Being childfree by choice: five women on why they decided not to have kids

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  • @theGuardian
    @theGuardian  4 ปีที่แล้ว +530

    Read our entire series here ► www.theguardian.com/us-news/series/childfree
    We want to hear from childfree women: share your experience ► guardiannewsandmedia.formstack.com/forms/being_childfree_in_the_us

    • @GhulamMustafa11111
      @GhulamMustafa11111 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      What if their moms didn't have them lol?
      Guardian make a part 2 of this series maybe like 30 years down the line and we'll see.

    • @NoPlus500
      @NoPlus500 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      The Guardian this is not accurate as people are not honest and you just want to make it sound so ok and normal there’s a lot more going on in a woman’s mind that’s decided I don’t want kids. But comes home to several cats and teddy bears.

    • @ChildfreeGirls
      @ChildfreeGirls 4 ปีที่แล้ว +73

      The more childfree people of all ages share their experiences, the more the myths surrounding the childfree lifestyle will dispel. There are those who don’t want to believe or hear anything a childfree person has to say, but for any who are curious, there is a vibrant community.

    • @hemera73
      @hemera73 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@paulgibbons2320 yeah , and that s what all co v i d 19 is about!!!

    • @paperdoll5467
      @paperdoll5467 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      Please pose this same question to men. Would love to see that b/c it's not a unique issue to women (maybe a few different nuances of course) but same endpoint...no kids. Thanks. If you already have, please post that video.

  • @natashacoda4354
    @natashacoda4354 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13071

    Let’s be real: if ppl were more honest about not wanting children, there would be a lot less neglected or abused kids in the world.

    • @user-ur2wd8du4z
      @user-ur2wd8du4z 4 ปีที่แล้ว +394

      THIS THIS THIS !!!!!

    • @Alex-yg3nv
      @Alex-yg3nv 4 ปีที่แล้ว +324

      And less population

    • @greenwich42
      @greenwich42 4 ปีที่แล้ว +451

      if ppl would be more educated and actually careful about how to avoid pregnancy

    • @offbeatblackgerl8360
      @offbeatblackgerl8360 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      True

    • @celestek.2395
      @celestek.2395 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I don’t fully understand the correlation.

  • @ashleyamazin2489
    @ashleyamazin2489 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40835

    The world would be a better place if adults who don’t want children or feel like they would not be good parents, would just not have any.

    • @Spokentruths725
      @Spokentruths725 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2130

      True a lot of people do it out of being selfish. Lack of control or responsibility AND some actually do it because they look at kids as accessories.

    • @cassiazaharia4776
      @cassiazaharia4776 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1239

      People are not educated enough to even think of that

    • @uwumart2023
      @uwumart2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว +238

      amen

    • @Noel11897
      @Noel11897 4 ปีที่แล้ว +138

      Str8 fax

    • @SOPHIA-wh6uq
      @SOPHIA-wh6uq 4 ปีที่แล้ว +93

      Yeah true

  • @zdmuchnelamniejesien
    @zdmuchnelamniejesien 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31212

    Calling people who don't want children "selfish" is the most absurd thing of all. Bringing unwanted children into the world, that's what's truly selfish.

    • @kaptenlemper
      @kaptenlemper 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1752

      Heck, depending on the motivation, the act of bringing a child to the world *is* selfish.

    • @kiwi.1243
      @kiwi.1243 4 ปีที่แล้ว +98

      how is it selfish

    • @kaptenlemper
      @kaptenlemper 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2553

      @@kiwi.1243 a child does not ask to be brought into the world, it is a decision made by the parents' based on a want. They *want* to pass on their genes, they *want* to raise a new human being, they *want* to conform to societal norms, etc. The child, of course, has no say in this decision.

    • @mftcuaresma
      @mftcuaresma 4 ปีที่แล้ว +918

      Yeah, that's something I definitely agree wholeheartedly. I never wished to be born and yet here I am writing this comment. 😆

    • @zdmuchnelamniejesien
      @zdmuchnelamniejesien 4 ปีที่แล้ว +771

      @@kaptenlemper very true. Not to mention the issues such as overpopulation, etc.

  • @Ana.K.Rodriguez
    @Ana.K.Rodriguez ปีที่แล้ว +152

    Im 27 years old and since I was 16 I decided that I did not want to be a mother and everyone tells me that I’m a self entitled brat and that I’m being selfish. Childbirth is very painful and it’s something that can cost you your life and that is what is truly selfish because you can’t force someone to practically put there lives at risk. I’m glad to see more and more men and women that agree and support others that want to live a child free life.

    • @gleelights9525
      @gleelights9525 ปีที่แล้ว

      Vaccine is to 20th booster
      As
      Being maskless and unvaccinated is to catching co...
      .. Wait what??? You tricked me!!!!

    • @anonmouse15
      @anonmouse15 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Nothing says selfless like demanding that others have unwanted children against their will to make the accuser feel better about their own choices!

    • @progenderrole5150
      @progenderrole5150 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@gleelights9525 I'm trans. I want to nurse Justin Bieber's babies.

    • @RoseKamado-wf3ff
      @RoseKamado-wf3ff 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Who are you talking to? I’m a young mom and have only ever been called selfish 😂 no matter what you can’t win

  • @k.lis3e
    @k.lis3e 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3069

    I don’t understand how people go on about how painful childbirth is and what a complete struggle and sacrifice raising children is but judge people for not wanting it.

    • @TatianaDepetris
      @TatianaDepetris 4 ปีที่แล้ว +470

      @@jamesedwards366 you sound really happy yourself and not at all judgemental. It's probably all those kids you had.

    • @The3llen
      @The3llen 4 ปีที่แล้ว +425

      James Gillings typically ‘Karens’ are stay at home mothers and housewives of a certain generation that feel so bitter about not having their own career because they spent most of their lives cleaning up after their kids that they take their issues out on strangers and act as a ‘Karen’ as a cry for attention. Having kids does not guarantee that you won’t be lonely- your kids may not be in your life if they choose so. Grow up.

    • @k.lis3e
      @k.lis3e 4 ปีที่แล้ว +213

      Ellen W I think a lot of the people have trouble understanding that their opinions and feelings aren’t universal facts for everyone.

    • @Kerrviii
      @Kerrviii 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yeah but you have never carried a child I’m guessing soooo you’ll never understand. It’s worth it.

    • @Kerrviii
      @Kerrviii 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      James Gillings I agree.

  • @fvkijay
    @fvkijay 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16023

    It's funny that this is even controversial.

    • @kkurova9345
      @kkurova9345 4 ปีที่แล้ว +499

      It's just women oppressing each other and themselves edit: I hate that so many people liked this comment lol

    • @erikleith4670
      @erikleith4670 4 ปีที่แล้ว +93

      its not women just wanna complain

    • @iwillnotseeyourreply.9235
      @iwillnotseeyourreply.9235 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1130

      It's controversial because child free women are just told they'll come around to it, change their minds, regret not having kids, etc. Several doctors also refuse to perform sterilization surgery for the same reasons. Women aren't complaining just to complain. They want their wishes to be taken seriously.

    • @iwillnotseeyourreply.9235
      @iwillnotseeyourreply.9235 4 ปีที่แล้ว +652

      @@kkurova9345 It's old men. It's almost always old men getting into women's business trying to control everything.

    • @fvkijay
      @fvkijay 4 ปีที่แล้ว +239

      I will not see your reply. I think you misunderstand my post. I'm talking about the people who make it controversial because they're appalled by the mere fact that a woman can choose not to have children.
      That's
      Fucking Hilarious

  • @aprilchow-chee5281
    @aprilchow-chee5281 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10336

    Let's be real a lot of parents aren't really parents even though they have kids

    • @Lifeishard237
      @Lifeishard237 4 ปีที่แล้ว +237

      THIS.

    • @admyc853
      @admyc853 4 ปีที่แล้ว +79

      👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

    • @Shuyin781
      @Shuyin781 4 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      April Chow-chee words of truth, right there

    • @spicybrown75
      @spicybrown75 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Touche!

    • @annanell8434
      @annanell8434 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      TRUTH

  • @debbiechadwick861
    @debbiechadwick861 ปีที่แล้ว +610

    Interesting! I never met other women who felt like I do. I'm 71 now and never wanted kids and still no regrets.

    • @ash.whothat
      @ash.whothat ปีที่แล้ว +70

      Omgg its so cool to see someone older than me who doesn't have kids cause people always tell me "i'm too young to know that" or "i'll obviously change my mind when i'm older" which sucks hearing

    • @brownbrownbrown2938
      @brownbrownbrown2938 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ash.whothatGET OFF MY PROPERTY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @Hibiscus123
      @Hibiscus123 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      63 no kids, no regrets

    • @brownbrownbrown2938
      @brownbrownbrown2938 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Hibiscus123 Kells and windmills and Shay Mccay dark wood cabinets above where there's oil and grease on the high school chemistry lab table leading to lots some complaints from classmates about that all in the different room across the hall you go in and sit down one day.
      Next, trip to Andover for music competition in 2 days but then when you're on the bus and when it's a bit dark at six in the morning to go there, and hear the noise while going fast, it reminds you of compounds of the oil and orangish red grease from food

    • @tacoexpressSEEDEEholeeveryones
      @tacoexpressSEEDEEholeeveryones ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Hibiscus123 Would you consider leaving on a red cloth regular table lamp in the bedroom and a tubular vintage oval bulb desk lamp in the office, and seeing which type of bulb burns out first after a while, "doing an experiment" ?

  • @adorableonyourvanity
    @adorableonyourvanity 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9746

    Most people shouldn’t have kids. Yet they do. Too many actually. That’s the biggest tragedy in the world.

    • @keystone_x1
      @keystone_x1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +273

      The real tragedy is that our society makes children look like objects, we all have been kids once and having to see that an innocent creature is deemed as a tragedy is absolutely bad to say.

    • @lavenderlover5549
      @lavenderlover5549 4 ปีที่แล้ว +313

      Keystone_XONE I think what the person is trying to say is that there I many people in the world that are having kids but don’t care to take the responsibility of having one, and then the kid ends up not having the proper care. It’s not the child itself that’s the tragedy, but’s it’s the suffering the kids has to go through when being taken care of by irresponsible people/parents that are having kids when they shouldn’t be that’s the tragedy

    • @adorableonyourvanity
      @adorableonyourvanity 4 ปีที่แล้ว +152

      LaVeNdEr LoVeR thank you! Children are not the Problem, but people who procreate are.

