I wish you had existed while I was growing. I had to learn all of these myself through experience. Sometimes I made some mistakes that hurt people feelings and I was never able to salvage the friendship. Thank you Psych2Go for helping people of this generation become more emotionally concious and, as a result, healthier.
I didn't realize how negative and insecure I've acted lately, not even on purpose. This was an amazing reminder. I hope I can do better for my special someone and myself.
it’s easy to slip into those thought patterns. being able to recognize and reflect is not so easy. glad that you at least have the self awareness to work on it
Negativity and insecurity are the main reasons for my most recent failed relationship. I would have needed to know this video and this channel a year ago.
same.. i have my high self confidence got destroyed just because of hearing everyday constant criticize, that i cannot afford to stop getting through my head anymore. From the most "liked" and "friendly" in grade 10, turned invincible by college that no one sees because of how insecure, overthinking, negative, low self esteemed person i have become. I have once sorrounded by friends and people, but now.. Maybe, now that i have become like this, i think its better if i should just stop trying to build back to what i was.. Being alone is not bad, from this road on, I think it would be better if i go on alone.
I feel like people don’t understand that it’s okay to have these flaws in us but we don’t acknowledge that it is okay that we have them and we don’t even point out that we’ll work on them. Just as it is your partners job to support you, your job is to work on improving them too.
wow, I admire you kiran for being deep and an open minded person. by pointing out that we really need to feel even those unpleasant emotions in order to process and heal from it, you help people understands things more clearly. id also like to point out that theres nothing wrong with feeling your emotions. in fact, feeling your emotions is one way of finding many things in life like personality, trauma, etc etc. that doesnt make someone a lesser person as long as you are working your way to get better. your wounds are your teacher, whatever unpleasant emotions you have, reveals what still needs to be healed.
Depression is a curse I got myself into but a blessing because I learned to learn from it. If I could choose to live again with or without I'd still say with. I would've be the person I am now. Depression made me realise how idgaf but at the same time and in a different way. How much I value my body, life and everything else. Depression isn't a curse. It's a hindrance and a handicap.. the strong can keep going. The people that were strong for too long stopped. Be the person to be strong for longer. When you get that wake up call your life is gonna be better than ever before and you'll also know the truth of life. You have to find the source. Analyse it. And keep going. I can't tell you to do anything in an order or give you advice because my journey is a different one and already hard enough on itself. You'll find a way. I believe in you. There's still no reason for me to live. Idgaf. I do because i feel like it right now. You know what helped me? The thought of (I was suicidal, somewhat in a way i guess a part of me is?) Anyways. That- I reached out for help and my thought process was like (i don't believe in god btw or more like i know nothing such exists the way you picture it.) Oh well I haven't got anything to lose. When I die I won't be able to recall anything anymore. I don't exist anymore so yea. And if I don't feel like it I can still yknow. Kms And if somebody catches me? Okay well.. like i said i can kms. When I'm gone. Everything of me is. Everybody else whose had a memory of me. It's gonna disappear. There's nothing to be afraid of. In the end. It doesn't. It truly *does not.* And that helped me. It may seem like a negative view but there isn't anything such as positive and negative. We humans made up everything. It's just the way *you* see it. Do what you feel is right. Have self discipline. Get help. Get fked. Go best someone up to call out your feelings. In the end it doesn't matter. I hope this doesn't reach the wrong people because it's all a matter of the mindset of who's reading this.
surely depression is difficult, but making someone you love feel bad isn't a way to resolve it, you'll just feel worse. when someone says you're smart or beautiful etc don't answer ''no I'm not'' just smile like a kid and feel glad. that will make you feel way better.
By no doubt the evilest enemy of man is the belief that life has significance, which is one that holds responsibility for all the suffering that man undergoes and endures as he marches forwards along the path of life. Depression is one fruit among the basket of a vast possible variety of bitter fruits that this pernicious attitude bears, so the best way to remedy the former is to adopt a nihilistic attitude and then surely you will cease to show concern and worry to the things that were the instigators of depression. So please, take the veil off of your eyes and hereafter you shall understand how your own serious attitude towards life can easily become your downfall as it subtly gnaws on your mentality. Moreover, happiness merely is a spurious concept, because the only functions it has is that is serves as a cloak that hides the wounds inflicted by prior suffering and adjourns the inexorable, upcoming future suffering.
It's also really hard to find a partner who is supportive. I have PTSD, it's a lot better now but I still have triggers and sleep paralysis. Every guy I have dated; instead of being supportive, they just tell me how to fix myself. "Oh you have sleep problems? Have you tried going to bed earlier?" "Oh you've been triggered? Have you tried meditating?" "You need to let go of the past" And they say it like it's the easiest thing in the world and as though it hasn't made irreversible changes to my brain. People are the worst.
1. 0:25 Insecurity 2. 1:14 jealousy and possessive behavior 3. 1:47 being overly critical 4. 2:32 spending too much time with Technology 5. 3:14 negativity
@@Psych2go can you put them in the video description and add one for " 0:00 Introduction " or something like that so the chapters appear in the timeline? I think this could help many people to memorize the points better and jump back to a certain one when they want to watch it again
We all have insecurities, and from my experience there will be people who will accept you regardless You don’t have to think “I have to be confident in all aspects” cause it’s impossible. What is true is that some insecurities are a true problem in the relationship and they may take the form of manipulation, jealousy, anger, bad communication, giving up on different things and so on
when you talk about your body shape or looks in a negative way all the time, your partner will see them eventually, too, and may even dislike them over time. also it's frustrating to tell the partner he or she is not to fat, to silly, to whatever and the partner always talks back, even argues maybe. it's just exhausting and will definitely change the way how someone feels over time. for sure!
Thanks to my depression, I had developed all 5 of these at one point and that’s never left me. Even after finally being okay it takes a lot of work to resist but I do my best by thinking positively to try to negate the effects.
As it's important to get positive, it's also important to dwelve in you're problem as well. Knowing why you feel the way you feel often makes the feelings go blandier. Knowing yourself is the first and better weapon to control you're feelings, cause then you'll won't let them acumulate and you know where to put them. A psychologist can help with that, but if you don't have that possibility you can always rely on yourself and put yourself onto situations that help you doing that work
@@00Mali00 Hey, i know you have good intentions, but this comment could go a little off and do the opposite as would be expected. Of course depression is only on the mind of the people who feel it, but the problem is that most people doens't know their own mind well. I didn't knew my own mind 4 years ago, as i know now! The first goal must be to know you're own mind. I know this can sound weird, but it's it is
So yeah, we broke up today. It was mainly my fault at the end. I guess I was very insecure, not showing my face because I always feel like it would change something about the relationship. I was a bit jealous because she sent screenshots of her flirting with people. I was the opposite of overly critical so I guess it's even worse. It was an online relationship tho, but I was probably too clingy. I was pretty negative at the end because I thought she didn't like me anymore, but I was positive before. Stay with the people you love before it's gone. Trust me, life isn't that fair.
@@lyan749 I met my late fiance through an online friend who set us up together. Best relationship I've ever had. The distance made communication a priority and in the end it only made us closer. If the effort is there it works wonderfully. Sitting in the hospital with her and watching her die because the hospital was too slow to diagnose a perforated bowel (I correctly guessed it an entire day before they did) is something I won't ever fully recover from. Would I do it again? Absolutely
the first one is definitely my partner. he always criticizes himself and says negative things about himself, so I always try to cheer him up and make him feel better. it gets pretty exhausting at times but i don’t know what else to do but to keep helping.
