OMG I love how she laughs at her own joke. I am a professional model and I can vouch for everything she says! Models I know mostly hate themselves because they're defined by their looks and are given no power. That's why I use it to self fund my own education and enhance my own brain on my own time. Modeling doesn't need to dominate your life, but many models let it.
She is an excellent and engaged presenter, but the audience so dry and blah. Why did some of those people choose to be there if they had absolutely no interest in the topic.
but when those same women who don't feel beautiful make a man feel unattractive because he's not a 6'2" muscular male model that's perfectly fine right?
I'm literally clapping after every sentence she says alone in my room. her audience is so dry and no interested in her talk. why are they there if they are not going to listen. great presentation!
I know, and to think people say "you're only as worthy as your audience!" WTF, were those guys asleep or what? What carrie had to say had me jumping about, they should have been too!!
Because humans seek out beauty. We're attracted to it. That's been the truth since the beginning of our species. Even birds use beauty to attract mates.
I give her a lot of credit for being unfazed by the audience not responding to her jokes. She remained composed and on message. Forget about her appearance. She did a great job! Props! The Audience was full of dead people.
Exactly... Do you know what happens when girls think they aren't beautiful? "Huge impacts. Echoing impacts." All in our society from our mothers, girlfriends, sisters, friends, teachers, etc. "This affects every aspect of our society" -- because when we stop being confident and we stop being our best selves.
One of the most inspiring TEDx talks ever. Thank you Carrie Hammer for such a well-worded presentation with real content. The power of media should be used to emancipate women worldwide and change the image currently sold as "perfection" around the globe. Your cause gives me hope that we're finally onto something and makes me work harder to achieve this vision.
Her speech was so powerful and she's really inspirational. Honestly, the audience was dry as balls; I would be giving her a standing ovation after that.
How about we also encourage neutrality towards our bodies as well. Beauty isn't everything, and it's okay to not feel beautiful. It's okay to not prioritize beauty as important.
I've seen a lot of TED talks, and this is one of the top 3. Thank you. For all of us who have never fit that magazine, now instagram mode, this should be shown in elementary school, middle school, high school and before going to college. I have boycotted VS before I lost the ability to fit into their male-gazed oriented view. You are a role model Carrie.
People are inherently pretty- all of them. I stopped buying magazines when I realized they were nothing but ads that I was paying for and a waste of trees. I began to see makeup as a tool to express and enhance my strengths, not "fix" the "weaknesses." Wear what you like. If it ends up in a magazine, so what.
this talk is absolutely amazing but, I wish more people talked about people having image issues and not just women because everyone has image problems but men just don't talk about it, speaking as a male who is extremely self conscious and wears makeup to make myself feel happy and attractive
Why don't you try to start the conversation? Women know their own self-image as reflected in media from the time they're little girls. They know what boys say about them and to them from the earliest years of school. Even their parents tell them how they should be beautiful and X or Y is what makes beauty. Only men know how they've fallen for the myths of male beauty, so only men can fight it together.
Women are always asked to do all the emotional labour for men, it's exhausting. Do your own damn TED talk instead of crying "but what about the meeeeeeeeen???" when it's a talk about women, by a woman.
She is a groundbreaking woman and I love that she is not saying: do not wear makeup or straighten your hair, but feel good in your own skin no matter what, do not idolize the ads that target women to be some kind of, unrealistic image --GREAT talk.
The best Ted talk I've heard in ages. I don't think her jokes are funny, because the underlying message is so sad. All my life I've not felt beautiful enough. I still don't, but I feel a lot better after watching this talk. Thank you ❤
I remember the first time I heard kids getting their school photos Photoshopped. I thought "photos are meant to capture are story. You can't remember having acne as a teen if Photoshopping it out." My school photo wasn't Photoshopped. My hair was wet on top, so it looked oily. Before hand I had been in the rain.
I love these lines that she said: Beauty lies what we do in the world not what we look like. Beauty lies in our passion, purposes, and accomplishments,. Beauty lies in the role model, be somebody's role model. Be you - beuitiful :)
Not everyone is beautiful, though. And that's the thing-that shouldn't matter. You are worth more than looks. I say this as an average looking and somewhat overweight man, though...probably less pressure on me. But I always feel as though I pale in comparison to other guys looks wise.
I beg to differ. I think everyone is beautiful. Beauty does not have a specific look. The thing is, people are attracted to different things. One girl/guy might be considered more attractive by a group of people than another girl/guy, but that does not mean that either girl/guy is more or less beautiful than the other. It's a matter of beauty vs attraction but attraction is a matter of opinion. What people consider attractive may change over time, does that mean the people who look like what was previously considered attractive are no longer beautiful? No. I agree that we are worth more than our looks but just because you may not fit what you think is the societal standards of beauty (or what the majority think is attractive), it does not mean you are not beautiful.
