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This type of live format when you go back and forth between having someone come up on stage and confront their fear, but then hyper analyze it is phenomenal content, like if you edited and uploaded more vids exactly like this one. I would watch every single one
What I observed is when you swap back and forth, when you go back to your desk in real time, your voice is very calm, soft spoken, and because it’s different, I immediately pay more attention and focus to what you’re saying, like it’s asmr lol
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Dame Julien. This is the third video in a row that I started crying. Shits deep but feels so good. I’m feeling real empathy again. So many fronts in this world.
She’s exactly like me- same thoughts- people won’t like me, they’ll laugh at me & I’ll be rejected and alone. Same exact thought process. “Anxiety is covering up hurt.” Wow I’ve never come to that conclusion before. This video is making me cry.
But remember, it's not just YOU, it's ALL of us. Very few people get to the point where they are like Julian or Owen. And both of them worked through it to become the men they are today. WE all have it in us to be the absolute best versions of ourselves we can be.
The tools is to let people know your vulnerabilities, express them, say how you feel and you'll see people are more open and welcoming than you think@@Nikitaxo24
The problem with me is that we live in a cruel world and if you let other people see your vulnerabilities, say goodbye to any kind of sexual attraction, say goodbye to boundary setting, say goodbye to respect (instead they’ll just feel pity), you’ll be a lesser, weaker person in their eyes. Also they’ll use it all against you if they need to. It’s a lose-lose. People’s perception of you is very important when it comes to success, happiness and getting the things you want out of life. So I get what he’s trying to say here, but there is a very important reason why we’re afraid to let people see our weakness. Our social status, dating life, job opportunities, etc…our entire life depends on it. It’s essentially the “don’t make me the runt of the pack” type thinking, that’s where the fear comes from. We’re afraid of being outcasted, tossed aside, discarded from our place in society. And the reason why we fear that is because we’ve been in that situation in the past, we’ve filled that role. That’s where the low self esteem and insecurities come from. So we do everything we can to avoid it.
You have a point. But what if we're able to realise we're above people's opinions of us. Or realise there's always abundance no matter what happens e.g. if we lose our job, there's always another job. I know it's a difficult mindset to cultivate but it's possible. Also social anxiety makes us focus on things that don't even really matter such as how we walk, talk etc. These are things that people don't even care about in the grand scheme of things.
Authenticity only works because youre not trying to be cool or elevate yourself and are actually showing true confidence. But as soon as you start using it as a strategy to be cooler or compensate for anxiety/low self esteem it loses its charm. And you cant really stop doing these things because as the comment above says, as social creatures were reliant on others opinions for survival and happiness.
what a bs. There is a difference between have no fear about those things and being a victim for others. You describe just a person who gets zero respect from others and thats often cuz you have zero respect for yourself.
back in high school, I remember doing class presentations while holding my cue cards with notes... I was always so terrified that my class could CLEARLY see how much my hands & cue cards were visibly trembling, and I would be motivated to rehearse more and more just to AVOID holding anything in my shakey hands. Could not risk showing any vulnerability (still struggling with it sometimes!) Such huge props to her, she did so well engaging with this activity in front of a mega packed room full of men, all while chipping away at the "front". Can't imagine doing the same myself, big big props. and yeah.. anyone in the audience who didn't raise their hand about being afraid of public speaking, SUUUURE ;) Great piece of a content!
I remember Brad (Wade) talking about this way back in the day. Limiting beliefs once uncovered can only be let go of by owning why they're there in the first place, then by giving your subconscious reference experiences to build the new belief, which is really the belief you would have had without the negative conditioning (the trail of whys). Powerful stuff. Action, Trigger, Release, Repeat.
love how you explained that. completely agree. When people say this is who "I" am they are not realizing the "I" they're referring to is a conditioned "I". The real YOU is who you are without any negative conditioning. that's it. that's the true self.
Its crazy how much I always like the persons that are getting super emotional and vulnerable on stage, when they show their true self. Somehow I wish I could go throuh life like that with complete honesty and no mask. By the way I think would be scared to speak on stage because I am scared of not knowing what to say and blanking and than that not corresponding with my ego / self image of a cool guy.
Julien, I really don't like writing this, but we had those reading classes up to 5th grade in my day. Unfortunately I got yelled at by the teacher because I WAS THAT GUY making fun of those who couldn't read as well as I could. I now feel quite bad about that. It's kinda like that part in Billy Madison where he calls the people he wronged and tells them he was just trying to be funny so people would like him. It sucks thinking back about it, but I'm glad I got yelled at and now I fully understand it's better to instead try to HELP THEM instead of laughing. It does us all good in the end to help each other. Yourself and Owen have helped me learn so much about myself. I look forward to the day when I can go to one of these and even take the extra courses. Much respect!
So true. It happens a lot when I’m speaking with people I don’t know very well. Men and women. I think it’s because I get nervous that I’m not providing good conversation and I feel like I sound weird so I start blushing because I feel they notice / care 😊
I see myself on her . Don't want to look nervous bcoz I know they gonna laugh at me and that I don't want to embarrassed myself . Standing in front to say something Is really a life and death situation for me.its like they can see your soul and every mess and how Little your capable of.I label those emotions as bad and that whenever I feel that it is just something that I don't wanna feel and bcoz of that it is just becoming stronger "the more you resist the more it persist".
