Turning 28 in a couple weeks and I always feel silly when I complain about never having experienced any type of romance(cause there truly are worse things in life), but it does feel isolating. It seems to happen so easily for some people. So I appreciate you making this video and I know that God has a plan for each and every one of us.
I’m 31 and I’ve never been in a relationship either. I resonate with so much you say. It makes me even so emotional because it’s like a sense of relief to know I wasn’t the only one that felt this way. And now that I’m communicating with people with similar experience, I just find myself a lot more healed but also a lot of grief that comes up for me. I appreciate you and this podcast! You should get Allora on💖 She talks about singlehood
Hey just being honest here. There is something wrong with you if by 30 you haven't had a relationship. This chick is coping hard and using religion as a shield for her own cowardice and clear desire to have only a man that is superior to her. It's not a good thing at all. If you resonate with her you might want to rethink how you approach relationships
The fact you actually think about what you may be able to offer a woman, suggests you have plenty to offer. If you think companionship is something you'd like to experience in the form of a romantic partnership then go for it.
@@markantonelli53 Dude Truth or LIe??? If you live in AMERICA Go date an African Lady??? Green CARD and a Better future is sure to win???? Unless you are telling me something is extremely wrong with your body?? By the way Older women also is the way to go find a lovely 60+ woman of any Nation/Race. If secret unmentioned reason (Consider a love doll maybe)???
New subscriber here. I’m a physically disabled man in my mid-30s. I’ve never been on a date or kissed a woman do to confidence and self-esteem issues related to my physical disability. It’s amazing to know I’m not alone in feeling left out in this area of my life. Please keep up the phenomenal work on this channel of yours! It’s needed and appreciated!
Please, don’t listen to the ableists 🤡 Do keep reaching out - there are many *free* resources such as support groups, even therapy! The hardest part is remembering that your “big deals” are often not a big deal to able-bodied folks and they’ll gladly help and connect with you
@@TheEsquireOfSportsFSU Love Doll Improvement mechanism for FREE WILL issues and LOVE. At least I can keep my love doll til death unlike a person that wants me to be Charlie Sheen With AIDs. If he had a stable partner wouldn't he be healthy TODAY??? if he had a LOVE DOLL wouldn't be any concern of getting a disease and his dad and him can be priests or something,,,,,
Thank you for opening up on this topic,I 100% relate to you, I am currently 29 years old, and I deeply appreciate the fact that there is a community that shares the exact same feelings and frustrations I had while explaining my dating life to my social circle, your video feels truly like a big hug 💕under extreme social pressure, I also started doubting the lack or should I say absence of dating life that I had, and started desperately pushing myself in all directions trying to control where and when I could meet my partner in life, but I also came to the conclusion that in order for me to bring up the right person into my life, I just have to focus on my own social goals, go out, start new hobbies, look out for new interests, while also doing the inner work to improve my self-esteem, only in this way, I also believe that the best person will show up at the right time, I am also a hopeless romantic, rom-coms are my comfort movies 🥰
I’m 34, and I’m physically disabled. I wrote my experience in a separate comment on this thread. But I agree with what you said as far as frustration and loneliness and then finding people who can relate-such a comfort. To your point about working on yourself, I’m doing the same. We got this!!
Naw girl you are fine. I am 36 and never had a boyfriend. I am also a Christian and waiting until marriage. Hear from me don’t feel left out and don’t compare yourself to others. Your man will come! Prayer is really the answer for me and it’s brought me farther. Knowing that I am waiting for one man makes me proud because there isn’t a lot of us out there. I feel the loneliness and don’t be discouraged I also lived alone for 5 years. God has someone special for you. God told me I had to love him first before any man Also I’ve never been on any dating apps
@@strudelh absolutely nothing but I never said any of that so I wonder why you asked. The problem is girls that hide their clear pickiness and lack of ability to work with a man on their level with God. He's not responsible for our personal decisions. If he were, divorce would be his fault too.
@@strudelh Nothing wrong, that's ideal, but wasting your best years is not a good idea. Like, not a single good guy in your teen years and 20's? Probably the good guys weren't 'cute' or something.
Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable about a topic people rarely talk about. I'm a 48 year old Christian woman who is chronically single, never married with no kids. I had one boyfriend briefly for about four months 20 years ago but broke up with him due to him not being a Christian. It's difficult not to feel invisible sometimes but stay hopeful and active. If someone is meant for you, I believe it will happen.
Although I'm still in my early 20s, I relate to you so much. I am on a healing journey right now, and a lot of what you said makes so much sense. ✨️ I barely get out and meet new people and even when i do, i become so closed off. I have a strong feeling I'll keep coming back to this video.
I’m 31 and never had a boyfriend. I too am a Christian and this is why I struggle with modern time dating. The term “genuine” is gone. Modern era dating really destroyed the dating scene, people don’t wanna connect from the mental and emotional side first. Men these days only think about sex and quite frankly that angers me. I don’t want a relationship that’s based on just sexual lust. I just want a honest and descent guy that enjoys spending time with me no matter where we are and what we do. I tend to set boundaries with men and they don’t like that. What women don’t know is once you remove sex you see a person’s true colors and that’s why no guy wants to dates me. They know I’m not here for fun and games. They don’t like that. I have a lot of past bad experiences with men I liked. We were never an item I just wanted to get to know them and eventually they all turned out to be liars and manipulators. So I have a lot of past trauma wounds and everyday it’s harder for me to trust a person. I’ve become more isolated in the past few years. I no longer want to engage in making new friends. I can talk to people and be social, but I have no desire to hang out. I’ve been doing things all by myself and this has been a brand new journey for me. I go to the movies by myself and eat outside by myself now simply because I don’t wanna deal with the emotional burden anymore. I am exhausted both mentally and emotionally and I told my mom most likely things will stay this way. I’ve been hurt so many times the healing process for me over the past 11 years has been tough so I simply enjoy life in the best way possible by making it stress free. I focus on myself now and this gave me the opportunity to learn more about myself and explore my favorite hobbies.
@@iamlacyg You and her are not the same!!!??? She needs to figure out if she is into the PROM mindset of wanting Children. YOU already have a child. She never said she did. Path to adopt or CATLADY is her course right now!!!!. NOT YOU!!!! Salvation type discussion. Repeat having children Bella TWins (WWE) versus NOT having children JOHN CENA isn't the same (By the way mid 30s have no children and don't believe they are mine anyway if one is a CHRISTIAN!!!!) Children are of the LORD and over POPULATION is of the GENTILE.
@amandamedina2533 As a guy with female relative who became SINGLE MOMs. LOVE your theories to prevent you from being a single mother. Wait be patient. Stop trying to ruin one's life with bad decisions. My concerns though personality wise future libido (even the man of ones dreams will be angry about that...) getting older and hating romantic connection. it's to let a partner know if you want an Asexual buy me dinner love life. Or if you have a I need to touch you and never want to let you go (telling the partner again this info so they know that at 70-100 years old I plan to hold you, be in great shape, be healthy physically/romantically (no blue pill crap). So again Please continue to be open with your no sex until marriage mindset. Guys do exist with low sex drives/ Where then AS ABOVE so BELOW mentality begins. Then the wife wants him every other month???
@@simeacalvinlifeobserver3741 My mom raised me a single parent. She got pregnant when se dated my father and well as you could imagine, my father was never present in my life. Nor has he ever payed for child support. My mom had to work hard and my grandparents helped raised me and supported me financially. Growing up without a father was tough. As a child I went through different stages of turmoil. First few years I thought nothing about it but when I attended school every Father’s Day was probably the worst feeling ever. I saw kids with their father’s and I had other kids asking me: “where’s your dad?” My mom never spoke about my father so as a child I was confused and hurt. If I ever mentioned the word “father” to my mother she would get angry. So for many years I never asked a question. I didn’t know my father’s real name until I was 16 years old and I discovered it by accident when my mother’s old phone book fell from he purse and when it to the ground it opened up a page with a man’s name and I knew it was my father. My mom now talks about him when I ask question without getting angry. I would like to hire a private investigator because I want to meet his side of the family. When I was young I always promised myself I would never bring a child into this world to suffer the same fate I did. To be raised without a father. I will only have kids when I am married to a man I call my husband and he loves me unconditionally. These days the dating scene is awful everybody thinks about sex and casual hook ups. Nobody has a deep emotional connection anymore with anyone and that’s very sad. This is why marriage and relationships don’t last and cheating is only a pocket away. With social media and a cellphone it a danger 24/7. Transparency and honesty is always important in any relationship and if you are dating someone. Neither should have a password on their phone. It should remain unlocked at all times. I’m 31 and I have never had a boyfriend, I have never been on a date but in the last 11 years I have experienced so much heartbreak and dishonesty it has marked me mentally and psychologically. I am afraid of opening up to men and getting to know them. The fabrication of lies is getting worst and nobody gives a damn anymore. True love is hard to come by so I told my mother I rather remain single than being with someone who doesn’t make me happy and cheats and lies all the time.