I really love the message of how damaging the beauty industry is and how unrealistic beauty standards hurt women, however instead of "here's reasons you're actually beautiful / here's how to still feel beautiful" I'm more of a fan of, why is beauty so important in the first place? Why is it so necessary for me to feel beautiful to feel like a human being who's worthy of respect?" I mean, a man doesn't need to feel beautiful to feel powerful or worthwhile, so why do I? That's why I rock the short hair, bare face, and comfortable and practical clothes because being a woman shouldn't mean having to care about my looks to be worthy and powerful.
I can relate so much to this! I've been told I'm to skinny that I'm not like " other girls". My husband loves me for me & I feel comfortable in my own skin at 30. I eat healthy for my health , I take care of my face so I feel healthy I excersize so I feel healthy. I dress like how I want to as a tomboy. Im finally happy in my own skin.
Beauty is strictly visual, there's no such thing as beauty on the inside. In fact, by asserting that, we just reinforce the idea that beauty is the ultimate trait that everyone needs to have. We won't solve the problem by including more people into the 'beautiful' category, we just need to not put so much emphasis on beuty and remind ourselves that not being beautiful is okay too.
I have to say I was really distracted with her smiling throughout the entire lecture. Let me explain myself. I loved her lecture and her ideas. She seems like a lovely person. For me, the topic was a bit too dark to warrant constant smiling throughout it. Maybe it’s a defense mechanism for her. I actually do the same thing. I smile when I’m uncomfortable or sad because I don’t like people knowing that I’ve been affected. It was a lovely lecture and I’d highly recommend it to everyone I know. It just reminded me of a scene in the movie The Truth About Cats & Dogs where Uma was practicing for a newscaster position and was reporting on a deadly accident where people died and was smiling throughout it all.
Thank you for this!!! Carrie...Thank you for this wonderful topic and speech. It's when you see the beauty in someone because of who they are inside and the good impact in the lives of others.
However, it is important to recognize that beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors. Embracing diversity and promoting inclusive beauty standards can help individuals feel confident and beautiful in their own unique way.
Just want to say that her message isn't written off just because she is wearing makeup and has straightened her hair. You can believe you're beautiful but still dress up and enhance that beauty. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I have a skin condition called Rosacea, which makes the skin on my face sensitive and bright red, and I often embrace my natural skin but sometimes I put on a little make up to make it a little less noticeable. There's nothing wrong with that, it doesn't mean I don't think I'm beautiful. And about her comparing her curly hair to her friends disability- She wasn't placing her insecurities about her hair to that model's disability, she was making the point that her wheelchair shouldn't define her or hold her back, just as curly hair or freckles shouldn't either. Everyone has insecurities, some more serious than others, she was just saying that we shouldn't let them define us no matter how big or small they are. I definitely think her talk could've been better, I think she should've went into more depth about natural beauty and she should've showed a more diverse set of models. But at the end of the day, she is still spreading a good message. We are all beautiful in our own ways and we all deserve to feel beautiful.
Kirstin Brown Curly haired people aren’t systematically oppressed. Curly haired people aren’t being denied housing, jobs, medical care for their curliness. Also, she could always straighten her hair, but disabled people can’t stop being disabled. That’s why people got mad at her comparing her hair to being handicapped.
I used to want plastic surgery as a teenager and now I've accepted my past insecurities as things I embrace; a small chest, a distinct nose profile. My nose makes me memorable bc it's not the same as we see in magazines, and I'm more recognizable. My chest doesn't weigh me down, giving me back issues, I can go braless and fit into cute tops, things I hadn't appreciated in my teens. I wish I could instil in my friends who worship instagram influencers, that they are so beautiful and those images are SO FAKE. They've bought the message that their looks define their life. But they absolutely do not. I wish they understood and wanted to be happy with how they look so they can focus on more important things.
I love your comment, and couldn't agree more. 25 years ago, I also wanted plastic surgery for my small, almost nonexistent chest. I'm happy that my mom talked me out of it and since then I've been actively working on loving my body. Being teased all through school for being 'skinny' did a number on my self esteem and colored the way that I saw how a woman's body was supposed to look. Fighting against the mainstream idea of what beauty is can be somewhat challenging. I'm happy you have learned to love and fully accept yourself and all of your beauty, profile and all. 💜
This ted talk is amazing, I would love to be a role model for others, it would be so flattering if people looked up to me. Everybody is beautiful in their own unique way.
