Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
It takes time, you will find someone who treats you right don’t look for it heal … took me 6 month to start dating again and yea it’s shit but it’s worth it once you find that person you click with but don’t rush it, do what you want to do go out have fun get a hobby, their are other people in the world he isn’t the only one for you, I have kids and it’s sooo much harder but it is what it is it was their choice to break the family don’t carry the burden
If it's only been a month and you still want to try with your ex, then you can reach out to your ex after the 30-day "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
I think I'm done with my ex now I'm going on an adventure soon maybe meet someone new keep up the videos and to all of you who want there ex back good luck
Your previous no contact videos helped,he did come back.we were very happy for a few months but nothing changed with him.....he still played mind games,Brad im done wanting an ex back,it prevents you from getting into a healthy connection with someone else
@@leratoseretsi5603 hello thank you for your response and time I really appreciate it. I just didn't know what to say and I was happy to see him and especially because he came walking towards me. The reason why he blocked me is because he wanted to sleep with me and I refused. We have a long distance relationship and we have only seen each other 6 times in total. he has always kept in touch with me despite the distance. So he asked if we could sleep together and I refused. then he started calling less and not responding to my messages anymore. he said if you don't want to sleep with me then there is no point in our contact. I just started calling more and being needy and begging and pleading and then he blocked me. do you think he is now manipulating me into sleeping with him? do you think he will come back or is he using nap as an excuse to break up the relationship? we have had no contact for 2 months now i haven't contacted him at all for 2 months now. and it still hurts.
@@leratoseretsi5603 hello thank you for your response and time I really appreciate it. I just didn't know what to say and I was happy to see him and especially because he came walking towards me. The reason why he blocked me is because he wanted to sleep with me and I refused. We have a long distance relationship and we have only seen each other 6 times in total. he has always kept in touch with me despite the distance. So he asked if we could sleep together and I refused. then he started calling less and not responding to my messages anymore. he said if you don't want to sleep with me then there is no point in our contact. I just started calling more and being needy and begging and pleading and then he blocked me. do you think he is now manipulating me into sleeping with him? do you think he will come back or is he using nap as an excuse to break up the relationship? we have had no contact for 2 months now i haven't contacted him at all for 2 months now. and it still hurts.
@@leratoseretsi5603 hello thank you for your response and time I really appreciate it. I just didn't know what to say and I was happy to see him and especially because he came walking towards me. The reason why he blocked me is because he wanted to sleep with me and I refused. We have a long distance relationship and we have only seen each other 6 times in total. he has always kept in touch with me despite the distance. So he asked if we could sleep together and I refused. then he started calling less and not responding to my messages anymore. he said if you don't want to sleep with me then there is no point in our contact. I just started calling more and being needy and begging and pleading and then he blocked me. do you think he is now manipulating me into sleeping with him? do you think he will come back or is he using nap as an excuse to break up the relationship? we have had no contact for 2 months now i haven't contacted him at all for 2 months now. and it still hurts.
@@leratoseretsi5603 hello thank you for your response and time I really appreciate it. I just didn't know what to say and I was happy to see him and especially because he came walking towards me. The reason why he blocked me is because he wanted to sleep with me and I refused. We have a long distance relationship and we have only seen each other 6 times in total. he has always kept in touch with me despite the distance. So he asked if we could sleep together and I refused. then he started calling less and not responding to my messages anymore. he said if you don't want to sleep with me then there is no point in our contact. I just started calling more and being needy and begging and pleading and then he blocked me. do you think he is now manipulating me into sleeping with him? do you think he will come back or is he using nap as an excuse to break up the relationship? we have had no contact for 2 months now i haven't contacted him at all for 2 months now. and it still hurts.
I was 3 years completely single by choice before meeting what I thought was a really lovely woman. We had an awesome 3 months together before she shut down emotionally for the first time for no apparent reason. I have zero tolerance for bad bahaviour in relationships so after 4 days I drew the line in the sand and ended it, instinctively went what I now know as 'no-contact'. That was 7 weeks ago. It's real hard for her because she knows with me that if she comes back she has to face up to herself so I don't really expect to see her again. But now I don't care too much anyway. Having been single for 3 years I am so ready for a relationship and I am inundated with some really lovely women. I'll be very careful who I get with next time, these avoidant types are very sneaky and not so easy to recognize at the start. I'll not be fooled again and that's why I am here, to learn. Great videos, thanks very much, I appreciate it. From New Zealand.
@@marguskiis7711 .....haha, they are all as mad as meat axes but they are definitely not all avoidants. I know some really lovely peace-maker types and plenty of them. I get what you mean though
Hi, thanks for sharing your story. And yes, it's best not to jump into relationships right away. Go the traditional route and get to know someone better first! :-) If you need further help, consider signing up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at your situation in-depth, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@breakupbradbrowning ….some of us don’t really get a choice when it comes to emotional investment as we are fully engaged and open all the time. I appreciate that’s rare today where so many people are emotionally stunted and there no question you have to be a bit careful but it is a far better, far healthier way to live in the world than being cut off from the most essential part of your being. So occasionally you get hurt, so what ? That’s where string boundaries come in, along with the ability to fully feel all that you need to. It also brings about an intense period of healing and growth for that person, it’s just how it works here, whether we like it or not. Emotional freedom, like any other form of freedom, comes through discipline. I certainly don’t consider it a weakness, though it takes a lot of work over a lot of years to find peace with it.