@@phansaxtiger that's horrible advice. If someone's super insecure and makes self-deprecating comments to look for validation then they really need kindness. Telling them it's exhausting will make them defensive and won't help with healing their self-esteem. I'm also in this position, my partner is super insecure so I make sure to support him and compliment him all the time and I've noticed that it's helping. Sure, sometimes it is tiring but I can empathize, me being tired of repeating how great he is and him not believing it is less of a problem than him having low self-esteem that comes from having abusive parents. Thankfully he doesn't live with them anymore, that's the first step in the process of healing, removing the stimuli that cause the negative effects.
I used to have a partner like this but he would insult me too fat shaming me when I couldn't lose the weight. I am loyal to a fault so we stayed friends for years after words with him invalidating me and my past saying that since i was so young whatever happened to me back before we met didn't count but the things that happened to him did. And I would always make sure he was ok but anytime I said anything about my struggles he would make fun of me or say that I was too sensitive. I still struggle to not go back to that because he was awful to me but the fact that we were friends for so long just my loyalty being annoying. Any way if it starts to go in the direction where you're feeling bad about yourself because of him\her they aren't worth it leave.
@@Vescilla It's not horrible advice. A romantic relationship is supposed to be bidirectional. Just as she supports him, he needs to support her. So it is perfectly valid for her to tell him the truth that his self-attacks hurt her too. But she needs to tell him the WHOLE truth, which is something like this: A) She loves him very much; B) In spite of his self-attacks, he is NOT bad/stupid/weak/ugly; C) She will always defend him against his self-attacks, but it is exhausting her when he rejects her defense by continuing the attacks; D) The next time he feels like self-attacking, he should remember points A, B and C and say to himself, "I think I'm so bad/stupid/weak/ugly, but my girlfriend disagrees vehemently and I respect her opinion".
thank you all so much for the advice, it really helped me. I love my boyfriend very much and he has been very supportive and has been there for me during incredibly dark times too. it’s just more often than not he doesn’t seem to believe he is good enough, not even for me. But thank you all so much, it means a lot ❤️
As someone who's cursed by depression it's hard to not fulfill those mistakes. Even though I'm improving my self-consciousness it seems impossible to keep it up constantly
@@samanthajane8906 At a date, what would you expect your opposite to tell you, that'd ease your pain / make you feel more comfortable? I'm just curious 😄
@@zayba1617 Confident to assume I go on dates >.< I get asked, I just don't go. EDIT: Likely, you would get to know me much better via text than face to face. I think, if ever someone were to be interested enough, they should make me feel comfortable texting them random things and at random times. Sad, because in text you lose a lot of interaction. Sometimes what you know is good for you seems out of reach. (Just for reference, I'm 27, female)
I’ve been in the talking stage with an amazing young woman recently. I made several comments about how she’s out of my league and shorting herself by being interested in me. It lead to her starting to lose interest until she checked me on it. Once I started hyping myself up and relying less on her validation for my confidence, she started appreciating my change in energy. Don’t let a good one go because you can’t let your own negative thoughts go.
you gave me more confidence you make me feel like I'm attractive (at least my personality) and worthy i didn't have a confidence since I was a child and always blamed myself for everything put you changed that bad habit of mine
2 months ago i've been invited by my crush to her place, said i could bring me pc and we could play so i did (we both are fellow "gamers") but i definitely ended falling into n°4 and that killed the flirty vibes that was going on. We talked about it later on and she said she moved on. I know i'm still deeply inside hoping for another chance and until it comes i work on myself to deserve that chance, hopefully won't be foolish again, wether it is with my crush or another person i can resonate with, i hope to give the best of me and bring the best of them, good day y'all hope no one mind me venting here, pursue your dreams and let's appreciate life and this channel!
+Psych2go *Thanks for a list of to-avoids for relationships, especially significant:* 0:24 Insecurity 1:13 Jealousy and/or possessive behavior 1:46 Overcritical behavior 2:31 Too much time with technology 3:12 Negativity
I agree and disagree on the technology part. I'm like never on my phone when I'm hanging with friends or someone special, but when I'm with that special someone, we always play video games. Even if 1 of us is just watching. I feel no boredom in that time period. That's one of our bonding moments.
@@Psych2go Here's my opinion and thoughts. (It's more about why some advices are bad, and I don't have any advice yet for feeling jealous or envious) Here's my advice, just don't be jealous or envious. Just kidding, that's actually a horrible advice and I know we have definitely heard it at some point. It's horrible because: 1.) First, it ignores/invalidates/disregard/deny someone's emotions and feelings. Emotions and feelings are natural part of being a human, and rejecting that is also rejecting part of ourselves. 2.) Second, it is not so simple as that because it takes time, effort, knowledge/experience about emotions and self-awareness to find out why are you feeling envious and jealous. Everyone's life is unique and everyone will have unique set of reasons why someone is feeling that way. 3.) And lastly, chances are you might definitely feel pressured from this "should" of never feeling jealous or envy, and you might begin to force yourself to stop feeling jealous or envy, which conflicts to our human nature to have and feel emotions as said in the first point/reason. But where's the advice? As for now, I still can't think of an advice that actually works and not some "just do this" crap. But I hope those things I have said above might help you identify and avoid following bad advice, because there's so many advice both in the internet and real life that is just insulting and unsolicited that it's more of "what should I do" than "what are the things that can I do". Or in detail, where it's more of someone else deciding for you instead of you deciding for yourself. That's it, take care everyone^-^
Those who like you can see through your insecurities and like you even more. Love is a strange thing: you just see a person and already know whether you will love them. Together with all their insecurities, depressions and who knows what else.
I was talking to my friend about his soon ex-girlfriend. Turns out a real buzzkill is when you don't allow your partner to follow their hobbies and almost demand that they give them up or guilt shame them into not spending that time with you (even you just sit around and scroll tick-tock for hours)
Recently I realized that I shouldn't be too insecure and self criticizing in front of others, because it pushes away people. And when someone says me for example, that my voice is cute, it's hard to not respond "no, it's terrible, how can you like it?", but instead I just try and respond with "Thank you :)" Still I'm always feeling that people are just being too nice when they say something good about me, but.. even if they're mistaken, it's still nice when someone compliments you
for number 4, a more generally applicable thing is spending too much time on your interests or hobbies when trying to spend time with them. like if you went to a mueseum and went off on your own and ignored them, or constantly read or knit in front of them while they are wanting your attention. not saying stop doing what you enjoy, but time with a person is time with a person
According to #drwiseone, repairing a toxic relationship will take time, patience, & diligence. This is especially the case, Astrologer #drwiseone, “given that most toxic relationships often occur as a result of longstanding issues in the current relationship or as a result of unaddressed issues from prior relationships. But a big thanks to him in resolving the toxic relationship with a loving spell portion
Videos like these may or may not be what I'm using to make sure my long distance relationship doesn't fall apart, I don't want to break up with this man before we even get a chance to meet and it will be a few years before we ever get to meet for the first time
I'm the insecure guy, one day I just stopped trying and caring what people thought about me. Now I am in my 30's without any friends or close family. I don't see a future of having any social life and maybe it is just meant to be.
thank u, this is what i needed i was courting someone and i was really attracted to her but as time went on i started to feel less attracted to her and after 2 months i told her i don't want to continue our relationship and i actually felt relieved that she made me wait first before agreeing to be my gf 1. she was always insecure of herself and i started to get tired of reassuring her 2. she gets jealous easily and thinks of the most ridiculous things 3. 4. she spends most of her day scrolling through tiktok and would actually believe most of what she sees in it, even when she's with me she'll just scroll through her phone, whenever im texting her or talking to her its mostly short replies and my interest on having a conversation would just go away 5. she thinks she's not gonna make it so she doesn't bother trying, i kept trying to encourage her and assure her that she'll succeed in things but would insist that she'll just fail...it's impossible to hype her up! she asked me why the sudden stop and i couldn't answer her, i just lost my interest on her over time and idk if it would be a good idea to show this vid to her lmao...now that i know this, why was i even attracted to her in the first place is a mystery to me
I don’t like that insecurity is a negative. Insecurity is based on objectively real things that a person can’t control and feels bad about, and making into a bad thing borders on toxic positivity.
