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I would definitely recommend looking into volunteer opportunities around you. I volunteer at a food pantry every Saturday morning and even though I'm helping others- I'm really helping myself too. Along with donating monetarily to causes I support, being hands-on with my giving just makes it so very much more fulfilling. Even just that one day a week makes a huge difference in the community.
My attorney told me when I was getting divorced, “ you can build bridges or build walls, it’s up to you on what you do”. I’ve never forgotten that!
I really, really like this analogy!! 😊
I need to put this saying on a post it and read it to myself often. Thank you.
That is so true. As a child of divorce, my parents did it all wrong. And, my father built walls that could never come down. By the time he acted like he cared, my walls were too high and thick.
When you put your children’s needs first you will have happy well adjusted children. 💙💜
Non of my business, obviously, but I saw your tears and wanted to share something. I have a very dear friend who had a bad marriage from the get go and two lovely children. When they devorced ( her family really likes him!), they decided to have Friday evening meals together and the dad would take them. The kids also saw their dad and mom interact with each other’s families. As time went on they managed to take a yearly family vacation together and spend a major holiday or two together too, (even after significant other’s came on the scene.).The kids are all grown up now and they still share Friday evening meals together and they are some of the most well adjusted adults I have known. I guess I am trying to say that I think you are on the right track. Much love and best wishes.🥰
Wow! I love that!!
There may someday be another life shift that you have to face and my experience may be something to think about that if the time arises. Following a divorce after 35 year marriage, I had to adjust my thinking where it came to my grandchildren who I'm very close to. Their grandfather remarried and they are calling her Grandma ________. The first time I heard it after the kiddos visited them and it was clear they liked her a lot was a little hard. However, I quickly realized that I so appreciate that she loves them, too. The more people who love them, the better!!! What's better than having another grandma. I'm now so happy for all 5 of my grands.
You rock, being selfless is great
I greatly appreciate how your content has evolved, Jen. You should be so proud of yourself and your growth!
Thank you! I am proud. I appreciate your kind words ☺️
I am on the other end of the single Mom journey - mine are 22 and 25 - I raised them alone when their Dad died suddenly when they were young teens. I had to work hard and felt like those years went so fast. Now as grown adults - one was away at college and the other months away from getting his own apartment - we were thrown into this pandemic. I do feel this time together has been a gift. It’s all in how you look at it - perspective is everything.
Sooo true a gift
It would do you a world of good to volunteer or take a job outside your home. Connecting with others outside your family, in person, regularly would help you balance your focus off of some of the more perseverative tendencies it’s easy to get into when there is lacking life balance. Example: over exercising. While self reflection is wonderful too much is dangerously limiting.
Lots of talk. No action. She has never mentioned using her privilege to spend time actually helping others. And we all know that if she did, she would be talking about it. I work full time outside the home in a job that helps others, and I still find time with my 4 kiddos to volunteer at our local food pantry and at our community center. She really has no excuses. But I’ve seen it recommended to her for a variety of reason MANY times over the past 8 years and she ignores it. It would help her as much as it helps others.
Carys GM some people are stay at home parents and enjoy it ... why do you think it’s your place to tell this woman what to do
Carys GM She doesn’t owe you anything and most definitely not an explanation of her life choices. You do not have to watch her videos and you do not have to comment on them. So take your negativity elsewhere.
Rebekah Hall stay at home parents volunteer.... why do you think you can’t volunteer if you are a volunteer parent? Why do you think the advice this woman gives, to volunteer, is bad advice? I hear this advice from the government, church, family. If your life lacks something many people who know give this advice.
Pline P anyone who comments in a reasonable, respectful way like offering volunteering is not showing negativity. Where do you get that? People who talk about volunteering most definitely don’t need to offer an explanation on so positive a way to help the world. You don’t have to read their comments or comment. So take your negativity elsewhere.