@@amandamedina2533 read your comment!!!! I grow tired of this MY Auntie both mom and dad side have single moms who like you didn't want to be a single they want to keep a PLAYBOY type guys (she looking at other men so now I don't want her....LAME and early 90s. The other one other the late 70s). Then my cousin both male and female complained about they wanted siblings and surely ain't getting none from these men who left my aunts. Well thanks for the reply me continue with my Poverty/VEGAN/Gamer/Hermit/Celebate/No kids (like CENA) lifestyle.
I highly recommend the book, "Love Yourself like Your Life Depends on it," by Naval Ravikant. It is life changing. When you love yourself, miracles begin to happen. Wishing you the best.
It is insane how many people actually have rather lonely romantic lives at the age that is by a wider society considered to be almost unacceptable , and I was so blunt to this fact for so long. The Internet made me realise this, as people started talking about it more openly. I would have stayed thinking I was the only 'weirdo' if not for all this brave people who spoke first. I am 28 and I haven't been in a relationship, I used to romanticize dating so much and now I am so grateful that I've never been through so many bad dating experiences I hear of all the time. It is definitely lonely and you feel like you lack something so important in life, but people around me who are in relationships, less or more serious, are facing so many difficulties that honestly I just don't think it's worth it. A lot of my friends are married and have children too but, boy, their lives are just ever more complicated. My sister, 5 years older, is in a stable and loving relationship, but still struggles so much in the same, and the reasons are either hands down ridiculous or very serious, and when I imagine myself going through something like this I don't feel bad at all that I have been single for so long. Not to mention those relationship where people hurt and mistreat each other which is so common. I just brush it of when people say something judgemental in this regard, as I learned that being in a relationship is actually not easy as you think it is and things get very serious very fast as well. The struggle of being in a relationship is REAL. Until I find someone who I can feel very very comfortable and trusting with, I am happy to stay single and out of trouble. Real people will come to you, there are good chances for that to happen and not doing a relationship just for the sake of doing it, I think that's fine and we should not feel bad about it. And also the dating scene these days is so weird, damn it. And scary. So finding right people or being found by right people won't be an easy task. Let's be hopeful and not too harsh on ourselves.
The one thing that I can take away from this video other than not being alone is taking the pressure of myself of trying to make it happen and putting it all on me.
Hi Naomi NBSB (No Boyfriend Since Birth - yep, there's an acronym for it), seems to me like you are doing everything right.... working on yourself, focusing on the positive (Gratitude Journal no doubt), and staying productive. I would like to add one additional Red Flag... as a person who suffered from real childhood trauma (translate to Chronic PTSD) please be careful to not associate with those who have 'unresolved complimentary trauma' or addiction problem (work, drugs, sex, etc) OR who have had a history of dating those types. Low Self-Esteem can make us particularly vulnerable to those types of people (many times narcissistic) and result in Co-Dependent relationships where we do all the giving because of our low self-esteem. Naomi, you have an awesome camera presence along with personality and good looks that's gonna bring lots of "guy attention" your way. You're respecting your Purity and have traditional values.... and in today's dating scene you are a rarity and what most guys are looking for (Trad Wife). OK, maybe not the Chad's and Tyrone's of the world cause they get soooo much attention from dating apps, BUT if you're able to actually See the guys who are 5's,6's,&7's then You will have a guy in no time. ONE THING: The 5-7's have been rejected and friend-zoned soooo many times that they might be a little reluctant to approach, BUT this Vlog Channel will probably solve that issue. I like your energy and message... and approach. I'm a believer in more ways than one. Keep the faith Sweetheart. Peace and Love, B Goat
women think doing absolutely nothing to get a man, showing no attraction, not talking to them, not even looking at them anymore, is doing everything right lmao.
Hi girlie ! Thank you for showing so much vulnerability and honesty with us. I’m also a Christian women waiting for god’s timing. One thing that really helped me with my relationships with men is just talking to them in a non romantic way. I didn’t grew up with a masculine figure so I was kind of afraid of them. But now I realised that putting every man in the romantic category just gives us more barriers to approach them. Remember that they are human beings before being a love interest. That will help you build beautiful relationships with them. Andddd you ARE worth it. You are worth being seen and heard 💖💖
32 and never had a bf, but I think the worst for me is the judgment. I'm ok with being single, sure sometimes I desire to be in a relationship, but my life is good the way is, I have family, friends, a good job, hobbies etc, if happens great, if it doesn't also great. But I became completely mortified to tell people that I have never been in a relationship bc the few times a told someone they look at me like I just told them I i have stage 4 cancer, they either pity me or look at me like I committed a crime. And it just feels bad you know? I'm just so tired of feeling ashamed of myself, i'm tired of thinking i'm inadequate, i'm tired of people thinking there's something wrong with me, i'm tired of people remiding me of my fertility, i'm tired of people feeling sorry for me. The thing is, I don't want a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship, I only want a relationship if I'm in love.
I’m 25 and while I’ve had a bunch of talking stages I’ve never had an official bf. Mostly cz I was too scared because I grew up in a very conservative, Christian home where I was told not to interact with guys. And also to save myself for marriage. I was also deeply insecure about my weight. Overall I don’t regret it. When I turned 25 I really grew up and my self esteem improved and I realized there was no way I should or could have had a mature relationship before.
@avaq2588 Untruthful state also Donald Trump vote against bullcrap???: "I was too scared because I grew up in a very conservative, Christian home.." What does this statement have to do with DIVORCE >>>> SINGLE MOTHERHOOD >>>> JOB LOSS FAILED RELATIONSHIP >>>> OLD AGE >> DEAD BEDROOMS >>>> BOREDOM >>>>> I FEEL OUT OF CHRISTIAN CONSERVATIVISM ----OPPS I MEAN LOVE!!!!
Genuine question: how exactly does that work? On one hand you're told not to interact with guys but also told to wait until marriage... but how are you supposed to get married if you've been told not to interact with men?
@@aptsongs good question. It’s definitely a catch 22 situation. in my experience once you have a certain degree of success (like have your degree) out of nowhere your family etc bring up - so when will you get married? Do you have a boyfriend? Honeslty the only thing they want is grandkids. They feel like out of nowhere you’ll find a partner just because you are at the right age. Idk how to explain it honestly and it doesn’t make sense at all!
Y’all ever hear the parable of the drowning man? You all are like this drowning man. The lord may have sent your husband to you but you rejected him. You may have stopped your own blessing. For those who don’t know the story here it is. A fellow was stuck on his rooftop in a flood. He was praying to God for help. Soon a man in a rowboat came by and the fellow shouted to the man on the roof, “Jump in, I can save you.” The stranded fellow shouted back, “No, it’s OK, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me.” So the rowboat went on. Then a motorboat came by. “The fellow in the motorboat shouted, “Jump in, I can save you.” To this the stranded man said, “No thanks, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith.” So the motorboat went on. Then a helicopter came by and the pilot shouted down, “Grab this rope and I will lift you to safety.” To this the stranded man again replied, “No thanks, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith.” So the helicopter reluctantly flew away. Soon the water rose above the rooftop and the man drowned. He went to Heaven. He finally got his chance to discuss this whole situation with God, at which point he exclaimed, “I had faith in you but you didn’t save me, you let me drown. I don’t understand why!” To this God replied, “I sent you a rowboat and a motorboat and a helicopter, what more did you expect?”
While i have been in a "talking phase" & have gone on dates to a park, bar or Starbucks but that's been it. I was 18 the last time i had an official boyfriend and I'm 37 now. All my friends are married & have kids while I'm the perpetually single friend but I'm fine with that at this point. I have so much going on in my personal life that i need to fix, but it's really nice seeing that I'm not the only one out there who has been single for a crazy long time or their entire life. I welcome it when/if it comes but I'm definitely learning to lean in to just being single and happy and once I'm financially able, move to a different location that offers more that i can get it and do by myself.
I get approached a lot in person and let me tell you, 99.999999% of those types of men are WERIDOS. They literally just see you as a body and pretty face, and they approach hundreds of girls in hopes of getting lucky. I definitely want to meet my man naturally, but in a calm and relaxed way, maybe somewhere we both frequent often or while doing a shared hobby.
