When the Narcissist gets bored with the "New supply" this is when you are likely to see the Hoover. HOWEVER ..If you are dumb enough to take back the Narcissist once you have figured them out... You are no longer a victim...You are a volunteer. Thank you for this video, Dave.
She realised there's no money with the weed infested new grass, But we endured the pressure. And pressure is what makes diamonds. They need you to regulate when there out cheating on you and Stealing from you, They spend like tomorrow will never come. Good ridden, or should I say she has been ridden rotten 😂
What happens is the Narcissists get DISGUSTED with the "New supply" ..Then the "New supply" enters the devaluation phase...This is when you will get "The Hoover" from the Narcissist... However, if you are dumb enough to take them back... You are no longer a victim...... You are a volunteer. Please don't fall for the Narcissist's BS...When you get "The Hoover"... The person you fell in love with...DID NOT EXIST! My late mother used to take back my narcissistic father... time after time after time... It was pathetic, I really hate my mother for doing this... Please have some respect for yourself WHEN you get "The Hoover" ..Block...Ignore and delete... He is using you as "An object" for supply....Never forget this. Kind regards Brian
I really don't feel sorry for the new supply because they knew our ex was with us in relationship but they chose to participate in the show so they get their reward! 🗑️
Believe me. Not everyone knows they're with someone else. They don't always share with us a thing about them. We go in blindly and eventually learn they've been cheating on them and fooling us at the same time.
The new supplies will soon realize once the devaluation starts and the mask falls off that something is very off and wrong tragic life these narcissists live they never learn just a repeated cycle which we are no longer part of thank God 🙌🙌🙌
Shirley, as I put it to the Narc, when they were supposedly so remorseful for treating people unfair--- " The only people that will put up with that kind of treatment would have to be codependent, easily controlled, and basically a doormat". The response was such dark energy, and rage. They do not change. 🤷♀️
The new supply will be very happy during the love bombing phase. It just depends on how long that lasts before the devaluation part begins and how slowly it gets drawn out. I overheard my ex trying to convince her to move into the house he brought, which I was to move into. I decided to visit first since he's now out of state. He lied and told his new supply I refused to move into his nice new house, as though there was something crazy with me for not QUICKLY relocating to a new state. The new person should have questioned WHY I wasn't eager to jump on relocating. Guess she'll eventually discover why ...he's a full blown Narcissist!
I am planning my exit now. I rented a storage locker. I am moving small things out a bit at a time. Being careful not to attract any attention from neighbors. The rest I will buy new. The bed and mattress is on the way. I am saving for all the deposits I will need for myself and 2 dogs. I plan to move to another town and start over. Ditch my current cel phone and just start over-giving myself the time I need to heal and grow in the Lord. I will fly below the radar for the duration. Changing everything-rebuilding my hobbies and help others as God wills. I am exercising great caution at the moment. My narc decimated my finances-so all I can do is save up enough to go-I will walk away from everything else. I am no longer in his war without any weapons. I just need time to remove the shrapnel. Dave your channel is a true lifeline- Indeed you have a calling. God bless you.
@@plusone8015 Thank you. I am actively looking into accommodations now & pray the Lord provides for me and my furpals. I will probably upload a video at some point to share I got out. Until then, it will be about my salvation, deliverance healing and restoration in the Lord.
Hello-thank you so much for your replies. I am nearing my exit date. I have since prayed Psalm 35 over my life and have the heavenly hosts are clearing my path. God is good-He changed the story. hahaha The pit the enemy dug for me is returned and canceled. My enemy repay me evil for good and is now on God's hook. I get to walk away in my salvation, deliverance, healing and restoration. The narc-well he is going to have to pay for the ritual he did against one of God's chosen. The narc cursed his blessing-what a fool. hahahahaha The tables turned all glory to the Most High.
I disagree. I had been single and celibate (ON PURPOSE) for 17 years before I met this predator. Vulnerable moment in life? It can happen to anyone. All you can do is ask questions and hope the answers are honest. I let him into my life too easily and that is on me. I am not responsible for all his lies, deceptions, ect. I personally will NOT go out with anyone who has not been single for at least two years. This creature knew that. It is disgusting the games some play.
Just been going through this myself... after my nex told me he is in love (after only a few days of knowing the new supply) God told me "they are on their best behaviour now". Things may change soon. Because there was no change in them. I give the new supply 1-1,5 year before she starts having side effects like confusion, trauma, dissociation, just the way I did.
You’re being generous. The effects start way earlier, even during the love bombing phase, they’re just not noticeable until the devaluation stage begins, which doesn’t really take too long, maybe a couple of months, a year tops.
You are right on the one year time mark. I think she got a real codependent. Her spell in the bedroom will keep any male a slave for at least 9 months. Then the fangs come out and it will depend how deep a slave this supply is after that
@@carriebell3566 you are right. I remember the first time he gaslighted me in the beginning stages. He said something either hurtful or untrue (I don't remember exactly) and looked at me in such a way that I knew that he knew what he was doing and waiting to see my reaction. I can't even explain it. When it was happening, my brain went like "no way he's doing that to me" and I pushed it at the back of my mind. So yes it started early on. The highs were so good, I overlooked the lows. And then the lows were a daily occurrence with some highs here or there...
Currently in the thick of a divorce to a narc. Two kids, house, everything. Thought I was living a fairy tale for years with how good I had it. Little did I know what was headed my way…cheating, lies, gaslighting, manipulation, etc. The anxiety and depression are so overwhelming and I can’t think straight. Worst part is I let her run our financials our entire marriage and I never took the time to learn how to manage money or do things like taxes. Embarrassing to admit at 37 but here I am. I’ve come to terms that I have codependent tendencies and it’s made the whole situation that much worse. I feel so lost and I’m extremely fearful of building a new life for myself while being a good father.
You will be fine. Don't beat yourself up. You have children, therefore you have everything to live for as they need you! In your spare time, go walk or run or find a physical activity to help you physically and mentally. Surround yourself with people you do love and trust. Ugly words will be spewed in your name. Time reveals truth. I lost the best husband to heart disease several years ago. I met a narc unbeknownst to me what a narc was. Only until the discard did i figure out what he was. It was here in Dave's videos that I stumbled on the devalue stage. Then it all clicked. The pain is real and I promise you that time helps to heal. Know that. You ARE alive and you DID survive it. Yes, you are hurt as much as a person can be. Things in life are replacable. You as a dad, son or being a brother is not. Look back to learn from it, but never go back. Go to a bank and speak with a person at a desk. Be honest with them and tell them you need help learning how to navigate your finances. I was a banker and I helped many people. No shame in that. It's to be commended to take that step for your financial security. Remember this: take life one day at a time and I tell myself all of the time when I encounter things that I cannont control or handle emotionally to just " Let it Be". Prayers for you my friend. PS: It has helped me tremendously watching these videos to understand that being involved with a narc is not a normal relationship. They truly are disturbed evil people.
