1. Learn how to manage your emotions 2. Be willing and open to learning 3. Let yourself deeply connect with others 4. Be willing to listen, not just to be heard 5. Find something or a few things that you're passionate about 6. Learn how to be resilient
The fact that you do these videos in black and white made me think you want people to pay attention to the message more than your image. It conveys to me your passion. Thank you.
Just love your videos!! No fancy titles, no music in the background, no ads, no unnecessary talks. Just a whole bunch of life changing, raw and honest advise for everyone who wants to work on transforming themselves ❤️ recently discovered your channel and been watching a lot of your older videos too..
Thank you so much. I've promised myself to watch two videos of yours everyday. I've learnt alot from your videos & my mental health is improving alot since then. ❤
Shifter . . . a can atest to the going slow, one, little step at-a-time . . . stay focused on one thing, get that, add another little thing . . . too much shuts you down and you get nothing done . . . this works well for me . . . and her approach to managing your emotions is dead on . . . it works . . . if you're waiting to get into the Shift Society, read her book while you wait, "Drive Your Own Darn Bus" . . . great foundation for building a better releationship with life and yourself . . .
Hi Julia! Shifter here! I took my notes on this! 1. To learn how to manage your emotions. 2. Is being willing and open to learning. 3. Is letting yourself deeply connect with other human beings. 4. Is to be willing to listen. 5. Is to find something or a few things that you really care or passion about. 6. Is to learn how to be resilient. I have been working on all of this - so good for me! The Shift Society as well as other sources likes books and other coaching as helped me. The mind management, learning the tools, the community, the hot seats (So I can also listen) and I have my passions - art, music and computers, and I have been resilient because there are many times, I get depressed or discouraged and I do pick myself up again! Thanks Coach! To anyone reading this, remember always you are all worthy and valued. ❤️
Hi Julia, shifter here. Thanks for another awesome video! I am working by now on all of them. In particular I decided to sign up for a diving course in the summer, actually been always fascinated and mesmerised by fishes but at the same time was really afraid of going in the deep water because of the feel of losing control. Since I am learning to tackle my fears, went for fear of highs first, I re-learned to trust myself. Now I am super excited to learn to dive in Bali❤️
Hello I’m Eric, I really enjoy listening to your channel, I’ve been applying these methods in my life and I have seen a big improvement in my mental health, I feel like I’m enjoying life more ☺️
Thank you Julia. I'm getting better with every video. You really understand my perfectionist brain (That i didn't know i had until you showed me). Love how you detailed the steps in the path to betterness.
Wonderful content about how to care for ourselves and at the end you said “take good care of those around you” we are imperfect beings but that says it all for me today Love this channel for learning to develop survival skills and gaining the understanding of what to keep, what and how to work on it. Very specific and that helps when just taking one step for starters Thanks again
I just got a reminder that I won't feel happy all the time and I'm not going to be able to control it all the time. But I also got a reminder that it'll somehow be fine in spite of that.
I just want to say thank you for your channel. I am subscribed to it and have been watching it awhile. You have been a big help with me understanding myself.
I'm surprised that you didn't mention anything about the song, Tubthumping, by Chumbawamba. "I get knocked down. Then I get up again. You are never gonna keep me down." 🎶 I had to turn this on and let it run in the background as you finished talking. I recommend others doing the same. 😅 I've been working on all of these things already without realising it. It is helpful to see them in a clear and concise list. Thank you. 🙏 Edit: Omg. Check the comments in that Tubthumping music video. So many stories about peoples' struggles on there.
Very well done as always. I feel the one of the root issues with our society is at the core of the first one you talked about. Although I agree if someone says to us "You could have done this better" we need to take a step back and not react, the better question is, why does a simple statement like that have us go from 0-60? Someone says "You could have done better" and what we hear is "You are a loser" or "You suck" like dang....calm down. That is not what they said. I have a firm rule when things get dicey or you feel your emotions crop up: Stick to the facts! The fact is, the person just said they felt you could have done better. Ask why they think that. Why as a society do we make this crazy jump from "I think you could have done better at this" to "You suck". I don't understand that. BUT - what I do know is you can't say anything to anyone anymore that could even remotely be interpreted as negative. As a society we have collectively decided that it is better to watch someone fail (sometimes with horrible results) than give them a heads up. If I'm at the park with my kids and I see another kid doing something VERY unsafe while their parents are deep in their phone I don't say a word. I will let that kid hurt themselves because if I say "Hey, your kid over there is doing something really unsafe" all that parent hears is "I think your kid is stupid and you are a horrible parent" and they get crazy defensive and sometimes aggressive. What happened to us as a society? My only reasoning for this is most people WANT to be upset. It's kind of like how your true personality will come out when you have been drinking, I think in that exact moment people's filter drops and their most desired emotion comes out which is anger. Do people just want to be angry? I really don't know but I would love any insight on this as I have no idea. Is society kind of losing it a little? Thanks and great video as always.