Rebounds are good in basketball, but typically they are toxic as hell in dating. ☝️ Jumping back in the fire of casual dating has far worse consequences than the break-up itself.
Like almost everything in life, it's a risk and can make you feel worse but it really is all about having the right mindset. It does help folks accept the breakup. You do that because the relationship you had with your ex is over and the sooner you accept the breakup, the better. You're basically building a new relationship with your ex if you get back together. Please watch this to know what I'm talking about: th-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/w-d-xo.html There's more to this than just rebounding. It's all about pre-selection, which I've discussed in greater detail in the first part of the video here: th-cam.com/video/fO9EePCzRj4/w-d-xo.html The aim is to increase your confidence by socializing and to subconsciously know that there is life outside of the relationship/breakup and to get out of the tunnel-vision mentality most people have after a breakup that only their ex can fix it. So interact with people. It may be just on a friendship level, camaraderie, bonding over a new sport/hobby/activity, etc. and not restricted to just dating, perhaps I should've emphasized that, too, as I can see how it can easily be misconstrued. But if you do get around to dating someone that you truly like, then that’s good, as it would help to let you not seem desperate to get your ex back, which most exes can sense from a mile away, mind you. So really you're really only helping yourself but of course do that when you're ready to do so. Take care!
That can only happen if the (emotional) attraction with you is dwindling so try to get to the root cause of where this all started. This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/M4h7in9dtxI/w-d-xo.html
You don't stay with them. It's why you're giving your ex space for at least 30 days and respect their decision to break up. By then, you'll both have enough time to think clearly and see the situation for what it is. Sometimes you see the situation as worth going back to but other times it isn't, so it really depends.
Brad, I like this video and the succinctness. One question.. how do you "remind your ex of the positives" (point #3)?, if you are practicing "no contact" (point #1. Thank you!
Have you ever had a good relationship that unfortunately ended and found yourself reminiscing about the good times? It's the same way with your ex too. It's only human nature and will naturally happen with time and space. Of course you will eventually reach out when the time comes (if you still want your ex back). Anyway please watch this free in-depth video presentation to understand the full process: www.breakupbrad.com
Of course you are! :-) I'm sure you have your own reasons and I understand what you're going through. You know, moving on is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: th-cam.com/video/01wvLSaS9_I/w-d-xo.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: th-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/w-d-xo.html & understand where your ex is at during the breakup process: y2u.be/dqnqGWOk9NA or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
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I walked away from a three year and a half relationship… I got up grab my things and walked out like a man… 20 minutes later, she text me back I did not reply… it was July 11, 2024… at September 6, 2024… I wonder what she’s thinking…? It hurts walking away…. I stand myself as a man I stand my masculine and stay focused. I just go forward.
Good. Thanks for sharing. Just a friendly reminder, the first path towards moving on and getting an ex back follows the same route and here's how to tell you're doing it correctly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html Anyways it's always best to take your time in deciding first so there'll be no regrets in the end. As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.
Dude i did EXCATLY that as well. She took a nap and I walked out without saying goodbye. She texted me two hours later and I never replied. Now I’m thinking of her too. But it’s for the best.
You're supposed to contact them at one point. Here are the steps to help you familiarize the process. Please watch from start to end so it will all make sense: th-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/w-d-xo.html
Yes but if you start dating somebody and then your ex comes back and then you take your ex the other person heart starts to break I don't want to do that..... it's best just to leave your ex where she is a distant memory. The last thing we need to do is inflict pain on somebody else's heart and use them just to prove something to your ex
I understand. Don't date when there's no true connection between you and someone new though. You can just maintain it at a camaraderie level for reasons you've stated above. The important thing is to get rid of that tunnel vision a ton of people tend to have after the wake of a breakup. So go out and mingle, hang out, have fun, but don't jump straight into a relationship if you're clearly not ready.
Is a year after the break up to late to go no contact? My ex and I talked after the break up as friends and she just recently went to eat with me but she’s pulled away and says she doesn’t want a relationship with anyone but I have a gut feeling she’s talking to or with someone else. We were together for 12 years.
Yes, it is, but it's still to your best interest to do so. In the process of trying to stay contact, you've unknowingly allowed your ex to slowly ease herself away from you. At this point, you may want to take the free quiz to see what your chances are. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Please watch this full in-depth video presentation because it explains everything in detail: www.breakupbrad.com
Hey brad...my ex bf dumped me and after a month of no contact he called me. We were casually talking and he said "I am not feeling spark towards anyone , you have gone away taking my fuse" . Does this mean he still has feelings for me?
That's very likely! Try to see if he's also showing signs mentioned here: th-cam.com/video/KMer79OQ_xo/w-d-xo.html and check out my other videos too or even better, get my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 to help guide you on what to do on each step as it includes common what-ifs scenarios in addition to bonus texting materials, etc. at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy Good luck!
I brokeup with my ex 2 months ago, due to talking with other guy on phone. She said sorry but i didnt forgive. She blocked me & Then next day she disrespected me when i tried to talk with her and blocked me in another app. i go no contact and its been 2 months and she is showing sad posts in fb everyday. Should i contact her now in another way, or hold ego as she is holding & wait untill she unblock me and reaches me out? Please give advice.
