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- Sometimes I get students whose issue is not entirely girl specific. They just haven't been social in general. Even talking to guys is scary or difficult. With that in mind, I made this video to help out with baseline conversation.
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For all of you who have asked about basic communication skills (either outside of game or as the foundation of game) this on is for you. Enjoy! And for more of the foundational skills for game (and life) check out toddwinnergame.com
Hello Todd
Just wanted to ask..How do you maintain game in a long distance relationship?
Hey Todd I need some help. Girls seem to be really attracted to me at first and even go as far as driving me places. However as time goes by, they seem to be fighting that attraction. They will literally tell me they find me attractive but then avoid me. What is going on? And what should I do to fix this?
What subconsciously would keep a Captain save a ho from being sexual / a girl?
Hey todd I wanted to ask you if a 13 year old is able to learn game while in a limited school environment for most of the day, thanks.
-N.H
Hey Todd
Big fan of your content! Avid watcher, first time commenter. You say you answer questions from TH-cam, so I have one for you: What are some ways to effectively game on public transit? On the subway, train and bus for example. This has always been very difficult for me and I would love to get some advice to improve.
Much love from Canada!
1-talk about your life naturally
2-show interest in her life
3-admire her unique qualities
Dude we might need an updated version I did all of that and still got no where
@@RayRay-ow1bb That's because this video represents only 20% of game. It teaches only the narrative of conversations. The other 80% is the most important: you having more value than females. You can have a perfect conversation, but if she believes you have low-value, she'll dismiss you. The opposite is true: you can have a BS conversation, but if you show high-value, she'll feel attraction. Having value basically means you have good looks, self-confidence, and if possible, money - which is not necessary but will elevate you to an unatainable level, if you already have good looks and self-confidence. That's game in a nutshell. More about your unspoken power than your words. 80% of it. Conversations are 20%. I have attracted hot girls by not making one single praise, only with indifference - they love it cause they're so used to getting praised all the time. Thnx mate.
@@RayRay-ow1bb hi, could i ask your honest opinion about a smart results-oriented assistant im planning to address the dating hell problem
, regarding your comment, yes, its because every mind evolves in its own way, so something working from one dude could not work for others, but still is very possible to overcome this 'unsure' factor in your own way, without others canned approach, science has established that the 'dark triad' is also a strong sexual predictor
You can almost talk about anything if you do it with style
that sounded cute and honest as fuck
Here’s a simple reminder for conversations...
“Express, don’t impress.”
Speak like what you say matters because people do not give af. And if you’re thinking about what to say, you’re not being yourself. You’re conforming to some bullshit ideal about what kind of person you should be. Which is why guys get blown off by girls. You’re faking it.
A little technique helps sure, but just be you. At least she won’t think you’re a pussy for being yourself and unafraid to express yourself.
jut impressing feels better lol.
@Vik Divine dont wait to start living
Bobby Rio explained in his video about not running out of things to say.
I'm sorry you're in prison but it's always a pleasure to listen to you.
What??
William Tim shoe program
it's a sex dungeon
He’s in prison?
Hes in the hole
Do more videos on social skills, man
You are giving incredible advices and explanations that are very relatable
Ground yourself in the present moment. Do meditation. Feel confident in yourself, don't make a strong effort. Just relax and enjoy the interaction with no expectations. When you are at ease and relaxed, you can be spontaneous and improvise.
"If you want to be interesting be interested"
@Graphite That's when you say that you are the man of her dreams. The Graphite to her pencil. You are the instrument that allows memories to be written upon the parchment of time.
@Graphite she ask you because she wants to be intersting to you 😉
@Graphite sorry dude you framed it the wrong way
@Graphite Reply "I AM THE ONE WHO KNOCKS!"
Be interested but dont take away value through boring questions. Make assumptions and explain why you assume such a thing about her.
This dude says it SO real, no sugarcoating just right to the point. I love it.
Charm is convincing others of your value. Charisma is convincing others of their own value
Switch it
No
You got it backwards
My 2 cents on this subject
-Dont answer boring
If she asks where you from, you answer Narnia.
