Which boundary right resonated the most with you? What are you looking forward to trying? Download the guide to reference all of your boundary rights + ideas on how to embody them: www.terricole.com/10-boundary-practices-guide + join my membership for Q&As with moi: terricole.com/tcm ❤
When my grown daughter blocked my parents from her life, I remember the thought "you can do that"? 😂 It started my journey of seeing whats been happening to my family. She pulled the curtain open and has freed me from the shackles they put on me. It's been brutal road but I am choosing me now.
I honestly don’t know how to thank you 🙏, you are such an inspiration and role model Terry. I bought your book BOUNDARY BOSS I love it!!! Keep being hope for people 🫶🏽❤️
As I grew up with aperfectionist father, I also thought once I said yes to something, I wasnt allowed to change my mind if the activity or job made me uncomfortable. I was raised to be stoical not self compassionate. Thank you, Teri for illuminating my path.
#3- always letting other people make the decision, decide where to eat, etc... has led me to not know what I actually want!! Very disconnected from myself & what I want/like with all the self abandoning. Surprising to me, it was very hard to feel my voice in my life. Very uncomfortable realization!
I am witnessing you with so much compassion and holding space for your discomfort, Tracy ❤️ You're not alone. I've found this is true with a lot of my therapy clients and even students in my courses. It's a journey to get to know ourselves again!
I blocked my father's number on my phone three weeks ago because he's a serial boundary breaker. I'm also consciously reconnecting with my needs and feelings now that my mother is in palliative care because I choose quality time with her rather than seeing her more than I'd like and feeling resentful afterwards. How about that Terri? You have helped me tremendously to get there, so thank you for your incredible work.
Due to your clear content here, i have zero doubt how to define my problem and the fact that I *really am* in recovery from a way of being that in large part harmed me.
Thanks Terri 😊. After my first read of “Too Much” I am now starting to process how I show up in life. I have been very aware of others’ side of the street after your recent “Father Wound” program. I do have a few relationships that I need to change or discontinue and I am noticing more self respect when I am more authentic, leading to more intimacy with those I choose to be a VIP. ♥️
Thank you Terri for another insightful video. Would you and your team be able to do a short video on self care during these California wildfires? The stories are truly heartbreaking. How are you taking care of you? You are always an answer to prayer. Thank you.
We are gathering resources and hoping to put together a page with a few meditations to offer during this time ❤️ My One Love meditation might help: www.terricole.com/one-love-meditation/ and I have ideas on self-soothing in this video: th-cam.com/video/B3TvegfnVg8/w-d-xo.html I also try to stick to my boundary of only reading the news as watching videos is too much for me. I am sending all my love to those impacted. It is so awful, heartbreaking and scary ❤️❤️
Heelo Terri! I carry the Boundary Bill of Rights with me. It helps me just about ewvery day! I practice saying them. I feel empowered when I can take care of myse;lf especially with my 3 siblings. Thank you so much! It was so empowering when I said: I would like to make a simple request, please don't speak to me like an 8 year old child, it hurts my feeelings. My brother apoligized to me - - WOW!!
I have given careful consideration as to who is in my VIP section. There are a few in there who trigger me sometimes, but I'm willing to give them a pass, consciously, because of how much they did for me in my life. I do not allow any toxic people into my space anymor, and I feel the happiest I've ever been in my life. Ok, it took 65 years, but still😂
So glad it was helpful! ❤️ I've got suggestions for how to craft your own scripts in The Boundary Boss Workbook- the language used would depend on what you're looking for from the relationship. What level of closeness do you want? What boundary would help the relationship feel less draining? What are you ultimately looking for from the other person (less frequent contact, or shorter conversations)? Considering those factors will help.
