I've experienced this one before. I don't what happened but 2 weeks later she was calling me "babe" and wanting my attention all the time. I just stayed cautious and kept it professional cause I didn't wanna put myself in a position to get disrespected again.
It has to be the way you asked her then. Don’t make it weird or nothing bruh. Ask her to hand out how you would the boys. Start the convo talking about a movie or something, get balls deep in the convo, ‘you wanna watch it with me’. Done.
This is the problem right here. Guys that have older sisters or sisters are more confident talking to girls because I got a sister (girl) constantly near them. Guys that have all brothers do not have a female figure to look up for knowledge.
Or say "whats wrong are you shy 🤭" or "do you think your a bad kisser?" And yeah, always pay attention until they give you the "interested eyes" and smile while you talk to them like 😃, then close the distance to their face and 😎
so true...if rejection was not " that bad" then why girls don't do the first move ? why are they so reluctant to do it and despite all this " women empowerment" there is no sign of evolution on relationship between women and men when it's up to do the first move.
Gotta be honest, I really dislike the idea that you can tell if a girl wants you to kiss her etc. i genuinely have no idea even withr the one girl who I eventually found out had been wanting me to for literally years.
I was out with a girl when she started putting on chap stick, I asked if I could try some and then kissed her. It took 3 days for the hand print to fade from my face.
The best rejection I ever got was, "Hey, thanks for asking. I am flattered, but to be honest, I'm not attracted to you and don't want to waste your time. Good luck." Direct communication is what men want and love!
It’s not more common. The woman always make the first move. The first move opens the line of communication for the man to speak first. The first move doesn’t mean speaking and we don’t know how to do this because we don’t know how to communicate verbally anymore. All social media. I’m old skool. Love your content though.
Logical thing is to actually write somewhat decent, but not too good message. If she's initially interested she'll respond, otherwise you may set up bar too high and lose her interest once you start declining with your jokes and stuff. I had the same experience by the way. A lot of girls just don't have any sense of humor. Still, even my "decent" messages some girls called the funniest they've received so far. Most of your competition is just horrible at texting.
"Just ask her out" was the thing I always keep in mind especially if the fears start to creep in. Worked wonders but I'm still making sure that the plans are set and my actions done with tact
You: “Hey we have a big problem!” Her: “What problem ?” You: “We don’t know each other” It’s worked for me good 😎 By the way Courtney looking lovely as always ☺️
Not bad! And this is coming from a girl. Recently I turned on love story from 1970 bcuz of the well known soundtrack. And the first time the two leads meet are not great. The guy is rich and a Harvard student while the girl is a poor music teacher. The girl made the judgement that he must be one of those rich sports jocks and was pretty cold to him when he was returning books at the library where she was also working. But the girl turned around with greatest first move. - hey, just cuz I'm a Harvard student n in the hockey team doesn't mean I'm snub, dumb n douchey. I am academically smart. - no, you're rich and dumb. I'm smart and poor. And that's why I would not go out for coffee with u. - you're really not all that. I wasn't gonna ask u out anyway. - And that's why I was correct, you are dumb to not to. Something of how the convo went...
The kiss: If you want a kiss from her, sweetly tell her to kiss you. If she refuses, or kisses you on the cheek, smile and move on. Verbal interaction cuts through all the baloney.
1. Make the first move 2. Ask her out on a date 3. Going for a Hug/Kiss (OH GOD, THE KISS! - THIS ONE IS A NIGHTMARE TO GET IT RIGHT) 4. Physical Intimacy
@@Awaiting_YHWHs_Return because Fs nowadays are not relationship material. In anime you can see the main characters being in healthy relationship with Fs (except the bitchy tsundere), in real life you will be only used as free meal doing lots of effort to get nothing in return, while Fs easily go with Chads that get all for free. So no thank you. I'm done, I don't play shitty rigged games. Dating is a rigged game and it's also a hoax/fraud/cheat, call it whatever you like, this doesn't change the fact that men are duped.
@@simoneracioppa5733 how would you know females nowadays aren’t relationship material you are most likely taking your anger out on women by watching red pill vids which has convinced you that all women are the same
@@simoneracioppa5733 you will never get to meet the down to earth girls if you have your gaurd up and quit the game even if it’s mostly bad apples it’s not worth not trying and being alone
'The worst thing that she can say is no'- I think that's one of the better things she can say since the 3rd option is 'yes' and then just flake out later because rejecting people is awkward so just say yes and then pretend to be busy everyday forever. At least 'no' won't waste your time.
Alexander, I think we've all been through that one. I used to have a 3 strikes and you're out policy, but even that can be a little rough, especially if the excuses seem plausible and she is very nice about it.
If she rejects your kiss at first, don’t feel awkward or dejected just play it cool. It’s not unusual for the girl to come back around and kiss you later that night!
Exactly! She either just wasn't in the mood to kiss at the moment or she was caught off guard and wasn't ready yet. But it is almost impossible to tell and you just have to wait for her to give you the signs that she wants you to kiss her or if she kisses you.
@@tonybeerhockey you've never actually interacted with a girl have you? Most of my adult life has been walking away after getting told no, and then laughing at her get mad af because her no really meant yes.
A rejection is a rejection, no matter what. You are basically harassing her if you try to kiss her again. That's why I always say that I'm done making the first move. If a F reject you, just throw her away. She had already a chance, and she ruined everything.
@@angrybellsprout what? If someone says no to me, it's a NO. NO doesn't mean "yes". A rejection is always a rejection, rejection doesn't mean you are accepting someone.
Guys. Men. Use your mind for great tthings in life. Don't give modern women anything, not even resentment. It will hijack your time, energy and your soul. Please turn to the thing in life that maters the most, don't cower away in lust for women from the things that you deep down know that you can and you must achieve in your life.
Admittedly, this is almost close to my first kiss at 16. I didn't ask, and I wasn't making a creepy smile like that. But the peck and uncomfortable hug was spot on. lol.
I was cursed with scoliosis since my early teens and it destroyed me mentally I lost all my self esteem and confidence. There were so many woman I wanted to ask in my late teens and through my 20's and didn't and I live with regret everyday it never goes away and is a nightmare to live with I am 47. Guys if you see a girl you like ask her out just go for it because regret is way worse than rejection.
I'm 20 and a few months ago I just got diagnostized a scoliosis. It's hard and painful but I try to overcome that and to make it a source of additional power unstead of weakness. I try to work everyday on this and I'll do whatever is in my power not to make it messing up my life! Your comment is inspiring me at my most. I'd like to discuss further with you so here's my skype ID in case your keen on talking your experience (sphinxal3), send me an invite ;)
@@alexist4223 The best advice I can give you is both physical and mental. Having an x ray so you know exactly how your spine is shaped is important so you can get a rehabilitation programme specifically trailered to you. Chiropractor, osteopath and neuro muscular massage will help keep you flexible which helps with pain. Try to stay as fit as you can and keep an eye on your cholesterol levels for some reason they have been found to go up in people with scoliosis. Now for the mental side of things it's really important that you try to maintain a positive outlook and continue to love yourself. Having a bent spine can make you very self conscious if your not careful and cause you to live your life in a state of deep shame. If you allow this shame to take hold it can consume you and the longer you are in it's grip the deeper you sink into it and the harder it is to get out so be aware of that and don't let yourself become consumed with shame keep loving yourself and keep living. Living in shame will cause you to withdraw from life and isolate yourself which will lead to chronic depression and a lot of missed opportunities in life. Don't shy away from the opposite sex if you see someone you like ask them out if your scoliosis is a problem for them it's their problem not yours just walk away and ask someone else out because there are billions of people in this world. Remember rejection lasts a few seconds regret lasts a life time. I hope things go well for you.