@@AnnA-tu3ig Yes exercise straightened me out. 17 years combined on two narcs. 3years on and some self love and thankfully I can honesty say I'm healed armed and over it
God created us with enough strength to overcome everything we are faced with (we shall never be faced with more than we can handle, that is His promise). With faith, the strength that lies dormant is accessed. Things fall into perspective (and you will once again think straight). And fear falls away for it cannot abide in the Light. God never lets liars and cheats get away with it. The process is painful like surgery without much painkiller (the pain teaches, also) but necessary for our own good. When does a person not deserve more chances from you? Answer: When they show no repentance.
I saw a recent picture of the narc and new supply after 2 years together. She fr looked unhappy and tired! Meanwhile I just got engaged to one of my best friends and have a genuine connection-after time to work on myself and to enjoy being alone.
I lived with a narcissist just last month he discarded me you can imagine how I feel I'm in my 70s it feels like I just want to call up in a hole and die that's what it feels like I lost all my life I drank 55 years with him so I wouldn't feel the pain that I was going through with him but I didn't know what it was until now I want to thank you very much Dave 😢
He popped back up last November after close to 4 years and acted like we ended on good terms (cheated then went 👻). He wanted to spontaneously drive to me and take me out for a ‘drink’. He just assumed that he has lifetime access to me 😂😂 The audacity. I assume that he was 1) broke and needed help 2) wanted to energy vamp off me or 3) both. He didn’t mention the intention or no sincere well-articulated apology was offered.
Mine popped back up when new supply left around Christmas last year. Now that supply is back and they got married within 30 days of getting back together.😂😂😂😂 What the heck?? 😂😂😂
I am a woman with 3 children with him, he took away my 2 children, I believe with my situation God, Universe or the higher beings surrounds me, I can’t wait for the day to tell him F off.😂
I recently tried to reconcile with my partner because he told me he was a new changed man and wanted me to have the first chance to be with the new improved him. I went back and within 24 hours he was back to abuse and even asked me what my housecleaning schedule was going to be? I left again … 3 weeks later his new girlfriend filmed me picking up my belongings left in a mess from his driveway. They are truly sick , cruel people. I was faithfully married to this man for 22 years. This is how he punished me for leaving. Now I have to go to court to get money because he has all of it and won’t give me even half. His children are watching his behaviour and are disgusted . It’s painful for me but I see who he is now. It wasn’t me !
TRUST ME THEY WANT TO BECOME YOU AND YOU BECOME THE OLD THEM. I kid you NOT. I had no idea this even existed. Hollywood scary movies makes these guys look nothing of what they actually are. I love scary movies. I had no idea their were others outside of that that actually existed. It’s shocking to my core. Once you see it it cannot be unseen.👈🏻😳😵💫👈🏻
Omg, this is how I’ve felt since we separated like we switched places, he took everything about me and even went out and got a new supply that could be my doppelgänger.. I’m now left with the shame, guilt, depression, etc that belonged to him .. “body snatchers”
When I discovered I was just a member of other people's harem-garages, I realized that I was being used by multiple narcissists in my life. I'm still trying to go completely no-contact on people. I'm making some progress but very slowly.
They fall in lust often it's the pathology of the shallow ! The newest infatuation, and it's planned distraction you said that , precisely and it's key to our peace and thank God our greatest satisfaction ! Which is something they cannot percieve , as they refuse to acknowledge they exist only to deny their defeat ! They manipulate third party perceptions, for a false sense of power as if they can control reality ? That's a life of futility !
We were not naive, We know about morals and authenticity and love. But we were in the biggest lie, Nothing was real. Never blame yourself. Evil will not prevail. God saw and heard everything, The Almighty said enough is enough and pulled us out and just in time for most of us, Our lives and souls were at risk. Stay prayed up, for Yayweh will never forsake us.❤
I was married to one for 8 years. It ended in him starting a family while still being married to me. I tell my testimony to let someone know you can make it. I often STILL fight with rejection and abandonment but God is still healing me in that area. Allow God to continue to heal you and don’t look back. I have to admit-I prayed for him for over 15 years (even while we dated) and he never changed. That was my red flag that he was in a reprobated state but I STILL ended up marrying him. I honestly think he might just be happy with who he left me for. But I know that’s also an illusion. Keep fighting and keep healing! ❤❤❤❤
So true Dave,they are horrible with $$, I've been apart from my husband of 12 years after he brutally discarded me back in May 2023. I found the statement of a maxed out credit card after he left, he makes good $ these days and there is absolutely no reason why he would do that. He had been having sex with the secretary from his work, I found this out after he left (it took less than 48 hours for me to figure this out). I started researching after he left the way he did and found that not only is he a covert Narcissist but he also borders on Sociopath traits😈 Thanks for the topic of the next supply because sometimes my mind plays tricks on me,thinking he will change for the better. I know that's a lie. 12 years married to a complete LIE is a very devastating reality but I've taken the 6 months so far to heal and go within 🙏 God is my Strength ❤ Shalom Dave & All who have been abused my these entities, they are BRUTAL
Your story mirrors my own somewhat she would always create such drama to lead to a separation where either I was put out or she'd leave to go have her fun then be like well you can come back but remember it was all your fault and no of course I wasn't seeing anyone while we were separated 🤥🤡🥱
I also have doubts in my mind whether he is treating the new supply better, but then I shake myself awake and try to have the mindset that he doesn’t. They never do! They only get worse and she will have to deal with him now.. ❤ from me 😊
My Narc every time I bought something for myself she would ask me why I’m spending money, but when she used to buy stuff for herself and I asked her ,she would always answer,money comes, money goes😂😂😂
I finally figured out i was in a relationship with a Covert Narcissist a couple weeks ago. There were dozens of camouflage flags telling something is not right about this woman. Like having to unfriend some of my lady friends on Facebook or validating i love her numerous times a day (funny how she didn't have to initiate the i love you, just me) ect... But there was a giant red flag the size of a Garrison one and that was her rage! It was like reasoning with a young child and i never had kids, so l would just leave and get the "you're abandoning me and a real man would stay and protect me" then the throwing of objects (nothing more solid than a tennis ball). I walked out but her character attacks on me and flaunting her amazingly quick new supply brought me to me knees. In short she manipulated me into doing everything you shouldn't do when dealing with a narcissist even after i left her. But thanks to you im learning and healing.
@beech1013 They are always cheating brother, She was cheating on someone when she got with you. They keep supplies on stand-by because they know they always ruin relationships.
Even the new supply is getting older i think, he said that Kim Kardashian is old, 40,when i got 40,exactly that date he discarded, on my birthday and acted like a spoiled child. I did not even want to be treated like a royal on my birthday, i wanted some distinctive behaviour, i was yelled and screamed after three years of abuse. I should have get rid of this person after 4 months of lovebombing.
I pray the new supply , would ever watch this site. 😊. I know she could give him some a taste of his own medicine... You are totally right... I think he finally understands ... I don't want him back. I know the justice will be served in this life or after... I could care less about this life only what is promised to me in the Word and I DON'T WANT THIS WORLD. If the Lord chooses me for whenever Jesus wants me for in this world, I am here but I know in the end, I will be WHERE HE IS ALSO‼️🕊️🙌
Dave, the message at the end about Asking Jesus for strength hits home. When you sre reeling from betrayal he has been my solace from insanity. Please all be easy on yourselves.
