Young Woman Says Social Anxiety Is Ruining Her Life
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- The Doctors are joined by behavioral expert Gary Coxe to help a young woman suffering from severe social anxiety and a verbal disorder.
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social anxiety is the worst
All you can really be sure of is that your hypochondria is worse than your social anxiety. Not than everybody's.
FriendlyCrooc I have severe social anxiety and hypochondria , and general anxiety on top of that (professionally diagnosed) hypochondria sucks because everyday I'm afraid I'm going to die or I have cancer from a small headache or stomach ache but social anxiety is just as bad if not worse to the point where it interferes with my daily life and I can't have a job bc of it . Everyone takes things differently, so don't say people are weak for dealing with an anxiety that is ruining their life because you think your problems are worse
I’m
I hate it so much.... I don’t even want to go to college because I’m so afraid .
Marcus Christensen I have agrophobia and it sucks! It's like living in a prison in your own mind 24/7.
My only problem with social anxiety is when people stare at me and when walking I just feel like I'm walking weird and then I start walking weird and people stare at me like wtf is wrong with her 🙁
Selena Gomz same girl I always feel like people are staring at me. I get really self conscious and it ruins my day. I don't know what to do and my mun says its all in my head.
+Girl Rants self conscious I often confuse with paranoia
Same. I get self conscious when passing by a group of people and I feel like i'm not walking automatically and my walking gets weird
José Caldeano that has been me since I was 14 and now I am 17 in highschool and it sucks and I just want somebody to make a cure or medication.
Even when I'm in a car and a car next to me stops and I feel like they're looking at me and what I'm doing
It's different when you're with someone than when you're by yourself.
YES oh my god thank you
YES!!!!!
@@michaelreyes5844 thank you so much
YES
*FACTS*
Everybody seems to have social anxiety on youtube but in work & in my day to day life I appear to feel like the only person that everybody thinks is weird.
Holy Crapalooney!!!! Was waiting for someone to say this. This has been a recurring thought of mine over the last year after having watched a lot of YOutube and noticing just how many people commented saying they have social anxiety. Basically all this to say... 1983LoneRanger YOU ARE NOT ALONE in this thinking. I think it just goes to show how much we cover up in public and how easy it can be to fake it; or from the other side how easy it is to get caught up in our own stuff and not even notice other people very much. I think it's just important to remember no matter how it appears, we never truly know what is going through someone's head or how someone is feeling so we should always do our best to be kind and sensitive to others!! Xxx I wish you all the very best in your journey to feeling socially liberated
Mental illness has become glamourised! Combined that with people wanting to feel like a victim and get sympathy! If they had real SA, they would know how much it has affected their lives and compromised their chances for happiness!
Donald Trump☑️ Preparing actually makes it worse for me i think because it gives me too much time to obsess over it. Not preparing also leads to severe stress. No hope for me I guess
Yeah, I’m the only one at my job who everyone thinks I’m quiet, rude or introverted. They don’t realize I’m suffering inside. Plus I don’t want to go on medicine.. but at the same time I do and I have too much anxiety to even make an appointment.
Some people are extremely good at hiding it. Also, your anxiety often seems more visible to you than it does to others.
I have it but no one takes me seriously about it, which makes all the more tragic.
Gabriel Rodrigues word
I hear ya.
It feels really lonely
Gabriel Rodrigues really bro no one understands
I have spent months investigating best cure for shyness and found a fantastic website at Seans Shy Program (google it if you are interested)
I hate having social anxiety and going to the store by myself cus I feel like people are watching and judging me
Your gorgeous
Not in like I’m hitting on you gorgeous like a compliment of how beautiful you are
Watch Dr. Wayne dyer videos. They r really helpful for social anxiety.
Right...?? I hate it when my family they just don't understand and say that I need to stop thinking so much. 😕
@@Gabriela20263 Have you ever had social anxiety? I've heard of him and I recall seeing him on public television a long time ago. What's his approach and how did it help you?
For anyone who's slumped by their social anxiety:
You are NOT DEFINED by your social anxiety. You are capable of whatever you put your mind to. DO NOT skip out on anything just because you're social anxiety is telling you that you're not capable.
I am recovering from severe social anxiety and the biggest help for me was to change my mindset
I don't have that kind of "Social Anxiety" but i have Anxiety Syndrome so i can sure Relate and i can only say THIS:
99% of people with Social Anxiety(Feelings of not being "Capable",good enough and so on are wrong(just as wrong as i am/was when thinking/feeling that way. I would rather say it is the Other way around because people with these problems are often super-clever and just tend to "Overthink" stuff, and having a brain/mind(perception) that is Over-Active is not a bad thing. I personally struggle with to high Emotional Intelligence(EQ) and it makes me Super Kind and genuinely Nice/caring to everyone(Genuinely "Evil"/Ignorant people not included) I am a Male 32 years old and it does NOT fit in with the "Modern Man"-Role, because a guy/man today should be rude,ignorant,arrogant,stupid(lack of Emotional Intelligence),lack of self esteem, self awareness, empathy and Balls and i am the total opposite because i can NOT feel ashamed about quite anything even in public as long as i don't hurt anyone, et,c...