I used to think that until I was rejected by the woman of my dreams. It’s better to not ask, and never know. Who knows? You could’ve had a chance. When you get rejected you know for sure the answer is no. Trust me; trying and failing is much worse.
" The worst thing she can say is no. " 😀 she can call police she can accuse you from harassment etc... when i was younger, my friends (and me) were joking about this. now it is a reality 😞
About going in for a kiss on the first date my advice is to hold off until the second date or just kiss her cheek. If she’s looking at you like she wants to kiss, not kissing her builds tension and leaves her wanting more. You’ll be on her mind and she will be anticipating the next date.
I agree with this. The first kiss on the first date is really unnecessary unless the chemistry and vibes are clear as day. Otherwise, a little kiss on the forehead is so sweet and sufficient for the message you are sending.
My grandpa always said to me when it came to girls, if I can be brave for a minute the possibilities are endless. Especially if you’re someone who is introverted/shy. If you can just step out of your comfort zone for 1 minute, you might end up with someone meaningful. As soon as you can spark the conversation it’ll become easier as the date or interaction continues
be brave for a minute get destroyed over and over again for every minute of bravery when u've been rejected as many times as I have, and I can assure u, i've been rejected every time i hit on a girl, u will not have the stomach for any more bravery You'd just want to go hide in the darkest corner and die
@@gabyk2163 Well that says something about you. Change needs to happen within yourself if you're going to give up that easy. I believe in you, but you need to believe in yourself. Hit the gym, work on yourself emotionally and mentally and you will overcome the fear and rejection.
@@Kjertinge you have no idea about me, I am cursed, I sit with my friends at events we go to, stye get hit on and even though I am the one leading all conversations and I am all smiles and engaging, it's my ugly friends around who literally get hit on by women and I end up going alone and one more thing, hitting the gym is a crappy advice, i see the herds of gym morons around me and I don't like what i see
For me, i use the no kisses on the first date rule. Takes the pressure away and it's purely a get to know you exercise. Also avoids any #MeToo actions. The clip you showed emphasised my point, Do you think it can make her want it more? For next time? I've listened to most of your videos on here. Congratulations on being able to go full time on TH-cam. I'm sure you'll continue to grow and reap the rewards.
Have you made a video for women on how to make the first move? Thinking of your other video, in which 65% of men are hesitant to approach a woman in public due to fear of how a woman might react badly, and remembering experiences of my friends and me being too intimidated sometimes, and not knowing the non-verbal cues during my twenties and 30s, I think it's more important than ever for women to be willing to be more clear toward men they are interested in. I see a lot of videos, many sources, about how men are to adapt to the socialized ways of women, but I haven't seen many encouraging women to adapt to the ways of men. Example, any obvious indication of being open to a man approaching. A wink, a wave, "Hi" and hold eye contact for a couple seconds, or "Hi. I'm [name]" as she walks by, or "Hi. Let's talk" if she is near enough to hear. I imagine, many people would say like, "Women aren't like that. They're not going to do that." ... But I mean to say, it's important that women become more willing to Show more clearly that they're interested, for the sake of making connection, instead of missing connection. With so many people single, lonely, discouraged, and so many good loving men deterred from reaching out, whether due to internal insecurity or concerns of being judged or blasted socially, then the shortfall of connection becomes partly up to women to remedy. ... And I guess a lot of women need encouragement to be willing to try, to communicate clearly. So, have you or other people made an effective video toward that? Like you do for men; simple tactics to open up a talk, to then get a sense of the chemistry.
Richie Smith, Seriously. I’ve asked out a lot of women over the years. Never happened. Got no a few times sure, but a harassment charge? Never. That’s exceedingly rare to happen, even today. And no, it wasn’t my looks. I’ve been very fat and very fit, both got rejected and have been accepted as well at both stages of my life. It doesn’t matter as much as guys think it does.
@@TheGeorgeD13 exactly, ive asked out over 40 different women before covid and I had never gotten any threats or accusations of harassment. The key is to just not flirt with strangers and be respectful
@@ghostridersinthesky21 You can flirt with strangers BUT with the caveat that you SHOULD NOT flirt right off the bat. Get to know the person and see if 1) they're single and 2) gives strong signs of being interested in you, then you may proceed to do some light flirting. Back off if its not received warmly though. People like to make simple shit complicated, so hence why you get these bitter ass dudes in this comments section lol.
@@TheGeorgeD13 Yeah maybe theyre over thinking it. I personally wouldn’t go any further than telling a woman that she has pretty eyes or hair. At most, I might tell her that shes cute if things are going well
There's a difference between being confident and desperate. Learn that the best way to get along with a woman is to be able to get along without one. I'm 53 and at the point in my life that companionship is an option not a necessity. I've lived with a woman, fathered two sons, have a successful career as an Electrician. I've dated quite a bit since me and the ex divorced 12 years ago after an 18 year marriage. Met a lot of good women, some very interested in me but i just didn't have the same interests as them unfortunately. . Don't try the corny pickup lines. Be confident, honest and be yourself and the right woman will automatically show interest in you.. at least in my experience...
Your experience doesn't matter. You don't understand nowadays how is the dating market and how difficult it is to get a F. So shut up and put yourself out there and see how many Fs you can get in few months: LESS THAN 1.
As my previous comment, first rule: She must be physically attracted to you, if not, next rules will not apply because she Will see you just like a friend.
Looks don't matter completly, they just give permision to approach with confidence, if you behave as if you were a handsome guy she will think there must be something about him, passive attraction
Being attractive just holds the window of opportunity open for longer. If you’re ugly an you open a girl with something stupid, she’ll blow you off. If you’re attractive and open a girl with something stupid, she’ll give you the benefit of the doubt. But you’re looks will only serve you so far. You can’t keep fucking up.
One thing that helped me avoid fear of making a move was going out seeking failure and rejection. As in, “I’m going to go and get 100 overt ‘no’s’ in a row” and if I get a “yes”, it resets the counter. Seeking rejection consistently freed me up more than pressuring myself to go find success.
No need to seek rejection. Just keep trying 'till you find the right one, and she'll say yes, even if it takes a long time. Sure you will get more no than yes replies, so what, that's the game. Get used to it
"Do the asking. Make the first move. Girls think it is sexy," says the pretty girl who has turned down hundreds of advances. I normally like her content but this one is generic and tone deaf.
I had been talking with a girl on Instagram, everything was going well and then I asked her out. I thought it was a kind message and didn't make a big deal out of it, but she ghosted me ever since… so I "made a first move" but wasn't expecting such a harsh response to that :/ it sucks, I really started to appreciate her, doesn't know what she is missing haha
Sorry to hear that bro, maybe in the future try to ask her to come with you to a gathering or party with friends, this way she’s under less pressure. And will be more comfortable
Guys...don't ever kiss her on the first date. A hug or something ok but if you don't kiss her and she likes you then you will get a 2nd date. She'll be wondering why and it adds both mystery and intrigue . That alone has always worked for me. And I've dated 100 women at least. Works every time. Course you have to be prepared with a good answer later on...I use the being a gentleman excuse...they dig that. Haha.
It just feels amazing to throw direct flirtatious energy at women who are cute as fuck. Whether they want me or not almost doesn’t matter. It makes me happy to let it out.
I've had a LOT worse than just "no." ..."Ew, why would anyone date you?" or "Fuck no." Like, It's the look of disgust that hurts my soul. I know, those type of women, I don't want to date anyways, but, it still hurts man.
Your advice is so awesome. I feel like these are things that I've just had to learn through trial and error. You may be the first person I've ever heard verbalize the nuances of simple dating. I really do think you're making the world a better place by laying out a simple, approachable map for guys who struggle to understand how to treat a woman with respect. So refreshing.