What you said reminds me of a quote in a socially anxitey book by Gillian Butler, Socially anxious people tend to Assume that there interactions with others will be painfully revealing and that people will notice their weakness Or awkwardness and tendacy to blush, seeing things this way makes it hard to interact naturally with people.
Interesting, for me the first thing I think when I go in front of a large group is that they will hurt me and actively judge me, and perhaps try to hunt me down later lol, I was bullied in school so I think that’s why
My anxiety is literally killing every part of me, I'm one who is at the extreme level of social anxiety, i feel like i should have friends to talk then only i'll act bit normal otherwise I'm so low, in my coaching classes when sir teaches I'm totally losted and realise that after some time, oh! What is he teaching, the feeling is like i somewhere see myself through someone else eyes, i feel i'm always awkward, idk how those girls and boys talk to each other when i'm dying of this shitty anxiety. And this started to happen with me from last year, earlier i used to be a normal girl who don't think much, i was in school and whatever mam teaches, atleast i remain in the moment, that's true that i don't have any true friend right now, becoz ik i need to know myself well to make others know me, I CAN'T EXPLAIN IT'S KILLING ME FROM INSIDE
I don't mind the nervousness, for me it's not knowing what to say after wanting to introduce myself. Mainly since I need a script to follow but then that's bad Sure when it's a school setting I can brush it off...but now adulting outside of work it boggles my mind. However I guess encounter rejection if I don't face it instead of being avoidant
I have major anxiety during staff meetings. It’s the build up it’s the anticipation and my fight or flight kicks in and I’d id rather quit my job on the spot
OMG I went to school in Spain, and it was my second language(barely could speak it at the time) and we had that Russian roulette reading time, awful, especially when you can’t even speak the language! Now I help clients get over these fears 🙌 Using EFT tapping I help them work back through all their why why why’s 😍
hey guys, i have a question and i would love to hear different opinions: as a guy, it's not always easy to be open about your feelings and to be vulnerable, especially around a woman. you know, you don't wanna be p*ssy. not that i think that, but that's pretty common amongst men. i would consider myself really open, honest and vulnerable. especially the death of my dear mother taught me that. and it feels absolutely amazing to be open about yourself and your emotional world. .. here's the point: in some moments i catch myself with thoughts like "don't say that, you would come across as a wuss." or "the girl loses attraction when you're too open. it doesn't show that you confident" and so on. my question to all of you is: whats the difference between a guy people would consider a wuss and a person, who likes to share how he's feeling without any front? thanks to everyone who read this. have an awesome day and always stay true to yourself.
There's no difference. In the black & white fallen world we live in, men must act manly in order to be respected by other men & sexually selected by women. Men have predominantly more masculine energy, which is confident & secure by nature. Women have more feminine energy which is insecure by nature. Insecurity always seeks security. If you're too transparent & honest about your private thoughts & emotions that portray unmanliness..you won't be respected. Women will lose sexual attraction for you and either: 1) stay with you for your resources & cheat on you. or 2) Break up with you & fuck someone more emotionally secure.
I think the difference is the inner confidence of being yourself vs being like a weak man who is cowardly. Women don't like cowardly man. Like we want to feel if someone attacked us you would protect us not run away. So emotional expression itself to me isn't cowardly, but leaving your woman open to attack is cowardly.
Love your videos brother! This is so good for people! Actually attacking their fears and anxiety head on and walking them through it. I believe what you are doing is teaching people how to love themselves and accept themselves, and be REAL! I love how you are teaching us how to be organic! Let the chips fall where they may! Fuck the haters! Much respect and God Bless!
Hey Julien, so once I get to what I think the root of my social anxiety is, what do I do? I think I’ve dug deep and identified the cause and my fear and what it means, do I just try to remember it in the moment? Or just remind myself constantly about the root cause/reasoning, e.g - scared of being judged, because don’t want people to not like me, because don’t want those negative emotions Just trying to let it go?
IMO, when the feeling arises, allow it to express but you're aware of expressing it. Kinda observe w/o judgement. Then when the feeling kinda subside, remember what you've dug deep in yourself. And move on despite the fear that still in there
@@thefricksnnations9639The letting go part is so complex, I don’t really understand how we can let go. Sometimes I ask myself, do I realky have a trauma? Yes I feel so uncomfortable in myself in social situations and I avoid a lot, but is there really a traume behind all of this? I don’t really know what to do actually..
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Awesome. Facing it . What ever it is ! Easily put off . That is your driver . Julien is pulling you out of the back set and teaching you to drive it ! Can you see that ?
I wonder if anyone has attacked him onstage. The person that he brings up on stage is already in a fear state and he teases them which can easily be seen as a personal attack. How long before they get into Fight and Flight and can he see when to stop?
The Russian roulette effect when having to read with the class is so real 😂 Sometimes you still get a similar feeling and think "where the hell did I experience this horrible shit before?!" and it was just school... simple things but felt very real
The issue I have is that my imagination is pretty great, and when I do the worst case scenario question it always ends up with me suffering/dying in some truly horrific way. Like I'm feeling anxious about going to the grocery store. What's the worst thing that could happen? I die in a fiery car crash on the way there or back. I'm scared of going to church/Bible study. What's the worst thing that could happen? A gunman could break in and commit a mass shooting. I could be killed or even worse my husband could be killed. Or we survive and have to suffer and live with the trauma of that event for the rest of our lives. I'm anxious about driving somewhere new. I could get lost, run out of gas, a serial killer could happen upon me stranded and could rape me, kill me, and leave me dead in a ditch. Or worse hide my body so my loved ones never find our what happens to me. Or my car goes off a bridge and I end up trapped inside the car as it's filling up with water, and I end up drowning when I can't hold my breath for another minute. This is why this is a problem. My brain can always come up with horrific things that could possibly happen even in the most mundane of circumstances. Are they likely to happen, no, but the question is very open ended.
