"the fool doth think he is wise, but the wise man knows himself to be a fool" so quit feeling bad for yourself and finish that dang cancer cure already
Makes it painful when you are in a relationship with someone who grew up in that environment. Not sure I'll ever know the truth, or even if my ex knows what is true anymore. One of those things, how do you reconcile that someone you cared deeply about is just incapable of being honest with anyone leaving you to doubt the years spent together.
I'm very surprised that he didn't talk about lying as protection, as a trauma survivor I had and still compulsively lie as a defense mechanism to keep my abusers from hurting me
_“The point is, if you lie all the time, nobody’s going to believe you, even when you‘re telling the truth.”_ _“Are you sure that’s the point, doctor?”_ _“Of course. What else could it be?”_ _“That you should never tell the same lie twice.”_
I'm actually really interested in the 3/10 of participants in the study who *didn't* lie... They did not recognize the opportunity to do so? Did they make a conscious choice not to take advantage of the situation because of their moral character? Did they see through the experiment? Did they want to lie but didn't because they were too afraid of being caught?
Honestly, I wouldn't. Anxious personality, I guess. Morally, I'd have no qualms, but a deeprooted fear just appears in these situations. I don't know what @Backinblack Bunny is talking about, but I'm definitely lower class (In Denmark though, so security net), so do with that what you will I guess..?
@@Backinblackbunny009 it is usually the other way around. it was proven in the last century that rich people lie and steal more when a new style of shopping center was created
You forgot about the direct instruction we had as children to lie. Our parents or teachers told us to apologize for something when we weren't sorry. We said a blatant truth that was insulting, and were told "you don't say that".
Simple answer: We lie because the brain that we have wants to terminate the feeling of being Yelled at or something, so we lie in order to get rid of any terrible consequence that could happen.
I agree. Some kindly people welcome the truth with their calm, accepting manner. Other people give a clear message that they only want to hear their version of events and that they refuse to accept that others make mistakes. Angry listeners encourage others to lie.
@@tracesprite6078 but if no one got punished for telling the truth look at it this way a criminal for example can get away for it for telling the truth you see that’s why we need to learn our lesson for telling the truth if we are only punished for telling the lie then you are not taught a lesson
@@tracesprite6078 But maybe you’re right but what they could do is have a talk about what they did wrong and teach Tim how to not make that mistake again to make it fair enoguh.
@@sologamer8287 Hi Solo gamer, you have identified a difficulty in the discussion. It depends on which lie you are talking about. For example, if we angrily ask a child, "Did you spill this chocolate milk on the sofa?" they may feel that we are too irritable for them to dare to tell the truth. It would be better if we said something like, "Mmm ... someone has spilled chocolate milk on the sofa. Maybe a good rule in the future, is to make sure we have the coffee table ready to put the cup on before we bring the drink over. That could prevent accidents." That way, we focus more on the solution than on the problem. On the other hand, if the problem is more serious, then it might be different. We the parent suspect that our teenager has been stealing money from our purse in order to buy drugs. However, what is likely to enable the teenager to talk about this? If we shout angrily, are they likely to confess that they are developing a drug addiction? We can convey that this is a very serious matter but also give the message that we want to help them to get free of a growing drug habit. The question becomes ... what kind of conversation is likely to lead to the teenager changing their behavior?... especially as this may not happen overnight.
@@sologamer8287 I agree that in a police station or a court of law, it is important to insist on the truth. Ironically, sometimes police use such aggressive tactics that they may force a false confession out of someone who is innocent.
@@ravelnavarro9625 because it's still easier than explaining the same things to people who won't get what's going on over and over no matter how you explain it. Platitudes and awkwardness are far worse feeling and just as unproductive.
@@Lerrae1908 @Kat Mann I kind of agree with you. But there's one problem with this: You belive that no one will understand you and this is a mistake...some people will not care but others will try to understand you. We start isolating ourselves and start to think that other person are our enemy and well...i think we don't need to know what will happen We start living the philosophy of "me against everyone". "Someone will never understand ne" Why ? Can you understand other people's problems ? We can not, but at least we can try to listen... This is the trap of the depression: 1 Make you think that other people will not understand you 2 isolate yourself 3 hide your crying 4 make your view of the world the real truth(this is not a fact. Just my opinion). I am not gonna lie, we all here have problems...and it's hard to try to help someone that you don't know. We can talk, but no affection... Be careful...The mind can create a lot of things including our own jail. Sorry, english is not my first language...
@@masicbemester listen 'ere, buster. nobody understands weirdo squiggly lines you know what country this is? this is 'MURICA you SPEAK AMERICAN or you GIT OUT *U.S National Anthem plays*
As a person with Asperger's, I have difficulty with lying to people. Like I understand that it's for survival and making situations not awkward, which I guess is fine as long as it's not going to hurt someone. But if the lie is going to hurt someone more than telling them the truth, then you should just tell the truth. No matter how awkward it becomes.
A greeting should be like, "Hey, I'm here to talk to you about this." unless like, they are close, then saying "Hi, how are you?" seems like a decent or okay greeting
@@louithrottler In what way? How does every single woman on this earth who moves their lips lie to you? How have you determined this? What was your sample size and methodology? What you claim doesn't sound very scientific. And to post such obviously unscientific comments on a science channel doesn't sound very smart. I suggest you reevaluate your hypothesis and remove any personal biases you may have before making such comments.
@@himanbam Well, to say that something is time honoured is to imply it has been done or used many times before, so if we were to exclude your seemingly aggrandised sense of self-importance then: quite a few people's time would be the answer.
I'm so glad I just found this. My 10 yr old daughter is asking me these huge life questions like about lying. I always believe in being as honest as possible and help her understand it as much as possible and I am going to use this
So the predator metaphor basically says “it’s better to be safe than sorry.” The lie allows you to protect yourself and be safe, regardless of any real danger.
It would be cool to get a 2nd part of this to be about how much do people verify data that they hear/read/see, especially with all the misinformation and disinformation that people spread around online and offline.
The worst thing about compulsive lying is when you realize that what you're doing is unnecessary (from a social perspective) and now there is no way of going back because you will be seen only as a liar... That is, of course, if you do realize it. Anyway, this is a great video!
The philosopher Jordan Peterson said it best. "No matter how clever someone is at lying, the truth always comes out, because keeping a lie going is stressful and Humans make mistakes". It always comes tumbling out eventually. The worst lie is this one anyway, because it goes on everyday - th-cam.com/video/hNl-SD9lFas/w-d-xo.html
@@spencercase5370 Oh fair play for clicking the link. Not many do that, especially after reading the prior comment. Did you watch the... video in the the video? 😛 There's a reason why they lie to people and do what parents do their kids when something is too horrific or horrible, they shield their eyes or hide it from them. That's how the meat & dairy industry treat everybody if you think of it. I mean, nobody in their right mind would give their money to that vile and cruel filth, no matter how "good it tastes". You seem like a very curious sort of person, have a watch of that. And before you ask, it's not a Rick Roll 😅😝 But it is related to the topic th-cam.com/video/S91iFLVZq0A/w-d-xo.html
I used to compulsively lie, I mean I still do but I try to catch it as fast as I can. If I catch myself lying, I'll interrupt myself and tell the person I'm talking to that I had lied.
I lie because 1. Many truths are embarrassing 2. I hate condemnation. 3. The most common one, I know what people want to hear, I know what makes them more comfortable so I try to get to a common ground which is hard when you simply lay out all the truths without exaggeration or degration
The key to getting away with a lie is to know how socially uncomfortable it would be for them to call you on it, and to only tell lies that can't be disproven.