I remember my ex use to always have to have some vice 24x7. He garnered a ton of admiration when he posted that he was now "sober" because he stopped drinking... yet he turned to weed and became addicted to smoking and being high all the time. I'm seeing all the comments like "Wow man you're and inspiration!" "Good job bro! Proud of you! etc. and I'm just sitting there like oh yea if you all only knew he's addicted to smoking now and threatening my life behind closed doors calling me horrid names etc. Suchhhh an inspiration lol. It is absolutely insane to see how they manipulate the outside world. I just kept my mouth shut because I know God eventually exposes them.
The first few comments about the Narc not missing you and ghosting you,those have been my thoughts. I didn't believe that this man I married was in that mindset(he's hiding the woman he's cheating on with,thinks I don't know). But, we'll see....
This is true, the new supply (in some cases) does get it worse. For ex., my narc ex-friend's last friend abruptly cut them off for toxicity. No matter how kind I was to the narc, they eventually cut me off in the same exact manner, which let me know they were still hurting over being cut from the last friend. So in a way, they took their power back by doing it to someone else.
Dave ur an absolute legend Ur understanding of how new supply circumstances dictate their behaviour towards us is scary Between u and Quinn it’s a lock 🙏💓
When a narcissist misses you you have to ask your self what kind of supply where you giving them can be a lot of different things that what they miss about you praying 🙏 praise the lord Jesus blessed by this message ❤❤❤❤
The narcissist's idea of charity is using gift-giving to make themselves look good. Their greatest skill is repeating back to you what you want to hear and their second-greatest skill is projecting their own faults onto you to devalue you. Neither of those involves any creativity. At some point, the new supply is going to go, "Wait. What is going on? Why is this person so robotic? Is this a Stepford Spouse? Is this person for real?" And of course we all know the answer to that.
The overgiveing when never asked and even told to stop is crazy making. The stupid, I have no idea what you’re talking about. The wounded act, makes me want to throw up. I was raised by a women just like her. I so angry at myself for allowing it.
I'm going through leaving him once again for the millionth time 20 years of my life waisted I'm grateful for these channels it helps me not feel so alone thank you
I was married to a narc for 30 years. After he abandoned me I saw the puzzle pieces come together and realized the only thing I did wrong was trust him but he wanted worshipping. These people are their own god and want to be your god too. Mine couldn’t stand anything less than perfection in all realms of our life. Even a crumb left on a kitchen counter would send him into a rage. He claimed to be a Christian but admitted he hated people. I saw him do random acts of mean things to others and then gloat over their misery. He planned his exit out of our marriage and literally robbed us without me knowing it. He would future fake, pathologically lie about anything I asked him about. I didn’t realize he was lying about so many things until he was gone. I wasn’t a Christian when I married him but became saved about 15 years after our marriage and things definitely declined after that. Clearly spiritual warfare. Thanks for your video and the emphasis on Jesus Christ. ✝️
Your right about $, my ex spent all her $ either at the casino or buying needless thing's. She also put way too much concern about what everyone thought of her, one bad comment from someone at work would mess her up emotionally for the whole day.
I was once the new supply , So he thought. 2 months and I broke up with him after telling him everything I knew about who he is. I was BRUTAL. Gave him proof of all his lies. I told him who he was and how him being abused as a child go him there. I told him , IM SORRY. IM NOT YOUR MOTHER. GOOD BYE. Yes. It’s time for the new supply to be like WTH.. What I do know is. I’m NOT INTERESTED. DONT TRY TO BRING YOUR RAGITY ASS BACK OVER HERE.
I was a runner in high school. Got my varsity letter my freshman year in cross country and ran the 1 mile, 2 mile and was the anchor for the 4X4 in track and I would have RAN IF I WOULD HAVE KNOWN. TRUE STORY!😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫
Listen to Dave's learning about sociopaths and about just being careful because even after my marriage to a narcissist that wasn't my last narcissist and I got into a relationship shortly after my son died because he knew him in the Christian program he was in and I was very vulnerable and I fell for it even though I saw red flags because it was so quick but we were engaged to be married ( in which I had no intention of doing bc I needed to figure out how to get out) this one almost killed me and I'm suffering the physical consequences to this day. It was Jesus that that protected me and saved my life... Jesus did again and again . Enjoy the 🎁,bc we aren't promised tomorrow.
He won money lied Caught him talking to someone he called "mom" he gave all his flying monkeys money and the new supply, even though he got gambling numbers from me.. isn't that wicked
Today was the day that I grabbed what I could and I finally excepted the disregard and I left, and on the way there, the new supply was sitting in the driveway, and I felt no anger for him. I only felt pity because I knew that the process wasn’t over, and she didn’t have any interest in healing, but on the opposite end, I understood that I can heal me that my new objective is to separate myself from the chaos to accept growth. she made getting my things difficult, but I was able to do so eventually and I grabbed what I could and I left. I am in fear of the future, but only because it is unknown but now I understand what my boundaries are and I refuse to give them up for anyone.
What is so odd is that their pictures on social media always look like they’re having a blast and it really makes you wonder, are they? Married for years now. I guess it’s a matter of time before the devalue and discard happens.
Hey Dave, just wanted to say I'm so thankful for this channel. I feel like this channel is the best at educating about narcissists along with spreading the word of God. Your channel brought me back to God. I could never thank you enough for that. I still miss the narcissist terribly but I trust God to heal me. My goal right now is just to not contact the narcissist. I tell myself it's natural to miss him, but as long as I just don't contact him, everything will be okay and I'll get over him one day. I'm so glad you share the message for people who have been tricked by the devil/narcissist. You are truly ahead of your time with this type of knowledge and the messages you share.
Yes, they are spending our money and energy and then spending for the new supply and presenting rich and giving. But we know they are not. I can get over because he was a jerk.
How could you miss someone when you know that he did not really loved you...😢 Just trust God and surrender everything to Him. "He has the best plan for your life...to give you a hope and a future"..Jeremiah 29:11
@@INHOUSEMUSICGROUP-PROMOS-vz7lm Yeah they text you from fake numbers after they just tried to ruin you and they act like they are someone else and they haven’t seen you for 3 years. It’s total bizarre. He just wanted my insurance. I am not a stupid person I just had no idea about covert narcissism or Narcopaths. My lord.🤡👈🏻
Yup. Listening to this video has opened my eyes to realize I was also the new supply. Thankfully I got off the hamster wheel and learned my lesson, even if it was the hard way. He taught me to be extra cautious.
I had to FLAT out LIE to my narc about the amount of my income because he had too many bills coming to the surface after the “honeymoon” stage of our relationship. He honestly thought I was going to dig him out of his financial slum. He was big on Facebook postings of good times I was paying for. He never tagged me once. Props of his good life. I quit paying. He moved on. Thank God!
Your right it's all a big fake show my narcist is on her second new supply after me I'm so happy the one thing I noticed is the eyes she likes to look like she got away with something when she takes a picture not be happy that she found someone new. They can have the crap.
During the lovebombing phase, I had this gut feeling that something was wrong when she started just talking only about herself and showing me over and over tons of her photos. Something was off, as I had been around people like this before. I should have listened to that feeling, because it inevitably became all about her. As soon as I tried to stand up for myself or set boundaries, it was turned around on me. She ended up using the same method of triangulation to end our relationship. I haven't spoken to her since May, though I have painshopped since. Still, things are better, but I do now find myself wondering if all those gut feelings I had that she was physically cheating on me were correct.