1. Remember we are "Energy beings", we manifest by channeling. 2. Survival emotions like "fear" are extremely low vibrational. Anxious people usually operate from the place of low vibrations. 3. Now practice operating from "elevated emotions" like Love, joy, gratitude, kindness. It's the greatest antidote and your life will beautifully turn around.
Do some random acts of kindness to completely unknown strangers or animals, etc. And let it go. Wish them best life. Practice it and turnaround your life.
This it totally unrelated, but can you explain why Tom Brady and Antonio brown were drafted so late and got boundless success in their respective professions?
What if it's not just SA? What if you also just not that interested in having non-interesting convos with neighbors or coworkers? I tend to rush through or avoid convos with neighbors, coworkers and people I just don't care socializing with. I guess I have difficulty with relating to people.
No one ever mentions the things I would fear so I never get to hear Julien address them. But I'd love to get his thoughts on: (1) Turning really red. I'm pretty white so when I blush, it's very obvious, and very awkward. The next two are a little more serious (2) Passing out (3) Throwing up Julien might say, well what would be so bad about that? Answer: I don't want to be known as the guy who threw up or passed out in front of a bunch of people. It's on a whole nother level of embarrassment... and it stays with you for the rest of your life. Thoughts? Tips? But besides the extremes mentioned above, my fears, in general, are the crowd not perceiving me as my ideal self. I have high standards for myself. I pride myself on my taste in actors and comedians. I know what's good, I know what's funny, and that's the standard I place on myself. And I'm afraid if I don't attain to that, people are going to view me the way that I view me, as not as cool as Denzel or funny as Chappelle... i.e., as someone doesn't "have it"
And what is so bad about not being a stand up comedian or actor? What's wrong with being simple or ordinary you? There is still only one of the unique person you are. And that's something special you can own and be proud of.
@@JulienHimself that we ALL have insecurities and self-doubts, even those that appear confident. It reminds me of the quote, "We'd worry less about what other people think of us if we realized how seldom they do." It all goes back to core attachment issues and fears of being rejected or "not good enough." I think having a female onstage pushed the point even further (considering the bulk of your clientele). Great in-the-moment work, man. I appreciate the response! Hope life is treating you well...
I have social anxiety because subconsciously I believe these people are going to eat me alive. Throw me in a pack of wolves and I‘m fine. But do the same with other people, that’s the truly dangerous animal.
Bro plz give some suggestions how to avoid of vribating of legs while in fornt of people .. Cuz i must have to engage with people for group discussion in classroom... What should i do for less vribation of my body .
WOW I never would have thought social affects girls as well.. looks identical to me and confirms our oneness even more 😑 Happy she’s at T-M 👐 auto spell wanted her to be at T-Mobile as you can see.. 😂
04:16 for me, worst case scenario would be to piss and shit my pants out of fear. And then this being recorded for all to see. How can one be “cool” after this becomes public info?
It's almost dangerous to do what you just did. Asking a person who has a social anxiety or worse, a social phobia to come up there, she didn't even have the time to realize that she was coming up there. What the fuck. She wasn't even breathe. Her eyes are popping out. You should have noticed it if you were so good. I bet her experience was traumatizing. She was feeling pressured to answer. She wasn't even feeling what she was saying. And I love how you interprete and explain her answer 😂 Like it's just so dangerous to put your mental health problems in the hands of anyone. She looks like she's not even listening at what you're saying, she's in panic. And suffering from that too, I had a feeling of panic just watching this. You can't just apply "advice" or "exercices" on EVERYONE. Everyone doesn't work the same way. What the fuck. You can't just apply the same thing on everyone. You show just as much you lack experience as a person who gives psychological advice. I wouldn't want to be there. If she has a panic attack, what would you have done ? You wouldn't act that clever on a video. Shocked.
This is a form of minor social anxiety. People with social phobia have trouble even leaving their homes, doing groceries, having one on one conversations with people. They do not attend seminars like this, they end up in psychiatric treatment when their isolation starts to create bigger problems. They have huge problems speaking up in small therapy groups, sometimes leaving the room because just being in a social setting is highly stressful for them. This woman is able to formulate coherent sentences in front of a large crowd, she is a bit nervous due to being somewhat inexperienced socially and introverted. Also, it is not true that everyone experiences social anxiety with public speaking. There are plenty of people in the population who enjoy being in front of crowds and enjoying the attention, even from a young age. This kind of social skills training is helpful for regular people with minor insecurities but the way this is framed is a bit hyperbolic, misleading marketing.
I kinda disagree with you. The marketing most likely targets, or works with the people that this kind of content would work for. When I watch these videos, they personally help me (and I just watch the free stuff on TH-cam). You watch these videos and it does not resonate with you (I’m assuming you have social phobia or know someone who does which is why you went so in depth about how this wouldn’t work). Also, everything on the TH-cam channel is free and they post long in depth videos, not short ones where good information is blocked by a paywall.