Random Stranger: "Hi, how are you doing?" ME: "Trying to live, and doing a damn shoddy job of it." Random Stranger: Pauses for a few seconds then walks away. ME to ME: "You might wanna stop disclosing so much about your life."
This is why the “they ask you how you are and you just have to say you’re fine . . .” quote never gets old to me. Might be my favorite thing Katy Perry has shared with the world
Or maybe they would be cool with your answer if you ended up asking: "But how are you?". Or probably anything else which doesn't end in a too-generic complain which has little insight into any real problem you actually have.
i learned that the hard way at work, other employee's would ask how i am when i came in to work and i'd say "i'm just me" and they'd always get confused cause it's not really an answer, but i didn't want to lie, and knew i couldn't tell the whole true, so i thought it'd be a fitting middle ground. i was wrong lol
@@professorbaxtercarelessdre1075 "How are you?" "Not too good. And you?" "I'm OK. Sorry that you're not so good. What about we have a coffee and a chat at lunch time and you can fill me in on how life's going for you?" "That sounds great. Thanks for your kindness."
14:37 fun fact: “Frans de Waal” literally means “French the Walloon” in dutch. A walloon is someone living on the french part of Belgium, which is kinda ironic given that Frans de Waal is from the Netherlands.
This guy has been researching the behaviour of apes and monkeys for decades. I have an old book written by him - Peacemaking among Primates - in which he describes how the various representatives of their species follow their agenda, establish alliances, fight over social status, and settle conflicts. The lying is part of their strategy. I would say, lying is a means to achieve and maintain certain social relations, of whichever kind they might be.
Man when I tell you this show is a diamond in the rough, thanks for doing you ✊🏾. Now in this video everything you said makes total sense and that’s why I believe that in your last statement the truth is reversed. I believe that our conscious mind is the one that chooses to lie and saying “I will not lie” is a sort of affirmation that their unconscious minds tried hard to keep as true as possible.
If there's no honesty in a relationship, then it's too polite and superficial to be satisfying but if we're brutally honest all the time, then it may be too painful to survive. But maybe we can actively notice the good things which are also true e.g. "You are very faithful to the creative side of your personality and that really seems to give you satisfaction in life." Truth doesn't always have to be a judgement of someone but it can merely be an observation which shows that we notice and value the other person.
When someone asks how I am, I've taken to asking if they're actually asking or if they're just saying hi. It usually makes people stop and think for a minute. If they say they're actually asking, I honestly tell them how I'm doing.
Phatic questions are part of social lubricant, and differ between cultures. You'd need to be excessively pedantic (and unversed in pragmatics) to count them as lies.
I'm in the south, so half the time this question is asked, people walk away without waiting for the response. They're literally just acknowledging your presence, not actually inquiring as to how you're doing. I also stopped answering this question altogether, as it is invasive and there's not many people I would want share my life with. I also don't feel like I have to fulfill the obligations of social norms just to be seen as polite. I'd rather be honest.
Sometimes because the lies we tell each other are less horrible that the truths we keep hidden. We are not what we think we are, we are usually the secrets we hide 🖖
The question asked upon meeting a acquaintance "How are you?" Is just a common courtesy, nobody wants to hear a sobbing story. The answer "good" is almost always expected.
"How are you?" "Good thanks" is normal for a quick greeting when you run into each other in passing but if you make the time to sit down over a coffee, then most people want to go deeper. They have their struggles that they want to talk over and most people are also willing to listen to your story. If you start with a bit of the less upsetting news, then you can test the waters to see if they can bear some more serious stuff. Many people like to help others so if you say "That was so good to be able to share that story with you," then they will feel encouraged by that.
One of my teachers, who I consider to be one of the smartest and most well organized, always had a small section at the top of the test, an "I won't cheat or tell anyone else about the test." Although he only went so far to enforcing it as deducting a large number of points for not signing the pledge properly, I now think he might have done it because he knew that cheating would at least go down if everyone made the promise. Pretty interesting, vid!
As a brutally honest indivual, I find it difficult to maintain relationships as I often tend to say things I should not. You could say my unconscious mind prefers truth over lies, which can be just as bad as preferring lies over the truth.
Your honesty can be a gift but use it sparingly. People are not often feeling strong enough for your insights which may not always be as accurate as you like to believe. Also there are often several honest things that you can say at any time. Why not choose the more encouraging one? You could say "Your house is so messy" but you could instead say "Thanks for this lovely hot cup of tea. It's just what I was needing." You could say, "I can't understand why you belong to that dumb religion" or you might be better to say "Well, I can't agree with your religion but I can see that it's helping you to get through this tough time since your father died."
Sometimes the whole truth might be too brutal. You could say to me, " Well, now you've put on that weight, you may be going to die ten years earlier." But you'll probably choose not to say that because it's pointlessly cruel. I could say, "Yes, I see why he had that affair. You're so snippy and critical, that he probably just wanted to be with someone who really enjoyed his company." Even if that is useful information, am I really sure I'm right about that and do I want to lose your friendship when I have already lost several friends by offering my unasked for "insights"?
What is truth or lies when all that matter is how much $$$$ you got in the bank and your social rank in our racial caste system. The law dgaf about the reality of a crime, just what outcome is best for the poltical elite who wrote the law and those who enforce the law. If you're black and poor there are many companies and states eager for your free labor which they will extract by locking you in a box 24/7 and only allowing you out in exchange for your labor. That doesn't even go into the new prison economy that let's these companies bleed dry the friends and family of the imprisoned. A necessity of human life like a roll of toilet paper that retails for .30? Now, it can only be bought from the prison commissary and its $10. Same for soap, shampoo, socks, etc. Even the letters sent to inmates can only be accessed on tablets that cost $50 upfront and $5 per download
@@Backinblackbunny009 Yes, you are so right, Backinblack Bunny. I support the Innocence Project in America. It is terrible how, in some states, slavery is steadily being re-introduced. It sickens me to think of it.
Cave man 1 "yea nah, I totally know it's save to eat these berries" Cave man 2 - eats berries Cave man 2- DIES Cave man 1: "yea so that lie made me know it is not save to eat these berries, and I survive :D"
Any time I hear that silly, yet very common quote "I hate liars" I just roll my eyes. It's like saying you don't associate with people who use toilets. "Well. Good luck with that."
This is a message for every LGBT+ person seeing this comment: You are not alone. You are loved and you have people who will love you no matter your identity or sexual orientation. It does get better 🏳️🌈💖
@@sergiontothetop It's not spam, it's support. This is the first time I comment something like this on TH-cam. It's not something that I really do often but, as a member of the LGBT+ community, I felt I could make something, as little as this is, for making someone feel better Honestly, I don't even know why you say it's spam, it's not. I made that comment only once
No. What I am afraid of is those little kids in the movie Argo from Tehran putting together the SHREDDED PIECES OF PAPER to form the faces of the people they were searching for. I MEAN LIKE WHAT THE F-
People lie because we have an instinct to survive. We confuse our ego, more often than not, with our physical self. So to preserve our egos, we lie to keep them alive.