It's because they don't find that useful and beneficial in some way. To put it simple, people are attracted to power. Someone who can influence the environment in a way that they'd see that is more beneficial than what they can do from themsleves. Having Insecurity doesn't do that. It is indecisiveness, a weakness when it comes to making decisions (when honestly it's a strength to make good decisions, because it helps critical thinking being able to see the benefits of all outcomes, but being unable to choose which is best.) People want a drive, a powerful individual who can help them in a way that cannot they themsleves cannot. Which is why people have high standards or don't put up with even the simple mishaps that people have. They do not have compassion and do not see the potential of more within someone else. How someone may not be the best mate, but surely can become a great one for ourselves. But no, they don't and that's all there is to it.
It's normal to be insecure about some things but what this video is trying to say is to not push it too much on others. It's not their responsibility to deal with YOUR self image issues. Maybe they are dealing with it too, who knows. It's ok to not want to hang out too much with someone who is constantly saying how much is wrong with them. You've got to get a healthy surrounding for yourself, even if it's sad for the insecure person . Of course you can seek for support sometimes but this is something you've got to work out with yourself with the help of others, not that others should do for you. (I hope this is understandable enough lol my English is a bit meh)
All 5 hit for me. I think I should't even bother w/ people and just... "Go my own way". I'll probably never be the "Right person" for anyone, I'm almost never that for myself anyway.
I can tell you're all 5 of those because of how you wrote your comment, lol. If you have no desire to change the way you are, you won't change. You are in control of yourself, my friend.
I relate to 1, 4, and 5. I don’t even have a crush yet, and I don’t think I EVER will Reasons why: 1. I’m too insecure 2. Selfish 3. Feat of rejection 4. I’m not ready 5. I’m too negative about myself 6. Strict parents 7. I hate myself
the things in this video is why I was quite most of my life and that's when toxic positivity come into play. I don't like being positive just for the sake of. It may come off as kind for others but it's un-authentic and fake. It's like telling someone with a unhealthy drug addiction that they are ok. last is how do they take in what's positive and negative? Some take positive and negative as a emotional thing vs others take it as a logical thing.
well here on TH-cam you have a video that's called "read the room" and this video kinda reminds me of that. the answer I had for that video is the same for this one. Is it a room that you should be in? it's like trying to much a introvert with a extrovert. It's not always going to work. just like someone who takes positivity and negative emotionally or logical. Did you grow up in a strict household that you wasn't able to do what the other's did when you was a kid and was forced to be separated socially? Did your parents put you into therapy because doing that can cause actual pain? Did that person grow up to be a old soul because of that unknown trauma? The jelusy and social media one I can agree with. Take it as me being negative or mean towards you on this video. only 2 out off all of them I disagree with so that's a good thing.
@@Psych2go but to sum it up. The person that is attracted to you may only had the physical attraction that they fell in love with then added everything else on their head of what they think you are. Like the story of the guy that played in the new batman and twilight movies. The story on how he got rid of his stalker. She feel in love with the character, not the person. The solution is the same one as in the anime trapped I'm a dating Sim.
I definitely have done or am doing some of the things discussed in this video. It makes me feel so depressed and upset all the time. I feel like my fiance and I end up drifting a lot at times due to it. I've been trying to figure out how to do better so this doesn't continue.
To be honest all these mistakes i committed while i was in my first relationship. but today im aware of all of it and if i get into a relationship again ill be more experienced.
There's no feeling more intense than starting over. If you've deleted your homework the day before it was due, as I have, Or if you left your wallet at home and you have to go back, after spending an hour in the commute, If you won some money at the casino and then put all your winnings on red, and it came up black, If you got your best shirt dry-cleaned before a wedding and then immediately dropped food on it, If you won an argument with a friend and then later discovered that they just returned to their original view, Starting over is harder than starting up. If you're not ready for that, like if you've already had a bad day then what you're about to go through might be too much. Feel free to go away and come back. I'll be here.
Or the women that couldn't try any less, but expect you to give them the moon on a silver platter and act like you don't care enough when you can't deliver.
I have been dealing with a lot of resentment within myself and my own actions, because I know that there are a lot of things that were said on this video that I relate to. I am not the most perfect partner. I make mistakes and I fail sometimes to call myself out and to keep myself accountable. It’s okay to admit that you made an error, or were in the wrong.
I wish I had known some of this a couple years ago, last few years have taken its toll on me and I didn't seek mental help, now stuff is worse in many ways
I dont want any attraction , i want to be a ghost , a shadow that no one notices , thats why im here. i dont care about others i see no point of being jealous , chances that i will be jealous are like idk 1 % ? +-. i might have trust problems but im fine with that trust me . my dad is always criticizing , im perfect oposite. i dont check mobile at all when with friends / at work / school ... if im bored at home thats something else , i watch funny memes to laugh my ass off , or play games on pc. My what? oh that thing ... i dont know , im shy spy that doesnt rly care about anyone , its hard to get to know me and i like that way , to some it might seem arogant or something like that . if you are negative when with your partner then you or he / she / it ... should stop that or start working on changes i dont get you guys , im that kind of person that will tell you whats my problem , what i dont like , why i dont like it i go right at it , i hate walking around ,yes sometimes you are scared that truth is gonna hurt them , but for me its better to tell right away . anyway , to everyone reading , have a nice day :D
Hey Psych2go, do you have any video about how to being modest properly? My attempts at modesty just always go straight to being negative and underestimating about myself
Accept yourself for who you are without being judgemental of yourself or others. I think that's what modesty is. I apologize if I am mistaken, but you asked for help in understanding hoe to be modest. Long short, I'm a good example of what not to do.
This makes sense since I was insecure, jealous and maybe a little possessive because I'd like to spend time with her but there reasons for my insecurity and jealousy. I've worked on my mistakes and for the most part I don't get Insecure anymore and I found ways I could stop being Jealous over small things. My possessive behavior Im still trying to figure out how i can deal with this. But I guess this means she didn't love me
my core of trust issues are my classmates and the fact that i feel like most of people i randomly see may want to steal something ("Thank you" people who gave me THIS anxiety)
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I have a crush on a girl right now, and i feel like i've managed to make her like me a little bit too, but when we hung out together, just the two of us for the first time, i think i definitely made her lose attraction because of my insecurities and negative thoughts about myself I don't know if i still have a chance with her, but i guess all i can do now is to focus on fixing myself and working on myself to be better, try to not be insecure and negative all the time haha
I feel that so much. Just keep going and try to find yourself and your good parts. It helped me a lot to understand, that every person is individual and there is no reason of being insecure of anything about yourself. Sure, there are days i still feel very insecure, but even then i ask myself "why?" What is making you feel insecure? You are who you are, just as everyone else and you can't change who you are and that is good. You are good and no one ever would notice the things you are insecure about, because they just see you as whole and not only your insecurities, so why should you not do the same and only see you as a whole package thats just as good as everyone else? :D
Honestly, I would rather demystify the other person's fantasies and illusions of me and just be my true self rather than trying to maintain something as intangible as their "attraction" to me.
Failed my recent relationship because of 1, 3, 4 and 5. Where as relationships prior, I had failed because of 2. I worked on not bringing about jealousy this go around noting it killed the previous relationships, only for the others to come out. And yeah, I didn’t know what to do to fix it. I’ve been devastated since and seeking therapy for once, to help me for mine and my next lover’s relationship. I just wish my current ex would see that I’ve improved and come back, but I know once someone has experienced that, that’s probably what they expect should they come around again and that kills me.