This is the same logic as watching a bodybuilding video on how to get big arms and then you comment "um, actually this is false because there are some people that are missing arms so this is kind of misleading" See how dramatic that is? There are always outliers but most people with SA are going to be like her in the video
@@Jay-og4yb There are many people worldwide with social anxiety disorders, they are not outliers. It's not a rare diagnosis, it's a very prevalent condition. The girl in the video just isn't one of them. The fact you don't know this just highlights your ignorance and lack of expertise on the subject. Also, your analogy is ridiculous because people without arms cannot get big arms, people with social anxiety disorders can overcome them.
@@epicipodmodz I am a big fan of Julien. I really like the direction he took the last few years with transformation mastery and his trauma release work, although techniquely the term trauma is reserved for more severe events in clinical settings, but the way he frames the concept still massively helps people so it's okay for normal folks that use it. The problem arises when normal people with some minor issues start interacting with people that have real trauma, then the terminology just get's absurd and downplays victims or real trauma. That is the same parallel I am drawing here with minor social anxiety and an actual clinical diagnosis. You are right I went in depth because I work in the field. I don't understand the "it's free, so who cares" argument. Anyone is free to express their ideas obviously, but I am also free to point out that some of the terminology that is used clinically inaccurate and may lead to confusion and misleading expectations for those that consume the content as well as hijacking and belittling of a term that is reserved for individuals with clinically diagnosed disorders. It's somewhat similar to false claims of domestic and sexual violence (the likes of which we are currently seeing in the Heard vs Depp case, for example), it harms real victims.
@@Edwards87 buddy, stop being the person that prevents people from helping themselves. So many people are going to see your comment and use that as an excuse. We don't need to coddle people. We need to give them hope
Julien, have you seen anyone with the opposite problem? Like a real idiot that is really annoying to everyone and still believes he's right and great? That would be cool to see, for comparison. Do we fear more be like this person than to have social-anxiety and all the usual stuff? 👀
women comes up on stage "lets process these emotions, what are you feeeeeeeling" dude comes up on stage "your mom and dad beat you, youre hiding bro, nobody wants to fuck you" RSD
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This type of live format when you go back and forth between having someone come up on stage and confront their fear, but then hyper analyze it is phenomenal content, like if you edited and uploaded more vids exactly like this one. I would watch every single one
What I observed is when you swap back and forth, when you go back to your desk in real time, your voice is very calm, soft spoken, and because it’s different, I immediately pay more attention and focus to what you’re saying, like it’s asmr lol
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I agree, this is his best content imho
"If you go through the fear, there's hurt."
Wow. Makes so much sense and I knew that in some way but this lands.
Fir real, man. You must go through pain to improve, be wiser, and succeed in life.
Dame Julien. This is the third video in a row that I started crying. Shits deep but feels so good. I’m feeling real empathy again. So many fronts in this world.
🙏🙏🙏
She’s exactly like me- same thoughts- people won’t like me, they’ll laugh at me & I’ll be rejected and alone. Same exact thought process.
“Anxiety is covering up hurt.” Wow I’ve never come to that conclusion before. This video is making me cry.
Glad this resonates! This is something that can EASILY be fixed with the right tools and guidance btw. 👌
But remember, it's not just YOU, it's ALL of us. Very few people get to the point where they are like Julian or Owen. And both of them worked through it to become the men they are today. WE all have it in us to be the absolute best versions of ourselves we can be.
Same thing for me. That's why I'm avoidant. What tools. I went to toastmasters twice. I couldn't stick with it. Improv class only last 3 classes
The tools is to let people know your vulnerabilities, express them, say how you feel and you'll see people are more open and welcoming than you think@@Nikitaxo24
The problem with me is that we live in a cruel world and if you let other people see your vulnerabilities, say goodbye to any kind of sexual attraction, say goodbye to boundary setting, say goodbye to respect (instead they’ll just feel pity), you’ll be a lesser, weaker person in their eyes. Also they’ll use it all against you if they need to. It’s a lose-lose. People’s perception of you is very important when it comes to success, happiness and getting the things you want out of life.
So I get what he’s trying to say here, but there is a very important reason why we’re afraid to let people see our weakness. Our social status, dating life, job opportunities, etc…our entire life depends on it. It’s essentially the “don’t make me the runt of the pack” type thinking, that’s where the fear comes from. We’re afraid of being outcasted, tossed aside, discarded from our place in society. And the reason why we fear that is because we’ve been in that situation in the past, we’ve filled that role. That’s where the low self esteem and insecurities come from. So we do everything we can to avoid it.
You have a point. But what if we're able to realise we're above people's opinions of us. Or realise there's always abundance no matter what happens e.g. if we lose our job, there's always another job. I know it's a difficult mindset to cultivate but it's possible.
Also social anxiety makes us focus on things that don't even really matter such as how we walk, talk etc. These are things that people don't even care about in the grand scheme of things.
Authenticity only works because youre not trying to be cool or elevate yourself and are actually showing true confidence. But as soon as you start using it as a strategy to be cooler or compensate for anxiety/low self esteem it loses its charm. And you cant really stop doing these things because as the comment above says, as social creatures were reliant on others opinions for survival and happiness.