It's hard to not lie, especially growing in a family which was mostly neglectful to me and never respected me for myself; being in a society that gossips about you, judges you, even possibly hurt you for how you appear to them. The common thing is: People don't really care about the individuality of others. I must lie to survive my toxic environments that destroy me for being myself. No matter whether it's my home or college or whatever place. It's my life until I die. I will be a good human in my own way. I'll lie to protect myself from the things which harm me from outside, and to protect others from the ugly knowledge of how messed up my life would seem to others if they were to know my repressed life.
I did my own social experiment years ago. I gave everyone a complete and honest answer to everything they asked me. The result was that after about three months everyone avoided talking to me entirely. The obvious conclusion is people ask a lot of questions they do not want honest answers to.
I've read that in a lot of African Tribes lying to save someone's feelings is considered more virtuous than telling a truth that can cause a conflict unless it's absolutely necessary. It's better to lie and keep harmony and tell the truth and cause chaos something like that, because you need complete harmony to survive in nature with your tribesman it makes sense why we'd continue it now.
As a kid I was incredebly honest, to the point that it was hard to sociolise, but I've learned my lesson and now I lie all the time, especially when telling strangers on the internet about how I was as a kid.
Funnily enough, I can’t stand it. I’m so honest I can’t lie. When I’m really tired and I haven’t told someone the truth I send them a text with the truth so I can sleep. Happened yesterday as well. Because I can’t lie I told my crush (which I am kind of a bit friends with) why I asked if she would come to school today. I just told her, “well, because I miss you...” Gone was my plan on how to tell her.
me too! my typical answer is something along the lines of "really shitty but thanks for asking." people never know what to say after that. they usually just laugh.
*Not me pretending to be a bad liar, just to make people think i'm a bad liar, just to get away with lying.* I also do this thing where i sound really sarcastic, but i actually mean it and the other person is just confused.
A great addendum to this would be why people who /can't/ lie are considered socially inept (me). We put a fun label on this type of lying to make it seem less immoral, calling it a "filter," which i do not have. Gotta love ADHD. We could also talk about how being unable to trust each other leads to a great deal of disarray in the world today, and how it could allow us to repair a lot of the damage done by mainstream media. Love your channel. Thanks for sharing!
Absolutely. I'm autistic and I felt this very hard throughout this video. I've only recently been able to force myself to develop some kind of "tact filter", but it's a hell of a lot of work trying to "simulate" various scenarios and guess their responses, at least until I have built up enough scripts for similar situations to just rattle off on autopilot. For my whole life I was called rude, brusque, verbose, shares too much, etc. I never understood why people would react the way they would. I would especially freak out over how some of those complaints seemed contradictory to each other. Hell, it only struck me a year or so ago that "inappropriate behaviour" in autistic diagnostic criteria includes 90% of my childhood, when I had always previously thought it just meant really obvious things like getting naked in public or swearing at your teacher or stuff. But not responding "appropriately" to "how're you doing?" does actually count. Just going "yes" or "no" instead of "yes please" or "no thank you" counts. Basically everything I said as a child wasn't "socially appropriate" in some large or small way. Watching this video was like some glimpse into NTs' brains... like .. I had no idea ~80% of most people's lies were self-serving ones? Like 90% of mine are ones told for the sake of others (whatever he called those ones). Like, I felt so gross and dirty the first time a stranger at the checkout asked how my day has been and I just said "fine". It was like, oh my god, I'm such a liar. But they didn't get upset at me it and just went on as normal. When for all the rest of my adult life prior to that, everything would get ground to a halt as I discussed yet another day of dealing with disabilities when they weren't prepared for it. But it still took over a year of intensive practice to feel comfortable doing so. And now I've trained myself to start off slowly if I am going to tell the truth, "tbh things haven't been so good" or something similar. Obviously that's a different kind of "no filter" than ADHD, more about never having been taught how or why or where or when, rather than having the knowledge but being unable to act on it, so I don't wanna act like I know exactly what it's like for you. (And, like, apologies if that wasn't said very good either, a couple of my partners have ADHD and we've talked about it a lot but that still doesn't mean I know what it's like, so feel free to correct me if you want) But like anyway, I can relate to the social problems that come from being "overly truthful", is rly the point I'm trying to make I think. For me it was like.... everyone around me said to always tell the truth and 6 year old me would call them out when I noticed them lying. And they'd get upset like oh that wasn't a lie, or, oh it's okay this time, and I never understood wtf was going on. So my "inability" to lie, I think, was more of a moral compulsion kind of a thing, especially considering I have OCD as well to amplify the existing autistic rigidity therein. Before I started training myself to tell socially lubricating small lies this past few years, I only ever lied to protect people I cared about from consequences. AKA when there was a pressing reason to. Like I always disagreed with Kant's "never tell a lie, even to a murderer asking where your friend is hiding". But why should I ever have had a reason to lie about my emotional state? Is how I saw it. And people telling me, well, y'know, they prefer it when you say you're doing fine, really confused me for a long time. "Why would they ask me if they don't want the answer?", I'd think. And of course I never asked them back, either, because I didn't really want to know, and which I'm sure contributed to my perception as rude. But now I've gotten better at "oh, pretty good, how about yourself?" script. And they go, "not bad, not bad", and then talk business. It still baffles me why it works... but at least now I know it does work to make them feel at ease. I can tell myself, It's just to break the ice. While, as an autistic person, I never had ice to break. (Which, come to think of it, really influenced how I date as well... not needing to have any of my ice broken because there was no ice... but I digress!) It's nice seeing how many other comments on this video are from NA folks who felt similarly to me about it, as well. I was considering just writing a top level comment saying similar things but seeing these other comments. I figure I should just reply to those and increase their chances of showing near the top.
If your kids lie to you it’s because when they told the truth, your reaction frightened them. My scary mum’s behaviour conditioned me to lie, which is sad because do genuinely value honesty. In my adult years I’ve been trying really hard to break the habit.
I'm 25 and I am living with my mom, partly for financial reasons, but also because we get along well and don't really have other people nearby. It's funny how often nowadays we will randomly in conversation come around to topics and be like, "Oh, remember when I told you X happened when I was around 10? Yeah, sorry, that was a lie." She tells me things she lied about in my childhood, too. After 10 or 15 years, we can laugh about those things. A lot of the time, we're like, "I KNEW IT!" I'm seriously so lucky to have such a great mom... who has put up with my crap!
I loved this entry. But I really wish that there would have been an explanation for the real liars in the world; those who do it for personal gain and political power. It could help the younger viewers understand that not everyone is lying to them because they are nice people trying to help our species.
I almost never carry cash because I don't think it safe and, when I do, it's usually not for very long. Sometimes, I ask what they need the money for. If they say food, coffee or even cigarettes, I may go and buy that for them. If I do have cash, I will tell them I will not give them the money but if they need something, I will go buy it for them. I'm trying to help people, not keep them drunk or high.
Yes and no? Sometimes it's true in the sense that the person doesn't have _literal_ cash like coins and bills, but only digital money on their phone or money on their cards. Sometimes, it's what you mentioned where they _do_ have money, but they don't have any excess to give away. So it's like telling the future truth, but at present it's a lie. Also, sometimes it's both. You have money, just not bills/coins. And even if you could convert it, there wouldn't be any excess to give away.
What did you lie about today?
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I lied about knowing what image represents my community because i was doing something else while in my class
The people who said the papers would be shredded lied.
“BuT iTs An eXpEriMeNt”
It's for science.
Lol
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maybe they just said "put it in the shredder" and the box was named the shredder.
"Yes yes, I read and accept the terms of service", clicks AGREE.
