1. Abuse - Leave immediately 2. Failed discussions - Converse then seek therapy 3. Repeated neglect - take care of you 4. Repeated lies - protect yourself 5. No appreciation - Seek gratitude from service Be there for yourself
@@andaiibori7205 but if they wont get the help with you... And it just keeps devolving and getting less and less good for you... More disrespect and hateful grudgeholding speech... There has to be someone who is going to be good to you the way they used to be.
That's true and women tend to be the best at doing that type of abuse. I was married to a woman who abused me like that but it the end she attacked me violently so it usually leads to physical abuse.
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@@ianbetts4435A lot of women are highly abusive towards men, it usually just gets swept under the rug. It’s interesting that girls actually tended to be the more verbally abusive ones in my high school. I watched them make fun of a lot of girls and guys including myself, and it’s socially unacceptable to do that towards women as most people will immediately rush to their defense, where as abuse towards men is actually ignored or encouraged. And less people will come to your defense and may even gang up on you for abuse. It’s a crazy double standard. Abuse is abuse, it doesn’t matter who’s doing it, it’s the fact that they shouldn’t be doing it in the first place.
Me 😓 I love this guy so much and I just don’t think he will ever love me the same. It hurts cuz I think he could care less if this relationship would end but me on the other hand would probably feel like I just lost everything 😓
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I found that in toxic relationships we hold on to an image in our minds of what we wish things to be but that image is so far from what we really are experiencing. Leaving someone who is abusing you is one of the hardest things you will ever do in the moment but the best thing you can do for your soul. If you are reading this know you are not alone and it will get better. Be brave and be your own best friend even if it hurts. You deserve the best.❤️
I feel that the person that is toxic will purposely be wonderful to start with and slowly starts to introduce the abuse and manipulation. The person experiencing this usually has low self-esteem to begin with and holds on to the relationship because of how it USED to be. I have been on the receiving end of this and I do not regret it because it was a very important lesson in life and love.
@@alanbbrady8196 I left because of abuse. I brought some of it on myself, but it got unbearable. Then after two months of no contact we spoke, which led to a hookup, which led to me falling back in-love with her… to me missing her. I just do not know if she os manipulating me now, she always needs money…
@@stevenkovler5133 you're not alone. None believe how toxic women can be!!!! Yea, money, the only gentle paradol we've for temporary relief. Symptoms: ignorance, opportunists, blame, use like a money machine, no care/share of space. I wish you and us a toxic free 2023.
That’s awesome you realized...many don’t. Dr Gottman has good insight and advice to help repair and rebuild relationships. Some good videos here on TH-cam. Best of luck 🌸
I now realize... you going to hurt if you leave Or stay BUT at least if you LEAVE, you can begin to heal & love yourself & get out and start OVER in life but if you Stay, you will continue to hurt, which is better..😌🙏
Time always tells is someone cares about you or not. Life is already hard, don’t make it harder by spending it with someone who doesn’t care about you.
I found myself making excuse after excuse for bad behavior.. but it's about self love and self respect... enough is enough just walk away. Sure it hurts, take time to heal and love yourself before getting into another relationship..
dude my ex gf, hited me with a broom stick made of aliminum, she destroyed all my things, tv, ps4, the kitchen, everything.... she as screaming at me pretty bad things while she hit me in the head, the arms, the face, it was horrible, she even treatned our pets....
I am happily single at 67. Have been all my life, though I've had a lot of men interested in me. It's a gift to love being alone, free to do and be whatever I want.
I'm so glad this gave you some reassurance and strength. I'm a licensed mental health therapist and leaving is SO tough! Not to mention, many times dangerous. Good work!
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I keep thinking emotional abuse will get better with therapy! He never put a hand on me T_T... But I have a year old son... But he treated him so good, better than we were with eachother!
I’ve endured 12 years of verbal and emotional abuse, Stonewalling and love bombing. He always had a way of making me believe it was my fault. Even when he betrayed me by having an affair he got me to believe that he was entitled to that affair because she was so much nicer to him than I was. I actually believed him and took him back only to be stonewalled and verbally and emotionally abused again. This time I was able to see the pattern repeating. Educate yourself, it’s your best defense against narcissistic bullies. I ended the relationship today. I already feel relieved from the extreme weight of this abusive relationship.
Dear Rachel ⚘ How are you today? Hope you are in a way way way better place (mental, physical, emotional...) than when you wrote this text. Stay strong ❤ and be proud of your choice
Good for you lovely, I left my narcissistic bf a year ago and I have no regrets. I wish I trusted my inner intuition then, so I would of saved 2,5 years of my life. May God bless you with the loving man one day🙏❤
I should have listened to this 40 years ago. When I found out I was married to a bully who turned out to be a narcissist sociopath. But mental abuse took a toll before the physical became an issue. He didn't respect, honor or love me. I've been divorced 5 almost 6 years now and am happier than ever.. I now value myself.
@@jokerbox_official keep researching and learning about narcissistic abuse. Have an escape plan and when you go don't look back because it only gets worse
My dad still in this emotional physical verball abusive relationship for 34 years and now he has liver cancer, it is resentment. I hate my mom sometimes and explode on her. If you keep treating your loved one it either that person will dissapear from you becoming sick or run away from you. His escaoe is his work he likes to leave the house so he would not be abused.
@@ugi976 don't feed into the negativity or it will consume and harm you too! Hate only hurts us more. I'm so sorry for you and your father my prayers are with you. Find help maybe a therapist will aid in guiding you to keep from suffering more than you need to.
To women, STOP thinking that an abuser will change. They will not. Abusers need professional help. You cannot offer that. Get away from a toxic relationship. My sister almost died at the hands of an abusing boyfriend. I sat at her bedside, crying, wishing I had done more when I suspected abuse. That night when she finally got away, he literally beat her to an inch from death. My sister was holding her newborn baby as he nearly killed her. All she says she could do is shield the baby. As soon as she had a second where the abuser went to get a weapon to hurt her further, she ran away (barefoot). She never ever EVER went back. It can be done. Life WILL get better. Please, you deserve better. Your family deserves better.
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M Tio So glad she got out! How did it start, do you know? Might help on here if you know of early signs she experienced? Thank you for posting about your sister anyhow though, a really effective warning.
Sometimes we need someone to tell us these things because we never learned what a healthy relationship feels like. So, from the bottom of my heart, I thank you for making such an informative video for us.
from start till now .... nothing....!!!! no connection... no name no dialogue.... not a sign....!!!! SO GOOD BYE NOW. FORGET HIM🙄🤔🙄👀TULOG NA OI!!! SABAA!!! 😜🤔🙄
I was on the same boat as you, your abuser can convince you that you are the problem, and that things are you fault, Or they may convince you that your in what a relationship is, and you live so long without knowing what a relationship really could me, or should be
Have you spoken to her about this? The 5 love languages might help? Also, Dr Gottman has great TH-cam videos to help relationships. My partner thought I was so hurtful, until he finally realized I was reacting to his hurtful behavior... which he had dismissed when I tried to bring it up. He couldn’t see the connection and my resentment and hurt, which then came out in hurtful behavior towards him. I would examine what her needs are and if you’ve really listened and tried to meet them...you might also be hurtful in ways you can’t see. We all have fears, desires, poor coping mechanisms and needs we bring into a relationship. Learning vulnerability and putting aside ego, to connect, is very powerful. Best of luck and may your heart be healed 🌸
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I want to send this to my husband but I am afraid that he is going to blame me instead of reflecting on himself, just like all of the conversations that I have started...
Ladies you need to check out videos on Narcissism. Don't show your men this video thinking it will sink in for them. Actually maybe you should and if he gets upset, low key (messed up words) order high level upset(screaming about it), then you should definitely check out videos on Narcissism because you may be with one. Good Luck ladies. #HumanRace 🙏🏿🙏🏾🙏🏽🙏🙏🏻🙏🏼
@@toorealformyowngood241 well wait can’t that go both ways tho? I thought u were pointing out that showing ur partner this video is usually what a narcissist does. A lot of people (women and men) tend to think they get blamed for everything and they are so perfectly pristine with holy goodness and they are the ones who lack self reflection of any kind
Yes... Leave sooner than later! I was abused for 4 years... Not physically... But in all other ways. Verbally, mentaly, and emotionaly. I was made to quit my job and I was told everyday how unsatisfactory my dedication is... It took me a complete year to regain my confidence and mental strength. This happened to me coz I always thought that probably under this abusive man and his abusive family there are truthful and genuine people.... It was just denial. So please girls.... Leave sooner than later.
@Louise W why are you criticizing this lady for how she feels ? We're you there through her abuse ??? I think NOT ! Infact with that worthless comment you made I wouldn't doubt that your a f...in Narcissistic abuser .. 🖕
I can relate to your situation because I went through it as well. Take care of yourself. Love yourself more. This video is every interesting. But what about abuse from coworkers and supervisors. These people also affect those around them. They sabotage the work environment.
I quit on my brother and 4 months later on my mother this year, failed discussions ,repeated lies, zero respect, punished for telling the truth. Thank you for the video Brendon, love you man!
Tigresa My mother is narcissistic and so is my soon to be ex..I went No contact with her a few times but I have made the decision to completely annihilate her from my life in June. Funny thing I just decided ( like literally a week ago) to forgive my ex and give him another chance but today I decided I just dont want to be bothered with all the emotional baggage.
I feel for you. I recently looked at all the giving I was doing for others and the people that did nothing in return for me. Selfish people have no place in our lives that use people. Honor the struggle.
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one thing I have realized when it comes to quitting on someone is that individual has to be ready to leave cux no amount of words from friends, family etc will make that individual being abused leave. but once they gather the courage to leave, they are gone forever and nothing will make them look back.
I am happy my ex broke up with me to be with another guy, theraphy is making me realize all these things you said, she did not appreciate me or treat me right, was lying a lot and not respecting me. Sometimes bad comes for good. Love to you all.
It's so sad...my husband gets ANGRY at drop of a dime!!! I love him but I love myself more. It's EMOTIONAL abuse!!!!! I am 52 years old and I have NEVER been talked to/treated this way. I am writing on this page which tells me...I need to get out now, regardless of my heart. I can't wait for him to love me...he never will...I have to love myself first! Greater is he, that is within me.
