time stamps: 1. serving bf a cook book 3:01 2. hiding melatonin from husband 14:48 3. not trusting mil anymore 24:23 4. asking husband to join sisters birthday celebration 45:09 5. fake pregnancy test that mil found and announced a false pregnancy 57:37 6. husband doesnt want to look at wifes sexy pics 1:13:18 7. a stripper made me cry 1:27:43 maybe i missed one at the end but they spoke about random holiday stuff
@H M that’s not a good thing to live by for everything. Every situation is different. A good friend doing something selfish vs a parent calling you useless is different. Yes how you react is ok you but how things make you feel is how they make you feel.
My dad died at 32 and my mom at 42. I turn 26 in a few days and I’m thankful for the lines I’m starting to get on my forehead. I’m hopeful for the day I can see gray hair and wrinkles in the mirror, because I’m scared I won’t get there. Aging is a blessing, being alive is a gift.
I always say that I'm thankful for getting older. I'd much rather get older than not be here anymore. Hoping that you get to enjoy a VERY long and happy life.
My mom just passed 2 months ago at age 48 and honestly I have never look at it like this. That you so much for this comment and really put things into perspective. Thank you💙
I almost didn't live past my 30th birthday because of my choices, now I'm thankful everyday I wake up and the wrinkles just remind me I've lived. I wish you a long full life!
As someone who has also lost both parents, I feel this. My mom just past this February at 53. My dad at 42. Take it one day at a time, take in everything. And most importantly take care of yourself as much as possible. Everyday is not promised
I've challenged my 2 teen daughters to compliment another female EVERY DAY. Now they do it and don't even think about it. You can see people's energy shift after getting a compliment from another female. Powerful.
My personal philosophy with compliments is “see something, say something,” so whenever a compliment pops into my head, I say it. There have been so many times where a random compliment really changed the course of my mood/day; it’s nice to provide that for someone else and a great lesson to teach your kids!:)
As I’ve gotten older I’ve noticed I more often openly compliment people when I think it. When I was younger I would never. I don’t even think about “I should compliment someone” it’s like you said I don’t even think about. ❤
@@sbmedeiros11 omgggg then say girls instead idfk what to tell you dude!! i am also a woman and i am saying that when you refer to women or girls as “females” it is UNNECESSARILY derogatory and you’re literally participating in a recent culture movement that seeks to strip women and girls out of their personhood. but since you want to be a headass about it go tf off
@@sbmedeiros11 “females aren’t women” correct because “women” is a noun and “female” is an adjective that you use to refer to lab monkeys, and it’s even grosser when you refuse to call girls “girls” and instead want to push that weird label on them but anyway ! literal terf red flag
Yessss, I am a boudoir photographer and I just want to say thank you both for your awesome attitudes toward it. It's such a fun way to celebrate yourself and feel elated and brave and comfortable in your body. Also, that husband is trash for making his wife's photoshoot all about HIM. He has no obligation to feel aroused by the photos, but the fact that he just refused to look at them and called her desperate when all she wanted was for him to acknowledge the courage it probably took to STRIP DOWN IN FRONT OF A PHOTOGRAPHER. Like, that's SCARY, and I'm sure all she wanted was for him to say she looked beautiful and that he's proud of her. Like, I can't. Throw the whole man away. She deserves so much better.
I know some people are genuinely that dense, but I find it hard to believe the sheer number of people like this. If I did a boudoir photo shoot, I could look like absolute shit but my fiancé is still going to act like it’s the best thing ever. This fucker had to know what his words were going to do to her.
Oh man, the lady interrupting the business dinner gave me so much secondhand anxiety and embarrassment! The moment she said he was at the same place and didn't acknowledge her, I just kept thinking, "Ignore him. Ignore him. Talk to him at home. Ignore him." When she said she went over to the table, I cried out in horror. When she INSISTED and pulled him away for up to 10 minutes, I died and was sent to the great beyond.
Yeah. That was so inconsiderate of her. He was working, you wouldn’t ask anyone to quickly leave the office for a birthday, so why do it at a meeting? It’s still work.
Right there with you. I was shook. It was cringey and no need for it. I felt it was a weird control issue then she turned around and got mad at her hubby for verbally reaching his frustration point. Her back pedaling made it worst too. Time for a little self reflection on her part.
It is just so hard for me to believe that she didn't know he was going to be there! LIKE HOW?!?! Someone, somewhere planned this! Like its one thing to run into him if you are just like damn he is going out for dinner and so will I, but with a "last minute change." Also I wouldn't even feel comfortable speaking to someone if I knew they were in a business meeting and I saw them. Its screams "I'm your wife and I come first with everything!"
That last story had me in tears. I’ve been struggling a lot with my body image these days because I’m also quite curvy and live in Asia so it makes it hard not to feel bad. But she was right. There’s an art meme I love that says “when you tell him on the phone you’re built like a goddess but he’s never taken an art history class” and has statuettes of fertility goddesses. 😂 I loved that. It made me feel better.
I feel so sad for the lady in the second to last story. She made herself vulnerable doing those photos and he went straight for the emotional jugular 😢
YES! plus there is NOTHING desperate in wanting to feel sexy and wanting to share photos like that with your husband. He should be absolutely thrilled he gets to see her professionally done photos. It's so sad he made her feel this way. the way he talks about her is disgusting
I hope she leaves him and finds someone who loves her and builds her up. It's not surprising she is looking bad if all he does is break her down. That guy makes me think of the guys who leave their wives because they think the grass is greener who sees his ex thriving and is upset, "why didn't she look like that for me"
My husband is completely lost in the kitchen when it comes to cooking, so that responsibility is mine alone, however it's never something expected of me. If I don't feel like cooking I don't have to, we call them fend for your self nights. When I do cook, which is most nights, my husband does the dishes. Good on OP for the cookbook on a plate. He's almost 30, she's not his mother and he is completely capable of finding his own food.
My husband cooks often because he likes the kitchen, it's mostly me doing dinner though. However literally 2 nights ago I had committed to cooking dinner but I joined the discord (he was gaming with friends) "Hey I just suddenly got really tired and lost all will to cook, would you be satisfied with Dino nuggies?" He took the dino nuggies happily and I went to lie down.
Yeah, my husband is the same. He can't cook and I'm pretty good at it. When our first baby turned out to be a super-colicky newborn, I didn't cook for three months because I was barely surviving. Not once did he criticize me for that. Now he takes her after he's home from work so that I can cook. He also works overtime each week so that I can stay home with her and her future siblings, because he's an actual traditionalist (not just a lazy POS who uses it as an excuse). The 30-year-old manchild had me shaking my head. We as a society need to set the bar for men higher, because I hear of way too many stories like that and it's almost always the guy being a manchild.
Exactly, my roommate in college cooked us dinner nearly every night. And I made sure I was in that kitchen chopping things, stirring things, whatever he needed me to do, while cleaning up the kitchen/doing the dishes as time went on so that by the time we were done the kitchen looked like it hadn’t been used and we could enjoy our food. In the early days I was worried that maybe he was overburdened and was secretly wishing I made meals too. But I’ve never been a cook, and he knew that by seeing what I fed myself lmao. So I asked him about it and he laughed and told me not to worry about it because he really appreciates me doing the dishes and one of his favorite things is cooking with friends and family, so he saw my effort as a fair trade. God I miss him 😂 my standards for roommates are so high now
Yes! My husband has never cooked me a meal however some days I come home and all the laundry is done and the floors are perfect. I love cooking! I also do the dishes but that’s my choice I’m the biggest mess when cooking and no one but me deserves to deal with it.
The problem in my home is we both like to cook together; but neither like to do the dishes. And it’s like somehow the dishes are NEVER ENDING 😅😅😅 why’s it always the dishes and laundry that never seems to feel “done” 😮💨
story #3 made me physically ILL I don't understand how MIL could keep pretending she's been given "signs" or whatever when she's been SPYING on conversations I also don't understand how MIL herself doesn't feel uncomfortable reading such private conversations between her son and his wife the husband's reaction makes me wonder if she's been infringing on his sense of privacy since he was young so he's desensitized and is therefore more able to be angry for her and not himself.