    • @littlemissai8997
      @littlemissai8997 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      i don't mind, kids are beautiful.

    • @hannahloew5027
      @hannahloew5027 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      I love how we are discussing this on a deep level before I think people didnt think about it but now because of social media we can be honest

  • @pedroportillo1585
    @pedroportillo1585 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5968

    Having children is a personal choice, and nobody’s business but yours.

    • @member968
      @member968 4 ปีที่แล้ว +131

      This mindset is the main problem. Nobody seems to think from the perspective of the child, only themselves and how they are benefitted by having a baby.

    • @Andresfin
      @Andresfin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +236

      @@member968 the child doesn't exist yet so why does it matter?

    • @jasonmartin4775
      @jasonmartin4775 4 ปีที่แล้ว +158

      @@member968 Judging on how the world is, right now, how would it benefit a child to be born?

    • @member968
      @member968 4 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      Jason Martin the problem that many people overlook is that a child isn’t there before conception. So before conception, only the parents are there to be benefitted. So fundamentally a child cannot benefit from being born, regardless of the state of the world.

    • @nicholassantana6180
      @nicholassantana6180 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      There are consequences ...... I would agree with you if those consequences didn't affect me

  • @prussiangreen6940
    @prussiangreen6940 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6837

    I think it’s pretty selfish to want to have kids as a retirement plan.

    • @evieparada
      @evieparada 4 ปีที่แล้ว +576

      True and there’s no guarantee that they will be there for you when your old.

    • @tbonerossigiggles6076
      @tbonerossigiggles6076 4 ปีที่แล้ว +63

      Very true

    • @CatEyeGem
      @CatEyeGem 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾this

    • @stephaniem895
      @stephaniem895 4 ปีที่แล้ว +306

      Or as your caregiver in your senior years. I’ve been asked sssoooo many times.... “well who’s going to take care is your when your old?”
      I’m like- yeah that’s a terrible reason to have kids.
      Save up for your senior care.... it’s selfish to expect your children to be your caregivers and do nothing to plan for your own care.

    • @ShiaGirl18
      @ShiaGirl18 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      That's exactly what happened to me!

  • @kotimara8711
    @kotimara8711 2 ปีที่แล้ว +430

    As a man who also doesn’t want to be parent, you all have my respect for being voluntarily childless.

    • @ChummyK
      @ChummyK หลายเดือนก่อน +2

  • @commandZee
    @commandZee 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2139

    I'm a 44 year old man, I don't have kids nor have I ever had the desire to. These women have the right to make the same decision without being shamed. A video like this shouldn't even be necessary in the 21st century.

    • @amazonqueen5694
      @amazonqueen5694 3 ปีที่แล้ว +92

      first thank you for your respect and recognizing this as a choice for all

    • @arlo247
      @arlo247 3 ปีที่แล้ว +96

      Amen brother. It’s real. That’s why feminism is still needed today!!! Humanitarian and feminism are one and the same truly!!!

    • @JJ-iq8mi
      @JJ-iq8mi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +65

      Well said! I once got told that having a baby was my duty to society...despite the fact there are too many people in the world.

    • @sylwialesniak4335
      @sylwialesniak4335 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      Feed me cheese This! Plus we never asked to be born so we don’t owe anything to the society

    • @doctorchloe505
      @doctorchloe505 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Thank you so much for seeing things from a woman’s perspective and being brave enough to be vocal about it. Lots of men are too ignorant and cowardly to do that.

  • @alexandravanpaassen5441
    @alexandravanpaassen5441 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3426

    Why are people mad about some women not wanting to have children. The world is getting overpopulated anyways. Some people not wanting to have kids is not a crime.

    • @chitrikart2328
      @chitrikart2328 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      YEAH

    • @Darksecret_23
      @Darksecret_23 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Explain to me how the world is overpopulated?

    • @netflixmania8576
      @netflixmania8576 4 ปีที่แล้ว +343

      Even if the world wasn’t overpopulated though it’s still the woman’s choice and absolute madness that it needs to be justified

    • @Anana315
      @Anana315 4 ปีที่แล้ว +274

      Fall7Standup8 Chosen The world is overpopulated relatively to the ressources that we have left. There are too many people for not enough food, water etc. Mainly because of the overconsumption in industrialized countries and overuse of natural ressources for profit.
      Scientists predict that sooner or later, even in the richest parts of the world, there won’t be enough food and water for everybody. Some even say that the future generations will never know what it’s like eating some of the things we eat today like fish for example.

    • @GT-RTData9
      @GT-RTData9 4 ปีที่แล้ว +217

      @@Darksecret_23 You're in this comment section, so you obviously have access to the internet. Go do your due diligence and look it up for your self.

  • @MsEmmiii
    @MsEmmiii 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1767

    I hate "but who is going to take care of you when you're old?". That's what's really selfish to me. Your children deserve to have a life of their own. What if they want to move to the other side of the world? There are other ways to prevent loneliness.

    • @dangermenatwork
      @dangermenatwork 4 ปีที่แล้ว +62

      THIS

    • @user-pp6kd7ut4k
      @user-pp6kd7ut4k 4 ปีที่แล้ว +159

      Right. Not to mention if they saved their money instead of having kids they don't have to worry about being taken care of when they're old.

    • @vaderladyl
      @vaderladyl 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@Vivian-oq5wz Oh yes. I've seen it too.

    • @thatahamoment497
      @thatahamoment497 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Exactly 👏

    • @miagolez7059
      @miagolez7059 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      My grandma is at her 80's we don't even take care of her she just lives

  • @MikaelChoi
    @MikaelChoi 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

    As a guy who doesn't want children myself I support these women fully!

  • @SuperTonyony
    @SuperTonyony 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5146

    To anyone reading this message: If you are not absolutely certain that you want to have kids...PLEASE DO NOT HAVE KIDS! Every child deserves to be wanted.

  • @t0misin
    @t0misin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10534

    Selfish is having children you know you can't take care of.

    • @yingyang1008
      @yingyang1008 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      Don't think it's selfish - all that work, stress and worry

    • @cassandra9581
      @cassandra9581 4 ปีที่แล้ว +572

      @@yingyang1008 Is irrelevant because people still constantly have children for selfish reasons.

    • @yingyang1008
      @yingyang1008 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      @@cassandra9581 How is it selfish to want a family?
      It's what the vast majority of humans want to do and is very hard work, you literally give your life to a other out of love

    • @cassandra9581
      @cassandra9581 4 ปีที่แล้ว +461

      @@yingyang1008 I didn't say it was selfish to want a family... I said people still have children for selfish reasons, I didn't say everyone does.

    • @faz949
      @faz949 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      exactlyyyyy

  • @PhamNguyenLinhLan
    @PhamNguyenLinhLan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1576

    As a woman who doesn't want to have children ever, I'm so glad I ran into this video. It's comforting to know that I'm not the only woman to feel this way and suffer the pressure of conforming to the idea of procreation. Not enough people realize how damaging it is to put pressure on those that don't wanna have kids. That's how you create bad parents who will possibly resent their children for the rest of their lives. And the children do not deserve that at all.

    • @trashnamedalana7524
      @trashnamedalana7524 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      as someone who has felt resent i’m scared of making someone else feel that way

    • @bobdhshshxhzvs2314
      @bobdhshshxhzvs2314 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      You ran into it? Did it hurt? I hope your okay

    • @tajvillain3649
      @tajvillain3649 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Same. I really needed this

    • @salamannader
      @salamannader 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Same! Most of the comments were super supportive on here too which is nice.

    • @vaderladyl
      @vaderladyl 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@trashnamedalana7524 Life is always going to be scary no matter what. Stick by your choices and forget about resentment, there is no way to avoid it sometimes and you are not responsible if they feel that way and don't need to sacrifice your happiness to avoid selfish resentment.

  • @JaneWillowMusic
    @JaneWillowMusic 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

    I used to nanny full-time, 10 hours a day. That was the moment for me when I decided, I don't want kids. I really get along with kids so easily, but it's been so enlightening for me to see that these next (hopefully) 30 or 40 years of my life will be filled with work, hobbies, volunteering and family and friends. What a gift that is!

  • @marinadee2771
    @marinadee2771 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5225

    Having kids isn’t for everyone and that is 100% ok.

    • @sucram1015
      @sucram1015 4 ปีที่แล้ว +71

      Right, even though I'm kind of in between on whether or not I want kids. At 21 years old, I'm already mostly in the position and decision of not wanting kids at all.

    • @ChristinaOstil115
      @ChristinaOstil115 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Would you adopt a baby like Moses?

    • @tommywise
      @tommywise 4 ปีที่แล้ว +67

      Plus it's not like the human race will go extinct anytime soon.

    • @kaitlynbryant1437
      @kaitlynbryant1437 4 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      lolcano234 i think that anyone over the age of 18 is fully capable of making their own decisions:)

    • @kaitlynbryant1437
      @kaitlynbryant1437 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      lolcano234 again, i said over the age of 18, not 18 specifically ;)

  • @nevaehstreet7204
    @nevaehstreet7204 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8250

    A woman shouldn’t have to explain why she doesn’t want to have children. Your body. Your choice. Your life. Your path.

    • @eazymethod01
      @eazymethod01 4 ปีที่แล้ว +88

      I'm more and more respectful of that choice now, especially if a primary driver for people is the improvement of the current state of the world.

    • @msilence2009
      @msilence2009 4 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      Yea let's all have fun in this beautiful western civilization. Children? Who needs that problems!

    • @kepspark3362
      @kepspark3362 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      F*** yeah! I agree.

    • @bananasmatter1321
      @bananasmatter1321 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Soooooo it's a selfish decision...?

    • @daivabaniene3815
      @daivabaniene3815 4 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      I really wish it would be that easy...It would be if you would live in a jungle or a desert , but unfortunately we live in a judgemental society.

  • @britjj5126
    @britjj5126 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1815

    When she said “It’s been important to find someone who is interested and cares about me for me and not what I can produce for him.” That’s a word!

    • @elenaK0023
      @elenaK0023 4 ปีที่แล้ว +90

      I loved that !!! Just because we have place for caring a child in our bodies doesn't mean we are born to be incubators !

    • @molihua15
      @molihua15 4 ปีที่แล้ว +79

      @Benghali In Platforms We are born to be so many things, from artists to scientists. I'm sorry but almost all mothers I know are misarable, on pills and some openly say they regret having children. We are not animals and civilization was build on us rejecting our biological "destiny".

