1. Construction Site 2. Swap Meet / Yard Sale 3. Your Cousin's Parole Hearing 4. Fine Young Cannibals Reunion Tour 5. Home Depot 6. CPR Class 7. County Clerk's Office 8. Blood Drive 9. Oil Change 10. Church
@@DesertBurst92 i think museums take the focus off you paying attention to your date. and that to me is the smartest first date. listening and learning and paying attention. at a table, not walking around a building or park. just my opinion of course...museums better for later dates
My sister hates coffee dates. She calls them "low effort." When I pointed out that more and more guys are opting for coffee dates because there are a lot of women who will use guys to get free dinner, she got personally offended. :/
@@timtarbet4594 I meant - explain to her gently, because that is for her own good if you think about it. Feeling entitled to something is not good in any way, not only dating. Good luck mate!
(Places to go out with date Courtney’s favorite 💓 ) 1. Coffee shop 2. Breakfast or brunch date 3. Outdoor walks 4. Minigolf 5. Picnic outdoors 6. farms market 7. Museums or botanical gardens 8. Brewery and wine tasting places
1 FIRST DATES COFFEE SHOP IN TOWN 2 BEREAKFAST OR LUNCH OR BRUNCH DATE 3 OUTDOORS FOR WALKS 4 MINI GOLF 5 PICNIC OUTDOORS 6 FARMERS MARKET 7 MUSEUMS OR BOTANICAL GARDENS 8 BREWERY & WINE TASTING PLACES FOR FIRST DATES
All good first dates if you’re trying to get Friend zoned. The only 2 first dates options are drinks or maybe and I do mean maybe a walk in the park. That’s it for first dates.
@@gerardlead9321 Walk in a park is iffy I think. By far the best IME is evening drinks in a quiet venue, especially a place you know and are comfy/confident in. An activity like wine tasting might work, can't say I've tried that.
Outdoor festivals work too. It worked with my GF of 16 2/3 years. The botanical garden was the second date. Sadly, I lost my GF from prolonged illness, but I like to think she died happy and loved.
I can actually feel your pain, I lost mine and she had a lot more life to live, but... It was cancer that took her from me. I wasn't with her as long as you were with yours, but I still feel bad that she died so young, but I hope she knew she was loved. Yours too
1st date with my wife started with Italian dinner (non-franchise), followed by mini-golf, finished with drinks at the Irish pub; all on same street within ~8 miles from her house so no fuss no muss in awkward travel time. Trifecta led to a date ending with the most intense make-out; and of course a promise of a 2nd date the next weekend. 10 years & 2 kids later it's still one of my favorite memories ;)
i went for early afternoon coffee for my first date with my wife. i was just going out with her to see what kind of disaster the date would be. that was 7 years ago. i do use your videos for ideas what to do with her and how to dress to impress her. thank you Courtney.
My boss gave me a great advice. She talked about why she purposefully got a roundtable for her office. It was because she could choose witch angle she could face people when sitting down. If it was an interview or any form of pressure testing conversations she would sit at her desk facing the person she talked to directly. But in most cases she would sit down at the round table at an angle to make it more relaxed. It's a great advice for first dates because sitting directly facing eachother at a restaurant like in the movies or shows can make it too awkward. It's better to either just go for a walk and talk or sit at a coffee bar where you naturally have to turn your heads to look at eachother.
For restaurants, I always reserve a booth or a place at the end of the bar so we can sit next to each other. More casual and it makes it so much more natural for light physical contact.
This is great advice. Sitting across from each other actually builds intensity, and a woman will start to feel unsafe as the intensity rises. This goes against a woman's natural instinct to find a man that makes her feel safe. I always try to avoid sitting directly across from a first date.
I met a girl online and she suggested that we have lunch together at a nice place and we went to a museum nearby after lunch, it was a great first date!
I'm 31 years old and I've never went on a date before and not ashamed of it, even though I'm shy. I love watching these videos. It helps me get a better idea of what great dates are like and how to become a better person in general. Thank you for sharing. 🙂
@@gabrielwilliams5387 you dont have enough confidence for a date, why not date? You dont have anything to lose, you are losing those opportunities to learn
Thank you guys... I need to get out there but it's kinda hard for me. To be honest, I'm too insecure. I've been this way for a long time. I have no problems making friends over the years, but when it comes to women, my anxiety skyrockets and I just run and hide. I admit that I have problems being confident because I don't have any experience and I'm afraid that I'll screw up. But then I watch some of Courtney's videos and it kinda made me feel a bit better. I do need to break this thick shell that I'm stuck in. Thanks for the replies.
Great job! That was a refreshing list of ideas. It makes me smile because they remind me of some pleasant memories when I first starting dating someone. There was no grand plan. It was just casual, spontaneous, and convenient. 1st date) We took our dogs with us to a dog park and then afterwards we grabbed take-out from a restaurant to have a picnic. 2nd date) We started off at a Farmer’s market and then continued the date in a public garden. Again both places allowed us to bring our puppies. Fast forward to today, my wife and I have been happily married for many years, and while they are no longer puppies, our dogs are also still in love.
I'm in my 30s and I've never been in a relationship. I wish something as simple as the first date idea actually had an impact on whether or not a date wants to see you again.
@@3rdcoastnyucka I'm going to assume that rudimentary advice can be applied to quite a few of us who end up watching Courtney Ryan's videos. 😄 Hungry? Just go eat. Thirsty? Drink something. Problem? Figure it out and fix it.
I tend to avoid dinner for first dates since it could get awkward. One of my favorite things to do is to walk around the monuments in DC at night or a bike ride. Breakfast dates are also fun!
@@jengaaaaa I'll never forget it. It was outside, with friends, and fun. Went and had a great dinner and a few more drinks. We invited that sushi chef, Tahm, to our wedding. He has his own restaurant now and when we're in town we eat there and see him. He still remembers when we first came in together because I told him it was our first date. Pretty cool we think.
Transitions like your example are really good. Have X set up, and Y in mind a short journey away if things are going well. Walking together is good once you've already broken the ice; I don't recommend 'walk in a park' on its own but meet in bar A, walk across park to (eg) bar B can be good.