I don’t think the husband wasn’t mad just that he didn’t seem *as mad* as she was and with anyone but especially parents I know for me I will take a lot more hurt directed at me but hurt my partner hurt the person I love and I’m so pissed those we’re definitely the vibes I got from him
some guy yelled out his car window 'MY FRIEND THINKS YOUR CUTE' follow by embarrassed cursing from the driver and it was so funny and i feel that's a better example of guys being guys than 'nice tits' or whatever. 100% made my day lmao
I had a guy stop me on my way out of a store once. He said simply "Hey, I just thought you were gorgeous, and wanted to get to know you. Could I give you my number?" I wasn't even wearing makeup that day. I was so flattered, I absolutely went on a few dates with him. If I wasn't on the brink of moving out of the state, I really think we'd have been great together. Guys just need to not treat us like meat on a shelf, to be genuinely sweet.
I’ve said it for years COMMUNICATION IS NOTHING WITHOUT UNDERSTANDING. you can talk all you want if the other person is not understanding it will get nowhere. I’ve given that advice to several friends, and somehow it always blows their mind and i’m just like THIS IS BASIIIIIIIIIC LIFE THINGS WDYM MIND BLOWN????
Sobbing at the last one! Women loving women hits so different. Kindness is beautiful. It’s so “simple” but so often overlooked. Don’t feel embarrassed!! It will make that persons day and it’s SO easy AND you’ll feel freaking awesome too.
I really want to say that if you are a male-presenting person, the best way to compliment a person: Only compliment things that person can control: hair, outfit, makeup, etc. Not their body, or facial features, not their "sexually attractive" features. It will help you not come off as creepy and it's good to learn to notice those things anyway. Best of luck.
I will never understand people who complete an absolute strangers tits. If my friend was doing that shit i woulda slapped him and told him to quit being a dick head
I'm female, and I still keep this in mind because I don't want to compliment things that a person might have a lot of insecurities about it or compliment them if they look like they're losing weight or getting in better shape because you never know if someone has an eating disorder or is losing weight because of stress or a health issue. But with hair or outfits or makeup, etc., those are things the person chose to look a certain way and probably like.❤
(a year late) but i’m a guy who likes to dress fashionably and there was a time several months ago i was at a hangout with a good friend of mine where one of my classmates that i am not close with complimented my pants. i still hadn’t forgotten it so a few days ago when i saw her again i said “i like your outfit” and she genuinely looked so happy. it’s fun making others happy lol
That first story was wild, had the inverse happen last night. My husband loves to cook and usually cooks. He's in the middle of studying for an important exam coming up. We were discussing dinner plans and he said he had an idea. But then he couldn't cook because he needed to study. I said, "Show me the first steps and tell me the rest and I'll cook while you study!" Teamwork
Listening to this stories makes me appreciate more and more my boyfriend. No one is perfect and no relationship is perfect, there are ups and downs, but he is amazing.
Boudoir photographer & model here, it’s not JUST professional pics of yourself, it’s the sexiest moodiest way possible to have yourself photographed. I do it for all, but the amount of confidence and self love radiating from older women and bigger women when we’re done is at least 80% of why I do it. This is your sign to book yourself a boudoir shoot!!! Men too!
@@WouldntULikeToKnow.Yeah, I don't understand when people are married and keep their finances separate. I get that they might be doing it in case of divorce, but that would make me feel like my partner doesn't trust me or already thinks that we won't work out, rather than having the mentality and commitment for longevity of the relationship.
Story 6: I’m sorry the way he kept calling her desperate ? It’s so disgusting like he should definitely let her go and let her find some who literally adores the ground she walks on. Honestly he should be alone for the rest of his saggy life
Story #1 will be the kind of man that gets intimidated by her making more money when she's done with school. She needs to have a clear calm convo with him and if it continues, then she needs to RUN.
YEP! I dated a guy just like that. Tried to force me to get a full time job and leave my current job even though I wasn’t ready. Then shortly after we broke up I was working 50+ hour weeks due to the pandemic and BLM protests going on (I live outside of Minneapolis) and when I excitedly told him I got paid $1k that week, he accused me of trying to rub it in his face because I made more than him. Absolutely exhausting.
The one with the mother in law snooping and finding the pregnancy test has SO many horrible things going on. Firstly, there are so many reasons why if it had been real, things were handled poorly. The pregnancy test could have belonged to a friend as was suggested, OP could have been pregnant but not been ready to tell anyone yet until she felt it was safe to assume the pregnancy would stick and not result in a miscarriage, and also false positive pregnancy tests can happen. As was said one of the worst things about this aside from the actual snooping was the fact that the mother in law thought it was okay to just go and tell everyone, including her son before even consulting OP or giving OP the chance to tell him if she had been pregnant. And then to have the audacity for people to call the OP a liar when she NEVER told anyone that she was pregnant is what really pissed me off. If the husband can't see any of the problems in this scenario and is mad at OP then I don't think this marriage will/should last. I can understand being annoyed at the specific trap that OP set if it's a touchy subject, but he's completely ignoring EVERYTHING that his mother did wrong and clearly will never put his wife's feelings/needs above his mother's.
"You shouldn't have to remind someone to care about you!" OMGGGGG this hit HARD. I am a busy teacher and my (ex?) bf doesn't have much to do, but I have to be the one who calls, texts, make date plans, everythingggggg. About two weeks ago, I stopped doing all of those things, and do you think he called or texted? NOPE.
Dump his ass. Took me 3 years of dating and 3 years of being in a relationship (including moving into a house together) before I realised that I was solely responsible for our relationship being successful. Even if he was as busy as you are, that’s still not an excuse. If you’ve been able to manage up to now, so should he.
If you went missing (god forbid) he wouldn't have reported it for two weeks and counting. That would make him the prime suspect because it shows such lack of care for your wellbeing. Anyone in this position: take a moment to see cops would think they killed you and drop that dead weight.
The Business Meeting Story: OP response to one of the comment she said, "He was there WITH US". Omg she is digging her own grave now. He was not there with you. he was there with his CLIENTS!? OP knew about the meeting if "only" her parents were the reason they wanted him there, OP should have told them, NO. Wtf he is your partner you side with him and respect his meeting. wtf.
I listen to every pod from my office. My fiancé after over hearing asked me to turn it up so now we listen together. I hope you gals know how much enjoyment you bring to people and for me? Well you're getting me through the toughest year of my life. I look forward to it every week. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
@H M the vast majority of people who raise and care for livestock are also not vegans! humans have done this for thousands of years it’s not weird at all
Story 3 Id confront MIL & say “I know you’ve been looking at our messages. You’ve been sending me signals.” 😂 Just like she said you were giving her signals 🙄
But I know I send raunchy messages to my partner, to know my mother in law has seen me say/ask him what our late night entertainment is going to be, like damn I'd be furious, those are our private messages, how dare she butt in and see them. I mean would she also see pics and or hear phone calls, I don't know how it works. But I'm more gobsmacked that the partner wasn't that bothered by the invasion of privacy.
What I really like about this episode is that the stories feel like a gradual growth into madness because I was not experiencing much whiplash with the first 2 stories but damn things started going sideways after. Love it!
That story about the photoshoot is an example of what scares me about men and marriage. How some see aging and changes as repulsive. Stuff like this makes me really doubt the ability to grow old with someone and have that love stand the test of time. It really makes me sad.
The boudoir story hurts my heart. She probably felt so confident and beautiful in those photos and the way he knocked her down probably made her feel worse about herself. It's not a mid-life crisis, she just felt that the marriage wasn't where it used to be and wanted to do something nice for her husband. What a jerk!
I have a chronic illness and hurt my back in August. I am fighting to lose weight also. The stripper story made me tear up and remember how many sculptures I have admired with my same body shape. It made me remember that I am not my type and that is why I do not find myself attractive. Thank you for reading that story.
The first story with yall's takes hit home for me. I recently got out of a relationship where I was expected to do all of the housework myself, while my partner would come home and immediately play video games. She would say that I am not expected to do it, but if I wasn't doing it, it wouldn't get done. There were times where she would say she was going to do something, for example do the dishes, and I would give it days, once even a week or so, and they would never get done. When I confronted her about it and expressed how I felt I couldn't trust her word when she did this, she would turn it around on me and say that I was nagging her and that I wasn't working with "her timeline" and if I just wouldn't bother her she would do it. Now I know this is gaslighting and victim reversal and that I wasn't the problem, but at the time I felt like I was going insane. Nothing I would say, no amount of communication worked. It was like trying to reason with a brick wall.
