Ending the pursuit of perfection | Iskra Lawrence | TEDxUniversityofNevada
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- In this inspiring talk, model Iskra Lawrence asserts that we all need to be taught how to look after ourselves mentally, physically, and emotionally and encourages us to invest in ourselves right now. She gives examples of self-care techniques like the mirror challenge and the gratitude list that work for anyone, any age, anytime. If we learn self-care and practice self-care, then we can gift self-care to others.
Iskra is a British model represented by JAG models in the Americas and Models1 in Europe. A champion of body diversity, Iskra has long been committed to improving the image of women in the media, having been told she was both “too big” for straight-size modeling and “not big enough” for plus-modeling. Iskra is committed to posting unretouched images on her social media channels and has launched her #IskrasArmy campaign to introduce compulsory self-care education for boys and girls in UK schools.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
"If we are insecure, we are a motivated consumer." "Gratitude list." Powerful talk.
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Self love is so important and she's such a great role model for girls, humans everywhere. So inspiring. I love her!
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And males.
Soeren Steiniche They said humans, meaning men and boys as well
"i can't get those years back of self-loathing..."
U dont need to, you can start now.
God she is amazing public speaker. I cried a little when she told about her experience in changing room, because I did experienced that and how I hated myself so much. You're totally my roll model iskra.
For those of you criticizing her for being a model or wondering her credibility, her credibility lies in her popularity as an Aerie model with a curvier body. Personally, I think it's an important conversation to have and she is a great candidate to enforce the one sided media image we are shown because she represents a strong, athletic, woman's body. She's young and beautiful, but understands her popularity and decided to do something with it, which is commendable. As a person who has struggle with body image and eating disorders, I applaud that she encourages working out, eating healthy, and self-care. I don't think the point of body positivity is to encourage obesity, but to say that you need to love yourself no matter where your body is. After all, hating yourself, if you are obese, is most likely not going to lead to healthy weight loss. We need women to value their bodies and feel beautiful. We need men and women to feel this way. Underweight/overweight people need to love themselves or they will never reach a healthy weight. It's about enjoying life.
Couldn't have said it any better!
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Well stated!! :)
Model agencies are private parties. They can ask for any beauty standard they want. I don't go out and complain why Gucci wouldn't make me their next model. She is a pretty girl, and her talking about insecurities genuinely pissed me off.
She inspires me every day.
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Kawaii Penguiin me too, Iskra Lawernce is a great and inspiring person to women and men, she's kind of cute and she has a great and wonderful butt.
I want to hug the penguin and give them some treats. It's so cute ^^
In Polish, her name means "spark". And doesn't it suit her perfectly?
Charlie the Unique Corn in russian also.
so cute!!
slavian, not only polish ;)
I am from Slovakia and it also means spark
in croatian also, spark
I had a food and nutrition class and one of the assignments was to go stand in front of a mirror, jump around, and see if anything bounces where it's not "supposed" to.... no body did it because they were either ashamed or thought it was a compete waist of time. We were 15 years old and that is honestly so irresponsible to tell children skinny is healthy.
+____Turtle please get help
______ Turtle perfection takes over our lives and consumes our thoughts like it did to you. You're messed up bro sometimes things are gonna jiggle but that doesn't mean we're unhealthy or fat. you are strange
Skinny is healthy lol, the longest living populations often are quite skinny
@@foottoast4235 not true, they are usually in the lower average scale - skinny equals healthy is a widespread myth
I don't believe
She is me in the future, on TED. my current struggles will help me inspire and change the lives of others!
Good luck, I hope you can do it!
My daughter is twelve years old, and developing early. She has been dealing with body image issues for awhile, and been subjected to things that she is too young to deal with. Her body image has been distorted by what she has been told is beautiful, and I have been showing her your videos.
Izkra, I just wanted to tell you that every inch of you is beautiful, especially your soul. Thank you for being an inspiration, and role model. You are amazingly loveable, and such an inspiration. Stay beautiful, you are such a good soul.
"The real body ideal is to being imperfectly you." Thank you Iskra for sharing positivity, self -love and courage. LOVE YOU so much!
I stopped reading magazines YEARS ago and it's honestly worth it.
I think this is why I admire this woman so much. Notice how in her speech it's not just all about women's body issues...she also includes boys and men. Almost every plus sized female model who does interviews or speeches, totally ignores men's issues and only focuses on females. Like she said, we got guys killing themselves down at the gym lifting heavy weights and abusing roids. It's true, and I have witnessed this first hand. What a truly beautiful person Iskra Lawrence is.
Very true - i appreciated that line very much as well. Men struggle with beauty ideals too
Her mind is as beautiful as her image
Really amazing video
I like that she mentioned the male side of insecurities too.
Iskra's speech reminded me of my aunt's words decades ago before she passed away " Girls what are you doing with that weight scale? Let me tell you a story.... a young girl came to the hospital about a year ago, she had passed out during class in school, when her parents arrived at the hospital the doctor explained their daughter was bulimic and she needed to stay at the hospital and receive 24/7 care. After six months of therapy she came back to the hospital -- she came back to thank the doctors and nurses for bringing her back from the brink. You see it's not about losing or gaining weight but about "How comfortable are you in your own skin? Own it, live it, and take care of yourself".
