Hi, Dave, through your ministry and healing words I have been dragged out of the abyss. I want and need you to know that God led me to you at a time of utter hopelessness when all the light had been seemingly blotted out. You helped to lead me back to the light of God's love and the still waters and green pastures of His Shepherding care. My pain is lessening with each new day. My heart is mending. My soul is purging all that darkness away. Thank you for your anointed work. Keep saving souls and leading them to Jesus, brother. Amen x
@@Narcologyunscripted Bless you, David. You are a mighty man of God, as the Welsh would say. I pray for your ministry and work to long continue; God be with you always x
Same here! We belong to him and he's got us... He is the lion standing behind us while the wolf tries to intimidate us. Remember The Lord is close to the broken hearted.
Even if it was a narcissistic, you didn't waste your time. God taught you how to love EVEN DEEPER cuz someone will need it and value it. Training ground.
If I didn't have this experience I would never have known the evil that exists in the world! I now know what love is but most importantly what love IS NOT!
Amen to that. The Lord always walks beside us during all our trials. He loves us with a everlasting love. He will never leave us or forsake us. What a mighty God we serve.
God was with me all the way. I got my strength from my dads words before he passed away. He held my hand every day and said to me, be frightened of no one or anything in this world there is no one more powerful than God. As I went through the crazy crazy I prayed and prayed that's what gave me strength knowing no one was more powerful and accepted it will all come good in his time
I'm having a hard time letting go of sadness and regret. I wasted 8 years with my narc ex..it took so much from me. I was in the narcissist fog for so long, I did not understand narcissistic personality disorder most of those years. As soon as I became educated, the epiphany was realized and I made an escape plan. Part of why this type of abuse is so damaging, they hoover after you leave. They do not accept you leaving, they feel fully entitled to you and your peace or lack thereof. I'm hoping in time to find more peace
I’ve been there! It does get better. Time…give it time. Listen to multiple channels like Dr. Sam Vankin, Little Sharmin. They all helped me. But this channel brings a spiritual healing with the knowledge. Keep believing in yourself. Best wishes
I did it for 10 it took its mental toll on me, do what you have always talked about but with someone else. I was always failing at climbing the corporate ladder because of her. I made changes and finally made it after she left and now I'm rich and she is still a welfare diva, her new man has nothing it's all hers the house and everything. He has a pickup that's it. I have a farm 2 cars and am financially stable, she hates me cause I survived and come out stronger... do that and you got yourself back.
True. It is completely exhausting like being attached spiritually to a corpse that you pull around with you all day trying to live your life in goodness but being dragged down to their garbage and stench.
God wants to bring you someone like minded, someone who can actually love you. I love that. So many of us have poor self esteem and that made us absolute targets for the narcissist. We stayed and endured abuse and being used because we thought this is the best I can get. We grew up with the belief we don't deserve to be loved. Needed to hear this message today. 3 yrs free from the narcissist, it's so hard to trust again but gives hope that it could be possible to love again.
You will be able to love again without fear .I say this because this is what I have to do myself. When we pursue a rigjt ,close relationship with God he will provide the right man. God wants us to make sure that our goal is to love Him with all our heart ,mind,soul n body first then God will bless us with the man He has for us. Amen. God says to seek him 1st and then he will take care of the rest. Love in Christ
I have had the misfortunate of having 3 narcissists in my life. This has taught me so much about narcissism and also about MYSELF. I feel I am a stronger person today, having to endure the cycle of abuse and the trauma bond. They are truly toxic in so many covert and insidious ways. I thought I had learned my lessons after dealing with the narcissist number 1. All our great traits at the end, is what they use to abuse and traumatize us.........NEVER AGAIN.
@@karlabritfeld7104 no your not a sucker. You're not a victim anymore. They just came at you differently from each other. ALWAYS consider the motivations of those in your life. Thats what I do anyway. I expect to be done with them but I may be naive even there. Well see I guess I think us "victims" of these monsters look at the good of others over the bad
I just don't understand why when we loved them so much, unconditionally, they inflict pain on us. If they miss the way we love them, why would you give it up, push it away and tear it apart? I wish the hurt would leave, I've prayed and begged God to take it. I appreciate any prayers. Thank you.
I told my toxic love that she would never understand love until she was on her knees out in the yard crying, begging all that is holy to please make me let go. Just let go and try to live, breathe, think, function. And only then would she understand..my description only got a blank stare from her. I just cannot fathom it
I sure missed your videos. Yours were the first I ever came across about narcissists/narcissistic abuse and were what gave me strength to move forward, understand what was happening, and how to learn myself again. Glad you’re back!
I am just experiencing this as a empath. I cared for him with whole my heart. Now I'm praying for supernatural strenght from God to really leave him and never go back. Very abusive and painfull relationship. But with Christ I,m more than victorious.🙏🙏
I was abused heavily as a kid, became an introvert, developed debilitating co-dependency, anxiety and agoraphobia. My ex-narcissist taught me how co-dependent I am and that I require someone caring in my life to feel secure, hope, confidence and purpose. Although she wore a mask pretending to care, she was the only one who could get me out of the house. I hadn't left home for 11 years for work or socializing until I met her online. Every day was spent at home with a dysfunctional family. My narcissist got me to get out of the house to meet her, unfortunately she never really cared. I've been to therapy, taken medication and even pray to God, but nothing worked, nothing gets me out of the house like feeling loved by another person. And nothing shatters my heart and soul like learning it was all fake, a game being played by a narcissist. So I'm back in the house, haven't left since 2019 except maybe 3 times. I'm afraid I'll never find a genuine friend.
Don't give up 🙌 only child to a caregiver mother 😖. Moved me 5 hours away from everything and everyone so she had free range to treat me like absolutely nothing. Going on 12 months NC 💪 ! Me and my son are so much happier not being around her ♥️
Hi David, I am also an introvert, probably due to childhood trauma. Been on a healing journey for about three years. I will always be working on me, it's daily. One thing I really wanted to tell you is please don't let anyone steal your joy. Evil people are just not worth it. Peace to you sir!!
❤ glad you’re back. We still need these chats I’ve gone two years no contact. But I see narcissistic people all around. His memory still hunts me .. I’m glad I moved on and I was able to love myself.
The memory of you will haunt the Narcissist forever! Wow such power and truth in and behind that statement! My mother is haunted by the memory of her choosing a man over her first born child! 48 years later I realize that I remind my mother where she failed! I forgave her, but she hasn't forgave herself!
Dave, to the point. I loved him and gave all I had in my heart. To think 16 years being with a man who sucked me dry. So draining and so much drama. Godless….
I was married to a narcissist who left me (wife #7 thought I was 4 found out after the fact). He was engaged to #8 after moving out of state during our divorce still married to me. He died in a tragic accident August 2021 leaving me legally widowed. I met a new boyfriend in February 2021. After 18 months I discovered he was a narcissist (recognized the devaluation). I’ve watched your videos since January 2020. Had it not been for your help, I wouldn’t have had the strength to discard the boyfriend first. I see the toxic signs now. I’m trauma bonded still but he’s blocked and I’ve gone no contact. This is my first comment as you need to know you have helped me. By the grace of God, I am stronger. I see the signs. God help narcissistic people as I pray for them. They are broken, but I will not allow them to break me. I will be better and we all need to stand together. No more Mrs B for me. I’m Mrs. A! God bless you for your outreach in helping us empaths rise above and stay strong. I have been through the unimaginable!🙏🏼
This is so true. You are explaining things the way they were for many many years in a very demanding life, but I always kept up doing and doing because a yearn so bad for the love in return but also just because I meant every word I said when I said my vows and I truly did love my husband no matter who he was that day or that minute I always loved him and went out of my way to do anything for him. It feels good to know that I did do this and that I was truly faithful to the very end. As dysfunctional as it was, the Lord and people like you, have facilitated in understanding and healing. Thank you.