Remember THIS: REAL stupid people NEVER even think about the fact that they may be stupid, Real Worthless People NEVER(VERY VERY Rarely)think about themselves in such a way, so if you THINK/Believe that you are worthless or less capable the chances are 98-99% that you are wrong about that assumption. Cheers from Sweden
/ Daniel Engqvist
Ik this comment is motivational and stuff, and I aint even tryna be a downer, but even when I try and overcome my social anxiety, I literally just dont hv the courage in me. Its like its impossible. I dont get it. And its so fucking hard
@@hello.6748 Same here. It really feels impossible. And whenever I get glimpses of motivation it leads nowhere. Idk what's wrong with me. I wouldn't wish this on people I hate the most, which includes rapists, animal abusers, serial killers, etc. It's a horrible, debilitating feeling.
Sorry to hear that I'm experiencing the worst and my eye contacts are the most useless thing in this world
I wouldn't have been able to say those things out loud infront of those people at the store lmao
AD ASTRA Each persons anxiety is different.
Star struck honestly and if I have to I mumble
*@Donald Trump☑️* Why are you assuming she doesn’t have it? Just because you have your own experiences, and you expect people to have the same ones as you? Oh that explains it, thanks for making it known buddy’s
@Donald Trump☑️ SERIOUSLY!!!!!
*@Donald Trump☑️* Ahh, I see. You think every person with social anxiety is as much of a pussy as you are when it comes to every situation. Yep, there is no possible way she had second guesses about talking about her anxiety on national TV, no way she was encouraged or even convinced by anyone either. Nope, because of your own little social anxiety bubble, there must be other people living in the exact same one, too.
Here’s what’s obvious. You see someone who says they have social anxiety, able to actually do the things you’re too scared to do, and think, and then you start to get in denial. You don’t know what goes on in their head when they’re talking to those people, and how they’re evaluating your thoughts. Yet you’re pretty sure she doesn’t have it.
It’s amazing how you have social anxiety but dont actually grasp its logic, yourself.
My social anxiety is waaay more SEVERE THAN THAT.!!!! This video just made me feel hopeless:(
Milly Baby Youre not alone
Milly Baby tell me about it I've only just got social anxiety this past few months it's very annoying I don't even.go out. When I do I get nervous for no.reason.at all especially on a bus or paying for something at a counter. I just get nervous for no.reason.at all especially when I'm talking to.someone it just sets the vibe awkward and I hate it lol
Dont feel like that I hav sever anxiety with panic disorder and Agoraphobia I'm a big mess. So dont feel bad I have yet to find a video of some with a case like mine.
I think if she had to do the shopping Alone without the camera crew and the psych it would be a totally different ball game for her she seemed more at ease with having them around to help her.
Don't I had it 25 years
This is irritating. I have a major case of social anxiety disorder and this didn't help me one bit, which I was hoping would.
Alice Cuddles I think I have social anxiety but I don't know for sure how did you find out?
Random Jaxon - well, look up all the symptoms and do research, I had pretty much all symptoms but I needed a therapists confirmation and sure enough I have it. You can't self diagnose, so speak to your parent or guardian about it. Don't be afraid, they'll be there to support you and they aren't then speak to your school about it. You can probably get prescribed meds as well, I was just put in 40 mg fluoxetine and it's actually slowly starting to help tbh.
Alice Cuddles i have it to but by the power of GOD JESUS CHRIST i recover from 8 out of 10 to 2 out of 10 . i hope you recover to bro
lol jk you 2
Hadas Kebed
that was the point lol
This seems like just mild anxiety that i wish i had. I can barely think straight when i go to a store cause i think of how im going to grab a bag of chips and someone will judge me on it. I do the same routine everyday cause its in my comfort zone. Im a different person inside my house but as soon as i open that door another person takes over.
yup same
If you live with your parents ask them if you can go buy a couple groceries if they need them. I know it's not that easy but I think it would help you get out of your comfort zone. Whenever you go shopping just think that millions of people do the exact same thing and most of the people in that store you won't see again. But if you would be able to just try that out.
thats why i buy food from the gas station :/ last time i went to ralphs i saw an old friend and she said hi and i said hi and walked off and she looked freaked out
Omg same ... I have severe social anxiety ... and I follow a routine every day . I’m afraid of going to eat to new places , I’m afraid of walking in to a restaurant because people will watch me as I walk in , and I’ll begin to feel out of breath .
I hate it .
No Vacancy ikr and everywhere I go I feel like ever one is looking at me and judging me
I don't know how her anxiety didn't immediately skyrocket to a 10 while in that store with that camera following her around everywhere.
exposure
i can’t figure out that either. She looked a little bit nervous but not to the extent of social anxiety. Because people who suffer from that would really mind it when others notice their behavior or performance, which in turn makes them more nervous and frustrated.
I think her therapist was a calming influence and probably coached her through it but the camera would be a huge problem for me.
I’m sure it did lol
EXACTLY. She's a fake.
When people think you make it up is so annoying. Like why would I be having a panic in a public setting
Random person exactly why would someone who's scared of attention want to put themselves into the center of it by causing a scene. Real social anxiety is suffering in silence nothing but the racing thoughts in your head, overthinking and over analyzing everything and the worst part being your own worst enemy...
+Socal Ryder I feel it. I go through it.
+Socal Ryder depression is taking over because of how it feels then on top of that the isolation. and on top of that the lack of knowledge.. then paranoia. and insecurities..
The most demoralising offshoot of SAD is the fact that u can't even date women as most women dig confidence in a guy a lot.
I know the feeling..
