I think those who are already parents are really getting offended with others thinking in an opposite direction. But as a matter of fact, it is a personal choice, whether you want to be a parent or not.
This is so true. Children are not for everyone. And when you say it loudly, there is so much judgment and questions. "Why can't you have children?" Etc etc. People just can't take another peoples thoughts, just because its different from the majority.
Even Saying this is not enough.....Even if she decids to have kids its going to very very difficult and then how your support and care for her ... that's the real test .. :)
This really resonated being a daughter with my biological dad not being part of my life since early childhood. I got in touch with him after about 20 years due to wanting to know him and it transpired he still didn’t want to know me. His father (who was there and didn’t recognise me) even questioned why I was there to see my father. People really need to think a hundred times before deciding whether to bring life into this world, if they want a child and why etc instead of it being a consequence of a momentary non thought out action. If the action was for pure pleasure only (which appears to be for the majority of cases in this day and age), then the world has given ‘protection’ to use in those instances. If a child is however born, take full responsibility where you can because you were part responsible for bringing that life into this world and the karma (direct or indirect) it can have on the parent and child through their lives 🙏🏼🕉
I have the same exact story. We are better off without them, because the weight of feeling rejected isn’t our burden to carry. At this point in life, I actually feel pity for him. We could have shared a relationship, but it is his loss. I still have compassion for him.
@@seabreeze1436 I agree. I carried the weight of rejection for so long and it creeps up sometimes but I have to remind myself it’s like this for a reason. I am Indian and I mention that because growing up I didn’t see many broken Indian families so I’d compare to others.
@@hemp3303 I’m Indian too, I grew up in a similar environment. I was the only kid who had no father and grew up with people saying very cruel remarks. When I met him, it was like my fantasy of him shattered. I had to grieve. It’s tough. I feel for you. But, believe me it makes us more empathetic and strong. It’s really difficult, but I remind myself that although I have compassion for him, I don’t want to be him or emulate him. I get to choose who I want to be, and I won’t let someone who was absent in my life inform me on who I am or what I deserve. At this point in my life, even though he rejected me as his child, I also reject him in a sense-the person he has chosen to be.
@@seabreeze1436 I’m sorry you went through similar. It’s a good reminder for me also not to be attached to something too much, this life is temporary and we go through things perhaps due to past lives. Best wishes to you, you sound like a wise and strong person!
A new mom here. There is so much joy in motherhood and also lots of hardships, esp for mom. Other than physical and mental hardships, u go through an emotional roller coaster every now and then due to hormones or whatever. Also, you get to experience a LOVE u have never known. U alys keep striving to be the best version of yourself and try to be better person every day and be the best role model for ur child. Parenthood makes you a stronger person and it give u a deeper meaning and purpose to your life. I read some comments and people wrote some negative aspects of parenthood and I wanted to add some positive perspective as well. And as Elon Musks said, my kid doesn’t owe me anything at all and I owe my kid everything. More power to all the parents out there🙏
General comment, not a response to anyone..im sure there is happiness that comes along in mother hood too.. however I'm this world, I feel challenges are more. A lot of parents are in denial and keep saying that parent hood is wonderful... They feel guilty to agree that parenthood is not easy and children are difficult..
That's deep.. but why some women cannot get kids if they want it...and others dont want and keep doing them .i know a pacient drug addict who has 7 8 9 children and the moment she gives birth they take the child from her because of drugs.. and others pay IVF and they cannot have
I'd have to disagree that everyone "feels the same way." I always wanted kids. Never thought how my life would change except to bring me more joy. To help your child grow and watch them become who they are is an amazing experience.
He's encouraging people to think whether they should have kids. I'm encouraging you to think whether it's necessary to have a partner. Why do people wish for that? Why are you not complete in yourself. Just think.🙂
@@S-tx2lk Imagine about times you have fever, your drain got chocked, you are all alone, you are not able remember banking password, online banking blocked... Don't you feel there was someone by your side?
I have a video on my channel where I talk about why people need to have a license to parent. People shouldn't be allowed to have kids before they get educated in all aspects and pass exams. But I know even there they will start making it a business.
Interesting insight. It is also a blessing that you're given 9 months to prepare before the child is born, so when we find out, we are given months to prepare mentally, physically, plan. Imagine if we didn't have this time 😟
I love what he pointed out. We actually thought through all of these things before having kids, and yet each child shifted our lives in ways we couldn't have imagined despite all the thought ahead of time (in both good and challenging ways). And quite literally the only thing that makes this experience of being a parent slightly easier to navigate is being vulnerable with my group of Mom friends who are experiencing similar things - so I don't feel alone. Otherwise, the isolation and the amount of change to your identity that takes place as a parent can completely screw with your mental health.
Well.. the reason why people ask when are you having kids is because there a limited time frame where a human can conceive. It’s logical. I may not be ready until 40 but unfortunately as a women I can’t physically wait until then logically.
Thats the point he is saying, don't assume everyone wants to have kids. Ask ''are you planning or do you want'' not ''when are you having..''. See the difference.
Yes we need to be respectful of everyone’s choice but I’m saying bashing general people because they asked when are you having kids is also incorrect (especially the older generation) that’s not on TH-cam or caught up with this notion. People ask because it’s a natural biological phenomenon that is tied to an age for women to conceive. Which is why they ask.