And auntie was the person who nursed the girl back to health. #❤you Educate yourself and others.
She is a great public speaker! Iskra is my idol, whenever I need to feel inspired, I watch one of her videos :)
Yes.. Beautiful people need more validation
Good public speaker Too bad for her her romantic interests tells any half brain human being that her self esteem is really fragile.Talks are cheap actions are expensive
What a sweetheart, she is beautiful and managed to normalize this conversation for both men and women. What a blessed conversation and absolutely on point for everyone!
Inspirational and heartbreaking. We all are perfect, and there is always someone that will love us just the way we are.
the world needs to see this!!
She doesn't. All because someone talks about their experience doesn't mean that they're egotistical. It's easy to think that when someone's being assertive or sharing a view.
crazylesh i know right. it's not a big deal to be rejected for modelling, not everyone can be one or wants to be a model.
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"If we are insecure, we are a motivated consumer"... Word
her changing room story is my whole life
I just watched this after an in-home workout, during in which I was squeezing the fat on my stomach and yelling at my body for it. I love it when it when Iskra says, "Imagine being able to give the gift of self-love to your loved ones."
Watching this for the 10th time and will continue to watch it on days when I don’t feel good enough and remind myself that I’m more than enough no matter what.
We Definitely need Self care and self love taught in schools. 1000%!! Amazing inspiration Idea!!! Beautiful soul. Thank you for all you do. xo
Never gonna happen!!
I loved when she mentioned the butt pads and the camera man caught her from a different angle that shows her butt haha, she's literally an inspiration for me, I really want to be like her, you feel her kindnesses and humbleness through the screen.. I love you so much iskra and I'm so proud of you !! ❤❤
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Few things have actually managed to help me, but this talk has changed my life in a way I could never have thought it would. Thank you with all my heart for this Iskra, you should be proud to be such a role model, inspiration and friend to everyone whom you have impacted like this.
One of the most sincere ted talks I've ever seen. She's simple and natural and talking from the heart but still professional. I'm happy to have seen it and be inspired. Thank you Iskra!
Self care is about emotional and mental care, not just physical care. Our greatest journey of self love is to eliminate self shame.
I love her. Why why can't we all be so happy like this? Why doesn't everyone care so much enough to help others? Even with her background, not loving, even hating the way she looked. So cool. Wow. And I'm not her, but I'm still so happy.
Iskra, you are beautiful and it's not because of your lovely face and body, it's because of who you are. Thank you for this
This is the best speech they’ve posted deserves more views.
I didn’t believe in perfection until I saw Iskra 😍😍😍
From a young age we have conditioned to believe that our success and our happiness are highly depend on our attractiveness.
I really love how she talks. The crisp move is so rejuvenating! :))
everyone be happy with who you are. we are all beautiful. no more self hate you are strong and great
The irony that she looks perfect to me
0:22 any talk that starts this way HAS to be good! 1:12 Exactly!
I wish I watched the video earlier. Her speech is so inspirational and life- changing. I feel like she is talking about own my life, my daily struggle: how I was usually insecure about my appearance, my ability. Seeing how great people are on social media even makes me feel more depressed. They're wealthy, good- looking and have such an ideal occupation. But now, I'm trying to change my mind. I need to accept my flaws and love myself. Everyone has their own unique beauty and value.
SHE IS THE BEST ROLE MODEL 💕
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I honestly have no words to describe what she is doing, I feel very proud of you, I wish there were more people like that in today's world, she is an angel. and at the same time the strongest and most determined woman I've ever seen, I admire you very much iskra! and you are very pretty, god bless you never change
Such a powerful woman
Great motivation for girls with psychological diturbance about their body.
Women boys and men as well
What a clear message. I hope everyone shares this video. I applaud Iskra for reminding us how media is designed to make us feel insecure (including social media). When she said, "if we are insecure, we are a motivated consumer ... Guess what? Who wins from this battle? The brands, the magazines, the pharmaceutical industry. And who looses? We loose." It's all too easy to forget this and feel like you're nothing more than a massive to-do list of dietary supplements, work outs, the perfect clothes, beauty routines, treatments, and products to feel worthy by becoming that perfect (unattainable) person, but that's how companies are cashing in. They feed on our insecurities and self-worth.
I love Iska and find her real and inspiring, and when she ended with "the real beauty ideal is being imperfectly you" i was so happy. "Being healthy" seems to be the usual catchphrase, but there's a lot of chronically ill people who will never achieve that. Also the idea of "healthy" is not as black and white as most paint it as, especially not when it comes to both physically and mentally. Imperfectly you is ten times better
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YESSSSS so glad people like Iskra are changing this conversation!!
Beautifully said
So much truth. Realizing I started having so much more issues with my body after highschool and hearing my friend's complain about their own. Ignorance was bliss.
Such a powerful talk ! The world needs to see this !