Love this kind of content. Don’t ever stop over sharing because of a handful of trolls who are so unhappy in their lives they have to go around bringing down others. I like you share that life is not always butterflies and rainbows, but lots of ups and downs too.
BE HAPPY TODAY I never see the trolls.
I love that you buy yourself flowers..I always felt that enjoying flowers is apart of self care as well 💜
Jen I was 16 when I first started watching your content, I’m 25 now! You’re getting back to YOU and it’s fantastic, I’m rooting for you with every upload. Keep at it, this content is what I used to love seeing on your channel
Thank you for sticking by me for so long! ❤️
Love this! My parents divorced when I was 6 and I did one week with one parent and the next week with the other parent. I agree this is an excellent approach. Not only did I get equal time with both parents but I really never had a babysitter or anything because my parents were able to shift any personal time to the week they did not have me and so I had more undivided attention from each parent than most of my peers.
Thank you for sharing your experience ❤️
That’s a great benefit!! Not needing babysitters as much!
My ex and I do 50/50 with our daughter, Friday to Friday and we all love it! She benefits from seeing us both equally and that’s the main thing. You’ll find your groove, you get used to it, especially when you see your kids adjusting and enjoying. Will you miss them? Absolutely! But look at the end result! I grew up with a single mom, my “dad” wanted nothing to do with me, so I’m so thankful that my daughter’s dad is not only so involved but also an amazing dad! You look AMAZING by the way! ♥️
One advice on dating after divorce that i can give is just let it happen. I met my husband in Starbucks 22 years ago, and we have been happily married for 12 years now. He was just sitting at a table next to me and we started chatting. i wasn't even thinking of dates and men at that point in life but i was not closed to meeting someone. I loved the vlog. TFS
Thank you for sharing your story! ❤️
Jen, I mean my comments in the nicest way. You are a very intelligent, caring woman who is going through a lot but IMO there are people who get tired of you referring to your "privilege". We know you lived in a very expensive house and moved into a very expensive house and have a lot of things. Your children are adapting because they are young and kids bounce back from a divorce better than the people getting the divorce. They need to spend time with both parents on a more equal basis. Moms and Dads do things differently and the kids benefit from both parenting styles. You are on the same page for the important stuff but the little things are just that--little things. So it's good they are back in school with other kids and adults in a safe environment. You need to get out of fixing up your house to perfection and volunteer or get a part time job somewhere. You will feel better about life outside your bubble. Your kids will benefit from mommy being in the outside world. You are in a very set routine that's evidently very comfortable and you need to push yourself out of that comfort zone. Join a support group, volunteer, get involved with people. It will open up your world. You have lots of living to do and while your kids are number 1, they will do just fine. Please take these comments in the spirit they are given.
I’m sure you know this but sometimes you just need to be reminded. You’re doing a great job 🤗
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I totally get being grateful for these last 6 months. My boys are in college, so typically we don’t get to see them that much. I have cherished this time with them home.
You are such a wonderful mom. You are so full of grace and understanding in this tough situation. Your kids are so blessed to have you!
I no longer do Instagram, life is so much better lol
Same! I quit fb first for a few months. Then I quit Instagram. Life feels so much better!
Rene Chicks GOOD for you! Life is better right???? . If my mama didn't have dementia I would delete my face book too. That's the easiest way I keep in touch with our family in Puerto Rico regarding her. Social media is just too fake. I've always said face book should have a boring and pathetic emoji lol 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙋🏻🙋🏻🙋🏻
Amen! And if in doubt, watch ‘The Social Dilemma’ on Netflix 😊
I hate that everyone has to defend their decision on whether or not they are sending their kids to school. You are strong and an inspiration.
I wanted to thank you for being so open about your emotions and experiences, I truly appreciate it 💛
A two year old goes to school?
It’s so important to have friends and activities outside the home to feel part of something bigger than yourself. You tube really shouldn’t be a substitute for real human connection. Eventually your kids will grow up and move on
Totally agree.
