has spread to all aspects of our lives. I’ve noticed it in my work, as I’ve tried expanding my stories to add detail, I notice people actually want to listen, so I get anxious and start stumbling on my words.
This is so true, I grew up with a few really toxic friends who always pretended like they didn't hear me when I talked normal so I'd end up trying to be louder or they'd cut me off everytime so I started talking faster or they'd just simply brush me off like anything I said was not worth listening to. As I grew older I ended up having to deal with speech problems, I lost my original talking pace, I also lost words alot coz of aphasia which just made things 5x worse
I usually feel like I'm pressured to speak when talking with someone.
Tip #5(Empower) is I think the major key. you're speaking to engage to them rather than trying to make your self look impressive and then you end up stumbling your words (maybe you put pressure on yourself?). Because when you truly engage to them that's when you can show your intention and everything becomes natural.
You got it! Speak to impact, not to impress. :) Glad to have you here in this space!
Dude, you just solved my problems, thank you dude.
What a sophisticated lady! She's like the auntie we all need. 😄
5 tips to speak clearly:
- Discover your pace
- Exercise your tongue
- Listen
- Vocalize
- Empower
Excellent summary once again! Thank you for helping the viewers
Very helpful video ...thank you so much Dr. Grace Lee
This is for me.i talk very slowly. I never knew I could talk on TH-cam, how much more teaching someone. I get better by the day.
I feel the same way. Over tend to be over critical but over time I get a bit more care free. I think that helps too.
Thank you a million! Really helpful. I often stumble on words and lack enunciation, and honestly speaking, it's embarrassing and discomforting. But will take on board these tips and put it to practice. Once again, thank you!
I’ll say your speech rate is fast!….yet it was extremely clear! We could hear/understand every word.
WHat a joy to just listen to you!! Yes Listen to enrol and empower people is truly a great tip!!!
I never realized how my tongue moved when making certain sounds thanks for making me conscious of it. One trick I was taught a long time ago was to smile while you talked this helped make enunciation easier and more clear for me.
That's a good trick!
Thanks for sharing! I like the idea of smiling :)
@@DrGraceLeegood one. I have learnt.
This is great, thank you! I tend to not speak up and shy away in meetings.
I’m so glad I found this channel. I relate a lot with Dr. Grace because English is not our first language, however she communicates even better than native speakers.
What if having a natural fast speaking pace is rewarded/praised by society compared to the naturally slower pace? For example, people think you are smart and have a quick mind, if you speak fast. I recently struggled a lot in my interviews as a naturally slow/soft speaker... Would really appreciate some more suggestions/tips on it!
There are two ways: 1 you look for the job where your speech speed is of little concern. 2) You train yourself to speak faster. No, it doesn't mean you have to start speaking as a bullet train, but increasing your speed 10 -15 % will make the difference. And remeber there are ppl who appreciate slow speakers, it gives an impression of a thoughtful person.
@@zettcompact8586 is it better to speak fast or slow then ?
@@eliaol4231 You would have to tailor it to your audience. You don’t want to speak too slowly in a debate since your opposing party may try to fill in your spacing and attempt to talk over your points by throwing their ideas or retorts in every time you take a pause. If you’re speaking with your boss you need them to understand you so brevity is important, but so is a decent speaking speed. Talking too quickly may result in them missing vital info and making bad judgement calls. Instructing others may require a slower speech pattern so the class can ask you to define certain terminology as they come across those terms, or to allow the new information to be written down and absorbed.
@@eliaol4231 usually, speaking faster is considered more charismatic, as it gives the impression that youre thinking fast, too, and hence smarter
@@daveroll6463 what does speaking slowly signify then ?