If you have means to reach out to her then you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
99% of breakups comes as a result of someone feeling the way your ex has felt. The bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction but just so you know, my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 is all about trying to regain that lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. Apply the tips here to help you out, too: th-cam.com/video/obpVHGeNxJs/w-d-xo.html Best of luck!
Do you think she'll come back? She broke up with me 5 months ago but we were still in touch but she was distancing herself from me slowly. After a month of breaking up we had a horrible fight and she blocked me. But again contacted me after a week. She said she was missing me but she didn't wanted to get back with me. I was confused. She later found a guy on some dating app who had a similar liking and disliking as her and she got attracted to him. When I asked her if she's dating someone, she got upset and blocked me. And now they are in a long distance relationship. I last talked to her a month ago. I still miss her a lot and pray for her to come back.
By keeping in touch with her, you might unknowingly be letting yourself used as an emotional sponge or buffer from the pain she feels during your breakup...which is why cutting off contact for at least 30 days would've been the best option here. She may be rebounding but you have the advantage because you two are apparently non-long distant?You still need to play your cards right though. Now as to her missing you, this is the best way to handle it: th-cam.com/video/RSKJi8VK2g8/w-d-xo.html and/or better yet, get my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 so you'll have an idea what to do on each step, at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Good luck!
@@breakupbradbrowning We are not long distant. I haven't talked to her in a while but her birthday is coming on 5th October. Do you think I should wish her? She didn't wish me on my birthday in August!
I would like some advice please. I have been in NO CONTACT for 7 weeks and have been blocked. Yesterday I met my ex and he came to me and asked how I was doing. we naked a short chat was pleasant. I made a mistake asking why he still blocked me?? he said okay I'm going to unblock you soon but today is already the 2nd day and I still haven't heard from him. what should I do
Let things play out a bit more naturally and yes, don't ask him as that can lead to a potentially awkward conversation. Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
He thinks you are still the same person, he is correct because you are anxious that he hasnt unblocked you or said anything, that pleasant chat was just him being polite . perhaps it could have made him see you changed but now just restart your no contact and block him back so that he knows you are not waiting...so thT you stop waiting for him to contact or unblock you...take your power and self worth back from this ridiculous ex
@leratoseretsi5603 thank you for your reply. I was having a drink and he came to me specially and asked me how I was doing. So I didn't go to him hi came to me. And he asked me about me and my family. So then i said why didn't you unblock me. Yes I know I shouldn't done that but he blocked me now for 2 months. I don't know what to do. And I'm still blocked. Maybe he wants me te reaching out and act needy again. I'm now stronger and for 2 months in no contact.
Treat him the way he treats you,don't go date anyone to make him jealous, but don't always be so friendly and accommodating....after your reply i see why you brought up the issue of blocking, ..next time he comes to your table and he greets you,reply by slowly picking up your purse and moving away without a word...trust me from that moment he will think deep and he will see that you are not that girl anymore and he will value you.more importantly you will feel empowered and stop operating from.a place of weakness..when we are too nice we open ourselves up to being taken fogranted and hurt at the end...stop the possibility of that.
At this point even if you get back he will mistreat you and the cycle will repeat since he thinks he is the centre of your universe ....we both know he s not, you just love him but humans don't appreciate the good things until it's too late...be a new girl please,treat him like he no longer exists since he s willing to break you emotionally with his mind games,he wants to be pushed to unblock because he wants to validate blocking someone who loved him,don't bear his burden ...let him live with his decisions.he is embarrassed to block then unblock, don't make it your burden to bear....I think you deserve better than someone who blocks but think they can still come up to you but doesn't bother to explain or apologize, where is the respect there.....let time heal ...for now stop all contact, don't check if you are still blocked ,don't get excited by breadcrumbs ,let go .....if it's gona work with him it will be later when you are valued ...
After no contact my ex who dumped me i initiated contact we chat talking on video calls told me that we can talk about our breakup and he's joking about our weeding will be it seems like he wants to come back but is me who initiate contact sometimes he's cold and hot we had a serious relationship and planning a weeding i love him what can i do?
Be careful about delving into serious topics before you're both truly ready for it. Follow his lead and try to keep things lighthearted for now. But if you haven't completed the 30-day no contact rule yet, then make sure you do that first. That kind of confusing behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why again, you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: th-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/w-d-xo.html
How long has it been since the breakup? This may be a good sign if you've already given each other space for at least 30 days but not so good if tis happened way too soon. It could mean he misses the physical aspect of your relationship but watch out for mixed signals. Watch these first to know how to handle it: th-cam.com/video/qoEZiPn9EH0/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/pXKPxAXaunc/w-d-xo.html or hire me as your coach if you're still confused on what to do. Good luck!
On Sunday my ex asked for some time and space so I gave her just that, then today she tells me that's it. There was no cheating nor anything on my end, and I'm confused because everything was good and it felt like she made up some excuses just to leave
How long were you two together? Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: th-cam.com/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/w-d-xo.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: th-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/w-d-xo.html but to get the step-by-step process on what to do on each step, read my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com
The mother of my child put a restraining order on then she went back and dropped in court she then she still tries to let me see my child whenever i want something is off with her she f******* acting so wierd towards me as well
I agree especially if all this happened in a short span of time but then again she could just like to co-parent with you because you have a child together.