Thank you so much!!!! Going to find that workbook now. Thank you so much for helping me with boundaries and to stop being codependent and then blame others 🙊🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I returned to my old neighborhood to be near my daughter after 20 years absence from my parents and it's too close to having too many flashbacks and I want to see them briefly but the same meal mind existed in a ticket deteriorating body I don't want to help because of the mouth that's within it in the mind that still so cruel and cold
I think maybe a functioning HFC's have to be supported in their roles. I think some here don't feel they are (at least me) because the part of us that went the extra miles and went out of our way lost it. Shut down. Someone between that and Bill of Rights. If your in suffering in a relationship or what you thought was one you are in a state of rejection. Our needs are stated and rejected. Our opinion means nothing. What I did I did because I was provided what was expected but becoming selfless became a demand.
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️ I have a whole chapter dedicated to what I call Boundary Destroyers in Boundary Boss because there is a different dynamic present there.
Which boundary right resonated the most with you? What are you looking forward to trying? Download the guide to reference all of your boundary rights + ideas on how to embody them: www.terricole.com/10-boundary-practices-guide + join my membership for Q&As with moi: terricole.com/tcm ❤
When my grown daughter blocked my parents from her life, I remember the thought "you can do that"? 😂 It started my journey of seeing whats been happening to my family. She pulled the curtain open and has freed me from the shackles they put on me. It's been brutal road but I am choosing me now.
So amazing ❤️❤️
Thanks Terri! Youre a light in my life. The markers you give are so clear, giving us clarity. ❤
That makes me so happy to hear 💕
I honestly don’t know how to thank you 🙏, you are such an inspiration and role model Terry. I bought your book BOUNDARY BOSS I love it!!! Keep being hope for people 🫶🏽❤️
Thank you so much, Darren ❤❤ That means a lot!
What resonates most is not sharing my feelings not to burden others, but feeling lonely afterwards.. and saying no not to disappoint others.
I see you, Miriam ❤️❤️
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As I grew up with aperfectionist father, I also thought once I said yes to something, I wasnt allowed to change my mind if the activity or job made me uncomfortable. I was raised to be stoical not self compassionate. Thank you, Teri for illuminating my path.
That makes so much sense. Thank you for sharing ❤️
"What feels authentic and what feels performative"
Thank you Terri❤
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#3- always letting other people make the decision, decide where to eat, etc... has led me to not know what I actually want!! Very disconnected from myself & what I want/like with all the self abandoning. Surprising to me, it was very hard to feel my voice in my life. Very uncomfortable realization!
I am witnessing you with so much compassion and holding space for your discomfort, Tracy ❤️ You're not alone. I've found this is true with a lot of my therapy clients and even students in my courses. It's a journey to get to know ourselves again!
It seemed easier to let others decide to avoid conflicts, to keep the peace. But then we dont get what we want
Exactly!
Thank you so much for this very important work, Terri! Wish I had learned this sooner, but never too late!😌🙏💯❤️
Definitely never too late! 💕
I blocked my father's number on my phone three weeks ago because he's a serial boundary breaker. I'm also consciously reconnecting with my needs and feelings now that my mother is in palliative care because I choose quality time with her rather than seeing her more than I'd like and feeling resentful afterwards. How about that Terri? You have helped me tremendously to get there, so thank you for your incredible work.
That warms my heart to know 💕💕 Way to go!!
Happy New Year 🥂🥳 Terri. I'm so deeply grateful 🙏🏻 for you. Boundaries are huge for me and I always feel guilty setting them.
I have an episode about boundary guilt as it's so common: th-cam.com/video/Yf8r5uYQABI/w-d-xo.html ❤️
EXACTLY the message and encouragement the universe and God knew I needed. Thank you you amazing soul, Terri Cole! 💖✨
I'm so glad it resonated ❤️❤️
Hello dear Terri. I'm a new follower. Thank you for your work and sharings. Quite encouraging and empowering ❤
Welcome, I'm glad you found your way here and are enjoying my videos ❤️
Due to your clear content here, i have zero doubt how to define my problem and the fact that I *really am* in recovery from a way of being that in large part harmed me.
I am so glad to hear you're in recovery ❤️❤️
Terri, you are always so insightful and helpful. I appreciate you very much!! Thank you!
