How do Babies respond to optical illusions .if their brains don't have an expectation. And doesn't uncanny valley show our brains are actually good at detecting fakeness
I'm gonna be honest here Joe, I don't think I really have a most embarrassing moment that I can recall but one memory that I have where I was really embarrassed was when I through a rock no more the size of a grain of sand at a pregnant woman's belly. I was like maybe 5 or 6 at the time and I remember thinking to myself "what have I done!?" as Anakin Skywalker did in Star Wars Episode III Revenge of the Sith. Man, that wasn't very pleasant and I have never done anything like that since then just to set the record straight.
True. I went to high school with a guy who was, apparently, incapable of embarrassment. He may also have been a sociopath, but he was highly intelligent and one of those people who only needs five hours of sleep per night. He's now a very wealthy real estate mogul, but could just as easily have wound up in prison or murdered, due to the huge number of people he pissed off.
🔸Some societies have used peer pressure and embarrassment to make us conform. Antisemitism in World War 2 Germany is a sad example of people being trained to be antisemitic. Good manners and getting along with others are good things for society But good manners don’t mean that you always follow what the crowd determines acceptable if it is not good.
Btw, it’s not normal to feel embarrassed for just existing in this world. That’s how I feel any time I’m in public. Social anxiety and the feeling of being embarrassed just by being out there lol. I hate myself so much.
Doing "embarassing" or scary things over and over but willing to do what you want in you heart builds a mental muscle.... is called having courage. The courage to be yourself.
I was at the checkout in the grocery store and the cashier had done her hair in a really pretty way and I wanted to tell her it was nice so I said "I love the way you did your hair today! It's really pretty!" Well she looked at me super weirdly and goes "Have we met before or something? I don't know you" I didn't realize the way I said that implied I knew her.. I made it worse by trying to explain myself and laugh it off but she was super uncomfortable and I sounded like a creepy stalker. I wanted to turn invisible
That's on the cashier... she could have just replied, "Thank you, so nice of you to say that" without becoming self-righteously indignant. Then, what do I know, I'm basically a old fuddy-duddy Biden boomer at this point.
Depending on her tone, her response could be interpreted as her feeling like she did know you and feel close to you. Sucks having to explain yourself in response but maybe "I don't think so, just thought I'd say that" or something like that. In a world where people stifle compliments and kind words, people are not used to receiving honest compliments
Ah..... What a terrible reaction she had to that. I think I would die inside for a good minute or so if someone said this to me after simply giving a lighthearted compliment.
It's because you said you loved the way she did her hair "today", that makes it sound like you have seen her on more than one occasion instead of just saying. "Hey, I like your hair". Maybe it came off as overly pandering too.
@@royalfamily5531 Just do it! Worse thing that can happen is people laughing at you. Which means you've enlightened their boring days of not doing anything embarrassing at all costs - so you can be proud of your previous embarrassment as it's a public service or some what. Once you pop you'll never stop. You'll conquer your life one day, mate! :)
@12:58 - that's the real problem with modern 'embarrassment' - it's actively used by people to constrain and force others. I can no longer agree to any model that talks only of the passive mechanics of childish embarrassment. It's a damn weapon of pressure used by people to make other people feel shitty and below them, both individually and class-based.
@@tata-i5l The title of the video literally calls it "good for you," which becomes increasingly untrue as your social identity gets further from "fiscally-secure white abled neurotypical straight cis man." Taking issue with a demonstrably harmful *framing* is not the same as calling the phenomenon itself "villainous." ANY value judgement is unsound, not just the negative one. Success is not goodness.
@@akhragee Embarrassment is used to reinforce social norms and punish anything that violates those social norms. There's a huge range of social behavior. Humans life is very complex. That being said, if you're part of tiny fringe group minority, then get ready for some embarrassment. Unusual and abnormal behavior isn't always accepted or praised by the group.
Humans society has always had a social hierarchy. Did you actually think you could sit down at a birthday party for someone you don't even know? That would be embarrassing because it violates social rules. You don't have membership in that group, you don't have status and you'd be seen as an outsider. You agree to thousands of different social terms and you definitely feel embarrassed when some of those rules are broken. Everyone believes in class and status based systems. How would you like it if the new rookie got paid and promoted instead of you? Lol
In modern society a lot of people are trying to emotionally manipulate the other‘s.. that‘s a really big problem.., but yeah what ya wanna do abt it like abt all these other global issues🤷🏽♂️
We like strong individuals, when you look at a strong and confident person it gives you a sense of relief i think if you trace this feeling in evolution it's because strong person can be a good support, so because of this,a weak person that do mistakes gives us a bad feeling, when somebody do an embarrassing thing it looks to us they are losers and unreliable, we need strong people to increase iur survival rate, so we don't like mistakes, and when people don't like mistakes so you don't want to do mistakes to apear good to them and they accept you, maybe the evolution origin of embarrassment is because of this
I experienced the biggest load of embarrassment in my second year of high school, I was bullied for unknown reasons, I was there just for studying, but people didn't want to be my friend.
istg bullies are the worst. they don't even need a clear reason to pick on someone, they just make up any reason for the sake of being mean. i figured that out when i was bullied for wearing a straw hat and watching a cartoon at 14 😂✌️
@@SolaceEasy In the Platonic sense of real, perhaps emotions do not exist beyond our thoughts and perceptions. But the same thing could be said about spatial dimensions; they may not exist beyond our perception. Still, this 'grid of space,' much like emotions, describes the world around us well. That said, I do not see the connection to her arguments. Might you clarify?
