I used to be afraid of setting boundaries with people because I was afraid that those people wouldn't like me anymore or wouldn't really like me for who I am. It took me a long time to realize that if people don't respect your boundaries, then they aren't worth your time.
I had to take my boundaries again just today because my children can't understand that I have changed after marriage with narcissist. I am no longer anybody's doormat.
I hated that therapy always brought up childhood, and now I sit here as an adult, realizing my pain from childhood, lack of being visible, shamed for having needs, not having my needs met, made me eager to prevent others from having that pain - at my expense. Today I was manipulated and I’m done, really done. Thank you 🙏
It is ok for people to be disappointed, and we need strong boundaries. It is ok to let toxic and manipulative people go. It is vital to invest our energy in living our true, authentic lives. Thank you Michelle.
I literally was sitting here crying thinking “how can I change this?” and your notification popped up. Thank you for your content. It has helped me so much!
I stopped giving more than I was ok with donating. You can’t TAKE something when I’m just genuinely giving it out for free. The biggest lesson I’ve learned from the journey to healing, is that not everyone is evil. Not everyone is a narcissist. There truly are just hurt people out there that may spark and trigger those wounds the narcissists in our lives created. If they cannot reciprocate for a good enough reason (sickness, family issues, etc.), then it’s time for you to move forward❤️
That is so me! Sometimes I feel like a robot. I just automatically do whatever I’m being asked to do. I knew it didn’t feel good, but I have a hard time stopping it. Thank you for explaining why.
The "never enough" wound! *Yes!* The ex saw my wound clearly...I see that now. He exploited it for sure. I pushed myself soooooo far past my internal red line, honestly? I don't believe I had a line. I do now!!! My parents made me feel I wasn't good enough when I was a child. I don't believe they did this on purpose....some of my perceptions weren't real, but there were things that happened/didn't happen that made me believe these things. My father was really angry and would lash out at us kids. He'd pull our ears to lead us into a room, he'd knock on our heads really hard, he made me re-do chores that I had done "wrong" while making me stand there and watch him. There was no real encouragement....there was no attempt at building up and helping me or my brothers find our autonomy. My parents took a "hands off" approach, (other than the spanking, pulling ears, head knocking) with our growing up. Not positive discipline at all 😞 When I left the ex, I lived at home for a year and when my parents needed me to move out, I decided to move a few states away. They were a little shocked that I moved so abruptly when they had given me 30 days to find a place. My parents are Christians and I thought they'd pray over me before I left.....nope. We had a light group hug (hugs make my father uncomfortable) and I left. I cried the whole way, 5.5 hours away. I had no idea that THAT was a big part of my wound as a child. Not being held, comforted, prayed over....ugh. Anywhoooo.... I need to make a list of my boundaries. We have to know what they are in order to enforce them, right??
I'm sorry that you never had the hugs you needed from your dad. I hope that God can fill that need for you on those around you. I pray that you know the love of God, and that He heals all of your childhood wounds.
Michele, you look AMAZING!! You look glorious in white 💕 Thank you again for all you do! We are all so grateful you have this channel and are helping all of us. To think all that hell and pain you went through resulted in you helping _thousands_ of people!! This is your life's calling and you do it SO well! I'm grateful for all I went through as well, it's changed me in many wonderful ways. Thank you....thank you!
This channel is so informative. Your channel has taught me so much about narcissistic abuse and has helped me to leave an abusive relationship, my worst fear is my daughter experiencing the same toxic energy I experienced as a child. Making boundaries with family members has been the hardest challenge, it's important to safeguard your heart and mind.
After My Dear Mother passed away I had to learn the very difficult life lesson that just because somebody claims to be ur friend it doesn't mean they are. So many people only "love" u as long as they can use u and when they realise the fact that love is not a one way street they piss off pretty quickly. As difficult and all as it is to rid ur life of these users you'll feel so much better once all the useless clutter is gone...
Hi Michelle...it's Barry... from England... hope you remember me...I still follow you... amazing work btw... you've come such along way...so proud of you...you look fabulous... absolutely Stunning... thinking of you... stay well and safe... love to you and your family. Barry ❤️
Hi Michelle, can you please do a video on how to get away from toxic family members. Would love to hear your intake on this. Finding it so hard to get away
Parents should never place their worth in their children’s gratitude...if your child is ever grateful or compliments you take it as a plus, never expect it though, because children can feel your neediness and those feelings are the opposite of UNCONDITIONAL love. 🙏🏻
Thanks, Michele. How do you overcome the self-loathing that narcissistic parents projected on you as a child? What did you do that helped you? Can you please make a video on that?