I’m nine months out from almost a five-year relationship I had to throw him out in March. I couldn’t take the abuse anymore the lying the cheating the stealing the disrespect, not being excepted by certain flying monkeys, blah blah blah. Oh, and let’s not forget all of the gaslighting and everything else too much to mention, but everybody knows exactly what I’m talking about.
Sometimes I miss the way I loved the Narc. I loved so completely. My final reason for leaving .... he was incapable of loving anyone. I had to go back to God my first love and serve him only. I did tell God that I did not want to be single and to please send me his choice, God’s choice since I didn't listen the first time. Now I'm happily remarried.
Thank you so much for sharing. It’s so rare we get to hear stories of success after this journey because often times people move on to different content in different phases. Your story gives us hope. Why do you say you miss the way you loved the Narc? Do you love your spouse differently? Is it less passionate?
@Angel i loved the narc with youthful abandon in that I just tried everything to make it work. I see myself as a champion of unconditional love. My new husband was my dearest friend from high school and he is now my deepest romantic love. There is just acceptance and trust and respect. When I'm triggered he is patient. He also remembers me before my narc destruction. He used to come into the kitchen and I would dart quickly out of his way yielding to his presence. He called me out. He told me I didn't have to make way for him since he just wanted to kiss me because he loves me and seeing me cook for him is a caring gesture he wanted to reward me with a smooch.
You are so right..I've watched this video twice and I must admit..my relationship with God was not where it should have been while I was in this toxic relationship. Since I've left the relationship with the narc, I've been on a journey..a journey to strengthen my relationship with God, and speak to him. Thank him for getting me to this point of strength, even if it doesn't feel strong..I know I am stronger than I was 2 years ago. 6 months ago..I know God will get me through this, as he has been. I genuinely want this entire experience to make me a better person. It's not just gaining perspective and knowledge, but try even harder to be empathic and caring to others. Treat my family better. Work harder at my job. Put others first. But, still find time to take care of Me Being kind to others, has become even more important to me through all this. This was a great video, I'm a new subscriber. I'm very thankful for these gifts of knowledge
To cry out... , I was/am struggling to let go. I know it isn't an immediate release but recently surveying my yard trying to busy myself picking up limbs and collapsed to my knees begging God to make me let go. I calmed to the point I could stand. It's steadily been easier, but not loving so hard might help me in the future. Idk if that's the right way or not but I'm easing out of this. You have helped me tremendously. For that I am truly grateful for you. Thank you
Amen brother. I can think of at least two times in my life where I groaned in the spirit in a prayer that had very few words to our God. Both were at times I felt I couldn't go on ANY further. Both times enough strength was given to me to carry on and like you said my life was filled with blessings. Pain too ofc because we live in the flesh and subject to this treacherous world but life changing events that resulted in elevating my life nonetheless. Thank you for the encouraging words! Keep up the fight.
Those 3 things make them think we would take them back. They hoover because they believe we will come back. They wouldn't hoover if they weren't confident. Mine still comes back, although blocked for about 2 and a half years because I discarded him without a word. If I had been nasty, called him out, he wouldn't be hoovering. They believe we will always love them. Guess what? We get over you and don't want you back. Thanks Dave.
You can usually see the tension in their eyes as they look at you saying (silently) “How are you able to survive this pain I’m putting you through, why do you continue, unlike me?” Very sad they are the crabs in a bucket.
I'm sure my Ex Toxic Narc Girlfriend thought the same exact thing. Sitting around in a room with her family she was telling them that I have a lot of Energy because of my age and I don't look my age. I can honestly say I could burn circles around anyone them any day of the week. Very Shortly after that I Walked Away from her and Toxic Bull Shit. I've been No Contact and Total silence since then. Thanks Dave.
Dave, you reach a lot of people and you are a blessing to many I still watch your videos and I'm a firm supportive of your works along with others. Blessings Gary
Good afternoon Dave. God bless you. My first narcissistic ex I lost ten years, and three vehicles and over $10,000 to, has passed away back in July of 2021. But my second ex, who I had loved for 30 years, I sent money to, and took phone calls from jail at my expense, walked away from me cold after 2 years of thinking I was trying to help her. Then I saw the wedding ring on her marriage finger, and it made the $200 Nordstrom lace dress, and the sterling silver necklace I bought for her, pale in comparison. She never contacted me since, and that was September 12 of 2018. Since then, she's been arrested 4 times for drug manufacturing, sales and prostitution. And with me being disabled, of advanced age, and incapable of supporting a household, I finally got the message that I'm incapable of having a life with anyone. It's not a lack of faith on my part, because I'm sure God can change the situation if it's his will to do so. But it's a dose of reality on my part, I reached way beyond my means with my attempts at pursuing love, only to be denied. Maybe in heaven.
Your kind demeanor and genuine sincerity have done so much to keep me grounded and hopeful while I've been going through the hell I've been going through. Just wanted to thank you for that.
Go on David give out the knowledge because you are reaching so many. I remember when God led me to you many years ago. I saw that you were sick to. I could see it in your eyes. Now you are rejuvenated. You got your second wind. Amen
"Caring about their kids...Caring about the time we dedicated to their kids...Caring about their family.." and still after all that caring she cheats on you and throws you to the wolves...but yet you gain custody of her kids...I'll never understand no mattetr how much I try to move on.
So good Dave. Didn’t know anything about npd until like 2 months ago. Had been googling the jezebel spirit I think. My 23 year old ex-girlfriend is a full-blown narc. She’s done everything you said she’d do, except I never truly got love-bombed in the beginning. That would have been nice 😂 I guess she’s still learning. Anyway, as a true believer, this is the most amazing channel. Indebted to you. Have watched prob 200 of your videos since I found them. Have had very little contact since breaking up. I don’t like anything about her now, but am still a tiny bit trauma bonded. So the vids help tremendously to stay focused. God bless you sir. -Justin
Dave this is so true I have talked to Carl about receiving the peace of God and he refuses he claimed to Receive the Lord as a savior 3 times because I told him unless he is born again I cannot marry him he asked me 3 times and I rejected him but I tried to help him but like you said Lucifer will not allowhat he has Blocked any opportunity in himself to be able to come to the Lord because it's easier for him to blame his father his real father of deserting him as a child So he has been living his life with pride. I was with Carl for 5 years . I've seen a lot of things that he had done I have talked to him about it he has denied everything even though I told him my eyes don't lie et cetera he had turned everyone against me his family used to love me But I understand why they look at me and think I am the issue or the problem because he Come across as the sweet person Even though I have shown his family and Friends nothing but love. I prayed to God that he would reveal to me the Truth behind what carl Has been doing and he had and still is. Carl is again with a woman who he has known for many years and I know sooner or later she to will find out because I also pray that whoever he tries to hook up with that they will also see and feel the things behind what he is about. Thank you Dave for bringing out the truth .blessings to you in Jesus mighty name amen
2 years of no contact, just me and my small kids. God saved me. Never again! Oh let the ec narc miss the love, the family I gave him, clean house and hot dinner after work ready on table for him. Cheers Dave! Lovely to have you back!
My Narcissist (co-worker) blind sided me. It was devasting. I eventually quit my job After 5 years of the silent treatment. Could not process it any longer. You HAVE TO go no contact. Believe me, they do not care about you. That’s why it’s so hard to deal with it. They draw you in to become your soul mate. They really try to become YOU! You will think they are the missing link in your life. And then, all of sudden……………….. they will wipe you out! Please listen to Brother Dave! The narcissist is so phony. You will literally throw up in your mouth when you see the truth of this evil shell of a person! When I got wiped out, The Holy Spirit led me to Bother Dave’s channel. After watching his videos, I couldn’t stop crying for two days. I couldn’t believe/ didn’t know that narcissism even existed. Everything that Brother Dave was saying, was happening to me! Please stay the course. I believe nobody knows what you’re going through better than Brother Dave.❤️ There is still real loving people out there, and you will definitely find some of them here. God leads people here because He knows you need to hear the testimonies.