Making funny answers is a state you can get into, and it has helped me a lot this semester
-Believe in your ability to be right
I figured out eventually that some advice I hear applies to me better than others
All that "get in state" rsd tips? Didn't do me nothing
Watch a video on how to grind with a girl like the creep I am? Done me wonders
Sometimes, we already know the answer to our problems, but we think other people have a better answer, so we go to them first. But sometimes, you are right, and they are not, and that's more often than you believe, and people love that in a person
You really just have to get out there and do it. And talk to random people in general, not just girls you’re interested in. Realize that every single conversation you have is building up your conversational experience and slowly chipping away at any inherent awkwardness
How to say a lot and also nothing at all
@@nirorit I said plenty. Point being that most of the dudes that fumble talking to girls do so because they barely know how to carry conversation in general then on top of that put conversations with girls on a pedastal. It's not difficult to strike up a conversation with a girl if you're in the habit of striking up conversation with just about anybody. It's a skill that can be developed with practice.
@@chrisjfox8715your comment was useful thanks
I think those guys who are the hardest to help are generally the most satisfying to work with as they're progressing
Just wanted to say, listened to a ton of your stuff. Always was very witty and never got nervous around girls but never had a real concept of female psychology so I botched the escalation piece. Got a solid 9.5/10 into me right now and without game I’m at 7/10 at best. Thanks man, finally living at full potential.
It's absurd how insecure we have become since the 1800. It truely shocks me to see how many, including I, suffer with BASIC stuff, that no one even thought about back in time where social media didn't exist. What a time...
Don't be too hard on yourself. Most of us are probs either under-socialized as kids or just suffer from high-functioning aspergers. Meaning we have under-developed neo-cortexes.
Great timing! Please make more videos expanding on this topic. I’m currently struggling with having general conversations especially at a new job I just started two weeks ago (I work in a manufacturing warehouse with a bunch of older mechanical engineers and ex-military guys) Due to the nature of where I work people often give each other man-to-man shit-tests and there’s a lot of witty, giving you a hard time type bantering that I’m having a hard time handling, and I notice that I lose respect from other men because I’m not used to handling it. I want to be respected from my coworkers and be able to joke around and build rapport but I feel that I automatically become anxious and freeze up not having a lot to say when other guys give me shit or try to joke around especially when I’m in a work environment. I’m used to communicating in a straight forward, somewhat serious, logical get things done manner in work situations. How can I break out of this habit?
Thomas Samnang I feel you on this man
Todd’s breakdown game is on point, this is university status breakdown at its best
It's nice to have these videos for a reminder that you're doing things right in your life with women and other people. Don't let other people bring y'all down for wanting to be amazing, guys. This serves me on both a self-esteem level and a practical level as certain things even I didn't know are in this video. I feel confident around women / people, but even then I still fail and get what I want: so it's not always a feeling of confidence, it's having the competence as well. That's what I personally need to work on, y'all probably benefit from this in whatever way. Either practicality-wise or emotionally.
main takeaway: trust your perspective, who you are has value to offer in conversation. Else, you will constantly censoring and monitoring what you are saying and locked up and not have much to say. convo is exchange of thought. this helps you be more relatable and charismatic.
take interest in other person. most interesting person in conversation for them is them.
Man i do not comment at all but this guy. I have been watching his videos for 3 weeks now . Got so much improvement in my social and pickup skills from him and ao fast that I regret not knowing for this channel a year ago .
To anyone struggling with having good "normal" conversation, an obvious thing that is often overlooked is checking out the amazing books on the subject :
- Skill with People - Les Giblin (I start with this one because it's very short to read and straight-to-the point, you can find it for free on google) and
- How To Talk to Anyone - Leil Lowndes (REFERENCE book on the subject; very easy to read; 92 tips)
- The Fine Art of Small Talk - Debra Fine (another REFERENCE book that is amazing)
- How To Win Friends and Influence People (it's probably THE best communication book EVER but I put it last because it's not an easy read. But you can easily read great summaries of it online to start off with)
I truly believe that if you pick a few books from this list, take notes from them and apply the tips in your everyday interactions, ANYONE can get really good really fast at conversation. And any pickup artist worth a salt will tell you that it is 80% of game (yes, just being good at conversation in general, aka being a cool guy)
Good luck my fellow friends! :)
Appreciate this man !