@@william_SMMA I’m 29 and I’ve had a four year long relationship before. I’m just trying to reassure women that random men coming up to you in person isn’t always what it’s cracked up to be. The best way to meet guys I believe is through hobbies, mutual friends, church, work-related events, conferences, etc.
You're an attractive young woman. I'm really surprised you never had a boyfriend. I really appreciate your perspective because it expands my understanding of women and the challenges they face.
So no guy even on a social media has ever approached you? Ladies you dont need to make a direct effort for guys to approach you. You just need to make it seem like you want to be caught. Dress up in something nice and sit in a coffee shop or park by yourself. If you see a guy you like smile and wave. The guy will literally do the rest. It doesnt have to be this complicated. Sadly, women have been so conditioned to focus on their careers, hanging with other women, and being boss babes that the simple way of attracting a man is becoming more and more foreign to them. P.S. - Also stop putting everything on God and put it a LOT more on you.
@@afrofaeries Reason for gender You know based on which gender you are equals TRUE CAUSE of V-CARD. Men do it for a Religious/Romantic/Freedom purpose. Women V-CARD Finacial/childbith fears/sexual defilement reasons/hormones/Divorce fears/Single mom fears/STD fears.
I think the only downside is kind of that inherent ‘phased out’ or invisible feeling of not having similar experiences as your age mates. Like you never got that giddy feeling of someone being asked who they like and it’s you. Not that we need validation from others, but we are social creatures and hearing you are likeable or viewed romantically is a nice feeling, I can only assume. Like I wanted an ‘unserious’ or carefree love experience. I wanted to go to an amusement park or movies with someone I liked and not have a full frontal lobe filled with existential dread ruining the moment. Just innocent fun. Every guy that tried something with me honestly didn’t respect me at all. They didn’t respect my boundaries and patronized me a lot. I don’t know if that’s just how they flirt, but it didn’t feel nice. It’s almost like they enjoyed negging or making fun of me. The fact most relationships kind of kick off in a self involved way is the reason they don’t last. We want a partner so we can feel desirable and not because we want to love. We want to be loved and have that security. I’m sure I’m asexual, but not aromantic so I knew I was cooked as nobody was on the same page as me.
Girl, i am literally in the same boat and the same age!, my relationship with the Lord Jesus is top priority. I thought I was weird for the longest time until my mentor describe my walk as beautiful and spoke about how much I have avoided by never being in a relationship. Definitely believe there is a purpose in my walk and what God is calling me to and excited for the marriage to come.
Hi Naomi, thank God for you❤❤❤. I feel so seen, it's almost like you are me but in Canada then LA🤣🤣🤣 except I am 25 and just starting to figure me out. I am so excited to ride along on this journey with you. I am sure I will learn a lot!
Girl, I am literally in the same boat and 31. My relationship with the Lord Jesus is top priority. I thought I was weird for the longest time until my mentor describe my walk as beautiful and spoke about how much I have avoided by never being in a relationship. Definitely believe there is a purpose in my walk and what God is calling me to and excited for the marriage to come. I am excited for you too and how God is moving in your life, keep trusting and following Him, the future with God and the marriage you desire is way more beautiful in His hands.
If your relationship with Christ is so important, you'd understand how critical it is that you do what it takes to position yourself (men who are about purpose and vision are not engaging in that chasing women/"dating" thing, you are going to have to approach worthwhile men, so get over the fear of rejection) to be with the man who you were created for. Unless you are part of that 0.01% who is destined to be set aside for servanthood, and very, VERY few women truly are. The rest are just coping with not being picked.
I think once you have had one relationship and get your firsts (think wholesome) out of the way, like "first date, first kiss, first time holding hands"....then you won't be as likely to disappear into the bushes lol when the next opportunity comes along. You just gotta get that first experience out of the way. The reason you get shy is because emotions take control. Try to get your mind to take control instead. Practice in safe, quick settings. Its overwhelming to meet cute guys. And it's ok to blush.... modern women (men, too) have lost the ability to blush....like everything is so blase. Your ability to blush will be charning. You'll probably do better at a relationship with someone you get to know naturally, like a coworker.... where things blossom on their own without pressure and you can get to know each other so that then a date is much more comfortable because you already know each other. Speaking from experience 😉
Did not expect this video to make me so emotional. I’m 25 and I’ve also never dated, kissed, etc. When I was in high school and college, I never really craved a relationship and I didn’t really feel the need to be in one to focus on myself. But now, every day I’m plagued with feelings of loneliness, unworthiness, and depression. I’m not religious, nor do I particularly want a religious s/o due to trauma. But it’s so unfair that it seems like everyone else finds love so easily and I’m here, completely forgotten. ☹️ I know I’ve fortunately avoided messy drama that can come with dating, but even then I hate how I haven’t been able to learn my lessons or gain experience. There was so much stuff I wanted to do with a boyfriend while I’m young and free before I got older. It’s messing with my mental health a lot lately and I’m trying so hard to find my will to live. 😞 But even I am aware it’s stupid to base my own worth off of external sources. It’s so hard.
I am 36 and never dated. Not religious reasons or anything. Just never happened. No guy has shown interest in me. And now at 36, I don’t really care anymore. I am content being permanently single with my 2 cats. Don’t want a guy anymore.
Thank you so much for sharing and being open and vulnerable. You are not alone, and I know that because listening to you made me feel less alone. I believe that if you keep trusting God while daring to put yourself out there, you will find your love. I did so and I’ve only recently started dating a wonderful man. Keep believing
It's like hearing myself speak. Also, I am not just saying this, but you are beautiful and have a lovely personality. You are worthy. But I definitely have the same fears as you. I don't think anyone finds me attractive and that's just the way it is. Or that they just don't want to be with me. But really I believe too that God has a plan for you and for me and perhaps your person is taking time to mature and develop. Just like how I feel, so scared of never finding love, but I know that during the time I am single I am maturing and developing as a human being and I hope I can be a great partner for my future love.
You know what is the peak irony in my life... all my relationship happened when I was very immature, stupid and totally lost in life... now, when I'm past that, grown and matured mentally I don't think I have a chance for relationship at all （*゜ー゜*）
If you you never had boyfriend then is ok. But if you look for superficial things like height and attractiveness. Then you just limited your dating prospects in life. If you keep chasing the same group of attractive men then they will never date you. There is good men everywhere but they dont meet the qualifications you seek then they are invisible. I hope you understand that limiting your options are bad idea.
Shut up, why the hell would anyone date someone they arent attracted to? A BIG part of a romantic relationship is physical intimacy and being physical with someone you are not attracted to would feel like rape or something. Looks and personality is a must for a successful relationship. You wouldnt date a woman you werent attracted to, so why should women?
@@ilovetemfo Not trying to attack your comment.. Men don't date woman they aren't attracted to??? Everyone gets old!!!!! The statement makes no sense.... MY personality (I like tall women/short women) >>> (Bald {{must look lady like} / long hair) >>>> Money despise the idea of her telling me I want her for her money >>>> curvy (not a boob guy since when older leads to vanity problems) hips feminine small or thick. My main point get with a girl for Marriage and keep her throughout Til DEATH.
@@ilovetemfo Blemishes that are that PRAY/WISH they GET fix!!! Old teeth missing (dentist) >>>>>> hair balding (product / wig /weaves) >>>>> hair boy short (let it grow let it grow) >>>> eye issues (hope some type of cure) >>> toe nail fungus ( medicine) >>>> skin rashes ( creams and lotions) >>>>> grey hair if she no like (dye hair/ wig/ weaves) >>>>> cannot have children (adopt kids/sponsor kids/ pets) >>>>hearing issues (hope again a fix) >>>>> pimple issues (creams/ acne products/ lotions/ Diet /VEGAN) >>>> body shape not lady like (work out and gain through squats) (Then sumo eat and re lose weight) repeat until body sculpted (Try a Vegan veggie fat (corn oil, coconut oil, etc)) When these condition are meet the not attracted issue is solved. For me as a guy this works. Language barrier I find this not an issue. (Google Translate and learn her language) GRACE and TIME.. By the way Babies in the womb aren't attractive is that a RAPE Then??? -(funny question)
I'm also 31 and never had a boyfriend, I want to wait till marriage, but I'm starting to feel hopeless. When I see cute couples in the streets kissing or holding hands I can start crying. I'm afraid I'll never experience it in my life. Some days are really hard but somehow I trust God
Single totally out of choice. Never been asked out. Translation never been asked out by the guys who are top tier. Lots of other guys you did not even consider. A guy has never called you beautiful? Are you serious? Come on. To date men all you gotta do is show up.