It's factors that I experienced with an person long time ago..whom i myself befriended.. Over possessiveness..kills the fun Justify everything Way too available Nagging Scared to try new things stuffs Quite repeatative interactions..you find no new stuffs to express try Not taking care of basic hygiene Easily gets agitated scared anxious Brings up ex y z mother father everytime between conversation Try acting sexy smart.. These are something i found to be intimidating..we though remained good acquaintance I m not perfect either but for someone who can be attractive..these things makes things go straighten downhill
I know that insecurities are a turn off, so why do people ask their partners to show their vulnerabilities? Is it to weed out the people who are too stupid to hide their emotional and mental problems?
Nooo...you try not to show your insecurities early on, that's when they're going to get in the way the most. Later on, when you're actually partners, you SHOULD want to help your partner with those issues, and you can't help them if you don't know about it.
@@VoiceOvaGuy Ehh. I'm only going to care if they do. Why bother if they don't want to do the same? Relationships are give-and-take, but I don't want to be the only who gives. The tough part is finding someone who actually gives a shit or is too desperate to settle to even care.
I think people are getting confused with the first point of the video. You cannot rely on others to "cure" your insecurities. Constantly seeking out that kind of validation is exhausting to others. It's different when a friend has just gone through a breakup or your partner is having a hard time at a certain point. Those are rare moments where anybody needs some reassurance. But if you do that every single time you are around somebody... it gets old fast. Of course everybody has insecurities, but if you talk about yourself and see yourself through the lense of those insecurities, you won't be describing someone people would want to hang around, right? We have the choice every day to choose to see the best or the worst in ourselves. Choose the best. And in dark times, like being laid off, being dumped etc. seek out reassurance and support. Because that is when you truly need to be reminded of the good in you.
@@guesswho5790 Exactly on point. It is not your partners "job" to make you secure. 95% of people would need professional help to deal with these kind of issues.
i found this channel about 2 hours ago, and i cannot stop watching, theres so many things I wish I had known going into certain situations, P2G, thank you for sharing all this wonderful information to anyone who might need it
Seeing this is wild bc 4 out of 5 of these things are things my ex (i just pbroke up with him yesterday) did tht drive me absolutely insane. And he did ALL of these (with a hint of sexism) within the first MONTH of us being together. I ignored it bc I thought he would loosen up, tht he was anxious and he just really liked me. But people, if you see this behavior RUN.
i've literally lost my best friend because of being unconffident of myself, so, to all the people who actually read comments, you matter, you all matter, even if other don't think the same 😊
That's no excuse for your ex-bestie to leave u. Instead he/she should have been supporting u because you are insecure,not dump u. That's what real friends are for.
I like how most of these mistakes are cause when you have a connection and communications with your crush. In my cause and many others too, our crush doesn`t even know that we exist and have never even talked to her/him
And yet, I have no female friends because they all willingly trapped themselves with someone with all of these traits, and the vast majority of men I've met have all or most of these traits. I have one lazy, negative, or off day, and that's suddenly who I always am to everyone else forever 🙄
my mum does the criticizing thing and is surprised if I don't want to visit her unless necessary. my sis does the phone thing and is surprised that I do not tell her about my life. both feel like I should be more resilient and they do not mean it in a bad way.
I would love to see a video about coworkers and their relations, to improve communication for example. I have one such person I have issues working along side. 🙃
What killed the attraction for me was, on top of all this, telling me constantly what I am (beautiful, kind etc.), the constant feedback about ANYTHING good or bad makes me feel self-conscious; not showing genuine interest in me and talking about themselves all the time, or using me as a psychologist, basing our relationship on them telling me their problems instead of having a good time... Go away. After watching the video I realize why I am attractive even if I don't have supermodel good looks.
I've come to understand I don't have trust issues, people have behaved in ways that aren't trustworthy. I'm not jealous or insecure, they're disrespectful and disregard my feelings and the bounds of the relationship. Not everything is my fault or my problem and I'm done believing and being told it is.
my fear is that i move to slow because I overthink and now its too late. but only the present moment is real...so I ain't letting that stop me from asking her out!!
I’m always slightly dissatisfied with these videos. They are so general and simplified and never really answer the question for me. But I guess that’s working for their target audience 🤷
I really like your videos and your voice is so nice and I just realized it now. I had a question, is there any books I can read that has the same subjects as your videos? Thank you so much 💜
Should be mentioned that some people will use the "Why are you being so jealous" line as a defense mechanism...when actually they have very poor boundaries.
I wish you had existed while I was growing. I had to learn all of these myself through experience. Sometimes I made some mistakes that hurt people feelings and I was never able to salvage the friendship. Thank you Psych2Go for helping people of this generation become more emotionally concious and, as a result, healthier.
Happy to hear that the content can be helpful for you now!
Same here, I just recognize half of my mistakes now, years after I broke up with my ex girlfriend
I’m telling u, where was this 10 years ago
Same here man, but it’s okay to make mistakes, once you learn from them.
You still need to experience these things to truly understand!
1. Insecurity
2. Jealousy and possessive behavior
3. Being overly critical
4. Spending too much time on technology
5. Negativity
I love people that like technology tho
Am I just weird then lmao
I will make sure to do all of these.
@@atlasthewolf1508 u'll want to make sure to NOT do all of these things buddy ;)
Well that's just exactly what I am as person. Suppose I'll just have to accept people hating me and me never being a part of world.
Rejecting the idea that you can improve isn’t gonna get you anywhere
I didn't realize how negative and insecure I've acted lately, not even on purpose. This was an amazing reminder. I hope I can do better for my special someone and myself.
it’s easy to slip into those thought patterns. being able to recognize and reflect is not so easy. glad that you at least have the self awareness to work on it
Negativity and insecurity are the main reasons for my most recent failed relationship. I would have needed to know this video and this channel a year ago.
At least you saw this video in time, I've lost my loved one 1 week's ago and now it's too late. Good luck brother
same.. i have my high self confidence got destroyed just because of hearing everyday constant criticize, that i cannot afford to stop getting through my head anymore. From the most "liked" and "friendly" in grade 10, turned invincible by college that no one sees because of how insecure, overthinking, negative, low self esteemed person i have become.
I have once sorrounded by friends and people, but now.. Maybe, now that i have become like this, i think its better if i should just stop trying to build back to what i was.. Being alone is not bad, from this road on, I think it would be better if i go on alone.
Happy to be learning with Anya's help ❤️
*Starlight Anya
I feel like people don’t understand that it’s okay to have these flaws in us but we don’t acknowledge that it is okay that we have them and we don’t even point out that we’ll work on them. Just as it is your partners job to support you, your job is to work on improving them too.
wow, I admire you kiran for being deep and an open minded person. by pointing out that we really need to feel even those unpleasant emotions in order to process and heal from it, you help people understands things more clearly. id also like to point out that theres nothing wrong with feeling your emotions. in fact, feeling your emotions is one way of finding many things in life like personality, trauma, etc etc. that doesnt make someone a lesser person as long as you are working your way to get better. your wounds are your teacher, whatever unpleasant emotions you have, reveals what still needs to be healed.
Yes, supportive partners bring out the best in each other and nurture eachother's growth.
@@Psych2go can you do a video on trust and rebuilding it.
Depression is a curse given by life, we can't be shiny happy people everytime, smiling and been seen confident is like telling a lie.
Depression is a curse I got myself into but a blessing because I learned to learn from it.
If I could choose to live again with or without I'd still say with. I would've be the person I am now.
Depression made me realise how idgaf but at the same time and in a different way. How much I value my body, life and everything else.
Depression isn't a curse. It's a hindrance and a handicap.. the strong can keep going. The people that were strong for too long stopped. Be the person to be strong for longer. When you get that wake up call your life is gonna be better than ever before and you'll also know the truth of life.
You have to find the source. Analyse it. And keep going.
I can't tell you to do anything in an order or give you advice because my journey is a different one and already hard enough on itself.
You'll find a way. I believe in you.