Maybe next thing will be we should stop asking kids when will you go to school because how can we assume that they will go to school.. they might want to be an entrepreneur. It’s sounds stupid because anything that is a normal and tied to age because it’s been going on for centuries/ is natural when questioned is going ti be controversial
Meaningful conversations.. deep thinking ,questioning our self doubts and seeking helpful answers are such things which we cannot expect from our society… they never change their belief systems what they heard at the age of 10 by some 60 year old they keep following and force everyone to follow those principles without even checking if it fits in the new generation or not
Well said I always see having kids is always very happy happy but until I have a kids whole concept of having kids is totally different dealing with lots of physical. Mental and emotional health no one talks about it .
Thank you Jay Shetty for the great insight. Marriage is not an accomplishment itsounds more like an option or a lifestyle choice. I follow Lord Ganesha , Lord Hanuman and surrounded by joy and peace.
@@S-tx2lk sooo true.. Everyone should definitely try to listen to archarya prashant.. He is amazing and trully honest person. I don't know i have ever seen someone so honest in my life actually.. He has definitely opened eyes of people from lies.. Really..
@@S-tx2lk so true.. Can't agree more.. He has changed my life and even my mom's life.. I started listening to his videos first and now I am currently reading his books I have 4 books, they are great specially bhagwaat Geeta.. You should definitely read his books to gather more knowledge.. We are blessed to have someone so real n honest in this time period.. Seriously.. It's my wish to see him live in real someday hopefully soon. 🤞🤞
@@drishtik6355 that's really great. I haven't told my family about him yet. Don't know how will they react. I'm in touch with their counsellors and also do some online work for them. So my family can stop me from this if they don't like him. But still, I will tell them soon.🙂 So for now I read his e-books. Which are great. I'm a student rn. I also wish someday I can attend his Vedant mahotsava.🙌
When a person put effort and have sleep less nights to achieve in their professional life it is very much appreciated and said you are so dedicated and hard work, similarly it should be appreciated for child as well. Sometimes life is hard but we work through it, same is the case with having child, it will be hard doesn’t mean we should give up on it. It’s individual decision but also it should not become excuse to get away from our responsibilities. Also the learning, patience, unconditional love you experience is unmatchable to anything else. Both side of the coin should be presented to audience.
Child is a Human being not a professional project. If you can't do justice to him then don't bring him into the world. It's a Sin. To him and also to the world.😑 In whole para you talked about your pleasure from child. But what about his life? What about his peace? What is the purpose of bringing him into the world? First ask yourself.
@@S-tx2lk very well said.... Sometimes I feel why selfish word is used for humans so much, because we are. We have a consciousness to think. Still we only think about ourselves when we want to bring a life to the world. It is like I want a child, and what about child? It is a big decision. Ofcourse it requires so much of your time, attention. But if you found out that you chose a wrong profession, still you can replace it. You can not do with your child and it shouldn't. So it can not compare with a profession. Although I understood what you want to say.
It is unfortunate to see that a great person like Jay is talking about only sleepless nights with baby n sacrificing profession but the beautiful smiles n hugs of baby are priceless. This is a one dimensional talk by jay. Because he has not experienced parenting. Parenting is one subject where we give birth first n learn. HEY PPL , REMEMBER JAY IS GREAT N HANDSOME BUT NEED NOT NECESSARILY BE RIGHT ALL THE TIME 😊 STOP SAYING WOW FOR EVERYTHING THEY TALK ..
There SHOULD be a license for people who want to become parents before having a child which can be a course about childhood and teenage-hood psychology and even for the parents to understand themselves so they make the choice purely from within not because of someone or any other shallow reason. That will make societies mature and for humans to become actually civil, psychology and mental health is the most important thing that all humans in this world in every country in every language should've known about by now.
There are so many stories, serials, movies on Krishna's name. Enough is enough of that entertainment. Now we need to think about teachings of Krishna. Specially the Krishna of Gita, Mahabharat.🙂
How can one escape this? I don’t want to get married and have children but my family is pressuring me. I m 27 rn. I don’t know how to convey to them. Whenever I tell them they just shrug off or take it as a joke. What do I do?
To be honest. No to be brutally honest, if they can pressurize you then you yourself is a kid now. What type of adult you are whom anyone said anything and you get affected. Don't you have guts to take your decisions, your responsibility? Don't you have something meaningful to do? Or should I say you actually want to get married/want intimacy deep inside but not accepting it?😑 Please ask yourself .
Have come across people having past their age wanting to have kids while all their fertile age they were postponing or rather not wanting saying it's a choice.
This is very bad advice indeed and definitely not true. Things do not magically work out. Every day I see people who are bad parents and should not have had children.
@@---Dana---- completely agree. People who just have kids like this, just for the sake of it, turn out to be the most toxic parents. Cos that's what they're taught. They don't think rationally. They are just engulfed in this Indian system of marriage and kids, and they still don't seem to understand.
Its misguiding to young generation... when you are young, you dont want any extra responsibility u want to enjoy,travel etc but once you hit 30+ you crave for having family,kids.....and it could be late for many of them.....having kids is blessing for me no doubt i had many sleepless night while raising them,its just phase and spirituality doesn't say don't have family or kids many of our saints were living/raising family and devoted to god.
@@Asiya345 Everyone can live their life how they want, it only becomes a problem when a small minority of people try to change a healthy culture and tradition for their own selfish perspectives.
@@BhagyaYogShala Congratulations, you form a small part of the human population that finds fulfillment away from the norm. “Everyone is different” isn’t suitable justification for healthy norms and traditions that MOST people find happiness in. You can do you but respect how the familiar works.