as a person who felt exactly like this for most of their life: this is not normal and it can ruin your life!! pls consider getting help somehow if you haven't already!! to me personally getting therapy helped, also studying psychology a bit, and getting into improv. plus there's a book that helped me a lot, i think it's called "the antidote: happiness for people who can't stand positive thinking". it has some questionable takes, but handles the embarrassment and social anxiety topic very well. have a great day! 💗
I was eating a watermelon on a school night and there was a bee that stung my inside cheek, I looked like I had a jawbreaker on my cheek, my mom made me go to school and the teacher pulled me to the front and told me to spit out my gum.. I just wanted to go home
I'd learned at a very young age: if you defeat this emotion, life will become much simpler. BTW: We all know Austin is the weird part of Texas, so it shouldn't be so embarrassing :v
@Don Za for me, I simply do things out of my comfort zone, not too extreme. Such things as wearing clothes that I am embaressed to wear, or go to the gym. I also train myself to have a not givivng a f*ck mindset, I basically manipulate myself to think in a way that time passes quick and anything I have done does not matter ^embaressing thing^ One of the best ways of training your self in my experience (I have thought this to someone else and it does work guarantee.
Same. When I was a little kid, I realized that I was feeling this "emotion", and I deemed it unnecessary. The way I dealt with it was just ignoring its existence. Eventually I didn't feel it much, or even at all. Same goes for shyness. I deemed that unnecessary, and now here I am, a carefree behavior, lol.
13:35 I often forget that others have uncomfortable feeling too. When both parties are honest and open (very difficult) it can lead to closer feelings of connection : D
Funny enough. 8:50 I did learn about this at school in romania. We did learn about the dramatic genre for writings and we had as example a famous comedy from our country called "A lost letter". Anyway, while learning about that comedy I learned about a latin quote which was defining the main purpose of comedy and it went like "ridendo castigat mores", which means by laughing we correct our mistakes. This quote was back since the roman era and it proves that the comedy we learned took inspiration from the classical era. I actually learned stuff at school lol.
I wonder if the editor of this video will be embarrassed if it's pointed out that whilst direct faces in the background were often blurred... the reflections in shop windows weren't ?
and nowadays being an outcast is not that big of a deal in many places. We can connect on such a vast scale, that there will always be somebody who will accept you. If you wear your shoes in my house (germany) I would also tell you to take off the shoes you walk in on the dirty streets o.o ...and give you house shoes.
My embarrassment has taught me to just avoid all other humans because all actions are wrong and harmful, which is probably making me a better human I guess.
Definitely agree from this conclusion. As it does correlate towards empathy I also think it brings a question out of people and make them angry with those acts of integrity. I also think there’s this idea that people think either too little or too high for themselves and which falls in line for how we express ourselves and where that usually lands. Thank you for this video I grew up thinking about this a lot.
Sometimes I like being awkward or cringe. It’s… Idk, it’s kind of refreshing because we’re so stuck up in these rules of society. It gives me an adrenaline rush and puts me out of my comfort zone which then makes me feel like I can do things if I want to. And, it’s somewhat also a bonding emotion. Everyone can relate to being awkward or having embarrassing or cringe moments. It’s authentic. Sooo, I just laugh it off and I am fine with it. I embrace awkward moments. …as long as it’s not hurting anyone ofc Oh and sometimes I love being awkward to see others absolutely cringe because of it. It’s fun ;) I have a friend who at lunchtime gets really loud and even stands up to point at someone sitting at our table. He’s making a bit of a fool of himself and obviously other people then look at us. Most of us then get awkward or we just start laughing like crazy because it’s somehow so ridiculous. It’s great bonding and it’s always fun with that dude :).
Embarrassment: A bad feeling in response to deviating from the social norm designed to encourage appropriate behaviour in order to avoid social rejection.
I'm on the spectrum and so don't naturally understand the social norm so don't feel embarrassment. This leads to allot of socially inappropriate behaviour resulting in social rejection.
@@SolaceEasy people judge others wether you like it or not. You can't just go for the "I don't care what people think of me at all" since it won't benefit you long term and it can make you unlikebale. Opinions are everywhere but that's not a reason to act like we don't care about them
And one of the potential rewards for buying the NFT is dinner with the guy, which he gave to a ɪnsɑne ʜɨtleɾ-loving rapper and some ʜoloçɑust Dɛnɨeɾ he apparently doesn't even know about for without them having to buy anything....
I was at the gym today and resting between sets - I took out my phone to check off things in my workout app and a woman came up to me and scolded me for using the popular machine I was sitting at as a texting bench. Suddenly it felt like everyone was looking at me and I just stood up, went into my car, and drove home. Wish I had thicker skin :(
I know not everything is a Rick and Morty reference. But man is it hard to see someone walking around in a pickle suit and not think "I'm pickle Rick!!!!!"
Yet another example where my Autism (and to some extent egotism) kind of makes me an outlier here, is up until my early teens I was actually incapable of feeling embarrassment (I'd do really stupid things like moon strangers in public and shout out in class that I pooped my pants), and instead of feeling embarrassed when I was told that's not appropriate I instead felt confused or even angry for being told I was doing something wrong. Even later on in my life instances where I felt genuine embarrassment are so few and far between that I can't even name one off the top of my head. And even THEN the embarrassment always is swiftly replaced by another less-social emotion, like anger (wanting to blame someone or something else and/or getting super defensive), paranoia (the feeling that I will be physically attacked or punished in some way by an uncaring malevolent society) or guilt (recognizing that something I did actually hurt someone and that I probably shouldn't do it ever again.) Even now, watching you walk around in that pickle costume, I was thinking "Hey, neat. It's like Halloween or ComicCon. I wish more people would cosplay all the time." Probably helps that I'm a furry and if anyone has a problem with me walking around as a giant Pikachu, well that's their problem. If me being myself is "rocking the boat" than that boat can go hit an iceberg and I'll find my own boat. A boat populated by fellow furries and neurodivergents who aren't afraid to show each other EXACTLY who we are up-front.