I've just gone 30 and the first date I had was at 27, but it ended at 28 (only lasted 4 months lol), but it made me realise that i was looking in the wrong places. So I got damaged by this relationship, and had my heart broken when i realised i was an experiment for a guy who'd never dated a BW. But I felt unattractive, but deeeeeeeply angry with God bc i coukdnt understand why it had happened, but now after 2 years of being lead on by the guy, I am now having to pray and try to have my anger removed with prayer and to deepen my relationship with Christ all over again. But yeah as I KNOW I'm wife material and what I do bring to the 'table', I'm trying to heal and trust God and wait patiently and EXPECTANTLY! But I pray that my "skill" to flirt hides away until it is my husband's turn to show up (as its weirdly easy to do for me, I have to switch it off) 😂💯🙏🏾 Amen.
People's like to tell lies high school I did have a boyfriend I date men already I kiss already many times and now I am in a relationship with someone older so why people's tell lies saying I never had a boyfriend
I'm 25 and every guy I met, I suddenly am wondering if this is the man that God has for me 😂 ... Also never been in a relationship and I do not want to use dating apps as well.
I'm 35+ and every woman I see I wonder how will (humanity) find a partner for them *laugh noise*.... Because I know everyone female isn't for me so what about the others??? OH OH and dating apps are bull crap blah bah (# Other people Concerns)
@ellona3645 (one more joke example): Sex workers every guy they met, suddenly wonder if the random guy has the money or not (pray about it... Also police officers bust, or raid dating apps used for sexual financial gain.
I'm also 31 and i've been in two relationships, the second one more like situationship. To be honest I wouldn't be in both of the relationships if I had a chance but particularly with those people. Otherwise I think being in a relationship is one of the best thing in the world but only if you are with the right person for you. In other circumstances it's just pointless.
Hi there! I'm a 25 years old woman and I used to feel like that too. I never went outside without makeup in my early twenties because I thought man will not like me. Eventually I got a lot of attention but unfortunately I still didn't find a man for myself and yes I've never dated anybody like you. So now I don't care. I know I'm beautiful and I go outside with or without makeup. I look straight into everybody's eyes and talk to them. I believe beauty isn't everything in a relationship. Of course it matters but not to the extent that we imagine. When you're telling that you think you're not beautiful I really felt bad because I think you're stunning! ❤ it's all in your head you know. Many woman think like this way when they're not finding their man but trust me this is not the case. Everyone's timing in life is different and only God knows when and who's good for you. So be patient and never look down on yourself.❤ everyone's beautiful ladies.❤
You have to put the same amount of work to find a partner that you put into getting educated. It has to be something you work to get because no one is going to just fall into your lap.
If that means you have been spared and protected from mistreatment and disrespect then I am glad for you! ❤😊 Only accept quality men and quality treatment! You deserve the best😌💎💍
Before I even clicked on the video my first though was oh! That girl is really pretty 😄Thank you so much!!! God bless you for sharing that!!! I feel seen❤️❤️❤️❤️
I feel so seen 😢 I literally have been feeling exactly this for the past few weeks and definitely feel God put it on my timeline for a reason as I normally only watch animation and gaming content on TH-cam ❤ Im 19 and Christian and find it really hard with relationships in general whether than be making friends or getting a boyfriend. I've honestly been through a lot growing up and dont even know how to act as an adult. How to meet people make connections out of fear of being left or hurt. Hopefully, we can learn together 🫶💗😭
Just say hi that stuff you're wearing/that thing you're into/that game you're playing is kinda neat tell me about it, and talk, any guy would appreciate it. Oh but you people only want the "cute guys" isn't it?
Hello Hopeful My name is David I am from the state of Ohio a Single Divorced Christian Man of God who is an Evangelist Drummerman because I not only teach and preach But! Play gospel music in Churches. I am pleases to meet you
It doesn't matter how many relationships you have before, it's better to not have relationship till your 30s and get married than if you end up alone like Tate and fresh and fit fans or mgtow
@@a-id1cm I disagree by the 30 you’ve out lived your wild life. I did a lot crazy animal house stuff with girlfriends and now I’m married but miss those days. I’m happy being married but sure glad experience some insane fun and dangerous moments with past lovers.
@@royalevictoria Oh that's interesting. Sounds like you don't live in the West as hookup culture is prevalent there. You're lucky, hookup culture has destroyed longevity of relationships where I live.
@@SC-gw8np I moved to Europe and learned that it does exist everywhere, even in Asia. Just that it was never the case in the areas surrounding my hometown. Made me sad and angry at the same time - that people use people as objects.
That’s Good! God has who’s Best for you!🤍 He Already picked out the God Ordained Spouse whom is Worthy of your Heart, Mind, Body, Time,& Future. Keep Going!! Don’t Settle. He’s Out There. Don’t Settle for Counterfeits. The Closer you Get to Jesus + when you Find He is Enough for you, He will Give you the Desires of your Heart🤍 Beyond your Wildest Dreams🌟 Wait on the Lord🕊️🕊️ Wait🕊️🕊️
It’s called having standards and not treating our bodies with disrespect by being used and discarded by temporary men for pleasure 🙄not all women are okay with 1 night stands
Turning 28 in a couple weeks and I always feel silly when I complain about never having experienced any type of romance(cause there truly are worse things in life), but it does feel isolating. It seems to happen so easily for some people. So I appreciate you making this video and I know that God has a plan for each and every one of us.
Are you serious girl
you never had a boyfriend?
I’m 31 and I’ve never been in a relationship either. I resonate with so much you say. It makes me even so emotional because it’s like a sense of relief to know I wasn’t the only one that felt this way. And now that I’m communicating with people with similar experience, I just find myself a lot more healed but also a lot of grief that comes up for me. I appreciate you and this podcast! You should get Allora on💖 She talks about singlehood
Hey just being honest here. There is something wrong with you if by 30 you haven't had a relationship. This chick is coping hard and using religion as a shield for her own cowardice and clear desire to have only a man that is superior to her. It's not a good thing at all. If you resonate with her you might want to rethink how you approach relationships
Should I find you one but It should end in marriage
@@TheForkOnTheLeftist bro there's something wrong with you . please seek therapy to work on your bitterness lmao
I’m a 41 year old man and I’ve never had a girlfriend. I don’t put myself out there because I don’t think I have anything to offer a woman.
The fact you actually think about what you may be able to offer a woman, suggests you have plenty to offer. If you think companionship is something you'd like to experience in the form of a romantic partnership then go for it.
@@matrix2297 I have yet to meet a woman who wants companionship in the form of a romantic partnership with me. It’s hard to go for it because of this.
@@matrix2297 it’s too bad that there is no woman in the world who wants a relationship with me
@@markantonelli53 Dude Truth or LIe??? If you live in AMERICA Go date an African Lady??? Green CARD and a Better future is sure to win????
Unless you are telling me something is extremely wrong with your body??
By the way Older women also is the way to go find a lovely 60+ woman of any Nation/Race.
If secret unmentioned reason (Consider a love doll maybe)???
if you asked a mid chick like this out you'd be right, she'd think she needs more.
New subscriber here. I’m a physically disabled man in my mid-30s. I’ve never been on a date or kissed a woman do to confidence and self-esteem issues related to my physical disability. It’s amazing to know I’m not alone in feeling left out in this area of my life. Please keep up the phenomenal work on this channel of yours! It’s needed and appreciated!
don't waste your time listening to this low end female, she is the reason she is single, no other reason
You'd be invisible to her, she clearly could date but only wants "cute guys".
@@AA-lz4wq she would never date this dude, lol. She would only use this guy for money until she bankrupted him.
@@AA-lz4wqwow what a normal sentence to say
Please, don’t listen to the ableists 🤡 Do keep reaching out - there are many *free* resources such as support groups, even therapy! The hardest part is remembering that your “big deals” are often not a big deal to able-bodied folks and they’ll gladly help and connect with you
Being in a relationship is overrated , you can only rely in yourself.
stop saying this please , how we can judge if it’s overrated or not is we didn’t experience it
Coping mechanism from not being picked.
@@TheEsquireOfSportsFSU Love Doll Improvement mechanism for FREE WILL issues and LOVE.
At least I can keep my love doll til death unlike a person that wants me to be Charlie Sheen With AIDs.
If he had a stable partner wouldn't he be healthy TODAY??? if he had a LOVE DOLL wouldn't be any concern of getting a disease and his dad and him can be priests or something,,,,,
lol someone is bitter and hurt.