A great place to take a first date is the Zoo. I took my wife there on our first date, then we went on a picnic for lunch and then she suggested a movie and then she wanted me to come up to her apartment afterward, I said no, didn't want to wear out my welcome too soon. All told that first date lasted half the day. I have been married to that women for 32 years!
My best first date from experience, a few weeks at work before you even realize you’re on a date. After about a month of working with my crush my coworker gave me a pep talk to ask her out and when we were on the date I realized, our first date was the entire month we were chit chatting and finding out basic info about her. When we actually went to dinner, it was date number 2. In that month of work we found out each other’s family situation, all about her college, interests, personality etc.
For me, it was Olive Garden, Cold Stone Ice Cream, and Barnes and Noble in that order. We both love books. I bought her a hard back premium edition of, “Pride and Prejudice.” Later on, we got married and had two kids so hey, it worked! LOL
A picnic imo is the most romantic thing anybody could do on a first date. It's an outdoor activity, which is very nice and makes the activity more exciting, it fills you up so you don't leave with an empty stomach, and it gives you more space to relax
I’ve been inviting women to coffee shops all the time. No pressure, easy going, laid back places, and if things don’t click, you haven’t spent a fortune. Not that I’m ** that** concerned about money, but it’s a thing to consider. 👍🏻 I love these videos Courtney. You (and your friends, when they’re in the videos) give lots of good tips, and when the rona goes away, I’ll try to put some into practice, so thank you. 👌🏻
Yasss Courtney! I freaking needed this in my life! I'm married - so not going on many first dates these days ;) But this is great for those who are in a relationship, and just want new date ideas!
Your information is so helpful and concise. Saves me from trawling for hours through Reddit and canvassing the varying opinions of friends. Thank you so much for what you're doing!
i know this isn't related to the video content itself, but i'm so beyond glad you upped the video audio. i noticed with a lot of the older videos, the sound was down a lot and i had to spike the volume. great content as always and looking forward to more
I always pick coffee or drinks at a bar for first dates. They are pretty inexpensive and have the advantage of being in a public setting. That can help if the girl is worried about meeting me for the first time (lots of people around, but all busy doing their own thing.) Even the ones that don't go any further have all been enjoyable experiences for me. The only tip I would add here is knowing the vibe of the place beforehand, and any events that might be taking place at the location. The last one I went to had a big members night with live prize giveaways, so my date and I could barely hear each other.
A great option for an active outdoor date is frisbee golf. The courses usually wind through scenic parks which gives you an opportunity to talk about nature. Throwing a frisbee is a great icebreaker and always an adventure! If the date is going well, you can pull the picnic basket out of the trunk to extend the date. So, you get a bunch of options to explore each other's personalities or cut it short if there is no interest. So glad I found your channel the other day. You and your guests have been so enlightening. Keep up the great work!
I took a girl to grab some Starbucks and we went to look at the Xmas lights and decorations through different neighborhoods. Handed her my camera to take pictures. After the date I edited the photos and emailed them to her. She loved it and we captured some memories. You can do the same by going to the zoo or nature hike. A confident woman will let you take her picture and that's a green flag.
In England quiet pubs and some bars are great for first dates. I feel sorry for Americans if there's no equivalent. Formal restaurants are not good for first dates, the across-table format can end up feeling like an interview. I don't think coffee shops are very good for first dates; an evening date with some alcohol in a casual but quiet/cosy venue is ideal.
I’m 20 and I kinda wanna get into wearing button downs and more casual clothes like that, but I don’t know if that’s too “grown” for me like my peers say it is
Dude I wear casual and button downs all the time. I enjoy it. Dont worry about what others think. Take their thoughts of being too "grown" and think of it as looking Mature.
Do it. You'll stand out. Altho double edged sword - make sure to step it up when all your peers wear a similar outfit, as they'd stand out and you'd look 'normal'.
I understand what you mean. I'm from a place where everyone wears tracksuits or "brand" clothing. So to even wear jeans and a button down is seen as different or "not cool". I'm 24 but I like to change things up. I'm a sporty kinda guy so I'll wear tracksuits, but I aim for simple and good fit as opposed to the brand names. At the same time though I'll gladly wear jeans and a button down, or subtle jewellery, or something slightly more unexpected of me. I only started doing that less than a year ago and its garnered plenty of compliments from women. Its not about what you wear, its about how it fits and how it compliments you
Me and my brother got rejected so hard by some girls yesterday and it was one of the most awkward things that ever happened. We’re good looking dudes but I guess we misinterpreted their signs of attraction. You should do a vid on how to handle rejection.
To put it bluntly, its just a matter of dealing with it and move on. You'll be rejected 7 times out of 10. It'll happen. It sucks, but just smile and move on. A girl can remember u gracefully losing and might give u a shot later down the track. A dick move after being rejected can make u look like a sore loser, which is worse than the rejection itself
@@slayerbot1394 exactly, rejection is a fact of life. Get used to it. It’s called outcome independence, you should feel exactly the same whether she rejects you or not. No 1 sign of confidence.
There are also some places where there are a few different activities you can do. In my local area, there is a place where you can bowl, go to an arcade, laser tag, and/or VR, all in the same building.
Ehh, some of those are kind of cliché. I think the best one is going to a museum tbh. There’s people around, not to quiet nor too loud. Great to get to know someone. Can you do a video on advice on how to kind of get back into the dating life? I’m 25 and haven’t dated in maybe 4 years. I’ve become really anti social and don’t really like using social media.and the only way for me to meet someone is just by going out but I’m more of a laid back guy who prefers to stay home and watch a movie than going out every weekend....but I feel like I need to get back in it. Help?
I think an important note for an outdoor date is making sure its a public area with other people around. Some women might be uncomfortable with following some random dude into the woods.
I’ve been on plenty of first dates and I mean a lot, over the years and I’ve had some really good ones. But what’s surprising is that I’ve never been stood up. Every lady showed up and in time. It’s a great way to meet.
I recommend going somewhere you are very familiar with. You will feel more comfortable and it will be easier to show that person a good time. Even something as simple as being able to recommend menu items at a resturaunt or lounge is a huge bonus. Your comfortability will rub off on the other person and it will be much easier for you to be yourself.