Or sometimes embarrassment leads you to eventually fear ALL social interaction and suffer from crippling social anxiety. 😢 Love your vidoes! One of my top 10 YT favorites!
If people who readily admit mistakes and don't get embarrassed easily are also considered humble then does that make people who are easily embarrassed less humble? Maybe being more forgiving towards ourselves and others defeats the tyranny of societal pressures.
@@ChemistTea How can we trust our innate emotional reactions? For example, we're more likely to empathize with a box of kittens than a box of lizards even if those cats will wipe out defenseless native species in Hawaii drastically reducing biodiversity.
@@dangerfly I suppose our innate emotional reactions are more relevant to our immediate safety, kittens are less likely to kill you then lizards. But I don't think you can trust those when dealing with more global issues, like the natural balance of the ecosystem. And there have been examples where people relied on good feelings and by doing so brought about great destruction such as wiping out entire species.
@@ChemistTea Emotions come from the core-like limbic system in contrast to the prefrontal cortex responsible for planning. I've always assumed having life-preserving emotional reflexes closer to the stem is better for faster danger avoidance. We're smooshing dog snouts (pugs/bulldogs) to the point that they have breathing issues. I'd argue it's our empathy that causes us to prioritize neoteny to this degree. What do you think?
"Embarrassment gets (and keeps) people in line..." Our social chains aren't necessarily a good nor bad thing. On one hand, it keeps people from accidentally or intentionally harming others esp in extreme cases. On the other, it prevents intellectual and creative geniuses from flourishing.
Fantastic episode. Love the vicarious emotions, that's often the ones that creep in the most, and no matter how much I tell my self not to give so much of a crap about what others think, they're always at the back of the mind lingering like a dodgy fart...
In the middle-age zone and I'm slowly noticing the whole "you care less as you get older" thing more... and I sooooo wanna reach the point where I can go out in public and not care about how I look.. or smell.. or act..!!
I believe that because at some certain point in your life, you have already experienced enough embarrassment to know which things you should avoid and which things you can just do without the public caring.
All I can say is This ep started, with Joe walking around Austin in a pickle suit, and my FIRST THOUGHT was "if my dad shows up in this I'm going to expire" (HIGHLY UNLIKELY)
Absolutely. Can't believe they didn't talk about this particular aspect of shame despite that one interviewee literally talking about his experience with being bullied.
I wouldn’t mind if you made a video explaining something like how epilepsy works? What makes the person jitter and shake? You don’t let someone go to sleep after they hit their head, but you have to let someone go to sleep immediately after a seizure? What can cause it to start happening to someone who never had the problem before? Why haven’t doctors found a way to heal it? Or even find the cause for it normally? How long has it been acknowledged as a disability or medical/ neurological problem? I know at least 3 people with epilepsy but the doctors I’ve talked to are busy and give quick answers I just never understand. You make things easier to understand and more fun to learn. I’d love to learn more about it. But mostly because I am one of those three people and I wanna know why and how about my problem. It might end up helping my other friends too.
i live in austin . . . this makes me wish i regularly went downtown just on the off chance i’d been around to see you walking around in that pickle suit 😂
It's why a lot of guys will get drunk before they'll dance. What about explaining the deep meaning of a song's lyrics, and then realising you got them completely wrong. Thankfully, it does seem to wear off a bit as you get older.
I did a LOT of work on positive psych and empathy during my Master's. I would have gone straight for the "Social behavior is an evolutionary advantage" answer for why we feel embarrassment. We are so hardwired for empathy that it's just WILD. Sympathetic embarrassment is just one example but there are dozens of others.
Pain is also a good thing that helps us avoid harming our bodies, which can lead to a decrease in the quality and shortening of our lives. But when pain is manipulated to force us to do things that are harmful to us and not beneficial, it becomes bad. Likewise with shame, when it is misused, the harm from shame outweighs its potential benefits.
Well done, Pickle Hank. I see simple emotions as the language with which our bodies communicate to our minds to do something. Complex emotions like embarrassment are more layered, a communication from the mind to either itself or the body to do something. Errata: Joe, not Hank. Sorry Joe. (thanks to Vince)
@@vincelamb4063 Joe and Hank, have a friendly competition going on for a while. For example ; Joe, has said directly to the camera " try debunking this, Hank " regarding something he ( Joe) was explaining. Just saying !
11:55 omg I basically had this EXACT embarrassing situation lol. My bf is Japanese and the first time I went to Japan and met his parents I obviously took my shoes off at his house, I was completely aware. His mom then invited me to her studio and dumb ole me completely forgot about my shoes. I guess I subconsciously had the thought in my head that it was technically a workspace so I went on autopilot? Idk but when my boyfriend was like “umm shoes…” I literally felt like I was going to pass out, throw up, or both lol.