I’m laughing so hard right now because why did I hear the “who can’t seem to bring water to a boil” part as I was dumping a pack of ramen into a boiling pot of water?💀
JESUS AHHHHH MY DAY'S SAVIOR! 2 EPISODES IN ONE WEEK!Bless you Morgan and Lauren, I can't literally put how thankful I am...I have been sick for some time now and I work from home and I am alone majority of the time. ..as I said in my previous comment this is way more than a podcats for me,this is a way for me fo get through my days or even weeks. I binged all episodes so you can't imagine my happiness when I see the notification pop up. Have an awasome day and thank you for everything you all are doing for us❤️ - active listener:)
I hope you feel better! I agree wholeheartedly, this is not just a podcast at this point, it's family and therapy. That's why I hate when there's mean comments, these people are our friends. I don't know what I would do without these episodes!
I was thinking the same thing! Since we only get one side of the story I was wondering if she mightve misinterpreted his communication if she was over studying or if he wasn't communicating his feelings appropriately
Once you get into entitlement, it doesn’t matter if it comes from a good place. Ex: men may love s e x and express lovingly that they miss connecting with you in that way but once they get demanding or pushy. It’s no longer done in a loving way, they don’t care that you are too busy and that’s the problem. There is a two fold issue, even in the midst of your overwhelming day, they think there needs matter more than yours as well as the fact by demanding of you during that busy time they also aren’t supporting or taking anything off your plate. It’s a very selfish mindset
When I was 15 I went to a convention with friends and my mom went to a wedding. I arrived home first and my Dad left me a load of his laundry to do with mine. I couldn't believe my dad waited till I got home to do his laundry...
in the middle of the night, my dad would get the clothes out & put it on my bed for me to fold in the morning. my mom always sided with him & justified his behavior because he’s a “man” and works way more than I ever will :/
@@elkieescarra hell no! 😭 your mom was in the wrong for even siding with that. He’s grown like they said, he can fold his own clothes. He’s not a baby.
Genuinely watched the last episode so I could FINALLY tell Lauren and Alejandra apart. I knew I confused the two often. Typically I just throw the videos on and listen while I work 😂
I’m so glad you guys talked about conflict and apologies in the pregnancy story. I’m in a new healthy relationship and am trying to tackle the art of conflict. It’s nice to hear opinions of real people alongside my therapist.
I always knew Lauren and Alejandra were two different people but never saw them together, so in my mind if they never were together they had to be the same person 😂😂😂 crazy
I have several chronic illnesses, and you guys are right that growing old is a privilege--I am in my late twenties. I have had 4 hip surgeries within the last few years. I have about the same amount of arthritis in my neck that someone would have in their 40s or 50s. Growing old isn't going to look the same to me vs. my peers. Thank you to Morgan & Lauren for always being so supportive and inclusive.
I got married 3 years ago, and didn’t get around to doing them as a gift for my groom. Then Covid hit and I gained some weight and struggled with my body image more than ever. I did boudoir back in April because I’ve been in counseling to work through my body image and confidence. I joked with my husband saying, “these are for me, but you benefit from them.” My husband loved them, but if he had the reaction like that asshole from the 2nd to last story, that would have ruined me.
Y’all, I just got in a car accident Tuesday so I’m home from work today recovering from whiplash and you release the episode 😂 the most perfect timing!
Morgan was an interior designer in another life. Her taste is amazing when it comes to the set. I love finding all the cool things she puts in, it's like a treasure hunt. Love it.
Lauren and Alejandra have different vibes and it's easy to differentiate their takes, I'm just borderline faceblind and everyone sounds the same to me. I swear it's not you two, it's me
I literally couldn't see faces at a distance until junior high (no one found out I needed glasses until then) so I learned to tell people apart from body type hand hair as a kid. I blame that for my inability to tell Lauren and Alejandra apart.
Hey girls thanks for this! I was having a dificult time dealing with today being a bank holiday in my country and everything being closed, I'm autistic and I rely so heavy on my routines that each time they're interrupted for things like this I need extra help coping. Thanks for everything ✨
In a really rough spot and struggling with depression, always have. It’s just been more rough lately, so hearing you guys say it’s a blessing to age… it’s exactly what I needed to hear in this moment. Thank you morgan for always being kind and thoughtful. You don’t know how much I needed to hear that.
Speaking to the narcissist prayer: communication is huge, and speaking your intention rather than shifting blame is so important. I am still learning this after 2 years without being with a narcissist, and I am constantly checking myself to make myself clear, or try to understand the other persons intention.
One quote that I live by is "If you see something beautiful in someone speak it". Whenever I see something I like about someone I will compliment them on it. I get severe anxiety from talking to strangers, but that's always something that I do. Sometimes I get ignored or people don't hear but most of the time I get to see people's faces light up and it makes me so happy to be able to make someone else smile. I especially love it when people get excited and tell me about the thing I complimented them on. You never know what people are going through and if I can make just one person smile each time I go out my existence is worth it.
The last story comes at such a pivotal moment. Herion chic, for the lake of a better word, is coming back into fashion. I hope us women will be kinder to ourselves and each other this time around. I was going through primary and high school the last time this body was "in fashion" and it did a lot of damage.
That last palette cleanse was sooooooo good, I love women who uplift and are genuine to other women. It's so nice to see amazing people in the world especially from someone who probably has a lot of unwanted prejudice and judgment passed on them for their job or side hustle
Story #2. I can’t fathom my partner having surgery and not helping to pay for it. She said it wiped out her savings. I would hope to have a partner that would help pay for a little bit of it. If you are married then why would you not help your wife or husband out?
I dont understand this entirely split finances. Especially when married not just in a relationship. Like of you don't trust your partner enough with finances then find a solution or don't get married. Also say one person is just able to save more. Does that men when you're old and retired one person goes to a fancy retirement home and the other is in a crappy community and possibly still working?
Literally came here to comment that. What the heck?? If you split everything 2/3 then the surgery should’ve been 2/3 so no one’s savings were wiped out. Absolutely not. There’s no support or teamwork from him. They’re basically roommates with more legal ties. I was flabbergasted when they said that.
As a person who’s parent was extremely invalidating and emotionally aggressive as a child there is a HUGE difference between “I’m sorry you feel that way” and “I’m sorry I made you feel that way” Edited to say the edition of those two small words were the hallmark of my relationship with my mom changing for the better. You can be mad at the consequences of your actions all you want but nothing gets better until you accept your licks.
For story #2 as someone with ADHD that's not his case and if it is he doesn't care to "fix" it. I use my alarms as soon as I know I have to do something. I use Alexa & notes as well. It's scary that he was blamimg her though, he is a grown man. Sounds like he can't take accountability.
Exactly. I forget things in an instant so I will constantly tell my Google devices to "remind me in 5 minutes" or "at such and such time" even for things like grabbing groceries or jumping in the shower.
Seriously, people with ADHD aren’t incompetent and we often feel guilt and regret when we forget things. I’m grateful if my partner reminds me at all! I usually use post-it’s, I’ll say something out loud a couple times in funny voices so I remember something, my phone reminders/notes, and i have a physical planner too! Even though I have ADHD I still have the responsibility to fulfill my obligations and take care of myself. I just have to use different strategies and it’s a little harder. But I refuse to believe I’m any less mentally capable, it would feel ableist almost I think? Hoping i find other ADHDers strategies here, too!
My bf is this forgetful from both ADHD and ASD but I can tell he is trying, it's like there is a wall between remembering the thing or the reminder and doing it. It's not his fault but it has reached a frustrating crescendo because he is not medicated. I talked to him about this and he has finally made an appointment to try something out. He was diagnosed at 18 and has made it this far but it's not working anymore. The forgetfulness waxes and wanes, it's clearly involuntarily. I will feel ignored but I know how to separate my feelings from the disorder as much as possible as well. Every day is a new day. I can ask him to do something immediately and it's no problem for a whole day and another day he is asking me what I even asked for. He had to go to the bank to change his password 3 times because he didn't even remember his username and he kept forgetting to write it down. I'm so excited!
@@7ShadowMaiden7 I often feel I can't say anything so he doesn't feel bad but he also needs to know he forgot. It's hard. My bf likes to say 'I forgor' and I give him a kiss, but I do hate giving reminder calls and it still isn't done. So much. Sometimes it's more effort to get him to do it than doing it myself! A lot of the time he will make sure to do something sweet to apologize, though, and I melt.
@@7ShadowMaiden7 Honestly one of the BEST things I have stareted and I got from a tiktok is the "don't put it down, put it away method" as soon as I am done with something I'm tempted to just put it on the counter and "I'll get it in a sec" and then forget..I have let things go bad because I've left them out the fridge for so long. I apply it to everything now. "Agh gotta do laundry, I'll do it in 10 mins....nope get up and do it now" it's the hardest thing I've done for sure but it's been life changing for me.