I need a planner sticker that says “Look! I tried a little today!” 🤣🤣♥️♥️
Same 😜
❤ love it!!!
O gosh. That's cute ☺
Thank you so much for saying that about the teachers. I am a middle school teacher teaching hybrid and it is wearing on all of us, but it is also joyful to have some in person, too. Love how you research what is best for your kids even though it is hard for you. Hugs to you!
I loved the opening! I felt like I was snuggled up watching an indie movie ☺️ Love a chatty Jen!
You are such a thoughtful and wonderful person Jen. Any naysayers are likely jealous of your emotional depth.
So happy you addressed this. So many of us divorced moms... feel just like you do. Thank you for sharing 🥰
I'm so glad my children are able to be back in school. I have noticed so much joy and emotional growth in them in just the last 30 days. I share your sentiments.
Are you a SAHM, too?
@@penelopa96 No, actually I'm not. I work but my company is remote right now.
Same here!
It IS hard. We have been doing the week on week off for a decade now and I had the longest uninterrupted time with my kids in 10 years during the pandemic. (They were with us for four months due to my ex and his wife’s jobs being high contact and Jess and I both being high risk.) my kids basically demanded we go back to week on week off because that’s what they wanted - I asked if they wanted some uninterrupted time with Dad but they both wanted their sense of “normalcy.” I think hearing from them how important their equal time with parents is kept me from falling back into the same depression I was in when we first started sharing custody. Big hugs!
Jen, thank you for always being real. Your beautiful soul helps me stay positive and motivated. Sending a big hug. Stay well. 🙏🏼💛
2 hrs a day of daily yoga.... lady of leisure!! I’m so jealous. Hope you heal up quickly.
Sonya Cottle I wish that was true. I work 60 hr weeks. Adding in 14 hrs of yoga a week would be impossible.
Sonya Cottle I do yoga most days, but for 20 mins at most. I think you missed my point. I would absolutely love to do yoga 2 hrs a day, hence why I’m envious of Jen.
I like that she acknowledges her privilege. Very refreshing.
@Carol Burns that's a little condescending, you don't know how much time she spends on TH-cam anymore than I do you.
@@kcjames9908 I get where you're coming from, sometimes real life, lack of sleep, stress, a husband ex or otherwise who doesn't support you, kids who need you all the time because there's no one else to take over, etc,etc,etc get in the way of 'you time'. This isn't a criticism to those who can relax everynow and then, but it's definitely a criticism to those who are quick to attack those less fortunate.
I have been wanting to tell you this for several years but have been waiting for the right time .I am a preschool teacher and school director and have been for decades now. I studied Child Development in college and graduate school. I’ve taught typical and atypical children in many settings. I think you would make a fabulous preschool teacher. You would have to go back to college but you now have time for that. This is just my opinion having followed you for many years. It may not appeal to you at all. Teaching preschool however leaves lots of time to still be in your home with your family but also puts you into a professional environment part time. I’m just throwing that out there Jen. It’s your life of course. I admire your strength so much. Whatever you choose to do now with your time will be what is right for you and I will keep watching and wishing you all the best.
Thank you!
These are hard times for every family ..... is so good that you are finding a balance with your family and your kids. You are a great mother and that is why you can see the beauty of sharing your babies with Don. Sending you a huge hug.
The “I tried are you proud of me?” 😂 the most relatable thing
The first 3min wow!! Great editing and filming!!
Thanks! I’m interested in trying new things. I’m not great at it but it is fun 😉
I'm not sure I've seen another youtuber grow and come into themselves as much as you. You are a very special human being and an incredible mother. Good for you, Mama. You're doing beautifully.
