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- Todd compares and contrasts negs, push-pulls, insults, and disqualifiers.
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📑Outline
00:25 - Intro
00:33 - Question: What are the differences and similarities between negs, push-pulls, and insults?
01:30 - Overtly rude or mean…
03:30 - Positive + Negative
06:15 - Make her chase
08:30 - Backhanded?
11:40 - Literally is a compliment
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Push pull neg is my favorite bodybuilding split
God that was clever
😆
Push pull is the one of the two things i do as a hobby. The other one requires a laptop and lotion
Yeah leg days are overrated as fuk
"body building"
Unbelievable. I finally understand the neg, omfg. Nobody, no other person has explained it this well
Best example of a push pull EVER is key n peele's 'hells kitchen' bit 😂😂😂
My favourite self amusing, push pull/neg opener..
"Well look at you, all dressed up and looking like half a million dollars."
That killed me
why just half a million? lol
Looking like a shiny nickel would be hilarious
So happy I found this TH-camr!! He explains in such a CLEAR WAY unlike others I have been watching! Love that he explains all the abbreviations for new viewers such as me :D
I like the videos with subtitles in the video, it makes the video much more interesting.
There are two other ways that you might do a push-pull with action and/or tone of voice. You might say "You are the worst person I have ever met", while you hug her or kiss her on the cheek. Or, you might say, "You are the most beautiful woman that I have ever seen." in a flat tone of voice, while you are looking at other women.
Second one there is just kinda weird
@@James-xm3ex yeah but you get the idea
That is the most Ridiculous example to use
'You talk as if you were my wife' in a slightly judgemental tone would also count as a push-pull.
another thing that I would really like to hear Todd speaking about is knowing how to separate how women judge your value from how you perceive your own value, this one being the most important, of course.
high vibe communication - julien
I hope I understood your comment correctly lol.. I’d say that if you struggle with this, consider healing your “inner child”. It could suggest that as a child, you did not feel “worthwhile”. Once you “heal” this, you won’t be bothered by the value others place on you.
@@carloschica1628 That's a great advice
Insults doesn`t work, I tried... I am in jail
please get me out
I said it as a joke, one day later I had to go to the Police station
@@tocandoenlacalle2024 you are right.
hahaha
You still serving time? 😂
I'm not saying this video is wrong, I'm just going to say that some people don't play games. I scored a girl that was way out of my league precisely because she had no tolerance for negs, disqualifiers, etc. I began dating her when she was 18 (I was 21), and every time the topic of "other guys" came up, she would tell me how furious she would get when they tried the tricks that are in this video. (like commenting about her behaviour or quirks). She straight up says that she chose me because nothing negative ever came out of my mouth, and I just simply employed intelligent conversation. She is now closing in on 49 years of age and we've been together for 30. She was a model at age 18, and she has aged as well as Cindy Crawford. I am the perfect example of nice guys can finish first.
Your Coaching advise is 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 I much appreciate the free content you are providing helps out so much 💯👍
Dope as always Todd. Great content!
I'll call this Rollercoaster MEthod, todd.
Like psyching out someone u play in bball game comes to mind with ur examples of a neg. What i would do us tell my opponent is that he has a great shot and ask how he does it. This puts him in his head and hopefully affects his shooting
I had a man use the push and pull technique on me, at first I found it quite fun to be honest, we were both in the talking stages and I was enjoying the freedom of getting to know someone whilst playing silly mind games too it kept things fun. UNTIL he stepped over my boundaries by ignoring me and giving me the "I don't like you" look... Then when I would step back, he'd come back all nice and I let it go the first time because I wanted to see if this was his character or a genuine mistake.
He came back, to be insulting towards me. I was like no thanks and walked away. Haven't allowed him to speak to me since. He has tried.
The thing is I'm well educated, I have a busy lifestyle, I have friends, family I have my own house at the age of 26, I have a good job I earn a good living. So for me, I cannot put up with any type of disrespectful behaviour! I love myself and my life too much. I could have hurt his ego by stating the fact that I earn more, he still rents and has nothing going for him. But instead I chose to walk away.
Men, play games and do it playfully especially if you like the woman. Don't start playing mind games and being disrespectful at the same time. No woman is putting up with that
It sounds like you wouldn't have dated regardless because you earn more and have your own property. But I agree they shouldn't have been disrespectful
Totally agree. I just dumped a guy who started negging. I called him out on it. His face turned red. He pleaded he would never do it again. I said it was too late. Anything beyond normal playful teasing is annoying and so easy to see through.