After Rick and Morty...this can not be embarrassing... It's Pickle Joe!...hey everyone, I turned myself into a pickle! Why anyone would want to do this, which they can't, is that they could...which they can't............. Wait, did you do this to get out of family counseling?🤔
I think feeling embarrassment shows how much we care of what others think of us. I know when I was a kid I felt embarrassed a lot, and back then I also cared way too much of what others thought of me. Now as an adult, it’s been around 8 years since I last felt embarrassed, and I think it’s mainly because I don’t care as much about what others think of me anymore. I’ve been told I’m awkward a few times by different people, and instead of feeling embarrassed when they said this, I was just perplexed and curious as to what made them say that. It bothered me in the sense that it was just random and confusing, but it didn’t bother me in a way that made me want to find out why they said that lol
I agree with you, but I also feel that as a kid we are all likely to go though embarrassing moments because it’s our first time navigating the world and it’s social rules. Kids will make lots of mistakes in the world as they try to understand it
Love it! Can you do one on the emotion of shame? While it’s very similar to that feeling of embarrassment, there’s something about shame that’s somehow even worse.
So what’s your most embarrassing moment? 😂
How do Babies respond to optical illusions .if their brains don't have an expectation. And doesn't uncanny valley show our brains are actually good at detecting fakeness
I'm gonna be honest here Joe, I don't think I really have a most embarrassing moment that I can recall but one memory that I have where I was really embarrassed was when I through a rock no more the size of a grain of sand at a pregnant woman's belly. I was like maybe 5 or 6 at the time and I remember thinking to myself "what have I done!?" as Anakin Skywalker did in Star Wars Episode III Revenge of the Sith. Man, that wasn't very pleasant and I have never done anything like that since then just to set the record straight.
Man it's so embarrassing I can't even find the words to describe it :")
probably any of my "thought" based work in my early 20s.
Let's just say I couldn't keep dinner in my stomach
Seriously respect for this guy AND his camera crew 😂
plot twist. no camera crew, he ask random people to hold the camera
This is one of this channels best videos. The emotion of embarrassment is so universal yet when experiencing this emotion, we all feel so alone.
Would y'all quit saying we? And then get over it?
@@SolaceEasy we
@@SolaceEasy we
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Imho, not being embarrassed is strength that can be used for good or evil.
True. I went to high school with a guy who was, apparently, incapable of embarrassment. He may also have been a sociopath, but he was highly intelligent and one of those people who only needs five hours of sleep per night. He's now a very wealthy real estate mogul, but could just as easily have wound up in prison or murdered, due to the huge number of people he pissed off.
🔸Some societies have used peer pressure and embarrassment to make us conform. Antisemitism in World War 2 Germany is a sad example of people being trained to be antisemitic. Good manners and getting along with others are good things for society But good manners don’t mean that you always follow what the crowd determines acceptable if it is not good.
pretty much yes!!
@@meganblasco2 that's how society works. Just like the world today forcing people to accept homosexual.
to be cringe is to be free o7
I’m getting secondhand embarrassment hearing all of these embarrassing situations. 😂
I giggled with the credit card chick. 😂
wow you must be an empath
It's Vicarious Embarrassment, jeez, didn't ya watch the video?
You're getting vicarious embarrassment.
That’s almost third-hand at this point
Walking around like that doesn't seem like it's THAT embarrassing. No need to make such a big dill about it.
Well played!
@@besmart getting wedged embarrassing 😐
"Big dill" i am embarrassed for you bro
@@mirachowdhury2538 it's a joke - he is a 'dill' pickle
@@mirachowdhury2538 don't worry because that is actually GOOD for you!
Btw, it’s not normal to feel embarrassed for just existing in this world.
That’s how I feel any time I’m in public. Social anxiety and the feeling of being embarrassed just by being out there lol. I hate myself so much.
Yeah, i hate any interactions with humans. Be it a positive or negative, it all feels awkward.
I wouldn’t call that embarrassment. I call that social anxiety or possibly a symptom of childhood trauma. I spent decades living that way.
Exposure therapy
one of the best scientific content creator out there, we really appreciate the effort and consistency.
Doing "embarassing" or scary things over and over but willing to do what you want in you heart builds a mental muscle.... is called having courage.
The courage to be yourself.
yeah, as someone smart said, courage is not an absence of fear, but a strengh to overcome that fear
I was at the checkout in the grocery store and the cashier had done her hair in a really pretty way and I wanted to tell her it was nice so I said "I love the way you did your hair today! It's really pretty!" Well she looked at me super weirdly and goes "Have we met before or something? I don't know you"
I didn't realize the way I said that implied I knew her.. I made it worse by trying to explain myself and laugh it off but she was super uncomfortable and I sounded like a creepy stalker. I wanted to turn invisible
That's on the cashier... she could have just replied, "Thank you, so nice of you to say that" without becoming self-righteously indignant. Then, what do I know, I'm basically a old fuddy-duddy Biden boomer at this point.
You did great. The other girl is actually an outcast.
Depending on her tone, her response could be interpreted as her feeling like she did know you and feel close to you. Sucks having to explain yourself in response but maybe "I don't think so, just thought I'd say that" or something like that. In a world where people stifle compliments and kind words, people are not used to receiving honest compliments
Ah..... What a terrible reaction she had to that. I think I would die inside for a good minute or so if someone said this to me after simply giving a lighthearted compliment.
It's because you said you loved the way she did her hair "today", that makes it sound like you have seen her on more than one occasion instead of just saying. "Hey, I like your hair". Maybe it came off as overly pandering too.
I've never related more to someone than I have the moment I heard her tell her story about the chair fart move.
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Note to self: Chair move does not work. Fall back on reliable "The dog did it! Get out of here Fido!"