I promise after leaving and giving some time you will look back and be so happy you did. The freedom of being on your own and reflect on your past abusive relationship and how lucky you are no longer with him. Get a cute lil dog, enjoy life and the right guy will come along once you stop looking for love.
My boyfriend beg me to stay. But too many times he hurt my feelings. I can't forgive him anymore. There were no cheating or physical abuse, because I thought if it's cheating/physical abuse r unacceptable but other stuffs also can come to a point of unacceptable.
Before I met my date in person, for about a month I took time to get to know him. After some time I realised everytime we converse, he often brought me down, made me question my values. I also realised, when I needed him to be emotionally supportive, he went 'missing'/go quiet. Then I realised that he doesn't want to be emotionally present. He picked on my choice of friends who have been around with me 1-2 decades before he came along. That's when I decided, I'm not going out with this narcissist.
Yes! Amen! I’ve found relationships that come in fast and heavy and become your “best friend” quickly are usually very toxic. When relationships develop like that for me I’ve learn to throw the red flags and step back and put some space and boundaries. Usually I e found that person is mirroring what they think I want and who they think I want them to be so they can connect quickly and after longer closer observation of their life there are so many inconsistencies in who they say they are and what they really do with their choices.
Oh wow! You hit the nail on the head! My situation exactly!! I wish I would’ve taken the time to get to know my husband before I married him. He was nothing like he portrayed in the beginning. I feel duped and misled. I feel that was his strategy to gain my trust.
If only I had viewed this video when I was 23yrs old. I recently got out of a toxic relationship that occurred over 12yrs. 12yrs!!! Awful I know but thankful Im finally moving forward (BIG SIGH)!
Me, 10yrs! Everything in this was him. It had destroyed me, my heart, my health, everything. Right now I left him, but he still thinks we are together. He just doesn't get it, I swear.i am healing now, and there is a part of still comforting. But I knew deep down it was over long time ago. I mean over 7yrs ago. But I stayed not because I wanted but because it took me that long to come out if. The truth is not how long you stayed in an abusive relationship but how long did it take you to come out of it. Out of 10yrs, for me, it took me almost a bit over 7yrs to come out of it.
10 years of struggle for me too. I knew I needed an exit strategy in the last 2 years. It was mentally abusive and toxic. I’m now a month on my own and loving myself again.
I stayed in an emotionally abusive marriage for 28 years. The sadest part was that I did not realise I was being abused. I eventually my daughter told me that my husband was abusive. I left him 5 years ago. It has been tough but it was the best decision I made.
I Love your advice.When a person shows you who "they" are believe them..No amount of hanging in there talking to them giving 3 and 4 chances will help the situation.people have to realize they are brutal harsh evil and just dogmatic when the person has no interest or respect for how you feel what you... think or say . this is a deal breaker.Cut them off leave. These type.of people are souless clueless and need to be left to thier own demise....ASAP.........
Curtistine Miller: I think giving someone a few chances is more for you than the abuser...to be CERTAIN that they are not someone willing to grow, change, and appreciate you. Once you KNOW for sure...let go.
Yes Victoria, as long as is with a person that brings value & love to your life. Marriage is a social formality in order to become a teamwork in finances, in creating goals as a couple, starting a family etc... Getting married won't make the love better or bigger, it will simply organize the relationship so both of you can feel safe & secure about the commitment you are both making with each other in a long term - formal relationship that will require a lot of self-love and LOVE in order to deal with all the challenges a commitment like that brings.
I wish I knew this 10 years ago. My ex did all 5 (Mental, emotional, and Physical Abuse, Failed Discussions, Neglect [me and the kids...still neglects the kids], Repeated Lies, No Appreciation). Sadly it took for my ex to strang me and nearly killed me in order for me to wake up and leave.
I really appreciate the points you have made in this video. Many people assume abuse and neglect only exists in a romantic relationship. They don’t realize this applies to all relationships, especially in the work place.
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I was on an verbal abuse relationship for 17 year, and I was so scared, but I wanted out. I made a plan, and I stood by it. I’m on my own, single, and happy. It’s been 1 year, and with TH-cam coaching, and motivation channels, I have been able to survive. Keep y’all heads up and make a plan. It works. P.S. I’m poor, and I’m racing 3 teen. No excuses. We can do it.
I broke up today because of abuse, whenever we into Problem or Argument she always insulted my Mom or Dad and my was maybe because i lived with her but i also got my appartment i don't there, i try my best to safe our relationship it could not so i walk out today and i'll get my remaining things on weekend
I really like that part about "not having to be along someone's journey every step of the way". It's better sometimes to cut off the relationship and let the other person grow into who they need to be. Well said with all of this!
most of the abuse comes from the people we trust and not from the strangers, hence we keep on looking for the reasons to not leave them. Most of the times our lack of courage feeds on our low self esteem and makes it even more difficult. end of day you need to ask, what did i do to deserve this.
Yes, sometimes we are in the wrong and people lash out at us for a reason, but when in an abusive relationship the abuse is a form of dominance of one over the other. I'm not sure of what you mean by "we have to ask ourselves what we did to deserve it". We should ask ourselves what we do that seems to invite abuse, but nobody deserves that kind of treatment.
Wow, this video was like a window into my marriage! Every bullet that Brendon reviewed was what I had faced. It was that false sense of loyalty that kept me hooked into a bad marriage and that hope that he would change for the kids that made me feel guilty for feeling trapped and overwhelmed.
You owe no loyalty to an abuser...lacking...(if they don’t keep their vehicle clean they most likely won’t take care of you either) something I learned on my own.
Hahahahe sister you are so right. Experienced the same thing here. His workshop was total chaos too. He was abusive, lazy a sloth and made excuses for all his bad habits. This alone will tell what kind of personality he has. Good riddance😀
every word brother I went and bought a camper and im fleeing into life away from my husband and my entire family I leave in the morning I don't even know where im going and don't care I just know when I drive away never to be seen again my soul and conscious are clean praise God in Jesus name , Hallelujah
I think there needs to be something added to the first point - if someone lies and gaslights you for so long to the point where you start to become verbally abusive and lash out out of absolute desperation and anger don’t feel bad or ashamed- just go and DO NOT GIVE THEM THE AMMO AGAINST YOU. This is after multiple failed discussions, conversations, introspection, requests, comprising whatever. My ex is a covert narcissist and has had a life time to hone his skills in obfuscation, stonewalling, steamrolling, criticism, manipulation, invalidation, gaslighting, self victimisation. THEY ARE PROFESSIONALS AND YOU WILL NEVER EVER GET THEM TO BE REASONABLE. They edit the narrative to suit themselves whenever it suits them. Reality isn’t reality. It will damage you to the point of no longer wanting to live.
Yes this is what Im going through too! Crazymaking! He gets me to snap and start screaming and he smiles at me. He makes me feel suicidal and now Ive had enough.
i don’t know what to do anymore. i love him, i want to be with him but we both hurt each other so so much that it’s not healthy for either party. it’s hard to think about leaving, i love his family and his family love me. same with my family. i never thought about giving up but right now i feel like i should. we’ve been together 5 years and i feel like i would be throwing everything away. it’s seriously so hard to see my life without him. but i think it’s for the best. for the both of us. i hope i can decide what to do and i make the best choice, i want him to be happy and i need to get my life back. i don’t feel like myself anymore.. 💔
@@bear__109 im in this boat, its been 5 years.... Are you going to leave? I think im gonna... But I'm waiting for our lease together to end. And it's hard to want to leave but i know that's just me being unstable because he is very abusive physically and mentally.
Great advice but can be hard to swallow unless you become fearless and take the plunge. You have nothing to lose if your relationship is already toxic. You will only gain. Number one is to have self-respect and you can't have that if you are not getting what you deserve or allow yourself to be treated badly by another. You'd be surprised how easy it is to walk away but you have to take it day by day. It's easier than quitting smoking. Your other half wouldn't think twice about walking trust me!
Lol! Yup. I learned a long time ago... you can’t make someone love you... that goes with respect you, honor you, value you, etc. you cannot put that inside of anyone else. If it ain’t there then you are wasting your time. Walk away. Love this precious life you have and don’t waste it on a knucklehead.
The irony that I’m 2 weeks into quitting smoking and I’m trying to decide weather to take a toxic p resonate back, this video and comment really helped
There are a lot of signs when it's time and you'll know. You want to hold on, you have hope, and sometimes it seems more safe to stay in the relationship. If both of you don't want to be in tree relationship...it's over. If either person doesn't value the feelings, ideas, or emotions of the other... It's over. Trust your instincts. Trust your heart. As hard as it may be, the longer you stay there, you're wasting time. Move on. All the material possessions, all the "things" can be replaced. You'll never get your time back, and if you're not treated with love, respect, and shown true care...time to move on.
OMG you are so awesome for this statement i just left a bad marriage i was married to my now ex wife with two step kids for only two years i sacrificed and did everything for her and her kids she never had a man that did as much as i did and i thought i would be loved respected and appreciated for it but boy was i wrong i saw all the red flags but still stayed i am not perfect so i try to give everyone the benefit of doubt so i was hoping for change we talk about our differences but went on deaf ears after we acquired a house and new cars and i helped her secure a better job things got worse she was disrespectful abusive she put me down one time we had an argument and she slam the car door on my leg i have never been abusive to a woman and as a physically fit guy she was pushing me to my breaking point i couldn't take it i decided to leave before she made me do something i would regret because one look at me and the cops would not even blink to put me away she fought hard to get the material things in mediation more than she fought to save our marriage at that point i had all the confirmation that i needed i was making the right decision like you said you cant get time wasted back but you can always replace material possessions
Where to go if we don't have anywhere to go...I have been in this neglected relationship for 21 years...he provided me with all materialistic things but no emotional love, no intimacy and no feelings of love for me, infact he flirts wd younger girls. Plz advice
@@janedias1501 my biggest fear, coming from being homeless for years as a teen and young adult was ending up that way as an adult. I've got no family to fall back on but, there are resources in your area. Is it going to be comfortable? Likely not. You may need ti let go of the material things, too. I made a decision. I was done. I'm moving into a STUDIO apartment that's 1/6th the size of our home because it's all I can afford right now and there are waiting lists for the majority of apartments. Just like you plan for a marriage or plan to buy a house, plan your separation. Put whatever money aside that you can. TRUST IN YOURSELF that you can and must do this. You're strong enough, you have everything you need inside you to survive through the initial struggle. But you can create the life and have the love you deserve if you'd allow yourself to let go of what you know, and grab hold of your next journey. Good luck, I believe in you! Sending you hugs and kindness.
