I understand that people don't wanna be judged... but I don't think that "I'm scared of having an honest conversation." is a valid reason to expose someone to an illness of any kind
First off, I look like a witch because I am one. I am HIV-negative and sexually disease-free. I am a lot older and lived through the early 80s when no one knew anything about AIDS. Things have changed, but that stigma is still there. My girlfriend died of AIDS in 1984. She was bisexual, and we had an open relationship. I spent three years not knowing if I, too, would die. Blood tests for HIV didn't come out until 1985. And waiting for the testing period to end was a bear. Test every three months for two years. I demand an honest answer to sexual health questions, and yes, if I feel there is anything off, it is a no-go on sex. I am a transgender woman lesbian who is also demisexual, so I really get to know a person before sex. It really is all about trust.
I love that these two always say they are good friends but not like besties but they would each give the other a kidney. That’s beyond friendship- that’s FAMILY, baby! We love 🩵🩵🩵
In Canada there's an HIV non-disclosure law that can lead someone to be charged with aggravated sexual assault if they don't disclose their positive status to a sexual partner. But I think it depends on whether there is actual risk of transmission, which every province/territory interprets differently, and there seems to be some push to reform the law in some way.
I love that you both are advocating for reducing sexual stigma in general! There is a lot of interesting quagmires to be talked about when we talk about consent and sexual health--so many.
This is random but I would love to hear a conversation about “regrets” and whether you even believe in having regrets or not. Whether regrets benefit you or not etc. :)
i totally agree. i’ve had to get to the point where i ask for latest tests and if they use protection with partners before anything sexual. i think of it similarly to covid, like i want to tell people if i have it or if ive been exposed so that other people can have the agency to make decisions about their health. and i also would hate to expose a partner to something they didn’t participate in. and i don’t judge how anyone handles it, i just will decide whether or not i want to engage in sexual acts with someone.
it worries me how many sexually active people are convinced that there's absolutely no chance they could have anything. even the most comprehensive STI screenings are not that advanced yet!
I used to not be as strict but now I use condoms exclusively when having penetrative sex. Also on consent, I’m the kind of person where I need to hear you say you want it and I check in throughout sex to make sure they are still comfortable. I’ve noticed trans guys really appreciate this but cis gay men can sometimes think it’s “not sexy” when I ask if something is okay or if they feel good and I just feel I want to make my partner feel as comfortable as possible and be able to end it if they need to (which some people don’t say no after sex has begun which I don’t want that to occur) also as great as PrEP is please still use condoms and get tested it’s not magic lol
It's fascinating how many old buzzfeeders have come out with either some form of mental health struggles and or gender/sexuality change. I almost feel like the more you get to know your inner struggles and put them into the existing classifications the more you actually emphasise them, it's seems healthier to be less aware of yourself. I find it more freeing to just avoid labeling yourself especially publicly.
when trixie does the creepy lash twitch! just that. is that a yellow bird somehow? what’s up with the bird-animatronics. anyone else think that heartshaped box sounds like a LAWNMOWER. somebody taped my hair up with packaging tape for some outside of dreamtime purpose in my dream and as i ripped it off it fully ripped out layers of my hair and left me with a sparse mullet? when the in-person starts to feel like a really untoward (is that one of those uppity words for politeness, i mean it literally) game of telephone, like you can sense where the drop-in points may have stemmed from but they don‘t attach well with where your heart is at and there‘s barely any attempt of shifting things more wholeheartedly! when everything feels diverted maybe?
I understand that people don't wanna be judged... but I don't think that "I'm scared of having an honest conversation." is a valid reason to expose someone to an illness of any kind
I love how happy Allison looked when Gabe told her she would be a cute white mouse with a pink bow 😂
She would!!
First off, I look like a witch because I am one. I am HIV-negative and sexually disease-free. I am a lot older and lived through the early 80s when no one knew anything about AIDS. Things have changed, but that stigma is still there. My girlfriend died of AIDS in 1984. She was bisexual, and we had an open relationship. I spent three years not knowing if I, too, would die. Blood tests for HIV didn't come out until 1985. And waiting for the testing period to end was a bear. Test every three months for two years. I demand an honest answer to sexual health questions, and yes, if I feel there is anything off, it is a no-go on sex. I am a transgender woman lesbian who is also demisexual, so I really get to know a person before sex. It really is all about trust.