There's still no reason for me to live. Idgaf. I do because i feel like it right now.
You know what helped me?
The thought of (I was suicidal, somewhat in a way i guess a part of me is?)
Anyways.
That-
I reached out for help and my thought process was like (i don't believe in god btw or more like i know nothing such exists the way you picture it.)
Oh well I haven't got anything to lose.
When I die I won't be able to recall anything anymore. I don't exist anymore so yea.
And if I don't feel like it I can still yknow. Kms
And if somebody catches me?
Okay well.. like i said i can kms. When I'm gone. Everything of me is. Everybody else whose had a memory of me. It's gonna disappear.
There's nothing to be afraid of.
In the end. It doesn't.
It truly *does not.*
And that helped me.
It may seem like a negative view but there isn't anything such as positive and negative. We humans made up everything. It's just the way *you* see it.
Do what you feel is right. Have self discipline.
Get help. Get fked. Go best someone up to call out your feelings. In the end it doesn't matter.
I hope this doesn't reach the wrong people because it's all a matter of the mindset of who's reading this.
surely depression is difficult, but making someone you love feel bad isn't a way to resolve it, you'll just feel worse. when someone says you're smart or beautiful etc don't answer ''no I'm not'' just smile like a kid and feel glad. that will make you feel way better.
By no doubt the evilest enemy of man is the belief that life has significance, which is one that holds responsibility for all the suffering that man undergoes and endures as he marches forwards along the path of life. Depression is one fruit among the basket of a vast possible variety of bitter fruits that this pernicious attitude bears, so the best way to remedy the former is to adopt a nihilistic attitude and then surely you will cease to show concern and worry to the things that were the instigators of depression. So please, take the veil off of your eyes and hereafter you shall understand how your own serious attitude towards life can easily become your downfall as it subtly gnaws on your mentality.
Moreover, happiness merely is a spurious concept, because the only functions it has is that is serves as a cloak that hides the wounds inflicted by prior suffering and adjourns the inexorable, upcoming future suffering.
It's also really hard to find a partner who is supportive.
I have PTSD, it's a lot better now but I still have triggers and sleep paralysis.
Every guy I have dated; instead of being supportive, they just tell me how to fix myself.
"Oh you have sleep problems? Have you tried going to bed earlier?"
"Oh you've been triggered? Have you tried meditating?"
"You need to let go of the past"
And they say it like it's the easiest thing in the world and as though it hasn't made irreversible changes to my brain.
People are the worst.
remember! step by step resolve your depression after u find someone to love
1. 0:25 Insecurity
2. 1:14 jealousy and possessive behavior
3. 1:47 being overly critical
4. 2:32 spending too much time with Technology
5. 3:14 negativity
Thanks for putting the time stamps together!
@@Psych2go can you put them in the video description and add one for " 0:00 Introduction " or something like that so the chapters appear in the timeline?
I think this could help many people to memorize the points better and jump back to a certain one when they want to watch it again
@@Psych2go no prob!
@@King0fHero this is a great idea !
Reading and realizes i had everything on this list, damn, my self improvement road is gonna be longer now
We all have insecurities, and from my experience there will be people who will accept you regardless
You don’t have to think “I have to be confident in all aspects” cause it’s impossible. What is true is that some insecurities are a true problem in the relationship and they may take the form of manipulation, jealousy, anger, bad communication, giving up on different things and so on
when you talk about your body shape or looks in a negative way all the time, your partner will see them eventually, too, and may even dislike them over time. also it's frustrating to tell the partner he or she is not to fat, to silly, to whatever and the partner always talks back, even argues maybe.
it's just exhausting and will definitely change the way how someone feels over time. for sure!
I love how she used Anya 💖💖
Waku Waku
Thanks to my depression, I had developed all 5 of these at one point and that’s never left me. Even after finally being okay it takes a lot of work to resist but I do my best by thinking positively to try to negate the effects.
The depression is just your own mind, so you have to take responsibility
As it's important to get positive, it's also important to dwelve in you're problem as well. Knowing why you feel the way you feel often makes the feelings go blandier.
Knowing yourself is the first and better weapon to control you're feelings, cause then you'll won't let them acumulate and you know where to put them.
A psychologist can help with that, but if you don't have that possibility you can always rely on yourself and put yourself onto situations that help you doing that work
@@00Mali00 Hey, i know you have good intentions, but this comment could go a little off and do the opposite as would be expected. Of course depression is only on the mind of the people who feel it, but the problem is that most people doens't know their own mind well. I didn't knew my own mind 4 years ago, as i know now! The first goal must be to know you're own mind. I know this can sound weird, but it's it is
So yeah, we broke up today. It was mainly my fault at the end. I guess I was very insecure, not showing my face because I always feel like it would change something about the relationship. I was a bit jealous because she sent screenshots of her flirting with people. I was the opposite of overly critical so I guess it's even worse. It was an online relationship tho, but I was probably too clingy. I was pretty negative at the end because I thought she didn't like me anymore, but I was positive before.
Stay with the people you love before it's gone. Trust me, life isn't that fair.
online relationships never end well it’s just life man
@@lyan749 I got told that by a lot of people but I really felt like she was the one, she made me the most happy I've ever been in my life.
Was she neglecting your relationship?
@@lyan749 I met my late fiance through an online friend who set us up together. Best relationship I've ever had. The distance made communication a priority and in the end it only made us closer. If the effort is there it works wonderfully. Sitting in the hospital with her and watching her die because the hospital was too slow to diagnose a perforated bowel (I correctly guessed it an entire day before they did) is something I won't ever fully recover from. Would I do it again? Absolutely
@Camarade Toff Thank you for pointing this out, I was wondering if anyone else caught this
the first one is definitely my partner. he always criticizes himself and says negative things about himself, so I always try to cheer him up and make him feel better. it gets pretty exhausting at times but i don’t know what else to do but to keep helping.
Tell him the truth, that’ll help.
@@phansaxtiger that's horrible advice. If someone's super insecure and makes self-deprecating comments to look for validation then they really need kindness. Telling them it's exhausting will make them defensive and won't help with healing their self-esteem. I'm also in this position, my partner is super insecure so I make sure to support him and compliment him all the time and I've noticed that it's helping. Sure, sometimes it is tiring but I can empathize, me being tired of repeating how great he is and him not believing it is less of a problem than him having low self-esteem that comes from having abusive parents. Thankfully he doesn't live with them anymore, that's the first step in the process of healing, removing the stimuli that cause the negative effects.
I used to have a partner like this but he would insult me too fat shaming me when I couldn't lose the weight. I am loyal to a fault so we stayed friends for years after words with him invalidating me and my past saying that since i was so young whatever happened to me back before we met didn't count but the things that happened to him did. And I would always make sure he was ok but anytime I said anything about my struggles he would make fun of me or say that I was too sensitive. I still struggle to not go back to that because he was awful to me but the fact that we were friends for so long just my loyalty being annoying. Any way if it starts to go in the direction where you're feeling bad about yourself because of him\her they aren't worth it leave.
@@Vescilla It's not horrible advice. A romantic relationship is supposed to be bidirectional. Just as she supports him, he needs to support her. So it is perfectly valid for her to tell him the truth that his self-attacks hurt her too. But she needs to tell him the WHOLE truth, which is something like this:
A) She loves him very much;
B) In spite of his self-attacks, he is NOT bad/stupid/weak/ugly;
C) She will always defend him against his self-attacks, but it is exhausting her when he rejects her defense by continuing the attacks;
D) The next time he feels like self-attacking, he should remember points A, B and C and say to himself, "I think I'm so bad/stupid/weak/ugly, but my girlfriend disagrees vehemently and I respect her opinion".
thank you all so much for the advice, it really helped me. I love my boyfriend very much and he has been very supportive and has been there for me during incredibly dark times too. it’s just more often than not he doesn’t seem to believe he is good enough, not even for me. But thank you all so much, it means a lot ❤️
As someone who's cursed by depression it's hard to not fulfill those mistakes.