Failed discussions.. yeah that one hit home. Sad when you can't even speak and when you do, your not being heard. 14 yrs..lack of engagement & neglets (paying attention to all the hints) I'm done💔
Yep left mine because she gets violent and verbal abusive when she drinks and gets high. I gave her two chances, but this was the 3rd or 4th incident. Men do not stay with women that want to explode and try to hurt you and become unstable. Wasted and extra year when i should have left long ago. I awoke after 3 yrs of marriage and said when.
" He" was used repeatedly because men are always the example, in majority of stories, examples, history books etc....it wasn't because only men abuse, "Dr. Testosterone". I hope you got something more than that from the video. Title states "When to quit on someone"/(a bad relationship).
Yes, men indeed are. I am grateful my ex did move out for his sake. Those words are not often said by an abuser, but that is because I genuinely do care about him, as twisted as that may sound. I unknowingly mentally and emotionally abused him. I take full responsibility for my actions even though I did not realize I was doing it and my actions ended up hurting him. I say unknowingly because it was after he left I started reflecting on all the situations he brought up as to why he left and discovered why I did what I did. I was at first angry with myself as to the why since it originated from two previous exes who left me extremely bitter. The therapy I received after those relationships was inadequate and I subconsciously held on to that bitterness only to project it onto my ex. Hurting him is something that never ever crossed my mind, and I knew it was my responsibility to correct my behavior which brought about this hurt. I have already gone through many steps to correct my behavior because it's something I never want to do again. It will take a lot to regain his trust, and that's only if he will even give me a chance. If he does, it will also be on his time, not mine. My heart goes out to any and all who have ever been abused, but especially to you men. Too often your gender is ignored and your pain is downplayed compared to women, and it should not be like that.
So happy to know i did the right thing and LET GO. Nothing worth it is ever easy. Dont let fear keep you in your prison, set yourselves free people! GOD BLESS
My god, I’ve seen so many relationship videos but this one has given me so much clarity. She was all of these things apart from the physical abuse. I’m worth more and glad she’s out of my life 🙌
Everytime I ask my boyfriend to have a discussion/conversation he either 1) half pays attention to me and never answers anything I ask and walks away or 2) wants to argue and yell saying it's the same stuff over and over again. Its the same questions and conversations because I never got any answers to begin with
@@svalerie.001 yes. Its been 2 weeks and he hasnt looked for me or tried to have any type of communication with me. Lol i guess thats how much he cares
My husband repeatedly neglects my requests for help around the house. He doesn't have a clue of what needs to be done so I have to tell him, even though he agrees he later ends up not doing it. Even months go by and he hasn't done it. He says I should give him reminders. I've explained, talked, expressed how his constant neglect makes me feel disrespected, abandoned, resentful. Still none of those work he is still being neglectful and apathetic. I'm fed up, our house needs a lot of work, it's a fixer upper, he's also apathetic about having fun or doing something fun together. He keeps saying it's a communication problem. Sure and I was born yesterday. I'm seriously considering leaving I feel miserable, depressed and at my limit. His neglect is abusive.
I think the problem is some of us don't know if we are being abused or not. For those who grew up in dysfunctional families usually accept that kind of abuse later on in life. I love the quote from Perks of Being A Wallflower. We accept the love we think we deserve.
This is good advice from experience. As much as we may feel lonely at times. As much as we may crave affection and love at times it's better to wait for the right person who values you enough to MAKE your relationship work. The wrong person could potentially give you so may problems, issues and heartache that you will eventually be unable to be who you need to be when the right person comes along.
Where have you been the last seven years of my life?! Doesn’t matter. My husband checked all the boxes, except abuse. Thank you for giving me the resolve to value myself, and let go. Truly. Thank you.
Yes it's okay to leave these mean nasty people! I am done being took advantage of and used ! I had to learn my lesson about helping others. I no longer help others !!
When u been in a 10 year or longer marriage n it was great for couple of years n then 4 years ago everything change for my life. My husband started drugs, abuse, stealing from me n our belongings, stop caring, wont get help, tried to bring other problem people in our home n cause more problems in my life. They steal n lie to n from me too. He never comes home im scared hes going to end up dead. What advice to help me not to feel bad or changing my locks, making plans for myself so i can stop hurting.
I already quit, since last year.It was a long term relationship.It was painful but pain is all part of the process.I always pray that everything will be okay.I am at peace and I am focusing myself at work and my father.Prayer helps a lot.
Broke up with my girlfriend yesterday...she appreciates nothing i do....we have an 8 month old son..whom i adore....im very good to her finanancially and am very present...she calls me honey and sweetheart etc but never thanks me for anything...she slams doors...lashes out verbally when i call her out on disrepectful situations...devalues my opinion all the time. Does things without even consulting me on stuff regarding our son......makes arrangements without telling me... I told her it would be nice if she consulted more with me on certain things (eh were in a relationship etc).....i dont have to ask your permission for anything was the responce...i could write a book.
Mr. Mcgregor: O.K., you broke up with her. Now, she will (hopefully) be your EX girlfriend, beginning YESTERDAY. Start referring to her, and her narcissistic behavior that way - then it will be easier to put her, and that, "in the rear view mirror."
No your wrong, been raised by a Narcissist father and married 2 narcissistic men these people only think of themselves, they are selfish, verbally abusive and need to be in control and nothing is ever their fault. It's a mental disorder.. She's never going to change because there is really know help for it. He needs to read or watch videos on Narcissistic behavior so he can make some serious decisions here .. As time goes on she will make him feel lesser of a person.. I feel sorry for him.😔
my ex used me as a doormat too, long story short, karma paid him a visit and gave him a wife that is just like him well lets just say what goes around came right back around as for me i am very happy now living a good healthy life and thank God everyday for my life
I've noticed that when a relationship starts everything is wonderfull, Love makes you blind to reality, I've found it takes about 2 years before you will see the real person, that's when the reality hits. Many people I've met that were or are in toxic relationships will say the first 2 years were good and then it erodes fast, but some will try and try to get back what they had , some for 20 years or more. If your in a relationship ship that had passed the 2 year mark and it isn't what you had, isn't what you want it's time to leave, it won't get better, it will never be what it was. If your thinking about it, it's time to go, It's just a matter of how much more of your life are you going to waste chasing something the really never was.
Respect - if it’s no longer there, it’s done. If there’s lying, it’s done. If there’s no romance, it’s done. If they’re hiding something from you, it’s done. And if there’s no more love, it’s done! Don’t pretend, get out soon as you already have a feeling. Don’t let this take years because it will only repeat itself. Trust me, it happened to me and was married for more than 20 years. And yes! It took me all those years. So don’t be like me, get out sooner. Good luck!
Yeah, I mean, you can't change them. You could discuss it with them, but ultimately you're just going to have to accept that they have other priorities in life. If you're not okay with it you should leave. But don't expect them to change.
I loved my “best friend” for 15 years. He loved that I loved him and took me for thousands and thousands. And I let him. 2 days no contact. Pray for me.
Cut your losses. They will only get worse. They thrive on disrespect and their egos grow as they diminish you. And because they are a ‘friend ‘ you give the benefit of doubt. Never accept any so called friends treating you worse than you would accept from your other half. And always delete their number just in case you call them by accident.
Also, I would add, never lend money however genuine their need. There are banks for that. You will find they don’t pay you back and you will end up angry and disappointed. Most people price friendships extremely low on their list of priorities.
My dad died and in the period of grieving I love saying good things about him because my Dad was a really good man...my boyfriend on the other hand comes and says I'm praising him too much he's a man too and his only saying it out of jealousy which to him is out of love ...I feel like that's a deal breaker for me
Be strong, better days will come, and have to come because now you know how bad your relationship was, you also know how good a relationship can be, so you can for sure rebuild better and newer relationships
Zac Nunya that weight will go away, getting out of a toxic relationship can be healing from the moment you do it, I look and feel younger since leaving, and other people had had similar results, the heavy weight wasn’t put their by you, though by removing it, you can become really empowered
If you are watching this, please take a moment to look up the definitions of the different types of abuse. I had no idea the level of abuse that I was experiencing after many years of marriage. ... Thank you, Brendon, for your advice and affirmation.
The world is full of great people. Yes, and more people of integrity are entering my life so it's helping me to really establish this belief for my life.
Whoever is going to read my comment, i request you, yes you to please find your own faults too. Sometimes we are really crazy to have rather than giving. But true love is about the both. Thank you.
Amrita Saha so true, my husband is leaving me and I’ve been devastated now I find out why he is and I never realised I was part of the problem till now, and it’s now to late.
I like the answer about switching numbers in phones- but that means they actually have that persons number saved or you know who the person is in their phone. But if you do have access to their phone- use a key-logger- I don’t know which to suggest- but I have used 2, but you have to research and research to find a good one and they cost money- but, if you want to know everything they type on their phone, their social media and app usage and their geographic location- the 2nd one I used also had a call recorder and a microphone tapper- which would send a secret text to his phone and then give me listening access to his surroundings. I know- I was crazy for a brief moment in life and realized I didn’t need to torture myself trying to play detective, and I cut him loose. He has since admitted to one infidelity accidentally or maybe on purpose because he wanted to try to hurt me, either way I was indifferent. Back to spying- I did this when I realized chunks of texts between his female boss and him missing from his phone- and he had recently told me she was in trouble at work for snap chatting with the male employees, not him, but others (yeah, right) her avoiding me at the Christmas party was very evident, I mean skin crawling evident. Anyways, you need access to his phone for about 5-10 minutes. TO CATCH ANYONE RED HANDED HIRE Tischler TRACKANDSPYCELL.ORG THEY ARE SO SWIFT ACCURATE AND RELIABLE
wish everyone to achieve their goals, fulfill who they are meant to be, & succeed in life! Greetings from Los Angeles but don't be cheated and if you got cheated or ever lost your acct, reach out to that dude.
wish everyone to achieve their goals, fulfill who they are meant to be, & succeed in life! Greetings from Los Angeles but don't be cheated and if you got cheated or ever lost your acct, reach out to that dude.
so much has happened in my last relationship that i just looked at myself in the mirror and i didnt like the person i saw. I was so depressed and had so much going on in my life that i just needed to be told i will be ok but when the person who you thought loved you talks bad about you and tells you constantly that your a bad person it took a toll on me and i had to get out of the relationship. when i heard a conversation about how im not a good person because i dont do what im told i had to take back my peace of mind and i never felt to low in my life. I look at myself now and i know im getting better. No more feeling sorry for things ending Im glad it did. Peace and blessings to all
People need to understand one thing - the source of most misfortune, the source of poverty lies in negative people and their influence... my best advice is to cut negative people forever and focus only on your goals... after you reach your goals try to find friends but remember that it is almost impossible to find real friends while pursuing goals... seems really impossible to me... I have done more in one year than in 10 simply because I have cut away negative people...