Hi Julia!!! Came across your channel and I love your content. I was wondering if you (or anyone here) could address a problem I'm having. One of my best friends just left a relationship of 4 years. He's told stories about how she would basically sit around the house doing nothing all day, she would try to restrict his time out with friends, told him he couldn't hang out with certain people, threatened suicide several times when he tried leaving, etc. Stuff that sounds a lot like emotional or mental abuse. A bunch of us finally convinced him to leave and are now talking him through the breakup and next steps. I've made the decision to begin having talks with her to hear her side of things; to understand her mindset and why things turned out the way she did. She has a LOT of trauma from her past that she hasn't resolved and frankly I think she would benefit from seeing a real psychiatrist. I want to point her in that direction. But everyone else in the group thinks I'm making a mistake. They think she is going to try to use me to get back with him (which is of course possible but I know well enough to make sure that doesn't happen). The others are so emotionally invested in this that they actually get angry at me for even reaching out to her. I still feel like the right thing to do is to at least explain to her why it didn't work out and get her the help she needs. I've always been sort of the counselor of our group, and one of my rules is that I always assume people are telling me the truth until I can find out otherwise. I just want to know whether or not I'm wrong in my approach or if I am making things worse. Sorry this was such a long message. Thank you!!!
@@Mockduck2020 spew? I try to share the greatest news of Salvation through Jesus as much as possible. Her video topic was ways to make your life better right? So, what better way than to come to Jesus in humility, like the thief on the cross, and be saved for all Eternity? That’s the greatest peace, the greatest love, the greatest truth, the greatest assurance, the greatest everything! Nothing this world has to offer will last. All the money and fame and fortune on earth won’t save you or bring you real peace. It’s only through Jesus. The world offers a broad road that’s easy and full of limelights, but only lead to destruction for ever. God offers, through Jesus, the narrow path, which may be scoffed at and spit on by most. But leads to Everlasting Glory and Life!
JuliaKristenacouncoller.your video s are always full of good advice and supportive words I am constantly struggling with my mind and my mental health everyday my emotions and thoughts plus feeling s are always all over the place my life isn't how I thought it would be my depression is a struggle everyday I feel unmotivated lack of communication and interested in things I do or want to do always tired my anxiety makes it hard to meet new people o always think about how I wish my life was better and different thank you Julia ❤️
@@chrisdigitalartist hello and thank you I really appreciate this comment mean s a lot always good to hear from you my friend hope your ok and doing ok are you managing ok with your mental health?it's nice you ask about me sadly not coping well at all had a few bad depressive episode s though last few days emotions and feelings all over the place basically going though what I wrote above in my comment I think it's good you are part of the shifters community and you have Julia s book Julia is always helpful with her advice in her video s can't afford to be part of the shifters community but I'm always following her take care Chris 💗
@@nikkimckay860 Aww you are very welcome. Are you able to afford Julia's book? Her book is such a nice intoduction to mind management. Keep watching her videos and explore others too. If you look up Kristen Neff you can learn more on Self-compassion. Take good care. Remember you matter. ❤️🙏
1. Learn how to manage your emotions
2. Be willing and open to learning
3. Let yourself deeply connect with others
4. Be willing to listen, not just to be heard
5. Find something or a few things that you're passionate about
6. Learn how to be resilient
As someone on a quest to improve my mental health and self-improve, I’m grateful to have found Julia’s channel :)
Such a nice comment. Wishing you luck and sending you love ❤️
Ikr ❤️ Same !
Same here
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So glad you're here Chris!
The fact that you do these videos in black and white made me think you want people to pay attention to the message more than your image. It conveys to me your passion. Thank you.
Just love your videos!! No fancy titles, no music in the background, no ads, no unnecessary talks. Just a whole bunch of life changing, raw and honest advise for everyone who wants to work on transforming themselves ❤️ recently discovered your channel and been watching a lot of your older videos too..
Yes! I agree! Just real and raw talking! Really love she doesn't put ads in her videos too! Lol
Really glad you're here and getting something out of the teachings Aswathy.
Thank you so much. I've promised myself to watch two videos of yours everyday. I've learnt alot from your videos & my mental health is improving alot since then. ❤
Good 👍
Thank you again”
Shifter . . . a can atest to the going slow, one, little step at-a-time . . . stay focused on one thing, get that, add another little thing . . . too much shuts you down and you get nothing done . . . this works well for me . . . and her approach to managing your emotions is dead on . . . it works . . . if you're waiting to get into the Shift Society, read her book while you wait, "Drive Your Own Darn Bus" . . . great foundation for building a better releationship with life and yourself . . .