Thats what I try to tell myself after being rejected thats its their lose even though it feels like mine. I was also born rejected, I was given up at birth for adoption it was predetermined then I found out I was the 3rd child they kept the first 2...so I take rejection more personally than most do. So now I just accept the single-life. It is what it is. Nice video though.
I’m sorry that happened and I totally understand why you feel that way but know that your past doesn’t define you. Some things are out of our control but it’s all in the way we respond and grow from it. There’s nothing wrong with being single but I hope you know how much you deserve to be loved! Rooting for you 😊
@@CourtneyRyan Thank you Courtney, appreciate that. 🙂Youre right, its just hard sometimes to forget you know? But yeah with a job or a girl I just tell myself that's ok wasn't meant to be. With corona throwing a huge monkey wrench into our lives it just makes ir more difficult but I will try to be positive. I enjoy your videos and youre so nice. People like you deserve to be happy.
That sucks man, I can only hope you found yourself better parents than those asholes that bring you to this world. If so, think about how much better your life is thanks to being raised by good people, and not those egoistic bastards who will probably raise you badly. Always look on the bright sides.
For better or worse, I'm incredibly introverted, and it takes me a good bit of time to get comfortable enough with someone to even see sexual intimacy as an option. I'm sure some women will appreciate not having to worry about me being one of those guys that's creepy or pushy, but on the flip side I'm sure there are women who will be very turned off by having to wait a while to start exploring the more intimate things that occur in most relationships, sometimes even on/after the first date. That said, I'm all for cuddling and smaller forms of physical yet non-sexual affection after a couple of dates. I'm not sure whether that's part of my social anxiety, if that's just how I'm wired, or maybe because I've pretty much only had long distance relationships up to this point, but it's definitely something about me that is very hit-or-miss with women in my experience.
I have watched alot of your videos and you have some great content and advice. The hardest part about meeting people is if you ain't yourself and where to meet people who are single. Haven't spent majority of my youth in a church I found too controlling and the relationships were based on status, not if a couple were compatible at all, now it's difficult returning to the real world after being isolated for so long is where to start. Pubs don't interest me or churches. I'm not a affectionate guy by nature due to my childhood and each new group of people I meet are either single mothers, no thanks or already in relationships. I had a local coffee shop I visited and often caught the attractive young woman staring at me who worked there, she was a nice person but to me too young as I just turned 40 and she is 21. I also found out she is a real party girl, another thing that doesn't interest me. I think the modern world is like a maze in finding what you need or want in life. Thanks for your videos they helped many people and Jordan Peterson psychology on relationships are great to help those looking to navigate through life are a good channel to get the right advice for those who are stuck in life as well😀
So basically the main point of making the first move is to pay extra attention to subtle things. I wish I was a psychologist or a communication expert I think it would help a lot in this case. Anyway's thanks for the awesome video I learned a lot!
"We all love when someone is interessted in us?" whenever i show a women that i like he she starts avoiding me, becoming unfriendly towards me. That hurts especially when she had been friendly towards me to begin with. And i never understand why that happens. First she is friendly, i start to like her, she starts becoming unfriendly to me.
''Don't worry, the worst she can say is no.'' Me: Hey I like you, I heard tomorrow will be sunny let's go do something fun. Her: EW, HALPPP SOMEONE I'M BEING HARASSED
You can avoid being rejected by noticing social cues such as her body language when you talk to her. If done right, you should definitely know whether she’s interested in you or not, without even asking anything. (25 and wow, my own advice is hard to keep in mind in practice!)
When I tried making a first move that involved touching, women have always said "get away from me you creep," or "hands hands take your hands off me." So, I decided I will wait for the woman to make the first touching move, and have found it never happens. I will never know what was wrong with my approach b/c I was always respectful - brief light hugs and no kisses. However..... I discovered dance classes! Women like being led by the man through a dance, and never object to having their hands touched or being in body contact. There are almost always more women than men in dance class or dance event. The swing and latin dances are great, and worth the time, effort and money to learn. It has been a real confidence builder for me.
“Hey could I kiss you” “Could I hold ur hand” or make it a bit more smooth like idk what’s wrong w my hand could u feel this part that hurts or whatever and then hold her hand. How difficult is that?
If a girl enjoys spending time with you and is receptive to going out with you, vibe with her and if you feel like you want to kiss her she probably feels the same way. Go for it
Asking her out, touching her arm, showing real interest, sending the first message can all fall under the category of 'sexual harrassment'. Is it really worth it?
They all fall under unwanted attention and behaviour. If a woman goes to police and says a guy made her feel uncomfortable or unsafe, you best believe the police will advocate and possible knock on your door. I've seen it happen within my family acouple times alone.
@@adrianchico8886 sexualising harassment is a grey area and can be in many different forms. And yes, if you even talk to a woman generally and they feel uncomfortable or feel unsafe by the way you look, you will be dealt with in some way by police. If the woman reports it
“You never know if you don’t ask....” was dating advice my dad gave me.....my mother told me women are like street cars, if the first one says no, there will be another one along in five minutes.
You weren’t lying. I was just brushing my teeth and walked past my bed and then bro goes for the hair kiss and I just collapsed face first into my bread grimacing 😬🗿😭
I asked a girl out one time. She said yes, but with notable hesitation and in an insincere way. Her tone of voice, I could tell something was off. I asked her about it, she replied, saying it isn't that she does not want to go. I canceled, due to her disingenuous attitude.
The low down is high quality women are rarer than the other type. And also a little harder to figure out I may have struck out recently with a high quality woman. But thanks to Courtney and other coaches I'm going to look at it as a lessen. I'm an older guy been married twice and been out of the game for a while. Thank you Courtney for your advice.
Courtney, male insight. Some men/boys have never seen the signs that you are talking about. It might be worth unpacking that. In my teens, I had no idea why women were so incredulous when guys or me "had a go". Truth, most women are very transparent when they are into you, and the first time that happens you will "get it". Most guys who struggle reading body language "cues", just aren't getting them, ever.
@ C O'S - You might be really surprised at the "inexperience" that is out here.Perfectly rational ,well-adjusted, 'good' guys who had no HS dates ,no prom, gave their time to charitable causes, etc., and have nothing even "close" to your social understanding. These men will NEVER understand the "games " . . . .
Often in my world? I seem to be nearly alone with women coming onto me🤔 I'm not bragging, just observing. I strike out too or get the "get the fuck away from me look" too😂. Buuuut I truly get approached often or painfully obvious, get hit on by women.
All Right Lads I Want All Of You To Keep This In Mind Woman Makes The World More Difficult For Man From The Day Man Started His Life On Earth With God Given Partner Because Of Her, Man Lost His Fellowship And Faith In God. In Every Dangerous Situation Created By Woman, It Is The Man Who Suffers It's Ultimate Consequence.
"The worst she can say is no" No bro it's not one thing that's worse is your message can be screenshotted and posted in the gc and get roasted and that's just one thing
I'm going for dinner today with a girl from work and will tell her that I like her if it feels right at the moment. I am so scared can't describe the feeling because bc haven't really been into a relationship. Wish me luck. God bless you all!
So I should ask her out but not come off creepy? Well the problem is asking someone out for a drink and maybe an appetizer on a Friday or Saturday night isn’t actually creepy at all but if they aren’t interested at that moment in time they tell everyone that I’m “creepy”. However, since she won’t make a move I have to risk my reputation for being “creepy” based on her mood even though I’m not ugly or actually being “creepy”? No wonder so many other men suggest dating women from non western cultures.
There is no better teacher than experience so dont be afraid when the opportunity comes along. It's going to be frustrating, tread carefully and pay attention... I think being direct fast tracks things.. time is a precious commodity so use it wisely. Great content. You and my relationship coach have the most calming voice. Thanks for both of you ladies help.