My oldest 2 children now 21 and 20. Have had to deal with coparenting since 2 and 1. It was set 50/50 whole time to transferred to 3 days here 4 days there etc. They are ok now. Never had a problem that I know of. But I will tell you having 4 children now; it still hurts my heart they had to go thru it. I have a lot of guilt. Now I'm a separated parent with the younger 2. It still hurts that I wasnt able to save my family. If I had to do it again I would work more on ensuring everyone is heard and praying more for God to help us work the marriage and family together.
I admire your honesty in sharing your life with us. I love you how you keep you children’s best interest at the forefront in coparenting them. Life is hard. Especially right now. You are doing a great job!
My daughter is in High School and I love having her home and spending time with her. But she really misses her friends.
I cringe when you say ,l know I'm privileged. Being self aware is incredibly important,but when you keep reminding your channel your privileged , it's I think a sad remainder of those whom may not be.
I'm very careful when with friends who may not be in the same income bracket as l am, not to say I'm privileged to be able to enjoy the freedom that my income allows. My choice of restaurants, outting,or stores ,when with them, is carefully chosen , so they're are as comfortable and not worried that the cost is too high.😷🍁
Hi, Shari. I read your comment and felt the need to reply. Maybe, to show you another perspective? I do not, in any way, think Jen saying she is "privileged" is off-putting. I think it's her way of trying not to offend anyone. Look at the comments. Sometimes they are nasty about her house, her car and even her choice of children's clothes. It's actually awful.
I agree with your comment about being self aware. Kudos to you for acknowledging that with your friends. Maybe, you should take your own advice about what's important, though. Think before you type. Words can be hurtful.
@@AllisonCBranch hummm, you can't at the end of your comment say what you think, and then adviced me caution, it's two faced.
If one chooses to showcase their life and lifestyle such on TH-cam, you would be naive to think you'll have no critics, so that's a choice she's willing to make. I still believe that my consideration to people who may not be as affluent as l is still valid.
I do not need to say I'm grateful for my privilege to others, l share what I have, l'm grateful that l can afford to be generous with my family, friends and community.
Privilege doesn't need to be advertised, people know. If other's are jealous or envious, saying that you're lucky and grateful to be privileged will not in anyway change their minds about you, it only makes you look unaware.
@@sharischmidt4712 I guess we'll have to agree to disagree on this. I never said your acknowledgment of your "privilege" was a bad thing. I said, "Kudos to you". That means good job.
As for me being two faced, I tried to decipher what you meant, but alas, the grammatical errors and poor word choice made it more than difficult. What in the world were you trying to say?
And yes, she puts her life online and there will be "critics". However, one doesn't have to be a jerk to express their opinion. Haven't you ever heard of "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." That applies to online comments, as well. But, I guess, those that hide behind their keyboards don't count, do they?
@@AllisonCBranch oh my ! Talk about being a two face 😂
You're claws are out, what's that saying about you?!?!
I just finished my divorce mediation 9/9/2020. You are not alone girl! We have strength far beyond what we can conceive. Sending a huge hug your way. I understand what you are going through. We got this!!!!!
Your videos make me want to be productive even when I feel it’s hardest to do so. This is embarrassing to admit but it’s been 2 months since I cleaned my room and watching the montage in the beginning helped me get out of bed and get started on it. Thank you Jen 😊
In my opinion, humans are not made to shut themselves away and not interact in LIVING LIFE. As far as kids and divorce, both parents should always interact with kids equally and each other to keep a healthy relationship. Obviously, that doesn't always happen.
I'm 38, my parents divorced when I was 11, and I've had a lot of time (and therapy!) to look back on the placement arrangement. My mom and I moved out of state which complicated things, but I ended up only spending Christmas and six weeks in the summer with my Dad. It fundamentally changed my relationship with him. We had plenty of other things to work through (thanks again, therapy!) and we're in a great place now but it. was. rough. My stepsisters had one week on, one week off with their parents and I can see how that positively impacted their relationship with their parents. I obviously don't know the details of your divorce and I'm just one person/experience, but suffice to say there is an internet stranger out there who is applauding you making the tough decision to increase your kiddos' time with each of you. I hope your children will one day recognize how important this decision was - although I guess maybe the ultimate goal is they never realize because they end up with wonderful relationships with both of you! (Also, and mostly unrelated, I can completely relate to the weird/guilty?/complicated feeling of "wow, 2020 is a dumpster fire but also what a wonderful gift that I could spend so much time with X.")