So damn true. I loved him to build him up anyway I could. He told me he was a victim of narc abuse...very manipulative. All the while, he was gaslighting, picking arguments, projecting, blame shifting, going silent...very covert and master manipulators. He lost a good woman when he lost me.
Hello Dave! Your words are truly anointed from God above!! The healing power that you hold has mended my soul on so many levels!!! I started listening to you three years ago and every time that i do you speak to my soul and my soul is ever healing every time!! I was married to a norc for 14 years and never knew he was a narc. I just kept on putting my best foot forward in hopes that he would become the man that i saw in him-that never came to fruition!! We have four amazing children, together-all grown up and thriving very well, thank goodness. But not without impairment, as you can only imagine!! I have discussed with each of our children what a narc is and forewarned each of them to keep their heart distant from his, as one day he will move on and treat them like they never existed as he has done with me and also with his next victim! What is so sad is he married her and they could not have children together so they adopted a little girl! This little girl is now 6 years old and He left them last year and has not spokwn to either of them! This little girl is our four childrens sister! They love her very much and now see how their father for who he is!
Angela I am so glad you have God and this information so the new adoptee can be blessed through. God has amazing plans for you and and your new extended family. Thank you for your kind words they really blessed me tonight:)
Introject constancy their internal view of you. They can't rid themselves of these internal view of others ( in their head). These images in their head fight w each other- creates negativity in the narcissist.
Somehow i always feel like they forget about us because they are so busy with new supply. Its not like they arent resourcefull. Whats hurts the most is realizing that like the new supply you werent all that special to them . Just another fuel source. It does help emotionally distancing yourself frol the narc but it still hurts because of how much you loved them.
This is The Best one yet! So 100% accurate and true what you said. I said the same thing about God's unconditional Love yesterday. My dogs give unconditional love and loyalty and time and wanting to be around us, just as God does! Yes purpose God's purpose! Right cry out to Jesus! Fill us with your Holy Spirit Light and Love. Beautiful message Dave Thank you and God bless. We can leave one Narc and theres another waiting. I've experienced thisbober and over same thing with a different person so I've asked Hod for Deliverance from Narcissistic people and relationships in my life! Thank You Lord for healing. I am a New Creation in Christ and ready for a Non-toxic relationship in Jesus name Amen with a healed person who knows The Lord Jesus because Narcs dont know Him. They can pretend they know Him,but they cant fake the fruits of the Spirit. This made so much sense to me the way you explain it Thank you Dave and God bless you!
My ex mother was the same way my ex would do all kinds of things for her and all she did was complained I was blowed away he never said a word to her about it..."Doing" things for her was the only way he knew what love was...now I understand why he didn't love me properly or even knew how..there was no "connection" at all even though we had our good times abd fun times but also the worst of times the longer I was with him the more of the narcissist came out in him the gaslighting was the last straw...3 years free
I knew it! That our memories and my love is going to haunt her forever she will never meet someone else who loved her like I did I actually had to learn to love her
God DID save me I asked Jesus for help and strength Which he gave me Also DID feel Angels around me Truly!! Last time with the narc I woke up in the middle of the night and saw his empty soul and felt the evil darkness I left the next morning I knew God was giving me a supernatural way out and I had to follow HIM Its been 10 months narc free
One thing to understand. They CANT love. You can and do. No matter what, they will NEVER see. NEVER regret. That's why we hurt so much because we think everyone is like how we are. We can't think like them. All we can do is pray that God will have mercy on them and bring them to WANTING to let God bring them back to him.
Yes I gave unconditional love but it appears his new supply does too! So although he comes back and love bombs me, he stays with the new supply. Now blocked everywhere 😢
Yeah I'm trying to remember how it went. But basically those that dance with the devil are left standing there holding the bill that the devil skipped out on.
Even though everything that I have went through and some things that still continue to this day because of the connection with my ex and children. Even though they are grown and my youngest is now in heaven. I wouldn't change what it has caused me and my heart to change and for my eyes to be opened, and I thank the Lord for saving me over and over again. Memories still haunt me but and my weakness, Jesus gives me strength that I don't possess alone. It has taught me to rely on Jesus and the word of God and to recognize that there is real evil in this world but through Jesus we have the victory. I love him more everyday, correction every minute.
My ex narcs sister is taking pages from her book, her husband reached out to me not long ago, he's been singled out of the loop, he told her he talked to me and she said I treated her sister like shit! My answer to that was why did I do that ask yourself? Is it because she cheated on me, left me for another man and when he went broke she came back and tried to control my finances, is it because when I did not let her have her way she punished me and her family ganged up on me? Is it because her and amber heard are a lot a like? No I treated her exactly how she treated me, disgust.
I never thought I'd be watching narc vids again but my npd ex went around my blocking and "hoovered" me. I chose to respond out of curiosity as to what was going on..n.s. is going thru her discard.. my replacement. But she is wealthy so their break up is "amicable".. oh well.. just another way to make me feel worthless. But it's just how narcs are. You always feel like poop after speaking to them.
Dave, there is something that I just do not understand - I am asking you, as God obviously gives you so much wisdom. After healing from the narc abuse (parent, friend, and exes), and this healing happened only by the grace of God as I never thought I would survive so much deep pain - getting even closer to God, hanging to Him every moment - I asked Him in july 2020 for a life partner - He answered me to "just be patient". We are now in nov 2022, no serious prospect at all. I am longing to share my life with a partner that God will choose for me. I am not getting any younger (61). I just do not discern why He is not answering my prayer for this and I do not hear any response from Him. I am not getting any younger, have no children/grandchildren. Is it possible that God is preventing this because the end of time is near? Or is there something I still do not understand? I will accept God's decision to be alone the rest of my life if that His decision for me, but I just wished I understood why. I am hoping God will use you as a vessel of wisdom for me. I am just afraid that out of aloneness for many years, I might be sucked back into the snares of another narcissist.
God is our parent and a great love you will never know with others, he knows when your ready, age has nothing to do with it, I’m 62 never been married and I asked god for the same thing, I’m still on my journey so I’m not ready yet, you must have patients, if you don’t how can you be patient with your partner and expect the same back, oppps now say to god, fat kat daddy, I’m sorry I profess to know more than you, I lost my mind in a sorrowful heart, forgive me daddy and I will leave everything but my cup of coffee to you.😊
Dear sir Please do not lose hope for your future God is the only force one should rely upon 🙏 I to like millions of others on here or out there that have been through heart wrenching discard from a narcissist woman or man projection is hurtful stay in the now find trustworthy family and friends all will be well I to am very broken inside from yrs of narcissistic abuse from my former girlfriend that ghosted me 4 months ago no word no text nothing I will not ever contact her ever after what she has done to our relationship to me its the act of a 12 yr old mentality its hurt me to the core but I have grand kids I must b strong with God in my heart God bless u all that feel and have and or are going through this horrible painful trauma bond toxic past narcissistic abuse thank you young man I'm 64 and dealing with all the same feelings of dispare and memories Amen
I cried my heart to god into my pillow after surviving cancer. He gave me this narc 😂 I now know it was the devil that heard me. Next time I cry, I will look up
Thank you for your heart felt and wise ministry. It is a true blessing. I'm always respectable to all faiths, but telling a woman that she's been under a devil's spell and that she needs to surrender to the male god figure that created this mythical monster.......is very, very dangerous. It also implies thst a msn who abuses her is under a devil's control and therefore isn't really responsible. Sadly, most religions use their Bibles or other books to intimidate and control women with fear. Fear they'll make God angry by divorcing an abuser. Fear that she just didn't pray the right way or have enough faith in God to heal her marriage. God doesn't need our faith. He already belueves in Himself and knows He's strong, real, and perfect. We need to help women to find faith, strength, and pure love for themselves. If you believe in God, then you know He gave us all the power to love ourselves so we can, in turn, protect ourselves and draw close people who will love us as Christ loved the church.