Sorry, I'm tired of that. The real "first move" is to just make money and peacock tf out of yourself or something like that so I can just keep moving along with improving myself and not have to make a move on a thousand women. Btw I am a good looking guy. Fuck that. I'm tired.
No, real men don't want women to make the first move. It's emasculating for the man on the one hand and just disgusting and devaluating when a woman approaches guys on the other. You want a traditional woman? Then be a traditional man, step up your game and don't shy away from a likely rejection. Just move on if she does not reciprocate your interest.
Why should men always make the first move? In times of ME2 it's meantime the first move to job loss, court and jail... In times of gender equality women are allowed to act first!
@ad izzle It does! Never felt better! Got rid of "I want you to do that", "You must do that!", "I want that!" "Buy that for me!" See, you think, I'm not capable of seducing a woman...But I do, I just left them behind!
So,Im out on this date. She looks amazing,I can smell her hair from here. We chatted for 8 minutes and when I leaned in to kiss her,I realized, I was watching a video of Courtney.😈
The hug/kiss part of that is gonna be the nervewracking one. Given the overall cultural eggshells covering the glass pieces. This is the place where having encouraging elders who can warn away dangerous women, and stare daggers at the women who are misbehaving would be useful....
Courtney, you are the first TH-camr I have considered making financial contributions to. You are awesome, thank you so much for your amazing advise! Really, really helpful. And listening to you is so much better than reading a book.
Damn right. She gives excellent advice, nice voice to listen to, pretty but doesn't dress all sexual like other girls for views or attention. Courtney (not her specifically cos I'm not a simp) is the type of woman I really want.
ME: would you like to go on a date? HER: ME: …well? Come on, I’m makin the first move here!! HER: (who btw is an actress on my tv screen) ME: fuck this.
I get it often.....i chill n let em come to me. Women are aggressive now a days. Think cause it's more acceptable in society. If a woman comes on strong, it's all good. If a guy comes on to strong, it's try hard mode or creepy...usually.
"Being rejected does not define you" - that's not even close to being correct. Read the "Winner Effect" and educate yourself before you spread misinformation online.
Guys are pretty bad at getting visual hints unless it is explicitly clear, so maybe just grab one of our hands and gently pull us to you while looking us in the eyes and lips, and that should be hint enough.
What I really obtained from this video is how important it is for us men to truly understand biological nature of women. I am up for the challenge and the important thing is to practice these situations as much as possible. Most men will always struggle because we are wired to be more direct with this first move but you have to remember that women will respond indirectly. Take on the challenge to learn evolutional psychology so you get better success for this topic. Great video Courtney.
Are you really listening a F to get advice for how to get a F? Do you really want to ask a fish how to get fished? No fking way. Fs DON'T FCKING KNOW WHAT THEY WANT!
All wel and good if your you, but im autistic i dont ven remember the basics like dont fidged and keep eye contact, for me to get good enough at anot only spotting the clues but acting on them in the correct way is basically impossible !
Take it one step at a time. Or two maybe. Like don't fidget and maintain healthy eye contact (not an unblinking stare). Work on those two in day to day encounters. Like with people you don't have romantic interest in.
Well I haven't met a woman recently, that I wonted to date, but it could happen one day in the future and if so it will be only a dinner date, I don't do any kissing or hugging, coming from me and I will decline, any attempt, from her to kiss or hug me on a first date.
" The worst thing she can say is no. "
me: * asks her out *
her: I thought you were gay
me: * dies inside *
It's sexy if she likes you, it's sexual harassment if she doesn't. One gets you a date, the other gets you reported to HR.
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Thats why you shouldnt wear yur jeans so tight
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“Rejection lasts a minute. Regret lasts forever.” -Alpha M
I think it was more like “REJECTION LASTS A MINUTE! REGRET LASTS FOREVER!” 😆
It’s so true! 👏🏼
@@pviau90 he has a lot of energy!
Understandable have a great day
Yep so true
Me to myself: "The worst she can say is no."
Her: "Ew."
🤔 hits to close to home.
if a girl says that, then she is just flat out rude and not worth your time anyway
I've experienced this one before. I don't what happened but 2 weeks later she was calling me "babe" and wanting my attention all the time. I just stayed cautious and kept it professional cause I didn't wanna put myself in a position to get disrespected again.
Exactly why I don't even bother approaching these creatures anymore.
It has to be the way you asked her then. Don’t make it weird or nothing bruh. Ask her to hand out how you would the boys. Start the convo talking about a movie or something, get balls deep in the convo, ‘you wanna watch it with me’. Done.
Girls make 1st moves now'a days? I didnt notice 😂
I been asked out by 4 girls in high school but it was competition from the 2 pairs of girls
same here most women are too lazy to do that
As a girl, I used to make 1st moves, but I was too immature by then. Really I don't thinks it's a good idea to accept them.
I just learned that. Now I'm curious why it never happened to me :/
@@marcusbrown188 Yeah, if you're really hot the'll make the effort.
I wish more girls had a calm smooth voice like Courtney's
🥺🥺❤️
Nowadays these girls got masculine voices eeeeeek
@@Dan-ei2be their voices are nightmares (and they think they have a singing talent)
She doesn’t talk like this at home. This is only to make money
Because not every human are same
Courtney’s like that sister that you have that’s always looking out for you especially when you’re having trouble with dating.
Courtney is way cooler than my sister. I do not get along with my sister.
You are lucky man if you have sisters like that. Mine was bitting me and calling names till I was too strong for her.
This is the problem right here. Guys that have older sisters or sisters are more confident talking to girls because I got a sister (girl) constantly near them. Guys that have all brothers do not have a female figure to look up for knowledge.
@@TheCentennial4 ain’t true for me. I grew up as the only guy in my family. And I suck at talking to girls.
True✅
If she rejects a kiss say, “it’s ok, I didn’t brush my teeth either” and smile.
😂😂 okay that’s hilarious
Makes the situation less awkward.
Or say "whats wrong are you shy 🤭" or "do you think your a bad kisser?" And yeah, always pay attention until they give you the "interested eyes" and smile while you talk to them like 😃, then close the distance to their face and 😎
👀😂
or: you're right. safety first. let me put my mask on first
*ask her out, the worst she can say is no*
Her: 911
so true...if rejection was not " that bad" then why girls don't do the first move ? why are they so reluctant to do it and despite all this " women empowerment" there is no sign of evolution on relationship between women and men when it's up to do the first move.
@@babacalouche because feminism isn't about make mens and womens equal is about have more privileges
@ b b c - Women like that double standard . . . .
more privileges, hating men, destroying the family unit.
"If you were the trophy at the end of my race I'd run backwards"
I don't have a problem if she says no, I appreciate the honesty. What I do have a problem with is her not replying at all. Like I don't exist.
The number of times where yes was the last time I ever saw her just makes it that much worse.
Fr. And a lot of women think that's the nice way to say no but in reality us guys prefer your words so we aren't left guessing
I would take no reply as a no and move on
No one owes you a response, just take it as a no and don't take it personally
If a chick doesn't reply at all, I see it as more of a blessing than anything. It shows you her true colors and saves you time, money, and energy.
Gotta be honest, I really dislike the idea that you can tell if a girl wants you to kiss her etc. i genuinely have no idea even withr the one girl who I eventually found out had been wanting me to for literally years.
I was out with a girl when she started putting on chap stick, I asked if I could try some and then kissed her. It took 3 days for the hand print to fade from my face.
Lolll
You should’ve asked “does it taste as good as it smells?” 😂😂 I think you would’ve been GOLD there
Good, *Stay away from my Sister.*
@@shinobiendgame4939 Your Mom's still ok right?
@ b b c - The propaganda types do NOT want you to say that . . . .
“Rejection lasts a minute. Regret lasts forever.” -Alpha M
Always make the first move. Get used to rejection, but get even more used to success.