Never ask a fish how to catch fish
It works if you want to get a one night hookup, it doesn't work for long term relationships. Girls will cheat on their man with a guy who provides the polarizing push pull neg. But he will be her fun thing, not her main dish.
You are 27 and here talking about men lmao. You better hurry up before you hit that wall. If you really loved your life so much you wouldnt be on this video where men learn how to get better with women.
3:40, 5:00, 6:00, 9:10
Awsome material Tod! More intresting then others 😉😜
Would pushing her in the pool be considered a push/pull technique, or does it only apply when you also pull her out?
Why ask two questions when you can ask one long-form question with two parts?
How about a 'qualifier' then?
Good Vid. Besides , what is that blue couch and blue striped pillows🙈🙈😆 . Thats a push to my eyes🙈😅
Tood can you please talk about social proof , preselection ,leader of men and other attraction switches and how to convey these traits verbally to women during cold approach or better yet demonstrate them.
I love this video from you, Todd. I'm going to try this today. My line is that she looks scholarly. It is more in line with what I do, so I can easily transition.
Hey Todd, I have a question. So in the past I've used what I'd consider outlandish insults, which are insults that don't hold too much basis in reality. Like guessing a woman is like 35 when she's clearly 24. Usually it seems to get me a few laughs / solid reaction.
But after seeing this I wonder if thats the wrong sort of reaction Im trying to get. I guess my question is, are all positive reactions equal? If not, what kind are we really striving for?
The kind where she ends up in your bed.😋
This gotta be a generation problem. I can't believe that men in the 19th century or early 20th had to think of all this games to date a woman.
Trust me, women also turn themselves into pretzels to make guys commit, which was easily achievable before. The generation of singles or polygamists 🤷🏻♀️
Manny this guy I think and all the PUA community help you how to get laid in the 19th and 20th century people wanted to make a family and they were OK with platonic logic conversations and their relationships were based on trust now it's hook up culture since 1968.
@@lilja6306 that makes a lot of sense
@@mannycalavera1848 idk if you understand French there is a Catholic Belgian theologian who did a whole historical philosophical analysis how we came to hook up culture and destroyed families therefore messed up society his name is Arnaud dumouch.
Just simply practical, thanks Todd!
The problem with push pull is women with strong frame wil flip the push you use. Like if you say I don't think we'd get along its so easy for her to say you're right I don't think we would. I think better than having lines push pull should be more on how you carry yourself around her. You have to have give off a very nonchalant attitude while showing interest in her as well as the vibe that yeah I like you but I don't need you.
I guess you can flip it back again at her
Outstanding video on how to pretty make a woman crazy.
You won't make a women crazy because she knows your push-pull in her.
Do you want a crazy woman who is in pain and in doubt and feels trauma bonded towards you? No! That would make you repulsed and tired!
should i need this if the girl is qualifying herself? Am i need to proceed to building rapport?
Hoping this is what will help me. Been on Reddit for a while
Any learning from reddit
@@Dann-md9eq seduction is a good subreddit lots of good stuff
That's really amazing. Now I know that there are men who consciously do this. Thank goodness I'm very sensitive and see everything shown here as an insult. Now, instead of ignoring, I'll fire back from now on. Thanks a lot.
I recognised that it was done to a T to me by a man whether consciously or not. I wondered even before knowing about male pickup whether he was manipulating me on purpose. He used my naivety, pure intentions, empathy and lack of experience (he’s older) to trauma bond me. It was excruciatingly painful experience especially towards the end where his mindgames, gaslighting and manipulations made me needier and needier. And he lost interest subsequently due to my changed self esteem and neediness but still tried to get the maximum of validation from me.
Men who do this are selfish creeps and not worth your time.
My favorite is when they try this and you still tell them no…. Boy did he think he got it in the bag
3:33 more push pull exemples please
This clarifies a lot.thanks
with the right girl. typically one who has multiple older brothers, than insults are gold. thats how i got the girl i have now. its a very bratty sister older brother game we have going on. its like fire and ice.
Thanks!
Finally i understand the difference
Thanks todd🌹🌹🌹
str8 gas, thanks Todd
You can totally practice at the gym.
How to show interest without sounding needy?
You do with positive and negative spike.
Neg- it should be unintentional and dressed up as compliment. Compliment that provoke insecurity.
Ex: you blink alot, I love that sweater, it is so cool that you are trying to bring the 80s back
Push pull- say something that trigger positive emotion and negative emotion.