I just want to say that I was dating a woman that I think now is a narcissist but I'm not sure.. because she treated me like gold we had a lot of fun together she was very kind to me very generous very supportive very sweet to me always.. if anything I'm the one with depression and anxiety during the winter times and she was really there to help me through it... But as I was getting to know her she was saying things that were just really strange... She would say she's from another planet and that she's here for the betterment of mankind , she once said that she broke into the Vatican and was saving children that were being abused and molested by elites and by priests and she almost got killed doing it but she got away... she once told me that she had a black belt in karate... I asked her to perform a move and she said she couldn't because she had multiple sclerosis , I then told her what does she take to treat the multiple sclerosis and she says nothing she controls it with the power of her mind and cannabis oil.. she once told me the city had to come by and change the street light in back of her house because she's able to render them useless and break them by using the power of her mind.. she once told me she's in some secret group called "the cause" that Tom Cruise and Keanu Reeves and a bunch of other celebrities and billionaires are part of that work behind the scenes to stop the darkness of this world.. another time she told me that she remembers all 33 of her past lives and she doesn't have to reincarnate anymore and that's how she recognized me when she first saw me because we were together in her past life... She once said that she beat up a police officer and tied him up with his own handcuffs... She wants told me that certain cloud formations are actually cloaked spaceships and she can tell which ones they are.. she said that she's a doctor and a lawyer when I pressed her to show me a degree she never provided one... She also said that she had four kidneys and the rarest blood type in the world... Another time she told me that she hated French people I asked her why do you hate French people? She responded that in one of her past lives in the 17th century she was in France and the French burned her alive on a stake... I mean how do you respond to stuff like this? Of course I never believed any of this stuff and I would tell her I didn't believe it but most of the times I was just let it go in one ear out the other ...but then she told me she was pregnant or that she thought she was pregnant for the second time in 3 months and I just didn't believe her for some reason... I just felt like she was being deceitful, just a gut feeling ....I confronted her and told her calmly that I thought she was lying and that she's a pathological liar because of all the things she has said to me in the past... she went absolutely bonkers!! She got really aggressive really mad broke up with me instantly.. there was no discussion or deliberation she just ended it told me it was "all my fault" and that " I just don't want to be happy".... I haven't heard anything from her in 3 months.. I don't know does this fall under the category of narcissism?? I have no idea... all I know is that I couldn't believe a word that was coming out of her mouth anymore and despite the fact that I feel like I lost my best friend at least I don't have any more anxiety and stress anymore .. when she ended it I didn't tell her " please don't" or "let's talk about it"...I told her " I think it's a good idea and it's for the best" because "i don't trust you" ... What do you do when somebody loves you and showes you more love than anybody has ever shown you in your life but you can't believe a word that comes out of their mouths??? I don't know if anybody's going to read this but I could chertainly use somebody's opinion and advice..
It didn't sound like she was emotionally abusing you - sounds like she had bigger issues - count yourself lucky stars she's no longer your problem - - just my observations but what do I know
Women fall out of love with their abusers. Men seem to stay in love longer with their abuser. By the time it’s over the woman no longer loves her abuser. She has known she hasn’t for a long time by the time it ends. It’s pathetic to love your abuser. They are disgusting.
I don't feel that I can do this! I have been destroyed by a sweet 'boy' who may just be a 53 year old evil sociopath. I am very ill, SO MUCH HAS HAPPENED TO ME. IT IS OFF THE SCALE. He is all I have and he brought me to YHWH's name and his scriptures; he strengthened my faith then took it. I cannot cope with his emotional abuse and the gaslighting that has destroyed me. I won't make it! He drove me to suicide, abandoned me, let me sleep rough and used Police to abuse me after Official Caring role HE wanted, not me!
What about when they post this.""Every mistake I've made Every bridge I've burned All the love that I killed You know I never learned So many friendships dreaded Wasted fucking time I'll look you straight in the eye And you know I lied Hard lessons I've had my share Can't learn from mistakes when I don't fucking care I've burnt bridges I lit the flame That killed friendships and I still felt nothing (hard lessons) I had it coming I bit the hand that feeds I'm gonna burn myself down and take you with me Can't trust no woman Can't trust the no laws they tell me I don't need acceptance I belong to nothing Hard lessons I've had my share Can't learn from mistakes when I don't fucking care I've burnt bridges I lit the flame That killed friendships and I still felt nothing (hard lessons) What's done is done And I'll turn on you again What's done is done Yeah I'll turn on you again Hard lessons Don't come cheap What would kill you can't touch me Hard lessons don't come cheap Hard lessons don't come
Hi, Dave, through your ministry and healing words I have been dragged out of the abyss. I want and need you to know that God led me to you at a time of utter hopelessness when all the light had been seemingly blotted out. You helped to lead me back to the light of God's love and the still waters and green pastures of His Shepherding care. My pain is lessening with each new day. My heart is mending. My soul is purging all that darkness away. Thank you for your anointed work. Keep saving souls and leading them to Jesus, brother. Amen x
Wow your words mean so much, that really blessed me brother. GodBless You
@@Narcologyunscripted Bless you, David. You are a mighty man of God, as the Welsh would say. I pray for your ministry and work to long continue; God be with you always x
Same here! We belong to him and he's got us... He is the lion standing behind us while the wolf tries to intimidate us. Remember The Lord is close to the broken hearted.
Same here, Red. .divine intervention led me here same as you. Pulling out of this , the universe has given me what I need when I needed it.
Even if it was a narcissistic, you didn't waste your time. God taught you how to love EVEN DEEPER cuz someone will need it and value it. Training ground.
If I didn't have this experience I would never have known the evil that exists in the world! I now know what love is but most importantly what love IS NOT!
The narcissist takes people that are good to them for granted
Absolutely.
Sure do.
My ex best friend got a surprise from me then…😂
More than that - they deliberately hurt them.
@@fainitesbarley2245 🎯
God and Jesus is how I survived the narcissist abuse. I couldn't of done it without them.
Glory!
Amen to that.
The Lord always walks beside us during all our trials.
He loves us with a everlasting love.
He will never leave us or forsake us.
What a mighty God we serve.
Amen❤❤❤
@Debbie Ramsey
AMEN ♥︎
ALL GLORY TO GOD ☝🏾✨️✝️
God was with me all the way. I got my strength from my dads words before he passed away. He held my hand every day and said to me, be frightened of no one or anything in this world there is no one more powerful than God. As I went through the crazy crazy I prayed and prayed that's what gave me strength knowing no one was more powerful and accepted it will all come good in his time
I'm having a hard time letting go of sadness and regret. I wasted 8 years with my narc ex..it took so much from me. I was in the narcissist fog for so long, I did not understand narcissistic personality disorder most of those years. As soon as I became educated, the epiphany was realized and I made an escape plan. Part of why this type of abuse is so damaging, they hoover after you leave. They do not accept you leaving, they feel fully entitled to you and your peace or lack thereof. I'm hoping in time to find more peace
I’ve been there! It does get better. Time…give it time. Listen to multiple channels like Dr. Sam Vankin, Little Sharmin. They all helped me. But this channel brings a spiritual healing with the knowledge. Keep believing in yourself.