@@antbanks415 lmaooo you can just FEEL IT through the screen hahahaha
You are so brave, I never admitted that even to my closest friends
Thank you for opening up on this topic,I 100% relate to you, I am currently 29 years old, and I deeply appreciate the fact that there is a community that shares the exact same feelings and frustrations I had while explaining my dating life to my social circle, your video feels truly like a big hug 💕under extreme social pressure, I also started doubting the lack or should I say absence of dating life that I had, and started desperately pushing myself in all directions trying to control where and when I could meet my partner in life, but I also came to the conclusion that in order for me to bring up the right person into my life, I just have to focus on my own social goals, go out, start new hobbies, look out for new interests, while also doing the inner work to improve my self-esteem, only in this way, I also believe that the best person will show up at the right time, I am also a hopeless romantic, rom-coms are my comfort movies 🥰
I’m 34, and I’m physically disabled. I wrote my experience in a separate comment on this thread. But I agree with what you said as far as frustration and loneliness and then finding people who can relate-such a comfort. To your point about working on yourself, I’m doing the same. We got this!!
If you want kids, you better change your habits. The expiration date is near.
Everyone has different timelines. Dating with intention is something that out society has lost, so you are a rare breed.
Naw girl you are fine. I am 36 and never had a boyfriend. I am also a Christian and waiting until marriage. Hear from me don’t feel left out and don’t compare yourself to others. Your man will come! Prayer is really the answer for me and it’s brought me farther. Knowing that I am waiting for one man makes me proud because there isn’t a lot of us out there.
I feel the loneliness and don’t be discouraged I also lived alone for 5 years. God has someone special for you. God told me I had to love him first before any man
Also I’ve never been on any dating apps
@@Dee-ye2dk absolutely correct. the second she brought God into it I was like. Oh so you're one of those chicks...
@@TheForkOnTheLeftist I’m not Christian but what’s the wrong with waiting until marriage? And being apart of a religion that involves that I guess
@@strudelh absolutely nothing but I never said any of that so I wonder why you asked. The problem is girls that hide their clear pickiness and lack of ability to work with a man on their level with God. He's not responsible for our personal decisions. If he were, divorce would be his fault too.
@@strudelh Nothing wrong, that's ideal, but wasting your best years is not a good idea. Like, not a single good guy in your teen years and 20's? Probably the good guys weren't 'cute' or something.
@@strudelhSo do you have one or I should find you one
Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable about a topic people rarely talk about. I'm a 48 year old Christian woman who is chronically single, never married with no kids. I had one boyfriend briefly for about four months 20 years ago but broke up with him due to him not being a Christian. It's difficult not to feel invisible sometimes but stay hopeful and active. If someone is meant for you, I believe it will happen.
Although I'm still in my early 20s, I relate to you so much. I am on a healing journey right now, and a lot of what you said makes so much sense. ✨️
I barely get out and meet new people and even when i do, i become so closed off.
I have a strong feeling I'll keep coming back to this video.
I’m 31 and never had a boyfriend. I too am a Christian and this is why I struggle with modern time dating. The term “genuine” is gone. Modern era dating really destroyed the dating scene, people don’t wanna connect from the mental and emotional side first.
Men these days only think about sex and quite frankly that angers me. I don’t want a relationship that’s based on just sexual lust. I just want a honest and descent guy that enjoys spending time with me no matter where we are and what we do.
I tend to set boundaries with men and they don’t like that. What women don’t know is once you remove sex you see a person’s true colors and that’s why no guy wants to dates me. They know I’m not here for fun and games. They don’t like that.
I have a lot of past bad experiences with men I liked. We were never an item I just wanted to get to know them and eventually they all turned out to be liars and manipulators. So I have a lot of past trauma wounds and everyday it’s harder for me to trust a person. I’ve become more isolated in the past few years. I no longer want to engage in making new friends. I can talk to people and be social, but I have no desire to hang out. I’ve been doing things all by myself and this has been a brand new journey for me. I go to the movies by myself and eat outside by myself now simply because I don’t wanna deal with the emotional burden anymore. I am exhausted both mentally and emotionally and I told my mom most likely things will stay this way. I’ve been hurt so many times the healing process for me over the past 11 years has been tough so I simply enjoy life in the best way possible by making it stress free. I focus on myself now and this gave me the opportunity to learn more about myself and explore my favorite hobbies.
@@iamlacyg You and her are not the same!!!??? She needs to figure out if she is into the PROM mindset of wanting Children. YOU already have a child. She never said she did. Path to adopt or CATLADY is her course right now!!!!. NOT YOU!!!!
Salvation type discussion. Repeat having children Bella TWins (WWE) versus NOT having children JOHN CENA isn't the same (By the way mid 30s have no children and don't believe they are mine anyway if one is a CHRISTIAN!!!!) Children are of the LORD and over POPULATION is of the GENTILE.
@amandamedina2533 As a guy with female relative who became SINGLE MOMs. LOVE your theories to prevent you from being a single mother. Wait be patient. Stop trying to ruin one's life with bad decisions.
My concerns though personality wise future libido (even the man of ones dreams will be angry about that...) getting older and hating romantic connection. it's to let a partner know if you want an Asexual buy me dinner love life.
Or if you have a I need to touch you and never want to let you go (telling the partner again this info so they know that at 70-100 years old I plan to hold you, be in great shape, be healthy physically/romantically (no blue pill crap).
So again Please continue to be open with your no sex until marriage mindset. Guys do exist with low sex drives/ Where then AS ABOVE so BELOW mentality begins. Then the wife wants him every other month???
@@simeacalvinlifeobserver3741 My mom raised me a single parent. She got pregnant when se dated my father and well as you could imagine, my father was never present in my life. Nor has he ever payed for child support. My mom had to work hard and my grandparents helped raised me and supported me financially.
Growing up without a father was tough. As a child I went through different stages of turmoil. First few years I thought nothing about it but when I attended school every Father’s Day was probably the worst feeling ever. I saw kids with their father’s and I had other kids asking me: “where’s your dad?” My mom never spoke about my father so as a child I was confused and hurt. If I ever mentioned the word “father” to my mother she would get angry. So for many years I never asked a question. I didn’t know my father’s real name until I was 16 years old and I discovered it by accident when my mother’s old phone book fell from he purse and when it to the ground it opened up a page with a man’s name and I knew it was my father.
My mom now talks about him when I ask question without getting angry. I would like to hire a private investigator because I want to meet his side of the family.
When I was young I always promised myself I would never bring a child into this world to suffer the same fate I did. To be raised without a father. I will only have kids when I am married to a man I call my husband and he loves me unconditionally. These days the dating scene is awful everybody thinks about sex and casual hook ups. Nobody has a deep emotional connection anymore with anyone and that’s very sad. This is why marriage and relationships don’t last and cheating is only a pocket away. With social media and a cellphone it a danger 24/7. Transparency and honesty is always important in any relationship and if you are dating someone. Neither should have a password on their phone. It should remain unlocked at all times.
I’m 31 and I have never had a boyfriend, I have never been on a date but in the last 11 years I have experienced so much heartbreak and dishonesty it has marked me mentally and psychologically. I am afraid of opening up to men and getting to know them. The fabrication of lies is getting worst and nobody gives a damn anymore. True love is hard to come by so I told my mother I rather remain single than being with someone who doesn’t make me happy and cheats and lies all the time.
@@amandamedina2533 read your comment!!!! I grow tired of this MY Auntie both mom and dad side have single moms who like you didn't want to be a single they want to keep a PLAYBOY type guys (she looking at other men so now I don't want her....LAME and early 90s. The other one other the late 70s).
Then my cousin both male and female complained about they wanted siblings and surely ain't getting none from these men who left my aunts.
Well thanks for the reply me continue with my Poverty/VEGAN/Gamer/Hermit/Celebate/No kids (like CENA) lifestyle.
@@simeacalvinlifeobserver3741 Gotta ask what games do you play?
I highly recommend the book, "Love Yourself like Your Life Depends on it," by Naval Ravikant. It is life changing. When you love yourself, miracles begin to happen. Wishing you the best.