The worst breakups are those we spend while still hanging onto what you thought you two were...then to make it worse, they gaslight you into believing you're the one who "changed". 😪
Ashley McCoy, I was engaged 💍 to a Narcissist for 5 years and never knew what that was. I was FUTURE FAKED. Gaslighted, and used for money. I finally left him and needed Therapy. My Therapist told me about the narc, and she survived one after 18 years. Thank God I found out when I did! He rebounded and married his rebound in 2 weeks. This was 11 years ago and I never saw him again.
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I'm in a bad relationship atm. He is verbally abusive to me. He doesnt respect me. He doesn't appreciate what I do for him. I decided I am going to leave today for two days and come back with my mother to talk to him. If he doesn't change, I am done. I know I am very weak. It hurts just thinking about it. I always make excuses for him... i hope I find the strength to let him go.
My dear, if someone would have put their arm around me and told me I am worth more than I am being treated I would still not listen to them, because that's what I did. I felt that my love and respect was going to help our relationship. What I learned, My dear, he employs much manipulation upon you, however his promises are hollow and he only "wants to change" to get you to change for his benefit. Stop! Once you walk away stay away. Please!!! It's called going no contact. If there is any indication of abuse, it will only get worse when he comes back. Good luck and stay strong. Take care of your beautiful soul.
Emotional Stinginess is worst in a relationship. It's natural to expect appreciation and recognition, without such family members, you feel like dead inside
I agree. This guy I traveled more than 19hrs for, spent €4K all my own on the trip, surprised him on his birthday and I didn't even hear a single thank you or any hint of appreciation. He even asked me to pay for fuel on a short trip. Wow. Glad I left
Everyone should listen to this because all of us will experience an abusive relationship once in our lives. I understand that it's hard to give up on someone that you really love, but you also need to think of yourselves because a toxic relationship will never do good to your life.
You will never be good enough for the wrong person.
sad but true
Very good statement
So true!!
True
@@ojoojukwu8892 lool
If someone is looking for a video like this, that's a sign. I need to get out of this crazy relationship.
Yeraldin Fuenmayor Haha! I was totally thinking that.
Yeraldin Fuenmayor. Update???
Hi Yeraldin. How are you doing now? Much better I hope.
we all do sis
Me too
1. Abuse - Leave immediately
2. Failed discussions - Converse then seek therapy
3. Repeated neglect - take care of you
4. Repeated lies - protect yourself
5. No appreciation - Seek gratitude from service
Be there for yourself
Atlanta718 and do bad BY yourself 😂 no one needs help
Fifi Coney Island There’s nothing wrong with seeking help. No one is perfect and we all have something to learn.
Thanks so much
3 and 4 are very true
@@andaiibori7205 but if they wont get the help with you... And it just keeps devolving and getting less and less good for you... More disrespect and hateful grudgeholding speech... There has to be someone who is going to be good to you the way they used to be.
Abuse is not just physical. It’s also verbal, psychological and emotional.
Do you have a good source for more in that topic?
That's true and women tend to be the best at doing that type of abuse. I was married to a woman who abused me like that but it the end she attacked me violently so it usually leads to physical abuse.
@@dominicusbenacusI know this comment is really old, so I hope you found what you were looking for. But learn about, manipulation, gaslighting, Controlling, or narcissistic disorder, theres so many more but once you start learning about these, it’s starts to become more clear, interact with the comments and you’ll learn even more. Hope this helps!
@@ianbetts4435A lot of women are highly abusive towards men, it usually just gets swept under the rug. It’s interesting that girls actually tended to be the more verbally abusive ones in my high school. I watched them make fun of a lot of girls and guys including myself, and it’s socially unacceptable to do that towards women as most people will immediately rush to their defense, where as abuse towards men is actually ignored or encouraged. And less people will come to your defense and may even gang up on you for abuse. It’s a crazy double standard. Abuse is abuse, it doesn’t matter who’s doing it, it’s the fact that they shouldn’t be doing it in the first place.
And mental
Some of us love too hard and give too much when we receive so little. Even if its emotional or financially
So true
So true, and that's so sad. :(
+Cookie Cookie
At least I made her pay for dinner before I dumped her.
LOL
Joke's on her.
Yep. We’re called empaths
Me 😓 I love this guy so much and I just don’t think he will ever love me the same. It hurts cuz I think he could care less if this relationship would end but me on the other hand would probably feel like I just lost everything 😓
He doesn’t respect me. He doesn’t appreciate me. He neglects me. Leaving now.
Why?
Yeah what did you do to him?
Jason Medeiros just leave it alone man. No reason to act like that. Her business not ours
Same
@@jasonmedeiros9492 what do you mean what did she do to him???
“You owe NO loyalty to abusive people. Period.”
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Harsh but best discision
The take away!!
indeed, best
Amen 🙏
I found that in toxic relationships we hold on to an image in our minds of what we wish things to be but that image is so far from what we really are experiencing. Leaving someone who is abusing you is one of the hardest things you will ever do in the moment but the best thing you can do for your soul.
If you are reading this know you are not alone and it will get better. Be brave and be your own best friend even if it hurts. You deserve the best.❤️
Thank you 🙏 yes it definitely hurts very much!!
I feel that the person that is toxic will purposely be wonderful to start with and slowly starts to introduce the abuse and manipulation.
The person experiencing this usually has low self-esteem to begin with and holds on to the relationship because of how it USED to be.
I have been on the receiving end of this and I do not regret it because it was a very important lesson in life and love.
Acutely good advice for both Men and Women.
@@alanbbrady8196 I left because of abuse. I brought some of it on myself, but it got unbearable. Then after two months of no contact we spoke, which led to a hookup, which led to me falling back in-love with her… to me missing her. I just do not know if she os manipulating me now, she always needs money…
@@stevenkovler5133 you're not alone. None believe how toxic women can be!!!! Yea, money, the only gentle paradol we've for temporary relief. Symptoms: ignorance, opportunists, blame, use like a money machine, no care/share of space. I wish you and us a toxic free 2023.
Don’t go 44 years like I did. Stop when it first starts
Hugs Linda, you are not alone.
34 years, children are grown, now its my turn
Yes. 26 years for me. It stole the best part of my life.
This is a sad post, that's terrible feeling like you gave your best years to a dead end marriage.
@@victoriamorgan3776 So sorry :(...TODAY IS THE FIRST (AND BEST) DAY OF THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. You'll never be any younger than you are right now.
My girlfriend sent me this, it took some deep self reflection to realize the damage i have done to our relationship.
I hope you learned your lesson.take care.
I so wish my partner could also realise his faults and fix himself just as you did
That’s awesome you realized...many don’t. Dr Gottman has good insight and advice to help repair and rebuild relationships. Some good videos here on TH-cam.
Best of luck 🌸
It takes a lot of humility to be able to admit that. I hope things have worked out, I am proud of the effort you put to understand.
Wow that's great you have realized! Don't give up keep working on yourself, it's only up from here
I now realize... you going to hurt if you leave Or stay BUT at least if you LEAVE, you can begin to heal & love yourself & get out and start OVER in life but if you Stay, you will continue to hurt, which is better..😌🙏
Best way to look at it for anyone trying to decide leaving a bad relationship. Thanks for sharing
Amanda Smith this is the best way to help someone leave. ty im so happy i read this comment
Leaving is better.
You should write quotes💖
Thank you for your wise words that my blinded heart needed to take in.
@@candlem.5031
Hi I was thinking of getting land on a new lease nderi if I could
Note to self: When you’re clicking videos about whether or not you should quit, it’s probably time.
This!! Saved me from watching 10 more videos. Great point
Great point!!!
Whew
I-🥲
How? I tried to leave many many times. Trauma bond is harder to end
Watching this after I left my boyfriend, I’m reassured I made the right decision.
Right on!! 💪
Gurl, give us an update...did you go back for one of those late night reminders? lol
Good work! You're a strong lady! This is hard to do!
Saaaame lool
Lucky, I'm afraid to leave my man. All these signs apply
Time always tells is someone cares about you or not. Life is already hard, don’t make it harder by spending it with someone who doesn’t care about you.
No thanks
I found myself making excuse after excuse for bad behavior.. but it's about self love and self respect... enough is enough just walk away. Sure it hurts, take time to heal and love yourself before getting into another relationship..
timothy yaiser
timothy yaiser
Thank you!!!
As much as i hate to read this, it's true
I totally agree!
I can’t really understand why I’m still struggling this toxic, mess, bad habit I have everyday.
dude my ex gf, hited me with a broom stick made of aliminum, she destroyed all my things, tv, ps4, the kitchen, everything.... she as screaming at me pretty bad things while she hit me in the head, the arms, the face, it was horrible, she even treatned our pets....
I am happily single at 67. Have been all my life, though I've had a lot of men interested in me. It's a gift to love being alone, free to do and be whatever I want.
Sure
Do you have children ?
Male friends are the way to go
LOL 😂 not true - why are you watching this then LOL 😂
An abusive person doesn't deserve loyalty.
So, so true❤️
Bree Keitanys
PREACH!
You think so?