I definitely am thankful for these last 6 months with my kids. I have enjoyed watching my 5 and 6 year old become increasingly independent and even closer. They are happy to have things slightly more normal... We are an ice family so my son is back in ice hockey and my daughter back in figure skating ♥️
My daughter is almost two and a half. My ex husband and I separated right before her first birthday. The schedule we have kinda settled into is a lot of back and forth but I think she really benefits from it. She spends the day while I'm at work monday-wednesay and Friday when I'm at work at her dad's house with her grandma. And she spends two nights a week at her dad's. It works out that I see her every single day which is nice and she still gets to see her father most days. I feel like a better mom now that I have a little time to myself to take care of me.
Vulnerability leads to personal growth. Like Glennon says, ‘you can do the hard stuff’, and you ARE doing it, and you may not be doing it what you think as ‘perfectly’, but you are doing it the way you need to for you and your situation. Just keep going, take care of yourself and you will reach the rainbow 🌈
Oh Jen, thank you for being so open with your emotions! You seem like a wonderful person!
I’ve followed you for I think 7 years...which is all of my adult life, I’m 25. I don’t comment often, honestly because I’m usually watching TH-cam while I do the many things in my life. I have to tell you, and take the time to comment more, because I’m so glad to be on this journey with you. I feel like I’m the past year, you’ve broken through a lot of things, and are really becoming you. Thank you for sharing life with us. Thank you for all of the “adulting” I’ve learned from you since I was 18!
I feel like having my daugther off for so long was an amazing thing. Its time we would never normally have and we did so much at home that I tend to say ""I don't have time" to. Now she's back at school, it's strange but she's very happy and settled back in like she's never been away.
Oh Jen you are such a beautiful person. It must be so hard being away from your children. My husband only sees my stepdaughter EOW and its hard on him, my 2yr cries every time his sister goes back to her mom and its so heartbreaking. But the most important thing is the quality time spent with them. I'm so excited for the next chapter in your life. It's so good to see how far you've come finding yourself. Ive watched your channel since 2014? And you helped me get through my divorce at the time, your personality and soothing voice. I wish you nothing but the best 💗
can't tell you how lovely it is to see you being so open and raw with us. appreciate it so much. keep it up. love the new content.
I hope you don't start dating, it is to soon. You need to get your independence strongly felt. You have lots of time for that-----and what would the children feel. They need to feel secure in thrir situation. Anyway that is my to cents worth, i have been watching you for along time , and i just feel very strongly about being a strong and independent women. I always taught my daughter that.
My parents were divorced when I was 8, and I raised two step-daughters myself. My advice - yes, keep their rooms at both places. Make a schedule and stick to it, to reduce fear of the unknown/chaos. And for holidays - trade off in a logical way. I hated it when someone would ask me "where do YOU want to be for Christmas"? Yikes. One year - Thanksgiving with Mom and Christmas/Hannukkah/Yule/Winter break with Dad. Next year - Thanksgiving with Dad, Christmas with Mom, etc. That way no one feels guilty! :) I have step-siblings myself. And they also have step-siblings. Life can be complicated, but we are all one big happy family. It works!
Yes! I have been working from home since March and I'm thankful for it because I don't miss 9 hours of my 2 year olds day
While I don't have children, I also am thankful for quarantine. i got a entire month with my family at the beginning of quarantine as I was visiting when lockdown first started. i hadn't had time like that with my family since high school (nearly 18 years). i also grew closer to the people who matter and learned who I didn't need around me anymore. i also have had TONS of time to READ. I've read 90 books this year already! it has helped me clear my head and center myself. so yes, it's okay to say you're thankful for the last six months even when it has been awful in other ways.