My body is my home it’s all I have got !!! Amazing speaker I really enjoyed this video.
That was so beautiful. I am crying. Tears of appreciation.
What an amazing speaker!! You can see how she really revs up and gets more and more comfortable on the stage. She's right though, the media and ad industry have been cashing in on women's insecurities for a long time and the only way to change this obviously successful marketing strategy is to change our own mindsets. Women are told indirectly every day that our value lies in our appearance, so it's a matter of identifying that as either a power mechanism for men or a marketing strategy, and choosing to reject it. Obviously much easier said than done.
I’m so glad I found this. Thank you for the practical self care tips ❤️
Even though I don't struggle with insecurities with my body today to the extent I once did, I was cleaning out the notes on my phone today and came across this. It was under the title 'if you're ever feeling insecure, watch this' and I have a few notes like these so I watched this and it reminded me of how far I've come. I was so close to an eating disorder. As soon as I would eat something bad I'd promise myself not to eat anything till the next day. The whole 'don't eat till you're full' thing was a sentence I took very seriously in my everyday life and man did this girl inspire me to stop. Iskra made me realise that no matter how much thinner I got, I would just want more. I began to see that even though I decided when I got my stomach to be as thin as I had wanted I suddenly wanted it thinner. These goals were ones I would never achieve and I have this girl to thank for making me realise this
Thank you
This is the best thing i've seen in a long time on social media :)
Thank you for being so unapologetically you even coming from a past with so much guilt and shame. It's inspiring to know that it doesn't have to always be like this, that life is more than never feeling good enough. Who do we want to be enough for? Isn't it enough to have a healthy and loving vessel that is capable of giving life? To feel things, to see the world, to do good. It's something I need to remind myself on the daily - that that, is enough for me.
This is awesome! 💕First step to accepting yourself is stop comparing yourself to others, do you. Love yourself, most people have struggled with this at some point in their life x
It's been said in person language that "what all the gorgeous people have ,you have" physically & mentally...
Congratulation to you & your partener,❤️❤️❤️
She's such a beautiful person inside and out.
You are fantastic! Thank you for your courage and passion. This is my mission too! Starting a movement of self-love!💛
Beautiful, empowering and raw... I LOVED IT!
Yes thank you. I need this for myself. thanks you did great.
So glad this is up, wish I could have been there!
I think your message is extremely important, relevant, and inspiring, Iskra.
She seems to be very confident women ,whatever she spoke she mean it every bit ,that's why she is able to connect with audience/youtube viewers ,theory of caring too much about how we look may be something to do with we have so much free time to think of it ,best way is to pick up habit and get lost in that and be the best in the world in that
You're honestly an inspiration and inspire me to ensure my younger sisters love themselves ❤❤❤
I love love love this. She is beautiful and brave and utterly inspiring, I've always loved Iskra.
This was fantastic! Thanks so much for sharing with us and holy smokes you’re a fab public speaker! New to your channel and it’s already a fave! ❤️❤️❤️
This was absolutely beautiful..brought me to tears!
I paused the video to follow her in insta. Thank you for the great, great message!
ISKRA
really thank you you really inspired me alot
you gave me self confidence & self love
this is incredible. well done, iskra. keep doing what you're doing. this is amazing
Beautiful woman....beautiful message !
iskra is an amazing human
I love myself. I workout and eat (somewhat) healthy out of respect for myself, not to impress people. 💗
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Your'e amazing Iskra! And I love your outfit!
Feel so empowered, encouraged and touched by this authentic speech. Keep doing you.
so inspiring omg this talk is so great and I think it made my day. love her so much
Amazing and inspirational ! Go girl 💪🏽💁🏼😍
I needed this I remember my mom use to say my chest was to big and people in high school use to call me totty boy. So happy someone is talking about body image issues .
Your amazing Iskra. We need more people like you in the world and on the internet. 😊Keep going girl. I
amazing speech, what an inspiring women you are. Thank you so much for helping me see that its ok to be me and not change a thing
It was inspiring. God bless you for your love to people. You are truly beautiful.
I agree. Schools should be teaching kids to have a self positive image and a healthy mind at least once a week. Positivity changes the world.
The knowledge shared here is invaluable. It is very, very important that we know how to deal with psychological pressure. Kudos to Iskra Lawrence.
such an inspiration❤ love her!!
Wow... Congratulations on this speech!
Absolutely amazing!
I absolutely LOVED THIS!!!!!
She inspires me , beautiful message !❤
I looked up the photo with the crips ! It was awesome specially the message written on the photo addressed to her bully !! Loved it ! We should All Stand up to the bullies
She looks better than all top Hollywood heroines. Absolutely.
looking for a fascinating combination of mind and body! Get indulged into this speech. exceedingly inspired.
I love this so so much. Girl on point!
this is so inspirational she is such a strong woman!!
I’m crying I love this and her
Wonderful lecture! Thank you so much!
this talk really changed my mind , thank u for such emotioanally inspiring speech , greeting from indonesia
she is so inspiring , i love her ❤️
YAS ISKRA THIS IS SO IMPORTANT