Yessir
The best rejection I ever got was, "Hey, thanks for asking. I am flattered, but to be honest, I'm not attracted to you and don't want to waste your time. Good luck." Direct communication is what men want and love!
It’s not more common. The woman always make the first move. The first move opens the line of communication for the man to speak first. The first move doesn’t mean speaking and we don’t know how to do this because we don’t know how to communicate verbally anymore. All social media. I’m old skool. Love your content though.
That feeling when you craft the perfect witty message and get no response. 🙃
🤔
Just look at it like practice reps and find someone new and better.
Logical thing is to actually write somewhat decent, but not too good message. If she's initially interested she'll respond, otherwise you may set up bar too high and lose her interest once you start declining with your jokes and stuff.
I had the same experience by the way. A lot of girls just don't have any sense of humor.
Still, even my "decent" messages some girls called the funniest they've received so far. Most of your competition is just horrible at texting.
Gotta be hot for that to work
"Just ask her out" was the thing I always keep in mind especially if the fears start to creep in. Worked wonders but I'm still making sure that the plans are set and my actions done with tact
You: “Hey we have a big problem!”
Her: “What problem ?”
You: “We don’t know each other”
It’s worked for me good 😎
By the way Courtney looking lovely as always ☺️
Lol dude. I'm gonna use this use. Thank you ❤️🥳
Soon*
Funny thing, I used the same pick-up line a long ago....
Gutsy, my man. Good on ya
Not bad! And this is coming from a girl. Recently I turned on love story from 1970 bcuz of the well known soundtrack. And the first time the two leads meet are not great. The guy is rich and a Harvard student while the girl is a poor music teacher. The girl made the judgement that he must be one of those rich sports jocks and was pretty cold to him when he was returning books at the library where she was also working. But the girl turned around with greatest first move.
- hey, just cuz I'm a Harvard student n in the hockey team doesn't mean I'm snub, dumb n douchey. I am academically smart.
- no, you're rich and dumb. I'm smart and poor. And that's why I would not go out for coffee with u.
- you're really not all that. I wasn't gonna ask u out anyway.
- And that's why I was correct, you are dumb to not to.
Something of how the convo went...
“Sitting on the couch watching Netflix”
Instantly knew where you were going with this 😏😆
😂 keeping it classy here lol
I don't get it
@@almostgifted I do 😏
@@EduardoSantos-pv8yo Don Juan up in here
@@almostgifted Google "Netflix and chill"
The kiss: If you want a kiss from her, sweetly tell her to kiss you. If she refuses, or kisses you on the cheek, smile and move on. Verbal interaction cuts through all the baloney.
1. Make the first move
2. Ask her out on a date
3. Going for a Hug/Kiss (OH GOD, THE KISS! - THIS ONE IS A NIGHTMARE TO GET IT RIGHT)
4. Physical Intimacy
In your fantasies... Everyone is good at imaging the perfect date and evolution of the relationship.
@@simoneracioppa5733 how you know it can’t happen for you
@@Awaiting_YHWHs_Return because Fs nowadays are not relationship material. In anime you can see the main characters being in healthy relationship with Fs (except the bitchy tsundere), in real life you will be only used as free meal doing lots of effort to get nothing in return, while Fs easily go with Chads that get all for free.
So no thank you. I'm done, I don't play shitty rigged games.
Dating is a rigged game and it's also a hoax/fraud/cheat, call it whatever you like, this doesn't change the fact that men are duped.
@@simoneracioppa5733 how would you know females nowadays aren’t relationship material you are most likely taking your anger out on women by watching red pill vids which has convinced you that all women are the same
@@simoneracioppa5733 you will never get to meet the down to earth girls if you have your gaurd up and quit the game even if it’s mostly bad apples it’s not worth not trying and being alone
“If she’s staring into your soul, she wants to kiss you” idk why this had me rollin 😂
The only thing that has ever stared into my soul was an owl I saw at the Zoo. Sooooo.
well maybe you should give it a try @@tstreb66
'The worst thing that she can say is no'- I think that's one of the better things she can say since the 3rd option is 'yes' and then just flake out later because rejecting people is awkward so just say yes and then pretend to be busy everyday forever. At least 'no' won't waste your time.
Alexander, I think we've all been through that one. I used to have a 3 strikes
and you're out policy, but even that can be a little rough, especially if the
excuses seem plausible and she is very nice about it.
I wish more women would just say no and reject me outright. Save me a lot of grief and time wasted. Ugh!
If she rejects your kiss at first, don’t feel awkward or dejected just play it cool. It’s not unusual for the girl to come back around and kiss you later that night!
Exactly! She either just wasn't in the mood to kiss at the moment or she was caught off guard and wasn't ready yet. But it is almost impossible to tell and you just have to wait for her to give you the signs that she wants you to kiss her or if she kisses you.
Or just walk away because only a predator would try again later.
@@tonybeerhockey you've never actually interacted with a girl have you? Most of my adult life has been walking away after getting told no, and then laughing at her get mad af because her no really meant yes.
A rejection is a rejection, no matter what. You are basically harassing her if you try to kiss her again.
That's why I always say that I'm done making the first move. If a F reject you, just throw her away. She had already a chance, and she ruined everything.
@@angrybellsprout what? If someone says no to me, it's a NO. NO doesn't mean "yes". A rejection is always a rejection, rejection doesn't mean you are accepting someone.
Just ask her out. Don’t waste any time. You have nothing to lose. Don’t ask her on a lunch date. You’re asking to get friend zone
loool that's what I previously did
In my experience women don't like when I'm interested...
False. The worst thing that could happen is not that she says no. Getting left on read is worst.
Or led on
Guys. Men. Use your mind for great tthings in life. Don't give modern women anything, not even resentment. It will hijack your time, energy and your soul. Please turn to the thing in life that maters the most, don't cower away in lust for women from the things that you deep down know that you can and you must achieve in your life.
That clip just physically harmed me 😂
If I have to suffer so do you!! 😂😂
Admittedly, this is almost close to my first kiss at 16. I didn't ask, and I wasn't making a creepy smile like that. But the peck and uncomfortable hug was spot on. lol.
I was cursed with scoliosis since my early teens and it destroyed me mentally I lost all my self esteem and confidence.
There were so many woman I wanted to ask in my late teens and through my 20's and didn't and I live with regret everyday it never goes away and is a nightmare to live with I am 47.
Guys if you see a girl you like ask her out just go for it because regret is way worse than rejection.
I'm 20 and a few months ago I just got diagnostized a scoliosis. It's hard and painful but I try to overcome that and to make it a source of additional power unstead of weakness. I try to work everyday on this and I'll do whatever is in my power not to make it messing up my life! Your comment is inspiring me at my most. I'd like to discuss further with you so here's my skype ID in case your keen on talking your experience (sphinxal3), send me an invite ;)
@@alexist4223 I don't have Skype but we can talk on here feel for you it sucks having the condition.
@@alexist4223 The best advice I can give you is both physical and mental.
Having an x ray so you know exactly how your spine is shaped is important so you can get a rehabilitation programme specifically trailered to you.
Chiropractor, osteopath and neuro muscular massage will help keep you flexible which helps with pain.
Try to stay as fit as you can and keep an eye on your cholesterol levels for some reason they have been found to go up in people with scoliosis.
Now for the mental side of things it's really important that you try to maintain a positive outlook and continue to love yourself.
Having a bent spine can make you very self conscious if your not careful and cause you to live your life in a state of deep shame.
If you allow this shame to take hold it can consume you and the longer you are in it's grip the deeper you sink into it and the harder it is to get out so be aware of that and don't let yourself become consumed with shame keep loving yourself and keep living.
Living in shame will cause you to withdraw from life and isolate yourself which will lead to chronic depression and a lot of missed opportunities in life.