Thanks pal
From what I have learned, if you are carrying on a conversation with a woman your interested in, 9 times out of 10, you've blocked everything inside your head and focused your attention to her to what she has to say.
How to NOT have emotional ups and downs regarding girls? In my case, I get a couple girls in a row responding positively to me, and the next approaches I'm spewing game like nobody's business. Then a couple girls reject me, and I'm feeling shitty and can't pick myself up. How do I learn to not need girls' validation in order to be good with girls?
Bro, this is an amazing question. I feel this is one of those hard things about abundance and playing from the frame of being capable.
Think of it as they weren't interested in you from the jump, not because your personality or anything but you're not their type. All experienced men have those women that reject them, sometimes harshly you just have to take it as a grain of salt.
Build solid self esteem - go get the book the 6 Pillars of self esteem from Nathaniel Brandon
My suggestion would be find something your good at or a hobby to get good at. Something you can see your progress and success so that you can become assured of your abilities. I used to think how can I be with someone when I don't workout, play video games, don't talk to anyone but my small group of friends, etc. Now I disciplined myself through taking Taekwondo classes and go to the gym a lot. I try to go out of my way to talk to girls in my classes or familiar with. The idea is to make yourself better for you, not for girls or anyone else, unless maybe your girlfriend or wife aka someone your already attached to. If you can't be good enough without girls then why should you be with girls? If you think I'm wrong, just let me know.
P E R S I S T & R E P E A T
Question: Hey Todd, love the videos. I am really struggling with physically advancement. Sometimes I feel like I could get away with a ton because the girl is super on but really don't know how to get more physically without it being weird. Thank you
Hey Todd, Question:
I feel like in social circles, partys or generall in group aciticites I get girls to be interested in me naturaly.
But then i dont really know what to do except some light flirting(touching, joking, eye contact, ...).
Just straight up saying "Hey and i think you are really attractive" out of the blue like in Daygame doesent seem quite intelligent when i meet a friends friend for the first time.
Keep up the nice work, i really enjoy your videos!
Wolfodile figure out what you want. Want sex? Escalate. Want a relationship? Be a little more boyfriendy. Sometimes you may want both from one chick. Just do something though. Don’t think about it too much.
You may not even be attracted to the girls you get attention from, maybe you just like validation. That’s cool too.
Just figure what you want from who you want.
If you’re asking how to escalate to sex... just let your animal instinct takeover. Get alone time with her. Kiss her, touch her. Tease her.
Bottom line... don’t think
So question, I've been having a lot of conversations w new girls and Idk if that's just how it is in my area, but so many of the hot girls in my area don't seem to have much interesting going for them, not all but many are nurses or accountants, come from a rich family and go to the gym. To me it's very boring and it doesn't appeal to me other than sleeping with them. Any suggestions on these type of conversations or these type of women?
1. Be present and listen instead of trying to think ahead about what you are going to say.
2. Develop an interest in the other person and pick up on the threads they open by mentioning things about themselves.
3. The difference between a normal conversation and the game conversation is that in game you want to break rapport sometimes. (The video doesn't say how)
The most interesting thing in the conversation is them.
Especially their tits.
Hi, Todd! Could you make a video about: "How to break rapport properly?" Sometimes I feel I come too strong and may offend her. Thank you :)
He already has done videos addressing that particular topic... although the title he uses is different.
@@TheRumpelstinskin Whats' the video?
" Inhabit the conversation " great way of putting it
Your videos are by far more valuable than any social skills or game course I've ever taken.
One of the most effective ways to help in most aspects of your game is to take or join a local improv group. Most community colleges have these classes. I did this many many years ago to help with my job. It really helps. It makes you think on ypur feet quick and there is no pressure
Question about disqualification and push-pull: are there 'negatives' one shouldn't use?
For example, using age in a push-pull, "Stop looking at me like that, I'm too young for you."
Only siths deal in absolutes. Some girls will respond positively to being called a stripper, others will flip a shit. It also depends on your energy when you say it (not what you say, but rather how you say it). May the force be with you.