@@Pengboycarti ok. Then please give us too some respect. Leave respect, atleast give us home to live. There are societies which aren't giving home to singles. If you are single, or don't want kids then why society make our life so difficult? It should be a choice na.
You can never fully be aware of how having a child will change your life until you have one. Im a Mother of two. I do not agree that its totally her call! Thank you
One other thing that people dont talk about is, not talking about the difficulties bcoz u may put off someone from something, that they should have. Even though you think, that you have a difficult time with it.
Ranvir listens all podcast very very , i mean very carefully. He will be a super human if he follows 1% of these podcast talks. Look at his face when he listens other one , like he is doing JEE ADVANCE question.
The so called ability to question or doubt everything, undermines one' ability to face and explore new dimensions in life. Being a parent can only be experienced. No description or discussion can come close to that feeling. All those sleepless nights or restless hours shall be forgotten in the wick of ur toddler' smile. Believe me, after being a father or mother, u will appreciate the efforts of ur parents in a much holistic manner.
In life learn to accept one thing. The way I think might not be the way someone else thinks. And they are just as right to themselves as you are to yourself.
@@ihmsfm1040 if you think, whatever everyone thinks is right for themselves, as a society, we will be heading towards chaos. Direction is always important and there is nothing wrong in believing one opinion is superior than other. By the way, I am doing good in life.
I can understand the logic behind it but honestly I feel like I need children more than a wife!!! Wish surrogacy for single father was allowed in India for Middle-class guys like us!! 😏 Wud hav felt so lucky if I had biological children by now 😢
Dude you are ready, if you waste time you won't be. Personally I think, if a person earning 5times less than me can raise 5kids, I surly can raise 2-3 of my own... I have resource, I am young, I can handle sleep deprivation, I have health and strength to sustain it for next 20-25year... if not now, when am I going to be more ready.
@@S-tx2lk So country is ready for more uneducated weak people dependent on subsides & freebies for their survival... but it's not ready for well educated tax paying citizens??? Or you are just not educated enough to get it? Which natural resource? You don't use it someone else will, why should I compromise on mine for someone else's? Let nature's law of survival of the fittest play.
@@shubhmishra6977 "punctures, work as barber, butcher, and best they do is to repair electric appliances" still they are worth a lot more than shits giving gov job exams, or corp coolies working in TCS Wipro.... A skilled construction worker in India earns taxable income (they don't pay it though)... just wait 5-6years they will be making a lakh+/month. The era of pity jobs is gone, AI can do it a lot less price. World needs real men to do real jobs.
As liberating as it may feel, people without children eventually scramble to find support in old age. And before anyone jumps on me for wanting children to serve me, it's a natural part of the life cycle for any species. Even in the West, old people are taken care of by their children even if they're living in separate homes (which is ideal). Else there are community homes where again younger people are taking care of them. If you don't have your own children, you'll be hoping somebody else does and raises them well enough to want to take care of seniors in their old age (even in a paid job).
There is no guarantee that your kids will take care of you. You might as well live the best life with all the money you might have to spend on that child (kids are expensive), or give that money towards an old age home and they'll take care of you. Trust me there are high facility homes and it's not sad as how it's portrayed. And somebody else raising them well? It's all business bro. Old age homes take huge advance payments for the service they provide. So yeah.
@@_w.t.f_ read my comment properly. I never said that there's any guarantee your children will take care of you, but it's quite likely they will. And if you don't have your own children, it's most likely the children of your siblings or cousins that you'll fall dependent on. How many people do you know who live in old age homes? There's a growing population of old people with not enough young people to take care of them, however well paid they maybe (they aren't). Old age homes have to be run by people - young, healthy, sympathetic, capable people. So it's very easy to say now I don't want to be responsible for children, but then you'll pay the price for it eventually. Better to invest in therapy and work on your healing because you likely had a terrible childhood to not be parents and want to nurture children yourself. And then be a part of a community that supports parenthood and raising children. Become foster parents if having children biologically isn't possible.
I think only human species work that way. No other species look after the older ones. Everyone is on their own. It only takes humanity to look after each other as social beings.
As someone who has a Masters in Biology, all life forms (Mosquito, Lion or Humans) have only two functions in life - to survive and reproduce. Anything other than that is a bonus. SO the new generation talking about travel, career, choice is nothing but a woke thing. Besides, what you feel/want in your 20s or 30 is not going to the same in you 50s or 60s so having kinds is not just nice but also essential part of your life!
If our ancestors had the same mindset like you, who were living in caves, with no food/shelter and fighting off saber tooth tigers, diseases and hosts of everything surrounding them, that were probably trying to kill them , none of us would be here.. Andre Tate
Yes that's why people lower on the awareness scale (lower chakras) will continue to have children and those who have access to self-awareness usually do not want to perpetuate the trauma and would rather educate to raise humankind to a new level.. some people do both but it's very rare..
The desire of not having kids it’s a very typical symptom of the modern society and the selfishness. How you practice love and compassion and empathy if not with those who we can’t get anything from at least for about 20 years… you get love an so much beautiful things but from a materialistic and selfish point of view there’s no more than bad consequences . Welcome to the eternal teenagers World
how can you be selfish? answer properly in a detailed way ... thinking so much about the baby which is even not born yet. If thinking let's assume you have an autism child. what will your answer now
No other animals asking dumb question wheather to have kid or not to have kid. Humans are more selfish Day by day. Ranbir by asking these question confusing the entire generation.