I dunno. In my opinion any first date which relies on conversation (at least initially) can be a bit of a bad move. Both people need to be on that same mental wavelength for a long time to keep the conversation going, and if this is someone you haven't really gotten to know well prior to this I think it's more likely to fizzle out (unless you're both REALLY into each other, or the conversation). I think activity based first dates are ultimately the way to go, at least for the start of the date. Conversation-focused activities are great follow-ons, if that went well. The minigolf and museum recommendations are the best here, I think, because it gives everyone something to divert attention to and be engaged with instead of feeling like they need to perform in a conversation. As well, conversations just seem to flow a lot more naturally this way. :)
Some great tips and reminders for the future when everyone is getting back out there. These can work great too if your just hanging with friends and want to try something new.
I find it easier for me on first dates if it involves actively moving around. Sitting idly at a table is just an anxiety enhancer. What is there to talk about? Our interests? What if there's no common ground? It's hard to improvise and come up with questions on the spot and ends up with this "buying time" mentality because I don't want to be rude and end the date. Bowling is a great first date idea, or the arcade. Not too expensive but it's active and just flat out fun! I would be disappointed if she didn't enjoy arcades.
Great ideas... thanks courtney. I had a date and took her to con. She was a big comic book geek.. it was fun.. I've been on a lunch date and end up hanging all day doing errands with her.. anything that allows a chance to get to know each other is always helpful. These date ideas are very helpful
@@coryames1170 her dream was to write a graphic novel. She moved out of state because of it actually but in regards to your comment- do you bro and go confidently into it. If your passionate about something the right person will respect you for it no matter what it is.
I took a date to a boat show - a good chance to walk around, lounge on some boats, and grab Dayak food. Was a silly abs playful time. Be safe everyone! Scott from Michigan
I would prefer mini-golf or a walk or farmers market or anything that involves a simple activity. An activity involved first date will make the inevitable lulls in the conversation more comfortable.
What about a first date with someone you already know? I asked out a friend of mine the other day and she said yes and I plan on going to a restaurant with her for lunch or dinner. Nothing fancy and expensive though.
😊 I appreciate this, it’s not always easy to come up with ideas for a first date or subsequent ones! I overthink it quite a bit, but simpler is often better I feel
I saw a young woman the first time and subconsciously knew she was my wife. I didn't know her. It was a very strange phenomenon. Remember, dates are BS. Men know their wives when they see her the very first time. I had girlfriends that didn't last and a 10 year marriage with my wife and a daughter who's age 8.
One thing to add as far as outdoor dates - you don't want it to be TOO warm out either. Sweating profusely when its over 90F would be nasty and not particularly sexy. Of course I recall you mentioning you are based in Cleveland, where winters are nasty cold, but summers are really pleasant and usually don't get too brutal. Spring and fall in most parts of the country are often the best.
With women coming out admitting they create dating profiles for only attention or a free meal. I will never again spend a ton of money on a first date. I'll offer getting coffee/tea so we can talk or a not so expensive place to eat and if they don't like that then too bad for them I'm not going to waste my valuable time.
This video is fire! I have done just about all of these and have just about always enjoyed myself regardless if my date wasn't clicking with me. My 1st date with my current gf was at a Museum in the afternoon, dinner, then walk around the park. I'm fairly introverted and don't like noisy and rowdy places like bars so I never picked those types of places on any date. You should always do something that appeals to your interests, especially for guys since girls generally expect the guy to pay on the 1st date.
Totally agree Courtney, I think the club idea is a horrible first date idea. I’ve found going to a local pub or a dive bar can be fun because some of them have pool or darts. They tend to be a more quiet spot.
Breweries can be a good supplement to a bar if you still want to drink while creating conversations, but want something more alive than a sit down restaurant typically is
You need to record positive affirmations accompanied with tranquil imagery. Your voice and delivery is very kind and soothing. Best wishes from Chicagoland!
No to anything sit down. It's alot harder for guys to converse with someone for the first time. Do something fun, active and that will illicit high emotions. That will set you apart from all the other first dates. Worst case if no second date is that you did something fun! Instead of walking around aimlessly in a park or museum, I did a scavenger hunt offered online. Some of the challenges involved getting selfies so that brings you together. I have also done an escape room before but that was a second date since it required me to pay for both tickets. The extreme case would be taking a girl skydiving. My friend knew of a guy who always did that and the girls always loved it because of the thrill. He was probably rich but this just gives you an example of a high emotion activity.
Are you Middle Eastern? Middle Eastern guys are only considered attractive if they are tall, so that they can fit the "tall, dark and handsome" stereotype.
I mean, are you talking about first date or first meeting because I do online dating first meeting isn’t even a date. I just called it a meet and greet and that’s just a quick drink because you want to meet in person for the first time and see if there’s any physical chemistry if they look like who you expected you know so best for that is just have a quick drink and if you like each other, you have a couple of drinks, etc..
Great vid! But I definitely wouldn’t do a first date during the day or brunch, the thing with this is you’ll give off a friendzone vibe. And these brunches can be extremely expensive. “Hang out, have fun, and hookup” - Corey Wayne
Master of the late responses! One of my best first dates was at a set of locks that had a really nice park and trail as well as a little café. We did not go the distance but it was a great day, and the date ended late evening at the same location. She was a great girl, we were just not for each other. My next first date was at a city park, that was awesome because the date was hellacious and when the walk was done, the date ended.
I love your videos, you have great energy and your videos aren't like pickup videos with "magic trick to make women hook up." Its like gentle reassurance and confidence building.
ever since i discover girls when coming of age, i was a big failure. until my 20s that i realized, i was doing everything wrong. see, i was always the ones that make the decision on the activities for the first date and second date and by the 3rd date, she's gone. so, in my 20s, i always let the woman make the decision on the first and second date. most of the time, it's always the normal usual things like dinner and movie, or out to a bar and sometime her friends are there, i ain't gonna lie, some of the things on those first and second dates are pretty boring but, i always try to make the most out of it. plus, it also gives me a chance to get to know her. the 3rd date is when i make the decision. i'll take her to a bondage show, sign her up to get tie up and get whip by me because afterward, i get tie up and she gets to whip me. or i take her to a concert because what better way to tell her you like her by taking her out to see her favorite band play live? or my favorite band play. now in my 40s, i don't have a problem getting laid, just who i want to shag.