What if they start to be abusive because I wasn’t loyal enough?
I left 8 weeks ago. After I watched this, I am never going back.
I'm so glad this gave you some reassurance and strength. I'm a licensed mental health therapist and leaving is SO tough! Not to mention, many times dangerous. Good work!
Sending you healing energy and Blessings ♥️♥️
Good for you, it takes lots of courage to leave someone 👍
You forgot Emotional and psychological abuse. Those are deep and really break someones core.
rutendo mutenha also financial abuse.
I am experiencing all 3
wasn't this included in 1. ?
I give too much of myself to someone who doesn't even deserve it.. I can't move on without feelings.. it hurts me to leave
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Stonewalling is also a form of abuse. Refusing to talk about your relationship issues on any level is stonewalling.
Threats , then next day it's as if the person forgot what they said just the day
before. Memory loss from
just one day. 🤤
Thank God for TH-cam. I would never be able to grasp this on my own and I would have fallen for it and been trapped in an unhealthy relationship
I keep thinking emotional abuse will get better with therapy! He never put a hand on me T_T... But I have a year old son... But he treated him so good, better than we were with eachother!
YES!
THANK YOU.
1. Abuse
2. Failed discussions
3. Neglect
4. Lies
5. No appreciation
2
Time
Emotional and physical abuse
Repeated failed discussions
Repeated neglect
Repeated lies
Aaliyah Khan 5th one is: You're not being appreciated.
Repeated wasted years. I know. Quit ....... before you have children and feel really stuck.
This is my current common law and future ex
yes
Aaliyah Khan I hear ya 😓😓
my wife has been cheating on me constantly for the past years. I think I am finally strong enough to let her go.
Abigame Im happy for u mine just started so in going through the phase
Abigame Cmon man, I sincerely hope it has been done now.
The gaming Turnip sorry guys
Good for you!
My wife filed for a divorce and after she got played she runs back to me and we have 2 kids. Talk about pain
I’ve endured 12 years of verbal and emotional abuse, Stonewalling and love bombing. He always had a way of making me believe it was my fault. Even when he betrayed me by having an affair he got me to believe that he was entitled to that affair because she was so much nicer to him than I was. I actually believed him and took him back only to be stonewalled and verbally and emotionally abused again. This time I was able to see the pattern repeating. Educate yourself, it’s your best defense against narcissistic bullies. I ended the relationship today. I already feel relieved from the extreme weight of this abusive relationship.
Dear Rachel ⚘
How are you today?
Hope you are in a way way way better place (mental, physical, emotional...) than when you wrote this text.
Stay strong ❤ and be proud of your choice
Good for you lovely, I left my narcissistic bf a year ago and I have no regrets. I wish I trusted my inner intuition then, so I would of saved 2,5 years of my life. May God bless you with the loving man one day🙏❤
You sound like a narcissist. I didn’t hear any accountability
The fact that I'm sitting here watching this video tells me all I need to know, I think.
Kristy Lattanzio right there with you!
I was just thinking this. When you start looking up the subject, there’s already a foot out the door.
Same
Kristy Lattanzio, Hope you are not with a narcissist 😈!
this comment made me tear up, you’re right
I should have listened to this 40 years ago. When I found out I was married to a bully who turned out to be a narcissist sociopath. But mental abuse took a toll before the physical became an issue. He didn't respect, honor or love me. I've been divorced 5 almost 6 years now and am happier than ever.. I now value myself.
You give me hope, I feel stuck right now.
Ave Odom I feel stuck too
@@jokerbox_official keep researching and learning about narcissistic abuse. Have an escape plan and when you go don't look back because it only gets worse
My dad still in this emotional physical verball abusive relationship for 34 years and now he has liver cancer, it is resentment.
I hate my mom sometimes and explode on her.
If you keep treating your loved one it either that person will dissapear from you becoming sick or run away from you.
His escaoe is his work he likes to leave the house so he would not be abused.
@@ugi976 don't feed into the negativity or it will consume and harm you too! Hate only hurts us more. I'm so sorry for you and your father my prayers are with you. Find help maybe a therapist will aid in guiding you to keep from suffering more than you need to.
You've got to drop some people like a bad habit.
Clarence Stinson agree
Clarence Stinson that's true
😂
Good words brother
yes drinking and drugs are bad habits.
17 years I need to let go, I am not treated right. The only emotion he has for me is anger. No affection, nothing. Then wonders why I become cold.
Emotional abuse is still a form of domestic abuse. Netflix series Maid highlights this well.
17 am the same
To women, STOP thinking that an abuser will change. They will not. Abusers need professional help. You cannot offer that. Get away from a toxic relationship.
My sister almost died at the hands of an abusing boyfriend. I sat at her bedside, crying, wishing I had done more when I suspected abuse. That night when she finally got away, he literally beat her to an inch from death. My sister was holding her newborn baby as he nearly killed her. All she says she could do is shield the baby. As soon as she had a second where the abuser went to get a weapon to hurt her further, she ran away (barefoot). She never ever EVER went back. It can be done. Life WILL get better. Please, you deserve better. Your family deserves better.
M Tio oh my goodness I’m so glad she’s safe and the baby.
My payers for you and your sister
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What a psychopath!
M Tio So glad she got out! How did it start, do you know? Might help on here if you know of early signs she experienced? Thank you for posting about your sister anyhow though, a really effective warning.
Sometimes we need someone to tell us these things because we never learned what a healthy relationship feels like. So, from the bottom of my heart, I thank you for making such an informative video for us.
guess who.... now im so convinced.... thank you... toxic. rel.. 🙄👀😜🤔
finally......satisfied customer👀🤔🙄👀
from start till now
.... nothing....!!!! no connection... no name no dialogue.... not a sign....!!!! SO GOOD BYE NOW. FORGET HIM🙄🤔🙄👀TULOG NA OI!!! SABAA!!! 😜🤔🙄
thanks.. no need to tell me.... I knew.... from start to finish....
I was on the same boat as you, your abuser can convince you that you are the problem, and that things are you fault,
Or they may convince you that your in what a relationship is, and you live so long without knowing what a relationship really could me, or should be
She does not abuse me physically, and i bet she never will, but she abuses my heart, which hurts more.
How can you give me some examples please?
Yep...I totally agree with you ✌💨
Have you spoken to her about this?
The 5 love languages might help?
Also, Dr Gottman has great TH-cam videos to help relationships.
My partner thought I was so hurtful, until he finally realized I was reacting to his hurtful behavior... which he had dismissed when I tried to bring it up. He couldn’t see the connection and my resentment and hurt, which then came out in hurtful behavior towards him.
I would examine what her needs are and if you’ve really listened and tried to meet them...you might also be hurtful in ways you can’t see.
We all have fears, desires, poor coping mechanisms and needs we bring into a relationship.
Learning vulnerability and putting aside ego, to connect, is very powerful.
Best of luck and may your heart be healed 🌸
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I want to send this to my husband but I am afraid that he is going to blame me instead of reflecting on himself, just like all of the conversations that I have started...
Ladies you need to check out videos on Narcissism. Don't show your men this video thinking it will sink in for them. Actually maybe you should and if he gets upset, low key (messed up words) order high level upset(screaming about it), then you should definitely check out videos on Narcissism because you may be with one. Good Luck ladies. #HumanRace 🙏🏿🙏🏾🙏🏽🙏🙏🏻🙏🏼
I get blamed for everything too. It’s so draining!
I sent it.
@@toorealformyowngood241 well wait can’t that go both ways tho?
I thought u were pointing out that showing ur partner this video is usually what a narcissist does. A lot of people (women and men) tend to think they get blamed for everything and they are so perfectly pristine with holy goodness and they are the ones who lack self reflection of any kind
I just sent this to my husband and I’m sure he’ll blame me for our problems.
Yes... Leave sooner than later!
I was abused for 4 years... Not physically... But in all other ways. Verbally, mentaly, and emotionaly. I was made to quit my job and I was told everyday how unsatisfactory my dedication is... It took me a complete year to regain my confidence and mental strength. This happened to me coz I always thought that probably under this abusive man and his abusive family there are truthful and genuine people.... It was just denial. So please girls.... Leave sooner than later.
Maybe it was you ever thought of that?
Amen.. Leave sooner than Later!
@Louise W why are you criticizing this lady for how she feels ? We're you there through her abuse ??? I think NOT ! Infact with that worthless comment you made I wouldn't doubt that your a f...in Narcissistic abuser .. 🖕
Sorry to hear that..yr beautiful tho and will find the one for u
I can relate to your situation because I went through it as well. Take care of yourself. Love yourself more. This video is every interesting. But what about abuse from coworkers and supervisors. These people also affect those around them. They sabotage the work environment.
I quit on my brother and 4 months later on my mother this year, failed discussions ,repeated lies, zero respect, punished for telling the truth.
Thank you for the video Brendon, love you man!
Tigresa Couturista that's always one of the worst things, when one gets punished for telling the truth or worse, not lying to please "them" 😩
it is
Tigresa My mother is narcissistic and so is my soon to be ex..I went No contact with her a few times but I have made the decision to completely annihilate her from my life in June. Funny thing I just decided ( like literally a week ago) to forgive my ex and give him another chance but today I decided I just dont want to be bothered with all the emotional baggage.
I feel for you. I recently looked at all the giving I was doing for others and the people that did nothing in return for me. Selfish people have no place in our lives that use people. Honor the struggle.
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one thing I have realized when it comes to quitting on someone is that individual has to be ready to leave cux no amount of words from friends, family etc will make that individual being abused leave. but once they gather the courage to leave, they are gone forever and nothing will make them look back.
I am happy my ex broke up with me to be with another guy, theraphy is making me realize all these things you said, she did not appreciate me or treat me right, was lying a lot and not respecting me. Sometimes bad comes for good. Love to you all.
Abuse. This means emotionally and mentally!!
As well if not most affected!!
Also add verbally too!
It's so sad...my husband gets ANGRY at drop of a dime!!! I love him but I love myself more. It's EMOTIONAL abuse!!!!! I am 52 years old and I have NEVER been talked to/treated this way. I am writing on this page which tells me...I need to get out now, regardless of my heart. I can't wait for him to love me...he never will...I have to love myself first! Greater is he, that is within me.