I’m here for these conversations!! 👏🏼👏🏼
I am so looking forward for this podcast. I'll be 36 soon, I don't practice any religion but I'm on the same boat. Thanks for this space 🧡
It is insane how many people actually have rather lonely romantic lives at the age that is by a wider society considered to be almost unacceptable , and I was so blunt to this fact for so long. The Internet made me realise this, as people started talking about it more openly. I would have stayed thinking I was the only 'weirdo' if not for all this brave people who spoke first. I am 28 and I haven't been in a relationship, I used to romanticize dating so much and now I am so grateful that I've never been through so many bad dating experiences I hear of all the time. It is definitely lonely and you feel like you lack something so important in life, but people around me who are in relationships, less or more serious, are facing so many difficulties that honestly I just don't think it's worth it. A lot of my friends are married and have children too but, boy, their lives are just ever more complicated. My sister, 5 years older, is in a stable and loving relationship, but still struggles so much in the same, and the reasons are either hands down ridiculous or very serious, and when I imagine myself going through something like this I don't feel bad at all that I have been single for so long. Not to mention those relationship where people hurt and mistreat each other which is so common. I just brush it of when people say something judgemental in this regard, as I learned that being in a relationship is actually not easy as you think it is and things get very serious very fast as well. The struggle of being in a relationship is REAL. Until I find someone who I can feel very very comfortable and trusting with, I am happy to stay single and out of trouble. Real people will come to you, there are good chances for that to happen and not doing a relationship just for the sake of doing it, I think that's fine and we should not feel bad about it. And also the dating scene these days is so weird, damn it. And scary. So finding right people or being found by right people won't be an easy task. Let's be hopeful and not too harsh on ourselves.
This won't be the last time a weirdo approaches you on the street. It happens to me a lot and I would never date random weirdos.
I'm glad this podcast finally exists!! It's my first time "meeting" you but you seem fantastic already! I'm very excited to listen to this podcast 🥰
The one thing that I can take away from this video other than not being alone is taking the pressure of myself of trying to make it happen and putting it all on me.
Hi Naomi NBSB (No Boyfriend Since Birth - yep, there's an acronym for it), seems to me like you are doing everything right.... working on yourself, focusing on the positive (Gratitude Journal no doubt), and staying productive. I would like to add one additional Red Flag... as a person who suffered from real childhood trauma (translate to Chronic PTSD) please be careful to not associate with those who have 'unresolved complimentary trauma' or addiction problem (work, drugs, sex, etc) OR who have had a history of dating those types. Low Self-Esteem can make us particularly vulnerable to those types of people (many times narcissistic) and result in Co-Dependent relationships where we do all the giving because of our low self-esteem. Naomi, you have an awesome camera presence along with personality and good looks that's gonna bring lots of "guy attention" your way. You're respecting your Purity and have traditional values.... and in today's dating scene you are a rarity and what most guys are looking for (Trad Wife). OK, maybe not the Chad's and Tyrone's of the world cause they get soooo much attention from dating apps, BUT if you're able to actually See the guys who are 5's,6's,&7's then You will have a guy in no time. ONE THING: The 5-7's have been rejected and friend-zoned soooo many times that they might be a little reluctant to approach, BUT this Vlog Channel will probably solve that issue. I like your energy and message... and approach. I'm a believer in more ways than one. Keep the faith Sweetheart. Peace and Love, B Goat
women think doing absolutely nothing to get a man, showing no attraction, not talking to them, not even looking at them anymore, is doing everything right lmao.
Hi girlie ! Thank you for showing so much vulnerability and honesty with us. I’m also a Christian women waiting for god’s timing. One thing that really helped me with my relationships with men is just talking to them in a non romantic way. I didn’t grew up with a masculine figure so I was kind of afraid of them. But now I realised that putting every man in the romantic category just gives us more barriers to approach them. Remember that they are human beings before being a love interest. That will help you build beautiful relationships with them. Andddd you ARE worth it. You are worth being seen and heard 💖💖
32 and never had a bf, but I think the worst for me is the judgment. I'm ok with being single, sure sometimes I desire to be in a relationship, but my life is good the way is, I have family, friends, a good job, hobbies etc, if happens great, if it doesn't also great. But I became completely mortified to tell people that I have never been in a relationship bc the few times a told someone they look at me like I just told them I i have stage 4 cancer, they either pity me or look at me like I committed a crime. And it just feels bad you know? I'm just so tired of feeling ashamed of myself, i'm tired of thinking i'm inadequate, i'm tired of people thinking there's something wrong with me, i'm tired of people remiding me of my fertility, i'm tired of people feeling sorry for me. The thing is, I don't want a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship, I only want a relationship if I'm in love.
a woman in her early 30s who has never had a boyfriend, always been single? most people don't expect women to be single like that
@@initiatorhater0688why are you asking this in every comment of this video?
I’m 25 and while I’ve had a bunch of talking stages I’ve never had an official bf. Mostly cz I was too scared because I grew up in a very conservative, Christian home where I was told not to interact with guys. And also to save myself for marriage. I was also deeply insecure about my weight. Overall I don’t regret it. When I turned 25 I really grew up and my self esteem improved and I realized there was no way I should or could have had a mature relationship before.
@avaq2588 Untruthful state also Donald Trump vote against bullcrap???: "I was too scared because I grew up in a very conservative, Christian home.."
What does this statement have to do with DIVORCE >>>> SINGLE MOTHERHOOD >>>> JOB LOSS FAILED RELATIONSHIP >>>> OLD AGE >> DEAD BEDROOMS >>>> BOREDOM >>>>> I FEEL OUT OF CHRISTIAN CONSERVATIVISM ----OPPS I MEAN LOVE!!!!
Genuine question: how exactly does that work? On one hand you're told not to interact with guys but also told to wait until marriage... but how are you supposed to get married if you've been told not to interact with men?
@@aptsongs good question. It’s definitely a catch 22 situation. in my experience once you have a certain degree of success (like have your degree) out of nowhere your family etc bring up - so when will you get married? Do you have a boyfriend? Honeslty the only thing they want is grandkids. They feel like out of nowhere you’ll find a partner just because you are at the right age. Idk how to explain it honestly and it doesn’t make sense at all!
Girl you just described me! I think you are really pretty and I hope you meet an amazing man made perfectly for you!
Y’all ever hear the parable of the drowning man? You all are like this drowning man. The lord may have sent your husband to you but you rejected him. You may have stopped your own blessing. For those who don’t know the story here it is.
A fellow was stuck on his rooftop in a flood. He was praying to God for help.
Soon a man in a rowboat came by and the fellow shouted to the man on the roof, “Jump in, I can save you.”
The stranded fellow shouted back, “No, it’s OK, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me.”
So the rowboat went on.
Then a motorboat came by. “The fellow in the motorboat shouted, “Jump in, I can save you.”
To this the stranded man said, “No thanks, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith.”
So the motorboat went on.
Then a helicopter came by and the pilot shouted down, “Grab this rope and I will lift you to safety.”
To this the stranded man again replied, “No thanks, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith.”
So the helicopter reluctantly flew away.
Soon the water rose above the rooftop and the man drowned. He went to Heaven. He finally got his chance to discuss this whole situation with God, at which point he exclaimed, “I had faith in you but you didn’t save me, you let me drown. I don’t understand why!”
To this God replied, “I sent you a rowboat and a motorboat and a helicopter, what more did you expect?”
23 and still proudly single😊😊 want to continue for the rest of my life.
While i have been in a "talking phase" & have gone on dates to a park, bar or Starbucks but that's been it. I was 18 the last time i had an official boyfriend and I'm 37 now. All my friends are married & have kids while I'm the perpetually single friend but I'm fine with that at this point. I have so much going on in my personal life that i need to fix, but it's really nice seeing that I'm not the only one out there who has been single for a crazy long time or their entire life. I welcome it when/if it comes but I'm definitely learning to lean in to just being single and happy and once I'm financially able, move to a different location that offers more that i can get it and do by myself.
I get approached a lot in person and let me tell you, 99.999999% of those types of men are WERIDOS. They literally just see you as a body and pretty face, and they approach hundreds of girls in hopes of getting lucky. I definitely want to meet my man naturally, but in a calm and relaxed way, maybe somewhere we both frequent often or while doing a shared hobby.
please don't make a video on why you've also never had a relationship at 31 like this woman lol
get off your high horse
@@william_SMMA I’m 29 and I’ve had a four year long relationship before. I’m just trying to reassure women that random men coming up to you in person isn’t always what it’s cracked up to be. The best way to meet guys I believe is through hobbies, mutual friends, church, work-related events, conferences, etc.
@@yzma6142 are you married?
@@william_SMMASpot the man with 10 bodies 😭😭😭
@@afrofaeries no one's laughing
You're an attractive young woman. I'm really surprised you never had a boyfriend. I really appreciate your perspective because it expands my understanding of women and the challenges they face.
I’m 19 and I’ve never had a boyfriend and I’m glad to see people who I can relate too!!
Also that first ask out story is adorable. That's so great to hear. Sorry it wasn't the right person, but it's good you were sent a reminder.