WONDERFUL First Date ideas!!! Ia woman & I wish we could start a conversation about dating "rules" or "etiquette". So many misunderstandings & resentments based on "winging it".
Hi Courtney! I know this is not something you'll hear for the first time but You look so beautiful.I really like the way you talk and I'm in love with the softness of your voice. You are like a big a sister to me. Huge respect from Pakistan.
I think the whole point is to make a connection with each other. Think of a place where u can talk where money or not too money is involved. A first date can be at a bar where u have "A" drink or two and sit at a table. Ive been to a bar we connected, we lasted for a year. Another we last for 3 years and some change. A park, a lounge area, a cafe. Get that convo goin to where she earns the right for a second date and then u can spend money on her, or not...🤷🏾♂️.
For the first date (or maybe more 2 or 3): Netflix or DVD Annie Hall 'n chill. Lots of openings for conversation along the way or afterward! And I still get a tear or two at the end, can't help it ... "because we need the eggs."
ice cream, park, beach, riverside walk, outdoor dining are my favorates. i have tried coffee, brunch, ice cream, park, beach, riverside walk, hike. museum, mini golf, picnic, farmers market, brewery tasting are interesting ideas to try! coffee can goes a little too intense because of the anxiety of silence break, same to brunch. hike is distracting for me as i can focus only on the hiking or conversation lol.
Got a date next week and she's the one who actually suggested food and a couple of drinks... exactly what I was thinking too but she beat me to it. Not really sure what this means but I'm equal parts excited and terrified
For the first date from my last relationship we went to the park and took a long walk around and then went to Starbucks afterwards. Was a good time with her. Only downside was the long distance between us.
I find getting outside for something simple like a walk around a park then a drink/ coffee. I love sports so I try to get them into it, like sailing, rock climbing, cycling. But if she’s not into it, something like swimming/ hiking are great options.
going on my first actual date in 2-3 days i’m scared af not really about what to talk about because i’m pretty social, but if she thinks i’m ugly even tho i showed her most of my pics
Of course i would be late to this lol but these first date tips are certainly worth the wait Courtney. I actually think coffee is a great first date because if you not feeling the person, you can easily just leave. However if the date is going well, you can suggest going for one of the outdoor options. It gets hot here in Louisiana so i would probably choose something that would keep me in my date cool yet engaged. Also i love that farmers market idea. We get those here in the spring/summer. Thanks for your help. Have a lovely day 😊🌼
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1. Construction Site
2. Swap Meet / Yard Sale
3. Your Cousin's Parole Hearing
4. Fine Young Cannibals Reunion Tour
5. Home Depot
6. CPR Class
7. County Clerk's Office
8. Blood Drive
9. Oil Change
10. Church
That’s actually pretty damn funny
I laughed a lot at no 3 😂😂😂
You win this one!
brutha mon.. you got me. S!ht is hilarious.
What about Hooter's or Twin Peaks?
One thing in particular I love about Courtney's videos is that there's no annoyng intro montage or obnoxious intro music!
🥰 thank you!
I concur
@@mikeeldridge946 But Alpha M's intro isn't annoying though. Lol 😆
It's so smoooth
@@zombieslayer7759 Yes, it is!
Cannot stress how great museums are for dates, If there is a break in the conversation, you can talk about literally what is right in front of you.
but for 1st dates? nah
@@robi6317 get something to drink or eat prior.
@@DesertBurst92 i think museums take the focus off you paying attention to your date. and that to me is the smartest first date. listening and learning and paying attention. at a table, not walking around a building or park. just my opinion of course...museums better for later dates
@@robi6317 I agree 100%
Thanks for that idea.
My sister hates coffee dates. She calls them "low effort."
When I pointed out that more and more guys are opting for coffee dates because there are a lot of women who will use guys to get free dinner, she got personally offended.
:/
You should explain to your sister the meaning of the word "entitled" and why it is not a positive thing.
Sounds like your sister fits the category of the REASON guys are opting for coffee dates.
@@petkostoyanov5861 I'm trying to figure out a way to help her understand without getting her mad. I don't really need to start a pointless fight.
@@timtarbet4594 I meant - explain to her gently, because that is for her own good if you think about it. Feeling entitled to something is not good in any way, not only dating. Good luck mate!
@@petkostoyanov5861 ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
It's hard. She has a STEM Ph.D, so she's used to defending herself very aggressively in order to be taken seriously.
“You are what you eat”
No wonder I’m not enough
Lol
Well in that case im way way too much😂
Hmm I can now identify as a potatoe
Same... lol
(Places to go out with date
Courtney’s favorite 💓 )
1. Coffee shop
2. Breakfast or brunch date
3. Outdoor walks
4. Minigolf
5. Picnic outdoors
6. farms market
7. Museums or botanical gardens
8. Brewery and wine tasting places
1 FIRST DATES COFFEE SHOP IN TOWN 2 BEREAKFAST OR LUNCH OR BRUNCH DATE
3 OUTDOORS FOR WALKS 4 MINI GOLF 5 PICNIC OUTDOORS 6 FARMERS MARKET 7 MUSEUMS OR BOTANICAL GARDENS 8 BREWERY & WINE TASTING PLACES FOR FIRST DATES
All good first dates if you’re trying to get Friend zoned. The only 2 first dates options are drinks or maybe and I do mean maybe a walk in the park. That’s it for first dates.
@@gerardlead9321 what else do you reccomend?
what about a carnival or music festival like coachella lol!
@@gerardlead9321 Walk in a park is iffy I think. By far the best IME is evening drinks in a quiet venue, especially a place you know and are comfy/confident in. An activity like wine tasting might work, can't say I've tried that.
Outdoor festivals work too. It worked with my GF of 16 2/3 years. The botanical garden was the second date. Sadly, I lost my GF from prolonged illness, but I like to think she died happy and loved.
Man that hurts to read bless your soul. I hope you keep trying to continue to get closer to God it will help!