All these things works well with male dumpers. If a man sees that his ex is fluorishing and especially! -- is happy with another man! -- he feels that he wants the woman back and now! Its classix. But things are much more complex with female dumpers. First -- if a woman is totally done with you its done for good. Second, women find a new men pretty easily. Third, if a woman has the new life then she does not care what her ex is doing and do not follow him and know what he is doing. Fourth, women really like to remember the bad things from a past more and do not care much how good is the man now. Fifth, women hit menopause in their 40s and then they feel often that all men are disgusting, including her exes. Women can miss you if they were the dumpees but its much more difficult when they are dumpers.
Hey man, thanks for sharing your experience and lessons learned. However, as a relationship coach for 15 years, I can guarantee that's not often the case with women. That's more like a behaviour of some women AND men when a relationship falls apart but to put them in a stereotype is just a little bias. But thanks for your input!
@breakupbradbrowning I have had several ex girlfriends in my past. And when I meet them many years later it turns out that they don't know absolutely about my life, they do not know even am I alive or not. They just do not care. OK, I am not in social media too, so maybe its the problem. BUT even without the social media, I know plenty of their life (through the human social circles). Thats the huge difference.
@@breakupbradbrowning@breakupbradbrowning I have had several ex girlfriends in my past. And when I meet them many years later it turns out that they don't know absolutely about my life, they do not know even am I alive or not. They just do not care. OK, I am not in social media too, so maybe its the problem. BUT even without the social media, I know plenty of their life (through the human social circles). Thats the huge difference.
That could be his ego getting in the way. It's best to keep silent for at least 30 days. If you're trying to provoke jealousy, be sure to be subtle. This is something I mentioned in my Ex Factor Guide and on my vid here: th-cam.com/video/fO9EePCzRj4/w-d-xo.html
Bad advice to start dating. If I start dating it will mean the end of the story for my ex. Actually it depends on a break up length and how you are feeling…
Sorry if it wasn't what you expected, man. There's more to this than just potentially rebounding though. It's all about pre-selection, which I've discussed in greater detail in the first part of the video here: th-cam.com/video/fO9EePCzRj4/w-d-xo.html The aim is to increase your confidence by socializing and to subconsciously know that there is life outside of the relationship/breakup and to get out of the tunnel-vision mentality most people have after a breakup that only their ex can fix it. So interact with people. It may be just on a friendship level, camaraderie, bonding over a new sport/hobby/activity, etc. and not restricted to just dating, perhaps I should've emphasized that, too, as I can see how it can easily be misconstrued. But if you do get around to dating someone that you truly like, then that’s good, as it would help to let you not seem desperate to get your ex back, which most exes can sense from a mile away, mind you. So really you're really only helping yourself but of course do that when you're ready to do so. Take care!
Tinder and dating other people after breakup is not a part of healing. Instead of tinder get closer to God. Bruh your tinder advice is so freaking baaaaaaaaaaaddddd
Sorry if it wasn't what you expected, man. There's more to this than just potentially rebounding though. It's all about pre-selection, which I've discussed in greater detail in the first part of the video here: th-cam.com/video/fO9EePCzRj4/w-d-xo.html The aim is to increase your confidence by socializing and to subconsciously know that there is life outside of the relationship/breakup and to get out of the tunnel-vision mentality most people have after a breakup that only their ex can fix it. So interact with people. It may be just on a friendship level, camaraderie, bonding over a new sport/hobby/activity, etc. and not restricted to just dating, perhaps I should've emphasized that, too, as I can see how it can easily be misconstrued. But if you do get around to dating someone that you truly like, then that’s good, as it would help to let you not seem desperate to get your ex back, which most exes can sense from a mile away, mind you. So really you're really only helping yourself but of course do that when you're ready to do so. Take care!
@@breakupbradbrowning i appreciate your answer brother. I meant no harm. It's just some relationships breakup to get back together stronger, you know exactly how complex some situations are. And giving advice to go on tinder and date new people might be detrimental to some relationships that meant to get a 2nd chance. I personally would not give many girl a second chance after she went on tinder and dated because I date to marry and once my woman is mine it is sacred that she stays mine even when we figure out our problems and grow and heal from the distance. Tinder is hell, literally full of the scum of the earth and finding somebody normal on tinder is a 1 to 20 chance at best. Yeah, people should socialize and do what normal people are supposed to do but tinder bumble and hinge are not the way to go. Running club, chess club, book club, gym classes etc are the best. Dating apps are bad on its own, they are absolutely terrible after the breakup. Also people heal and grow in pain, tinder is just a cheap dopamine that will mask the pain and delay the healing. And the healing needs to be done sooner or later. I fully believe the sooner it's done the quicker you might proceed in life and be fully prepared for the love of your life
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
It takes time, you will find someone who treats you right don’t look for it heal … took me 6 month to start dating again and yea it’s shit but it’s worth it once you find that person you click with but don’t rush it, do what you want to do go out have fun get a hobby, their are other people in the world he isn’t the only one for you, I have kids and it’s sooo much harder but it is what it is it was their choice to break the family don’t carry the burden
Hello. Sorry to comment your comment. But I believe that you don't need to apologise. It's really hard to forget someone who you really love.
If it's only been a month and you still want to try with your ex, then you can reach out to your ex after the 30-day "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Don't ask your ex for another chance make them want you back on their own accord.
Its easy with male exes.
Yes, never ask for a second chance. That's a loser move and never a part of my Ex Factor Guide 2.0.