I've noticed a lot of the women who are helping people with NPD abuse are very attractive. I wonder if narcs purposely seek out attractive mates to not only destroy their lives, but their looks as well?
I enjoy the messages. I want to put some of. These things into practice. I have so many bad habits. I am. Nacisisitic MAGNET. With low self worth. I would like to do some research on your coaching and all the other things you have to offer. I need help. I don't know how to receive help
I always identify with a female spouse rather than a male spouse. A husbands role of protecting the relationship by confronting a controlling spirit in your wife is a heavy axe to carry. I cannot imagine 2 people who treat each other like royalty. Plus feel wrong that someone couldn't reciprocate delight to serve and respect through love. Its good just to type this outloud. Appreciate the vid.
My older kids are 20,17,12 how to turn this around seems impossible I feel I failed them. I am so disappointed in who they've become. Lord Jesus help me
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The folks who become angry with you setting boundaries are the very ones who once benefitted from crossing them in the first place.
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Much needed video as always. Sometimes people with the biggest hearts are the most vulnerable.
I used to be afraid of setting boundaries with people because I was afraid that those people wouldn't like me anymore or wouldn't really like me for who I am. It took me a long time to realize that if people don't respect your boundaries, then they aren't worth your time.
I had to take my boundaries again just today because my children can't understand that I have changed after marriage with narcissist. I am no longer anybody's doormat.
I hated that therapy always brought up childhood, and now I sit here as an adult, realizing my pain from childhood, lack of being visible, shamed for having needs, not having my needs met, made me eager to prevent others from having that pain - at my expense. Today I was manipulated and I’m done, really done. Thank you 🙏
It is ok for people to be disappointed, and we need strong boundaries. It is ok to let toxic and manipulative people go. It is vital to invest our energy in living our true, authentic lives. Thank you Michelle.
This is so me all the way . I want to set good boundaries and sick of being taking advantage of a lot .
I literally was sitting here crying thinking “how can I change this?” and your notification popped up. Thank you for your content. It has helped me so much!
I stopped giving more than I was ok with donating. You can’t TAKE something when I’m just genuinely giving it out for free. The biggest lesson I’ve learned from the journey to healing, is that not everyone is evil. Not everyone is a narcissist. There truly are just hurt people out there that may spark and trigger those wounds the narcissists in our lives created. If they cannot reciprocate for a good enough reason (sickness, family issues, etc.), then it’s time for you to move forward❤️
Wonderful advice!
That is so me! Sometimes I feel like a robot. I just automatically do whatever I’m being asked to do. I knew it didn’t feel good, but I have a hard time stopping it. Thank you for explaining why.
The "never enough" wound! *Yes!*
The ex saw my wound clearly...I see that now. He exploited it for sure. I pushed myself soooooo far past my internal red line, honestly? I don't believe I had a line. I do now!!!
My parents made me feel I wasn't good enough when I was a child. I don't believe they did this on purpose....some of my perceptions weren't real, but there were things that happened/didn't happen that made me believe these things.
My father was really angry and would lash out at us kids. He'd pull our ears to lead us into a room, he'd knock on our heads really hard, he made me re-do chores that I had done "wrong" while making me stand there and watch him. There was no real encouragement....there was no attempt at building up and helping me or my brothers find our autonomy. My parents took a "hands off" approach, (other than the spanking, pulling ears, head knocking) with our growing up. Not positive discipline at all 😞
When I left the ex, I lived at home for a year and when my parents needed me to move out, I decided to move a few states away. They were a little shocked that I moved so abruptly when they had given me 30 days to find a place. My parents are Christians and I thought they'd pray over me before I left.....nope. We had a light group hug (hugs make my father uncomfortable) and I left. I cried the whole way, 5.5 hours away. I had no idea that THAT was a big part of my wound as a child. Not being held, comforted, prayed over....ugh.
Anywhoooo....
I need to make a list of my boundaries. We have to know what they are in order to enforce them, right??