The best advice I’ve gotten is not to worry about another person’s response but consider your own words. Not everything is in your control and that’s okay
In the last story where she gets that incredible compliment, then hearing Morgan and Lauren talk about how we should compliment others more just made me smile so much because I literally have been doing this nearly every day for the last 8 years or so, and seeing the way that changes someone's day brings an immeasurable amount of joy to my day as well. I started doing it even more frequently working in the medical field because something as small as a quick and sincere compliment can really change the way your patients feel about coming to your medical center.
I went through a phase of saying "that'll do, pig" out loud to myself for humor and then got in the habit of saying it to other people in my life. Once at work and I broke myself of it hahaha.
I just want to mention again how much Lauren brings to the table. She is elequont and fair in her judgement . I love the instances where she devil's advocates. I am always so excited to listen when she is on!
These were great but the stripper story 🥲 omg... I loved to give compliments growing up but I'm autistic and people I guess thought I was being manipulative. So I stopped saying nice things. I was afraid. Now I'm trying to find a balance between over compliments and needed compliments.
Hearing to you guys talking about how getting is such a blessing almost made me cry, my dad died this year and I'm 22, and I would give everything to see my dad grow old and go to events like my wedding or meeting my kids in the future and he will not. I love this podcast
It's kind of counterproductive how often we hear comments like "his mother is coddling him" or "you're his partner, not his mother" because we're still saying that 1) it's always the woman's fault and 2) it's always the mother's job to take care of the child (even when the child is a 30 year old man). We should be mindful of language because it shapes our reality. Whenever I say I'm going to do a chore around the house, my boyfriend has stopped saying "shall I help you?" because him "helping me" would mean that it's my job; he now says "shall I do that with you?" instead. That way it's a chore we do together and not someone's specific job since we both have jobs outside our home. Chores are something we do equally because we're both adults and it's our responsibility
By far the best and most entertaining podcast out here. Maybe its because it lets us judge people and kind of "gossip" without actually knowing them or actually ruining anyone's life like you would if you were to actually be gossiping about them and discussing such personal matters openly like you do on the show in real life, about actual people you know and among people that would know them too. So its like a guilt free space where can all mutually connect in a way, if you know what I mean. either way, love the show, love you guys, keep it up. I haven't even listened to this whole episode yet, but I'm super excited already!
Morgan's face of realisation and then laugh when Lauren introduced herself at the end made me genuinely burst out laughing, had to replay a couple times😂
In regards to the MIL snooping on texts: if OP does send fake texts like one comment suggested it won't work out for OP. MIL will pat herself on the back for being so very sneaky and not getting caught.
A note on how to apologize for your part when you feel like the other person is overreacting. This happened to me a few days ago. I overreacted to something my partner said to me, and the way he apologized was perfect: hey, it was never my intention to hurt you and I am sorry for not backing off when I saw you getting uncomfortable. However, I would like to continue this conversation, and if you could explain to me how we can do that, and which parts hurt you and why, I can either explain myself better or work on those bits together". I too had to admit my part of overacting (communicating is a two-way street people) and admitted my deep-seated fears, and then he managed to explain his part without triggering me.
I’m so glad they had the same take as me too lol. Like it sucks he had to miss her party, I’m a big believer in not making work your whole life like USA culture… family is more important than work. HOWEVER, this is just a sisters 18th birthday party and she should have let him be!! That looks so unprofessional in front of clients. Not even coworkers but CLIENTS. She was so out of line and is TA by far. She should have ignored him, let him have his business meeting and make it his choice if he decides to come over. How uncomfortable and unprofessional. I feel so bad for him, I’d be pissed at my spouse too
I've done the "if you think something nice, then say it" for a few years now. People think you're kidding, other times you get, "that's exactly what I needed today"
i’m autistic, and i have always had issues when being given gifts cus even if i’m super excited about it or i’m happy, other people don’t think i am. once my friends did something amazing for my bday and i really loved and appreciated it but i wasn’t giving them the reaction they wanted, so they thought i wasn’t being appreciative but i really was, but i was burnt out so i didn’t have as much energy to mask. i had also just been told some bad news about family members before this & i thought that was why i wasn’t “acting normally” but it’s cus im autistic & just don’t show emotions the same way as allistic people. and this has always been an issue, like if i say im happy then im happy. i wont ever say something i don’t mean. but this was before i knew i was autistic so i wasn’t able to give these disclaimers and people just thought i was a bad friend🤷🏻♀️
I really want to watch this right now, but I also want to leave it for tomorrow when I'm baking... Damn, we need longer episodes, I can't believe you guys are so new to "this"... I watched all episodes in a month... I was hoping there were more of them 😂 👏👏👏
That's one thing I admire about myself is that I will go out of my way to compliment a stranger! The joy you see when they realize that all you want to do is compliment them! I would recommend people to do it for everyone!
The way im needing this podcast, bc im pulling all nighters, college is sucking the sould of me and this is the podcast that gets me to work on school stuff
Oh my GOFDJK "can you repeat how you interpreted what I just said to you" should be in the BIBLE. I've struggled so much with people misinterpreting what I mean to say, and I'm going to use this religiously from now on! I love this podcast and you guys so much ahhh
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time stamps:
1. serving bf a cook book 3:01
2. hiding melatonin from husband 14:48
3. not trusting mil anymore 24:23
4. asking husband to join sisters birthday celebration 45:09
5. fake pregnancy test that mil found and announced a false pregnancy 57:37
6. husband doesnt want to look at wifes sexy pics 1:13:18
7. a stripper made me cry 1:27:43
maybe i missed one at the end but they spoke about random holiday stuff
THANK YOU for putting the titles!! so many people just put "story one"
The GOAT of this video🙌
My heroooo.
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There’s such a big difference between “I’m sorry you feel that way” and “I’m sorry that I made you feel that way”
"I'm sorry that I offended you"
IMMENSE!
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@H M that’s not a good thing to live by for everything. Every situation is different. A good friend doing something selfish vs a parent calling you useless is different. Yes how you react is ok you but how things make you feel is how they make you feel.
I weaponize the former
My dad died at 32 and my mom at 42. I turn 26 in a few days and I’m thankful for the lines I’m starting to get on my forehead. I’m hopeful for the day I can see gray hair and wrinkles in the mirror, because I’m scared I won’t get there. Aging is a blessing, being alive is a gift.
I always say that I'm thankful for getting older. I'd much rather get older than not be here anymore. Hoping that you get to enjoy a VERY long and happy life.
Happy birthday ❤❤
My mom just passed 2 months ago at age 48 and honestly I have never look at it like this. That you so much for this comment and really put things into perspective. Thank you💙
I almost didn't live past my 30th birthday because of my choices, now I'm thankful everyday I wake up and the wrinkles just remind me I've lived.
I wish you a long full life!
As someone who has also lost both parents, I feel this. My mom just past this February at 53. My dad at 42. Take it one day at a time, take in everything. And most importantly take care of yourself as much as possible. Everyday is not promised
I need an entire episode with with crazy families, called "it's not you, It´s your mom" or "It´s your family".
I think we all need an episode like that :D
yes yes yes
yesssss agreed
OMG YES PLEASEEEE
Yessssssd
I've challenged my 2 teen daughters to compliment another female EVERY DAY. Now they do it and don't even think about it. You can see people's energy shift after getting a compliment from another female. Powerful.
My personal philosophy with compliments is “see something, say something,” so whenever a compliment pops into my head, I say it. There have been so many times where a random compliment really changed the course of my mood/day; it’s nice to provide that for someone else and a great lesson to teach your kids!:)
As I’ve gotten older I’ve noticed I more often openly compliment people when I think it. When I was younger I would never. I don’t even think about “I should compliment someone” it’s like you said I don’t even think about. ❤
this is a nice thought but i encourage you to refer to women as WOMEN, not “females.” very dehumanizing. otherwise this is a lovely gesture
@@sbmedeiros11 omgggg then say girls instead idfk what to tell you dude!! i am also a woman and i am saying that when you refer to women or girls as “females” it is UNNECESSARILY derogatory and you’re literally participating in a recent culture movement that seeks to strip women and girls out of their personhood. but since you want to be a headass about it go tf off
@@sbmedeiros11 “females aren’t women” correct because “women” is a noun and “female” is an adjective that you use to refer to lab monkeys, and it’s even grosser when you refuse to call girls “girls” and instead want to push that weird label on them but anyway ! literal terf red flag
On aging - one of my favorite quotes is “Growing old is a luxury denied to many.” Im grateful everyday
I really needed to see this!