That's why they are animals because THEY CAN'T ask questions, they don't have that ability but humans have. And if humans are not using that ability then they are no different than animals.
Letting go your passion? Having Childs it’s so hard?? Are you aware humanity it’s been having children since ever!? There’s tons and tons of books to be treads for parenting but your mixing concepts. You can be ready but you can’t control what’s gonna happen, and how you will react to it at least the first times as well as when your driving.. it’s so funny how you approach about life and compassion but you certainly don’ want to t leave the inheritance in this world to be compassion and love.. kids will teach you but you’re not the most important character when kids are in the scene. Just curious
Non Sense. We are waiting for our 3rd child. If you dont like babies to come here and live a good life, consider vacating the world. Dont misguide the citizens of a country. Such anti baby people are threat to a country. What he knows about scriptures? All ours Gods are family person. Shiva, Rama, Krishna they all had kids and saw the future of human. This world is existing because of next generation.
There are instances children brought up in abusive environments turning out to be criminals and psychopaths. Having no children is not a threat to the country. Many yogis opted for not having a child.
@@exgod1533 Ofcourse, i was a baby too. But this interview is about some of the best practices ,on can follow, as options only especially in over populated world. Breeding is not an accomplishment especially when natural resources are dwindling, imagine the quality of life of the young baby as it grows in this painful war like world.
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I think those who are already parents are really getting offended with others thinking in an opposite direction. But as a matter of fact, it is a personal choice, whether you want to be a parent or not.
Being parents is a type of service. Interestingly smart people who could be great parents decide not to be parents.
Yeah it's true. It is like a 20 year project. Now I feel compassionate with my parents.
It's their choice whether they do wanna have kids or not.
So true
Answer you want children or not??
@@nehaatwal1462sadhguru my boy 😄👌
This is so true. Children are not for everyone. And when you say it loudly, there is so much judgment and questions. "Why can't you have children?" Etc etc. People just can't take another peoples thoughts, just because its different from the majority.
True Jennifer
Best line I ever heard
"It's totally her call! It's her body"❤️
Even Saying this is not enough.....Even if she decids to have kids its going to very very difficult and then how your support and care for her ... that's the real test .. :)
This really resonated being a daughter with my biological dad not being part of my life since early childhood. I got in touch with him after about 20 years due to wanting to know him and it transpired he still didn’t want to know me. His father (who was there and didn’t recognise me) even questioned why I was there to see my father.
People really need to think a hundred times before deciding whether to bring life into this world, if they want a child and why etc instead of it being a consequence of a momentary non thought out action. If the action was for pure pleasure only (which appears to be for the majority of cases in this day and age), then the world has given ‘protection’ to use in those instances.
If a child is however born, take full responsibility where you can because you were part responsible for bringing that life into this world and the karma (direct or indirect) it can have on the parent and child through their lives 🙏🏼🕉
I have the same exact story. We are better off without them, because the weight of feeling rejected isn’t our burden to carry. At this point in life, I actually feel pity for him. We could have shared a relationship, but it is his loss. I still have compassion for him.
@@seabreeze1436 I agree. I carried the weight of rejection for so long and it creeps up sometimes but I have to remind myself it’s like this for a reason. I am Indian and I mention that because growing up I didn’t see many broken Indian families so I’d compare to others.
@@hemp3303 I’m Indian too, I grew up in a similar environment. I was the only kid who had no father and grew up with people saying very cruel remarks. When I met him, it was like my fantasy of him shattered. I had to grieve. It’s tough. I feel for you. But, believe me it makes us more empathetic and strong. It’s really difficult, but I remind myself that although I have compassion for him, I don’t want to be him or emulate him. I get to choose who I want to be, and I won’t let someone who was absent in my life inform me on who I am or what I deserve. At this point in my life, even though he rejected me as his child, I also reject him in a sense-the person he has chosen to be.
@@seabreeze1436 I’m sorry you went through similar. It’s a good reminder for me also not to be attached to something too much, this life is temporary and we go through things perhaps due to past lives. Best wishes to you, you sound like a wise and strong person!
@@hemp3303 Same to you!
A new mom here. There is so much joy in motherhood and also lots of hardships, esp for mom. Other than physical and mental hardships, u go through an emotional roller coaster every now and then due to hormones or whatever. Also, you get to experience a LOVE u have never known. U alys keep striving to be the best version of yourself and try to be better person every day and be the best role model for ur child. Parenthood makes you a stronger person and it give u a deeper meaning and purpose to your life. I read some comments and people wrote some negative aspects of parenthood and I wanted to add some positive perspective as well. And as Elon Musks said, my kid doesn’t owe me anything at all and I owe my kid everything. More power to all the parents out there🙏
You could have experience this by adoption also. If not then it's a selfish thing not a motherly thing.😑
@@S-tx2lk no bro please don't reveal the truth of these breeders they will cry their heart out snd will call us selfish 😂
Why are you here then? Do you regret your kids?
Elon musk personally doesnot babysit the kids
General comment, not a response to anyone..im sure there is happiness that comes along in mother hood too.. however I'm this world, I feel challenges are more. A lot of parents are in denial and keep saying that parent hood is wonderful... They feel guilty to agree that parenthood is not easy and children are difficult..
