Hi Dr Sia, i have disorganised attachment and I've been with a therapist before but it didn't help me a lot. I hope to have sessions with you in January when you have space I found your content very helpful
Thanks for sharing. When you think about it we are either completely influenced by our genetics or formed by a combination of genetics and environement. Ultimately, it comes down to one's luck and who they are surrounded with or genes. But the good news is that we are all influenced by others. Good work. Keep it up.
It is upsetting that people who were traumatized and shamed will often be further shamed by society for their coping mechanisms. The people doing the shaming get to feel better about themselves for being of supposed higher morals, while the people being shamed are punished, retraumatized, not seen or heard. They are demonized, and disrespected to the point of being stripped of their humanhood, their rights. It is the most emotionally damaging thing a human could go thru, to be socially condemned in such a manner.
I can relate to this story so much. I wanted to go to technical school as a child, but my mom said the children there would beat me up because they're bad kids who smoke and tattoo their shoulders. It didn't make sense to me because I was the person who went to school everyday, not her, and I didn't think that these kids were actually that bad. Eventually I was persuaded into going to a different school, which I regret now.
Thanks for sharing. And of course that is the conscious reason why you became a therapist - which also matches your adult values and norms etc. For such a psychodynamically oriented therapist as you, I could be curious to know if there are also to some extent motives that represent "your shadow" or other form of underlying more or less unconscious dynamics? For me, that side could be about the satisfaction of being perceived as a kind of authority, that with reasonable certainty there is someone who cares to listen to what I say and to be allowed to be at the center. I have experienced that the advantage of knowing my "shadow motives" (and what lies behind them) makes it so much easier to handle any impulses from that side, so that I manage to be present as a professional to a much greater extent , who primarily have the client's inner life and help with that in mind.
Hi Dr Sia, i have disorganised attachment and I've been with a therapist before but it didn't help me a lot. I hope to have sessions with you in January when you have space I found your content very helpful
Thanks for sharing. When you think about it we are either completely influenced by our genetics or formed by a combination of genetics and environement. Ultimately, it comes down to one's luck and who they are surrounded with or genes. But the good news is that we are all influenced by others. Good work. Keep it up.
You do have perfect English! : ) Thank you for the encouragement!
@@drsia2323 thanks We need more people like you in the world to educate us. Keep it up.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, for being so honest. Best wishes from Germany, Franziska
This is so interesting! Thanks for sharing and answering my question 😊
Any time!
It is upsetting that people who were traumatized and shamed will often be further shamed by society for their coping mechanisms. The people doing the shaming get to feel better about themselves for being of supposed higher morals, while the people being shamed are punished, retraumatized, not seen or heard. They are demonized, and disrespected to the point of being stripped of their humanhood, their rights. It is the most emotionally damaging thing a human could go thru, to be socially condemned in such a manner.
Very passionate comment! Thank you for sharing!
Sia thank you so much for sharing your story behind the reason of why you decided to become a psychologist.
I am very grateful for your help.
I can relate to this story so much. I wanted to go to technical school as a child, but my mom said the children there would beat me up because they're bad kids who smoke and tattoo their shoulders.
It didn't make sense to me because I was the person who went to school everyday, not her, and I didn't think that these kids were actually that bad. Eventually I was persuaded into going to a different school, which I regret now.
Very different for you then! Sorry to hear that.
Thanks for sharing. And of course that is the conscious reason why you became a therapist - which also matches your adult values and norms etc. For such a psychodynamically oriented therapist as you, I could be curious to know if there are also to some extent motives that represent "your shadow" or other form of underlying more or less unconscious dynamics?
For me, that side could be about the satisfaction of being perceived as a kind of authority, that with reasonable certainty there is someone who cares to listen to what I say and to be allowed to be at the center. I have experienced that the advantage of knowing my "shadow motives" (and what lies behind them) makes it so much easier to handle any impulses from that side, so that I manage to be present as a professional to a much greater extent , who primarily have the client's inner life and help with that in mind.
Thank you for sharing! Of course there are lots of shadow reasons for me too!