Don't shy away from the opposite sex if you see someone you like ask them out if your scoliosis is a problem for them it's their problem not yours just walk away and ask someone else out because there are billions of people in this world.
Remember rejection lasts a few seconds regret lasts a life time.
I hope things go well for you.
I used to think that until I was rejected by the woman of my dreams. It’s better to not ask, and never know. Who knows? You could’ve had a chance.
When you get rejected you know for sure the answer is no.
Trust me; trying and failing is much worse.
" The worst thing she can say is no. " 😀
she can call police
she can accuse you from harassment etc...
when i was younger, my friends (and me) were joking about this. now it is a reality 😞
Dang dude you must have really poor game
About going in for a kiss on the first date my advice is to hold off until the second date or just kiss her cheek. If she’s looking at
you like she wants to kiss, not kissing her builds tension and leaves her wanting more. You’ll be on her mind and she will be anticipating the next date.
I agree with this. The first kiss on the first date is really unnecessary unless the chemistry and vibes are clear as day. Otherwise, a little kiss on the forehead is so sweet and sufficient for the message you are sending.
My grandpa always said to me when it came to girls, if I can be brave for a minute the possibilities are endless.
Especially if you’re someone who is introverted/shy. If you can just step out of your comfort zone for 1 minute, you might end up with someone meaningful. As soon as you can spark the conversation it’ll become easier as the date or interaction continues
be brave for a minute get destroyed over and over again for every minute of bravery
when u've been rejected as many times as I have, and I can assure u, i've been rejected every time i hit on a girl, u will not have the stomach for any more bravery
You'd just want to go hide in the darkest corner and die
@@gabyk2163 Well that says something about you. Change needs to happen within yourself if you're going to give up that easy. I believe in you, but you need to believe in yourself.
Hit the gym, work on yourself emotionally and mentally and you will overcome the fear and rejection.
@@Kjertinge you have no idea about me, I am cursed, I sit with my friends at events we go to, stye get hit on and even though I am the one leading all conversations and I am all smiles and engaging, it's my ugly friends around who literally get hit on by women and I end up going alone
and one more thing, hitting the gym is a crappy advice, i see the herds of gym morons around me and I don't like what i see
🙏
lmao for a second I read possibilities as prostitutes
For me, i use the no kisses on the first date rule.
Takes the pressure away and it's purely a get to know you exercise.
Also avoids any #MeToo actions.
The clip you showed emphasised my point,
Do you think it can make her want it more? For next time?
I've listened to most of your videos on here.
Congratulations on being able to go full time on TH-cam.
I'm sure you'll continue to grow and reap the rewards.
Have you made a video for women on how to make the first move? Thinking of your other video, in which 65% of men are hesitant to approach a woman in public due to fear of how a woman might react badly, and remembering experiences of my friends and me being too intimidated sometimes, and not knowing the non-verbal cues during my twenties and 30s, I think it's more important than ever for women to be willing to be more clear toward men they are interested in. I see a lot of videos, many sources, about how men are to adapt to the socialized ways of women, but I haven't seen many encouraging women to adapt to the ways of men. Example, any obvious indication of being open to a man approaching. A wink, a wave, "Hi" and hold eye contact for a couple seconds, or "Hi. I'm [name]" as she walks by, or "Hi. Let's talk" if she is near enough to hear. I imagine, many people would say like, "Women aren't like that. They're not going to do that." ... But I mean to say, it's important that women become more willing to Show more clearly that they're interested, for the sake of making connection, instead of missing connection. With so many people single, lonely, discouraged, and so many good loving men deterred from reaching out, whether due to internal insecurity or concerns of being judged or blasted socially, then the shortfall of connection becomes partly up to women to remedy. ... And I guess a lot of women need encouragement to be willing to try, to communicate clearly. So, have you or other people made an effective video toward that? Like you do for men; simple tactics to open up a talk, to then get a sense of the chemistry.
Me: "Let's get a coffee."
Her: " I'm uncomfortable. Sexual Harassment."
Me: "I will never do this again."
nah thats thinking it to the extreme, thats not likely to ever happen
Richie Smith,
Seriously. I’ve asked out a lot of women over the years. Never happened. Got no a few times sure, but a harassment charge? Never.
That’s exceedingly rare to happen, even today.
And no, it wasn’t my looks. I’ve been very fat and very fit, both got rejected and have been accepted as well at both stages of my life. It doesn’t matter as much as guys think it does.
@@TheGeorgeD13 exactly, ive asked out over 40 different women before covid and I had never gotten any threats or accusations of harassment. The key is to just not flirt with strangers and be respectful
@@ghostridersinthesky21 You can flirt with strangers BUT with the caveat that you SHOULD NOT flirt right off the bat. Get to know the person and see if 1) they're single and 2) gives strong signs of being interested in you, then you may proceed to do some light flirting. Back off if its not received warmly though.
People like to make simple shit complicated, so hence why you get these bitter ass dudes in this comments section lol.
@@TheGeorgeD13 Yeah maybe theyre over thinking it. I personally wouldn’t go any further than telling a woman that she has pretty eyes or hair. At most, I might tell her that shes cute if things are going well
There's a difference between being confident and desperate. Learn that the best way to get along with a woman is to be able to get along without one. I'm 53 and at the point in my life that companionship is an option not a necessity. I've lived with a woman, fathered two sons, have a successful career as an Electrician. I've dated quite a bit since me and the ex divorced 12 years ago after an 18 year marriage. Met a lot of good women, some very interested in me but i just didn't have the same interests as them unfortunately. . Don't try the corny pickup lines. Be confident, honest and be yourself and the right woman will automatically show interest in you.. at least in my experience...
Your experience doesn't matter. You don't understand nowadays how is the dating market and how difficult it is to get a F. So shut up and put yourself out there and see how many Fs you can get in few months: LESS THAN 1.
👍
The trouble is that constant rejection is wearing and confidence sapping.
True that!
No, rejection lasts forever. That's why it's so scary. 😆
As my previous comment, first rule: She must be physically attracted to you, if not, next rules will not apply because she Will see you just like a friend.
Or not see you at all! :)
Totally agree. They say looks are not important, but let's be real here.
Looks don't matter completly, they just give permision to approach with confidence, if you behave as if you were a handsome guy she will think there must be something about him, passive attraction
Arousal is what gets girls
Being attractive just holds the window of opportunity open for longer.
If you’re ugly an you open a girl with something stupid, she’ll blow you off. If you’re attractive and open a girl with something stupid, she’ll give you the benefit of the doubt. But you’re looks will only serve you so far. You can’t keep fucking up.
One thing that helped me avoid fear of making a move was going out seeking failure and rejection. As in, “I’m going to go and get 100 overt ‘no’s’ in a row” and if I get a “yes”, it resets the counter. Seeking rejection consistently freed me up more than pressuring myself to go find success.
No need to seek rejection. Just keep trying 'till you find the right one, and she'll say yes, even if it takes a long time. Sure you will get more no than yes replies, so what, that's the game. Get used to it
@@dklangnah Austin lowkey onto something 💯
"Do the asking. Make the first move. Girls think it is sexy," says the pretty girl who has turned down hundreds of advances.
I normally like her content but this one is generic and tone deaf.
I had been talking with a girl on Instagram, everything was going well and then I asked her out. I thought it was a kind message and didn't make a big deal out of it, but she ghosted me ever since… so I "made a first move" but wasn't expecting such a harsh response to that :/
it sucks, I really started to appreciate her, doesn't know what she is missing haha
Sorry to hear that bro, maybe in the future try to ask her to come with you to a gathering or party with friends, this way she’s under less pressure. And will be more comfortable
Move to the next. There a lot of fish put there. Dont hold because of one
Guys...don't ever kiss her on the first date. A hug or something ok but if you don't kiss her and she likes you then you will get a 2nd date. She'll be wondering why and it adds both mystery and intrigue . That alone has always worked for me. And I've dated 100 women at least. Works every time. Course you have to be prepared with a good answer later on...I use the being a gentleman excuse...they dig that. Haha.