Best wishes
I spent 20 years with one
How are you getting on at the moment? 8 years is a long time especially if you didn't know what was going on for quite some time. Happy to chat.
i did 17 years, im n the middle of recovery
I did it for 10 it took its mental toll on me, do what you have always talked about but with someone else. I was always failing at climbing the corporate ladder because of her. I made changes and finally made it after she left and now I'm rich and she is still a welfare diva, her new man has nothing it's all hers the house and everything. He has a pickup that's it. I have a farm 2 cars and am financially stable, she hates me cause I survived and come out stronger... do that and you got yourself back.
NURTURING A LOST SOUL IS THE MOST EXHAUSTING JOURNEY EXPERIENCE ONE COULD EVER SPIRITUALLY EXPERIENCE. GOD RELIEVED ME FROM THE BURDEN! BLESSINGS!
True. It is completely exhausting like being attached spiritually to a corpse that you pull around with you all day trying to live your life in goodness but being dragged down to their garbage and stench.
@@lovearttherapyalways demons inside
The narcissist hates people that love them the narcissist loves people that hate them
Please elaborate more thanks
Narcies & psychopaths think that those stupid enough to love them, are worthy of disdain. See: Catherine in the novel Grapes of Wrath
Even if you hate them they treat you with disdain for loving them once
Great analogy!
@@Dani-dc2sb sooooo true !!!
God wants to bring you someone like minded, someone who can actually love you. I love that. So many of us have poor self esteem and that made us absolute targets for the narcissist. We stayed and endured abuse and being used because we thought this is the best I can get. We grew up with the belief we don't deserve to be loved. Needed to hear this message today. 3 yrs free from the narcissist, it's so hard to trust again but gives hope that it could be possible to love again.
You will be able to love again without fear .I say this because this is what I have to do myself. When we pursue a rigjt ,close relationship with God he will provide the right man. God wants us to make sure that our goal is to love Him with all our heart ,mind,soul n body first then God will bless us with the man He has for us. Amen. God says to seek him 1st and then he will take care of the rest. Love in Christ
I have had the misfortunate of having 3 narcissists in my life. This has taught me so much about narcissism and also about MYSELF. I feel I am a stronger person today, having to endure the cycle of abuse and the trauma bond. They are truly toxic in so many covert and insidious ways. I thought I had learned my lessons after dealing with the narcissist number 1. All our great traits at the end, is what they use to abuse and traumatize us.........NEVER AGAIN.
Unfortunately we attract narcissists. We don't realize it. I had a narcissistic mother, then narcissistic friend and narcissist husband. I'm a sucker.
@@karlabritfeld7104 no your not a sucker. You're not a victim anymore. They just came at you differently from each other. ALWAYS consider the motivations of those in your life. Thats what I do anyway. I expect to be done with them but I may be naive even there. Well see I guess
I think us "victims" of these monsters look at the good of others over the bad
@@karlabritfeld7104 me too, all demons in my life because I am scapegoat of huge Narcissist family members
I just don't understand why when we loved them so much, unconditionally, they inflict pain on us. If they miss the way we love them, why would you give it up, push it away and tear it apart? I wish the hurt would leave, I've prayed and begged God to take it. I appreciate any prayers. Thank you.
I prayed for you 💓
It may be because, one reason, they cannot truly love. They know you love, but they cannot, and this hurts them
You are dealing with demons there is no love there..
its gonna take time...but god is gonna heal the hurt
I told my toxic love that she would never understand love until she was on her knees out in the yard crying, begging all that is holy to please make me let go. Just let go and try to live, breathe, think, function. And only then would she understand..my description only got a blank stare from her. I just cannot fathom it
I sure missed your videos. Yours were the first I ever came across about narcissists/narcissistic abuse and were what gave me strength to move forward, understand what was happening, and how to learn myself again. Glad you’re back!
100 percent all of this is so true .. they will try to bring u down.. rise above and shine on
I am just experiencing this as a empath. I cared for him with whole my heart. Now I'm praying for supernatural strenght from God to really leave him and never go back. Very abusive and painfull relationship. But with Christ I,m more than victorious.🙏🙏
Hi Dave, I thank you so much. I pinch myself daily to make sure it’s real. That’s my struggle. Thanks for listening
I was abused heavily as a kid, became an introvert, developed debilitating co-dependency, anxiety and agoraphobia. My ex-narcissist taught me how co-dependent I am and that I require someone caring in my life to feel secure, hope, confidence and purpose. Although she wore a mask pretending to care, she was the only one who could get me out of the house. I hadn't left home for 11 years for work or socializing until I met her online. Every day was spent at home with a dysfunctional family. My narcissist got me to get out of the house to meet her, unfortunately she never really cared. I've been to therapy, taken medication and even pray to God, but nothing worked, nothing gets me out of the house like feeling loved by another person. And nothing shatters my heart and soul like learning it was all fake, a game being played by a narcissist. So I'm back in the house, haven't left since 2019 except maybe 3 times. I'm afraid I'll never find a genuine friend.
Don't give up 🙌 only child to a caregiver mother 😖. Moved me 5 hours away from everything and everyone so she had free range to treat me like absolutely nothing. Going on 12 months NC 💪 ! Me and my son are so much happier not being around her ♥️
Hi David, I am also an introvert, probably due to childhood trauma. Been on a healing journey for about three years. I will always be working on me, it's daily. One thing I really wanted to tell you is please don't let anyone steal your joy. Evil people are just not worth it. Peace to you sir!!
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This is true for me, looking at painful experiences and seeing what became clear from it makes me grateful.
After 3 years i'm finally divorcing the narc. Thanks Dave for all your videos throughout those years. I'm still watching..never want to go back.
❤ glad you’re back. We still need these chats
I’ve gone two years no contact. But I see narcissistic people all around.
His memory still hunts me .. I’m glad I moved on and I was able to love myself.
The memory of you will haunt the Narcissist forever! Wow such power and truth in and behind that statement! My mother is haunted by the memory of her choosing a man over her first born child! 48 years later I realize that I remind my mother where she failed! I forgave her, but she hasn't forgave herself!
Dave, to the point. I loved him and gave all I had in my heart. To think 16 years being with a man who sucked me dry. So draining and so much drama. Godless….
I was married to a narcissist who left me (wife #7 thought I was 4 found out after the fact). He was engaged to #8 after moving out of state during our divorce still married to me. He died in a tragic accident August 2021 leaving me legally widowed. I met a new boyfriend in February 2021. After 18 months I discovered he was a narcissist (recognized the devaluation). I’ve watched your videos since January 2020. Had it not been for your help, I wouldn’t have had the strength to discard the boyfriend first. I see the toxic signs now. I’m trauma bonded still but he’s blocked and I’ve gone no contact. This is my first comment as you need to know you have helped me. By the grace of God, I am stronger. I see the signs. God help narcissistic people as I pray for them. They are broken, but I will not allow them to break me. I will be better and we all need to stand together. No more Mrs B for me. I’m Mrs. A! God bless you for your outreach in helping us empaths rise above and stay strong. I have been through the unimaginable!🙏🏼
Oh my!!! It sounds like you ran into my dad (#7 thought you were #4).
This is so true. You are explaining things the way they were for many many years in a very demanding life, but I always kept up doing and doing because a yearn so bad for the love in return but also just because I meant every word I said when I said my vows and I truly did love my husband no matter who he was that day or that minute I always loved him and went out of my way to do anything for him. It feels good to know that I did do this and that I was truly faithful to the very end. As dysfunctional as it was, the Lord and people like you, have facilitated in understanding and healing. Thank you.
David this is your ministry. To bring us out of darkness into the light. You are building up your treasure in heaven. God bless you.
I’m nine months out from almost a five-year relationship I had to throw him out in March. I couldn’t take the abuse anymore the lying the cheating the stealing the disrespect, not being excepted by certain flying monkeys, blah blah blah. Oh, and let’s not forget all of the gaslighting and everything else too much to mention, but everybody knows exactly what I’m talking about.