I think I'm done with my ex now I'm going on an adventure soon maybe meet someone new keep up the videos and to all of you who want there ex back good luck
Your previous no contact videos helped,he did come back.we were very happy for a few months but nothing changed with him.....he still played mind games,Brad im done wanting an ex back,it prevents you from getting into a healthy connection with someone else
@@leratoseretsi5603 hello
thank you for your response and time I really appreciate it.
I just didn't know what to say and I was happy to see him and especially because he came walking towards me.
The reason why he blocked me is because he wanted to sleep with me and I refused. We have a long distance relationship and we have only seen each other 6 times in total. he has always kept in touch with me despite the distance. So he asked if we could sleep together and I refused. then he started calling less and not responding to my messages anymore. he said if you don't want to sleep with me then there is no point in our contact. I just started calling more and being needy and begging and pleading and then he blocked me. do you think he is now manipulating me into sleeping with him? do you think he will come back or is he using nap as an excuse to break up the relationship? we have had no contact for 2 months now i haven't contacted him at all for 2 months now. and it still hurts.
@@leratoseretsi5603 hello
thank you for your response and time I really appreciate it.
I just didn't know what to say and I was happy to see him and especially because he came walking towards me.
The reason why he blocked me is because he wanted to sleep with me and I refused. We have a long distance relationship and we have only seen each other 6 times in total. he has always kept in touch with me despite the distance. So he asked if we could sleep together and I refused. then he started calling less and not responding to my messages anymore. he said if you don't want to sleep with me then there is no point in our contact. I just started calling more and being needy and begging and pleading and then he blocked me. do you think he is now manipulating me into sleeping with him? do you think he will come back or is he using nap as an excuse to break up the relationship? we have had no contact for 2 months now i haven't contacted him at all for 2 months now. and it still hurts.
@@leratoseretsi5603 hello
thank you for your response and time I really appreciate it.
I just didn't know what to say and I was happy to see him and especially because he came walking towards me.
The reason why he blocked me is because he wanted to sleep with me and I refused. We have a long distance relationship and we have only seen each other 6 times in total. he has always kept in touch with me despite the distance. So he asked if we could sleep together and I refused. then he started calling less and not responding to my messages anymore. he said if you don't want to sleep with me then there is no point in our contact. I just started calling more and being needy and begging and pleading and then he blocked me. do you think he is now manipulating me into sleeping with him? do you think he will come back or is he using nap as an excuse to break up the relationship? we have had no contact for 2 months now i haven't contacted him at all for 2 months now. and it still hurts.
@@leratoseretsi5603 hello
thank you for your response and time I really appreciate it.
I just didn't know what to say and I was happy to see him and especially because he came walking towards me.
The reason why he blocked me is because he wanted to sleep with me and I refused. We have a long distance relationship and we have only seen each other 6 times in total. he has always kept in touch with me despite the distance. So he asked if we could sleep together and I refused. then he started calling less and not responding to my messages anymore. he said if you don't want to sleep with me then there is no point in our contact. I just started calling more and being needy and begging and pleading and then he blocked me. do you think he is now manipulating me into sleeping with him? do you think he will come back or is he using nap as an excuse to break up the relationship? we have had no contact for 2 months now i haven't contacted him at all for 2 months now. and it still hurts.
@@leratoseretsi5603 my message delete
I was 3 years completely single by choice before meeting what I thought was a really lovely woman. We had an awesome 3 months together before she shut down emotionally for the first time for no apparent reason. I have zero tolerance for bad bahaviour in relationships so after 4 days I drew the line in the sand and ended it, instinctively went what I now know as 'no-contact'. That was 7 weeks ago. It's real hard for her because she knows with me that if she comes back she has to face up to herself so I don't really expect to see her again. But now I don't care too much anyway. Having been single for 3 years I am so ready for a relationship and I am inundated with some really lovely women. I'll be very careful who I get with next time, these avoidant types are very sneaky and not so easy to recognize at the start. I'll not be fooled again and that's why I am here, to learn. Great videos, thanks very much, I appreciate it.
From New Zealand.
Yep, avoidants look totally normal at start. And tbh, most of 35 plus single women are probably avoidants.
@@marguskiis7711 .....haha, they are all as mad as meat axes but they are definitely not all avoidants. I know some really lovely peace-maker types and plenty of them. I get what you mean though
Hi, thanks for sharing your story. And yes, it's best not to jump into relationships right away. Go the traditional route and get to know someone better first! :-) If you need further help, consider signing up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at your situation in-depth, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Avoidant or not, it's often best to really take time to get to know each other first before investing too much emotionally.
@@breakupbradbrowning ….some of us don’t really get a choice when it comes to emotional investment as we are fully engaged and open all the time. I appreciate that’s rare today where so many people are emotionally stunted and there no question you have to be a bit careful but it is a far better, far healthier way to live in the world than being cut off from the most essential part of your being.
So occasionally you get hurt, so what ? That’s where string boundaries come in, along with the ability to fully feel all that you need to. It also brings about an intense period of healing and growth for that person, it’s just how it works here, whether we like it or not.
Emotional freedom, like any other form of freedom, comes through discipline. I certainly don’t consider it a weakness, though it takes a lot of work over a lot of years to find peace with it.
Rebounds are good in basketball, but typically they are toxic as hell in dating. ☝️ Jumping back in the fire of casual dating has far worse consequences than the break-up itself.