Hi Todd. I treat every rejection as a shit test. Am I holding myself back? I have some value as a guy and have often only got with high tier women after initially getting nuclear rejected (not merely shit tested) and holding frame. I dont invest heavily in any single girl rejecting me. So whats the harm in this behaviour/mentality?
Love your content Todd, been watching you for awhile but started taking action recently. Question: when it comes to closing, I have been getting her Snapchat instead of her number. The reason in my head being (1. She gets to see that I actually have a life through my Snapchat stories, and 2. There is usually less resistance when I’m asking for Snapchat.) is this a good or bad idea? Is a number close better, or is closing via social media fine as well? The only thing that I find as a negative is sometimes the girl might not add back (but then again via a number close, she might not text back), what do you think? Would love some advice from you. Thanks!
Get her number. If you have her #, you can skirt the line of dudes by nutting up and calling her and asking her out. Then you can add her on SC (if you want) after you guys have met up. However, there's a double whammy there because you may exhibit behaviors that she *might* view as needy (viewing/commenting on her stories, namely). Also there's a chance that your stories may turn her off.
@@MrTwoFox wouldn’t that also serve as a filter then? If my stories turn her off, that means we wouldn’t get along on the date anyways right? I feel like that’s a good thing hahaha
@@SuperhumanFitness Good point as well! It's always good to have some mystery, especially at the beginning. Getting her number retains that and if you call her to set things up, you'll zoom past some of the competition.
There's also a probability that she will see your stories and think that she's "figured you out" (i.e. become disinterested because you're not new and exciting) and phase you out, even if she finds the stories interesting/attractive. Honestly it can go 1 million different ways, but with women, less is always more.
@@MrTwoFox that makes sense, I don’t usually call unless I know the person I’m calling well, but I see where you’re coming from and how calling could be a plus. Will give it a shot, thanks!
@@SuperhumanFitness Good luck! Calling also gives you the benefit of hearing her voice tone when she responds. This will give you a good idea as to interest levels as well. Saves you time and makes you look assertive simultaneously!
Hi Todd, I have a question. How do I gain access to exclusive venues. There are some venues which charge a lot of money even if you're with a girl and there are some venues which have really strong filtering mechanisms. How do you advise going about this?
'I found this other thing, that was my passion' lol
Very good video Todd you taught me a lot about game and I have the girl of my dreams and now I am trying to teach my friends game but it’s not easy... just wanted to say well done and keep up the good work you are helping guys everyday achieve there dream girl and be happy in life!
I think a good point is you are not going to vibe with every girl you meet. If you vibe there will be no trouble communicating but if there is a clear difference between you two i.e. maybe you're down to earth and she has a high ego, then vibing will be much harder. Just let go of the girls it doesn't work with and focus on the girls it does.
Just ask people open-ended questions about themselves. People love to talk about themselves. What do you like to do for fun? Oh, what do you like about that? If you are also kind of cultured you can learn to talk about all kinds of topics so you'll be able to talk intelligently about their interests.
Thats what JP says a lot, listen to the other person by paying attention and engage in the conversation as if you care about whatever you two are tallking about as opposed to having an agenda behind the conversation
Isolation > overthinking > social anxiety
Question: Do you ever deal with a girl who is socially awkward and stuck in her head?
+1
Yes. It makes me not the weird one lol
If she into you she won’t be stuck in her head
She’s just vibin bro
I love shy girls, it really skyrockets my confidence.
What happens if you approach a group and choose a target, but five or ten minutes in one of the friends seems a more viable option? What factors should make you switch and how do go about switching without blowing the whole set?
Hey Todd, recently I got a girls # and she definitely seemed interested. I tout myself as a direct person however, in my first text I tried to set up plans right away & it was prolly too direct. How do I recover from this?
if you gave too much power away in conversation, ways to get it back
Leading, teasing, less questions and more statements, calibration(after the fact)
@@Seductive15 nailed it
DHV and negs
@@Seductive15 what's calibration?
@@lukedavis6711 calibration. What is she showing with her body language. what is she Feeling based on what she is thinking from what you have said and in your tone/touch.
Hi!
A specific question, what measures should one take in a mildly crowded train with people straight by the girl you want to talk to? I guess that 'actions', not that many, but a stronger calibration. Could you extend on that tooic? Thanks so much Todd for the help you give out!