Chloe Jayde I think you missed the point. Why do people need to be beautiful? What is beautiful? If it is subjective then why can't you be beautiful? When you say their own "unique" way, you are saying there is a normal way to define beauty which therefore means everyone is not beautiful. Beauty is not something to always be desired and we only desire it because we know men do. It sucks to be a woman.
I always knew about photoshopping but wow, this video explains how deep this goes. That is why I asked my wedding photographer when I renewed my vows last June not to Photoshop my photos too much because I wanted the images to still look like me :)
Why not ask them to be UNTOUCHED, period? Or isn't it missing the point? Change the lighting, then. Most people don't even stay married, so there's always next time.
nicky lin me too it’s said that so few women realize how important education is since once your looks fade it’s all you have and is one of the few things that will get you actual power
This presentation is very powerful, aspiring, and compassionate. Thank you so much. Please continue empowering the woman that already had destroyed confidence for long long time. Enlighten the life of other people an heal the depressions grounded and place light in them
I love this video! So true and so meaningful! I wish we all start embarrass positive role models for beauty standards instead of under age girls and Kardashians.
Straight up ladies, my advice is to stay away from botox. My forehead produced cyst like bumps and is still uneven, 2 years after quiting injections...you basically liquify the muscle and it does not come back...you get sagging etc, dents etc...just dont do it.
That’s not how good quality Botox works. It’s sounds like you should talk to whoever did that and perhaps be compensated for your suffering. Botox doesn’t liquify muscles, and good quality injections from a licensed doc/aesthetician shouldn’t give you dents or sagging.
i could totally understand my beauty when i was young, before i needed meds that made me gin a ton of weight. i hate the way i look now, so very much. no amount of comments that big can be beautiful will convince me.
Beauty must be defined as what we are, or else the concept itself is our enemy. To see beauty is simply to learn the private language of meaning which is another’s life - to recognize and relish what it is.
agh!! her audience was so dry. this is the first ted talk I have ever watched that I was genuinely interested in and I wish they would've done her more justice!!
Self-esteem also ties into being disrespect as an individual. Like working a job and not receiving a check due to feeling helpless unworthy undefended or being a woman. That is not fun. I realized after seeing a few things Sometimes It's hard to speak for yourself when someone is always trying to speak for you. It should be positive but sometimes people don't know when they are over bearing. That can definitely eat you alive
The message really comes through when delivered by someone wearing makeup, lipstick, nail polish, high heels...etc etc. Fake it til you make it, I guess??
You have to teach them both. To treat others with respect it is important to know that beauty is not everything. But to survive in our visual society you have to know about the fact that the more beautiful you are, the higher are your chances to be successful in life. It's sad, but it's true.
Its not only about the parents though, because even if you try to teach that to your child, they can still be easily influenced by society, other people around them, school and friends and stuff
Interesting presentation - but I did raise my eyebrows where she said her "curly hair doesnt define her" but yet she has had it straightened for the talk?
qhats the problem with straightening her hair and wearing makeup? As long as she's doing it because she likes it, it's okay, it's also achievable, unlike some photoshop editing
It wouldn't matter what you try and change, it's an internal entity that only you can conquer. A healthy minded person can see through the beauty standards that society has supposedly set for us and not let it defeat them.
I feel beautiful. Some days I don't look my best, but overall I've pretty much always thought I was beautiful. Not in a conceited way. I don't think I'm MORE beautiful than most other women I know. I don't think the fact that I'm beautiful makes me better than anyone else, and I certainly don't think my beauty is the most important or most interesting thing about me. But I do like the way I look in general, and I'm usually happy when I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror or in a store window. I always thought this was pretty normal (especially since, like I said, I think many, many women are at least as beautiful as I am). Now I feel kind of weird about it though...
Simpler said than done, but we all have the power to make our own decisions. If you don’t like the way the world is you have to be very clear in your beliefs and make decisions that reflect them.
15:40 I'm surprised that Ms Hammer felt that her interaction with Beyoncé Carter was positive. Beyonce is known for photo shopping her own photos before posting on her Instagram.
I think you willfully missed the part where she was specifically talking about people embracing models in wheelchairs a year after her Dr client walked in NYFW. Beyonce was last of a long list of names that could all be blamed for photoshop before posting images. She was giving credit where it was due on a specific thing.
Real deal! it's a wide eye opening into realization of each individual.Thank you for sharing the reality of our daily lives.From Baguio City, Philippines with love God bless you!
Dove try to portray themselves as if they are trying to break down the present beauty standards and give us the illusion of choice, when in reality they are still the same as any beauty company ...
