you hit the right spot here. I'm 3 months on T and I still have some fears and some doubt, but it doesn't mean my identity isn't valid. thank you for this video, really
Thanks for being honest. I've had doubts too, and it's made worse by how doubts and worries are weaponised by transphobes. Also I felt the same way about things not feeling right immediately - like my parents calling me my male name, it seems weird because I'm not used to it. Being trans is much more complicated and diverse than solely the stereotypical idea of a trans person who "always knew".
As a trans woman, I also relate a lot to some of the points you mentioned. After I realized many things related to gender are just cultural stereotypes, things became much clearer to me.
Im 1:1 like you!! I'm pre T, all of these things made me think ill regret my transition if im not trans even though i KNOW i really need it. Ive had a pretty happy life as a girl, i (mostly) like my body, make up, fashion, im okay with my period. I realized its not about the typical men stereotype, but about the social role i play - that makes me uncomfortable and makes me feel like im not in the right social group. Thank you for sharing your experience, im glad i found this channel ❤
OMG YES. I’m pre-T too and I’ve been struggling with doubts lately, but you hit the nail on the head. I feel so much more comfortable being socially perceived as a guy rather than a woman.
thank you for this! i have just recently started medical transition after years of debating whether i could deal with NOT doing it, and i've been having major doubts and worries now that this is becoming something that will be permanent. even though i've always been more masculine, genuinely thought i was a boy and that everyone was just confused until i hit puberty, and i've been openly non binary-transmasc for years, the constant transphobic rhetoric i experience and people telling me "just give it more time and you will accept that you're a woman" and things like that has made me question myself. it's reassuring to hear something like what you've shared from another trans man.
Thank you for this great video. It takes courage to share such personal stuff and real kindness and empathy to expose yourself in the hope of helping others. You're really a great example of a good person. I relate to every points of your discussion except maybe for missing girls clothes. But I really related to the doubts and the not despising your feminity. Personally, another thing that makes me doubt sometimes is that I think I'm realizing that for me it isn't a life or death situation. I think I could survive going through life as a cis woman, though that would feel personally exhausting because I would still have the desire to be a man. So I guess for me it's a matter of to what degree of happiness I want to live my life and what I'm willing to risk to get to that happiness.
I relate to knowing how it feels to live as both genders. As a trans woman, I am in a place where I can relate to just how hard life is for men too. That’s why I feel frustrated at some feminist corners where they view male troubles as fewer and lesser, when many cis women haven’t lived as a man as I did, and are sometimes ignorant of how both sexes suffer, no more and no less than the other. I recall being upset at how some feminist peers would be so sexist and cruel in how they treated and generalised men, and as someone who lived as one, that personally hurt me. Being trans gives one a unique angle of having lived in both areas of society which is quite cool.
You're going to my "goat" videos with this one, loved the sincerity about these doubts that I (as a questioning transfeminine person) have that I don't see too often with other trans people, so I felt kind of alone and invalidating myself, but it's not all about that, it takes time to sort things out and feel better and better with yourself. Thank you
Thank you for sharing your experience! It makes so much sense that things aren't always super clear and obvious, cause like... humans are complex. But it's still good to hear from other people's perspectives :)
I loved the video, I knew I was not my AGAB when I was 5 years old but I discovered that I'm trans at age 9-10, now some time has passed and I'm waiting untill I'm older to be sure but this helped a lot
I discovered at like 6, starting the “latent phase” (a Freudian’s phase about the child making friends only with the gender of belonging. Freud only thought this for cis people but it’s actually a good way to spot some trans people too) where I praised having friends of the opposite gender. However, I knew I was trans at almost 18 years old!
![ฮักเทื่อสุดท้าย - บอย ศิริชัย [OFFICIAL MV]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/-1PoPoQ-B-k/mqdefault.jpg)
you hit the right spot here.