Danielle Johnson hi there
Danielle Johnson same😂
i know that feeling too danille, my SAD was triggered by trauma, which lead to social withdrawal, isolation and a lack of motivation that could contribute to the development of SAD
My social anxiety stems from my fear that people will think I'm weird or socially inexperienced or that I'll botch a conversation and come off as "odd". I have trouble communicating my thoughts and i suck at conversations.
that's the thing,people confusing ''being shy'' with anxiety and its annoying :/
She just shy. And fake
Connor Anderson shut up your name is literally Connor LMAO
@@connoranderson3380 stfu
@@xeno4693 😂😂
@@connoranderson3380 shut up Connor :0
I have social anxiety and it really SUCKS
trying to control it makes it worse lol
+Kindness Counts I tried with my mom and I lost her. now I got my dad and I hope I don't lose him
Sarah noelle same I've only started to get it this past few months I'll get nervous in.public for no.reason especially if I'm.chatting to someone it causes the atmosphere to be awkward it'l really sucks man loooool I don't know why I'm feeling nervous for no reason
Can u explain me how it feels.. throughout the day?
Avril Manici well it depends on everyone. When I was first diagnosed with it I couldn't leave my house. The thought of talking or looking at People scared me to the point that I would do anything to avoid it at all cost because I didn't want to be uncomfortable or feel nervous or be seen knowing this who I was. But it's been 5 years since it first started for me and now I don't find these things hard anymore at all.I can be in a group setting and talk to anyone but also at times I have my moments were I do get shy to talk but then I snap out of it. It really was in my head I just faced the fear of talking to people and putting my self out there even if it scary because now I don't fear it anymore hoped that helped.
Social anxiety is holding me back from doing stuff i love & it’s sad i can’t walk into school without panicking thinking everyone’s looking at me or laughing or talking about me it just ruins my full life
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Now send her to a crowded store on her own without her "helper" there to provide a protection or distraction type feeling. Then she how she really does.
emk704 yep, I bet her social anxiety didnt get any better....
You;d be surprised. I had very intense PTSD. Something would trigger a memory and I would feel like I was back there, not in reality any more. I couldn't breathe and would break down and lose myself. My therapist worked with me on this self awareness. "I am here, it's *insert date here*, I am in/at *name place*, it's *name time*, my name is *insert*, I am *insert* years old, I am *name activity*, I am okay". It really does help over time and after 1.5/2 years I was able to redirect my attention in under a minute and avoid a catastrophe. It's a lot of work and can be a life long struggle but this verbal, out loud, awareness, helps.
There are several factors in treating shyness at home. One place I found which successfully combines these is the Seans Shy Program (check it out on google) it's the no.1 resource that I have ever seen. Check out the extraordinary information .
Dinuka Ravimal there's a difference between shyness and social anxiety
baby steps
If i were her, i wouldn't be smiling or making that faces..
I ll just freeze if someone puts a camera to my face..
I have bad social anxiety but am perfectly fine being on camera . Its weird
What's the point of this video if they don't tell us what the process was
well the point of the video was promotion for the show, but i do feel like we saw a bit of the technique. He had her read her declaration of empowerment while he spoke messages of anxitey into her ear, so she was forced to try to ignore his voice and his message. I think he was trying to train her to focus on her empowerment and ignore her own anxious thoughts
J O S I A N E S A B A hello
It's called exposure therapy. Just face your fears little by little.
Garbage Human I know a guy on youtube who helps people get out of social anxiety his name is till boadella he has gone through socail anxiety in his past and knows some tips like how to stop threat monetering and how to be less self concious check him out
@@anonymoushuman8443 i face my fears all the time and i dont ive changed much
I'm slowly but surely overcoming social anxiety and I am starting to talk to more people! I made some new friends as well lollol I hope anyone suffering overcomes this disorder too
idk somethin grungy good on you bro.
How severe was/is your social anxiety? What did you do that helped you?
Same here!
I have severe anxiety right now because I'm so scared to go out my home and take my order from delivery guy, would he judge me? Would my parents think I'm weird cause i never order anything online??, my throat hurts, i order some plushies because i really love them, would they think i spent money on useless things ?? 🤮 but it's my money right? 😣😣 im so anxious
This is why it’s important to always be kind to others because you never know what they’re going through. I would’ve never guessed this woman would have the issues she has just by looking at her.
Always humble and kind🙏
This is the happiest person with social anxiety I have ever seen
QQ251647742 because she doesn’t have anxiety maybe?
She could just be acting happy
Fuck Japan that’s deep
You can be completely uncomfortable and smile and giggle because of it. It's just another way of handling the situation your in.
I'm the happiest person with social anxiety if I had my way I'd never talk ever since I was 3 I'm anxious when I go outside
she is better than me bcuz she saying thnku for ur kindness to shopkeeper ...these sentnces is really hard to say
who cares because she doesn’t have anxiety
Tell me about it
She seems to be acting. She doesn't have social anxiety
She doesn't look nervous at all. She could speak normally too..
I wouldn't have been able to get the words out right. The come out like I'm dyslexic or something. I be so nervous and self conscious.
I know how she feels i was also diagnosed with Social anxiety when i was 17, i suffered from it since i was a little kid. I'm 18 now and basically rely on my parents a lot. I hate it, i have like 1 friend because i don't talk to others, and never had a bf. Sometimes i wonder what my future holds because right now things are not getting better
BTS' 8th member this is me. Also diagnosed with the worst case of social anxiety at 17, now almost 19. It all started since my kindergarten teacher always said I did this and that wrong, or I should stop asking things bc it was annoying. Such a tiny thing that was the root of my fucked up life I have now. I rely on my parents, never had a bf and only have one friend.