I hate the fking stigma .. why does the world judge us
Bro you hit the spot
what a bs. There is a difference between have no fear about those things and being a victim for others. You describe just a person who gets zero respect from others and thats often cuz you have zero respect for yourself.
back in high school, I remember doing class presentations while holding my cue cards with notes... I was always so terrified that my class could CLEARLY see how much my hands & cue cards were visibly trembling, and I would be motivated to rehearse more and more just to AVOID holding anything in my shakey hands. Could not risk showing any vulnerability (still struggling with it sometimes!)
Such huge props to her, she did so well engaging with this activity in front of a mega packed room full of men, all while chipping away at the "front". Can't imagine doing the same myself, big big props.
and yeah.. anyone in the audience who didn't raise their hand about being afraid of public speaking, SUUUURE ;)
Great piece of a content!
This guy helped me alot in my success of over come social anxiety
I remember Brad (Wade) talking about this way back in the day. Limiting beliefs once uncovered can only be let go of by owning why they're there in the first place, then by giving your subconscious reference experiences to build the new belief, which is really the belief you would have had without the negative conditioning (the trail of whys). Powerful stuff. Action, Trigger, Release, Repeat.
love how you explained that. completely agree. When people say this is who "I" am they are not realizing the "I" they're referring to is a conditioned "I". The real YOU is who you are without any negative conditioning. that's it. that's the true self.
I'm amazed at how much trauma goes back to school. I'll admit I got my own.
Its crazy how much I always like the persons that are getting super emotional and vulnerable on stage, when they show their true self. Somehow I wish I could go throuh life like that with complete honesty and no mask. By the way I think would be scared to speak on stage because I am scared of not knowing what to say and blanking and than that not corresponding with my ego / self image of a cool guy.
What a beautiful woman, what a beautiful soul ✨🙏✨
Yes! Massive respect to her for having the courage and willingness to transform! 🙏
There are only two emotions love and fear. Mostly everyone lives in a fear based reality.
Julien, I really don't like writing this, but we had those reading classes up to 5th grade in my day. Unfortunately I got yelled at by the teacher because I WAS THAT GUY making fun of those who couldn't read as well as I could. I now feel quite bad about that. It's kinda like that part in Billy Madison where he calls the people he wronged and tells them he was just trying to be funny so people would like him. It sucks thinking back about it, but I'm glad I got yelled at and now I fully understand it's better to instead try to HELP THEM instead of laughing. It does us all good in the end to help each other.
Yourself and Owen have helped me learn so much about myself. I look forward to the day when I can go to one of these and even take the extra courses. Much respect!
The blushing is my worst anxiety
So true. It happens a lot when I’m speaking with people I don’t know very well. Men and women. I think it’s because I get nervous that I’m not providing good conversation and I feel like I sound weird so I start blushing because I feel they notice / care 😊
^ didn’t mean to do that emoji
I see myself on her . Don't want to look nervous bcoz I know they gonna laugh at me and that I don't want to embarrassed myself . Standing in front to say something Is really a life and death situation for me.its like they can see your soul and every mess and how Little your capable of.I label those emotions as bad and that whenever I feel that it is just something that I don't wanna feel and bcoz of that it is just becoming stronger "the more you resist the more it persist".
What you said reminds me of a quote in a socially anxitey book by Gillian Butler, Socially anxious people tend to
Assume that there interactions with others will be painfully revealing and that people will notice their weakness
Or awkwardness and tendacy to blush, seeing things this way makes it hard to interact naturally with people.
I think people can conquer their fear of being shy by doing Substitute teaching. July 25, 2022. USA.
Interesting, for me the first thing I think when I go in front of a large group is that they will hurt me and actively judge me, and perhaps try to hunt me down later lol, I was bullied in school so I think that’s why
My anxiety is literally killing every part of me, I'm one who is at the extreme level of social anxiety, i feel like i should have friends to talk then only i'll act bit normal otherwise I'm so low, in my coaching classes when sir teaches I'm totally losted and realise that after some time, oh! What is he teaching, the feeling is like i somewhere see myself through someone else eyes, i feel i'm always awkward, idk how those girls and boys talk to each other when i'm dying of this shitty anxiety. And this started to happen with me from last year, earlier i used to be a normal girl who don't think much, i was in school and whatever mam teaches, atleast i remain in the moment, that's true that i don't have any true friend right now, becoz ik i need to know myself well to make others know me, I CAN'T EXPLAIN IT'S KILLING ME FROM INSIDE
Go to therapy if it's that bad .
Exercise helps a lot but maybe you need medication. Good luck
You must find a way.
Start to explore
your words are hitting every button in me.
Medication helps too!
Love that Dutch accent ❤
She is so cute. A modest sweet lady
u are doin incredible work mate! keep it up! im so pumped when I watch ur videos! u r helpin me deal with so much of my own issues!
I don't mind the nervousness, for me it's not knowing what to say after wanting to introduce myself. Mainly since I need a script to follow but then that's bad
Sure when it's a school setting I can brush it off...but now adulting outside of work it boggles my mind. However I guess encounter rejection if I don't face it instead of being avoidant
Good shit, glad to see you still uploading.
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I have major anxiety during staff meetings. It’s the build up it’s the anticipation and my fight or flight kicks in and I’d id rather quit my job on the spot
This is a good video format, I like the pauses for explanation and breakdown. Thank you Julien
Glad you liked it! For more videos like this, check out Transformation Mastery! 🔥👊
Please make a video Like This , When you Describe what's going on@@JulienHimself
What if your fear is having a panic attack and
Fainting?