I'm so grateful for your videos Todd. The System is amazing too! My question is, how do I open girls on the street when there isn't really anything to go off or anything I can comment on for observational openers/teases? I find it difficult to open girls unless I see something I can comment on or perhaps make a tease about, like the way she's walking or what shes wearing etc. This is causing me to miss out on so many good opportunities, unless I just open with a direct opener/compliment which gives my power away.
Street opening is tricky depending on the culture of where you are. I'd suggest following the person until they get into a store. If they get into their car to leave, let it go. Unless they're window shopping or just strolling, people (men and women) tend to not want to be bothered. It may have to do with their mind being in turmoil, being in a hurry or just not in the mood to make new friends. People are way more open when they are bored than when they are busy.
Protestan88 baloni. Why would you follow her you sound like a stalker lol. Just walk straight up to her like a real man say hi. You don’t need any cheesy lines as the dynamic is different in person compared to online. She’ll pick up on your confidence and body language and tonality rather than the exact words. Generally don’t comment or tease about anything “looks” related. Negging is for fucking chumps. Show some intelligent banter.
Isn't the lack of something to observe on an observable quality in itself? "It's incredible that I can't find anything notable about you to make conversation. Did you just come out of the factory or are you going to interview for the world's most boring job?"
Vibing for boring guys? Thanks for the recommendation youtube...
I'm sure this has been answered plenty of times on these sorts of channels. But what do you do when you begin feeling jaded, what would be a strategy to refresh that experience of game again? I've had many successes and failures, and after each rise and fall I swear I grow harder and harder and thus boring. I feel like I've had the same conversation 100 times over even though I'm meeting different people. I'm content settling into a more monk life existence where I kind of just stay present and do the right logical thing, but the pure thrill of it all seems to have diminished for me. Is that just part of growing up as a man, or do certain people sustain that childlike joy?
I like how tod keeps it real with relatable stuff I can’t feel rsd these days
Hey Legit Question: How do you go about staying sexually healthy and avoiding stds besides obviously condoms but im also talking about oral, do you just get checked up regularly? Thanks, very curious of your viewpoint.
Dude it's impossible to completely avoid them. HPV can't even br tested for in men. And herpes is transmitted from skin to skin contact. So you'd never know what happened. Everything else, a girl could test for beforehand and it might no show immediately, so you could still get it. Risk is apart of the game. Just use condoms like you should and vet women properly
Jacob Macias Caballero he already has one
Creative Name100 thanks bro just checked it out
Stutters the Pimp facts
Hey Todd. I've got a question I was hoping you might answer. Im nineteen. Game is definitely different in some ways for guys around this age, because people are less experienced and less comfortable. There are few girls my age who are sexually open, and many are even virgins. I think being overtly man to woman could be a negative in this context. Any thoughts on how game might change and need adaptation in this context?
Another gem, thanks Todd.
Hey Todd, How do girls judge what is good game and what is not? Do they compare to past boyfriends, media, etc?
Damn the right video always comes at the right time this is my exact problem its my biggest weakness and kills my confidence in myself when I can't talk to people without being an awkward mess!
Meditation has helped me big time; i can barely socially function without meditation
hi, could i ask your honest opinion about a smart results-oriented assistant im planning to address the dating hell problem
, regarding your comment, yes, you need to create leverage, its because every mind evolves in its own way, but still is very possible to overcome this 'unsure' factor in your own way, without others canned approach, science has established that the 'dark triad' is also a strong sexual activity predictor
“Love, I forfeit. Money more important.” - Pi’erre Bourne
Kush Lennon Pi’erre the goat
How do you keep pace in conversation with girls you meet while with friends? My buddy is a really charismatic guy and even when I’m out with him and his gf together he’s always pulling anyone I meet into his conversation and I end up on the perimeter.
How do I redirect that bs without feeling like I have to compete?
Don't think of pulling when you're out with him. Think of it this way, if a bunch of MMA fighters accost you two, and your buddy has a black belt in Jiu-Jitsu, are you gonna get in his way trying to act tough?