I'm so sorry you are going through that. He would not know what he have until you are gone.
I'm in a similar position. I'm almost 50 and I feel it's getting no better. Can't do this anymore.
@@Datgirlsuga how are you doing?
Did you leave him?
I promise after leaving and giving some time you will look back and be so happy you did. The freedom of being on your own and reflect on your past abusive relationship and how lucky you are no longer with him. Get a cute lil dog, enjoy life and the right guy will come along once you stop looking for love.
My boyfriend beg me to stay. But too many times he hurt my feelings. I can't forgive him anymore. There were no cheating or physical abuse, because I thought if it's cheating/physical abuse r unacceptable but other stuffs also can come to a point of unacceptable.
Same..
Same
@Aditi Kumari great riteeee
Same
Before I met my date in person, for about a month I took time to get to know him. After some time I realised everytime we converse, he often brought me down, made me question my values. I also realised, when I needed him to be emotionally supportive, he went 'missing'/go quiet. Then I realised that he doesn't want to be emotionally present. He picked on my choice of friends who have been around with me 1-2 decades before he came along. That's when I decided, I'm not going out with this narcissist.
Yes! Amen! I’ve found relationships that come in fast and heavy and become your “best friend” quickly are usually very toxic. When relationships develop like that for me I’ve learn to throw the red flags and step back and put some space and boundaries. Usually I e found that person is mirroring what they think I want and who they think I want them to be so they can connect quickly and after longer closer observation of their life there are so many inconsistencies in who they say they are and what they really do with their choices.
You nailed my last relationship, 10 years and then I left.
Spot on!!
Thx
Oh wow! You hit the nail on the head! My situation exactly!! I wish I would’ve taken the time to get to know my husband before I married him. He was nothing like he portrayed in the beginning. I feel duped and misled. I feel that was his strategy to gain my trust.
Well said.
I've been watching these types of videos for over a year now and this is still hands down the best advice I've found on TH-cam. Thank you.
Bunnygirl6346 agreed!
If only I had viewed this video when I was 23yrs old. I recently got out of a toxic relationship that occurred over 12yrs. 12yrs!!! Awful I know but thankful Im finally moving forward (BIG SIGH)!
Me, 10yrs! Everything in this was him. It had destroyed me, my heart, my health, everything. Right now I left him, but he still thinks we are together. He just doesn't get it, I swear.i am healing now, and there is a part of still comforting. But I knew deep down it was over long time ago. I mean over 7yrs ago. But I stayed not because I wanted but because it took me that long to come out if. The truth is not how long you stayed in an abusive relationship but how long did it take you to come out of it. Out of 10yrs, for me, it took me almost a bit over 7yrs to come out of it.
I was in mine for around 6 years, still hurts, better days will come, at least knowing give your the chance to form a real relationship
10 years of struggle for me too. I knew I needed an exit strategy in the last 2 years. It was mentally abusive and toxic. I’m now a month on my own and loving myself again.
Me 14 year, smh😒
You are never too old. Girl you are lovely. Open your heart to true love but don’t forget to be careful.❤️ much love
I needed this 3 years ago. It's pretty sad when my partner fit all those indicators and I sat and took it for the entire relationship.
I stayed in an emotionally abusive marriage for 28 years. The sadest part was that I did not realise I was being abused. I eventually my daughter told me that my husband was abusive. I left him 5 years ago. It has been tough but it was the best decision I made.
I Love your advice.When a person shows you who "they" are believe them..No amount of hanging in there talking to them giving 3 and 4 chances will help the situation.people have to realize they are brutal harsh evil and just dogmatic when the person has no interest or respect for how you feel what you... think or say . this is a deal breaker.Cut them off leave. These type.of people are souless clueless and need to be left to thier own demise....ASAP.........
Curtistine Miller: I think giving someone a few chances is more for you than the abuser...to be CERTAIN that they are not someone willing to grow, change, and appreciate you. Once you KNOW for sure...let go.
I wish I heard this two years ago. But I am very glad I left my bad marriage one year go. Thank You
Ditto!
Wishing you all the best in the future .
Yes Victoria, as long as is with a person that brings value & love to your life. Marriage is a social formality in order to become a teamwork in finances, in creating goals as a couple, starting a family etc... Getting married won't make the love better or bigger, it will simply organize the relationship so both of you can feel safe & secure about the commitment you are both making with each other in a long term - formal relationship that will require a lot of self-love and LOVE in order to deal with all the challenges a commitment like that brings.
I wish I knew this 10 years ago. My ex did all 5 (Mental, emotional, and Physical Abuse, Failed Discussions, Neglect [me and the kids...still neglects the kids], Repeated Lies, No Appreciation). Sadly it took for my ex to strang me and nearly killed me in order for me to wake up and leave.
Daniela Cunha are you free now ??are you open to new relationship?
I really appreciate the points you have made in this video. Many people assume abuse and neglect only exists in a romantic relationship. They don’t realize this applies to all relationships, especially in the work place.
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Woah... yeah. Your Workplace should have been more strict with their rules. Should have had a no retaliation Pollcy like mine does.
Heroic Concepts abuse can be found everywhere I agreee
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I was on an verbal abuse relationship for 17 year, and I was so scared, but I wanted out. I made a plan, and I stood by it. I’m on my own, single, and happy. It’s been 1 year, and with TH-cam coaching, and motivation channels, I have been able to survive. Keep y’all heads up and make a plan. It works. P.S. I’m poor, and I’m racing 3 teen. No excuses. We can do it.
Don’t say poor, say broke.
Broke is temporary
Good luck 😊. You are a really strong person. Any child would be proud to have a parent like you.
I broke up today because of abuse, whenever we into Problem or Argument she always insulted my Mom or Dad and my was maybe because i lived with her but i also got my appartment i don't there, i try my best to safe our relationship it could not so i walk out today and i'll get my remaining things on weekend
I really like that part about "not having to be along someone's journey every step of the way". It's better sometimes to cut off the relationship and let the other person grow into who they need to be. Well said with all of this!
What if that person says they cant grow and get the help they need without you and your help ?
@@kro0kbo0k101 Chris, I believe that is a form of manipulation.
most of the abuse comes from the people we trust and not from the strangers, hence we keep on looking for the reasons to not leave them. Most of the times our lack of courage feeds on our low self esteem and makes it even more difficult. end of day you need to ask, what did i do to deserve this.
very true...
Yes, sometimes we are in the wrong and people lash out at us for a reason, but when in an abusive relationship the abuse is a form of dominance of one over the other. I'm not sure of what you mean by "we have to ask ourselves what we did to deserve it". We should ask ourselves what we do that seems to invite abuse, but nobody deserves that kind of treatment.
this also applies to communities... some are just full of toxic people!
So so true!❤️
Neglect, yes, three strikes and your out! Thanks, that is what I needed to hear. And of course the appreciation and neglect goes together.
±2349056214114⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up...
Wow, this video was like a window into my marriage! Every bullet that Brendon reviewed was what I had faced. It was that false sense of loyalty that kept me hooked into a bad marriage and that hope that he would change for the kids that made me feel guilty for feeling trapped and overwhelmed.
Karen Jordan,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌹🌹🌺🌺🌹,you don't deserve to be with a narc 😈!!
Same here. Don't even know what to do
You owe no loyalty to an abuser...lacking...(if they don’t keep their vehicle clean they most likely won’t take care of you either) something I learned on my own.
Catalina MaGoo interesting about the vehicle. I think it may be a strange true parallel that I have noticed as well.
Good for you
That's funny I don't clean out my truck but I always take the trash out of friends and lovers vehicles and houses.
That's not factual though, just what you've find for your life. I know some great people with unkempt cars that are supportive and compassionate.
Hahahahe sister you are so right. Experienced the same thing here. His workshop was total chaos too. He was abusive, lazy a sloth and made excuses for all his bad habits. This alone will tell what kind of personality he has. Good riddance😀
every word brother I went and bought a camper and im fleeing into life away from my husband and my entire family I leave in the morning I don't even know where im going and don't care I just know when I drive away never to be seen again my soul and conscious are clean praise God in Jesus name , Hallelujah
How far are you on your journey? Take care.
resident9011 I want to do the same....just take my 2 chihuahuas and go! I wish you the best, stay safe out there sister.
Sis, I hope you the best!
I think there needs to be something added to the first point - if someone lies and gaslights you for so long to the point where you start to become verbally abusive and lash out out of absolute desperation and anger don’t feel bad or ashamed- just go and DO NOT GIVE THEM THE AMMO AGAINST YOU. This is after multiple failed discussions, conversations, introspection, requests, comprising whatever.
My ex is a covert narcissist and has had a life time to hone his skills in obfuscation, stonewalling, steamrolling, criticism, manipulation, invalidation, gaslighting, self victimisation. THEY ARE PROFESSIONALS AND YOU WILL NEVER EVER GET THEM TO BE REASONABLE.
They edit the narrative to suit themselves whenever it suits them. Reality isn’t reality. It will damage you to the point of no longer wanting to live.
Yes this is what Im going through too! Crazymaking! He gets me to snap and start screaming and he smiles at me. He makes me feel suicidal and now Ive had enough.
i don’t know what to do anymore. i love him, i want to be with him but we both hurt each other so so much that it’s not healthy for either party. it’s hard to think about leaving, i love his family and his family love me. same with my family. i never thought about giving up but right now i feel like i should. we’ve been together 5 years and i feel like i would be throwing everything away. it’s seriously so hard to see my life without him. but i think it’s for the best. for the both of us. i hope i can decide what to do and i make the best choice, i want him to be happy and i need to get my life back. i don’t feel like myself anymore.. 💔
me too
Karla Funes crazy I’m in the exact same situation what did you end up doing? Stay together?
@@bear__109 im in this boat, its been 5 years.... Are you going to leave? I think im gonna... But I'm waiting for our lease together to end. And it's hard to want to leave but i know that's just me being unstable because he is very abusive physically and mentally.
This is exactly where I am right now.
@@mardeeshack, Since he's abusive, I say leave NOW! Money isn't important, and maybe you can even tell your landlord.