The beauty industry can be cruel. We mostly speak about women, but it is cruel towards everyone. I truely believe in the message shared in this video, and I say: lets's take it a step forward. Let's not empower just women, but empower everyone- men and women alike, since none of us deserve to live in shame because we don't look like the edited people in magazines, billboards and advertisements.
It's not only the beauty industry that exploits people, and I say people because money making is top priority for all big industries. Seek out people's weaknesses and exploit it by whatever means available. If there are none, then create one. There are endless meetings on this very concept. Money is top prioity for not only industries, but for many people. Many of us are so screwed up and unhappy we don't know how to live a simple happy life. The endless circle of ; "work-spent-work some more-spend more" Feel like something is missing but don't know what and won't look inwards to find out what it is. So....go back to work, watch tv, see things to buy that surely will make one feel better and buy it. "The endless circle"
However, there's a huge % of population that are able realize all of this, however, they are not willing to give up on "all they've worked for", they will still support this industry, but ultimately mindset. No matter if they don't like the fact they are valued uniquely by their looks.
This notion is why i refuse to use filters on pictures. Nor do i cave into the pressure of posting my picture online. Its a slippery slope. Its delusional.
I think this is woman is great, really great message. After watching a tedtalk on fast fashion I really hope her clothes are sustainably made. Then she would be the full package 📦
OMG I love how she laughs at her own joke. I am a professional model and I can vouch for everything she says! Models I know mostly hate themselves because they're defined by their looks and are given no power. That's why I use it to self fund my own education and enhance my own brain on my own time. Modeling doesn't need to dominate your life, but many models let it.
Danielle D hey I'm a model too and I'm currently writing a Ted talk about the industry, would be great to hear your thoughts :)
And you'll be entirely invisible before you know it, too.
I know exactly what you mean. And I did the same. Now I became psychologist. And guess what? I’am specialized in body image 😉
she had a tough crowd smh
She is an excellent and engaged presenter, but the audience so dry and blah. Why did some of those people choose to be there if they had absolutely no interest in the topic.
She wears lots of make-up, her nails are polished, her hair are ironed, maybe what she is contradicts what she says.
LOL, I agree, Britt P. ! She is an awesome speaker.
I totally agreed
H
I guess because they were there for other topics that they were more interested in. There were probably many talks. Simple as that.
YES!! Women not feeling beautiful is a huge issue! thank you for sharing this so perfectly!
but when those same women who don't feel beautiful make a man feel unattractive because he's not a 6'2" muscular male model that's perfectly fine right?
Mingas can have purpose to.
Could it be that you are constantly putting up some glossy walls that make you ashmed to be natural? Gee who knows why
@@KeepinItOneHunnnid you exercise your body by making it healthy, you uptnon makeup to hide and forget that you are human and are not perfect
I'm literally clapping after every sentence she says alone in my room. her audience is so dry and no interested in her talk. why are they there if they are not going to listen. great presentation!
I love her presentation
YES.
I think is because in this video they only used her the audio track.
I know, and to think people say "you're only as worthy as your audience!" WTF, were those guys asleep or what? What carrie had to say had me jumping about, they should have been too!!
"Be a role model for someone in your life and show what individualistic beauty looks like".
Her speech is mind-blowing! THANK YOU
why do we live in such a beauty-centric and anti-ageist society
umeonisofien chioma natasha Dikio biology
anti-ageist? does that mean expecting everyone to want to look young and deeming looking older as less beautiful? this is new to me
@@monicasaenz141 it was a question 😐
Because humans seek out beauty. We're attracted to it. That's been the truth since the beginning of our species. Even birds use beauty to attract mates.
Because looking nice is good for peoples egos and for people who are looking at the person who is beautiful
I give her a lot of credit for being unfazed by the audience not responding to her jokes. She remained composed and on message. Forget about her appearance. She did a great job! Props! The Audience was full of dead people.
Exactly... Do you know what happens when girls think they aren't beautiful? "Huge impacts. Echoing impacts." All in our society from our mothers, girlfriends, sisters, friends, teachers, etc. "This affects every aspect of our society" -- because when we stop being confident and we stop being our best selves.
One of the most inspiring TEDx talks ever. Thank you Carrie Hammer for such a well-worded presentation with real content. The power of media should be used to emancipate women worldwide and change the image currently sold as "perfection" around the globe. Your cause gives me hope that we're finally onto something and makes me work harder to achieve this vision.
I agree.
😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😊
Her speech was so powerful and she's really inspirational. Honestly, the audience was dry as balls; I would be giving her a standing ovation after that.
Why fit in when you're born to stand out.
I believe that its our flaws that make us different.
Wow, great point!
Should we really call them flaws?
@@Lekshmitalks not really!!!!