This is great -Owen
Thanks, man! 👊
Nice I agree
- Yandhi
Nobody makes you feel anything without your permission your feelings come from you
@@yandhi4202 Me too - Luminisant
OMG I went to school in Spain, and it was my second language(barely could speak it at the time) and we had that Russian roulette reading time, awful, especially when you can’t even speak the language!
Now I help clients get over these fears 🙌 Using EFT tapping I help them work back through all their why why why’s 😍
You half spanish too? Had same experience as you. Glad you have clients and have mastered yourself yourself
hey guys, i have a question and i would love to hear different opinions:
as a guy, it's not always easy to be open about your feelings and to be vulnerable, especially around a woman. you know, you don't wanna be p*ssy. not that i think that, but that's pretty common amongst men.
i would consider myself really open, honest and vulnerable. especially the death of my dear mother taught me that. and it feels absolutely amazing to be open about yourself and your emotional world.
.. here's the point: in some moments i catch myself with thoughts like "don't say that, you would come across as a wuss." or "the girl loses attraction when you're too open. it doesn't show that you confident" and so on.
my question to all of you is: whats the difference between a guy people would consider a wuss and a person, who likes to share how he's feeling without any front?
thanks to everyone who read this. have an awesome day and always stay true to yourself.
There's no difference. In the black & white fallen world we live in, men must act manly in order to be respected by other men & sexually selected by women. Men have predominantly more masculine energy, which is confident & secure by nature. Women have more feminine energy which is insecure by nature. Insecurity always seeks security. If you're too transparent & honest about your private thoughts & emotions that portray unmanliness..you won't be respected. Women will lose sexual attraction for you and either: 1) stay with you for your resources & cheat on you. or 2) Break up with you & fuck someone more emotionally secure.
I think the difference is the inner confidence of being yourself vs being like a weak man who is cowardly. Women don't like cowardly man. Like we want to feel if someone attacked us you would protect us not run away. So emotional expression itself to me isn't cowardly, but leaving your woman open to attack is cowardly.
I am so grateful for the content you are posting, thank you so much, genuinely.
Love your videos brother! This is so good for people! Actually attacking their fears and anxiety head on and walking them through it. I believe what you are doing is teaching people how to love themselves and accept themselves, and be REAL! I love how you are teaching us how to be organic! Let the chips fall where they may! Fuck the haters! Much respect and God Bless!
Father J heals again 🙏🏻🙏🏻
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He also walks on water only for a small price of 99.99$ that you need to pay for his other program.
Brave stuff - I would be at least as nervous but I think I'd talk more out of nervousness
Julien you are a blessing 🫶🏻
I get it but when I'm on the spot I forget why everything doesn't matter
Beautiful video! really intensive vulnerability on her part - damn
Yes! Massive respect 🙏🙏
Kudos to the GIRL! way to go!
Hey Julien, so once I get to what I think the root of my social anxiety is, what do I do? I think I’ve dug deep and identified the cause and my fear and what it means, do I just try to remember it in the moment? Or just remind myself constantly about the root cause/reasoning, e.g - scared of being judged, because don’t want people to not like me, because don’t want those negative emotions
Just trying to let it go?
IMO, when the feeling arises, allow it to express but you're aware of expressing it. Kinda observe w/o judgement. Then when the feeling kinda subside, remember what you've dug deep in yourself. And move on despite the fear that still in there
th-cam.com/video/MU1Rp184IT4/w-d-xo.html
@@thefricksnnations9639The letting go part is so complex, I don’t really understand how we can let go. Sometimes I ask myself, do I realky have a trauma? Yes I feel so uncomfortable in myself in social situations and I avoid a lot, but is there really a traume behind all of this? I don’t really know what to do actually..
✨✨🙌🏻 So powerful!
Yes! This technique is KEY when it comes to diving deeper into what’s running you and letting go! 🙏
Thanks Julien. Will start applying this today.
Great! If you want to learn more about this and get access to other tools that I personally use, get your copy of Transformation Mastery! 👉 julienhimself.com/self-help
Love the De-construction. Acknowlede and overcome
Good thing I found this video lol I got a job interview in a few days and yeah I have social anxiety but I’ma push through and do my best😀
Same heeere
Awesome.
Facing it .
What ever it is !
Easily put off . That is your driver . Julien is pulling you out of the back set and teaching you to drive it !
Can you see that ?
Julian really needs to get a fade hair cut. The hat looks great
I wonder if anyone has attacked him onstage. The person that he brings up on stage is already in a fear state and he teases them which can easily be seen as a personal attack. How long before they get into Fight and Flight and can he see when to stop?
I am in fear of even social gatherings but I'm confident in my work makes no sence why I sm like this even if I go to hairdressers it's awful.😢
Why were you viewing your environment as You VS. the Crowd ?
Good material!
This is so so so so good !
Glad you resonate with this! A lot more in Transformation Mastery! 👊
The Russian roulette effect when having to read with the class is so real 😂
Sometimes you still get a similar feeling and think "where the hell did I experience this horrible shit before?!" and it was just school... simple things but felt very real
Your channel is amazing
Thank you so much!
The issue I have is that my imagination is pretty great, and when I do the worst case scenario question it always ends up with me suffering/dying in some truly horrific way.