This really did something for me. Thank you for leaving this comment
Yessss, I am a boudoir photographer and I just want to say thank you both for your awesome attitudes toward it. It's such a fun way to celebrate yourself and feel elated and brave and comfortable in your body.
Also, that husband is trash for making his wife's photoshoot all about HIM. He has no obligation to feel aroused by the photos, but the fact that he just refused to look at them and called her desperate when all she wanted was for him to acknowledge the courage it probably took to STRIP DOWN IN FRONT OF A PHOTOGRAPHER. Like, that's SCARY, and I'm sure all she wanted was for him to say she looked beautiful and that he's proud of her. Like, I can't. Throw the whole man away. She deserves so much better.
@don't subscribe this channel stop spamming the comments.
I know some people are genuinely that dense, but I find it hard to believe the sheer number of people like this. If I did a boudoir photo shoot, I could look like absolute shit but my fiancé is still going to act like it’s the best thing ever. This fucker had to know what his words were going to do to her.
Oh man, the lady interrupting the business dinner gave me so much secondhand anxiety and embarrassment! The moment she said he was at the same place and didn't acknowledge her, I just kept thinking, "Ignore him. Ignore him. Talk to him at home. Ignore him." When she said she went over to the table, I cried out in horror. When she INSISTED and pulled him away for up to 10 minutes, I died and was sent to the great beyond.
Yeah. That was so inconsiderate of her. He was working, you wouldn’t ask anyone to quickly leave the office for a birthday, so why do it at a meeting? It’s still work.
Which story was this?
@@kateschultz967 #4 45:09
Right there with you. I was shook. It was cringey and no need for it. I felt it was a weird control issue then she turned around and got mad at her hubby for verbally reaching his frustration point. Her back pedaling made it worst too. Time for a little self reflection on her part.
It is just so hard for me to believe that she didn't know he was going to be there! LIKE HOW?!?! Someone, somewhere planned this! Like its one thing to run into him if you are just like damn he is going out for dinner and so will I, but with a "last minute change." Also I wouldn't even feel comfortable speaking to someone if I knew they were in a business meeting and I saw them. Its screams "I'm your wife and I come first with everything!"
That last story had me in tears. I’ve been struggling a lot with my body image these days because I’m also quite curvy and live in Asia so it makes it hard not to feel bad. But she was right. There’s an art meme I love that says “when you tell him on the phone you’re built like a goddess but he’s never taken an art history class” and has statuettes of fertility goddesses. 😂 I loved that. It made me feel better.
I feel so sad for the lady in the second to last story. She made herself vulnerable doing those photos and he went straight for the emotional jugular 😢
It made me so sad
YES! plus there is NOTHING desperate in wanting to feel sexy and wanting to share photos like that with your husband. He should be absolutely thrilled he gets to see her professionally done photos. It's so sad he made her feel this way. the way he talks about her is disgusting
I hope she leaves him and finds someone who loves her and builds her up. It's not surprising she is looking bad if all he does is break her down.
That guy makes me think of the guys who leave their wives because they think the grass is greener who sees his ex thriving and is upset, "why didn't she look like that for me"
100% this is his post right before he posts about how it's his wife's fault he cheated and how dare she take him to the cleaners in the divorce
My husband is completely lost in the kitchen when it comes to cooking, so that responsibility is mine alone, however it's never something expected of me. If I don't feel like cooking I don't have to, we call them fend for your self nights. When I do cook, which is most nights, my husband does the dishes. Good on OP for the cookbook on a plate. He's almost 30, she's not his mother and he is completely capable of finding his own food.
My husband cooks often because he likes the kitchen, it's mostly me doing dinner though. However literally 2 nights ago I had committed to cooking dinner but I joined the discord (he was gaming with friends) "Hey I just suddenly got really tired and lost all will to cook, would you be satisfied with Dino nuggies?" He took the dino nuggies happily and I went to lie down.
Yeah, my husband is the same. He can't cook and I'm pretty good at it. When our first baby turned out to be a super-colicky newborn, I didn't cook for three months because I was barely surviving. Not once did he criticize me for that. Now he takes her after he's home from work so that I can cook. He also works overtime each week so that I can stay home with her and her future siblings, because he's an actual traditionalist (not just a lazy POS who uses it as an excuse). The 30-year-old manchild had me shaking my head. We as a society need to set the bar for men higher, because I hear of way too many stories like that and it's almost always the guy being a manchild.
Exactly, my roommate in college cooked us dinner nearly every night. And I made sure I was in that kitchen chopping things, stirring things, whatever he needed me to do, while cleaning up the kitchen/doing the dishes as time went on so that by the time we were done the kitchen looked like it hadn’t been used and we could enjoy our food. In the early days I was worried that maybe he was overburdened and was secretly wishing I made meals too. But I’ve never been a cook, and he knew that by seeing what I fed myself lmao. So I asked him about it and he laughed and told me not to worry about it because he really appreciates me doing the dishes and one of his favorite things is cooking with friends and family, so he saw my effort as a fair trade. God I miss him 😂 my standards for roommates are so high now
Yes! My husband has never cooked me a meal however some days I come home and all the laundry is done and the floors are perfect. I love cooking! I also do the dishes but that’s my choice I’m the biggest mess when cooking and no one but me deserves to deal with it.
The problem in my home is we both like to cook together; but neither like to do the dishes. And it’s like somehow the dishes are NEVER ENDING 😅😅😅 why’s it always the dishes and laundry that never seems to feel “done” 😮💨
Morgan: doesn’t want the world to know her search history.
Also Morgan: tells the world the searches that she’s worried about.
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Oh no that's just one example. There is way worse for sure.
@@TwoHotTakes For example?
Did nobody else Google blue waffle when they were in middle school? Lmao I looked up the worst shit 😂
@@MrFlo5787 two girls one cup
@@TwoHotTakes thissss nooooo me and my bf was just talking about that 😂
story #3 made me physically ILL
I don't understand how MIL could keep pretending she's been given "signs" or whatever when she's been SPYING on conversations
I also don't understand how MIL herself doesn't feel uncomfortable reading such private conversations between her son and his wife
the husband's reaction makes me wonder if she's been infringing on his sense of privacy since he was young so he's desensitized and is therefore more able to be angry for her and not himself.
I wouldn’t tell the mother-in-law that I know she’s reading the messages but I would totally mess with her through the messages
I don’t think the husband wasn’t mad just that he didn’t seem *as mad* as she was and with anyone but especially parents I know for me I will take a lot more hurt directed at me but hurt my partner hurt the person I love and I’m so pissed those we’re definitely the vibes I got from him
He sounds like a mama's boy. Anything to keep his mommy happy!
I can’t find this on Reddit. Help
some guy yelled out his car window 'MY FRIEND THINKS YOUR CUTE' follow by embarrassed cursing from the driver and it was so funny and i feel that's a better example of guys being guys than 'nice tits' or whatever. 100% made my day lmao
I would legit laugh my @ss off all the way to wherever I was going! 😂
Lmao love that I definitely would consider going on a date with the embarrassed guy after his friend says that than a guy that says "nice tits"
I had a guy stop me on my way out of a store once. He said simply "Hey, I just thought you were gorgeous, and wanted to get to know you. Could I give you my number?" I wasn't even wearing makeup that day. I was so flattered, I absolutely went on a few dates with him. If I wasn't on the brink of moving out of the state, I really think we'd have been great together. Guys just need to not treat us like meat on a shelf, to be genuinely sweet.
I’ve said it for years COMMUNICATION IS NOTHING WITHOUT UNDERSTANDING. you can talk all you want if the other person is not understanding it will get nowhere. I’ve given that advice to several friends, and somehow it always blows their mind and i’m just like THIS IS BASIIIIIIIIIC LIFE THINGS WDYM MIND BLOWN????
Sobbing at the last one! Women loving women hits so different. Kindness is beautiful. It’s so “simple” but so often overlooked. Don’t feel embarrassed!! It will make that persons day and it’s SO easy AND you’ll feel freaking awesome too.
I really want to say that if you are a male-presenting person, the best way to compliment a person: Only compliment things that person can control: hair, outfit, makeup, etc. Not their body, or facial features, not their "sexually attractive" features. It will help you not come off as creepy and it's good to learn to notice those things anyway. Best of luck.
I will never understand people who complete an absolute strangers tits.