Just because you want kids doesn't mean you should
Especially if you are not working on yourself to be worthy of being a parent
That's deep.. but why some women cannot get kids if they want it...and others dont want and keep doing them .i know a pacient drug addict who has 7 8 9 children and the moment she gives birth they take the child from her because of drugs.. and others pay IVF and they cannot have
I'd have to disagree that everyone "feels the same way." I always wanted kids. Never thought how my life would change except to bring me more joy. To help your child grow and watch them become who they are is an amazing experience.
I pray I find someone as understanding as Jay ❤️
He's encouraging people to think whether they should have kids. I'm encouraging you to think whether it's necessary to have a partner. Why do people wish for that? Why are you not complete in yourself. Just think.🙂
Then you need to find an ex monk 😂
@@sufi9104 haha🤣🤣 good point
Yes understanding is one of the most imp virtues!I wished my man to become understanding and he is really like that!!!
@@S-tx2lk Imagine about times you have fever, your drain got chocked, you are all alone, you are not able remember banking password, online banking blocked...
Don't you feel there was someone by your side?
I have a video on my channel where I talk about why people need to have a license to parent. People shouldn't be allowed to have kids before they get educated in all aspects and pass exams. But I know even there they will start making it a business.
Jay is so mature man. You explain everything so well. ☺
Interesting insight. It is also a blessing that you're given 9 months to prepare before the child is born, so when we find out, we are given months to prepare mentally, physically, plan. Imagine if we didn't have this time 😟
I love what he pointed out. We actually thought through all of these things before having kids, and yet each child shifted our lives in ways we couldn't have imagined despite all the thought ahead of time (in both good and challenging ways). And quite literally the only thing that makes this experience of being a parent slightly easier to navigate is being vulnerable with my group of Mom friends who are experiencing similar things - so I don't feel alone. Otherwise, the isolation and the amount of change to your identity that takes place as a parent can completely screw with your mental health.
“There are exams in kinder gardens but not for becoming a parent”
A best line.
😂😂
Pop wisdom . There’s nothing extraordinary
@@MarcelineFM nothing extraordinary about your DNA that you need to continue it either
@@nerdyhari3471 I guess your talking about own experience. I’m so sorry for you
@@MarcelineFM I'm sorry for you that you can't stand others living a different life
Well.. the reason why people ask when are you having kids is because there a limited time frame where a human can conceive. It’s logical. I may not be ready until 40 but unfortunately as a women I can’t physically wait until then logically.
You can wait till 45 even.. just stop eating crap and maintain a healthy lifestyle
Thats the point he is saying, don't assume everyone wants to have kids. Ask ''are you planning or do you want'' not ''when are you having..''. See the difference.
What made the people assume that couple is interested in having children? What if they don't want child??.🙄🙄
Yes we need to be respectful of everyone’s choice but I’m saying bashing general people because they asked when are you having kids is also incorrect (especially the older generation) that’s not on TH-cam or caught up with this notion. People ask because it’s a natural biological phenomenon that is tied to an age for women to conceive. Which is why they ask.
Maybe next thing will be we should stop asking kids when will you go to school because how can we assume that they will go to school.. they might want to be an entrepreneur. It’s sounds stupid because anything that is a normal and tied to age because it’s been going on for centuries/ is natural when questioned is going ti be controversial
Meaningful conversations.. deep thinking ,questioning our self doubts and seeking helpful answers are such things which we cannot expect from our society… they never change their belief systems what they heard at the age of 10 by some 60 year old they keep following and force everyone to follow those principles without even checking if it fits in the new generation or not
What he said is completely true. we should think twice before having a kid.
Only if you are poor and are dependent on subsidies.
Well said I always see having kids is always very happy happy but until I have a kids whole concept of having kids is totally different dealing with lots of physical. Mental and emotional health no one talks about it .
Just like what Acharya Prashant says🙌 I'm glad that there are people who think like that. Really the need of the hour.👍
Yes
Yes population is out of control.Sadhguru also said that women who don't want kids should be awarded.
@@ashu6664 Wow! sometimes by chance he talks sensibly.
& here i am 27 , decent looking, good salary but can't find a decent girl cause i wanna stay "childfree"
You will find many women Im 25 trust me not many women want to have a child these days:)
You are good looking surely you will find one
You'll surely find one , I'm 23 and I thi nk want to be childfree for life but it's hard in India ❤
@@shreeshasinghthakur3293 same here
Thank you Jay Shetty for the great insight. Marriage is not an accomplishment itsounds more like an option or a lifestyle choice.
I follow Lord Ganesha , Lord Hanuman and surrounded by joy and peace.
Ur life will change upside down after kid... U can't imagine... Most toughest phase ever
Finally, someone speaks my mind.
Jay is absolutely right! Nd I love the interviewer here. He is very considerate with so many different personalities 👍😀
Thank God atleast someone has said the truth.
Go and listen to Acharya Prashant 🙌 brutally honest. Just like Osho.
@@S-tx2lk sooo true.. Everyone should definitely try to listen to archarya prashant.. He is amazing and trully honest person. I don't know i have ever seen someone so honest in my life actually.. He has definitely opened eyes of people from lies.. Really..