I can actually feel your pain, I lost mine and she had a lot more life to live, but... It was cancer that took her from me. I wasn't with her as long as you were with yours, but I still feel bad that she died so young, but I hope she knew she was loved. Yours too
1st date with my wife started with Italian dinner (non-franchise), followed by mini-golf, finished with drinks at the Irish pub; all on same street within ~8 miles from her house so no fuss no muss in awkward travel time. Trifecta led to a date ending with the most intense make-out; and of course a promise of a 2nd date the next weekend. 10 years & 2 kids later it's still one of my favorite memories ;)
I'm relocating. Where do you live?
Sweet!
My lady & I had an 8-hour lunch date at a "Lazy Dog" 11 years ago as our first date.
i went for early afternoon coffee for my first date with my wife. i was just going out with her to see what kind of disaster the date would be. that was 7 years ago. i do use your videos for ideas what to do with her and how to dress to impress her. thank you Courtney.
🥺🥺🥺 love!!!
@@CourtneyRyan simp😂😂😂😂😇
@@Albanianguy9 Simp
Still keeping the romance alive my guy!!
@@Albanianguy9 it doesn't appear that you know what simp means.
My boss gave me a great advice. She talked about why she purposefully got a roundtable for her office. It was because she could choose witch angle she could face people when sitting down. If it was an interview or any form of pressure testing conversations she would sit at her desk facing the person she talked to directly. But in most cases she would sit down at the round table at an angle to make it more relaxed.
It's a great advice for first dates because sitting directly facing eachother at a restaurant like in the movies or shows can make it too awkward. It's better to either just go for a walk and talk or sit at a coffee bar where you naturally have to turn your heads to look at eachother.
For restaurants, I always reserve a booth or a place at the end of the bar so we can sit next to each other. More casual and it makes it so much more natural for light physical contact.
This is great advice. Sitting across from each other actually builds intensity, and a woman will start to feel unsafe as the intensity rises. This goes against a woman's natural instinct to find a man that makes her feel safe. I always try to avoid sitting directly across from a first date.
@@00dfm00 sitting in a booth may be a little too forward/confining. Bar may be better.
Courtney is like a big sister that you have but without the bullying
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😂😂😂
I met a girl online and she suggested that we have lunch together at a nice place and we went to a museum nearby after lunch, it was a great first date!
Congrats my man!!
That’s great! 🥳🥳
@@ajnugget5396 Thanks man! I have been on 4 dates with her n it's great so far
@@xalch happy for you bro! Waiting on my gal to show up in my life 😃👍
How you both meet through online
I was want to but I don't how start
I'm 31 years old and I've never went on a date before and not ashamed of it, even though I'm shy. I love watching these videos. It helps me get a better idea of what great dates are like and how to become a better person in general. Thank you for sharing. 🙂
Go get you one bro
@@gabrielwilliams5387 you dont have enough confidence for a date, why not date? You dont have anything to lose, you are losing those opportunities to learn
Tinder up!
It’s all good bro it’s never to late take your time!
Thank you guys... I need to get out there but it's kinda hard for me. To be honest, I'm too insecure. I've been this way for a long time. I have no problems making friends over the years, but when it comes to women, my anxiety skyrockets and I just run and hide. I admit that I have problems being confident because I don't have any experience and I'm afraid that I'll screw up. But then I watch some of Courtney's videos and it kinda made me feel a bit better. I do need to break this thick shell that I'm stuck in. Thanks for the replies.
Great job! That was a refreshing list of ideas. It makes me smile because they remind me of some pleasant memories when I first starting dating someone. There was no grand plan. It was just casual, spontaneous, and convenient.
1st date) We took our dogs with us to a dog park and then afterwards we grabbed take-out from a restaurant to have a picnic.
2nd date) We started off at a Farmer’s market and then continued the date in a public garden. Again both places allowed us to bring our puppies.
Fast forward to today, my wife and I have been happily married for many years, and while they are no longer puppies, our dogs are also still in love.
I'm in my 30s and I've never been in a relationship. I wish something as simple as the first date idea actually had an impact on whether or not a date wants to see you again.
it does have an impact
Something is wrong with you. Figure it out and fix it.
Nothing wrong with it... everyone has their own time in relationships, career etc...
A pleasant first date might not create a 'yes,' but a bad first date can definitely create a 'no.' So I think Courtney's advice is good.
@@3rdcoastnyucka I'm going to assume that rudimentary advice can be applied to quite a few of us who end up watching Courtney Ryan's videos. 😄
Hungry? Just go eat.
Thirsty? Drink something.
Problem? Figure it out and fix it.
Back to back you are posting fire videos on relevant topics i really need .
Thanks alot courtney 💓
You are really saviour !
Yay glad to hear it! 🥰
I tend to avoid dinner for first dates since it could get awkward. One of my favorite things to do is to walk around the monuments in DC at night or a bike ride. Breakfast dates are also fun!
My wife and I first date was Mardi Gras parade then went and had sushi with Saki shots afterwards. Inseparable ever since. 20yrs.
This is a perfect exanple of keeping the date going. Good job!
@@jengaaaaa I'll never forget it. It was outside, with friends, and fun. Went and had a great dinner and a few more drinks. We invited that sushi chef, Tahm, to our wedding. He has his own restaurant now and when we're in town we eat there and see him. He still remembers when we first came in together because I told him it was our first date. Pretty cool we think.
Transitions like your example are really good. Have X set up, and Y in mind a short journey away if things are going well. Walking together is good once you've already broken the ice; I don't recommend 'walk in a park' on its own but meet in bar A, walk across park to (eg) bar B can be good.
A great place to take a first date is the Zoo. I took my wife there on our first date, then we went on a picnic for lunch and then she suggested a movie and then she wanted me to come up to her apartment afterward, I said no, didn't want to wear out my welcome too soon. All told that first date lasted half the day. I have been married to that women for 32 years!
Lol captain save a hor
Thank you for the ideas Courtney! Just asked out the girl of my dreams (she said yes!). This helps immensely.
Yay! So happy for you 🥺
Congratulations! Just remember to focus on the person she actually is instead of the projection of who you think she is and have fun!
@@ryanbarker3978 Thank you for the advice!