👆This guy knows
It just feels amazing to throw direct flirtatious energy at women who are cute as fuck. Whether they want me or not almost doesn’t matter. It makes me happy to let it out.
I don't want to give them egoboost. Just ignore them until they get humbled.
@@simoneracioppa5733 that’s a bullshit method. How bout you both equally put in the work.
I've had a LOT worse than just "no." ..."Ew, why would anyone date you?" or "Fuck no." Like, It's the look of disgust that hurts my soul. I know, those type of women, I don't want to date anyways, but, it still hurts man.
Your advice is so awesome. I feel like these are things that I've just had to learn through trial and error. You may be the first person I've ever heard verbalize the nuances of simple dating. I really do think you're making the world a better place by laying out a simple, approachable map for guys who struggle to understand how to treat a woman with respect. So refreshing.
Thats what I try to tell myself after being rejected thats its their lose even though it feels like mine. I was also born rejected, I was given up at birth for adoption it was predetermined then I found out I was the 3rd child they kept the first 2...so I take rejection more personally than most do. So now I just accept the single-life. It is what it is. Nice video though.
I’m sorry that happened and I totally understand why you feel that way but know that your past doesn’t define you. Some things are out of our control but it’s all in the way we respond and grow from it. There’s nothing wrong with being single but I hope you know how much you deserve to be loved! Rooting for you 😊
@@CourtneyRyan Thank you Courtney, appreciate that. 🙂Youre right, its just hard sometimes to forget you know? But yeah with a job or a girl I just tell myself that's ok wasn't meant to be. With corona throwing a huge monkey wrench into our lives it just makes ir more difficult but I will try to be positive. I enjoy your videos and youre so nice. People like you deserve to be happy.
@@MKF30 rooting for you to bro
@@Honeywheremysupersuit Thanks alot dude, appreciate that. God bless you. 😃
That sucks man, I can only hope you found yourself better parents than those asholes that bring you to this world. If so, think about how much better your life is thanks to being raised by good people, and not those egoistic bastards who will probably raise you badly. Always look on the bright sides.
For better or worse, I'm incredibly introverted, and it takes me a good bit of time to get comfortable enough with someone to even see sexual intimacy as an option. I'm sure some women will appreciate not having to worry about me being one of those guys that's creepy or pushy, but on the flip side I'm sure there are women who will be very turned off by having to wait a while to start exploring the more intimate things that occur in most relationships, sometimes even on/after the first date. That said, I'm all for cuddling and smaller forms of physical yet non-sexual affection after a couple of dates. I'm not sure whether that's part of my social anxiety, if that's just how I'm wired, or maybe because I've pretty much only had long distance relationships up to this point, but it's definitely something about me that is very hit-or-miss with women in my experience.
Your weird buddy
@@Awaiting_YHWHs_Return You're*
I will need to see the fully vaccinated card first.
Can you make a video on how to approach someone in a public setting, “cold approaching”,and how a guy should go about it
I have watched alot of your videos and you have some great content and advice. The hardest part about meeting people is if you ain't yourself and where to meet people who are single. Haven't spent majority of my youth in a church I found too controlling and the relationships were based on status, not if a couple were compatible at all, now it's difficult returning to the real world after being isolated for so long is where to start. Pubs don't interest me or churches. I'm not a affectionate guy by nature due to my childhood and each new group of people I meet are either single mothers, no thanks or already in relationships. I had a local coffee shop I visited and often caught the attractive young woman staring at me who worked there, she was a nice person but to me too young as I just turned 40 and she is 21. I also found out she is a real party girl, another thing that doesn't interest me. I think the modern world is like a maze in finding what you need or want in life. Thanks for your videos they helped many people and Jordan Peterson psychology on relationships are great to help those looking to navigate through life are a good channel to get the right advice for those who are stuck in life as well😀
So basically the main point of making the first move is to pay extra attention to subtle things. I wish I was a psychologist or a communication expert I think it would help a lot in this case. Anyway's thanks for the awesome video I learned a lot!
"We all love when someone is interessted in us?" whenever i show a women that i like he she starts avoiding me, becoming unfriendly towards me.
That hurts especially when she had been friendly towards me to begin with. And i never understand why that happens. First she is friendly, i start to like her, she starts becoming unfriendly to me.
''Don't worry, the worst she can say is no.''
Me: Hey I like you, I heard tomorrow will be sunny let's go do something fun.
Her: EW, HALPPP SOMEONE I'M BEING HARASSED
Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me." -John 14:6
You can avoid being rejected by noticing social cues such as her body language when you talk to her. If done right, you should definitely know whether she’s interested in you or not, without even asking anything. (25 and wow, my own advice is hard to keep in mind in practice!)
Those cues feel the same as a rejection to me lmao
You can avoid being rejected by not approaching her at all.
When I tried making a first move that involved touching, women have always said "get away from me you creep," or "hands hands take your hands off me." So, I decided I will wait for the woman to make the first touching move, and have found it never happens. I will never know what was wrong with my approach b/c I was always respectful - brief light hugs and no kisses. However.....
I discovered dance classes! Women like being led by the man through a dance, and never object to having their hands touched or being in body contact. There are almost always more women than men in dance class or dance event. The swing and latin dances are great, and worth the time, effort and money to learn. It has been a real confidence builder for me.
“Hey could I kiss you” “Could I hold ur hand” or make it a bit more smooth like idk what’s wrong w my hand could u feel this part that hurts or whatever and then hold her hand. How difficult is that?
girls only make the first move if youre a 10/10
Or your bulge in your wallet is big!!!
Girl “drops handkerchief”
Me “excuse me I think you dropped this “
Girl “pulls out can of mace”
If this comment gets 100 likes, Courtney has to make a video detailing the fastest way to get to 3rd base!😂😂
I think that's good enough only 93 short drop the vid!
double, sac bunt
Thats easy. Identify a freaky woman 😜
If a girl enjoys spending time with you and is receptive to going out with you, vibe with her and if you feel like you want to kiss her she probably feels the same way. Go for it
Asking her out, touching her arm, showing real interest, sending the first message can all fall under the category of 'sexual harrassment'.
Is it really worth it?
Asking her out is a sexual harrassment? WHAT?!?!
@@bahaatamer1245 yes if finds you unattractive
Wtf what are you talking about??? How
They all fall under unwanted attention and behaviour. If a woman goes to police and says a guy made her feel uncomfortable or unsafe, you best believe the police will advocate and possible knock on your door. I've seen it happen within my family acouple times alone.
@@adrianchico8886 sexualising harassment is a grey area and can be in many different forms. And yes, if you even talk to a woman generally and they feel uncomfortable or feel unsafe by the way you look, you will be dealt with in some way by police. If the woman reports it
I'm scared if I go for the kiss I'm going to jail for sexual assault lol I'll pass
“You never know if you don’t ask....” was dating advice my dad gave me.....my mother told me women are like street cars, if the first one says no, there will be another one along in five minutes.
Woa, I never got any advice from anyone, about anything really. I thought this was a parental thing, guess I was wrong.
You weren’t lying. I was just brushing my teeth and walked past my bed and then bro goes for the hair kiss and I just collapsed face first into my bread grimacing 😬🗿😭
I asked a girl out one time. She said yes, but with notable hesitation and in an insincere way. Her tone of voice, I could tell something was off. I asked her about it, she replied, saying it isn't that she does not want to go. I canceled, due to her disingenuous attitude.
Good job
*Respect*
The low down is high quality women are rarer than the other type. And also a little harder to figure out I may have struck out recently with a high quality woman. But thanks to Courtney and other coaches I'm going to look at it as a lessen. I'm an older guy been married twice and been out of the game for a while. Thank you Courtney for your advice.