Great advice but can be hard to swallow unless you become fearless and take the plunge. You have nothing to lose if your relationship is already toxic. You will only gain. Number one is to have self-respect and you can't have that if you are not getting what you deserve or allow yourself to be treated badly by another. You'd be surprised how easy it is to walk away but you have to take it day by day. It's easier than quitting smoking. Your other half wouldn't think twice about walking trust me!
i loved all the comments but this one thus far is the best one so thank you ( a year later lol)
Lol! Yup. I learned a long time ago... you can’t make someone love you... that goes with respect you, honor you, value you, etc. you cannot put that inside of anyone else. If it ain’t there then you are wasting your time. Walk away. Love this precious life you have and don’t waste it on a knucklehead.
The irony that I’m 2 weeks into quitting smoking and I’m trying to decide weather to take a toxic p resonate back, this video and comment really helped
I love this comment the most. This is so true
There are a lot of signs when it's time and you'll know. You want to hold on, you have hope, and sometimes it seems more safe to stay in the relationship. If both of you don't want to be in tree relationship...it's over. If either person doesn't value the feelings, ideas, or emotions of the other... It's over. Trust your instincts. Trust your heart. As hard as it may be, the longer you stay there, you're wasting time. Move on. All the material possessions, all the "things" can be replaced. You'll never get your time back, and if you're not treated with love, respect, and shown true care...time to move on.
thank you so much for your comment!
Thanks! I needed to read this!
OMG you are so awesome for this statement i just left a bad marriage i was married to my now ex wife with two step kids for only two years i sacrificed and did everything for her and her kids she never had a man that did as much as i did and i thought i would be loved respected and appreciated for it but boy was i wrong i saw all the red flags but still stayed i am not perfect so i try to give everyone the benefit of doubt so i was hoping for change we talk about our differences but went on deaf ears after we acquired a house and new cars and i helped her secure a better job things got worse she was disrespectful abusive she put me down one time we had an argument and she slam the car door on my leg i have never been abusive to a woman and as a physically fit guy she was pushing me to my breaking point i couldn't take it i decided to leave before she made me do something i would regret because one look at me and the cops would not even blink to put me away she fought hard to get the material things in mediation more than she fought to save our marriage at that point i had all the confirmation that i needed i was making the right decision like you said you cant get time wasted back but you can always replace material possessions
Where to go if we don't have anywhere to go...I have been in this neglected relationship for 21 years...he provided me with all materialistic things but no emotional love, no intimacy and no feelings of love for me, infact he flirts wd younger girls. Plz advice
@@janedias1501 my biggest fear, coming from being homeless for years as a teen and young adult was ending up that way as an adult. I've got no family to fall back on but, there are resources in your area. Is it going to be comfortable? Likely not. You may need ti let go of the material things, too. I made a decision. I was done. I'm moving into a STUDIO apartment that's 1/6th the size of our home because it's all I can afford right now and there are waiting lists for the majority of apartments. Just like you plan for a marriage or plan to buy a house, plan your separation. Put whatever money aside that you can. TRUST IN YOURSELF that you can and must do this. You're strong enough, you have everything you need inside you to survive through the initial struggle. But you can create the life and have the love you deserve if you'd allow yourself to let go of what you know, and grab hold of your next journey. Good luck, I believe in you! Sending you hugs and kindness.
Failed discussions.. yeah that one hit home. Sad when you can't even speak and when you do, your not being heard. 14 yrs..lack of engagement & neglets (paying attention to all the hints) I'm done💔
Same. Maybe we should hook up. 🤣🤷🏻♂️
Men as well!, us men are abused as well.
Yep left mine because she gets violent and verbal abusive when she drinks and gets high. I gave her two chances, but this was the 3rd or 4th incident. Men do not stay with women that want to explode and try to hurt you and become unstable. Wasted and extra year when i should have left long ago. I awoke after 3 yrs of marriage and said when.
" He" was used repeatedly because men are always the example, in majority of stories, examples, history books etc....it wasn't because only men abuse, "Dr. Testosterone". I hope you got something more than that from the video. Title states "When to quit on someone"/(a bad relationship).
Yes, men indeed are. I am grateful my ex did move out for his sake. Those words are not often said by an abuser, but that is because I genuinely do care about him, as twisted as that may sound. I unknowingly mentally and emotionally abused him. I take full responsibility for my actions even though I did not realize I was doing it and my actions ended up hurting him. I say unknowingly because it was after he left I started reflecting on all the situations he brought up as to why he left and discovered why I did what I did. I was at first angry with myself as to the why since it originated from two previous exes who left me extremely bitter. The therapy I received after those relationships was inadequate and I subconsciously held on to that bitterness only to project it onto my ex.
Hurting him is something that never ever crossed my mind, and I knew it was my responsibility to correct my behavior which brought about this hurt. I have already gone through many steps to correct my behavior because it's something I never want to do again. It will take a lot to regain his trust, and that's only if he will even give me a chance. If he does, it will also be on his time, not mine.
My heart goes out to any and all who have ever been abused, but especially to you men. Too often your gender is ignored and your pain is downplayed compared to women, and it should not be like that.
Dr. Testosterone Yes!!! They are.
yes you are ........everybody is paying some emo. debt for some reason....it's a shame we are not perfect and end up being pain of others.
So happy to know i did the right thing and LET GO. Nothing worth it is ever easy. Dont let fear keep you in your prison, set yourselves free people!
GOD BLESS
Must be pretty toxic if I searched this on TH-cam. Still learning to love myself and realizing I deserve more. Thank you sincerely....
Right there with you . I feel like people don’t understand how hard it is to leave someone that you love so much . 😻😻
My god, I’ve seen so many relationship videos but this one has given me so much clarity. She was all of these things apart from the physical abuse.
I’m worth more and glad she’s out of my life 🙌
Some ppl learn by feeling. Others by hearing. In those cases, let them feel the effects of their consequences
One of the best comments on here surprised it doesn't have more likes
Everytime I ask my boyfriend to have a discussion/conversation he either 1) half pays attention to me and never answers anything I ask and walks away or 2) wants to argue and yell saying it's the same stuff over and over again.
Its the same questions and conversations because I never got any answers to begin with
😔😔😔
I feel you on that. I just. Got out of a 3 year relationship over posting a Quote 🤦♀️.
Some men are odd. Lol communication is really important
my bf is the same 😕 nothing ever gets resolved
@@svalerie.001 yes. Its been 2 weeks and he hasnt looked for me or tried to have any type of communication with me. Lol i guess thats how much he cares
i loved him for many years but i .am tired and hurt..now time to let go
Did u leave?
Vilma Torres I am so sorry;( sexless marriage is also so bad. It’s sad.
My husband repeatedly neglects my requests for help around the house.
He doesn't have a clue of what needs to be done so I have to tell him, even though he agrees he later ends up not doing it. Even months go by and he hasn't done it.
He says I should give him reminders.
I've explained, talked, expressed how his constant neglect makes me feel disrespected, abandoned, resentful.
Still none of those work he is still being neglectful and apathetic.
I'm fed up, our house needs a lot of work, it's a fixer upper, he's also apathetic about having fun or doing something fun together.
He keeps saying it's a communication problem. Sure and I was born yesterday.
I'm seriously considering leaving I feel miserable, depressed and at my limit. His neglect is abusive.
Did you leave yet?
@@shyemma9081 No, I didn't, I gave him an ultimatum, he decided to go onto a 12 steps program and it has made a huge change for him.
@@melis6294 what is a 12 steppes program?
I think the problem is some of us don't know if we are being abused or not. For those who grew up in dysfunctional families usually accept that kind of abuse later on in life.
I love the quote from Perks of Being A Wallflower. We accept the love we think we deserve.
This video always help's when I start feeling depressed for breaking up with her.
Its a great video indeed delta
Totally understand. I feel the same way.
I just came back to watch this again for the same reason. Take care!
This is good advice from experience. As much as we may feel lonely at times. As much as we may crave affection and love at times it's better to wait for the right person who values you enough to MAKE your relationship work. The wrong person could potentially give you so may problems, issues and heartache that you will eventually be unable to be who you need to be when the right person comes along.
true
The biggest irony....how we do fall in love with a person like that in the first place??
Where have you been the last seven years of my life?! Doesn’t matter. My husband checked all the boxes, except abuse. Thank you for giving me the resolve to value myself, and let go. Truly. Thank you.
But sometimes you care about someone and the process of fixing things can cause so drama...
Wow repeated discussions. That's my issue .wasted time.
🥺 it's so hard to love someone but you can't have real conversations...
Yes it's okay to leave these mean nasty people! I am done being took advantage of and used ! I had to learn my lesson about helping others. I no longer help others !!
When u been in a 10 year or longer marriage n it was great for couple of years n then 4 years ago everything change for my life. My husband started drugs, abuse, stealing from me n our belongings, stop caring, wont get help, tried to bring other problem people in our home n cause more problems in my life. They steal n lie to n from me too. He never comes home im scared hes going to end up dead. What advice to help me not to feel bad or changing my locks, making plans for myself so i can stop hurting.
Thank U, 1st sign... I need stay away...walk away, give it to god an no Fear its not of God..
I already quit, since last year.It was a long term relationship.It was painful but pain is all part of the process.I always pray that everything will be okay.I am at peace and I am focusing myself at work and my father.Prayer helps a lot.
Broke up with my girlfriend yesterday...she appreciates nothing i do....we have an 8 month old son..whom i adore....im very good to her finanancially and am very present...she calls me honey and sweetheart etc but never thanks me for anything...she slams doors...lashes out verbally when i call her out on disrepectful situations...devalues my opinion all the time.
Does things without even consulting me on stuff regarding our son......makes arrangements without telling me...
I told her it would be nice if she consulted more with me on certain things (eh were in a relationship etc).....i dont have to ask your permission for anything was the responce...i could write a book.
Mr. Mcgregor: O.K., you broke up with her. Now, she will (hopefully) be your EX girlfriend, beginning YESTERDAY. Start referring to her, and her narcissistic behavior that way - then it will be easier to put her, and that, "in the rear view mirror."