    • @xocomora
      @xocomora 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Yeah. I had a boyfriend who wanted me to have his babies. I abandoned him because he was cheating me. He never loved me.

    • @xocomora
      @xocomora 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      @Benghali In Platforms well, in a biological sense we born to reproduce the specie, but not at all because we have other kind of mental development compared with other animals. We are the major plague in the world, this place doesn't need more humans, the world needs to be repaired. And we aren't baby incubators, due to our mental development, a human has the capability to create and explore other kind of things. Well, being a millennial mentally is not bad, this generation is more conscientious about world.

    • @Moszan
      @Moszan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @Benghali In Platforms I'll happily be a wine aunt then. Lol

  • @Ali-gb7mf
    @Ali-gb7mf ปีที่แล้ว +679

    My mother to!d me that having kids prevented her from living her life. She told me when you have kids your life ends. Needless to say I've never had kids. I don't regret it and I appreciate my mom's truth.

    • @VolkovVolkovich
      @VolkovVolkovich ปีที่แล้ว +48

      Respect to your mom👍 I wish mine was like yours

    • @fjordbear3050
      @fjordbear3050 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      What a terrible mom, she basically didnt want you in her life…. If she could stuff you back in, she would💀

    • @VolkovVolkovich
      @VolkovVolkovich ปีที่แล้ว +91

      @@fjordbear3050 She didn't want him but still loved him enough if she didn't want him to repeat her mistakes

    • @charlest2858
      @charlest2858 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      She lied to you

    • @pyongyangbroadcastingservi3086
      @pyongyangbroadcastingservi3086 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      @@VolkovVolkovich Is that what people call "love" these days?

  • @-youresogolden-7829
    @-youresogolden-7829 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2795

    I don’t want children because I’m not able to take care of my own mentality, and I don’t want to risk breaking my own child’s mentality.

  • @lissy1595
    @lissy1595 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5256

    every child should have a parent, but not every parent should have a child

    • @kiki11974
      @kiki11974 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yokubō amen 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @leiajiang7877
      @leiajiang7877 4 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      I have 2 fur babies.

    • @ruyahalavurte1507
      @ruyahalavurte1507 4 ปีที่แล้ว +97

      i think every child should have a parent but not every person should be a parent will be more suitable. Cause there are parents who no longer have a child

    • @sharj7583
      @sharj7583 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      FACTS!!!

    • @eliastta437
      @eliastta437 4 ปีที่แล้ว +62

      To be a parent means u have a child-

  • @nuclearwessels2078
    @nuclearwessels2078 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1682

    I'm single, childfree, and happy. I cannot believe people shame women like me. Why not devote that energy to parents that abuse and neglect their children? They are more detrimental to society than ladies like us.

    • @juliakowalski548
      @juliakowalski548 4 ปีที่แล้ว +100

      @James one of the women in the video literally just responded to your question.

    • @Lottedbruyn
      @Lottedbruyn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You’re absolutely right.

    • @spillthetarot
      @spillthetarot 4 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      @James l am 40 and l am still awating to change my mind ...

    • @l3l3Cakes
      @l3l3Cakes 4 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      My mother gave me away at 5. She should have just aborted me -only terrible things happened after that

    • @YawaTsagli
      @YawaTsagli 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      l3l3Cakes sorry you didn’t have a great experience. Sending you virtual hugs x

  • @annepatton8727
    @annepatton8727 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +102

    I'm 41 and not a mother by choice. I've been called selfish many, many times. I've been told that my life would be pointless, that no one would take care of me when I'm old...like nursing homes are bursting with thankful sons and daughters 24/7. I realized that NOT having the desire was the #1 indicator. I'm proud if my choice, I honestly do not care what people tell me anymore. My happiness depends on something else.

    • @LucareonVee
      @LucareonVee 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      41 childfree man here. All the best. We’re making the right choice for ourselves. 😎🍻

    • @GodsFavDrunkDriver
      @GodsFavDrunkDriver 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@LucareonVee how much of a failure you gotta be to not be able to find a breeding partner, and then coping so hard in comments about it...

    • @SungchanRiize-c6p
      @SungchanRiize-c6p 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      👏👏

    • @user-il7eg2gn9x
      @user-il7eg2gn9x 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I never wanted children,I'm in my 50's it's the best decision I have made for myself,No regrets..

    • @jol0973
      @jol0973 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@GodsFavDrunkDriverIf breeding is the only purpose, then the lives of your children are worthless unless they have kids themselves. Does that sit well with you to admit that?

  • @CDOro
    @CDOro 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2332

    A lot of people in these comments judge and say women who are child free will be "miserable and bitter"... Uhmm children arent magic. Ive seeb a lot of mothers being "miserable and bitter" too.

    • @justicejoycetv
      @justicejoycetv 3 ปีที่แล้ว +71

      That part☝🏿

    • @cryss5059
      @cryss5059 3 ปีที่แล้ว +119

      Yup some ppl think having a child is everything n den when you do its like i ruined my life.. some moms go tru post partum n hormonal issues n guess what kids dont care if ur having a mental breakdown sometimes a kid is not the best

    • @richthepup
      @richthepup 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Some people find having kids to be intensely magical. Do what's right for you.

    • @CDOro
      @CDOro 3 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      @@richthepup kids not being magical is not my point though but sure

    • @ceyc.2404
      @ceyc.2404 3 ปีที่แล้ว +129

      Heck yes every dang mom I meet is always complaining about their kids (and husbands) and its like they're so unhappy all the time. I never want that to be me!

  • @RC093
    @RC093 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3372

    Having kids is not a life obligation, it's a personal choice, not everyone has the desire to be a parent. I sure know that my wife and I are happy with our lives without children. It's okay not to have children and there shouldn't be such a huge stigma to the subject.

    • @z0mbi3btch88
      @z0mbi3btch88 4 ปีที่แล้ว +104

      Sometimes women or girls don't have a choice. . sadly. .

    • @limitess9539
      @limitess9539 4 ปีที่แล้ว +243

      @Daniel Rumbacher then go make 5 kids and have fun with your new mega hectic life

    • @MelaninsFinest
      @MelaninsFinest 4 ปีที่แล้ว +176

      Daniel Rumbacher then go have 8 and deal with 8 wardrobes, 8+ mouths to feed, 8 mfs to get ready for school, 8 mf cars, 8 mf college tuitions like bye😂😂

    • @memyselfandimom
      @memyselfandimom 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      True I agree.. But does your wife really feel that way? I know when I was younger I didn't want children but the moment I got with my husband I knew I wanted children with him.

    • @snehasuresh5680
      @snehasuresh5680 4 ปีที่แล้ว +199

      @@memyselfandimom Because you want children, they don't. Children are not the most important part of someone's relationship. One can have an amazing and fulfilling relationship without a need for kids. Having children drains you mentally, physically and financially. It is a decision you consciously make, you don't rush to it. And some people don't think that is important and that is totally okay.

  • @rexis188
    @rexis188 4 ปีที่แล้ว +634

    Does anyone else get the impression that some of the women who criticize and question others for not having children are actually doing so because they felt pressured into it, and now they feel bitter seeing a woman living a full and happy life without children?

    • @God.sDaughter
      @God.sDaughter 4 ปีที่แล้ว +85

      YES! YES! YES! YES!
      You’re absolutely correct!
      There are women who hate seeing another woman progress in life because she didn’t have that opportunity to be her best in life so these type of women go around sabotaging and insulting other women whose life is different than hers.
      It’s internal misogyny.

    • @Onehottherapist
      @Onehottherapist 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      This!!!

    • @katiebayliss9887
      @katiebayliss9887 4 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      Or even women who don’t get married, there’s women with manchildren who make fun of single women

    • @Jason-eo1rh
      @Jason-eo1rh 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@God.sDaughter The mad ramblings of a scared feminist.

    • @driley5004
      @driley5004 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      1000000% YES

  • @hannahgraceoutdoors
    @hannahgraceoutdoors 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    Chosing to not have kids is so far from being selfish. For me i feel the world is over populated and there are so many children in care who need a family. I dont want to birth my own child but would love to adopt, and have known that since a teenager.

    • @SuicideboysGrey59
      @SuicideboysGrey59 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes, I absolutely feel the same way! Too many are worried about their bloodline only when there’s too many in the system without a family. adoption needs more promotion..

  • @hattix7233
    @hattix7233 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1475

    My parents are teachers and SO many kids are neglected by their parents. Putting them in every club possible, bed as soon as they get home, expecting teachers to fulfil more and more of the parental role - spending as little time with them as possible. You wonder why they had children it’s very sad. Often, it is to secure a wallet but I don’t think you should have kids if you aren’t committed to loving and raising them!

    • @windflowerrainstorm6497
      @windflowerrainstorm6497 4 ปีที่แล้ว +89

      I taught for ten years and this is soooo true 😤 bless your parents hard work

    • @saritashabnam1459
      @saritashabnam1459 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Absolutely agree 💯

    • @holden6104
      @holden6104 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Only white people do that lol.

    • @lifeismusic5529
      @lifeismusic5529 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Wdym “secure a wallet”?

    • @hattix7233
      @hattix7233 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Windflower Rainstorm Thank you ❤️

  • @KH-nt7ej
    @KH-nt7ej 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1723

    I am 46. No kids. Like kids but not for me full time. Will never regret this decision. Ever.

    • @gilly1522
      @gilly1522 4 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      You go girl, I respect that

    • @deerheart87
      @deerheart87 4 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      Me too I'm 48 no kids I'm v pleased I never had one

    • @miraclehuntley8257
      @miraclehuntley8257 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      Sammy d that was really rude and unnecessary for you say hun

    • @mayasayonara9169
      @mayasayonara9169 4 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      @@sammyd3577 If you cannot communicate without throwing insults and using mean words, you're a bully.

    • @Shuyin781
      @Shuyin781 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      @@sammyd3577 you don't have a wife, let alone a girlfriend, do you ?

  • @morningcoffee2471
    @morningcoffee2471 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1736

    Having no children is better than being a bad parent.
    Have a child because you "want" one, not because you "can".

    • @yaoiblfan
      @yaoiblfan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I agree.