I'm too scared of what people think of me, I always want to be liked. I am a perfectionist because I do not want to be told that I do things wrong, or else I get a mini heart attack. I got depressed because of my social anxiety.
I was at the same time diagnosed with ADD, my therapist told me my ADD could be the reason that my social anxiety developped in the way it did. So that means I can do nothing about it. I just try to push myself, but it makes me even more depressed.
BTS' 8th member this is exactly me. I was that kid who had no friends at recess and i kept to myself. I was so used to being alone and not having friends. I’m 17 and i was just diagnosed and i worry for my future too. School is so hard and i wish i had a normal childhood with friends
idkyara _ your kindergarten teacher is a dick and I just realized that kindergarden is spelled kindergarten lol
BTS' 8th member As someone with SA, all I will say is, do whatever is in your power to combat it now!!! I am 23 now, but would do anything to go back 6 years and try to make it all different!! It never fully goes, realise that! But we can greatly lessen the symptoms, doing the right things!!
BTS' 8th member that’s my exact story too- age and everything
Social anxiety is also known as performance anxiety. Had it my whole life due to a traumatic childhood. I was looking to see if anyone out there has been through it, since it is a rare disorder. Humans are social by nature so for someone to be socially anxious can only occur due to some traumatic experience.
I also had a very traumatic childhood and suffer with severe social anxiety disorder. It's so sad that this maybe could have been prevented if I just grew up differently.
@@luceliapretorius4155 stay strong. Im 30 and have it you have to stay conscious of it, perhaps seek counseling not easy but im my case I have matured out of my anxiety as I have aged . Hope that is the case with you and others!!!
@@316EMPIRE Thank for the reply. Im glad yours has gotten better. Mine seems to have gotten worse with age!!! I used to have it but not so bad but the last 5 years it progressed so much! So from the age of 30 to 35 which is my age now. Like if i know i have to go meet someone i wont sleep for days because i struggle with anxiety and fear and dread so much. And this would be with people I consider friends. I'm at the point of given up now and dont leave my house much now anymore beacuse i'm tired of putting myself through so much stress!!!! I used to just push myself to go out and go places thinking my anxiety would get better but it hasnt its gotten worse!! So now i have become a recluse😅
@@luceliapretorius4155 the thing is it gets worse if you don't go out...but if you do it's tough...we're damned if we do and we're damned if we dont...I really don't go out anymore because I feel very uncomfortable and anxious around people still....I wish I had an answer or a remedy...all I can say is don't worry so much about things because as people with social anxiety we tend to worry like crazy...try to find a hobby or exercise...I feel that exercise has helped me a lot even though I'm pretty much a kermit...I also believe God is greater than our problems, so we can pray to him.
@@javierdelgado1554 Hey there. I just want to say I get you!!!Like i said i used push myself to go out but it didnt improve my social anxiety it was the same experience everytime. I cant sleep for days before i have to go meet people!!!! Im also a fellow believer!! I trust God through this. Remember all things work for our good. We dont get a free ride in life because we are Christians. One day we will have a great testimony. I also cant even attend church anymore because my social anxiety is so severe. I dont always understand this but i will keep walking until God shows me why He wanted me to go through this. Anyway praying for you. I know what it feels like! Im pretty much house bound too.
It's not that easy.
Yes it is.
Garbage Human No, it's not
It could be the situation. Its a lot harder to do that alone than it is with someone coaching you for the moment.
Lloyd lrving Agreed, I actually learned that someone couching you makes you feel a little more at ease or more comfortable putting yourself out there depending on the situation and person doing it. You will still feel deep embarrassment but with a different kind of energy.
no one with social anxiety would make them faces in public
I know right?
Sasco Wsup everyone's different
Lmao that's so true! She looks like she fakes it!
Sasco Wsup *Nobody* lol.
she has help if she goes alone it would be totally different
"She sweats at the palm" = "she's totally out of control"? I'm not going to say that she doesn't have social anxiety but the host definitely is clueless.
I was thinking the same thing.
Yes someone who never experienced it can never understand.
Look, y'all ain't no "know it all" doctor. everyone copes with their social anxiety (or any personal problem) in different ways. If you look she's obviously uncomfortable and she laughs and giggles to cope. not everyone handles things the same way YOU are familiar with. people are different. its called being aware of others. In the video she luckily seems to be having a decent time stepping out of her comfort zone. But you can clearly tell she is having an anxiety problem in the store and is doing a fairly decent job at tackling her fears! give the girl some credit! don't dismiss her and say she dosent have social anxiety because she doesn't act like me. that's closed minded and selfish!
Yeah but you shouldn't say that to someone who has social anxiety... It is literally the fear of being judged or criticized by ppl and he is judging the shit out of her 😂... I'm laughing but I'm not supporting that I just think it was ignorant af and not ethical as a therapist (meaning him as a therapist).
When she's able to go to job interviews without being terrified then I'd say she's cured.
So true, I graduated college 2 years ago but have not been able to go to any job interviews because of anxiety. Now, I feel useless and helpless, and I just want to disappear. Whenever I have to meet old friends or go to a job interview, I keep throwing up days before the event and when it is day of the event I would be too sick and dehydrated, I can't even stand up to go and have to cancel, always.