Even though I'm improving my self-consciousness it seems impossible to keep it up constantly
1) Insecurity
2) Jealously/possessive
3) overly critical
4) Too much time on technology
5) negativity
This list describes me.
@@samanthajane8906 At a date, what would you expect your opposite to tell you, that'd ease your pain / make you feel more comfortable? I'm just curious 😄
@@zayba1617 Confident to assume I go on dates >.< I get asked, I just don't go.
EDIT: Likely, you would get to know me much better via text than face to face. I think, if ever someone were to be interested enough, they should make me feel comfortable texting them random things and at random times. Sad, because in text you lose a lot of interaction. Sometimes what you know is good for you seems out of reach. (Just for reference, I'm 27, female)
Damn I can't play games
I love how short your videos are because it is easier to watch them and actually learn from them. Thank you so much!
I’ve been in the talking stage with an amazing young woman recently. I made several comments about how she’s out of my league and shorting herself by being interested in me. It lead to her starting to lose interest until she checked me on it. Once I started hyping myself up and relying less on her validation for my confidence, she started appreciating my change in energy. Don’t let a good one go because you can’t let your own negative thoughts go.
Tysm, this was so useful, you all really help us to grow into good people 💕
you gave me more confidence
you make me feel like I'm attractive (at least my personality) and worthy
i didn't have a confidence since I was a child and always blamed myself for everything
put you changed that bad habit of mine
2 months ago i've been invited by my crush to her place, said i could bring me pc and we could play so i did (we both are fellow "gamers") but i definitely ended falling into n°4 and that killed the flirty vibes that was going on. We talked about it later on and she said she moved on. I know i'm still deeply inside hoping for another chance and until it comes i work on myself to deserve that chance, hopefully won't be foolish again, wether it is with my crush or another person i can resonate with, i hope to give the best of me and bring the best of them, good day y'all hope no one mind me venting here, pursue your dreams and let's appreciate life and this channel!
+Psych2go *Thanks for a list of to-avoids for relationships, especially significant:*
0:24 Insecurity
1:13 Jealousy and/or possessive behavior
1:46 Overcritical behavior
2:31 Too much time with technology
3:12 Negativity
I agree and disagree on the technology part. I'm like never on my phone when I'm hanging with friends or someone special, but when I'm with that special someone, we always play video games. Even if 1 of us is just watching. I feel no boredom in that time period. That's one of our bonding moments.
Jealousy is a disease. It can literally ruin your relationships.
No.
Uncontrolled jealously is.
Is like a cold…be irresponsible and you will cause your partner to have it
Any advice for someone who is envious or jealous easily?
@@Psych2go Here's my opinion and thoughts. (It's more about why some advices are bad, and I don't have any advice yet for feeling jealous or envious)
Here's my advice, just don't be jealous or envious.
Just kidding, that's actually a horrible advice and I know we have definitely heard it at some point.
It's horrible because:
1.) First, it ignores/invalidates/disregard/deny someone's emotions and feelings. Emotions and feelings are natural part of being a human, and rejecting that is also rejecting part of ourselves.
2.) Second, it is not so simple as that because it takes time, effort, knowledge/experience about emotions and self-awareness to find out why are you feeling envious and jealous. Everyone's life is unique and everyone will have unique set of reasons why someone is feeling that way.
3.) And lastly, chances are you might definitely feel pressured from this "should" of never feeling jealous or envy, and you might begin to force yourself to stop feeling jealous or envy, which conflicts to our human nature to have and feel emotions as said in the first point/reason.
But where's the advice?
As for now, I still can't think of an advice that actually works and not some "just do this" crap. But I hope those things I have said above might help you identify and avoid following bad advice, because there's so many advice both in the internet and real life that is just insulting and unsolicited that it's more of "what should I do" than "what are the things that can I do". Or in detail, where it's more of someone else deciding for you instead of you deciding for yourself.
That's it, take care everyone^-^
hey there
Those who like you can see through your insecurities and like you even more. Love is a strange thing: you just see a person and already know whether you will love them. Together with all their insecurities, depressions and who knows what else.
I was talking to my friend about his soon ex-girlfriend. Turns out a real buzzkill is when you don't allow your partner to follow their hobbies and almost demand that they give them up or guilt shame them into not spending that time with you (even you just sit around and scroll tick-tock for hours)
Recently I realized that I shouldn't be too insecure and self criticizing in front of others, because it pushes away people. And when someone says me for example, that my voice is cute, it's hard to not respond "no, it's terrible, how can you like it?", but instead I just try and respond with "Thank you :)"
Still I'm always feeling that people are just being too nice when they say something good about me, but.. even if they're mistaken, it's still nice when someone compliments you
for number 4, a more generally applicable thing is spending too much time on your interests or hobbies when trying to spend time with them. like if you went to a mueseum and went off on your own and ignored them, or constantly read or knit in front of them while they are wanting your attention. not saying stop doing what you enjoy, but time with a person is time with a person
Thank you Psycho2GO 🥺 Me and my girlfriend are in a rough spot right now and I think it’s because I check all the boxes in this video…
According to #drwiseone, repairing a toxic relationship will take time, patience, & diligence. This is especially the case, Astrologer #drwiseone, “given that most toxic relationships often occur as a result of longstanding issues in the current relationship or as a result of unaddressed issues from prior relationships. But a big thanks to him in resolving the toxic relationship with a loving spell portion
I know this is a bit off topic but your voice is so relaxing 😌
I really like the subtle hints of anime references that you put in your videos, even from the earlier ones. Content is as usual, heart-mending 💯
Videos like these may or may not be what I'm using to make sure my long distance relationship doesn't fall apart, I don't want to break up with this man before we even get a chance to meet and it will be a few years before we ever get to meet for the first time
I'm the insecure guy, one day I just stopped trying and caring what people thought about me. Now I am in my 30's without any friends or close family. I don't see a future of having any social life and maybe it is just meant to be.
thank u, this is what i needed
i was courting someone and i was really attracted to her but as time went on i started to feel less attracted to her and after 2 months i told her i don't want to continue our relationship and i actually felt relieved that she made me wait first before agreeing to be my gf
1. she was always insecure of herself and i started to get tired of reassuring her
2. she gets jealous easily and thinks of the most ridiculous things
3.
4. she spends most of her day scrolling through tiktok and would actually believe most of what she sees in it, even when she's with me she'll just scroll through her phone, whenever im texting her or talking to her its mostly short replies and my interest on having a conversation would just go away
5. she thinks she's not gonna make it so she doesn't bother trying, i kept trying to encourage her and assure her that she'll succeed in things but would insist that she'll just fail...it's impossible to hype her up!
she asked me why the sudden stop and i couldn't answer her, i just lost my interest on her over time and idk if it would be a good idea to show this vid to her lmao...now that i know this, why was i even attracted to her in the first place is a mystery to me
I don’t like that insecurity is a negative. Insecurity is based on objectively real things that a person can’t control and feels bad about, and making into a bad thing borders on toxic positivity.
hey there
It's because they don't find that useful and beneficial in some way.
To put it simple, people are attracted to power. Someone who can influence the environment in a way that they'd see that is more beneficial than what they can do from themsleves.
Having Insecurity doesn't do that. It is indecisiveness, a weakness when it comes to making decisions (when honestly it's a strength to make good decisions, because it helps critical thinking being able to see the benefits of all outcomes, but being unable to choose which is best.)
People want a drive, a powerful individual who can help them in a way that cannot they themsleves cannot. Which is why people have high standards or don't put up with even the simple mishaps that people have.
They do not have compassion and do not see the potential of more within someone else. How someone may not be the best mate, but surely can become a great one for ourselves.