@@drishtik6355 yes definitely. He's a saviour to me. And also to the world. We're lucky that we found him. We must value that gem.💎🙂
@@S-tx2lk so true.. Can't agree more.. He has changed my life and even my mom's life.. I started listening to his videos first and now I am currently reading his books I have 4 books, they are great specially bhagwaat Geeta.. You should definitely read his books to gather more knowledge.. We are blessed to have someone so real n honest in this time period.. Seriously.. It's my wish to see him live in real someday hopefully soon. 🤞🤞
@@drishtik6355 that's really great. I haven't told my family about him yet. Don't know how will they react. I'm in touch with their counsellors and also do some online work for them. So my family can stop me from this if they don't like him. But still, I will tell them soon.🙂
So for now I read his e-books. Which are great. I'm a student rn. I also wish someday I can attend his Vedant mahotsava.🙌
I wish all men start thinking the same way
Funny
Lol
Yes
No. He’s wrong on that front.
Tbh, women have more urge for become mother. They need to understand and they need to take the steps for themselves.🙂
When a person put effort and have sleep less nights to achieve in their professional life it is very much appreciated and said you are so dedicated and hard work, similarly it should be appreciated for child as well. Sometimes life is hard but we work through it, same is the case with having child, it will be hard doesn’t mean we should give up on it. It’s individual decision but also it should not become excuse to get away from our responsibilities. Also the learning, patience, unconditional love you experience is unmatchable to anything else. Both side of the coin should be presented to audience.
Child is a Human being not a professional project. If you can't do justice to him then don't bring him into the world. It's a Sin. To him and also to the world.😑
In whole para you talked about your pleasure from child. But what about his life? What about his peace? What is the purpose of bringing him into the world? First ask yourself.
@@S-tx2lk very well said.... Sometimes I feel why selfish word is used for humans so much, because we are. We have a consciousness to think. Still we only think about ourselves when we want to bring a life to the world. It is like I want a child, and what about child? It is a big decision.
Ofcourse it requires so much of your time, attention. But if you found out that you chose a wrong profession, still you can replace it. You can not do with your child and it shouldn't. So it can not compare with a profession. Although I understood what you want to say.
so well said. and its the best job in the world. The most rewarding at least.
Great comment there’s still people like you there’s hope
Jay is too much Empathetic,And that is due to his spiritual knowledge and also his troubled life.We need people like him in this world
Troubled life?
It is unfortunate to see that a great person like Jay is talking about only sleepless nights with baby n sacrificing profession but the beautiful smiles n hugs of baby are priceless. This is a one dimensional talk by jay. Because he has not experienced parenting.
Parenting is one subject where we give birth first n learn. HEY PPL , REMEMBER JAY IS GREAT N HANDSOME BUT NEED NOT NECESSARILY BE RIGHT ALL THE TIME 😊 STOP SAYING WOW FOR EVERYTHING THEY TALK ..
It might be good for you Abhira, but not for everyone...
You can adopt, don't make world more overpopulated.
@@S-tx2lkWhen you have amazing genes like him and his wife, you should have kids. They're great people too. They'll pass on some great genes
@@Fan-nr9zp overall they also come from love
Indian's child free thinking ko negative thinking bolte hai
Mai search kar rahi hu beti ke liye child free thinking groom nahi milta kya karu
Worthiest conversation
Jay, Childfree by choice is best option.
There SHOULD be a license for people who want to become parents before having a child which can be a course about childhood and teenage-hood psychology and even for the parents to understand themselves so they make the choice purely from within not because of someone or any other shallow reason. That will make societies mature and for humans to become actually civil, psychology and mental health is the most important thing that all humans in this world in every country in every language should've known about by now.
Beautifully said...❤
May God bless you both with lots of love and happiness 😊
My favourite speaker Jay genius l love his speech very much.
Your poadcast really help people, make more podcast on Krishna's life.
There are so many stories, serials, movies on Krishna's name. Enough is enough of that entertainment. Now we need to think about teachings of Krishna. Specially the Krishna of Gita, Mahabharat.🙂
How can one escape this? I don’t want to get married and have children but my family is pressuring me. I m 27 rn. I don’t know how to convey to them. Whenever I tell them they just shrug off or take it as a joke. What do I do?
Don't come under any pressure if you don't want marriage. There r many like u n living happily on their own terms.
To be honest. No to be brutally honest, if they can pressurize you then you yourself is a kid now. What type of adult you are whom anyone said anything and you get affected. Don't you have guts to take your decisions, your responsibility? Don't you have something meaningful to do? Or should I say you actually want to get married/want intimacy deep inside but not accepting it?😑 Please ask yourself .
M too...same age,I dnt want it right now...also my parents are very supportive in every prospect!
@@S-tx2lk family pressure is real and harmful, are you new on earth
@@nerdyhari3471 strength, courage, taking stand for ourselves, doing the right thing is also real. It's up to us, what we choose.
Thank you, Jay! You are such a wonderful Soul!
Jay shetty is more Indian than us 🫡
It's so true that mothers are not wanting to express this openly.
Because they do they will get irrelevant in the society
Have come across people having past their age wanting to have kids while all their fertile age they were postponing or rather not wanting saying it's a choice.
Ohh god I felt this everyday since sister in law become mother....I m all the questions in my mind jay mentioned here....
Jay Shetty 💯 what a man !
Children need loving caring parents. It's better not to have children if priority are materialism, looks, glamour. End times
Jay's thoughts were the same that came to me few months ago
I hope Jay and radhi have kids!! They will be so beautiful
Beautifully explained👌👌👌
Dnt prepare so much b4 conceiving just trust ur ability n go ahead... all u need is selfless love n patience. Rest the little one will teach u.
This is very bad advice indeed and definitely not true. Things do not magically work out. Every day I see people who are bad parents and should not have had children.
That's why there is so much Chaos in India. So many people but totally fools and dishonest and emotionally weak.😑 Result of bad parenting.