Courtney, male insight. Some men/boys have never seen the signs that you are talking about. It might be worth unpacking that. In my teens, I had no idea why women were so incredulous when guys or me "had a go". Truth, most women are very transparent when they are into you, and the first time that happens you will "get it". Most guys who struggle reading body language "cues", just aren't getting them, ever.
I agree, it's hard to look for cues that aren't there.
Yeah, I've never seen those signs, BECAUSE THEY DON'T FCKING EXIST.
@@simoneracioppa5733 that seems a little extreme
@ C O'S - You might be really surprised at the "inexperience" that is out here.Perfectly rational ,well-adjusted, 'good' guys who had no HS dates ,no prom, gave their time to charitable causes, etc., and have nothing even "close" to your social understanding. These men will NEVER understand the "games " . . . .
I knew this girl, and every time she said a guy was creepy, she would wind up sleeping with him later
I wish you'd do audiobooks. Your voice is so soothing.
Holy shit, that clip at 6:15 was physically painful to watch 🤣🤣🤣
Women make the first move now?? It rarely happens if ever! right?
Often in my world? I seem to be nearly alone with women coming onto me🤔 I'm not bragging, just observing. I strike out too or get the "get the fuck away from me look" too😂. Buuuut I truly get approached often or painfully obvious, get hit on by women.
@@sly11benal7 I think you are one of the few ones but keep it up bro! I bet you have great social life too
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“Rejection makes a man stronger. If you can’t laugh at it, or at least use it as writing material, you’re not a real man.”
Jiraiya.
Wise words from pervy sage.
@@ericv5435 yes indeed. Best character in the series.
@@jrex7486 one of my favorites
@@ericv5435 it’s the only thing that keeps me going whenever I get rejected LOL
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"The worst she can say is no" No bro it's not one thing that's worse is your message can be screenshotted and posted in the gc and get roasted and that's just one thing
Also, rejection doesn't necessarily mean that the girl dislikes you as a person. You just might not be her type, and that's okay.
Women's movement have killed this because it's now considered toxic and in a few cases a man will go to jail over this. Not worth the chase.
I'm going for dinner today with a girl from work and will tell her that I like her if it feels right at the moment. I am so scared can't describe the feeling because bc haven't really been into a relationship. Wish me luck. God bless you all!
i have same situation, but can't do that since we have no work dating policy
how’d it go
So I should ask her out but not come off creepy? Well the problem is asking someone out for a drink and maybe an appetizer on a Friday or Saturday night isn’t actually creepy at all but if they aren’t interested at that moment in time they tell everyone that I’m “creepy”. However, since she won’t make a move I have to risk my reputation for being “creepy” based on her mood even though I’m not ugly or actually being “creepy”? No wonder so many other men suggest dating women from non western cultures.
There is no better teacher than experience so dont be afraid when the opportunity comes along. It's going to be frustrating, tread carefully and pay attention... I think being direct fast tracks things.. time is a precious commodity so use it wisely. Great content. You and my relationship coach have the most calming voice. Thanks for both of you ladies help.
Sorry, I'm tired of that. The real "first move" is to just make money and peacock tf out of yourself or something like that so I can just keep moving along with improving myself and not have to make a move on a thousand women. Btw I am a good looking guy. Fuck that. I'm tired.
I'm gonna ask a friend out 😬. Wish me luck lol
Yay! Rooting for you good luck!
How did it go mate? =)
@@TheAniki94 2 months later, without a response tells, you everything ... he turned off the TH-cam notifications! ;-)
@@ScubaSteveCanada lmao great one 🤣🤣
Any update?
No, real men don't want women to make the first move. It's emasculating for the man on the one hand and just disgusting and devaluating when a woman approaches guys on the other.
You want a traditional woman? Then be a traditional man, step up your game and don't shy away from a likely rejection. Just move on if she does not reciprocate your interest.
Why should men always make the first move? In times of ME2 it's meantime the first move to job loss, court and jail...
In times of gender equality women are allowed to act first!
@ad izzle That's why I go MGTOW! Best move I've ever made... Sorry, ladies, you had your chance, my life's completed, yours as well...
@ad izzle It does! Never felt better! Got rid of "I want you to do that", "You must do that!", "I want that!" "Buy that for me!"
See, you think, I'm not capable of seducing a woman...But I do, I just left them behind!
What is MGTOW?
@@servmlrcc Take the red pill!!
0:32 it's not the same , you almost vever run the risk of being seen as creepy
you look great in this shirt ! 😗
Hi
So,Im out on this date. She looks amazing,I can smell her hair from here. We chatted for 8 minutes and when I leaned in to kiss her,I realized, I was watching a video of Courtney.😈
Me: the worst she can say is no
She: i'm your sister for god's sake!
The hug/kiss part of that is gonna be the nervewracking one. Given the overall cultural eggshells covering the glass pieces. This is the place where having encouraging elders who can warn away dangerous women, and stare daggers at the women who are misbehaving would be useful....
Courtney, you are the first TH-camr I have considered making financial contributions to. You are awesome, thank you so much for your amazing advise! Really, really helpful. And listening to you is so much better than reading a book.
Damn right. She gives excellent advice, nice voice to listen to, pretty but doesn't dress all sexual like other girls for views or attention. Courtney (not her specifically cos I'm not a simp) is the type of woman I really want.
ME: would you like to go on a date?
HER:
ME: …well? Come on, I’m makin the first move here!!
HER: (who btw is an actress on my tv screen)
ME: fuck this.
Hold up. Girls make the first move?
Since when do guys get that lucky? That would make my life a lot easier
I get it often.....i chill n let em come to me. Women are aggressive now a days. Think cause it's more acceptable in society. If a woman comes on strong, it's all good. If a guy comes on to strong, it's try hard mode or creepy...usually.
All the time....?
Damn Courtney putting that work in pumping out all these good videos💪🏼
👏🏼👏🏼 thank you!! ❤️
"Being rejected does not define you" - that's not even close to being correct. Read the "Winner Effect" and educate yourself before you spread misinformation online.
That ufc fighter who shoot his shot with Miley cyrus after his fight and she responded. I know it's best to make your move it's better than regret.
Julián Márquez will be remembered
Guys are pretty bad at getting visual hints unless it is explicitly clear, so maybe just grab one of our hands and gently pull us to you while looking us in the eyes and lips, and that should be hint enough.
What I really obtained from this video is how important it is for us men to truly understand biological nature of women. I am up for the challenge and the important thing is to practice these situations as much as possible. Most men will always struggle because we are wired to be more direct with this first move but you have to remember that women will respond indirectly. Take on the challenge to learn evolutional psychology so you get better success for this topic. Great video Courtney.
Are you really listening a F to get advice for how to get a F? Do you really want to ask a fish how to get fished? No fking way. Fs DON'T FCKING KNOW WHAT THEY WANT!
@@simoneracioppa5733 alright incel. Calm it down
@@simoneracioppa5733 incel detected: guidance provided 🙂
All wel and good if your you, but im autistic i dont ven remember the basics like dont fidged and keep eye contact, for me to get good enough at anot only spotting the clues but acting on them in the correct way is basically impossible !
Take it one step at a time. Or two maybe. Like don't fidget and maintain healthy eye contact (not an unblinking stare). Work on those two in day to day encounters. Like with people you don't have romantic interest in.
Well I haven't met a woman recently, that I wonted to date, but it could happen one day in the future and if so it will be only a dinner date, I don't do any kissing or hugging, coming from me and I will decline, any attempt, from her to kiss or hug me on a first date.
I know it's important to initiate a relationship by making the first move, but it just feels SO AWKWARD to approach a COMPLETE STRANGER.