But no, they don't and that's all there is to it.
It's normal to be insecure about some things but what this video is trying to say is to not push it too much on others. It's not their responsibility to deal with YOUR self image issues. Maybe they are dealing with it too, who knows. It's ok to not want to hang out too much with someone who is constantly saying how much is wrong with them. You've got to get a healthy surrounding for yourself, even if it's sad for the insecure person . Of course you can seek for support sometimes but this is something you've got to work out with yourself with the help of others, not that others should do for you.
(I hope this is understandable enough lol my English is a bit meh)
@@laobozu549 its perfect thanks😭
Like what Lao Bozu said, they're telling you to not push it too much on people.
All 5 hit for me. I think I should't even bother w/ people and just... "Go my own way". I'll probably never be the "Right person" for anyone, I'm almost never that for myself anyway.
I can tell you're all 5 of those because of how you wrote your comment, lol. If you have no desire to change the way you are, you won't change. You are in control of yourself, my friend.
isn't that anya forger? holy moly LOL the fact that you used her for instance make me really happy!
For the first time! I'm early. So grateful that this channel exists literally ✨😭❤️
Well now I know why I can’t hold a stable relationship
I relate to 1, 4, and 5. I don’t even have a crush yet, and I don’t think I EVER will
Reasons why:
1. I’m too insecure
2. Selfish
3. Feat of rejection
4. I’m not ready
5. I’m too negative about myself
6. Strict parents
7. I hate myself
i feel you so much man there's literally no point dating because of those things i literally feel all 7
@@opghmino4834 8th reason, I’m aro-ace so I don’t experience any attraction right now. But I don’t think I will EVER find “the one”
the things in this video is why I was quite most of my life and that's when toxic positivity come into play. I don't like being positive just for the sake of. It may come off as kind for others but it's un-authentic and fake. It's like telling someone with a unhealthy drug addiction that they are ok. last is how do they take in what's positive and negative? Some take positive and negative as a emotional thing vs others take it as a logical thing.
What advice would you give to someone in this shoe?
well here on TH-cam you have a video that's called "read the room" and this video kinda reminds me of that. the answer I had for that video is the same for this one. Is it a room that you should be in? it's like trying to much a introvert with a extrovert. It's not always going to work. just like someone who takes positivity and negative emotionally or logical. Did you grow up in a strict household that you wasn't able to do what the other's did when you was a kid and was forced to be separated socially? Did your parents put you into therapy because doing that can cause actual pain? Did that person grow up to be a old soul because of that unknown trauma? The jelusy and social media one I can agree with. Take it as me being negative or mean towards you on this video. only 2 out off all of them I disagree with so that's a good thing.
@@Psych2go but to sum it up. The person that is attracted to you may only had the physical attraction that they fell in love with then added everything else on their head of what they think you are. Like the story of the guy that played in the new batman and twilight movies. The story on how he got rid of his stalker. She feel in love with the character, not the person. The solution is the same one as in the anime trapped I'm a dating Sim.
I definitely have done or am doing some of the things discussed in this video. It makes me feel so depressed and upset all the time. I feel like my fiance and I end up drifting a lot at times due to it. I've been trying to figure out how to do better so this doesn't continue.
great video! we also need a video on how to counter all that, specially insecurity, jealousy and negativity. thank you!
To be honest all these mistakes i committed while i was in my first relationship. but today im aware of all of it and if i get into a relationship again ill be more experienced.
There's no feeling more intense than starting over.
If you've deleted your homework the day before it was due, as I have,
Or if you left your wallet at home and you have to go back, after spending an hour in the commute,
If you won some money at the casino and then put all your winnings on red, and it came up black,
If you got your best shirt dry-cleaned before a wedding and then immediately dropped food on it,
If you won an argument with a friend and then later discovered that they just returned to their original view,
Starting over is harder than starting up.
If you're not ready for that, like if you've already had a bad day
then what you're about to go through might be too much.
Feel free to go away and come back. I'll be here.
I'm seeing Anya in more of these videos... not complaining, it's brilliant!
Finally I see a comment about Anya
it´s like the quote "better than knowing what to do is knowing what to NOT do"
All mistakes that I did often. Sadly sometimes I was right in having certain doubtful feelings.
Anyway Amanda has an amazing voice 🙂
Got it, noted, so just don’t have problems, sounds easy enough.
"Have you done any of these?"
I'm everything unfortunately.
Believe in Yourself...
and
Have trust and faith in Them ❤️
I've been having faith for something that I most want in the world!
What kills attraction for men. Woman who stress test men instead of having a conversation.
Or the women that couldn't try any less, but expect you to give them the moon on a silver platter and act like you don't care enough when you can't deliver.
I love the fact that the First one said insecurity and I started dying because I’m very insecure
I have been dealing with a lot of resentment within myself and my own actions, because I know that there are a lot of things that were said on this video that I relate to.
I am not the most perfect partner. I make mistakes and I fail sometimes to call myself out and to keep myself accountable. It’s okay to admit that you made an error, or were in the wrong.
Everybody here talking about they're issues but I noticed the thumbnail had Anya:
I wish I had known some of this a couple years ago, last few years have taken its toll on me and I didn't seek mental help, now stuff is worse in many ways
Something I learned from dating a gamers is to play it on mute and co-op mode so you can both play while talking to each other♡ 🎮🔇🗣
~Jesse
That's smart, imma try that thanks 😈
Dating a gamer is like making a terror attack.
I dont want any attraction , i want to be a ghost , a shadow that no one notices , thats why im here. i dont care about others i see no point of being jealous , chances that i will be jealous are like idk 1 % ? +-. i might have trust problems but im fine with that trust me . my dad is always criticizing , im perfect oposite. i dont check mobile at all when with friends / at work / school ... if im bored at home thats something else , i watch funny memes to laugh my ass off , or play games on pc. My what? oh that thing ... i dont know , im shy spy that doesnt rly care about anyone , its hard to get to know me and i like that way , to some it might seem arogant or something like that . if you are negative when with your partner then you or he / she / it ... should stop that or start working on changes i dont get you guys , im that kind of person that will tell you whats my problem , what i dont like , why i dont like it i go right at it , i hate walking around ,yes sometimes you are scared that truth is gonna hurt them , but for me its better to tell right away .
anyway , to everyone reading , have a nice day :D
i'm avoiding these as hard as i can
sadly, my best friend that i have crush on does everything, everyday, everytime
It will be impossible to find someone that does not have anything from this list…realize before you see him married to someone else and with 2 kids
03:26 Huge kudos to whoever thought of using a Pokémon-esque visualization here!
This is so awesome 😭♥️
Hey Psych2go, do you have any video about how to being modest properly? My attempts at modesty just always go straight to being negative and underestimating about myself
Accept yourself for who you are without being judgemental of yourself or others. I think that's what modesty is. I apologize if I am mistaken, but you asked for help in understanding hoe to be modest. Long short, I'm a good example of what not to do.
@@nicknord7575 oh nice point. I've never thought about it that way. Thank you.
Do you mean a video on how to be humble?
@@Psych2go yes that's right
This makes sense since I was insecure, jealous and maybe a little possessive because I'd like to spend time with her but there reasons for my insecurity and jealousy. I've worked on my mistakes and for the most part I don't get Insecure anymore and I found ways I could stop being Jealous over small things. My possessive behavior Im still trying to figure out how i can deal with this. But I guess this means she didn't love me
my core of trust issues are my classmates and the fact that i feel like most of people i randomly see may want to steal something ("Thank you" people who gave me THIS anxiety)
your beautiful voice makes me feel relax. 😌
Can't kill attraction If no one is attracted to me
I think you being confident about who you are and your worth is the strongest thing you can have.
Some of the things that "kill" attraction I cannot change..
Because you do not want to..
Very based.