"Not feeling beautiful means not feeling powerful"
The roots of her business are in something holistic. This woman deserves success because her mind is in the right place.
I would love this woman's clients & models to be mainstream. We don't want models, we NEED role models
Take Marie Curie as role model! Or Elise Meitner.
Be your own role model. People will try to sell you junk all the time
How about we also encourage neutrality towards our bodies as well. Beauty isn't everything, and it's okay to not feel beautiful. It's okay to not prioritize beauty as important.
Thats what i say too!
Emma Cat yesss
I wish everyone could read this comment!
Why did no one laugh at her jokes? It was so awkward.
maybe we can't hear
they are there's just no mic out there
Maybe they didn’t think they were funny
"Jokes"
I heard somewhere audience is not allowed to make noise in ted talks or they are filtered and edited before being posted
I've seen a lot of TED talks, and this is one of the top 3. Thank you. For all of us who have never fit that magazine, now instagram mode, this should be shown in elementary school, middle school, high school and before going to college. I have boycotted VS before I lost the ability to fit into their male-gazed oriented view. You are a role model Carrie.
People are inherently pretty- all of them. I stopped buying magazines when I realized they were nothing but ads that I was paying for and a waste of trees. I began to see makeup as a tool to express and enhance my strengths, not "fix" the "weaknesses." Wear what you like. If it ends up in a magazine, so what.
She was so good that it left the audience speechless.
this talk is absolutely amazing but, I wish more people talked about people having image issues and not just women because everyone has image problems but men just don't talk about it, speaking as a male who is extremely self conscious and wears makeup to make myself feel happy and attractive
Why don't you try to start the conversation? Women know their own self-image as reflected in media from the time they're little girls. They know what boys say about them and to them from the earliest years of school. Even their parents tell them how they should be beautiful and X or Y is what makes beauty. Only men know how they've fallen for the myths of male beauty, so only men can fight it together.
Hafwai Officially u are male u don't need it
Hafwai Officially this is for WOMEN
Women are always asked to do all the emotional labour for men, it's exhausting. Do your own damn TED talk instead of crying "but what about the meeeeeeeeen???" when it's a talk about women, by a woman.
@@ninninin656 ^ this. 100 times yes!!
She is a groundbreaking woman and I love that she is not saying: do not wear makeup or straighten your hair, but feel good in your own skin no matter what, do not idolize the ads that target women to be some kind of, unrealistic image --GREAT talk.
The best Ted talk I've heard in ages. I don't think her jokes are funny, because the underlying message is so sad. All my life I've not felt beautiful enough. I still don't, but I feel a lot better after watching this talk. Thank you ❤
I remember the first time I heard kids getting their school photos Photoshopped. I thought "photos are meant to capture are story. You can't remember having acne as a teen if Photoshopping it out."
My school photo wasn't Photoshopped. My hair was wet on top, so it looked oily. Before hand I had been in the rain.
I love these lines that she said: Beauty lies what we do in the world not what we look like. Beauty lies in our
passion, purposes, and accomplishments,. Beauty lies in the role model, be somebody's role model. Be you - beuitiful :)
Not everyone is beautiful, though. And that's the thing-that shouldn't matter. You are worth more than looks. I say this as an average looking and somewhat overweight man, though...probably less pressure on me. But I always feel as though I pale in comparison to other guys looks wise.
I beg to differ. I think everyone is beautiful. Beauty does not have a specific look. The thing is, people are attracted to different things. One girl/guy might be considered more attractive by a group of people than another girl/guy, but that does not mean that either girl/guy is more or less beautiful than the other. It's a matter of beauty vs attraction but attraction is a matter of opinion. What people consider attractive may change over time, does that mean the people who look like what was previously considered attractive are no longer beautiful? No. I agree that we are worth more than our looks but just because you may not fit what you think is the societal standards of beauty (or what the majority think is attractive), it does not mean you are not beautiful.
Beauty is not pretty.
Pretty might be the standard of 'beauty' in industries but beauty is what makes your heart say thanks for a chance to encounter that.
The thing is, beauty is more than looks, so everyone has beauty in them
I saw on a Reddit post once that instead of saying everyone is beautiful, we should be spreading the message that it's fine to NOT be beautiful.
I really love the message of how damaging the beauty industry is and how unrealistic beauty standards hurt women, however instead of "here's reasons you're actually beautiful / here's how to still feel beautiful" I'm more of a fan of, why is beauty so important in the first place? Why is it so necessary for me to feel beautiful to feel like a human being who's worthy of respect?" I mean, a man doesn't need to feel beautiful to feel powerful or worthwhile, so why do I? That's why I rock the short hair, bare face, and comfortable and practical clothes because being a woman shouldn't mean having to care about my looks to be worthy and powerful.