Hi Julia! Shifter here!
I took my notes on this!
1. To learn how to manage your emotions.
2. Is being willing and open to learning.
3. Is letting yourself deeply connect with other human beings.
4. Is to be willing to listen.
5. Is to find something or a few things that you really care or passion about.
6. Is to learn how to be resilient.
I have been working on all of this - so good for me! The Shift Society as well as other sources likes books and other coaching as helped me. The mind management, learning the tools, the community, the hot seats (So I can also listen) and I have my passions - art, music and computers, and I have been resilient because there are many times, I get depressed or discouraged and I do pick myself up again! Thanks Coach!
To anyone reading this, remember always you are all worthy and valued. ❤️
Thanks for the real talk motivation and instruction, Julia!
Happy Thursday Julia!!! I appreciate you friend. I will apply all of these❤❤
Thank you JK.
-Chattanooga, TN
I need to learn on how to be more resilient Julia.
Being willing and open to learning connected with me Julia.
Hi Julia, shifter here. Thanks for another awesome video! I am working by now on all of them. In particular I decided to sign up for a diving course in the summer, actually been always fascinated and mesmerised by fishes but at the same time was really afraid of going in the deep water because of the feel of losing control. Since I am learning to tackle my fears, went for fear of highs first, I re-learned to trust myself. Now I am super excited to learn to dive in Bali❤️
Hello I’m Eric, I really enjoy listening to your channel, I’ve been applying these methods in my life and I have seen a big improvement in my mental health, I feel like I’m enjoying life more ☺️
I found being passionate about something helped me Julia.
Love your purpose
Thank you Julia.
I'm getting better with every video. You really understand my perfectionist brain (That i didn't know i had until you showed me). Love how you detailed the steps in the path to betterness.
good for you for showing up for yourself and changing your life John. I see you doing the work!
thank you
17:50 - You have understood this 100%!
Wonderful content about how to care for ourselves and at the end you said “take good care of those around you” we are imperfect beings but that says it all for me today
Love this channel for learning to develop survival skills and gaining the understanding of what to keep, what and how to work on it. Very specific and that helps when just taking one step for starters
Thanks again
Wonderful advice Julia thank you!
you're welcome! Glad you're here.
I just got a reminder that I won't feel happy all the time and I'm not going to be able to control it all the time. But I also got a reminder that it'll somehow be fine in spite of that.
Love your videos. I’m on the waiting list.
I just want to say thank you for your channel. I am subscribed to it and have been watching it awhile. You have been a big help with me understanding myself.
Resilience skill is the one I will work on.
Thx friend 😍
I love this content! Thank you
I've been getting a lot of help with all of these from a certain person, and the one we are currently working on is getting back up after a fall
I love that your videos are Black & White, because real life is not black and white.
I love your videos as so many things resonate with me 😊❤🎉
learning to enjoy myself, will try to work on it more 😊
Mmmm coffee. Manages my emotions swimmingly. Excellent recommendation!
Excellent segment,,How was the publishing process for your book?
This is Katie Marie Young I enjoy this!
I bought your book Julia ^_^ thank u for your amazing personality and incredible knowledge xx
I need to work on loving someone and getting close to them.
Found your YT channel from reading your book. Thank you for this content
I'm surprised that you didn't mention anything about the song, Tubthumping, by Chumbawamba. "I get knocked down. Then I get up again. You are never gonna keep me down." 🎶 I had to turn this on and let it run in the background as you finished talking. I recommend others doing the same. 😅
I've been working on all of these things already without realising it. It is helpful to see them in a clear and concise list. Thank you. 🙏
Edit: Omg. Check the comments in that Tubthumping music video. So many stories about peoples' struggles on there.
Great song!! ❤️
@@chrisdigitalartist Welcome back to the 90s, baby!
@@meghan9436 Haha! Yes! I miss the 90s!
Very well done as always. I feel the one of the root issues with our society is at the core of the first one you talked about. Although I agree if someone says to us "You could have done this better" we need to take a step back and not react, the better question is, why does a simple statement like that have us go from 0-60? Someone says "You could have done better" and what we hear is "You are a loser" or "You suck" like dang....calm down. That is not what they said. I have a firm rule when things get dicey or you feel your emotions crop up: Stick to the facts! The fact is, the person just said they felt you could have done better. Ask why they think that.