No one read it. Except weirdo
LOL YES
That's a lie I always tell, cause I'm not reading all those terms and conditions
The thing is that if people actually read the terms and conditions they would probably never agree
@@mj-f7135 fr 😂
we lie actually BECAUSE we're so socially advanced, we can predict how people react to what we say so we adjust what we say to get an answer we prefer
It’s like saying that you don’t eat baby’s like surrrrrre you don’t, do you also not breath fracking cannibal vegan
@@theperfectbotsteve4916 why is that a reply?
@@TheCalicove perhaps we will never now
Oh I get it this is your lie
@@theperfectbotsteve4916 I don't know you but you must be fun at parties lmao
No one knows when we started to lie because we probably lied about that
lol
We know when someone told the first bad lie though!
Truth 😂
@@yonatanbeer3475 when?
th-cam.com/video/by4Wc_5h8u4/w-d-xo.html :)
He lied.
He said “Hey smart people”, but I’m not smart
if youre watching this instead of the other nonsense on the internet then you have some degree of superior intelligence
Are you sure that you aren't the one lying to yourself when you say that you aren't smart?
oof
@@LucidFL well I wouldn't say everyone watching this channel has superior intelligence. But most of us are eager for knowledge I guess.
"the fool doth think he is wise, but the wise man knows himself to be a fool"
so quit feeling bad for yourself and finish that dang cancer cure already
“If one always tells the truth, they are most definitely not a human,”
-Sun Tzu
And I’d say he knows a little more about fighting than you do pal because *HE INVENTED IT*
@@MannFace51 LMAO
@@MannFace51 Sun Tzu Invented America and Fighting god bless
@@TJ-hg6op and then he perfected it so that no living man could best him in the ring of honor!
*AAAARRGGGHHHHAA!*
They are not a living organism at all for that matter ...
Kids learn to lie really quickly when they have abusive parents. They learn there's consequences to telling the truth
Makes it painful when you are in a relationship with someone who grew up in that environment. Not sure I'll ever know the truth, or even if my ex knows what is true anymore. One of those things, how do you reconcile that someone you cared deeply about is just incapable of being honest with anyone leaving you to doubt the years spent together.
@@romanmeneghinister1584 I think relationship counselling is helpful when it comes to situations like that
Or even an environment where mistakes are met with a deluge of criticism, but falling short of what would be deemed abuse.
My mom isn't abusive but can be super angry. So yes.
facts i have abusive parents and if i dont lie about certain things i will get hurt physicaly or mentally by them
“Lies are the glue that hold society together” -Dr. Doofenshmirtz
I have that playing in the background
Evil and incorporated
"PIDGEON POOOOOO"- Dr. Doofenshmirtz
“Curse you Perry the platypus!!!!!!” Dr. Doofenshmirtz
Wanted to like this until I saw 420.......... Even tho I quitte doing that, still wanna get a stick tho :(
I'm very surprised that he didn't talk about lying as protection, as a trauma survivor I had and still compulsively lie as a defense mechanism to keep my abusers from hurting me
"ARE YOU CALLING ME A LIAR?"
"I AIN'T CALLING YOU A TRUTHER"
Truther words have never been spoken. 😌
Lier words have always been unspoken. 😐
Truther!? I am that annoying girl from your 3rd grade class that would correct you if you said ANYTHING wrong so truther is unacceptable lol.
Hahaha Drake and Josh!
@@susanmiller1790 lol it’s a quote from Drake and Josh
The most frequent lie: I have read the terms and conditions
Nobody reads them
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personally for me it’s just “i’m good” to “how are you?”
@@bungeepete7393 cap
@@bungeepete7393 i read them :)
I thought the title said “why do we live” and I was like damn, they’re asking the serious questions
You'd love Crash Course philosophy
Nobody cares
The greatest lie ever, the Youniverse.
What is the mind? Rorri Maesu says useaMirroR
A good title for a new video..
@@shynlord5238 agreed
"Hey smart people!"
-Never have I felt so excluded
what do you define as "smart"?
@@ravelnavarro9625 Bee
@@ravelnavarro9625 someone who possesses decently large knowledge
@Baal electro archon so i see u are exluded to GOT EM im sorry
@@ravelnavarro9625 the being who can use information effectively and efficiently.
“My dear doctor, they’re all true.”
“Even the lies?”
“Especially the lies.”
Maybe the best quote of the whole series.
@@guywithdacap4713 That, or the one about root beer. 😁
@@mhyzon1 But do you know what's really frightening? If you drink enough of it, you begin to like it.
I was really not expecting to see DS9 quotes here.
_“The point is, if you lie all the time, nobody’s going to believe you, even when you‘re telling the truth.”_
_“Are you sure that’s the point, doctor?”_
_“Of course. What else could it be?”_
_“That you should never tell the same lie twice.”_
"I'm not lying, I'm bending the truth"
I heard the emphasis on *bending* through the text
A video about lies has more truth in it than most videos about truth itself.
Great one!
big brain
@@yajnesh9585 nobody speaks that ooga booga ass language bro
getsie sayas itself
An example maybe ?
I'm actually really interested in the 3/10 of participants in the study who *didn't* lie... They did not recognize the opportunity to do so? Did they make a conscious choice not to take advantage of the situation because of their moral character? Did they see through the experiment? Did they want to lie but didn't because they were too afraid of being caught?
In all things psychological, just look to class. It answers almost everything
@@Backinblackbunny009 like those 3 college students weren't desperate enough to need the extra 2 dollars?
Honestly, I wouldn't. Anxious personality, I guess.
Morally, I'd have no qualms, but a deeprooted fear just appears in these situations.
I don't know what @Backinblack Bunny is talking about, but I'm definitely lower class (In Denmark though, so security net), so do with that what you will I guess..?
they must have already done pretty well hahaa
@@Backinblackbunny009 it is usually the other way around. it was proven in the last century that rich people lie and steal more when a new style of shopping center was created
You forgot about the direct instruction we had as children to lie. Our parents or teachers told us to apologize for something when we weren't sorry. We said a blatant truth that was insulting, and were told "you don't say that".
I haven't lied today! How dare you suggest... Of course, now that I think about it, I haven't talked to anyone today either though.
Liar.
@@yuumisanada2803 I live alone and I don't see other people very often. It's the truth.
@@jeremiasrobinson sed
@@jeremiasrobinson f
You could lie to yourself tho
'Molecular Deception' sounds like a cool band name :P
Sounds cool in general 😉
Theres a band called orange juice..
Got it
It sounds like a cover band of "My Chemical Romance"
@@RobertoPerez-gn1bs lmao
Simple answer:
We lie because the brain that we have wants to terminate the feeling of being Yelled at or something, so we lie in order to get rid of any terrible consequence that could happen.
I agree. Some kindly people welcome the truth with their calm, accepting manner. Other people give a clear message that they only want to hear their version of events and that they refuse to accept that others make mistakes. Angry listeners encourage others to lie.
@@tracesprite6078 but if no one got punished for telling the truth look at it this way a criminal for example can get away for it for telling the truth you see that’s why we need to learn our lesson for telling the truth if we are only punished for telling the lie then you are not taught a lesson
@@tracesprite6078 But maybe you’re right but what they could do is have a talk about what they did wrong and teach Tim how to not make that mistake again to make it fair enoguh.