Good luck dude! 🙌🏻
@@zombieslayer7759 Thanks man! We're both super excited for it 😁
My best first date from experience, a few weeks at work before you even realize you’re on a date. After about a month of working with my crush my coworker gave me a pep talk to ask her out and when we were on the date I realized, our first date was the entire month we were chit chatting and finding out basic info about her. When we actually went to dinner, it was date number 2. In that month of work we found out each other’s family situation, all about her college, interests, personality etc.
For me, it was Olive Garden, Cold Stone Ice Cream, and Barnes and Noble in that order. We both love books. I bought her a hard back premium edition of, “Pride and Prejudice.” Later on, we got married and had two kids so hey, it worked! LOL
A picnic imo is the most romantic thing anybody could do on a first date. It's an outdoor activity, which is very nice and makes the activity more exciting, it fills you up so you don't leave with an empty stomach, and it gives you more space to relax
I’ve been inviting women to coffee shops all the time. No pressure, easy going, laid back places, and if things don’t click, you haven’t spent a fortune. Not that I’m ** that** concerned about money, but it’s a thing to consider. 👍🏻
I love these videos Courtney. You (and your friends, when they’re in the videos) give lots of good tips, and when the rona goes away, I’ll try to put some into practice, so thank you. 👌🏻
Yasss Courtney! I freaking needed this in my life! I'm married - so not going on many first dates these days ;) But this is great for those who are in a relationship, and just want new date ideas!
Watch Papi take notes! 😂 thanks love!
You're planning to cheat or already cheating. Guaranteed. Sad
As someone who never had a girlfriend and doesn't talk to girls, this is very helpful. ❤
Your information is so helpful and concise. Saves me from trawling for hours through Reddit and canvassing the varying opinions of friends. Thank you so much for what you're doing!
Happy to help!
i know this isn't related to the video content itself, but i'm so beyond glad you upped the video audio. i noticed with a lot of the older videos, the sound was down a lot and i had to spike the volume. great content as always and looking forward to more
I always pick coffee or drinks at a bar for first dates. They are pretty inexpensive and have the advantage of being in a public setting. That can help if the girl is worried about meeting me for the first time (lots of people around, but all busy doing their own thing.) Even the ones that don't go any further have all been enjoyable experiences for me.
The only tip I would add here is knowing the vibe of the place beforehand, and any events that might be taking place at the location. The last one I went to had a big members night with live prize giveaways, so my date and I could barely hear each other.
Courtney it would be interesting if you did a video on which boxes Ted ticked based on the tips you've been giving us.
A great option for an active outdoor date is frisbee golf. The courses usually wind through scenic parks which gives you an opportunity to talk about nature. Throwing a frisbee is a great icebreaker and always an adventure! If the date is going well, you can pull the picnic basket out of the trunk to extend the date. So, you get a bunch of options to explore each other's personalities or cut it short if there is no interest.
So glad I found your channel the other day. You and your guests have been so enlightening. Keep up the great work!
Dear Courtney,
thank you for being our big sister.
My lady & I had an 8-hour lunch date at a "Lazy Dog" 11 years ago as our first date.
I took a girl to grab some Starbucks and we went to look at the Xmas lights and decorations through different neighborhoods. Handed her my camera to take pictures. After the date I edited the photos and emailed them to her. She loved it and we captured some memories.
You can do the same by going to the zoo or nature hike. A confident woman will let you take her picture and that's a green flag.
Thanks for this one, Big Sis! You're right, keeping it lite and no pressure is the way to go!
Happy to help! ❤️
Love the great first date ideas. Now I need to find someone to go on a date.
In England quiet pubs and some bars are great for first dates. I feel sorry for Americans if there's no equivalent. Formal restaurants are not good for first dates, the across-table format can end up feeling like an interview. I don't think coffee shops are very good for first dates; an evening date with some alcohol in a casual but quiet/cosy venue is ideal.
I’m 20 and I kinda wanna get into wearing button downs and more casual clothes like that, but I don’t know if that’s too “grown” for me like my peers say it is
I think that’s perfect! Who cares what people say! You’ll be the most stylish 😎
Dude I wear casual and button downs all the time. I enjoy it. Dont worry about what others think. Take their thoughts of being too "grown" and think of it as looking Mature.
Do it. You'll stand out.
Altho double edged sword - make sure to step it up when all your peers wear a similar outfit, as they'd stand out and you'd look 'normal'.
As long as you own it, it's yours. So don't wait for anyone giving you approval. :P
I understand what you mean. I'm from a place where everyone wears tracksuits or "brand" clothing. So to even wear jeans and a button down is seen as different or "not cool". I'm 24 but I like to change things up. I'm a sporty kinda guy so I'll wear tracksuits, but I aim for simple and good fit as opposed to the brand names.
At the same time though I'll gladly wear jeans and a button down, or subtle jewellery, or something slightly more unexpected of me. I only started doing that less than a year ago and its garnered plenty of compliments from women. Its not about what you wear, its about how it fits and how it compliments you
Me and my brother got rejected so hard by some girls yesterday and it was one of the most awkward things that ever happened. We’re good looking dudes but I guess we misinterpreted their signs of attraction. You should do a vid on how to handle rejection.
So these girls had no class. Not a loss.
To put it bluntly, its just a matter of dealing with it and move on. You'll be rejected 7 times out of 10. It'll happen. It sucks, but just smile and move on.
A girl can remember u gracefully losing and might give u a shot later down the track. A dick move after being rejected can make u look like a sore loser, which is worse than the rejection itself
@@slayerbot1394 exactly, rejection is a fact of life. Get used to it. It’s called outcome independence, you should feel exactly the same whether she rejects you or not. No 1 sign of confidence.
your videos are getting a lot better. saved this one. thanks
There are also some places where there are a few different activities you can do. In my local area, there is a place where you can bowl, go to an arcade, laser tag, and/or VR, all in the same building.
Ehh, some of those are kind of cliché. I think the best one is going to a museum tbh. There’s people around, not to quiet nor too loud. Great to get to know someone. Can you do a video on advice on how to kind of get back into the dating life? I’m 25 and haven’t dated in maybe 4 years. I’ve become really anti social and don’t really like using social media.and the only way for me to meet someone is just by going out but I’m more of a laid back guy who prefers to stay home and watch a movie than going out every weekend....but I feel like I need to get back in it. Help?