If my friend was doing that shit i woulda slapped him and told him to quit being a dick head
I'm female, and I still keep this in mind because I don't want to compliment things that a person might have a lot of insecurities about it or compliment them if they look like they're losing weight or getting in better shape because you never know if someone has an eating disorder or is losing weight because of stress or a health issue. But with hair or outfits or makeup, etc., those are things the person chose to look a certain way and probably like.❤
(a year late) but i’m a guy who likes to dress fashionably and there was a time several months ago i was at a hangout with a good friend of mine where one of my classmates that i am not close with complimented my pants. i still hadn’t forgotten it so a few days ago when i saw her again i said “i like your outfit” and she genuinely looked so happy. it’s fun making others happy lol
That first story was wild, had the inverse happen last night. My husband loves to cook and usually cooks. He's in the middle of studying for an important exam coming up. We were discussing dinner plans and he said he had an idea. But then he couldn't cook because he needed to study. I said, "Show me the first steps and tell me the rest and I'll cook while you study!" Teamwork
I love how Lauren has become so confident sharing her thoughts :) gotta love her as co-host
Listening to this stories makes me appreciate more and more my boyfriend. No one is perfect and no relationship is perfect, there are ups and downs, but he is amazing.
Wow sweet Holly napping through the entire show was so adorable.❤
Boudoir photographer & model here, it’s not JUST professional pics of yourself, it’s the sexiest moodiest way possible to have yourself photographed. I do it for all, but the amount of confidence and self love radiating from older women and bigger women when we’re done is at least 80% of why I do it. This is your sign to book yourself a boudoir shoot!!! Men too!
This show got me hooked on Reddit stories
Same, now I'm on reddit all the time 😭
@@Jade-fx7ks Same, but I'm subbed to like 5 reddit story people
I joined reddit because of this podcast.
I didn't use reddit before this and now I'm on there every day 😂
lmao me tooo!
The second story - the fact that they're married and she struggles to pay for anything is messed up
Right? That's your *partner*, you're a team, you're in it together. Not f***ing roommates. It's so odd to split the finances like that.
@@WouldntULikeToKnow.Yeah, I don't understand when people are married and keep their finances separate. I get that they might be doing it in case of divorce, but that would make me feel like my partner doesn't trust me or already thinks that we won't work out, rather than having the mentality and commitment for longevity of the relationship.
Story 6: I’m sorry the way he kept calling her desperate ? It’s so disgusting like he should definitely let her go and let her find some who literally adores the ground she walks on. Honestly he should be alone for the rest of his saggy life
Story #1 will be the kind of man that gets intimidated by her making more money when she's done with school. She needs to have a clear calm convo with him and if it continues, then she needs to RUN.
Right? How entitled. A lot of people would be embarrassed they can't cook & this guy expects her to do it.
Also wonder if there’s some expectation he thinks a woman needs to fill..
YEP! I dated a guy just like that. Tried to force me to get a full time job and leave my current job even though I wasn’t ready. Then shortly after we broke up I was working 50+ hour weeks due to the pandemic and BLM protests going on (I live outside of Minneapolis) and when I excitedly told him I got paid $1k that week, he accused me of trying to rub it in his face because I made more than him. Absolutely exhausting.
THIS
I had an ex like that he was AWFUL what a waste of time
Lauren’s on fire this episode. Straight facts!!
Wooohoo!! 🤗🥰
The one with the mother in law snooping and finding the pregnancy test has SO many horrible things going on. Firstly, there are so many reasons why if it had been real, things were handled poorly. The pregnancy test could have belonged to a friend as was suggested, OP could have been pregnant but not been ready to tell anyone yet until she felt it was safe to assume the pregnancy would stick and not result in a miscarriage, and also false positive pregnancy tests can happen. As was said one of the worst things about this aside from the actual snooping was the fact that the mother in law thought it was okay to just go and tell everyone, including her son before even consulting OP or giving OP the chance to tell him if she had been pregnant. And then to have the audacity for people to call the OP a liar when she NEVER told anyone that she was pregnant is what really pissed me off. If the husband can't see any of the problems in this scenario and is mad at OP then I don't think this marriage will/should last. I can understand being annoyed at the specific trap that OP set if it's a touchy subject, but he's completely ignoring EVERYTHING that his mother did wrong and clearly will never put his wife's feelings/needs above his mother's.
"You shouldn't have to remind someone to care about you!" OMGGGGG this hit HARD. I am a busy teacher and my (ex?) bf doesn't have much to do, but I have to be the one who calls, texts, make date plans, everythingggggg. About two weeks ago, I stopped doing all of those things, and do you think he called or texted? NOPE.
Dump his ass. Took me 3 years of dating and 3 years of being in a relationship (including moving into a house together) before I realised that I was solely responsible for our relationship being successful. Even if he was as busy as you are, that’s still not an excuse. If you’ve been able to manage up to now, so should he.
You deserve better! I hope you're doing better now!
If you went missing (god forbid) he wouldn't have reported it for two weeks and counting. That would make him the prime suspect because it shows such lack of care for your wellbeing. Anyone in this position: take a moment to see cops would think they killed you and drop that dead weight.
The Business Meeting Story: OP response to one of the comment she said, "He was there WITH US". Omg she is digging her own grave now. He was not there with you. he was there with his CLIENTS!? OP knew about the meeting if "only" her parents were the reason they wanted him there, OP should have told them, NO. Wtf he is your partner you side with him and respect his meeting. wtf.
For the pregnancy test one, the garbage wasn’t in the bathroom so even if mil was using that as an excuse the garbage was out by the closet 😅
I remember reading this story, in the comments OP mentions the garbage has a lid as well, so it’s not like MIL just glanced in; she went DIGGING
am i crazy? in the story isnt everyone mad at her for lying? but she didnt say anything to anyone...like am i hearing things wrong?
I listen to every pod from my office. My fiancé after over hearing asked me to turn it up so now we listen together. I hope you gals know how much enjoyment you bring to people and for me? Well you're getting me through the toughest year of my life. I look forward to it every week. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
When I passed my Veterinary technician board exam, the doctor I worked for wrote "that'll do pig" on my congratulations card. 😂
@H M this is such a weird question 😭😭😭
@H M the vast majority of people who raise and care for livestock are also not vegans! humans have done this for thousands of years it’s not weird at all
Congratulations!!! 🍾🎉🎊
@H M no i literally just went through the comments on the video like i tend to do on 😭😭 ur not special
@H M i don’t think they are your just on a lot of comments
Story 3 Id confront MIL & say “I know you’ve been looking at our messages. You’ve been sending me signals.” 😂 Just like she said you were giving her signals 🙄
But I know I send raunchy messages to my partner, to know my mother in law has seen me say/ask him what our late night entertainment is going to be, like damn I'd be furious, those are our private messages, how dare she butt in and see them. I mean would she also see pics and or hear phone calls, I don't know how it works. But I'm more gobsmacked that the partner wasn't that bothered by the invasion of privacy.
What I really like about this episode is that the stories feel like a gradual growth into madness because I was not experiencing much whiplash with the first 2 stories but damn things started going sideways after. Love it!
I’ve been trying not to jump scare too hard 😅
That story about the photoshoot is an example of what scares me about men and marriage. How some see aging and changes as repulsive. Stuff like this makes me really doubt the ability to grow old with someone and have that love stand the test of time. It really makes me sad.
The boudoir story hurts my heart. She probably felt so confident and beautiful in those photos and the way he knocked her down probably made her feel worse about herself. It's not a mid-life crisis, she just felt that the marriage wasn't where it used to be and wanted to do something nice for her husband. What a jerk!
The puppy was so knocked out I didn’t even notice the little cutie until the end 😩🥰
I have a chronic illness and hurt my back in August. I am fighting to lose weight also. The stripper story made me tear up and remember how many sculptures I have admired with my same body shape. It made me remember that I am not my type and that is why I do not find myself attractive. Thank you for reading that story.
The first story with yall's takes hit home for me. I recently got out of a relationship where I was expected to do all of the housework myself, while my partner would come home and immediately play video games. She would say that I am not expected to do it, but if I wasn't doing it, it wouldn't get done. There were times where she would say she was going to do something, for example do the dishes, and I would give it days, once even a week or so, and they would never get done. When I confronted her about it and expressed how I felt I couldn't trust her word when she did this, she would turn it around on me and say that I was nagging her and that I wasn't working with "her timeline" and if I just wouldn't bother her she would do it. Now I know this is gaslighting and victim reversal and that I wasn't the problem, but at the time I felt like I was going insane. Nothing I would say, no amount of communication worked. It was like trying to reason with a brick wall.