Like almost everything in life, it's a risk and can make you feel worse but it really is all about having the right mindset. It does help folks accept the breakup. You do that because the relationship you had with your ex is over and the sooner you accept the breakup, the better. You're basically building a new relationship with your ex if you get back together. Please watch this to know what I'm talking about: th-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/w-d-xo.html There's more to this than just rebounding. It's all about pre-selection, which I've discussed in greater detail in the first part of the video here: th-cam.com/video/fO9EePCzRj4/w-d-xo.html The aim is to increase your confidence by socializing and to subconsciously know that there is life outside of the relationship/breakup and to get out of the tunnel-vision mentality most people have after a breakup that only their ex can fix it. So interact with people. It may be just on a friendship level, camaraderie, bonding over a new sport/hobby/activity, etc. and not restricted to just dating, perhaps I should've emphasized that, too, as I can see how it can easily be misconstrued. But if you do get around to dating someone that you truly like, then that’s good, as it would help to let you not seem desperate to get your ex back, which most exes can sense from a mile away, mind you. So really you're really only helping yourself but of course do that when you're ready to do so. Take care!
Absolutely doesn't work if your ex have strong feelings for someone else 😪💔
That can only happen if the (emotional) attraction with you is dwindling so try to get to the root cause of where this all started. This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/M4h7in9dtxI/w-d-xo.html
Why would you want to stay with someone who no longer likes you or love you?
You don't stay with them. It's why you're giving your ex space for at least 30 days and respect their decision to break up. By then, you'll both have enough time to think clearly and see the situation for what it is. Sometimes you see the situation as worth going back to but other times it isn't, so it really depends.
Exactly 😔
Brad, I like this video and the succinctness. One question.. how do you "remind your ex of the positives" (point #3)?, if you are practicing "no contact" (point #1. Thank you!
Have you ever had a good relationship that unfortunately ended and found yourself reminiscing about the good times? It's the same way with your ex too. It's only human nature and will naturally happen with time and space. Of course you will eventually reach out when the time comes (if you still want your ex back). Anyway please watch this free in-depth video presentation to understand the full process: www.breakupbrad.com
I left 3 weeks ago after 11 1/2 yrs, but I know I'm going to be ok.
Of course you are! :-) I'm sure you have your own reasons and I understand what you're going through. You know, moving on is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: th-cam.com/video/01wvLSaS9_I/w-d-xo.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: th-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/w-d-xo.html & understand where your ex is at during the breakup process: y2u.be/dqnqGWOk9NA or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
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I walked away from a three year and a half relationship… I got up grab my things and walked out like a man… 20 minutes later, she text me back I did not reply… it was July 11, 2024… at September 6, 2024… I wonder what she’s thinking…? It hurts walking away…. I stand myself as a man I stand my masculine and stay focused. I just go forward.
Good. Thanks for sharing. Just a friendly reminder, the first path towards moving on and getting an ex back follows the same route and here's how to tell you're doing it correctly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html Anyways it's always best to take your time in deciding first so there'll be no regrets in the end. As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.
Dude i did EXCATLY that as well. She took a nap and I walked out without saying goodbye. She texted me two hours later and I never replied. Now I’m thinking of her too. But it’s for the best.
You guys broke these ladies hearts thinking you will have it good out there ,pure and simple
All truth!!!! 💯💯💯💯
How do you do step three, remind of the good times, if you aren’t contacting them?
You're supposed to contact them at one point. Here are the steps to help you familiarize the process. Please watch from start to end so it will all make sense: th-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/w-d-xo.html
Yes but if you start dating somebody and then your ex comes back and then you take your ex the other person heart starts to break I don't want to do that..... it's best just to leave your ex where she is a distant memory. The last thing we need to do is inflict pain on somebody else's heart and use them just to prove something to your ex
I understand. Don't date when there's no true connection between you and someone new though. You can just maintain it at a camaraderie level for reasons you've stated above. The important thing is to get rid of that tunnel vision a ton of people tend to have after the wake of a breakup. So go out and mingle, hang out, have fun, but don't jump straight into a relationship if you're clearly not ready.
Is a year after the break up to late to go no contact? My ex and I talked after the break up as friends and she just recently went to eat with me but she’s pulled away and says she doesn’t want a relationship with anyone but I have a gut feeling she’s talking to or with someone else. We were together for 12 years.
Yes, it is, but it's still to your best interest to do so. In the process of trying to stay contact, you've unknowingly allowed your ex to slowly ease herself away from you. At this point, you may want to take the free quiz to see what your chances are. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Please watch this full in-depth video presentation because it explains everything in detail: www.breakupbrad.com
Hey brad...my ex bf dumped me and after a month of no contact he called me. We were casually talking and he said "I am not feeling spark towards anyone , you have gone away taking my fuse" . Does this mean he still has feelings for me?
That's very likely! Try to see if he's also showing signs mentioned here: th-cam.com/video/KMer79OQ_xo/w-d-xo.html and check out my other videos too or even better, get my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 to help guide you on what to do on each step as it includes common what-ifs scenarios in addition to bonus texting materials, etc. at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy Good luck!
I brokeup with my ex 2 months ago, due to talking with other guy on phone. She said sorry but i didnt forgive. She blocked me & Then next day she disrespected me when i tried to talk with her and blocked me in another app. i go no contact and its been 2 months and she is showing sad posts in fb everyday. Should i contact her now in another way, or hold ego as she is holding & wait untill she unblock me and reaches me out? Please give advice.