Sometimes I miss the way I loved the Narc. I loved so completely. My final reason for leaving .... he was incapable of loving anyone. I had to go back to God my first love and serve him only. I did tell God that I did not want to be single and to please send me his choice, God’s choice since I didn't listen the first time. Now I'm happily remarried.
Thank you so much for sharing. It’s so rare we get to hear stories of success after this journey because often times people move on to different content in different phases. Your story gives us hope. Why do you say you miss the way you loved the Narc? Do you love your spouse differently? Is it less passionate?
@Angel i loved the narc with youthful abandon in that I just tried everything to make it work. I see myself as a champion of unconditional love.
My new husband was my dearest friend from high school and he is now my deepest romantic love. There is just acceptance and trust and respect. When I'm triggered he is patient. He also remembers me before my narc destruction. He used to come into the kitchen and I would dart quickly out of his way yielding to his presence. He called me out. He told me I didn't have to make way for him since he just wanted to kiss me because he loves me and seeing me cook for him is a caring gesture he wanted to reward me with a smooch.
You are so right..I've watched this video twice and I must admit..my relationship with God was not where it should have been while I was in this toxic relationship. Since I've left the relationship with the narc, I've been on a journey..a journey to strengthen my relationship with God, and speak to him. Thank him for getting me to this point of strength, even if it doesn't feel strong..I know I am stronger than I was 2 years ago. 6 months ago..I know God will get me through this, as he has been. I genuinely want this entire experience to make me a better person. It's not just gaining perspective and knowledge, but try even harder to be empathic and caring to others. Treat my family better. Work harder at my job. Put others first. But, still find time to take care of Me
Being kind to others, has become even more important to me through all this.
This was a great video, I'm a new subscriber. I'm very thankful for these gifts of knowledge
Needed this today....truly, thank you Friend. I hope the Lord blesses you emensley.
Needed to hear this today 🙏 Gave all this and more but it wasn't enough.
To cry out... , I was/am struggling to let go. I know it isn't an immediate release but recently surveying my yard trying to busy myself picking up limbs and collapsed to my knees begging God to make me let go. I calmed to the point I could stand. It's steadily been easier, but not loving so hard might help me in the future. Idk if that's the right way or not but I'm easing out of this. You have helped me tremendously. For that I am truly grateful for you. Thank you
Love yourself, focus your happiness into you, we came alone and we will go alone, there is more joy out there than life, find it
Yes, same here. I have found peace and truth in Jesus.
Nice having you back! 👍💞
Thanks it’s great to be back
You are a Godsend. Thank you
Amen brother. I can think of at least two times in my life where I groaned in the spirit in a prayer that had very few words to our God. Both were at times I felt I couldn't go on ANY further. Both times enough strength was given to me to carry on and like you said my life was filled with blessings. Pain too ofc because we live in the flesh and subject to this treacherous world but life changing events that resulted in elevating my life nonetheless. Thank you for the encouraging words! Keep up the fight.
I love your commentary buddy and appreciate the hard work that goes into making these videos. Keep up the great work because it indeed helps.
Hi Dave, thank you for sharing words that help and heal all of us who went or are going through this now. God bless you and keep up the good work.
Those 3 things make them think we would take them back. They hoover because they believe we will come back. They wouldn't hoover if they weren't confident. Mine still comes back, although blocked for about 2 and a half years because I discarded him without a word. If I had been nasty, called him out, he wouldn't be hoovering. They believe we will always love them. Guess what? We get over you and don't want you back. Thanks Dave.
I needed this today…Blessing Brother 🙏✌️💜
You can usually see the tension in their eyes as they look at you saying (silently) “How are you able to survive this pain I’m putting you through, why do you continue, unlike me?” Very sad they are the crabs in a bucket.
Thats when they arnt smirking..
So true. We rise above all the low life dirty dusty choices People make and keep smiling 😄🌺
Agreed
I'm sure my Ex Toxic Narc Girlfriend thought the same exact thing. Sitting around in a room with her family she was telling them that I have a lot of Energy because of my age and I don't look my age. I can honestly say I could burn circles around anyone them any day of the week. Very Shortly after that I Walked Away from her and Toxic Bull Shit. I've been No Contact and Total silence since then. Thanks Dave.
Dave, you reach a lot of people and you are a blessing to many I still watch your videos and I'm a firm supportive of your works along with others. Blessings Gary
great to sea you again. Blessings🍵
Good afternoon Dave. God bless you. My first narcissistic ex I lost ten years, and three vehicles and over $10,000 to, has passed away back in July of 2021. But my second ex, who I had loved for 30 years, I sent money to, and took phone calls from jail at my expense, walked away from me cold after 2 years of thinking I was trying to help her. Then I saw the wedding ring on her marriage finger, and it made the $200 Nordstrom lace dress, and the sterling silver necklace I bought for her, pale in comparison. She never contacted me since, and that was September 12 of 2018. Since then, she's been arrested 4 times for drug manufacturing, sales and prostitution. And with me being disabled, of advanced age, and incapable of supporting a household, I finally got the message that I'm incapable of having a life with anyone. It's not a lack of faith on my part, because I'm sure God can change the situation if it's his will to do so. But it's a dose of reality on my part, I reached way beyond my means with my attempts at pursuing love, only to be denied.
Maybe in heaven.
Your kind demeanor and genuine sincerity have done so much to keep me grounded and hopeful while I've been going through the hell I've been going through. Just wanted to thank you for that.
Go on David give out the knowledge because you are reaching so many. I remember when God led me to you many years ago. I saw that you were sick to. I could see it in your eyes. Now you are rejuvenated. You got your second wind. Amen
"Caring about their kids...Caring about the time we dedicated to their kids...Caring about their family.." and still after all that caring she cheats on you and throws you to the wolves...but yet you gain custody of her kids...I'll never understand no mattetr how much I try to move on.
So good Dave. Didn’t know anything about npd until like 2 months ago. Had been googling the jezebel spirit I think. My 23 year old ex-girlfriend is a full-blown narc. She’s done everything you said she’d do, except I never truly got love-bombed in the beginning. That would have been nice 😂 I guess she’s still learning. Anyway, as a true believer, this is the most amazing channel. Indebted to you. Have watched prob 200 of your videos since I found them. Have had very little contact since breaking up. I don’t like anything about her now, but am still a tiny bit trauma bonded. So the vids help tremendously to stay focused. God bless you sir. -Justin
Dave this is so true I have talked to Carl about receiving the peace of God and he refuses he claimed to Receive the Lord as a savior 3 times because I told him unless he is born again I cannot marry him he asked me 3 times and I rejected him but I tried to help him but like you said Lucifer will not allowhat he has Blocked any opportunity in himself to be able to come to the Lord because it's easier for him to blame his father his real father of deserting him as a child So he has been living his life with pride. I was with Carl for 5 years . I've seen a lot of things that he had done I have talked to him about it he has denied everything even though I told him my eyes don't lie et cetera he had turned everyone against me his family used to love me But I understand why they look at me and think I am the issue or the problem because he Come across as the sweet person Even though I have shown his family and Friends nothing but love. I prayed to God that he would reveal to me the Truth behind what carl Has been doing and he had and still is. Carl is again with a woman who he has known for many years and I know sooner or later she to will find out because I also pray that whoever he tries to hook up with that they will also see and feel the things behind what he is about. Thank you Dave for bringing out the truth .blessings to you in Jesus mighty name amen
It’s great to see you again, Dave❗️🥰💛
Thanks
@@Narcologyunscripted You’re welcome! We adore you! 😍
2 years of no contact, just me and my small kids. God saved me. Never again! Oh let the ec narc miss the love, the family I gave him, clean house and hot dinner after work ready on table for him. Cheers Dave! Lovely to have you back!