I’m laughing so hard right now because why did I hear the “who can’t seem to bring water to a boil” part as I was dumping a pack of ramen into a boiling pot of water?💀
Story 1 is why I stay single
Also the wife in #5 didn't lie. She never told anyone she was pregnant lol
JESUS AHHHHH MY DAY'S SAVIOR! 2 EPISODES IN ONE WEEK!Bless you Morgan and Lauren, I can't literally put how thankful I am...I have been sick for some time now and I work from home and I am alone majority of the time. ..as I said in my previous comment this is way more than a podcats for me,this is a way for me fo get through my days or even weeks.
I binged all episodes so you can't imagine my happiness when I see the notification pop up.
Have an awasome day and thank you for everything you all are doing for us❤️
- active listener:)
i was sooo excited when she posted an episode that i snatched my phone from my bf who was ordering food😭😂
I hope you feel better!
I agree wholeheartedly, this is not just a podcast at this point, it's family and therapy. That's why I hate when there's mean comments, these people are our friends.
I don't know what I would do without these episodes!
I thought I was hallucinating
i don't get notifications from youtube anymore so i just finished the last episode and saw this in the recommendations below! i was so excited!
I literally just finished the last video and went to look for something else to watch and I was like “what happened???”
Imagine if the boyfriend in story 1 just told her how much he loves her cooking and misses it instead of demanding/expecting it.
It still would be selfish and stupid since she’s studying. He should be cooking for her…
I was thinking the same thing! Since we only get one side of the story I was wondering if she mightve misinterpreted his communication if she was over studying or if he wasn't communicating his feelings appropriately
Once you get into entitlement, it doesn’t matter if it comes from a good place. Ex: men may love s e x and express lovingly that they miss connecting with you in that way but once they get demanding or pushy. It’s no longer done in a loving way, they don’t care that you are too busy and that’s the problem. There is a two fold issue, even in the midst of your overwhelming day, they think there needs matter more than yours as well as the fact by demanding of you during that busy time they also aren’t supporting or taking anything off your plate. It’s a very selfish mindset
When I was 15 I went to a convention with friends and my mom went to a wedding. I arrived home first and my Dad left me a load of his laundry to do with mine. I couldn't believe my dad waited till I got home to do his laundry...
That’s insane. I can’t believe your dad would do that!
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Misogyny at its finest. Trying to continue the cycle onto the next generation. Smh
in the middle of the night, my dad would get the clothes out & put it on my bed for me to fold in the morning. my mom always sided with him & justified his behavior because he’s a “man” and works way more than I ever will :/
@@elkieescarra hell no! 😭 your mom was in the wrong for even siding with that. He’s grown like they said, he can fold his own clothes. He’s not a baby.
Oh the first story made my eye twitch.
Also, papa bless y’all for a second episode this week!!!
Genuinely watched the last episode so I could FINALLY tell Lauren and Alejandra apart. I knew I confused the two often. Typically I just throw the videos on and listen while I work 😂
I DO THE SAME! 😂 I only realised from the last video how much I confuse them both. They are great on the podcast! 😊
I’m so glad you guys talked about conflict and apologies in the pregnancy story. I’m in a new healthy relationship and am trying to tackle the art of conflict. It’s nice to hear opinions of real people alongside my therapist.
I always knew Lauren and Alejandra were two different people but never saw them together, so in my mind if they never were together they had to be the same person 😂😂😂 crazy
I have several chronic illnesses, and you guys are right that growing old is a privilege--I am in my late twenties. I have had 4 hip surgeries within the last few years. I have about the same amount of arthritis in my neck that someone would have in their 40s or 50s. Growing old isn't going to look the same to me vs. my peers.
Thank you to Morgan & Lauren for always being so supportive and inclusive.
I got married 3 years ago, and didn’t get around to doing them as a gift for my groom. Then Covid hit and I gained some weight and struggled with my body image more than ever. I did boudoir back in April because I’ve been in counseling to work through my body image and confidence. I joked with my husband saying, “these are for me, but you benefit from them.” My husband loved them, but if he had the reaction like that asshole from the 2nd to last story, that would have ruined me.
Y’all, I just got in a car accident Tuesday so I’m home from work today recovering from whiplash and you release the episode 😂 the most perfect timing!
Morgan was an interior designer in another life. Her taste is amazing when it comes to the set. I love finding all the cool things she puts in, it's like a treasure hunt. Love it.
Totally agree with this
Lauren is always was talking to a "friend" about it😂 Love you girls!
Hahahaha will always avoid exposing anyone unless I have permission
Lauren- "I just remember the main characters."
Morgan- "The pig?"
Omigod 🤣🤣
Hahahahahaha 😂
Lauren and Alejandra have different vibes and it's easy to differentiate their takes, I'm just borderline faceblind and everyone sounds the same to me. I swear it's not you two, it's me
same, if two people have a similar hair color and haircut (not the same, just similar) my brain cannot tell the difference
I literally couldn't see faces at a distance until junior high (no one found out I needed glasses until then) so I learned to tell people apart from body type hand hair as a kid. I blame that for my inability to tell Lauren and Alejandra apart.
Hey girls thanks for this! I was having a dificult time dealing with today being a bank holiday in my country and everything being closed, I'm autistic and I rely so heavy on my routines that each time they're interrupted for things like this I need extra help coping. Thanks for everything ✨
In a really rough spot and struggling with depression, always have. It’s just been more rough lately, so hearing you guys say it’s a blessing to age… it’s exactly what I needed to hear in this moment. Thank you morgan for always being kind and thoughtful. You don’t know how much I needed to hear that.
I was so worried for the hot take on the birthday/business meeting. So glad you thought OP was TA 😅
That last one had me in tears!!! Self hatred fills my mind everyday and it's just so hard to stop.
on god that last one made me cry so hard what a beautiful thing.
Speaking to the narcissist prayer: communication is huge, and speaking your intention rather than shifting blame is so important. I am still learning this after 2 years without being with a narcissist, and I am constantly checking myself to make myself clear, or try to understand the other persons intention.
Took me a minute to notice the sleepy puppy 🥺
One quote that I live by is "If you see something beautiful in someone speak it". Whenever I see something I like about someone I will compliment them on it. I get severe anxiety from talking to strangers, but that's always something that I do. Sometimes I get ignored or people don't hear but most of the time I get to see people's faces light up and it makes me so happy to be able to make someone else smile. I especially love it when people get excited and tell me about the thing I complimented them on. You never know what people are going through and if I can make just one person smile each time I go out my existence is worth it.
The last story comes at such a pivotal moment. Herion chic, for the lake of a better word, is coming back into fashion.
I hope us women will be kinder to ourselves and each other this time around. I was going through primary and high school the last time this body was "in fashion" and it did a lot of damage.
That last palette cleanse was sooooooo good, I love women who uplift and are genuine to other women. It's so nice to see amazing people in the world especially from someone who probably has a lot of unwanted prejudice and judgment passed on them for their job or side hustle
Story #2.
I can’t fathom my partner having surgery and not helping to pay for it.
She said it wiped out her savings. I would hope to have a partner that would help pay for a little bit of it.
If you are married then why would you not help your wife or husband out?
I had the same thought, like he didn't help? Or even offer to pay for all of it cuz he makes more than her? What kind of fucking marriage is this?
I dont understand this entirely split finances. Especially when married not just in a relationship. Like of you don't trust your partner enough with finances then find a solution or don't get married. Also say one person is just able to save more. Does that men when you're old and retired one person goes to a fancy retirement home and the other is in a crappy community and possibly still working?
Literally came here to comment that. What the heck?? If you split everything 2/3 then the surgery should’ve been 2/3 so no one’s savings were wiped out. Absolutely not. There’s no support or teamwork from him. They’re basically roommates with more legal ties. I was flabbergasted when they said that.
As a person who’s parent was extremely invalidating and emotionally aggressive as a child there is a HUGE difference between “I’m sorry you feel that way” and “I’m sorry I made you feel that way”
Edited to say the edition of those two small words were the hallmark of my relationship with my mom changing for the better. You can be mad at the consequences of your actions all you want but nothing gets better until you accept your licks.
For story #2 as someone with ADHD that's not his case and if it is he doesn't care to "fix" it. I use my alarms as soon as I know I have to do something. I use Alexa & notes as well. It's scary that he was blamimg her though, he is a grown man. Sounds like he can't take accountability.
Exactly. I forget things in an instant so I will constantly tell my Google devices to "remind me in 5 minutes" or "at such and such time" even for things like grabbing groceries or jumping in the shower.
Seriously, people with ADHD aren’t incompetent and we often feel guilt and regret when we forget things. I’m grateful if my partner reminds me at all!