You had better boundaries than me and it probably saved you some trauma bond. Boy do they hate boundaries. You are controlling, mean, negative the lists goes on then the end is near.
@@martyc2637 she used a lot of psychology terms - incorrectly - to paint me as the abuser. In my weakness I started to believe her, because in my mind if someone I loved truly believed I was being abusive towards them, I must have been. Setting boundaries was stonewalling to her, she insisted that she had to agree to my boundaries. Walking away from an unproductive and nasty conversation for a few hours was ghosting her. And standing my ground on what I heard her say was gaslighting. It was an unwinnable situation.
A lot of things you said in this video explains a lot about my narc ex. She has filed bankrupcy with 2 different men! I am glad that she dumped me in May and I have been in radio silence since. Her own family laughed behind her back calling her " high Maintenence". It's funny that everytime we went out she always had to include her mother or friend. She has to work a lot of OT at work, she is spending as fast as she earns it.
Dave thank you for always making me laugh while still educating me. I’m so happy I’m healed. I still think of him everyday because the betrayal is so awful, but I know how I can change the world like you since I have the Holy Spirit. Eveyone needs to remember they can’t play both sides. You get burned every time.
After 30 years and 5 kids, I have blocked her after she left for a new supply. If I’m hearing this correctly, and haven’t looked at her social media, ask a question about her new supply, he’s may realize “wholy smokes” her ex could care less ??? 😂😂😂 sounds good to me. The flip side is grace, love, mercy and forgiveness. Hard times
Hi Dave, thank you for your insight to the world of the narcissist. I really appreciate your view on the subject. Coming up to 4 months now and although its been difficult, as each day that goes bye Im staying strong. I appreciate the comments I read because thankfully Im not on my own. Thanks !!
@@martyc2637 Thanks pal !! Not easy getting shafted, when others think of you as the bad guy, remember they were never your pals. They just wanted to see you fall so they could feel good about themselves. You and I know the truth and we dont have to defend ourselves to them. We will rise again. Wiser, stronger and with a greater understanding of what we want and dont want. 100% ty.
Best ever clip I watch on narcissist and the aftermath fiasco.... The keeping up appearances, after 10 days of the breakup I was replaced. She's now the new cupcake on the pedalstill. When asked how is it possible for you to move on so fast... Reply was I am not with holding my happiness because of your issues. My issues was his disrespect... 10 months later the cracks are showing and Mr Narc is trying harder to make believe he is at the happiest place of his life. Diforced twice because of martial affairs
Hey Dave. Thanks for your video. Weird thing. First had a dream. The N. S. ( old now) told me( in the dream: It was sleeping with anyone. ( like one did not know, lol. And that it was over with them two weeks ago. Trying get me in the picture. It wanted contact. Probably finish the job. ( to continue, cos is long.
God bless you 🙏🏼 May the Lord pour blessings and healing upon all of you! Thank you for this channel, thank you for being here for all of us on the this difficult journey of healing from trauma from abuse 🩷
In the relationship that I experienced with my ex narcissist, I have never seen anybody be able to flip from one personality to another within seconds, so I do believe they are possessed with a demon. I am so grateful to God that I got rid of them. And yes, they have new supply which is fine with me. At least they’re not bothering me.. I do feel sorry for the new supply, but they’ll figure it out in time or they won’t. Thank you for this video. I have watched so many videos about narcissism I have educated myself and have done a lot of healing. It’s been over two years since I was in this relationship. I have not received a Hoover and I don’t really expect that I ever will, but it certainly would not benefit them to do so. Thank you
Dave, can we get a video on your thoughts about a topic i often run into that continues to stump me. With social media, memes, and the spreading knowledge of gaslighting and narcissism the past few years…i talk to a lot of women who say things like “my ex was a narcissist”, and i can tell that they know some of the traits of a narcissist….yet it normally doesn’t take long that a lot of these very same people display very high signs of narcissism themselves.
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I did lol 👌🏼
This channel literally saved my sanity 💯
Narcs don't need a Therapist, they need an Exorcist.
Literally.
No joke, sick people, no doubt. 🎯
LOL oh yeah
It's odd how most narcs are atheists
Perfect truth
When the Narcissist gets bored with the "New supply" this is when you are likely to see the Hoover.
HOWEVER ..If you are dumb enough to take back the Narcissist once you have figured them out... You are no longer a victim...You are a volunteer.
Thank you for this video, Dave.
1] Doom 2] Destruction 3] Divorce
Sadly followed by
4) Depression
5) Deletion
@@killjoyredux8361 Yep. And many times they choose the "Self-Delete" option...
@@Imnotyourdoormat yeah...was going to write that but it would have disrupted the alliterative flow!
@@killjoyredux8361 hahahaha...
She realised there's no money with the weed infested new grass,
But we endured the pressure.
And pressure is what makes diamonds.
They need you to regulate when there out cheating on you and Stealing from you,
They spend like tomorrow will never come.
Good ridden, or should I say she has been ridden rotten 😂
The new supply is MISERABLE! They are too embarrassed to let anyone know…for right now
Facts
So true
What happens is the Narcissists get DISGUSTED with the "New supply" ..Then the "New supply" enters the devaluation phase...This is when you will get "The Hoover" from the Narcissist... However, if you are dumb enough to take them back... You are no longer a victim...... You are a volunteer.
Please don't fall for the Narcissist's BS...When you get "The Hoover"... The person you fell in love with...DID NOT EXIST!
My late mother used to take back my narcissistic father... time after time after time... It was pathetic, I really hate my mother for doing this... Please have some respect for yourself WHEN you get "The Hoover" ..Block...Ignore and delete... He is using you as "An object" for supply....Never forget this.
Kind regards Brian
😂😂😂😂😂 tehy cant believe they have SLOPPY endings FROM THE WHOLE TOWN
😂😂😂😂
Narc is a full demon run
I really don't feel sorry for the new supply because they knew our ex was with us in relationship but they chose to participate in the show so they get their reward! 🗑️
Believe me. Not everyone knows they're with someone else. They don't always share with us a thing about them. We go in blindly and eventually learn they've been cheating on them and fooling us at the same time.
Narcissist Gone, = miserable to happy in seconds.
1. Understand it.
2. Accept it.
3. STAY OUT OF IT!
❤ Exactly
The new supplies will soon realize once the devaluation starts and the mask falls off that something is very off and wrong tragic life these narcissists live they never learn just a repeated cycle which we are no longer part of thank God 🙌🙌🙌
Shirley, as I put it to the Narc, when they were supposedly so remorseful for treating people unfair--- " The only people that will put up with that kind of treatment would have to be codependent, easily controlled, and basically a doormat". The response was such dark energy, and rage. They do not change. 🤷♀️
The new supply will be very happy during the love bombing phase. It just depends on how long that lasts before the devaluation part begins and how slowly it gets drawn out.
I overheard my ex trying to convince her to move into the house he brought, which I was to move into.
I decided to visit first since he's now out of state.