    • @casstsj
      @casstsj 4 ปีที่แล้ว +62

      But also make sure that you can support a child even when you want one :)

    • @mrsbigmamayas3765
      @mrsbigmamayas3765 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

    • @mrsbigmamayas3765
      @mrsbigmamayas3765 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@casstsj 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

    • @vsevolodi.5373
      @vsevolodi.5373 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      would you rather be dead or have a bad parent?

  • @carinaadams6797
    @carinaadams6797 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    *”You don’t regret not doing what you don’t want to do”* 👏

    • @hello-sz7hp
      @hello-sz7hp ปีที่แล้ว

      Would you consider leaving on 2 tables lamps with 2 different types of bulbs and seeing which lamp burns out first, how long it takes for each one, and why, a type of science experiment? ??

    • @MarxMuru
      @MarxMuru ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@hello-sz7hp be gone kid.

    • @maroonmaroonmaroon2985
      @maroonmaroonmaroon2985 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@MarxMuruess are ess

  • @paulinemalone205
    @paulinemalone205 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1774

    I just wish we didn’t have to justify our decision over and over even to complete strangers

    • @paulinemalone205
      @paulinemalone205 4 ปีที่แล้ว +126

      Natasel wow. People have no problem asking straight out “do you have kids”, ‘why not”. Because it’s none of their business to ask why not.

    • @sliceoflime4735
      @sliceoflime4735 4 ปีที่แล้ว +59

      Ugh...tell me about it.
      Also, I have noticed women that have kids are taken more seriously in a social gathering, their opinions are respected more, even if they are way younger n inexperienced.

    • @RealMexFoodShouldntGiveUDrrhea
      @RealMexFoodShouldntGiveUDrrhea 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      You literally don’t. ‘Cause I don’t anymore. I just leave people hanging. 🤣

    • @ubuntuber1619
      @ubuntuber1619 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      adoption should be encouraged from different races, this way racism and world population crisis both will be checked.

    • @lilithssilvermoon3208
      @lilithssilvermoon3208 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Pauline Malone you don’t 🤷🏼‍♀️that’s a choice too!

  • @floffy2695
    @floffy2695 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2586

    People forget that their children are actual humans that will grow up into a completely unique individual, and not just decorative pieces.

    • @IRINUK26
      @IRINUK26 3 ปีที่แล้ว +157

      Yeah, most people see kids as babies, and then complain when they discover that their children are not an extension of themselves and can’t govern their life .OH, and the best , they shame people that don’t want kids for not choosing the same ..it is a validation of choices I think

    • @Anamilkk
      @Anamilkk 3 ปีที่แล้ว +81

      A lot of people unfortunately want a project, protégé, mini-me. but it just doesnt go that way.

    • @lotuswolf1518
      @lotuswolf1518 3 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      Exactly they're raising another person to compete in the rat race , defo ending my blood line , might adopt cause I believe kids in orphanages want a family or a proper house

    • @donnabenevientoismygothmom9535
      @donnabenevientoismygothmom9535 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      @@lotuswolf1518 Same, my bloodline is a failure anyway.

    • @emmy4537
      @emmy4537 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Yeah. They’re not a mini you. They’re different people.

  • @katiaaoox
    @katiaaoox 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2382

    I don’t want kids. Never did and never will. People don’t like that as a woman i don’t want to reproduce but for some reason, no one questions men for not wanting kids. The double standard is disgusting

    • @Eternalbleedingheartsclub
      @Eternalbleedingheartsclub 4 ปีที่แล้ว +273

      Or they undermine women's choices by saying things like "oh you will someday" "oh you just haven't met the right guy yet" - listen Karen I don't want kids!!

    • @jmw8004
      @jmw8004 4 ปีที่แล้ว +167

      Agreed. My wife and I decided against children years ago, and she has gotten way more grief about it than I have. Not fair.

    • @rushrush1209
      @rushrush1209 4 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      Plenty of people also give the stink eye to men for not wanting kids. I agree that there's more pressure on women to have kids.

    • @Fan-zx1lz
      @Fan-zx1lz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@rushrush1209 Yes.

    • @Fan-zx1lz
      @Fan-zx1lz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @wattlesong Everyone is not like that

  • @bolotabr12
    @bolotabr12 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    It’s a personal choice. People have to stop criticizing each other.

  • @CaliCassiez
    @CaliCassiez 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2443

    Just because you have a child DOES NOT MEAN you automatically become an amazing put-together person.

    • @cecejamesable
      @cecejamesable 4 ปีที่แล้ว +186

      Say it louder for the people in the back. Some people just should not have kids.

    • @Zeverinsen
      @Zeverinsen 4 ปีที่แล้ว +107

      I guess people automatically forget that there are orphans and children in foster care.
      They just conveniently forget about abusive parents or children growing up in poverty.
      The wilful ignorance is a bit disgusting, quite frankly.

    • @katherinep708
      @katherinep708 4 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      TRUE. Lots of irresponsible parents out there

    • @mwva13
      @mwva13 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Children are destructive forces of chaos that makes life harder... but I still want one.

    • @woolypuffin392
      @woolypuffin392 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      My hubby wants kids (we are 25 and 27) but as much as I love him, he is not ready. We fight over splitting bills or that he has a lot of savings and I have not and I think he does not see how a baby is very expensive and involves a lot of financial decisions. I also feel like I am not ready for kids at all. I want to travel the world and a child would ruin my plans. Covid made it even worse as I have a bucket list I want to do before even considering kids and I already am way behind and now travelling has been impossible for almost a year and it does not get better.

  • @sandianbc8732
    @sandianbc8732 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7923

    Having a kid to not be lonely is probably the worst decision ever.

    • @alexandrapanico374
      @alexandrapanico374 4 ปีที่แล้ว +910

      Yeah like go and make some friends, lol. There is 0 guarantee that kid will even like you, let alone be there and support you in old age.

    • @diomerda111
      @diomerda111 4 ปีที่แล้ว +215

      @@mrjoe9545 selfish like few other things and nobody guarantees you the kid will look after you.

    • @KG-kk3ef
      @KG-kk3ef 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      No way!

    • @anikadev8324
      @anikadev8324 4 ปีที่แล้ว +621

      Having a child to save a marriage is even worse

    • @MysticDivinerLJ
      @MysticDivinerLJ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +132

      THIS IS A WHOLE TOPIC THAT NEEDS TO BE DISCUSSED!!!!!!

  • @rondaleigh
    @rondaleigh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5704

    I'm 61, never had kids and have zero regrets.

    • @alijashahi7731
      @alijashahi7731 3 ปีที่แล้ว +464

      You’re a smart lady, I bet you’re so much happier. I’m following your footsteps and I’m 20!

    • @alijashahi7731
      @alijashahi7731 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@shridhark6819 what? 😐

    • @christins.1481
      @christins.1481 3 ปีที่แล้ว +545

      @@asheru9254 I'm 37. Married 19 years. One cat. Two dogs. No kids.
      Since you're wanting to compare animals here. I seen a kid take a dump on the living room floor.
      Having kids and animals is messy. There's no difference. Animals are easier to care for than a human.

    • @bea8861
      @bea8861 3 ปีที่แล้ว +274

      @Ooki Cooki Ok buddy.

    • @baldr6894
      @baldr6894 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Why do you look like someone I know

  • @Circlecorpceo
    @Circlecorpceo ปีที่แล้ว +55

    They are smart for not having kids.

  • @amberlee4536
    @amberlee4536 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2432

    People: "NEVER HAVE KIDS"
    Me: "oh I won't"
    People: "I mean you might change your mind..."
    Me: ????

    • @tararoselawson6941
      @tararoselawson6941 4 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      Oml my mom says the exact same thing drives me crazy

    • @onion5008
      @onion5008 4 ปีที่แล้ว +76

      My mom has 4 kids and none of us want kids just cause they made us feel like a burden all our lives

    • @ciera_danyel
      @ciera_danyel 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Me. Daily.

    • @RosemaryTurner2002
      @RosemaryTurner2002 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I’ve actually had this said to me before 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @MarlenyCruz
      @MarlenyCruz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Yep ... I am like really .I say to be prepared to a have kid that is completely opposite what you want out a kid.

  • @roaringwithexcitement1329
    @roaringwithexcitement1329 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2182

    Why do so many people take offense to childlessness? It doesn't hurt anyone.

    • @alexalson645
      @alexalson645 4 ปีที่แล้ว +394

      Misery loves company. 🤷‍♂️

    • @roaringwithexcitement1329
      @roaringwithexcitement1329 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @Frank T , read the comments.

    • @Zeverinsen
      @Zeverinsen 4 ปีที่แล้ว +339

      They feel like it's a personal attack on their choice to have kids, even though child free people don't care.

    • @gta4haterhq
      @gta4haterhq 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Yes it does, your legacy go's to the shiter.

    • @roaringwithexcitement1329
      @roaringwithexcitement1329 4 ปีที่แล้ว +298

      @@gta4haterhq , legacy means nothing

  • @pauldela1051
    @pauldela1051 4 ปีที่แล้ว +957

    With times today and the cost of living.. having kids is like a luxury. My husband and i simply have agreed that we can not afford a kid, so we decided not too. we have no regrets and happy.

    • @safijenkins5251
      @safijenkins5251 4 ปีที่แล้ว +113

      I think this is way more true than people care to admit ❤

    • @embracedchimera5886
      @embracedchimera5886 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Enjoy each other!:)

    • @HH-bz6me
      @HH-bz6me 4 ปีที่แล้ว +75

      @Me Dna Homophobic comment
      And anyday would we rather be a member of LGBTQ than to raise a child with hunger, no new clothes, no money for education and hobbies or vacation.
      Some people actually think before they bring a new life into this world.

    • @mimimimi-qr9jd
      @mimimimi-qr9jd 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@HH-bz6me asking if you are a homosexual is being homophobic ? i wish i was so 💖 privileged 💖 that the things i could be offended over are LITERAL questions ... girl 💀

    • @fificore
      @fificore 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      I wish the average person had this much foresight. 🖤

  • @melfreemans
    @melfreemans ปีที่แล้ว +485

    I'm 62...I've heard it all. You're selfish, you'll die alone, what about your legacy? I opted for serving my country in the military rather than motherhood. My legacy? Their freedom... that is my legacy as a veteran. Try calling a veteran selfish. I will spend my declining years alone in a nursing home with all the moms out there whose kids are too busy to visit.

    • @laurenmontera9516
      @laurenmontera9516 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      I have a great respect for anyone who puts on the uniform with pride and honor for their country.