I have never gone to a psychologist cause I'm too afraid to open up to them, I feel like there is no hope for me anymore.
try drink some alcohol and see if it helps
jqin kay Terrible advice
I said some not get wasted
jqin kay Still a bad habit. You need to face your fears not numb yourself to them. People with social anxiety are at a higher risk of self medicating and becoming dependant on drugs and alcohol.
someone with true social anxiety wouldn't be there lmao
XxXXxxxd0rit0snoscop3rxxXXxxxyeah i would be stuttering and sweating so much lol
XxXXxxxd0rit0snoscop3rxxXXxxxX now who gives you the right to try and invalidate this young lady?
This is why people with social anxiety feel like they're being judged... You're judging them.
XxXXxxxd0rit0snoscop3rxxXXxxxX she wouldn't be there if she wasn't a pretty decent looking white girl. Media only focuses on good looking people
With social anxiety lol. Proving to ugly people with social anxiety that people really don't think very positively of them.
XxXXxxxd0rit0snoscop3rxxXXxxxX You don't know. This may be her last resort and she was able to make an effort to get help.
Social anxiety has taken a huge toll on my life. It is something I never wish upon anyone 😞
KayleeAnn24 Sharing wisdom heals.
Number one problem with social anxiety is this comment section. My anxiety’s worse, oh she hasn’t got social anxiety because of this and this, or I don’t do that so she mustn’t have it, or she has a lesser anxiety then me.
Look.
Everyone experiences mild anxiety.
If it’s ruining her life and making impossible to do normal daily tasks then don’t undermine that.
She needs help and wants it just like you.
She is acting.
Me at a grocery store: GET ME OUT OF THIS HELL HOLE!😭🤯
If she has social anxiety, how is she doing this interview?
A Little Bit of Everything She is probably more severe than me, but it’s more going into environments that you feel could be intimidating. Going into controlled environments are usually ok.
To all those who are stating this girl doesn't have social anxiety need to realize anxiety effects each person differently, also each person's reaction is also going to be different. This isn't a once size fits all kind of disease. My social anxiety is not exactly like hers and my reactions to situations aren't the same.
Also to those who think a person with social anxiety would never go on this show clearly don't understand a person with this disease will reach out. This was her method of seeking help. As you can see she didn't go from 0 to national television, the counselor came to her and worked with her until she was to a point of stretching and going outside her normal comfort zone.
Bravo to her for being brave and telling her story so others can know they can reach out and get help too.
Debra Wilson Thank you!! Finally someone said it!!!!
Well said.
She could go to therapy and stop being the opposite of us: a fake bitch.
My social anxiety just told me those people wouldn’t be as friendly if the cameras weren’t there.
Social anxiety? Haaa... i have social anxiety and there is no shot id be able to go on a talk show the at this mental state. I would fumble my words and get very awkward. Shes clear spoken. Either shes on medication or has no social anxiety
Sarah Toomey IKR
Sarah Toomey because your on electronics all day
yeah seems too confident as well - you wouldn't get over probelms like that that quickly
This video is really badly done. They stated that her therapy was a success. She must have seen the therapist for quite some time already. They didn't even show in what ways her anxiety was ruining her life and jumper straight to how she is coping "now". But that's the reason why she seems comfortable.
Even on medication, like I am, I would never be able to do anything like this in a long time. Her anxiety is probably very mild, or it is just shyness. Either way, it certainly doesn’t seem to be “ruining her life” if she’s able to get on a talk show and walk around a store with a camera crew
I like going to the grocery store, but I despise going to work. I get anxiety when I go to work. I also hate large crowds. It's not very often (luckily), but sometimes I get some of the symptoms of a panic attack. I think it's usually because I think too much.
I have social anxiety but my parents don’t care
Aisha G because it’s all in your head don’t let social anxiety take over your body you only live once ya know
Fuck them man get help
@Your Future son you don’t understand
Same
Your Future son bruh you don’t get it smh
I feel like everyone stares at me, yet everyone hates me
Yes, it doesn't count if someone is with her.
Been there. I was tested and diagnosed with social anxiety disorder in 2014. I started therapy and now go every 4 months. It's helped tremendously and has helped me live a less crippling life. Of course I have my moments, but I have to remind myself of the tools and skills I've learned.
What tools do you use by chance?
I don't think someone with a real social anxiety would put up those expressions when they're in a store... They'll just try to be less noticeable and start sweating all over and their brain goes into overload and ends up not being able to perform simple cognitive thoughts, like counting up the change etc....
With my social anxiety I feel so embarrassed and I feel my face goes bright red whenever I need to interact with someone. I find it so hard just walking down the street sometimes. Where I live it’s gotten really difficult lately walking back into my home. During the warmer months there are often people who sit out in their front gardens who seem to watch me as I walk up to my home and as I go in - I feel so embarrassed it’s unreal.
My social anxiety is so bad that I won’t even post things on Facebook because I fear being judged for what I think and feel. It’s sucks. I stay to myself, I don’t go out. I have no friends. I don’t return calls. I don’t date ... I go out on my lunch break at work and sit in my car instead of go out with Co workers...when invited out I make up some excuse why I couldn’t make it so they just stop inviting me .....the list goes on. Even Skype or FaceTime scares the hell out of me. It wasn’t always this bad but as of the last few years I’ve become a recluse and I hate it and I wish I could change this because I get lonely. 😢 seriously the fear of being judged terrifies me. Help!