ANYA!!! LOVE THE ANIME CAMEOS, definitely need more!
It’s sad because I can relate to every video psych to go makes
Make a change and build yourself up. If mastery and masculinity are topics that interest you, I invite you to explore the videos shared on the Mastery Order Channel to challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood and to become the kind of man you would admire.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
Looking forward to your points of view.
All the best to you!
I have a crush on a girl right now, and i feel like i've managed to make her like me a little bit too, but when we hung out together, just the two of us for the first time, i think i definitely made her lose attraction because of my insecurities and negative thoughts about myself
I don't know if i still have a chance with her, but i guess all i can do now is to focus on fixing myself and working on myself to be better, try to not be insecure and negative all the time haha
Me too, I think the best you can do is be friends and work on yourself and self care. Trust me.
I'm also insecure, but have faith! ❤
@@Je11keng Thank you for the kind words haha, I wish you all the best too, hopefully we both can work on ourselves and practice self-care & self-love
@@avnaphyloxh I also have a desire I'm working on at school, so wish me luck lol!
@@Je11keng haha okay then, good luck to you, hope you'll have a bright future
I'm insecure most of the time. When I feel good about myself, I get a reason to get blown into insecurity again.
I feel that so much. Just keep going and try to find yourself and your good parts. It helped me a lot to understand, that every person is individual and there is no reason of being insecure of anything about yourself. Sure, there are days i still feel very insecure, but even then i ask myself "why?" What is making you feel insecure? You are who you are, just as everyone else and you can't change who you are and that is good. You are good and no one ever would notice the things you are insecure about, because they just see you as whole and not only your insecurities, so why should you not do the same and only see you as a whole package thats just as good as everyone else? :D
@@RenMasao That is so great! Amazing information. Keep that in mind 👏🏼👏🏼
Honestly, I would rather demystify the other person's fantasies and illusions of me and just be my true self rather than trying to maintain something as intangible as their "attraction" to me.
Failed my recent relationship because of 1, 3, 4 and 5. Where as relationships prior, I had failed because of 2.
I worked on not bringing about jealousy this go around noting it killed the previous relationships, only for the others to come out. And yeah, I didn’t know what to do to fix it.
I’ve been devastated since and seeking therapy for once, to help me for mine and my next lover’s relationship.
I just wish my current ex would see that I’ve improved and come back, but I know once someone has experienced that, that’s probably what they expect should they come around again and that kills me.
It's factors that I experienced with an person long time ago..whom i myself befriended..
Over possessiveness..kills the fun
Justify everything
Way too available
Nagging
Scared to try new things stuffs
Quite repeatative interactions..you find no new stuffs to express try
Not taking care of basic hygiene
Easily gets agitated scared anxious
Brings up ex y z mother father everytime between conversation
Try acting sexy smart..
These are something i found to be intimidating..we though remained good acquaintance
I m not perfect either but for someone who can be attractive..these things makes things go straighten downhill
The way too available thing is the most toxic thing woman complain about. If you like somebody of course you’re gonna want to be available for them
This list describes me.
I know that insecurities are a turn off, so why do people ask their partners to show their vulnerabilities? Is it to weed out the people who are too stupid to hide their emotional and mental problems?
Nooo...you try not to show your insecurities early on, that's when they're going to get in the way the most. Later on, when you're actually partners, you SHOULD want to help your partner with those issues, and you can't help them if you don't know about it.
@@VoiceOvaGuy Ehh. I'm only going to care if they do. Why bother if they don't want to do the same? Relationships are give-and-take, but I don't want to be the only who gives.
The tough part is finding someone who actually gives a shit or is too desperate to settle to even care.
I think people are getting confused with the first point of the video. You cannot rely on others to "cure" your insecurities. Constantly seeking out that kind of validation is exhausting to others. It's different when a friend has just gone through a breakup or your partner is having a hard time at a certain point. Those are rare moments where anybody needs some reassurance. But if you do that every single time you are around somebody... it gets old fast.
Of course everybody has insecurities, but if you talk about yourself and see yourself through the lense of those insecurities, you won't be describing someone people would want to hang around, right? We have the choice every day to choose to see the best or the worst in ourselves. Choose the best. And in dark times, like being laid off, being dumped etc. seek out reassurance and support. Because that is when you truly need to be reminded of the good in you.
@@guesswho5790 Exactly on point. It is not your partners "job" to make you secure. 95% of people would need professional help to deal with these kind of issues.
i found this channel about 2 hours ago, and i cannot stop watching, theres so many things I wish I had known going into certain situations, P2G, thank you for sharing all this wonderful information to anyone who might need it
Seeing this is wild bc 4 out of 5 of these things are things my ex (i just pbroke up with him yesterday) did tht drive me absolutely insane. And he did ALL of these (with a hint of sexism) within the first MONTH of us being together. I ignored it bc I thought he would loosen up, tht he was anxious and he just really liked me. But people, if you see this behavior RUN.
The animation style is so cute! 🥰
i've literally lost my best friend because of being unconffident of myself, so, to all the people who actually read comments, you matter, you all matter, even if other don't think the same 😊
That's no excuse for your ex-bestie to leave u. Instead he/she should have been supporting u because you are insecure,not dump u. That's what real friends are for.
Thank you, Anya!
Thank youuuuu!!! I needed this 😚❤️✨!!
thank you so much, this means alot to me!! :D
Insecurities take over me so easily, any tips guys to like display a better self image to a partner ? Any behaviours etc that can help with that
#1&2 were what destroyed my past 2 relationships. It's hard to keep them away.
I like how most of these mistakes are cause when you have a connection and communications with your crush. In my cause and many others too, our crush doesn`t even know that we exist and have never even talked to her/him
Omg same. 😂
love your profile name
And yet, I have no female friends because they all willingly trapped themselves with someone with all of these traits, and the vast majority of men I've met have all or most of these traits. I have one lazy, negative, or off day, and that's suddenly who I always am to everyone else forever 🙄
my mum does the criticizing thing and is surprised if I don't want to visit her unless necessary. my sis does the phone thing and is surprised that I do not tell her about my life. both feel like I should be more resilient and they do not mean it in a bad way.
Wow, I broke up with my girlfriend a few weeks ago and didn't really had a big reason but seeing this video I realised she did all of this
Who knew Edna could be so informative.
I would love to see a video about coworkers and their relations, to improve communication for example. I have one such person I have issues working along side. 🙃
What killed the attraction for me was, on top of all this, telling me constantly what I am (beautiful, kind etc.), the constant feedback about ANYTHING good or bad makes me feel self-conscious; not showing genuine interest in me and talking about themselves all the time, or using me as a psychologist, basing our relationship on them telling me their problems instead of having a good time... Go away. After watching the video I realize why I am attractive even if I don't have supermodel good looks.
What do you want from a partner?
Do to them as you want what is done to you.
That is it. There are no more steps.
I've come to understand I don't have trust issues, people have behaved in ways that aren't trustworthy. I'm not jealous or insecure, they're disrespectful and disregard my feelings and the bounds of the relationship. Not everything is my fault or my problem and I'm done believing and being told it is.
OMG THE ANYA FORGER IN THE THUMBNAIL
my fear is that i move to slow because I overthink and now its too late. but only the present moment is real...so I ain't letting that stop me from asking her out!!
You can 'Get over it'
Nice background music choice
I’m always slightly dissatisfied with these videos. They are so general and simplified and never really answer the question for me. But I guess that’s working for their target audience 🤷
Just seeing Anya heals me
I really like your videos and your voice is so nice and I just realized it now. I had a question, is there any books I can read that has the same subjects as your videos? Thank you so much 💜
ANNYAAA THUMBNAIL!!!!!! ❤️
Should be mentioned that some people will use the "Why are you being so jealous" line as a defense mechanism...when actually they have very poor boundaries.