That's why there is so much Chaos in India. So many people but totally fools and dishonest and emotionally weak.😑 Result of bad parenting.
@@---Dana---- completely agree. People who just have kids like this, just for the sake of it, turn out to be the most toxic parents. Cos that's what they're taught. They don't think rationally. They are just engulfed in this Indian system of marriage and kids, and they still don't seem to understand.
But Jay will be an amazing father we all know. 😻
I agree
Amazing 😻
Beautifully explained ❤
Its misguiding to young generation... when you are young, you dont want any extra responsibility u want to enjoy,travel etc but once you hit 30+ you crave for having family,kids.....and it could be late for many of them.....having kids is blessing for me no doubt i had many sleepless night while raising them,its just phase and spirituality doesn't say don't have family or kids many of our saints were living/raising family and devoted to god.
You live your life and let others live the life they want
@@Asiya345 You said it !!
@@Asiya345 Everyone can live their life how they want, it only becomes a problem when a small minority of people try to change a healthy culture and tradition for their own selfish perspectives.
@@BhagyaYogShala Congratulations, you form a small part of the human population that finds fulfillment away from the norm. “Everyone is different” isn’t suitable justification for healthy norms and traditions that MOST people find happiness in. You can do you but respect how the familiar works.
@@Pengboycarti ok. Then please give us too some respect. Leave respect, atleast give us home to live. There are societies which aren't giving home to singles. If you are single, or don't want kids then why society make our life so difficult? It should be a choice na.
You can never fully be aware of how having a child will change your life until you have one.
Im a Mother of two.
I do not agree that its totally her call!
Thank you
Just tht it doesnt make u superior than a non parent.
This guys just brings therapy in a every sentence 😂😂
I felt this duo comingggg
One other thing that people dont talk about is, not talking about the difficulties bcoz u may put off someone from something, that they should have. Even though you think, that you have a difficult time with it.
Ranvir listens all podcast very very , i mean very carefully. He will be a super human if he follows 1% of these podcast talks. Look at his face when he listens other one , like he is doing JEE ADVANCE question.
The so called ability to question or doubt everything, undermines one' ability to face and explore new dimensions in life. Being a parent can only be experienced. No description or discussion can come close to that feeling. All those sleepless nights or restless hours shall be forgotten in the wick of ur toddler' smile.
Believe me, after being a father or mother, u will appreciate the efforts of ur parents in a much holistic manner.
In life learn to accept one thing. The way I think might not be the way someone else thinks. And they are just as right to themselves as you are to yourself.
@@ihmsfm1040 if you think, whatever everyone thinks is right for themselves, as a society, we will be heading towards chaos. Direction is always important and there is nothing wrong in believing one opinion is superior than other. By the way, I am doing good in life.
I don't think he was straightforward with his answer if he and his wife are ready for kids, he segwayed into something else very conveniently....
Can’t wait to watch the full episode
We want an episode with illuminati show brahmacharya
Your videos are amazing. Can you bring someone on to explain telekinesis? Or Divya manas in general? 🙏 thanks again for your work
I can understand the logic behind it but honestly I feel like I need children more than a wife!!! Wish surrogacy for single father was allowed in India for Middle-class guys like us!! 😏
Wud hav felt so lucky if I had biological children by now 😢
I think it's great you like kids so much. If you have the physical, emotional and financial capacity to raise children then you should do it
Dude you are ready, if you waste time you won't be.
Personally I think, if a person earning 5times less than me can raise 5kids, I surly can raise 2-3 of my own... I have resource, I am young, I can handle sleep deprivation, I have health and strength to sustain it for next 20-25year... if not now, when am I going to be more ready.
You are ready but country and planet Earth is not. Ever think about natural resources?
@@S-tx2lk So country is ready for more uneducated weak people dependent on subsides & freebies for their survival... but it's not ready for well educated tax paying citizens???
Or you are just not educated enough to get it?
Which natural resource? You don't use it someone else will, why should I compromise on mine for someone else's? Let nature's law of survival of the fittest play.
That 5 kids ones, I know them. They live in slums. They make punctures, work as barber, butcher, and best they do is to repair electric appliances
@@shubhmishra6977 "punctures, work as barber, butcher, and best they do is to repair electric appliances" still they are worth a lot more than shits giving gov job exams, or corp coolies working in TCS Wipro....
A skilled construction worker in India earns taxable income (they don't pay it though)... just wait 5-6years they will be making a lakh+/month.
The era of pity jobs is gone, AI can do it a lot less price. World needs real men to do real jobs.
As liberating as it may feel, people without children eventually scramble to find support in old age.
And before anyone jumps on me for wanting children to serve me, it's a natural part of the life cycle for any species. Even in the West, old people are taken care of by their children even if they're living in separate homes (which is ideal). Else there are community homes where again younger people are taking care of them.
If you don't have your own children, you'll be hoping somebody else does and raises them well enough to want to take care of seniors in their old age (even in a paid job).
There is no guarantee that your kids will take care of you. You might as well live the best life with all the money you might have to spend on that child (kids are expensive), or give that money towards an old age home and they'll take care of you.
Trust me there are high facility homes and it's not sad as how it's portrayed.
And somebody else raising them well? It's all business bro. Old age homes take huge advance payments for the service they provide. So yeah.