    • @GK-op4oc
      @GK-op4oc 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      "My legacy? Their freedom... that is my legacy as a veteran. Try calling a veteran selfish"
      Females are out of harms way.

    • @GK-op4oc
      @GK-op4oc 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      "I opted for serving my country in the military rather than motherhood."
      You would have been more useful as a mother of 2+ children. Without an adequate birthrate, there is nothing to protect

    • @Abishhhhh
      @Abishhhhh 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@GK-op4oc are you like actually fcking slow?

    • @LucareonVee
      @LucareonVee 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@GK-op4oc
      With over 8 billion people on the planet, there won’t be any life at all. Not having children at this time is more important.

  • @user-rm1lm3rt7e
    @user-rm1lm3rt7e 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3347

    PSA: YOUR CHILDREN ARE NOT A RETIREMENT PLAN

    • @conductingintomfoolery9163
      @conductingintomfoolery9163 3 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      Yes they are, if a child cost 500k each then it’s going to be in my investments portfolio or it’s a failure of a investment

    • @saketadarsh7606
      @saketadarsh7606 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @Oat Meal you won't get that love, affection , unconditional instincts etc

    • @fuabtreter7302
      @fuabtreter7302 3 ปีที่แล้ว +133

      @saket adarsh you get to sleep, you're not at risk of having any complications/don't have to deal with the problems of being pregnant, you have more money, you will have more time for your friends and/or partner who will also give you love, you don't have to worry about being a bad parent and raising/teaching the kid, it won't be loud all the time, ...

    • @mo.ka.9661
      @mo.ka.9661 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Children literally pay into the older generation's social security

    • @fuabtreter7302
      @fuabtreter7302 3 ปีที่แล้ว +163

      @@mo.ka.9661 And that shouldn't be your only reason to have a child, they're humans.

  • @srami004
    @srami004 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1963

    Just because one can have children doesn't mean that one should. Not everyone is fit to be a parent.

    • @PointNemo9
      @PointNemo9 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      When facing an ageing population this message is irresponsible

    • @Ikajo
      @Ikajo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +145

      @@PointNemo9 The Earth is overpopulated. Bringing more children into the world is what's irresponsible.

    • @jasonvolta3657
      @jasonvolta3657 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yeah, ask those young women when they are in their 60s. You may hear very different story.

    • @Ikajo
      @Ikajo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +106

      @@jasonvolta3657 They are generally still very happy with their decision. Childfree isn't that new of a concept. There are women in their 60s and older who are perfectly happy with their choice. You don't need to have children to be happy.

    • @MarxMuru
      @MarxMuru 4 ปีที่แล้ว +75

      @@PointNemo9 its irresponsible to bring children into world just so they could lower the median age of population.

  • @TheSweetForever
    @TheSweetForever 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2178

    The only people who judge women for not having children are people who most likely regret having children haha. Don’t project onto me. I love not having kids right now. Saves a lot of money and I’m young. Enjoying my youth not being burden down with kids.

    • @vijg6914
      @vijg6914 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      so true.

    • @sharronhankins7722
      @sharronhankins7722 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Truth!👀🙌

    • @samanthajames6857
      @samanthajames6857 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      i’m 32 and couldn’t agree more! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

    • @TheSweetForever
      @TheSweetForever 4 ปีที่แล้ว +174

      Pez in my 20s. Twenties are for you to build your empire, discover yourself, enjoy your time. Etc. not a time for children. Just my opinion. Why waste young years on kids.

    • @annas4191
      @annas4191 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I bet you’re right !

  • @deepsavannah9723
    @deepsavannah9723 2 ปีที่แล้ว +151

    The suffering and the stress of living in this world made me make this decision my generation ends with me.

    • @txlyons2937
      @txlyons2937 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      You are wiser than most.

    • @LutherusPXCs
      @LutherusPXCs ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Now is the best most comfortable time in human History believe it or not, stress of living lol get real, life will always have stress and discomfort

    • @pauldirc..
      @pauldirc.. 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      ​@@LutherusPXCsand meaningless

    • @Xcnj-ox9wo
      @Xcnj-ox9wo 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Same i found my people 👍🏻

  • @Mandology575
    @Mandology575 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2095

    Kudos to these ladies. There’s too many women who have kids just to conform.

    • @mediabreak1993
      @mediabreak1993 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @Eugene Fisher exactly and am sure these lady's have there reasons

    • @z0mbi3btch88
      @z0mbi3btch88 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @Eugene Fisher Or single fathers taking care of the mothers kid cause she left ..

    • @intellectualshepherdsclub6708
      @intellectualshepherdsclub6708 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Where are such women? America's birthrates are pretty awful. So I don't know if there are a lot of women having children.

    • @VinnyLam
      @VinnyLam 4 ปีที่แล้ว +59

      I agree. There are too many women who have kids for selfish reasons, like wanting to pass on their genes or family name.

    • @intellectualshepherdsclub6708
      @intellectualshepherdsclub6708 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@VinnyLam How is that selfish? It's better than letting your family history die out.

  • @nicolenox7882
    @nicolenox7882 4 ปีที่แล้ว +508

    Im 43 and have never wanted children. The pressure, hate and stupidity I faced in my 20s and 30s is fast becoming envy. I have a very happy stress free life without kids. I have no regrets. Happily married for 20 years, neither of us ever wanted kids and are perfectly happy. I am not a freak. We are not freaks. (And yes i have been called that) enjoy your kids and save your judgement. I’m happy

    • @trildi
      @trildi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      @@chooseaname30 Please stop. Judgement is judgement, not an evolutionary tool. Also please back up your claim that ''Most women realise this after a while & the regret hits like a freight truck''.

    • @Abigail-py3vk
      @Abigail-py3vk 4 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      chooseaname30 There's seven billion people on this planet. Childfree people will not cause our species to go extinct.

    • @cheyennefong9069
      @cheyennefong9069 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      with you 1000000%. I hope to one day find a partner that is on the same page.

    • @colorfulcodes
      @colorfulcodes 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@chooseaname30 check reddit and Facebook for all the "I regret having kids" groups.

    • @hannahjames3398
      @hannahjames3398 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Isn’t it so messed up that they persecute you for not having kids then turn around and want to be you when they are stressed?? 😂

  • @eva-maria7066
    @eva-maria7066 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3931

    Regret of having kids would be way worse than regret of not having kids.

    • @adelechelsea4036
      @adelechelsea4036 4 ปีที่แล้ว +83

      This. All over.

    • @NamesIWantAreInvalid
      @NamesIWantAreInvalid 4 ปีที่แล้ว +107

      You actually wouldn't know that because its impossible to experience both in one lifetime

    • @andreaf8404
      @andreaf8404 4 ปีที่แล้ว +327

      NamesIWantAreInvalid they are not saying it because of the actual feeling, they are referring to the fact that regretting having children actually affects your child, in ways that can be very damaging. if you regret not having children, it would be a terrible feeling but it wouldn’t affect another human being for the rest of their lives. plus, if you change your mind about kids, you could always adopt, but if you children you can never undo that.

    • @popnpets8022
      @popnpets8022 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      NamesIWantAreInvalid yeah you could regret not having kids at a certain point and then eventually have kids and regret it

    • @beemocha
      @beemocha 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Exactly 👌🏽

  • @BologneseJones
    @BologneseJones ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Child free woman ..who has super duper friends..i had cancer 3 times each time my friends helped me.. in the cancer center i had married women tell me friends did more than their grown kids did. Not dying alone with cats..my friends proved to me they got my back in a crisis

  • @gena5270
    @gena5270 4 ปีที่แล้ว +524

    My mom keeps telling me that no man will ever want me because i dont want kids. What makes you think I would want a man that wants kids?

    • @God.sDaughter
      @God.sDaughter 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      Don’t listen to her. You’ll get a loving caring man and you two will live happily ever after.

    • @lonestar4374
      @lonestar4374 4 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      Besides, there's alot of men who don't want kids,so doesn't sound to smart of her,in my opinion.

    • @dojacat5951
      @dojacat5951 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Lol women with kids aren’t very logical

    • @judy7276
      @judy7276 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      My mum said exactly the same! She was so wrong! My gorgeous fiancee is 15 years younger and we totally adore each other.

    • @ladychatelaine697
      @ladychatelaine697 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lol...exactly! 🙋‍♀️🙂🇬🇧

  • @sarahfranz4758
    @sarahfranz4758 4 ปีที่แล้ว +876

    I do not want kids either. I get tired of hearing “oh youll change your mind”. No one says that to people who want children...

    • @guhhihhihhuhununununnjiji249
      @guhhihhihhuhununununnjiji249 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Sarah Franz they probably say that because your parents want grand babies😊 And the reason ppl don’t say “you’ll change your mind” to kids who what babies is because that’s the norm. Ppl grow up and eventually have kids🤷🏾‍♂️

    • @lilithssilvermoon3208
      @lilithssilvermoon3208 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Sarah Franz I’m with you! I just hope that since you know this, you’re taking responsibility to NOT get pregnant? That’s a choice too

    • @stardustnation2480
      @stardustnation2480 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Because it's a biological prerogative to reproduce

    • @blanca1.096
      @blanca1.096 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@stardustnation2480 Im pretty sure she doesn't have to have kids if she doesn't want to . Imagine being raise by a mother that never wanted you but was forced to have you because of pressure .

    • @Opheliakami
      @Opheliakami 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@stardustnation2480 it's more of a choice.

  • @Gali80f
    @Gali80f 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1991

    Society accepts the religious reasons why nuns are celibate. Why we shouldn't accept logical and responsible reasons of these women not to have kids

    • @andreasitarica469
      @andreasitarica469 3 ปีที่แล้ว +97

      Exactly, you took the words out of my mouth.

    • @mo.ka.9661
      @mo.ka.9661 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Nope nuns are crazy

    • @thelightwecarry
      @thelightwecarry 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I jus taya

    • @bloodcarnage8285
      @bloodcarnage8285 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Another pretty face and genetic intelligence wiped out of human race. 👍

    • @Polar_Bear7
      @Polar_Bear7 3 ปีที่แล้ว +66

      @@mo.ka.9661 nope, crazy people are crazy.

  • @moonamoonz
    @moonamoonz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +393

    Childfree today, childfree tomorrow, childfree forever ✊🏻 dont let kids ruin your freedom gals.