I'm 3 months on T and I still have some fears and some doubt, but it doesn't mean my identity isn't valid.
thank you for this video, really
So happy to hear that I could help. This is why i do this🥺🥺 I wish you all the best for the rest of your journey 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
Thanks for being honest. I've had doubts too, and it's made worse by how doubts and worries are weaponised by transphobes. Also I felt the same way about things not feeling right immediately - like my parents calling me my male name, it seems weird because I'm not used to it. Being trans is much more complicated and diverse than solely the stereotypical idea of a trans person who "always knew".
You make me feel so much more valid! Thankyou so much!!
So happy to hear that 🥰🥺
As a trans woman, I also relate a lot to some of the points you mentioned. After I realized many things related to gender are just cultural stereotypes, things became much clearer to me.
Im 1:1 like you!! I'm pre T, all of these things made me think ill regret my transition if im not trans even though i KNOW i really need it.
Ive had a pretty happy life as a girl, i (mostly) like my body, make up, fashion, im okay with my period.
I realized its not about the typical men stereotype, but about the social role i play - that makes me uncomfortable and makes me feel like im not in the right social group. Thank you for sharing your experience, im glad i found this channel ❤
OMG YES. I’m pre-T too and I’ve been struggling with doubts lately, but you hit the nail on the head. I feel so much more comfortable being socially perceived as a guy rather than a woman.
thank you for this! i have just recently started medical transition after years of debating whether i could deal with NOT doing it, and i've been having major doubts and worries now that this is becoming something that will be permanent. even though i've always been more masculine, genuinely thought i was a boy and that everyone was just confused until i hit puberty, and i've been openly non binary-transmasc for years, the constant transphobic rhetoric i experience and people telling me "just give it more time and you will accept that you're a woman" and things like that has made me question myself. it's reassuring to hear something like what you've shared from another trans man.
Thank you for this great video. It takes courage to share such personal stuff and real kindness and empathy to expose yourself in the hope of helping others. You're really a great example of a good person.
I relate to every points of your discussion except maybe for missing girls clothes.
But I really related to the doubts and the not despising your feminity. Personally, another thing that makes me doubt sometimes is that I think I'm realizing that for me it isn't a life or death situation. I think I could survive going through life as a cis woman, though that would feel personally exhausting because I would still have the desire to be a man. So I guess for me it's a matter of to what degree of happiness I want to live my life and what I'm willing to risk to get to that happiness.
thank you so much for this, i am really scared and lost and your video really helped me 🤍
So happy 😭🥺 I felt lost too during my transition and wanted to create a video that would help people the way i would needed help
I relate to knowing how it feels to live as both genders. As a trans woman, I am in a place where I can relate to just how hard life is for men too. That’s why I feel frustrated at some feminist corners where they view male troubles as fewer and lesser, when many cis women haven’t lived as a man as I did, and are sometimes ignorant of how both sexes suffer, no more and no less than the other. I recall being upset at how some feminist peers would be so sexist and cruel in how they treated and generalised men, and as someone who lived as one, that personally hurt me.
Being trans gives one a unique angle of having lived in both areas of society which is quite cool.
You're going to my "goat" videos with this one, loved the sincerity about these doubts that I (as a questioning transfeminine person) have that I don't see too often with other trans people, so I felt kind of alone and invalidating myself, but it's not all about that, it takes time to sort things out and feel better and better with yourself. Thank you
Thank you for sharing your experience! It makes so much sense that things aren't always super clear and obvious, cause like... humans are complex. But it's still good to hear from other people's perspectives :)
I loved the video, I knew I was not my AGAB when I was 5 years old but I discovered that I'm trans at age 9-10, now some time has passed and I'm waiting untill I'm older to be sure but this helped a lot
I discovered at like 6, starting the “latent phase” (a Freudian’s phase about the child making friends only with the gender of belonging. Freud only thought this for cis people but it’s actually a good way to spot some trans people too) where I praised having friends of the opposite gender. However, I knew I was trans at almost 18 years old!
Thank you so much for this video ❤
points 4 and 5 hit the spot, tnks for sharing
Why are you styled like My Generation and Culture ?
same reason that I'm styled like Pouch Freeman and Sack