Also, him being with his gf gives him social proof. Girls see that he has value as a potential bf and it also takes the edge off since they don't get awkward in front of him since they feel more comfortable 'cause he doesn't seem to have an agenda.
Hey Todd! 1st of all I'd like to say thank you so much for all the free stuff you hand out, you have changed my life!
I would like to ask if you could maybe talk a bit about how to approach cold calling? I'm sure you would have something meaningful to say about that. I have recently gotten a new job and I want to be good at it. I am a huge believer in self-reflection and optimization. But I'm having a bit of a mental block you might say with all those calls. Any tips for that? Much love!
V Česku je to trochu jiné než v USA. Třeba s cold approachingem se mi moc toho nepovedlo. (Pravda je, že nejsem v tom až tak dobrej.)
Hey Todd I have a question for you. So this girl I have known for several year (have been interested in as well) just broke up with her boyfriend from a two year relationship. I haven’t seen her since summer so I I started talking together and we hit it off great, she responded almost instantly to my texts when it normally took her at least 10 mins. However whenever I asked her to hang she said she couldn’t. I trustworthy source told me that she had a lot of shit currently going on in her life and isn’t looking for a relationship. I would normally move on but she has all the qualities I like and there is a lot of potential. I understand that she may not be looking for a relationship right now but I want to keep the attraction there. How do I do that/keep asking her to hang without looking desperate (I asked twice but the first was a last-minute thing). It appears I am doing nothing wrong in doing and it is her situation that is the problem. What do you recommend? Thanks!
Decide to have her as just a friend, and treat her like she's just a friend. That will ease your anxiety and could trigger something in her if she feels something towards you (like why is he not chasing me anymore, I should escalate), or not, but at least now you have a wing woman or just move on eventually.
You answered this in one of your instagram lives but I’d like a more expansive answer. Since I’m in school it isn’t really that productive to cold approach for me, how do I become that charismatic guy in a social circle? Or to put it simply, how do I get good a social circle game?
Follow RSD Luke lol
Being charismatic is to be playful and being masculine. Being masculine has to do with being a figure with many qualities like Driven, Decisive, Calm and Assertive. So what does it mean to be playful? Be a person who isn’t negative. Be inquisitive about people, ideas, classes you’re taking; be adventurous; seek to do exciting things; work hard in your school and career but be light hearted and easy going; generally speaking, being playful is associated with being positive. In a world in which everyone’s brain leans negative and always tries to assume the worst, be a person who MAKES AN EFFORT to be playful.
These videos are all must-watch
Is attraction all about establishing the right frame? Could you give small tips on how to do that? Thank you very much.
Go big man. You don't give small frames. That makes it seem like something else is small. That being your imagination.
That’s very accurate info Todd , Thanks for sharing your knowledge
Yo I dig your speed painting
People have a tendency to get inside their own heads and hyper-fixate on what we think we NEED to say next. Relish in the conversation and don't overthink it. Enjoy the ride! Conversation becomes a chore otherwise, and even if you do achieve the end goal (whether that's sex, a relationship, etc.) you will not be comfortable with the other person.
It's happened to me where I've established a link but from there on out I'm not acting authentically. Honestly, I'm still not great at pulling myself out of this mindset and can get stuck - when that happens I excuse myself from the convo (e.g. bathroom break). If anyone has any tips/trick on how to collect yourself, would you be able to share?
Question: how to transition from an indirect opener and is it important to transition quickly?
Sidney Rodrigues there’s no specific way to “transition “ other than asking relevant questions
If you open indirectly , you can introduce yourself to her.
I just approach, telling her the things that i noticed about her, tell her the way she makes me feel in the moment and the rest is a mix of guessing what she likes or how she is based on what i noticed about her. If she says i smoke cig or watch netflix series im fuck this shit im out.
If you know what your value in life is , you have enough self worth to get a woman to talk with you. If she does sth. you dont like , tell her so.
Before you get comfortable with talking to women, you should get comfortable in talking with yourself. Sit down for 15 min and just focus on your breathing. If its too hard you probably feeling uncomfortable with a woman too, and its not the woman that makes you uncomf. its the man who doesnt know himself
I don't like people anymore after getting bullied most of my life.