Yes! Hair grows more in the summer due to vitamin D’s affect on thyroid hormones😃 easier to loose weight, help steroid/sex hormones, get calcium into bones and grow hair! I love summertime
When I was a couple years out from my divorce, I used to frequently listen to the song "Bruises" by Train--it really fit what you were talking about re: everybody having wounds and we're all struggling in some ways in this life together. 💗
Always enjoy “visiting” with you Jen ☕️💖 Thank you for sharing & so happy to hear about all the great life updates🙌🏻 You are a fortunate lady and a very grateful one too🙏🏻 Happy Fall🍁🍂🎃
I taught for 33 years. I think you are absolutely right. Children love routine. If it is at all a comfort to you, I found children were very resilient. While divorce is hard on a family, children really do okay when they feel secure. I think you and Don are doing a great job. Be well.
Jen, it is an absolute joy to see how much happier you seem to be. I'm really looking forward to seeing what's next for you - it reminds me of the Organised Like Jen days. I remember, many moons ago, the first video of yours I watched was a handbag collection and organisation video. You've come so far, and it's been a pleasure to come along on the journey with you. Here's to love, patience and resilience.. and amazing future content! 😊❤️🌻
Exactly same thing with my 4 and 1/2 year old! We r sending him to school, they are wearing masks all day long, it's a small school with strict covid protocols! And he is LOVING IT!!! Absolutely!!
You turned a really bad situation (divorce, pandemic, and political crisis+) into a positive. I also had a lot of ups as well as a lot of lows this year in my own life and the GUILT of celebrating or realizing you had some good stuff when everyone else around you is suffering is immense. And also the fear of holding a good thing close to your heart and labeling it as a win when there is a real fear of losing that thing is also very overwhelming. I have felt numb to the good stuff that has happened to me and everything bad is debilitating but I see it even worse in parents. I hope you continue to carry on Jen and I hope you and your kids and Don find the routine that suits all of you the best. You can do this!
I have been watching you for a really long time. (Middle School- now, Law School). We both have grown up. I am so happy you have found joy and peace in this time even though it's really hard to not see your kids as much. Never stop uploading! Sending you love
I love how there are so many positive comments from people sharing their experience as a child with divorced parents. You go prettyneatliving subscribers! Be kind
My babies are 17 (her birthday was 9/17 🙂)and 20. I was home with them in the spring. We live in Louisiana and we have been affected by Hurricane Laura. I am back home now but they are with their dad (for the first time ever, for this length of time) and I have been feeling sorry for myself and sad that they are not with me. But after watching you today, I realize how grateful I am for having been able to spend that time with them in the spring and I am glad they able to finally spend time with their dad.
I feel exactly the same, these 6 months have been a beautiful present for me as a mom...
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About dating. Dont feel like you need to get out there if Don is out there and dating. Men often jump out in the fish pond sooner than we women do. Might not mean they are done grieving what's not there anymore, I guess its something that just makes them focus on something else?
Looking back 30 years ago I watched my kids leave Christmas Eve with their dad it was hard to let go. I’ll always remember
Your content is amazing. I love the growth you have shown over this tough year. As a child from a divorced parents I can agree with you sentiment. Take your time with dating and follow your heart. I love both of my step parents and couldn’t imagine life without them. I am sure Charlotte and Donald will both feel this way.
Thank you for donating to The Loveland Foundation,... I'm a psychotherapist who has been watching you for 6 plus years,.. ❤️,.. And have had the honor to see multiple clients via vouchers from The Loveland Foundation and have worked on continuing past the vouchers for those who are open with doing this hard but ooo so important mental health work! ❤️
It wasn't good for my niece and twin nephews to go 50/50. The boys started school and had a really hard time in school. It's better for them to do 3 weekends a month for them with their dad. They know they're going to their home and sleeping in their own bed. (they sleep on the couch or floor at their dad's) Weekends at their dad's is fun time for them.