@@sologamer8287 Hi Solo gamer, you have identified a difficulty in the discussion. It depends on which lie you are talking about. For example, if we angrily ask a child, "Did you spill this chocolate milk on the sofa?" they may feel that we are too irritable for them to dare to tell the truth. It would be better if we said something like, "Mmm ... someone has spilled chocolate milk on the sofa. Maybe a good rule in the future, is to make sure we have the coffee table ready to put the cup on before we bring the drink over. That could prevent accidents." That way, we focus more on the solution than on the problem. On the other hand, if the problem is more serious, then it might be different. We the parent suspect that our teenager has been stealing money from our purse in order to buy drugs. However, what is likely to enable the teenager to talk about this? If we shout angrily, are they likely to confess that they are developing a drug addiction? We can convey that this is a very serious matter but also give the message that we want to help them to get free of a growing drug habit. The question becomes ... what kind of conversation is likely to lead to the teenager changing their behavior?... especially as this may not happen overnight.
@@sologamer8287 I agree that in a police station or a court of law, it is important to insist on the truth. Ironically, sometimes police use such aggressive tactics that they may force a false confession out of someone who is innocent.
"How are ya doing?"
*holding back tears, voice breaking*
Just dANdy
Me errday
Ike
why lie about stuff like that though?
@@ravelnavarro9625 because it's still easier than explaining the same things to people who won't get what's going on over and over no matter how you explain it. Platitudes and awkwardness are far worse feeling and just as unproductive.
@@Lerrae1908 @Kat Mann I kind of agree with you. But there's one problem with this:
You belive that no one will understand you and this is a mistake...some people will not care but others will try to understand you.
We start isolating ourselves and start to think that other person are our enemy and well...i think we don't need to know what will happen
We start living the philosophy of "me against everyone".
"Someone will never understand ne"
Why ?
Can you understand other people's problems ? We can not, but at least we can try to listen...
This is the trap of the depression:
1 Make you think that other people will not understand you
2 isolate yourself
3 hide your crying
4 make your view of the world the real truth(this is not a fact. Just my opinion).
I am not gonna lie, we all here have problems...and it's hard to try to help someone that you don't know. We can talk, but no affection...
Be careful...The mind can create a lot of things including our own jail.
Sorry, english is not my first language...
@@oxines6979 Your english is good
also this comment is useful
im not lying in this comment btw
*"If you have to lie about your position to win an argument, perhaps you should change your position."*
A quote I often use in politics.
don't mind me, just replying to remember this
True
@@masicbemester
listen 'ere, buster. nobody understands weirdo squiggly lines
you know what country this is?
this is 'MURICA
you SPEAK AMERICAN
or you GIT OUT
*U.S National Anthem plays*
@@ravelnavarro9625 lol just my name but written in Japanese for some reason
@@ravelnavarro9625 so far this is the most patriotic comment i have ever seen in comment sections
As a person with Asperger's, I have difficulty with lying to people. Like I understand that it's for survival and making situations not awkward, which I guess is fine as long as it's not going to hurt someone. But if the lie is going to hurt someone more than telling them the truth, then you should just tell the truth. No matter how awkward it becomes.
If people would stop asking how I'm doing when they don't actually care then I'd be lying a whole lot less 🙄
So how are you doing?
If that ain't the truth!
Fr tho, who made that like a greeting?
A greeting should be like, "Hey, I'm here to talk to you about this." unless like, they are close, then saying "Hi, how are you?" seems like a decent or okay greeting
@@Bee-kv5tx and apparently you're supposed to ask it back to be polite? I hardly do anymore
@@haileyghostly6511 so uncivilized
"Real eyes, realize, real lies."
🐡
I didn’t know what this meant until recently
This sounds really deep but idk 😥
Most the time I lie when a friend asks for my opinion on things he made, only to motivate him into doing better, or making him feel better.
Online teacher: Did you cheat during the test?
Me: *Not at all!*
Ah! The lie that we all tell xD
@@architlal8594 Obviously not all of us
I was only asked this once, and I truthfully stated at the time that I didn't. Then I learned the wonders of cheating.
@@kingzingo1784 yeah not all are students here
@@kingzingo1784 yeah I don't cheat
Some kinds of lying are "social camouflage."
Some lies are 'when women move their lips' ;)
@@louithrottler In what way? How does every single woman on this earth who moves their lips lie to you? How have you determined this? What was your sample size and methodology? What you claim doesn't sound very scientific. And to post such obviously unscientific comments on a science channel doesn't sound very smart. I suggest you reevaluate your hypothesis and remove any personal biases you may have before making such comments.
@@ChineduOpara Wouldn't know much about that but I was really just making a time honoured joke.
@@louithrottler idk whose time is honouring that joke. It ain't mine.
@@himanbam Well, to say that something is time honoured is to imply it has been done or used many times before, so if we were to exclude your seemingly aggrandised sense of self-importance then: quite a few people's time would be the answer.
I'm so glad I just found this. My 10 yr old daughter is asking me these huge life questions like about lying. I always believe in being as honest as possible and help her understand it as much as possible and I am going to use this
So the predator metaphor basically says “it’s better to be safe than sorry.” The lie allows you to protect yourself and be safe, regardless of any real danger.
It would be cool to get a 2nd part of this to be about how much do people verify data that they hear/read/see, especially with all the misinformation and disinformation that people spread around online and offline.
The worst thing about compulsive lying is when you realize that what you're doing is unnecessary (from a social perspective) and now there is no way of going back because you will be seen only as a liar...
That is, of course, if you do realize it.
Anyway, this is a great video!
That is true for all compulsive disorders. You know your behavior is irrational but you can't do anything.
The philosopher Jordan Peterson said it best. "No matter how clever someone is at lying, the truth always comes out, because keeping a lie going is stressful and Humans make mistakes". It always comes tumbling out eventually.
The worst lie is this one anyway, because it goes on everyday - th-cam.com/video/hNl-SD9lFas/w-d-xo.html
I clicked that link expecting to get Rick rolled. I was kind of disappointed
@@spencercase5370 Oh fair play for clicking the link. Not many do that, especially after reading the prior comment. Did you watch the... video in the the video? 😛
There's a reason why they lie to people and do what parents do their kids when something is too horrific or horrible, they shield their eyes or hide it from them. That's how the meat & dairy industry treat everybody if you think of it. I mean, nobody in their right mind would give their money to that vile and cruel filth, no matter how "good it tastes". You seem like a very curious sort of person, have a watch of that. And before you ask, it's not a Rick Roll 😅😝
But it is related to the topic th-cam.com/video/S91iFLVZq0A/w-d-xo.html
I used to compulsively lie, I mean I still do but I try to catch it as fast as I can. If I catch myself lying, I'll interrupt myself and tell the person I'm talking to that I had lied.
I lie because
1. Many truths are embarrassing
2. I hate condemnation.
3. The most common one, I know what people want to hear, I know what makes them more comfortable so I try to get to a common ground which is hard when you simply lay out all the truths without exaggeration or degration
The key to getting away with a lie is to know how socially uncomfortable it would be for them to call you on it, and to only tell lies that can't be disproven.
@@tim9605 Eh you know, we all need to deal with police and middle managers sometimes. It's occasionally immoral not to lie.
Yessss agreed. If my lie can’t be disproved then I’m good to go
Did he just say everyone lies. Doctor House would be proud
Though House said "Everybody lies".
--> me seeing a comment on YT of a good series
- -> me considering rewashing the entire series once again
@@blackkissi well if you already washed it the discs might be ruined.