Is it possible to show too much premise in one go, if so how do you recover from that?
What is the behaviours that separate lover from provider. Also guys if theres a link you can post that will really helpful. Pickup community saved me from suicide, keep up the good work 💪
I'm a pretty good looking guy that works out alot and stays physically fit but when it comes to social skills that's literally my biggest downfall.Not only with women but with people in general.Lately I've been reading alot of books in hopes of helping with my social anxiety that I have that has a tendency of messing me up on first dates to the point where it doesnt lead to a 2nd one.
Infield Question/Scenario: (15-20min total)
Sat with 4 random chicks at bar (in a booth), social and good vibe. talked to everyone and was interested in the one next to me. Maybe I didn't establish man to woman enough, but towards the end I asked for number as I mentioned I had to go soon, all friends go "she has a bf," ends up being true and didn't get number. Ended up going to another bar for more random sets. Did I play my cards wrong or just simply unlucky. Any advice?
Thanks in advance.
This question might be little specific, but could probably be tranferred to other examples:
I just saw a daygame infield with a direct approach and after about half a minute, and after the girl reacted kind of closed off and shy, the guy said "Don't worry I'm not dangerous.", with kind of a serious tone even. Is this line, directly implying, and telling the girl, that she doesn't have to worry, a good or considering her initial reaction, even nessecary thing to say in order to continue with a direct transition into a man to woman frame (or a stonger one), or is a line like that implying the idea, that you could be dangerous (creepy/ etc.) and because you are bringing it up, more likely to seem like you're trying to convince the girl, that you're not?
Therefore, should you convince her in more subtle ways that she can be loose around you and what would those be if she is currently really stifled and intimidated?
Hey Todd,
Are you using an expensive hair dryer?Your hair looks like not really much time spent on it but I like how you make yourself more charismatic. If this is considered as even a little part of game can you show us your skills in front of the mirror?
Todd do you have a framework or tips when making guy friends. Since your a guy who has been in social dynamic business for decades, you probably have some very useful insights regarding this that a lot of other people don't. And what good books to read regarding this.
How to break rapport in a way that conveys the right dynamic like you talked about in the video.
I always have problems with platonic conversations
Hey Todd. Thanks for your videos -- it does help a lot! Here is the question: how would you deal with the situations when the communication is kind of one sided (I'm referring to face to face interaction)? Basically, you are the one asking questions, and although she does respond, it almost always never ends with a question, so you end up having no space to develop (except for continue questioning). Lack of obvious interest from her side?
Thanks!
Happy Halloween Todd-Sensei !
I love how no matter how much I hope I finally have some--any--game, come 2020...every single indicator continues to point to "self esteem WAAAAY too low, and obviously unsure of myself". Gotta love that. It's gonna be a while for me. Heh, Todd and I are the same age...
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, regarding your comment, yes, its because every mind evolves in its own way, so something working from one dude could not work for others, but still is very possible to overcome this 'unsure' factor in your own way, without others canned approach, science has established that the 'dark triad' is also a strong sexual predictor
Act like you're talking to your best friend....maybe your dog. (This comment was NOT sponsored by Julien from RSD)
Where do you draw the line between being honest and genuine versus not showing weaknesses?
Dzik Bagienny that's mostly about frame control. If you totally own and believe in what you're saying with unflappable confidence, it doesn't really matter what you say.
Wait, the first two points were about building rapport. But the third, for game convo, we have to break rapport (6:32)? Totally confused
You're giving your power away if you're not breaking rapport
@@babyem5249 So you want to make a connection then break it? Is this when guys start challenging the girls?
Todd my question is: how do you make "where are you from" or "what course are you studying" more interesting? The answers are usually a yawn, even tried turning it into a guessing game to make it fun, kinda works sometimes but looking for something more solid.
Using different tones, pronouncing in a unique way, after answering questions such as: what do you do for a living? She answers, I am a nurse. You could tease her and banter her saying, ahh so you've seen a lot of guys trying to flex their muscles when you were vaccinating them. And she laughs after you could move on by saying what you're doing etc ... if you being playful it’s impossible you could get someone yawn. Anyway your game in any first day should be relax teasing and making sure she having good time.