Thank you for your vulnerability, you are beautiful love 💕
So no guy even on a social media has ever approached you? Ladies you dont need to make a direct effort for guys to approach you. You just need to make it seem like you want to be caught. Dress up in something nice and sit in a coffee shop or park by yourself. If you see a guy you like smile and wave. The guy will literally do the rest. It doesnt have to be this complicated. Sadly, women have been so conditioned to focus on their careers, hanging with other women, and being boss babes that the simple way of attracting a man is becoming more and more foreign to them.
P.S. - Also stop putting everything on God and put it a LOT more on you.
I’m 20 and a virgin waiting for marriage, I’m also a Christian. You literally inspire me! Keep God first and Jesus loves you!
WOW Were the heck are the thumbs up!!!!! yes I thumb up. Be careful Divorce isn't a GAme!!!
Me Mid 30s V-card. NOT sure if you are a BRO or sis.
@@simeacalvinlifeobserver3741oh I’m a Sis lol
@@afrofaeries Reason for gender You know based on which gender you are equals TRUE CAUSE of V-CARD. Men do it for a Religious/Romantic/Freedom purpose.
Women V-CARD Finacial/childbith fears/sexual defilement reasons/hormones/Divorce fears/Single mom fears/STD fears.
God won't give you a soulmate. He will point you in the right direction and you have to put in the work to find them.
I think the only downside is kind of that inherent ‘phased out’ or invisible feeling of not having similar experiences as your age mates. Like you never got that giddy feeling of someone being asked who they like and it’s you. Not that we need validation from others, but we are social creatures and hearing you are likeable or viewed romantically is a nice feeling, I can only assume. Like I wanted an ‘unserious’ or carefree love experience. I wanted to go to an amusement park or movies with someone I liked and not have a full frontal lobe filled with existential dread ruining the moment. Just innocent fun. Every guy that tried something with me honestly didn’t respect me at all. They didn’t respect my boundaries and patronized me a lot. I don’t know if that’s just how they flirt, but it didn’t feel nice. It’s almost like they enjoyed negging or making fun of me.
The fact most relationships kind of kick off in a self involved way is the reason they don’t last. We want a partner so we can feel desirable and not because we want to love. We want to be loved and have that security.
I’m sure I’m asexual, but not aromantic so I knew I was cooked as nobody was on the same page as me.
Same goes for you, plenty of guys would be in your page, but probably aren't as cute as you want.
"I’m sure I’m asexual" -> then you need a asexual partner.
Girl, i am literally in the same boat and the same age!, my relationship with the Lord Jesus is top priority. I thought I was weird for the longest time until my mentor describe my walk as beautiful and spoke about how much I have avoided by never being in a relationship. Definitely believe there is a purpose in my walk and what God is calling me to and excited for the marriage to come.
Sorry to say, but Lord Jesus cannot sleep beside you in bed. Get real!
Thank God its not only me ❤
Hi Naomi, thank God for you❤❤❤. I feel so seen, it's almost like you are me but in Canada then LA🤣🤣🤣 except I am 25 and just starting to figure me out. I am so excited to ride along on this journey with you. I am sure I will learn a lot!
I'm also 25 and just starting to figure out myself out as well!
Girl, I am literally in the same boat and 31. My relationship with the Lord Jesus is top priority. I thought I was weird for the longest time until my mentor describe my walk as beautiful and spoke about how much I have avoided by never being in a relationship. Definitely believe there is a purpose in my walk and what God is calling me to and excited for the marriage to come. I am excited for you too and how God is moving in your life, keep trusting and following Him, the future with God and the marriage you desire is way more beautiful in His hands.
If your relationship with Christ is so important, you'd understand how critical it is that you do what it takes to position yourself (men who are about purpose and vision are not engaging in that chasing women/"dating" thing, you are going to have to approach worthwhile men, so get over the fear of rejection) to be with the man who you were created for.
Unless you are part of that 0.01% who is destined to be set aside for servanthood, and very, VERY few women truly are. The rest are just coping with not being picked.
And that's why you look 21. Stress free
I think once you have had one relationship and get your firsts (think wholesome) out of the way, like "first date, first kiss, first time holding hands"....then you won't be as likely to disappear into the bushes lol when the next opportunity comes along. You just gotta get that first experience out of the way. The reason you get shy is because emotions take control. Try to get your mind to take control instead. Practice in safe, quick settings. Its overwhelming to meet cute guys. And it's ok to blush.... modern women (men, too) have lost the ability to blush....like everything is so blase. Your ability to blush will be charning. You'll probably do better at a relationship with someone you get to know naturally, like a coworker.... where things blossom on their own without pressure and you can get to know each other so that then a date is much more comfortable because you already know each other. Speaking from experience 😉
You are literally so lovely!
We should encourage more people to take the same path. We should feel embarrassed not you😄 I’m proud of you 👍🏽
Did not expect this video to make me so emotional. I’m 25 and I’ve also never dated, kissed, etc. When I was in high school and college, I never really craved a relationship and I didn’t really feel the need to be in one to focus on myself. But now, every day I’m plagued with feelings of loneliness, unworthiness, and depression. I’m not religious, nor do I particularly want a religious s/o due to trauma. But it’s so unfair that it seems like everyone else finds love so easily and I’m here, completely forgotten. ☹️ I know I’ve fortunately avoided messy drama that can come with dating, but even then I hate how I haven’t been able to learn my lessons or gain experience. There was so much stuff I wanted to do with a boyfriend while I’m young and free before I got older. It’s messing with my mental health a lot lately and I’m trying so hard to find my will to live. 😞 But even I am aware it’s stupid to base my own worth off of external sources. It’s so hard.
I am 36 and never dated. Not religious reasons or anything. Just never happened. No guy has shown interest in me. And now at 36, I don’t really care anymore. I am content being permanently single with my 2 cats. Don’t want a guy anymore.
a woman who never had a boyfriend?
haha 21 and im trying to get to 25 without jumping into a relationship because I seriously need to work on myself ...
Thank you so much for sharing and being open and vulnerable. You are not alone, and I know that because listening to you made me feel less alone. I believe that if you keep trusting God while daring to put yourself out there, you will find your love. I did so and I’ve only recently started dating a wonderful man. Keep believing
It's like hearing myself speak. Also, I am not just saying this, but you are beautiful and have a lovely personality. You are worthy. But I definitely have the same fears as you. I don't think anyone finds me attractive and that's just the way it is. Or that they just don't want to be with me. But really I believe too that God has a plan for you and for me and perhaps your person is taking time to mature and develop. Just like how I feel, so scared of never finding love, but I know that during the time I am single I am maturing and developing as a human being and I hope I can be a great partner for my future love.
28 and same😢😊
Me too 😊
Congratulations 🎉
You know what is the peak irony in my life... all my relationship happened when I was very immature, stupid and totally lost in life... now, when I'm past that, grown and matured mentally I don't think I have a chance for relationship at all （*゜ー゜*）
Naomi, exercise more to be available. Or even initiate if you see a man you like.
In the same boat and I’m seeing it’s becoming more common these days so we’re not alone even though it feels like we are 💖
If you you never had boyfriend then is ok. But if you look for superficial things like height and attractiveness. Then you just limited your dating prospects in life. If you keep chasing the same group of attractive men then they will never date you. There is good men everywhere but they dont meet the qualifications you seek then they are invisible. I hope you understand that limiting your options are bad idea.
Shut up, why the hell would anyone date someone they arent attracted to? A BIG part of a romantic relationship is physical intimacy and being physical with someone you are not attracted to would feel like rape or something. Looks and personality is a must for a successful relationship. You wouldnt date a woman you werent attracted to, so why should women?
@@ilovetemfo Not trying to attack your comment.. Men don't date woman they aren't attracted to???
Everyone gets old!!!!! The statement makes no sense....
MY personality (I like tall women/short women) >>> (Bald {{must look lady like} / long hair) >>>> Money despise the idea of her telling me I want her for her money >>>> curvy (not a boob guy since when older leads to vanity problems) hips feminine small or thick.
My main point get with a girl for Marriage and keep her throughout Til DEATH.
@@ilovetemfo Blemishes that are that PRAY/WISH they GET fix!!!