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That isn’t going to work in a classroom setting, like she described.
Feeling embarrassed but powering through it and learning to be more comfortable with this feeling is very liberating. I recommend:)
How good it will be if doing this is as easy as saying this😐
@@royalfamily5531 Just do it! Worse thing that can happen is people laughing at you. Which means you've enlightened their boring days of not doing anything embarrassing at all costs - so you can be proud of your previous embarrassment as it's a public service or some what.
Once you pop you'll never stop. You'll conquer your life one day, mate! :)
@12:58 - that's the real problem with modern 'embarrassment' - it's actively used by people to constrain and force others. I can no longer agree to any model that talks only of the passive mechanics of childish embarrassment. It's a damn weapon of pressure used by people to make other people feel shitty and below them, both individually and class-based.
Nobody says that biology and psychology can't be used as a weapon. But that doesn't make them any inherently villainous. That's on the user.
@@tata-i5l The title of the video literally calls it "good for you," which becomes increasingly untrue as your social identity gets further from "fiscally-secure white abled neurotypical straight cis man." Taking issue with a demonstrably harmful *framing* is not the same as calling the phenomenon itself "villainous." ANY value judgement is unsound, not just the negative one. Success is not goodness.
@@akhragee Embarrassment is used to reinforce social norms and punish anything that violates those social norms. There's a huge range of social behavior. Humans life is very complex. That being said, if you're part of tiny fringe group minority, then get ready for some embarrassment. Unusual and abnormal behavior isn't always accepted or praised by the group.
Humans society has always had a social hierarchy. Did you actually think you could sit down at a birthday party for someone you don't even know? That would be embarrassing because it violates social rules. You don't have membership in that group, you don't have status and you'd be seen as an outsider. You agree to thousands of different social terms and you definitely feel embarrassed when some of those rules are broken. Everyone believes in class and status based systems. How would you like it if the new rookie got paid and promoted instead of you? Lol
In modern society a lot of people are trying to emotionally manipulate the other‘s.. that‘s a really big problem.., but yeah what ya wanna do abt it like abt all these other global issues🤷🏽♂️
9:12 the woman really said that people feel embarrassed because the brain makes you feel embarrassed.
Yeah, felt like she was trying to be real smart but said the most basic words of obviousness
@@darkydoom She should be embarrassed
I feel embarrassed for her 😳😳
My brain made me feel embarrassed for her because the brain makes you feel embarrassed
Negative reinforcement for the sake of social cohesion. That's the real smart thing to say.
That guy's shirt was so embarrassed it blurred itself out.
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We like strong individuals, when you look at a strong and confident person it gives you a sense of relief i think if you trace this feeling in evolution it's because strong person can be a good support, so because of this,a weak person that do mistakes gives us a bad feeling, when somebody do an embarrassing thing it looks to us they are losers and unreliable, we need strong people to increase iur survival rate, so we don't like mistakes, and when people don't like mistakes so you don't want to do mistakes to apear good to them and they accept you, maybe the evolution origin of embarrassment is because of this
Someone should do research on alcohol consumption and the lack of embarrassment and how it can affect you after sobering up
I went bowling, to the arcade, and to a restaurant while wearing a hot dog costume. Never felt more confident in my life when I wore it.
same, once i went to uni in a Totoro costume!!! that was a blast
I experienced the biggest load of embarrassment in my second year of high school, I was bullied for unknown reasons, I was there just for studying, but people didn't want to be my friend.
istg bullies are the worst. they don't even need a clear reason to pick on someone, they just make up any reason for the sake of being mean. i figured that out when i was bullied for wearing a straw hat and watching a cartoon at 14 😂✌️
9:19 Hell yeah for the anthropology (and psychology) terms used to make a solid argument. Made me smile.
The arguments are based on the fallacy that emotions are real Beyond thoughts. I don't believe emotions are real for animals.
@@SolaceEasy, but they are
@@SolaceEasy cool story bro
@@SolaceEasy In the Platonic sense of real, perhaps emotions do not exist beyond our thoughts and perceptions. But the same thing could be said about spatial dimensions; they may not exist beyond our perception. Still, this 'grid of space,' much like emotions, describes the world around us well.
That said, I do not see the connection to her arguments. Might you clarify?
i have social anxiety so i feel embarrassed about everything i do and say just in case 👍
as a person who felt exactly like this for most of their life: this is not normal and it can ruin your life!! pls consider getting help somehow if you haven't already!!
to me personally getting therapy helped, also studying psychology a bit, and getting into improv.
plus there's a book that helped me a lot, i think it's called "the antidote: happiness for people who can't stand positive thinking". it has some questionable takes, but handles the embarrassment and social anxiety topic very well.
have a great day! 💗
I was eating a watermelon on a school night and there was a bee that stung my inside cheek, I looked like I had a jawbreaker on my cheek, my mom made me go to school and the teacher pulled me to the front and told me to spit out my gum.. I just wanted to go home
Thank you, Joe, for doing your part to keep Austin weird!
I was thinking the same thing 😂😎
Bruh there's nothing I feel not embarrassed, anything I do, there is something so wrong about me then
Social anxiety is rough 😬😳.
Sameeeee I feel you
I'd learned at a very young age: if you defeat this emotion, life will become much simpler.
BTW: We all know Austin is the weird part of Texas, so it shouldn't be so embarrassing :v
@Don Za for me, I simply do things out of my comfort zone, not too extreme. Such things as wearing clothes that I am embaressed to wear, or go to the gym. I also train myself to have a not givivng a f*ck mindset, I basically manipulate myself to think in a way that time passes quick and anything I have done does not matter ^embaressing thing^
One of the best ways of training your self in my experience (I have thought this to someone else and it does work guarantee.