If you have means to reach out to her then you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Brad, even if she said there is no more emotional attraction? Do you think she will still come back ?
99% of breakups comes as a result of someone feeling the way your ex has felt. The bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction but just so you know, my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 is all about trying to regain that lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. Apply the tips here to help you out, too: th-cam.com/video/obpVHGeNxJs/w-d-xo.html Best of luck!
Do you think she'll come back?
She broke up with me 5 months ago but we were still in touch but she was distancing herself from me slowly.
After a month of breaking up we had a horrible fight and she blocked me. But again contacted me after a week. She said she was missing me but she didn't wanted to get back with me. I was confused.
She later found a guy on some dating app who had a similar liking and disliking as her and she got attracted to him. When I asked her if she's dating someone, she got upset and blocked me. And now they are in a long distance relationship. I last talked to her a month ago. I still miss her a lot and pray for her to come back.
By keeping in touch with her, you might unknowingly be letting yourself used as an emotional sponge or buffer from the pain she feels during your breakup...which is why cutting off contact for at least 30 days would've been the best option here. She may be rebounding but you have the advantage because you two are apparently non-long distant?You still need to play your cards right though. Now as to her missing you, this is the best way to handle it: th-cam.com/video/RSKJi8VK2g8/w-d-xo.html and/or better yet, get my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 so you'll have an idea what to do on each step, at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Good luck!
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We are not long distant. I haven't talked to her in a while but her birthday is coming on 5th October. Do you think I should wish her? She didn't wish me on my birthday in August!
Hey brad , my ex called me recently and while we were talking he said "I missed your voice" . Does this mean anything?
It's similar to one of the topics I've discussed on this vid: th-cam.com/video/RSKJi8VK2g8/w-d-xo.html
I would like some advice please. I have been in NO CONTACT for 7 weeks and have been blocked. Yesterday I met my ex and he came to me and asked how I was doing. we naked a short chat was pleasant. I made a mistake asking why he still blocked me?? he said okay I'm going to unblock you soon but today is already the 2nd day and I still haven't heard from him. what should I do
Let things play out a bit more naturally and yes, don't ask him as that can lead to a potentially awkward conversation. Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
He thinks you are still the same person, he is correct because you are anxious that he hasnt unblocked you or said anything, that pleasant chat was just him being polite . perhaps it could have made him see you changed but now just restart your no contact and block him back so that he knows you are not waiting...so thT you stop waiting for him to contact or unblock you...take your power and self worth back from this ridiculous ex
@leratoseretsi5603 thank you for your reply.
I was having a drink and he came to me specially and asked me how I was doing.
So I didn't go to him hi came to me.
And he asked me about me and my family. So then i said why didn't you unblock me. Yes I know I shouldn't done that but he blocked me now for 2 months. I don't know what to do. And I'm still blocked. Maybe he wants me te reaching out and act needy again. I'm now stronger and for 2 months in no contact.
Treat him the way he treats you,don't go date anyone to make him jealous, but don't always be so friendly and accommodating....after your reply i see why you brought up the issue of blocking, ..next time he comes to your table and he greets you,reply by slowly picking up your purse and moving away without a word...trust me from that moment he will think deep and he will see that you are not that girl anymore and he will value you.more importantly you will feel empowered and stop operating from.a place of weakness..when we are too nice we open ourselves up to being taken fogranted and hurt at the end...stop the possibility of that.
At this point even if you get back he will mistreat you and the cycle will repeat since he thinks he is the centre of your universe ....we both know he s not, you just love him but humans don't appreciate the good things until it's too late...be a new girl please,treat him like he no longer exists since he s willing to break you emotionally with his mind games,he wants to be pushed to unblock because he wants to validate blocking someone who loved him,don't bear his burden ...let him live with his decisions.he is embarrassed to block then unblock, don't make it your burden to bear....I think you deserve better than someone who blocks but think they can still come up to you but doesn't bother to explain or apologize, where is the respect there.....let time heal ...for now stop all contact, don't check if you are still blocked ,don't get excited by breadcrumbs ,let go .....if it's gona work with him it will be later when you are valued ...
After no contact my ex who dumped me i initiated contact we chat talking on video calls told me that we can talk about our breakup and he's joking about our weeding will be it seems like he wants to come back but is me who initiate contact sometimes he's cold and hot we had a serious relationship and planning a weeding i love him what can i do?
Be careful about delving into serious topics before you're both truly ready for it. Follow his lead and try to keep things lighthearted for now. But if you haven't completed the 30-day no contact rule yet, then make sure you do that first. That kind of confusing behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why again, you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: th-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/w-d-xo.html
Hey brad , My ex called me yesterday and tried to talk dirty(double meaning jokes etc) and also flirted . What does it mean?
How long has it been since the breakup? This may be a good sign if you've already given each other space for at least 30 days but not so good if tis happened way too soon. It could mean he misses the physical aspect of your relationship but watch out for mixed signals. Watch these first to know how to handle it: th-cam.com/video/qoEZiPn9EH0/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/pXKPxAXaunc/w-d-xo.html or hire me as your coach if you're still confused on what to do. Good luck!