I love this type of speech, it makes me more confident and make me feel beautiful the way i am. I love myself more than before
She deserved a better audience
Fabulous message, more people should hear. Thanks for caring to make a difference.
Here after 2.7 year just to say that Carrie Hammer you were totally awesome in this session.
OMG Carrie Hammer......consider my mind altered!!!! I am speechless..
I am beautiful, even when I'm not
My new favorite Tedtalk!!! Love this, thank you so much for blazing this trail for us, the world desperately needs your Runway Revolution.
GraceSmithTV 😍😍😍😍
What an awesome person she is! So authentic, good-hearted and strong!
Audience so dry. If I were here I could've been doing back flips.
True....
I don't wanna break my body parts so I will just do fortnite.
I think they are so captivated by her words they are just taking it in silence and awe
😂😂...count me in
I can relate so much to this! I've been told I'm to skinny that I'm not like " other girls". My husband loves me for me & I feel comfortable in my own skin at 30. I eat healthy for my health , I take care of my face so I feel healthy I excersize so I feel healthy. I dress like how I want to as a tomboy. Im finally happy in my own skin.
Happy for you
You don't need to feel beautiful on the outside as long as you are beautiful on the inside.
Beauty is strictly visual, there's no such thing as beauty on the inside. In fact, by asserting that, we just reinforce the idea that beauty is the ultimate trait that everyone needs to have. We won't solve the problem by including more people into the 'beautiful' category, we just need to not put so much emphasis on beuty and remind ourselves that not being beautiful is okay too.
@@vitbrichnac9405 totally
agree
I have to say I was really distracted with her smiling throughout the entire lecture. Let me explain myself. I loved her lecture and her ideas. She seems like a lovely person. For me, the topic was a bit too dark to warrant constant smiling throughout it. Maybe it’s a defense mechanism for her. I actually do the same thing. I smile when I’m uncomfortable or sad because I don’t like people knowing that I’ve been affected. It was a lovely lecture and I’d highly recommend it to everyone I know. It just reminded me of a scene in the movie The Truth About Cats & Dogs where Uma was practicing for a newscaster position and was reporting on a deadly accident where people died and was smiling throughout it all.
Thank you for this!!! Carrie...Thank you for this wonderful topic and speech. It's when you see the beauty in someone because of who they are inside and the good impact in the lives of others.
When your heart is beautiful, you are beautiful!
YES!!!!
Word!
One of the most important ted talks for every women on earth ❤❤
However, it is important to recognize that beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors. Embracing diversity and promoting inclusive beauty standards can help individuals feel confident and beautiful in their own unique way.
Just want to say that her message isn't written off just because she is wearing makeup and has straightened her hair. You can believe you're beautiful but still dress up and enhance that beauty. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I have a skin condition called Rosacea, which makes the skin on my face sensitive and bright red, and I often embrace my natural skin but sometimes I put on a little make up to make it a little less noticeable. There's nothing wrong with that, it doesn't mean I don't think I'm beautiful.
And about her comparing her curly hair to her friends disability- She wasn't placing her insecurities about her hair to that model's disability, she was making the point that her wheelchair shouldn't define her or hold her back, just as curly hair or freckles shouldn't either. Everyone has insecurities, some more serious than others, she was just saying that we shouldn't let them define us no matter how big or small they are.
I definitely think her talk could've been better, I think she should've went into more depth about natural beauty and she should've showed a more diverse set of models. But at the end of the day, she is still spreading a good message. We are all beautiful in our own ways and we all deserve to feel beautiful.
Kirstin Brown Curly haired people aren’t systematically oppressed. Curly haired people aren’t being denied housing, jobs, medical care for their curliness.
Also, she could always straighten her hair, but disabled people can’t stop being disabled. That’s why people got mad at her comparing her hair to being handicapped.
I think, that men have created this business, and they will keep their's imagined Beauty Queens alive.
Magdalena P. It’s not just men. Women oppress and keep other women down in business a lot. There’s a few interesting TED talks about it.
Good point.
it’s all about $$$ unfortunately
This is my favourite talk so far! Also, showing up to a Ted talk in a cape is such a power move
Me too!
All the women, please stand up. Give her a bow.
loll
I used to want plastic surgery as a teenager and now I've accepted my past insecurities as things I embrace; a small chest, a distinct nose profile. My nose makes me memorable bc it's not the same as we see in magazines, and I'm more recognizable. My chest doesn't weigh me down, giving me back issues, I can go braless and fit into cute tops, things I hadn't appreciated in my teens.