Same. When I was a little kid, I realized that I was feeling this "emotion", and I deemed it unnecessary. The way I dealt with it was just ignoring its existence. Eventually I didn't feel it much, or even at all. Same goes for shyness. I deemed that unnecessary, and now here I am, a carefree behavior, lol.
@@inanothertime5227 self reflection is imp sis👍
@@paromita_ghosh definitely!
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But why would you want to wear clothes that you find embarrassing instead of ones you actually like and feel confident in ?
13:35 I often forget that others have uncomfortable feeling too. When both parties are honest and open (very difficult) it can lead to closer feelings of connection : D
That dude just wanted an excuse to wear the cucumber costume in his closet.
😂😂😂
Thank you for making this video. As a person who gets embarrassed a lot I needed this.
Funny enough. 8:50 I did learn about this at school in romania. We did learn about the dramatic genre for writings and we had as example a famous comedy from our country called "A lost letter".
Anyway, while learning about that comedy I learned about a latin quote which was defining the main purpose of comedy and it went like "ridendo castigat mores", which means by laughing we correct our mistakes. This quote was back since the roman era and it proves that the comedy we learned took inspiration from the classical era.
I actually learned stuff at school lol.
I love embarrassing moments. They remind us to be humble and that we're all just human at the end of the day.
I wonder if the editor of this video will be embarrassed if it's pointed out that whilst direct faces in the background were often blurred... the reflections in shop windows weren't ?
It's the holidays... it's the thought that counts 😂
and nowadays being an outcast is not that big of a deal in many places. We can connect on such a vast scale, that there will always be somebody who will accept you.
If you wear your shoes in my house (germany) I would also tell you to take off the shoes you walk in on the dirty streets o.o ...and give you house shoes.
My embarrassment has taught me to just avoid all other humans because all actions are wrong and harmful, which is probably making me a better human I guess.
Definitely agree from this conclusion. As it does correlate towards empathy I also think it brings a question out of people and make them angry with those acts of integrity. I also think there’s this idea that people think either too little or too high for themselves and which falls in line for how we express ourselves and where that usually lands. Thank you for this video I grew up thinking about this a lot.
What a spectacular video. Don't forget, we are staying curious :)
How I see it is in short:
The bad feelings we have are just a way for us to avoid bad things, even if they can also lead us to them
social anxiety is afraid of him ☠️
this video reminded me to phone my bank because I remembered that my password number got declined.
Sometimes I like being awkward or cringe. It’s… Idk, it’s kind of refreshing because we’re so stuck up in these rules of society. It gives me an adrenaline rush and puts me out of my comfort zone which then makes me feel like I can do things if I want to. And, it’s somewhat also a bonding emotion. Everyone can relate to being awkward or having embarrassing or cringe moments. It’s authentic.
Sooo, I just laugh it off and I am fine with it. I embrace awkward moments.
…as long as it’s not hurting anyone ofc
Oh and sometimes I love being awkward to see others absolutely cringe because of it. It’s fun ;)
I have a friend who at lunchtime gets really loud and even stands up to point at someone sitting at our table. He’s making a bit of a fool of himself and obviously other people then look at us. Most of us then get awkward or we just start laughing like crazy because it’s somehow so ridiculous. It’s great bonding and it’s always fun with that dude :).
To cut it short:
Embarrassment is the rubberbanding of emotion.
He turned himself into a pickle. Funniest thing I've ever seen.
He really did just that
2:35 Self Conscious Emotion: You have to think before you feel.
Rene Descartes: I think therefore I feel.
Embarrassment: A bad feeling in response to deviating from the social norm designed to encourage appropriate behaviour in order to avoid social rejection.
I'm on the spectrum and so don't naturally understand the social norm so don't feel embarrassment. This leads to allot of socially inappropriate behaviour resulting in social rejection.
7:30 "you're more likely to feel embarrassed if you're less likely to rock the social boat."
- that sounds about right.
6:50 "Dramaturgic Model of Embarrassment"
- This might explain the feeling of discomfort I get around others.
We care about what people think of us. Guess it comes with forms of self awareness
We care too much about what people think about us and look what it gets us.
@@SolaceEasy pointless paranoia and discomfort around people. It does go both ways though. Humans can be very judgemental over the smallest things
@@SolaceEasy people judge others wether you like it or not. You can't just go for the "I don't care what people think of me at all" since it won't benefit you long term and it can make you unlikebale. Opinions are everywhere but that's not a reason to act like we don't care about them
That girl was 💯 about the ego. When your front crumbles and there's an undeniable shame that goes with it is an absolute bruise.
That explains why I skip embarrassing scenes in tv shows
Cringe is the feeling you get when you see someone make NFTs of themselves as a cowboy, an astronaut, and a superhero 😂
And one of the potential rewards for buying the NFT is dinner with the guy, which he gave to a ɪnsɑne ʜɨtleɾ-loving rapper and some ʜoloçɑust Dɛnɨeɾ he apparently doesn't even know about for without them having to buy anything....
@@LangThoughts I'm surprised, as Americans, you guys aren't immune to national embarrassment yet 🤣
I was at the gym today and resting between sets - I took out my phone to check off things in my workout app and a woman came up to me and scolded me for using the popular machine I was sitting at as a texting bench. Suddenly it felt like everyone was looking at me and I just stood up, went into my car, and drove home. Wish I had thicker skin :(
I never thought about embarrassment like this way.