He lied and told his new supply I refused to move into his nice new house, as though there was something crazy with me for not QUICKLY relocating to a new state. The new person should have questioned WHY I wasn't eager to jump on relocating. Guess she'll eventually discover why ...he's a full blown Narcissist!
I am planning my exit now. I rented a storage locker. I am moving small things out a bit at a time. Being careful not to attract any attention from neighbors. The rest I will buy new. The bed and mattress is on the way. I am saving for all the deposits I will need for myself and 2 dogs.
I plan to move to another town and start over. Ditch my current cel phone and just start over-giving myself the time I need to heal and grow in the Lord.
I will fly below the radar for the duration. Changing everything-rebuilding my hobbies and help others as God wills.
I am exercising great caution at the moment. My narc decimated my finances-so all I can do is save up enough to go-I will walk away from everything else. I am no longer in his war without any weapons. I just need time to remove the shrapnel.
Dave your channel is a true lifeline- Indeed you have a calling. God bless you.
Glad you have dogs 🐕 😊
Best of luck in your escape plan. 🙏
@@plusone8015 Thank you. I am actively looking into accommodations now & pray the Lord provides for me and my furpals. I will probably upload a video at some point to share I got out. Until then, it will be about my salvation, deliverance healing and restoration in the Lord.
Hope you’re doing well
Hello-thank you so much for your replies. I am nearing my exit date. I have since prayed Psalm 35 over my life and have the heavenly hosts are clearing my path. God is good-He changed the story. hahaha The pit the enemy dug for me is returned and canceled. My enemy repay me evil for good and is now on God's hook.
I get to walk away in my salvation, deliverance, healing and restoration. The narc-well he is going to have to pay for the ritual he did against one of God's chosen. The narc cursed his blessing-what a fool. hahahahaha The tables turned all glory to the Most High.
How are you doing now and how did the ex narc react? Hope you’re blossoming and reclaim your life. Blessings to you! 🌺
Totally agree 💯. The new supply WILL be you at some point. Narcs don't go for dumb people, but naive people, absolutely!
Well said...❤
I disagree. I had been single and celibate (ON PURPOSE) for 17 years before I met this predator. Vulnerable moment in life? It can happen to anyone. All you can do is ask questions and hope the answers are honest. I let him into my life too easily and that is on me. I am not responsible for all his lies, deceptions, ect. I personally will NOT go out with anyone who has not been single for at least two years. This creature knew that. It is disgusting the games some play.
Other other narcs and they feed off each other
Just been going through this myself... after my nex told me he is in love (after only a few days of knowing the new supply) God told me "they are on their best behaviour now". Things may change soon. Because there was no change in them. I give the new supply 1-1,5 year before she starts having side effects like confusion, trauma, dissociation, just the way I did.
9 months is the standard flip to early deval
By 1.5 years it’s end of deval and getting to discard in my experience
You’re being generous. The effects start way earlier, even during the love bombing phase, they’re just not noticeable until the devaluation stage begins, which doesn’t really take too long, maybe a couple of months, a year tops.
@@carriebell3566 well said
The confusion and triangulation started almost immediately with me
You are right on the one year time mark. I think she got a real codependent. Her spell in the bedroom will keep any male a slave for at least 9 months. Then the fangs come out and it will depend how deep a slave this supply is after that
@@carriebell3566 you are right. I remember the first time he gaslighted me in the beginning stages. He said something either hurtful or untrue (I don't remember exactly) and looked at me in such a way that I knew that he knew what he was doing and waiting to see my reaction. I can't even explain it. When it was happening, my brain went like "no way he's doing that to me" and I pushed it at the back of my mind. So yes it started early on. The highs were so good, I overlooked the lows. And then the lows were a daily occurrence with some highs here or there...
Currently in the thick of a divorce to a narc. Two kids, house, everything. Thought I was living a fairy tale for years with how good I had it. Little did I know what was headed my way…cheating, lies, gaslighting, manipulation, etc. The anxiety and depression are so overwhelming and I can’t think straight.
Worst part is I let her run our financials our entire marriage and I never took the time to learn how to manage money or do things like taxes. Embarrassing to admit at 37 but here I am.
I’ve come to terms that I have codependent tendencies and it’s made the whole situation that much worse. I feel so lost and I’m extremely fearful of building a new life for myself while being a good father.
You will be fine. Don't beat yourself up. You have children, therefore you have everything to live for as they need you! In your spare time, go walk or run or find a physical activity to help you physically and mentally. Surround yourself with people you do love and trust. Ugly words will be spewed in your name. Time reveals truth. I lost the best husband to heart disease several years ago. I met a narc unbeknownst to me what a narc was. Only until the discard did i figure out what he was. It was here in Dave's videos that I stumbled on the devalue stage. Then it all clicked. The pain is real and I promise you that time helps to heal. Know that. You ARE alive and you DID survive it. Yes, you are hurt as much as a person can be. Things in life are replacable. You as a dad, son or being a brother is not. Look back to learn from it, but never go back. Go to a bank and speak with a person at a desk. Be honest with them and tell them you need help learning how to navigate your finances. I was a banker and I helped many people. No shame in that. It's to be commended to take that step for your financial security. Remember this: take life one day at a time and I tell myself all of the time when I encounter things that I cannont control or handle emotionally to just " Let it Be". Prayers for you my friend. PS: It has helped me tremendously watching these videos to understand that being involved with a narc is not a normal relationship. They truly are disturbed evil people.
Focus on healing and never look back unless it’s to see how far you’ve come. Don’t go back into the nightmare, we can all do this !! ❤
All beautiful replies and know you are not alone. We are with you since we have lived that pain. Friends and doing anything to keep your mind moving
@@AnnA-tu3ig Yes exercise straightened me out. 17 years combined on two narcs. 3years on and some self love and thankfully I can honesty say I'm healed armed and over it
God created us with enough strength to overcome everything we are faced with (we shall never be faced with more than we can handle, that is His promise). With faith, the strength that lies dormant is accessed. Things fall into perspective (and you will once again think straight). And fear falls away for it cannot abide in the Light. God never lets liars and cheats get away with it. The process is painful like surgery without much painkiller (the pain teaches, also) but necessary for our own good. When does a person not deserve more chances from you? Answer: When they show no repentance.
I saw a recent picture of the narc and new supply after 2 years together. She fr looked unhappy and tired! Meanwhile I just got engaged to one of my best friends and have a genuine connection-after time to work on myself and to enjoy being alone.
I lived with a narcissist just last month he discarded me you can imagine how I feel I'm in my 70s it feels like I just want to call up in a hole and die that's what it feels like I lost all my life I drank 55 years with him so I wouldn't feel the pain that I was going through with him but I didn't know what it was until now I want to thank you very much Dave 😢
He popped back up last November after close to 4 years and acted like we ended on good terms (cheated then went 👻). He wanted to spontaneously drive to me and take me out for a ‘drink’. He just assumed that he has lifetime access to me 😂😂 The audacity. I assume that he was 1) broke and needed help 2) wanted to energy vamp off me or 3) both. He didn’t mention the intention or no sincere well-articulated apology was offered.
I hope you laughed in his face and told him to f off.