    • @LucareonVee
      @LucareonVee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      I say the same to men. A lot of us are childfree too. 😎🍻

    • @LucareonVee
      @LucareonVee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Asimpnamednutsack
      Still having trouble with “your” and “you’re?” Keep at it, honey. 😋

    • @LucareonVee
      @LucareonVee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @Asimpnamednutsack
      Better. Now tell us how that makes any difference. 😘

    • @jhonklan3794
      @jhonklan3794 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      how shallow and patheric

    • @Circlecorpceo
      @Circlecorpceo ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@AliciaGonzalez-pk3mw How is that toxic?

  • @onewinter9411
    @onewinter9411 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3963

    As a person whose mom told me many times how much she regretted having me, I'd say if you're not ready to accept your child's imperfections... Don't have kids.

    • @HikaruYamamoto
      @HikaruYamamoto 3 ปีที่แล้ว +310

      I just would rather not give up so much of my life just to force another human into this world for no reason.

    • @goelayushi09
      @goelayushi09 3 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      Sending you love💗

    • @okay5488
      @okay5488 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      I’m happy you are here, though, thank you for sharing this. ❤️ wishing you nothing but the best my friend

    • @krystynaoldakovska2233
      @krystynaoldakovska2233 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Oh my dear, I'm really sorry for this! ♥️

    • @TheAcadianGuy
      @TheAcadianGuy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      That's nasty. I hope you find your happiness

  • @judynblackwell
    @judynblackwell 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1043

    This was powerful. I'm glad they spoke out. Not everyone wants kids.

    • @LOL10060
      @LOL10060 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      DeSean Blackwell oh absolutely I’m a 27 year old male and I love kids but for the past 4 years I have made a decision not to have children

    • @marti5183
      @marti5183 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yeah, I am 35, I was struggling so many years thinking I wanted kids. When I realized that I was struggling, because I really don't want kids, I finally felt free when I could tell myself: I don't have to have kids.

    • @1Skorpia
      @1Skorpia 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Marriage too!

    • @thrice302
      @thrice302 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Cats cats cats cats cats cats cats cats

    • @thrice302
      @thrice302 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      g cats

  • @abeerabugharbiya3545
    @abeerabugharbiya3545 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3713

    I’m 55 with no kids. I took this decision when I was 14 and I have no regrets. I adore children but I never wanted my own.

    • @STMARTIN009
      @STMARTIN009 3 ปีที่แล้ว +215

      I am a 40 year old man. I guess I just like my freedom to do what I want outside of work too much and the financial stress would be too much to deal with.

    • @lotuswolf1518
      @lotuswolf1518 3 ปีที่แล้ว +101

      I decided not to have kids when I turned 23 and pandemic started , I had to compete and struggle to make ends meet also I still live with my parents alot of people in India do ,I have always wanted to adopt a kid

    • @bernardodelcarlo6704
      @bernardodelcarlo6704 3 ปีที่แล้ว +101

      I’m 26. I didn’t want kids since i was 13

    • @juanpedro4083
      @juanpedro4083 3 ปีที่แล้ว +188

      I do not want to have children, the world is not easy and everything indicates that it will only get worse. I don't want to put a child in the world to suffer.

    • @lotuswolf1518
      @lotuswolf1518 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      @@juanpedro4083 exactly , I wouldn't do that either

  • @Apricot90
    @Apricot90 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    There were hundreds of years when "non-behaving", authentic, beautiful, smart and individualistic women would be burned alive. Since then the mindset of most people hasn't changed much. They would love to see us childfree women burn again because they themselves never had the guts to stick to their own believes and principals and burst out of anger and jealousy.

    • @redredred8408
      @redredred8408 ปีที่แล้ว

      Would you consider leaving on a red lamp in the bedroom and an oval light in the office and seeing which burns out first after a longtime, doing an experiment?

    • @scipion34
      @scipion34 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      ​@@redredred8408 I have seen you and your alt accounts do this for the past year. Why do you spend your time 24/7 just trying to be wise/funny and not do something else?

    • @rammohan1991
      @rammohan1991 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Please take your meds .

  • @karenpaulina8848
    @karenpaulina8848 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1188

    I was just talking to a friend yesterday and she started telling me that she was angry at her mom for not having telling her the reality about having kids, that she only told her a fantasy and never told her all the pains and horrors that happen to the body, mental health, financially etc... I felt sorry for her... So, women! Please stop sugar-coating maternity please.

    • @kerynl.sanchez9891
      @kerynl.sanchez9891 3 ปีที่แล้ว +173

      I agree, it is often romanticized as if it was a fairytale, but in reality is devastating for some women and often a cause for splits in marriages 😒

    • @pjangels609
      @pjangels609 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Her mom told her a fantasy? Like the stork story? How old is your friend? in her teens?

    • @damnyourpasswords
      @damnyourpasswords 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      this generation is raised non pain, only gain.
      Cannot understand that life is a struggle, nature is struggle, nothing is offered, all must be conquered.

    • @kansasthunderman1
      @kansasthunderman1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      Having a baby does alter a woman's body (and mind) and there may be negative side effects like post partum depression. Andrea Yates (the mother of her 5 drown children) is a prime example of what can go terribly wrong.

    • @rehema2018
      @rehema2018 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@kansasthunderman1
      exactly thank you I’ve always been told by my mother that I am a mistake that I ruined her

  • @HeyPhonsi
    @HeyPhonsi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +559

    Some women who have kids, shouldn't have.

  • @chelseamiller5568
    @chelseamiller5568 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2149

    Im 34 and don’t want kids and don’t even want to date people with children. So my dating profiles say “I don’t want kids and I’m sorry but I don’t want yours either”

    •  3 ปีที่แล้ว +237

      You're a smart woman.

    • @alexandergapour1253
      @alexandergapour1253 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Why do single fathers date

    • @alfredoalcantar8691
      @alfredoalcantar8691 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Fact's

    • @solointheburbs
      @solointheburbs 3 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      I have the same thing on my profile as well. Do you find you still have those with children still contacting you? That's ALL I get. I put it right at the beginning of my profile and I still get fathers contacting me.

    • @jip230
      @jip230 3 ปีที่แล้ว +66

      @@solointheburbs ok, I thought I was the only woman who did this. And YES, I get single fathers who contact me all the time. I'm like, "why would you even consider someone who expressly stated that she doesn't want to date someone with kids?" I totally don't get it, but maybe more videos like this will help people better understand that if we don't have kids, we don't want yours

  • @ztimpatpatpat6608
    @ztimpatpatpat6608 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Nah. I dont want to bring a child into this world. In my life experience. Family is not there for you through your struggles and pain. What is the point of creating one.
    I will never get it.

    • @tacoexpressSEEDEEholeeveryones
      @tacoexpressSEEDEEholeeveryones ปีที่แล้ว

      danny reflection on the ceiling

    • @igors1234
      @igors1234 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Family is the only thing that would support you through your struggles and pain. Maybe it's just your family in which members don't care about each other. It's normal that during evolution different individuals get different traits, and one traits are able to survive and pass their genes further, others are not, and you are from the second category. Selfishness is obviously a downgraded extinctive trait.

  • @kay-annclarke9501
    @kay-annclarke9501 4 ปีที่แล้ว +847

    People assume that women dont want children because they are selfish, self interested, afraid of childbirth or dont want to damage their bodies. The truth is some women have dreams that dont include childbirth and that doesnt make her a bad person. Also not wanting biological children doesnt mean you dont want children at all. Everybody is different.

    • @rosesweetcharlotte
      @rosesweetcharlotte 4 ปีที่แล้ว +63

      Wanting children seems pretty selfish, really

    • @xanzusx
      @xanzusx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      I totally agree, my desire is to adopt children instead of giving birth yet my parents see that as bad somehow?

    • @naiakiki
      @naiakiki 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      I've never wanted kids but got a stepdaughter and have loved being her stepmom. She is now 17. I've nannied for years and LOVE children. I just have never felt that urge or calling to have my own. Ive heard other women talk about that feeling and I've just never had it. I have a lot of pressure on me from everyone (not my husband thank goodness) but I'm sure in 5 or so years people will back off when its not a choice for me anymore.

    • @flamezodiac5736
      @flamezodiac5736 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Or we just hate kids 😂

    • @Rebe8d89AH
      @Rebe8d89AH 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Honestly, every one of those reasons is valid. No one owes the world a child. If a woman doesn't want one, she doesn't want one 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @tinanana46
    @tinanana46 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2099

    "You will regret it." - I'd rather regret NOT having kids than regret having kids. In the first scenario I am the one suffering. But in the latter there are two people who suffer - me and most importantly the INNOCENT child, who was born out of pressure from the society.
    Of course there is a possibility I will change my mind. But why is my opinion about not having kids dismissed so easily? When people ask me why I don't want kids I will answer truthfully with thought. But when ask why they want to have kids, a lot of times people don't even know. That is disturbing to me. You should KNOW why you want to bring a little human being to this world.

    • @actually_curious4773
      @actually_curious4773 4 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      you've summed it up so perfectly.

    • @007Aura
      @007Aura 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Spot on 👌🏾

    • @-youresogolden-7829
      @-youresogolden-7829 4 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      You’re so right. My mom married because of the pressure she was under (she lost her father before her time of marriage and no one wanted to marry her). She was basically looking for a marriage status more than love and she had the mindset that she will say yes to any man who asks her for marriage. When she told me this I realized why I am the way I am mentally, I finally knew why I grew up feeling so low and disgusted about myself. The way I was raised wasn’t out of love, I was just a solution to her inability to fit into her society. It sucks to know that I wasn’t the result of two people in love, and now the family she was forced to create is full of issues.

    • @prithaacharjya7716
      @prithaacharjya7716 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Exactly. Well said. 👍👍👍

    • @marti5183
      @marti5183 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well put!

  • @vivverz3810
    @vivverz3810 4 ปีที่แล้ว +163

    I have never had the desire to Marry or have children. I enjoy being single and living in different cities, traveling. I got a lot of criticism, but my life is so complete and fulfilled and I'm 53. I love my life ❤️

    • @Fan-zx1lz
      @Fan-zx1lz 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Great!

    • @21411354
      @21411354 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Love this!

    • @thevictoriaarzushow
      @thevictoriaarzushow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      wow and I see how youthful and beautiful you are!!! *high five* I want just that---freedom to be me.