Like I'm feeling anxious about going to the grocery store. What's the worst thing that could happen? I die in a fiery car crash on the way there or back.
I'm scared of going to church/Bible study. What's the worst thing that could happen? A gunman could break in and commit a mass shooting. I could be killed or even worse my husband could be killed. Or we survive and have to suffer and live with the trauma of that event for the rest of our lives.
I'm anxious about driving somewhere new. I could get lost, run out of gas, a serial killer could happen upon me stranded and could rape me, kill me, and leave me dead in a ditch. Or worse hide my body so my loved ones never find our what happens to me.
Or my car goes off a bridge and I end up trapped inside the car as it's filling up with water, and I end up drowning when I can't hold my breath for another minute.
This is why this is a problem. My brain can always come up with horrific things that could possibly happen even in the most mundane of circumstances. Are they likely to happen, no, but the question is very open ended.
1. Remember we are "Energy beings", we manifest by channeling.
2. Survival emotions like "fear" are extremely low vibrational. Anxious people usually operate from the place of low vibrations.
3. Now practice operating from "elevated emotions" like Love, joy, gratitude, kindness. It's the greatest antidote and your life will beautifully turn around.
Do some random acts of kindness to completely unknown strangers or animals, etc. And let it go. Wish them best life.
Practice it and turnaround your life.
Life is actually a wonderful play. We just have to bring our awareness to "Elevated emotions".
Love from Himalayas, India. Hare Krishna🎉🎉❤
Man Flight Attendant here. The way she stutters,shakes etc reminds me of myself.
But when I ask myself "why" all I come up with are guesses and possible reasons. How do I find the real reason?
Get a mentor who can help you with this… You can apply here if you’re serious: www.julienhimself.com/mentoring-application 👊
This it totally unrelated, but can you explain why Tom Brady and Antonio brown were drafted so late and got boundless success in their respective professions?
What if it's not just SA? What if you also just not that interested in having non-interesting convos with neighbors or coworkers? I tend to rush through or avoid convos with neighbors, coworkers and people I just don't care socializing with. I guess I have difficulty with relating to people.
No one ever mentions the things I would fear so I never get to hear Julien address them. But I'd love to get his thoughts on:
(1) Turning really red. I'm pretty white so when I blush, it's very obvious, and very awkward.
The next two are a little more serious
(2) Passing out
(3) Throwing up
Julien might say, well what would be so bad about that? Answer: I don't want to be known as the guy who threw up or passed out in front of a bunch of people. It's on a whole nother level of embarrassment... and it stays with you for the rest of your life.
Thoughts? Tips?
But besides the extremes mentioned above, my fears, in general, are the crowd not perceiving me as my ideal self. I have high standards for myself. I pride myself on my taste in actors and comedians. I know what's good, I know what's funny, and that's the standard I place on myself. And I'm afraid if I don't attain to that, people are going to view me the way that I view me, as not as cool as Denzel or funny as Chappelle... i.e., as someone doesn't "have it"
Stop trying to impress
And what is so bad about not being a stand up comedian or actor? What's wrong with being simple or ordinary you? There is still only one of the unique person you are. And that's something special you can own and be proud of.
Great stuff, Brother man!
Thanks! What was your biggest takeaway from the vid?
@@JulienHimself that we ALL have insecurities and self-doubts, even those that appear confident. It reminds me of the quote, "We'd worry less about what other people think of us if we realized how seldom they do." It all goes back to core attachment issues and fears of being rejected or "not good enough." I think having a female onstage pushed the point even further (considering the bulk of your clientele). Great in-the-moment work, man. I appreciate the response! Hope life is treating you well...
i tried doing this and was so traumatized i got worse
You MUST combine this with the INNER APPROACH of letting go... Otherwise it won't produce any kind of longterm change.
thanks julien
there is clip from your first seminar? we wanna see it 😁
Sadly, there isn’t… But you can see some of my first vblog footage here: th-cam.com/video/n7jHcL4gZPk/w-d-xo.html
Anyone else think shadow from the circlular panel on the wall under the calendar in his office was a hair on your phone?
“Spiritual High Vibration GANGSTER” 🤣
The best thing is she can still talk..
I Really love These live Things
Thx! Be sure to check out Transformation Mastery for A LOT more video breakdowns like this!
Julien, this looks like your younger brother. You look way cooler nowadays
Thx! 👊
Amazing content - jorge
Thank you!
Monsieur Julien*
julien, how do i let go?
I have social anxiety because subconsciously I believe these people are going to eat me alive. Throw me in a pack of wolves and I‘m fine. But do the same with other people, that’s the truly dangerous animal.
How exactly do you let it go? Simply got to it with a lot of whys and then accepting it?
Here's a good introduction video to letting go: th-cam.com/video/fhmxou2eUNM/w-d-xo.html
Bro plz give some suggestions how to avoid of vribating of legs while in fornt of people .. Cuz i must have to engage with people for group discussion in classroom... What should i do for less vribation of my body .
Dude when u said "trail of why's" i thought u meant "trail of wise" hahaha
This is painful, feel bad that he’s forcing her to stay up there
Monsieur julien, where did you get tha tshirt?
WOW I never would have thought social affects girls as well.. looks identical to me and confirms our oneness even more 😑
Happy she’s at T-M 👐 auto spell wanted her to be at T-Mobile as you can see.. 😂
Social anxiety and past trauma affects ALL humans, yes… 🙏
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brilliant
Thx!