@@blackkissi I mean, it’s already pretty clean. No need to wash it anymore
well I forgot the soap last time
I lied about sooo many things. Starting from the time I said I didn't like someone.... Lying is absolutely wrong💔😭
Ok.... this is an answer for a question that stuck on my head for a long time
Lie
well it is actually a pretty trivial question.
Ahh, yt back at it again taking ideas from your brain
Now the real question is, is he telling the truth here
@@canadianrocketman3475 🤯
Random Stranger: "Hi, how are you doing?"
ME: "Trying to live, and doing a damn shoddy job of it."
Random Stranger: Pauses for a few seconds then walks away.
ME to ME: "You might wanna stop disclosing so much about your life."
This is why the “they ask you how you are and you just have to say you’re fine . . .” quote never gets old to me.
Might be my favorite thing Katy Perry has shared with the world
Or maybe they would be cool with your answer if you ended up asking: "But how are you?". Or probably anything else which doesn't end in a too-generic complain which has little insight into any real problem you actually have.
I have never said that this is slander
i learned that the hard way at work, other employee's would ask how i am when i came in to work and i'd say "i'm just me" and they'd always get confused cause it's not really an answer, but i didn't want to lie, and knew i couldn't tell the whole true, so i thought it'd be a fitting middle ground. i was wrong lol
@@professorbaxtercarelessdre1075 "How are you?" "Not too good. And you?" "I'm OK. Sorry that you're not so good. What about we have a coffee and a chat at lunch time and you can fill me in on how life's going for you?" "That sounds great. Thanks for your kindness."
1:46 true and am used to say “am great” and also when i don’t know what to say what i am doing i will just say “am great!”
That last synonym of _Lie_ was so unexpected, I laughed so damn hard.
“bull-“
@@small_SHOT shi
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Cowpie :D
Cowpoop
14:37 fun fact: “Frans de Waal” literally means “French the Walloon” in dutch. A walloon is someone living on the french part of Belgium, which is kinda ironic given that Frans de Waal is from the Netherlands.
Thank you! The other day it came up in conversation what someone is called from wallonia in belgium, a walloon!
It could also refer to the river "Waal" in the Netherlands
This guy has been researching the behaviour of apes and monkeys for decades. I have an old book written by him - Peacemaking among Primates - in which he describes how the various representatives of their species follow their agenda, establish alliances, fight over social status, and settle conflicts. The lying is part of their strategy. I would say, lying is a means to achieve and maintain certain social relations, of whichever kind they might be.
I had lectures from him
Man when I tell you this show is a diamond in the rough, thanks for doing you ✊🏾. Now in this video everything you said makes total sense and that’s why I believe that in your last statement the truth is reversed. I believe that our conscious mind is the one that chooses to lie and saying “I will not lie” is a sort of affirmation that their unconscious minds tried hard to keep as true as possible.
If there's no honesty in a relationship, then it's too polite and superficial to be satisfying but if we're brutally honest all the time, then it may be too painful to survive. But maybe we can actively notice the good things which are also true e.g. "You are very faithful to the creative side of your personality and that really seems to give you satisfaction in life." Truth doesn't always have to be a judgement of someone but it can merely be an observation which shows that we notice and value the other person.
DIAMOND IN THE ROUUUGH
When someone asks how I am, I've taken to asking if they're actually asking or if they're just saying hi. It usually makes people stop and think for a minute. If they say they're actually asking, I honestly tell them how I'm doing.
Phatic questions are part of social lubricant, and differ between cultures. You'd need to be excessively pedantic (and unversed in pragmatics) to count them as lies.
@@qwertyTRiG or literal, not everything is done for the same reasons you would do it
"You want the real answer or the polite one?"
My regular customers knew what that meant.
@DrumWild I hate noise
I'm in the south, so half the time this question is asked, people walk away without waiting for the response. They're literally just acknowledging your presence, not actually inquiring as to how you're doing. I also stopped answering this question altogether, as it is invasive and there's not many people I would want share my life with. I also don't feel like I have to fulfill the obligations of social norms just to be seen as polite. I'd rather be honest.
Sometimes because the lies we tell each other are less horrible that the truths we keep hidden. We are not what we think we are, we are usually the secrets we hide 🖖
Nah it win in among us wisdom is sus
The question asked upon meeting a acquaintance "How are you?" Is just a common courtesy, nobody wants to hear a sobbing story. The answer "good" is almost always expected.
"How are you?" "Good thanks" is normal for a quick greeting when you run into each other in passing but if you make the time to sit down over a coffee, then most people want to go deeper. They have their struggles that they want to talk over and most people are also willing to listen to your story. If you start with a bit of the less upsetting news, then you can test the waters to see if they can bear some more serious stuff. Many people like to help others so if you say "That was so good to be able to share that story with you," then they will feel encouraged by that.
I actually thought it was “why do we live”
But I loved this video
Your brain lied lol
I actually did to
lol spy girl pfp
and yeah it s lie not live
Hah
I ask myself that question all the time...
One of my teachers, who I consider to be one of the smartest and most well organized, always had a small section at the top of the test, an "I won't cheat or tell anyone else about the test."
Although he only went so far to enforcing it as deducting a large number of points for not signing the pledge properly, I now think he might have done it because he knew that cheating would at least go down if everyone made the promise. Pretty interesting, vid!
I could not come back to paying attention for at least 15s after the dude crying about his knock knock joke being stolen at work. I felt that, buddy.
As a brutally honest indivual, I find it difficult to maintain relationships as I often tend to say things I should not. You could say my unconscious mind prefers truth over lies, which can be just as bad as preferring lies over the truth.
That's a lie.
The truth should always be told even if you don't have many relationships because of that.
The truth is the way
It’s called being quiet bro. Can’t be brutally honest when your mouth is closed :)
Your honesty can be a gift but use it sparingly. People are not often feeling strong enough for your insights which may not always be as accurate as you like to believe. Also there are often several honest things that you can say at any time. Why not choose the more encouraging one? You could say "Your house is so messy" but you could instead say "Thanks for this lovely hot cup of tea. It's just what I was needing." You could say, "I can't understand why you belong to that dumb religion" or you might be better to say "Well, I can't agree with your religion but I can see that it's helping you to get through this tough time since your father died."
There's a fine line between being honest and being mean
Honesty is such a lonely word
Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard
And mostly what I need from you.
I love Billy Joel ❤️🎶
I’m so fascinated by the philosophy of justified lying: when is lying okay? like lying to our children to protect them.
Sometimes the whole truth might be too brutal. You could say to me, " Well, now you've put on that weight, you may be going to die ten years earlier." But you'll probably choose not to say that because it's pointlessly cruel. I could say, "Yes, I see why he had that affair. You're so snippy and critical, that he probably just wanted to be with someone who really enjoyed his company." Even if that is useful information, am I really sure I'm right about that and do I want to lose your friendship when I have already lost several friends by offering my unasked for "insights"?
What is truth or lies when all that matter is how much $$$$ you got in the bank and your social rank in our racial caste system. The law dgaf about the reality of a crime, just what outcome is best for the poltical elite who wrote the law and those who enforce the law. If you're black and poor there are many companies and states eager for your free labor which they will extract by locking you in a box 24/7 and only allowing you out in exchange for your labor. That doesn't even go into the new prison economy that let's these companies bleed dry the friends and family of the imprisoned. A necessity of human life like a roll of toilet paper that retails for .30? Now, it can only be bought from the prison commissary and its $10. Same for soap, shampoo, socks, etc. Even the letters sent to inmates can only be accessed on tablets that cost $50 upfront and $5 per download
@@Backinblackbunny009 Yes, you are so right, Backinblack Bunny. I support the Innocence Project in America. It is terrible how, in some states, slavery is steadily being re-introduced. It sickens me to think of it.