Mine popped back up when new supply left around Christmas last year. Now that supply is back and they got married within 30 days of getting back together.😂😂😂😂 What the heck?? 😂😂😂
I am a woman with 3 children with him, he took away my 2 children, I believe with my situation God, Universe or the higher beings surrounds me, I can’t wait for the day to tell him F off.😂
Well done for NOT taking back the Narcissist ... They need you far more than you need them.. Kind regards Brian
There very highly delusional that it’s funny too watch once you’ve fully healed! You see it in a different light 😅
The gift of having discernment..what a valuable gift God gave to us
I recently tried to reconcile with my partner because he told me he was a new changed man and wanted me to have the first chance to be with the new improved him. I went back and within 24 hours he was back to abuse and even asked me what my housecleaning schedule was going to be? I left again …
3 weeks later his new girlfriend filmed me picking up my belongings left in a mess from his driveway.
They are truly sick , cruel people.
I was faithfully married to this man for 22 years. This is how he punished me for leaving. Now I have to go to court to get money because he has all of it and won’t give me even half.
His children are watching his behaviour and are disgusted .
It’s painful for me but I see who he is now. It wasn’t me !
TRUST ME THEY WANT TO BECOME YOU AND YOU BECOME THE OLD THEM. I kid you NOT. I had no idea this even existed. Hollywood scary movies makes these guys look nothing of what they actually are. I love scary movies. I had no idea their were others outside of that that actually existed. It’s shocking to my core. Once you see it it cannot be unseen.👈🏻😳😵💫👈🏻
I can totally identify. It's like science fiction.
Omg, this is how I’ve felt since we separated like we switched places, he took everything about me and even went out and got a new supply that could be my doppelgänger.. I’m now left with the shame, guilt, depression, etc that belonged to him .. “body snatchers”
@@katdid he’s probably a sociopath. Tell yourself he did you a favor and forget the POS. The END👈🏻
💯 my ex actually said to me I've become u and u became me well that was before I got me back and left ..
When I discovered I was just a member of other people's harem-garages, I realized that I was being used by multiple narcissists in my life. I'm still trying to go completely no-contact on people. I'm making some progress but very slowly.
They fall in lust often it's the pathology of the shallow ! The newest infatuation, and it's planned distraction you said that , precisely and it's key to our peace and thank God our greatest satisfaction ! Which is something they cannot percieve , as they refuse to acknowledge they exist only to deny their defeat ! They manipulate third party perceptions, for a false sense of power as if they can control reality ? That's a life of futility !
We were not naive,
We know about morals and authenticity and love.
But we were in the biggest lie, Nothing was real.
Never blame yourself.
Evil will not prevail.
God saw and heard everything,
The Almighty said enough is enough and pulled us out and just in time for most of us,
Our lives and souls were at risk.
Stay prayed up, for Yayweh will never forsake us.❤
Thank you, and Amen.
Amen ❤
Amen
Start setting your boundaries and they will discard you
truth!
Yes
This happened to me at the end of the relationship.
I was married to one for 8 years. It ended in him starting a family while still being married to me. I tell my testimony to let someone know you can make it. I often STILL fight with rejection and abandonment but God is still healing me in that area. Allow God to continue to heal you and don’t look back. I have to admit-I prayed for him for over 15 years (even while we dated) and he never changed. That was my red flag that he was in a reprobated state but I STILL ended up marrying him.
I honestly think he might just be happy with who he left me for. But I know that’s also an illusion. Keep fighting and keep healing! ❤❤❤❤
So true Dave,they are horrible with $$, I've been apart from my husband of 12 years after he brutally discarded me back in May 2023. I found the statement of a maxed out credit card after he left, he makes good $ these days and there is absolutely no reason why he would do that. He had been having sex with the secretary from his work, I found this out after he left (it took less than 48 hours for me to figure this out). I started researching after he left the way he did and found that not only is he a covert Narcissist but he also borders on Sociopath traits😈 Thanks for the topic of the next supply because sometimes my mind plays tricks on me,thinking he will change for the better. I know that's a lie. 12 years married to a complete LIE is a very devastating reality but I've taken the 6 months so far to heal and go within 🙏 God is my Strength ❤
Shalom Dave & All who have been abused my these entities, they are BRUTAL
Your story mirrors my own somewhat she would always create such drama to lead to a separation where either I was put out or she'd leave to go have her fun then be like well you can come back but remember it was all your fault and no of course I wasn't seeing anyone while we were separated 🤥🤡🥱
I also have doubts in my mind whether he is treating the new supply better, but then I shake myself awake and try to have the mindset that he doesn’t. They never do! They only get worse and she will have to deal with him now.. ❤ from me 😊
@@martevanderzee7440 hugs to you! I believe he got himself another Narcissist, I stood face to face with her back in May and her energy was horrible 😈
@@shawnpullen9517 so malicious
@@martevanderzee7440 it's a never ending cycle "rinse and repeat" same game different victim 💯❤️🙏🙌
One can only hope she gets payback for destroying my son and my family ànd taking a married man, a very sick married man.
My Narc every time I bought something for myself she would ask me why I’m spending money, but when she used to buy stuff for herself and I asked her ,she would always answer,money comes, money goes😂😂😂
I finally figured out i was in a relationship with a Covert Narcissist a couple weeks ago. There were dozens of camouflage flags telling something is not right about this woman. Like having to unfriend some of my lady friends on Facebook or validating i love her numerous times a day (funny how she didn't have to initiate the i love you, just me) ect... But there was a giant red flag the size of a Garrison one and that was her rage! It was like reasoning with a young child and i never had kids, so l would just leave and get the "you're abandoning me and a real man would stay and protect me" then the throwing of objects (nothing more solid than a tennis ball). I walked out but her character attacks on me and flaunting her amazingly quick new supply brought me to me knees. In short she manipulated me into doing everything you shouldn't do when dealing with a narcissist even after i left her. But thanks to you im learning and healing.
We all been there man
The rage in women is the real tell along with abandonment stuff
She will be back man be Careful
Sounds very similar, I left mine 7 weeks ago, I don't know if she cheated on me but I'm pretty sure she has, well done for getting out!
@beech1013
They are always cheating brother, She was cheating on someone when she got with you. They keep supplies on stand-by because they know they always ruin relationships.
Even the new supply is getting older i think, he said that Kim Kardashian is old, 40,when i got 40,exactly that date he discarded, on my birthday and acted like a spoiled child. I did not even want to be treated like a royal on my birthday, i wanted some distinctive behaviour, i was yelled and screamed after three years of abuse. I should have get rid of this person after 4 months of lovebombing.
Wow. I really am expected to fix everything when his life goes down the drain. Once his spirits are back up im in the trash again...
I pray the new supply , would ever watch this site. 😊. I know she could give him some a taste of his own medicine... You are totally right... I think he finally understands ... I don't want him back. I know the justice will be served in this life or after... I could care less about this life only what is promised to me in the Word and I DON'T WANT THIS WORLD. If the Lord chooses me for whenever Jesus wants me for in this world, I am here but I know in the end, I will be WHERE HE IS ALSO‼️🕊️🙌
Dave, the message at the end about Asking Jesus for strength hits home. When you sre reeling from betrayal he has been my solace from insanity. Please all be easy on yourselves.