No your wrong, been raised by a Narcissist father and married 2 narcissistic men these people only think of themselves, they are selfish, verbally abusive and need to be in control and nothing is ever their fault. It's a mental disorder.. She's never going to change because there is really know help for it. He needs to read or watch videos on Narcissistic behavior so he can make some serious decisions here .. As time goes on she will make him feel lesser of a person.. I feel sorry for him.😔
Mr Mcgregor Happy for you that you took courage to take that step.
Mr McGregor I want to read your book
Wow goin through the same exact thing!!!! Only thing I’m still tryna exit this toxic situation 🤦🏾♂️
my ex used me as a doormat too, long story short, karma paid him a visit and gave him a wife that is just like him well lets just say what goes around came right back around as for me i am very happy now living a good healthy life and thank God everyday for my life
I've noticed that when a relationship starts everything is wonderfull,
Love makes you blind to reality, I've found it takes about 2 years before you will see the real person, that's when the reality hits.
Many people I've met that were or are in toxic relationships will say the first 2 years were good and then it erodes fast, but some will try and try to get back what they had , some for 20 years or more.
If your in a relationship ship that had passed the 2 year mark and it isn't what you had, isn't what you want it's time to leave, it won't get better, it will never be what it was. If your thinking about it, it's time to go,
It's just a matter of how much more of your life are you going to waste chasing something the really never was.
Agree
Every new broom sweeps good. Usually there are red flags way before 2 yrs, I think anyway. But most people ignore it. You click or you don’t. 🤷♀️
I wish I had never met him 37 years later
I agree with this
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Respect - if it’s no longer there, it’s done. If there’s lying, it’s done. If there’s no romance, it’s done. If they’re hiding something from you, it’s done. And if there’s no more love, it’s done! Don’t pretend, get out soon as you already have a feeling. Don’t let this take years because it will only repeat itself. Trust me, it happened to me and was married for more than 20 years. And yes! It took me all those years. So don’t be like me, get out sooner. Good luck!
Thank you
Yes, that is my story too.
22 years for me. Knew I should leave at 9. Don’t waste your life! You can’t get those years back.
Please make a video on " How to deal with inconsistent friends "
im pretty sure teh answer is to leave them. I have a friend who i feel i am last priority and it suxs...
Yeah, I mean, you can't change them. You could discuss it with them, but ultimately you're just going to have to accept that they have other priorities in life. If you're not okay with it you should leave. But don't expect them to change.
I loved my “best friend” for 15 years. He loved that I loved him and took me for thousands and thousands. And I let him. 2 days no contact. Pray for me.
Cut your losses. They will only get worse. They thrive on disrespect and their egos grow as they diminish you. And because they are a ‘friend ‘ you give the benefit of doubt. Never accept any so called friends treating you worse than you would accept from your other half. And always delete their number just in case you call them by accident.
Also, I would add, never lend money however genuine their need. There are banks for that. You will find they don’t pay you back and you will end up angry and disappointed. Most people price friendships extremely low on their list of priorities.
One of the best ,most honest videos on TH-cam! Thank you
This is the Most HELPFUL NON-SUGARCOATED NEEDFUL ADVICE!!!! THANK You very much!!💙
My dad died and in the period of grieving I love saying good things about him because my Dad was a really good man...my boyfriend on the other hand comes and says I'm praising him too much he's a man too and his only saying it out of jealousy which to him is out of love ...I feel like that's a deal breaker for me
What.hugs
I had a good daddy too I know where you're saying and how it feels so sorry I didn't gave my children a good daddy like I had
I am feeling the heavy weight in my heart that this going to have to happen. It's taking a toll on my health . This is so hard :(
Zac Nunya I’m very sorry for your loss. It’s painful, we know.
Be strong, better days will come, and have to come because now you know how bad your relationship was, you also know how good a relationship can be, so you can for sure rebuild better and newer relationships
@@xavierlopez6545 time heals mate, I know, I'm going thru same sh.t.
tony montana
Sometimes it seems like we all need to go through a bad relationship to get to the good ones Better days will come
Zac Nunya that weight will go away, getting out of a toxic relationship can be healing from the moment you do it, I look and feel younger since leaving, and other people had had similar results, the heavy weight wasn’t put their by you, though by removing it, you can become really empowered
I actually left after watching this
How are you since you left ?
Good for you
Yolie still hurts
@@nicolestafford7988 Don’t give up
I hope it gets better sooner rather than later
If you are watching this, please take a moment to look up the definitions of the different types of abuse. I had no idea the level of abuse that I was experiencing after many years of marriage. ... Thank you, Brendon, for your advice and affirmation.
Emily Roman, you got a pretty smile ☺️🤙
Emily Roman, Hope you are not with a narcissist cause you are too beautiful!
Emily Roman,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷🌹,you only deserve to be with a good man!!
The world is full of great people. Yes, and more people of integrity are entering my life so it's helping me to really establish this belief for my life.
Abuse is never acceptable. Thank you for this video. I just really hope I can take away the pain.
Happiness is not the mere absence of abuse. You deserve a life atmosphere of happiness and joy.
Angela Blackthorne, you look stunning 🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🌷🌺 🌺
Oscar Williamson Thank you
@@angelablackthorne3026 you are welcome my dearest 🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🥀🌹 🌹🥀🌺.I'm Oscar Williamson from Alabama,Usa.You?
Whoever is going to read my comment, i request you, yes you to please find your own faults too. Sometimes we are really crazy to have rather than giving. But true love is about the both.
Thank you.
Amrita Saha so true, my husband is leaving me and I’ve been devastated now I find out why he is and I never realised I was part of the problem till now, and it’s now to late.
@@karinpellaers6897 i am so sotrry... :(
Very true.
I like the answer about switching numbers in phones- but that means they actually have that persons number saved or you know who the person is in their phone. But if you do have access to their phone- use a key-logger- I don’t know which to suggest- but I have used 2, but you have to research and research to find a good one and they cost money- but, if you want to know everything they type on their phone, their social media and app usage and their geographic location- the 2nd one I used also had a call recorder and a microphone tapper- which would send a secret text to his phone and then give me listening access to his surroundings. I know- I was crazy for a brief moment in life and realized I didn’t need to torture myself trying to play detective, and I cut him loose. He has since admitted to one infidelity accidentally or maybe on purpose because he wanted to try to hurt me, either way I was indifferent. Back to spying- I did this when I realized chunks of texts between his female boss and him missing from his phone- and he had recently told me she was in trouble at work for snap chatting with the male employees, not him, but others (yeah, right) her avoiding me at the Christmas party was very evident, I mean skin crawling evident. Anyways, you need access to his phone for about 5-10 minutes. TO CATCH ANYONE RED HANDED HIRE Tischler TRACKANDSPYCELL.ORG
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wish everyone to achieve their goals, fulfill who they are meant to be, & succeed in life! Greetings from Los Angeles but don't be cheated and if you got cheated or ever lost your acct, reach out to that dude.
wish everyone to achieve their goals, fulfill who they are meant to be, & succeed in life! Greetings from Los Angeles but don't be cheated and if you got cheated or ever lost your acct, reach out to that dude.
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so much has happened in my last relationship that i just looked at myself in the mirror and i didnt like the person i saw. I was so depressed and had so much going on in my life that i just needed to be told i will be ok but when the person who you thought loved you talks bad about you and tells you constantly that your a bad person it took a toll on me and i had to get out of the relationship. when i heard a conversation about how im not a good person because i dont do what im told i had to take back my peace of mind and i never felt to low in my life. I look at myself now and i know im getting better. No more feeling sorry for things ending Im glad it did. Peace and blessings to all
People need to understand one thing - the source of most misfortune, the source of poverty lies in negative people and their influence... my best advice is to cut negative people forever and focus only on your goals... after you reach your goals try to find friends but remember that it is almost impossible to find real friends while pursuing goals... seems really impossible to me... I have done more in one year than in 10 simply because I have cut away negative people...
Winter Northener yes! Agreed!!
Maybe the problem is using bad people as they problem.
Many people are going to break up after watching this video 😂😂
Sankalp's World 😂😂
Sankalp's World no they are not they are gonna be free from guilt
And that's not a bad thing if the relationship is unhealthy...
Sankalp's World facts
Sankalp's World or get broken up lol
No man is worth downgrading your self esteem or value system.Period. Stay Strong!
The worst breakups are those we spend while still hanging onto what you thought you two were...then to make it worse, they gaslight you into believing you're the one who "changed". 😪
Literally went through this a couple days ago
Ashley McCoy, I was engaged 💍 to a Narcissist for 5 years and never knew what that was. I was FUTURE FAKED. Gaslighted, and used for money. I finally left him and needed Therapy. My Therapist told me about the narc, and she survived one after 18 years. Thank God I found out when I did! He rebounded and married his rebound in 2 weeks. This was 11 years ago and I never saw him again.
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very true. many may not want to hear this but they need to take heed.
Monique Zmuda,Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!!
I'm in a bad relationship atm. He is verbally abusive to me. He doesnt respect me. He doesn't appreciate what I do for him. I decided I am going to leave today for two days and come back with my mother to talk to him. If he doesn't change, I am done. I know I am very weak. It hurts just thinking about it. I always make excuses for him... i hope I find the strength to let him go.
Sending you so much strength ❤️🙌
Elise Og how did it go?
Same thing....
He has now promised me that he is not gonnna be like that again.
Hopping for the best and giving him one last chance😑
Prayers for you
My dear, if someone would have put their arm around me and told me I am worth more than I am being treated I would still not listen to them, because that's what I did. I felt that my love and respect was going to help our relationship. What I learned, My dear, he employs much manipulation upon you, however his promises are hollow and he only "wants to change" to get you to change for his benefit.
Stop! Once you walk away stay away. Please!!! It's called going no contact. If there is any indication of abuse, it will only get worse when he comes back. Good luck and stay strong. Take care of your beautiful soul.
Emotional Stinginess is worst in a relationship. It's natural to expect appreciation and recognition, without such family members, you feel like dead inside
I agree. This guy I traveled more than 19hrs for, spent €4K all my own on the trip, surprised him on his birthday and I didn't even hear a single thank you or any hint of appreciation. He even asked me to pay for fuel on a short trip. Wow. Glad I left
Everyone should listen to this because all of us will experience an abusive relationship once in our lives. I understand that it's hard to give up on someone that you really love, but you also need to think of yourselves because a toxic relationship will never do good to your life.