I wish I could instil in my friends who worship instagram influencers, that they are so beautiful and those images are SO FAKE. They've bought the message that their looks define their life. But they absolutely do not. I wish they understood and wanted to be happy with how they look so they can focus on more important things.
I love your comment, and couldn't agree more. 25 years ago, I also wanted plastic surgery for my small, almost nonexistent chest. I'm happy that my mom talked me out of it and since then I've been actively working on loving my body. Being teased all through school for being 'skinny' did a number on my self esteem and colored the way that I saw how a woman's body was supposed to look. Fighting against the mainstream idea of what beauty is can be somewhat challenging. I'm happy you have learned to love and fully accept yourself and all of your beauty, profile and all. 💜
This ted talk is amazing, I would love to be a role model for others, it would be so flattering if people looked up to me. Everybody is beautiful in their own unique way.
Chloe Jayde I think you missed the point. Why do people need to be beautiful? What is beautiful? If it is subjective then why can't you be beautiful? When you say their own "unique" way, you are saying there is a normal way to define beauty which therefore means everyone is not beautiful. Beauty is not something to always be desired and we only desire it because we know men do. It sucks to be a woman.
Chloe Jayde you are beautiful!
@@ASmith-jn7kf
That's very true; science has proven there is objective beauty.
It's quite clear.
Additionally: her comment was wonderful.
Deep exploration of cruelty of beauty as sold to the population. Makes me think deeper about this.
Spend more on ourselves, less on our selfies
Loved that she had a chuckle about that joke 😁
OMG I was wondering where she found her clothes and it's actually hers, they are GORGEOUS, love the elegance, hope it goes well
I always knew about photoshopping but wow, this video explains how deep this goes. That is why I asked my wedding photographer when I renewed my vows last June not to Photoshop my photos too much because I wanted the images to still look like me :)
Why not ask them to be UNTOUCHED, period? Or isn't it missing the point? Change the lighting, then.
Most people don't even stay married, so there's always next time.
Im proud to say i fall in the 4% category because for me education is everything. tq for this talk. very uplifting!!!
nicky lin me too it’s said that so few women realize how important education is since once your looks fade it’s all you have and is one of the few things that will get you actual power
@@neigeepierrot4694 absolutely 👌.
This presentation is very powerful, aspiring, and compassionate. Thank you so much. Please continue empowering the woman that already had destroyed confidence for long long time. Enlighten the life of other people an heal the depressions grounded and place light in them
Every other sentence is a strong statement. Thank You Carrie!
I think Carrie Hammer is an amazing woman & what she's doing is revolutionary, more power to her!... "Viva le runway revolution!!" 💔🤝💖🙏😎
I love this video! So true and so meaningful! I wish we all start embarrass positive role models for beauty standards instead of under age girls and Kardashians.
I can relate to all her stories! Things are different now and beauty is being redefined thankfully.
Straight up ladies, my advice is to stay away from botox. My forehead produced cyst like bumps and is still uneven, 2 years after quiting injections...you basically liquify the muscle and it does not come back...you get sagging etc, dents etc...just dont do it.
Sounds like you had a bad injector, Botox when used correctly can produce fantastic results.
That’s not how good quality Botox works. It’s sounds like you should talk to whoever did that and perhaps be compensated for your suffering. Botox doesn’t liquify muscles, and good quality injections from a licensed doc/aesthetician shouldn’t give you dents or sagging.
that batman cape tho. hella cool
I adore the girl I am in love with natural curly hair, big bright eyes and freckles.. wtf
i could totally understand my beauty when i was young, before i needed meds that made me gin a ton of weight. i hate the way i look now, so very much. no amount of comments that big can be beautiful will convince me.
Beauty must be defined as what we are, or else the concept itself is our enemy. To see beauty is simply to learn the private language of meaning which is another’s life - to recognize and relish what it is.
agh!! her audience was so dry. this is the first ted talk I have ever watched that I was genuinely interested in and I wish they would've done her more justice!!
Self-esteem also ties into being disrespect as an individual. Like working a job and not receiving a check due to feeling helpless unworthy undefended or being a woman. That is not fun.
I realized after seeing a few things
Sometimes
It's hard to speak for yourself when someone is always trying to speak for you. It should be positive but sometimes people don't know when they are over bearing. That can definitely eat you alive
Thank you for this video !!!! Women definitely need to know this. Can’t wait to share!!!!!
Let’s change the beauty industry for both men and women
Yeah, it's Hammer Time girls!!!