Old teeth missing (dentist) >>>>>> hair balding (product / wig /weaves) >>>>> hair boy short (let it grow let it grow) >>>> eye issues (hope some type of cure) >>> toe nail fungus ( medicine) >>>> skin rashes ( creams and lotions) >>>>> grey hair if she no like (dye hair/ wig/ weaves) >>>>> cannot have children (adopt kids/sponsor kids/ pets) >>>>hearing issues (hope again a fix) >>>>> pimple issues (creams/ acne products/ lotions/ Diet /VEGAN) >>>> body shape not lady like (work out and gain through squats) (Then sumo eat and re lose weight) repeat until body sculpted (Try a Vegan veggie fat (corn oil, coconut oil, etc))
When these condition are meet the not attracted issue is solved. For me as a guy this works. Language barrier I find this not an issue. (Google Translate and learn her language) GRACE and TIME..
By the way Babies in the womb aren't attractive is that a RAPE Then??? -(funny question)
I'm so happy that I stumbled on your page on Instagram.
don’t interview couples unless they’re married
Thanks for sharing, would love to hear more of your sharing from your podcast!
Thank you for watching, excited to share more real soon, thanks again for following this journey!
I'm also 31 and never had a boyfriend, I want to wait till marriage, but I'm starting to feel hopeless. When I see cute couples in the streets kissing or holding hands I can start crying. I'm afraid I'll never experience it in my life. Some days are really hard but somehow I trust God
Are you sexless?
Looking forward to your Podcast! 😍😍😍
Thank you, your support means so much!!
I didn't have a girlfriend until 32. Not as uncommon as you think
i assume you had to be the one to ask her out
Totally different for men and women. You have to have a skill, she only has to show up. False equivalence
Keep posting pls
Single totally out of choice. Never been asked out. Translation never been asked out by the guys who are top tier. Lots of other guys you did not even consider. A guy has never called you beautiful? Are you serious? Come on. To date men all you gotta do is show up.
Hi I’m 29 and have a similar story to yours ❤️
I've just gone 30 and the first date I had was at 27, but it ended at 28 (only lasted 4 months lol), but it made me realise that i was looking in the wrong places. So I got damaged by this relationship, and had my heart broken when i realised i was an experiment for a guy who'd never dated a BW. But I felt unattractive, but deeeeeeeply angry with God bc i coukdnt understand why it had happened, but now after 2 years of being lead on by the guy, I am now having to pray and try to have my anger removed with prayer and to deepen my relationship with Christ all over again. But yeah as I KNOW I'm wife material and what I do bring to the 'table', I'm trying to heal and trust God and wait patiently and EXPECTANTLY!
But I pray that my "skill" to flirt hides away until it is my husband's turn to show up (as its weirdly easy to do for me, I have to switch it off) 😂💯🙏🏾 Amen.
Save your money and stay single. Tough times ahead.
I relate to u so much !! Good luck to your new endeavour
People's like to tell lies high school I did have a boyfriend I date men already I kiss already many times and now I am in a relationship with someone older so why people's tell lies saying I never had a boyfriend
I'm 25 and every guy I met, I suddenly am wondering if this is the man that God has for me 😂 ... Also never been in a relationship and I do not want to use dating apps as well.
I'm 35+ and every woman I see I wonder how will (humanity) find a partner for them *laugh noise*.... Because I know everyone female isn't for me so what about the others??? OH OH and dating apps are bull crap blah bah
(# Other people Concerns)
@ellona3645 (one more joke example): Sex workers every guy they met, suddenly wonder if the random guy has the money or not (pray about it... Also police officers bust, or raid dating apps used for sexual financial gain.
Hey hey hey... Your not aloid to preach that.. until you convince yourself... Lol
But seriously. Ya gotta make yourself feel it
I'm also 31 and i've been in two relationships, the second one more like situationship. To be honest I wouldn't be in both of the relationships if I had a chance but particularly with those people. Otherwise I think being in a relationship is one of the best thing in the world but only if you are with the right person for you. In other circumstances it's just pointless.
Love to hear more, thank you
Hi there! I'm a 25 years old woman and I used to feel like that too. I never went outside without makeup in my early twenties because I thought man will not like me. Eventually I got a lot of attention but unfortunately I still didn't find a man for myself and yes I've never dated anybody like you. So now I don't care. I know I'm beautiful and I go outside with or without makeup. I look straight into everybody's eyes and talk to them.
I believe beauty isn't everything in a relationship. Of course it matters but not to the extent that we imagine. When you're telling that you think you're not beautiful I really felt bad because I think you're stunning! ❤ it's all in your head you know. Many woman think like this way when they're not finding their man but trust me this is not the case. Everyone's timing in life is different and only God knows when and who's good for you. So be patient and never look down on yourself.❤ everyone's beautiful ladies.❤
Thank you for this ❤
I finally came out but still no girlfriend 😂
You have to put the same amount of work to find a partner that you put into getting educated. It has to be something you work to get because no one is going to just fall into your lap.
@geewheeler04 Cannot wait for "LAW DEGREES" to Divorce people and take half the logic with then??
Good!! Love is the worst feeling!!
37, no gf 🤷♂️
Same☺But now I am 34...and a half. lol
i watched your video you are so happy person
If that means you have been spared and protected from mistreatment and disrespect then I am glad for you! ❤😊 Only accept quality men and quality treatment! You deserve the best😌💎💍
Cope.
Before I even clicked on the video my first though was oh! That girl is really pretty 😄Thank you so much!!! God bless you for sharing that!!! I feel seen❤️❤️❤️❤️
I feel so seen 😢 I literally have been feeling exactly this for the past few weeks and definitely feel God put it on my timeline for a reason as I normally only watch animation and gaming content on TH-cam ❤ Im 19 and Christian and find it really hard with relationships in general whether than be making friends or getting a boyfriend. I've honestly been through a lot growing up and dont even know how to act as an adult. How to meet people make connections out of fear of being left or hurt. Hopefully, we can learn together 🫶💗😭
Just say hi that stuff you're wearing/that thing you're into/that game you're playing is kinda neat tell me about it, and talk, any guy would appreciate it. Oh but you people only want the "cute guys" isn't it?
@AA-lz4wq I'm not too sure what you mean? I'm waiting on God's timing, and being attracted to a future partner is important, yes 🫶
You are 19. There are tons of 19 yo who never dated.
You look so pretty 💖 I’m surprised. And you look Younger than your age
Thank you❤
I'm listening...
Hello Hopeful My name is David I am from the state of Ohio a Single Divorced Christian Man of God who is an Evangelist Drummerman because I not only teach and preach But! Play gospel music in Churches. I am pleases to meet you
You ain’t missing a thing trust
Except a worthwhile man, who is put off by this kind of content.
34 and same!
a woman who is 34 and never had a boyfriend?
Thankyou x
How do you go through life and not date or even be intimate with someone? Very unfortunate and I’m not making fun it is very sad.
It doesn't matter how many relationships you have before, it's better to not have relationship till your 30s and get married than if you end up alone like Tate and fresh and fit fans or mgtow
@@a-id1cm I disagree by the 30 you’ve out lived your wild life. I did a lot crazy animal house stuff with girlfriends and now I’m married but miss those days. I’m happy being married but sure glad experience some insane fun and dangerous moments with past lovers.
1:04 Good one 😂
You're beautiful.
You don't need a man
Men don't need women either.
Yes, I know that women give birth. I'm talking about general happiness.
What ya doing later?
So... i just learned about hookup culture and ny view about things have changed. I no longer feel interested to know people.
You didn't know about hookup culture before?
@@SC-gw8np no, I didn't. I was not educated on it. Plus in my community people date to marry.
@@royalevictoria Oh that's interesting. Sounds like you don't live in the West as hookup culture is prevalent there. You're lucky, hookup culture has destroyed longevity of relationships where I live.
@@SC-gw8np I moved to Europe and learned that it does exist everywhere, even in Asia. Just that it was never the case in the areas surrounding my hometown.
Made me sad and angry at the same time - that people use people as objects.
@@royalevictoria It makes me sad as well...I think it's definitely made people more animalistic as well.
Wow babe you look like a victorias secret angel wow 😮❤🎉
Same.
That’s Good! God has who’s Best for you!🤍
He Already picked out the God Ordained Spouse whom is Worthy of your Heart, Mind, Body, Time,& Future.
Keep Going!!
Don’t Settle.
He’s Out There.
Don’t Settle for Counterfeits.
The Closer you Get to Jesus + when you Find He is Enough for you, He will Give you the Desires of your Heart🤍 Beyond your Wildest Dreams🌟
Wait on the Lord🕊️🕊️ Wait🕊️🕊️
😅 try me
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I do not believe that woman. Even 3s can land a ONS with a 7+ man. She's the problem.
It’s called having standards and not treating our bodies with disrespect by being used and discarded by temporary men for pleasure 🙄not all women are okay with 1 night stands
@@whyherrodere3784 not all of them but enough of them to notice the pattern.
bitter incel logic