@@_w.t.f_ read my comment properly. I never said that there's any guarantee your children will take care of you, but it's quite likely they will. And if you don't have your own children, it's most likely the children of your siblings or cousins that you'll fall dependent on. How many people do you know who live in old age homes? There's a growing population of old people with not enough young people to take care of them, however well paid they maybe (they aren't). Old age homes have to be run by people - young, healthy, sympathetic, capable people.
So it's very easy to say now I don't want to be responsible for children, but then you'll pay the price for it eventually.
Better to invest in therapy and work on your healing because you likely had a terrible childhood to not be parents and want to nurture children yourself. And then be a part of a community that supports parenthood and raising children. Become foster parents if having children biologically isn't possible.
I think only human species work that way. No other species look after the older ones. Everyone is on their own. It only takes humanity to look after each other as social beings.
Save for your retirement and find a good retirement home.
@@Ash-sr6xi all the best finding a "good" retirement home. Come back and share your experience when you get there.
Nice. I want to see Swami Sarvapriyananda in apisode
Spoke really true ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Now this is one evolved man...
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Please make bord cast in hindi on this topic
09:10 -- 06:30 = 02:40 HOURS
Overthinking the reason behind declining population of Europe
Great great❤
Beautiful
Why don't you call this scammer back for an interview again 😂
Jay is as always too good but the other guy n his overaction is annoying
congratulations sofe aa gae nae ghr me
Can I talk to Ranveer bhaiya..is it possible???
No
ask who don't hv kids.
why host makes such faces
True
today's parents are exhausted coz they don't want to live with elders of the family. solo families so more tired
Joint family put more burden on women so solo families are better
200 percent
As someone who has a Masters in Biology, all life forms (Mosquito, Lion or Humans) have only two functions in life - to survive and reproduce. Anything other than that is a bonus. SO the new generation talking about travel, career, choice is nothing but a woke thing. Besides, what you feel/want in your 20s or 30 is not going to the same in you 50s or 60s so having kinds is not just nice but also essential part of your life!
If our ancestors had the same mindset like you, who were living in caves, with no food/shelter and fighting off saber tooth tigers, diseases and hosts of everything surrounding them, that were probably trying to kill them , none of us would be here.. Andre Tate
Yes that's why people lower on the awareness scale (lower chakras) will continue to have children and those who have access to self-awareness usually do not want to perpetuate the trauma and would rather educate to raise humankind to a new level.. some people do both but it's very rare..
@@rpaafourever7908 so your parents had lower charkra?
The world would be a better place if you weren't here though.
@@_w.t.f_ is that a general statement or specifically targeted towards someone? Explain!
ah ha but Jay Shetty even the Adiyogi has children. Hara Hara Mahadev
The desire of not having kids it’s a very typical symptom of the modern society and the selfishness. How you practice love and compassion and empathy if not with those who we can’t get anything from at least for about 20 years… you get love an so much beautiful things but from a materialistic and selfish point of view there’s no more than bad consequences . Welcome to the eternal teenagers World
I love being selfish and not having kids 😊😊
@@nerdyhari3471 was I asking you?
@@MarcelineFM yes you did
how can you be selfish? answer properly in a detailed way ... thinking so much about the baby which is even not born yet. If thinking let's assume you have an autism child. what will your answer now
@nerdyhari3471 I forgot to mention “welcome to the eternal teenagers and mentally sick world” 😅
No other animals asking dumb question wheather to have kid or not to have kid. Humans are more selfish Day by day. Ranbir by asking these question confusing the entire generation.
Animals don’t have money. Humans do.
That's why they are animals because THEY CAN'T ask questions, they don't have that ability but humans have. And if humans are not using that ability then they are no different than animals.
Two frauds in one frame 😂
Hindi me bhi bol le te jao thoda
You are discouraging to have child is a big crime to the future society and to the future file of many.
First Comment 😂
Plz reply my comment bhai 😊
David black?? Really?
@God Ussop ok.. My bad
2nd comment
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Letting go your passion? Having Childs it’s so hard?? Are you aware humanity it’s been having children since ever!? There’s tons and tons of books to be treads for parenting but your mixing concepts. You can be ready but you can’t control what’s gonna happen, and how you will react to it at least the first times as well as when your driving.. it’s so funny how you approach about life and compassion but you certainly don’ want to t leave the inheritance in this world to be compassion and love.. kids will teach you but you’re not the most important character when kids are in the scene. Just curious
We want to be the main character in our life , thats why we won't have kids
Non Sense. We are waiting for our 3rd child. If you dont like babies to come here and live a good life, consider vacating the world. Dont misguide the citizens of a country. Such anti baby people are threat to a country. What he knows about scriptures? All ours Gods are family person. Shiva, Rama, Krishna they all had kids and saw the future of human. This world is existing because of next generation.
Shame on you for breeding recklessly and poluting the planet
There are instances children brought up in abusive environments turning out to be criminals and psychopaths. Having no children is not a threat to the country. Many yogis opted for not having a child.
I admire the powerful god Hanuman and Lord Ganesha. By the way , Kali mata is married ?
@@Egoandpride24 they were not babies?
@@exgod1533 Ofcourse, i was a baby too. But this interview is about some of the best practices ,on can follow, as options only especially in over populated world. Breeding is not an accomplishment especially when natural resources are dwindling, imagine the quality of life of the young baby as it grows in this painful war like world.
LOVE LOVE LOVED IT And the most amazing line that stuck inside my mind was "Everyone is feeling anxiety but no one is expressing it" " I want to build a world where people are expressing it" AMAZE✨🪄🌼🧿🌊