Trigger negative emotion by judgements, withdrawing attentions. Ex: do you know what I love about you? Absolutely nothing.
I thought I loved you until you said that. It is so annoying how cute you are.
*It makes then want to prove to you. This is great way to show positive and negative spike*
Negatice spike isnt insult as it is more along the line " I had a certain emotion or reaction toward you" not saying "you are particular thing" (ex: fat, smelly, etc)
Disqualifier- negatice statement that create distance or uncertainty. (Lacks positive spike, so more risky)
*about relationship, whether or not it will work, whether or not you like her*
Neg and disqualifier can be used in push pull as negative spike
Insult- say something overtly rude and mean. Ex: You are fat. Just dont do this.
You blink a lot... that's pure gold Todd. Thank you
How can I get out the friends zone she old man we have been friends long time she said she had felling for me long time a go she all ways want to help her
Friendzone. This is a place that you put yourself in. It is hard to get yourself out. The best way is to not contact her. If she contacts you, make your self busy and don’t text right away on responses. Cut it nice and sweet. Don’t ask how she is doing or questions like that. Make statements.
Field Report- did a push-pull on the spot- - Magic.
Good job bud
Thx sensei. Love u 2
We need a video about red flags. Talk about women types or traits that we should never pick for a relationship.
If you are not judgmental a girl will talk with you openly on everything and you can screen her using your standards. I had girl that tol me she likes drugs and party. It's not for me soo we just had sex. But for other guy it might be perfectly fine so you ask questions and observe using your own compas.
@@chrissre7935 But there are certain things that they don't speak about because they don't understand it fully how it's bad for them, like certain behaviors that show that they have low self esteem and self destructive tendencies that may put us in danger or emotional involvement with someone who is not good for us.
@@thisisrandomphrase low self-esteem. That is basicly the first thing notice when meet a person. That is like the most obvious trait. "self destructive tendencies". Alcohol abuse, is she BiPolar or has other mental illness, only had short term relationships. It's easy to screen those traits out by just asking questions.
" they don't understand it fully how it's bad for them" They don't need to understand them for you to screen them out.
@@chrissre7935 Yeah man, but it would be nice to have Todd giving his perspective on this subject
Damn it I wanted to use the insults
Bro out here doing god's work
In night game, if a girl I made out with got dragged away by her friends, how should I persist and get her back? What steps should I take to preemptively prevent her being dragged away and pull?
My possible solution is to move her away from her friends lead her to the bar and near the exit of the club. The only thing is it was at the height of the night and we were still enjoying dancing (before she got pulled away from me). Todd has mentioned in the past to pull at the low not the high point (has something to do with women experience the change in emotion instead of the emotion itself).
I approached a girl in the train. She seemed to be breathing heavily and expressing some sort of sexual feeling, but she told me that she does not have the energy to carry a man to woman conversation right now. I reapproach her a bit later (I forgot to ask for the number) and she denied the phone number exchange, telling me that she's not the right person for me. I told her that this is really relaxing for me and that she doesn't have to be so tensed. And I left. (She was kinda irritated at the same time). How could've I leveraged the sexual tension? She did seem stressed and her body language was kinda positive
Maybe she was on drugs
@@bringthe707out9 damn 🤣
Not enough context (what were you and she saying) but maybe she was socially anxious or had a bad experience with men approaching her, which is why may be she was breathing heavy.
Especially, on a train, if she's she socially anxious, she may have been uncomfortable with everyone in the train listening to your conversation.
Maybe there was no sexual tension.
If this is the case, then you should have backed off sooner and you telling her to not be tense will just make her more tense.
You don't ever want to make or put a woman/or anyone in an uncomfortable situation.
In her mind, you will get associated with negative emotions.
Find ways to get her comfortable. Saying "you shouldnt be tense" wont do it.
@@nonenone2669 alright. Thanks for the reply
Have you considered that she was just..... breathing?
Finally. Thanks Todd
If the woman is wearing the color pink for instance….say “ I’m not really a fan of the color pink, but it looks good on you”
@@johnkreese4706 that's it bro!
@@hireecejulie any color you want…interchange it
@@hireecejulie OR if she’s wearing a sports team shirt or jersey….” I’m not a fan of bears(or any team sport mlb, nba, hockey), but it def looks great on you”
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You're the best 👌
The Master Game has spoken
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I have yet to meet a woman who doesn't take teasing as anything other than an insult.