I love that these two always say they are good friends but not like besties but they would each give the other a kidney. That’s beyond friendship- that’s FAMILY, baby! We love 🩵🩵🩵
I think of them like cousins lol close relation, forever linked, connected history, but still a bit distant haha
In Canada there's an HIV non-disclosure law that can lead someone to be charged with aggravated sexual assault if they don't disclose their positive status to a sexual partner. But I think it depends on whether there is actual risk of transmission, which every province/territory interprets differently, and there seems to be some push to reform the law in some way.
talways put your health first, if you are afraid to have honest convesation, maybe its a sign not to have sex with that person
"Finding anyone to love these days is...*sigh* an achievement on its own".. .I feel you Gabe 😔😔😔
I love that you both are advocating for reducing sexual stigma in general! There is a lot of interesting quagmires to be talked about when we talk about consent and sexual health--so many.
This is random but I would love to hear a conversation about “regrets” and whether you even believe in having regrets or not. Whether regrets benefit you or not etc. :)
I love the dogs chillness!
I would love an episode about your beliefs on god and spirituality!! Okay, love y'all, bye
Me tooo
i totally agree. i’ve had to get to the point where i ask for latest tests and if they use protection with partners before anything sexual. i think of it similarly to covid, like i want to tell people if i have it or if ive been exposed so that other people can have the agency to make decisions about their health. and i also would hate to expose a partner to something they didn’t participate in. and i don’t judge how anyone handles it, i just will decide whether or not i want to engage in sexual acts with someone.
the veins on the back of gabe's hands
i like ur outfits, u guys always look so cute & comfy
The kidney moment low key so sweet lmao
Love this conversation so much
how do you protect yourself when condom use is not applicable though? i've never met someone who used a dental dam, nor would i know where to buy one
You can cut condoms into dental dams if you have access to them! I think you just wouldn’t want to buy any with lubrication on them.
I've also seen ads for lorals latex panties that seem to be a bit more intuitive than dental dams for those unfamiliar
it worries me how many sexually active people are convinced that there's absolutely no chance they could have anything. even the most comprehensive STI screenings are not that advanced yet!
I used to not be as strict but now I use condoms exclusively when having penetrative sex. Also on consent, I’m the kind of person where I need to hear you say you want it and I check in throughout sex to make sure they are still comfortable. I’ve noticed trans guys really appreciate this but cis gay men can sometimes think it’s “not sexy” when I ask if something is okay or if they feel good and I just feel I want to make my partner feel as comfortable as possible and be able to end it if they need to (which some people don’t say no after sex has begun which I don’t want that to occur) also as great as PrEP is please still use condoms and get tested it’s not magic lol
"like god..."
HAHA WE LOVE A FACT BUST MOMENT ❤
Phantom ❤
I would love to hear about Alison’s thoughts on god
Thanks
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nice
It's fascinating how many old buzzfeeders have come out with either some form of mental health struggles and or gender/sexuality change. I almost feel like the more you get to know your inner struggles and put them into the existing classifications the more you actually emphasise them, it's seems healthier to be less aware of yourself. I find it more freeing to just avoid labeling yourself especially publicly.
when trixie does the creepy lash twitch! just that. is that a yellow bird somehow? what’s up with the bird-animatronics. anyone else think that heartshaped box sounds like a LAWNMOWER.
somebody taped my hair up with packaging tape for some outside of dreamtime purpose in my dream and as i ripped it off it fully ripped out layers of my hair and left me with a sparse mullet?
when the in-person starts to feel like a really untoward (is that one of those uppity words for politeness, i mean it literally) game of telephone, like you can sense where the drop-in points may have stemmed from but they don‘t attach well with where your heart is at and there‘s barely any attempt of shifting things more wholeheartedly! when everything feels diverted maybe?
🥹🫶🏼the kidney offering exchange
I mean Allison’s comedy timing is on point but also that was so sweet!