    • @jessicanyokas
      @jessicanyokas 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are living the dream 😁

    • @jamievillegasroa
      @jamievillegasroa 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      you do you! that is actually the dream!! ❤

  • @st-wq3kj
    @st-wq3kj ปีที่แล้ว +203

    The fact that some men feel so enraged by women who choose themselves is pathetic

    • @danidiaz2377
      @danidiaz2377 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

      They just want control over us. Men still barely help out with the kids if they don’t completely abandon thier family completely and then try to shame women who refuse to make the sacrifices they never make either.

    • @deku3i
      @deku3i 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      @@danidiaz2377It’s not “helping out with the kids” it’s doing his part as a father, helping implies it’s not something he has to do.

    • @hiddentruths6961
      @hiddentruths6961 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      Hey come on I'm a man and I don't want kids either, I respect and support all women who choose not to have kids, and both men and women shouldn't be pressured into having kids by their partners.

    • @afonphoenix16
      @afonphoenix16 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​There are PLENTY of men saying it too.@@Prometheus7272

    • @YellowSubCaptain
      @YellowSubCaptain 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@danidiaz2377oh brother

  • @lucaslouzada44
    @lucaslouzada44 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2776

    The people who’d better educate children prefere to have cats and dogs, while those who can’t even take care of plants are having children...

    • @intellectualshepherdsclub6708
      @intellectualshepherdsclub6708 4 ปีที่แล้ว +72

      Smart people don't have nearly as many children as dumb people. Sounds like more of a smart people problem. If you really cared that much, maybe you would've had kids.

    • @eurekamreum5458
      @eurekamreum5458 4 ปีที่แล้ว +120

      I'm sorry but that's none of their business. They shouldn't feel forced to have kids just because they'd be great parents.

    • @redvelvetcakeYUM
      @redvelvetcakeYUM 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      It’s “the crazies” running the insane asylum.

    • @isaccarvalho2652
      @isaccarvalho2652 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      You nailed it 👏🏽

    • @Nelindah
      @Nelindah 4 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      Never underestimate less educated women for being mothers. Sometimes they are smarter, tough fighters and don't forget there are succesful person who raised by mothers who never enter school buildings.

  • @angelinaschlesinger
    @angelinaschlesinger 4 ปีที่แล้ว +532

    I just politely reply with “oh I don’t talk about that” and move on to another subject. Don’t even leave it open for discussion.

    • @katiebayliss9887
      @katiebayliss9887 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I wish that was always possible 🥺

    • @elvyde1
      @elvyde1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Say "If you really think I would've wanted your input, I would've asked, so please stop, change the subject, or don't speak to me"

    • @aliminiaentli
      @aliminiaentli 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I need to remember that line for next time, thank you!

    • @birdsbirdsworms
      @birdsbirdsworms 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      100%!!! people should mind their business - they don’t have a clue what’s going on in other people’s lives or minds

    • @jennifermarie3975
      @jennifermarie3975 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yes this is what should be done! I learned my lesson, I used to openly discuss my life with people (not friends, I'm talking about like coworkers) and let's just say the conversation never made me feel better afterwards. They would critique me on everything (especially me leaving religion which shouldn't even be discuss at work) so from now on when anyone asks me anything personal I've been saying "I rather not talk about this." And I immediately change the subject

  • @nkolemwaba2526
    @nkolemwaba2526 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1561

    Some of the most abusive child hating people have kids.

    • @yoleeisbored
      @yoleeisbored 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Chris Watts.. rest in peace to the kids and their mother..

    • @iamtheruraljuror9257
      @iamtheruraljuror9257 4 ปีที่แล้ว +143

      My mom said the most toxic words to us, but appear nice in front of her friends.. She wonders why all her children has mental health issues.

    • @boojoogoo
      @boojoogoo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      @@iamtheruraljuror9257 Just tell her friends, infront of her, what a bad mother she is. She'll probably stop being two faced then.

    • @treasuretea3549
      @treasuretea3549 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      All those poor kids 😭

    • @julissa3905
      @julissa3905 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Yuuupp, my mom had 8

  • @gracesanity6314
    @gracesanity6314 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Children will never make you happy. People are always expecting that to happen...never does. That l BELEAVE is a huge part of postpartum depression. The reality hits.

  • @rachaelthrasher9642
    @rachaelthrasher9642 4 ปีที่แล้ว +593

    “She’s too young, she can’t possibly know her mind” I hate when I hear this.

    • @katiebayliss9887
      @katiebayliss9887 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      But she’s not too old to keep a kid

    • @willx1598
      @willx1598 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Age doesn't matter when it comes to decisional maturity, you see alot of older people making bad decisions

    • @LilacMages
      @LilacMages 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      26 y/o woman doesn’t want kids: “Oh you’re still young, you’ll change your mind!”
      16 y/o gets pregnant: “Oh my gosh isn’t she so mature!”
      🙄

    • @SubliminalQueen368
      @SubliminalQueen368 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      They think we’re too young to decide to not have kids, but old enough to have and care for kids.

    • @mimesthaisilva8321
      @mimesthaisilva8321 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      “You’ll regret it one day.” I haven’t , because the reasons stood throughout time, and I knew they would.

  • @beautykitten10
    @beautykitten10 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3680

    I was recently judged by a co-worker for getting Easter Sunday off from work. She went around to everyone explaining how I don’t deserve the day off because I “don’t have kids or a family” this is the type of thinking that has to stop.

    • @Soulgirl09
      @Soulgirl09 3 ปีที่แล้ว +792

      She's miserable, lol.

    • @MsBluebot
      @MsBluebot 3 ปีที่แล้ว +631

      @@nikhilnewse3318 people who don’t have kids aren’t alone and miserable. They often have other family and friends in there life and people who are child free need days off too you know. You don’t know what’s happening in there life.

    • @MsBluebot
      @MsBluebot 3 ปีที่แล้ว +248

      @@nikhilnewse3318 no there not maybe some are but not everyone. I never said that they deserve more paid leaves but they do deserve paid leave in general. They might have something important to deal with, childfree/childless people have problems too you know.

    • @DarrenMalin
      @DarrenMalin 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      depnds if you having the day off prevented show one with kids from having the day off or not.

    • @MyNameBeAmazing
      @MyNameBeAmazing 3 ปีที่แล้ว +237

      @@nikhilnewse3318 the poster is talking about being judged by another coworker for having a day off NOT for having more days off than the coworker, so it has nothing to do with what you’re talking about. Your comment comes across as degrading to the poster and in defense of the coworkers gossiping/bad-mouthing.

  • @NESherv
    @NESherv 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2410

    "What are you gonna do when you're old and alone?"
    "Whatever I want! _That's_ what I'll do!"
    😂

    • @thrice302
      @thrice302 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      🙁🍺🍺🍺🍺🍺🍺🍺🍺🍺

    • @neiya8862
      @neiya8862 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      She means no one will be there to take care of you.

    • @NESherv
      @NESherv 4 ปีที่แล้ว +129

      @@neiya8862 Well, that's a valid point too I suppose. But that reason in itself sounds kind of selfish, doesn't it?

    • @folded_pizza
      @folded_pizza 4 ปีที่แล้ว +132

      Why does everyone assume we'll be alone when we're old? Quite a few of my female friends don't want kids, so we'll just party together. I'm 19 and don't have kids, am I alone? No, I have my friends, I have my family, other people may have a significant other, children aren't the only people that count as not being alone.

    • @cb4664
      @cb4664 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Amen! Just like now! 😀

  • @thebigb1286
    @thebigb1286 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    I'm a dude. This push to get pregnant freaked me out. Read into that what you want. I just can't believe that's a casual conversation. That sounds so violating.

    • @purpleelixir
      @purpleelixir 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Agreed 😂

  • @katkanegyke177
    @katkanegyke177 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1133

    Why is this an issue that someone doesn’t want children? Seriously don’t understand... 🤷‍♀️

    • @ameliapc3943
      @ameliapc3943 4 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      some people just want to pollute the world with overpopulation I guess

    • @joshuaberdouk7478
      @joshuaberdouk7478 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Is it that rare? I don't get it, why does anyone care?

    • @jasontillett
      @jasontillett 4 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      People love making a problem where there’s not.

    • @smallkitten769
      @smallkitten769 4 ปีที่แล้ว +85

      People get mad because you're not miserable and have free time

    • @rochelledavenport4054
      @rochelledavenport4054 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      @@joshuaberdouk7478 some people care enough to project their stuff on to other people, but not enough to roll up their sleeves and offer any practical help to struggling mothers and families.

  • @Amipunkiponk
    @Amipunkiponk 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3580

    Wanting a kid because you want somebody to take care of you when you're old, is SELFISH

    • @Pink_pr1ncess
      @Pink_pr1ncess 4 ปีที่แล้ว +337

      Ironically when children are adults they don’t even visit their parents in nursing homes 🥴

    • @David-qk7lc
      @David-qk7lc 4 ปีที่แล้ว +210

      @@Pink_pr1ncess yeah and when they pass the siblings fight over money 😂.

    • @charlotterandall8738
      @charlotterandall8738 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Like anyone actually does that.

    • @originaltheme5826
      @originaltheme5826 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@David-qk7lc 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣😆

    • @rose4490
      @rose4490 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      ... and it's also presumptuous.

  • @0Flow0
    @0Flow0 4 ปีที่แล้ว +379

    I wish the video started with someone saying either neutral "I just dont want" or that they dont like children. Because those are also valid reasons and should be okay to say in our society. I'm getting tired of seeing this "I like kids but..." argument.

    • @QueenOfTheDamned
      @QueenOfTheDamned 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      You're right!

    • @UKLeonie
      @UKLeonie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      Most childfree people do like children thou, most who dont like kid are parents lol.

    • @AkallabethGoth
      @AkallabethGoth 4 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      Agreed. I personally don't like kids. Never have. And I openly admit that when somebody asks me why don't I have kids.

    • @Emy-fh1zn
      @Emy-fh1zn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      One of the women did mention that they never felt the want to have kids. For me it the same, I just never thought about it and never felt that I wanted any, there was never a strong pull towards having kids, it barely crossed my mind

    • @camila8031
      @camila8031 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      EXACTLY!!!

  • @dgiordano1000
    @dgiordano1000 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +62

    Being childfree is best decision i ever made.

  • @lqkim9756
    @lqkim9756 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6904

    In terms of regret, I feel the regret of not having a child is far less damaging than the regret of having a child.

    • @carmiecat
      @carmiecat 3 ปีที่แล้ว +300

      That is so well put!!!