I also opt out of social functions often. Bcz i don't like putting on make up N people think I'm a weirdo for not wearing any makeup
Yaasss gurl! That's what I'm talking about, that was so awesome! Thank you for that 🌹
You will only ever be you. May as well start loving yourself
The message really comes through when delivered by someone wearing makeup, lipstick, nail polish, high heels...etc etc.
Fake it til you make it, I guess??
the whole world is crazy
true
yes. isn't that beautiful? just remember though, that we're all in it together, and working it out, together.
how about teaching your child to see validation within and not through someone else or cover?
You have to teach them both. To treat others with respect it is important to know that beauty is not everything. But to survive in our visual society you have to know about the fact that the more beautiful you are, the higher are your chances to be successful in life. It's sad, but it's true.
Its not only about the parents though, because even if you try to teach that to your child, they can still be easily influenced by society, other people around them, school and friends and stuff
I love her outfit.
Interesting presentation - but I did raise my eyebrows where she said her "curly hair doesnt define her" but yet she has had it straightened for the talk?
qhats the problem with straightening her hair and wearing makeup? As long as she's doing it because she likes it, it's okay, it's also achievable, unlike some photoshop editing
It wouldn't matter what you try and change, it's an internal entity that only you can conquer. A healthy minded person can see through the beauty standards that society has supposedly set for us and not let it defeat them.
I feel beautiful. Some days I don't look my best, but overall I've pretty much always thought I was beautiful. Not in a conceited way. I don't think I'm MORE beautiful than most other women I know. I don't think the fact that I'm beautiful makes me better than anyone else, and I certainly don't think my beauty is the most important or most interesting thing about me. But I do like the way I look in general, and I'm usually happy when I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror or in a store window. I always thought this was pretty normal (especially since, like I said, I think many, many women are at least as beautiful as I am). Now I feel kind of weird about it though...
Simpler said than done, but we all have the power to make our own decisions. If you don’t like the way the world is you have to be very clear in your beliefs and make decisions that reflect them.
15:40 I'm surprised that Ms Hammer felt that her interaction with Beyoncé Carter was positive. Beyonce is known for photo shopping her own photos before posting on her Instagram.
Totally agree with you on this issue
I think you willfully missed the part where she was specifically talking about people embracing models in wheelchairs a year after her Dr client walked in NYFW. Beyonce was last of a long list of names that could all be blamed for photoshop before posting images. She was giving credit where it was due on a specific thing.
She sounds very nervous. The audience isn’t making a peep either... which probably isn’t helping
It's probably that rasp in her voice.
Loved the talk. The audience is so dead, my goodness. I enjoyed this talk.... lovely 😊
She is so strong!! Voice of the powerful!
Easy for her to say, she litteraly looks like a doll
Real deal! it's a wide eye opening into realization of each individual.Thank you for sharing the reality of our daily lives.From Baguio City, Philippines with love God bless you!
Dove try to portray themselves as if they are trying to break down the present beauty standards and give us the illusion of choice, when in reality they are still the same as any beauty company ...
her dress cape combo is badass
Carrie amazing talk, Impressive presentation, powerful message you have, not models but women who are successful.
Sonya Davidson
badgirl
The beauty industry can be cruel. We mostly speak about women, but it is cruel towards everyone. I truely believe in the message shared in this video, and I say: lets's take it a step forward. Let's not empower just women, but empower everyone- men and women alike, since none of us deserve to live in shame because we don't look like the edited people in magazines, billboards and advertisements.
I. Love and respect you. So Much. MY HERO❤️
It's not only the beauty industry that exploits people, and I say people because money making is top priority for all big industries. Seek out people's weaknesses and exploit it by whatever means available. If there are none, then create one. There are endless meetings on this very concept. Money is top prioity for not only industries, but for many people. Many of us are so screwed up and unhappy we don't know how to live a simple happy life.
The endless circle of ; "work-spent-work some more-spend more" Feel like something is missing but don't know what and won't look inwards to find out what it is. So....go back to work, watch tv, see things to buy that surely will make one feel better and buy it. "The endless circle"
This speech is so empowering!!
However, there's a huge % of population that are able realize all of this, however, they are not willing to give up on "all they've worked for", they will still support this industry, but ultimately mindset. No matter if they don't like the fact they are valued uniquely by their looks.
So legit!! I love this! Thank you!
Welp, that email made me cry
The audience must be apart of the beauty industry.
Congratulations on creating a, "Real world on Fire!" Keep it up and keep it going!
GOOD FOR YOU
This notion is why i refuse to use filters on pictures. Nor do i cave into the pressure of posting my picture online. Its a slippery slope. Its delusional.
I think this is woman is great, really great message. After watching a tedtalk on fast fashion I really hope her clothes are sustainably made. Then she would be the full package 📦