You think you want to hear the truth, but when you do you wish they had lied to you.
@@Artemis_the_gremlin64sadly that ain’t a lie
"I'm a constitutional law expert... on Twitter" got me so hard 🤣🤣🤣
Strange thing to be turned on by.....
Broke the curse,, 70 likes;)
GF: “does this dress make me look fat”
Me pulling up TH-cam video: “hey come check this out”
I’m dead 🤣🤣🤣
Saving lives
🤣🤣🤣
Underappreciated comment
Just tell her it's her body that makes her look fat. Problem solved, no more girlfriend to lie to.
“The world is full of larger lies, and more sinister lies”
Politicians: *Sweats nervously*
Cave man 1 "yea nah, I totally know it's save to eat these berries"
Cave man 2 - eats berries
Cave man 2- DIES
Cave man 1: "yea so that lie made me know it is not save to eat these berries, and I survive :D"
Cave man 1 stonks
@@menopriezvisko94 there's only 1 stock
Now there are no stonks
Safe*
safonks
“i dont like money, bitcoin only.” 😂✌️
Hi verified Channel
HMMMMMMMMM
LIAR, Bitcoin Is Money!
Lie
@@vladgociu7577 yeah, money that can disappear through a little electric surge that fries the USB you have it on... I prefer actual money, thanks.
Any time I hear that silly, yet very common quote "I hate liars" I just roll my eyes. It's like saying you don't associate with people who use toilets. "Well. Good luck with that."
"...or covering up parts of their identity"
Oof size: Extra Large
This is a message for every LGBT+ person seeing this comment: You are not alone. You are loved and you have people who will love you no matter your identity or sexual orientation.
It does get better 🏳️🌈💖
@@agustin268 I support LGBT but spam is not the right way to spread the word.
SPAM BOT
@@IveGotBeef ??? I'm literally a real person. What would I be looking for if I was a spam bot anyway?
@@agustin268 stop spam
@@sergiontothetop It's not spam, it's support. This is the first time I comment something like this on TH-cam. It's not something that I really do often but, as a member of the LGBT+ community, I felt I could make something, as little as this is, for making someone feel better
Honestly, I don't even know why you say it's spam, it's not. I made that comment only once
A non shredding - shredding machine:
This is the reason i have been caught in a lie all the time...
That's the irony though, right!? The people running the experiment were lying to the subjects, lol.
@@brianfox771 i know right, i guess the world just runs on lies with partial to no truth..
@@brianfox771 but its just for science
No. What I am afraid of is those little kids in the movie Argo from Tehran putting together the SHREDDED PIECES OF PAPER to form the faces of the people they were searching for. I MEAN LIKE WHAT THE F-
We lie to get out of danger and sometimes we don't even know the answer about ourself so we tell lies
Squirrels lie to other squirrels by burying imaginary nuts in order to throw off the squirrel who is stealing from them.
People lie because we have an instinct to survive. We confuse our ego, more often than not, with our physical self. So to preserve our egos, we lie to keep them alive.
My father taught me when quite young that liying was for cowards. He told me to be truthful. People have a harder time with it.
On the note of us believing people by default: I find myself questioning everything people tell me. Even if a lie wouldn’t benefit anyone.
“Liar, liar, plants for hire!”-Patrick.
“It’s “pants on fire, Patrick.”
“Well you would know!…liar!” 😂
@@sarab2324 here, just have half of mine
@@BlizzardPeak “Yours, this is mine!” 😂
It's hard to not lie, especially growing in a family which was mostly neglectful to me and never respected me for myself; being in a society that gossips about you, judges you, even possibly hurt you for how you appear to them.
The common thing is: People don't really care about the individuality of others.
I must lie to survive my toxic environments that destroy me for being myself. No matter whether it's my home or college or whatever place.
It's my life until I die. I will be a good human in my own way. I'll lie to protect myself from the things which harm me from outside, and to protect others from the ugly knowledge of how messed up my life would seem to others if they were to know my repressed life.
I did my own social experiment years ago. I gave everyone a complete and honest answer to everything they asked me. The result was that after about three months everyone avoided talking to me entirely.
The obvious conclusion is people ask a lot of questions they do not want honest answers to.
I mean Don't we all know why we lie? It's to get the best we can with no effort or just to ignore something bad
I've read that in a lot of African Tribes lying to save someone's feelings is considered more virtuous than telling a truth that can cause a conflict unless it's absolutely necessary. It's better to lie and keep harmony and tell the truth and cause chaos something like that, because you need complete harmony to survive in nature with your tribesman it makes sense why we'd continue it now.
terrible take and we are no longer live as tribe
So that I won’t get in trouble
As a kid I was incredebly honest, to the point that it was hard to sociolise, but I've learned my lesson and now I lie all the time, especially when telling strangers on the internet about how I was as a kid.
Funnily enough, I can’t stand it. I’m so honest I can’t lie. When I’m really tired and I haven’t told someone the truth I send them a text with the truth so I can sleep. Happened yesterday as well. Because I can’t lie I told my crush (which I am kind of a bit friends with) why I asked if she would come to school today. I just told her, “well, because I miss you...”
Gone was my plan on how to tell her.
I got a "trying to contact you about your car's warranty" phone call in ther middle of watching this.
bro i got one a hour ago watch a vid too
is it the one warning you that it's about to expire? i get that one a lot and i don't even own a car
@@attilastarwar yup. My car is 11-years-old. It's warranty is well passed. The call is such a scam.
Yes lol weird as hell right
Which was a lying call...
Most people can't handle the truth without having a mental breakdown.
"Can we cut that last one?"
Editor: "Nope!"
"I didn't cheat on that speedrun"
OH DREEEEEAM, I KNOW YOU CHEATED ON THAT SPE-
(gets murdered by stans)
Ok idk if you have heard this already but
Dream recently admitted he cheated so yee we were right
@@gonsoku7701 the channel Stand-up Maths mathematically proved he cheated months ago, we didn't need Dream to tell us hehe
God dammit there had to be one person-
That was just denial without solid proof
OBJECTION: We are not smart people, we are just curious people, that learn from videos.
I love being honest when asked how I'm doing. People never know what to do or say next.
me too! my typical answer is something along the lines of "really shitty but thanks for asking." people never know what to say after that. they usually just laugh.
So, how are you doing rn?
@@ghostofthefallenvalkyrie3320 two steps away from lynching myself you?
@@mstorrboy Strange, I never got the notification of this reply. Well I'm sleep deprived and a bit stressed. Thanks for asking
“I don’t like money just Bitcoin” 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
"iNvEsT iN aPpLe"
@@maleknecibi
220 million?
69 likes lmao
@@haseenabadshah5381 I know I’m Impressed lol
*Not me pretending to be a bad liar, just to make people think i'm a bad liar, just to get away with lying.*
I also do this thing where i sound really sarcastic, but i actually mean it and the other person is just confused.
Joe, you ad your show are my FAVORITE thing on the internet. Your demeanor, your humor, your attitude etcetcetc. I wish you hosted everything!
lie
A great addendum to this would be why people who /can't/ lie are considered socially inept (me). We put a fun label on this type of lying to make it seem less immoral, calling it a "filter," which i do not have. Gotta love ADHD.