I usually use post-it’s, I’ll say something out loud a couple times in funny voices so I remember something, my phone reminders/notes, and i have a physical planner too! Even though I have ADHD I still have the responsibility to fulfill my obligations and take care of myself. I just have to use different strategies and it’s a little harder. But I refuse to believe I’m any less mentally capable, it would feel ableist almost I think?
Hoping i find other ADHDers strategies here, too!
My bf is this forgetful from both ADHD and ASD but I can tell he is trying, it's like there is a wall between remembering the thing or the reminder and doing it. It's not his fault but it has reached a frustrating crescendo because he is not medicated. I talked to him about this and he has finally made an appointment to try something out.
He was diagnosed at 18 and has made it this far but it's not working anymore.
The forgetfulness waxes and wanes, it's clearly involuntarily. I will feel ignored but I know how to separate my feelings from the disorder as much as possible as well. Every day is a new day. I can ask him to do something immediately and it's no problem for a whole day and another day he is asking me what I even asked for.
He had to go to the bank to change his password 3 times because he didn't even remember his username and he kept forgetting to write it down.
I'm so excited!
@@7ShadowMaiden7 I often feel I can't say anything so he doesn't feel bad but he also needs to know he forgot. It's hard.
My bf likes to say 'I forgor' and I give him a kiss, but I do hate giving reminder calls and it still isn't done. So much. Sometimes it's more effort to get him to do it than doing it myself!
A lot of the time he will make sure to do something sweet to apologize, though, and I melt.
@@7ShadowMaiden7 Honestly one of the BEST things I have stareted and I got from a tiktok is the "don't put it down, put it away method" as soon as I am done with something I'm tempted to just put it on the counter and "I'll get it in a sec" and then forget..I have let things go bad because I've left them out the fridge for so long. I apply it to everything now. "Agh gotta do laundry, I'll do it in 10 mins....nope get up and do it now" it's the hardest thing I've done for sure but it's been life changing for me.
The best advice I’ve gotten is not to worry about another person’s response but consider your own words. Not everything is in your control and that’s okay
I love ya'll and this podcast, but i *especially* love when the pup graces us with their presence 🙏🏻🐶
In the last story where she gets that incredible compliment, then hearing Morgan and Lauren talk about how we should compliment others more just made me smile so much because I literally have been doing this nearly every day for the last 8 years or so, and seeing the way that changes someone's day brings an immeasurable amount of joy to my day as well.
I started doing it even more frequently working in the medical field because something as small as a quick and sincere compliment can really change the way your patients feel about coming to your medical center.
THAT LAST STORY IM CRYING 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 so BEAUTIFUL ILY
I went through a phase of saying "that'll do, pig" out loud to myself for humor and then got in the habit of saying it to other people in my life. Once at work and I broke myself of it hahaha.
I just want to mention again how much Lauren brings to the table. She is elequont and fair in her judgement . I love the instances where she devil's advocates. I am always so excited to listen when she is on!
it feels like christmas came early with 2 episodes in a week, i always look forward to your podcast ❤
These were great but the stripper story 🥲 omg...
I loved to give compliments growing up but I'm autistic and people I guess thought I was being manipulative. So I stopped saying nice things. I was afraid.
Now I'm trying to find a balance between over compliments and needed compliments.
Hearing to you guys talking about how getting is such a blessing almost made me cry, my dad died this year and I'm 22, and I would give everything to see my dad grow old and go to events like my wedding or meeting my kids in the future and he will not.
I love this podcast
It's kind of counterproductive how often we hear comments like "his mother is coddling him" or "you're his partner, not his mother" because we're still saying that 1) it's always the woman's fault and 2) it's always the mother's job to take care of the child (even when the child is a 30 year old man). We should be mindful of language because it shapes our reality. Whenever I say I'm going to do a chore around the house, my boyfriend has stopped saying "shall I help you?" because him "helping me" would mean that it's my job; he now says "shall I do that with you?" instead. That way it's a chore we do together and not someone's specific job since we both have jobs outside our home. Chores are something we do equally because we're both adults and it's our responsibility
The last story made me start crying before Morgan did. In full tears by the end of your conversation. ❤
By far the best and most entertaining podcast out here.
Maybe its because it lets us judge people and kind of "gossip" without actually knowing them or actually ruining anyone's life like you would if you were to actually be gossiping about them and discussing such personal matters openly like you do on the show in real life, about actual people you know and among people that would know them too. So its like a guilt free space where can all mutually connect in a way, if you know what I mean.
either way, love the show, love you guys, keep it up. I haven't even listened to this whole episode yet, but I'm super excited already!
I really like this take
@@Lauren-ib3ok lauren you’re incredibly pretty!! you just look stunning everytime :)
The last story is making ME tear up, heaven help me. Bless that woman
Thought I was just seeing things but 2 VIDS IN ONE WEEK! thank you so much !!
Morgan's face of realisation and then laugh when Lauren introduced herself at the end made me genuinely burst out laughing, had to replay a couple times😂
In regards to the MIL snooping on texts: if OP does send fake texts like one comment suggested it won't work out for OP. MIL will pat herself on the back for being so very sneaky and not getting caught.
Best podcast ever!! Bless yall for the amount of episodes you release because it keeps me going at my 9-5 💗
I would be “how did i lie, cuz i didnt tell anyone, your mom did”
i’ve been having a really tough december, having you all to listen to helps me get through the hard days. thanks for being the diamonds in the rough 💕
lauren is giving therapist in this ep i love it
Ahahahaha I’m glad cause I didn’t start off strong with the pig movie 😂
A note on how to apologize for your part when you feel like the other person is overreacting. This happened to me a few days ago. I overreacted to something my partner said to me, and the way he apologized was perfect: hey, it was never my intention to hurt you and I am sorry for not backing off when I saw you getting uncomfortable. However, I would like to continue this conversation, and if you could explain to me how we can do that, and which parts hurt you and why, I can either explain myself better or work on those bits together". I too had to admit my part of overacting (communicating is a two-way street people) and admitted my deep-seated fears, and then he managed to explain his part without triggering me.
Literally read the story of the husband/wife’s sister birthday party/client situation and was hoping THT would look at it and they did 😭
I’m so glad they had the same take as me too lol. Like it sucks he had to miss her party, I’m a big believer in not making work your whole life like USA culture… family is more important than work. HOWEVER, this is just a sisters 18th birthday party and she should have let him be!! That looks so unprofessional in front of clients. Not even coworkers but CLIENTS. She was so out of line and is TA by far. She should have ignored him, let him have his business meeting and make it his choice if he decides to come over. How uncomfortable and unprofessional. I feel so bad for him, I’d be pissed at my spouse too
Just shows how society prioritizes work over family. It’s absolutely disgusting that it’s now allowed for a person to walk away from a meeting.
I've done the "if you think something nice, then say it" for a few years now. People think you're kidding, other times you get, "that's exactly what I needed today"
Thank you for two episodes this week, truly a treat.
i just took my last final for nursing school this semester and i am watching this while taking a hot bath and it is EXACTLY what i needed. thank you.
i’m autistic, and i have always had issues when being given gifts cus even if i’m super excited about it or i’m happy, other people don’t think i am. once my friends did something amazing for my bday and i really loved and appreciated it but i wasn’t giving them the reaction they wanted, so they thought i wasn’t being appreciative but i really was, but i was burnt out so i didn’t have as much energy to mask. i had also just been told some bad news about family members before this & i thought that was why i wasn’t “acting normally” but it’s cus im autistic & just don’t show emotions the same way as allistic people. and this has always been an issue, like if i say im happy then im happy. i wont ever say something i don’t mean. but this was before i knew i was autistic so i wasn’t able to give these disclaimers and people just thought i was a bad friend🤷🏻♀️
The fact that people get these ladies mixed up... WILD. They all look very different and have different voices.
I really want to watch this right now, but I also want to leave it for tomorrow when I'm baking...
Damn, we need longer episodes, I can't believe you guys are so new to "this"... I watched all episodes in a month... I was hoping there were more of them 😂
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That's one thing I admire about myself is that I will go out of my way to compliment a stranger! The joy you see when they realize that all you want to do is compliment them! I would recommend people to do it for everyone!
Ugh the stripper one just absolutely broke me down at work!! Oh my gosh I needed that....
The way im needing this podcast, bc im pulling all nighters, college is sucking the sould of me and this is the podcast that gets me to work on school stuff
Oh my GOFDJK "can you repeat how you interpreted what I just said to you" should be in the BIBLE. I've struggled so much with people misinterpreting what I mean to say, and I'm going to use this religiously from now on! I love this podcast and you guys so much ahhh