I remember my ex use to always have to have some vice 24x7. He garnered a ton of admiration when he posted that he was now "sober" because he stopped drinking... yet he turned to weed and became addicted to smoking and being high all the time. I'm seeing all the comments like "Wow man you're and inspiration!" "Good job bro! Proud of you! etc. and I'm just sitting there like oh yea if you all only knew he's addicted to smoking now and threatening my life behind closed doors calling me horrid names etc. Suchhhh an inspiration lol. It is absolutely insane to see how they manipulate the outside world. I just kept my mouth shut because I know God eventually exposes them.
This is the most bone chilling, authentic, accurate, concise, assessment. Bravo
The first few comments about the Narc not missing you and ghosting you,those have been my thoughts. I didn't believe that this man I married was in that mindset(he's hiding the woman he's cheating on with,thinks I don't know). But, we'll see....
This is true, the new supply (in some cases) does get it worse. For ex., my narc ex-friend's last friend abruptly cut them off for toxicity. No matter how kind I was to the narc, they eventually cut me off in the same exact manner, which let me know they were still hurting over being cut from the last friend. So in a way, they took their power back by doing it to someone else.
Dave ur an absolute legend
Ur understanding of how new supply circumstances dictate their behaviour towards us is scary
Between u and Quinn it’s a lock 🙏💓
Quinn is Legend
Who is Quin?
When a narcissist misses you you have to ask your self what kind of supply where you giving them can be a lot of different things that what they miss about you praying 🙏 praise the lord Jesus blessed by this message ❤❤❤❤
I love the acrid tone and saccharine inflection when you say "new supply" 😄
The narcissist's idea of charity is using gift-giving to make themselves look good. Their greatest skill is repeating back to you what you want to hear and their second-greatest skill is projecting their own faults onto you to devalue you. Neither of those involves any creativity. At some point, the new supply is going to go, "Wait. What is going on? Why is this person so robotic? Is this a Stepford Spouse? Is this person for real?" And of course we all know the answer to that.
The overgiveing when never asked and even told to stop is crazy making. The stupid, I have no idea what you’re talking about. The wounded act, makes me want to throw up. I was raised by a women just like her. I so angry at myself for allowing it.
This helped me Dave!
Jesus I trust in You!
All the glory to God!
Keep em coming Dave- your wisdom& teachings are glorious and so needed!🙏🎉
I'm going through leaving him once again for the millionth time 20 years of my life waisted I'm grateful for these channels it helps me not feel so alone thank you
I was married to a narc for 30 years. After he abandoned me I saw the puzzle pieces come together and realized the only thing I did wrong was trust him but he wanted worshipping. These people are their own god and want to be your god too. Mine couldn’t stand anything less than perfection in all realms of our life. Even a crumb left on a kitchen counter would send him into a rage. He claimed to be a Christian but admitted he hated people. I saw him do random acts of mean things to others and then gloat over their misery. He planned his exit out of our marriage and literally robbed us without me knowing it. He would future fake, pathologically lie about anything I asked him about. I didn’t realize he was lying about so many things until he was gone. I wasn’t a Christian when I married him but became saved about 15 years after our marriage and things definitely declined after that. Clearly spiritual warfare. Thanks for your video and the emphasis on Jesus Christ. ✝️
Your right about $, my ex spent all her $ either at the casino or buying needless thing's. She also put way too much concern about what everyone thought of her, one bad comment from someone at work would mess her up emotionally for the whole day.
Dave you are always spot on. Thank you for helping us.
Your are right about everything, sadly..
I was once the new supply , So he thought. 2 months and I broke up with him after telling him everything I knew about who he is. I was BRUTAL. Gave him proof of all his lies. I told him who he was and how him being abused as a child go him there. I told him , IM SORRY. IM NOT YOUR MOTHER. GOOD BYE. Yes. It’s time for the new supply to be like WTH.. What I do know is. I’m NOT INTERESTED. DONT TRY TO BRING YOUR RAGITY ASS BACK OVER HERE.
😂😂😂
You explain this so well this post discard new supply mindset. You are helping a lot of people thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
This is also nauseating and disgusting
I was a runner in high school. Got my varsity letter my freshman year in cross country and ran the 1 mile, 2 mile and was the anchor for the 4X4 in track and I would have RAN IF I WOULD HAVE KNOWN. TRUE STORY!😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫
The new supply deserves the hell coming their way
Just paused your video and started playing free falling by tom petty lol😂 hahahaha Love you brother ❤️
I feel sorry for the new supply.
If this isn't accurate to a "T" because he does believe that we all do what they do...this is crazy
Listen to Dave's learning about sociopaths and about just being careful because even after my marriage to a narcissist that wasn't my last narcissist and I got into a relationship shortly after my son died because he knew him in the Christian program he was in and I was very vulnerable and I fell for it even though I saw red flags because it was so quick but we were engaged to be married ( in which I had no intention of doing bc I needed to figure out how to get out) this one almost killed me and I'm suffering the physical consequences to this day. It was Jesus that that protected me and saved my life... Jesus did again and again . Enjoy the 🎁,bc we aren't promised tomorrow.
He won money lied Caught him talking to someone he called "mom" he gave all his flying monkeys money and the new supply, even though he got gambling numbers from me.. isn't that wicked
Today was the day that I grabbed what I could and I finally excepted the disregard and I left, and on the way there, the new supply was sitting in the driveway, and I felt no anger for him. I only felt pity because I knew that the process wasn’t over, and she didn’t have any interest in healing, but on the opposite end, I understood that I can heal me that my new objective is to separate myself from the chaos to accept growth. she made getting my things difficult, but I was able to do so eventually and I grabbed what I could and I left. I am in fear of the future, but only because it is unknown but now I understand what my boundaries are and I refuse to give them up for anyone.
I really admire and appreciate your impartiality on the subject.
I’m so glad and happy. I am not a Stick Figure character in that awful play anymore.
Mine drew us as stick figures holding hands lol
What is so odd is that their pictures on social media always look like they’re having a blast and it really makes you wonder, are they? Married for years now. I guess it’s a matter of time before the devalue and discard happens.
Hey Dave, just wanted to say I'm so thankful for this channel. I feel like this channel is the best at educating about narcissists along with spreading the word of God. Your channel brought me back to God. I could never thank you enough for that. I still miss the narcissist terribly but I trust God to heal me. My goal right now is just to not contact the narcissist. I tell myself it's natural to miss him, but as long as I just don't contact him, everything will be okay and I'll get over him one day. I'm so glad you share the message for people who have been tricked by the devil/narcissist. You are truly ahead of your time with this type of knowledge and the messages you share.
Yes, they are spending our money and energy and then spending for the new supply and presenting rich and giving. But we know they are not. I can get over because he was a jerk.
@@kerstitekko2257
They are all jerks. Mine got married 2 weeks after I left him.