Do you have any family or friends that you are comfortable around? If you started going in public with a friend or family member next to you, it will help. You should get a counselor or therapist, it really helped me. I had to start homeschooling because I couldn't make it through school. Now I barely interact with anyone. Find someone to help you through it, family or counselor or anyone you are comfortable around. Start doing small things that give you a little anxiety, and do that until the anxiety doesn't bother you anymore. The anxiety never goes away, you just grow more comfortable with it. Try eating in a public area, even if you are just by yourself. Sorry for the long comment, good luck working through the anxiety! It's hard but it will get better
Fuck what everyone says and thinks ab you and do what you want. You have to stop caring so much ab others peoples thoughts and opinions. Do you and thats it. Laugh, goof off in public have fun who cares who’s looking. Fuck them. They’re not gonna hurt you for being you. Im currently dealing with social anxiety disorder but little by little overcoming it. Ik how to overcome it but ive had it since i was in middle school so its taking some time. Let it be know that you have social anxiety when you meet new people so you wont feel so nervous ab it and try to hide it. Just have fun. Doing stupid shit in public on the regular will help too lol because you already feel like you’re being judged negatively by everyone so if you get used to fucking up and embarrassing yourself in public just by little things like making stupid faces or saying the wrong thing or even doing something wrong its okay everyone does it. Look people in the face and don’t shy away. Be confident and if you keep staring at them eventually they’ll look away. Let them look away not you. Don’t look away. You are who you are. An amazing human being, you got this. You’ll get over it soon. Love ya.
She is so brave for finally reaching out. That is a big step
I feel her pain because I have the same problem ..I used to feel anxious around people now I am still anxious and angry ..people's presence intimidates me because I am tired of feeling anxious I am tired of the feeling they give me ..but I more hate the feeling itself not people ..sometimes I think about beating up anyone who would state at me or seems to be judging me ..I even thought of carrying a sharp tool in m'y bag just in case ..I know this sounds crazy but It got this Bad I have been dealin with It for 14 years and now I am starting to really get tired and sick of It all
I'm with you brother. I work at my dad's Thrift Store and I'm cashier and everyday I act I'm on the phone or texting and just avoid all conversation as much as possible and have a knife down there under the cashier box and it feels like I'm standing naked on a stage as soon as they step through the door
Watch videos about dr. wayne dyer on TH-cam. You'll learn not to care about what ppl think about you. Very helpful!
what’s bothering me is that she didn’t put the apples in a bag
At least she can have a conversation, I can't even say a word
I have social phobia (yes, I have been diagnosed and even went to therapy for it) and its awful. My heart really goes out to this girl.
I went to a therapist for depression and told her about my social anxiety. Later I discovered in my charts that she ruled out the social anxiety even though i told her Im fairly comfortable one on one with people and she never tested me or saw me in any other social settings. That hurt. I didn't go back to her..not even for the depression although I still have it. I figured, how can someone help you if they dont believe you.
i feel these knots in my stomach that i want to run away from being surrounded with people. Thankfully its not as intense in the past. blessed with friends and family who understand that when I don't want to engage socially, its just my condition and not take it personally. and they are willing to support me. 💕💕
you have to push yourself that's what I'm doing conquer your fears don't let this stop you from great opportunities
Omg I needed this! I hate having anxiety this bad
truthseeker89 for life thx I always was told fake it till you make it and I think it works
When you say force .. how? Like make yourself go out? Please explain.
+Astro Queen he means exposure like put yourself in uncomfortable situations till you become more comfortable. so in a way yeah force your self
I have pushed myself so many times to go out and be around people. Thinking that the next time it will get better but it never does. I feel so much fear everytime I have to go somewhere or meet someone. It never stops. 😪
This is bullshit, a person with an actual case of social anxiety wouldn't even dream of going on this show
thomas harrison exactly it would be a nightmare
No sometimes u are so tired of it, that you will do you anything to fix it.
thomas harrison this is so true
This is very true:(
thomas harrison she probably forced herself to do it
I wouldn't smile and talk at all in this store. I couldn't say more than a quiet "thank you" to them.
I even have problems talking to my therapist...so going out with my therapist to the store or sth would be hell for me.
After years of debilitating severe social anxiety. Poof! just like that she is all fixed! Isn't it a miracle.
This fucking show. That's not how it works....
Chris Churchill Anybody who thinks is goes overnight does know SA!!! It never fully goes
Every time I walk any where in public I look down at my phone or on the ground so I don't make eye contact with anyone.
I am desperate for Internet friends. I avoid my real life friends. Someone be my friend
GeneralSorrow EXO SEXO is a Vine compilation an EXO fan did.
I'll be your friend.
Same here 💀
Yolo
I feel for her so much
Social anxiety has been messing up my life too. It's hard for me to do simple things like this without feeling like at any moment someone might talk to me or something bad will happen. I typically put music in at stores and try to use self checkouts. Going to the cashier is like torture. It use to be where I HAD to have someone do it for me. I couldn't buy anything without someone else or even order for myself. It's a little better now thanks to exposure therapy but it can be a real struggle
I can’t even wear headphones in public because I fear someone will talk to me and ill accidentally ignore them because I can’t hear then
One scarest thing about social anxiety is it control all over your body your mind your thoughts and u will start feeling stupid or dumb then u just blame yourself u hurt yourself and u start having depression ;:)....and one more things that make u feel like u dont Wanna live anymore is you're in highschool life
“Yea I have social anxiety it controls my life and I can’t go out in public”
“Ooooh national television”
She is really bullshiting her anxiety
The whole point of the video was for her to overcome it.......