My Narcissist (co-worker) blind sided me. It was devasting. I eventually quit my job After 5 years of the silent treatment. Could not process it any longer. You HAVE TO go no contact. Believe me, they do not care about you. That’s why it’s so hard to deal with it. They draw you in to become your soul mate. They really try to become YOU! You will think they are the missing link in your life. And then, all of sudden……………….. they will wipe you out! Please listen to Brother Dave! The narcissist is so phony. You will literally throw up in your mouth when you see the truth of this evil shell of a person! When I got wiped out, The Holy Spirit led me to Bother Dave’s channel. After watching his videos, I couldn’t stop crying for two days. I couldn’t believe/ didn’t know that narcissism even existed. Everything that Brother Dave was saying, was happening to me! Please stay the course. I believe nobody knows what you’re going through better than Brother Dave.❤️ There is still real loving people out there, and you will definitely find some of them here. God leads people here because He knows you need to hear the testimonies.
So damn true. I loved him to build him up anyway I could. He told me he was a victim of narc abuse...very manipulative. All the while, he was gaslighting, picking arguments, projecting, blame shifting, going silent...very covert and master manipulators. He lost a good woman when he lost me.
Hello Dave! Your words are truly anointed from God above!! The healing power that you hold has mended my soul on so many levels!!! I started listening to you three years ago and every time that i do you speak to my soul and my soul is ever healing every time!!
I was married to a norc for 14 years and never knew he was a narc. I just kept on putting my best foot forward in hopes that he would become the man that i saw in him-that never came to fruition!! We have four amazing children, together-all grown up and thriving very well, thank goodness. But not without impairment, as you can only imagine!! I have discussed with each of our children what a narc is and forewarned each of them to keep their heart distant from his, as one day he will move on and treat them like they never existed as he has done with me and also with his next victim! What is so sad is he married her and they could not have children together so they adopted a little girl! This little girl is now 6 years old and He left them last year and has not spokwn to either of them! This little girl is our four childrens sister! They love her very much and now see how their father for who he is!
Angela I am so glad you have God and this information so the new adoptee can be blessed through. God has amazing plans for you and and your new extended family. Thank you for your kind words they really blessed me tonight:)
Yes memory forever to hurt evil poeple
Introject constancy their internal view of you. They can't rid themselves of these internal view of others ( in their head). These images in their head fight w each other- creates negativity in the narcissist.
Hi Dave! Cheers 🤗 and the Lord found me too, amen 🙏🏼
Somehow i always feel like they forget about us because they are so busy with new supply. Its not like they arent resourcefull. Whats hurts the most is realizing that like the new supply you werent all that special to them . Just another fuel source. It does help emotionally distancing yourself frol the narc but it still hurts because of how much you loved them.
They pretend to care about you in the lovebomb
This one is really good. Thank you
I needed to hear this today!
This is The Best one yet! So 100% accurate and true what you said. I said the same thing about God's unconditional Love yesterday. My dogs give unconditional love and loyalty and time and wanting to be around us, just as God does! Yes purpose God's purpose! Right cry out to Jesus! Fill us with your Holy Spirit Light and Love. Beautiful message Dave Thank you and God bless. We can leave one Narc and theres another waiting. I've experienced thisbober and over same thing with a different person so I've asked Hod for Deliverance from Narcissistic people and relationships in my life! Thank You Lord for healing. I am a New Creation in Christ and ready for a Non-toxic relationship in Jesus name Amen with a healed person who knows The Lord Jesus because Narcs dont know Him. They can pretend they know Him,but they cant fake the fruits of the Spirit. This made so much sense to me the way you explain it
Thank you Dave and God bless you!
Absolutely wonderful video!
So good to see you Dave and looking so healthy and handsome .
My ex mother was the same way my ex would do all kinds of things for her and all she did was complained I was blowed away he never said a word to her about it..."Doing" things for her was the only way he knew what love was...now I understand why he didn't love me properly or even knew how..there was no "connection" at all even though we had our good times abd fun times but also the worst of times the longer I was with him the more of the narcissist came out in him the gaslighting was the last straw...3 years free
Thank You for helping me become a Mrs. A 🤗 you are greatly appreciated
I'm so glad!
Love you and your new room. ♥️💯💞
Thank You!
I knew it! That our memories and my love is going to haunt her forever she will never meet someone else who loved her like I did I actually had to learn to love her
Unreal how most of our stories are the same...like you, mine will never find another like me/you....ever
Thanks Coach Dave! Merry Xmas to you!
They will look for you in someone else..But they will NEVER find you in someone else.
It's crazy how you described how I was to her aka Narcissist
Thank you brother. You’re a great man
A very important and gritty video.
Excellent observations.
You look so healthy !!!
Many, many thanks
Thank you!!
That was needed thanks Dave
God DID save me I asked Jesus for help and strength Which he gave me Also DID feel Angels around me Truly!! Last time with the narc I woke up in the middle of the night and saw his empty soul and felt the evil darkness I left the next morning I knew God was giving me a supernatural way out and I had to follow HIM Its been 10 months narc free
One thing to understand. They CANT love. You can and do. No matter what, they will NEVER see. NEVER regret. That's why we hurt so much because we think everyone is like how we are. We can't think like them. All we can do is pray that God will have mercy on them and bring them to WANTING to let God bring them back to him.
Hurt people hurt people!
Wow. Empowering stuff. Really nice vid.
God bless you !❤️💕
I'm flattered I will haunt them
I cant wait to haunt my Narc
Yes I gave unconditional love but it appears his new supply does too! So although he comes back and love bombs me, he stays with the new supply. Now blocked everywhere 😢
Yeah I'm trying to remember how it went.
But basically those that dance with the devil are left standing there holding the bill that the devil skipped out on.
Even though everything that I have went through and some things that still continue to this day because of the connection with my ex and children. Even though they are grown and my youngest is now in heaven. I wouldn't change what it has caused me and my heart to change and for my eyes to be opened, and I thank the Lord for saving me over and over again. Memories still haunt me but and my weakness, Jesus gives me strength that I don't possess alone. It has taught me to rely on Jesus and the word of God and to recognize that there is real evil in this world but through Jesus we have the victory. I love him more everyday, correction every minute.
Used and abused for 16 years !
The lovebomb is the beginning of the movie script
My ex narcs sister is taking pages from her book, her husband reached out to me not long ago, he's been singled out of the loop, he told her he talked to me and she said I treated her sister like shit! My answer to that was why did I do that ask yourself? Is it because she cheated on me, left me for another man and when he went broke she came back and tried to control my finances, is it because when I did not let her have her way she punished me and her family ganged up on me? Is it because her and amber heard are a lot a like? No I treated her exactly how she treated me, disgust.
I never thought I'd be watching narc vids again but my npd ex went around my blocking and "hoovered" me. I chose to respond out of curiosity as to what was going on..n.s. is going thru her discard.. my replacement. But she is wealthy so their break up is "amicable".. oh well.. just another way to make me feel worthless. But it's just how narcs are. You always feel like poop after speaking to them.
Dave, there is something that I just do not understand - I am asking you, as God obviously gives you so much wisdom. After healing from the narc abuse (parent, friend, and exes), and this healing happened only by the grace of God as I never thought I would survive so much deep pain - getting even closer to God, hanging to Him every moment - I asked Him in july 2020 for a life partner - He answered me to "just be patient". We are now in nov 2022, no serious prospect at all. I am longing to share my life with a partner that God will choose for me. I am not getting any younger (61). I just do not discern why He is not answering my prayer for this and I do not hear any response from Him. I am not getting any younger, have no children/grandchildren. Is it possible that God is preventing this because the end of time is near? Or is there something I still do not understand? I will accept God's decision to be alone the rest of my life if that His decision for me, but I just wished I understood why. I am hoping God will use you as a vessel of wisdom for me. I am just afraid that out of aloneness for many years, I might be sucked back into the snares of another narcissist.