I'm sorry that you never had the hugs you needed from your dad. I hope that God can fill that need for you on those around you. I pray that you know the love of God, and that He heals all of your childhood wounds.
this was my big problem ,
I could just never say no then on top of that I was nice to the person
Michele, you look AMAZING!! You look glorious in white 💕 Thank you again for all you do! We are all so grateful you have this channel and are helping all of us. To think all that hell and pain you went through resulted in you helping _thousands_ of people!! This is your life's calling and you do it SO well!
I'm grateful for all I went through as well, it's changed me in many wonderful ways.
Thank you....thank you!
This channel is so informative. Your channel has taught me so much about narcissistic abuse and has helped me to leave an abusive relationship, my worst fear is my daughter experiencing the same toxic energy I experienced as a child. Making boundaries with family members has been the hardest challenge, it's important to safeguard your heart and mind.
After My Dear Mother passed away I had to learn the very difficult life lesson that just because somebody claims to be ur friend it doesn't mean they are. So many people only "love" u as long as they can use u and when they realise the fact that love is not a one way street they piss off pretty quickly. As difficult and all as it is to rid ur life of these users you'll feel so much better once all the useless clutter is gone...
"Real friends cry when you leave, fake friends leave when you cry."
@@davidhinkson8856 be aware of vultures too, they are the friends waiting for you to cry, to take advantage of you in a vulnerable time.
I know of a man who can get ex back and restore your broken marriage.
Send him a massage on what>>sApp....
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Omg yes! I need this! I need to be a strong smart parent for my kids!
Hi Michelle...it's Barry... from England... hope you remember me...I still follow you... amazing work btw... you've come such along way...so proud of you...you look fabulous... absolutely Stunning... thinking of you... stay well and safe... love to you and your family. Barry ❤️
Thank you Michele I have to thank the narcs too for leading me to you Much appreciated knowledge
Hi Michelle, can you please do a video on how to get away from toxic family members. Would love to hear your intake on this. Finding it so hard to get away
Parents should never place their worth in their children’s gratitude...if your child is ever grateful or compliments you take it as a plus, never expect it though, because children can feel your neediness and those feelings are the opposite of UNCONDITIONAL love. 🙏🏻
Start saying “NO”
Me too, even at 44
Me too. At 61.
Learning more healthy boundaries @ 68.
You still have time sweetie try 68 !just found out two years ago iam married to a covert narcissist
@@ellasladek3124 Big Hugs!! I tried to figure this crap out for decades too.
So true!
That is ME!
Thanks, Michele. How do you overcome the self-loathing that narcissistic parents projected on you as a child? What did you do that helped you? Can you please make a video on that?
I know of a man who can get ex back and restore your broken marriage.
Text him on what'sApp
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Michele, you are always spot on.
You are excellent!
I've noticed a lot of the women who are helping people with NPD abuse are very attractive. I wonder if narcs purposely seek out attractive mates to not only destroy their lives, but their looks as well?
Lovely and so important video! You certainly have the ability to put in words. Good job, Michelle
Correct.
Michele- the last few weeks of videos have been fantastic!! Thank you
Need this so much
On point as always!
This pattern has ruined my life
I enjoy the messages. I want to put some of. These things into practice. I have so many bad habits. I am. Nacisisitic MAGNET. With low self worth. I would like to do some research on your coaching and all the other things you have to offer. I need help. I don't know how to receive help
I feel that way but I’m learning, finally. Now I say “ I was a narcissist magnet”. I hope I continue to be able to keep it in the past.
@@eileenmccarthy7392 thank you for seeing me. I word like to be able say that
@@lalabell-gardner4637 you deserve being seen and heard🌷💞
I know of a man who can get ex back and restore your broken marriage.
Send him a massage on what>>sApp....
Perfect
Robot oh my yes
I always identify with a female spouse rather than a male spouse. A husbands role of protecting the relationship by confronting a controlling spirit in your wife is a heavy axe to carry. I cannot imagine 2 people who treat each other like royalty. Plus feel wrong that someone couldn't reciprocate delight to serve and respect through love. Its good just to type this outloud. Appreciate the vid.
I know of a man who can get ex back and restore your broken marriage.
Send him a massage on what>>sApp....
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Michele ❤️❤️❤️ 😉 Nothing goes in my head 😭😂
I am not anymore
My older kids are 20,17,12 how to turn this around seems impossible I feel I failed them. I am so disappointed in who they've become. Lord Jesus help me
Miss Ponti
So if I put up boundaries it shows I'm selfish? How does one not seem selfish for this?
Dont take everything at face value
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