Same here bro
They aren’t attracted to u😂
@@CommandoMaster Yeah, that's the point. Women only see teasing as fun flirting if they're already attracted to him. It doesn't work for regular guys to get to get the woman attracted.
@@BloodyHeck ya true. Looks is everything
The purpose of a neg is to set up the frame that she is winning you over (establishing that you have higher value indirectly)
Hey I need your number but I don’t think we will ever get married
The thing I want to know the most is how this applies to escalation because how can you kiss and start getting physical with a girl in a way that doesn't give away all your sexual power. Isnt that showing that you're completely interested? I dont understand how to keep her wanting more from that point.
Pull away a lil bit after the kiss
@@joshjames1443 yeah I've heard alot of people say that doing that makes her think wait does he still like me? But obviously when you're touching and kissing she knows you like her and would fuck so I'm just having trouble understanding how to keep your value up while escalating and what makes her want it after that point because idk how you keep your sexual power then.
@@RockyRTF don’t ever kiss, or really even sexually touch, a girl in a place that you two can’t have sex. And if she starts doing it to you, fight the urge to feed into it or be cute and reject her. Push her away if you have to. Bc deep down every girl knows the reason you are being around them is Bc you would smash. That is their default mode of thinking for all guys, basically. But your power comes in from creating a doubt in her mind that you do want to be sexual with her. The key though is that you have to be attractive enough, or raise get attraction, to the point where she wants/would sleep with you. And now that you’ve expressed doubt in her mind that you would possibly maybe not sleep with her, she becomes insecure Bc she already knows in her head that she would sleep with you. So she feels inferior, and starts to try to qualify herself. This is where the game/rollercoaster begins bc you basically want to keep this game going for as long as possible Up until you guys are literally having sex. Whether you are wanting to have sex as soon as possible, that’s up to you. But even if you are taking a chick home from the bar, in your car you shouldn’t even touch her. She already wants to have sex with you. And you already want to have sex with her. Abstaining from kissing, touching etc only keeps the tension high.
Of course, All of that is mostly for girls you haven’t slept with yet. If you already have, you should do similar things but slightly varies depending on the level of your relations
@@KalamariFromTheParty Great explanation man.
Most nice guys are afraid to escalate physically, or are uncomfortable and clumsy when they do it. Escalating with confidence and proper timing will set you apart and add value. Whatever move you make be sure to end it before she does, as if your better judgement is taking over. Remember, it is a man's responsibility to escalate AND de-escalate, and should be timed as a "reward" for her genuine investment in the interaction (Mario Luna?). Always keep her guessing if you want to take it to the next level with her, it shouldn't be a given. What if you think she's boring or annoying, doesn't share your values or isn't worth the effort? You should have options with women, or at least behave like someone who does.
🍻 cheers buddy
How about sarcasm? Where you are saying something entirely positive but in a negative tone.
It can backfire hard. Some people don't get sarcastic humor. And will take everything literally. start by saying light sarcastic joke. If she dsn't get it. Don't use that humor ever.
How about HONESTY and showing someone you really like her? Games are 3D bullshit.
Women don’t respect honesty. Women want to be with a guy they think they’ve won over , and then keep winning over
Women are creatures of emotions not logic.
thanks
disqualifier can be categorized *as a way to disregard oneself as long term potential partner*
:self disqualifier ''im gay'' or ''im so bad at clearing dishes'' (used with caution)
:target disqualifer ''you looked so dirty, you and i wouldn't get along''
:beta disqualifer ''you look handsome today'', your answer: ''thanks, this is not my ultimate form''
It's a good strategy if you want to separate yourself from being beta provider-ish vibe.
Neg is something like create uncertainty directly:
: i didn't expect you _____
: i'm surprised you ____
This is just emotional manipulation with different terminology. You know this escalates into emotional abuse right? Cannot tell you how many men I've dated who I've genuinely *liked* then they've pulled this PUA shit and I've had to leave the relationship because it's gotten abusive. I work as a model, and I've seen too much of this crap when men try and hit on me, I can spot it a mile off. You will never have a long and happy relationship with a quality woman when you move like this and it's sad you've got people believing in this.
I agree. A man did it to me to despite me having the purest most empathetic feelings i ever had for a person. He was lower value and struggled in life but i wanted to help him. Which then turned into resentment, hurt and agony when i realised i was emotionally abused and absolutely suicidal.
@@bonevolthat’s not true, constant push pulling creates a trauma bond. Read my comment above for an example.