God is our parent and a great love you will never know with others, he knows when your ready, age has nothing to do with it, I’m 62 never been married and I asked god for the same thing, I’m still on my journey so I’m not ready yet, you must have patients, if you don’t how can you be patient with your partner and expect the same back, oppps now say to god, fat kat daddy, I’m sorry I profess to know more than you, I lost my mind in a sorrowful heart, forgive me daddy and I will leave everything but my cup of coffee to you.😊
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Honesty is mandatory.
Obedience to God required.
Patience is an absolute
Everyday !!!!!
Dear sir
Please do not lose hope for your future God is the only force one should rely upon 🙏 I to like millions of others on here or out there that have been through heart wrenching discard from a narcissist woman or man projection is hurtful stay in the now find trustworthy family and friends all will be well I to am very broken inside from yrs of narcissistic abuse from my former girlfriend that ghosted me 4 months ago no word no text nothing I will not ever contact her ever after what she has done to our relationship to me its the act of a 12 yr old mentality its hurt me to the core but I have grand kids I must b strong with God in my heart God bless u all that feel and have and or are going through this horrible painful trauma bond toxic past narcissistic abuse thank you young man I'm 64 and dealing with all the same feelings of dispare and memories
Amen
I cried my heart to god into my pillow after surviving cancer. He gave me this narc 😂 I now know it was the devil that heard me.
Next time I cry, I will look up
Hello David this is Ramcoomar samaroo.
Still learning from you my brother in Christ
Nice new location
Thank you for your heart felt and wise ministry. It is a true blessing.
I'm always respectable to all faiths, but telling a woman that she's been under a devil's spell and that she needs to surrender to the male god figure that created this mythical monster.......is very, very dangerous.
It also implies thst a msn who abuses her is under a devil's control and therefore isn't really responsible.
Sadly, most religions use their Bibles or other books to intimidate and control women with fear. Fear they'll make God angry by divorcing an abuser. Fear that she just didn't pray the right way or have enough faith in God to heal her marriage.
God doesn't need our faith. He already belueves in Himself and knows He's strong, real, and perfect. We need to help women to find faith, strength, and pure love for themselves. If you believe in God, then you know He gave us all the power to love ourselves so we can, in turn, protect ourselves and draw close people who will love us as Christ loved the church.
I just want to say that I was dating a woman that I think now is a narcissist but I'm not sure.. because she treated me like gold we had a lot of fun together she was very kind to me very generous very supportive very sweet to me always.. if anything I'm the one with depression and anxiety during the winter times and she was really there to help me through it... But as I was getting to know her she was saying things that were just really strange... She would say she's from another planet and that she's here for the betterment of mankind , she once said that she broke into the Vatican and was saving children that were being abused and molested by elites and by priests and she almost got killed doing it but she got away... she once told me that she had a black belt in karate... I asked her to perform a move and she said she couldn't because she had multiple sclerosis , I then told her what does she take to treat the multiple sclerosis and she says nothing she controls it with the power of her mind and cannabis oil.. she once told me the city had to come by and change the street light in back of her house because she's able to render them useless and break them by using the power of her mind.. she once told me she's in some secret group called "the cause" that Tom Cruise and Keanu Reeves and a bunch of other celebrities and billionaires are part of that work behind the scenes to stop the darkness of this world.. another time she told me that she remembers all 33 of her past lives and she doesn't have to reincarnate anymore and that's how she recognized me when she first saw me because we were together in her past life... She once said that she beat up a police officer and tied him up with his own handcuffs... She wants told me that certain cloud formations are actually cloaked spaceships and she can tell which ones they are.. she said that she's a doctor and a lawyer when I pressed her to show me a degree she never provided one... She also said that she had four kidneys and the rarest blood type in the world... Another time she told me that she hated French people I asked her why do you hate French people? She responded that in one of her past lives in the 17th century she was in France and the French burned her alive on a stake... I mean how do you respond to stuff like this? Of course I never believed any of this stuff and I would tell her I didn't believe it but most of the times I was just let it go in one ear out the other ...but then she told me she was pregnant or that she thought she was pregnant for the second time in 3 months and I just didn't believe her for some reason... I just felt like she was being deceitful, just a gut feeling ....I confronted her and told her calmly that I thought she was lying and that she's a pathological liar because of all the things she has said to me in the past... she went absolutely bonkers!!
She got really aggressive really mad broke up with me instantly.. there was no discussion or deliberation she just ended it told me it was "all my fault" and that " I just don't want to be happy".... I haven't heard anything from her in 3 months.. I don't know does this fall under the category of narcissism?? I have no idea... all I know is that I couldn't believe a word that was coming out of her mouth anymore and despite the fact that I feel like I lost my best friend at least I don't have any more anxiety and stress anymore .. when she ended it I didn't tell her " please don't" or "let's talk about it"...I told her " I think it's a good idea and it's for the best" because "i don't trust you" ... What do you do when somebody loves you and showes you more love than anybody has ever shown you in your life but you can't believe a word that comes out of their mouths??? I don't know if anybody's going to read this but I could chertainly use somebody's opinion and advice..
It didn't sound like she was emotionally abusing you - sounds like she had bigger issues - count yourself lucky stars she's no longer your problem - -
just my observations but what do I know
I dated a chick like this who always had these fantastical dreams visions and ideas that where just wild. I don't know biches be bonkers sometimes bro
You Dodged a Bullet!
It’s Scary! Run!
To think of having a baby with her!
Mental Health Matters! Sad.
There seems to be a lot of dysfunction/toxicity going on. Ask God for clarity, and in the mean time RUN for the hills! Stay safe; God bless you.
God cleared the slate
Women fall out of love with their abusers. Men seem to stay in love longer with their abuser. By the time it’s over the woman no longer loves her abuser. She has known she hasn’t for a long time by the time it ends. It’s pathetic to love your abuser. They are disgusting.
The lies were endless why didn’t I see it
I don't feel that I can do this! I have been destroyed by a sweet 'boy' who may just be a 53 year old evil sociopath. I am very ill, SO MUCH HAS HAPPENED TO ME. IT IS OFF THE SCALE. He is all I have and he brought me to YHWH's name and his scriptures; he strengthened my faith then took it. I cannot cope with his emotional abuse and the gaslighting that has destroyed me. I won't make it! He drove me to suicide, abandoned me, let me sleep rough and used Police to abuse me after Official Caring role HE wanted, not me!
What about when they post this.""Every mistake I've made Every bridge I've burned All the love that I killed You know I never learned So many friendships dreaded Wasted fucking time I'll look you straight in the eye And you know I lied Hard lessons I've had my share Can't learn from mistakes when I don't fucking care I've burnt bridges I lit the flame That killed friendships and I still felt nothing (hard lessons) I had it coming I bit the hand that feeds I'm gonna burn myself down and take you with me Can't trust no woman Can't trust the no laws they tell me I don't need acceptance I belong to nothing Hard lessons I've had my share Can't learn from mistakes when I don't fucking care I've burnt bridges I lit the flame That killed friendships and I still felt nothing (hard lessons) What's done is done And I'll turn on you again What's done is done Yeah I'll turn on you again Hard lessons Don't come cheap What would kill you can't touch me Hard lessons don't come cheap Hard lessons don't come
If it is so hard to replace why do they have someone else right away?
So they can use and abuse someone elsw
@@flyawaybutterflyhealingchannel great answer
I don’t think the narcissist gives a sh?! About anyone. They used you.
Of course. They cannot care less. We know that. Some channels about narcs say things like this and I don't know why.