Hey joe. I think a good secondary video about this could show the benefits of not feeling embarrassed.
(when u should be.)
like when she said "you gained my respect."
Embarrassment is the self-aware discontent for one's current state of being after actions we feel were out of our control.
The fear of rejection hits hard, this is such an interesting topic. Thanks a lot for the insight! I definetly learned a lot from embarrasment
I know not everything is a Rick and Morty reference. But man is it hard to see someone walking around in a pickle suit and not think "I'm pickle Rick!!!!!"
Yet another example where my Autism (and to some extent egotism) kind of makes me an outlier here, is up until my early teens I was actually incapable of feeling embarrassment (I'd do really stupid things like moon strangers in public and shout out in class that I pooped my pants), and instead of feeling embarrassed when I was told that's not appropriate I instead felt confused or even angry for being told I was doing something wrong. Even later on in my life instances where I felt genuine embarrassment are so few and far between that I can't even name one off the top of my head. And even THEN the embarrassment always is swiftly replaced by another less-social emotion, like anger (wanting to blame someone or something else and/or getting super defensive), paranoia (the feeling that I will be physically attacked or punished in some way by an uncaring malevolent society) or guilt (recognizing that something I did actually hurt someone and that I probably shouldn't do it ever again.)
Even now, watching you walk around in that pickle costume, I was thinking "Hey, neat. It's like Halloween or ComicCon. I wish more people would cosplay all the time." Probably helps that I'm a furry and if anyone has a problem with me walking around as a giant Pikachu, well that's their problem. If me being myself is "rocking the boat" than that boat can go hit an iceberg and I'll find my own boat. A boat populated by fellow furries and neurodivergents who aren't afraid to show each other EXACTLY who we are up-front.
Or sometimes embarrassment leads you to eventually fear ALL social interaction and suffer from crippling social anxiety. 😢
Love your vidoes! One of my top 10 YT favorites!
I have anxiety and go through difficult situations every day but it's still not getting better
I know how you feel😢
If people who readily admit mistakes and don't get embarrassed easily are also considered humble then does that make people who are easily embarrassed less humble? Maybe being more forgiving towards ourselves and others defeats the tyranny of societal pressures.
I loved this. Have a lovely day u loveliest soul with em kind vibes!!
Toodles! Stay Bright Doves! 🕊️
Xoxo ❤️
This is an interesting observation.
@@ChemistTea How can we trust our innate emotional reactions? For example, we're more likely to empathize with a box of kittens than a box of lizards even if those cats will wipe out defenseless native species in Hawaii drastically reducing biodiversity.
@@dangerfly I suppose our innate emotional reactions are more relevant to our immediate safety, kittens are less likely to kill you then lizards. But I don't think you can trust those when dealing with more global issues, like the natural balance of the ecosystem. And there have been examples where people relied on good feelings and by doing so brought about great destruction such as wiping out entire species.
@@ChemistTea Emotions come from the core-like limbic system in contrast to the prefrontal cortex responsible for planning. I've always assumed having life-preserving emotional reflexes closer to the stem is better for faster danger avoidance.
We're smooshing dog snouts (pugs/bulldogs) to the point that they have breathing issues. I'd argue it's our empathy that causes us to prioritize neoteny to this degree. What do you think?
"Embarrassment gets (and keeps) people in line..."
Our social chains aren't necessarily a good nor bad thing. On one hand, it keeps people from accidentally or intentionally harming others esp in extreme cases. On the other, it prevents intellectual and creative geniuses from flourishing.
Fantastic episode. Love the vicarious emotions, that's often the ones that creep in the most, and no matter how much I tell my self not to give so much of a crap about what others think, they're always at the back of the mind lingering like a dodgy fart...
In the middle-age zone and I'm slowly noticing the whole "you care less as you get older" thing more... and I sooooo wanna reach the point where I can go out in public and not care about how I look.. or smell.. or act..!!
I think it really varies. There are plenty of old people who REALLY care about public behavior.
Im 17 and people say i act like an old man because i dont care what i look like to others and seem cool about it somehow despite being odd...
I'm 62 and waving my Magic Wand Over You. Poof! You got it!
I believe that because at some certain point in your life, you have already experienced enough embarrassment to know which things you should avoid and which things you can just do without the public caring.
And that's why people who're older prone to go senile.
In Sweden we most often don't wear shoes indoors either. If we do, it's shoes that we only use indoors.
If you're confident about it, they follow You.
All I can say is
This ep started, with Joe walking around Austin in a pickle suit, and my FIRST THOUGHT was
"if my dad shows up in this I'm going to expire"
(HIGHLY UNLIKELY)
I'm so impressed with how intelligent and thoughtful the people's responses were about possible purposes for embarrassment.
Embarrassment is not the same as humiliation.
Being humiliated is bad for the brain.
Shame along with guilt and fear can be used against us to manipulate us. Manipulative people are garbage. 💜
Absolutely. Can't believe they didn't talk about this particular aspect of shame despite that one interviewee literally talking about his experience with being bullied.
'into neuroscience' is dangerous territory milady
I wonder if he was going to the mall, and then going to see watchmen afterwards
Stay humble and accept you are a fallible being and you are less likely to be embarrassed. We all screw up at times.
I wouldn’t mind if you made a video explaining something like how epilepsy works? What makes the person jitter and shake? You don’t let someone go to sleep after they hit their head, but you have to let someone go to sleep immediately after a seizure? What can cause it to start happening to someone who never had the problem before? Why haven’t doctors found a way to heal it? Or even find the cause for it normally? How long has it been acknowledged as a disability or medical/ neurological problem?