04:16 for me, worst case scenario would be to piss and shit my pants out of fear. And then this being recorded for all to see. How can one be “cool” after this becomes public info?
It's almost dangerous to do what you just did. Asking a person who has a social anxiety or worse, a social phobia to come up there, she didn't even have the time to realize that she was coming up there. What the fuck. She wasn't even breathe. Her eyes are popping out. You should have noticed it if you were so good. I bet her experience was traumatizing. She was feeling pressured to answer. She wasn't even feeling what she was saying. And I love how you interprete and explain her answer 😂 Like it's just so dangerous to put your mental health problems in the hands of anyone. She looks like she's not even listening at what you're saying, she's in panic. And suffering from that too, I had a feeling of panic just watching this. You can't just apply "advice" or "exercices" on EVERYONE. Everyone doesn't work the same way. What the fuck. You can't just apply the same thing on everyone. You show just as much you lack experience as a person who gives psychological advice. I wouldn't want to be there. If she has a panic attack, what would you have done ? You wouldn't act that clever on a video. Shocked.
We stutter or we just stop in middle of sentence just that what u feel
Or thought become unclear what if girl say bad about u bla bla
This guy, Julien, has got to be a scorpion.
Lol, I am... 🙈
😂😂FRRRRR. I WOULD'VE HUGGED HER ALREADYYYY as a Pisces🥲🥺🥺🥺
Julien is a god that drescended from an other dimension to our universe to make our lives better haha
Haha
This is a form of minor social anxiety. People with social phobia have trouble even leaving their homes, doing groceries, having one on one conversations with people. They do not attend seminars like this, they end up in psychiatric treatment when their isolation starts to create bigger problems. They have huge problems speaking up in small therapy groups, sometimes leaving the room because just being in a social setting is highly stressful for them.
This woman is able to formulate coherent sentences in front of a large crowd, she is a bit nervous due to being somewhat inexperienced socially and introverted. Also, it is not true that everyone experiences social anxiety with public speaking. There are plenty of people in the population who enjoy being in front of crowds and enjoying the attention, even from a young age.
This kind of social skills training is helpful for regular people with minor insecurities but the way this is framed is a bit hyperbolic, misleading marketing.
I kinda disagree with you. The marketing most likely targets, or works with the people that this kind of content would work for. When I watch these videos, they personally help me (and I just watch the free stuff on TH-cam). You watch these videos and it does not resonate with you (I’m assuming you have social phobia or know someone who does which is why you went so in depth about how this wouldn’t work). Also, everything on the TH-cam channel is free and they post long in depth videos, not short ones where good information is blocked by a paywall.
This is the same logic as watching a bodybuilding video on how to get big arms and then you comment "um, actually this is false because there are some people that are missing arms so this is kind of misleading"
See how dramatic that is?
There are always outliers but most people with SA are going to be like her in the video
@@Jay-og4yb There are many people worldwide with social anxiety disorders, they are not outliers. It's not a rare diagnosis, it's a very prevalent condition. The girl in the video just isn't one of them. The fact you don't know this just highlights your ignorance and lack of expertise on the subject. Also, your analogy is ridiculous because people without arms cannot get big arms, people with social anxiety disorders can overcome them.
@@epicipodmodz I am a big fan of Julien. I really like the direction he took the last few years with transformation mastery and his trauma release work, although techniquely the term trauma is reserved for more severe events in clinical settings, but the way he frames the concept still massively helps people so it's okay for normal folks that use it. The problem arises when normal people with some minor issues start interacting with people that have real trauma, then the terminology just get's absurd and downplays victims or real trauma. That is the same parallel I am drawing here with minor social anxiety and an actual clinical diagnosis. You are right I went in depth because I work in the field. I don't understand the "it's free, so who cares" argument. Anyone is free to express their ideas obviously, but I am also free to point out that some of the terminology that is used clinically inaccurate and may lead to confusion and misleading expectations for those that consume the content as well as hijacking and belittling of a term that is reserved for individuals with clinically diagnosed disorders. It's somewhat similar to false claims of domestic and sexual violence (the likes of which we are currently seeing in the Heard vs Depp case, for example), it harms real victims.
@@Edwards87 buddy, stop being the person that prevents people from helping themselves. So many people are going to see your comment and use that as an excuse. We don't need to coddle people. We need to give them hope
She sounds like a female version of Elon Musk 👍👍👍
🤣🤣🤣 i guess she’s Belgian by her accent
@@Mr.Singhhh hmmmmmmm
Behind you is the try hard guy who asked you to sing🤣🤣, then you flipped the script LOL...
Anyone in here do book reviews on personal development? I got one for you I can hand off for free.
Said to her to close her eye
@Spiritbow tarot 2222 spritiual squad 🤣
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Julien, have you seen anyone with the opposite problem?
Like a real idiot that is really annoying to everyone and still believes he's right and great? That would be cool to see, for comparison.
Do we fear more be like this person than to have social-anxiety and all the usual stuff? 👀
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Did she died?
She dieded.
Huh?
women comes up on stage "lets process these emotions, what are you feeeeeeeling"
dude comes up on stage "your mom and dad beat you, youre hiding bro, nobody wants to fuck you"
RSD
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She bad
I really dont like how you pick on women