What a great video. It was a huge light bulb moment right from the discover point. I’m a visual learner. I teach groups for a living and I’m now doing my own video tutorials, but as I’m working with horses and training them in front of people I have to set a plan in general what I’m going to attempt but it then depends on the animal. So my speaking comes out naturally. Thing is I’m so passionate that I think either I’m talking too fast (faster than my pace) or I can’t find words and I end up dumping word on top of word until I feel maybe I’m understood. Articulate was a video in your links which helped me a lot. As you say I’m not looking for big words just words that help explain my situation clearly
Very impressive, thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. Honestly I have to watch this twice to fully understand you Ma’am, because English is my second language. thank you and GOD bless you.
This video helps me with my vocal training for my meetings/ productions!
Thank you🙏🏾🕊️
I'm starting my channel back up after deleting a bunch of videos and I tried recording for about an hour today and I just couldn't speak properly or articulate what I was trying to say. I found the "slow down" part to probably be true for me because I speak super fast. I also liked the last tip which really made me think about my approach. Thanks!
I have found my pace! When I Talk clearly! I have to pause to give me time to think how to speak clearly!
Thanks Dr. Lee it helps me a lot💖
Good morning, I am listening you for the first time. I appreciate your energy level to say meaningful to your listeners. Thank you.
Glad to have you here, Lanin! Thank you for the thoughtful comment.
Really helpful video, and I love how it's personalized...each person needs to find their OWN natural pace. I can't wait to hear the rest of the tips...
I suffered this as a kid and to this day I find it annoying. I will work on it and improve my social skills as well
Hi Dr grace.im about to start my TH-cam channel and these teachings are really important to me and I'm grateful to be part of your subscribers 🤝❤
Wonderful! I'm grateful to have you here. If you're staring your TH-cam channel, be sure to check out my video playlist on "TH-cam channel growth secrets" as well as the free resources I have available to help you.
Did you start?
@@MindYourImage yes I have short a few but I havent posted yet as I'm doubting the quality of it.
@@zanelemalandule6029 alright Dr. I'll be here when they are ready. Thank you
Actually you’re helpful person who knows a lot of things that needs to be known👏🏻
Thanks lol
I'm happy to help, and I'm glad to hear that my content was helpful to you!
@@DrGraceLee umm, I have a question. Are you a doctor?
Glad I found this channel.
Glad we found each other
These tips definitely work… you speak fast 💨 but clearly
I'm glad that I've discovered your TH-cam channel
It's a pleasure to have you here, Minah. Welcome!
Love your methodology to explain how we become an speakers confident and how we can use all the tool for speaking in front of.
YOu help a lot. THanks Dr Grace.
Wonderful and powerful presentation.......I like.
I like it.
Thank you, Jackson.
This is amazing! Thank you for sharing these gems with us🙏
As someone who has ADHD, it’s difficult to pace myself if I’m trying to keep up with my thoughts. The only way I can pace myself appropriately is if what I’m saying was premeditated. Otherwise I have a whirlwind of thoughts and expressions I’m trying to cite and express before they leave me and I forget them.
Thank you 😊
Thank you 🥺
You're welcome, Lettie!
Thanks a million
Excellent! Wish I could like this video several times more. Great job Ma'am.
Wow, thank you! I'm glad you liked it!
learning everyday from you. i am making a point to learn from your youtube every weekend, taking notes etc. thank you for the wonderful content.
You are amazing Dr Lee...
Thank you Dr. Grace Lee for this content. I learned a lot. ❤
I needed this in my life.. Thankyou
This video was very beneficial thank you
These videos are very helpful for me! 😩 I struggle with this in my spearhead impediment
Speaking clearly without stumbling on words can be challenging for many people. It can affect your confidence and your communication. I’m glad you find these videos helpful for you!
Thank you sooooooo much you are the best your word really helped me thank you
Very professional!!!
This would be my first time of commenting on TH-cam. Just a few minutes into the video and I sound better. Thanks for the insights.
Thank you
I'm glad I discovered your chanel
I'm glad to have you here!
So useful and educational. Many thanks
I found this to be beneficial! More videos on this topic.
Arthur so
You are the best. I really enjoy your teaching. Thank you.
👍Enjoy your presentation Dr.