My husband has my step daughter 3 weekends a month also. Well, Friday after school until Monday before school every weekend besides the 2nd weekend of the month. It’s always been that way and sometimes 50/50 is tough for kids with school
Thank you so much for much sharing. I have always loved how you are able to put everything into words so beautifully. It is a new and different world right now and of your world as well. You are so geniune about things many of us are going through on our life path as well. I am so happy for your healing and for your happiness.
I don't know why but I cried when I watched you crying 😭🥺 I hope life has more beautiful moments for you and your family 💖 I hope whatever your journey is, it gets better than you expect.
I have been watching you since almost the beginning, and seeing the personal growth/development/awakening you’ve made is just dang awesome.
Life isn’t rainbows and unicorns for ANY person regardless of their financial situation, and having financial “privilege” doesn’t mean you don’t have hard times, too. It’s just different. Money does not equal happiness or “better” - just as being “poor” doesn’t mean you don’t have worth and/or aren’t happy. You can’t take it with you when you die!
I’m sure we were all crying with you Jen, I certainly was, as you shared your heart. I have been following you since almost the beginning of your channel. I’ve loved and related to your content through the years; decor, travel, entertaining, etc, all of which I love! In saying all that, I would be remiss not to say that this new you, THIS “season of Jen” is my favourite. It’s tender and raw and very relatable. As always, ❤️ from 🇨🇦 PS. Looking forward to Christmas decorating videos in your new home too 😉
It seems like 50/50 is becoming more popular. It makes sense saying what you did about being settled in.
I am not going to tell you how to date... After two marriages and two sons who are grownups now, I have no idea how we do that... :-) But you are still young and you still have the time to figure it out.
Sharing the kids: such a tough thing, I know. When they definitely leave: even worst. Just if I may, I would recommend that you keep your kids out of the “date mix” unless it is a sure and serious affair...
Regarding the whole present situation in USA, unfortunately I see a lot of troubles in other countries as well, things happen for a reason. Probably the best we can do, is to learn a lesson from what is happening and appreciating whatever we have.
Do you have to take medicines for the hair problem? I’m interested for myself, I had the same problem a few months ago.
Take care of yourself, here's a big HUG.
Loved this video. Thanks for sharing your growth, changes over these 11 years. 🌸🌼🌺🌸🌼🌺
It is hard to navigate through divorce even if it is an amicable one. There will be hard times ahead with separate holidays, birthdays etc. Then there's the guilt that will come along with second guessing your decisions. It's all growth, but it's hard, and it hurts sometimes, and it helps to talk about it. When your kids are with their dad, try to get together with people you love and trust.
I would be scared in the US, but not here in Norway. But kiddos usually never get Covid, so I think they are safe! The thing I would be afraid of is them taking it home and giving it to people who cant take it, like grand partners.
It’s no different here in the US. She lives in a Democrat state where they are going overboard with restrictions. Kiddos have been back in school full time in my state for over a month and all is well...WITHOUT the kids wearing masks during classes.
@@LMPM0909 this is 1000% true. Being in New York and having a sister live in Florida I'm seeing the difference first hand. Democratic states absolutely refuse to give power to the people back.
Brooke Oh I am so sorry 😫 There are fools demanding our Governor further restrict the population and mandate masks. It’s insane! There is no way someone struggling to make ends meet would want more lockdown. THAT is privilege.
@@LMPM0909 thank you and I completely agree it's absolute privelage to lock down everything . it's very hard to deal with. NYC is dead, I don't think people realize how badly the mayor and governor killed our state. Cuomo has the blood on his hands of thousands of nursing home victims and people still are at his feet begging for more rights to be taken away over and over again. It's completely insane. I hope you and your family stay safe and avoid any democratic run cities like the plague they are!