Why as a society do we make this crazy jump from "I think you could have done better at this" to "You suck". I don't understand that. BUT - what I do know is you can't say anything to anyone anymore that could even remotely be interpreted as negative. As a society we have collectively decided that it is better to watch someone fail (sometimes with horrible results) than give them a heads up. If I'm at the park with my kids and I see another kid doing something VERY unsafe while their parents are deep in their phone I don't say a word. I will let that kid hurt themselves because if I say "Hey, your kid over there is doing something really unsafe" all that parent hears is "I think your kid is stupid and you are a horrible parent" and they get crazy defensive and sometimes aggressive. What happened to us as a society? My only reasoning for this is most people WANT to be upset. It's kind of like how your true personality will come out when you have been drinking, I think in that exact moment people's filter drops and their most desired emotion comes out which is anger. Do people just want to be angry? I really don't know but I would love any insight on this as I have no idea. Is society kind of losing it a little? Thanks and great video as always.
The last one really helped me sis ❤. Thank you so much ❤
Thanks 😊
Cats are my main passion 😊❤
I’m really in to History and Politics Julia.
The subconscious black cloud lingers on,
Hi Julia!!! Came across your channel and I love your content. I was wondering if you (or anyone here) could address a problem I'm having.
One of my best friends just left a relationship of 4 years. He's told stories about how she would basically sit around the house doing nothing all day, she would try to restrict his time out with friends, told him he couldn't hang out with certain people, threatened suicide several times when he tried leaving, etc. Stuff that sounds a lot like emotional or mental abuse. A bunch of us finally convinced him to leave and are now talking him through the breakup and next steps.
I've made the decision to begin having talks with her to hear her side of things; to understand her mindset and why things turned out the way she did. She has a LOT of trauma from her past that she hasn't resolved and frankly I think she would benefit from seeing a real psychiatrist. I want to point her in that direction.
But everyone else in the group thinks I'm making a mistake. They think she is going to try to use me to get back with him (which is of course possible but I know well enough to make sure that doesn't happen). The others are so emotionally invested in this that they actually get angry at me for even reaching out to her. I still feel like the right thing to do is to at least explain to her why it didn't work out and get her the help she needs.
I've always been sort of the counselor of our group, and one of my rules is that I always assume people are telling me the truth until I can find out otherwise. I just want to know whether or not I'm wrong in my approach or if I am making things worse.
Sorry this was such a long message. Thank you!!!
Chumbawamba - Tub thumbing
Im back
1. Jesus
2. Jesus
3. Jesus
4. Jesus
5. Jesus
And 6. Jesus.
So if Jesus is your answer to everything, why bother watching this?
@@Mockduck2020 I didn’t watch it
@@TTundragrizzly so you just spew Jesus anywhere?
@@Mockduck2020 spew?
I try to share the greatest news of Salvation through Jesus as much as possible.
Her video topic was ways to make your life better right?
So, what better way than to come to Jesus in humility, like the thief on the cross, and be saved for all Eternity? That’s the greatest peace, the greatest love, the greatest truth, the greatest assurance, the greatest everything!
Nothing this world has to offer will last. All the money and fame and fortune on earth won’t save you or bring you real peace.
It’s only through Jesus.
The world offers a broad road that’s easy and full of limelights, but only lead to destruction for ever.
God offers, through Jesus, the narrow path, which may be scoffed at and spit on by most. But leads to Everlasting Glory and Life!
You’re good but you’re becoming too commercialized
she's got kids to support! our girl's gotta make money! phD's aren't cheap💕
JuliaKristenacouncoller.your video s are always full of good advice and supportive words I am constantly struggling with my mind and my mental health everyday my emotions and thoughts plus feeling s are always all over the place my life isn't how I thought it would be my depression is a struggle everyday I feel unmotivated lack of communication and interested in things I do or want to do always tired my anxiety makes it hard to meet new people o always think about how I wish my life was better and different thank you Julia ❤️
I hope you are doing well. Remember always what a worthy and valued person you are. ❤️🙏
@@chrisdigitalartist hello and thank you I really appreciate this comment mean s a lot always good to hear from you my friend hope your ok and doing ok are you managing ok with your mental health?it's nice you ask about me sadly not coping well at all had a few bad depressive episode s though last few days emotions and feelings all over the place basically going though what I wrote above in my comment I think it's good you are part of the shifters community and you have Julia s book Julia is always helpful with her advice in her video s can't afford to be part of the shifters community but I'm always following her take care Chris 💗
@@nikkimckay860 Aww you are very welcome. Are you able to afford Julia's book? Her book is such a nice intoduction to mind management.
Keep watching her videos and explore others too. If you look up Kristen Neff you can learn more on Self-compassion.
Take good care. Remember you matter. ❤️🙏