Honestly I hate small talk so much because it's so boring. I wanna talk about the inevitability of death, not how nice it is outside smh
Then do that, but try to make it a fun conversation.
Does attraction have an expiration date?
I've noticed that if I make an approach and get a number if I take too long to set up a date it usually doesn't work out
Funny, I've had the opposite happen to me. If I go in for the date a bit too early (unless the set was rock solid) I usually get silence. However, a few days of vibing through text and date could be set
How do you number-close a two set (of girls) during day game when you don't have time to isolate?
It happens to me a lot that a girl is giving me IOIs but I'm scared to escalate so how to kill this fear and why it is in me in the first place?
Question: I have got results following your system. How do I set it up without breaking her heart or managing her expectations?
Thanks Todd. Needed that in my life 👍🏾
Text game question: how to deal with the “I’ll let you know” text when making specific plans?
I hate the feeling to just rely on her spontaneously texting me again after some time
Just say okay
Just let me know when your schedule clears up.. and leave it at that
Yeah, she is not interested. Move on
"Okay, let me know when you're schedule clears up"
Then DON'T WAIT. Chase other women then.
Why do you hate the feeling? Whether she says no or yes, it doesn’t matter.
Just reply “okay” and focus on yourself/another girl who gives you the time of day.
She might have legitimate plans or she might be avoiding you. So don’t trip. Don’t linger on her.
How to initiate conversation and lay out game structure [O.P.E.N.~Close] on awkward places like inside train, elevator, public utility vehicles, fitness gym. The girls tends to be stiff when they are on such places since they seem focused on their respective errands (i.e. going to workplace, working out, etc.). Perhaps any infield example for this? Thanks in advance Todd!
I hate i can only like your video twice...🙌💗
Hey Todd I’m finding a lot of value in your videos. However, I when it comes to “believing in your high value” it seems that is a highly common sticking point. Why is this? Is it a parenting thing? Is it just natural? Where does that insecurity come from?
I think understanding where the feeling comes from will help overcoming it and solving it. Will appreciate you or anyone than can comment on this.
Question:
is there way to screen girls fast(first meeting)? to find out who she is at core?
and what you might expect from her 5, 10, 15 years from now?
or does she has hidden "trauma" etc ... that might influance her behavior in long-term relationship
Learn Spiral Dynamics, it's a great tool
How much do you charge if I wanted to fly out to NY so you could teach me all you know in person?
@AskTodV I have my game pretty diled up. I'm a 35yo and am able to comfortably approach and pick up 20 somethings at ease and with good sucess rate. The issue is I live in 200k ppl city which ia overwhelmed with tourists at summer season, which is both when my business and game shine. For the reminder of year I'm at a cold streak, because I'm unable to transfer my summertime cold approach game to the small city social circle situation and I end up relying on girls approaching me (which happens reguralrly luckly for me), but as someone loking for a LTR I feel I'm missing out on the opportunities.
How do I transfer my 'big pond' skills to the 'small pond' situation without being labled as a creep pickup guy in a small community I'm bound to?
I frequently find myself in "conversations" where I'm doing all the talking and when I ask questions I get brief answers followed by return questions that take time to answer.
My goal is to get to know the person I'm talking too but I wind up sharing way too much about myself and getting very little information about whomever I'm talking too.
Then I get criticized for "dominating the conversation."
How do I keep a conversation as a two way communication when other people are happy to let me ramble on so they don't have to talk about themselves?
Good question
hi, could i ask your honest opinion about a smart results-oriented assistant im planning to address the dating hell problem
, regarding your comment, yes, conversation about weather is not enough, you need to create leverage, its because every mind evolves in its own way, but still is very possible to overcome this 'unsure' factor in your own way, without others canned approach, science has established that the 'dark triad' is also a strong sexual activity predictor
Hey Todd, can you make video about re-framing, when is better to just be unreactive and when is important to take control and reframe if the girl have boyfriend or want his ex+what words to avoid that triger her to think even more about the problem
How to react when people say you're doing pick-up while picking up girls? (especially Social Circle Game)
Tell them flirting with girls is normal and they are being wierd
Thank you!
I have a quistion, what to do if have no mood to talk?