You've kinda answered your own question, havent you?
I think an important note for an outdoor date is making sure its a public area with other people around. Some women might be uncomfortable with following some random dude into the woods.
I’ve been on plenty of first dates and I mean a lot, over the years and I’ve had some really good ones. But what’s surprising is that I’ve never been stood up. Every lady showed up and in time. It’s a great way to meet.
I recommend going somewhere you are very familiar with. You will feel more comfortable and it will be easier to show that person a good time. Even something as simple as being able to recommend menu items at a resturaunt or lounge is a huge bonus. Your comfortability will rub off on the other person and it will be much easier for you to be yourself.
I dunno. In my opinion any first date which relies on conversation (at least initially) can be a bit of a bad move. Both people need to be on that same mental wavelength for a long time to keep the conversation going, and if this is someone you haven't really gotten to know well prior to this I think it's more likely to fizzle out (unless you're both REALLY into each other, or the conversation).
I think activity based first dates are ultimately the way to go, at least for the start of the date. Conversation-focused activities are great follow-ons, if that went well. The minigolf and museum recommendations are the best here, I think, because it gives everyone something to divert attention to and be engaged with instead of feeling like they need to perform in a conversation. As well, conversations just seem to flow a lot more naturally this way. :)
Some great tips and reminders for the future when everyone is getting back out there. These can work great too if your just hanging with friends and want to try something new.
9) A martial arts tournament ring.
Plot twist: You both are the contestants facing each other.
Have you actually been in a martial arts tournament against a girl you liked. That'd be pretty rad
I find it easier for me on first dates if it involves actively moving around. Sitting idly at a table is just an anxiety enhancer. What is there to talk about? Our interests? What if there's no common ground? It's hard to improvise and come up with questions on the spot and ends up with this "buying time" mentality because I don't want to be rude and end the date.
Bowling is a great first date idea, or the arcade. Not too expensive but it's active and just flat out fun! I would be disappointed if she didn't enjoy arcades.
Agree with you. Ice skating during the Winter or mini golf are great as well. My last date was just going for a walk and it was terrible
I went on a first date to a wax museum. It really gave us a chance to learn what we're into without excluding one person's interest.
Great ideas... thanks courtney. I had a date and took her to con. She was a big comic book geek.. it was fun.. I've been on a lunch date and end up hanging all day doing errands with her.. anything that allows a chance to get to know each other is always helpful. These date ideas are very helpful
Awww that’s so fun! Love it 🥰
That's awesome that shes into comic books. I hope to find a woman who enjoys it too. Or at least doesn't look down on me for it.
@@coryames1170 her dream was to write a graphic novel. She moved out of state because of it actually but in regards to your comment- do you bro and go confidently into it. If your passionate about something the right person will respect you for it no matter what it is.
An outdoor walk is great! A hike with someone you don’t know well is in the same category as a long dinner... 🤷🏻♀️ Maybe not right away
I think bowling or mini golf is the best aha
Mini golf is a great idea. I've had some great date's that way.
I love hearing from a woman's perspective. You're great at this. Your hair is so beautiful
I really appreciate everything you do Courtney!!
Can you do a video on great dates for people like myself who are in a relationship?
Thank you! I can definitely do something like that ☺️
@Courtney.. more of like the combination of great dates for people in a relationship but most importantly, how to keep the relationship spiced up
A tinder date offered to go to a bar and after a couple of drinks we went somewhere nearby to play pool. It was competitive and fun for a first date!
🎱 Ooh, billiards is a good idea!
I went for a dinner date one time as a first date, paid over $100 and then got ghosted. Never again.
I took a date to a boat show - a good chance to walk around, lounge on some boats, and grab Dayak food. Was a silly abs playful time. Be safe everyone! Scott from Michigan
Hope you didn't buy a boat to just to impress some chick.
I love this channel. So different from most of the others ... She is so classy and calm! Very good taste and cassy suggestions for first date.
I would prefer mini-golf or a walk or farmers market or anything that involves a simple activity. An activity involved first date will make the inevitable lulls in the conversation more comfortable.
What about a first date with someone you already know? I asked out a friend of mine the other day and she said yes and I plan on going to a restaurant with her for lunch or dinner. Nothing fancy and expensive though.
If you already know her then basically you are on a second date, you can take it up a notch but you’re still paying. Low key lunch is a good option.
😊 I appreciate this, it’s not always easy to come up with ideas for a first date or subsequent ones! I overthink it quite a bit, but simpler is often better I feel
Exactly right! When things are important to us we tend to overthink. Keeping it simple is key!
Why do you rush to comment on every video before watching it?
@@CourtneyRyan Absolutely, and it can be tempting to want to do something elaborate early on, but I’d rather save it for later!
@@admirbarucija2018 you must have too much time on your hands.
I saw a young woman the first time and subconsciously knew she was my wife. I didn't know her. It was a very strange phenomenon. Remember, dates are BS. Men know their wives when they see her the very first time. I had girlfriends that didn't last and a 10 year marriage with my wife and a daughter who's age 8.
Finally getting back into it after my last girl broke my heart, cannot wait
One thing to add as far as outdoor dates - you don't want it to be TOO warm out either. Sweating profusely when its over 90F would be nasty and not particularly sexy. Of course I recall you mentioning you are based in Cleveland, where winters are nasty cold, but summers are really pleasant and usually don't get too brutal. Spring and fall in most parts of the country are often the best.
With women coming out admitting they create dating profiles for only attention or a free meal. I will never again spend a ton of money on a first date. I'll offer getting coffee/tea so we can talk or a not so expensive place to eat and if they don't like that then too bad for them I'm not going to waste my valuable time.
This video is fire! I have done just about all of these and have just about always enjoyed myself regardless if my date wasn't clicking with me. My 1st date with my current gf was at a Museum in the afternoon, dinner, then walk around the park. I'm fairly introverted and don't like noisy and rowdy places like bars so I never picked those types of places on any date. You should always do something that appeals to your interests, especially for guys since girls generally expect the guy to pay on the 1st date.
Totally agree Courtney, I think the club idea is a horrible first date idea. I’ve found going to a local pub or a dive bar can be fun because some of them have pool or darts. They tend to be a more quiet spot.