Thanks for the video, I really appreciate your insight and tips! There actually hasn't been any evidence showing we're one type of learner - we learn in all three ways, just depends on what we're learning! Not directly related to the main content, but since you mentioned it, just thought it'd be fun to share.
Very helpful tips! Thank you! 😊🌻
Love respect n thanks from India
Very helpful!
Thank you so much Dr Grace. Really love watching and listening to you. I learn a lot from your videos.
Thank you for this video. I can feel I have progressing.
I'm glad to hear that, Mario!
Thank you so much Dr.Lee! These are great tips and I can already see improvements in my speech.
Thanks so much Dr. Lee for your mentorship, am very much inspired. Many are times I encountered challenges in my speech but with this I feel blessed
You are very welcome! Be blessed and grateful as I am to have you here on my channel.
Excellent
I just realized I speak better when I speak faster, its like a bottle neck, when I slow down my brain gives too many ways to explain an aspect from different angles, which makes me stumble, and I thought I should slow down even more
Me too
Excellent Dr. Lee, I needed this.
Thankyou
Another best way, is to act as "an Actor", copy and record some scenes from your favorite movie or series. Then compared with original scene. also speak as if you are a lawyer, present your arguments and record yourself. I enjoy doing that! 🙂
I'm encouraged, thanks Mama
I thought until now only i had the probelm of talking in public, but seeing sooo many people on the same road as me, makes it looks soo much more normall😊
Great tips!
Glad you like them!
@@DrGraceLee I am able to see the outcome in my office meetings. Thank you Dr.
Love this, thank you!👍👏
Thanks a lot ma'am.
So good, love the video
Glad you loved it! Happy new year, Kimberly!
Amazing advise, thank you ma’am
I 'm glad i discovered your channel
Very helpful, good video.
Thank you for the video and excited to learn more
You bet! More to come
I hope this helps, I have really bad social anxiety, and it affects my speech, then when I struggle to speech it makes me more anxious which then makes me struggle to speak even more.
did it?
Amazing video
Very helpful. Thanks
You're welcome!
Just what I needed now! Thanks!
you are fantastic!
Thanks. I was already getting anxious about it. Thanks for the tips mum
I have a debate competition in 6 days and I'm stressing because I tend to stumble upon words and blank out on the stage. I'll try doing these tricks before the debate to try and help myself to appear more confident and clear like how I am internally. Any more tips for blanking out on the stage? -_-
I lover her 👏🏽
Love you, too! Glad to have you here on my channel.
Great video.
Dr. Grace new subscriber here. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Thank you for this Doc. I will have Aphasia that I can be going for my exercises. God bless you.
Wow! that was so helpful.thanks alot and keep up the good job 🙏
ههههههههههههههه I like the tongue clips of the giraffe and dogs
Excellent thanks. any tips for sounding natural when reading a script?
Excellent tips.. especially the 5th one.. thank you🙏🏻
Best advice I got ,appreciate it 🙏
Very helpful 👌
I appreciate your feedback, Anoria. Welcome to my channel!
Do you have videos on how to pick the right word choice for what your describing?
I loved this video......funny, when she said communication...them added piece quickly after, for a second, I thought she was saying bye..lol
Thanks 😢💚💚💚
Lovely lesson
2:57 Funniest thing ive seen all day. 😂😂😂😂😂
Thanks for the awesome lesson.
Pacing is key especially when having calls all day
Nice video, thank you Mam.
Awesome 👌👌👍👍🙏🙏
Amazing i have problem with th, r. The word think., and the letter S
Knowing your audience is critical when speaking to them. The statement that left handed people make up 10% of the world is incorrect when dealing with wealthy people. Truly wealthy people tend to be more like 50% of them left handed. As a left hander myself I recognized that working with them is different than working with right handers. Discover a persons handedness at the beginning of the conversation and speak to that natural handedness. Get educated on this and you will put yourself above your competitors. I retired very rich just by becoming an expert on this. Speaking to left handers is not the same as speaking to right handers.
2:52 funniest part of this vedio😂❤