I often struggle with the idea of privilege and almost feel guilty that I have certain innate privileges that I have done nothing to "earn." I think the most important thing we can do as individuals in a position of privilege is to recognize that we have it and not take advantage of it. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. Your videos always make me smile!
I’m glad there is no one else in the break room at work as I cried along with you. I feel our heart. You’re a natural born speaker. You speak so freely, eloquently and with so much heart that I can “feel” you. I hope your back is feeling better. Sending love and healing your way.❤️
You are so right. We are all struggling. My house burned down last week. Everything is gone. However, this week is better. I’m trying to enjoy small things and keep my cup full, so to speak.
Love these videos Jen ! ❤️thanks for always sharing your feelings it’s definitely helped me as well in my times of hardship
My Daughter (36) Waited until her divorce was final before dating. She had married her high school sweetheart so never really dated as an adult. She signed up for Bumble. It seems to be the safest app. Women really have all the control. I think that would be worth a shot or look see for you
It’s all a process. In 6 months, you will be in a new frame of mind. Life is one big tweak.
I am a teacher and both of my kids are back at school (11 and 7). Teaching is hard, but we are making it. We have to be prepared to change completely within minutes. Our school has really good guidelines in place and we do have kids coming in and out of quarantine, so flexibility is a must. I have in person students and virtual students. The students are so happy to be back and they have done a fabulous job with following the rules. I live in Arkansas, for a location reference. I totally agree with you. Parents just have to choose the route that is best for them and their family.
Oh also . I always hurt my back with floor Pilates , yoga no but I find working with a Pilates reformer works much better with a Pilates trained professional
I totally would lay out my makeup in use order... if it didn’t just live out on the counter all the time! 🙈 I would love to see a video on how you are planning to prepare for winter and a potential second wave - you are the most organised person I know so I figure you’ve probably got a plan!
Cant wait to see the office done jen I am so excited to see that.
You and me both!
I divorced in 97 or was it 96....well never mind.😅 my point is my kids spent one week with me and then one week with their dad. And in Norway that is kind of normal. It was soooooo HAAAARD in the beginning....but you get used to it.
Stay strong Jen 🥰 you ARE strong. Days can be very hard to get true....but as long as you face it and work at it ....it will be ok. It has taken me YEARS to get to the point where I actually understood that it was OK to have bad days. It will be alright!!! 💖💕
I love how genuine you are. It’s a breath of fresh air. You’re amazing! 🧡 Amber
I know how stressful this time has been for everyone, but to be able to look at it in positive way is so important. Your children won't rememberthe pandemic but you will always be able to remind them that it was a blessing to have them close. They will always have this time in their hearts.
Thanks for sharing !! You are so real and authentic!!
I do not have kids but in regards to spending time with family I had a similar year. I spent so much time with my family as a unit this year and now we are all moved away from each other. This year has been a blessing but has also had a lot of heartache and stress. Sending a web hug from one single but strong women on a new chapter of her life to another
I know what you mean, the pandemic is bloody awful but I’ve been incredibly grateful for the time I’ve been able to spend with my family. It’s been quietly wonderful to have my husband home and have focussed time just us. My son is loving being at school and I hope he can continue to go in the coming weeks. There have to be positives found in the worst times and time together as a family has definitely been one of them x
Jennifer feels like we have similar foot issues... my podiatrist recommends I start using a good house shoe for support. What shoes do you use at home for arch support/ support in general. My wood floors kill me these days
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I think your ex feels absolutely the same. A lot of people think kids have more of a connection with the mother but that is not true for what I have seen and for what I feel. I have always had a better connection with my dad. It depends on the child and the parents. I think we get this perception because more women are out there sharing their stories like you - on camera, crying and speaking freely. You are a good mom - follow your reason (as you do now) because your heart will always make emotional decisions in your benefit. :)