We could also talk about how being unable to trust each other leads to a great deal of disarray in the world today, and how it could allow us to repair a lot of the damage done by mainstream media.
Love your channel. Thanks for sharing!
Absolutely. I'm autistic and I felt this very hard throughout this video.
I've only recently been able to force myself to develop some kind of "tact filter", but it's a hell of a lot of work trying to "simulate" various scenarios and guess their responses, at least until I have built up enough scripts for similar situations to just rattle off on autopilot.
For my whole life I was called rude, brusque, verbose, shares too much, etc. I never understood why people would react the way they would. I would especially freak out over how some of those complaints seemed contradictory to each other.
Hell, it only struck me a year or so ago that "inappropriate behaviour" in autistic diagnostic criteria includes 90% of my childhood, when I had always previously thought it just meant really obvious things like getting naked in public or swearing at your teacher or stuff. But not responding "appropriately" to "how're you doing?" does actually count. Just going "yes" or "no" instead of "yes please" or "no thank you" counts. Basically everything I said as a child wasn't "socially appropriate" in some large or small way.
Watching this video was like some glimpse into NTs' brains... like .. I had no idea ~80% of most people's lies were self-serving ones? Like 90% of mine are ones told for the sake of others (whatever he called those ones).
Like, I felt so gross and dirty the first time a stranger at the checkout asked how my day has been and I just said "fine". It was like, oh my god, I'm such a liar. But they didn't get upset at me it and just went on as normal. When for all the rest of my adult life prior to that, everything would get ground to a halt as I discussed yet another day of dealing with disabilities when they weren't prepared for it. But it still took over a year of intensive practice to feel comfortable doing so. And now I've trained myself to start off slowly if I am going to tell the truth, "tbh things haven't been so good" or something similar.
Obviously that's a different kind of "no filter" than ADHD, more about never having been taught how or why or where or when, rather than having the knowledge but being unable to act on it, so I don't wanna act like I know exactly what it's like for you. (And, like, apologies if that wasn't said very good either, a couple of my partners have ADHD and we've talked about it a lot but that still doesn't mean I know what it's like, so feel free to correct me if you want)
But like anyway, I can relate to the social problems that come from being "overly truthful", is rly the point I'm trying to make I think.
For me it was like.... everyone around me said to always tell the truth and 6 year old me would call them out when I noticed them lying. And they'd get upset like oh that wasn't a lie, or, oh it's okay this time, and I never understood wtf was going on.
So my "inability" to lie, I think, was more of a moral compulsion kind of a thing, especially considering I have OCD as well to amplify the existing autistic rigidity therein.
Before I started training myself to tell socially lubricating small lies this past few years, I only ever lied to protect people I cared about from consequences. AKA when there was a pressing reason to. Like I always disagreed with Kant's "never tell a lie, even to a murderer asking where your friend is hiding".
But why should I ever have had a reason to lie about my emotional state? Is how I saw it. And people telling me, well, y'know, they prefer it when you say you're doing fine, really confused me for a long time. "Why would they ask me if they don't want the answer?", I'd think. And of course I never asked them back, either, because I didn't really want to know, and which I'm sure contributed to my perception as rude.
But now I've gotten better at "oh, pretty good, how about yourself?" script. And they go, "not bad, not bad", and then talk business. It still baffles me why it works... but at least now I know it does work to make them feel at ease. I can tell myself, It's just to break the ice. While, as an autistic person, I never had ice to break. (Which, come to think of it, really influenced how I date as well... not needing to have any of my ice broken because there was no ice... but I digress!)
It's nice seeing how many other comments on this video are from NA folks who felt similarly to me about it, as well. I was considering just writing a top level comment saying similar things but seeing these other comments. I figure I should just reply to those and increase their chances of showing near the top.
If your kids lie to you it’s because when they told the truth, your reaction frightened them. My scary mum’s behaviour conditioned me to lie, which is sad because do genuinely value honesty. In my adult years I’ve been trying really hard to break the habit.
It just hit me that this guy is the adult version of game theory's Matt Patt!
LOL MatPat was born in 1986, how is he not an adult
*MatPat
It's okay to be smart is kinda dumb down and targeted towards 12 year old boys
@@besmart haha i meant "older looking" Version I realized when i remembered that he recently had a baby that that might classify him as an adult.
@@Zaradorian you can have kids before adulthood.
A veeeeerrry pertinent and timely subject... Thank you, Dr. Hanson.
P.S. We love your show, and that's no lie!
we all do it
What I’ve always wondered is, do politicians get a free course in lying once the get elected or do they lie about already having done one?
We are hypercritical of politicians so that might make it difficult for them to be honest.
Oh damn... I never thought about morality this way but it makes so much sense to me now. Thank you!
If that kid was able to draw a dead-on accurate depiction of Sanic, he is seriously talented.
That's sanic not sonichu
@@kingofpigs6630 I'm an idiot today, thank you. Edited
Grace is given to all ... without judgement... not bc you are good but bc he loves you for all the humanness that you all.
I'm 25 and I am living with my mom, partly for financial reasons, but also because we get along well and don't really have other people nearby. It's funny how often nowadays we will randomly in conversation come around to topics and be like, "Oh, remember when I told you X happened when I was around 10? Yeah, sorry, that was a lie." She tells me things she lied about in my childhood, too. After 10 or 15 years, we can laugh about those things. A lot of the time, we're like, "I KNEW IT!" I'm seriously so lucky to have such a great mom... who has put up with my crap!
have you searched the simpson's rule that the animation needs 34 fps in certain situation? search it up it's called simpson rule 34
@@renanmendes1299 Nice try.
Me lying
Joe : Its not our fault
My mom (looking at my phone and me using it) : that is the reason behind u becoming bad day by day
Me : *_*wtf?
I havent lied that often lately huh, probably because i am amazing
and not because i have no one to lie to..
I loved this entry. But I really wish that there would have been an explanation for the real liars in the world; those who do it for personal gain and political power. It could help the younger viewers understand that not everyone is lying to them because they are nice people trying to help our species.
😂
"And you have a less chance of surviving and passing on your genes."
me: Yup im doomed
Not, if the rejection of the liar happens only after four years...
I do not lie anymore. It's too hard to keep track of the lies, and ultimately, honesty proves better than an exposed lie.
This is why we love to play 'Among Us'
Amogus sus imposter
@@itsfiredude1975 je"sus"
sussus amogus
Sussy
Ahhh yes
This video is truly fascinating. This channel is always a sleeper with really, really amazing content!
that's a lie!
I’ve notice that I lie to myself it’s confusing to think how I even do it and of course rarely ever do it to my benefit
"I don't have money one me."
Is basically protecting the target from getting their feelings hurt.
Truth: I don't have money to give to you. 🤪
I almost never carry cash because I don't think it safe and, when I do, it's usually not for very long. Sometimes, I ask what they need the money for. If they say food, coffee or even cigarettes, I may go and buy that for them. If I do have cash, I will tell them I will not give them the money but if they need something, I will go buy it for them. I'm trying to help people, not keep them drunk or high.
It depends on the person. Like the commenter above, I don't ever have cash on me.
Yes and no? Sometimes it's true in the sense that the person doesn't have _literal_ cash like coins and bills, but only digital money on their phone or money on their cards. Sometimes, it's what you mentioned where they _do_ have money, but they don't have any excess to give away. So it's like telling the future truth, but at present it's a lie.
Also, sometimes it's both. You have money, just not bills/coins. And even if you could convert it, there wouldn't be any excess to give away.