    • @asas-uf7sl
      @asas-uf7sl 3 ปีที่แล้ว +211

      100%!
      You may feel like how your life would be like if you did have kids, but the ultimate outcome is so much better.

    • @ssyxji659
      @ssyxji659 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Facts 💯

    • @swiftkidd9636
      @swiftkidd9636 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      Deffo great perspective and never saw it like that

    • @loo.0331
      @loo.0331 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      100%

  • @MsYolost
    @MsYolost 4 ปีที่แล้ว +521

    Having children should be seen more as an opt-in rather than an opt-out

    • @CRFSUIGENERIS
      @CRFSUIGENERIS 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Well said!

    • @PoeticOcean
      @PoeticOcean 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      YES.

    • @escazuzu9950
      @escazuzu9950 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I like that idea. I've never thought if it that way.

    • @melissam597
      @melissam597 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I agree

  • @EarthlyBeauty
    @EarthlyBeauty 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1614

    I like my money, complete freedom, sleep and stress free life

    • @tianshi2662
      @tianshi2662 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      So you are selfish

    • @EarthlyBeauty
      @EarthlyBeauty 3 ปีที่แล้ว +302

      @@tianshi2662 Yes lol

    • @cpb1998
      @cpb1998 3 ปีที่แล้ว +287

      @@tianshi2662 It's more selfish if you have kids for the wrong reasons.

    • @EGC_FRTMANDMUC
      @EGC_FRTMANDMUC 3 ปีที่แล้ว +79

      @@tianshi2662 What does being selfish meant to you?

    • @Childfree334
      @Childfree334 3 ปีที่แล้ว +181

      @@tianshi2662 YES, us childfree woman are selfish. At least we can admit that and be happy we did not bow to societal pressure to breed. Plus, the kids don't suffer from being unwanted.

  • @imapisces0308
    @imapisces0308 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Women who say they don’t want kids are usually some of the best aunties/godmoms. Because they have love to give but they know it’s not what they want 24/7. It’s so many kids in the world who aren’t wanted while these women are upfront knowing this isn’t the life they want. I love it

  • @siyammukelamahlangu8893
    @siyammukelamahlangu8893 4 ปีที่แล้ว +693

    I am a mom of one and will not be having anymore kids due to mental health issues. I totally get these women. You have to put yourself first. I realized that having more kids would only be fulfilling my partner's dream of having a big family. I am done being used to fulfill other people's dreams.

    • @IDFK__
      @IDFK__ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      I agree. I can’t imagine having more than one, I would lose it

    • @LolaBugzy85
      @LolaBugzy85 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Me too. After two miscarriages I only want one kid. It really takes a toll on a woman.

    • @ookreek5374
      @ookreek5374 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      M- K I’m glad you figured out what you want, you deserve happiness.

    • @vuyiswa-fumba
      @vuyiswa-fumba 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Coming to this decision must've been so empowering for you, too. Yes lady!👏

    • @glong86
      @glong86 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That's kinda cruel forcing your kid to be an only child when you can easily bring him/her a sibling. And its selfish to not meet your husband/boyfriend halfway. If he wants a big family, compromise and bring one more into the world at the bare minimum.

  • @JohnWick-vh2qy
    @JohnWick-vh2qy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2407

    I'm a guy and I don't want kids either. Nothing wrong with these women's choice at all.

    • @narcicide8814
      @narcicide8814 4 ปีที่แล้ว +106

      Get a dog instead.

    • @pepsicxla
      @pepsicxla 4 ปีที่แล้ว +83

      thank you, john wick, for your wisdom

    • @lacountess
      @lacountess 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Your lifestyle wouldn’t allow it. Smart decision.

    • @davidzhai01
      @davidzhai01 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      When you are 75 and lie on that ICU bed, you will desperately need some children, physically and emotionally.

    • @RawrieAddicted
      @RawrieAddicted 4 ปีที่แล้ว +229

      @@davidzhai01 Having kids doesn't mean they'll be there when you're at death's door.

  • @keiravalhalla
    @keiravalhalla 4 ปีที่แล้ว +352

    I am childfree and 44 this year. I agree with all of the women in the video.

    • @mediabreak1993
      @mediabreak1993 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Doesn't want kids isn't a bad thing it's your life your choice I don't want kids either

    • @Jay-vr9ir
      @Jay-vr9ir 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      You rock !

    • @jasonmartin4775
      @jasonmartin4775 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Props to you.

    • @theveefit
      @theveefit 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ❤️❤️👍🏽

    • @soniaramirez7106
      @soniaramirez7106 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I am 38 and childfree. My husband and I been married for 8 years and we decided not to have children. Many people tell us we deserve to be Parents, but honestly this world does not deserve my child...

  • @seaofcolour7431
    @seaofcolour7431 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Women should never be compelled to have children but be allowed to follow their passion. Also, the world’s population is the highest it’s ever been with all the negative consequences of pollution, unaffordable housing and impact on the environment. Society’s standard of living was always higher when the population was lower.

    • @freedommatters7677
      @freedommatters7677 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Based

    • @suptumberlumbertumberlumbe9305
      @suptumberlumbertumberlumbe9305 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I LOOOOOOOOVE NOT WEARING A SEATBELT!!! IT IS SULULULULULULPER FUN TO NEVER WEAR A SEATBELT!!!! I LOOOOOOVE RUNNING STOP SIGNS!!

  • @NorthwestNicholas
    @NorthwestNicholas 4 ปีที่แล้ว +693

    I have plants. They’re not as expensive and they don’t talk back.

    • @arandomzasshu7207
      @arandomzasshu7207 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Nice

    • @muffs55mercury61
      @muffs55mercury61 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      It's ok to love a plant. I do so myself.

    • @auroramacula
      @auroramacula 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      agreed. her name is coraline, i named her in homage to the new coronavirus. she is probably 3 months old by now. my little pink baby

    • @ilovefahrenheit100
      @ilovefahrenheit100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      OMG XD

    • @juliam5628
      @juliam5628 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      🤣🤣💚

  • @nthabisengp6229
    @nthabisengp6229 4 ปีที่แล้ว +583

    As a 30 year old woman who lives in Africa, I completely understand where these women come from. Here your own parents will blackmail you you into having children. They force both men and women. No matter what you achieve, if you don’t have kids., you are considered a failure.

    • @jasonmartin4775
      @jasonmartin4775 4 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      That's insane. Coercion culture has to stop.

    • @bubblegum2741
      @bubblegum2741 4 ปีที่แล้ว +88

      Rishi
      It’s not a competition on who has it worse. She didnt mention anywhere else in the world, just the struggle in where she lives.

    • @shana-kaybarrett-smith4237
      @shana-kaybarrett-smith4237 4 ปีที่แล้ว +66

      Same here in Jamaica. I was bullied everyday at work for not wanting any and by family members. I was often told by child abusers who have multiple kids, that I am wicked.

    • @theoriesandscience468
      @theoriesandscience468 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Do whatever you want hun I know it hurts what they say but leave the way you want

    • @komalahayes1535
      @komalahayes1535 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Happy " failure" here... I can take occasional naps and don't have to worry about anyone else. Also TOO BROKE!!!

  • @kimmyhead7097
    @kimmyhead7097 4 ปีที่แล้ว +274

    Shouldn't be a big deal. Some women just don't want to have kids. Other women should respect that.

    • @glittermoon711
      @glittermoon711 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Exactly!

    • @daisylu1203
      @daisylu1203 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Everyone should respect that.

  • @DiniandFam
    @DiniandFam ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I am 32 with no kids and trust me i am happy coz of this one choice I made. I never like felt that I need a child to be happy, I am just happy the way I am.

  • @BellaLouisaatje
    @BellaLouisaatje 4 ปีที่แล้ว +368

    I have a six month old. And I think motherhood is not for everyone. Children need to be cared for, so much that you sometimes lose yourself. And sometimes I wish I could have a break. I understand why someone would want to opt out of it. And that is totally fine.

    • @User555-z8x
      @User555-z8x 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      I don't know why but your comment exudes so much warmth

    • @lenomnom
      @lenomnom 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Thank you! Such a pleasant change of what we normally get to hear.

    • @sherrytzasherrytza4793
      @sherrytzasherrytza4793 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I hope you have a friend that can take over sometimes. Being a mum it's a beautiful experience but I know from my friend how exhausting it can be. I'd sometimes pop in and find her stressed, on the verge of crying. I'd watch the baby so she could have a long relaxing bath, or a nap in the afternoon. She's a wonderful, loving, caring woman just like you. X

    • @BellaLouisaatje
      @BellaLouisaatje 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@User555-z8x thank you.

    • @BellaLouisaatje
      @BellaLouisaatje 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@lenomnom I'm so sorry that the comments are usually different. I wish people would understand that it's ok to choose

  • @tonika7543
    @tonika7543 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2780

    I don’t want kids, they’re expensive and too much responsibility. Parenting is the toughest job, and I don’t think I could handle it.

    • @S_M_456-c8n
      @S_M_456-c8n 3 ปีที่แล้ว +271

      It is your choice!! . Dont let the society judge you !!

    • @ILovePlayingZeldaGamesOnSwitch
      @ILovePlayingZeldaGamesOnSwitch 3 ปีที่แล้ว +103

      This is my reasoning too.

    • @miket6094
      @miket6094 3 ปีที่แล้ว +152

      I've been single for almost 5 years because I don't want kids and I don't want to date a woman that has children. So basically my options are extremely limited since 90% of women have/want kids. 😩

    • @bagh98
      @bagh98 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Fair enough but why was trying to toughen up not the choice you made? It's very much true that life's meaning is found in voluntary adoption of responsibility.

    • @bagh98
      @bagh98 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@S_M_456-c8n society keeps you accountable. Without the boundaries society sets, we'd be lost. That's not to say society is perfect.

  • @minajan4316
    @minajan4316 3 ปีที่แล้ว +840

    Just because I have an uterus don't mean I have to reproduce. A lot of people who have kids end up alone 🙄🤷🏼‍♀

    • @princess_selfimprovement
      @princess_selfimprovement 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      Yeah, I think for now it’s completely ok, since we’re overpopulated and there are kids in adoption centers.

    • @Seissmo
      @Seissmo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Definitely not having kids. Not in this world.

    • @greenteapeng_
      @greenteapeng_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      💯 Just like how everyone has a brain but not everyone uses theirs 🙄