How could you miss someone when you know that he did not really loved you...😢
Just trust God and surrender everything to Him. "He has the best plan for your life...to give you a hope and a future"..Jeremiah 29:11
Good evening Dave and everyone happy hump day Wednesday got my peach tea cheers 🙂
Look at it for what it is. You were the new supply and the supply prior to you was also the new supply. Haha, they are tornados, RUN👈🏻🫤😵💫👈🏻
@emmamonroe3311
What’s ever more crazy is how they go back and try to make OLD SUPPLY, their NEW Supply again
@@INHOUSEMUSICGROUP-PROMOS-vz7lm Yeah they text you from fake numbers after they just tried to ruin you and they act like they are someone else and they haven’t seen you for 3 years. It’s total bizarre. He just wanted my insurance. I am not a stupid person I just had no idea about covert narcissism or Narcopaths. My lord.🤡👈🏻
Yup. Listening to this video has opened my eyes to realize I was also the new supply. Thankfully I got off the hamster wheel and learned my lesson, even if it was the hard way. He taught me to be extra cautious.
Lol you are great at this spot on......all for show!
I had to FLAT out LIE to my narc about the amount of my income because he had too many bills coming to the surface after the “honeymoon” stage of our relationship. He honestly thought I was going to dig him out of his financial slum. He was big on Facebook postings of good times I was paying for. He never tagged me once. Props of his good life. I quit paying. He moved on. Thank God!
Your right it's all a big fake show my narcist is on her second new supply after me I'm so happy the one thing I noticed is the eyes she likes to look like she got away with something when she takes a picture not be happy that she found someone new. They can have the crap.
During the lovebombing phase, I had this gut feeling that something was wrong when she started just talking only about herself and showing me over and over tons of her photos. Something was off, as I had been around people like this before. I should have listened to that feeling, because it inevitably became all about her. As soon as I tried to stand up for myself or set boundaries, it was turned around on me. She ended up using the same method of triangulation to end our relationship. I haven't spoken to her since May, though I have painshopped since. Still, things are better, but I do now find myself wondering if all those gut feelings I had that she was physically cheating on me were correct.
You had better boundaries than me and it probably saved you some trauma bond. Boy do they hate boundaries. You are controlling, mean, negative the lists goes on then the end is near.
@@martyc2637 she used a lot of psychology terms - incorrectly - to paint me as the abuser. In my weakness I started to believe her, because in my mind if someone I loved truly believed I was being abusive towards them, I must have been. Setting boundaries was stonewalling to her, she insisted that she had to agree to my boundaries. Walking away from an unproductive and nasty conversation for a few hours was ghosting her. And standing my ground on what I heard her say was gaslighting. It was an unwinnable situation.
Amazing video. Thank u!!!!
Glad you liked it!
I discovered this channel years ago and now i wonder why i attract angry people, because my parents angry.easily agitated, i feel sad.
Hi Dave, wow, you nailed it! 💪
Love it! Suntanning with the new supply! 😂 your right
Love you brother Dave ❤️
Wow! You are talking about my Ex-Wife! It is Spot-on! Thank you. I know I’m not alone.
A lot of things you said in this video explains a lot about my narc ex. She has filed bankrupcy with 2 different men! I am glad that she dumped me in May and I have been in radio silence since. Her own family laughed behind her back calling her " high Maintenence". It's funny that everytime we went out she always had to include her mother or friend. She has to work a lot of OT at work, she is spending as fast as she earns it.
Dave thank you for always making me laugh while still educating me. I’m so happy I’m healed. I still think of him everyday because the betrayal is so awful, but I know how I can change the world like you since I have the Holy Spirit. Eveyone needs to remember they can’t play both sides. You get burned every time.
Amen Dave!!! You speak TRUTH and Gods will... Keep it up! :)
Thank you Dave needed this today so much 😞
Love your talks Dave! You’re awesome 👍
You rock!
After 30 years and 5 kids, I have blocked her after she left for a new supply. If I’m hearing this correctly, and haven’t looked at her social media, ask a question about her new supply, he’s may realize “wholy smokes” her ex could care less ??? 😂😂😂 sounds good to me.
The flip side is grace, love, mercy and forgiveness. Hard times
Wow Dave! You are so insightful & perceptive! I'm a new subscriber, a few days.
They are all on the same demonic script.
Thanks and welcome
The Swine Rodeo LOL 🎉 hi Dave🎉😅
You're also so right about staying single a while.
God has kept me away for over a year where normally I'd have likely been involved again
Hi Dave, thank you for your insight to the world of the narcissist. I really appreciate your view on the subject. Coming up to 4 months now and although its been difficult, as each day that goes bye Im staying strong. I appreciate the comments I read because thankfully Im not on my own.
Thanks !!
Stephen I am on two months. I am glad after 4 months you are doing better. I think I am heading in that direction.
@@martyc2637 Thanks pal !! Not easy getting shafted, when others think of you as the bad guy, remember they were never your pals. They just wanted to see you fall so they could feel good about themselves. You and I know the truth and we dont have to defend ourselves to them. We will rise again. Wiser, stronger and with a greater understanding of what we want and dont want.
100% ty.
Best ever clip I watch on narcissist and the aftermath fiasco.... The keeping up appearances, after 10 days of the breakup I was replaced. She's now the new cupcake on the pedalstill. When asked how is it possible for you to move on so fast... Reply was I am not with holding my happiness because of your issues. My issues was his disrespect...
10 months later the cracks are showing and Mr Narc is trying harder to make believe he is at the happiest place of his life.
Diforced twice because of martial affairs
Thank you so much Dave, I really appreciate your help and inspiration 🙏❤️
You are so welcome
Hey Dave. Thanks for your video. Weird thing. First had a dream. The N. S. ( old now) told me( in the dream: It was sleeping with anyone. ( like one did not know, lol. And that it was over with them two weeks ago. Trying get me in the picture. It wanted contact. Probably finish the job. ( to continue, cos is long.
Great Pour Dave …. Outstanding !!!
You are spot on Dave! I appreciate you so much!
I appreciate that!
God bless you 🙏🏼 May the Lord pour blessings and healing upon all of you! Thank you for this channel, thank you for being here for all of us on the this difficult journey of healing from trauma from abuse 🩷
Thanks Dave, Great video as usual. Merry Christmas. ❤
I'm going threw it now brother speaking the truth public enemy said it best , devil's word em up on the level
I always have coffee ☕ , cheers Dave
In the relationship that I experienced with my ex narcissist, I have never seen anybody be able to flip from one personality to another within seconds, so I do believe they are possessed with a demon. I am so grateful to God that I got rid of them. And yes, they have new supply which is fine with me. At least they’re not bothering me.. I do feel sorry for the new supply, but they’ll figure it out in time or they won’t. Thank you for this video. I have watched so many videos about narcissism I have educated myself and have done a lot of healing. It’s been over two years since I was in this relationship. I have not received a Hoover and I don’t really expect that I ever will, but it certainly would not benefit them to do so. Thank you
YOU Nailed IT!
Blessings and Thank You!
Dave, can we get a video on your thoughts about a topic i often run into that continues to stump me. With social media, memes, and the spreading knowledge of gaslighting and narcissism the past few years…i talk to a lot of women who say things like “my ex was a narcissist”, and i can tell that they know some of the traits of a narcissist….yet it normally doesn’t take long that a lot of these very same people display very high signs of narcissism themselves.
They will do to everyone what they did to you. There is nothing inside. Run
Thanks, Dave.
“ what did you hand her?” 😂😂😂😂