Tragediezz overcome what her need for attention
OH, i didn't know you were a psychologist and knew the spectrum of anxiety. My bad
Tragediezz actually I DO know the spectrum smart ass guess who’s been crippled by it aswell. I’m stating the facts , social anxiety triggers in public she doesn’t have any triggers, so where’s the actual footage of her having a panic attack
Tragediezz holy fuck I hate that someone can say they have anxiety and immediately are backed because they think they’re a minority
I could sense that she was about to cry when she was talking about her problems (right at the beginning). I feel that.
My social anxiety is so much worse then what she had to deal with. I literally cannot be around strangers/peers in public nor at school. If I'm around people, I feel as if I'm being 1. Watched 24/7 2. 2. Receiving Dirty looks from people 3. Being judged etc. I also suffer from high levels of stuttering when it comes down to talking to other people. I either A. Don't know what to say or B. I pronounce words incorrectly (when I know how to pronounce the words)/ stutter upon simple words. I have gone through this for 3 years and it's so hard to deal with.
My social anxiety gets to a point where I prefer to scour a grocery store for half an hour in search of something instead of asking an employee. However, if I can't find the item within that timeframe, I just leave as to not look suspicious and abandon my mission.
I can understand what it's like. You should check out Sean Cooper. He has some awesome videos for social anxiety. I hope you find him helpful
I have such bad social anxiety and everyone in my life says “hang out with more people and it will go away!” But I can’t even be around a bunch of people because it’s too overwhelming. And even then my social anxiety is still bad. I really hope I can try to lessen it because it’s making my life a living hell. I have to get someone to go to the store with me and I can’t get a minimum wage job because I know I’m going to have to interact with people and I won’t get to prepare the things I’m going to say to them ahead of time since I might have to make and continue conversations.
Let’s hope it gets better!
I can't even walk to the mailbox...
For me, my friends never even tried to help my social anxiety. My "friend" told everyone in my year that I had social anxiety and suddenly I had so many people approaching me and asking me questions, which made everything worse. It destroys my life as a student who thinks every stare in the hall is judgmental.
RESPECT for even being able to walk on that stage and not have a full on panick attack
i have social anxiety but it’s gotten better ;) i’m proud of her‼️
This strategy is so humilliating 😭
The least you want to is people to know you have social anxiety
As soon as I'm around people I get nervous and anxious and I'm so socially awkward, I just feel like they notice my awkwardness and that feeds it more.... I used to love being around people now I can't...... it sucks
This is why i have very few friends, i'm sick and tried of other people's bullshit.
That doesn’t seem like very severe social anxiety. I wouldn’t have even been able to make this video, and she seemed totally fine with being on camera, talking, etc.
she may not be fine at all. looks can be deceiving.
I would have farted the whole time
As a hardcore introvert, I am absolutely terrified of extreme extroverts! And they think I am weird because I am quiet. Stupid.
My social anxiety symptoms:
1. Walking weird.
2. Unstable or weird facial expressions.
3. Cant concentrate fully on anything during social exposure.
4. Fast heartbeat.
5. Sweaty palms and feet.
6. Rude behaviour activates from nowhere without my control and makes me bad person in eyes of others.
7. Take stress for anything that requires social interaction and that is what makes it harder for me to pursuit my career.
8. Cant speak well.
9. Cant sit comfortably.
10. No eye contact.
11. Cutting conversation of others to act confident which proves me rude and awkard.
12. Cant visit parties or social gatherings even though I want to.
13. Deproductive
14. Makes me look lazy and weak
15. Irregular class attendance.
And many other symptoms that are not coming to my mind and maybe I will add them later.
Sorry for bad English.
I have all these symptoms 😭
Reading the comments on this video really helps because allot of us feel so alone when it comes to are social anxiety and everyone around us seems normal except us like I felt fir years the only person with weird intrusive thoughts or my fears or how I walk now I know I’m not alone and that’s comforting to me
My parents yell at me all the time because I can barely leave the house... it makes it worse. 😣
I feel like one of the worse parts in the store is bagging. Feeling like the cashier is rushing me thinking I'm taking too long and the other customers thinking the same with a whole list of other judgements
"They think it's all in my head".
It is.
Final00Exit no
Final00Exit yep had anxiety sins 7 I'm 12 now
Final00Exit this made me laugh 😂
Symphony ok where is it at then your balls?
Its a cycle, I mess up bad because of social anxiety then i start feeling guilty about it and then that is all i think about, and that makes me even more weird.
Why not wear a three-hole ski mask(silk type) to reduce social anxiety disorder? This isn't for robbery, it used for lower social anxiety disorder and sexual pleasure.
I wish this man could show up and help my 14 year old daughter!
Kay 32 I have SA, I have as long as I remember, and right through my teens, (I’m 23 now). If you wanted any advice from a sufferer I would be more than happy!
I have debilitating social anxiety/panic disorder & depression that I've been dealing with for over 20 years. I think the most basic thing I can do is go to a grocery store or another kind of store as long as I have my safety people with me & I don't stay too long. I do have a hard time paying for things on my own, but I've pretty much trained myself to do it. I would never be able to do it alone or go anywhere alone. I'm not able to drive, I can't work, make phone calls, take phone calls, leave the house for long periods of time without panicking, be around big crowds for long periods of time. I literally have no life, no friends, no significant other because my anxiety is so bad. I would kill to be able to get help from this guy. I would never be able to even write things down in front of him or talk to him without wanting to bust out crying & I definitely would not be able to do it with a camera crew around. And mix all this with clinical depression. That's basically my life in a nutshell.