Right back at you ❤️❤️
Just bought your book on Audibles ❤😊
I hope you enjoy 💕💕
Thanks Terri 😊. After my first read of “Too Much” I am now starting to process how I show up in life. I have been very aware of others’ side of the street after your recent “Father Wound” program. I do have a few relationships that I need to change or discontinue and I am noticing more self respect when I am more authentic, leading to more intimacy with those I choose to be a VIP. ♥️
Amazing, Paula 🙌🙌🙌 So glad to hear that ❤️
Thanks for the reminder and the connection you build with HFC and boundaries 🙏🏼
Thanks for watching ❤️
@@terri_cole ❤️
Thank you Terri for another insightful video. Would you and your team be able to do a short video on self care during these California wildfires? The stories are truly heartbreaking. How are you taking care of you? You are always an answer to prayer. Thank you.
We are gathering resources and hoping to put together a page with a few meditations to offer during this time ❤️ My One Love meditation might help: www.terricole.com/one-love-meditation/ and I have ideas on self-soothing in this video: th-cam.com/video/B3TvegfnVg8/w-d-xo.html I also try to stick to my boundary of only reading the news as watching videos is too much for me.
I am sending all my love to those impacted. It is so awful, heartbreaking and scary ❤️❤️
❤❤. 💯. 👍. 👏👏👏 THANK YOU. New member & have Too Much-so relevant, useful,supportive!!
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As always, excellent!!❤
Glad you enjoyed it ❤️
@ I have been for several years and will continue to do so. Bravo!
I know that I have this thing about the suffering in the world.
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Heelo Terri! I carry the Boundary Bill of Rights with me. It helps me just about ewvery day! I practice saying them. I feel empowered when I can take care of myse;lf especially with my 3 siblings. Thank you so much! It was so empowering when I said: I would like to make a simple request, please don't speak to me like an 8 year old child, it hurts my feeelings. My brother apoligized to me - - WOW!!
Amazing, Linda 💕 Way to go! 🙌
Free to be me ❤
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Thank you 🫶🤍♾️
You're welcome ❤️
❤❤thanks!!
You're so welcome ❤️
Your short haircut is adorable.
I have given careful consideration as to who is in my VIP section. There are a few in there who trigger me sometimes, but I'm willing to give them a pass, consciously, because of how much they did for me in my life. I do not allow any toxic people into my space anymor, and I feel the happiest I've ever been in my life. Ok, it took 65 years, but still😂
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This episode is AMAZING! Thank you so much!! Do you have language we can say to people who want to be in the VIP section but they are draining?
So glad it was helpful! ❤️ I've got suggestions for how to craft your own scripts in The Boundary Boss Workbook- the language used would depend on what you're looking for from the relationship. What level of closeness do you want? What boundary would help the relationship feel less draining? What are you ultimately looking for from the other person (less frequent contact, or shorter conversations)? Considering those factors will help.
Thank you so much!!!! Going to find that workbook now. Thank you so much for helping me with boundaries and to stop being codependent and then blame others 🙊🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
It's at boundarybossworkbook.com for anyone interested, and you're so welcome 💕💕
I returned to my old neighborhood to be near my daughter after 20 years absence from my parents and it's too close to having too many flashbacks and I want to see them briefly but the same meal mind existed in a ticket deteriorating body I don't want to help because of the mouth that's within it in the mind that still so cruel and cold
I think maybe a functioning HFC's have to be supported in their roles. I think some here don't feel they are (at least me) because the part of us that went the extra miles and went out of our way lost it. Shut down. Someone between that and Bill of Rights. If your in suffering in a relationship or what you thought was one you are in a state of rejection.
Our needs are stated and rejected. Our opinion means nothing.
What I did I did because I was provided what was expected but becoming selfless became a demand.
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️ I have a whole chapter dedicated to what I call Boundary Destroyers in Boundary Boss because there is a different dynamic present there.
@terri_cole Thank you. ♥️
I love 'Boundary Boss', I passed it on to my youngest daughter to read. 🙌🏼
I hope she gets a lot out of it! 💕
'Your preferences matter' except when an evil mother in law meddles in your life.