Everyone and everything is manipulative.
So as marketing and sales
Hey can you make a video of what to do after you shoot your shot and missed? But now your always in the same room like at work or class? How should someone deal with that awareness?
After you shoot your shot and miss go to the next woman, Todd's audience is for guys who centre on that one girl.
@@nicholaslucas5183 I know, I have no problem with the number game part but if were talking about inner circle females that can't be avoid if you get rejected. How should one deal with them? Because I would avoid trying to hit on girls that are connected with other friends.
@@McJamEs209 I would avoid trying to hit on girls that are connected with other friends, are you talking about girls with boyfriends, a chad, beta orbiters etc.
@@nicholaslucas5183 I'm more interested in how to manage the situation if it does happen, if you get rejected. Do I just act friendly and until I ignore them? If I have to talk to them after getting rejected, do I pretend it never happened.
@@McJamEs209 you still have to act friendly because it is in the work place, you may have to ask her for a work related item. So yes pretend it never happened. If you still like her she has to see you talking to another girl.
Todd mention Ryan, a former instructor. He said that he is brilliant, someone know if he has a youtube channel ? thanks
Can i practice this stuff on my male friends?
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What is the song Todd uses for his intro at 0:26?
Do you have a book?
Negs works man, even ones you do by accident, which are even better.
I like your haircut! It fits your odd shaped face!
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5:54 Preference is better at expressing dislike than insult
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It would be interesting to hear Todd about relationships. Specially about the possibility of a guy have access to many 10s, but choose to date a girl who isn't. What is the reason for it?
There is no reason. You can find a 10/10 that has a 10/10 personality.
@@chrissre7935 I saw a picture with Todd and his girlfriend, who he has a open relationship with. She's not a 10 in appearance. Rumors say that she is the mother of his son. So I guess it's a matter of the story that they have that is special. Because not everything is a matter of beauty.
Push pull leg is good 💪😂
It also would be interesting to hear from Todd about girls of this generation. What does he think about them seeking attention through social media and this kind of behavior.
So basically negs are sarcastic
I wish you put subtitles and schemes in a manner, that one screenshot to be saved could encompass the entire idea. Maybe 2 screenshots. Posting you on my social media would be much easier. Have you ever considered putting tiny semitransparent name of your channel in the corner of the video for such purposes?
Please tell your "audio friend" to lower the music in the beginning; you will have a lot more views. Some of us listen your wisdom before bedtime and it's not great ... I know you want to make it trendy and hip but you don't need this, "your message" is enough. :)
123 people out of 2.4k commented, probably the same proportion of people who take the initiative vs those sleeping sitting forever on their asses.
Kinda useless w/o infield / delivery
clueless
All these concepts makes sense to me, but the actual part of me putting it into use and coming up with my own lines I'm lost. I dont know how some people can be so creative. Is there something I can do to trigger that part of my brain?
Practice. Watch and read examples and use them as templates to come up with on your own.
@@JohnDoe-qq8et It's like artificial intelligence. It will not be done seamlessly at 100% (AI Models use examples), but it has a higher probability of success. And this comes from examples (or called Training Sets juxtaposed with Validation sets)
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If you want to be good at teasing and flirting, it's probably a good idea to know what you're doing. Hopefully this video ends some confusion... and for more insane verbal game content, check out: verbalgameacademy.com/
hello todd! can you please talk more in detail on blueprints. and the idea that you can change a girl's blueprint in a way that helps you with your frames. especially when talking about eu girls and such. where being too cocky and arrogant isn't very helpfull.
Tood can you please talk about social proof , preselection ,leader of men and other attraction switches and how to convey these traits verbally to women during cold approach or better yet demonstrate them.
Hi Todd, should game be adjusted for specific attachment style that girl may have? Would she respond differently to when and how you are trying to set the premise or how you go through evaluation phase? For example if she is avoidant-dismissive she is not going to respond so well to relationshipy premise and won't qualify that easily?
@@tem.pe7800 you can not , if she does like you, she doesn't like you.
In night game, if a girl I made out with got dragged away by her friends, how should I persist and get her back? What steps should I take to preemptively prevent her being dragged away and pull?
My possible solution is to move her away from her friends lead her to the bar and near the exit of the club. The only thing is it was at the height of the night and we were still enjoying dancing (before she got pulled away from me). Todd has mentioned in the past to pull at the low not the high point (has something to do with women experience the change in emotion instead of the emotion itself).