On Sunday my ex asked for some time and space so I gave her just that, then today she tells me that's it. There was no cheating nor anything on my end, and I'm confused because everything was good and it felt like she made up some excuses just to leave
How long were you two together? Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: th-cam.com/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/w-d-xo.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: th-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/w-d-xo.html but to get the step-by-step process on what to do on each step, read my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com
The mother of my child put a restraining order on then she went back and dropped in court she then she still tries to let me see my child whenever i want something is off with her she f******* acting so wierd towards me as well
I agree especially if all this happened in a short span of time but then again she could just like to co-parent with you because you have a child together.
All these things works well with male dumpers. If a man sees that his ex is fluorishing and especially! -- is happy with another man! -- he feels that he wants the woman back and now! Its classix.
But things are much more complex with female dumpers. First -- if a woman is totally done with you its done for good. Second, women find a new men pretty easily. Third, if a woman has the new life then she does not care what her ex is doing and do not follow him and know what he is doing. Fourth, women really like to remember the bad things from a past more and do not care much how good is the man now. Fifth, women hit menopause in their 40s and then they feel often that all men are disgusting, including her exes.
Women can miss you if they were the dumpees but its much more difficult when they are dumpers.
Hey man, thanks for sharing your experience and lessons learned. However, as a relationship coach for 15 years, I can guarantee that's not often the case with women. That's more like a behaviour of some women AND men when a relationship falls apart but to put them in a stereotype is just a little bias. But thanks for your input!
@breakupbradbrowning I have had several ex girlfriends in my past. And when I meet them many years later it turns out that they don't know absolutely about my life, they do not know even am I alive or not. They just do not care. OK, I am not in social media too, so maybe its the problem. BUT even without the social media, I know plenty of their life (through the human social circles). Thats the huge difference.
@@breakupbradbrowning@breakupbradbrowning I have had several ex girlfriends in my past. And when I meet them many years later it turns out that they don't know absolutely about my life, they do not know even am I alive or not. They just do not care. OK, I am not in social media too, so maybe its the problem. BUT even without the social media, I know plenty of their life (through the human social circles). Thats the huge difference.
I told him I have a new crushie and he was mad at me,,, what does it mean sir?
That could be his ego getting in the way. It's best to keep silent for at least 30 days. If you're trying to provoke jealousy, be sure to be subtle. This is something I mentioned in my Ex Factor Guide and on my vid here: th-cam.com/video/fO9EePCzRj4/w-d-xo.html
@@breakupbradbrowning OK sir
Bad advice to start dating. If I start dating it will mean the end of the story for my ex. Actually it depends on a break up length and how you are feeling…
Sorry if it wasn't what you expected, man. There's more to this than just potentially rebounding though. It's all about pre-selection, which I've discussed in greater detail in the first part of the video here: th-cam.com/video/fO9EePCzRj4/w-d-xo.html The aim is to increase your confidence by socializing and to subconsciously know that there is life outside of the relationship/breakup and to get out of the tunnel-vision mentality most people have after a breakup that only their ex can fix it. So interact with people. It may be just on a friendship level, camaraderie, bonding over a new sport/hobby/activity, etc. and not restricted to just dating, perhaps I should've emphasized that, too, as I can see how it can easily be misconstrued. But if you do get around to dating someone that you truly like, then that’s good, as it would help to let you not seem desperate to get your ex back, which most exes can sense from a mile away, mind you. So really you're really only helping yourself but of course do that when you're ready to do so. Take care!
Tinder and dating other people after breakup is not a part of healing. Instead of tinder get closer to God. Bruh your tinder advice is so freaking baaaaaaaaaaaddddd
Sorry if it wasn't what you expected, man. There's more to this than just potentially rebounding though. It's all about pre-selection, which I've discussed in greater detail in the first part of the video here: th-cam.com/video/fO9EePCzRj4/w-d-xo.html The aim is to increase your confidence by socializing and to subconsciously know that there is life outside of the relationship/breakup and to get out of the tunnel-vision mentality most people have after a breakup that only their ex can fix it. So interact with people. It may be just on a friendship level, camaraderie, bonding over a new sport/hobby/activity, etc. and not restricted to just dating, perhaps I should've emphasized that, too, as I can see how it can easily be misconstrued. But if you do get around to dating someone that you truly like, then that’s good, as it would help to let you not seem desperate to get your ex back, which most exes can sense from a mile away, mind you. So really you're really only helping yourself but of course do that when you're ready to do so. Take care!
@@breakupbradbrowning i appreciate your answer brother. I meant no harm. It's just some relationships breakup to get back together stronger, you know exactly how complex some situations are. And giving advice to go on tinder and date new people might be detrimental to some relationships that meant to get a 2nd chance. I personally would not give many girl a second chance after she went on tinder and dated because I date to marry and once my woman is mine it is sacred that she stays mine even when we figure out our problems and grow and heal from the distance. Tinder is hell, literally full of the scum of the earth and finding somebody normal on tinder is a 1 to 20 chance at best. Yeah, people should socialize and do what normal people are supposed to do but tinder bumble and hinge are not the way to go. Running club, chess club, book club, gym classes etc are the best. Dating apps are bad on its own, they are absolutely terrible after the breakup. Also people heal and grow in pain, tinder is just a cheap dopamine that will mask the pain and delay the healing. And the healing needs to be done sooner or later. I fully believe the sooner it's done the quicker you might proceed in life and be fully prepared for the love of your life