I know at least 3 people with epilepsy but the doctors I’ve talked to are busy and give quick answers I just never understand. You make things easier to understand and more fun to learn.
I’d love to learn more about it.
But mostly because I am one of those three people and I wanna know why and how about my problem. It might end up helping my other friends too.
i live in austin . . . this makes me wish i regularly went downtown just on the off chance i’d been around to see you walking around in that pickle suit 😂
It's why a lot of guys will get drunk before they'll dance.
What about explaining the deep meaning of a song's lyrics, and then realising you got them completely wrong.
Thankfully, it does seem to wear off a bit as you get older.
*"LOOK AT ME! I'M PICKLE JOE!"* 😆
I did a LOT of work on positive psych and empathy during my Master's. I would have gone straight for the "Social behavior is an evolutionary advantage" answer for why we feel embarrassment. We are so hardwired for empathy that it's just WILD. Sympathetic embarrassment is just one example but there are dozens of others.
9:08 "sky is blue, water is wet and fire is hot"
7:06 you know you're old when you dab and you hear bones crackling 😅😅
Thanks bro
Pain is also a good thing that helps us avoid harming our bodies, which can lead to a decrease in the quality and shortening of our lives. But when pain is manipulated to force us to do things that are harmful to us and not beneficial, it becomes bad. Likewise with shame, when it is misused, the harm from shame outweighs its potential benefits.
Bro the stuff i learned from your videos was better and more than the 5 years of online medical university
9:12 damn, I didn't know neuroscience was so easy
I don’t get it
My guy literally got himself a pickle suit JUST to say "I bet you're wondering how I got myself into this pickle" lmao
Well done, Pickle Hank. I see simple emotions as the language with which our bodies communicate to our minds to do something. Complex emotions like embarrassment are more layered, a communication from the mind to either itself or the body to do something.
Errata: Joe, not Hank. Sorry Joe. (thanks to Vince)
Pickle *Joe* but I'm sure a lot of people confuse him with Hank Green, so don't feel TOO embarrassed.
@@vincelamb4063 Hah! I stuffed that one up.
@@vincelamb4063 Didn't SciShow just do a video about exactly that thing a while ago? :D
@@vincelamb4063
Joe and Hank, have a friendly competition going on for a while. For example ; Joe, has said directly to the camera " try debunking this, Hank " regarding something he ( Joe) was explaining. Just saying !
How embarrassing 😜😂 lol jk
11:55 omg I basically had this EXACT embarrassing situation lol. My bf is Japanese and the first time I went to Japan and met his parents I obviously took my shoes off at his house, I was completely aware. His mom then invited me to her studio and dumb ole me completely forgot about my shoes. I guess I subconsciously had the thought in my head that it was technically a workspace so I went on autopilot? Idk but when my boyfriend was like “umm shoes…” I literally felt like I was going to pass out, throw up, or both lol.
So, americans really don't wear of their shoes, when they came home?
A neon bikini in a food court would be more embarrassing than a pickle costume in an arts district.
"I feel like people keep avoiding me."
*Says that while casually walking in the streets dressed as a pickle*
In order texts you sometimes is "embarrassment" and "confusion" treated as synonyms which really makes sense with the "don't know what to do" idea
I like how in a video about embarrassment you did a dab during the jumbotron as another example of unspoken social embarrassment smart.
Saw this entire video like more than an HOUR because I had to contemplate on the ideas.
him matching the wall in his pickle costume >>>
Why tf did the neuro scientist have the worse explanation tho lmao
iconic
After Rick and Morty...this can not be embarrassing...
It's Pickle Joe!...hey everyone, I turned myself into a pickle!
Why anyone would want to do this, which they can't, is that they could...which they can't.............
Wait, did you do this to get out of family counseling?🤔
I think feeling embarrassment shows how much we care of what others think of us.
I know when I was a kid I felt embarrassed a lot, and back then I also cared way too much of what others thought of me.
Now as an adult, it’s been around 8 years since I last felt embarrassed, and I think it’s mainly because I don’t care as much about what others think of me anymore.
I’ve been told I’m awkward a few times by different people, and instead of feeling embarrassed when they said this, I was just perplexed and curious as to what made them say that.
It bothered me in the sense that it was just random and confusing, but it didn’t bother me in a way that made me want to find out why they said that lol
I agree with you, but I also feel that as a kid we are all likely to go though embarrassing moments because it’s our first time navigating the world and it’s social rules. Kids will make lots of mistakes in the world as they try to understand it
Huh...My hypothesis was correct after all.
Thanks for confirming it Joe!
I'm delighted that he explicitly mentioned that he was in Austin. I recognized the graffiti, but wasn't sure.
11:51~ Oh gosh, that's cringey indeed.
Cheers from Japan.
“The Pickle Man got me again”
-Chris Chan
Went looking for this exact comment 2 seconds into the video, thanks bud we are forever poisoned ;-;
@@Banjalo I still feel dirty haha
@@Banjalo cool 😎pfp
Ever delete all your social media after a night of drinking? yeah
embarrassment and cringe feel like different things to me
8:28 Cringe comedy is not funny to me, it's painful.
It gets so bad I have to stop watching things sometimes--take a break and maybe come back.
Love it! Can you do one on the emotion of shame? While it’s very similar to that feeling of embarrassment, there’s something about shame that’s somehow even worse.