Your voice is so soft you could make me fall asleep with a bed time story
Breweries can be a good supplement to a bar if you still want to drink while creating conversations, but want something more alive than a sit down restaurant typically is
dates at a cafe always turned out well but I mostly prefer long walks and watching landscapes
I took a girl to the state fair and we had a great time! 2nd date is scheduled
They all sound fun! Definitely going to try it out! Thanks, Courtney!
You need to record positive affirmations accompanied with tranquil imagery. Your voice and delivery is very kind and soothing. Best wishes from Chicagoland!
No to anything sit down. It's alot harder for guys to converse with someone for the first time. Do something fun, active and that will illicit high emotions. That will set you apart from all the other first dates. Worst case if no second date is that you did something fun!
Instead of walking around aimlessly in a park or museum, I did a scavenger hunt offered online. Some of the challenges involved getting selfies so that brings you together. I have also done an escape room before but that was a second date since it required me to pay for both tickets.
The extreme case would be taking a girl skydiving. My friend knew of a guy who always did that and the girls always loved it because of the thrill. He was probably rich but this just gives you an example of a high emotion activity.
I love my crush and didn’t know where to take her on a date, videos always help!
Hope this helps! 🥳
Are you Middle Eastern?
Middle Eastern guys are only considered attractive if they are tall, so that they can fit the "tall, dark and handsome" stereotype.
@@Mogamishu ah i get it. Youre a troll.
I mean, are you talking about first date or first meeting because I do online dating first meeting isn’t even a date. I just called it a meet and greet and that’s just a quick drink because you want to meet in person for the first time and see if there’s any physical chemistry if they look like who you expected you know so best for that is just have a quick drink and if you like each other, you have a couple of drinks, etc..
Great vid! But I definitely wouldn’t do a first date during the day or brunch, the thing with this is you’ll give off a friendzone vibe. And these brunches can be extremely expensive. “Hang out, have fun, and hookup” - Corey Wayne
Master of the late responses! One of my best first dates was at a set of locks that had a really nice park and trail as well as a little café. We did not go the distance but it was a great day, and the date ended late evening at the same location. She was a great girl, we were just not for each other. My next first date was at a city park, that was awesome because the date was hellacious and when the walk was done, the date ended.
Courtney, you have such an elegant and pretty look today & again brilliant & helpful content. Keep it up.
Thank you! 🥺
I love your videos, you have great energy and your videos aren't like pickup videos with "magic trick to make women hook up." Its like gentle reassurance and confidence building.
ever since i discover girls when coming of age, i was a big failure. until my 20s that i realized, i was doing everything wrong. see, i was always the ones that make the decision on the activities for the first date and second date and by the 3rd date, she's gone. so, in my 20s, i always let the woman make the decision on the first and second date. most of the time, it's always the normal usual things like dinner and movie, or out to a bar and sometime her friends are there, i ain't gonna lie, some of the things on those first and second dates are pretty boring but, i always try to make the most out of it. plus, it also gives me a chance to get to know her. the 3rd date is when i make the decision. i'll take her to a bondage show, sign her up to get tie up and get whip by me because afterward, i get tie up and she gets to whip me. or i take her to a concert because what better way to tell her you like her by taking her out to see her favorite band play live? or my favorite band play. now in my 40s, i don't have a problem getting laid, just who i want to shag.
WONDERFUL First Date ideas!!! Ia woman & I wish we could start a conversation about dating "rules" or "etiquette". So many misunderstandings & resentments based on "winging it".
Hi Courtney!
I know this is not something you'll hear for the first time but You look so beautiful.I really like the way you talk and I'm in love with the softness of your voice. You are like a big a sister to me.
Huge respect from Pakistan.
Always with the best advice! Thank you Courtney!
You’re so welcome! 😘
This is great and really takes the pressure off.
Best first date happy hour
Wife and I had our first date a Pizza Hut and had my daughter and her two friends at a table next to ours. Always have friends nearby.
I think the whole point is to make a connection with each other. Think of a place where u can talk where money or not too money is involved. A first date can be at a bar where u have "A" drink or two and sit at a table. Ive been to a bar we connected, we lasted for a year. Another we last for 3 years and some change. A park, a lounge area, a cafe. Get that convo goin to where she earns the right for a second date and then u can spend money on her, or not...🤷🏾♂️.
For the first date (or maybe more 2 or 3): Netflix or DVD Annie Hall 'n chill. Lots of openings for conversation along the way or afterward! And I still get a tear or two at the end, can't help it ... "because we need the eggs."
ice cream, park, beach, riverside walk, outdoor dining are my favorates. i have tried coffee, brunch, ice cream, park, beach, riverside walk, hike. museum, mini golf, picnic, farmers market, brewery tasting are interesting ideas to try!
coffee can goes a little too intense because of the anxiety of silence break, same to brunch. hike is distracting for me as i can focus only on the hiking or conversation lol.
Got a date next week and she's the one who actually suggested food and a couple of drinks... exactly what I was thinking too but she beat me to it. Not really sure what this means but I'm equal parts excited and terrified
For the first date from my last relationship we went to the park and took a long walk around and then went to Starbucks afterwards. Was a good time with her. Only downside was the long distance between us.
I find getting outside for something simple like a walk around a park then a drink/ coffee. I love sports so I try to get them into it, like sailing, rock climbing, cycling. But if she’s not into it, something like swimming/ hiking are great options.
going on my first actual date in 2-3 days i’m scared af not really about what to talk about because i’m pretty social, but if she thinks i’m ugly even tho i showed her most of my pics
I've been looking forward for this
Love these ideas! The museum/botanical gardens and Brewery/wine tasting I would not think of on my own.
Great ideas Courtney! Thank youuuu 😃
I’m glad that I found this video. Not an easy task to achieve.
Of course i would be late to this lol but these first date tips are certainly worth the wait Courtney. I actually think coffee is a great first date because if you not feeling the person, you can easily just leave. However if the date is going well, you can suggest going for one of the outdoor options. It gets hot here in Louisiana so i would probably choose something that would keep me in my date cool yet engaged. Also i love that farmers market idea. We get those here in the spring/summer. Thanks for your help. Have a lovely day 😊🌼