I'm pretty much the same. Glad to see someone else with the same symptoms. I also can't work, can't make phone calls, can't go to the shops, can't pay for things because my hand shakes so badly. Cant really leave my house for fear that someone is judging me or something bad will happen. I have 0 friends. Only one online friend i have known for 23 years. I have pretty severe SAD. 😔 lucky for me I have a husband and 2 kids otherwise I don't know how I would make it on my own. So I feel for you that you don't have a partner.
I know exactly what she is going through. It is extremely hard to overcome!
I'm driving and I feel like the people who stop next to me are watching me and judging me. I hate it
Say you are going on a night out, you are excited, full of expectations, perhaps a little nervous... Having Social Anxiety feels like rather than a night out you are going into a boxing match! It is something you think about all day, or all week, you think about anything and everything that could go wrong, you worry about making an idiot of yourself, or coming across as boring, especially this as the idea of not being invited again is awful. We are for the most part reluctant introverts, on the surface we look like we are happy to spend time alone, but inside we would do anything to be like everyone else and find that social interaction as easy! It’s a doubt edged sword, you spend your life regretting yesterday, whilst being unable to fully live today. For obvious reasons SA, goes hand in hand with depression! If you think you have it, then please go to your doctor or local councillor, and get diagnosed, but please don’t mistake a little bit of shyness with SA, it’s like comparing a paper cut to an inch deep wound! It’s a very real condition and it has ruined my life (so far), I’m 23, but so determined to not allow it to any longer! You combat it with raising your confidence levels and making nights out and socialising as regular as eating or breathing, no matter how hard that is. Thanks
Many times over the years my social anxiety has gotten so bad that I wanted to take my own life, then it led to drug and alcohol addiction to cope with it, sad is a hell on earth, I still deal with it even today and I'm 28, I've tried all the psyche meds in the world cognitive therapy anything u can think of and there never seems to be any light at the end of the tunnel😢
So true!!
Social anxiety people always walk really fast whenever they are alone.
Someone with social anxiety wouldn’t go on a show like this...
If they’re trying to get better they would if they had the chance. Maybe not you...cause you don’t want to get better
I'm so proud of this girl for leaving her house to go to the store to face her fears. Because as terrifying as social anxiety can be, facing what you scares the most (coupled with some therapy or support) is what you must do to overcome it. It's silly when people think that "oh because they're not afraid to do this or they were able to do that" that suddenly makes them not have anxiety? I commend those who actually find something in themselves to do something that terrifies them. You don't think you can do it, but when you do it (as horrible as it is and as bad as you thought it went) you still did it.
Obviously everyone is different on the spectrum of anxiety and everyone experiences it differently. However, I get that it's frustrating when someone says they have anxiety when you think maybe it's nothing more than nerves for them. Sometimes It feels like nobody understands how you feel and that people don't take what you have seriously. For me that's really upsetting because it's a crap thing to live with because it really stops you living the life you want to.
You're worried that everyone is watching you or that you said something stupid to that person or that you're being judged by everyone. It's hard to make friends, it's a challenge to make phone calls, sometimes even leaving the house is a struggle. Eye contact is the worst and trying to get a job is a nightmare. For me at least this is what I've struggled with, but I know that I have come a great distance in the past few years. I volunteer, I push myself to go to the supermarket, I've made phone calls, I've gone to the doctors and hairdressers alone, I've got on public transport alone etc.
I mean to someone without anxiety that probably doesn't seem like much; but to me it's a lot. I don't have a job but I want to keep pushing myself, because I know I'm capable. I have pitfalls, I have panic attacks, I avoid situations that make me feel severely anxious but I have to push through it in the end. That's all we can do. I just wish I could let everyone in the world know who struggles from it that they're not alone, and that they are capable of everything they think they're not.
Sure, you're not gonna get over anxiety in one night and turn into a social butterfly the next because you watched some video on how to cure it. But in the end you just have to remember that a lot of it is in your head. You can do so much more than you believe.
I love your attitude. Hope you’re doing well today 💜
I can’t even have conversations with my extended family, it really sucks because I want to but I just can’t
I remember going into a grocery store and I felt like I could not handle being there,my heart racing and my face feeling red and my insecurities were really feeling bad.
I can feel her pain
If she has social anxiety then how is she on tv
I have the same problem as her and everyday by the end of the day, if I was out, I come home super exhausted even if I didn't do much. I uncontrollably create all these negative scenarios in my head, it really sucks, I just want to be normal but luckily I have improved a lot
I feel her. Mine is so severe that i get sick at the thought of socializing with FAMILY. Nauseous sick. Its horrible.
I have social anxiety and if I was asked to be on tv that would be a big NO so it can’t be that bad….
Same
Exactly! There is no way she has real social anxiety. I'd be blushing and trembling
I would hate having that camera on me all day
I have Anxiety with depression , AHDH and bipolar ! Thanks for the video
I couldn't go to college for 2 years, bunked all my classes. Just can't talk to people, and have been called the worst things. Told parents that it is serious and they said I just need a better environment. Now learning CBT on my own because I can't afford therapy. I am 22 by the way and have been severely depressed because of it. But I am on my way!